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mrpwtf/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 08:55 AM
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This clearly isn’t aimed at the guys who’ve already read the sidebar. It’s aimed at the guys who make their way here from deadbedrooms and see that the entire front page is filled with posts by automoderator, except for a locked should-have-been-askmrp post, a mediocre metaphor post, and a “why is the sub dead” post. /u/Suitable_Whole_8914, I applaud you for trying to add value. There’s nothing new under the sun. That doesn’t mean there’s no value in presenting a new perspective on the same shit…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/26 12:05 AM
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Half of this seems to says it’s over, she made her choice, and the other half says you’re holding out hope. I don’t know what this means, which is whatever, but do you know what this means?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/26 05:54 PM
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What choice are you presenting her with? Is it “Vegas or me”? Consider “Stop acting like you’re single or be single”.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/26 03:52 AM
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Every time I read one of your OYS posts the core of it is that your girl wants to act like she’s single and you struggle with whether it’s okay that your girl acts like she’s getting strange dick regularly. “You’re the man I want in my life.” “Then act like it.” My wife went on a girls trip to Vegas last year. I didn’t stress about it but my wife also doesn’t act like she’s looking to hook up with strangers all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 06:15 PM
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Your dithering and indecisiveness come from your constant fear of judgement. This manifests in your story about going shooting. You were not “reactive”. You were afraid of looking bad. If you were shooting by yourself with no one to judge you, would you honestly have felt the same? Why didn’t you just ask for tips from these more experienced shooters? Same with your wife. She looks grossed out when you “hint” at a bj because she can sense your fear of judgement. You can’t confidently tell her to…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 05:55 PM
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Then there is no incongruence. Rather, your real you matches your outside behavior. This was my core point. There is no incongruence between who you are and what you do. There might be incongruence between who you are and who you believe yourself to be (delusion) or who you aspire to be (goal). And certainly there might be giant gaps between your actions and the way the world or others respond. (Don’t be a dancing monkey.) But what you do and who you actually are are congruent.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 04:24 PM
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Thanks. I think we are broadly in agreement. I did indeed initially interpret your comment to be a bit encouraging of navel gazing (“You’re whoever you feel like you are inside!”) which is why I asked for clarification on this mental model. I figured I must have been misinterpreting.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/26 04:19 PM
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I mulled this over for a while because I didn’t want to rush to respond. The distinction between the “shadow” you and the “cast the shadow” you is interesting and I have some thoughts about that, but it doesn’t really get to my point. Your distinction is about not looking at the way the world reflects who you are, but I’m saying who you are is about what you do, regardless of how the world responds. Let’s take a simple example. A guy says to himself “I’m a dude that lifts”. What makes him a dude…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/26 11:08 PM
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Glad to hear you’re not an incel anymore. So what are you here for? No goals, no mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/26 08:41 PM
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Fair. I don’t think he really arrived anywhere but he did take a step. Also agree he needs to take another step instead of standing around.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 10:42 PM
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Are you still an incel? Running is great but a 5k isn’t going you get you laid.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 10:14 PM
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I have not checked out yet but I am almost getting there. It looks like you are pulling away and hoping she’ll end the relationship because you don’t have the balls to walk away. The whole conversation was about how she can see how indecisive you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 10:09 PM
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You must see something I don’t. I see a guy who dropped a divorce threat and got laid once. I don’t see that he’s arrived anywhere yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 09:28 PM
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But you aren't what you do. You're who you are. … your actions belie what is in your mind. Serious question, what is the value of this mental model? It seems like a very circuitous way of establishing that you are in fact what you do. To the extent that actions and self-perception don’t align, the actions are reality and the perception is aspirational (or delusional). What we do seems like the only meaningful measure of who we are.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 09:19 PM
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Instead, work and life got in the way and it was simply impossible logistically, so I did not initiate even once. Excuses. You spent enough time with your wife to qualify her as “affectionate, fun and respectful” which means you spent enough time with her to fuck. “I’m getting home late again tonight. Sleep in something sexy because I’m waking you up.” “Set an alarm so we can get up early and fuck before the kids are awake.” “Turn the hotel TV on for the kids and let’s grab a shower together.” T…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/26 09:06 PM
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Rollo sometimes has interesting insights. This is not one of those times. This is a pity party for dads and a bit of self-fellatio for Rollo as he describes himself as revolutionary. An article full of lamentations about how “the feminine imperative” won’t value your efforts as a father and why you need to find just the right balance of alpha larping to raise a girl. The only meaningful bit here is to be a good example of a man. The rest is noise.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/26 05:37 PM
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Did you get laid off, fired, or quit? Regardless, yeah, you need to get a job. How long have you been a “house husband”?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/26 05:49 PM
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Your son is 3. Stop worrying about this shit and just be a good dad. You don’t need to worry about teaching him to not be a “nice guy” right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/26 06:03 PM
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bench & OHP felt really on the limit, won’t increase training max for those two 5/3/1 has specific guidance for calculating training max. You should just use that instead of going by feel. I am also trying to cause some drama on purpose to get some shit tests and pass them to get more confidence that this way of acting leads me to what I want. This sounds more like a covert contract than anything else. You are trying to train your behaviors based on her response. Why not just do what you think y…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/26 05:39 PM
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I find progress very difficult. Is progress slow but continuous? If so you’re probably fine. You’re nearly 50 and not likely to put on muscle like a 20 year old without drugs. Have you checked your hormones though?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 08:24 PM
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It's a new development Alternative interpretation is that it’s not a new development at all and these two chicks have been getting strange dick regularly for a long time. One of them just decided they don’t want to deal with hiding it anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 06:55 PM
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Kids who come from broken households, statistically, don't make it. Realize what you're doing. The fuck does this mean? Nearly half of kids these days come from “broken households”. If there's a chance, keep doing it for the kids. Fuck off with this nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 06:53 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/fhj4mq/so_you_got_the_i_love_you_but_im_not_in_love_with/ This should be in /r/askmrp and you should be proactively working to divorce as cleanly as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 06:51 PM
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Her friend decided to divorce her husband and "wanted to talk about it" for the second day in a row. Getting shit faced and staying out all night with her soon-to-be-divorcee friend seems like concerning behavior. I doubt your girl actually wants to be married. She certainly doesn't act like she wants to be. control my reactiveness to her choices Stoicism does not mean quietly bearing as much bullshit as possible. You can control your actions, not just how well you hide your emotions. I'm just s…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 07:13 AM
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No one is being "so rigid about this". You're annoyed that no one is validating your idea and lashing out. As Praexology already said, "Stop waiting for permission. If you want to do them do them."
/r/askMRP21/02/26 06:31 AM
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What’s the boundary she violated? I don’t want to invite a she/her victim dump, but I have to wonder if this is a boundary or more attempts at compliance testing by you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/26 12:25 AM
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Now would be a great time to practice STFU instead of DEERing to random dude online. You cannot win because there is nothing to win. Take the feedback, or don’t. And shut up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/26 12:22 AM
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i'm angry at xy because he/she never belived in me, even though i tried to prove my worth million times, which makes me feel like i can never be good enough. which triggers my insecurity about yz This is why dbmsmanagear said you’re a validation whore. This whole line of thought is about how mad you are that someone didn’t validate you and pat you on the head. Do you suck at “xy”? Because if you do, why should this person validate you? If you don’t suck at “xy”, why can’t you validate yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/26 07:16 PM
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I don't feel bad about following through with my plans. Then why did you mention it? You talked about your plans multiple times and how you went and did them despite her being out all night. You even explained that she shut you down by shaming you for following through on your plans. What’s the point of all this sharing if you didn’t feel bad about leaving your hungover wife with the kid all day? Also, where is she claiming to be for these hours after the bars close?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 09:39 PM
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This sub is all about men taking action and trading notes, so I think you should do it. Drop the divorce papers on her. Tell her you still want her to be your girlfriend. And report back on how it goes. Maybe you found a shortcut to bypass all that hard work. Maybe once she knows you explicitly want to leave her destitute she will overlook the facts that you are unattractive and have no options.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 09:13 PM
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I love the idea of you going through a divorce now, and then ending up common-law married to the same woman so you can get divorce raped by the same woman a second time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 08:11 PM
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Is the core issue that is disruptive to your plans or that you are worried she’s getting railed when you’re not there? You should figure out exactly what is acceptable and not acceptable to you. It’s fine for your boundaries to be whatever you want. But enforcing your boundaries may mean walking away. The day after, I slipped with STFU when she asked me what was bothering me for the tenth time after my workout with a “we still need to talk about the other night.” She replied “you went out all da…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 06:29 PM
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Your plan is to go through the hassle and cost of divorce, but then stay with this woman, and then also consider remarrying her in the future. “You’re not good enough to be my wife, but could you please be my girlfriend still?” This is the most absurd violation of iron rule #7, and it speaks volumes about your self-delusion and oneitis. You think you’re going to solve your problems by scaring her with a divorce. This is some extra idiotic version of FMOFY. Do you comment to try to shit on people…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 05:42 PM
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You are secretly planning to divorce your wife. But also secretly planning for maybe remarrying her in the future “if she can prove she’s worthy”. Are you stupid?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 05:48 AM
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There’s something off about saying you know control is an illusion and then explicitly hanging the future of your relationship off a compliance test. Also, what’s the actual issue? Is it the being out all night? Is it the fact it was unannounced? Is it that she didn’t follow your demand to come home? Do you know what you’re actually upset about? Do you know what this boundary is supposed to be? It sounds like she stepped on whatever supposed boundary and you retaliated the next day out of frustr…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 05:29 AM
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I don’t care what happens with my marriage. ... bettering my marriage You can't say you don't care about your marriage and then say you want to improve it. You need to be honest with yourself first.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/26 09:25 PM
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I told her that I could think of at least one acceptable alternative. She said “put a towel down?” and I said “no, use your mouth.” You wussed out. Next time say the words, dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/26 09:20 PM
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Sounds like an excuse to not try anymore. But you do you. See you again in 6-12 months under a new account when you “start over” again.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 08:11 PM
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Hobbies and social life – what social life? What are you doing to fix this? Sex life – I’m turning down duty sex and performative acts (or not even instigating them on the basis of “I need release”) which is helping to take away the awkward pressure and build a more real connection What sidebar did you read this in? You’re not building anything except resentment. You’re avoiding the butthurt you feel when you get rejected or get offered bad sex. I bet the most connected you’ve ever felt with you…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 07:41 PM
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Then why?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 07:10 PM
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A week ago you said imposing an arbitrary deadline was stupid and then you did it again. When’s the wedding? I predict you marry her while still unhappy with the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 12:45 AM
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Any advice on when to use WISNIFG tools vs RP / PUA style responses? Do whatever feels more natural for now. If you can AA it, cool. If AA comes off bitter and sarcastic, use negative inquiry or some other tool. You can also try different tools and see what works, and you can try a tool again later even if it’s not great right now. I need to get out and do more activities on the weekends. It's hard with two kids Take the kids to go do stuff sometimes, too. Harder with small kids but very doable.…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/26 11:45 PM
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You’re 25% fat and still well inside the range for noob gains. You are the prime target for a cut while still gaining strength or are least a recomp. You do you, but every pound of fat you add is another pound to lose later. And at your current level of fat, you are growing more actual fat cells, not just storing more in your existing ones, making the job harder forever.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/26 06:48 AM
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Maybe I asked the question wrong. You are getting fatter. Is that your goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/26 10:59 PM
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College athlete physicality. You’re 46. That’s going to require PEDs unless you’re talking about esports. Told wife my goal for the year was to own her ass. The fuck does this mean? Need to develop social group outside of marriage. Do it instead of saying you need to. OYS isn’t a place to share your hopes and dreams. It’s a place to say what you’re doing, what you’ve done, and what you fucked up. Excellence doesn’t seem too far away. And neither does mediocrity. I need to be held accountable and…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/26 06:07 PM
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207lbs, 25%bf I've increased it to 2,200 calories You are fatter than you were 2 months ago. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/26 05:37 PM
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Nowhere did I say anything about your physique or whether your girl likes skinny twinks. I said you’re lying about the work you’ve done. At the end of the day, MRP is about being attractive so that women want to have sex with you. That’s it. All this shit about trying to find the best play for this specific scenario is bullshit. An attractive man wouldn’t need to care about this, which is why you get different answers from different people. The actual answer doesn’t matter. Being attractive matt…
/r/askMRP23/01/26 04:59 PM
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your stated goal is to lose 43 pounds I believe (and hope) GP is intending to grow their lean mass from 143 to 150, not drop their total weight from 193 to 150. 150 on the scale would be a bad look for a 6’1” guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/26 04:55 PM
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The 1000 foot rope is a metaphor for why your wife might not respond to your changes and/or keep up. It is not an endorsement of covert contracts. An attractive man will have options. His current wife might not be a good one. You logically know this but you have not emotionally embraced it, which is why you’re DEERing to two different people any how you can see that you were in your wife’s frame but you recognized it so now you’re totally not.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 11:42 PM
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there’s a lot more work to do before I should expect to see my changes reflected by the actions of anyone else Dance monkey, dance Do it for yourself and not for anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 08:22 PM
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You’re obese. Nothing else matters. get to a point where I can feel reasonably good about my SMV. Way to aim high. I have cut down 200 more calories to a TDEE target around 2100 that I can realistically hit in the short term Low effort bullshit. At your level of fat, you should be losing 2lb/week. A much more appropriate calorie goal for you would be something like 1600. You’re 5’7” and mostly made of fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/26 05:01 PM
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Half of your OYS posts include a statement like “starting back at the gym”. I don’t know if your medical situation makes it harder for you to gain muscle, and that’s stuff for you to figure out with a doctor. I do know you’re lying about your work in the gym, and probably your work everywhere else. Coming here and asking for more advice is disrespectful when you’re not taking the advice you’ve been given. Go read Steel’s post and actually do the work. Or don’t. But stop lying about the work you …
/r/askMRP20/01/26 04:25 PM
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It’s a parable about stoicism literally changing the tide. About how a covert contract can come true if you just try hard enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/26 07:55 PM
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“You should lean,” said the Tide. “If you soften, I could wrap around you. We could be closer.” “I do not bend”, the Lighthouse replied. “I should really seek medical attention. It’s been like this for way more than 4 hours.”
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/26 11:52 PM
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You’ve been posting in MRP for 5 years and in that time you’ve gotten fatter and weaker. Now you lament that her SMV is higher so you can’t enforce boundaries. Fuck all the way off.
/r/askMRP15/01/26 11:10 PM
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And I didn’t realize it till today, but that text killed my oneitis. If it actually killed your oneitis, you wouldn't have been angry all week. edit: Oh, you're the guy who says he's OI because he's angry. There's a pattern here involving your anger and your self-delusion.
/r/askMRP13/01/26 07:38 AM
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I thought it was his big sweaty girl.
/r/askMRP13/01/26 07:27 AM
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Hah. I don't remember that but next time get that extra rep or make your spotter bail you out. Win/win. Just keep going.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 07:16 AM
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Kindle edition is 3 goddamn dollars and less than 200 pages. I don't think it's a great book, but it's not hard to be worth $3.
/r/askMRP13/01/26 07:14 AM
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I don’t have much other advice. Do the stuff you care about, fuck up and learn, get feedback if you need it, do it again better. Don’t worry about being solid. That’ll come when and where you earn it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/26 02:09 AM
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Before I read up on frame here I knew some people as "solid" and other as "shaky", that's what I want. To be me regardless of outside forces, no expectations other than my own. Someone who doesn’t know how to lift will be “shaky” the first few times they go to the gym and probably every time they try something new in the gym for a long time. Someone who doesn’t know how to play baseball will be shaky the first time they play. People are solid for things they are comfortable and confident in. And…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/26 02:02 AM
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Mental: I need frame. I need to do things for me. I need… Need less. What do you want? And don’t just replace the word need with want and write the same thing. This is too abstract anyway. Don’t say you need frame. What’s a thing you actually want that you believe your lack of frame is holding you back from? Work on achieving that thing. What’s a thing you want to do for yourself? Go do that actual thing. I watched Mark Mansons solved emotional regulation video & it helped a lot You won’t know u…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 06:09 AM
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This is performative bullshit. It’s the cliff notes of what you think you should be doing but there’s nothing here but fluff. Where’s the part where you tried something and failed? Where’s the part where you tried to get laid but your wife was grossed out? Where’s the part where you did anything concrete? “ChatGPT, write an OYS for me. Don’t include any meaningful details but try to make it sound like I’m getting it now.”
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/26 05:24 AM
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I have 0 outcome independence unless I’m angry. That’s not meaningful OI. “I’m already angry so I can’t get angry at being rejected” is dumb. It’s also probably not true. I bet if you initiate when you’re angry and get rejected you get butthurt and seethe.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 06:41 PM
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So you want to have a great sex life but you’re not even attempting to have sex with your wife (or anyone else). “Kiddo is napping. Let’s go fuck.” Stop waiting and act. Maybe you have sex. Maybe she says no. Maybe the kid wakes up and ruins it. Whatever. Act. Same applies for your novel. If that’s something you care about, act. Create the outline. Start writing. Take action. Or don’t. It’s always been your choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/26 06:37 PM
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If she is recently postpartum, then yeah, telling her that you’re not attracted because she’s too fat is probably not the way to go. Especially if she’s already working on it. The key thing is you need to stop bullshitting yourself, though. There’s a lot of bullshit in what you’re writing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/26 05:18 AM
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What are you butthurt about, then? I'm definitely the gatekeeper for sex Just being avoidant doesn’t make you the gatekeeper in any meaningful way. An unattractive man who refuses to have sex with his unattractive wife is not a standard to aspire to.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/26 04:40 AM
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The motivation for adulting wasn't for sex. Except Unfortunate part is that I couldn't isolate until like 6 hours later at which point it wasn't happening. It’s sure weird that you took the time to explain to randos online how unfortunate it is that you couldn’t immediately parlay your basic adulting into sexual intercourse if that wasn’t the motivation. The dynamic isn't what I want Do you ever just tell her you want her to suck you to completion? Not negotiate. Just state what you want? Nothin…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/26 03:46 AM
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You’re jerking off to porn and fantasizing about cheating instead of fucking your wife. I don’t know much about you except what I’ve read here, but unless she is physically repellant, this reeks of butthurt. I bet this is less resentment and more fear. You avoid sex because you don’t want the rejection, the conflict. You’re way too much in your head and trying to be in hers. If she was just a bitch and you didn’t care about her judgement you’d either leave her (if bad enough) or just hate fuck h…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/26 04:42 PM
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I honestly still don't have much attraction for her though. I haven't initiated sex again because I didn't want to; I watched porn instead. I just keep working on my self and thinking about getting some side pussy. Stop watching porn and fuck your wife. If she’s so unattractive that you really have no desire to fuck her then it’s time to tell her bluntly she needs to lose weight or you need to move on. Mission: To rebuild my old life. Oof. “Never ending ascent” sounds good if a bit corporate spe…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/26 07:45 AM
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You’re needy and clingy. Why can’t you just be an adult for its own sake instead of as a pathetic attempt to get into her pants? Your own description of your bedroom adventures makes you sound weird as fuck. She starts talking about cunnilingus technique books after you make her come? You’re negotiating for blowjobs? Christ.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/26 06:54 AM
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This is mental masturbation. You’re not even lean and in the last month you’ve only shed 3 kg. Look, if your hormones are fucked, address them with medicine (if needed), but this sounds mostly like a bunch of bullshit. No one has measured your NEAT, but you cite this anyway, so it’s clear at least some of this is just bullshit excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/25 06:14 PM
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There are two separate scenarios here. Long term you shouldn’t still be relying on tactics at all with your wife. If you request feedback, you shouldn’t be deflecting it. There’s no point in asking for feedback if you don’t want to hear it.
/r/askMRP03/12/25 05:23 PM
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You’d have so much child support to pay with all your illegitimate bastards running around.
/r/askMRP21/11/25 06:02 PM
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The problem is you can always go find a study that supports whatever supplement because 1) random chance ensures you sometimes get the results you want, and 2) studies sponsored by supplement companies hawking their custom formulas somehow tend to find positive results more often than independent studies. (Interesting, that.) Fenugreek - No effect example: https://digitalcommons.wku.edu/ijesab/vol2/iss1/13/ Ashwagandha, there might actually be something to this one. Quick check indicates a few s…
/r/askMRP21/11/25 07:33 AM
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“No, no. This chick I don’t want to fuck but gave up spinning plates for is totally different than that other chick I don’t want to fuck but gave up spinning plates for.” Come back in two years and tell us about the new new chick you don’t want to fuck but you’re monogamous with because she helps you with your tax paperwork or whatever.
/r/askMRP21/11/25 07:05 AM
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My mission consists of being responsible, accountable, and developing integrity in the hopes of building up my self esteem. You should consider rewriting this stuff with words that are simple and complete, not for folks here to understand what you mean, but for you to understand what you mean. What does it mean to be responsible and what are you responsible for? What are you accountable for? And to who are you accountable? These words are good but they are also very nebulous. A 5 year old kid mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/25 07:13 PM
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Is this the same chick you declared two years ago that you didn’t find attractive? (And then deleted the post) https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/14m7n2h Are you still with the same girl you don’t want to fuck or did you recreate the exact same issue with a new girl?
/r/askMRP20/11/25 06:58 PM
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I agree with you about people looking for a silver bullet. There are endless folks looking for a quick fix to their problems. At the same time there’s a prevalent “hard work” fetish here, where guys believe that struggling is a validation of their masculinity, when sometimes it’s an indication that they are just wasting their time and effort or applying them in the wrong area. “I’m not taking shortcuts” is just ego if your hard work isn’t getting you to your goal. Yeah, make are you don’t have a…
/r/askMRP20/11/25 06:30 PM
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The anorgasmia is probably something to talk to your doctor about or at least research in trt forums. This could be an imbalance of some sort.
/r/askMRP19/11/25 09:30 PM
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OTC supplements and lifestyle changes Lifestyle changes, sure. But supplements do effectively nothing for testosterone. Supplements do almost nothing in general unless they are addressing an actual deficiency. Jumping to TRT is like fat fucks jumping to Ozempic. Doesn't change the underlying root problem. No one gives a shit whether you take shortcuts or not. There are no external prizes for eschewing medicine. Depending on what you’re considering, maybe your health is better for not taking it (…
/r/askMRP19/11/25 09:24 PM
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You have no standards for yourself or for what you let into your life. This is why you’re dulling yourself with drugs and distractions. It’s why you allow your family to treat you like garbage and still try to keep them in your life. Develop some standards. And a mission. Having something you care about will put the bullshit into perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 06:08 PM
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As for dealing with Chad, there would be no violence. I'd want him to know that I know what he's up to and I'd give him a talk about expectations regarding his behavior in the same manner I got the "big brother" talk. This is in no way comparable to the “big brother” talk unless your conversation with Chad is giving him the blessing to court your wife so long as he treats her well.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 05:54 PM
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I'm talking about setting some strong boundaries with both of them. If you can’t set the boundary with your wife, how would you ever set it with Kevin? I guess you could flash a gun and maybe scare him off, but he definitely doesn’t give a fuck about your boundaries. Why should he? You’re just the husband of the chick he’s banging. Leonidas up there already told his wife she needs to stop spending time with Kevin and she said she’d “cut back”. As in “no”. So she already rejected the supposed bou…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/25 05:07 AM
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No sex in 4 months Wife is 3 months postpartum Ask her to fist me?
/r/askMRP09/11/25 04:49 AM
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Kevin’s not the problem here. The fact that the wife is likely fucking him is. Telling her to cut off Kevin is a show of insecurity. Telling Kevin to back off is a show of complete weakness and lack of control. “Hey, Kevin. I can’t get my wife to stop spending time with you. Can you enforce that since I can’t?” 95% chance if you tell Kevin to stay away they get together to “talk this through” (aka fuck) immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 09:35 PM
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but we both agree that I'm not ready for that Fuck “we”. There is only one person involved in this decision. And I still WANT them in my life. No you don’t. You want some imaginary version of them that don’t treat you like shit. This is your nice guy stuff. You’re putting up with this shit because you won’t enforce boundaries. You claim to be working through NMMNG. Does in say in NMMNG that you should keep letting people treat you poorly while you plead with them to change? Or does it say you sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 09:15 PM
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It's been hard to 'say my peace' because it isn't heard, isn't considered, is brushed off, etc. You will never have peace if your peace depends on them accepting your point of view. Your therapist is correct that you are too focused on their responses but your therapist should be telling you to just cut them off. Life is too short to spend on assholes. You’re burning your energy trying to change who these people are. Accept who they are and act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/25 05:07 PM
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Another thought, and I’m just spitballing now, but is it possible that your wife is looking for some drama? Does she want you to be angry, argue with her about some dumb shit that doesn’t matter and then fuck her good? Just a thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/25 04:13 AM
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What you’re describing sounds like sabotage. Is she sabotaging because she wants out of the relationship or because she’s lost in the maze? Assuming the latter, can you lead her out? And do you want to? I get the impression that she does not feel she can meet your expectations and her anxiety about it is driving her mad.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/25 12:57 AM
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What you said was deeply unattractive. I can think of half a dozen reasons a woman might want my cum inside her and none of them are “my cum is yucky, and this makes it easier to clean up”. You could have responded by telling her you love cumming in her. You could have told her too bad, next time is on her face. You could have told her to tell you what she likes so much about your cum inside her. You could have just STFU. But instead you chose to respond to “I love your cum in me” with “because …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 06:22 PM
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How the fuck are are you losing less than 2lb/week? You’re shoving a lot of food into that 6 hour window. Edit: Oh, you’re the guy who wasn’t brushing his teeth and showering regularly. You need to decide if you care about yourself or not. Not whether you care about your wife or your relationship or getting laid, whether you care about yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 06:09 PM
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I'm 48 and injury prone and just trying to listen to my body and make steady progress but not get sidelined again by ramping things up too quick. Your previous DL was barely above your body weight and your current is probably less than your wife weighs. Very doubtful you’re actually going hard in the gym. If you are actually messing up your body in the gym, then figure out why and fix it/work around it instead of just taking 3 months off and starting over. Go for higher reps with lower weight. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 05:57 PM
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I realize now that I should have used Agree and Amplify but I did not. This led to DEERing. AA would come off as dismissive, fine if that’s what you want. If not, negative inquiry would probably be a lot more useful. Didn't smoke cigarettes for a while but had one yesterday and even though I looked forward to it, it felt disgusting. Felt weak for going back on my word. You made a premeditated choice to start back up after you quit. Does this fit in with your goals?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 05:47 PM
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My frustration / disappointment has been higher in the last ~2-3 months as the disappointments accumulate and she fails to take corrective action; Does she know what you expect from her? You say that she is unhappy that she can’t keep up. Does she know what it even means to keep up? The undertone in all of this is that she feels like nothing she does is good enough. If that’s the case, is she fundamentally not good enough? Is she trying but falling short? Is she good enough sometimes but not oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 05:07 PM
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When I finished, she said she loves when I come inside her, in more ways than one. I asked if it was because there wasn’t a mess to clean up. She said no. I’m still wondering exactly what she meant by that. You cannot be serious. “But, like, why would you want my cum inside you?”
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/25 03:53 PM
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Dude, mind your own fucking business. Not your girl. Not your relationship. Not your problem. Obviously they will have to talk more Obviously you should shut your mouth.
/r/askMRP25/10/25 10:16 PM
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Lol. “I hate simps with a passion” but profile links to wishlists with thousands of dollars worth of stuff for simps to buy.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 11:20 PM
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I don’t think it’s actually that deep. What are you doing when you spend time alone every day? “Meh this is fine” sounds like you’re doing either nothing at all or something you find boring. Do boring shit and you’re going to be bored. BoringAndSucks did not suggest that you spend time alone doing nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/25 04:40 PM
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Agree. I tried doing the benefit of the doubt thing, like maybe this guy is actually borderline MR. But even that doesn’t make sense given the accidental eloquence and supposed fluency in at least 3 languages.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/25 05:00 PM
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Stuff doesn’t add up here. You talk about yourself as if you were borderline mentally retarded, and you often use awkwardly simple sentences. But then you throw out phrases like “mending this rift” and drop sentences like “so I think nice behavior swings a little bit in my favor at this point, no?” You are clearly trying to put on some sort of “I’m dumb” façade. Whether that is just trolling or something else, I don’t know. But you can’t flop between calling yourself stupid and writing sentences…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 03:29 PM
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I don’t know if this is real or not. This feels kind of like a troll but something about this also seems pathetically genuine. to bring all her friends who think I am a bad person out for dinner, and try to explain myself in simple words, and try not to mess it up. So that I can help rebuild her social life that I have ruined with my awkwardness and controllingness and criminal background. Go read NMMNG. This is big time Nice Guy shit. You cannot make these people like you. Same for her parents.…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/25 04:41 AM
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I don’t know if this is AI but it’s deeply cringe. She doesn’t call when she’s supposed to? And so you call repeatedly and text a half dozen times and then tell her about how she hurt your feelings the next day? You sound needy as fuck. She wasn’t talking to her friend about her friend’s drama. She was complaining about you. I’ll write a farewell letter to her — one year from now — where I say goodbye, describe how much I’ve grown, what I’ve achieved, and how damn good I’m doing. Jesus Christ, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/25 11:59 PM
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I was having drinks How many? Are you a drunk? I can’t be myself when we’re out together as I feel uncomfortable like she’s judging me the whole time. That’s a you problem.
/r/askMRP14/10/25 11:45 PM
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7 month sleeps through the night unless my wife caves to the crying and picks him up. What the fuck? That’s not sleeping through the night. Are you leaving a 7 month old baby to cry themselves back to sleep in the middle of the night?
/r/askMRP09/10/25 11:45 PM
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Most of the guys in my social group are dealing with similar LTR issues Is this a group that encourages everyone to be better men or one of those groups of guys that get together to whine about their wives? Make sure you’re not getting into the bucket of crabs.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 05:23 PM
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The reality is I am not showering and brushing my teeth consitently. My wife has told me I usually smell bad. So I need to make this priority. There is so much wrong here. Brushing teeth and bathing consistently are the barest of bare minimum. You don’t get to cry about your mean wife when you won’t brush your teeth and wash your nasty ass. Normal people don’t “prioritize” the basics. They just do them. It’s 15-20 minutes/day to not be disgusting. Even children manage to brush their teeth and wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/25 05:11 PM
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I have used my brain to get myself into places others have worked hard to be r/iamverysmart but talk is cheap So talk less. Your OYS is a lot of talk and zero action except that you squatted. “Reflect” less and do more.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/25 11:44 PM
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Get your legal shit in line ASAP. You now have an adversarial partner. She’s spiteful so she’s likely to fuck you over however she can.
/r/askMRP04/10/25 06:07 PM
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outside of the children they bear, women are, on average, a net negative This might be the gayest thing I’ve ever read on mrp.
/r/askMRP03/10/25 04:59 PM
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You jerking off a bunch or something? "She's hot but I fixate on the flaws" seems like something is off. I mean, it could be so bad it's really a turn off but that's not how you're describing her physically.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 08:37 PM
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You live in India, right? You're telling me a country that doesn't believe in marital rape is going to arrest you because you said hi to a girl? Fuck off. Also TRE is bullshit and I kind of doubt you have real trauma to deal with anyway. https://sciencebasedmedicine.org/tension-and-trauma-releasing-exercises-tre/
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 08:34 PM
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Nice. Seems like you hit the divorce lottery.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 08:27 PM
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In about two weeks (next period) I'm likely going to get the same question. Do I just tell it like it is? Will it move me closer to my relationship goal (having a low-maintenance, cheerful girlfriend), or will this trigger some kind of (justified) paranoia in her and diminish my results? Try ↑↑↓↓←→←→BA [START]
/r/askMRP23/01/25 05:07 AM
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This upgraded my looks from 5 to 6. You're 25% body fat and can barely bench press a plate. You have no job and haven't gotten laid in 8 years. You're not currently a 6 my man. Rather than work hard to get one woman, why not work hard on yourself and get all the women? I don’t work hard to get women, I work hard on my dreams which gets the women automatically. -- Pook cold-approach... Legal system of the country also doesn't helps. If the legal system is a factor in your cold approach, you are f…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 04:53 AM
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What are you doing with your time? Only 3 hours/day available for your business idea? And are you interviewing for jobs? It sounds like you're unemployed and no really doing anything about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 04:40 AM
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Congrats. Are you no longer married or separated? Where I live a legal separation is not actually a divorce, but often a huge step toward it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 04:36 AM
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I mean are you doing stuff. Not just making abstract plans, but either actively working toward goals, or actively pursuing an exciting life, or something. You say your friends live far away. So make new friends. Do fun stuff. Your life isn't in the future. It's right now. And yeah, given the ED you experienced and your seemingly general low energy (you sound depressed honestly), combined with "normal low" previous results, I would get hormones rechecked. Total test, free test, shbg, probably som…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 04:32 AM
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All of this is a giant pity party filled with excuses about why you can't do anything. Can't lift because you aren't gaining enough muscle. Can't get testosterone because money. Can't get a new job because of vague industry problems. Can't fuck because PE. Can't be productive because... also money somehow? You aren't making the effort and you're frustrated that you've got no results. Make some effort somewhere. Also, how did your weight go down 10lb but your BF up 1%?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 08:50 PM
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I don't see an explanation for why the BJ request was retarded. That's not the smoothest initiation, but it doesn't seem retarded. Go join the sports league if that's what you want to do. Tell your wife you need her to help more with the kids' sports if that's what you need. Or arrange carpooling with other parents. Find solutions that involve you getting what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 08:28 PM
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Have you gotten your hormones checked? Honest question here. You have a lot of negative self talk. Are you building a life? Do you have hobbies and friends?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 08:25 PM
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the only difference is that I didn’t eat gluten And you don't get the same effect with other carb sources? Environmental-Top is probably right, if so. Eat different carbs. inflammation I'm curious, what does this mean? What are you experiencing? People mention "inflammation" and I usually have no idea what they're talking about. The government having a say in my relationship. I thought you were talking about the current wife. I see now.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 08:21 PM
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I've put June 1st as a deadline to move from my parents. Do you have a plan? That would be a lot more useful than a deadline. I ask for number few times. I could see asking twice. Maybe. A "few" times is too much. Two nos is time to move on. Read a book on game and put it into practice. Bang, Day Bang, Mystery Method, Models, whatever. Beside those I took myself to a Worker a 7 to have some practice. I couldn't get it up. Anxiety. I don't have much useful advice here. Experience helps but that's…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 06:13 AM
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He really needs to be doing both.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 06:12 AM
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I don't know. 15% gets thrown around a lot. 137.5 seems really small though. Are you really 18.2% fat still?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 06:02 AM
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the talk went straight to 15 minutes of things I don't care about and are turn offs "I don't want to talk about that. I want to talk about your body/your hot mouth/the things I'm going to do to you/the things you're going to do to me." Stop trying to find the right time. The right time was when it popped in your head that you wanted sex. This should have been exciting ... I couldn't get fully hard. Is she not attractive enough or were you in your head too much, thinking about how you didn't init…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:54 AM
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So far any type of gluten has consistently given me issues with water retention and inflamation (especially after lifting). When I mostly consume meat and fats: my skin looks better, and my arms/legs/chest doesn't look bloated. I feel stronger too. Are you bloated or just not glycogen depleted? Carbs = glycogen storage. Lifting also encourages glycogen storage (plus some inflammation in the exercised muscles). Do what works for you, though. I doubt that I will ever pursue a legally binding relat…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:41 AM
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I retardedly asked my wife for a BJ when she was having a medical issue down below. Why was this retarded? While helpful it’s essentially revenge fantasy. So what? This is like the guys who stop initiating because it's "for validation". Dwelling on revenge fantasies is a waste of time. But if this exercise has real value, then skipping it because "oh no, fantasy" is just stepping on your own dick. Meeting a friend for drinks is not a hobby and goes against my fitness goals. So what do you want t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:30 AM
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Good. I think you should bulk now, though. Gain 10lb of muscle and then do another cut if you want. 137.5lb is small even for 5'6".
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:18 AM
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Did you know that if you ask ChatGPT to quiz you Use a tool if it's helpful but this seems like it would have very little carryover into the real world.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:08 AM
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I'm about at the point where I need to switch from bulking to cutting What? Please tell me you wrote this backwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:07 AM
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A lot of comments told me to not agree to talk ever under any circumstances... You're banned anyway, but no one said this. They said stop listening to her complain about bullshit and stop agreeing to listen to her complain about bullshit. Your willful misunderstanding is self-defense for your nice guy behavior. Or maybe complaining about bullshit is all she ever does, in which case yeah, just don't listen to her ever again.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 04:59 AM
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This is a lead-a-horse-to-water situation. You asked a question and a dozen different people have given you some flavor of the same answer. No amount of telling you the same thing over and over will make you see it when you don't want to see it. You posted saying that she's a constantly complaining passenger. You also insist that you have to listen to her complain. Put it together.
/r/askMRP22/01/25 04:50 AM
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I don't believe that I'm trying to convince her I'm right. Then why are you continuing to have these conversations? You keep trying to justify this by invoking "leadership" and "her boundaries" and whatever else, but that's all bullshit. You are unable to just accept it when she expresses unhappiness with something you do. You have an overwhelming need to placate her. This is why you feel like you feel like the conversation is unavoidable and has to happen. You seriously need to reread those boo…
/r/askMRP19/01/25 06:30 PM
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Your fundamental problem is that you truly believe the solution to your problem is to convince your girl that you're right. If you and she disagree, it means she just doesn't understand why she's wrong, and once she sees it, her behavior will shift to match your preferences. But this isn't the way it works. People are emotional animals and the vast majority of what they do is driven entirely by their emotional state. Do you think that logically she believes that ranting at her boyfriend for "not…
/r/askMRP19/01/25 06:50 AM
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You really read that whole thing and believe for even a moment that the problem is her divorce threats?
/r/askMRP17/01/25 05:27 PM
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Environmental-Top called you out correctly. Don’t deflect the feedback with this bullshit. Your post wasn’t the least bit sarcastic. You’re one of those guys who gets called out saying something really stupid and replies “I was just trolling you”. Nah.
/r/askMRP17/01/25 05:23 PM
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So I can avoid this conversation of course but it's not dealing with the problem as it will come up next time we talk. This guy gave you a perfect example of how to handle this and your response is “yeah, but I’ve gotta talk about it later”. No, you fucking don’t. That’s the point. Shut the fuck up and stop trying to convince her that you’re a nice guy. Next time you talk to her, if she starts with the bullshit again, end the conversation immediately. You said in another comment that this is a r…
/r/askMRP17/01/25 05:08 PM
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Go reread your whole post. It’s not just the sleep thing. The whole post is a wall of bullshit excuses. So I spent a day trying to figure out how to get laid even though I didn't really feel it. I just wanted to change it up and see what happened. Now I've just lost interest in playing that. You didn’t lose interest. You pussied out over and over all day and then got sour grapes. You can make time to troll tinder for sluts but you can’t make time to fuck your wife. I don't have the frame to walk…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 05:35 AM
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Rule of thumb for 1lb loss is about 3500 kcal, or 500/day. 1lb/week is a conservative goal anyway, but you’re undershooting even that. Also your coach might be an idiot. You aren’t going to lose your noob gains because you diet a bit. You aren’t getting stage lean. You don’t need to worry about every gram of muscle you might lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 05:00 AM
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Am I correctly understanding that when forced onto a liquid diet you could still only manage a 600 Calorie/day deficit? Were you on a milkshake diet? You’ve lost less than 4 pounds total in the almost 2 months since your first post. Your post sounds like you’re trying to lose weight. Your actions say otherwise though. What’s your goal weight (or fat loss goal) and how long are you planning to take?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 06:49 PM
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Are you really this dense? Your boundary is nonexistent and you are lying to yourself pretending it does. You never ended the conversation. She did. She literally told you to fuck off and to call her later. She didn’t “break down”. She had a tantrum and like always you enabled it because you have no boundaries and because you’re terrified to tell her to fuck off. You’re her bitch and she knows it. You know it, too. You just don’t admit it to yourself.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 04:47 PM
