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Go for it
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 08:51 PM
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​ Yeah, I don't think I have some inherent right to be fucked a certain way or something - it's really that I *want* to have a certain level of attraction in the eyes of whoever I'm fucking. **Want**, not **need**. I think there is still a mindset shift required somewhere here. Having needs doesn't instantly create covert contracts. Covert contracts are just a poor way to try to get your needs met. Example: I need an exciting enthusiastic sex life to be happy. The covert contract would be to exp…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 12:19 PM
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Maybe I'm looking for enthusiasm that simply doesn't exist in women, or maybe I'm not desirable enough to my wife to elicit that kind of response. I don't know. I know. Here's my experience: My start point with my ex: I love you but I am not attracted anymore. Me negotiating desire. No blowjobs. She found it 'gross' for me to go down on her. She never initiated. No anal. No lingerie. No dirty talk. No sexting, nudes or phone sex. 18 months later: Initiate whenever I want, rejections rare. No exc…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 04:30 PM
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​ I'm pretty sure a guy who really has his shit together wouldn’t put up with it. Your mistake is to think you have to first become that guy, then you stop putting up with it. The reality is by not putting up with it you become that guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 04:12 PM
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Relationship/Sex : Three initiations this week, two rejections. My new rule of initiating whenever I want to have sex is uncomfortable (through I’m getting increasingly accustomed to it and desensitized to rejection), but it still feels good to not let fear stop me from going for what I want. That said, that approach has gotten me more sex, but it’s bad sex. I got called out on this earlier in my journey. You have 'gotten' sex. How would it be if sex was a gift you gave when she did something to…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 04:07 PM
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PRIORITY #1 - ALCOHOL I know 6 is still way too much and there’s no excuse for it being above 0. You are right you should fix this. Now that 6 is my new baseline, I will drop down to 4. But apparently there is an excuse, because 4 drinks a night is still OK? ​ ​ PRIORITY #2 - FRAME & SEX I know I have a lot to unfuck here with my attitudes/behaviors about sex. My neediness, lack of outcome independence, all this validation I am chasing, etc. I see two ways forward. Both involve doing something n…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 03:54 PM
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OK let's play. 36yo. 183cm. 83.5kg AFF (Approximate Final Form) = 183 - 90 = 93kg TEL: OHP = 93kg, Bench = 139.5kg, Squat = 186kg, Deadlift = 232kg. RSM = 12%-15% Currently (strongur) reckons I am at 15.7%, so 13kg of fat 12% bodyfat should be at around 80kg so will cut to that which should take 3-4 weeks. I'm confused about the next bit. If I bulk at 0.6lbs (0.27kg) a weeks of which 33% is fat then I would hit 15% BF again in 47wks @ 91.64kg , 14.9%BF (13.69kg of fat) I think I've done the math…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 12:21 PM
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In terms of owning the shame of cheating: not sure how one does this. I have shared it with some safe male friends who understood and did not judge. A part of me wants to tell my ex. Certainly she asked when I broke it off "Had I done something hurtful I don't want to tell her about". But then I think why tell. If I wanted to continue things I should just do so and own it if it comes up (and let her decide if she is bothered or not). If I have left anyways what good does telling do unless I am h…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 12:11 AM
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​ I don't know what I want. That's the main reason I'm here. To take control of my life, chart a path, ruthlessly prioritize my mission. I need to know what I want first. If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favourable. Although I think Seneca also said STFU and lift helps you get to any port. ​ To loosely quote Hemingway, I want a home where I'm faithful to my wife and another home with nine floors, one for each of my mistresses. You can have either of these, not both. You can …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/23 12:00 AM
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I should probably try eating paint once to see what happens. Try it. Report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 11:52 PM
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Fear of abandonment I wouldn’t really call this shame. I guess it's more a NMMNG toxic shame - that somehow I am not worthy of love. I guess the hamster goes that the person loving doesn't really know the real me (e.g. cheating) and if they did they would not love me. Nonetheless, Why do you think you’re not worthy? I have cheated. In early life a LOT. More recently I have once in both of my long term relationships. I care deeply for my ex and it would hurt her a lot if she found out, yet I stil…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 11:32 PM
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I am curious, what was it about your LTR that you did not like which led you to nuke it? Honestly - she was shaping up pretty well. Fun, playful, caring. Sex was close to on tap, compliance getting there but maybe not full hind brain submission. Maybe that would never be possible with the amount of beta she had seen from me. I never pushed this far enough to know for sure though. I have for a long time had a feeling something wasn't right. I don't know if thats because something genuinely isn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 11:18 PM
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Do first. Then become. Then understand. It can't be the other way around.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 11:56 AM
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Re toxic shame - just own it, whatever it is. My understanding of Toxic shame (as per NMMNG) is it is the deeply held belief that you are not enough Shame is a false prison. Whether it comes from someone else trying to shame (manipulate) you or from your own baggage / perceptions, the result is the same. Once you own whatever the perceived flaw is (btw, everyone has faults), those prison walls disappear. It is one of those “seeing the matrix” moments, and it’s LIBERATING. Try it the next time yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:16 PM
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OYS #1 Lots of OYS1 and I rate that. ​ Max Lifts: DB Incline: 65 lbs Trap Bar DL: 265 lbs, Max Pullup: 7 Why no barbell lifts? My Mission? My goal is to assume the role of a family leader, serving as a model of a strong and healthy marriage for my daughters, and avoiding a future filled with remorse over missed opportunities due to my reluctance to pursue them. You can only fix yourself. The marriage may or may not follow Physical & Lifting Five goals: 1.Always look ripped. - short term goal: cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:05 PM
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I'm not sure of it. My body feels tired so I'm unable to maintain an erection. My arousel threshold feels much different compared to being young. This is psychological. I'm 36, work night shifts, have done that been up 36 hours had a flu and still gone 3 rounds. You do not have a medical problem. It's all in your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:52 PM
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Not a bad first OYS. Interesting story of getting the sex and realising it's not all you wanted. Think someone here wrote about that if you go looking for the post I can't be fucked summarising your OYS. It's way too long. Might be useful for you to do so. Try this: Background - 3 lines What you want - 3 lines Current goals - 3 max
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:48 PM
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OYS 1 Something doesn't add up. What are you not telling us? Late 30s. Married. ~15 years. Child free. 228. 6 2. ~25% bf. Child free by luck or design? Mission If I'm honest, my mission right now is juvenile. Get rich. Have sex with as many questionably aged women as possible. Drive fast cars. One of the reasons I'm here is to figure out what I actually want out of my life. This is fine if that is really what you want but if so why have you been married 15 years? I truly enjoy my LTR and appreci…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:39 PM
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Lifts: Squat 95lbs, Bench 70, Row 90, OHP 65, Deadlift 115, negative chinups Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, reading MMSLP Fitness: ...quit my AMRAP sets too early.... poor breathing.... psychological, ...trying to push through..... hesitancy ..... failure, ...I might ....need t At your weights just lift 3-4 times a week, Eat real food and stop thinking so much Diet was rough this weekend, we went to the inlaws and were sent home with a bunch of leftovers and desserts. I should probably throw most of it i…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:34 PM
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Why am I here?: To monitor my progress and receive advice as I work to improve my physical fitness and social abilities as much as I can in the time I have left. My ideal is to become a husband/father that leads from abundance What do you want to do for you? Mission: To break the cycle I have been in for the past two decades and achieve abundance socially and financially while maximizing my physical appearance and health. So.... same as everyone else here. Be financially secure, have friends, st…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:24 PM
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Pretty much how I am working now.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 06:27 PM
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The mistake is to think you have to feel something first. You already know you should stop. It's weak. Fucks up your mental models about sex. And somehow women fucking know. When I stopped porn my advances became stronger and I led my GF to way more dirty shit than previously. You don't need more reasons. You need action. Do first. Then become someone worth fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 12:57 PM
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I'm increasingly sure program doesn't matter as much as effort and consistency. I just ate 100g protein and dreamed about me and you all oiled up lifting weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 12:55 PM
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Heard that before. Will re-evaluate. I like it because it puts me in the center of action without depending on others. But I might change it and put my physical health more in the focus. It's just 'be better'. But what do you really want to do? Explore? Create? Build? Love? Discover? Build a legacy? Make it more specific. Every guy on here want's to kill their nice guy, get jacked and fuck bitches. ​ The only thing cringe is that my dick is not working at the moment. Maybe they are connected...
