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| 1 | After owning my own home for 8 months, it's pathetic what "a man's responsibility" boils down to. | MOOD FOR LIFE | mostly_ok_now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Anyone questioning their sexuality here? | SEEKING ADVICE | mostly_ok_now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 08:32 PM |
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| 21 | Ladies…please have/control your own finances, have a social circle and skills…even with a HVM by your side.That's not what financial abuse is. My mom will be this OP's aunt when my dad dies (inevitably before her). My dad would have loved for her to work, to have her own life and ambitions, but she just never wanted to because she "didn't have to". When he passes, she has a list of accounts they have detailed in their will which I've witnessed many times over. I'm sure I'll have to file taxes for her for his final LLC filings and that's that. I really don't feel sympathy for that sort after how hard … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 10:42 PM |
| 14 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everThat's Solipsism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 10:55 AM |
| 11 | My colleague (27M) fasts almost all day so he doesn't have to cookI had a male roommate for a year and I only ever saw him eat if we ordered a pizza or wings together. If he got hungry any other time he would just eat a spoonful of peanut butter out of the huge jar on his desk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 05:36 PM |
| 5 | “You’re a woman though”As someone who has spent a ton of time in London over the last 30 years, it's not bad there for women in my experience. It feels super safe to me. Brits aren't as prone to cat calling or even long stares. I lived in France and it's a shit hole for us there, straight up sexual assault/groping/forced kissing. Where I lived in the US is more annoying than dangerous. Mostly just get guys at gas stations smiling asking how I am, I say "good thanks" and bolt before they can say anything else. Basicall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 09:25 PM |
| 12 | Never stop getting the bag Queens! 💰My mom didn't work either, but still urged me not to make the same mistake as her. She ended up stuck with my dad after he cheated on her with his ex wife when we were young kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 12:24 AM |
| 16 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseAlways hold 10% retention to be released upon satisfactory completion of a punch list! Don't sign an agreement with other payment terms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:49 AM |
| 39 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseI feel super safe in my house, but most of my neighbors are retired and home all the time so that helps. I was initially put off by one neighbor who seemed really nosey, but one day I had an interview after work and got home a few hours later than normal and she asked "are you just getting home from work?" I realized then that if anything was off she'd be the first to notice and call police lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:44 AM |
| 23 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseI also have a 4 bedroom house, my bedroom, dressing room, music room, and office/guest room. It's wonderful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:41 AM |
| 9 | Tired of being shamed for wanting my own big houseI got a 4 bedroom 2 bathroom home, which is what I've always wanted just for myself. Got my bedroom, dressing room, music room, and a huge guest room/office. Every single thing is how I want it. The only push back I got was from my mom "well, it'd be a great rental for a family if you wanted to downsize!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 10:47 PM |
| 22 | Yes, the economy is bad. That doesn't mean you have to be a free prostitute.My mom did that, but just for me, not my older brother. This is quite a common dynamic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 09:31 PM |
| 6 | If you ever need a laugh, just remember that ancient Greeks spread the rumour that having a small D is a sign of intelligence and self control.I always assumed it was depicted this way because of some weird cultural standard. Not that sculptors were doing an accurate job. I've been to so many museums and archeological sites and never seen a normal peen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?You also get tax credits for each kid you have... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:27 AM |
| 2 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?Yeah I plugged it in the other day out of curiosity, and if I married a man who made the same income as me we would net an additional $700 a month! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:42 PM |
| 4 | Is there actually any good reason to get married if you don't want kids?You said in a comment you aren't in the US, so...probably no point. We get major tax breaks here for being married, and being covered on a spouse's health insurance. Which is an absurdity that doesn't exist in other developed countries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 11:37 PM |
| 16 | From HV to NV, a short story.My boyfriend, who I lived with at the time of major emergency surgery, wouldn't come visit me after work for 20 minutes while I recovered at my parents house for a couple weeks. But when I sent him innocent pictures of my stitches (lower abdomen) could only comment on how sexy I was. Absolutely nothing caring about how I was doing or wanting to see me. Broke up with that ass wipe real quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 11:31 PM |