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I also told her this mid convo. And then promptly demonstrated that this is not your boundary by staying in the conversation and continuing to listen to her bitch at you.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 04:31 PM
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You’re the guy who needed comfort from his girl after he splashed mud on her pants. You don’t want actual advice, because you got it there and clearly ignored it. Your girl acts like this because you’re a reactive bitch. She has a tantrum and you sit there and try to soothe her. This is a pattern that will repeat until you choose to stop it.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 04:29 PM
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The goal right now is line up dates when on the road, live the family life back home. Compartmentalizing your sexuality to appease the wife. Such a nice guy. When you get caught cheating, will you be able to look her in the eyes and say “what did you expect”? Or will you apologize because you know that how you act with her is not congruent with who you are (or at least who you want to be)? What’s stopping you from being “depraved” with her? Is it really her? Or is it your own fears?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/25 05:42 AM
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“Sick of being a fat fucking faggot” “My goal is .5 lb/week” What the fuck
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 09:39 PM
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One pole has been the extreme detachment of Buddhism. The other pole has been the extreme shape-your-own-world individualism of Objectivism or Rational Egoism. “Sometimes I try real hard but most of the time I’m lazy and apathetic.” You don’t sound deep or impressive with this stuff. You sound insufferable. I could only skim your wall of bullshit. Do you have any goals and have you done anything to move toward them? Cut the noise.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 09:30 PM
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You have a big section on diet but your weight didn’t move at all. Maybe you ate a salty meal last night that bumped up your water retention. But maybe you’re not dieting nearly as hard as you think you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 09:21 PM
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Insights: Limiting beliefs around time windows, boundaries, etc. killed intimacy slowly over years. But I’m putting my energy into pursuing other girls versus fixing our sex life. Recent reflection: Balancing the need to STFU vs. sharing my vision. I think you either still don’t know what you want or you are still afraid of your wife. Most likely both. You say you’ve uncovered your limiting beliefs but you’re apparently still not fucking your wife or even trying. It’s apparently energy draining …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 09:09 PM
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136.0 lbs (-13.6 lbs), Body Fat = 18.6% You really need some muscle mass. You’re already tiny and still cutting. There is no level of leanness that is going to look the way you want until there’s some muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 08:44 PM
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WMP set out the rules in the pinned post. He’s aggressively banning people for whining about their wives. She's responding slowly, but I'm still really angry. Dancing monkey right here. Particularly egregious after the previous line about working past covert contacts.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 04:36 AM
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Creatine isn’t steroids dude. If your lifts go up 24 hours after taking some creatine, you’re experiencing the placebo effect. Hell, if your lifts go up sheet one shot of test, you’re still probably just experiencing the placebo effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 04:33 AM
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You missed the point. Yay, you got your wife to lose a few pounds. Whatever. How is that the biggest thing you accomplished all year? How is this a point of pride for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/25 11:19 PM
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I wasn't into that girl… So you took a 4 to bed and couldn’t get hard. Your nofap bros must be so proud. Nice DEER, btw. Spend the rest of your day stalking my profile, I love it. Me too. It’s like a watching a train wreck, if the train was in deep denial that it was crashing.
/r/askMRP03/01/25 11:01 PM
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Bruh. You’re what, early 20s? All your “vitality” from semen retention is meaningless because you’re an incel with ED. You have ED because you have severe anxiety around women. Instead of trolling around on forums telling guys that they need to stop cumming, why don’t you go to the fucking gym and then try to actually get laid yourself? Hell, call up that girl you disappointed and see if she wants to try again. At least that would be an attempt.
/r/askMRP03/01/25 10:44 PM
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Have a minimum three-day gap to recover from sex This is just about the dumbest shit I’ve ever seen here. Stay in your semen retention sub and keep pretending that you’re holding onto your semen by choice.
/r/askMRP03/01/25 10:12 PM
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when I'm done unfucking myself that the next step. Incel shit. Part of unfucking yourself is getting out there. Being afraid of women is a much bigger problem than your crooked teeth.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/25 06:23 PM
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Only went three times last two weeks. Still stuck at 60kg bp for 2x8, going to increase kcal intake up to 3200. So you miss half of your workouts and think the problem is that you’re not fat enough yet? potential for passive dread Everything’s for her, huh? Can’t even have a hobby without it being about how your wife feels.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/25 05:39 PM
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Let's imagine How about you imagine? You’ve been spoon fed enough. Do you agree? Fuck off with your desperate need for validation.
/r/askMRP27/12/24 07:09 PM
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You didn’t take it lightly at all. Is painfully obvious that through this entire scenario you were trying to placate her. The immediate hug was an attempt to soothe her. The discussion of “what you did wrong” was an attempt to calm her. Every bit of this, top to bottom (including your questions here), was an attempt to manage her emotions. Look, I suspect this whole “I couldn’t leave her alone” thing is bullshit, but assuming it was legit, why are you so scared of her that you couldn’t just say,…
/r/askMRP27/12/24 06:45 PM
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You’re looking for cheat codes. There is no right answer, only your answer. Are you happy with how this played out? Then cool. Keep doing what you did. If not, do something different. If you’re not happy with the situation or your reaction, you’d be better served by journaling and reflecting on what you’re unhappy about instead of asking for someone else to give you a playbook.
/r/askMRP27/12/24 05:12 PM
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You step in a puddle and you immediately try to hug her to make it better? Then you stand around awkwardly for 30 minutes because you’re scared to walk away. You sound like a toddler who doesn’t know how to deal with mommy being mad. No wonder she talks to you in the kindergarten teacher voice. I explain the boundary - I'm not going to go hug a person who's yelling at me in public to walk away, this is called an assault. My boundary would be that I don’t spend my time with people who act like cu…
/r/askMRP27/12/24 05:05 PM
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Something else I didn't think of? Yeah. You should do all that stuff you mentioned (six pack, frame, captain, blah blah) and then you should next her. But you won’t. So my advice is for you to stick your head in the sand and pretend it’s all okay while you continue to get this guy’s sloppy seconds.
/r/askMRP26/12/24 06:28 PM
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Nah. She swallowed all the evidence.
/r/askMRP26/12/24 06:24 PM
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Because they are scared shitless of the uncontrollable butthurt that seeps from them when they get rejected. It’s way easier to play the “I didn’t initiate because it wasn’t ‘genuine’ desire” avoidance game.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/24 05:45 PM
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On two, I’ve been pretty naive about everything... So quit that. IIRC your ex is lazy, worthless, and bad with money. This is exactly the kind of person who's suddenly going to decide the have always wanted the kid and suddenly be asking for full custody when they realize real money is involved. Maybe your divorce ends up smooth, maybe not. Be prepared for not. I'm not saying act like an asshole and turn the divorce bitter. Playing nice can be a good strategy. But it's not enough to just hope it…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/24 05:56 AM
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If you could only do 2 reps of assisted pull ups, add more assistance. Why have you put off meeting with a lawyer about the divorce and child custody? You talk like this is important to you but your actions say it’s not.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/24 06:03 PM
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Body Fat: 21% Muscle Mass: 149 lbs. / 74% So in 5% you manage to fit bones, blood, skin, internal organs? Blood alone is something like 10% of the average person’s weight. but the company I work for is so bad So the company you work for is terrible and you haven’t made any moves to leave until you heard they might take away your WFH?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/24 05:27 AM
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I just assumed partners do everything for each other Do you ask them to do everything for you? Or is it just one way? Try throwing some compliance tests out there yourself and see how it goes. no longer treating them like Princesses and trying to hit on me to get me back. See. You already know the secret.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/24 10:18 AM
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This is a lot of words to say that you’re not actually trying in any aspect of your life right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 05:13 PM
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I’m pretty sure you’ve gotten this advice a bunch of times already. If the drinking is a problem, then fix it. If it’s not a problem, then shut up about it. No one else can decide for you how many drinks is okay or if you need to drink less. If you are setting a self-imposed limit of four drinks and you cannot stick to that, then it indicates a problem. But if your actual limit is 6 to 8 drinks a week and that’s what you’re having, then stop spending your mental energy on it. You need to decide …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 04:29 PM
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With the bitchiness, you need to start having boundaries. If she’s acting like a bitch, tell her to knock it off. If she doesn’t, exit. Bring the kids if you want, but don’t hang around with someone who’s being a cunt to you. STFU is still your friend. Don’t get sucked into an argument.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 04:24 PM
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Are you experiencing erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation? Numbing cream when you already struggle to get an erection seems like a terrible idea. saying that I better not make a mess…trying to physically obstruct me… Tell her to fuck off. You can say it nicely if you want, but you’re tolerating her being an overt bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:18 PM
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It looks great at the time of cut but it doesn't last and without product it looks really sloppy. That’s just hair. Most guys need some product for their hair to look decent. How long are you going between haircuts? Short styles in particular need regular trims or they look sloppy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:12 PM
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355 lbs...I have no ass Hahahah. You have plenty of ass. Stick with the dieting. There’s no pair of pants that’s going to fix your problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 05:08 PM
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There’s nothing really here. You’re going to the gym, cool. Cutting some fat, cool. Reading, okay. Business/ Finances/ Life - Literally your whole life and it merits only a few vacuous sentence fragments.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 04:34 PM
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If you can’t go to the gym now when you’re still in the “energized and motivated” phase, why would you imagine that you will get yourself in the gym later? Most of this stuff feels like the kinds of things a guy does when he wants to pretend he’s putting in the work. Half-assed body weight workouts, Qigong, claiming to lose fat while not dieting… I've started doing what NMMNG defines as healthy masturbation The “healthy masturbation” thing from NMMNG is so fucking weird and it’s clearly a manife…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/24 04:28 PM
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Tom Platz says high rep squats are the best training for conditioning. Wouldn’t it be interesting if doing high rep squats made you better at doing high rep squats?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 05:24 PM
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I've been more focused on making her feel good about the blow jobs and less about specific technique, though....And focusing on giving direction and praising lowers my own immersion. Is your praise fake? Praising something that I like increases my immersion. Telling her what I want does the same, especially when she does it. Praise the specifics. Sure, praise what a good girl she is in general, but also you should be praising the specific things you like. That's honest praise that both feels mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 08:58 AM
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I want a woman that I adore. If that's all you want, you can have it now. Adore your wife. Or pick some other woman and adore her. This is totally in your control and it's free. What I think you want is a woman who adores you as much as you adore her, and that's a lot harder. And it's not really in your control, especially if your options are limited to one potential woman. On my list of shit to do... That's not what I meant. This is literally a random list of todos. What is a meaningful thing y…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 08:48 AM
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I told you a couple of weeks ago that you need to get over your fear of gaining weight. I take it back. 2lb/week will get you fat real quick. You need to gain weight slowly. Aim for .5lb/week. Are you tracking your calories?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 04:40 PM
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Did your ex agree to this? I have a hunch you’re seeing yourself up for a giant fucking mess. You better start planning on what Christmas is going to look like if your ex suddenly decides she’s not interested in whatever this is.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:58 PM
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FYI if you use the right angle bracket ‘>’ at the beginning of a line, it makes it a quote like this Which makes it a lot easier for others to read than style of quotes you’re using.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:50 PM
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I want a quality woman that I adore but I also want to be this man that is 'commanding' provider and protector so I can turn her on sexually. Is there a single thing you actually want for yourself, and not because you think maybe it will make your wife spread her legs? I focused on giving myself validation as if it was coming externally. I got a raging hard on... You literally stroked your ego until you had an erection. You're not relentlessly introspective. You're relentlessly fantasizing. Your…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 07:41 AM
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If you want more enthusiasm, then you be enthusiastic, and praise whatever enthusiasm you get in return. You want her to suck your dick better? Start by telling her how hot she looks with your cock in her mouth. Tell her how great her mouth feels. Tell her the noises she makes are sexy. Praise her when she tries something different. ("That thing you're doing with your tongue feels awesome.") Are you doing that stuff or are you sitting there wondering why she's so bad at giving head? Are you rewa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 06:55 AM
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If you're not in the gym, you're not serious. Reading books and telling yourself you totally get it now is free. Actually fixing your shit is hard work, and the gym is the easiest bit of that. You're in your 50s and you haven't had sex in years. Your call whether you care enough to put in the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 06:22 AM
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then let her initiate wanting me back in bedroom Cut out the fantasy shit. There’s no cheat code here. 90% chance after you reply “yes I’m here” she just texts “goodnight”. 10% chance she replies “come up here” and you run up the stairs ready to unzip only for her to lay some nonsense on you like you forgot to start the dishwasher or tomorrow she needs your help with errands and then she says goodnight. Behave the way you want, the way that’s congruent with the person you want to be. Your rolepl…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:48 PM
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common trait of a fearful avoidant orbiting a narcissistic parent … emotional deactivation stuff that the literature suggests … If I were a mod I’d ban your ass for a month every time you post shit like this. Your problem isn’t her relationship with her parents or the various diagnoses you give her. It’s the fact that you’re a cunt.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:35 PM
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You’re 36 and doing exercises targeted at geriatric patients. If you want to do yoga with your kids then get off the chair and do yoga with your kids you lazy fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:27 PM
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28% BF and planning to switch to a maintenance phase. Glad to see you hold high standards for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:19 PM
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her because of the sheer amount of times I'd reject her since I wasn't getting validated You wanted her to validate your attractiveness but you didn’t see her initiations as exactly that? How fucking dumb are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:03 PM
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Right now my needs are only being met every other week, when I prioritize it. How have you been here this long and still not internalized this. I don’t see my leading/showing how we can maintain a reasonable sex-life and relationship being reciprocated when our daughter is at my place. Then we usually don’t see each other. You can’t seriously be this dense. When your ex has your daughter, you’re over there playing the part of the domesticated husband in exchange for sex. When you have your daugh…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:51 PM
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Make time for the stuff you want to do. You’re 33 so you’re still young, but you only get one turn. Your time math feels like bs, by the way, unless you’re working 7 days/week or 10+ hour days. I don’t know what’s up with your job and your degree. You do the math to figure out what makes sense. You should have a copy of that contract to refer to, though. Don’t rely on “what you’re told” unless you’re being told that by a lawyer that works for you. You need to get more sleep.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:34 PM
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What are your hobbies aside from fitness and cars (which it seems like you don’t want to do anyway)?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/24 11:56 PM
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But if I take her while she’s dressed like that it might look like I’m not in control of her!
/r/askMRP11/11/24 11:55 PM
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Agree. This is conflict avoidant and passive aggressive. “I could tell her to put on something else, or I could just quietly seethe in the car while I drive to Wendy’s…Let’s go with B. I hope she says something so I can tell her ‘this is what you’re dressed for, bitch!’”
/r/askMRP11/11/24 11:52 PM
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Yes, you should be doing warm ups for bench. Are you seriously just throwing 130 on the bar and pressing with no warm up sets? Your “future” list feels like BS. It’s almost all fitness focused, which is cool, except that you’re obese so clearly none of this is stuff that you have had any long term interest in. You’re the brand new white belt who’s made BJJ his whole personality. The only non-fitness thing in there was working on cars. Are you doing that today? If not, why?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/24 07:02 PM
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Next week post about your actual lifts. “Moving around at work” doesn’t count and neither do your 22 pushups with terrible form. You should be putting time in at the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/24 06:42 PM
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You will get more feedback if you post in a more timely fashion. OYS posts go up on Tuesday.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/24 06:37 PM
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All your replies sound like you're butthurt over someone else's lame-ass girlfight. Your "I'd put that bitch in her place" energy is palpable.
/r/askMRP10/11/24 06:37 AM
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When she came out wearing those pants, I would’ve ignored them. Said nothing. … She’s not dressed for the date so I’m not taking her… just consequences. This is a covert contract. Nowhere in your alfalfa fantasy do you mention actually telling her what you want.
/r/askMRP09/11/24 09:09 PM
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just consequences. That’s just my natural tendency. Consequences of marrying a passive aggressive bitch? She’s supposed to read your mind because you’re too passive to tell her what you want?
/r/askMRP09/11/24 08:26 PM
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Why do you care that she wears ugly pants to work? Your problem isn’t her disrespect. It’s your reactivity and attempts to control her. The solution is the same as for everyone else. Sidebar, Lift, and (especially for you) STFU. But you don’t want to do the work or you’d be in OYS instead of looking for cheat codes here.
/r/askMRP09/11/24 06:45 PM
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Life is relative And your standards are low, relatively speaking. but what exactly do you suggest? I suggest you have some standards that align with your goals and beliefs. The standards are for you. Not her. Nothing magic happens on OYS 52. You still need to know what your own standards are before you can make any informed choice. Wife is a hardcore fearful avoidant Your amateur psychoanalysis of your wife is still not helpful. You do not control your wife. You do not control her feelings or he…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/24 08:19 PM
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“She has to be tolerable to be around and have sex with me more than once per month.” Such high standards you have. stop demanding things from her Heaven forbid.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/24 07:30 PM
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Since August 27 you’ve gained 1kg. I didn’t dig into your history past that but this is not unreasonably fast weight gain.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 11:28 PM
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So you got called out on your lifts, you intend to double down on those, and to support that you’ve decided to cut your calorie intake? Do you believe your goals and actions are aligned here?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 04:44 PM
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Present tense. Not why were you here. Why are you here? Or do you no longer know?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 04:41 PM
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Lift wise, I'm going to be travelling this coming month. I have a hotel room workout prepared, but serious lifting won't be possible. Your hotel doesn’t have a gym? No nearby gyms sell day passes? Sounds like you’re planning a month of dicking around with body weight squats.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/24 03:45 PM
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So you argue with your fiancée every day and when you go on vacation you flirt with hookers. You sound like quite the catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/24 03:42 PM
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In my marriage I’m the equivalent of the employee Your mental model is totally backwards. You think your problem is that you’re not a good enough “employee” for your boss wife
/r/askMRP02/11/24 10:20 PM
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I’m in a maintenance phase …I’m scared I’m getting fat again. This will fuck up your progress until you get over it. You’ve gained 2lb in a month. This is pretty much ideal for sustainable muscle growth with minimal fat gain. Don’t hamstring yourself by giving up on gain weight. The only people who seem to have success with recomp are true newbies and people on tons of gear.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/24 06:01 PM
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Why is your plan for the week unrelated to the stuff you identify as concerns? There’s nothing in there about finances, nor this business you mention. Your checklist reads like the most generic mrp shit. Bills are unpaid but yeah, jerking off is your big issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/24 01:00 AM
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Didn’t you hear her came on her chest? Come on. He deserves an attaboy for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 08:13 PM
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4 weeks in a row of reducing weights. You’re doing Phrak’s which I believe means this was 8 sessions for you to figure out how to squat a few inches deeper. I think you’re mostly dicking around which is why you’re squatting 140 after a year. It’s also why your shitty cut has been going for so long and why you’re getting called out for having a BP goal so out of alignment with your actions. https://leangains.com/fuckarounditis/
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 08:02 PM
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The real killer has been my management of our finances. Classic drunk captain and my wife has stated before that this behaviour kills her attraction for me. What have you done with your finances that’s so unattractive your wife openly calls it out? Are you blowing the grocery money on the ponies? Or are you listening to mouth noises that are bullshit? This has come about through repeatedly abdicating the responsibility of my life and leaving it to onto others … I need some assistance to bring me…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 04:18 PM
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You posted basically the same thing under two different accounts? https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/1g9dahj/own_your_shit_weekly_october_22_2024/lt6vquq/
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 04:01 PM
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Since I started lifting weights and my thighs grew I’ve worn holes into my old skinnier fits. Squat - 140 - 5x5x5 Doubt it. I suspect it’s more related to the “big belly and love handles”. Sex is limited as I have dropped the ball and refused self-improvement for a long time. The “I need to work on myself so she’ll want me” energy is overwhelming even where you don’t mention her. None of this is for you. None of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 03:48 PM
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Squats (deeper): 140lbs (-5) 5,5,7 (I have figured out the form, I need to drive my knees outward when going deep when I was keeping them straight ahead before) 4 weeks in a row of you reducing your squats to “fix form”. You’re now squatting less than you row and you’re also squatting well below novice level after a year of lifting. The most charitable interpretation is that you’re trying to lift with a form that does not fit your body. Maybe you’re trying to get ATG but you lack the ankle mobil…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 03:18 AM
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Dancing around the “abuse” is not helping you. Did you beat the shit out of your wife? Did you call her a mean name because she was being a bitch? Did you eat the last hot pocket without offering to split it? Without context the advice you’re going to get is all nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 04:50 PM
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Every week you come in and defend your inability to control your drinking. (I stopped for 8 days but then got shit faced. Oh noes!) You aren’t confronting anything. The protein stuff is weird. Deal with the prostatitis if that’s a thing. But then why is your protein supplement relevant? This connection seems nonexistent.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 04:45 PM
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I’m not a doctor or a PT or anything else, but I would expect that slowly exposing your spine to load would be a net positive. It would teach the surrounding muscles to stabilize better. Obviously if you’re in a bunch of sharp pain, that’s not right. You’re probably better off doing 4x/week if you’re doing an upper lower split. You generally want to hit muscles at least twice a week. If you’re going to do 3x/week split, then yes, I think adding at least one shoulder exercise to your leg day is a…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 03:15 PM
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Ok. That's less ridiculous than I thought, though your 2 set thing is strange. I think you'd be better off dropping the stability crap and doing some kind of shoulder press. I also doubt that you actually improve your herniated disc long term by avoiding stuff that loads your spine, but I'm not a doctor.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 05:16 AM
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That and trading dick pics.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 05:48 PM
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You do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 05:37 PM
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The Rock could put on a dress and get a 10 to crawl under it to suck his cock. But I wouldn’t advise anyone here to put on a dress. You’re right that with the right frame, your response could be fine. With the frame this guy actually has, it’s probably going to sound self-emasculating.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 05:20 PM
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I'm trying to broken record on "I love you, I'm working on myself to be the best husband I can be." Stop trying to placate her. “I’m listening to a men’s book. Because I want to.” What you did is DEERing. She said "No, I don't want to talk to you later." Which I interpret as "I want a divorce.". I promised myself the next time she sounds like she's asking for divorce but not saying it explicitly I was going to so "when you say ____ it sounds like you are asking for divorce. If that's what you wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 05:03 PM
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bench 60, incline bench 52.5, deadlift 40, leg extension 35, leg curl 15 + accessories, in kg for 2 x 5-8 What is this program? You’re only in the gym 2 days and you only do two sets per body part? You mention your chest is looking better. It seems to be the only muscle group getting 4 sets. Where are your back exercises? Why no squats? Even hack squats or leg press? Where’s the overhead press? Again, even a machine shoulder press. It’s not surprising you are unimpressed with your shoulder devel…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 04:47 PM
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It was more of a rhetorical question. No it wasn’t. This question has been rolling around in your head since she shamed you for having a drink. It bothers you enough that you took the time to not just mention that it happened but to ask others here to validate you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 04:34 PM
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Another week of you writing about your alcoholic tendencies and adjusting your goalposts so you can feel better about it. Now you need a “monthly average”? At this point, just stop talking about it. It’s clearly not something you have any desire to control. HEALTH- PE/ED: Better. Stopped protein scoop Is your protein intake supposed to be somehow related to your PE/ED issues?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 04:28 PM
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1 child Lifts(lbs) - Sq: 210 | Bench: 165 | Dead: 135 | OHP: 110 Those are pretty impressive lifts for a child. Conversation changed again. I rarely ever drink so why is this a problem? Why are you asking randos online to back up your decision?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 04:18 PM
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Stalling lift progression…Had to deload…-40 “Hard stuff is hard, so I decided not to do that any more” You’re not even squatting your body weight now. Contemplation of the divorce prep... More mental masturbation. If you’d actually done anything here, this section would say “talked with a lawyer; appointments set up with two more next week”. The only real thing you did this week is lose 1 pound.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 03:52 PM
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Your previous OYS posts have made it extremely clear that you are dancing. I apologised for my behaviour over the past few months, explained that I've identified the negative mental models that set our relationship towards breakup trajectory, and explained that I have an action plan to fix these problems. Translation: I promised her that I’d change if she’d just take me back. We’re dating again but she’s staying with her mom until I can prove to her that I’m really changing. Meanwhile she’s gett…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 03:39 PM
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Don't worry babe, something more important will look bigger. Calling it “something more important” sounds like you’re embarrassed to say “cock”. If you’re going to go this route, own it and really AA. “Yeah, when all my limbs are emaciated, my cock will look massive!” But also this feels very try hard anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 03:24 PM
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When I say 5x5x8 I meant 5 then 5 then 8. What the fuck. 5,5,8 AxB usually means A sets, B reps. AxBxC is confusing as hell. I am stalling progression while cutting. 4 pounds down since June 4. Barely over a pound/month.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/24 06:12 AM
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5x5 is not 3x5. Deadlifts are 1 set per week in Phrak’s. You don’t appear to be increasing 2.5lb/5lb every session as the program prescribes. Where are your chin ups? It seems like you’re not following the prescribed sets, the prescribed weight increases, and maybe not even the prescribed lifts. Remind me again why you think this is Phrak’s?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 04:58 PM
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For the same reason it’s not 5/3/1 or Starting Strength: because that’s not what the program says to do. It would take 15 seconds to google “Phrak’s GSLP” and see what it actually says to do. What you’re doing might be fine, but it’s not Phrak’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 09:48 PM
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Because I've been subscribing to Cosmo, of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 05:06 AM
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Did you actually do anything this week? This seems like a lot of passive navel gazing. 5x5x8 Is this 5x5 with an amrap set that hit 8? This isn’t Phrak’s by the way. massage unexpectedly turned sexual You paying for happy endings now? the first thought waking up was about divorce And yet no divorce prep. Are you afraid or lazy? Don’t drop the sparring partner line. You aren’t sparring with her. I had a couple of meditative visions … Maybe you’re mentally masturbating so much because you need to …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:33 PM
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She's told me that "spending time with her and doing things is what turns her on" but I originally thought she was just spouting bullshit to reject me in a roundabout fashion. Translation: You’re more attractive when you’re not boring.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:15 PM
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It feels like I no longer miss something I used to crave and be desperate for. I don't really know what this means yet, maybe just that it's no longer my first priority. “Dear diary, I’ve finally accepted that I am not fuckable. This acceptance has brought a surprising peace to my life, and I am now able to direct my energy fully toward my model train collection. The joy of watching a well-oiled train circle the track is far greater than that of having sex with my bitch wife anyway.”
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 08:02 PM
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I’m going to ruin deerstfu’s teachable moment because your bullshit gets on my nerves. You don’t like the story because the guy was stoic. You like the story because you are projecting yourself into his shoes (that’s why you are adding your made up happy ending). You wish your wife would cheat so you had an “excuse” to break up without being the bad guy because you’re scared of others’ judgement and you’re scared of the consequences if you do break it off. So you jerk yourself off to the idea of…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 07:53 PM
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Most good things in life are simple but not easy.
/r/askMRP22/09/24 05:29 AM
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To me it was a desperate move by someone failing in their position. My new role is much more aligned with my talents… Your mindset is fucked up. You swapped a position that didn’t fit your strengths for one that does and you see that as a failure? I’m weak in that I need obsession to apply myself fully but I can’t find it. Discipline is absent. Find something to obsess about, find discipline, or accept the current state. Those are the useful options. Whining is not helpful. I read up on game and…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 05:45 PM
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You know you could put in more effort right now, right? Like, you don’t need to wait until next week to actually OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 04:35 AM
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I felt like your posts were distinct from a lot of others in that you were going a more egalitarian route. You talked about changing mental models for her as well as yourself. Letting her into your mind. I'm really curious to know if this experience has changed your perspective. I really hate that after I reply with my question about his approach then vs now, I scroll down and see that you raised the same question in a much clearer and more concise way 7 hours ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 04:27 AM
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I wonder, did she ever want to see how the sausage was made? I remember your post about unplugging her from the matrix and that really resonated with me as this ideal of two people who value each other more than their preconceived notions of how relationships work, of their expected roles, or whatever, and that by rising above the bullshit you were able to see the matrix together and choose how to interact within it in a way that fulfilled you both. But then you say she basically threw in the to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 04:20 AM
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Get better at shrugging. If the stuff you’re saying is true, then her concerns are mostly nonsense and you getting mad seems like a waste of energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 03:32 AM
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You’re banned for a bit anyway, but my advice to you is that you pick something to focus on, something you care about. Put your energy into that and not pleasing your wife. Practice all the stuff you’re reading (STFU, negative inquiry, broken record, etc) when your wife tries to get you to abandon whatever it is you care about. If you don’t have anything you care about except placating your wife, then I have no advice for you. So long as your “what I’m currently doing” section is about trying to…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 03:30 AM
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Try rubbing her asshole while she falls asleep.
/r/askMRP19/09/24 03:23 AM
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her big prayer was that she would have a burning desire for me “I wish I wanted to fuck you.” Ouch Work: I screwed off a bunch this week. For some reason I couldn't focus well, I still got some stuff done but not nearly as much as I could have This is a literal copy/paste from last week. You do you but copy/paste seems like a bad way to OYS, and if this is worth mentioning twice, it seems off that there’s no plan to change it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 05:40 PM
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This entire post is about the expectations your wife has of you and how hard you are trying to meet them all to make her happy.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 05:28 PM
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OLD Are you actually booked up for the week or are you lying to “create scarcity”? Because it seems like your (false?) constraint is fucking up a lot more than it’s helping. The first chick also ghosted because you took away her plausible deniability. “Hey, if we meet up, it’s just to fuck” means she has to be the kind of chick who’s openly into casual sex. Also, I’m a retard and didn’t realize t-fil lasts all weekend. Took 10mg one day and 5 another and still didn’t get to full strength. That’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 05:07 PM
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my validation issues seem to be originating from two places God damn it dude. Stop with the psychoanalysis bullshit. We get it. You need to let us all know that you’re thinking really deep about stuff because your self identity is wrapped up in how smart you are. If you were actually smart, you’d be able to communicate simply without needing to wrap everything in a message about how insightful you are. “I decided I needed more friend time, so now I’m spending more time with friends.” This shit a…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 04:32 PM
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My wife dropped a line during a conversation that hit a nerve: "You are not safe with the kids, have a different standard of safety". I got angry, but held my ground. She apologized later, even if it wasn't fully sincere. Another boundary set. Why did she say you are dangerous? And is she right? The fact that you got mad makes me think maybe there’s some truth here. “Don’t tell me stuff I don’t want to hear” is probably not a good boundary.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 04:02 PM
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For the last 2 cycles I have been unable to hit the highest weight. The cycle before that I hit 1 rep at 275 lbs, but once I got to 280 lbs I haven’t been able to get a rep in. If you can’t even hit 1 rep then your training max is too high. Calculate your estimated 1RM from your amrap sets that you did complete last cycle (use the lowest) and knock 10% off that for your training max.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:58 PM
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I need to express my opinions whilst not being dogmatic or argumentative about it. You need to figure out what you actually care about. “I have to make my opinions known because that’s what a man should do” is not frame. The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck would probably be a more valuable book for you to read than the Multi-Orgasmic Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:43 PM
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be resistant to emotional manipulation, only relenting if I have a damn good reason for doing so. (i.e. getting a BJ so I agree to go to Ikea, etc...). Is trading a BJ for an IKEA trip an example of manipulation you want to resist or is that a “damn good reason” for giving in?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/24 03:22 PM
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"I've tried nothing and it didn't work."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 07:31 PM
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Purpose: want to be happy all the time. You’re fucked with this mindset. There’s no such thing as being happy all the time, and seeking that is just seeking comfort. This means that you are always going to be choosing the least uncomfortable path. That’s why the books don’t help, why you can’t enforce a budget and make her contribute, and why you can’t bring yourself to divorce. Out of my wits on how to control my wife. Stop trying. Also stop fighting with her. It’s not possible that you are fig…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 03:53 PM
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I think you're spot on that option 2 not being allowable by my church or my wife is a modern cultural invention and not what the Bible actually teaches. Hence me kind of being fed up with the church on this specific topic of male leadership and marital sexual dynamics. “If only my wife felt obligated to give me sex, I wouldn’t have to put in any of the work!” If you hopped in a time machine and went 100 years in the past, you wouldn’t magically have a wife who fucks on command. There have been “…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 03:37 PM
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My advice is to pick one and then direct your actions toward that goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 01:56 PM
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Why is it so hard to answer a question? "Are you cutting or bulking?" The answer is almost certainly that you're dicking around and not meaningfully working toward a goal, which is why you're doing shit like fasting for 36 hours but being stagnant with your weight. If your goal is to gain muscle, then fasting is probably not contributing to your goal. If your goal is to lose fat, then gorging between fasts is likewise not contributing to your goal. If your goal is to dick around, then you're on …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 05:28 AM
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For months you've been saying you're ready to end this relationship. You're lying to yourself and you're terrified of actually getting out there looking for someone else. I bet you never texted or called that barista. Hopefully, once I get to 12% I won't have to talk at all. Good luck with that covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 05:21 AM
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I forgot you were the one with the wife who made sexual assault accusations because of a kiss. You're afraid to initiate, afraid to upset her, and afraid to leave. So you're stuck in a purgatory of your own making while you fantasize that if you remain passive enough long enough she'll realize the error of her ways and start inhaling your dick spontaneously. You're in this place of fear and passivity until you choose not to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 05:06 AM
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What’s your goal and are your actions bringing you closer to that goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:52 PM
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10 is a tough age. You could start him in the gym but he’s not going to make much actual progress yet unless he’s got some early puberty stuff going on. Maybe worth starting anyway to see if you can help him build the habit. Maybe get him into more sports if that’s what works. Having him run like mad on a soccer field 5-6 days a week might be what he needs. The logistics of that can be a PITA though.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:01 PM
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How old is your kid, and is the weight gain a concern? If he’s into sports, sounds like you should get him into the gym if he’s old enough for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 05:48 PM
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I still have not reached my goals. Physically, I need to focus on cutting weight over the strength progression. Doing both is putting it at odds. My thought is I should deload 10% and focus on cutting only. Another week “cutting” with no progress (actually negative progress this week). If you don’t want to cut, then don’t, but then shut the fuck up about it. But yeah, go ahead and deload. Reducing the weights you lift will undoubtedly help with the fact that you don’t want to deal with being hun…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 05:41 PM
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Now I realize the real point was to test my frame and challenge my lingering thirst for validation. My snippy little comment about homeopathy and religion was a joke aimed at WMP. Take what you want from your interactions here, but in general people care a lot less about you than you want to think. Same goes for your wife and everyone else you know. Everyone is solipsistic and spends the vast majority of their brain power thinking about themselves. Tried verbally initiating sex one additional ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 05:28 PM
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I’ve been preparing my mind to consistently step out of my comfort zone so that I will shoot my shot with other attractive women and create a rotation. You can’t initiate outside the bed but you’re gonna go fuck other women? Yeah right.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 04:40 PM
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I bookended it with a 36hr and 24hr IF. I don’t know what your goals are but you fasted for 60 hours to maintain the same weight which seems objectively like a waste of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 04:39 PM
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Also lift and STFU. This rambling “I think I’m awesome but I really suck” story is pathetic.
/r/askMRP04/09/24 08:10 PM
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My favorites are the guys who finally decide to try to cheat and the first thing they do is timidly try to fuck their wives’ friends. Then they get to have the totally-in-their-frame conversation about why they invited Sally on a date.
/r/askMRP04/09/24 07:55 PM
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This reeks of cheat code nonsense. “She won’t be able to tell I’m butthurt if I stay!” No, man. She can smell it on you. Stewing on the couch and reading NMMNG for the 15th time won’t stop her from smelling your butthurt. Neither will continuing to cuddle her if that’s not what you actually want to do. Leaving to go do something is probably more attractive than sitting in the room stewing in your butthurt, but more importantly it’s actually productive. Going to the gym is productive. Taking care…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 07:49 PM
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I do not like when I overeat on weekends, especially with alcohol, I notice… Did you also notice that your weight is the same as it was 3 months ago and your bench has increased by a whopping 2.5lb in that same time? What’s the point of cutting to 1500 calories/day and not gaining any muscle if you’re just going to gorge all weekend? even my shit stinks This is not the epiphany you seem to think it is. You’re ruminating about literal shit instead of putting your energy into achieving any of your…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 07:22 PM
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Have you got another woman ready and waiting to suck your cock? If not, you haven’t “considered” cheating or spinning plates or anything else like that. You’ve just fantasized about it. You get the same advice as everyone else. Lift, STFU, and sidebar. Pick any novice program from the fitness sub and just follow it instead of dicking around in the gym. There’s a weekly OYS thread in the main sub you can post in if you actually want to improve.
/r/askMRP04/09/24 06:53 PM
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But it’s not as stupid as believing in homeopathy, right! Right?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 03:15 AM
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Ah, religion. I don’t have anything useful to add there as mocking the arbitrary rules probably wouldn’t change anything for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 06:36 PM
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The girls ski, but they can’t go on a ski trip because they don’t like to ski as much as you? That’s fucking dumb.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 06:31 PM
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“I’m not sure how to end it with her, so I bought her roses.” Just end it. If you have a shared lease, figure out the details on that first. But the magical time when she’s gets her own place before you dump her is never going to happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 06:23 PM
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Okay No research supports 1.5g/lb that I’m aware of. I don’t think there’s even any support for 1g/kg but that’s a reasonable target since studies do show as high as .9 IIRC. Complaining that you are having trouble hitting a meaningless target is a waste of time and effort. Target 1g/lb and fill in with calories that are easier for you to get. Or don’t. Whatever. Do what you want but most supplements have almost no actual scientific support for efficacy. Creatine being the exception. Vote count …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:25 PM
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So your plan is to support her forever?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:12 PM
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I also surprised her with roses Given that this is in the same section as you getting rejected, I hope you are aware of the obvious covert contract here. I also don’t know why you’re randomly buying flowers for her. What exactly are you rewarding her for? But then, I don’t know why you don’t just break it off. It’s not clear to me what you, a 25 year old man, are getting from an LTR with no kids and a woman who doesn’t like to fuck you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 03:18 PM
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Why is your DL so low? You’re not even lifting your body weight there and it’s lower than both your squat and bench. Why are you aiming for 200g of protein when you weigh 150lb? Why are you taking all those random ass supplements? went two over the weekly limit I had set. Shocking revelation. You were called out for your inability to reduce your drinking last week. Go reread those comments and stop defending your drinking issues. I’m the asshole for vetoing in our friend group and I’m fine with …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 03:11 PM
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or a great marriage with somebody else Does your plan necessarily include marriage because it’s what you truly want or because you haven’t broadened your vision enough to see other possibilities? Or do you not believe in yourself enough to think you can have a great life while single?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 02:31 PM
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As a general rule, each thing you read should lead to actions and subsequent improvements in your life, gradually building yourself up. If it isnt working that way, consider that you missed the points from the books you read. You know better than that. He didn’t miss the points. He just didn’t take any action. This is the kind of guy who can’t run 2 miles but has spent 80 hours reading about the optimal way to train for several different race lengths. He can tell you about tabata vs other HIIT s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/24 04:35 AM
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I don’t know how to, healthy, maturely, punish my daughter (or my wife, for that matter) when there's bad behavior or lack of respect. Or I know how to, but I am afraid to do so. This thing is a microcosm of your whole life. You kind of know what to do but you’re paralyzed by your fear of discomfort. All of your supposed vision gets tossed out the window as soon as you face the reality that you have to be uncomfortable. You want to lead your family but you can’t because you’re afraid of even dis…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/24 04:24 AM
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I think she’s genuinely looking for lovefeelz.
/r/askMRP30/08/24 02:12 PM
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I also have some financial books on my mind as well. Pick one. Don’t fall into the trap of reading a dozen books and taking no action. The action is thee important part. The information in the book is just to get the action pointed in generally the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 06:06 AM
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A tablespoon of salt is equivalent to 7 LMNT packs in terms of sodium. You do you, but that seems excessive unless you’re mixing it into at least a gallon of fluid.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 06:02 AM