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:58 AM
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Porn is a problem. Had a good 10+ days or so after OYS1, but it has crept back in. I absolutely should just stop both. I tried a bunch of times. It always crept back in. Finally stopped when I realised I would never respect myself if I kept doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:56 AM
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Turn of phrase - but good catch. Language belies our internal beliefs. fixed it
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:54 AM
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GAME Reading: Continued Mystery's Handbook (focused on C1-3), Book of Negs, and youtube vids of live seminars (from early 2000s). Continued Matt Ardisson's Seduce Her with Text. This upcoming week, I will start DiClassified Drills and Rules of the Game. Game Study Plan: November: Mystery, DiCarlo's DiClassified Drills, and Strauss' Rules of the Game and Annihilation.December: Juggler Method and Manson's Models.January: LaRuina's Natural.February - April: Various RSD, Swinggcat's RWS, JD Fuentes,…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:44 AM
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What did I notice?Jerking off really sets off a low energy set. The desire to eat shit, drink and fuck around increases immediately after the jerk and hours afterwards. What will I do about it? Jerk less. Or just stop entirely. Do you use porn? A lot changed for me when I finally gave it up. I had a long period no jerking off too. Everytime I wanted to I would go do something productive insteat. Kept up practicing the guitar at least 15mins most days of the week. Is this the best you can do if y…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:39 AM
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Ruined all progress by eating shit 3 days in a row. I don't think that's how it works. ​ Went out to bars for a friends 40th, had a couple of drinks, danced and socialised well. There was a group of 20 year olds that some friends were talking with, I stayed back and didn’t get involved. Certain fear of rejection which is and has been strong for me, this will be hard to break through but I have to act, its ok to feel good about pushing myself to be more social and succeeding but I still didn’t do…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:35 AM
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MissionBecome the best version of my physical capabilities. Add value to whatever situation I find myself in: being a positive, attractive source of energy to others that surround me. This mission sucks. Kudos to you pushing boundaries in bedroom. Reads a bit cringe but seems like its working for you
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:31 AM
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Ugh I typed out a whole reply to this but it disappeared before I posted. Long story short: focus on losing weight and upping lifts STFU. Don't tell her about how unhappy you are about lack of sex. She knows. Don't expect instant changes from your wife. Stick to the program. She doesn't matter Learn to do things for yourself. As an exercise - plan something nice for yourself and tell no one; To find out if you organise BBQ for others - try making yourself something delicious one day. Put some ef…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:28 AM
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Thanks - not my style - plenty around though. I'll FR when I get some action. meet a new girl worthy of the gift of my cock
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:24 AM
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I respect your opinion on lifting, but I don't actually know what you are trying to communicate here
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:21 AM
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OYS 43 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 2 weeks ago) Stats: 35, no kids. Nuked 5 year LTR last week. 183cm Recently Gained from 79kg to 85kg Lifts: Program GZCLP 1RM (actual): Sq 110kg, BP 90kg, DL 152kg, OHP 56kg AMRAPS: Sq 6 x 97kg, BP 5 x 76kg, DL 10 x 130kg, OHP 10 x 44kg, pull-up 2x BW+30kg Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventures, connect, play and have fun, create and build, embrace discomfort, d…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:39 AM
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3 sessions > 4 sessions / week Used to lift very submax (fine but I'm a beginner maybe to get stronger I have to actually try lifting heavier weights) Protein from < 100g/day to now > 200g Trying new assistance e.g. paused squats, deficit deadlifts More focus on assistance as per u/Rpeed Advice Program I am unclear what would be best. I have just done 2 cycles of BBB Beefcake. The last couple of weeks I have dialed back the volume and increased intensity and set a few PRs. ​ I was thinking to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 07:13 AM
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Thanks will try them and report back
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 09:19 PM
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Life is a game of regret management but yeah I wish I could go back, ignore the spergs, tame a quality woman and pump her full of babies. Really. I'm surprised. I mean I don't know shit about you but I guess I just expect most here to say ideal end game is a harem of women, or constantly upgrading your 23 year old model as per Leo. I just broke things off with 'princess peach'. Was a long time coming. Maybe I'll regret it but I couldn't hamster the decision to stay into feeling like the right on…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 09:01 PM
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I'm in. Background: - Apr '22: Started lifting with an injured knee and shoulder. Sq 40kg Bn 40kg DL 60kg Pr 30kg x 5 Dec '22 - Slow progress initially with physio. Sq 100kg Bn 80kg DL 140kg Pr 50kg Mar '23 - Continued (slow) progress. No 1rm but eRM e1RM Sq 110kg Bn 90kg DL 150kg Pr 55kg April - Aug '23 did a lot of surfing hiking and running and lost what little gains I had Regressed back to Dec '22 numbers. Sep - Oct '23: eating more and making progress again Tested1RM Sq 110kg Bn 90kg DL 152…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 08:16 PM
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You are skipping something dude. Maybe it’s the food part. Well I skipped lifting consistently from April - August this year (Reasons, that in hindsight don't stand up) and regressed. Now making progress again though there was a bit of making up lost ground. I've been eating proper (200g+) amounts of protein which seems to be helping too.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 06:55 PM
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Im not skipping the accessories
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 02:26 PM
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OYS 43 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 2 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm Gained up to 85.3kg Lifts: Program 531 and cutting after 6 weeks of gaining weight and lots of volume 1RM (actual): Sq 110kg, BP 90kg, DL 152kg, OHP 56kg AMRAPS: Sq 6 x 97kg, BP 5 x 76kg, DL 10 x 130kg, OHP 5 x 47.5kg, pull-up 2x BW+30kg Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventures, connect, play and ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 07:59 PM
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Which seems to me Mr. Pee is communicating covertly (much like women) to point out I need to read it properly and actually change my actions to reflect the content in the post. He is letting you do the work, because a) he's a random internet stranger who owes you nothing and b) it works better if you figure it out yourself. Also notice your need to call him out / defend ​ It's a good post. I'll do better next time. The balance between ego stroking and self-flagellation is not that easy, I find. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:01 AM
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Yes essentially it’s the idea that one woman is irreplaceable (or “wife material” as u/mrjames_dgaf would tell us) i.e. that your long term qualify of life would significantly decrease without that particular woman in situ. Semantics but I don't agree... Wife material = good LTR material (whatever that means for you) Oneitis = the mistaken belief there is only one woman out there who fits that I still believe some women are better 'wife material' (for me: kind, dependable, loving, good with kids…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 06:45 AM
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Not bad for OYS2, but two things stood out... “No, I’m reading something and I’m not interested in what you have to say.” I then STFU. A little later “Are you mad?” “No but I won’t be spoken to like that”. I again STFU. Reads like you were butthurt ​ She goes “I was thinking about the two of us last night, together, naked.” My response “Be nice to me and who knows, you might just get lucky tonight.” Why not just fuck her right there? I get you're trying to make yourself the prize but this line f…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 09:13 PM
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Links not working ? May be me on mobile
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 06:47 PM
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Resonate - yes. Agree with most of what you wrote. A lot of that I scream (internally) at myself fairly regularly
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 12:29 PM
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We're all narcissists?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 07:05 AM
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I don't really care how awesome you are or aren't. I am 99% sure I don't want to be you or live like you. However, I find your comments some of the most useful I've received here. how it is that I can skewer your weaknesses so easily Low hanging fruit...