| 55 | Men are entering Academia with the express intent of preying on students. Like most LVM and Predators, they try and infiltrate the ranks of trusted institutions to find their victims and hide their intentions behind the authority of their title.So this shit is why all the scrotes in my grad program said I was fucking the head of the department to get in. Nah, I was the top of his class and he wrote me a recommendation. This way of thought is sick for so many reasons, including weighing women in academia down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 0 | Another anthem from this queen, since you all enjoyed the last one so much! 👑I was in no way putting down Lily Allen, I love her! Just thought this lady was extremely talented and had a similar style of singing, it was a high compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 11:32 PM |
| 13 | Another anthem from this queen, since you all enjoyed the last one so much! 👑She's like a much more talented Lily Allen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:40 AM |
| 164 | The bar is several meters below hellThe "mentioned he wanted to have sex in the morning" thing really irks me. That's setting up an expectation for sex that put this poor vulnerable girl in deep anxiety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:37 AM |
| 13 | Movie Review: My Big Fat Greek Wedding (extremely mild spoilers of a 19 yr old movie, I guess...?)As a nice Greek girl, I loved that movie growing up! I also liked how it showed a normal progression of dating. There was just a montage of him dropping her off after dinner. I actually liked the proposal too. I'm very low key and it seemed like a genuine intimate moment. He showed a ton of effort in pretty much every aspect of their relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 10:35 AM |
| 35 | Since you joined FDS, what are the ‘pink-flags’ or little LVM behavior you started picking up on that you didn’t notice before or would let slide?That's weird as shit. I got one speeding ticket over 10 years ago and it got tossed out in the court because the speed limit sign was covered by a tree branch. Not saying I'm some angel who never speeds - I do regularly, but reasonably and not dangerously above the limit. But basically every guy I dated in my 20's complained about having to fight a speeding ticket in a neighboring state after getting arrested for reckless driving, and if they didn't have that situation going on they had 1-2 DUIs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 12:27 AM |
| 3 | Why is it that I’m supposed to specify “not all men” when discussing rape when 1 in 10 men are rapists?I'm probably not alright since I barely acknowledge that happened, since I have no memory of it. But I also haven't had a real relationship since then, about 5 years ago so I might have some issues I need to work on :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 08:54 AM |
| 35 | Why is it that I’m supposed to specify “not all men” when discussing rape when 1 in 10 men are rapists?I lived with a boyfriend for about a year. I told him I was sad we never had sex anymore. He said "we have sex every night after you go to bed." What??? You mean after I take my sleep medication that I explicitly told you over the last two years makes me not remember anything and to never do anything (even text me) after 10pm?! But yeah, fucking me while I'm falling asleep is totally fine. Yes, I left right away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:53 PM |
| 29 | For real though.I was walking my puppy in my new neighborhood and this guy said my pup was "really pretty" (duh) and I said thanks. Then after pausing he said "almost as pretty as his owner..." I was wearing baggy jeans, a huge coat, a mask, and large sunglasses. I just kept walking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 11:20 PM |
| 32 | Modern relationships in a nutshellThere ain't a shack made out of asbestos that's on fire going for 150k anywhere near my state. My 1,600 sq ft basic ass house was 370k. And I had to live with my abusive parents through my 20's to save for the downpayment. Rent here is even more than a mortgage so this was the only option I had to get myself into a safe situation long term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 08:43 PM |
| 57 | Sexism in MedicineI had a potentially fatal lung disease from age 14-19. Was told over and over by every specialist that I was just depressed, even though my main symptom was high fevers. Arrogant fucks just can't admit that they don't know what they don't know and get a sick satisfaction gaslighting young women. 10 years after I was finally (accidentally) diagnosed, I still having scarring on my lungs and have to have my eyes checked once a year because there's a good chance I can still go blind from walking aro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 11 | YupI briefly lived with a LVM and how he treated his dog was awful. He had him for a year and NEVER once clipped his nails or gave him a bath. I did all that stuff and brushed out the matted hair behind his ears. I took him on daily walks around the neighborhood. Then the idiot was mad that his dog loved me more. Well yeah dude, you don't do anything to care for him! Miss that doggo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 12:56 PM |