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You bought a house at 6 months but started living together at 2 years? Are you bullshitting or what? Everyone here knows you’re only in this relationship because you have no other options. Fix that. Or don’t. No one else cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 05:26 AM
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A tablespoon of salt? Jesus. I’m not anti-salt by any means but that’s enough to replace all the sodium lost in about 6 liters of sweat. It’s also more sodium than 15 liters of Gatorade.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 05:19 AM
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So let’s say the results were mixed. I added 7.5kg, learnt how to fail safely, and got over the mental hurdle which I am quite proud of. But I didn’t find my “fail point” in terms of weight yet. There are still some nerves left to conquer which I believe is what’s making me light headed and stopped me reaching my absolute limit. Take the win, man. You practiced bailing and then added 10% to your squat this week. The goal isn’t to fail a rep, but to be prepared for the eventuality and not fear it…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 05:02 AM
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Followed SL for a long time but switched to High Intensity Training by Jay Vincent and making really good progress. No numbers sure makes it look like you’re concerned about others’ judgement… I can’t set healthy boundaries, I can’t say “NO,” my faith is weak, so is my frame, I can’t read Quran properly, I don’t read enough, I lack consistency, I seek validation, I don’t do manly things around the house enough, and I feel like a piece of shit. I let others determine my self-worth. I AM IN HUGE D…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 04:35 AM
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So literally nothing different?
/r/askMRP30/08/24 03:16 AM
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It’s her attempt to softball this thing so he doesn’t spook. She knows “I want strange dick” would freak him out, so she just “wants to try going on some dates”. Totally not a big deal…
/r/askMRP30/08/24 03:14 AM
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So you left and immediately texted her that you weren’t going to come back until she stopped being a meany. She didn’t stop but you came back anyway to have an 8 hour drama fest. Now you’re telling us that you won’t leave again no matter what, and that you’re totally taking charge of the house. I don’t know how to respond to this clusterfuck. You know what you should actually do? STFU Lift Sidebar Immediately talk to at least one lawyer. Get yourself an account where you can stash some money. Th…
/r/askMRP22/08/24 10:28 PM
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You admit every week that you are cheating. Now, I am doubtful that you’re actually restricting yourself to 1500 calories/day plus a 24-hour fast anyway. But even if you really are, two full days of cheating is a ton. A perfectly normal and moderate 500 calorie/day deficit is really easy to blow on a weekly cheat day. And you have 2 cheat days every week. Why don’t you keep your cut (if that’s what your goal is) and reduce your cheating days to just maintenance? 1500/day (but actually track it a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 10:11 PM
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you should always have 2 or 3 reps left in the tank on compound lifts If you never fail a rep then you don’t know what 2 or 3 reps left in the tank actually feels like. There’s a reason that basically all the beginner programs are linear progression. They force you to add weight until you fail. If you follow, e.g., starting strength you can’t bullshit yourself and sandbag. You add weight and either lift it or fail. This means you learn to push to your limits and you learn what it feels like to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 03:58 PM
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Red Pill is about fucking. There’s no such thing as “Red Pill” or “Blue Pill” books for raising kids. What are you looking for, what books have you rejected as being “for women”, and what’s actually wrong with the books you’ve tried? Are you looking for general parenting books, books about discipline, books about raising independent children…? I missed that you mentioned discipline in the title. Look at 1-2-3 Magic. It’s about setting clear boundaries, enforcing consistently, and not being emoti…
/r/askMRP22/08/24 01:57 PM
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5 months ago you said you did 3x5 unassisted chinups. How have you been unable to add a single rep since then? And as Whiz calls out, how have the rest of your numbers barely moved in months (and in some cases gone down)? Are you just fucking around in the gym or do you have a testosterone problem or what?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 04:46 AM
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Sticking to 1500 calories per day, with cheat weekends and one fast day each week stuck at 168ish all summer. If you're eating 1500 calories/day for 4 days and fasting on the 5th, then you're running about a 7500 calorie deficit for the week by the time you get to your "cheat weekends", so you must be eating over 6000 calories/day on the weekend to be stagnant like this. Are you a liar or are you actually shoving 1200 calories into your face every weekend? Have you considered that maybe being st…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 04:38 AM
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If you actually read the stuff that gets posted in askmrp/marriedredpill and the replies, you would know this isn't the Andrew Tate zone. Most of what you'll find here is men telling men to be better. To be bold. To be attractive. To have standards. There's some garbage here, too. You don't have to keep the garbage. Take what brings you value and leave the rest. Not just here, but everywhere. That's all I've got for you. If you want to keep following this sub and stroking your self-righteousness…
/r/askMRP21/08/24 04:31 AM
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Has relationship struggles. Joins subreddit dedicated to relationship struggles. “No way these guys actually have relationship struggles!” Introspection isn’t your forte, huh? You also picked a weird thread to voice your concerns, since this one is specifically a guy asking for self help books focused on men and not women.
/r/askMRP21/08/24 01:57 AM
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Middle aged man who simps for girls posting topless pics and says his longest relationship was his worst pretends to not understand why anyone has relationship struggles. That sounds about right for Reddit.
/r/askMRP21/08/24 12:31 AM
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Literally none of the stuff people are told to do here is about “fixing” wives. It’s all about fixing men.
/r/askMRP20/08/24 11:53 PM
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Why are you showing up here trying to tell everyone what Red Pill should be focused on? Red Pill is about intersexual dynamics. Of course a ton of material is about women and sexual attraction. Have you read Steel’s guide and put it into practice? Do that before worrying about finding endless reading material that fits your idea of what Red Pill should be. Do the basics first. https://reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/
/r/askMRP20/08/24 11:51 PM
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Do your action escalation then, but if it’s not working, go overt. Worst case you get rejected. Best case you fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:46 PM
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For the lifts, I suspect you just aren’t trying hard enough. Have you ever failed a rep squatting? Last two nights I’ve tried an action escalation What does this mean? Have you tried ignoring her “temperature” and just bluntly initiating? Either physically (take her hand and lead her to the bedroom) or verbally (“You look hot. Let’s go fuck while the kids are distracted.”)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:29 PM
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I think you should pick whether you want to cut or bulk and do that. Recomp is generally slower than bulk/cut cycling. Recomp is also often the fuckaround zone because it’s so hard to track whether changes are even happening. “Cool. Week 4 my weight is still the same. I think that’s good?”
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:40 PM
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in general I feel stronger but my body transformation is slow. as my bf is around 20% I don’t stress overeating too much from now on. I gained weight over the last year (intended to). now I try to feed my body proteine after a gym session but I don’t track and care about reaching 3200 kcal/day. I want to cut fat but gain muscles at the same time. my next target is 15-17% bf and 100kg bw. Body transformation is probably slow because you are dicking around. “Trying” to get protein. Not tracking ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:30 PM
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What’s up with these lift numbers? How are you only squatting 62.5kg after so long? (28 weeks?) And how is your BOR higher than your squat. You said you “went hard” in the gym but I kind of doubt you went hard on squats or deadlifts at those weights unless you have an actual disease. Could you put your wife over your shoulder and squat her? Why is the sex front cold? Are you getting rejected or not initiating?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:03 PM
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You had a fake epiphany. “I’m a mess, but all I have to do is be an adult and my problems will be solved!” You’re not wrong, and yet you are. All you did was restate “fix all my shit” as “be an adult”. And yes, that’s simple enough, but it’s probably not easy or you would have already done it. The hard work is still there. You just put a different name on it. Do the work or don’t. Your choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/24 04:36 PM
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Unless you’re competing in combat sports at a very high level, it’s going to do a lot less for your overall attractiveness than being lean and strong, because a purple belt is abstract and big, visible muscles are very concrete.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/24 04:17 PM
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Make time to hang out with guys more. She's calling you "strong names" and "cussing"? I can hear you clutch those pearls. asking if I am gay, yelling at me, threatening to tell our daughter about my supposed dark secrets ... even locking me out of the house for a few minutes. Clearly she's a bitch, but it's because she has no respect for you. Don't worry about getting her respect, though. Worry about your self-respect, because you clearly don't have any. When you respect yourself, you'll know ho…
/r/askMRP10/08/24 04:48 AM
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So they wanted you to not get your green card through the marriage and they wanted you to set aside a bunch of money for the eventual divorce? Meanwhile she’s mad at you for dumb stuff, badmouthing you to parents and friends? Bullet dodged indeed. You were getting set up to be wrung out to dry by a wife and in laws who had no respect for you. Where you went wrong was not seeing this for what it was sooner. Lift, sidebar, stfu… Go date some other girls man.
/r/askMRP07/08/24 10:13 PM
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Can it be solved with time? Absolutely. In 50 years or so you’ll be dead and no one will care about this. That’s a viable option if you don’t care either.
/r/askMRP06/08/24 04:26 PM
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Spoken like a guy with no spine. Lots of women have pms and don’t turn it into actual abuse. OPs wife sucks and he enables it because he also sucks.
/r/askMRP06/08/24 04:16 PM
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It seems like you think you’re disagreeing, but you’re not. People will treat others as they are allowed to. Shitty guys will scream at their wives and not their bosses because they fear the consequences of screaming at their bosses. Women who pay the pms card will keep it under control at work because they fear the consequences of being assholes at work. Same exact thing. It’s not about “new relationships”. It’s about consequences. OPs wife treats him like this because he allows it. Anyone with…
/r/askMRP06/08/24 04:13 PM
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I didn’t read all this but saw _RedTard’s callout and looked at this part. (You’re lucky anyone bothered reading this ridiculous book.) She literally called up our church mentors on me for doing this, essentially accusing me of rape despite her never giving any kind of “no” to anything I was doing. Fuuuuck no. “Falsely claiming assault” is pretty much a relationship ender. Lots of guys have reported bad experiences with the ten second kiss thing, by the way. It comes off needy and try hard. I de…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 10:31 PM
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She doesn’t care. She said she’s going to bed and to “fuck off.” Wait. Elsewhere you said that she refuses to let you go to a hotel (which is really a whole different problem that you can’t just book your own hotel room). Here you say she says fuck off and goes to bed. This sounds like you are subjecting yourself to this because you are trying to placate her emotions. Her emotions are her problem, not yours, and if you’re sticking around trying to calm her down, then you’re actively enabling and…
/r/askMRP01/08/24 03:52 PM
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“WHO FUCKING CARES? I DONT CARE I DONT CARE” She’s telling you the truth. She does not care to change for you. She is telling you plainly that she would rather keep acting like this than keep you. That’s her choice to make. It’s your choice to keep being abused though.
/r/askMRP01/08/24 03:45 PM
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It’s not 3 days/month. It’s every day of the month. 3 days/month she screams at you and hits you and the rest of the month she refuses to do anything about it. If she cared, she could be in therapy or seeking medical help. If she cared, she could book you a hotel so that you don’t have to be around her. But she doesn’t. You say she’s “an angel” but that angel doesn’t care to do anything about the devil who abuses you every month. And by your own admission it’s getting worse over time. Throwing i…
/r/askMRP01/08/24 03:40 PM
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How long have you been going to the gym? And who diagnosed you as having insufficient mobility to do squats and deadlifts? It sounds to me like you’re bullshitting yourself. Weeks of dicking around with 20kg dumbbell squats to fix vague “mobility” issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 02:56 PM
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DL and SQ are still very very low because they are "new" in my routine and I am working on proper technique knowing I have more weight in the tank. Your numbers are lower than the standard for an untrained man half your weight. You’re wasting time because squats and deadlifts are work. Talking about form with 20kg squats is insane. You don’t even know what your form problems are because you aren’t lifting enough weight. Next time, go in the gym and get a 20kg bar and put a 20kg weight on each si…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 01:19 AM
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It's been a long time since I went through that archive, but I recall there being a lot of good stuff in there. e.g. Dont try to fuck your wife, become more fuckable. I also seem to recall that somewhere in his archive is him advising someone that maybe the guy's wife just really hates giving BJs, which is perhaps not his best advice ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/24 04:16 AM
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... aaaand he deleted everything. Did his marriage blow up or did his wife find his mrp account? The actual account is still alive, so maybe he'll come back and tell us the story sometime. "His name was Vitrael2"
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/24 04:04 AM
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I don’t think it’s my job to do anything, though I get some perverse pleasure out of telling guys where they are fucking up, so I keep doing it. But I do think the intent of this sub is specifically to help guys. I agree that guys who keep posting OYS eventually get feedback. And some of it ends up being good feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 05:03 PM
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I think J10’s advice was flawed, like everyone else’s. There was definitely good stuff in there, though. Like everything else, take what’s useful and discard the rest. There are a ton of guys who read HoA’s history and then decide that TWOTSM is going to magically fix them. Retards are gonna retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 04:54 PM
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Go read the thread again. Top comment from ragnardanneskjunior has this in the middle: Look man, everyone loves short-term results but you are not doing anything constructive here that will last. Your wife will eventually get burnt out on your childish antics no matter how much dread there is or how good the sex is. […] Measure your progress in months and not in random acts of sluttery by your very overworked wife. He not only answered why the vitrael’s actions were stupid, but gave advice on ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 12:32 AM
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Why the fuck would you waste your time on aspirational gaymen? It's dead space. I don’t know. Why do people spend an hour digging through some newbie’s post history to lampoon them? That shit takes way longer than answering. Or just ignoring it. Regardless of whether it’s better or worse, the sub has definitely changed over the years. Go look at your first askmrp post and see the softball responses you got. The worst is someone called you a chihuahua. Simbarlion and others took time to give you …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 12:17 AM
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You’re reading stuff I didn’t write. Most people might be sacks of shit forever. Not my concern. No one here is entitled to my time or yours. And still I question the level of shitflinging sometimes. There’s no one compiling lists of the most brutal ego destructions. There is a list of Jack10’s posts, because they are useful for those who can rise above being a sack of shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/24 12:06 AM
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Take what’s useful and leave the rest, and that also applies to OYS. In the midst of the shitfests here there is frequently value to be found. Entertainment value if nothing else. You’re too worked up about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 11:56 PM
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Two months with no blowjobs. If your desire isn’t real now it will never be. You know you’re sabotaging yourself. Just stop. And don’t try so hard to calibrate. Just go for what you want, initiate like you want. Cut the neediness by having other stuff to do, by not allowing yourself to get pissy if/when you get rejected, and by not following her around with shitty “joking” initiations or pawing at her after she rejects you. Basically, go for what you want, and try not to be a bitch if you don’t …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 11:53 PM
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The Genuine Desire™ meme needs to die. There’s some utility in this to help guys learn to initiate directly/honestly/physically, but beyond that it seems to mostly be a way of repurposing sexual shame. By initiating when your balls are “exploding” you should be learning that initiations congruent with your desire are more effective. Instead you are hamstering that you shouldn’t act on your desire most of the time. What’s wrong with wanting see your wife suck your dick? Why is that not a genuine …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 04:48 PM
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Yes, I want to get my dick sucked but at this current stage it appears to me that I want it only for selfish reasons, because I want to see her doing it for me. This is needy, so I cut it. Nikki Sixx and Tommy Lee once went without showering for weeks to see if they could still get laid and only stopped when someone finally threw up in Nikki’s lap. If you want her to suck your dick, tell her to suck your dick and stop trying to justify why you want it or why you shouldn’t go for what you want. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 12:33 AM
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Shut up about how people don’t see your “value added”. Jesus Christ. You’ve got a real victim complex underneath your desperate need for validation. (“How come I’m not your favorite little boy like the_iron_temple”?) Regardless, good luck. I hope to don’t blow up your marriage, or failing that, that you come tell us the details.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:39 PM
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Maybe you need to nuke some shit tests. Also this: Nevertheless, all attempts got rejected with something like a comfort test: “I am not ready for sex after all these years of you being angry and bitter. I need to heal and feel loved first” is not a comfort test. How often are you rewarding bad behavior with comfort?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:22 PM
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You’re still fantasizing about your wife actually fucking you, huh? You know you could fix that yourself, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:16 PM
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I think there is some truth in the feedback. Not the banning stuff (which maybe exists but not at the level the complainers indicate), but the shitting on people for the sake of shitting on them and it being a net negative for this space. I think this peaked a couple of years ago, though, and is actually somewhat better now. For a while, SBIII (and guys who wanted to be SBIII) used to just endlessly shit on people who came looking for advice. Guys would cheer when someone at the end of their rop…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:13 PM
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You’re struggling with this because it’s performative. “How do I keep up this charade for 35 years?!” As long as you’re putting on an act, you will struggle with this, because it is draining to constantly put forward and false face. The answer for you is the same as everyone else. STFU, Lift, Sidebar. And OYS. Make yourself into the man you want to be and then act accordingly. Also you don’t have a wife. It sounds like you’re not even in a relationship, so this whole thing is ridiculous. You’re …
/r/askMRP27/02/24 04:51 PM
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That question was for you. I don’t really care about your answer. But it seems like you should.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 01:03 AM
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What was the point of this post? It doesn’t seem to be written for the reader, because you end it by admitting that you’re an idiot. If it’s for you and you’re looking for feedback/advice, there is a dearth of questions. It seems like you hoped you’d get a pat on the back for getting some hysterical bonding from your wife. Is your plan to go on another dry hump date with your “side bitch” next time you get starfish to hopefully re-trigger the hysterical bonding?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/24 10:55 PM
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This is a really shallow observation. You can find a subreddit that will act as an echo chamber for just about anyone. Of course you found threads where 2X is supportive of a woman ditching her partner. That subreddit exists specifically to support women’s choices. But also, most of the guys mentioned sound like they deserve to get ditched. A bunch of useless manchildren who suck in all aspects of life. You also sound like a bitter loser with your “frozen hearts” shit and spending your time trol…
/r/askMRP18/02/24 06:14 PM
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How is it not a dancing monkey act if I just do it to alter her behavior? It absolutely is dancing monkey if you do it to alter her One idea is that by chasing after my goals I will become so busy that I genuinely don’t have enough time for her. The other idea is that I am training her like a child who is misbehaving because they don’t know any better. Go for the first option. Build a life that you want and maybe she follows.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/24 03:31 AM
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42k/year under the table is a lot of money for a sugar baby who won’t suck dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 05:45 PM
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Sounds like your personal trainer is a waste of time. In a year you went from squatting 30lb to squatting 60lb. I guarantee a year ago you could already squat 60 if you just tried, so you’ve probably made no progress there at all. I bet you’d find a wealth of information if you just searched “lifting weights with scoliosis” online. And yes, you are absolutely making excuses. Worry less about the historical “why” and more about fixing it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 05:34 PM
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You’re an alcoholic who can’t control his drinking. This cutting back stuff is bullshit and you know it. Also, 19 days to write your first OYS. Great fucking job champ.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 04:58 PM
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Typical sets: incline bench press: 80 x 10, overhead press 60 x 10, deadlift 70 x 10, squat 60 x 10, chin-up: unweighted x 5. You say you’ve been lifting for a year, and this is what you have to show for it? I bet your scoliosis would be better managed if you actually squatted. $3.5K/month You are clearly nothing but an atm to your wife. You give her 3500/month to play with and that’s still not enough. Read WISNIFG and actually apply it. Set limits and enforce them. She guilts you about how she …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 04:44 PM
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Don’t have a gym membership - hence garage gym - but that’s an excuse. I don’t think it’s ego. I’ll post once I know. I can tell you I squatted 4 sets of 10 with 50lbs this morning. Get a gym membership or actually guild a garage gym with proper equipment (ahem: a barbell). You're a grown man. 50lb squat is bullshit unless you have some major medical condition.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 06:03 AM
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I train my upper body at the same time as I do pushes, presses and holds during these positions. This sounds like you're dicking around. Why don't you pick any well-respected beginner routine and just do that instead of making up your own random thing? I bet you wouldn't be talking about your legs being too weak to stand up and fuck if you could squat 300lb. My heart isn't good enough for dominant fucking. I took nitroglycerin and had one better session with it, the following one was just averag…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 05:36 AM
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she then uses that as a power play “I know he needs this from me therefore I can be whatever form of disrespectful and I can be”. Maybe in her head she's actually saying, "Thank god someone still finds me attractive. After 3 kids and 44 years, I feel ugly all the time." Point is you don't know what's in her head, so stop trying to read her mind. You're bending yourself out of shape because of a thought you imagine her having. i.e. You're bending yourself out of shape because of your thoughts. As…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 05:13 AM
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I deloaded squat preemptively because I felt I couldn't safely complete 3 sets with the next increase. Get in the rack and practice bailing if you're worried about it. Set the safety spotters where they need to be. Put the bar on your back. Squat to where it's hardest and then dump the bar onto the spotters. Everyone staring? Cool. Do it again. Then put your 60 extra pounds on the bar and do it a few more times. Get comfortable dumping the bar and now that excuse is gone. Also you're not really …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/24 05:05 AM
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the deeper and more cynical belief that I have that the majority of women that I have encountered in all areas of life seem to have no actual principles and therefore no actual boundaries that are not completely subjective and flexible. This would have been a much more interesting statement to make if you’d left it to stand on its own. Wrapping your opinion in RP platitudes, ego stroking, and an unimpressive anecdote (wow, she walked a whole half mile?) obscures it rather than giving it flavor.
/r/askMRP10/02/24 07:02 PM
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No, man. You threw out the generic “rules for betas” sound bite and then jerked off your ego with the “very few men can handle having that kind of power over a woman” stuff. Now you’re defensive because no one wants to see you with your hand in your pants. If you want to put those little anecdotes and thoughts out because you think it’s helpful to others, go for it. But it’s obvious that here you’re doing it for valuation.
/r/askMRP10/02/24 05:20 PM
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IDK dude. I see the trap being set, and I take the bait anyways. It's like a fucking automated function and it's been fucking me up. It’s because you’re bitter and angry. 100% if you ask your wife, she’ll say she’s being playful or teasing or something equivalent. And 100% if you can’t see it that way, it’s your problem. Even if you can’t engage with it as play, you should at least be able to roll your eyes at her and move on with your day. Maybe you should lay off the gear if you’re triggered t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 06:37 PM
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Your plan is to diet for half a year to lose 22 pounds? Why are you dragging your diet out so long? You’re not lean enough that 2lb/week is going to risk a bunch of muscle loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/24 04:56 PM
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You and your overwhelming insecurities are absolutely the root of the problem. How can you be this worried about guys she banged before you? I’ll level with you: She absolutely raw dogged with her 2 year boyfriend way more than she is admitting. She probably sucked way more than that 1 cock. No fucking way she’s only kissed one additional guy. That’s just fucking dumb. Your obsession with all this is peak cringe and you should shut the fuck up. You seriously had her call the dude whose dick she …
/r/askMRP08/02/24 04:50 PM
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OP, at first I assumed you were troll, but then I thought, "What if this guy is for real?" What if everything you say is true, but you're just really fucking dumb? Maybe you really do look like Channing Tatum, but are dumber than even the dumbest characters Channing Taum plays. Suddenly so much makes sense. Why would you assume you could retire in 5 years on a 300K salary? Why would you even worry about your salary when your wife makes nearly 10x? Of course, because you're retarded. Why would yo…
/r/askMRP05/02/24 05:33 AM
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Also weird discrepancy. Ah, so we have a troll wasting everyone’s time here.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/24 07:07 PM
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I have lots of thoughts about this. The main one is that this belongs in /r/askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/24 07:05 PM
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You blame weed for multiple problems and yet I don’t see anywhere that you’ve stopped using weed. Agree with chesthighandclean, you need to get out of the house. Working on your Camaro is not a social hobby. Take it to a car show or something at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/24 04:33 PM
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Was a bit sloppy this past week That’s two weeks in a row. Decide if you’re dieting or not. she comes home from work and is in the sweetest kindest mood and almost a completely different person. Maybe her BF gave her a good dicking at lunchtime. I don't know if this is what people would refer to as the "main event" Yeah, it’s not. It’s just a prolonged shit test. What are you doing socially? There’s no mention of any social activities. Do you have a life? Also, half of your post is about her. Sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/24 02:51 PM
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I didn't think I fucked up my eating but because I didn't write it down I don't know where I fucked up. Did PSMF 5 days and fasted for 48 hours. PSMF for 5 days plus 48 hours of fasting accounts for the entire week. There's no space in there for "fucking up". Do you want to stop bullshitting yourself and admit what you actually did now?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 06:36 AM
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5'11, 155lb 19% BF (Navy) Is this for real? 19% BF at 5'11, 155lb? Are you really carrying no muscle mass? My biggest hurdle is eating enough Two scoops of ON whey protein powder, 2 tbsp peanut butter, and 12oz milk is about 650 calories and 65g protein. Eat your normal meals, add in two shakes/day, and shut the fuck up. It's not that hard to get in calories if you make any effort at all. (If you can't afford whey protein, then eating enough is not in fact your biggest hurdle.)
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 06:28 AM
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Did you want to 69? If you want a fun, adventurous sex partner, don’t shut them down if they are suggesting stuff you enjoy doing/trying. Don’t step on your own dick here.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 07:02 PM
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For sure Cialis has a much longer half life. That’s why so many find it more appealing. I’m not sure that implies it’s likely to lead to dependence though. That first article doesn’t seem to say anything about dependence (but I only skimmed it) and the second seems to agree that there is little risk of dependency. For sure people should be aware of the risks. But so far the risks of sane use (not idiots popping double the max dose and ending up with priapism) seem pretty low.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 06:48 PM
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If your back is weak, strengthen your back, dude. Avoid exercises that specifically aggravate it, sure, but not exercising your back isn’t going to improve it. Maybe Romanian deadlifts. The weight will be lower than traditional deadlifts, and if you do them right, your hamstrings will do most of the work. But your back will get stronger, too. Standard caveat that I am not a lifting expert applies here.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 06:04 PM
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Could be. Sounds like he’s spending way too much time in his head, trapped in his own hamster maze.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 06:01 PM
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I don't want to go to sleep at night knowing I've been taken for granted. This sounds like validation seeking. What do you care if someone else takes you for granted, so long as you’re getting what you need and want?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 05:54 PM
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Building a dependency on them for wood is bad There is at least one study that shows viagra actually increases erection quality even after it’s flushed from the system. The study participants took viagra before going to sleep, which resulted in more nocturnal erections. The participants broadly reported improved erectile function during the day when no viagra remained in their systems. i.e. The aftermath of viagra use appears be better erections and there is no rebound effect. Are there studies …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 05:48 PM
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Lower back pain plus weak hamstrings sounds like you should add a deadlift variant to your routine.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 05:37 PM
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Dude. Shut the fuck up. You’re standing around jerking yourself off in front of everyone and raging at the guy who’s telling you to put your dick away. Your post is full of pity party victim puke bullshit. “Woe is me! I’ve been such a loser. I swear to GOD that I will be different! No one gives a fuck about this weepy bullshit. This is a mix of half you doing the “penance” thing where you beat yourself up and think it makes you better and half you acting like you “get it” not. Either way it’s 10…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/24 05:22 PM
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You refuse to do anything address your alcohol problem. Lazy. You think your big problem is that your wife won’t suck your dick. Entitled. You’re so full of ego it’s gross.
/r/askMRP26/01/24 04:01 PM
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It felt like a chore to initiate... I like my wife sometimes, but feel annoyed at her lack of ambition or activity in doing anything. There’s no effort put in to be attractive for me and that annoys me too… You’re butthurt that she doesn’t put in the effort because she doesn’t find you attractive enough to bother. This is a you problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 05:25 PM
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I tend to root for most of the guys who come here, even if they are trainwrecks. I’m not rooting for you. You seem like a lazy, entitled asshole. Even the folks in relationship_advice see through your bullshit. https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/17h2nui/comment/k6kum9m/?context=4
/r/askMRP25/01/24 05:05 PM
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Dude. Your wife is 100% checked out and you are worried about subtle wording differences. Some guys show up here because they got the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” speech. You got the “I don’t even love you” speech. I read your post in relationship_advice. It’s painfully obvious that you are deeply unbearable to your wife. Your wife is right. It is all your fault, but not for the reasons she thinks. It’s all your fault because you’re a doormat. You don’t need to post this in askmrp. …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/24 04:55 PM
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I have experience. I know how to get in shape. I know how to increase my lifts. I know when to gain weight and lose weight. Do you, though? You sound like the kind of guy who fervently believes he knows how to replumb a bathroom because one time he fixed a leaky sink. Last week you skipped squats because your legs “didn’t feel right” and it never even occurred to you to just warm up and see how they felt after. This week you’re contemplating jumping programs after following your current one for …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/24 08:23 PM
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I’m really tempted to start my tried and true pyramid method I don’t care about what you do in the gym, what program you follow. That’s on you. But why do you insist on coming here and pretending like you have some deep expertise in lifting when your squat 1RM is maybe 225? That voice in your head that tells you that you know all about the gym? You should tell it to shut the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 05:11 PM
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Mission: Be attracted to things that give me value. Is this a typo or the stupidest mission ever? I care more about attracting things that bring me value than about being attracted to them. Also, I want to only give when there are no strings attached and be comfortable not giving when I expect something in return. This part is definitely stupid. How about “give from a place of abundance” or “give with no expectations”? This is just you admitting that you get butthurt from your covert contacts so…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/24 05:04 PM
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You tell him that basing his decision on her reaction is not independent and then up tell him that he should base his decision on her reaction. Going just to rile her up is no more independent than staying home to placate her. He should have gone if he wanted to go, stayed home if he wanted to stay home. He should have done what he wanted. Personally, I would have stayed home because I don’t have any desire to be on a boat full of hookers. OP, stop worrying so much about her reactions. You canno…
/r/askMRP23/01/24 04:45 PM
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Glad to see you’re being honest with yourself about why you’re here, at least. Your plan to work with what you have is the only way forward. Build on what you have. There is no other option except to wallow in self pity. I would seriously advise you to get your hormones checked. Sounds like you’re seeing doctors regularly. No reason you should not be able to request this soon. I’m not an expert so do some research on what you need. I know you want total testosterone and free testosterone, but th…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/24 03:06 PM
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Covert contract is basically, "I do X, so she (or whoever) should do Y". "I work hard, so she should keep the house clean." "I don't get fat, so she should fuck me when I want." "I cook, so she should clean." "I earn my money, so I should be able to spend it without her bitching at me." Etc. Covert contracts often leave people seething because they do X but the other person doesn't do Y, and they see that as "not fair" because the other person isn't following the rules they didn't agree to. If y…
/r/askMRP19/01/24 06:46 AM
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"Hey, guys. I'm spending a lot of time fantasizing about my girlfriend turning into Sydney Sweeney because I'm so awesome, but like, I also want to go fuck the actual Sydney Sweeney because I'm so awesome. How do I reconcile these two fantasies?"
/r/askMRP18/01/24 04:52 PM
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If you want to divorce, then in your next OYS, you should talk about what steps you're taking to make that happen. All the nonsense about her being an "adult child of alcoholics" (whatever that means) and all her drama is irrelevant. Be careful with this "I'm not any use to my kids" stuff unless your goal is to have no custody and pay child support. If you want 50/50 custody, you need to be fighting for it now, not after you "fix yourself". You should also figure out Reddit formatting. Your repl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 04:37 PM
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That means heavier weights. If you drop to sets of 3, you'll end up with higher weight working sets because you'll be approaching your 3 rep max instead of your 5 rep max as you increase the weight from session to session. Again, I'm not a lifting expert, but in general, more reps means less wear and tear on the joints because of the lower weight. 3x3 is also probably going to put muscle on slower than 3x5. Do what works for you, though. If you feel better with sets of 3 and you're gaining muscl…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 04:31 PM
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I stepped away to get my situation settled, I assumed I had to start over numbering. I can resume at 9 next week. Eh, you can do whatever you want. There are no rules for how or whether to number OYS posts. I just glanced at your history and saw that you had previous OYS posts and wondered what was up. I was pressing both until the shoulder issue. Working with a physical therapist to correct. I don’t know what this means. But regardless, I guess I’m asking if these numbers are legit. How is your…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/24 05:18 AM
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Watched video by Mark Rippetoe about lifting with arthritis and he suggests only doing sets of 3 after warm ups so that’s what I’ve been doing. Rippetoe’s advice for arthritis is to lift heavier? So sets of 3 reps instead of 5 reps? That seems backwards. I’m not a lifting expert, though. Hopefully one will stop by and give you some advice for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 08:45 PM
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If you don’t like your pastor, find a new church. You’re not obligated to go to one with a pastor you don’t like.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 08:38 PM
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OYS#1 Your last OYS was numbered 7. Not sure what’s going on here. Bench 160x8 OHP 160x8 Your bench and OHP are the same? Separation What do you want in all of this? I can’t tell. It seems like a bunch of resentful rambling. Also, what happened with the concussion? This seems like a major thing given that you mention speech deficits.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 08:37 PM
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That place is a giant fucking pity party. It’s guys alternately whining that they can’t stand to stay in their shitty relationship and then whining that they got dumped.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 05:11 PM
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This is just a covert contract. The red pill cornerstone is that you can only control yourself. You might be the most stoic motherfucker in the world. That doesn’t mean a crazy bitch will always be in a good mood for you. She might follow. She might not. Fix yourself and see if she follows. If not, find someone who will. If you can’t do that, you didn’t fix yourself.
/r/askMRP17/01/24 05:06 PM
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Standing up" in the past has almost led to her getting violent. So you’re literally afraid of your wife. There’s only two ways to interpret this. Either you’re a giant pussy or she’s dangerously crazy. Which is it? But I am Catholic and I am committed to my marriage vows. So you’re willfully helpless. If you are unwilling to leave no matter what she does, then nothing you do or say has any power. It’s all bullshit. So I will ask again, what are some practical ways of not letting your wife's mood…
/r/askMRP17/01/24 05:02 PM
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You're saying me not leaving my comfort zone is limiting my sex opportunities, right? It is, but no. I guess I fucked up the quote with my lazy copying, since I pulled in the less interesting half. I'll say "Whaat? Of course not, I only have eyes for you" and other bullshit. The point is that all of your actions are desperately comfort seeking. You can't admit you find other women attractive because you'd be uncomfortable.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 07:01 AM
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I missed squats on one day due to my legs not being ready and I didn’t want to potentially injure myself. No. You missed squats because you bitched out. What did you think was going to happen to your legs if you squatted?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 08:20 PM
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What “dread related behavior” are you referring to? You, your wife, and your family all just went through something traumatic and painful. It’s fine to grieve for a while. Including you. But that also doesn’t mean you need to be holed up in your house for some specific amount of time. If “dread” includes getting out of the house to see friends or engage in a hobby, that’s just good self care.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 08:16 PM
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Did you want to do that?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 08:01 PM
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my diet is wrapped in my lifestyle of indulgence. You mean a lifestyle of comfort. Indulgence would be going out and fucking other women in threesomes. But that wouldn’t be comfortable for you. my initiations are at night You see that this is limiting your sex opportunities. What are you not addressing this? Of, right. Comfort. When I'm questioned about if I'm attracted to other women, I'll say … Do you see the pattern yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:34 PM
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At the time I felt that not buckling to the temptation to ignore my responsibilities was the correct one, but in hindsight I believe I failed a comfort test that I misidentified as a compliance test. And what do you think you should have done? You took time to share what you did, what you thought the test was, and what you think it is now. But you didn’t share what, if anything, you would do differently next time. Edit: Also this is lame: weight: 75kg (+2, christmas) Christmas didn’t do shit to …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:16 PM
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Introspection is good. Just be aware when it’s turning into navel gazing and no longer doing anything useful. Action pays far more dividends than thought. But thought does pay dividends as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:13 PM
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Not a ton, but enough to be unattractive. Besides that one episode, I had a couple of deer’ing episode where I eventually caught myself in the act and just STFU for the remainder of the conversation. There seems to be some kind of gap here. You say you aren’t wanting to fuck your wife, but you also are clearly concerned with being attractive to her still. I suspect your “I’m not attracted to her” is ego protection of some sort. Is your wife morbidly obese or something? I need to balance this so …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 05:04 PM
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You’re running around telling everyone else to get divorced while you’re “in no rush” to do that yourself. You tell everyone to get “side pieces” while you are talking to other women. You’re clearly LARPing. I suspect you’re actually an incel given that you have no side piece and you tell others that they shouldn’t initiate with their wives. LARP away if that’s what you want, but I doubt it’s getting you any closer to that “porn star sex” you have on the pedestal.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/24 09:41 PM
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How much spoon feeding do you need? Reread your comment and mine and think about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/24 09:04 PM
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All of your comments have the same bitter energy. You think you’re “acting like she’s dead” when in reality you’re just butthurt and stuck in the anger phase. You’re still the dancing monkey here, even if you are dancing for other women. At some point you should think about what you want and not just daydream about pornstar sex. Become your own mental point of origin and all that. And I’m talking to other women. I’m looking forward to the askmrp post where you tell us that you got caught trying …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/24 09:03 PM
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that doesn’t test u with drama and bullshit You’re mad at women for being women.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/24 08:47 PM
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The goal is leaving or getting other women. The goal is being checked out. You’re projecting hard. It’s pretty clear from your posts that you are bitter and resentful toward your wife. It’s also clear that you are too much of a bitch to just leave so you’re projecting that desire onto others. If your goal is to leave your wife, just fucking do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/24 05:58 PM
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Weigh yourself every day in the same state (most people choose morning after waking up) and use the rolling average. Weekly weighings can be both misleading and demotivating. There are lots of apps that can do the averaging for you, some including smarter algorithms that can discount outliers (i.e. bloated from a salty dinner) and predict your trajectory. Worth a couple of dollars, I think. Don't try to get more done socially. Just do it. Text an acquaintance and ask them to hang out. Or do it f…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 05:48 AM
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I won't pretend I know anything about fibromyalgia. Do what you need to medically. Just make sure you're not bullshitting yourself in the gym and do what you can. In terms of testosterone, make sure they don't bullshit you by saying you're in the normal range when you're really on the absolute bottom end of "normal" and clearly experiencing symptoms. A quick search indicates that low testosterone is correlated with fibromyalgia in men and testosterone is an effective treatment in some men. (Cave…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 05:39 AM
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Cardio: Terrible, but improving with daily burpees Just get on a bike or go for a run. This is likely more effective than trying to build up your cardio with burpees and it's certainly easier to track. Fitness goals: get to 10-15% BF, on the first week of a somewhat low carb diet, zero sugar and processed foods. Also need to improve my cardio a lot. You copied/pasted this from last week. Are you actually trying to lose fat? Because you didn't lose any weight this week. wife often tries some subt…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/24 07:26 PM
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I plan to find work in a speech pathology practice after You quit your current job without having a new one lined up, and your plan is to get a job in a field you're not trained in. You're not even looking for another job for 8 weeks? Are you wealthy or dumb? Lifts: OHP 12kg I don't understand this number. You've mentioned some health stuff but this is lower than the standard for a tiny, untrained woman. https://exrx.net/Testing/WeightLifting/PressStandardsKg Either you have a disease that your …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/24 06:10 PM
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Phrak’s GSLP absolutely does not say that. If you are pushing your 1-3 rep max, you are not following Phrak’s.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:58 PM
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Who the fuck said an untrained 40-year-old should be cranking out one rep max attempts regularly?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:43 PM
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Time to update the divorce guide. Have no assets. Be woefully unattractive. Let your wife do all the paperwork. (Bonus: this reinforces that you have no assets and that you’re unattractive.)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:32 PM
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risk of injury shoots up with age This is true regardless of whether you lift. But in general, weight training is heavily correlated with both reduced injuries and faster recovery when injured. Obviously you have a higher likelihood of injuring yourself lifting if you actually lift. But you also have a lower likelihood of injuring yourself skiing, or walking home, or carrying in the groceries.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 08:29 PM
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It seems he's so unattractive that his wife is doing everything she can to just efficiently extract herself, but I can't imagine signing divorce papers without a qualified lawyer representing me looking them over.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 01:36 PM
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For some reason I find it impossible to be playful right now. Figure it out or give up. Your “I can’t control my emotions” shit is tedious.
/r/askMRP10/01/24 01:15 AM
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Please let me know how I will get fucked over. That’s your lawyer’s job.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 01:05 AM
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It will take me 5-7 months to pay off my debt if everything goes to plan. I will be moving in with a roommate. How is custody going to work when you're living with a roommate? Where is your kid staying? It sounds like your finances are your biggest problem. What are you doing about that? It sounds like you're not actually doing anything there.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 08:28 PM
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Her lawyers sent me everything and we made a few adjustments, then sent it back. Who is "we"? All of your posts sound like you don't have a lawyer. I feel like you're about to get fucked over.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 08:26 PM
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I’m mentally settled with the possibility that she might branch-swing because of this. As opposed to her deciding to become a spinster? Yeah, she'll go looking for another guy if you separate. I am newly hired and already in the higher end, salary wise. I think I’ll try to negotiate courses/competences this year instead. This will put me in a much better position in a year to switch company. Why not both? Ask for more money and for whatever courses you want. Maybe you get both. Maybe you don't, …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 08:22 PM
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Dumbell Deadlift - 120 (Two 60's) / 8x3 Why? The post called "The Interview" was exciting This is OYS, not own-some-other-guy's-shit. Why are you posting about this? Are you going to try this? If so, just try it and report back. If not, why are you talking about this at all? "I read some guy's erotica story and got kind of hard." some spam caller You talk too fucking much. She doesn't want to hear it and it doesn't belong in your OYS either. Block the caller. Show her how you did it. Move on. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 08:15 PM
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Reddit says this account is suspended, too. How are you even posting? Also stop whatever you're doing to get your accounts suspended, or at least use a different account for whatever that is.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 08:06 PM
