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I think you’re white-washing OP’s essay into a much more reasonable position than the one he actually argued. If OP’s point were simply “history was complicated, men suffered too, and feminist narratives are frequently myopic and revisionist,” I’d absolutely agree with that and I wouldn't have offered any criticism. But that is not where he stops. He repeatedly minimizes or rationalizes actual sex-based restrictions on women, uses esoteric cherry-picked exceptions in order attack his own straw-m…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/08/26 12:03 AM
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As for IPV, you’re responding to a claim I didn’t make. I didn’t say anything about the state of DV/IPV in 2026. I specifically referred to denial that domestic violence has ever disproportionately affected women (which historically it absolutely has), in the middle of a paragraph discussing sweeping historical claims. Turning that into “IPV is absolutely not a gendered issue” and suggesting I simply haven’t read the literature is a straw man—and, frankly, the little aside about being “optimisti…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/26 11:33 PM
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You don’t, and I largely agree (I would hesitate to say that every feminist account of history is misleading or exaggerated, but many certainly are so… yeah.)… but can’t you see how several of OP’s arguments are guilty of some of those same issues you list?? Look, my personal perspective is that all the Gender War tribalism and finger pointing on both sides serves no constructive purpose for either sex… and beyond that, we - as “Left Wing Male Advocates” - specifically exist in this small insula…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/26 10:29 PM
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I realize that’s a bit vague, but I was trying to avoid too much point-by-point critique of the post given how overwhelmingly long it is. Really I’m just trying to acknowledge that women have absolutely experienced discrimination and a deprivation of rights at various points in modern society and we don’t need to be obtuse to that in order to be critical of (or outright reject) feminism… and in fact, arguments against feminism are more powerful when you acknowledge those issues that negatively a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/26 07:56 PM
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I was referring specifically to the speed of the downvote and irony of the OP posting 6,200 words and then not bothering to even read a 250 word reply before downvoting. The comment is not ad-hominem nor is it an attack. Spare me the melodrama. 🙄 —- EDIT - my comment is not a straw man argument either (since you edited it and added that after the fact) - if you want to see an example of a straw man argument look no further that OP’s “#2” - feminism doesn’t deny that history has diversity or clai…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/26 07:46 PM
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I admittedly didn’t read all of this, but I’m seeing several places where you’re equivocating, cherry picking, and falling into a binary “all or nothing” mindset. Ironically, many modern feminists use precisely these tactics when justifying or excusing their refusal to acknowledge ways that gender issues impact men. That’s not to say that you don’t offer a few good points sprinkled in there, but I think you need to dial back your premise and stop trying to justify a sweeping generalization that …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/08/26 04:06 PM
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Yeah but it’s been decades since the gender disparity in the workplace could even come close to explaining a gap that large. It’s seventeen to one. Also important to consider is that the gap grows steadily with each age group. If the 17x gap at retirement is due to retirement itself, then you’d expect that it would jump around that stage of life, but it doesn’t, pre-retirement age men are something like ten times more likely to die for suicide. So the pattern, whatever its causes are, is somethi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/08/26 01:47 AM
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I’ve yet to come across a study that examines that group specifically, but my theory (with nothing empirical to base it on) is that it has to do with family dynamics. When we cite things like divorce rate, we’re considering the entire lifespan of the marriage (which could last decades). Each age group through adulthood is approaching that 40-50% margin divorce rate over time. Also when put that in the context of custody outcomes and norms in split households, while there has been (over the last …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/08/26 07:38 PM
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That suicide disparity is only if you don’t segment by age. It continually grows wider throughout adulthood. Retirement age men are actually seventeen times more likely to die from suicide than retirement age women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/08/26 05:25 PM
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Women have a fundamental right to bodily autonomy. No man or politician has the right to force a woman to carry a pregnancy. That said? I also believe that men should have the right to choose too, just not in what a woman does or doesn’t do with the pregnancy. The whole concept of forcing paternity on an unwilling father for the purposes of paying child support is regressive and patriarchal. In 1900, a missing father necessarily meant a destitute mother and children with little to no means of su…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/08/26 11:17 AM
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Well-said. And I think that story in particular also illustrates one of the ways in which that kind of promiscuous behavior is particularly dangerous for men too. What if the condom did just slip off accidentally??? Now a totally accidental safe sex mishap gets weaponized to the point one party is branded a rapist and the other is walking around calling herself a “rape survivor”. One of the relevant talking points in many feminist spaces is “false accusations of rape are extremely rare”… and whe…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/08/26 07:25 AM
