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As a male that's considered a 9, my scale works abit differently. Face comes first for me. The face has to be at least a 7 for me to consider her. The ratio of hips/ass to waist adds at least one point. I'll only hook up with a woman that has a great body and that's rarely
/r/seduction10/06/26 08:01 PM
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Exactly i asked him the same thing about physical compliments. Im formerly obese, and most women rate my face at 8-9 now plus im 188cm height but i don't see myself as a 9. I love compliments on my looks and i just hate it when women play these similar stupid games with me in the beginning.
/r/seduction18/05/26 11:39 PM
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The culture here in Cape Town is different so women are generally more reserved. As a 9 myself i actually wanted to ask why you don't give physical compliments to 10s? Because in my experience the 7+ women are still shy around me in the beginning but not as intimidated as average women. You never really know how the woman grew up as well. In the beginning i usually just compliment once physically and see how her personality is in the beginning. At the end of the day she's either interested or no…
/r/seduction18/05/26 11:27 PM
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I think it's because you cold approached. In my experience that rejections happened most of the time when i cold approached years ago. My first comment was referring to warm approach
/r/seduction13/01/26 01:16 PM
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How do u know its their friend
/r/seduction13/01/26 12:21 PM
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When im in public and women aren't distracted by more important matters. I'll get at least stared at or double taked by almost all the women in the vicinity, the choosing signals will vary by woman so that's why i said at least stared at or double taked. There's some instances where all the women in the vicinity will do this as well (in line at airports, eating at a restaurant, at the beach). I don't go clubbing in the last 6 years. So I'm lucky enough to just approach women after they give choo…
/r/seduction13/01/26 12:08 PM
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By women initiating u mean women approaching men? Because that depends entirely on country
/r/seduction07/01/26 02:07 AM
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Yes with choosing signals
/r/seduction06/01/26 12:50 PM
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It's most definitely your looks.. When i lost enough weight i noticed a pattern where mostly 7+ women were open and friendly. They were still shy but not as standoffish as the lower value women
/r/seduction17/11/25 11:39 AM
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Formerly obese guy here as well. I still didn't have much confidence afterwards. They actually find you good looking now. So they're definitely not attracted to that 'confidence boost'. I found out not everyone becomes better looking when they lose weight
/r/seduction27/09/25 05:12 PM
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This. As a former obese guy i just approach after women give choosing signals. They are already attracted, they are nervous, they see other women nearby giving me choosing signals as well. I just treat them like a normal person. No bullshit because i hate it when average women use these dumb tactics to get me to like them. For me it's either the hot woman agrees to a date or i move on. For me this approach has worked most of the time
/r/seduction05/09/25 12:52 PM
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As a formerly obese guy... In the beginning i had to research what was happening because women being shy up close mostly looks like disinterest. I find it okay and cute but if it carries on for too long then i lose interest. She needs to put in effort as well. A genuine question.. If you are shy around a guy in the beginning does it mean you think he's waaay more attractive than you? You think you won't be able to get him attracted to you?
/r/seduction25/08/25 09:52 AM
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As a former obese guy number 10 is interesting... So if the girl gives the hot guy some choosing signals, laughing at jokes etc. then does the straight male friends do it as well? to make it look like the girl wasn't flirting with the hot guy?
/r/seduction12/07/25 12:13 PM
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It was hard for me to accept this mindset recently as a formerly obese guy. I usually don't even care about the competition anymore
/r/seduction06/06/25 05:56 PM
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Im 188cm
/r/seduction31/01/25 11:49 AM
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Yeah i noticed that. I actually prefer Mark Manson's approach. I had some bad experiences when i was younger so now I only approach women that give me choosing signals. Which works for me because i receive those signals quite a bit
/r/seduction30/01/25 06:44 PM
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I don't have insta. So i give them my number or i get theirs
/r/seduction24/01/25 05:39 PM
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Spot on. You don't ask the fish how to catch fish, the fisherman would obviously know better. And u are wrong about not asking guys. Yes some guys got lucky with one woman, right place right time situation but generally the guys know better coz they've been through it themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:08 AM
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This is all so true.. Thankfully i live in abit more of a civilized society here in Cape Town. In my culture and religion the women generally know their roles and are more submissive. The white and Indian women are similar. These issues you mentioned still happens but certainly to a lesser extent. And I've lived in the other major city in South Africa as well where its the same as Cape Town
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 10:34 AM
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Well said. I was upset about this exact issue in my early 20s but i understood the women's perspective and let it go. Now women around my age have trouble understanding my perspective and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 03:27 PM
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At 31 y/o i prefer women anywhere from 19 - 25 y/o. My current gf is 22 and i never belittle any woman unless she's mean to me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 10:30 PM
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For me personally, no they're not worth the effort
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:48 PM
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If u want shit to work then do warm approach. That is approaching women who want to be approached
/r/seduction03/11/24 09:06 AM
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Just talk to her. I haven't been clubbing in years. What i usually do now is i approach after i get a cluster of choosing signals. Then i ask her if she can take a photo of me lol then they usually comply
/r/seduction29/10/24 01:14 PM
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I look for clusters of approach invitations then i approach. It usually goes well
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:16 AM
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In the initial stages, women cannot hold eye contact with a man she is attracted to. You probably mean she was glancing/staring at your other facial features?
/r/seduction29/10/24 11:00 AM
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Yeah I get what u saying. I meant more as in overall choosing signals not just eye contact and smiles from women. There's preening, staring mouth agape or with widened eyes, multiple glances, turning to look at you etc.
/r/seduction11/09/24 10:14 PM
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I'd say all places really. They just a tiny bit more open in social settings
/r/seduction11/09/24 08:14 PM
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You can Google it. There's too many to list
/r/seduction09/09/24 09:19 PM
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The choosing signals are obvious. Well at least 3 of it in a row. I was obese growing up and u said u were skinny growing up so we would know 😂
/r/seduction09/09/24 08:57 PM
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If I'm looking for a gf and I think the woman is cute then I do warm approach anywhere really besides the workplace. It's the most reliable along with meeting through friends.
/r/seduction09/09/24 08:51 PM
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Oh damn then I don't know how to take photos or I'm not photogenic 😂 but yeah I prefer approaching after the choosing signals so there's no chance of catfishing Are the choosing signals u get only in bars/clubs?
/r/seduction09/09/24 08:42 PM
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Great stuff 🔥 Did u take ur own photos for tinder? People also say paying for premium isn't worth it. I think I don't photograph well. I get a few worthwhile matches p/year buuut I get choosing signals/approach invitations from literally 95% of women when I'm in public. I'm in Cape Town. I'm not ripped atm but I'm 188cm tall and handsome face
/r/seduction09/09/24 08:35 PM
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Yes I cringe hard at it when I have to make a decision now but I always thank myself because I learnt from it
/r/seduction07/09/24 08:37 PM
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Yes I've seen this in south Africa as well where there's many different races. As a cape malay(we sometimes look like Indians) , most of my malay/indian friends can't get white women. That's when I found out I really stand out. It's only black women who have never been interested
/r/seduction30/07/24 12:44 PM
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Try warm approach. As a cape malay in South Africa I get choosing signals from Indians, whites, coloreds and obviously my own
/r/seduction30/07/24 12:30 PM
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Look for approach invitations from women then do warm approaches
/r/seduction04/11/22 10:17 PM
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Well try online dating, it doesn't work too well for me. Maybe in your location but I have much better success when I warm approach. and surely women must give you approach invitations in public so try doing warm approach if u lack confidence. This is coming from a 6ft2 guy in cape town. Maybe it's different in your location
/r/seduction01/11/22 07:41 PM
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Lol same here
/r/seduction07/10/22 07:03 PM
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Just walk up to her and tell her I love you
/r/seduction21/06/22 05:31 PM
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The below average are still attracted but they're very self-conscious around me now. So the staring, nervous smiles, no eye-contact, looking away quickly etc. are still ioi's. Also I rarely get eye-contact from even the hottest women now because from what I've read they are also self-conscious now, sometimes they just stare at my face or look away when I catch them staring. Then they proceed to send all types of ioi's.
