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A couple of years ago I found this place and went all in, I even gave myself this name because I wanted to “MRP myself”. MRP and owning my shit every Tuesday held up a mirror and showed me the myriad ways I was fucking up. But trying to “be MRP” wasn’t much better for me. I had to take time away, rediscover parts of myself, improve others, and most importantly learn to like myself. Now I can say that most of the time I am just myself, and fuck it if someone else doesn’t like it. I still have a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/26 04:41 PM
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You care so much about how other people see you, it comes through in the way you presented yourself here, in the fact you’re checking your wife’s search history, that it meant a lot what you’re wife’s friends said about you, etc. That makes you a little bitch. Your wife is not asexual, she just doesn’t understand why sometimes she wants to fuck you (outwardly attractive) and sometimes she really doesn’t (little bitch). My wife was the same. Start by addressing the shame you have around your ment…
/r/askMRP22/05/26 09:09 AM
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Oh I definitely got AI overproduction vibes. But had assumed the words would’ve originally come from Watts. That could even be wrong I suppose. Anyway, I liked your post, but am left with questions for myself to answer. The YouTube video helped a little but I still haven’t fully answered them.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/26 05:56 AM
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I was just listening to some Alan Watts and it made me think of this post
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/26 07:49 PM
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lol the problem here is not that you “chose a feminist”. Try again
/r/askMRP08/09/25 09:45 AM
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Depends. If your team is the Jets or Titans I’d go apple picking dude.
/r/askMRP07/09/25 03:21 PM
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This is the second time you have read me like a book, and put things together in a way I haven’t been able to. Thanks for taking the time. Message received. Time for me to take off the armbands.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/25 10:13 AM
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Ha. Never considered the insta thing as a shit test. And there was me going to preemptively set up an Instagram profile, I shit you not.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 10:26 AM
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Comes kind of easy to me
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/25 10:24 AM
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You make a good point, I am still playing in the kids pool telling myself I’m learning to swim I guess
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 02:44 PM
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That is the short version of it, yes. what are you gonna do about it, betch? Keep trying to find better ways to cope while I deal with the longer term problems
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 01:50 PM
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I am proud that I tried to do some baby steps, I am not proud of anything I achieved and didn’t post it as a kind of flex. If anything, I find it extremely cringeworthy to write and read these back. But if I lay it all out there, maybe it will help me suck less at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 01:43 PM
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Game mini field report: Got to my reserved seat on a train and found I was next to a large group of attractive blonde 20yo’s. In the past I would’ve just sat somewhere else and said no problem. But I selected that seat because it’s the one I wanted, so I made them move their shit so I could sit next to them. Besides, I thought to myself “this is too good an opportunity to practise to turn down”. I sat down and did my own thing for the first hour or so. Occasionally smirked at some of their bulls…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 10:30 AM
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OYS #41 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 89kg, 18%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally, Never Split the Difference, The Fountainhead. Reading: just finished The Surrender Experiment Vision: To be a high-value man that lives authentically and does not place limits on himself. It’s been a while. I am going through some pretty bad health stuff right now. Time to be honest with myself how I’m managi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 10:20 AM
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I’m terrified to have sex w/o asking and verifying everything is alright She could hop on to Hulk Hogan levels of testosterone and this energy would still kill the vibe
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/25 02:20 PM
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Are you counting calories and macros?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:32 AM
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This video helped me with form. Check it out, get under a barbell, and report back next week with some weight added
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:09 PM
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a fat, smoking bus driver with minimum wage is her best option? Jesus. Here’s something that’s even less attractive than that: a man that’s afraid of a fat, broke bus driver stealing his girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 06:53 PM
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overhead press: 18kg x 8 Are you seriously only lifting 18kg total for 1 set of 8 reps? Am I misunderstanding, because if not that’s pitiful
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 12:01 PM
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You need to address your ego. Seems to me that you are constantly looking to get one up on your wife, strangers, people here, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 12:03 PM
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Everyone’s ancestors ate meat, fish, and fruit. Instead of wasting your time on that, you could have asked AI “summarise the principles of the book “never split the difference” to help me plan for going to a car dealership and negotiating”. I just did it and chatGPT gave a very good response (I read the book recently). And don’t blame the salesmen for treating you badly in the past, that’s your fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 12:21 PM
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No such thing as cheat codes. Gotta do the work if you wanna make progress. But these are good musings nonetheless
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/25 03:51 PM
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Do you meditate or do yoga in the evening? Meds should be the last resort, as you allude to.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/25 08:02 AM
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LOL, the more I “use you” for sex, the harder you come I’m stealing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 08:46 PM
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shit test Yep. Doesn’t mean you need some super witty response in the moment. She just needs to feel strength from you, specifically that you have the strength to push for something you want (the dirty talk): “I feel pressured” “You should”
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 08:40 PM
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Dance monkey dance. You’ll look back on this in a year’s time and cringe. I know I do. P.S. I bet you only posted this as a field report because you know writing this in your OYS would get you a ban.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 06:55 AM
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Read: Rational Male Read it again dipshit
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 10:44 AM
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Good question. Because I believe I have the potential to be one. So even though it’s an abstract concept, it would mean I haven’t let anything limit me (including myself). It would also give me more options in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/25 10:37 AM
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You’ve gotta join that subreddit on desktop version then come back to mobile
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 07:16 PM
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OYS #40 (6 weeks since my last) Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90kg, 16%bf (last scan Sep ‘24). Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally, Never Split the Difference. Reading: The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand Vision: To be a high-value man that lives authentically and does not place limits on himself. General observation: I’ve been stuck for ages now. Too deep in the frame of this sub, and looking for vali…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 12:09 PM
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OYS #39 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 92kg, 16%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally. Reading: Never Split the Difference (70%), Practical Female Psychology (50%). Health & Fitness: lifted twice this week. I also do 30 mins stretching / yoga morning and evening now. It’s great. It started as pain relief but it’s also working wonders for getting rid of tension and letting me unwind. This is for…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 11:42 AM
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r/askmrp is the correct place for this Make sure you own your shit tomorrow
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/24 10:50 AM
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This is also a great comment
/r/askMRP15/12/24 07:27 PM
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Weight Gain: Have you calculated your TDEE? What lifting routine are you running? How much protein are you consuming per day? r/gainit can be helpful
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 10:17 AM
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I’ve realised in my own marriage recently that me giving my wife no resistance/friction also = me giving my wife no feels. This is a good example of the opposite.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 02:25 PM
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Prediction: within two months time, there’ll be a pregnancy
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 06:15 PM
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I think you’re probably right
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 08:37 AM
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How will monk mode help you learn to deal with rejection? You and u/hornsofapathy are right, it won’t. It is a defence mechanism because I feel like I’m “fighting on all fronts” in my life right now. What’s the upside to leaving your balls alone? This was in reference to the health issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 08:30 PM
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You’re not wrong. On paper my job is amazing: loads of money, total flexibility, can travel around Europe as much/as little as I want. And I’ve built and empowered a highly competent team, so it’s easy for me. I’ve been super successful at work to this point, high achiever, but following that road has not fulfilled me. So I’ve lost my passion for the corporate world. I’m cashing the cheques for the next two years until my kids become school age, and trying to not let my soul get totally sucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 08:22 PM
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Not in the right head space to deal with rejection properly + leaving my balls alone for a bit can’t hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 12:50 PM
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OYS #38 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 92kg, 16%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally. Reading: Never Split the Difference (60%). Health & Fitness: I’ve had testicular pain for 6 weeks now with no relief. I have seen a lot of doctors, and in the end paid to expedite tests and see specialists privately. I have bilateral varicoceles (TLDR: veins in both sides of my balls don’t work properly) and …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 11:54 AM
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Thanks, I found this helpful. clean diet I’m curious, what does that mean to you? Or what would the fundamental points be for you? happy to give your hormone results a look over I may take you up on that offer, thanks. Don’t entirely trust the health service just as I don’t entirely trust the companies trying to sell me TRT. A mixture of opinions might be best.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 09:27 AM
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I’m here to own my shit as I work to become a better man Cool, when you gonna start? Put some fucking effort in and go deeper. Why didn’t you go to the gym this week, really? What did you tell yourself to justify it?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 08:47 AM
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Boom roasted