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There are a lot of histrionics and exaggerations on social media in general, not just with feminists or rape anecdotes. It’s incredibly easy to lie or exaggerate or twist a narrative on the internet to suit a particular aim or objective. At the same time, those feminist spaces online are not exactly representative of all women. You’re seeing a particularly insular tribal and often extremist subset of the general population and even of feminists. With that said, I have come across a few notable i…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/08/26 12:00 AM
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What charity??????? FFS 🤦‍♂️ go back and re-read my comment and then look at that meme. I wrote that pushing for equal paid parental leave for both genders makes a lot of sense and then I get “feminism wants to kill us and put us in concentration camps” as a response…. And people are upvoting that nonsense???! It’s a cherry-picked composition fallacy and it has literally NOTHING to do with my comment. Some of you guys are seriously just as bad as feminists elsewhere on Reddit with the tribal his…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/07/26 01:39 PM
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Right 🙄 because it’s ok to generalize all feminists with a meme, but if they were to do it, we’d take issue with it. Look, I’m highly critical of modern feminism and I absolutely do not consider myself a feminist whatsoever, but some of you guys in here are getting just as bad as them with the tribal mentality. Categorically making all feminists and all feminist allies our enemies is completely self-defeating and I’m sorry, go ahead and downvote me if it makes you feel better, but I strongly bel…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/07/26 09:58 PM
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This isn’t a valid argument one way or the other. This is a meme quoting 10 misandrists. So when feminists post a meme with 10 vile misogynistic quotes, does that invalidate our entire movement?? This kind of sophomoric gender war finger pointing is lame and unproductive. If you want to have a constructive respectful debate, I’m all about it, but I’m not going to engage further with memes or other tribal nonsense.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/07/26 03:23 PM
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Yes, Warren Farrell is great. I just think there is space for both types of voices and this subreddit has a propensity to get too obsessed with being antagonistic to feminism to the point where it becomes myopic and self-defeating.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/07/26 03:15 PM
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I think you’re collapsing two different claims: Feminism was never a genuinely comprehensive movement for both sexes’ equality. Feminism was always a movement for female supremacy. The first is highly defensible. The second is historically reductionist. Male-specific disadvantages existed throughout feminism’s history, and feminists generally ignored them unless they could be reframed as consequences of patriarchy or restrictive masculinity. On issues involving fathers, conscription, dangerous w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/07/26 02:41 PM
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> He seems to be obsessed with the idea that the main reason to help men, is because it will be good for the feminist movement long term I haven’t gotten that take from his book at all. Yes, I definitely agree with the gaps the author of that editorial points out, especially with regards to family law policy (I’ve lived it)…. But if you read Of Boys and Men, Reeves calls out several times the lack of empirical data and a disinterest in studying many of these issues (as well as a propensity to bu…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/07/26 09:05 PM
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Yes 🙌 as someone who has lived it, this is spot on and it’s so refreshing even just to see it being talked about openly in any publication at all. The fear of false allegations and retaliation that affects the children is very very real. I have a family member who is a retired social worker and even she advised me not to call the police several times because, she said, that it’s at best a 50/50 coin toss what the outcome will be. You get a fair-minded police officer to respond and the outcome ca…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/26 03:16 PM
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Yes, it’s a great read, I definitely recommend checking it out!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/26 05:27 AM
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Have you, by chance, read The Mind Club?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/26 04:53 AM
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Because they’ve completely dehumanized men. They will acknowledge specific male roles and archetypes, but they completely lack the ability to empathize with or even recognize men as equal human beings.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/26 04:50 AM
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I’m going to comment here what I commented on that thread: Gee. I wonder why men don’t seek mental health treatment or open up more… 🤔 Gestures wildly at this post and the entire thread Maybe it’s because we are judged harshly and blamed for literally everything including our own mental health issues?? Young men and boys are about four times more likely to die from suicide than younger women or girls, that’s the baseline. That discrepancy grows steadily with each age group until by retirement ag…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/26 12:52 AM
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I think there’s an interesting point buried in the post, but I’d push back on one assumption. OP asserts that mainstream progressives are seriously engaged in defining “positive masculinity,” just in a way they disagree with. I’m not convinced that’s even true (at least not in a meaningful impactful way). It seems to me that most mainstream progressive discourse barely engages with men as a class at all. Male issues usually enter the conversation only insofar as they affect someone else, or they…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/07/26 08:21 PM