/r/seduction12/06/22 07:20 PM
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I'm also 6ft2 but at my heaviest weight 137kgs only obese or very thin below average girls were rarely interested. When I lost about 20kgs, a little more of the above until I lost 30kgs then more average women were interested and pretty women giving ioi's were rare but maybe twice a year. Until now I lost around 60kgs and the below average still stare and look away but are genuinely shy and intimidated, the average and above women send out all types of ioi's up until slightly bumping into me but…
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:48 PM
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Is this also in America? I'm in South Africa and women don't approach here unless very drunk, the guy can be a 10 but still not get approached. Most they give guys are subtle ioi's up until the more 'nervy' slightly bumping into the guy if he didn't approach yet
/r/seduction12/06/22 05:33 PM
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I think thats 95% of people. I tell my friends when I don't get it right with women, it's not for sympathy its because I don't live in a movie. Those kinda people love the hype built around them and are truly insecure about it.
/r/seduction11/06/22 09:52 AM
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Because you tolerate it and they smell the neediness on you. Do the same to them or delete their numbers. They have so much abundance, sometimes they don't even know what they did wrong.
/r/seduction03/06/22 08:46 PM
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In my experience, most of the older ones are more confident, some are still shy and they become aloof when near me and do some other body-language indicators of interest. Looks aren't the number 1 factor in choosing guys for them most times. Now for the younger ones like under 23/24 y/o they are more picky and most times looks come first for them. At that age they're much less confident and still learning and they're more afraid of rejection and looking desperate. They might also be attracted to…
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:00 PM
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So true. I noticed this too but my "friends" would tell mutual friends when I'm not there that I'm lying about it. I lost over 60kgs weight and I'm still a little fat, no defined muscles but I'm 6ft2 and my face is lean with very defined cheekbones. In a way how they constantly implied, they saw I didn't have big muscles, which they thought was so important in getting women, they looked down on and underestimated me alot. I went with one of them to ultra music festival and that day I got so much…
/r/seduction17/04/22 04:51 AM
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Try warm approach, it works for me most of the time
/r/seduction20/03/22 05:02 PM
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Well a few years ago I told my friend I only do warm approach, we went out and a few times I didn't approach women. Not because I was lying but because there wasn't any women that was my type and those places weren't packed with people on that particular night.
/r/seduction20/03/22 04:59 PM
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Just tell her u not interested in the nicest way u can
/r/seduction18/03/22 01:30 PM
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IMHO it's much better than cold approach
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:49 PM
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The other comments are some good advice. I'd like to add that there was a girl that always stared at me from afar and looked away, she blushed when she saw me but when we were all in a big or small group she would always make fun of me and never laugh at my jokes. She was mostly standoffish when near me but very very friendly with other guys so I usually ignored her. Her little game never worked on me but maybe on other guys that have a very big ego so maybe find out what type of person he is fi…
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:46 PM
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Can be acquainted or simply just approaching women that give you approach invitations anytime when you are outside the house. If you don't receive approach invitations then try making eye contact with the women and smiling, if she's receptive to you and giving you approach invitations then approach her. This has worked for me as I don't like any online dating
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:24 PM
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I was fwb with a fashion model(she did some international work but she's not well known) from sa for a while when she stayed in cape Town. I'm 6ft2 and formerly obese and still have a little fat, now I'm far from a 10 but you at least have to be above average looking with some game and at the time I was a year into studying software development. She kept telling me I should be a model too when I lose more weight 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:18 PM
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U tried warm approach yet?
/r/seduction19/02/22 12:00 PM
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Well I knew a guy that's distracting good looking, women of all ages constantly stare at him everywhere he goes, the women around his age range(if not busy that time of day) will get close to him and look away and get nervous, preen etc. Clearly they are afraid in his presence but they will never cold approach as in speak first to him. On rare occasions when women do cold approach is when they're drunk and have some courage. But hey that's just the culture here
/r/seduction22/01/22 03:27 AM
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Here in S.Africa a guy can be a 10 but a woman will never approach. The best they will do is every approach invitation right up until hovering around and bumping into him "accidentally"
/r/seduction22/01/22 03:02 AM
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Cold approached by women? Is this in USA?
/r/seduction22/01/22 02:59 AM
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I only do warm approach
/r/seduction05/07/21 11:09 PM
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She displays her wrists in your direction which displays trust then you can escalate from there
/r/askTRP14/06/21 04:04 PM
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Warm approach still works for me. I don't do cold approach
/r/seduction14/06/21 08:39 AM
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Can confirm. Imho muscles come third in the looks category for men. Face first, height second. I'm 6ft2 with lean face, strong jawline, very defined cheekbones but I'm like 20% bf where most fat is in my upper body. I always get the most stares, iois and pussy when I'm around other tall guys or muscular guys.
/r/seduction12/06/21 11:57 AM
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Yes women like muscles but it's the least important of the looks category for men for like 95% of the time. Face comes first, then height(you just have to be same height or taller than the girl) then muscles come third. If muscles were so important don't you think more guys in the world would be muscular? I'm 6ft2 with a lean face, strong jaw and wide defined cheekbones but I'm still fat at about 20% bf but guess who gets the most stares, iois and pussy when I'm around other tall guys or guys th…
/r/seduction12/06/21 09:23 AM
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Yeah he is a good example of confidence and owning it. Has all the money in a very looks-dominated society(America) but he didn't get surgery on his face. A good role model to young guys who struggle with this.
/r/askTRP09/06/21 04:27 AM
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Try to increase the exercise intensity and do different exercises so your body never adapts.
/r/askTRP08/06/21 12:54 PM
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As long as you're not looking in the mirror, flexing all the time and telling everyone including your grandma about highest weight you lifted. It's not too much
/r/askTRP07/06/21 05:04 AM
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They can still lose interest after all approaches or invitations. They can change their mind at the drop of a hat or they were just looking for attention. Been in the same situation as you
/r/askTRP02/06/21 07:16 AM
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And personality second. Shit my old friend has loads of cash but he's so scared to talk to women fuck. He rarely gets any pussy. Here in Cape Town, the women don't talk to a guy first unless they're drunk.
/r/askTRP02/06/21 02:35 AM
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Any subset of software engineering
/r/askTRP31/05/21 03:13 AM
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That maybe happens in America but I'm just speaking about my experience here in Cape Town. The culture is much different here.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 07:08 PM
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Spot on bro
/r/askTRP26/05/21 05:23 PM
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I've heard of some instances where it was but that was when they got too big. Big muscles add to your smv but not as much as most guys think it does. Most 8-9hbs can't stand to ltr a guy as good looking as them or better, the publics eyes have to be on the woman due to her massive ego. I experienced this same issue when I was in an ltr with the elite, as my bf% went lower(I'm not built, I just have lean face at 6ft2), when we went out in public I got more stares and approach invitations from wom…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 04:02 PM
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It does add to your smv but it's not as much as most guys think it does.
/r/askTRP26/05/21 03:49 PM
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Islam, I'm colored from Cape town so if I warm approach a white woman, get to know her I don't ltr unless she's Muslim or turns muslim. It's just everyone will know, word spreads around and my family looks down on it. I guess you know how Islam works.
/r/askTRP21/05/21 05:15 PM
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I only do warm approach. Im choosy. I only go for 7hb+ so I don't bang girls left and right mainly because there's so few of them. If it's a woman out of my religion or culture I'll just have sex, if my own then ltr
/r/askTRP21/05/21 03:24 PM
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The art of war
/r/askTRP15/05/21 12:30 AM
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No unfortunately in most cases it stays the same.
/r/askTRP12/05/21 03:25 AM
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It's temporary, I only take the meds when I need it.
/r/askTRP11/05/21 12:19 PM
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Ah sorry I made a mistake in my comment. I still have the acne-scarred skin, it requires laser treatment as I was told
