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I don't want to come across has harsh but you're looking at this in the wrong way. You had an hour long period to cultivate mutual attraction with her and you didn't generate enough in that conversation for her to be interested in you as someone she would date or fuck, etc. Women will move heaven and earth to spend more time with you if they are very attracted. If they aren't, you get these type of responses. Everything in aftermath of this is a waste of your time. Focusing on this will get bett…
/r/seduction17/01/26 05:54 PM
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I believe it means passionately and with conviction, speak your mind about your opinions on topics with people and women. It's a display of self-confidence which women will notice. Don't be constantly telling them what you think they want to hear.
/r/seduction25/10/25 05:40 PM
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I think it's recoverable. Next time to you see her. Just admit you didn't handle it well and sorta panicked. (say it in a lighthearted way.) And truthfully, you do think she's kind of cute and you both should hangout and do something fun. (suggest something you have an interest in).
/r/seduction16/07/24 08:30 PM
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Yes but build some rapport first. I think all the rules of seduction are for women as much as guys. Confidence, lack of neediness and people comfortable in their own skin is attractive, period. Also be prepared for rejection of course but in the end it keeps one from wasting time on people simply being nice and but not interested.
/r/seduction14/06/23 07:17 PM
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Women who are drinking sometimes do in my experience. Sober, virtually never. But it shouldn't matter has you should be the one opening conversations, anyway, right?
/r/seduction23/10/21 06:46 PM
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This subreddit is fundamentally about controlling and changing what one can control. And breaking unproductive habits one might not even know is hindering them with women. Of course if you are tall, rich and handsome life is much easier with women. Success breeds confidence. It's a feedback loop that's easier for the attractive.
/r/seduction03/10/21 07:34 PM
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You missed your shot but it's understandable. We don't get a lot practice with women being that forward. It can throw you off. Easy to be fishing but be startled if a fish jumps in the boat, so to speak. You could have just said: "You aren't so bad yourself. Hi, I'm <name>. What brings you out here today? a little rapport building convo Hey I need to get going but, what's your number? I'll text you later." Easy.
/r/seduction12/09/21 11:24 PM
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This. A core tenet to apply is not to waste time, effort or money on women who just aren't interested. As painful and frustrating as that can be sometimes. Seduction isn't mind control over women. So much of it is breaking patterns of unproductive/unattractive behavior when it comes to the ways we think and interact with women.
/r/seduction01/09/21 05:25 AM
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Yep, fitness and self-esteem. A healthy amount of both. (But hey I feel ya, I don't have great self-esteem either. Fake it until you make it, right?) I would also add ever curious about the world. Intelligence isn't all about knowledge but knowing enough to ask good questions about things one doesn't. I like to ask questions to women (and all people really) who know things that I don't.
/r/seduction25/04/21 02:13 AM
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Was this girl really hot to you or just a rando girl offering sex. If she's just a rando, why sweat it? :) Tons more out here. Just learn that next time, be more proactive. Give her a reason to meet up, party, have fun with you. She might have taken your passiveness as a lack real of interest.
/r/seduction12/10/19 04:50 AM
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Of course a person's looks matter, guy or girl! Personalty, confidence, intelligence also all very much matter as well. Control what you can control. Learn to put work in improve what you can improve. Learn to punch above your weight so to speak. That's what this subreddit is (or should be) all about.
/r/seduction20/07/19 08:12 PM
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Not sure how many women you are talking about but it's OK to not be attracted to women once you get to know them. That's part of the process of dating in general. I would say roughly 1 out 10 women have an interesting, intelligent and positive personality.
/r/seduction06/09/18 07:47 PM
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I know exactly where this is in SF, Dolores Park. You need confidence to shoot this video here because usually there are a lot of people standing there usually, admiring the view of downtown.
/r/seduction22/03/18 02:40 AM
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Nice, I'm single in SF too.
/r/seduction22/03/18 02:33 AM
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Think of something fun and active you like to do. Say you are going to do that thing and ask her if she wants to come along with you. Don't pick a thing were you aren't going to be able to talk, like a movie or a show. Emphasis on fun. Focus on having fun and not trying to impress her. Try to add light kino during convo.
