mpjune69 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Pretty sure my ex ruined herself financially Take the high road... otherwise it shows you still have interest in the ex. If you don't have kids together, let it go - you're a free man now. Use that energy and time in a positive way.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/09/23 08:49 PM
3	Girl (31f) I (33m) was dating was a divorcee with history of making out with someone else while married - tried to plan around that history to avoid repeat, didn’t work out. You can't fix a trainwreck that's already happened. Have some self respect, too. Backup, assess the situation and get on a different train next time.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/23 05:29 PM
2	Separated now when is CS paid? I second the motion...proceed! In all seriousness, I agree 100%. Keep records about every nickel and dime. It may sound petty, until opposing counsel asks for it.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/23 12:37 AM
1	Blended Family Remarry? You've got to consider everyone involved - your ex and her ex - what are their situations? Are either of them seriously involved with someone else? It would be presumptuous to think there aren't any other potential wrinkles to consider - in other words - you and your new partner may be on the same page, but your ex and her ex may not be so amenable to "the plan". You've potentially got 4 other work schedules/days off to consider. (Each of your ex-spouses plus their new partners.) What may seem s…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/07/23 05:00 PM
2	i feel like a prey. question regarding assets If you've been married for a certain amount of time in the state of FL (I think 4 years is the magic number) you have protection as FL is a joint property state. If things go sideways, and they often will, former spouses will try any truck in the book. Depending on where you live in FL, you might not be too bad off. Sure to the crazy housing "situation" you may be surprised what your house is with. By situation, I mean the housing bubble. We've had our home since 2016 and we're planning on using…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/23 02:53 AM
1	Delusional thinking? I've never seen a marriage that ends in divorce where everyone plays by the same rules and motivations. My kids are older now, 19 and 21. It's been only recently that the kids will say "Mom said you did a-b-c." "Mom said you're an a-hole, and caused the divorce". Have I said things about my ex and her choice of men she chose to expose our children too? Yes, I've done it. Have I ever said negative things about my ex and her men when the kids were with me at my house, during our time or otherwise …	/r/Divorce_Men	08/11/22 02:30 AM
1	Weaponizing kids. DO NOT USE THIS, IT ENFORCES WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW! Let it serve as a reminder to you - don't play her game. As I mentioned in my original reply, the kids WILL see her behavior for what it is. It might take years, but kids are intuitive, children of divorce are often more aware of this behavior. One thing that I did was to encourage them to support the other, share feelings and emotions. A sibling understands "what's going on" better than you or your STBEX. I would make it a point to remind them…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/22 02:32 PM
6	Weaponizing kids. Things will probably get worse before they get better. Your title, "Weaponizing kids" caught my eye, as I have been there myself, as I imagine many parties to a divorce with children have. I've been divorced for 15 years now. There have been periods of relative calm, there have been times that I thought the entire "system" was out to get me. The shittiest part? It's intentional - she knows what buttons to press, in what order, and how hard. The tragedy (for her, your children) is that she fails …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/22 03:41 AM
2	401k loan That's a tough one - and to clarify - she IS seeking 1/2 of your 401k? Your idea may not be a bad one if you can get away with it - some financial moves are considered pre-emptive in nature especially if the court views it as retaliatory, and can be frowned upon by the presiding judge. Who have you been with longer, your job or your stbX. Are you 100% vested in the 401k? Every state is different - here's where it "could" bite you. I guess it really depends on the plans' administrator - if the pa…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/22 12:42 AM