/r/askTRP11/05/21 05:28 AM
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I took roaccutane to get rid of acne but I don't have any plans to save up for laser treatment to get rid of the light scarring
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:35 AM
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I wouldn't say I became a Chad. I lost lots of weight, got rid of most acne scars(still have some light scarring) and I take medication for my hyperhidrosis now. My face leaned out, very high cheekbones, found out by various women I have a pretty face lol. I'm 6ft2 as well but I'm not built, still abit chubby but I get approach invitations from like 95% of women when I'm in public now. It's honestly too much attention as it's new to me, sometimes I just want to hide lol. Most guys I met recently…
/r/askTRP11/05/21 04:21 AM
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Face, height, muscles. The 3 most important in that order. Assuming the guy doesn't have a microdick😂
/r/askTRP08/05/21 04:06 AM
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And looks have 3 factors
/r/askTRP08/05/21 01:39 AM
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Looks, personality, money, status
/r/askTRP08/05/21 12:58 AM
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That there's 4 factors to your smv. My mom and everyone else told me it's only your personality and a good job that women like😂
/r/askTRP08/05/21 12:14 AM
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Improve your personality/game. Fail a lot with those women and learn from it, that's the best experience. Do your online research as well.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 12:34 AM
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Most of the time, girls ages 23 and younger go for looks first. They're in their prime looks-wise, 95% of guys hits on them. They just choose the best out of that 95%. Improve every aspect of your smv asap and a year from now if you are lucky enough you can get the hottest women your own age.
/r/askTRP05/05/21 12:12 AM
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Yeah most times it will be easier to get your own ethnicity women. Take me for example I'm a colored muslim from S. Africa, formerly obese and I noticed as I dropped weight, at a higher bf % it was easier to get my own ethnicity and Indians as well. When my bf got lower and my face leaned out I now get the hottest colored, Indians and white women. I'm 6ft2 with chiseled face and not built.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 08:39 PM
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I only approach when I get approach invitations. Works around half the time. If they didn't see me yet I will smile at them first and see if they want me to approach them. Only problem is that I can only tell if they were just looking for attention after I got the number.
/r/askTRP01/05/21 07:43 PM
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Same thing happens to me. I'm 6ft2 as well. Formerly obese, still abit chubby but I have a lean face. Imho regarding attraction and only speaking about looks, face comes first like 95% of the time, 2nd is height then muscles is 3rd. The jacked guys I know always make as if muscles the number 1 factor in looks.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:13 AM
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It looks like ignoring them is the best way. On the other hand if you let them walk all over you it could become worse. As a former obese guy, this was new to me so being who I am I diss back and heavy where it hurts. I take no prisoners. I boxed and did kickboxing to lose weight. So they cannot get violent with me. How have you dealt with this issue from other men?
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:00 AM
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Still adapting to this as well. I lost lots of weight. Still chubby, most of my muscles don't even show yet but I have lean face and I'm 6ft2. Get approach invitations like 95% of the time I'm in public. New guys I met recently always imply that I'm ugly, always saying negative things(attention seekers). Old friends(who really haven't done much to improve) tell me I'm lying about some girls, they talk about their friends muscles and always imply that I'm still chubby. But I noticed when I'm arou…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 12:49 AM
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Write this terrible mistake down like other mistakes you've made,so it never happens again. Goodluck for the future
/r/askTRP18/04/21 08:44 PM
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It's some 6 Months software certification I got here in cape Town. I got placed as an intern as well. Huge demand for developers here
/r/askTRP18/04/21 04:30 PM
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No I got a certificate. Don't need degrees for software engineering
/r/askTRP18/04/21 07:35 AM
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Yep I also regret studying sport science(too saturated) and I am working as a software engineer now.
/r/askTRP18/04/21 07:29 AM
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You can try out the Indians and coloreds as well. For me I think they were easier to get at a lower smv as I'm colored as well.
/r/askTRP11/04/21 11:23 PM
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I'm from Cape Town. Bro 8% of the population is still a lot. I get what you're saying about they are stuck up but isn't it supposed to be easier as you're white too? as a colored muslim I only started dating white women when my face leaned out. I love my own cultured girls as well as Indians and whites. I guess you have to raise your smv bro.
/r/askTRP11/04/21 11:21 PM
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I agree yes. Women will give every approach invitation in the book but never approach, that's why I only do warm approach here, men in the west are surprised that I only do warm approach. The closest to cat calling I've seen is a group of women giggling while me or a 10 walked past them.
/r/askTRP10/04/21 05:42 PM
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What country in Africa are you from? I'm from Cape Town, while it's not as bad here in terms of wealth as in other parts of Africa. My friend has a good money, nice car but afraid of women lol so he rarely gets any pussy. Women don't start conversations with men they interested in. Even guys I know who are 10s don't get women starting conversations with them. Women will however make it very obvious that they're interested like getting very close to the guy but never start the conversation. That'…
/r/askTRP10/04/21 03:32 PM
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Yeah I probably have more than that. Store most fat in my upper body though at 6ft2
/r/askTRP10/04/21 12:42 PM
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Same here as a formerly obese guy, I'm still abit fat at about 18% bf but I have good face and height(most of my muscles don't show) . Friends I've known for a long time will look for something bad to say, never really acknowledging my progress. These friends I've known for a while and I'm a very humble person. I get so much female attention now like 95% of the time I'm in public(I'm sometimes shy to go out in public now lol) , have lots of ONS and my friends just become invisible, I never reall…
/r/askTRP10/04/21 12:11 AM
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In my personal experience as a former obese guy here in S. Africa, most of my muscles don't show and I'm about 18% bf but I have good face and height. When I'm around other buffer guys, taller or same height guys, I get the most attention from females. Getting muscular will increase your smv but not by much if you lack in face and height. That's only about looks, u can still improve your game to much higher levels.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 11:31 PM
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I don't use dating apps, I only do warm approach anywhere I am. There's no 10s only 9s to me. Most times these 9s will give approach invitations if they see me, I'll smile at them if I see them first then approach. About half the time they were just looking for attention from me. Most of them are fulla shit. Only like 1 or 2 I met had great personalities, both of them grew up fat and lost huge amounts of weight.
/r/askTRP08/04/21 09:12 PM
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Learn to code. Pick any subset of software engineering
/r/askTRP06/04/21 01:40 AM
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So true bro. Shit I only noticed it a while ago, every girl had a bf when I was obese lmao. Now I have to say I have a gf coz girls won't leave me alone lol
/r/askTRP02/04/21 11:25 PM
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And if they sneak diss you. You will catch on if it's about you, you point it out then they deny it and try to gaslight you.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 10:07 PM
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And also what I think is when he broke off the wedding with that dancer girl because she wanted Alan out of the house.
/r/askTRP27/03/21 12:56 AM
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First 8 seasons of two and a half men
/r/askTRP27/03/21 12:10 AM
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Not from my experience on online dating but in real life. As a coloured, formerly obese guy from S. Africa. I started getting approach invitations from and fucked white women only when my face leaned out, my cheekbones are very prominent and I have generally sharp facial features. Most of my muscles don't show yet. Maybe u can try getting much leaner?
/r/askTRP26/03/21 08:09 AM
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Yes as lifting increases testosterone levels
/r/askTRP23/03/21 09:07 AM
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To take the fucking red pill. Only fully took at 24.
/r/askTRP21/03/21 06:24 AM
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She's probably just using him for the weed
/r/askTRP20/03/21 11:30 PM
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Can confirm as I'm same height as you and around 8/10 face as well but no muscles. Social media has inflated the egos of low smv women. I always feel them staring but I try my best to ignore them.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 11:09 PM
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When I was blue pilled I thought only personality matters to women🤣🤣😭Oooh what a great learning curve that was.
/r/askTRP16/03/21 11:05 PM
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Speaking only about looks. In my experience here in S. Africa I have seen face come first 95% of the time. Height is 2nd(most times you just have to be same height or taller than the girl) and then good body 3rd(good body doesn't mean much if you lack in the 1st two). When i was obese only the very fat or very skinny below average girls would occasionally be interested. I lost about 65kgs over the years and my face is very lean now at about 18% body fat(most of my muscles doesn't even show) and …
/r/askTRP16/03/21 09:25 PM
1