/r/seduction22/03/18 02:26 AM
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Certainly this is not uncommon or rare. It's happened to me on occasion which sex was rushed upon me by a girl when I wasn't really sure I was into her. I wouldn't sweat it. Try building some sexual tension, rapport and intimacy with a girl next time. This should go a long way helping you be more relaxed before you both decide to have sex together. Don't drink much, "whiskey dick" is real. Also remember: it's just sex. Once you do it, you are going to realize how silly it is the first time. You'…
/r/seduction09/12/17 09:49 PM
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Ya, be much fitter than most other girls. Learn how to work out effectively and eat properly. Proper diet is 75% of the battle in trimming down. Give yourself 3-6 months before you really start seeing results. Stay with it. A big bonus is this will likely make you feel better and more confident. But aside from this, building real confidence is universally attractive. I think nearly all the inner game discussion is applicable to women as much as men. Work on your confident banter just like us guy…
/r/seduction21/11/17 11:32 PM
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Go on more dates. When you increase the amount of women you have involved in your life, a single date isn't that special or a big deal. Probably until then you will be nervous because it feels like scarce opportunity. Change that.
/r/seduction20/11/17 08:29 PM
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Fine points here. Though 5 is misogynistic. Human beings are handicapped with biases and irrationality. You are perpetuating a harmful stereotype by singling out women.
/r/seduction17/10/17 07:08 AM
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They generally have many options. Duh. Men gives them regular attention for their looks. It's old and hollow for them. Change things up, start a conversation about what they think about the world, themselves or the something in the news. Quickly work into the conversation how physical beauty is utterly common and even boring in our society and there's so much more to a person than their looks. Ask her if she agrees to that.
/r/seduction11/10/17 09:26 PM
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Ya all 10 ten are sage advice. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction03/10/17 07:19 AM
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Younger teen girls are all about making causal strong eye contact. I'm not sure how much to really read into it as an IoI as it would be with adult women who are usually more selective with who they are making eye contract with and indicating interest. If you are American, in much of the US, you are putting yourself in legal jeopardy by sleeping with them.
/r/seduction19/09/17 09:25 PM
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An above average amount of attractive women.
/r/seduction08/09/17 10:42 PM
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Work more on being INTERESTED, rather than INTERESTING. I like this mindset.
/r/seduction08/09/17 07:11 PM
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Why wouldn't you approach any women you found attractive? Don't over think it. You trying to protect yourself from rejection which is natural but ultimately unavoidable. Building a reservoir of self-confidence is key to be more comfortable interacting and resilient. It sounds like you are fortunate, it's seems be a target rich environment. :)
/r/seduction08/09/17 05:56 AM
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Work on improving yourself. Workout, dress better, get a good haircut, learn a new hobby, eat better. Maintain all these things, don't slack. Stop comparing yourself to others. They aren't you. Think about what you really want and not what you think society/friends want you to be. If you are really struggling, start slow. Make more confident eye contact with girls, even ones you aren't interested in. Just learn to start more interactions by just saying hi or asking a girl a question to start a s…
/r/seduction08/09/17 04:35 AM
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Very important points! Very good. I don't do these enough.
/r/seduction07/09/17 03:47 PM
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Very good, I like these.
/r/seduction07/09/17 03:46 PM
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I like this a lot. Lots of good stuff here.
/r/seduction07/09/17 05:39 AM
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I'm a big fan of Dr. Harold Pollack. I listen to his podcast. Super smart guy and a person really devoted to improving the public good.
/r/seduction07/09/17 05:30 AM
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I really like you specify hobbies that teach you a skill. Something you can show a girl and be passionate about it. Display of high value.
/r/seduction07/09/17 04:54 AM
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I think the key is building sexual tension asap. It's a time saver as well if she's totally unreceptive because she's in a committed relationship, she's gay, etc.
/r/seduction07/09/17 01:51 AM
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Oh ok.
/r/seduction06/09/17 11:37 PM
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How so? The point I'm trying to make is to learn how to make rejection more easily adsorbed and to keep perspective. Perhaps I could word it differently.