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First of all, while some people here are, I am absolutely not a Men’s Rights Activist and I share very few MRA viewpoints. Secondly, you’re cherry-picking issues that fit your narrative—specifically, issues where you can ultimately blame men. What I’m hearing is that you’re happy to acknowledge male victims, provided they were victimized by men. That’s exactly the criticism many of us have of modern feminism. It’s become so mired in blame-centric gender-war rhetoric that it increasingly seems mo…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/07/26 03:58 AM
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Oh please 🙄. Spare us the histrionics. You talk about incels like you’re talking about ISIS… and then shift from that grossly exaggerated melodrama to “sticks and stones will break your bones but words can never hurt you”. The sum total of misogyny is not tantamount to “physical harm” and similarly the sum total of misandry isn’t either. If you have an actual argument, make it. Dressing up “incels are worse than femcels, so shut up about femcels” in melodramatic hyperbole doesn’t make it any les…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/07/26 09:49 PM
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I think people are missing the forest for the trees here. As progressives, we already have countless places on Reddit and elsewhere to discuss workers’ rights, healthcare, housing, wealth inequality, corporate power, and every other issue OP mentioned. What we don’t have are many spaces where progressive people can openly discuss men’s issues, misandry, or criticism of modern feminism without being shouted down. That’s why those topics dominate here. It doesn’t necessarily mean they dominate our…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/26 09:11 PM
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Beautifully stated and I enthusiastically agree! Especially this part: The right is typically not anti-male, but it does romanticizes and enforces men into traditional gender roles that can be destructive—such as emotional suppression, extreme stoicism, male disposability and expandability, and the expectation that men must always advocate for and protect others at their own expense.without addressing the human cost. Both sides fail men in different ways One wording tweak I might suggest is in c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/26 03:57 PM
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This reminds me of a time I ate dinner at a friend’s house when I was in middle or high school. His family was discussing the upcoming 1996 elections and somehow Colin Powell came up. My friend’s grandfather chimed in: “I’d gladly vote for Colin Powell. He ain’t no (n-word with a hard R) as far as I’m concerned.”
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/26 06:36 PM
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“He must have done something to deserve it” is the default response whenever a man is a victim of abuse by a woman.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/05/26 03:24 AM
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Same with parenting spaces in general. All the Facebook “Local Area Moms” groups, all the “Mommy and Me” events, the Mom-only playgroups… they render fathers nigh invisible. I’ve gotten into debates on social media several times where women were arguing that it’s inappropriate for fathers (even single fathers) to go to toddler-themed “Mommy and Me” events because there could be a breastfeeding mother there. I’ve found it very effective to use the word “patriarchal” in those contexts because not …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/26 03:13 AM
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Oh FFS 🤦‍♂️ I was citing from the civil rights era where it was common for public pools to post signs like that. The signs were deliberately including animals in the list to draw a parallel between allowing dogs and allowing blacks and Jews. Nobody is outraged over dog bans at public pools and my comment specifically mentioned protected classes of people.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/26 04:22 AM
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Huh? Are you seriously asking everyone reading this thread to explain why one random person supposedly said something about an all male gym? How the hell are we supposed to know why that person said that? I don’t think a public space should be allowed to exclude anyone based on a protected class: race, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, etc… I can’t speak for anyone else but I don’t see any difference between a gym that says “no men allowed” and a pool that says “no coloreds, Jews, or dogs a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/04/26 02:17 AM
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I was deliberately vague with that phrase because I didn’t want to virtue signal or derail the point by rattling off a checklist of “liberal male feminist” credentials. That said, waving vaguely at “toxic masculinity” without any specificity can be its own problem. My point wasn’t to seek credit, but to make clear that my beliefs about progressive gender roles and gender equity weren’t—and aren’t—hollow or disingenuous. I’m not perfect by any metric. The larger point is that modern feminism leav…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/01/26 10:19 AM
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Thank you for posting this — it really matters to have reasonable, fair-minded women speaking up. I used to proudly call myself a feminist — not a “feminist ally,” but a feminist — because I genuinely believed (and still do) that gender equality and dismantling rigid patriarchal norms benefits everyone, including men. That wasn’t just rhetoric for me. I lived it: I was a stay-at-home dad when my kids were young, I took my wife’s last name, and I openly challenged toxic masculinity wherever I enc…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/01/26 04:24 AM
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I appreciate the thoughtful way you’re engaging with this. And I want to be clear up front: I don’t deny that there are real bad actors on dating apps, or that some posts in those groups are motivated by genuine safety concerns. Where I strongly disagree is with the mechanism these groups use—and what they’ve become in practice. I’m not an incel or a misogynist and I don’t place all the blame on women for these groups… I see “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” as a symptom of a much larger problem: mo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 03:30 PM