Do a good warm up and you'll feel more motivated mentally and physically afterwards
/r/askTRP16/03/21 09:08 PM
1

They can because 95% of men have low standards
/r/askTRP14/03/21 12:42 AM
3

Don't give a fuck about looking like an ass in front of the crowd. The crowd will then know you are not to be fucked with. That's the only way you get respect.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 10:16 AM
2

I didn't fuck her, we just made out. She wasn't my type anyway lol. So yeah his pans backfired lmao
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:58 AM
2

Well his intentions with me were pretty clear(trying to diss me to get me mad) so I did the same to him. But he really got mad and couldn't do anything about it
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:45 AM
6

Yeah u have to fight fire with fire. And keep doing it even if they stop. It will show others around u that u don't fuck around
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:43 AM
-2

Yeah and another friend a year ago tried some shit then I borrowed his fiance. He made a u turn coz he knew I could box. Look I always joke around n shit but there's a line that u don't cross
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:41 AM
2

Lol I have the facial hyperhidrosis. He won't fight me coz I can box
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:10 AM
9

Lmao then he had nothing to say after that
/r/askTRP10/03/21 01:05 AM
4

Lol yeah you should always fight fire with fire. And keep going even if they stop
/r/askTRP10/03/21 12:43 AM
43

We just don't joke about things we can't change. One guy friend I used to have made fun of my hyperhidrosis constantly then I made fun of his dead mom and he didn't like that. If your friends get personal then you should too. And no sneak dissing allowed, that's for pussies.
/r/askTRP10/03/21 12:09 AM
-1

Exact opposites attract most of the time, whether it's physical or personality wise. In my experience here in South Africa, when I had a higher bf % most of the time very short or very tall girls were interested in me. Now I'm leaner and girls of all heights are interested because of my lean face now. I'm 6ft2 BTW and I figured over the years a guy just has to be the same height or abit taller than the girl most times.
/r/askTRP06/03/21 08:47 AM
8

It's simple really. If they don't give you some action, you don't give them attention.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 12:06 PM
1

Just what I wanted to say bro lol
/r/askTRP23/01/21 07:56 PM
2

Sooo true bro. Those 8+ chicks just have too much options. You would have to be a 10 to plate them
/r/askTRP23/01/21 07:42 PM
1

Yes it adds to your status. Your in a position of authority
/r/askTRP19/01/21 07:48 PM
4

Keep working on yourself and try to be different to those other guys. Covid restrictions are very hard yes. Read the sidebar if you get stuck.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 09:26 PM
1

Javascript is most used language atm
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:28 AM
3

Try programming
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:27 AM
2

I think it's better that way.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:07 AM
1

Yeah cut people off if they don't respect you. I tell people what I don't like e.g talk shit about me to others, or sneak diss me(Idgaf I diss you in your face, I don't sneak diss or talk behind friends backs) . And if they do what I don't like then I walk away. Some guys or girls will say I'm girly for doing that, well yeah fuck you I told you I don't like it. And please respect yourself enough to walk away as these types of people just add more stress into your life. Btw these are people that …
/r/askTRP07/01/21 04:28 PM
1

Progressive trance/edm is good. I have lots of eminem in my workout Playlist as well, songs like till I collapse, castle, lose yourself, higher, believe, Cinderella man. His beats, lyrics, tone, flow and swagger always gets me hyped and ready and always motivates me
/r/askTRP07/01/21 06:41 AM
3

Yeah in my experience face mostly comes first then height second. I have both but average body at about 18% body fat.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:39 AM
3