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 10:07 PM
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Unchained Man Thanks - useful
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 10:05 PM
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After this we went into, you don't want to kiss me, we don't have sex as much as I want. Just straight up telling her, not mad, just matter of fact. You don't need to tell her, she already knows
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 05:28 PM
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OYS 42 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 4 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 82.5kg Gaining. Lifts: Currently running 531 and gaining Recent best: Sq 6 x 97kg, BP 7 x 75kg, DL 5 x 135kg, OHP 5 x 47.5kg, pull-up 2x BW+30kg Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventures, connect, play and have fun, create and build, embrace discomfort, do meaningful work, become physically and menta…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 05:24 PM
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I take this shit way too seriously, don't I. The ocd behaviour and me treading on eggshells has disappeared This is more accurate: The OCD behaviour has lessened and been mostly replaced with fun, flirty, feminine behaviour. Occasionally it still appears. I no longer feel as affected by it. But the fact that I instinctively wrote the sentence the first time as cause (her) > effect (me) probably shows that without effort my default is to see it in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 07:45 AM
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Things change? You're right that I probably am still trying to fix her (found a 'nice girl'TM and want to make her my slut) The ocd behaviour and me treading on eggshells has disappeared
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/23 08:21 PM
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Both comments fair and accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/23 06:53 PM
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Something isn’t adding up. You know what to say but your actions don’t line up. If your LTR is getting the job done and is high quality, why go fuck an intern from your office? At a minimum, you’re an idiot risking your job. Sure, practice game and try shit out. And if you want to fuck around, fuck around. But do it congruently and without risking your job.* Good question: opportunism, desire, curiosity I've always been a sexual opportunist, and I think a lot of men are (hard to say no when its …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/23 09:05 AM
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Shame & guilt - what beneficial purpose do they serve? All they do is artificially box you in. Own the “shameful” act sometime and see what happens (hint: nothing… poof goes your imaginary jail). Interesting question. I'm going to go down a rabbit hole here, mainly in the hope I figure something out for myself. We talk a lot about shame and guilt driving nice guy behaviours here, but I haven't the emotions themselves discussed much. I feel bad following an action. I am not sure entirely why I fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 11:29 AM
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Correct. Working on the lifting. Apparently not getting very far with frame. I'd love to ditch the shame and guilt. In some ways, this was an experiment to see if it's still there. I think that's ok. I've crossed on of three choice off my list of figuring out what I want. Thanks for the spell check. I guess I still don't know the answer to your last question or my actions would look quite different
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 06:15 PM
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OYS 41 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 1 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 82.5kg Gaining. Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining Recent best: Sq 12 x 90kg, BP 11 x 71kg, DL 10 x 128kg, OHP 10 x 43kg, pull-up 2x BW+30kg 5x10 sets: Sq 75kg, BP 60k, DL 105k, OHP 34k, pull-up 60 in session, dips 75. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue advent…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 11:08 AM
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You're spot on. I didn't answer your question. I'd tell another guy to: A - decide EXACTLY what he wants, not what he has settled for or what he is comfortable asking for with nice guy tendencies stopping him from being honest B - work hard to become a the best possible version of himself C - push hard for A and see if his girl can step up D - get a realistic view of what he can get playing the field E - make a fucking decision In which case : I know A but haven't been clear to LTR so this to he…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 08:16 PM
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You're spot on. I didn't answer your question. I'd tell another guy to: A - decide EXACTLY what he wants, not what he has settled for or what he is comfortable asking for with nice guy tendencies stopping him from being honest B - work hard to become a the best possible version of himself C - push hard for A and see if his girl can step up D - get a realistic view of what he can get playing the field E - make a fucking decision In which case : I know A but haven't been clear to LTR so this to he…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 08:16 PM
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OYS 40 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 1 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 82.5kg Gaining. Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining Recent best: Sq 8 x 90kg, BP 11 x 71kg, DL 6 x 130kg, OHP 8 x 42kg, pull-up 2x BW+30kg 5x10 sets: Sq 75kg, BP 55k, DL 100k, OHP 34k, pull-up 60 in session, dips 75. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventure…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 03:16 PM
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u/ragnar_Daneskjold interested in your take if I have misread you
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 02:57 PM
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Same discussion - different posts. They are all excellent wife material for the right man Really? I disagree. I've been with plenty of women who fulfil me sexually who I wouldn't dream of spending my life with / starting a family with. Maybe I just don't have the frame to reign in these addictive / BPD / high on the hot crazy matrix girls but I've had a few who blew my mind sexually but not a chance in hell I would trust them to raise my kids. Probably all of it. I also see very little happiness…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/23 12:06 PM
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That’s wife material. I mean, sure, I do want my wife/partner to do that. I've had previous partners do that. Feels great. I probably also want to have kids one day, and want my partner to be a good mum, life partner, interesting to talk to, fun to hang out with, etc. My current partner is exceptional in some of those regards. She's also not fulfilling my wants of sexting, kink and a threesome. Sexually could I do better starting over (IR7)? Sure. I am convinced of this. Is there a woman out the…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/23 11:48 AM
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I see a few other paths available
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/23 12:44 PM
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Useful, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/23 11:07 AM
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What would you tell you if you saw some other guy write all this? I'd probably say this guy is kicking the can down the alley to avoid deciding whether to: a) nuke his LTR and go bathe in pussy b) stay in his improved relationship (and live a life of quiet desperation as u/Visual_Cable_1067 would say) c) stay (current LTR is excellent wife material) and spin plates on the side ​ There's lots of "I can't, I wouldn't, I never, haven't tried" throughout the rest of your writing. What do you make of…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/23 10:10 AM
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Now upping TM as prescribed and onto the next cycle. Typo
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/23 10:02 AM
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Ideas to measure success remain Social game - women give me their number / ask me out happening, but not yet with the quality I would want Day game - able to go up to a random hottie - be direct (no nice guy hiding behind friendly non sexual intentions, actually direct) and get the number I can do this when the context is non threatening not yet in the "you're hot I want your number" way Night game - be able to meet / take home women at bar As per FR above turns out this wasn't as hard as I thou…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 12:45 PM
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OYS 39 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 1 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 82.5kg Gaining. Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining Recent best: Sq 8 x 90k, BP 6 x 72k, DL 6 x 130k, OHP 8 x 42k, pull-up 2x BW+30kg 5x10 sets: Sq 75kg, BP 55k, DL 100k, OHP 34k, pull-up 60 in session, dips 75. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventures, co…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 12:45 PM
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I don’t know what your story is. And I don’t care. Just doesn't fucking matter, does it? ​ But I would eat something, take steroids, put on way more mass than you have, learn to game Working on it (except the steroids) ​ and go “main and two sides” in perpetuity. Sounds appealing. But. When I imagine drowning in pussy I feel guilty.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 09:55 PM
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OYS 38 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 1 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm WEIGHT? ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining. Recent best: Sq 8 x 90k, BP 6 x 72k, DL 6 x 130k, OHP 8 x 42k, pull-up 2x BW+30kg 5x10 sets: Sq 70kg, BP 55k, DL 100k, OHP 34k, pull-up 55 in session, dips 65. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventures, co…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 09:15 PM
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This is gold. I tried to make it funny/ ignore it but this is where I need to get to. Doesn't come naturally (yet)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/23 11:36 AM
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Ah: I thought you were making the bigger point of 'if historically you've been a blue pill nice guy, try acting different a see what results you get' which is what I'm trying, but is also a fair point that it's not groundbreaking here to suggest that I like the article. I had exactly this issue on a night out. Thinking 'oh I could charm her but it's loud in here' or 'man this girl is hot but basic' I will try this exaggerated response to these situations and report back
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/23 11:27 AM
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Your link just takes me to TRP home page
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/23 11:08 AM
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Fair
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 08:54 PM
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FR : Just back from a night out. I'd invited BnB girl to join me for a swim at a river. She text back that she'd already been but was leaving then invited me to join her and some friends for beers. Initially I was reluctant (I want her to want to hang out alone) but then realised that's ducking stupid agree can't make option a and made an option b to see me. I arrive and it's a big group of dudes a couple for whom I know, most of whom I don't plus her and one other girl. Again my reaction is 'wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 10:44 PM
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I get laid plenty these days. I want to be sure if I get laid outside my LTR that it's because I choose to, not because I put myself in the position and have no self control