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My problem is that I’m working 7 days a week starting the day from 9 am to 11 pm but my productivity is low. Why are you doing this? It's clearly not working. You're spending the majority of your life working (or pretending to work, at least). Why don't you try working 8-10 hours but actually work? The pain is still there and I can feel it though, mostly if I deadlift. Sounds like this is a minor tweak. You'll be fine. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=riq-DfDDimc
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:57 PM
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I had an angry phase, posted a victim puke but now my issue is more bitterness. You're very clearly still in the anger phase. Bitterness is literally anger. Since we talked (fought while I was drinking) So you get drunk and fight? Sounds like you're still the drunk captain. Now you're just an asshole, too. she has gotten ready every day What does this mean? Was she previously not doing basic stuff like showering and putting on clothes? But she is not happy about it and that makes me resent her. …
/r/askMRP09/01/24 07:53 PM
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Are you still with the chick who cheated on you twice? No amount of MRP will help you if you don't have self-respect.
/r/askMRP06/01/24 07:03 AM
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Handicapped in what way? Limp? Wheelchair bound? ALS? You gotta work with what you got no matter what, but your particular handicap could be more or less of a burden. You'll get better advice if you post honestly in OYS.
/r/askMRP06/01/24 07:02 AM
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Is it a possibility to just straight up ignore confort tests? Unlikely you're getting any comfort tests, so absolutely. Ignore them.
/r/askMRP06/01/24 06:57 AM
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No doubt, but bad advice is still bad advice. This sort of garbage "here's how to be comfortable" advice is the absolute heart of the "blue pill". "Of course you found it awkward to expect your date to pay for themselves. You should just pay." "Of course it's awkward approaching women. You should wait for them to approach you." "Of course you're uncomfortable when your girl doesn't want you going out with the guys. You should stay home." "Of course it feels weird telling your girl to blow you. Y…
/r/askMRP06/01/24 06:51 AM
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That's out of your control. She might be banging heroin addicts and there's fuck all you can do about it. Control what you can, which is how you choose to interact with your kid and how you interact with her. I'm trying to get to a point financially where I can go to court again and get %100 custody if I can, but that is going to take some time. You're not going to get 100% custody just because you don't like the dudes your ex is banging. The court doesn't care. The court taking custody fully aw…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 10:03 PM
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What the fuck does any of that mean? What does her fucking some other guy have to do with you? Or maybe he is just a huge simp You're the huge simp. You're so stressed about imaginary dudes banging your ex that you can't figure out if you're allowed to help out the mother of your child. Get your shit together. She's gonna fuck other dudes. She might be already. At some point she'll probably couple up into an LTR with one of them and possibly remarry. None of that is relevant to your relationship…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 09:45 PM
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You should pay. Fuck off with this bullshit. You "should" do what you want. Skittles guy doesn't pay for dinner.
/r/askMRP05/01/24 08:53 PM
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Big incel energy here. How do you behave at work around women? Are you seriously in FMOFY mode with every woman you see? Let me phrase it differently and see if that helps. Try treating your ex like a person, and stop thinking of her as a set of holes to put your dick in. You should be able to interact with her without trying to fuck her. I'm not saying you need to be besties with your ex. I'm saying you should be able to be friendly and cordial with her.
/r/askMRP05/01/24 08:46 PM
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"I can't be nice to a girl unless I'm trying to fuck her" is the epitome of Nice Guy bullshit. Gross, dude. one other chick in my lifetime who I could treat as a platonic friend even though we were fooling around Apparently you don't know what platonic means.
/r/askMRP05/01/24 06:48 PM
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But at this point, I don’t think I’m hot shit because I’m not. Realistically, if someone says something bad about how socially awkward I am, they’re right, I am a little socially awkward. So how do I take that and not care? I do care and I’m working to improve it, but until I get there, it'll affect the way I view myself. How are you asking this if you've read WISNIFG twice? You're socially awkward, so when someone comes along and says "you're autistic AF, bro", you respond, "Yeah, I probably am…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 06:30 PM
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"I'm a modern man so she should expect to pay her half of the meal" is a stupid covert contract. If you want to do dinner dates and you want her to split, tell her up front that she needs to cover her half. What would you guys have done in this situation? Fucking idiot. Just tell her she's buying next time. If there's no next time, whatever, you said you don't actually care about the money. If there is a next time, great, she covers the next meal and you've set the expectation that she pays for …
/r/askMRP05/01/24 06:20 PM
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When she eventually finds another man and no longer wants me to help her out... Don't worry, when she gets a new man, she'll still expect you to be her little helper. She'll have you pick up the kid from daycare so she has time to suck her new guy off after work. I would advise that you treat her like a platonic friend. Would you help a friend disassemble and move a trampoline? If so, no problem helping her out. Would you babysit for a friend every day they have their kid? If so, sure, do that f…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 06:13 PM
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I'm trying to imagine the scenario where people you haven't seen in months notice that you're bigger, and comment on your back. Not your chest, shoulders, or arms. Just your back. It sounds like BS. If you claimed just your training partner said this, sure, that fits. But multiple people you haven't seen in months commented that your back looks wide? Did only your back grow? I only post here to receive criticism and outside perspectives, I don’t care about impressing people whom I will never mee…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 05:47 AM
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they spontaneously told me that my back is wider They haven’t seen you in months, and the comment is “bro, your back got wide”? No chance that a casual acquaintance said that shit to you. Liars often reveal themselves by including weird, unnecessary details. Do your calisthenics if you want, but you sound delusional. I doubt it’s a coincidence that you include only anecdotes about your “gains” instead of any actual numbers. I no longer feel much of an urge to have sex with my girlfriend and I ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 05:07 PM
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This isn’t even askmrp worthy. This is low value garbage. OP, instead of asking what this person might need/want in a partner, you should be asking what you need to do to become the kind of person that women find attractive. The answer to that is in the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 04:35 PM
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I’m not a mod. I didn’t shut down your low value threads.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 06:44 AM
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Your problem isn’t that you don’t have her respect. It’s that you don’t have yours. She doesn’t respect you because she can smell the desperate need for validation on you. If you respected yourself, and could validate yourself, you wouldn’t need her validation.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:59 PM
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Oh, you’re the guy who runs his mouth about getting IOIs until his girl snaps and tells him to go cheat. And then you think it’s a comfort test. I suspect that you’re right. Your girl finds your body hot, and doubtless finds it hot if other girls want you. But your girl doesn’t actually respect you. Probably because you’re a validation seeking bitch. Your desire to tell her about your affair is just more validation seeking. You can’t soothe your own conscience so you want her to do it for you.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:41 PM
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If I tell my wife about the affair will it free my guilt and projection so I can enjoy life again and will it get me respect back? no and noDefinitely. Try it and report back.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:24 PM
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Why do you care about what other people do in their relationships? Do you want more cuddles? If not, this seems like a really dumb thing to be spending your time thinking about.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 08:53 PM
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The term “dread” is stupid. It’s just a matter of attraction, at least until the FMOFY step, which is just negotiated sex. You’re complacent. You were posting in OYS for a bit but stopped as soon as you got laid a few times. You are here asking this question because sex dried up again and you’re here to figure out what’s wrong with your wife instead of what’s wrong with you. Your wife is not special. There are a million guys who have come here to complain about their bitch wives who won’t fuck. …
/r/askMRP02/01/24 08:30 PM
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She’s just not as attracted to you as you’d like to imagine. Never seeks comfort = already very comfortable
/r/askMRP02/01/24 06:45 PM
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Two different threads and basically everyone agreed that the answer is “do the basics”. The most impactful thing will different depending on where a guy starts, but rarely will the most impactful thing not be part of the basics. There isn’t some conspiracy here where no one is able to share what “really” worked for them. People share all kinds of shit in OYS and less frequently field reports.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 06:44 PM
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Read Steel’s guide. It’s not in random order. But also, you absolutely looking for magic pills here. You aren’t trying to do 20% of the work. You’re trying to do 2%.
/r/askMRP31/12/23 05:07 PM
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These initiations, instead of giving me a sense of triumph, gave me a sense of unworthiness. I still feel like I'm faking it until I make it after 2 years. Am I understanding correctly that you basically are living the life you want, but you just don’t feel fulfilled? It sounds like you’re struggling with the human condition. Some thoughts: Perhaps you have been chasing the wrong things. Maybe there’s something else you actually need/want. Go chase that, but be aware that often the fulfillment i…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 05:01 PM
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This is absolutely a basic question. Steel’s guide answers it for you. What Do I Do First You are expected to read the sidebar – all of the sidebar. You are expected to SHUT THE FUCK UP. You are expected to get up off your fat ass and go get a gym membership, and actually go to the gym. You are expected to lift heavy weights until it hurts so good at least three times per week.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 04:51 PM
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Why does this post exist? This is clearly askmrp material, which you also clearly knew since you also posted it in askmrp.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 07:07 AM
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Maybe I asked the wrong question or asked it the wrong way. Your post is too vague. You say spent 2 years dancing. Okay. What did you want your dancing to accomplish that it didn't? I can't tell what you want different in your life or marriage. That's why I asked if it's just sex. If your wife starts taking it in the ass and letting you cum on her face and down her throat, are your goals met? If not, what else, and is it more important to you than the sex stuff?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/23 07:05 AM
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Alright. Gym is handled, then. What do you want to change? Is your only gripe that you aren't getting laid like you want? Are you able to get what you want elsewhere?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 06:06 PM
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After 2 years, you must have some decent lifts. Why not share them? I'm angry now but no longer at my wife. Bet that's a lie.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 06:57 AM
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Please tell me this strategy is reasonable. Why? Will it change anything if a couple of random people head nod your strategy? When squatting above 90 degrees I could squat appr. 330 lbs. In the hole I could only squeeze appr. 200 lbs out. Is that a typo or are you really seeing a 40% drop in your max when you drop below parallel? Are you comparing a quarter squat with ATG?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 06:54 AM
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You need a hobby. What do you do with your time? Do the fishing thing, sure, but also go find a hobby that involves other people. You need to have shit in your life that you want to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 06:43 AM
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You do realize that all the "devil worship" is nonsense, right? The Satanic Temple is an atheistic organization that invokes satanic imagery mostly to fuck with people who follow Abrahamic religion. Something is not right in the world right now. I've got lots of concerns about the world, but silly goat-head statues aren't in the list. Regardless, if Christianity matters to you, there's a whole sub for that. /r/RPChristians/ They also have an OYS. Some people post in both.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 06:40 AM
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You’re not wrong. I went way overboard writing this. By the time I saw it, I was committed to finishing it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 05:25 PM
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Sounds like you should STFU more. You bringing up that some other girl looked at you over and over until your girl snaps as you is not attractive, nor is it the likely creating the “dread” you think. You would probably be a lot more attractive if you learned to brush off her comments about other girls hitting on you as if it were commonplace. Repeatedly reminding her that some other chick found you attractive reeks of validation seeking and tells her that it’s a big deal because it doesn’t happe…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 04:28 PM
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Good job. Learning to manage your mental state is an important part of RP, but also just good adulting.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 04:22 PM
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How much of a slob are you usually if putting on a shirt with buttons “starts the hamster”?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/23 05:46 PM
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Stop trying to find the magic keys to manipulate her. They don’t exist. There’s no text you can send to reset. There is no new communication style that will suddenly fix the past here. So you should decide what you want to do and do that. Want to start more communication? Do that. Want to wait it out? Do that. Want to ignore her forever? I guess do that. Whatever. I would suggest against apologizing, because you’re basically going to be saying “hey, sorry I tried to play manipulative mind games …
/r/askMRP18/12/23 06:14 AM
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There is no magic fix for your specific circumstances. Guys come here endlessly thinking there’s a trick to fix their particular issue. There’s never a trick. Your problem is that you’ve been acting like an idiot who wants to break up. The solution is to stop acting like an idiot who wants to break up. It’s that simple, but not that easy. You can’t fix the past. Fix the future. This is why everyone’s giving you advice like STFU, sidebar, gym. Those are investments in the future.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 03:11 AM
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I guess you’re right that this is better than telling your wife, but I’m not sure why you need to really tell anyone this. What you should do is figure out your plan for yourself and post in OYS. I notice that you didn’t bother to do that. As for your wife, that’s done. Move on. Figure out your money situation because you need to be able to pay lawyers.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 12:26 AM
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I’m not sure what you need to vent about. It seems like you’ve spent quite some time being absolutely useless and now you’re shocked your wife is done. You’re like that meme of the guy shoving a stick into the spokes of his own bike wheel.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 09:21 PM
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Maybe stop acting like an idiot? If you were Chris Hemsworth, acting like this might still work out. But you aren’t. You’re just some dude, and acting like you’re completely disinterested isn’t generally going to play out well. There’s the 2/3 rule that says you give back 2/3 of what you get. Sounds like you were trying the 0/3 rule. You need to find a spot in the big middle ground between uninvested and overinvested.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 09:18 PM
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This is askmrp. Do you actually have a question? This seems like rambling nonsense about the train wreck life you’ve created.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 05:15 PM
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My suggestion is to stop the fantasizing. You haven’t written anything here that even resembles an actual plan. It’s all bullshit. You’re fantasizing about a future life when you’ll be the ninja captain or whatthefuckever and pretending like this fantasizing is actually moving you closer to that state. It’s not, nor is the quest for more complete definitions of “confidence” and “frame”, as if your incomplete dictionary is really the issue. How about you cut the bullshit. Identify something about…
/r/askMRP17/12/23 05:10 PM
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Cool-confident-kick-ass-captain of my ship is how I would summarize my firm idea. You really wrote that out twice and still can’t see that it’s mental masturbation?
/r/askMRP17/12/23 07:28 AM
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Like I said, things are normal when I’m home and my wife doesn’t hesitate to express that she is not happy to see me go. I am a pretty good father and I connect with the kids a lot better than she does. I do consider myself relatively high value. This doesn’t sound like you actually believe you’re high value at all. You even weasel word it with “relatively”. Your wife not wanting you to leave doesn’t mean she sees you as high value. That just means life is at least a little easier with you aroun…
/r/askMRP17/12/23 06:46 AM
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So after I started traveling a lot I began cutting way back on saying “I love you” and “I miss you”. I pretty much stopped saying those things except in person. I would typically respond with light hearted deflections. Was your intent to convince your girl that you are in a long-distance relationship that’s slowly dying? Because that’s what this sounds like.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 06:42 AM
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If you know what you want your relationship to look like but you don’t know how to get there, you’re probably just engaging in fantasy. I bet your “firm idea” of your relationship is mostly about what you want your wife to do rather than what you want to do. “I want a wife who will take care of 3 kids all day and then gag on my dick as soon as I walk in the door.” Practice more. Plan less.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 06:35 AM
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This sounds like mental masturbation. You’re going to become like an expert in basketball who’s barely ever stepped on a court. You’ll be able to identify confident body language and speak convincingly about what a confident cold approach looks like, but you won’t be able to actually do it. All this about reading and meditating is just avoidance. Read less and do more. Honestly, just read Steel’s guide and put it into action instead of trying to become an expert in anything. If you just read Ste…
/r/askMRP16/12/23 05:21 PM
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Bringing in capital seems like the perfect excuse to adjust agreements. Do you really have no experienced advisors you can trust to hold your confidence here? Board members? Angel investors? I hear what you’re saying and at the same time it seems like an excuse. Everything has risk. You can choose the risk that your company implodes when your marriage does or you can choose the risk that your investors pull out because they hear you might get divorced. Honestly I don’t know why your investors wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/23 05:13 PM
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My marriage is "pretty good" because there are times were we both enjoy being around each other. So your bar is literally “can stand to be around her most of the time”. I enjoy being around most people. That doesn’t mean I’d marry most people. I like the idea of kids, but I'm still on the fence. We are both busy people, so kids would definitely put a wrench in the spokes. Kids will made everything harder. Taking time is the least of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/23 06:01 PM
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This cannot be an uncommon issue. You should find investors or advisers who have dealt with this before and get some advice. It’s great to get input from lawyers but I would not only get input from them.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 06:22 PM
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What steps have you taken to begin protecting your company in the eventuality that you divorce? You said your company is VC backed. Have you gone to any of your advisors to get advice on how to leave your wife without fucking up the company?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 04:51 PM
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Sounds like you already worked through this the next time so you probably don’t need more advice on this. To clarify my broken record comment, the intent isn’t to nag and definitely not to negotiate, but to be unwavering and unaffected by the shit tests. I’ve had my wife do this before (though not for 10 solid minutes). I just redirect over and over, with a strong helping of STFU. Basically just not engaging with the tests, because they aren’t relevant to what I want. For the examples you have, …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 04:03 PM
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I think you’re a liar. You’re lying to us and lying to yourself. You took the time to add a big section on dating to your OYS and preemptively DEER about not wanting to date. What I see is a guy who’s frustrated with his efforts around dating and is basically giving up. Instead, look for different ways to approach the problem. You do you, but in general a guy who says sex isn’t a concern is either getting a lot of sex or lying.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 03:36 PM
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I don’t know what to make of you. Your wife is a cheating whore but you can’t bring yourself to call her a whore when you fuck her. You have only made it to the gym once in three weeks. You say your diet is going great but you weigh more than you did two weeks ago. Shit doesn’t make sense. Look. I think threekindsoflucky gave you the honest feedback you need. You need to also understand that you can choose to not have that be you. You’re stuck in a self loathing cycle. You have to break that. Pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 08:06 AM
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She gave you her number because you’re a potential business opportunity. I doubt she saw any sexual tension. You’re the guy who comes in here telling everyone the barista totally wants to bang him because she won’t stop smiling while he’s rambling at her. She wants your money, not your dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 07:21 AM
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Eventually when the time is right, I'll focus more on this area of my life. Oh, fuck off. You went on 15 dates to try to tame your anxiety around women. You’re banging hookers. You’re literally posting in a forum for guys who want to get laid more. The time is now. You’re here to figure out how to get laid (without explicitly paying), but it scares you so you’re pretending you’re not. The battle is with yourself. You first have to admit what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 07:13 AM
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I would not use the same journal for both reflection and random reminders/note taking. That’s not about work vs personal so much as it is about these being two very different purposes. List of todos is not a journal. But also this seems like a really odd place to ask this.
/r/askMRP13/12/23 10:18 PM
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So your plan is to not let your emotions affect your mood? I don’t think that makes a lot of sense since mood is literally emotion. You should probably learn to control your emotions instead. When people talk about “resetting every day”, this is what they mean. It’s not about pretending to be in a good mood while seething inside. It’s about actually learning to be in a good mood. You have to be able to let go of your resentment and move on. It helps a lot if you can identify why you are the caus…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 08:03 PM
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Wife is unapologetic and highly provocative in her attitude, saying stuff like “get lost, looser/punk”. This is open contempt. She says this in front of her mother and your daughter? I can’t for the live of god, come up with a reasonable explanation why my wife would pull this shit and not think that I would get mad. I mean, after all these years, she know I will throw a tantrum. And so I did. Dude. She obviously knew and didn’t care that you’d get mad and throw a tantrum. You’re right to get ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 07:53 PM
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use of fadogia (outburst occurred on first day of new supplement). Shrub powder didn’t cause your outburst. Even if it’s effective, which seems questionable, it’s not going to give your roid rage after your first dose. Regardless if you honestly believe that this stuff is fucking with your emotional regulation, then you should probably stop taking it. (I do enjoy that you claim you learned about it primarily through examine.com, which basically says “it’s not clear this shit works, and even if i…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 06:06 PM
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You can’t find time to initiate but you have hours to put into chasing some chick on tinder? Dude. I’ll make sure not to make it a covert contract to put her in lingerie, expecting to get sex in return. Don’t worry. Your covert contract is that she’ll put it on for you if you buy it. I see a failed shit test coming. Still struggling with erection problems from time to time. Does this only happen when putting on a condom? If so, it’s probably in your head, and your cardio isn’t relevant. Have her…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 05:50 PM
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So your wife won’t pull her weight and then comes to tell you that she doesn’t know how to love you but desperately wants to. And you walk away to think about it? Tell her that you want her to show her love by doing her job. It’s hard to parse this rambling mess, but it sounds like she refuses to home school (even though it was her idea?) and basically refuses to clean. Does she do anything at all? I’m assuming SAHM here. You know full well what you actually want her to do. You’re here whining a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 04:55 PM
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If this is how you plan to write your book, I’d advise against it For your future OYS, if you want to post a 10k word essay for no one to read, I guess go for it. But if you want people here to read and give you advice, cut it way down. This is too much unimportant filler.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 04:28 PM
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I’ve been in therapy 2x a month to work on my trauma and my ability to be vulnerable with new people. What are you actually working on in therapy? “Working on trauma” is too vague to be meaningful. How long have you been going to therapy? How uncomfortable is it? Does your therapist give you hard homework that you actually do? I don’t actually care about the answers to these questions. They are for you. Lots of people go to a therapist endlessly and accomplish nothing. Make sure that’s not you. …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 03:24 PM
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That’s fair. There’s a divergence between walking away because it’s not worth it and walking away because you’re uncomfortable or afraid. Were the shit tests after she put on the lingerie or before? If before, that’s the broken record. If after, keep redirecting back to what you want. “And you didn’t go the grocery store like you promised!” “That’s true. Bend over.”
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 03:01 PM
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If you’re in bed that early, then 5am seems fine. Wanted to make sure you weren’t going to bed at midnight, getting up at 5, and then asking why you’re not sleeping well. If you’re spending that long in bed and not waking rested, sleep study seems appropriate.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 02:55 PM
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When people tell me “we should do x” I often say yes but don’t follow up, probably in the belief that they are just being polite. I was recently made to realise that this is massive projection on my part. Yeah. Most people are exactly as lazy as you. It’s not that they don’t want to get together. They just don’t want to put in the effort to plan or coordinate. I get up every morning by 5 and by 8pm I feel buggered. What time do you go to bed and why are you getting up so early if you’re having s…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/23 12:39 AM
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I was given some advice on lingerie last week and I put it into practice. One evening I simply told her to put it on and then STFU. What followed was nervous laughter and shit tests. I got every excuse I could think of and then some. I was ready for this and my response was to A&A, which led to even more nervous laughter. Previously, I would’ve given up after a minute or two. This time I did well in pushing through the awkward moments and silence. This went on for about 5-10 minutes, I escalated…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 06:25 PM
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I think it's also because I've known her for such a long time. It’s because you’re afraid to rock the boat, afraid of her. If you knew her for a long time as an insatiable whore, you’d have no trouble flirting.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/23 06:04 PM
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You are unable or unwilling to set and enforce boundaries. All this stuff about how she rants for yours, throws things, quits jobs, etc. These are things you choose to allow into your life. You can’t set boundaries because you’re afraid of being alone. You can take her on as a “project” and try to fix her if that’s what you want. (Key here being that you want to try. You cannot control that outcome, only the effort you put in.) But it’s not your job. You need to decide if she’s worth the investm…
/r/askMRP12/12/23 05:20 PM
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Invisalign, BBL/botox, etc. You did what now?
/r/askMRP22/11/23 12:15 AM
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You’re putting too much faith in her mouth noises. You don’t need a detailed vision for your relationship. That’s a shit test and you (and those telling you that your problem is not enough vision) are failing it. “Your need to spend the next week planning out your vision (so you can placate your wife)” Fuck off with that. You already answered her. Next time AA and tell her that your vision is you balls deep in her asshole. There is no vision so clear that she will buy into it. She needs to buy i…
/r/askMRP20/11/23 08:14 PM
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"Holding frame" doesn't always mean joking.
/r/askMRP20/10/23 08:40 PM
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You already played the “You don’t understand” card with OP rather than answer his actual questions. Your middle school debate club “herp derp you don’t understand” while pushing your glasses up your nose tactic is not as clever as you imagine. My point is also not that you are wrong and OP is right. My point is to you are a triggered bitch clearly incapable of engaging honestly here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 03:34 PM
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You’re so ego invested that you can’t even engage in the discussion dispassionately. OP proposed that the standard advice is wrong. Your response repeatedly is not to dispute what he says but to tell him what to do in his own life. OP: Hey, I think the sidebar is wrong. X, Y, Z works for me. You: Stop being a pussy and focus more on being sexually attractive =/= only do Alpha. Everyone not triggered by this topic: ???
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 02:40 PM
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It’s fucking cringe seeing you grumble about an online persona like a catty bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 07:14 PM
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You claim to provide examples of women ejecting due to too much alpha but instead provide two discussions of alpha/beta with no actual examples, just “here’s how it is” (it’s not compelling to point to the standard teaching as a counterpoint to someone saying the standard teaching is wrong) and one guy saying he’s getting a bunch of comfort tests, not that his girl ditched him. And then you grumble about your online nemesis because he claims he can do whatever he wants and his girl still chokes …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 06:53 PM
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Don’t “go off” on your 4 and 5 year old kids. That is not effective and models bad behavior for them. They are 4 and 5. Just make them clean up. Read “1-2-3 Magic” and pay close attention to the part about not being emotional. If this woman takes out her frustration with you on your young children then she is garbage. Why would you be with someone who treats your kids poorly?
/r/askMRP25/09/23 03:33 PM
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Because of the hungry butts.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/23 04:36 AM
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I've started to trade that cooperative spirit with one of curt rejection, simply because every "okay, thats fine" from me invites an incessant cycle of bargaining to extract more concessions. I don’t know what kind of “concessions” are being discussed here. If they don’t matter, I wonder if you’re just being spiteful. If they do matter, I would think they should be redirected to your lawyer. “Our lawyers are responsible for working out the details on X.” I asked my manager to give me small salar…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 08:14 PM
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I love when a guy’s comment history has the advice he needs but he’s giving it to others. You entered the simp zone
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 07:25 PM
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Why do you feel the need to justify yourself like this? You sound like a million guys who have come here and announced that everything is great now because their wife is putting out. Your self worth is tied to the availability of your wife’s pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 07:18 PM
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“Hey, guys. I’ve been going to BJJ for a month and I’ve finally got it. I’m not quite a black belt yet but I definitely will be soon. I’m consistently submitting everyone and I’m really happy about how it’s going.” Good for OP for making some progress. Good for OP for sharing a FR. OP is very clearly judging his progress based on her reaction and not anything he actually controls, though. When she drops two straight weeks of rejection on him, I predict he falls apart.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 03:47 PM
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The secret is that we’re all children in adult bodies.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 12:09 AM
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But you’ll hire someone to do laundry so she can have more Netflix time?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 11:43 PM
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How the fuck do you have 1.25 million/year in combined income and only 1.5 million in the bank at 42? You sold a business and presumably made a bunch of money from that, too. Where does your money go?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 05:44 PM
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you should be satisfying me here (pointing to head) Maybe she wants you to fuck her mouth more.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 05:38 PM
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I'm not looking for reactions, I don't have time to play games. You’re delusional. Ask yourself why you “need” to do any of this. When you figure that out you’ll understand what I mean. What does it accomplish for you? I want to be better, work on my flaws, to learn. This is a bullshit mission, by the way. You might as well say you want to be the perfect beta husband. What do you want? It would be more honest if you just said your mission was to get more of your wife’s pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 05:33 PM
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So you don’t have a job and don’t speak the language? You need to fix that quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 04:23 PM
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Does your wife work? Does she actually not have time to do the chores or are you trying to placate her?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 04:20 PM
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Since May–August, I was a high value man You sure about that? Spring, she had asked for a divorce and she didn’t want to work on the relationship. I started divorce paperwork, she caught wind and asked me not to divorce her. Sounds like a failed branch swing I’m going to need to read Rian’s book … I need to read to them regularly at bedtime … I need to be more knowledgeable here and well rounded … I need to either … You are a goddamned dancing monkey. Not a bit of this is shit you say you want. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 04:06 PM
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Part of me thinks I’ve kinda accomplished what I want in life and I’m just coasting now. (nice neighborhood, pool, couple acres, woods, garden, chickens, outdoor toys etc.) Non material: good friends, 4 great kids, close with extended family and great work relationships. I think all that’s missing is a more affectionate/horny wife (more on that below). Average life, average wife. fearing entering the lions den It is the lion’s den and she’s the lion. That’s why your butthurt “talking down” accom…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 03:53 PM
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Just returned to physical activity. I’m too lazy to go spelunking through your post history to see what your lifts and routine are. It looks like you’ve got a lot of excuses for doing fuck all though. Also a bunch of pointless nonsense about other people and how they lift or don’t. This is like rule 9 but for bros. What I want this to do is push me to change my wife into the wife I want. This is some weird covert contract with yourself that if you fuck someone else you will somehow magically be …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 03:48 PM
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You need to read and understand the goals before giving advice. No one is talking about “long term” except you. Dude wants to lose a grand total of 17 pounds. There’s no reason to “marathon” that shit. That’s 2 months at a moderate pace and way less if done with something like PSMF. This isn’t a lifestyle choice. It’s a cut. For the record I think _RPeed is close to the truth than you. There is a long term vision for a lot of stuff but often the actual execution looks a lot more like a bunch of …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/23 03:58 PM
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your body language and sub communication tells your wife when you're just probing for some sex for yourself or truly want to fuck her brains out and ravish her. My wife wasn't rejecting me because she didn't want to be fucked by me, my wife was rejecting me because she didn't want to be responsible for validating my need to feel "I want my wife to want to fuck me." Get the fuck out of her head. You don’t know what was/is going on in there. Maybe she was rejecting you because your initiation was …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 04:09 PM
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You say that you don’t want sex with her but then you look at her to see if you’re getting “the desired result”. You still want the sex. You’re just butthurt about not getting what you want. I glanced at your previous OYS. You should lift. You say you “love” iron, but you get better results from calisthenics. In general this claim is bullshit for anyone. But especially for you. You admit shitty diet and program hopping while lifting and you still gained as much as you did in a year of calistheni…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 03:44 PM
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This week was focusing on doing my stuff. Was it? From what I can see you did a bunch of navel gazing and not much else. In your own words, you did “nothing exciting”. You did extra chores, extra work. What did you actually do for you aside from watch some football?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/23 01:52 AM
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Sometimes I personally initiated because I wanted to feel desired or attractive, sometimes for an indication of my "progress". I’m going to take this at face value and assume in these cases you truly had no desire to fuck. It was 100% for validation. So. Fucking. What. The problem with sex for validation is all about your reaction. Your girl can’t see inside your head anymore than you can see inside hers. If you want to initiate because it makes you feel pretty when she says yes, go for it. If y…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 03:55 PM
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Maybe your friends are really passive? Maybe they aren’t good friends. Stronger friendships, better friends, or both seem like good things to work on. Is she not concerned about the way that I view her? That if she gets too fat then I will no longer be attracted to her and will seek someone thinner and prettier? Is she worried about that? Is "Do you think I'm pretty?" a comfort test or looking for validation? It’s validation seeking. I would rarely if ever consider that a comfort test. If anythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 05:22 AM
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I will throw out there that you might want to seek an out a specialist. It’s possible you were not diagnosed but should have been, or that you have a similar but different disorder. You said you were checked as a teen, so at least 20 years ago. Did they actually do genetic testing? I know nothing about marfan’s or similar disorders but I would guess that it would be helpful to know. I don’t know if there are adjustments that should be made for training, useful supplements, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/23 05:13 AM
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Jesus. /u/Pretend-Town1005, you’re losing less than a pound/week. At this rate you’ll still be dieting when you’re 52. Just kidding. You’ll definitely quit before then. You should be targeting several pounds per week at your weight. You could easily be losing 4/week and get to a healthy weight in under a year. Targeting above your BMR is nuts. Also, don’t worry about liking your wife yet. She probably doesn’t like you either. Get your shit under control and then worry about whether you like her …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 04:13 PM
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You’re 6’8” and your OHP is 50 pounds. You couldn’t put your wife on your back and squat her. Worry about putting on some muscle before you worry about pectus excavatum. Surgery options will still be there if you put on 30lb of muscle and decide it’s still worth addressing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 06:44 AM
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You should do whatever the fuck you want. If you want to experiment with only initiating when you’re desperate to fuck, go for it. Maybe it helps you with better initiations. (It won’t help your validation seeking, though.) If you want to avoid initiating because you don’t want to be butthurt, that’s your call too. And if you just aren’t actually interested in fucking, then don’t. But I would advise you not to lie to yourself about your motives. But also no, you’re not hanging on the word “fear”…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 06:21 AM
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I had a lot more success with initiations when I was roaring to go. No doubt. If you wait until you’re aching to fuck, your initiations will likely be stronger and your girl is more likely to be missing the dick. This is a garbage strategy for fucking more, though. And people who come here complaining about their sex lives definitely want to fuck more. I do think this strategy is applicable to those who need to work out the difference between validation seeking and "authentic" desire. Authentic …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 06:09 AM
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I was 100% validation seeking and then getting faggoty on rejection. There it is. You fear your reaction to being rejected. Keep hiding from your fear, though. That’s probably the best way to deal with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 05:51 AM
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I don't think Im fearful of rejection. It's something else. I was more on the line of I use to initiate for validation even if I wasn't horny- which is part of the original comment chain that stuck. Ok, you’re not fearful of rejection. You’re fearful of how you respond to rejection. Much better. You don’t want to be butthurt so you avoid initiation, which is no different practically than avoiding initiation because you don’t want to be rejected. “Initiating for validation” is bullshit. You never…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 05:47 AM
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I'm fine making the effort with strangers. It's when it's friends that it bugs me I suppose. My own friends don't care to seek me out to chat? I am missing some context here. I thought this was a story about your wife’s coworkers. If your own friends don’t are ignoring you, that is strange. My advice would be to make more friends and find ones you click with better. And also to enjoy the relationships for what they are. I spent this evening hanging out with friends of a friend (The friend who in…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 05:30 AM
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Convos went well and I spoke with ease but man it's very clear no one would say a single word to me if I wasn't the one always making the effort. Welcome to life. These people don’t know you. Most people won’t make the effort. Lots of comfort tests from her Doubt it. After our last serious talk about her low libido, wife said the discussion undid a "mental block" and now feels better and hornier. I now recognize it was probably just hysterical bonding. Why are you having “serious talks” about he…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/23 12:09 AM
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After lurking for years … Who is this preamble for? Why do you feel the need to tell everyone every week that it’s so hard to journal and that you didn’t used to lift? If I’m horny- I’ll initiate. If I’m not- I won’t. This week I haven't really been in the mood- so haven't initiated. Maybe anger phase or something. Maybe fear of rejection or something. This “trick” gets passed around a bunch and it’s mostly bullshit guys tell themselves to avoid rejection. “Turns out when I stop initiating, I do…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 11:58 PM
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I will probably pursue no.3, she's hot af. Chasing the flake. Sounds like abundance, huh? Things I'll try: Cut down to 185… but want it for myself now rather than chicks. Did you really write that out and not see that it was bullshit? The very first thing you say you’ll try to improve your success with girls somehow isn’t for chicks? Get lean, whatever. But why are you lying about the reason?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 11:44 PM
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That’s not a mission. That all just says “be the best you can”. Even your “career” section is vacuous. What’s a thing you actually want to accomplish? Failing that, what’a a thing you actually want to do? Doesn’t even have to be big, just something you want. Jesus Christ, you can’t even go out on a guys night.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 11:36 PM
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I have a need to explain everything that's happening all the time. I thought that I was sharing my frame… This need to explain yourself is validation seeking. You feel the need for others to “understand” you and agree with you. Because you care more about what others think than about what you think. Frame isn’t about what others understand or agree with. Frame is about what you believe firmly, regardless of what others think. So long as you feel the need for others to agree or to understand you,…
/r/askMRP09/09/23 11:01 PM
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I'm not as focused on this as you're taking it. Well I’m convinced.
/r/askMRP09/09/23 10:56 PM
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Skipped too many sessions last few weeks, but keeping my strength and slightly progressing. It's okay to me, I'm focusing on form and it helps me recovering from some of the subtle lower back injuries of messed up past squats. I'm on a journey and I'm not in a hurry. It’s easier to DEER than to put in the effort. This is reflected in everything you wrote.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/23 03:26 PM
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Keto works for a small set of people and for a much larger set of people it’s an unsustainable diet that fails to ever reach a goal weight and often results in ballooning back even larger. If it doesn’t work for you, don’t keep it as a shitty backup. Find a diet that actually works. IF is good for a lot of people. Diet and lift. Not much else matters right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/23 02:29 AM
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thats fair, I was speaking from my perspective so i didn't think what OP does or does not understand. I had to laugh at this. This is just utter frame destruction.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 03:01 AM
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Do you lift at a commercial gym? See if they have a safety squat bar. Maybe also watch some videos on squat form. Rippetoe talks about hand placement and avoiding stress on the joints in some of his videos. Something something press the bar into the back instead of holding it in the hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 12:14 AM
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SQ 5x135 lbs, Leg Press 5 x 220 lbs, DL 5x135 lbs Are you having tendonitis in your legs as well? What’s up with a 135lb squat and DL?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:59 PM
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Lets see, hug her and wipe her tears(pull) and say "I feel like I am watching you from far far away, u feel so serene"(push). This is try-hard and retarded. If he said that his wife would probably wonder why he sounds like he’s reciting shitty poetry and if he knows what the word “serene” actually means. Goal is not to calm her or make sense. It is take her/send her on an emotional journey. What does he means by that? Am I being distant? Does he not care about me? He did hug me though? He loves …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 07:53 PM
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Is the knee thing auto immune related or is it just an excuse? I’m wondering why you can’t even do lightweight leg exercises. In general, complete rest is shitty rehab.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 04:17 PM
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This sounds like progress: the finances, not being a bitch in the conversations, saying exactly what you want. That you got what you wanted was a nice bonus. Also, my main covert contract that I deal with is: if I divorce my wife, I will be all alone. That’s not a covert contract, by the way. That’s just a fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 03:54 PM
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Don’t slow down. Just stop putting all your attention and effort toward your wife. The intentional pullback of “time and attention” is still about her. You’re still trying to manipulate her instead of just doing what you want. Aside from your wife’s pussy and affection, what do you want? Put your time and attention on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 03:44 PM
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I’m not sure it really had anything to do with his wife. Kay’s original MMSLP was pretty successful so he tried to rewrite it for a general audience. MAP (the book) isn’t focused just on getting laid. Instead it’s focused on general self improvement. I think it’s a much weaker book and not really worth reading if you’ve read MMSLP. Maybe his wife pushed him to do this, though? I have no idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 03:21 PM
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Bring up your “concerns” when you’re willing to actually walk away. Equal footing doesn’t matter. What matters is what you want and need and what you’re willing to do to get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 03:18 PM
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I wanted this value. You spelled “validation” wrong. In the sea of replies telling you that you’re a sensitive bitch, you found “value” in the one attaboy.
/r/askMRP01/09/23 01:50 PM
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I've never been one to leave relationships; I tend to go down with the ship. Maybe it's a lack of self-respect? Maybe I'm too much of an optimist. It’s definitely the lack of self respect. That and the fact that you’re clearly her bitch. Seems my girlfriend wants to be single. And I'll let it happen. If she goes to that party for more than 2 hours I'm leaving her. Gross. https://youtu.be/EyCiE0CszGo?si=pvuIL1LezwFP4Noy You clearly want to leave her. Do it or don’t. But shut up about it either wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/23 05:22 PM
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If you don't want to be called a bitch, you set a boundary which is exactly what you did. On the one hand, this statement is right. Set the boundaries you care about. On the other hand, you’re missing the bigger problem, which is that OP is in fact acting like a bitch by caring so much about this. This is the 4-year-old “poopyhead” scenario. If you don’t want your kids calling you poopyhead, then set the boundary and enforce it. But if your feelings are hurt by being called the name, you’ve got …
/r/askMRP31/08/23 05:05 PM
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You not only are a reactive bitch who gets butthurt when someone calls them names, you do so in contexts that are totally reasonable. And then you come on here and spill hundreds of words telling us about how fucking hurt your feelz are by being called mean names. You’re into kink shit with this girl. When she calls you a bitch, she’s being a brat. You were at the gym with this guy. When he calls you a pussy, it’s because he’s doing his gymbro job and pushing you to go harder. You’re not butthur…
/r/askMRP31/08/23 04:07 PM
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I was probably thinking too much on a meta level First, this is nonsense. Your engagement here is 100% nice guy bullshit. You’re trying to be “fair”. You’re negotiating how many dicks she can take to balance out that you got your cock sucked a few times. There is no world in which this plays out and you’re happy. Tell her no. No to getting fucked. No to other dudes eating her out. You cannot fix the fact that you cheated by letting her get dicked by other guys and you know it. Second, stop think…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 04:45 PM
2