The male equivalent is handsome face, good height(most times you just have to be same height or abit taller than her) and then good body(muscular and lean). The ideals would obviously depend on the woman.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 03:36 AM
3

Girls always look to their friends first to say If u are the right guy. Kind of like how you show pics of the girl to ur friends to show how hot she is. I wouldn't say high interest but defs interested.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 05:37 AM
6

Not posts but Trial and error. And I've lost so much weight over the years, almost at my ideal body fat. Get lots of female attention now. Get iois like 95% of the time I'm in public. 2 things that stands out to me is how jelly and competitive other guys can get. And women hate getting rejected. I developed the idgaf mentality since then.
/r/askTRP05/01/21 10:12 PM
4

When I was 18-23 it seemed like only low smv women were interested. The Same age girls at that time had so much options. Now there's much more at 27 and I've increased my overall smv as well. I only go for younger girls now
/r/askTRP05/01/21 01:54 PM
1

Imho I think it is. They sense your desperation. Rather warm approach
/r/askTRP20/12/20 09:21 AM
1

Acting, Sports and athletics
/r/askTRP06/12/20 06:08 PM
1

Only brag if it's called for like showcasing your smv for a girl or if the topic comes up in a convo
/r/askTRP05/12/20 01:07 PM
0

I don't do cold approaches. If the girl didn't notice me yet I will smile and if she smiles back, touches hair or dies s double take I will approach.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 06:53 AM
2

Yep I got bullied as well. Now I box and i have the idgaf mentality.
/r/askTRP30/11/20 05:24 AM
2

Yes definitely. It's a combination of all 4 factors
/r/askTRP26/11/20 04:26 AM
4

It's a combination of all 3. It's 4 if you count personality too. Only looks can cause sexual attraction imho. Status and money go hand in hand most times I guess which makes them much more curious. Think the most talented individuals in their specific art. And personality keeps them.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 12:26 AM
5

Do it back to them. Or tell them to fuck off. They won't do it again
/r/askTRP23/11/20 02:27 PM
1

To not get a crush is to talk to many women but one will always come along and you can't help it. That's just life for most guys
/r/askTRP22/11/20 11:00 PM
0

The younger women care more for looks. As they get older than 23-24 they put other factors of smv first and realize that looks aren't all that in a man. I'm 6ft2, dark hair with chiseled face as well. It's just that you have to try harder with the hot women. And sometimes they don't want the guy to be better looking than them.
/r/seduction22/11/20 01:28 PM
1

Drop her like a bad habit
/r/askTRP21/11/20 11:05 AM
1

In that department boxing sparring really worked for me in my experience. It's different for everyone I guess.
/r/askTRP21/11/20 08:01 AM
1

You have to train for strength. Heavy weights, 4-8 reps, lift no more than 10 seconds then rest for 2-3min. To build pure strength you need to activate the atp-pc energy system. Or maybe you should checkup by a doc and see if maybe you have an issue with building muscle
/r/askTRP19/11/20 06:51 PM
2

Fully agree on this. In my experience they mostly go for looks and social status at this age. It was very hard for me to get my own age girls at this age. Now I get them so easily but also my smv has increased.
/r/askTRP19/11/20 06:37 PM
2

Look up approach invitations on google
/r/askTRP17/11/20 03:30 PM
4

I'm working as a jnr engineer. But I like to approach women anywhere when I'm on my commute or maybe at lunch. I only approach if they give an invitation and if I like the way they look too though.
/r/askTRP17/11/20 01:44 PM
1

Damn this is spot on. And to clarify I think most people grow out of it once they get older
/r/seduction14/11/20 04:01 AM
1

Just keep straight face or smile or laugh with them. Then make a comeback
/r/askTRP12/11/20 12:50 AM
3

Yep younger women are still shy with no balls. They still act like us when we were younger, remember we were also shy when we saw someone we liked. Then we stare at them then when they look at us we would look away.
/r/askTRP11/11/20 04:55 PM
6

Yep they just attention whores
/r/askTRP11/11/20 03:38 AM
9

Honestly I would say it wasn't really an ioi. Most girls that are attracted cannot hold eye contact for too long, only the very few who are very confident. Some girls try to hold direct eye contact but they maybe look at the eyelid to appear confident. WHEN my smv was lower some girls would hold eye contact but found out they weren't really attracted. Now my smv is a bit higher, younger girls are more shy and only some older women can hold eye contact. In my honest experience a double take is mo…
/r/askTRP11/11/20 03:22 AM
6

Shoot thanks. I thought you meant that but yeah just do what you gotta do my man. Invest in a good career, increase social status etc. If there's one thing I learnt from boxing is that champions always find a way to win no matter what. I know it's cliche but please don't quit. You'll thank yourself 10 years from now.
/r/askTRP09/11/20 06:46 AM
8

I grew up obese, had acne on my face and I currently still have hyperhidrosis. I got rid of acne and lost weight. I'm 6ft2, found out I have nice facial structure, lean face now, still a little chubby. Now I get iois from women 95% of the time. Currently I only go for 7+ women but there's too little of them.
/r/askTRP09/11/20 06:22 AM
63

Slow success builds character. Fast success builds ego.
/r/askTRP08/11/20 01:29 PM
1

Of course
/r/askTRP08/11/20 03:52 AM
3

I used to do this when I was younger. don't do it.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 07:14 PM
1

I love your determination. It gets quite tough. As I always say and especially recently "if God is making you wait then be prepared to receive more than what you asked for"
/r/seduction05/11/20 01:37 PM
1

You're going to have to eat much more to gain mass while doing kickboxing. You are burning calories doing both. Let's say you eat 2200 to maintain weight, now you eating at 2500 calories to gain mass, on top of that you are doing cardio which you need to eat more coz of calories burned. Now ur up to 2800 calories to maintain weight. If you take it logically you probably need to eat around 3300 calories a day to gain mass. This is assuming you're doing both cardio and weight training in one day. …
/r/askTRP04/11/20 11:52 PM
1

Depends how intense the lockdown is. Besides everything mentioned here already. You can do some short sprints as well. 20-60m, all sprints under 10 seconds then rest for 2.5-3min to recover and go again. It's for speed and power and will maintain strength as well.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 03:50 PM
39

Spot on. 95% of women have a herd mentality, they will gang up on you
/r/askTRP28/10/20 10:10 PM
1

Thanks for your response was really helpful. Seems like too much work for little in return. My full time job is already lots of work. It's for fashion modeling, this girl I'm seeing is one as well and she's saying it like it's no big deal lol. She sent pics of me to her agency and shit. I told her that I'm fine at this body fat percentage and I'll probably lose my mind if I decide to do it. I spoke to my close friends about it as well and they're actually shocked that I won't go for it. Me and t…
/r/askTRP28/10/20 05:14 PM
1

Don't delete. Just don't give too much attention.
/r/seduction27/10/20 05:19 PM
1