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 07:16 AM
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Yeah that makes sense, thanks. I will work on it some more and report back.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 08:05 PM
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Initiated conversation about how she’s a twin, what that must have felt like sharing all the attention growing up Conversation inevitably drifted to her bastard ex husband, I tried to draw attention to her feelings “you must’ve felt trapped” rather than give her support or agree with her like a friend would Asked about her heritage and which side she felt more connected to Talked about my friend who is getting divorced and shared details about my childhood where I wished my parents had got divor…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 04:32 PM
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OYS #37 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 92kg, 16%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 77.5kg 5,5,5 OP 42.5kg 5,5,6 DL 95kg 5 BP 60kg 5,5,5 BOR 75kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 3x5 Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally. Reading: Never Split the Difference (60%). Health & Fitness: lifted 3x + Krav Maga this week. Added weight on SQ (+2.5kg). My focus as per some advice last week has been on volume of work in the gym, and making sure it …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 03:38 PM
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Patrice O’Neal has some advice for you
/r/askMRP09/11/24 06:23 AM
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go through line by line and write your thoughts Done. It was a useful exercise, I need to do that more. Let me share a couple of points from my notes and couple of questions that come from them. There was a time many years ago, during the major DB years, where I organised a surprise date at a track day (for a chick my wife is quite into cars). She got a huge rush from driving super cars around, and when we got home jumped me and we had sex multiple times. Extremely notable for the DB situation a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/24 07:57 PM
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Stir up nonsensical arguments Could you give me an example? I can’t thread the needle between different MRP concepts. Don’t be reactive, be congruent, but pretend to react to something illogically. Not saying you are wrong, just that I’m struggling to get my head around it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/24 04:36 PM
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Thanks, this mindset of focusing on volume each session/week is already proving helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/24 04:33 PM
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she took over the master bedroom and claimed it is “her room” You mean, you let her take over the master bedroom and claim it NMMNG and WISNIFG gonna be your new best friends
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/24 07:02 AM
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I’ve gained 9kg since starting in Feb. But you’re right, it did already slow down a bit in the last couple of months.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 09:19 AM
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This is the area where there is a lot of conflicting advice. My gut feeling says my weight gain is outpacing my strength gain a bit. So adjusting closer to / at maintenance while pushing myself to lift harder is the short-term plan then I will reassess.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 09:02 PM
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You just described me quite well
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 08:34 PM
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You lack the ability to let go that which you can’t control Yep. As pointed out in the other comment, this is spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 08:31 PM
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First of all, thank you for taking the time to write this out for a stranger on the internet. I got a bit emotional reading it. You’re right, I need to let go. u/castironskilletset told me last week I need to embrace discomfort. I suppose that can be applied here to embrace the discomfort of not being in control of what comes next. I will take some more time to read and reflect on this. Thanks again.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 08:28 PM
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I believe I’m attractive. I have had some results in terms of sex since I got here. But the last couple of months stress has been high and her interest in sex dropped to almost zero. Before I found MRP earlier this year, I read a blue pill / feminist kind of book about women’s sexual desire (lame, I know). According to “the science”, the problem is the stress. But according to RP, that wouldn’t be a problem if the man was high enough value. Either way, it leads me to an unhealthy amount of analy…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 03:20 PM
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OYS #36 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 92kg, 16%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 75kg 5,5,5 OP 42.5kg 5,5,5 DL 95kg 5 BP 60kg 5,5,5 BOR 75kg 5,5,5 Chin ups 3x5 Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally. Reading: Never Split the Difference (40%). Health & Fitness: lifted 3x this week. Added weight on BOR (+2.5kg) and SQ (+2.5kg). This week lifting was rough, with a lingering cold and being away from home. But I bought day…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 11:58 AM
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Phrak’s GSLP so it’s 2 sets of 5 then an AMRAP set to finish
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/24 06:29 AM
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You have, and this helped me with indirectly opening women more comfortably. This time I psyched myself out wanting to open directly on the street (following the PUA stuff I’d read) Thanks for the reminder. Easy to get lost in the world of PUA material
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/24 06:25 AM
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Don’t compare yourself directly but you should notice a trend of how you stack up in general I have definitely noticed, and it is a reminder there is a looooong way to go. Had you never lifted before in your life? Nope Maybe your T is low The thought crossed my mind. I do get anxiety and struggle with energy. But I’ve got a good libido and no dick problems, so wrote it off. I’ll consider getting it tested to rule it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 02:01 PM
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I don’t know man. Maybe you’re right. My lifts are objectively lower than most people here, even some guys just turning up. Or maybe I shouldn’t measure myself against other people so much. Me vs me after all. I know that I’m pushing myself, I know that my lifts are progressing, I know that I’ve gained muscle. And I know that vs 8 months ago when I’d never touched a barbell before I have some sense of pride. I also know that I am way off where most people are, so there’s a long road ahead.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 07:57 AM
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Lifting That’s fair. My goal is to build muscle from now on, not necessarily gain more weight. What I’ve read seemed to suggest I would need to be in bulk/cut cycles continuously for my first few years. What you suggest does seem to make sense for my situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 10:13 AM
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Porn is bad for me because a) it blunts my authentic sexual desire and b) I use it as a distraction from discomfort, it is not encouraging me to get better at dealing with the discomfort. It’s just a slip up, I own that and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 10:16 PM
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is bulking really necessary? I don’t know, still a beginner at this. My goal is to build muscle (aesthetics). From what I’ve read the suggestion is to have a surplus calories to help with that. I am currently consuming TDEE+300, 200g protein daily. So far I’m really happy with the weight and muscle growth. Would you do something different at this point, in my shoes? Im going to assume no sex Correct. I did push for and get an enthusiastic bj last week when she was on her period and before she go…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 08:13 PM
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”I need to get stronger to lift your mum” Is that a reference to her weight? If so, that’s shitty to be passive aggressive like that in front of your kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 06:07 PM
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Thanks for pointing this out. I hadn’t realised but in each section of my post there is an example of me getting in my own way (or self sabotaging, as you put it). I intend to keep walking into the fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 10:32 AM
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OYS #35 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 91.5kg, 16%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 72.5kg 5,5,6 OP 42.5kg 5,5,5 DL 95kg 5 BP 60kg 5,5,5 BOR 72.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 3x5 Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally. Reading: Never Split the Difference (35%). Health & Fitness: lifted 6x, 1x yoga, 1x Krav Maga in the last two weeks. Increased weight on DL (+2.5kg). I got another body scan done. I have gained 19lbs since I got her…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 09:09 AM
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“Oh yeah? What’s his name?”
/r/askMRP28/10/24 12:20 PM
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Man I love that dissected boobs post
/r/askMRP24/10/24 07:41 PM
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Oh the irony that you wrote all of this to impress the big boys at MRP and it gets an instant rule 9 ban
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 06:00 AM
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What did you really learn from this experiment? I learnt what it means and what it feels like to be a “man who fucks”. I learnt that it’s not something I need to LARP at and learn, it’s something that is within me, if I can get out of my own way. I learnt that when I’m feeling like this, almost nothing can stop my strong sexual masculine energy being given and being received. That includes last minute shit tests. I learnt that when I’m feeling like this, masturbating becomes less interesting, it…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/24 09:46 AM
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Consider this part of the comment from 3KL again: Effectively you’re saying ‘you can do whatever the fuck you want, but this shit has to stop’. And then you leave it in her hands to figure out the best avenue to achieve that outcome. It’s brilliant because you show that you understand and empathise with the struggle she’s going through, but you’re putting the burden of responsibility back on her to sort that shit out. How much of this is your responsibility? It would probably help you to read th…
/r/askMRP16/10/24 08:09 AM
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I’m also in Europe and my wife had to work her 3 months notice. Having an end in sight is very freeing. If it is so toxic that 3 months is not bearable, get her to see the doctor and get signed off with stress. That will burn some goodwill with the current employer but fuck it.
/r/askMRP16/10/24 07:56 AM
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You will need to show some leadership. I had a similar situation, which I dealt with and 3KL gave some helpful input on.
/r/askMRP16/10/24 07:43 AM
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You afraid of being alone?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 11:01 AM
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mate guarding Do you understand how easy it would be for her to get dick elsewhere? Make it so that you’re her best option (Copyright Patrice O’Neal)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 09:30 AM
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OYS #34 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 91.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 72.5kg 5,5,6 OP 42.5kg 5,5,5 DL 92.5kg 5 BP 60kg 5,5,5 BOR 72.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 3x5 Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked. Reading: Book of YaReally (75%). Paused Never Split the Difference for now (25%). Health & Fitness: lifted 2x + Krav Maga. Increased weight on BP (+2.5kg). I am starting to get a lot of fatigue in my legs, which I am not sure how t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 09:04 AM
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I did a second mini FR a while back here I live in a very small town, so main opportunity is travelling on business. I was due to travel last week and this would’ve been a good opportunity but I had to cancel. I’ve been reading a lot of pua stuff since that second update, so do need some reps. I may have an opportunity in a couple of weeks.