I don’t know what “oak game” is, but it sounds to me like she felt insecure in your relationship and fucked you as a result. I.e. She felt “dread”.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 09:04 PM
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With the current logistics, as we still live together, dating would be ineffective anyway so using the time to get my other ducks in a row. Bullshit. You could absolutely date and get laid. It would be easier with your own place but it’s not required. Paying for 2 rents between us when I move out will also be not ideal but affordable. What the fuck. You’re remaining married to this woman so that she can stay on your visa. You’re now planning on paying for an extra apartment just for her. How can…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:06 PM
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My natural impulse is that I don't want to share my wife ever, not a second. Then don’t share her. If she insists on getting “revenge”, then divorce and she can go fuck whoever she wants. You speak of alpha and beta. There’s nothing more ”beta” that I can think of than being coerced into being a willing cuckold. I am not going to give in and swallow a bunch of medication Why not? Your dick doesn’t work the way you want. Why wouldn’t you take medication to help while also improving your health?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 07:49 PM
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Have you talked to a lawyer yet? It sounds like you’re not particularly interested in your wife and she’s checked out. Both of those things could change but they also might not.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 07:34 PM
2

Your covert contract is “If [thing I want to do] then [reaction from others]”. You don’t fix this sort of covert contact by skipping the [thing I want to do]. You fix it by killing the expectation of [reaction from others]. You started lifting to improve your marriage. Should you also stop lifting to “fix” that convert contract?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 03:59 PM
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You puked about your approach anxiety. What are you going to do about it though? The only thing you did socially was well within your comfort zone. /u/redcopperhead hit the nail on the head. There’s a bunch of thinking and little action here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 03:43 PM
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Read this over and over. You wrote this for yourself even though you maybe didn’t realize it: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/15z0emw/comment/jxim5mg/ Also you should post in OYS. You’ve created 3 different askmrp posts requesting advice and zero OYS posts everyone the one that was a copy of your first (deleted) post about your wife being a party slut.
/r/askMRP27/08/23 11:26 AM
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It would help him, which is the entire point of this subreddit. If he needs to figure out what he wants, then that’s a great first step. If this guy doesn’t know what he wants. You sure as fuck don’t know what he wants. Stop pushing your nice guy urges on him and everyone else. Your advice here is literally to reshape himself to make her happier. For you I strongly recommend that you actually read the sidebar. You don’t seem to understand even the most basic shit.
/r/askMRP27/08/23 04:10 AM
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He should do what he wants.
/r/askMRP27/08/23 12:15 AM
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Treat it like a demand for couples counseling. Tell her no, and that you don’t think anything good will come of it. Broken record and walk away if needed. Verbal intercourse is optional. If she insists she wants to connect, tell her to connect your cock to the back of her throat. You don’t have to go and you also don’t have to convince her that you’re right. If she’s going to leave you because you won’t do some stupid forgiveness ritual, she’s going to leave your ass anyway.
/r/askMRP27/08/23 12:13 AM
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Every time you post here you ramble about alpha/beta balance and then tell the OP that they should be more beta. Maybe consider that in a forum filled with guys who can’t get laid, “too much alpha” isn’t typically the core problem. The end game is to calibrate your actions in a way that makes the relationship stable and fun. No. The end game is to do what you want, not to tailor your actions to suit your LTR. Maybe just stick to relationship_advice, where this happy wife happy life nonsense is w…
/r/askMRP26/08/23 06:35 PM
1