| 3 | Shoutout to all the Queens battling Anxiety/Depression and STILL leveling up unlike these trash menI took me a long time to learn, but no one is here for you in life but yourself. You can't count on anyone for support. After coming that realization my depression and PTSD shifted away from existential anguish to doing small things every day to put one foot in front of the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:36 AM |
| 31 | No thank you🙂This also made me feel sick. As a Greek woman, who has been asked "are you Jewish? It's the nose." It reeks of Borat's intentionally outlandish portrayal of racism against Jews assuming they all have "the Jew nose" while miming a large nose coming off their face and not believing old ladies were Jewish because they didn't have a huge nose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:21 PM |
| 49 | No thank you🙂Can we not make disparaging ethnic comments here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:11 PM |
| 11 | She realized she’s basically single but with more choresI had a coworker whose wife packed him a healthy (and delicious) lunch every day, and she worked full time too. She did it because he was MASSIVE and had a severe auto immune disorder. He would eat a couple fast food meals throughout the day and then DUMP OUT his healthy lunch in the trash at work so he could tell her he ate it. She eventually took his credit cards and gave him a $20 weekly cash allowance for emergencies only to try to curb it. I WOULD NEVER put up with that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:16 AM |
| 9 | A pickmeisha lesson: LVM are expensive.I definitely bought cleaning supplies to scrub a LVM's disgusting house. Literally had dirt on every surface. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:51 AM |
| 8 | Treating MYSELF the way I want to be treated. I closed my first major deal today in my new career and took my beautiful self to the jewelry store to pick out exactly what I wanted 👏🏼What's the name of the color?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 10:07 AM |
| 90 | they did it to themselves. 🤷🏾♀️I bought my first house recently and mowed the lawn for the first time in my life - growing up it was the one chore my brother had so I never did it. All I could think was "this is one of the few things men have to do and they bitch so much about it!" Like, it's easy, took 30 minutes and only needs to be done every couple weeks. I also live with chronic pain, but on the same day I mowed the lawn I took a trip to Home Goods and Home Depot, put together a few bookshelves, hung some pictures, cooke… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:55 PM |
| 19 | I have a chronic illness too, and I cant tell you how many times i heard that it is all in my head🤡thousands of women suffer from malpractice only because they are WOMENI was legit getting angry today at the fact that every disease/illness I've ever had took a MINIMUM of 5 years to diagnose. One took about 12 years - only diagnosed when that also almost killed me. When I was bleeding to death internally and the ER was like "you need emergency surgery" I was like "you fuckers sent me home immediately 6 times over the last 10 years for this pain." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 11:55 PM |
| 28 | Find yourself a HVM like thisI work in construction management, and I'd honestly be interested in a lot of our subcontractors if they weren't all already married! Really wholesome hardworking dudes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 09:53 AM |
| 13 | Is it just me or do ugly men just generally treat you horribly or worse?I always found that ugly men treat me like an object and attractive men treat me like an equal human. It makes sense because in one scenario you are on different planes, and in the other you are on the same plane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 45 | #NoTtaLlmEn!! #YesALLMen #RECEIPTS 🤷🏿♀️Ugh I remember being 5 or 6, going to sleep over at a new friend's house for the first time (all my other friends had single moms) and this friend had a step-dad. My mom very sternly warned me not to be in a room alone with him for even one second, and to scream if he touched me at all. I didn't sleep a wink that night, I was so freaked out. Never slept over there again. Her step-dad gave off creepy vibes too, maybe that's why my mom was so serious about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 05:55 PM |
| 2 | If I have to ask, I don't want it.The exact same thing happened to me this weekend! Yeah I blocked his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:51 AM |
| 56 | I found a HVMSo well groomed, what a rare find! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 10:08 AM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Thank you! It was my ultimate goal in life! Keep pushing, every bit of savings puts you that much closer to independence and stability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 05:14 PM |
| 33 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered September 1 2020Ladies, I close on my first house today! I can't believe I did it on my own, especially in this market with crazy high property prices. I was so jealous of those couples with two incomes. But I guess I didn't have to blow money on a wedding or paying off a husband's student loan debt so here I am. I feel like I can finally start my adult life (at 30 lol). This gives me a lot of confidence. Was talking to a guy, he severely offended me, I told him it was severely offensive (actually said the word… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 11:02 AM |