/r/askMRP13/10/24 06:33 AM
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So, in summary, you had a week to yourself and: Didn’t work out Didn’t increase your protein intake Did nothing new about finances Did not much socialising or game Didn’t stay on top of chores Jerked off (if I’m interpreting “slip into old habits” correctly) But you surprised yourself with how well you handled a situation where you told your wife she looked like a whore. Truly an OYS to remember
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 04:41 PM
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Just reading this and all the other comments. I would say try not to get too lost in the past, focus your energy on improving yourself now and for the future. A lot of shit like what kind of women you select will probably change as a result.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 07:19 PM
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I don’t understand what I find attractive about these broken women The answer to this is in NMMNG. How far through the book are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 02:20 PM
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OYS #33 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 91.2kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 72.5kg 5,5,6 OP 42.5kg 5,5,5 DL 92.5kg 5 BP 57.5kg 5,5,6 BOR 72.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 3x5 Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked. Reading: Book of YaReally (75%). Paused Never Split the Difference for now (25%). Health & Fitness: lifted 3x and yoga this week. Gained 1lb since last week. Sleeping better which has helped with lifting and weight gain. Sex and …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 08:31 AM
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Another interpretation could be: I stimulated some emotions, but the “logistics” were shit (right before kids bed time, and she needed a shower) during which time the temperature just dropped. Which doesn’t take away from your points: But mood didn’t pass, because you could always set the mood again. I mean you did it once. But you didn’t. Wonder why? But if someone is the kind of man who judges his self worth on his wife fucking him then he will find it difficult to do it. Not self worth, but I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 01:07 PM
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When I first read this comment I interpreted it as a “just be yourself” kind of advice. To which I would say well myself sucks at escalating and initiating so I have to try to learn something new. But re-reading it, you’re suggesting I’m trying too hard (or in other words I am too invested), right?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 12:56 PM
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OYS #32 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 91kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 72.5kg 5,5,6 OP 42.5kg 5,5,5 DL 92.5kg 5 BP 57.5kg 5,5,6 BOR 72.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 3x5 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame, Courage to be Disliked. Reading: Book of YaReally (70%) and Never Split the Difference (25%). Health & Fitness: lifted 3x and Krav Maga this week. Increased weight on DL (+2.5kg) and OHP (+2.5kg) and…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 11:00 AM
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I think that pretty much sums up the realisation. I didn’t apologise for my actions (going out with a friend unannounced), but I did acknowledge I was a retard in the way I dealt with her around it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 07:47 AM
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OYS #31 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 72.5kg 5,5,5 OP 40kg 5,5,6 DL 90kg 5 BP 57.5kg 5,5,5 BOR 72.5kg 5,5,5 Chin ups 3x5 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame, Courage to be Disliked. Reading: Book of YaReally (65%) and Never Split the Difference (25%). Mental: developing mental strength and the ability to self-soothe is now at the top of my MAP. Lacking this…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 08:30 AM
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Dont want to ruin the kids I grew up with parents arguing non-stop. It was toxic to grow up in and fucked me and my siblings up. I only wish my parents had got divorced. So this shouldn’t be something to worry about too much. Or are you just using that as an excuse?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 07:27 AM
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Thanks for sharing. I will experiment with it and see what works.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 06:21 AM
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Dude I think you might be on to something with me and my issues. Can I ask: did you ever bulk on a keto diet?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 04:57 AM
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My diet hasn’t changed lately but it certainly could be better. I’ve just started taking magnesium supplements a few days ago and increasing my water intake which is helping. Here’s a typical day: Breakfast - cereal, protein bar, tea Mid morning - protein shake, peanuts Lunch - sandwich and something sugary Mid afternoon - protein bar Dinner - usually meat, carb and one veg followed by protein shake Before bed - usually some toast and an apple
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 07:36 AM
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This made me laugh out loud. And you’re not wrong, my BP sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 05:50 AM
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For various reasons WFH is the only option right now. I do have a couple of business trips coming up over the next month so that should help. I kind of agree about the manning list. But it’s decent training wheels for guys like me discovering their own masculinity.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 07:16 PM
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Why is that important that a guy wanted to extend his vacation that made you lose your cool? I included this because I noticed nice guy behaviour of wanting to keep other people happy and avoid conflict. When in reality it was a small scale decision I had to take as a manager. In my opinion being a “nice guy” is one of the reasons I sweat over things that aren’t important, as you rightly point out.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 01:01 PM
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I am prone to overthinking but I probably tried to cover too much ground in this OYS as well. I meditate every day and you’re right it helps enormously. Diet is not perfect but I hit 3100 calories (TDEE +300) each day with 190g protein. I have just started taking a magnesium supplement and I believe it is helping. I’ve been wondering about T levels - I just booked a test.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 11:01 AM
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OYS #30 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 91kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 70kg 5,5,7 OP 40kg 5,5,6 DL 90kg 5 BP 57.5kg 5,5,5 BOR 72.5kg 5,5,5 Chin ups 3x5 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame, Courage to be Disliked. Reading: Book of YaReally (50%). Health & Fitness: First week was a deload week, where I added yoga and cardio. I tested if I could run a mile without stopping. I can, timed at 9 mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 09:06 AM
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Are you using the post nup to try to control her behaviour without being assertive? If so it won’t work. You can only control your behaviour and what you will put up with.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/24 07:16 AM
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Phrak’s Greyskull LP beginner program can be found here. You spoke too much about your wife in this OYS, so use your time in the naughty corner to start Phrak’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 12:43 PM
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I’m in the same boat and also doing PGSLP. What accessories are you adding? I mix in the following, maybe it gives you some ideas or I’d be interested in yours. BP - push ups and dips OHP - overhead tricep extension and kettle bell swings SQ - weighted lunges Chin ups - bicep curls And generally planking for core strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 06:58 AM
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I measured it about 3 months ago so yes it’s out of date. I used the body composition scanner at my gym which told me 15%. But you gotta pay to use it hence why I haven’t done it since.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/24 05:48 AM
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Judging from his response this horse can’t even be led to water
/r/askMRP30/08/24 06:28 PM
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“He’s too bossy” - “Yet she loves me being the boss…well in certain situations anyway”. Now who’s embarrassed… “He’s bad at telling stories” - “yeah it’s almost like there’s always someone interrupting me”. Learn to be more playful dude
/r/askMRP30/08/24 03:27 PM
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I feel seen
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 08:26 AM
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I took the time to think and added my interpretations in bold to your comment. The process of doing so was illuminating, thanks. Not so soon my friend. You said she wasn’t receptive of your game, and you got frustrated. These are two seperate issues. Like last week, I am not separating what I can and can’t control. I can control (or like last week to put it into courage to be disliked language, it is my task) to try to game and fuck her if I want to. I cannot control (it is not my task) how she …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 07:12 AM
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You might be right about the cardio but I’m surprised you say that about the belt. I guess you wrote it to motivate me to lift bigger, but what you’re basically suggesting is “don’t wear a belt because of what people may think”.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 07:17 AM
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Interesting. Will give it a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 06:24 AM
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No, it was a post by sepean but it’s been deleted. Anyone know if it’s archived anywhere? Because it’s a brilliant post.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 05:49 PM
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deficit of inner game. Seeking validation of your attractiveness from your wife fucking you You’re right, this a deficit in my inner game. Not specifically about the fucking. I want to fuck because I want to fuck. But if I think about how I feel about her being unresponsive to my “game”, it makes me doubt my attractiveness and how much progress I’ve really made.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 02:59 PM
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OYS #29 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 91kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 70kg 5,5,6 OP 40kg 5,5,5 DL 80kg 5 BP 57.5kg 5,5,5 BOR 70kg 5,5,8 Chin ups 3x5 Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (90%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame. Also reading Courage to be Disliked (70%) and Book of YaReally (35%). A short OYS this week, more a continuation of some comments I got to last week’s entry. Working on my squat: Some notes from this w…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 10:04 AM
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She made me a beta bitch Way to take accountability there bud
/r/askMRP26/08/24 08:22 AM
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Personally I found the section of WISNIFG about parent/child relationships enormously helpful
/r/askMRP23/08/24 05:44 AM
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I decided to flee Of course you did. It’s the same reason you stopped doing OYS. Rather than walk towards the fire and get stronger, you feel the discomfort and flee Your wife is begging you to be stronger. Running away and then contacting others for comfort and ultimately coming back and apologising…yeah, you just proved her point.
/r/askMRP23/08/24 05:38 AM
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Thanks for helping out a noob. Will push myself and share some notes. The PT at my gym said to me yesterday “you should always have 2 or 3 reps left in the tank on compound lifts”. That’s bullshit, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 10:54 AM
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So covert contracts then
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:34 PM
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Where’s the pent up anger coming from?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 09:18 AM
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This is exactly why I am so focused on it. It’s my biggest weakness and the thing holding me back the most.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 09:07 AM
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have you ever failed a rep squatting No, so perhaps you are right. what does this mean? I mean using strong eye contact and kino escalation. Calling it “action initiating” in contrast to the old days when I used to suggest/ask. have you tried just bluntly initiating On occasion yes with not bad results, but I don’t tend to. I tend to focus on building the vibe and escalating. Maybe I am going for the easier wins.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:43 PM
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I’ve noticed the lifts are slightly off myself. I didn’t squat for 5-6 weeks when I had a vasectomy but apart from that I think my lower back is just weak. Honestly I’m not sure I could squat my wife. Maybe one rep. And she’s not fat. Most of the last two weeks we were just so busy and I was so tired I wasn’t initiating. No problem there. But the last few days I’ve been gaming (albeit not at my best, as said) and just getting zero reaction. Last two nights I’ve tried an action escalation as a “H…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:21 PM
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A) Since being here I’ve developed a response to anxiety which is: meditate, lift, put my phone down, and STFU. That helps me reset usually in 2-3 days. B) lack of assertiveness (particularly at work, but I’ve made improvements with this), making other people’s problems my problems (particularly in relationships), trying to control outcomes/avoid negative outcomes (as described in this OYS).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:04 PM
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I’m not consciously bullshitting you. What can I say, it’s true that I am more attracted to her, it’s not true that I think my oneitis is getting stronger, but it is true that I added that line to try to “get in there first” before someone told me to stop putting her on a pedestal.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:04 PM
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you are butthurt that your wife does not respond to your game so you chase other women for comfort That is essentially right. I question my attractiveness (progress) when my wife does not respond to my game, so I chase validation from other women. why are you trying to sugarcoat things, by saying lame ass shit like, oneitis is getting stronger? That was a defence mechanism. I anticipated getting a kicking here for admitting I’m more into my wife, so put that in.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 01:57 PM
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why aren’t you gaming her and obsessing over other chicks Good question. The last two weeks I’ve been stressed and anxious. That makes me lose my edge. My game sucks because I get all serious and stop being fun. I start focusing on my wife’s reaction to me which fucks things up as well. Then I start focusing on other women’s reactions to me because the validation feels nice. That is why I tend to talk a lot about handling stress and anxiety in my OYS’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 12:08 PM
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OYS #28 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 62.5kg 5,5,5 OP 40kg 5,5,5 DL 75kg 6 BP 57.5kg 5,5,5 BOR 70kg 5,5,8 Chin ups 5,5,4 (plus one negative - almost there…) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (80%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame. Also reading Courage to be Disliked (50%) and Book of YaReally (35%). Lifting & Diet: lifted 6x in last 2 weeks and went hard. Increased weight on BP (+0.5kg),…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 08:53 AM
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Gym: This week will be no gym, I will compensate with sport activities: beach volley and running Without discipline you ain’t gonna achieve your goal of losing your love handles and building muscle. Life is going to throw up 1,000 reasons why you “can’t”, ignore them and go lift heavy things.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/24 11:44 AM
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It’s a question of frame and not DEER’ing “I’m here now, what do you want to talk about?”