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 10:29 PM
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OYS 37 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 3 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 76.5kg (lost 1-5-2kg through more aerobic and less lifting the last few months) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining. Recent best: Sq 8 x 90k, BP 6 x 72k, DL 6 x 130k, OHP 8 x 42k, pull-up 2x BW+30kg 5x10 sets: Sq 65kg, BP 50k, DL 90k, OHP 32k, pull-up 55 in session, dips 60. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 05:05 PM
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Thanks: will report back
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 05:26 PM
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OYS 37 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS 3 weeks ago) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 76.5kg (lost 1-5-2kg through more aerobic and less lifting the last few months) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining. Recent best: Sq 8 x 90k, BP 6 x 72k, DL 6 x 130k, OHP 8 x 42k, pull-up 2x BW+30kg Training max are a bit below this whilst I add volume. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 06:14 AM
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OYS 36 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. back to weekly OYS) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 76.5kg (lost 1-5-2kg through more aerobic and less lifting the last few months) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531BBB and gaining. Recent best: Sq 8 x 90k, BP 6 x 72k, DL 6 x 130k, OHP 8 x 42k, pull-up 2x BW+30kg Training max are a bit below this whilst I add volume. Eating a surplus and 150g+ protein. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/23 01:17 PM
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What the fuck did I just read
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/23 11:06 AM
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I did this. Luckily not too early. And not as a CC that it would lead to more sex. Better would have been to shop together online. Now she buys stuff herself and surprises me.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/23 01:27 PM
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You're reading that article and then looking in the mirror and seeing a skinnyfat guy with pathetic lifts after a full year of OYS. You're supposed to feel like shit. Natures way of getting you of your ass and doing better. You're right. My lifts are still weak, and they haven't moved recently. ​ So fix that. Get out of DYEL-mode. I guarantee your feelings will change. Goes for everything, Action changes feelings, where no amount of thinking, pondering, writing, discussing will. You're right her…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 07:06 AM
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Useful thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 06:45 AM
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I have a strong feeling that I should be able to overcome procrastination, get shit done, being productive. When I'm otherwise busy and I choose not to worry about unfinished tasks, well then I drop all concern, but when I have time but I procrastinate I feel I could do better
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 09:09 PM
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OYS 35 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. 1 month since last OYS) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 76.5kg (lost 1-5-2kg through more aerobic and less lifting the last few months) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531 at maintenance around a lot of sports. Recent best: Sq 8 x 90k, BP 6 x 72k, DL 6 x 130k, OHP 8 x 42k, pull-up 2x BW+30kg Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Ongoing mission and plan: Mission: explore, pursue adven…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 10:18 AM
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A few points: This was all victim puke and things you need to improve with no clear plan. The plan is on the sidebar. Follow it. Are you married? Kids? How long together? If not why do you want to fix this apparently quite fucked relationship. (Don't get me wrong I chose to stay after fixing myself and I don't have kids and I'm not married, but my LTR isn't trying to hit me) What do you lift? Are you fat? She might well have already cheated on you. No - I don't think you should check her phone t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 08:24 AM
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When do you sleep? When do you have fun? The 10 h commute seem like it could be optimised
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 06:12 AM
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OYS 34 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. 2 weeks since last OYS) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 78.3kg (stable) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531 plus a lot of running/hiking/surfing/climbing Recent best: Sq 8 x 90kg BP 6 x 72kg DL 6 x 130kg OHP 8 x 42kg pull-up 2x BW+30kg Maintaining / slow progress over summer whilst I chase other sports goals. Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP, Lots of old posts, J10ofHearts, HoA etc Mission: explore, pursue adventures, c…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/23 05:48 PM
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Great way to reframe things. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/23 02:30 PM
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OYS 33 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. last OYS late so some duplication here) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 78.3kg (stable) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531 plus a lot of running/hiking/surfing/climbing Recent best: Sq 8 x 90kg BP 6 x 72kg DL 6 x 130kg OHP 8 x 42kg pull-up 2x BW+30kg Recently accepted slow progress /maintenance whilst working hard on summer hobbies, but I am keen to push things along, so upping protein and calories and supplemental volu…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/23 07:33 AM
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​ You're ugliness reeks from this post. Where on earth are your readings in your OYS? Certainly need to read them again if you have already, which I highly doubt you have. You're right. This week I exhibited some unattractive behaviours, didn't I. Hopefully by writing it out I can see the pattern and what needs to change in future. Which of the sidebar materials do you think would be most useful to revisit?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/23 11:01 AM
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OYS 32 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. one month since last OYS) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 78.3kg (stable) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531 at maintenance plus a lot of running/hiking/surfing/climbing Recent best: Sq 5 x 95kg (+5kg) BP 2 x 77kg (+ 2 kg) DL 3 x 140kg (stable) OHP 5 x 47kg (stable) pull-up 2x BW+30kg Recently accepted slow progress /maintenance whilst working hard on summer hobbies, but I am keen to push things along, so upping protein…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/23 09:27 AM
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OYS 31 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22, 2 weeks since last OYS) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 783kg (stable for a couple weeks) ~16%bf Keeping this one short to focus on main issue thats been affecting me lately. Lifts: static due to a week on a remote island climbing wild peaks Hobbies: good, new friends, groups, enjoying my hobbies, pushing myself Game: mostly good, fun and playful leading my girlfriend and flirting for fun when I feel like it with other w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/23 04:21 PM
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Other things going well Sex - I have settled for a new status quo here. Quantity is where I want it, sometimes even she's asking for more than I could be bothered with *(duty sex reversed). Quality mostly good when I lead, there are still things I want that I need to keep pushing for or things will settle in a new normal. Much better than the old normal. Better than I ever though possible (with this woman). Not better than I ever had or than my wildest imagination. Need to keep pushing Hobbies -…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 06:19 PM
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OYS 30 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22.) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 783kg (stable for a couple weeks) ~16%bf Lifts: Currently running 531 + FSL plus a lot of running/hiking/surfing/climbing Recent best (no change, sick last week - 1 x gym only): Sq 7 x 90kg BP 4 x 75kg DL 4 x 135kg OHP 5 x 47kg pull-up 2x BW+30kg ST Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg LT Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Cutting (low ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 06:18 PM
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You've missed my point. You've told me how the divorce works. What does your life post divorce look like? Hobbies? Social? Women? Gym? Sports? Mission ? What do you want? How do you get there?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/23 09:31 PM
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• I really don't have the frame to take lifting advice on MRP, though I do have the frame to have a boundary about that. This frame is not enough and the latter will need to yield to the former. ​ • The ability of my current self to receive, sift, and implement good advice my past self received and paid forward, and the ability of my current self to give useful advice to my future self is exactly what I am doing when I am developing frame ​ I have no clue what you are trying to say here, nor wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 05:44 PM
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So whats your mission and what have you done to pursue it?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 05:23 PM
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Agree with u/FutileFighter at least you are honest and going to the gym. You last OYS was a month ago. Post every week. Start small. At your lifts you should be able to add weight weekly. Do so. Post the stats. Feel good about it. A) What does divorced life look like? B) What do you want it to look like? What steps do you need to take to get from A > B
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 05:21 PM
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OYS 29 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22.) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 5 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg (down from 79.3kg) ~16%bf (cutting) Lifts: Currently running 531 + FSL plus a lot of running/hiking/surfing/climbing Recent best (no change, increasing volume no recent PR sets): Sq 7 x 90kg BP 4 x 75kg DL 4 x 135kg OHP 5 x 47kg pull-up 2x BW+30kg ST Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg LT Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Cutting (…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 05:15 PM
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I think you should give some thought to why you felt the need to DEER here. You're right. I initially felt the reaction to DEER, realised it for what it was, decided not to, then saw all u/BroadBread's other recent comments and finally decided to respond. Is that all hamster to justify DEERing? You decide. Do you do this in real life? Sometimes. I'm working on it. ​ I'm not saying your wrong about feedback, I just think you should consider why you felt compelled to explain your position. Also, p…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/23 02:07 PM
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would've given me her info had I asked Careful there. Have you tested this or is your ego telling you it's a sure thing?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 10:17 PM