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There aren’t. Men started to make retaliatory “Are We Dating The Same Girl?” Groups but Facebook shut them down pretty quickly. The are a few things you are failing to understand about these groups: they are absolutely massive AND local. In many larger metropolitan areas as much as 5% of the local population of adult women are members of one of these groups. The reputational damage isn’t just isolated to dating apps. There are many women in these groups who aren’t dating at all but just lurking …
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 04:06 AM
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If I were to list out the entirety of my leftist and feminist “credentials” I’d absolutely dox myself, so suffice it to say I was far more of a “militant feminist” than the vast majority of men, even left leaning men. I will also say that I absolutely lived according to my strong beliefs in progressive gender roles. I was a stay at home dad for both my older two children. Once their mom returned to work after her maternity leave I was the one who was home with them feeding them, changing them, c…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/11/25 12:16 AM
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Wowww. That sounds insanely chaotic and traumatic. So sorry you had to grow up in a home like that. Thanks for sharing. I’ve definitely had a few moments and heard a few anecdotes that confirm for me that despite all the hardships and year-and-change of chaos, I made the right decision in that my kids get to grow up in a peaceful nurturing home.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/08/25 11:04 PM
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This was all fairly recent.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/08/25 02:09 PM
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I have. She was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I once had a nurse tell me: “Honey, you must have done something” while checking my stitches. I had been honest that I had a can opener thrown at me, the nurse told me that I might not be free to go because the police were still there, and when I said, “oh, no, I was the one that got hit.” That was her response. I also got laughed at in family court during a conference hearing when my attorney mentioned the DV. My ex’s attorney laugh…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/08/25 09:24 PM
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There was definitely a man’s app and it definitely was removed from the App Store. Beyond that I’m not sure what proof you’re expecting. Could Apple and Google just have removed it under false pretenses? I don’t know, I guess that’s possible, but I’m not sure what your point is. Using social media to doxx, bully, and slander people is wrong no matter which gender is doing it but society absolutely has a double standard when it comes to actions like this. When men do it, it’s scary and violent an…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/07/25 01:32 AM
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Proof of what? Edit: FFS it was a genuine question.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/07/25 01:12 AM
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This already happened and that’s basically what happened although it’s possible (probable?) that antagonistic trolls sabotaged it on purpose by uploading illegal content and then reporting it. Or maybe it was just brigaded by creeps, who knows.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/07/25 11:25 PM
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Wow, great post 👍🏻… I don’t have time to give this comment the attention and consideration I’d like to but I’ve absolutely read academic/social science studies and papers concerning DV and IPV that explicitly state right in the abstract that the authors acknowledge that they are ignoring male victims but rationalize it with some hand-waving about it being “rare”… these papers often cite other papers and studies which make the same dismissive justification for ignoring men. This happens with stud…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/25 04:48 PM
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Yes, Gloria Steinem is a controversial figure and I also have criticisms of her, most notably is that this parenting/domestic blind spot in modern feminist thought goes back to her own blind spot towards those issues. That said her movement was extremely effective and that’s worth noting. When I am presenting a counter argument to someone, especially if the issue is an emotionally sensitive issue like feminism often is… I find it helpful to establish some common ground and ways in which I agree …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/07/25 02:02 PM
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You state "Men are not less privileged than women"... You seem to be thinking about "privilege" as this single aggregated all-encompassing metric when it isn't. This thinking is exactly what I was referring to in my comment reply when I said that you are stuck in this black-or-white mindset where everything is ALL one way or ALL the other. There are absolutely ways in which men have more privilege than women and you seem hyper-focused on those issues... but seem completely obtuse and dismissive …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/07/25 08:42 PM
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You're still really stuck in this black-or-white blame-centric mindset... You're framing "feminism" with this monolithic tribal mindset that demands: "You're with us or against us"... and that's absolutely not how the majority of us in this sub view things. I gave a lot of thought to my comment in your previous post and I really hope you give it serious consideration, especially the recommendation that you read "Of Boys and Men". After I wrote that comment I checked your comment history and some…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/25 04:48 AM
