mtjay Archive

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2	Should I ever give the girl feedback/compliments when she's doing the things I want? Just show it in your demeanor. If she's having fun and she sees that you're enjoying yourself through your body language, that's all the reward she needs. But for little stuff like when you're teaching her how to give you a good blowjob, then you can say stuff like "yeah keep doing that". In this case it's more like you're instructing her rather than validating her for a good job.	/r/askTRP	24/04/15 04:18 PM
11	This girl is getting pissed off because I can't get together in a seconds notice. You're taking things too serious here. If she asks you to hang out spontaneously, that's her taking a risk. A person who does that (and who isn't retarded) understands that there's a good chance you won't be able to do it. She knows that there's a higher chance you'll actually get together if she plans it out in advance, but maybe she finds that boring at this point in her life. Maybe she just wants to be carefree and live in the moment. Don't judge (not saying you are, but you kind of are). So …	/r/askTRP	23/04/15 01:53 AM
4	When She Says, "You didn't say please" You're totally insecure and it reeks. You have to let go man. You're trying to control her by being a dick, picking challenges (lol it's like you perceive her as a threat) and making demands. If you want to be the leader, you have to make her WANT to comply with you. You have to be a source of fun and good feelings and security. You can't just take and take without giving. Like a footrub, for example. Nobody likes to give a footrub to somebody just for nothing. She has to enjoy it. Now how would…	/r/askTRP	23/04/15 01:37 AM
5	Why am I such a pussy? You're having trouble because you haven't internalized the mindset of doing what you want. Instead you criticize your instincts and try to come up with "the best thing to do", when the real best thing to do was just what your instincts wanted you to do in the first place.	/r/askTRP	20/04/15 12:24 AM
2	I am sitting in a cafè from 5-7PM dining alone with my earphones in and doing work for my startup and I hear this guy in the next booth whisper to his girlfriend.. "Maybe this guy doesn't have friends.." in a condescending and laughing manner. Well, do you have any friends? Do you feel like you are satisfied with your social life? If you don't, you can fix that. If you were secure with your social situation, comments like that would just roll off your back.	/r/askTRP	18/04/15 01:48 AM
8	How is swallowing the redpill different from having integrity? Is it more than that? Most of TRP is just basic self-respect. But self-respect is so uncommon these days that TRP sounds radical.	/r/askTRP	16/04/15 01:25 PM
4	Problems with Parents. Really need some honest advice. Move out. You will never be proud of yourself as a man until you move out and live on your own. Do it as soon as you can survive on your own (which you can probably do now). The longer you stay with your parents the longer you are deferring your own adulthood and losing out on a lot of personal growth.	/r/askTRP	13/04/15 11:24 PM
2	How do you respond to a girl having no reaction to kino? A girl who does that is probably nervous or low self-esteem. So even if she doesn't like you all that much she'd still let you have your way because she likes the validation. And if she does like you she doesn't want to show it because she's afraid of scaring you off. So either she's really young/inexperienced, which is fine, or she's a little fucked in the head.	/r/askTRP	03/04/15 02:52 PM
7	Wife's body issues, my honesty, SMV and dread I guess ultimately I do what I want, right? That's what this is all about, after all. You're starting to get it.	/r/MarriedRedPill	01/04/15 12:04 AM
1	How to stay stoic when arguing with an SO? I don't have enough info to give a perfect analysis. Maybe this is just a small thing that isn't a big deal, or maybe it's a symptom of a larger problem. But the short answer is you do whatever you want. If you genuinely want to be quiet, do it. But don't stop talking as a sort of silent treatment to try to "stick it to her". That makes you the bitch, not her. Your mood should be good almost all of the time. If she can frequently put you in a negative headspace where you have to clam up, you're …	/r/askTRP	31/03/15 11:06 PM
14	How to stay stoic when arguing with an SO? You said what needed to be said, but then you said too much. I would simply say "You owe me $10," or "You'll cover the 10 bucks next time," with a pleasant demeanor, fully expecting her to be compliant and say, "Yes, I know." and then just be done with it. Have her pay for part of your meal the next time or take you out for drinks or whatever and then you're even. If she gave me attitude after I said it, that's when I'd bring out the authority and dread, but only then. You should only apply the …	/r/askTRP	31/03/15 04:58 PM