She was litterally boiling over. Saying all the stuff she wanted me to be, all the mistakes I’ve made during the last month or so - not providing comfort/disinterest in her, only focusing on myself and my own life, not doing stuff that I used too (chore-play). She’s “boiling over”. How do you interpret that in your frame? Is she freaking out because you aren’t “beta” enough? Is she freaking out because she’s just a cunt? Is she freaking out because she doesn’t know the new rules? What does your …
/r/askMRP25/08/23 11:35 PM
1

If your protein powder gives you diarrhea, you should probably try a different brand. But moreover, protein powder is a protein supplement, not a caloric supplement. If you aren’t gaining weight, you need more calories, not just another scoop of protein. Eat more.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/23 11:26 PM
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However I still want to know why this isn't a strong fame for sex!? Frame doesn’t guarantee sex. Frame is just your worldview. Even if your frame were good (it’s not), it would not mean she’d want to have sex with you. Your “strong frame = sex” idea is just another covert contact. Read NMMNG and shut up. Also just break up. As a “spin plater” you surely would have no trouble replacing her. Right?
/r/askMRP24/08/23 03:35 AM
3

Lol. Porcine independence. I’m leaving that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 12:43 AM
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Use the search. There are some good posts out there about porcine independence. This isn’t one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 03:37 AM
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Suddenly you are somebody the elephant can trust. It stops running and sits calmly by your feet. In this terrible metaphor, outcome independence is about not caring what choice the elephant makes, because you’re going to have an awesome time no matter what the elephant does. Your “elephant calms down due to your OI” stuff is just a covert contact. You don’t control the elephant. I told you a couple of weeks ago that you should figure out what you want and try to do that. I will reiterate that. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 03:35 AM
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I don't really know if or what actions/plan I could set around this hole...Maybe I have some fear around this- probably from a weak frame or faggotry... I did not do anything in this area. Im a bit lost and don’t have enough free time or capacity to devote to this area just yet. Text a dude you know and say “Free for drinks this week? It would be nice to catch up.” That’s what you do here. You just have to ask. They don’t have to be your best friend. Worst case he says no. If you don’t drink or …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 11:49 PM
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Good. Action is better than passivity.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 11:33 PM
1