You know the answer but there's other women you can get who look similar to her but not a celeb. Then I'm sure your chances will be much higher.
/r/seduction26/10/20 03:56 PM
2

Then that's low self esteem in play there, you don't think you deserve any good. That's when you need to find more women that you have a 50-100% chance with.
/r/seduction26/10/20 03:47 PM
3

An old reddit comment. It made so much sense to me. Isn't a goal much more interesting if you don't know that you're going to get it?
/r/seduction26/10/20 03:05 PM
1

Imho I think it's more important. At 6ft2, I have a lean face at about 18% body fat, store most fat in my upper body. And I get iois from women 95% of the time.
/r/askTRP26/10/20 02:57 PM
40

Yes. It's human nature, on average we are most attracted to someone when there's a 50% of success. If the person's ego is very big its best to not show any interest in the beginning and slowly show interest over time.
/r/seduction26/10/20 01:56 PM
1

Well I wouldn't give a fuck. You can't change it, do what you gotta do. I have hyperhidrosis on my head and upper body. I have to take tablets. But that doesn't work all the time. I don't say it but girls say it's because I'm so sexy and hot lol.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 06:12 PM
2

Please don't fuck your clients. It's very unprofessional and bad for business. Coming from a pt that works from home as well. I state in my pt agreement that I do not sleep with clients.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 08:21 PM
1

Thanks for this insight. Will certainly keep it in mind. I'm a jnr software engineer now. Over the last 2 years I never tell women what I'm studying or now that I'm working what I do.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 02:05 PM
5

I agree with you. It's a mixture of the genetic lottery and huge amounts of luck in other areas. As some people work very hard and smart but don't get lucky.
/r/askTRP03/10/20 06:12 AM
1

The lockdown rules are slowly subsiding here in sa. Met a hot chick only last week.
/r/askTRP29/09/20 01:49 AM
-2

Don't shit where you eat
/r/askTRP27/09/20 02:15 AM
5

It's an age old myth. A girl laughing at all jokes does not mean sexual attraction, if it was then Chris Rock, Kevin hart and will ferrell would be sex symbols. Laughing builds attracion yes but not sexual attraction. You need real game to turn her on sexually. When I was fat I would make girls laugh at my jokes but I'm much leaner now and they don't laugh as much. Guess what version of me gets more women!...
/r/seduction27/09/20 01:36 AM
2

The funniest excuse I ever got was that I'm muslim🤯🤣
/r/askTRP17/09/20 09:28 AM
2

Not to brag but 90-95% of the time I'm around women. It ranges from as low as double takes right up to hovering around me but very rarely will they open themselves. They will open my friends or people I know,hoping that I'll start a conversation with them.
/r/askTRP17/09/20 09:25 AM
3

I only do warm approaches and I get rejected about 50% of the time.
/r/askTRP16/09/20 05:50 PM
3

Those guys are the worst. The thing is that the guys who actually do swing the bat don't think it's a joke. They just jelly and can't do what you do
/r/askTRP16/09/20 05:49 PM
1

You can grow into a pure backend in the future. Backend usually requires much more experience to get into and you competing with many cs grads. Rather do frontend or full-stack for now. Also don't worry much about your friends lives, don't cut them off completely, they've worked hard for it + some luck that's out of your control. Like I said your current situation should only give you more fuel and eventually you will get lucky as well.
/r/askTRP10/09/20 07:46 PM
1

What in software, a developer? Your current situation should only give you more fuel to go for it. I'm a jnr full stack dev now and I was very lazy when younger as well.
/r/askTRP10/09/20 06:04 PM
6

It can even be something very small. It's sad when even your guy friends turn their back on you. They always seek that female validation, the fucking simps
/r/askTRP10/09/20 07:55 AM
1

This one really sucks. You can file a defamation lawsuit but that will cost you. Get your friends as girls that you truly trust to back you up. Or just save up enough money, after you get your masters degree then move out and kill them all with success. Its tricky I know. I hate the fact that for the smallest of things, no matter how small they tell their friends and they will gang up on you like a pack of wolves. And most guys will also back those girls up(even guys you thought were your friend…
/r/askTRP10/09/20 07:49 AM
1

She didn't get enough attention from him or the guy has the same level smv as him or simply that the guy is better looking and she just wanted a quick fuck
/r/askTRP01/08/20 11:56 AM
7

Maybe your smv isn't as high as you think it is, those girls are really insecure and they don't think they deserve a guy like you regarding all aspects of smv. The last one might be that specifically in comparison to her you are conventionally better looking than her and she gets insecure when all eyes are on you
/r/askTRP06/06/20 04:36 AM
1

Yeah I don't know man girl 2 should have just treated me like a normal person
/r/seduction24/05/20 09:48 PM
1

All I know is girls don't take rejection well. 2 that come to mind are: Girl 1: tells me she likes me, I reject. She irritates me every time she gets a chance and tells me she gets suicidal, she's a damn liar too. Girl 2: Always wanted to be near me and my friends, always stares at me, never laughs at my jokes and always makes fun of me. One day she just blushes around me for no reason. The next day I point it out in front of about 10 people, she gets quiet then giggles like a little girl. After…
/r/seduction24/05/20 09:11 PM
2

Spot on. They act like us when we started the dating game at 12 y/o
/r/askTRP15/05/20 06:52 AM
1

Git mine as present. I use IG man for the last 6 years. Only use it when I go out so the bottle is only halfway now. Really good investment.
/r/askTRP12/05/20 01:57 PM
3

Thanks for the feedback. I just smile it off, I'm not as insecure about those things as I was when younger especially nowadays. Took a while though. Still building frame to 100%. Boxing helped me so much. I just smile and ignore it now because they never have anything nice to say. Even when I was younger I was never jealous of anyone I just showed admiration. I'm so lucky they just work colleagues and I'm just straight forward with them now and do my thing.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 04:09 AM
2

I come from a rough childhood (obese, acne, hyperhidrosis) and raised my smv over the years. What I notice now that you're saying I will naturally display dominant behavior isn't exactly true. I don't like being the center of attention around females now especially after years of them ignoring me. Not to brag but I get so many approach invitations and I get so many women interested now I can't handle all the attention. Coming to my point, my work circles of guys recently only make fun of me for …
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:43 AM
1

I'm aware of the wall and that smv graph. But imho they should get similar ostracizing like they do to us. I know they think emotionally but come on now. Imagine if we as guys ganged up and emotionally wrecked and insulted a woman when she is alone and helpless.
/r/askTRP18/04/20 04:53 AM
2

It's just ridiculous that the guys take the girls sides, all bluepill faggots. Most guys don't understand that when u get lots of women u can afford to ignore and next them like it's nothing, even the 9s. If a girl misbehaves then I ignore her and give attention when I want to.
/r/askTRP18/04/20 04:48 AM
3

Yes they never take rejection well. I wonder sometimes do they ever get the ostracizing in return(but maybe in a different way) because I just ignore them afterwards. Karma eventually gets everyone and I mean the girls will hunt u down like a pack of wolves.
/r/askTRP17/04/20 02:05 PM
5