/r/askMRP15/08/24 08:41 AM
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Regardless of everything that has happened before today in both of your lives, is it acceptable to you that she raised the “intimacy without consent” to the church?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 02:56 PM
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Guess I moved from introspection to mental masturbation. Message received
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 10:34 AM
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A good reminder to focus on myself, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 08:21 AM
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Indeed. Horns gave me some good advice a while ago…you need to become your own safe person. In your words, you need to be able to fill your own cup when it gets empty. I’m still working on that myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 08:21 AM
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Your repeated actions do not proceed from an identity you think up, they proceed from a vision of what you want to accomplish That’s true. But shouldn’t “who I want to be” (including what are my values and passions) be part of my vision? It’s a bit chicken and egg because you’re right, just deciding on an identity doesn’t actually get me anywhere. Work has to be done towards it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 06:48 AM
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You married someone you couldn’t get your dick in?! Ah, just seen you are childhood sweethearts. Would you still marry her if you met now?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 04:52 PM
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It’s more about attraction than respect per se. I made the same mistake with my wife, sharing everything about my anxiety and panic attacks. She was totally supportive and caring, but she did not want to have to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 03:23 PM
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Have you previously over-shared what happened and your subsequent feelings, anxiety/depression with your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 06:23 AM
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Get as many job offers as you want, swing as many kettlebells as you want, if you can’t STFU you have no chance
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 05:28 PM
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Ok there I can agree with you. She still sees a man who cannot be trusted.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 05:11 PM
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Maybe I was driving a little close to the curb, and I’m ok with that being pointed out. But to just grab the wheel and swerve when there was no imminent danger is just retarded sweetie lol, you have a point
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 04:42 PM
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Sex See 16 commandments of poon rule XIV and bring it to life. Who cares where in her cycle she is. Who cares why she is opening her legs (don’t analyse your woman). Fuck her like there’s no tomorrow.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 01:29 PM
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OYS #27 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 89.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 60kg 5,5,6 OP 37.5kg 5,5,6 DL 75kg 6 BP 57kg 5,5,5 BOR 70kg 5,5,8 Chin ups 5,5,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (55%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame. Also reading Courage to be Disliked (25%) and Book of YaReally (30%). Just back from 3 week family vacation (beach holiday in remote place). Lifting & Diet: was only able to manage…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/24 01:18 PM
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She’ll probably get you living in the menstrual hut next. Planning on wasting everybody’s time again next month?
/r/askMRP03/08/24 07:36 PM
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About to return to uni Are you sure you want to spend your uni years in a LTR? (I did). With a great girl. We both want marriage and kids eventually. Why do you want to get married? Especially if things are great now. wow her consistently If you do the work on yourself, she’ll be the one wow’ing you
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 09:25 AM
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As I see it there are sort of 3 levels: 1) Self conscious and validation seeking 2) Ego taking over “I’ve got the best body on this beach”….”I’ve got a better body than him”…etc 3) As you described, high value man who values himself and doesn’t need the validation Being honest I still have some way to go until I get to the latter
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 08:28 AM
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This realisation was very important for me also
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 01:26 AM
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sounds like wasn’t your frame Well spotted, it was my wife’s idea, I just found the guy. I had no major objections and had fun, but if it was fully my frame I would’ve said “I don’t really need them tonight”.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 10:02 AM
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OYS #26 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 60kg 5,5,6 OP 37.5kg 5,5,6 DL 75kg 6 BP 55kg 5,5,7 BOR 70kg 5,5,8 Chin ups 5,5,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (55%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame. Also reading Courage to be Disliked (25%) and Book of YaReally (30%). 2 weeks into a 3 week family vacation (beach holiday in remote place). Lifting & Diet: lifted 2x and 1x body w…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 09:26 AM
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Yep. That’s the one I meant
/r/askMRP29/07/24 07:23 PM
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I think you mean over on r/theredpill , there was a reading list. It used to be pinned but not any more. If you search there you’ll find it though
/r/askMRP29/07/24 12:03 PM
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This is not as simple as “correcting”/dealing with her behaviour. You are needy as fuck and have no frame whatsoever. Listen to the other posters here and their advice, it is solid.
/r/askMRP29/07/24 08:27 AM
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What sidebar books have you read? What are your lifts? ”when are we ready to have sex again?”…”well I’m ready” Do I understand right that you told your wife about your abstinence/quitting porn? You really need to STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/24 04:28 PM
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I’m finding the whole “dealing with social pressure” thing interesting right now. Applies in so many contexts…a pushy car rental guy, a hot chick shit testing you at the bar, your wife crying or throwing a tantrum, etc. In all cases, the first thing seems to be becoming comfortable in the discomfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 09:46 AM
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just an inconvenience That’s helpful actually, thanks. Will try to frame it that way next time. Writing out the OYS and realising that me reacting as a victim is a choice is also a bit of a revelation to me. In other words, I can’t control “inconveniences” happening, but I can control how I respond to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 05:58 AM
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I suspect I was sub-communicating that I was unsure of myself, as my state was not good (sick and basically pulled an all nighter for the flight). That pressure flip is a good suggestion, thanks. Sort of comes from the perspective of “why would I change my decision?”, whereas my response is more a defence of my decision. I’ll check that book out.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/24 05:02 AM
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Way of the superior male
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 02:51 PM
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OYS #25 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 60kg 5,5,6 OP 37.5kg 5,5,6 DL 75kg 6 BP 55kg 5,5,7 BOR 67.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 5,5,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (55%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, Frame. Also reading Courage to be Disliked (25%). 1 week down of a 3 week family vacation (beach holiday in remote place). Lifting & Diet: the week before vacation i lifted 3x and incre…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 08:34 AM
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I always look out for your comments. Damn, this one is bang on the money.