My point about STFU is to know what you want and say exactly that. STFU often turns into not saying anything at all, which definitely won’t get you what you want. Decide what you want, say it, and skip the DEER. Just initiate when I want it and quit thinking about it. I just need to align that to 2/3 rule. Don’t worry about the 2/3 rule. It’s stupid here and trying to find a way to fit it in is still overthinking it. Initiate when you want. If she also initiates sometimes, great. If not, whateve…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 11:25 PM
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So it’s 3. You’re afraid of looking needy. You want to fuck but you are afraid of looking needy to her. This is an excuse for you not initiating. Of course I want to fuck her That’s all that matters. Stop overthinking and stop LARPing indifference.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 10:03 PM
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I traveled all week and just got back last night. … No sex since I got home, and I didn't feel horny enough to push for it - I saw that I just wanted it for validation - and that urge needs to die. You’re avoiding rejection. You’re resentful. You’re afraid of looking needy. You’re playing stupid games. Your wife is deeply unattractive. You have the testosterone of a 95 year old. Which is it? It’s not believable that a healthy 28 year old man with a reasonably attractive wife doesn’t want to fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:22 PM
1

And what are you doing to make it zero percent? Your hopes and dreams aren’t an effective contraceptive.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:16 PM
1

No, man. You’re conflating very separate things. Being offended is how you feel. It’s like being mad or sad. “Holding accountable” is about enforcing boundaries or expectations. You can do either of these without the other. Indeed you’re going to be a lot more effective at holding your kids accountable if you aren’t a reactive bitch who gets offended when they misbehave. I’m not missing the point here. You’re advocating for OP to be butthurt to show he cares.
/r/askMRP15/08/23 08:44 PM
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I laid in bed last night angry because I don't feel desired by my wife at times and I work my ass off to take care of myself physically and mentally as well as take care of my family physically, mentally, and financially. This is the most classic of covert contacts. I thought you were reading NMMNG. Since last week, we haven't engaged in any kind of intimacy at all. Almost no physical touch for nearly 5 days. This kind of thing is maddening to me since I have communicated over and over again in …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 04:25 PM
3

So you think it’s a good thing to be offended when an 8 year old talks back? I bet you clutch your pearls when a 3-year-old says “poop head”.
/r/askMRP15/08/23 03:54 PM
3

If she were gagging on your dick every morning right now, would you actually care about any of the other stuff? Your “she’s a slut who lies” stuff is ego protection for what you actually care about. She was always a trashy slut, and it doesn’t sound like she really lied. She just didn’t tell you about some trashy night she had when you weren’t exclusive.
/r/askMRP13/08/23 12:47 PM
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Are you mad because: She’s trashy She didn’t tell you about some of her exploits from before you were exclusive She doesn’t fuck you the way she used to
/r/askMRP13/08/23 02:38 AM
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she doesn't know if she can see me sexually again. How many other women see you sexually?
/r/askMRP13/08/23 02:21 AM
2

What do you want out of OYS? If you want validation and attaboys, you probably won’t get them. You post your goals and what you’re doing to reach them and people give you feedback, generally very blunt, abrasive feedback. OYS can help you see your blind spots. It can help you identify where your ego is lying to you. It can help you identify where you’re stagnant or failing. But it can only do that insofar as you choose to share honestly. If all you share is navel gazing and complaining about you…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 06:23 AM
2

I’m not an exercise expert but I don’t think it takes an expert to see that your exercise selection sucks. Literally no leg exercises and no hypertrophy-oriented back exercises. Just pick a standard lifting plan and run it for a while. There are at least dozens of well regarded and well trod plans out there. Just run one of those. Throw in the hyperextensions at the end if you find them useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 06:05 AM
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I suffered a lot to make it happen by becoming a SAHD. You’re a mommy martyr. It’s repellent. I see staying with my wife until I build up those domains as a legit strategy. This strategy would look a lot more legit if you actually had a plan and were following it. What’s your plan to get a job that pays decently? Navel gazing and whining about your wife won’t do it. You also shouldn’t need 3-4 years to find a job.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 05:30 PM
2

Who do you think you’re convincing with this? Do you actually believe you’re on Tinder for the conversation? Because no else believes that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 05:17 PM
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No lifts until the back muscles can actually handle them. I hear deadlifts are a good exercise for the back. Maybe you should try it instead of making excuses. I look like I stole 1967's Arnold's (Mr Universe) ass and legs You don’t even exercise your legs. You just have a fat ass and thighs.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 05:15 PM
1

This mindset does not appeal to me at all. Probably effective though.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 10:34 PM
1

