mrpluckydog Archive

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1	[help needed] Shitty Comfort test In the big picture of things NMMNG etc can wait. Maybe find a good book to guide you through processing the loss. See a grief counselor. Let yourself fall down. Then get up and rebuild. What's the bigger picture? Are you sole provider?	/r/askMRP	28/09/17 01:08 AM
1	I decided to read a Focus on the Family article on developing a "satisfying" sex life. Yeah, not true. Betas get one-sided performance sex. You could just hire a hooker. Don't look for shortcuts.	/r/RPChristians	22/09/17 09:58 PM
1	I decided to read a Focus on the Family article on developing a "satisfying" sex life. A related idea: maybe you could read and discuss something like "The New Joy of Sex" together?	/r/RPChristians	22/09/17 09:30 PM
1	I decided to read a Focus on the Family article on developing a "satisfying" sex life. Hey, I'm not religious but I noticed this conversation (we both had religious parents and basically approached dating as if we were religious). This is a lot of great advice that I wish I'd seen. It's minor but I will add that I found it's extremely helpful to use verbal "teaming" on this to avoid defensiveness. Basically talk in "we" and avoid talking I vs you. "We need to spice up our sex and we're going to work on this." She'll hopefully mirror and speak in "we" back at you. Particularly if s…	/r/RPChristians	22/09/17 07:01 PM
1	What's the MRP stance on responsive sexuality? Ok there's a lot here and I'll be back but to me this is all dual control model. Responsive desire and dual controls all comes out of research into what's going on in lesbian bed death. Dual controls is actually the scientific version of "be attractive don't be unattractive" cast onto the neuroscience that the brain almost always has activation and inhibition pathways. You have to do both "be attractive" AND "don't be unattractive". So you're thinking that you need to make sex hotter, but what's…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 07:17 PM
1	Advice on Maintaining Rule #1 and #2 on devices Well, you certainly shouldn't have it where your kids can find it. And you don't need those gremlins fucking with your email and bills and important documents and banking, etc. One easy solution is to add a second account for kids play so they can't fuck anything up. Most recent android phones and tables have user switching and of course desktops support this. Second bonus: if you also put all your work shit in a separate account you can easily control after hours work noise by just switching be…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 06:57 PM
2	What's the MRP stance on responsive sexuality? Unless I misunderstood you said your wife initiates by saying: "I'm not necessarily in the mood, but if you want to have sex I could be okay with it tonight." Yeah, it's a boner killer. It's a turn off for you. Have you told her that the ways she says that is a problem for you? Asked her to say something differently? Is this a case where you've told her it's a turn off and she does it anyway to be cruel? Or is it a case of something you're hoping benching 300 will make her magically have an epip…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 02:26 PM
1	What's the MRP stance on responsive sexuality? What did your wife say when you told her that the way she initiates is a problem for you? SGM is more than techniques it goes into "bedroom mentality" and dealing with the bullshit religious programming. And don't think you're immune to it just because you're a man. Religion is designed to reign in your sexuality, too. Religion fucks sex up for everyone. Pay very close attention to how SGM makes it your job to foster an alternate reality that escapes religion.	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 07:28 AM
1	What's the MRP stance on responsive sexuality? Yeah that's why you need to read "Extraordinary Passion" and everything she's written. The author is a trained scientist LL who decided to take on understanding and resolving the problem. She's also been an active redditor on DB from time to time with a number of gilded posts on DB and across reddit. The overlap between DB and sexover30 a different solution-focused subset of DB. The advice on DB sidebar etc is actually very good and there are people who have worked things out. Most DBers are laz…	/r/askMRP	21/09/17 07:18 AM
2	What's the MRP stance on responsive sexuality? It's that you're so try-hard about it all. That you're even looking to get into her head to decide whether why she wants to have sex with you is acceptable. Unless you're coercing her it's none of your business. You're not letting her be herself. Sex with you is clearly an obligation and you're trying to figure out how to make it a more demanding obligation. If you're looking onto responsive desire, you better be reading "Come As You Are" which covers that in depth also goes into the dual contro…	/r/askMRP	20/09/17 09:59 PM
0	What's the MRP stance on responsive sexuality? You forgot the possibility that the sort of guy who tells ego stroking stories has a wife who knows that sex with that guy is about stroking his ego. Even here you sound super judgy with a holy attitude about sex which is not surprising given your religious indoctrination. You're just replacing the madonna/whore thing with responsive/spontaneous instead. Get out of your wife's head and learn to just have fun naked. You're seem far too serious about religion to enjoy sex. There are no Madonnas, w…	/r/askMRP	20/09/17 08:15 PM
1	How can you realistically not go Rambo at first? Rambo: When this guy actually thinks his wife will believe he's this guy.	/r/askMRP	14/09/17 08:12 PM
3	A month out from the wedding... Finds TRP... Do I call it off? it is an important part of my value structure You had a religious childhood and left church to become atheist. Unless I missed the part where you found religion again be very, very careful and don't trust your gut blindly. Except for the fact that you say you're an athiest, everything here reads as if you're following God's vision for your life. It's really, really hard to unlearn the religious conditioning because it's super deep. You seem to be struggling with questions that straddle the trans…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/09/17 07:15 PM