/r/askMRP21/07/24 11:52 AM
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If things are so great what are you doing here?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 10:01 PM
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Drop the shitty books, and read WISNIFG, and start Rational Male (you can read the year 1-5 articles for free, that’s enough to get you started). Then come back next week and tell us what you learned about a) how you can’t cope with other people and b) how your wife is using sex to secure some more beta bux.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/24 07:46 AM
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Book of Pook is a must as is the whole of the sidebar. But on top of that check out book of yareally. There’s a chapter (on kissing) I just got done reading that explains your bartender experience perfectly.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 07:34 AM
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Physical: I have been in good shape before but… Social: Killing it here with most people but… Game: I feel good about this but… Relationship/sex: …. I have sex about 3x a week.. Stop protecting your ego. You won’t get very far with OYS otherwise.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 05:51 AM
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“To chase my full potential as a man” is my mission. There’s no destination which is maybe a weakness of it, but I’m also not set on a particular path. It seems to work as an anchor for my daily decisions. Where’s your OYS? It sounds like getting a number might’ve changed your perspective on your gf.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 05:20 AM
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I came to the same conclusion about prioritising lifting at least for the next few months. I will keep Krav ticking over, that feels like it’s a long term hobby anyway. Hitting 4x/week has up to now been a challenge for me. Let’s see if I can step it up when I’m back. Re sex I wouldn’t call this a dry patch. My sex drive was low from being run down last week, then her period came anyway. I’ve been focused on other things.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 07:42 PM
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trying sensual soft kino that she likes I hope that’s not a covert contract forming there
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 01:42 PM
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You saw a difference from using the belt? Because I’m still not using one.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 01:12 PM
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Yeah my SQ is weak. I had to avoid them for 5 weeks when I recovered from vasectomy which hasn’t helped. It’s fair to call it out, when I look at other people’s lifts I am way below on SQ’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 11:32 AM
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OYS #24 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 57.5kg 5,5,5 OP 37.5kg 5,5,6 DL 75kg 6 BP 55kg 5,5,7 BOR 67.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 5,5,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (50%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame. Lifting & Diet: lifted 2x + KM. Increased weight on SQ (+2.5kg) and improved record on chin ups. Krav Maga continues to be a great hobby to get me out of my comfort zone. 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 09:51 AM
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Who cares how you look? You seem to really like mystery method. Have you seen how mystery looks? I would say he’s objectively ugly. The more important thing is frame and game. The part of your looks you can really influence is your physique, and you’re already working on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/24 08:54 AM
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Slow the fuck down Mr Oak. She can still sniff out the neediness you say is still in you, and your dick still tastes like beta male to her. Keep working on yourself
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 11:23 AM
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OYS #23 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg 5,5,7 OP 37.5kg 5,5,6 DL 75kg 6 BP 55kg 5,5,7 BOR 67.5kg 5,5,6 Chin ups 5,4,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (40%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame. Lifting & Diet: lifted 2x + KM. Went hard on my return to the gym after deloading. Increased weight on BOR (+2.5kg) and added a rep to BP and DL. This and some intense Krav M…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 10:36 AM
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As others have said, if you wanna fantasise over porn, you do you. I’m curious though, did you ever try the “mindful masturbation” thing from NMMNG?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/24 01:36 PM
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This short post helped me
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 07:29 AM
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ftfy That’s true, it’s fully focused on her. And based on the past. It’s bullshit in many respects
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 05:50 PM
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Your goal is to gain mass and you’ve put 2kg on in a year…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 03:14 PM
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What’s your goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:43 PM
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I did not have anything scripted nor was it pre meditated. It was a natural progression of being dominant. So it was closer to “told her what you wanted to see in that very moment”. Scripted lines won’t work because it’s context dependent and needs to be congruent with you. I’m not an expert, but that’s my 2 cents
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 02:42 PM
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With my career, I have met a guy that has same idea as me, is 20 years younger, and has raised 100m already. What the fuck am I doing? Comparing yourself to someone else
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 12:52 PM
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it’s still not much but I feel like making a step by being able to handle such weights much better, as in terms of balance and that I want more You’re not lifting anywhere close to failure, are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 12:47 PM
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OYS #21 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 90kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg 5,5,7 OP 37.5kg 5,5,6 DL 75kg 5 BP 55kg 5,5,6 BOR 65kg 5,5,10 Chin ups 5,4,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (30%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame. Lifting & Diet: lifted 3x. I’m not sure if it’s a virus or a bit of fatigue, but I’m doing a deload week now as it felt needed. I feel the fear of “dropping weight will mean I l…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 11:51 AM
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I appreciate you sharing. It broadens my perspective a bit
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 05:35 AM
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Hmmm. Maybe “not wanting to hurt her” is not the real fear. If I dig deeper it comes back to the oneitis - “yeah there’s great, maybe even better, pussy out there. But I’m not sure I find a woman like her again”. Again, I like her. You make a great point about stifling yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/24 08:03 AM
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Thanks for taking the time. I need to think about what I want some more. Also as u/boringandsucks suggested.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/24 07:50 AM
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I’m curious, can you spot the shit tests in your post?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 08:53 AM
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After thinking about it a bit, it’s harder because I don’t have a picture of what I want to change the dynamic to
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 07:46 AM
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I can. That was a part of my decision recently to get the snip. Even if I get divorced, no intention of ever starting a new family. I like my wife, and I wouldn’t want to risk hurting her. If I may be so bold to ask: how did you get past that?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 05:08 PM
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I do like my wife. Your observation is spot on. I repressed my masculinity and aimed for “equality” for the longest time. My perspective on this has totally changed - I love being a man. But changing my relationship dynamic is harder. With this in mind I have been struggling with “what do I want my relationship to look like” for a while now. My parent’s relationship is dreadful, so I’ve never seen a healthy model to aspire to. I had a conversation with my wife this weekend and we ended up expres…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 05:01 PM
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Just go out, and when the universe presents an attractive woman nearby, say some words to her. Do that 3-5 times, then come back next Tuesday and take your victory lap. You’re already in your head about drowning in a sea of pussy. Or are you gonna sit in the hotel room and jerk off? That sounds like the safe option…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:27 PM
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You have this belief that you talking means more chances of you making some mistake and others judging you Exactly. But filtering myself makes for boring conversation. Another area I need to step out of my comfort zone No? Its about how she feels, not about the past. Men try to create a logical explanation for why women feel what they feel. Damn. I always have something to think about when I read your breakdowns. I suppose it’s my ego telling me her feelings at every given moment must be in some…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 11:31 AM
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Thats the unfortunate reality I think the lack of intent/hesitation is two-fold: - I’m married and don’t intend to fuck around - I don’t see myself as a man that picks up women and fucks them, or believe it’s a possibility I can practise to get over #2 without violating #1 by trying to number close. If that makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 11:12 AM
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Situation 1: Hotel reception 9/10 Not much to report, I can’t count this as an open as it’s her job to be nice, but I deliberately moved it to “chatting”. Practised talking slowly and purposefully and making strong eye contact with a very attractive woman. Check. Chatted about the city, asked for her favourite things to do and got a recommendation on a cocktail bar. (This was a seed to a “what time do you get off? I know a great cocktail bar” line but I did not get enough of an IOI from her). Si…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 09:35 AM
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OYS #20 Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 89.5kg, 15%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg 5,5,7 OP 37.5kg 5,5,5 DL 75kg 5 BP 55kg 5,5,6 BOR 65kg 5,5,10 Chin ups 5,4,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (20%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame. Lifting & Diet: 3x lift sessions this week. I’ve been in a foreign country on business but got day passes to a local gym. Increased DL (+2.5kg). Career: was told my (anticipat…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 09:12 AM
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Thanking a woman for sex sets the tone that it’s something she gives you (like throwing scraps down to the dog) rather than something you give her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 05:03 AM
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I am talking to them and gaining confidence. Not wanting to fuck anyone else at the moment. I don’t know why I wrote that bit. Looking for approval I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 07:44 PM
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I might be over doing it saying he was fucking jacked. He wouldn’t be near competition level or anything. It’s more that he has my body type, and is still big. I reckon I could get to his level inside 2 years.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 12:27 PM
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OYS #19 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 89.5kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg 5,5,7 (still on hold for recovery) OP 37.5kg 5,5,5 DL 72.5kg 6 BP 55kg 5,5,6 BOR 65kg 5,5,10 Chin ups 5,4,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFGx2 (10%), MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame Lifting & Diet: 3x lift sessions this week. Increased weight on BOR (+2.5kg), OHP (+2.5kg), and DL (+2.5kg) and improved record slightly on chin ups. I have …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 08:30 AM
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By the way - her prefacing the break up speech with “I’m insanely attracted to you” is just manipulation
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 06:36 AM
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You attached your identity to the idea of being a great step-dad and white knight saviour to the single mum. That is why you feel so broken and lost, you said it yourself. You got the ILYBINILWY speech - it’s over dude. She’s just fucking you to keep her childcare options open, so she can hit the market and find someone new. You’re 30! Time to move on from the used up 40 year old single mum pussy and go fuck some 20 year olds. Have fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 06:33 AM
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Not bad for an OYS1 You talk a lot about eliminating unhealthy coping mechanisms (porn, excessive masturbation, etc). That’s good but these habits tend to come as a way of dealing with negative emotions, have you examined where they come from for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/24 08:59 AM
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Chill the fuck out Your best tool at such an early stage is to STFU
/r/askMRP07/06/24 06:06 AM
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Watch out for covert contracts around tracking her cycle (“oooh it’s ovulation time, it’s on tonight”)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 09:11 AM
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cant outlift a bad diet The irony of finally hitting 4 lift sessions/week but in the same week letting my diet slip expect it to fade out Lol, it already did! My instinct was “it’s a trap” because I knew she would forget about it and then I look weak for bringing it back up. So I ignored it. That’s a good point about negotiating desire, I hadn’t thought of it that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:48 PM
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Progress through NMMNG Do the breaking free exercises Requires time to research Check this post out
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:38 PM
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OYS #18 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 89.5kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg 5,5,7 (on hold for recovery) OP 35kg 5,5,6 DL 70kg 5 (on hold for recovery) BP 55kg 5,5,5 BOR 62.5kg 5,5,10 Chin ups 5,3,3 (rest negatives) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame (90%) 4 x lift sessions this week. Increased weight on BP (+2.5kg) and improved record on chin ups. I previously had to deload OHP but I’m getting clo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 12:06 PM
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I think I’ll look back at this post if I ever feel like I’m not making progress
/r/askMRP01/06/24 04:20 PM
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Decide which book to read pre-August You need to read all of them, but start with NMMNG because this post is full of covert contracts. Stop looking for shortcuts, there ain’t any.
/r/askMRP31/05/24 06:26 AM
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This is what I suspected. I need to lead and give structure. Thanks for the reply. She’s doing training/certification for the new career over the next few months then plans to get started. She does not want to be SAHM long term. But I probably need to keep an eye on this to make sure the ambition doesn’t dissipate.