I don’t doubt it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 10:27 PM
1

because I want her to feel like that is all she is good for. Jeez. That’s some ugly shit right there. I guess you’re going for the dark triad.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 07:25 PM
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Lifting, good. Losing weight, good. Brain dump about nothing and complaints about your wife, not good. There’s very little substance here. The “frame” section is navel gazing at best. The “relationship” section is a mini victim puke. Why does your wife merit half of your OYS if you already plan to leave her? And why do you need 3-4 years to file for divorce? I'm still busy building a life outside of my marriage. By doing what exactly?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 11:40 PM
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Last time I tried, wife called me out as being weird instead of enjoying the extra attention and attempt at flirting. That’s the shit test you’re missing. For me it depends on if I feel genuine desire, not just “could be nice to have my dick inside feeling. How is wanting to feel your dick inside her not “genuine desire”? This is fucking stupid.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 07:58 PM
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No matter how often I go do stuff, she’s cool with it. Honestly, just as cool this is for me, it also makes it quite hard to build up dread. This screams dancing monkey. You have a wife who supports you going out and doing the stuff you want but you’re worried that this doesn’t create enough “dread”. You can’t even do something you enjoy without trying to make it about your wife and how she might react.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 07:55 PM
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I have … reduced the frequency of kino and of my sexual initiations. … Sex frequency is down from once a week to once every other week. I still expect this to be a race to the bottom. You think those might be related, captain? Why are you choosing to race to the bottom? Most of my initiations come across as needy, especially when they happen every day or every other day, especially while being on the once every or every other week plan. I have thought long and hard about this, but rejection avoi…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 07:42 PM
1

I am enlightened. All that means is I experience the world and myself as a kind of movie being played. I have never heard of anyone define “enlightenment” that way. Indeed this sounds almost the opposite of enlightenment as I understand it. “Experiencing life like a move” sounds exactly like depersonalization disorder, though. im simultaneously totally free from those problems. I would encourage you to ask yourself why you’ve sought out advice on a forum dedicated to helping men get laid in long…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 04:09 AM
1

It doesn’t have to be over the top cocky/funny or whatever. You can just be playful. “Saving it for (next time/your ass/your face)” with a grin. “Gonna cum double when we fuck tonight.” Depending on your dynamic, you could say you’re saving this one for the mistress. It’s also fine to just own it without making it a joke. “It’s not happening; let’s do this some more later”. Or just stfu. Whatever. The point is that it’s not a big deal. Edit: Also just tell your wife that you enjoy fucking even i…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/23 03:01 AM
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Disregard my comment, then. I made a bad assumption.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 05:22 PM
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Yeah. I would like to believe he’s trolling but I don’t think so based on other posts. I’m not sure why he’s here since he’s apparently not looking for feedback. But he’s enlightened so I’m sure he knows what he’s doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 05:20 PM
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You think I’m trying to frame test you, huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 05:17 PM
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5'7'', 197 lbs, … I'm still over 15% bodyfat You think? You’re still obese. Good job on losing 40 pounds but there’s a lot left unless you’re way more jacked than your lack of lifting stats indicates.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 04:10 PM
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Something I’d like to have in my life is a good sex life with my wife and I think rebuilding a positive track record in other areas feed into this is a giant covert contact to get more sex. Surely you can see this. She explicitly told me that me being flirty and suggestive with her is a turn off. Perhaps I should be more blunt with her? Come on. Try being blunt if you want but this is an obvious shit test.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 03:57 PM
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/u/COMoparfan392 there’s a lot of truth in this pithy line. Your belief that you “should” have declined comes from the same place as your DEER afterward. It’s not the sex that’s for validation here. It’s the avoidance. You fear being judged if you can’t “perform”.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 03:51 PM
2

So you’re a martial arts master, and a zen master, and “haven’t lost a frame battle” in a year. And yet two weeks ago you were lamenting that you can’t interview because it’s a frame battle. You are full of shit. I feel lost. Lonely. In a world full of things and people, I feel like a ghost. It's so much worse talking to people. That’s because you’re fake and everyone else sees right through you. You feel hollow because you are. Whatever this zen training was supposed to be, it looks like it’s a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/23 03:35 PM
2

Your problem here isn’t that you don’t have enough “frame”. It’s that you care too much about dumb shit. Your wife got emotional about some spaghetti. So what? Your grandma accepted your brothers explanation but not yours. So what? How does this affect your life, your goals, your plans?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 10:12 PM
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What the fuck is this about spaghetti? I’m confused why you’re mad that your wife agreed with you. But I’m more confused why this is worth mentioning at all. Half of your post is dedicated to whether or not your grandma can have spaghetti. What. The. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/23 07:28 PM
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I wonder if it's just my insecurity and I should STFU or if that's her pushing my boundaries You’re gonna need to post the picture so we can evaluate. Seriously, though, we have no idea how revealing this photo is and in any event your boundary is yours. Personally my line would probably be “am I embarrassed for my kids or my family to see this?” The Jonah Hill thing of making her take down anything even remotely revealing seems just insecure to me.
/r/askMRP01/08/23 04:12 PM
2

See, your problem is that you let her grow entitled. Should have never let her have the cushion bro.
/r/askMRP01/08/23 03:57 PM
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I don't even really want to have sex with her anymore to be honest I just want to caveman and call it good for the night. What does this actually mean to you? This reads like nonsense. “I don’t want to fuck. I just want to fuck aggressively.” Edit: I think the others are right. You’re resentful. You’re mad at her because of your history. Go reread your OYS posts from 9 months ago and ask yourself who you’re actually mad at.
/r/askMRP01/08/23 05:41 AM
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A lot of digital ink has been spent on exactly this within this sub. Attraction is a feeling, yes. It cannot be negotiated, for sure. That didn’t mean asking about attraction or it’s decline it’s ridiculous. It doesn’t mean it can’t be “deconstructed” either. Attraction is a feeling, but it’s not magical or unknowable. One woman is fit and the other fat? Surprise, surprise, most men find the fit one more attractive. One an unpleasant harpy and the other friendly and warm? The second is likely mo…
/r/askMRP01/08/23 05:38 AM
1

Well that’s less weird than the alternative, that you’re doing semen retention with your wife but then jerking off later. I don’t care if you jerk off or not. You decide your goals and whether you are going to stick to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/23 10:25 AM
1

NoFap: I'm on week 4 and beat it 2x last week - not good enough. Sex life: We fucked 4x and she finished me off 2x last week….. Makes NoFap easier... I made it 3 days without without release, which is probably a personal record. You say you fucked your wife 4 times and she finished you off two. Does this mean you came 6 times in 7 days with your wife and still couldn’t avoid jerking off twice? Or does this mean you came with your wife only twice even though you fucked her 4 times? In which case …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/23 04:05 AM
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You say she does all the work yet here you are asking strangers on the internet how to get her to lust after you. You want to imagine that you are not invested but clearly you are heavily invested. Delusional.
/r/askMRP29/07/23 03:35 AM
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This sub is intended to fix DEAD MARRIAGES. Try again. You aren't tied to this woman the way that we are tied to our wives. But without the pity party.
/r/askMRP29/07/23 02:39 AM
2

So you are gay (or bi). In that case, you do you. The word "chest" dosent exist in my original reply. Last time I checked, nipples were typically found on the chest.
/r/askMRP29/07/23 12:33 AM
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Delusional. ”i eventually got attached and started acting a bit weak and goofy“
/r/askMRP28/07/23 03:45 PM
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Do you even like this chick? You said literally nothing positive about her. 5 months and you’re getting duty sex already. There’s no way you’d be asking this unless you have no other options. Go work on that and stop worrying about her.
/r/askMRP28/07/23 03:44 PM
4

What a weird fucking take. You think chicks are that turned off by body hair? If your chick doesn’t want to fuck you, it’s not because you’ve got wispy chest hair.
/r/askMRP28/07/23 03:41 PM
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I lift Your lifts are stagnant or down from two years ago. Comment from two years ago indicates that you had already been at this for two years. So 4 years for a 205lb deadlift. It’s your choice if you aren’t going to lift, but don’t lie about it. Especially to yourself. Also, dude, you’re fat. Just in case that’s not clear. 5’6” 180 with those lifts means you’re almost into obese territory.
/r/askMRP28/07/23 03:26 AM
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You don’t actually know what frame is, do you? You don’t have to be fun to have frame. You can be a miserable fuck and still have frame. Your words give you away. You’re still dancing for pussy and haven’t realized yet. Recommended reading: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7lolrm/thoughts_on_frame/
/r/askMRP24/07/23 09:10 PM
3

You think he’ll find frame while he’s actively hiding his behaviors?
/r/askMRP24/07/23 08:18 PM
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Absolutely. Pretending to drink alcohol to appease someone else is cringeworthy. Of course being this upset about being called lame for not drinking is also cringeworthy.
/r/askMRP24/07/23 08:10 PM
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So, so much validation seeking. You just cannot stand that someone would judge anything about you negatively, huh?
/r/askMRP24/07/23 07:41 PM
1

Sidebar is in the main sub. /r/marriedredpill I don’t know about this open/closed communication, though. Seems like a waste of time to me. “Bitches hate this one weird trick.”
/r/askMRP24/07/23 07:29 PM
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Yeah, or just get a Virgin piña colada! As long as you can pretend like you’re drinking the problem is solved, right?
/r/askMRP24/07/23 07:28 PM
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Ah, sure. An unknown boundary is just a covert contract. Getting mad because someone broke a covert contract is the most classic of nice guy moves.
/r/askMRP24/07/23 07:25 PM
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I got pissed because she can’t admit she’s wrong or apologize but she expects me to when I fuck up. She is able to stand her ground because she’s not worried about losing you or upsetting you. You in the other hand feel compelled to appease her because you are afraid to lose her or upset her. i.e. You’re mad because you’re her bitch. If only there were resources help with this… Her calling me lame is fine at the end of the day, her reaction to me telling her not to call me that is what made me a…
/r/askMRP24/07/23 07:23 PM
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Of course you can. This is nonsense.
/r/askMRP24/07/23 07:13 PM
1

What's so hard to understand about pooling resources to get a better quality of life? What makes you think this can’t be done unmarried? Nothing stops two people from, e.g., buying a house together unmarried. Health care shouldn’t be a big factor. And taxes aren’t even guaranteed to be better married, especially for two high income earners. My taxes would go down if I could file as two single earners. It would open up tax credits and move our top bracket down. I'm sorry I have to be the one to t…
/r/askMRP24/07/23 02:11 PM
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The benefits of marriage are huge fucking tax write-offs, healthcare plan sharing, combined purchasing power of two working adults. You can't be serious. Taxes, healthcare, and combined purchasing power. This is what you've got? The problem with divorces is that most men are too dumb to initiate them when they should, then act like whiny little bitches when they go through them. So yeah, people like you will lose half your shit and your ex will hate you. You really think that's how divorce court…
/r/askMRP24/07/23 03:52 AM
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my LTR really has noting to offer me, no loyalty in the down times, not help in stressful times, she does not cook, she does not clean etc etc. So your LTR sucks, or you do, or both. Indeed I don't know why you would possibly be interested in marrying this woman. No one can get around the fact than to have kids you kinda have to be in an LTR? You don't, but I don't know why anyone would want to have kids with some random chick outside a relationship. I mean, unless you aren't interested in being…
/r/askMRP23/07/23 04:27 AM
3

You really fumbled that. The money shot is really the next paragraph that you didn't include. ... There is much research, however, that offers evidence to the contrary. Two large meta-analyses, one reported in 1991 and the other reported ten years later in 2001, showed that “children with divorced parents continued to score significantly lower on measures of academic achievement, conduct, psychological adjustment, self-concept, and social relations” (Amato and Keith 1991; Amato and Booth 1997 as…
/r/askMRP23/07/23 04:11 AM
2

Yeah. My wife is like that sometimes with the foreplay. I just own it and tell her I want more of x, y, or z. I don’t have any great suggestions for bringing up the medication. I think you just have to own it. “I got this for me.” “I want to try it/I like the way my dick works better with this.” It’s not about her so don’t allow her to frame it about her attractiveness or your interest or anything like that. Most of the stories I hear from guys about their girls getting upset about viagra/cialis…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/23 03:19 PM
2

Overhyped? Sure. Played out? I don’t really know what that means in this context. I guess if you’re picking your hobby to be impressive to others instead of something you actually enjoy, then sure. The time when “I study Brazilian Jiu Jitsu” was impressive or unusual has probably passed.
/r/askMRP22/07/23 02:59 AM
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Sounds like you’re in your head too much. Conversations have lulls. That’s normal. I like to fill lulls by asking something about the person I’m talking with. “How’s [thing] you last time going?” “How are the kids?” Ask about upcoming vacations or projects or hobbies or whatever. “What do you do for fun” can usually get people talking unless they have no hobbies. Definitely go read the conversation guide someone linked. Maybe watch some “Charisma on Command” or similar stuff on YouTube. But that…
/r/askMRP21/07/23 11:08 PM
2

So pick a different martial art. Get kicked in the face at Muay Thai or whatever. No one cares if you like or do BJJ. It’s a good way to meet people, get some exercise, learn a hypothetically-but-not-practically useful defense skill, and ruin your joints. It’s fun.
/r/askMRP21/07/23 11:02 PM
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anytime my wife strongly initiates I get this adrenaline rush (my heart will pound and my cock shrivels up) and I can't get it up? She'll ALWAYS do a strong initiation when I'm super tired/drained, it's like when I'm at 0 she goes to 100 and can sense that? I'll do the same to her. Conversely, when she's at 0 I'll be at 100 in terms of initiating.This happened last night and it feels so shit because she hasn't initiated like THAT (genuine desire) in a long time and I do want to fuck (especially …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 05:15 PM
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I think she feels something is up and that I’m not the most happy at the moment. This results in her asking overtly what is wrong multiple times a day and asking how she could help me. This more often than not just annoys the fuck out of me, as most of the time I don’t have specific things to talk about and even if I had I don’t know if it would be wise to talk to her about this. Even if I’m genuinely not pissed but just in a neutral state, she asks if something is wrong. My read on this is that…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 05:06 PM
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Probably didn’t initiate AND didn’t go to jiu jitsu.
/r/askMRP20/07/23 02:11 PM
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You like this answer because it lets you avoid rejection. Bonus points because you think it’s going to look alpha while you avoid rejection. How about you pack your bag for BJJ, initiate early enough to clean up and still make it to jiu jitsu if you do have sex, and then go to jiu jitsu regardless? Control your actions instead of trying to manipulate your wife’s.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 07:30 PM
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Figure out how to handle it by doing it. Initiate, maybe get rejected, learn to deal with it. There’s no magic trick and avoidance certainly isn’t it.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 07:22 PM
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Look at you, not realizing this is still 100% in the wife’s frame. So much retarded button pressing and fantasizing. “This shit is gonna be so slick. She’s definitely going to want me more after I hit her with this.” I’m looking forward to OP coming back to tell us he tried this but she preemptively rejected him the instant he kissed her.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 07:13 PM
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You were a pro boxer who couldn’t get laid? Buuuuuuulllllllllssssshhhhhhiiiiiiiiit.
/r/askMRP18/07/23 04:13 PM
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Go talk to a lawyer. Yeah, yeah. OYS, work on yourself, etc. But also go talk with a lawyer or three immediately. You need to plan for this divorce that’s pretty clearly happening. I will say the stuff she sent this time is so strange. It’s weird, vaguely red pill stuff about your time being your greatest gift. Followed up by stuff saying you don’t do anything with the kids or the house. I don’t know whether she’s delusional or you are.
/r/askMRP09/07/23 07:02 AM
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The “alpha widow” concept is just more mental masturbation about how your woman is different. It comes from a place of ego and insecurity. Either you’re her “alpha” or you’re not. The obsession about whether someone else was more alpha to her than you is fundamentally the same as the obsession incels have with the idea of virgin wives. The talk is always about how the woman is damaged in some way, but it’s really about his insecurity (justified or not). The incel knows she’d leave him if she had…
/r/askMRP07/07/23 03:52 AM
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I can see what you’re saying, that she’s trying to push him far enough to get a reaction. At the same time, the particular way she’s pushing sounds like he’s being set up for DV charges and a one-sided divorce. Physical escalation, clinging to the kids, and calling the cops? I’d be talking with a lawyer about how to protect myself legally.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/23 03:07 AM
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Lol. I thought she was handy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/23 02:25 AM
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It’s because you feel powerless. You’ve accepted all this and believe there’s nothing you can do to change it. Find your power and you’ll be angry.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/23 12:20 AM
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Future State (goals): I'm in shape and active. Marriage is respectful. I am a Captain that my wife wants to be led by. Fix your goals. This is much more about your marriage and wife than about you. She's handy and fixes the issue but breaks the fridge overall. It works but isn't as functional on the inside as it should be. I really just want to know what she did to the fridge. Instead of following her lead, blah blah blah… So your wife is an alcoholic that you hide booze from. She calls the cops…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/23 12:15 AM
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This is one of those troll posts that intentionally give the worst advice and you just forgot to advise flowers and groveling, right? Give her the ultimatum that if these sort of behavior is repeated, you will consider walking away for good. Wait for her to repeat the behavior (may be few times) and make your decision. Right?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/23 11:55 PM
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Start with a lawyer. Even if this were salvageable, why would you want to?
/r/askMRP06/07/23 03:51 PM
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My squats aren’t going low enough and I’ve been debating deloading and fixing that, but I’ve just been pushing ahead with more weight. Ego. I’m thinking it might be time to switch to 5/3/1, or Madcow. If anybody has suggestions please let me know. Have you done the prescribed deloads? I’ve been practicing OI, I’m really not caring as much about not hooking up. But then the sexual frustration builds up and that turns to anger again. This is not OI. This is you avoiding rejection and pretending it…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 05:39 PM
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This past week I told myself to only initiate when I feel true desire to fuck her. I did not initiate at all this past week, mostly because I assumed it would be met with rejection. I am also committing myself to not acting needy (will update in my next post) - no asking for sex So your plan is basically to not initiate? Good luck with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 05:36 PM
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Fiddling with an old company of ours, moving some cash to banks with better interest rates and different other things, made me “shrink” the deficit to app. -450$ a month moving forward. This sounds like BS. How did you find $1500/month in cash flow from this stuff? It’s possible that you had $500k sitting in a non-interest-bearing account and now you’ve moved it to a high rate CD, but I kind of doubt it. If that is true, I would suggest you talk to a financial advisor about where you should actu…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/23 05:00 PM
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Absent details I can’t give more concrete advice. $24k/year deficit seems pretty insane to me, though. I can’t envision a scenario where this isn’t a major concern. But if it’s not a major concern then why do you even care about your wife’s spending? How much is she spending? Your wife’s feelings about spending isn’t your problem. The fact that her spending is impacting your budget negatively is. You don’t need to convince her that your spending philosophy is right. You need her to stop spending…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 10:20 PM
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Reddit ate my comment so you get the Cliff notes now: Shut up about your imaginary future body. It’s needy and cringe. Just take the compliment if you get one and shut up. “Thanks” Don’t listen to her mouth noises about avoiding sex with you. She probably had 5 other excuses lined up. Don’t put your mental energy here. Fix your finances. You are spending $24k/year that you don’t earn. Your apartment costs half of your income. Your wife’s spending is out of control. But you say your career is whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 05:46 PM
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You didn’t ask a basic question. You didn’t ask a question at all. You made some vague statement about wanting advice, but didn’t give any detail about yourself, or your relationship, or even what you want advice about. My advice is to stop being a lazy prick.
/r/askMRP12/04/19 03:11 PM
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Bodyfat 19%, weight 180 lbs., height 5’6 Not a fucking chance you’re only 19% with those lifts. You’re fat. You’re a rounding error away from obese. Increase all lifts by 5% each week. (I may hold off on increasing deadlift weight because my form is shit). You haven’t moved your weights since your last OYS almost 3 weeks ago. Your form doesn’t seem to be the real problem here. One or two days a week I drink. Limiting myself to 4 or 5 beers a day each of these days. So you only get drunk twice a …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 02:58 PM
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Sure. Getting a lifting belt for a 225 deadlift seems weird to me, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 07:37 PM
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If she’s actually treating you poorly and you want to confront her about that, fine. If you want to establish a healthier relationship/atmosphere with her, okay. If you want to explain that you only slept around because you “weren’t having your needs met” and you’re not actually a “sex-crazed pervert”, that’s 100% seeking validation. She doesn’t need to know any of that shit and your attempt at explaining your past actions is all about how you feel because she doesn’t like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 03:20 PM
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You’re falling victim to the correlation=causation fallacy. Grip strength is a predictor, not a driver of mortality. Foot size is a major predictor of present earnings (positively correlated) as well as expected remaining lifespan (negatively correlated). Do small feet cause lower income or longer lifespan? No, but kids have little feet and kids generally outlive adults and don’t earn any money. The obvious implication of the association between grip strength and mortality is not that a stronger…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/19 03:00 PM
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Grip strength has also been proven as a measurable necessity as one ages to promote long term health. Nope. It’s correlated. You really think a strong grip prevents mortality or illness? Of course not. Healthier people just have stronger grips on average.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:57 PM
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I think this is somewhat of a WISNIFG problem, in the sense that I’m afraid that to talk to her directly, and say that while I feel badly for treating my wife poorly, I cheated in the first place because I wasn’t having my needs met, not because I’m the sex-crazed pervert she thinks I am. No, it’s not a WISNIFG problem. It’s a you’re-a-goddamned-validation-whore problem. Why do you fucking care if she thinks you’re a sex-crazed pervert? You were a serial cheater and still want to cheat and you’r…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/19 11:47 PM
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I wasn’t responding to his plea for a bunch of guys on the internet to validate his feelings about long distance relationships. I responded to his offhand comment that he “might not be relationship material”. It was intended to point out the loser nature he’s demonstrating with that comment. If he wants advice on how to not suck at relationships, he can ask. And you can fuck off.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 11:09 PM
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Tangent here, but what the fuck do you think “bump uglies” means? I’m doubtful the OP wanted to fuck his brother in law and then swap manly stories.
/r/askMRP08/04/19 08:38 PM
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So a woman fucks you a few times and immediately you’re in love and considering settling down with her? That’s what happened with your wife, too. How’s that working out?
/r/askMRP08/04/19 07:54 PM
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Your reference to "gyno surgery" sounds like you had gynecomastia surgery. You should be clearer in the future. Your wife had a uterine prolapse and just had it repaired 2 months ago. You should expect that it's going to have an effect on your sex life. Work on yourself and give her some time. Lift more. You're super weak. Work on yourself. 2 months is nothing. It's going to take time and there are no shortcuts. Work on yourself.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 05:28 PM
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You didn’t answer a some of the questions which says you’re embarrassed of the answers or that you’re too stupid to read. In all likelihood it means you’re weak and she’s rejecting you regularly. So you’re probably not as attractive as you like to imagine. Given that, she’s probably not comfort seeking with her “I know you want to leave me” crap. She’s checked out and wants you to end the relationship because she’s to weak to do it. But yeah, she’s cheated, cheating, or will cheat because she’s …
/r/askMRP03/04/19 06:47 AM
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*Her second reason is that in case we divorce it would be better for our daughter to have another sibling who has gone through a similar experience * Jesus fucking Christ. You have a woman repeatedly threatening to divorce you and somehow actually using her divorce threats as a reason to have another kid. Your relationship is clearly a train wreck. You shouldn’t need advice on how to handle this situation. The appropriate answer is “I don’t want another kid right now.” That’s all you need to tel…
/r/askMRP03/04/19 06:37 AM
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I might not be relationship material. I have no idea what I'm doing once I get them. Lame. This just means you suck. If you cannot manage a relationship it means you’re either just boring once people actually get to know you or that you’re turning into a loser once you get into a relationship. If you don’t want to be in a relationship, the don’t. But clearly you do, because you’re asking this question, so I guess you suck. Stop being a shitty male.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 05:02 AM
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Meh. I don’t think there’s any significant difference in behavior between a long term live-in girlfriend and a marriage. Literally nothing meaningful day-to-day with my relationship changed when I got married. I’d been living with my girlfriend/fiancée for years. The only thing getting married does is make separation far more complicated and potentially damaging. The only exception I can see would be if your girlfriend/fiancée were consciously auditioning and intentionally turned it off the mome…
/r/askMRP28/03/19 04:55 AM
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You suck at soul searching, probably because you’re high at 9 in the morning. You found nothing meaningful to improve yourself spiritually or mentally. You just declared that you’d not give a fuck about anything. Giving fewer fucks doesn’t seem to be your problem. Understanding that you can’t fully control everything is great, but you’re declaring everything to be outside your control so that you don’t have to actually trying to improve. This isn’t owning your shit. This is you playing the victi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 11:44 PM
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Yesterday you were claiming that you’re a “passionate guy” but you couldn’t identify a single thing you’re actually passionate about except sex, which is clearly bullshit because you’re obviously not a tantric master. You’re on MRP whining about not getting sex from your overweight smoker wife. You started and ended yesterday’s post by saying “It’s time to take this shit seriously.” and today the first thing you did was get high. You sound worthless and delusional. Maybe you should try to actual…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 05:58 PM
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