6	Keeping your TRP theory to yourself vs self esteem congruence and the self assertiveness of honesty. In your movie theater example, the guy didn't lose self-esteem because of what he said, but why he said it. He was changing himself to try to impress the other person, which instantly put him at a lower position, thus lowering his self-esteem. If you had said "Not bad," because you knew from experience that this guy is a total ass and he would start arguing with you no matter what opinion you gave him, and therefore you just wanted to give a token response and walk away, then you've simply made …	/r/askTRP	31/03/15 02:18 PM
8	How does one balance "always be escalating" with being less invested or caring less than she does? It's the natural way of things.	/r/askTRP	31/03/15 01:12 AM
3	Based on rp logic, not sure how to proceed. You don't even need to next her, that's more for LTRs. The idea of a next is that you're saying she's not worth being a serious part of your life. If she's just a plate, she's not a serious part of your life anyway, so you simply stop contacting her until she presents more compliant behavior, and in the mean time you spin other plates.	/r/askTRP	30/03/15 05:03 PM
2	Would you next an almost perfect LTR with one giant red flag? Suicidal depression and extreme anger. Well, if you ask me, that's certainly not wife material. Wouldn't want someone like that around my kids. But I'd have no problem keeping things as is and continuing to fuck her for a while. I wouldn't stay exclusive though. I'd be looking for better options all the while. Sometimes having a lot in common just isn't necessary. Sometimes a nice submissive, emotionally stable girl is the best choice for an LTR, even if she's a little dull sometimes. Get your m…	/r/askTRP	30/03/15 04:56 PM
2	What I learnt from yoga class. Both men and women have both intrinsic and extrinsic value. Women are born with more guaranteed intrinsic value and a weaker ability to gain extrinsic value, while men are born with an ability to cultivate greater extrinsic but the genetic lottery largely determines their intrinsic value. But men still have intrinsic value even if they don't grow the baby. It takes two different sets of genetics to make a baby.	/r/TheRedPill	30/03/15 02:30 AM
141	Said No Thanks to the Starfish last night Lol, my mom actually does the same thing when she's not getting her way. Tries to accuse the other person of being argumentative and angry, when it's clear they are cool as a cucumber. Such a desperate and childish ploy. Well done on holding frame. You killed it.	/r/TheRedPill	29/03/15 02:37 PM
1	Staying calm and maintaining frame? Congrats for asking her out. You did the right thing. You shouldn't see this is as a failure. You had balls to do what you did. I don't think you need to do anything other than keep making bold moves like the one you just made. You're on the right track. Keep going!	/r/askTRP	28/03/15 06:22 PM
1	"Youre going to break my heart, I know it" She's a woman who's filled with estrogen that makes her emotional and stupid. Don't waste your time thinking of meanings for what they say. Just try to sleep with them. Their body language will give away the truth most of the time. What they say can't be trusted.	/r/askTRP	28/03/15 06:16 PM
1	To the Guys Older Than 18-22, Let's Post Our Past Mistakes For The Younger Guys To Avoid. So here's your reasoning: If you hold the eye contact for a long time, and then they look away, it makes you feel like a psychopath. But if you hold the eye contact for a long time, and then you look away, doesn't that then make them the psychopath? Aren't you being kind of silly here? If you're going to label yourself for a certain behaviour, you have to also label the other person in the same way for the same behaviour, in order to be fair. And when you hold other people to the same standard, …	/r/seduction	28/03/15 04:59 PM
0	For the Sake of Developing a Group of Men to Grow, to Learn, to Prosper First of all, please do your readers a favor and use paragraphs. I think a lot of us here are very much interested in the idea of forming a "brotherhood" in our lives. But it's tough in these modern times. Men aren't taught that it's important to band together with fellow males to improve themselves. They're taught to go to college, get a job, and get married. Plus with all these unproductive pass-times such as video games and porn, men are happier to just be alone and do nothing. And even if yo…	/r/askTRP	28/03/15 02:10 PM
1	LTR mad I let her hamster for 2 days, how should I respond? Agree you should hold frame. You did the right thing. If she bitches about it to you in person you can do the 20 second rule.	/r/askTRP	28/03/15 01:48 PM
1	Overcoming the height issue Also for gymnastics.	/r/askTRP	28/03/15 01:38 PM
12	Overcoming the height issue Being 5'7" and white (I know it's not super short), I have come to develop a sort of perverse enjoyment of my short height. I rarely get the immediate respect that is frequently given to someone 6'2 and muscular. But there are certain benefits I have that taller guys don't. I think I can get away with way more cocky/assholish shit and people give me a free pass because it's harder for them to see me as a threat. I can be more aggressive with escalating on girls and they bring up less resistance …	/r/askTRP	28/03/15 02:42 AM