/r/askMRP29/05/24 11:18 AM
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I’m a man that’s working on all of the above. But good to hear that this situation can be successful if done right
/r/askMRP29/05/24 07:36 AM
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Had sex Saturday. Pretty vanilla, but nice Nice is a pretty pathetic adjective for your fucking
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 05:58 PM
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Over the last 18 years she’s repeatedly suggested we divorce and I’ve always responded with ‘I’ll give more’ So we can instantly see who is more invested in the relationship. I guess from reading Rollo you know that she therefore has all the power You gotta put the work in to intrinsically value yourself above her
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 01:22 PM
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You are judging your progress from how your wife behaves and then reacting to it I find this a bit of a tightrope to walk On the one hand you’re right and so I am a dancing monkey But how else to recalibrate your married game, if not trying new shit and seeing what happens?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 12:40 PM
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What comes first: the lack of emotions or the lack of horniness? I guess both come from a man being a doormat Maybe I should be happy that I am seeing some emotions from her
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 12:37 PM
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women gonna be women I have always thought my wife is different because she’s not very emotional. I am starting to see it differently but you’re right I still have inner work to do there is a written topic here how you should fuck your wife’s friend I’ve read it. I’m not going to fuck her. I included it in my OYS because I felt myself getting a bit drunk on the validation (danger zone)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:23 AM
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OYS #17 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 89.5kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: Phrak’s so all 3x5 (accessories): SQ 55kg (+weighted lunges) OP 35kg (+overhead tricep extension) DL 70kg BP 52.5kg (+dips & push ups) BOR 62.5kg Chin ups can do 3x4 but not 3x5 yet (+bicep curls) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP, and Frame (60%) Recovering from vasectomy has been frustrating this week. Limited with working out, stuck in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 09:28 AM
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I had a similar experience. The novelty of me not being a bitch got her wet, but that novelty did wear off a bit. Enjoy it, and treat it as a signpost that you’re going in the right direction, but know that hard work is going to be required and some regressions inevitable.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 07:49 AM
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Post this at r/askmrp Sounds like anger phase
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/24 08:24 AM
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More word vomit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/24 07:17 PM
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I’m still being a pussy and not approaching Not an expert, but: Mystery’s 3 second rule. See, and do. Don’t leave any time to think.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/24 11:45 AM
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My wife seemed happy with me this week for some reason This sentence oozes lack of self esteem
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:53 AM
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Cheers. So less fat, more carbs, and LISS cardio while maintaining a surplus of TDEE + 300 (after accounting for the cardio calorie burn) will allow for me to keep gaining weight but “leaner”?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:14 AM
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Then it’s purely a question of time. Is the time you would have to invest worth it? Are you willing to deprioritise other areas of your life to get it done?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 09:06 AM
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Given your situation, why would you pay so much money for a masters degree? It does depend on the field, but in my experience bachelors gets you in the door, then you can grind and move up.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 08:55 AM
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OYS #16 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 89kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: Phrak’s so all 3x5 (accessories): SQ 55kg (+weighted lunges) OP 35kg (+overhead tricep extension) DL 70kg BP 52.5kg (+dips & push ups) BOR 62.5kg Chin ups 4, rest negatives (+bicep curls) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, 48LOP (85%) and Frame (10%) Health & Fitness: 1 x lifting (increased weight on DL), 1 x Krav Maga this week. Missed two lifts due…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 08:41 AM
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Thanks man. Will look into this some more.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/24 08:03 PM
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Well I didn’t listen to a paperback
/r/askMRP17/05/24 07:53 PM
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Yeah, I listened on Apple Books on my phone. It works really well as an audio book. I still can’t get “I want my meat” out of my head.
/r/askMRP17/05/24 06:43 PM
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hold yourself accountable each week for progress I agree, the process of writing out OYS is good for reflection and to keep yourself accountable. But I have also found that it’s impossible to identify all of your own weak spots and bullshit, so feedback can be valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/24 07:09 AM
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You come here and bitch about your wife while you’re busy fantasising about playing video games and fucking other women. Is that you operating at your full potential?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/24 01:27 PM
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Don’t know why I wrote the word emotional. But I suppose in this scenario again where she has cooled off a bit I would give a massage as a “bridge” to foreplay
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/24 09:48 AM
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I’m booked in for this Friday for the same reasons
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 04:17 PM
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Everything you say here seems bang on the money. she was not stimulated enough there is some kind of deficiency in your game My guess would be this: - day 1 she was horny but had a headache so scheduled it for next day - day 2 rolled around, we did the kids bedtime which cooled her off, then the scheduled sex time rolls around and although she’s not as horny, she gets naked and waits on the bed for me - I come in, find her like that and think she’s good to go, so don’t do any emotional “warming …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 01:43 PM
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OYS #15 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 88.4kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg, OP 35kg, DL 67.5kg, BP 52.5kg, BOR 62.5kg, Chin ups 4, the rest negatives. Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, and 48LOP (70%). Health & Fitness: 3 lift sessions this week. Worked on my technique a bit and started planking every day to improve my core strength. I feel like this will help me move up in weight. Gained another 0.4kg (now +5.4k…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 10:45 AM
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The answer to the pull techniques is: yes, I do these quite regularly The answer to the push techniques is: almost never. I guess I am all pull and no push, which I’m aware comes across needy which in turn makes me lose confidence with it. write about your results next week Challenge accepted, will do.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/24 12:56 PM
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I see this men’s group as a bit of crutch for now, but that’s a good reminder that I do need to eventually kick that crutch away
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 11:44 AM
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I have the same challenge with getting too many calories from fat. This is really helpful. I am on 3,000cals/day, 200g protein. If I scale back fat target to 60g/day, it tells me I need 400g carbs. Question that’s maybe also relevant for u/witchdoctor_1, how the fuck can you eat 400g carbs per day?!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 07:41 AM
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That explains quite a lot of my failures and successes actually. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 03:23 PM
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The context of this one is: Night 1: “I would like a blow job now” (had ok success with being direct and expressing what I want in the past). Her: “I’m tired, tomorrow”. Night 2: “are you going to give me a blowjob?”. This sounds serious but it was done in a playful way. I did not pick this example because it was me at my best, I wrote it because it happened last night lol. I already thought I fucked it up. I try to make sure to never ask “can you”. But maybe you’re right that should be extended…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 01:05 PM
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Shark week so pretty much like this: make strong eye contact until she breaks “are you going to give me a blowjob?” She is always apologetic giving a hard no, but that’s not much use to me
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 09:42 AM
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I don’t expect to “get” in the sense of it being served on a plate to me, or it being some kind of reward for me working on myself. It’s just difficult to calibrate: do I ignore it and continue working on myself for internal validation, or do I use the external validation (that I’m not getting her panties wet) as fuel for self improvement. I feel like in the latter, I’m going down the dancing monkey path though.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 09:34 AM
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OYS #14 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 88kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: Phrak’s so all 3x5 (accessories): SQ 55kg (+weighted lunges) OP 35kg (+overhead tricep extension) DL 67.5kg BP 52.5kg (+dips & push ups) BOR 62.5kg Chin ups 4, the rest negatives (+bicep curls) Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Models, and 48LOP (55%). Health & Fitness: 3 lift sessions. I really attacked it this week and feel like I got back on track. Incre…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 08:38 AM
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Well selling your house will be a legal thing, so not totally retarded, but you should’ve been more specific You should own your shit tomorrow in the main sub
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:50 PM
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Do you always have to be spoonfed like this? There is a whole section of the sidebar related to divorce prep, for fuck sake
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:04 PM
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I was open with my gf that I was unhappy Find a men’s group or something where you can share this (a safe person as Glover puts it) After I read NMMNG I started going to a local men’s mental health group to offload my anxiety Your woman might support you with your feelings, but she doesn’t want to
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/24 06:18 AM
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It is, but to be honest it’s working for me as something overarching to anchor my judgements and decisions on. All good things I’ve experienced since starting MRP have come when pushing myself and exploring my potential. If I’m not doing that, I’m comfortable.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 10:25 AM
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It’s worse than that. I added that weight in the first 2 months. The last month everything flatlined. This call out will help get this moving again. Just set a new DL record an hour ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/24 10:20 AM
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This post comes across full of ego. You read NMMNG and found MRP in the last 6 weeks, yet present situations as though you have some impenetrable frame. Maybe it’s true and you will have it easy. In case not, I got some good advice on my OYS2 maybe worth repeating: be wary of dancing monkey success and walking away from this place prematurely
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 04:38 PM
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”whats your mission?” “For you to worship me” Seriously?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 11:40 AM
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OYS #13 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 87kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg, OP 35kg, DL 65kg, BP 50kg, BOR 60kg. PGSLP so all 3x5. Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, Day Bang, 48LOP (55%) and Models (50%). Mission: to chase my full potential as a man Health & Fitness: 2 lift sessions this week, I’ll be honest should’ve been 3 but I drank too much at a work social event and slept through the chance while away. Kept the diet going as b…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 11:03 AM
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I detect from this and previous posts that you have issues with your height. Are you skinny, like me? I imagine being 6”8 you get a lot of comments ranging from irritating (how’s the weather up there) to borderline insulting. I know because I’m 6”3 and I get them from insecure short guys. What’s your mental image of yourself? Do you hate your body? You could frame it in a negative light, or you could think about how imposing and dominant a man you could be at 6”8 and 225lbs of muscle. Or maybe I…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 09:15 AM
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What were you thinking before you approached those women? How did you feel? The two on the street: I was in a good mood, confident, but also anxious about what to say. I hesitated before approaching both. The one in the airport: I felt relaxed, I saw her and thought I would like to approach her. Saw an opportunity to do it on the escalator, so just blurted something out. No chance to overthink. Girl in the coffee shop 2 days ago: I felt cocky and relaxed, just blurted something out 3 seconds aft…
/r/askMRP29/04/24 07:47 AM
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most people are excited and enthusiastic to talk to people who are excited and enthusiastic to talk to them That’s a cool way of putting it and might explain my feelings about being super indirect, like asking about the pen she’s writing with for 3 minutes. I don’t see how I could come across excited and enthusiastic with that. Yesterday I opened a woman by just casually saying “is the coffee any good here?”, which led immediately into a playful exchange about her being indecisive
/r/askMRP28/04/24 05:40 AM
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Yeah that’s something I learned here. I was thinking “it’s only been 2 minutes, better let it go”. But if I’d asked, still a good chance I’d have got the number
/r/askMRP28/04/24 05:34 AM
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I wasn’t sure this was worthy of the main sub. I noticed I still asked too many questions, that’s a work in progress.