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Because we are angry at ourselves. Maybe. I think it's ego. Maybe we're both right and it's a way to redirect the anger by shouting at someone else thereby shielding the ego. If you're shouting at internet randoms to feel better about yourself : how do you behave in real life? Learn to control your anger. Meanwhile, redirect it. (Hint: lift)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 10:07 PM
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This can be a nice segway to getting your girl to think about threesomes. Not with the colleague (don't shit where you eat) but some other girl. For the first time(s) it makes things smoother if you let your girl pick the other girl. Also has the upside that you outsource recruitment. This is high on the bucket list, but I haven't gotten very far. Maybe it's time to reintroduce the idea having made a lot of progress in other ways recently. I had one previous (pre MRP) attempt to suggest this whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 08:52 AM
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What have lifts and BW done the last three months? ​ Lift Dec '22 Recent Squat 1 x 100kg 7 x 90kg, 17x 70kg Bench 1 x 80kg 4 x 75kg Deadlift 1 x 140kg 3 x 140kg, 8 x 128kg Press 1 x 50kg 5 x 47kg Pullup 1 x BW + 30kg 1xBW+35kg, 5x BW+20kg Weight 79.5kg 77.5kg ​ What program are you on? 531 beginners 3/week. I swapped press and bench and I do assistance as per Building the Monolith. (Mon: pullups/dips, Wed: rows curls Fri: weighted pullups, shrugs). Conditioning I run 2 x week 20-40min and on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 08:40 AM
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I post in OYS for the feedback I get. When I post late in the week I get less useful feedback than when I post early. Last week I added some stuff late which I didn't get useful feedback on, hence posting twice. The feedback I find useful is usually something like: 'sounds like it works but you're missing x' or 'try this next time' or 'you're full of shit' (often the most useful) The other type of feedback one sees here is the 'STFU faggot bitch' type. This feedback can be useful if it exposes t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/23 08:20 AM
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So angry, got anything useful to say?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 10:17 PM
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OYS 28 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22.) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 77.5kg (down from 79.3kg) ~16%bf (cutting) Lifts: Recent best: Sq 7 x 90kg BP 4 x 75kg DL 4 x 135kg OHP 5 x 47kg pull-up 2x BW+30kg (s ST Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg LT Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Cutting (low hanging fruit to improve my physique) Start (Late feb) ~17%BF at 78.5kg so ~14kg of fat ST goal (by end March) ~ 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 11:19 AM
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Did you fuck up the clay too much before you started sculpting? How's the balance of shit tests / sex / fun? You're still talking about divorce so I guess it hasn't moved to where you're satisfied
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/23 07:48 AM
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There of course is the possibility that I don't know what I'm missing, and that there is all sorts I'm missing out on by hamstering that I know what I want and I am getting it
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 08:15 PM
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What does more quality, quantity and variety mean exactly? It's still nebulous. You don't have to answer publicly but for me knowing that clearly made it easier to realise at some point I was getting what I wanted sexually. This may be more applicable to the OP as it sounds like you do know what you want and you have tried to get it
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 08:09 PM
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This OYS was a bit short on content as was in a rush. Slowly changing stats aret really the point of this place so I'll add a few reflections. noted a week of incredible sex and fun followed by a drier week as both myself and gf had a lot of work/ stress. Previous me wouldve thought 'what a harpy bitch' but I got to 'maybe this is a reflection of me' sure enough I started to own/overcome shit and she soon was back to being flirty feminine and sexy got some shit/ comfort tests about a female frie…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 11:40 AM
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'if you got what you wanted and wouldn't be satisfied' then you don't know what you want are we all just walking the same path? This was literally me and still is to some degree. Can't find my OYS but I said something like: Even if everything was on the table I still don't know if I would be happy Then over the next few months all these new dishes started appearing on the table, and they were delicious One week was a fucking smorgasbord. I ate my fill. Then realised sex isn't everything (except …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 11:11 AM
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I spent a while convinced recently that my GF couldn't/ wouldn't be what I wanted. Then I started actually trying the things I wanted and getting enthusiasm where I had hamsterred to myself that "she would never do that" I also realised I wasn't praising the sexual improvements I did see. This was a missing peice of the puzzle for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 10:55 AM
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You're 100 days past this now. I'm hungover on Reddit missing those details. Curious : how do you view with this 3 months hindsight?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 10:49 AM
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I had the "what if I am asexual / low libido" and even "what if I had a accident /became disfigured / got fat" quite early on Hold the line and I'm my experience these go away. It could even be a good sign (she sees you are have needs and want to get them met, she's testing to find out if you'll stuck around if she doesn't meet them) Don't get dragged in to the details. "A fun/ exciting/ whatever sex life is important to me, I hope we can share that, if not I will need to think about whether thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/23 10:47 AM
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OYS 27 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22.) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 77.5kg (down from 79.3kg) ~16%bf (cutting) Lifts: Recent lifts last week: Sq 7 x 90kg (+2rep) BP 4 x 75kg (+1rep) DL 4 x 135kg (+1rep) OHP 5 x 47kg (+2kg) pull-up 2x BW+30kg (s ST Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg LT Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Cutting (low hanging fruit to improve my physique) Start (Late feb) ~17%BF at 78.5kg …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 06:38 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I agree, not for long. Read it. I have definitely been a dancing monkey. Recently felt like I've moved away from that and toward living for me, but maybe that's ego bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/23 07:03 AM
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OYS 26 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22. 2 weeks since last OYS because reasons) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 77.5kg (down from 79.3kg) ~16%bf (cutting) Lifts: Last week: Sq 7 x 90kg (+2rep) BP 4 x 75kg (+1rep) DL 4 x 135kg (+1rep) OHP 5 x 47kg (+2kg) pull-up 2x BW+30kg (s ST Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg LT Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Cutting (low hanging fruit to improve my physique) Start (L…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 08:09 PM
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Dude, wtf. English is not my native language and I've probably didn't explain myself properly, but TWO people I invited didn't show up, ONE of them DEERed and the other one didn't even bother to explain why And if 4 people didn't showed up, or even 10, who the fuck cares? You seem to care much more than I do. And it shows. You do, based on your angry reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 07:49 AM
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I agree with Ragnar This might get you results but not the results you want. Youre in great shape and sounds like you've confirmed you have options. Why does she still feel so safe? I recently wet out for an hour for a post work drink with a female coworker and my girl is all tears and comfort tests followed by great sex. Or does she just think she has you trapped wit the kids...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 09:44 PM
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Met target; maintain plan; and monitor (MTMPM). Minor increases to protein (added 15g daily) Energy / Weight Loss Supps: Researched trial of RSP Quaddro Burn as energy replacement for hot beverage caffeine and eating in the morning before end of daily fasting. Will monitor for impact on frame and game (especially emotional stability, mindfulness, irritability, stress, and internal body temp) You sound fun. Chill out man.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 11:13 AM
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Stats: 30s, 5'11, 181lbs / 14.1% BF, wife, kids under 10. Working Out (Lifting, Cardio, Yoga): Currently recovering from surgery for next two weeks. Why are you having surgery in your 30s? ​ NAFLD: Currently diagnosed with Non-Fatty Alcohol Liver Disease. 14.1% BF You got it wrong. NAFLD = Non-alcoholic fatty liver disease. How did you get NAFLD with a BF of 14% ?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 10:40 AM
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You are trying to do everything at once. To me this just reads like a giant to do list. It's exhausting. What brought you here? It's not in OYS1 (oh because you have an OYS 0, that's weird) ... Nope - read that novel too and I still don't know. You write about lots of things you want to improve (caretaking, nice guy stuff etc) Fine. Why? Are you not fucking? Is your wife a bitch? Are you unhappy? Something drove you here - what? Let us assume its sex, because it probably is. Why wont she fuck yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 10:36 AM
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OYS 25 (lurking since March '22, OYS since August '22) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78.5kg (down 0.8kg) ~17%bf (cutting) Lifts: (little movement as took a de-load week last week) Recent best: Sq 9 x 85kg (+1rep), BP 5 x 74kg, DL 3 x 140kg, OHP 5 x 45kg (static), pull-up 1x BW+35kg ST Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg LT Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Cutting (low hanging fruit to improve my physique) Current ~17%BF…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 10:15 AM
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Guess I'm still hungry
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/23 07:36 AM
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When I am hungry - usually if I stop to think about it I can figure out which of the above is driving the hunger. At various times I've been hungry for all of the above reasons. Some of them are better reasons (if better = more in line with my goals/ values) Based on the above I would eat mostly to be strong and healthy, with a bit of eating for pleasure. ​ Say you’re hungry horny. How can you tell the difference between wanting to eat fuck because I feel like this is what you are really getting…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/23 11:32 PM
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> I may get to some endgame and decide its still not enough, and thats fine too The lie detector determined that this was a lie. After the initial ego driven response to want to DEER this away - I'm trying to take your comment as a gift. How could this not be true? What bullshit am I hiding in this one sentence Fine? True, not fine. Fine in a nihilistic its all fine in the end way, but not fine in an I'll be equally happy and have no regrets regardless way. I might wonder (a) could I have spent …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/23 07:31 AM