| 12 | Saw this on another subreddit, and while everyone was making fun of it, I chuckled because come on, this is true.It always made me happy when my guy trimmed his beard every 5 months (took 5 minutes)...guys are disgusting. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 10:13 PM |
| 18 | It’s always the ugly scrotes with the immediate demandsCome on, his freebie Sherwin Williams shirt is hot.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:53 PM |
| 7 | Has it always been this way?I actually look like my dad. Him and his dad are very classically good looking. There's a picture in my parents house of my grandpa in his Navy uniform when he was about 30, and he was dapper AF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:49 PM |
| 10 | Has it always been this way?I'm 30 and been at my new job a couple months. I recently found out that all the guys in my position (I'm the only woman) are at most in their mid-30's! They look awful, I thought they were at least 10 years older than they are. I found out I went to high school with one of them, it was shocking to figure out because he used to be cute and in shape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 12:45 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020Give it some time. The first few weeks of my job were awkward as hell, no one was really talking to me or seemed interested in getting to know me. A few months in it's like I've been working there for years. You have to let those moments of connection occur naturally. Remember that it's awkward for them too having a new person in their environment. You'll all get to know each other, and don't feel like you can't be yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:00 PM |
| 9 | My parents have been married for over 30 years, and my dad still regularly surprises my mom with little gifts. (He does the same for me.) Small gestures actually mean so much.The most loved I've ever felt was when my dad got me Bring It On and a 3 pack of kraft mac and cheese after I had my wisdom teeth out. He basically hid me in the basement to watch that and eat "that poison" (per my mom). My dad wasn't perfect but he tried. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 01:06 AM |
| 12 | My parents have been married for over 30 years, and my dad still regularly surprises my mom with little gifts. (He does the same for me.) Small gestures actually mean so much.My dad always got me DVDs from the bins too! And it was always stuff he knew I'd like. I always felt like it was his way of saying "I'm not judging you, here's a romantic comedy a young girl would like." And he would discretely leave it in my room. Yeah, my mom was psycho and would call me an idiot for watching anything 'girly.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 10:59 PM |
| 15 | The males are falling apart because COVID19 is forcing them to actually parent their kids nowMy dad did this, still does as much as he can. Not to avoid his kids, but his wife. He chose to marry a miserable woman. Then made his kids suffer being alone with her for months at a time while he was traveling all over Europe and Asia at any chance he got. And when he was home, he had a later work day. He's a "night owl" meaning he got up at 10am when we were already at school, and came home after 8pm after we already had dinner. Both my parents suck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Rules for men trying to respect FDS in their dating life"I don't see that as an important metric" | /r/askFDS | 16/04/20 10:18 PM |
| 4 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.I have so many thirsty text chains like this. Every couple weeks I'll get a notification I have a text from "Jon" or another person I can't recognize. And I'll think, who the fuck is Jon? Open up the text and it's the same Jon who has been texting me for 6 years, and I never respond. I met him at a party and his friend gave him my number. Never shown any interest. But he's still always "thinking of me." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 12:52 PM |
| 17 | 2 Weeks into Quarantine and guys are already out here looking older than MethusalehWith all my down time I have now, got back on OLD and holy shit, men my age (30's) look ROUGH. Like, shockingly so. Meanwhile, I look pretty much the same as I did 10 years ago, with very little effort. It's like these men are poisoning themselves to look this bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 12:47 PM |
| 3 | I want to be a HVM, I'm wondering what I can do to improve.The military thing is disqualifying for a lot of women. | /r/askFDS | 30/03/20 11:24 AM |
| 24 | When men call themselves stoic and rational. Is it opposite day?I manage a construction company and half my day is spent listen to these men gossip and speculate about each other while I interally roll my eyes and occasionally say "maybe you're reading into things a bit too much." Meanwhile I'll be stone faced with an inspector screaming at me, waiting for him to tire himself out so I can say "ok, so how can we resolve this?" My boss calls me "ice." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 09:48 AM |
| 7 | Another YouTuber spends 30 minutes lambasting FDS for our strategies based on what she thinks men *should* be and how mature they *should* react. Yeah they *Should* be, but they *aren’t*, sis and have no desire to. Now what?At least she has talking points, unlike pink hair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Jan 2nd 2020)He sounds great! Go for it until it doesn't feel right anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 11:18 PM |
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