/r/askMRP26/04/24 04:45 PM
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you don’t need logistics to game women I used it as a bit of an excuse for delaying and psyching myself out. But in Day Bang each chapter has a section on “logistics”, like the best places to sit in a coffee shop, etc. Some of this was going through my mind, like “I have my back to her, so I’m in a bad position. Maybe I should walk past and approach side on”. what stopped you from doing it Good question. The insecurities going through my head were kind of the societal messages of sexual harassme…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/24 09:11 AM
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At no point did I consider that a win, in fact my view was that I wasted an opportunity
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/24 08:22 PM
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Ah, the masculine/feminine polarity, got it thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 04:41 AM
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report back with some notes I actually just spontaneously went to a rooftop bar on my own after I landed. Went to the bar and ordered a drink. Noticed that directly behind me was an 8/10 on her own reading a book. Reading a book alone in a loud bar. Figured that was too perfect to pass up so I would approach when I had my drink. Problem is the drink took 15 minutes to arrive, which really psyched me out. As it arrived, I figured because logistics were bad (back to her) I would drink half so I co…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 09:42 PM
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My wife is one of those people that just never stops, so it’s not about who does the dishes. It’s about generally who’s running shit and setting the direction. In the past it was always her. And I used to think she liked it that way. Since MRP I’ve realised I was wrong, she wants a leader. I’m better at it too. So that dynamic seems to work well for our relationship, it’s just easy to let it slip and revert back.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 03:21 PM
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polarizing Can you give an example? Do you mean negging? Or do you mean not being so agreeable?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 11:34 AM
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OYS #12 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 87kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg, OP 35kg, DL 65kg, BP 50kg, BOR 60kg. PGSLP so all 3x5. Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method, 48LOP (50%) and Day Bang (50%). Health & Fitness: only managed 1 lift session this week as had to prioritise work and life. But I continue to gain weight (now +4kg since OYS1) and look better for it. I did some research ahead of a trip this week and found a hotel out of …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/24 08:39 AM
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You’re making excuses for shit you need to own. Here it’s that this guy is just so incredible and what can you do. But you’ve also mentioned ADHD, your dad, your genetics, etc. Own your lack of self esteem. Nobody here can fix that for you. Get the fuck out there and do something.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/24 08:39 PM
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Thanks, I can see how that is a lot more playful and interesting than just flat out asking the question. But isn’t that still telegraphing too much interest for the attraction stage? It’s ironic - my biggest hangup about an opening conversation with a woman has always been not wanting to come across boring. So I have tried to be a “good listener” (BP conditioning) and learn about them with questions. The game material I’m reading now (and RP conditioning) tells me the opposite - that what I’m do…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/24 09:26 AM
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Jesus, this is an absolute shit show the guy has an objectively higher SMV than me What are you basing that on, and what are you going to do about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/24 09:41 PM
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the best thing to do is probably incrementally ramping up asking for more sexual things Asking for sex? How do you think that’s going to work out for you? Here’s a clue: you cannot negotiate desire Edited: don’t wanna get ahead of myself with giving others advice
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 11:06 AM
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OYS #11 (2wks since last OYS) Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 86.3kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg, OP 35kg, DL 65kg, BP 50kg, BOR 60kg. PGSLP so all 3x5. Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me, Mystery Method (read cover to cover this week). Reading 48LOP (45%) and Day Bang (40%). Health & Fitness: 3-4 weeks ago I started struggling to sleep and having issues in the gym (loss of strength and energy). I ignored it and pushed harder. 2 weeks ago, my body …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/24 10:58 AM
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This is what I mean when I say part of my MAP is to “be less serious”. For sure I give less fucks since I found MRP, but still a long way from having general DGAF attitude. How to cultivate that though? Is it another case of fake it till you make it?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 05:49 AM
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My everlasting passion is trying new things That seems like a pretty cool basis for a mission. So what new thing do you commit to trying between now and next Tuesday?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 05:41 AM
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He was right about the 0/10 evangelism bit
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/24 05:17 AM
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Your anxiety stems from the fact that you deep down thank you suck I agree. I started having problems with anxiety like 5 years ago in a sort of burnout episode at work. I tried therapy, medications, and all that shit. Some things helped. The thing that has relieved my anxiety the most is MRP and working on myself. How are you going to change that core mindset? The answer I come up with: by objectively not sucking, improving my inner game, and not relying on external validation. More practically…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 01:17 PM
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OYS #10 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 85kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg, OP 35kg, DL 65kg, BP 50kg, BOR 60kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me and a lot of MRP posts. Reading 48LOP (35%) and Day Bang (40%). Health & Fitness: lifted 3x this week, increased weight on BP and DL. Food tracking has helped me get into a regular eating habit of 3,100 calories (TDEE 2800) and 180g protein minimum daily (+5g creatine/day). This is working, as I gained ano…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 11:22 AM
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You’re right, I didn’t understand that. Any recommended reading on that subject?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 06:12 PM
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Read Can’t Hurt Me. Author used to be 300lbs and it will help cultivate the mindset you’ll need.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/24 06:35 AM
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What’s your height, weight and bf %? if I ramp this up over time, I’ll make intimacy so normal that sex just happens Covert contract? Two things I can do… A lot of plans being made in your head. Just do them both. And use your time at the cafe to talk to women
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 01:25 PM
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OYS #9 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 84.5kg, 15%bf. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 55kg, OP 35kg, DL 62.5kg, BP 47.5kg, BOR 60kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me and a lot of MRP posts. Reading 48LOP (30%) and Day Bang (20%). Health & Fitness: Lifted 3x this week, increased weight on SQ. Finally able to do some regular chin ups instead of just negatives now too. Diet has been my #1 focus this week. I exceeded my calories and protein targets every day. Pleased …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 08:58 AM
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I’m lifting, have increased calories by 600/day and started tracking (hitting) macros. I will start on creatine next week
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 10:11 PM
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Fuck. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 12:19 PM
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Toothpick with 15.5% bf. Just measured.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 10:21 AM
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I absolutely believe that to be true. Like I said I suspect it’s her stress that is “shutting her down”. But maybe it’s also that I’m not attractive / exciting enough to lead her out of that…yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/24 09:42 AM
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yell at her, call her out on her bullshit Yeah I pretty much have never done this. It’s embarrassing to say but pre-MRP I’ve been fearful of any kind of conflict and not wanted to “rock the boat”. Justified it to myself as “it’s not worth it”. Since I found MRP, I’ve almost exclusively STFU with a bit of game. Only now a few months in, am I starting to feel self confident and assertive enough to begin calling shit out. A very simple example from a few days ago…me to wife “stop leaving your shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 03:36 PM
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It was more that I didn’t want to fool myself into thinking I was making initial gains when it was just water in my muscles. But yeah probably overthinking it. I will get some.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 10:23 AM
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Have you read the sidebar? Use the time while you’re injured to work on your social and read till your eyes bleed
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 07:31 AM
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I want it to be really good Fuck her like theres no tomorrow. Have your way with her. But remember her orgasm is her responsibility
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 07:22 AM
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You don’t subscribe to cuddles being required then?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 01:57 PM
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Absolutely a covert contract. I think my wife responding sexually early on made me think that was a new baseline, and something I was due because of the work I was doing on myself. When she then cooled down, I got pissed. It’s an ongoing process.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 12:38 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 84kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 52.5kg, OP 35kg, DL 62.5kg, BP 47.5kg, BOR 60kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me and a lot of MRP posts. Reading 48LOP (25%) and Day Bang (15%) Health & Fitness: managed 4 sessions this week, and increased weight on BOR and DL. I channeled my sexual frustration (spoiler alert) into one particular session where I managed to also increase weight on OHP. That was the hardest I’ve ever worke…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 08:37 AM
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STFU, hit the sidebar hard, and mourn your relationship, because either way it ain’t ever gonna be the same again
/r/askMRP14/03/24 05:08 PM
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all the binge eating that I used to do What was causing you to binge eat?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/24 12:12 PM
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The answer is: the sum total of everything I’ve read and done since I found this place. At least - that gives it a chance of success for me. Still getting my fair share of no thank you’s over here though.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/24 08:59 PM
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Not trying to get attaboys at work, I am trying to make myself as visible as possible to secure a promotion. Maybe you’re right about a third reading of NMMNG and re-do of the exercises being in order.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 08:33 PM
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always assume attraction That’s a good one and together with the comment below about “fake it till you make it” that’s a good reminder, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 08:25 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 84kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 52.5kg, OP 32.5kg, DL 60kg, BP 47.5kg, BOR 57.5kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM, Can’t Hurt Me and a lot of MRP posts. Reading 48LOP (15%) Health & Fitness: had stomach flu this week. Managed to lift twice and maintain weight in spite of it which I will chalk up as a win. When I did lift, I increased my SQ and BP and did my first couple of chin ups. I am still well short of being able to bench the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/24 10:12 AM
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Here’s a list of actions I’ve taken since starting my journey 2.5 months ago, from the top of my head: Started lifting, had a private session with a PT to learn what the hell I was doing, saw a physio to get strengthening exercises Learnt about and took charge of the family finances Introduced some dominance to the bedroom and challenged some of my mental models around sex Started gaming and kino’ing my wife Started talking to strangers more and improved my eye contact Organised action dates for…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/24 12:59 PM
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Acting without thinking, sounds a bit Rambo, no?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/24 07:31 AM
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Your personal mission is all about other people? Wtf?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 06:52 AM
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Your plans are solid. But move the last one to the top. Your daughter’s world is about to be turned upside down. Read WISNIFG to help deal with manipulation. It is good as an audio book too.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/24 06:43 AM
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Let’s have it - what are your kino moves? Are they subtle enough or are you grabbing her ass? Your wife not wanting to be touched by you clearly pisses you off. Next time, channel it into lifting instead of opening your mouth
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 06:04 PM
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running to mommy to provide you with comfort with times are tough Yes, this is still an instinct (even if I do my best not to act on it). And so is masturbating, and in the past porn. It’s all about making the bad fee fee’s go away, and I need to find better ways to cope.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 05:32 PM
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I have quit porn. But had the first slip up in the last 2 weeks and used it when I was away on a business trip, this was me trying to examine why. Our sex life has improved a lot, but we’ve been separated for a couple of weeks and otherwise ill. That is probably why the mental masturbation is creeping in.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 10:03 AM
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OYS #6 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 84.3kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 50kg, OP 32.5kg, DL 60kg, BP 45kg, BOR 57.5kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP, WOTSM and a lot of MRP posts. Also reading Can’t Hurt Me (80%) and 48LOP (10%) Lifting & Style: increased weight on all lifts since last OYS. Started eating eggs - I don’t like them but I’m learning to. I am noticing muscle gains, my wife is commenting on this a lot too. I want to keep gaining before I upgrade my dress style for…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/24 09:24 AM
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Mission: to be an accomplished writer and musician Accomplished according to whom? What about striving to be the most accomplished writer and musician that you can be?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 06:55 PM
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Why does this conversation have to involve you blurting out exactly what you think? Why not listen and ask pointed questions instead if you want to be clever? If anything women like it more when you don’t reveal what you think and keep it a mystery. At least that’s how I intend to deal with it when I have a strong enough frame/game. Until then, I STFU.