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As I moved my OYS up a week and I'm not here to avoid useful feedback u/Blarg_Risen gave the following > I may get to some endgame and decide its still not enough, and thats fine too The lie detector determined that this was a lie. > can leave, fuck randoms from tinder, do whatever the fuck I want, and probably eventually look for another relationship (because I probably want family in the future). Or I can stay and keep leading to better places, which on the current trajectory looks pretty good…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/23 10:25 PM
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OYS 24b (same as 2 days ago as was late for last week, post ban expiring. Not much changed in 2 days) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: Recent best: Sq 8x 85kg, BP 5 x 74kg, DL 3 x 140kg, OHP 1 x50kg, pull-up 1x BW+35kg Short term Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg (thanks u/_RPeed for pointing out how basic these are) Long term Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/23 10:23 PM
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OYS 24 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: Recent best: Sq 8x 85kg, BP 5 x 74kg, DL 3 x 140kg, OHP 1 x50kg, pull-up 1x BW+35kg Short term Goals : Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg (thanks u/_RPeed for pointing out how basic these are) Long term Goals: Sq 140kg, B 120kg, DL 180kg, Pr 80kg, pull-up BW+50kg Read: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: Banned last 2 weeks for ego / DEERing. Good to have time away/perspective. This place doesn't m…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/23 02:47 PM
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Your question doesn't make sense
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 09:09 PM
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Great for him, but (despite his late start) he's an outlier. Not many people are benching 2x bodyweight within 6 months of starting. And I have no interest in 2x BW bench. I'm going for the following (from leangains - fuckarounditis: Within two years of consistent training on a decent routine, the average male should be able to progress to the following levels of strength (1RM): Strength Goals: Intermediate Bench press: body weight x 1.2 Chin-ups or pull-ups: body weight x 1.2 or 8 reps with bod…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 07:41 PM
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Just seen this. Useful take thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 02:32 PM
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How so? Not everything needs to be tracked. Woods and trees. What difference does 10-15 minutes make. Are you going to increase it to 20min? Do you think your kids will be grown up and be like "Whoah thanks dad glad we got that minimum 20 minutes, fucking would have felt really disconnected if we had been stuck at 15." Of course not. Find fun things you enjoy doing and take the kids along. I don't have kids but the way I see it - its literally a free pass to go do fun childish shit. If I was to …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 05:16 PM
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I'm getting shit tested more around sex lately. "How horny are you?" I would say something like, "Really horny, you?" and she would respond with variations of, "Not really, I'm tired/stressed/too full/hungry." I got this for a while. Looking at yours it reads like a power play. Her: do you need/want sex more than I do You: yes, please validate me and say I am hot Her: excuse I am not as attracted to you as you are to me You need to own your horniness, your current response comes across that you …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 10:34 AM
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I'm curious - because I am also waiting for a partner to step up, but unlike you I'm not married have no kids. Do you have an objective set of criteria to define your miraculous turnaround? Or will you go on gut feeling? Seems my GF is miraculously pretty good at draining my balls when me leaving is on the table - but its not the long term solution I am looking for. Still its hard to leave when you've just been sucked dry.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 10:23 AM
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29%bf navy, 184lb How tall (short) are you? With your lifts seems odd your BF is so high. Heres a summary of your OYS Frame: I think about my wife a lot Self esteem: I cant fix my relationship wife Fear: I fear conflict Kids: I am not present with them OK so heres what worked for me. Find a thing you used to enjoy for you or you would like to do for you. Maybe a hobby. You do have those right>? Now do your hobby If your wife gives you shit. Work on your frame. Once you do the hobby and overcome …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 10:11 AM
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OYS 23 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: Best sets: Sq 77kg x 12, BP 61kg 5x5, DL 115kg x 15, OHP 40kg x10 1rm Goals: Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: Recently thinking a lot about breaking up with LTR of 4.5 years. OYS 21 was an attempt at an honest self reflection of progress in 8 months of MRP / 4 months of OYS. OYS 22 last week I hadn't got much further in deciding whether I want to stay …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 10:06 AM
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OYS 22 Last OYS 2 weeks ago as a kind of new years check in Summary - Still in a limbo of my own making where I haven't got the balls to either break up with my LTR and start afresh, or decide to stay and set clear goals and drive toward them. End result is a lot of dread and an increasingly anxious and depressed LTR. She knows I am thinking of leaving but I am not really giving her a vision of what we could be like and leading her there. ​ I could hamster on about lifts / stuff I have done etc …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 01:25 PM
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Maybe I am being retarded but help a brother out here... ​ By every objective measurement, your behaviour is not serving you. And the reason is you have underlying beliefs in fairness, morality etc that cockblock you. True You have captain/leadership syndrome. Not clear what you mean by this - I want to 'fix' her into the woman I want her to be? ​ Your girl has small dog syndrome Not clear what you mean by this ​ focused on all the wrong sort of details Such as? ​ You fucked around and it wasn’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 12:00 PM
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Doctor
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/23 07:39 AM
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Shouldn't just adjust our behaviour? Not clear what you mean here
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/23 09:31 PM
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Damn. I got the point prior to the edit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/23 07:02 PM
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You think? I'm not so sure. I think I would have got the validation of more enthusiastic sex too easily and not then slipped back to old ways / struggled when the inevitable shit tests start again. Why do you think new girl would take me lightyears ahead. I think the sex/relationship would be ahead of where I am, but my inner game/frame - not so sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/23 05:45 PM
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Exactly this. I was unattractive. Her behaviour reflected that. She told me because I asked. I am now less unattractive. Her behaviour reflects that. Sex now has surpassed where it was in the first months of dating. It is still a long way off what I want / sex I have experienced with other women. I plan to continue improving myself. Based on previous changes, it seems likely her behaviour will also improve. Will it improve enough that I am satisfied? I have doubts that I can improve enough to ov…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/23 09:58 AM
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Man, pretty much everyone here has a woman who told them they didn't find him attractive anymore. Most say it with actions, mine just confirmed it with words when I got so desperate about not fucking that I asked 'why don't we fuck'. Either way - most end up here because they are not fucking, and the reason is usually because the woman doesn't find the guy attractive. Now a more nuanced point - which is what I am trying to figure out - is: having been at such a low point of unattractiveness, is …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/23 09:42 AM
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OYS 21 Going to use this New Years OYS post to take stock of where I started - where I have got to - and where I am headed. April '22 - Discovered this sub after getting told "I love you but I don't find you attractive anymore". Started lifting. Starting STFU. No frame. Butthurt at any rejection. No internal self confidence. August '22 - Started posting OYS1. Starting to see a few things work but wondering why I wasn't getting the results I wanted. (Dancing monkey). December '22 - Still working …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 01:13 PM
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so I guess I passed. This is not the lesson to learn here. u/ragnar_Daneskjold has offered some great feedback that you need to distinguish shit/ comfort tests better and praise when she moves towards the behaviour you want (not punch her in the face back to square one) That said she does sound kinda annoying...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 10:14 AM
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This time... "I can't make you get out of bed......." After a few minutes, she emerged from the bedroom and we had a normal Sunday with no signs of a hangover other than her mentioning a headache. That evening, she initiated sex. It was good but ... nothing out of the ordinary. She said, "obviously not," Well done. Disconnect the sex you want from the shit someone needs to do anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 09:56 AM
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- Don’t complain ever. - Be grateful. - I wish I appreciated me doing XYZ. - I walk This resonated. Simple. But good shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 09:51 AM
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OYS 20 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: This week: Sq 1@100kg, BP 1@80kg, 1@140kg, Press 1@50kg, Pull-up 1@BW+30kg Goals (June 2023): Sq 120kg, B 90kg, DL 160kg, Pr 55kg, pull-up BW+35kg LT Goals (Dec 2023): Sq 140kg, B 100kg, DL 180kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: I have made some beginner gains with some basics of lifting, STFU and culling some of my worst unattractive behaviours. I am trying to figure out what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 07:35 AM
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Physical: at your lifts literally anything will work. Find something simple and consistent that you enjoy. Check out 5x5 or SS or 531 for beginners. It literally doesn't matter. As long as you track and the weights go up
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 08:54 AM
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As someone who is working a lot of purpose, mission & goals, I gotta say: yours sucks. To find and continue happiness? What is happiness to you? Fine, being down or depressed sucks and the opposite sounds great but what does that look like? Imagine if you will a holiday resort with endless incredible food, drinks, beautiful horny women everywhere. 24 hours isn't enough, a week sounds nice, a month sounds boring, a year sounds torturous. Why? No challenge, no obstacles to overcome. Happiness for …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 08:50 AM
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You're 31. It's through not 'thru'. Standards matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 08:42 AM