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The app is even worse than the Facebook groups. It's becoming more common for women to post pictures of sleeping men to the app and ask for gossip. These aren't men using dating apps, or screenshots of dating app profiles... they're highly intimate non-consensual photos posted to a large-scale information sharing app which is - in and of itself - a social media platform. These groups and apps are straight out of an episode of Black Mirror. It's appalling.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/25 04:10 AM
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The first thing I think you need to challenge in your mindset is the issue of "blame"... Acknowledging ways in which men and boys are struggling, face gender bias, and/or ways in which women in 2025 enjoy privilege based on gender is absolutely NOT "blaming women" anymore than acknowledging ways that women struggle or face gender bias is "blaming men"... This notion that any criticism, no matter how constructive or factual, amounts to "blaming women" (or even, according to some feminists, misogy…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/25 08:21 PM
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Ok, I’m going to skip my rant about all the insultingly condescending sexist quips this author injects and get right to the glaring ignorance undercutting all of it: Parental leave doesn’t need to be taken immediately in the first 6 months. The best way to use extended parental leave is to stagger both parents’ leaves. Dad takes two weeks and Mom takes 3-6 months, then dad takes his remaining leave as mom goes back to work. That gives the family a FULL YEAR without having to pay for childcare an…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/06/25 05:02 AM
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Family law issues (e.g. divorce and custody outcomes, and especially child support assessment and enforcement) are notable absent from the list.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/25 06:17 PM
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When people say this what they’re really doing is acknowledging how disrespectful and contemptuous society is towards fathers. It’s condescending and a micro-aggression. Here’s a personal example from just the other day… I was at an appointment for one of my kids and the woman asked for his pediatrician information. She asked how to spell the name and then looked it up. I slightly misspelled it and she corrected me. I apologized and she said: “oh no worries, my husband doesn’t even know the name…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/25 12:15 PM
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Nice exposition on the topic, but I think there’s a more straightforward response to that: Blaming men is defeatist. If feminism is truly about gender equality and equal access/agency then the issue is not about assigning blame, it’s about acknowledging that there are vestiges of patriarchal gender roles alive and well…. We should working together to dismantle them, not pointing fingers and blaming the other gender. If you don’t engage with the “blame game” it opens up a forum to start debating …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/25 05:56 AM
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Are you suggesting that your BDSM kinks are a social justice issue?? That’s the part I don’t get about all this. The title of your document is: “The Sovereign Renaissance: A Movement for Male, Transgender, Youth, and Social Justice Rights” … and then you’re talking about punk/goth clothing… and BDSM kink. We live in a pretty liberal permissive society when it comes to those things, I just don’t see where/how kink and alternative fashion plays into social justice… especially when men are facing m…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/25 06:24 PM
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I appreciate all the thought you've put into this, but it's a little hard for me to take seriously. There are very serious issues that men face in our society and I'm seeing very few of those issues in this list, but there is a lot of emphasis on superficial things like fashion and style expression. Here are some men's issues that are meaningful to me: Male suicide epidemic and deaths of despair: young men are four times more likely to die from suicide than young women, that discrepancy actually…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/05/25 12:49 AM
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I think we need to stop framing a father’s role as financial. It’s regressive, patriarchal, woefully outdated, and is harmful to children. I think, as progressives, instead of arguing for regressive ideals that roll back the clock and create more single mothers… we should be arguing FOR progressive solutions that deal with real problems: For example, shared legal and 50/50 physical custody as the default arrangement. If a mother (or either parent) wants to deny the other parent equal shared acce…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/05/25 10:32 PM
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I have a lot of respect for first and second wave feminism. Did the movement have flaws and blind spots? Sure, but it achieved a lot of social progress in the name of gender equality. That said? Feminism today has largely become a female supremacy movement and claiming that it’s about gender equality is completely disingenuous and obtuse. While there are plenty of individual feminists who do have those values, the movement itself is wholly uninterested in acknowledging or addressing inequalities…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/05/25 08:15 PM
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It’s absolutely a micro-aggression used as a qualifier to emphasize the belief that the default state of being male is negative. One time of the year I see this really come out in the open is during Father’s Day. I actually stay off social media completely for a week before and after Father’s Day because all the contempt and passive aggression directed at fathers is just too much for me and it’s depressing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/25 09:03 PM
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I would love to seem them apply this methodology of categorizing toxicity to “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” groups on Facebook.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/25 07:16 PM
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