/r/askMRP27/02/24 07:56 AM
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So the problem is not necessarily the comparison itself but the fact that I am deriving joy (or the opposite) from it…Which comes from a weak / no frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 07:55 PM
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Thanks. I read it. I’m pretty narcissistic, something I see for myself and something my therapist commented on a few years back. I can see how one can embrace the psychopathy side too with things like NGAF, being bold, being unapologetic etc etc. My weakness is on the Machiavellianism side because I’m a fairness/equality nice guy. Those “I act this way so it’s only fair the other person acts that way” covert contracts hold me back. I think reading 48LOP and taking some concepts into the field wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 12:11 PM
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The generally accepted wisdom around here is: rule #1 of fight club prevails. Do not speak to your wife about NMMNG. Glover himself later recognised it was not a good idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/24 08:08 AM
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Someone put me on to this recently regarding bench press technique. It has really helped so maybe it will help you too? You have a similar height/weight/age to me. Haven’t read your whole post history, so don’t know if there’s injuries or something, but your lift numbers seem very low for OYS#17. Some are even lower than mine, and I’m a fucking pussy (working on it). What’s going on?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:59 PM
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OYS #5 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 83kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 50kg, OP 30kg, DL 55kg, BP 42.5kg, BOR 55kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP (70%) and a lot of MRP posts. Also reading Can’t Hurt Me (50%). Mission: Until I’ve defined something better: To put myself on a pedestal, instead of my wife/others. To not let anxiety prevent me from being bold and getting what I want in life. Health & Fitness: hit every lift this week and increased weight on SQ and OHP. Last week I…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 12:24 PM
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That is exactly what she was conveying, and exactly how I should’ve responded
/r/askMRP18/02/24 05:56 PM
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Yeah I see a covert contract here about me doing x and thus expecting the same in return
/r/askMRP17/02/24 12:04 PM
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Maybe. The subtext was “why are you working at the weekend for a job you hate and are probably being made redundant from”. But in the end it’s her decision
/r/askMRP17/02/24 06:39 AM
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I do, yeah. This is a good way of looking at it. I’m having some time for myself and choosing what to do with it. So is she. I should only be focused on the former.
/r/askMRP17/02/24 06:30 AM
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Seems to be the consensus and I agree. I’m trying to figure out why I was so concerned with it. It’s probably because I decided that although I have a ton of work I need to do, i see the weekend as “time as a family / time to take care of the kids” so I will prioritise that instead. Then I’m holding her to my judgement/standard, which is wrong, I guess.
/r/askMRP17/02/24 06:18 AM
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The idea was to save money to be used if/when I ever wanted to get the nuke process started (lawyer fees, deposit on an apartment or whatever). But I think what you propose is a better place to start given my situation. Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 08:42 PM
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OYS #4 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 83kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 47.5kg, OP 27.5kg, DL 55kg, BP 42.5kg, BOR 55kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook, MAP (50%) and a lot of MRP posts. Mission: To put myself on a pedestal, instead of my wife/others. To not let anxiety prevent me from being bold and getting what I want in life. Health & Fitness: missed 1 lift session last week to see the physio instead, but I am happy with what I learnt from this, both the strengthening exercises/ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/24 02:31 PM
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Thanks. Just watched a load of his videos, he’s great. Yes there’s a problem with my shoulder. But I catastrophised and played the victim in my head (woe is me). I take a valuable lesson here. This will happen again, next time I need to not freak out and obsess over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 08:12 PM
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Also told that switching to neutral grip dumb bell press not necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 08:51 AM
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Update on the shoulder for anybody interested: Nothing torn. Impingement. Root cause is weakness in upper delt and rotator cuff muscles, plus some stiffness on one side, causing me to overcompensate with the shoulder during the bench. Got strengthening exercises and stretches to do. Blast ibuprofen and should be able to do shoulder/chest routine next week. Can feel myself getting lazy so going to the gym today to do some squats, and ab/bicep work.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 08:45 AM
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You might be right (that it’s normal strained pain). I haven’t missed a lift session yet, I am going to base my next steps on what the physio says tomorrow. If little to no recovery is needed (and I just need to man up), I would be very happy with that outcome, even if I wasted 90 bucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 12:27 PM
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OYS #3 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 83kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 45kg, OP 27.5kg, DL 55kg, BP 42.5kg, BOR 55kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook (60%), MAP (10%) and a lot of MRP posts. Mission: To put myself on a pedestal, instead of my wife/others. To not let anxiety prevent me from being bold and getting what I want in life. Health & Fitness: Appreciate being called out in my OYS last week. As a result I increased my DL weight, got into shakes and my protein intake is now clo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/24 09:16 AM
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It’s not something I can control, so I felt like I would just be complaining. I am instead focusing on attractiveness through things like lifting, game, and my social life and just going to see what happens long term with the sex frequency.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/24 10:53 AM
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Thanks. You may be right, but I am still considering myself a long way from sorted so I’m not going anywhere. I have written about a success in the bedroom but deliberately not focused on the remaining issues in that area (e.g. sex twice in the last 3 months). Not to mention how much work there is to do socially, and in the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/24 06:41 AM
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I’m currently doing protein bars. I always found the shakes make me fart. Not the best for attractiveness
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 03:59 PM
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You guys are right. This morning just happened to be DL day in the gym. Already correcting this and adding weight
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 12:24 PM
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Under “life” you just have words about your relationship and sex life. Anything else going on in your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 09:12 PM
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You’re right, that doesn’t make sense. I’ve been focused on form too much with the DL I think, need to step it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 03:46 PM
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OYS #2 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 83kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ 42.5kg, OP 25kg, DL 45kg, BP 42.5kg, BOR 52.5kg Read: NMMNGx2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, SGM, Book of Pook (30%) and a lot of MRP posts. Mission: To put myself on a pedestal, instead of my wife/others. To not let anxiety prevent me from being bold and getting what I want in life. Health & Fitness: On track with the lifts this week. I feel more like a man. I can feel some of my old rationalisations cracking (“I haven’t got the body type”, “…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 08:43 AM
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Audio books on your phone. NMMNG, WISNIFG and Pook all great as audio books. MMSLP and SGM work as books on your phone as you can just read in small doses.
/r/askMRP28/01/24 08:47 AM
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Thanks, your post got me going with Phrak’s and this is helpful too. Any general advice for recovery? Or is it a case of “get used to it”?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/24 06:17 AM
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OYS #1 Stats: 34yo, 6”3, 83kg. Married 6y, 2 young kids. Lifts: SQ tbc, OP 25kg, DL 45kg, BP tbc, BOR 45kg Read: NMMNGx2 (what led me here), WISNIFG, MMSLP, RM, SGM, Book of Pook (20%) Mission: To put myself on a pedestal, instead of my wife/others. To not let anxiety prevent me from being bold and getting what I want in life. Health & Fitness: This week I entered a gym and lifted weights for the first time in over 10 years. I was extremely intimidated (I am and have always been a skinny guy) bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 02:17 PM
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