I approach girls for marketing purposes so this one annoying guy always comes along afterwards then makes a fool of himself
/r/seduction15/04/20 11:15 PM
1

That's great if he can move to where the job is located. Lucky him
/r/askTRP29/03/20 07:07 PM
1

Coding is really cool. Been doing it for a year now. 3 month bootcamp and self taught. Where is ur cousin from?
/r/askTRP29/03/20 07:01 PM
3

Nice. They act like we as guys acted when we first started liking girls. When we got rejected we called them ugly, bitches, cunts etc because they hurt our feelings lol. But we learn from those experiences the more we get rejected. Now women on the other hand never take the initiative so they act like us when we were younger lol. Its not ur issue yes, they get surprised when u delete or ignore them and call u girly.
/r/askTRP29/03/20 06:51 PM
2

I feel u on this one man. We are told to man up when rejected but they cannot get rejected, if they do we are called ugly, assholes, stupid and girly. I got called ugly after I pointed out that this girl blushed around me hahahaha. Girl irritated me when I didn't return feelings. Just delete or ignore if in person and on to the next one
/r/askTRP29/03/20 06:41 PM
3

I think it's only in America where height is very important. Face always comes first here in South Africa
/r/askTRP25/03/20 09:12 PM
2

The easiest way to know is being around other tall guys. I'm 6ft2 as well, I lift but muscle doesn't show yet coz higher body fat at 16-17% and store most fat in my upper body. Lean face and legs. I get more attention around other tall guys coz of face. I grew up obese so I would know.
/r/askTRP25/03/20 09:11 PM
1

Yeah true. Coding is a long term investment. Been learning on my own and building small full stack apps for a year now and I still don't call myself a developer yet lol. I make money as a trainer so now in the quarantine I'm training my clients through video. I'm a qualified sport scientist.
/r/askTRP25/03/20 08:45 PM
23

The very close friends I have are 2 and one is my cousin. Learnt the hard way to keep ur circle small and be loyal to the end.
/r/seduction23/03/20 01:59 AM
3

Shit all social media got them sooo entitled. I thought I was in the same looks range because of past experiences
/r/askTRP22/03/20 10:48 PM
20

In my past experience it was shit. Only used it once for 2 months. Don't really use social media. Those girls that are 3-5 range message and like. Got me thinking I was in the same range lol but looking at responses here in this sub seems like their standards are just high and it happens to all guys
/r/askTRP22/03/20 10:41 PM
2

I would say ur smv isn't high enough for them yet. Meaning increase ur social skills and confidence. Don't get me wrong but looks can only get u so far. Remember 9s and 10s are very picky, they only choose out of guys that approach them. u have to be in the right places at the right times to get them as well.
/r/askTRP21/03/20 06:12 PM
3

What is your closing rate when getting choosing signals? . I very rarely get approached here in South Africa.
/r/askTRP21/03/20 06:05 PM
3

Perfect. Im a sport scientist and I run my own personal training business at my home gym. Now I lost about 70kg over the years and I'm at about 17% bf now(store most fat in upper body). I'm qualified to train people, I have the knowledge but I don't look fit yet at 6ft2. My friends, family and I market my ass off as the best coach in Cape Town. Got all my clients so far to reach their goals. So point is u don't have to be fit to teach fitness. You have to be fit to promote a company brand yes, t…
/r/askTRP19/03/20 09:53 PM
1

Yeah true. Check my other comment in this thread
/r/askTRP17/03/20 11:21 PM
5

Yeah game is more important otherwise I would have slayed more. So I guess it's location. I'm 6'2
/r/askTRP17/03/20 10:55 PM
-2

White and coloured girls. I'm coloured though
/r/askTRP17/03/20 10:16 PM
3

Are you from America? Because girls here in South Africa are very reserved, they just stare, proximity and ioi all day. Very rarely i get approached or called handsome
/r/askTRP17/03/20 09:50 PM
2

Ok recently I have been getting sex at least twice a month. Lost lots of fat over the years. I store most of my fat in my upper body though(16-18%bf) so I have a lean face and legs. Slowly developing the last 2 points. Now I think I fit tall and handsome face. Around other tall guys I get the most attention so maybe I do, I don't know but like I said slowly developing the last 2 points.
/r/askTRP17/03/20 09:46 PM
0

I have a home gym where I train my clients
/r/askTRP17/03/20 05:34 AM
1

Yes they do. Mostly girls age very very quickly. Also what could have happened in ur situation is that the people around you idolized her so ur perspective of her just likely heightened. Happened to me in school as well. Oneititis too many times now they just look washed up
/r/seduction14/03/20 12:08 PM
1

From south Africa so very diverse races here. Only recently I've been with whites, indians/coloureds(Muslims and non) , coloureds(Muslims and non) and I don't go for African/very dark skinned girls(they don't give iois either). I am classified as a coloured muslim
/r/askTRP08/03/20 09:29 AM
1

Thanks so much for the feedback 👍
/r/askTRP08/03/20 08:24 AM
2

Makes sense, thanks so much for feedback 👍
/r/askTRP07/03/20 10:53 PM
1

Yeah true thanks though 👍
/r/askTRP07/03/20 06:13 PM
1

Yeah. The iois only come from colored and white girls though, no dark-brown skinned girls ever.
/r/askTRP07/03/20 06:06 PM
1

Why though?
/r/askTRP07/03/20 05:52 PM
1

Coloured
/r/askTRP07/03/20 05:51 PM
6

Thanks for ur feedback, much appreciated👍
/r/askTRP07/03/20 05:32 PM
1

Because they approach my friends. And sometimes I do approach though
/r/askTRP07/03/20 04:50 PM
4

If he increases his smv yes
/r/askTRP06/03/20 10:10 PM
7

Tbh ur smv isn't high enough for girls ur age. When young they mostly go for looks first.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 05:10 PM
5

Same as we love some action or sex they love attention. We hungry when we don't get action or sex, they're hungry when they don't get attention.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 05:30 PM
5

Girls aged 18-23 are in their prime and can get any guy they want. When I was ur age I wondered the same thing until I found out a few years later. 27 now and I only go for girls aged 18-23
/r/askTRP16/02/20 10:27 PM
1

Nope even on trt. You have to remember you cannot fight father time. You lose 1% of skeletal muscle every year after 32. 4-5 days max but approach with caution and periodize properly
/r/askTRP16/02/20 08:56 PM
3

The 2 different training methods should be periodized. It depends what your goals are as well. If u just wanna keep body fat low then I'd say u can alternate between morning and evening workouts. You can decide if cardio or strength in mornings or evenings. I personally prefer strength in the mornings. Start with 3x workouts p/week, build to 4x after 2 weeks, then 5x after 1month. You should have easy and hard days at this point. Check rpe scale. Train 5x p/week for another 2 weeks. 6x p/week af…
/r/askTRP16/02/20 05:52 PM
1