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You need to break this down into smaller goals: lose 2lbs a week (gets you your 100lbs a year) Also: don't try to go straight to rice brocolli steak. Work out the worst offenders. Cut liquid calories, alcohol, sweets, processed carbs. Work from the smallest changes up. Finally: I'd focus on just this one area. Not 5. Just losing weight. The rest will follow. You will literally be a different person when you weigh half what you did
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/22 08:39 AM
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OYS 19 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: This week: Sq 5x5x@72kg (+2kg), BP 5x5@63kg (+3kg), DL 3x5@120kg (+2kg), Press 5@44kg (+1kg) e1RM: Sq 100kg, B 84kg, DL 158kg, Pr 53kg (static, building volume / base) Goals: Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: I have made some beginner gains with some basics of lifting, STFU and culling some of my worst unattractive behaviours. I am trying to figure out …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/22 09:05 AM
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So overall pretty solid and I'm pretty happy But I was checking texts on my wife's phone I just can't ignore that shit 1 time a week But I won't give a fuck How's that ego protection going?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 05:57 AM
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OYS 18 (last OYS was late in the week, only 3 days since) Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: This week: Sq 5x5x@70kg, B 5x5@60kg, DL 3x5@118kg, Press 10x5@34kg, e1RM: Sq 100kg, B 84kg, DL 158kg, Pr 53kg Goals: Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: I have made some beginner gains with some basics of lifting, STFU and culling some of my worst unattractive behaviours. I am trying to figure out what I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 09:24 AM
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Plan for next week: Keep reading the sidebar and working on my 5x5 routine. STFU/DGAF Not sure what the point of all that spiritual crap was. DGAF isn't a practice - its an outcome. You need to lift
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/22 11:05 AM
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I didn't rage at her, this was internal. They always know. ​ my time is taken for granted. The quality is low. How long have you been with your wife? Do you like her? Why stay? ​ I'm usually sitting there with someone who just wants to be on their phone I had this a while go. The realisation for me was wow - the emotional experience of being in my presence is so boring that scrolling the internet offers her more excitement. Is she on her phone because she is boring, or because you are boring?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/22 11:00 AM
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​ although the unfortunate accident meant the socialising was cut short Without a bit more detail its hard for anyone to give you feedback here. What was the accident? How did you react? Why? Wouldn't be a great outcome if I was shit tested by a woman whilst in that mood. How do you react when a woman shit tests you? anger? violence? why?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/22 10:54 AM
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OYS 17 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Lifts: Recent Best: Sq 5x90kg, B 5x70kg, DL 5x130kg, Pr 5x42kg, pull-ups 1xBW+28kg This week: Sq 5x5x@70kg, B 5x5@60kg, DL 3x5@118kg, Press 10x5@34kg, Goals: Sq 120kg, B 100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg) Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM, MAP Summary: I have made some beginner gains with some basics of lifting, STFU and culling some of my worst unattractive behaviours. I am trying to figure out what I want, my mission…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/22 10:44 AM
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Thanks - useful. ​ You have a mission right? Yes, but as pointed out by u/FutileFighter it is not clearly defined and i don't believe in it enough. If I did maybe I could better ignore unhelpful feelings and get on with doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/22 07:26 AM
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Mrjames_givestoomanyfucks tries to do too many things for others because he doesn’t know what he wants. Correct. I have read NMMNG - I am a case study. I have trouble nailing down exactly what I want. I've had most satisfaction in life a couple of times when I have narrowed my focus to one or two things. I can do that now, but it feels a bit artificial. I could focus on lots of different things. The thing is I value and enjoy many things. I have a lot of hobbies, but pursue none of them with muc…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/22 07:24 AM
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OYS 16 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Best Lifts: Sq 5x90kg, B 5x70kg, DL 5x130kg, Pr 5x42kg, pull-ups 1xBW+28kg (Goals Sq 120kg, B100kg, DL 160kg, Pr 60kg, pull-up BW+40kg) Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, TWOTSM Week's summary: I have identified my biggest issues being 1) trying to do too much 2) not knowing what I want and 3) doing things for others. This week didn't feel much like progress as I reacted strongly to the moods of others. Mission: (in progress) I want t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 07:03 AM
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Not sure. Trying to be honest with myself it's hard to know exactly what is external / internal at times. I realised recently the happiest periods I've had have been a couple of periods I've been alone (lockdown and another summer) That said: climbing is an old hobby I've done for 15 years, I love it. Sometimes I wonder but whenever I do it I'm reminded how much I love it. It's a funny hobby because indoor people often climb for an audience and external validation , but I don't think that's goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/22 03:17 PM
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OYS 15 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Week's summary: 2 weeks ago I posted about feeling burnt out and run down. u/sea-tease commented that my OYS made him tired, and that I should think about how to simplify my life. This tied in well with feeling that I am tired because I was trying to do everything and I didn't know what I wanted. I am aiming to simplify things to a couple of goals and focus on them. Mission: (in progress) I want to experience all the world h…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 07:52 AM
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OYS 14 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Week's summary: Last week I posted about feeling burnt out and run down, lacking motivation for life. This week was much improved. I decided to do something, put a decent effort into it, and was happy with the result. This week I have done the following positive things: Spent last weekend working on a DIY project, built a custom boot rack / coat rack for my hall cupboard and painted it. Was hard to get started as I was feeli…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/22 07:10 AM
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OYS 13Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Week's summary: I have been struggling with motivation / burn out with work and life. I'm fighting hard not to fall into feeling depressed. I have been failing to do what needs to be done. Last week I wrote about losing my cool with a house project. I then had Thursday and Friday at work before a plan to go away camping Friday night and hiking Saturday. I got to Friday completely exhausted from work, and feeling angry that I …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/22 09:34 AM
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OYS 12 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf (slowly cutting) Week's summary: Decent week with some steps forward some steps back. This week I have done the following: Worked all but 1 day, so not much time for social / hobbies etc. Realised often at work I get decision fatigue, and want to stop being responsible (basically stop being an adult) - I spent time realising this and leaning into any opportunities to take responsibility and own problems and sort them Joined …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 07:45 PM
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Well fuck, I guess I asked for that God didn't ask you to confess. You confessed because you felt like a worthless piece of shit and you wanted your wife to tell you you are not unlovable Read NMMNG, See if you can see how it applies to your sex addiction and confession
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 10:20 PM
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I like to Read this when I get tempted to make things too complicated.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 10:00 PM
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Yep, that about sums it up. Seeing as this is an anonymous forum of internet strangers you will never meet... You might get better calibrated advice if you don't speak in riddles. Did you cheat? Were you caught? Porn addiction? No one gives a fuck, you may as well be honest and get the right advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:40 PM
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No lifting yet, because I’d allowed gym membership to lapse This is a shit excuse Pullups, pushups, squats, situps, running, walking, cycling. Do something. Write what you did in your OYS. Do more next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:35 PM
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Progressing on deadlift and squat. Had a supporting session with sumo deadlift up to 8 reps instead of 5, and really enjoyed how the effort switched from using the sprint energy system to feeling a lot of aerobic challenge. Good reminder for myself that I want to add kettlebells to the strength program, separate from the bike HIIT sessions, to get power over time. Once I hit 130 on deadlift, will add the kettlebells. I think you are overthinking things. Do deadlifts. Do deadlift variations. Do s…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:30 PM
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I have also been struggling with being overwhelmed with the amount of content STFU + LIFT + Sidebar (Start with NMMNG + WISNIFG)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:21 PM
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OYS 11 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf (slowly cutting) Week's summary: Week here is 2-3 days since posting last weeks OYS late. Last week I posted a shit OYS whining about how I was butt-hurt because I am still not getting the respect or the sex I want. I knew I was puking when I posted. I am not proud, but it was an honest reflection of where my head was at and I got some good feedback. My plan 3 days ago was ​ Plan: 2 days holiday left. Focus on having fun wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 12:33 PM
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u/Alpha_Chupacabra9 - any more on how you use 1,2,3 Magic system with adults in your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 09:50 PM
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Thanks - not sure how I missed this. My passive aggressive comment back being clearly attack as a form of defence.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 09:43 PM
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Thanks for the links. Will read.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 08:56 PM
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Fair...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 08:53 PM
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During my (cringe) overt communication with my LTR, I was asked if I minded getting shit from a couple of female colleagues (one of whom is clearly flirting, the other I think just likes fucking with people for play). I realised with both I find the shit tests kind-of fun. With one its just so obviously flirtatious and with the other I've realised once I stop responding to them in a needy / weak way they disappear. I need to learn to enjoy the process with my LTR, and start seeing shit tests as …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 08:52 PM