3	You can distill all Red Pill knowledge down to one word: VALUE. Men have manufactured value to a society. You're only useful in so far as you generate value externally. Nobody cares about you as a person, they care about what you can do for them. That's mostly true, but you're forgetting that men do have intrinsic value as well. For example, high intelligence, height, aesthetics, inherent social skills, drive to succeed, etc. are all genetic qualities that provide value for reproduction. Heck, these days even if you have a decent Testosterone level that's in…	/r/TheRedPill	27/03/15 05:55 PM
4	FR: I LOVE Women A beautiful post. I have nothing to add except my applause.	/r/TheRedPill	26/03/15 05:54 PM
3	Becoming more objective/detached to criticism Parents, this is why you should never tell your kids that they're special. They grow an identity out of it, and then when the world shows them they're not special 20 years later, they crash and burn. No kid should be pressured to be anything.	/r/askTRP	26/03/15 12:48 AM
7	How do you stop feeling below someone? Nobody is God. Everybody has unique strengths and weaknesses that nobody else has in the exact same way. Just as a silly example, I'm fairly short, and many guys may be taller than me, but are they as good at chess as I am? Do they read as many books as I do? Do they have their financial shit figured out, or are they struggling? Just remember that it's never black and white. Nobody is just 100% better than you at everything in every way. I guarantee it. Instead of only looking for where people a…	/r/askTRP	25/03/15 11:44 PM
1	I want every woman to like me. How do I get over this? Do you lift? Eat healthy? Have a clean hairstyle/facial hair, cool clothing style, etc.? There's only so much you can do, yes, but make sure you're doing everything you can. Apart from that, you start increasing your social confidence by talking to people. There's actually not much difference between starting up conversations with strangers you're not attracted to, and doing it with hot girls. Once you can do one, you can do the other one much more easily. Build up your confidence, then start up…	/r/askTRP	25/03/15 01:55 PM
2	I want every woman to like me. How do I get over this? It depends why you're not able to provide enough women for yourself. Is it because you aren't able to show women you're attractive enough for them to want to sleep with you? Or is it because you're simply not approaching enough women, such that you're not going to get a lot of women regardless of how attractive you are? Depending on which one of those two is the bigger issue, focus on that one most. The reason you don't have the amount of women you want is either because you're not approaching e…	/r/askTRP	25/03/15 12:13 AM
9	I want every woman to like me. How do I get over this? How independent are you? Do you rely on other people to provide for your survival? For your happiness? If so, this can be a big contributor to feeling like you need to make other people like you, because your subconscious brain has equated your survival with other people liking you and giving you things. If you feel like you can easily provide for your own survival and can handle your life on your own, there's a lot less pressure on you to care about what people think of you. Someone doesn't lik…	/r/askTRP	24/03/15 09:22 PM
3	How would you respond to a situation like this? (Guy goes around stealing peoples girlfriends) Depends on if you can obviously tell it's a joke or not. If it seems like there's a chance he's seriously sexually assaulting her, then I'd have no qualms about defending the girl using force if necessary. If it weren't a girl I was with but I was with a male friend who was being harassed, I'd do the exact same thing. It's not about mate guarding. It's about protecting a fellow human being (who you have a relationship with) from unwanted harassment. If he's physically touching her, I would tell …	/r/askTRP	24/03/15 08:38 PM
2	How to proceed with 21yo Chinese virgin? If you ask me, weeks/months of sexless dating is never worth it. If I were you, I'd increase the rate of escalation. She might still reject your advances, but almost all girls still appreciate that you at least tried to escalate with them. And they understand that they can't keep rejecting you forever. Keep going for it until she gives it up or she straight up bounces. Do not take things slow just to save her feelings, or because she's shy or whatever. Take things at the pace you want them. If s…	/r/askTRP	23/03/15 11:20 PM
2	Penis size and extending. So do it then, get some sort of PE routine started. This issue is so trivial, that whether you do it or not shouldn't even be something you deliberate about. If you feel in your gut you need to do it, then give it a try. Then you'll either be happy with it and glad you did it, or you'll find out it's not worth it. Whatever you do, just make a decision and stop caring. If you do it, don't do it because you think it's imperative that you grow your dick or no women will like you. That's obviously f…	/r/askTRP	23/03/15 10:15 PM