I run my own business, I am a qualified sport scientist so I work as a trainer at my home gym. Never go for my clients(train mostly women) only sometimes if they are willing and their packages are done and I won't be training them again. I approach lots of people in general for marketing. Play lots of sports and studying programming atm. I go to clubs/music fests/bars once in a while, So I meet women basically anywhere now. I'm from Cape Town. Try to just approach anywhere coz 99% of the time gu…
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:06 PM
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Was obese growing up, had acne. So having oneitis, Being too nice, going for girls out of my league and had a scarcity mindset. Now I lost 70kg. I can't handle all the attention from women, I have to dress down to avoid attention and go against what I was taught to attract women else they start liking me when I can't return the feelings(you know how they are when rejected) . Sigh I guess it's be careful what you wish for(in this case I wanted weight loss) Never had oneitis in years, only go for …
/r/seduction15/02/20 02:11 PM
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Yeah I'm in similar situation. Grew up obese, lost about 70kgs. Turns out I have a good looking face and I'm 6ft2. Started programming last year so looking to get job soon. It will take a while to adapt. Start playing sports, I mean u do speak to people at gym. Join chats about programming,meet up with them etc. What type of programmer are you? What languages do u use?
/r/askTRP13/02/20 05:12 PM
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To be honest I say u have to raise your smv. I lost about 70kgs in total. When I lost about 20-25kgs at the start, older women and younger girls in the 3-5 range started showing choosing signals. Now at 70kgs lost, choosing signals come from age ranges 14y/o to as old as 60y/o women. From 3s right up to 9s and the signals depend on their confidence levels.
/r/askTRP12/02/20 02:56 AM
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Always get approach invitations from women and hasn't stopped me.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 09:38 PM
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Skin quality doesn't matter as much as bone structure and harmony of facial features. 9 out of 10 times people with clear skin don't have good bone structure and harmony which makes them average. I have old small white scars from bad acne, went on roaccutane. I have good bone structure and harmony
/r/askTRP11/02/20 09:37 PM
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The 2 different training methods should be periodized. It depends what your goals are as well. If u just wanna keep body fat low then I'd say u can alternate between morning and evening workouts. Start with 3x workouts p/week, build to 4x after 2 weeks, then 5x after 1month. You should have easy and hard days at this point. Check rpe scale. Train 5x p/week for another 2 weeks. 6x p/week after 6 weeks. Continue for another 2 weeks then finally up to 7 workouts p/week. At this point u can train 2 …
/r/askTRP30/01/20 07:45 PM
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Start boxing then light sparring if u don't wanna fight. You Will gain confidence in urself and keep working on ur game
/r/askTRP23/01/20 03:54 AM
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Could be ur game or it could be that the girl was an attention whore. The same way we as guys love sex, women love attention. We can't wait to tell our friends who we fucked, girls can't wait to tell their friends who gave them attention. They don't give you what u want, u don't give them attention. It's as simple as that.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 11:55 AM
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Look in their eyes or close to it till u get it right.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 10:22 AM
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If u ignore her and she has a big ego, it depends how high your smv is. If ur smv is low, u will just get ignored but if high she'll get curious then attracted because you are a challenge. If she doesn't have a big ego(e. grew up ugly then blossomed) she will just ignore you until u give her enough attention regardless of ur smv
/r/askTRP17/01/20 10:19 AM
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You shouldnt just rely on Insta. Approach in real life outside bars and clubs. Develop social skills. Also you are judging yourself on looks alone. Male attractiveness is based on face, height(5ft10+ is mostly a positive but most girls just want the guy to be taller than them. This is only my experience as im from Cape town) and body. And obviously a healthy to very low body fat.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 11:49 AM
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Im a sport scientist, i run my own personal training business at my home gym. I do like playing all types of sports and weight lifting. I also started programming this year in Feb. So when im not training clients, training myself, playing sports with friends im programming
/r/askTRP09/12/19 11:35 AM
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When i was obese i was infatuated with this girl in my class in high school. I lost weight and now i think to myself she was just average and i had no other options at the time. I think its also got to do with what the guys around you think about her, if they idolise her. My standards are much higher now, i only date girls ages 18-23. And they have to be 8 and up. I think theres too little 9s and 10s to only date them.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 11:12 AM
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Yeah overtime u learn and adapt to rejection, regret not taking chances, develop the care free mindset etc. Thats when it all falls into place i guess
/r/askTRP08/12/19 09:30 AM
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He takes the promotions too far like disrespecting religion, vandalism etc.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 06:51 PM
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Yes i was very bad. Grew up obese then lost weight. We have to make the first move most of the time. Girls rarely compliment us and we somehow had to just have confidence. But its a sport in itself so we have to start at the bottom. Im from S.Africa and the culture is much different here compared to say america.
/r/askTRP07/12/19 04:49 PM
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Yeah happens to me too and im only 6ft2
/r/askTRP07/12/19 04:19 PM
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Muhammad Ali in his prime
/r/askTRP07/12/19 04:11 PM
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Exact same experience. In real life i figured that many guys dont approach outside clubs/bars and i will be at an advantage if i do.
/r/seduction05/12/19 08:20 PM
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It will take a while, for me personally it took about 2 years. I grew up obese then lost weight, it's taken me a while to accept that i am at least average. I do boxing as well, the sparring (maybe at 40-50%) or real bouts will help with your confidence and mental strength. You will develop a champion mindset. Now i just approach women and big groups of like maybe 5 or 6 who give ioi's and dont think twice.
/r/askTRP05/12/19 08:09 PM
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Lol i did something similar to this. I screamed out there's your girlfriend in front of 30-40 students and the girl he likes who's a psychologist. I did it thrice for the full effect.
/r/askTRP04/12/19 07:25 PM
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Lol i wont be slacking. Thanks so much for your input
/r/askTRP02/12/19 05:06 AM
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And yeah I'm not that confident with my game. I started boxing recently for that mental strength
/r/askTRP01/12/19 06:51 PM
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No i told my work colleague about that one incident and he said its that. Then ever since then they've been doing that. I didnt ask if its my acne scars
/r/askTRP01/12/19 06:46 PM
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I went through kind of the same as you. I was probably around 35-40% body fat, had bad acne on my face from 15-17y/o and was bullied alot etc. I lost 65kgs over the last few years, took medication for the acne and daammmnnn its a whole new world fuck. No brag but Lets just say the floodgates opened up. It was nice at first but as i lost more weight I feel i have to dress down to avoid so much attention but even then i still do(i guess its be careful what you wish for). I feel like a freak coz of…
/r/askTRP30/11/19 02:51 PM
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Just remember why you started in the first place and keep at it till you achieve it.
/r/seduction30/11/19 01:25 PM
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Just my way of doing things...If they didnt give the approach invitation. If the girls didnt see me yet i will stare at them till they look and check me out too then i approach
/r/seduction30/11/19 01:22 PM
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