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Possibly, but I think in either case I behaved like a little bitch. In hindsight I think it was a clear shit test. I passed the first "the pan is too small" / " haha yeah you are right" but then it was said again in front of the group to see how I react. Am I butt-hurt? (Yes). Do I DEER (thankfully no, but instead I make a sarky passive aggresive comment which clearly showed I care) Or I could have laughed it off "you should have seen how small the first pan was!" Finally - at some point during …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 08:49 PM
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This is a shit OYS. I haven't done much except be bytthurt and talk and not enjoy a holiday. Plan: - 2 days holiday left. Focus on having fun with friends and not worrying about how shit my relationship is. - stay plan is go plan. Not yet ready to nuke things because I'm still prettyshit. Maybe could get more for less in a short fling but next relationship would likely go the same way - take my anger out running, kettle bells and pull-ups - home and into monk.mode next week. Basically accept I h…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 10:13 AM
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OYS 10 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf (slowly cutting) Week's summary: I got butthurt and angry end of last week following a few rejections and realising despite 6 months s work I really haven't got that far. This week on holiday with friends and LTR and I struggled to stay positive with all my anger from last week and ruminating about nuking LTR and starting again. This week realisin even more than last I am still far from where I want to be in terms of mental …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 09:50 AM
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A. Maybe I am missing something: I thought not being bothered by women's emotional rollercoaster and 'being the oak' was the way. Certainly the inverse (having her mood dictate my mood) is living in her frame, weak and unattractive. B. I'm not suggesting I do it because she told me to. I just think its interesting that here what she is saying (my interpretation) "I don't want you to be be so reactive and care about my moods so much, I want you to be solid and just do you even when I am being a g…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/22 06:58 AM
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Fuck I love this place. Good feedback. I was slowly figuring this out but it's very clear when put like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/22 06:51 AM
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Thanks: useful
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 07:24 PM
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OK- what's the lesson?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 07:21 PM
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I'm also pretty new here so take from this what you will... In OYS 1 2 weeks ago you state: ...my wife became the target, which took two forms. Verbal abuse during explosive arguments. A complete lack of any comfort from me. And We have sex about every night... ...it's not really the kind of sex I want. And now 2 weeks later you are getting this: Her: If this is how you're going to be, I don't want this new version of our relationship! What is she referring to here? What changes have you made so…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 11:52 AM
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OYS 9 Stats: 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf (slowly cutting) Week's summary: Managed to turn around feeling depressed and irritable from last week. This wasn't without damage, I was a whiney bitch before hand. I also moved backwards on some areas I had previously made progress. I have realised I have been feeling good about progress in lifts and cutting, but I am still far from where I want to be in terms of mental point of origin, managing my energy and projecting tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 10:25 AM
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OYS 8 (back on schedule after missing last week)35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Main issue this week: extreme fatigue / irritability probably preceding getting sickBest Lifts: Sq 6x85kg (prev 4x87kg), Bench 8x66kg (prev 5x71kg), DL 10x120kg (prev 6x127kg), OHP 6x43kg (prev 8x40kg.) Continued small 1-2kg gains in E1RM each week.This week: Gym relatively consistent despite work. cutting calories and tracking weight. lowest weight 77.9 trending down. Lift: Still running 53…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 11:31 AM
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OYS 7 (late as working 13/14 days - posted as events up until Wed 21st) 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78.2kg ~17%bf Best Lifts: Sq 4x87kg, Bench 5x71kg (prev 5x67kg), DL 6x127kg (prev 8x122kg), OHP 8x40kg (prev 3x44kg.) Small gains but steady progress This week: Gym relatively consistent despite work. cutting calories and tracking weight. lowest weight 78.1 trending down. Lift: Still running 531 beginners 3 days a week. Knee niggle gone away that was there the week before. Diet: …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 11:13 AM
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OYS 6 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78.2kg ~17%bf Sq 4x87kg (prev 7x82kg), Bench 5x67kg (prev 5x64kg), DL 8x122kg (prev 10x114kg), OHP 3x44kg (prev 7x41kg.) Small gains but steady progress This week: Managed to get to gym despite very long days at work. Started consciously cutting calories and tracking weight. High of 78.8 lowest 78.2 trending down. Lift: Still running 531 beginners 3 days a week. Had a slight knee niggle at gym but still got PB sets. Only got 4 reps on 1+ squats…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 05:27 PM
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Thanks. Further issue / feedback request: (at the risk of rule 9) Spent the last few days getting the cold shoulder / bitchiness from LTR. I mostly manage to ignore and do what I need to do / would do regardless. It's shark week I figure Last night I get some unasked for explanation: apparently I've changed and it's unsettling for her. I've been changing my diet to eat more meat (she's Vege for environmental reasons). I've been talking about getting involved in Union/pay issues at work (an issue…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/22 03:34 PM
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OYS 5 (only 2 days behind OYS 4 to sync with OYS schedule and hopefully get more useful feedback rather than being the last to post at the end of the week) 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78.2kg ~17%bf Sq 7x82kg, Bench 5x64kg, DL 10x114kg, OHP 7x41kg. This week: Focused on making progress with things around the house. Repainting. Sorting bills and finances. Gym and good nutrition. STFU: No pukes or blatantly unattractive behaviours. Work to do on the subtle comments / stories / fee…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 08:08 AM
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OYS 4 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Sq 7x82kg, Bench 5x64kg, DL 10x114kg, OHP 7x41kg. This week: Moved house. First home ownership. Managed to lead the whole thing pretty well apart from losing my composure a bit on finding some rotten floorboards. The house doesn't need a lot doing but still plenty of opportunities to work on doing what needs to be done. STFU:A good week. No victim pukes or overt whining/ needy behaviour. Still telling occasional stories / sharing su…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 08:09 AM
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Reading this back and the answer is obvious. If I want to better at running - slowly start running more If I want to do big days - do them and don't whine about it If I don't want to - don't ​ (Leaving this up as a proof to myself of the value of OYS for seeing through your own bullshit)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/22 08:54 AM
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A further question to the masses regarding balancing lifting and other athletic pursuits: I have no doubt as to the value of lifting and have no intention of stopping. However - I have recently moved to a mountain town where a lot of the social activities are hiking, cycling... basically endurance sports. I am in decent shape but not where I was nor enough to keep up with some of the groups. Additionally my LTR is keen for big 10+ hours hiking days. I find I can recover from 6-8 hour days ok but…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/22 08:51 AM
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OYS 3 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf This week. Had a week of nightshifts at work. Good opportunity to test keeping my shit together, not complaining etc despite sleep deprivation and a decent amount of work stress. STFU: Some improvement. No victim pukes or other blatantly unattractive behaviour here. Still struggling not to talk about small successes. Usually it is in response to hearing my LTR mention something that went well at work (seeking validation) and then I …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/22 08:36 AM
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Why? I think because I knew it wasn't real and wouldn't last. I think I instinctively know when I am living from my own MPO. And in this case I wasn't. I had a victim puke, stated some demands and got some duty response, which predictably lasted about a week. ​ weak and ineffective m.o + inconsistent and unsatisfying. I think this post sums it up well, along with the 'sex matters, until it doesn't' post which I cant find. Basically coming to realise that enthusiastic, quality + quantity is a res…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/22 07:48 AM
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Did you read NMMNG in one week? No. I've read it before but went back to find sections / BFA relevant to where I am currently stuck. The following resonated. Breaking Free: Activity #5 If you did not care what people thought of you, how would you live your life differently? I would engage more with old hobbies, I would socialise more with new people, I would run a tighter ship in terms of diet and exercise regime. Breaking Free: Activity #8 Go back to the list of approval-seeking behaviors at th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/22 07:33 AM
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OYS 2 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf u/sea-tease called me out on my first OYS last week> This is your first entry. Read back over it and see if you can pick up all of the covert contracts of your 'work.' She is irrelevant right now, this is about you. He was right. Replied in last weeks thread confirming that and some further thoughts. This week. Read: more NMMNG and will report back on 2 things next week I do for me. We have moved to a new city and work in the same p…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/22 07:47 AM
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You are not doing any of this for you. If she doesn't respond how you think she should, you'll quit the work. If she starts fucking you with reckless abandon, you'll quit the work. This is your first entry. Read back over it and see if you can pick up all of the covert contracts of your 'work.' She is irrelevant right now, this is about you. Ego wanted to argue and claim otherwise but reality showed you are right on the money. Just prior to reading last week his I had an interaction which confir…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/22 07:28 AM
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Useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/22 01:20 PM
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OYS 1 35, LTR (27) together 4 years, no kids. 183cm 78kg ~17%bf Background: Lurking since around March 22. Got something like the ILYBINILWY or more about "Love you but I am not attracted to you" after totally letting myself go and adopting a shitty victim attitude to the problems in my life. Found this place via probably some "why does my girl not want to fuck" google search and deadbedrooms. Thought you guys are a bunch of assholes. Tried to start reading, lifting and STFUing. Had some results…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/22 06:30 AM
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