/r/seduction06/09/17 10:26 PM
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Here's my first pass at it. I'm sure it can be improved. 4 Bold and Confident Keys Do something rather than remaining passive. Learn to approach, approach often. Don't supplicate to women, be confident that you are good enough. Indicate sexual interest early on through kino, eye contact and conversation. ABC (Always Be Closing): # close, kiss close, f- close, etc. Keep in mind your goal at hand. Helps you be in the right mindset to take advantage of an opportunity. 3 Inner Game Keys Self-improve…
/r/seduction06/09/17 08:07 PM
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I read this a while ago and think it's good. If you think you are seeing signs, have built some rapport and maybe isolated her a bit, ask with confident smirk and holding solid eye contact, "you want to kiss me right now, don't you?" If she blushes, hems-and-haws, or says yes, go for it. If she says no then say my mistake, maybe it's the full moon tonight or something and keep building rapport or move on. Remember, girls love kissing, I think more than men.
/r/seduction03/09/17 06:48 PM
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Fundamentals in my mind: 1.) Clothes fit. (your body type) 2.) Clothes are always clean and unwrinked (no stains or smells) 3.) Clothes/shoes look new-ish. (Nothing worn out/fading unless that's the style) 4.) If you don't know fashion, just keep the style simple and classic, use matching colors, etc.
/r/seduction12/08/17 07:42 AM
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It's a good story about an AFC to successful pua. Though I wonder how much of it is embellished or simply made up to make a better story.
/r/seduction14/12/16 04:42 AM
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Good insight. I'm also reminded of the Groucho Marx quote: "I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member." If you have poor self-esteem, you can question the value of any girl that accepts you. I have this problem. Another issue might be that you are overvaluing physical beauty and not also selecting girls by how they think and act.
/r/seduction09/10/15 08:31 PM
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Possibly, though there was a major study that showed overweight (again, not obese) men actually had longer lifespans than normal weight men. (Link) I think it makes one wonder that the definition of "normal" or healthy isn't accurate.
/r/seduction04/10/15 07:47 PM
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Also interesting that "overweight" (not obese) men had the most sexual partners on average, even over normal weight men.
/r/seduction04/10/15 07:14 PM
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Some people get very confrontational when very drunk. I had a friend who was very nice and easygoing when sober but would actively try to start fights when drunk. But ya, unless she's super hot, I'd avoid it.
/r/seduction28/09/15 06:30 PM
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I was just hanging out with a physically attractive woman on Monday and I was reminded of this very question. For me, unattractive turn offs: Openly didn't care about politics Very into drinking and taking drugs, as a lifestyle Heavily into New Age beliefs and/or actively religious Lack of curiosity about the world
/r/seduction26/09/15 02:05 PM
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Partners who become romantically involved soon after meeting tend to be more similar in physical attractiveness than partners who get together after knowing each other for a while, according to new findings published in Psychological Science
/r/seduction20/07/15 12:40 AM
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This.
/r/seduction09/03/11 08:26 AM
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Notice that the article doesn't say ugly, it's women who get a balance of attractive and ugly ratings. Maybe explained by guys (who on average are of average looks themselves) going for more attainable average looking women, as a general strategy. This is done to avoid the risk of wasting time pursing above average female sexual partners. They don't call them A(vergage)FCs for nothing.
/r/seduction17/01/11 04:38 PM
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I understand there are other factors too. Like if you live in West Hollywood or in a small town and how much effort you put in going out. Living in San Francisco, I honestly see maybe 1 or 2 HB8+ a week. But maybe my scale is harsher than some.
/r/seduction03/01/11 02:08 PM
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They do? :/
/r/seduction21/12/10 11:58 PM
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I do think many have an irrational sense of themselves physically. You can see this out ever night. But like I said, there are beautiful women that also have an irrational negative view of themselves, mentally and physically. I've certainly met more than a few. So much so that I think looks have less to do with with a positive self-image than one would ever think.
/r/seduction15/12/10 04:37 AM
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I also wonder if HBs also get fucked over more because PUAs or naturals like to fuck them over. Of the many guys that try to attract them, the best actually get to hit it and move on because they can do it over and over.
/r/seduction15/12/10 12:43 AM
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I think a lot of girls internally think they are hot and aren't. And a surprising number of non-HBs that really think they are. There are a lot of HBs that are convinced they aren't and all the positive complements just bounce off of them. I made a short documentary about people's self image. It was a little eye opening.
/r/seduction15/12/10 12:38 AM
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