3	Penis size and extending. Of all the things you could do to improve your life, increasing the size of your dick is way down on the list, right around number 428. Not worth your time to worry about this. Instead, lift, make money, make friends, game more girls, etc. etc. If it's a huge thing for you, and you just HAVE to do it, then just go ahead and do it. But don't make such a big deal about it either way. Ur taking things too srs.	/r/askTRP	23/03/15 06:54 PM
1	If RP theory is correct, why pursue western women at all? I don't doubt that foreign women on average are more attractive and more pleasant to deal with, but if you are living in North America for whatever reason, you still want to get your dick wet, so it's still worth gaming the women. You just need to adapt to it and have the proper resilience/game required to deal with their higher levels of bitchiness. It's not all that hard actually.	/r/askTRP	23/03/15 06:29 PM
1	If RP theory is correct, why pursue western women at all? Men play the game because pussy, that's why.	/r/askTRP	23/03/15 01:56 PM
5	LTR Help You accept that the girl has lost her tingles for you, and you start gaming other girls. No matter how alpha you are, there will be people who aren't attracted to you, and there will be people who fall out of attraction with you over time. Is that your fault? Their fault? Who knows. Accept it as natural and don't waste a minute of your life feeling down about it. Press on with business as usual, and don't let yourself get hung up on one girl's opinion of you. As for the conversation thing, that …	/r/askTRP	22/03/15 02:37 AM
7	Broke up with girl without having any plates on the side Yes you did the right thing. Never be afraid to cut things off with a girl, even if she's the only girl you have. Pussy is never worth putting up with shit or losing your integrity.	/r/askTRP	21/03/15 03:01 PM
2	Girl not reciprocating to my advances. Need advice/analysis. I think the work environment has complicated things. If she doesn't want to meet up with you outside of work, one on one, just next her and move on. No big deal.	/r/askTRP	21/03/15 02:43 PM
3	Short, one word answers.... What can I do in general to get more than one word answers from her? This is the wrong mindset. You're not trying to get anything from her. You're trying to see if she's worth your time. The question should be: what can she do to impress you to show she is worth your time? And clearly, her giving one word answers isn't impressing you, so she is failing in her job. And if she's not being responsive to your attempts to meet up with her to give her a chance to impress you in person, then there's no…	/r/askTRP	21/03/15 02:36 PM
2	Text Game getting "oh really, or is that so" Those are dickish responses. Anybody, female or male, who sends you a text to the effect of "Oh, is that so?", without it clearly being playful, is giving you attitude. If you're getting these, something has already gone wrong and I doubt you'll be fixing it with txt messages.	/r/askTRP	21/03/15 01:36 AM
1	Help go over my first "cold approach" ever? You probably could've gotten her to come with you on that day, as she seemed pretty enthusiastic. But OK, it's your first approach, so you did fine. When she said she didn't want to eat, you can say "OK, I'll get your number and we can hang out another time." Then you get her number, wait like a week, and txt her/call her to plan a hangout. If she flakes without rescheduling, you next her. Pretty standard stuff. Remember you always want to be closing. If you flirt with a girl but never make any …	/r/askTRP	20/03/15 06:13 PM
9	Say Please She's testing who will cave first. If you don't have any other options, eventually you'll beg her for sex, and then you lose. So the proper response now is to use some dread game and not GAF that she's withholding sex/being a bitch, cause you can get it elsewhere.	/r/askTRP	20/03/15 06:07 PM
2	LTR said "I'm tired of you being stoic and want you to communicate more" Just keep behaving how you want to, and if she doesn't like it you'll get another girl. That's the only way to win.	/r/askTRP	20/03/15 12:16 AM
1	Why is it worse now? TRP is not about pining for anything. TRP is not a men's rights movement. It's about discussing sexual strategy for the current sexual marketplace. It is about adapting to the present circumstances.	/r/askTRP	20/03/15 12:12 AM
1	Alpha inmate repeatedly has sex with up to three different female jail guards. The real problem is that we have females working in jails. Women don't have the fortitude to be responsible for maintaining dominion over a bunch of alpha males. Betas they can handle (sometimes), but a bunch of jailed-up criminals, no chance.	/r/TheRedPill	18/03/15 10:09 PM
2	GF meeting up with an old friend of hers - how do I tell her I don't appreciate that behavior without sounding like a whiny bitch? Let her see the dude and be cool with it. She isn't going to fuck every guy she sees. If she does fuck him, you'll find out and you'll next her. If you're jealous of her just socializing with dudes, you probably don't have enough plates spinning yourself, so work on that. If you find she's giving this guy too much attention and it's lowering the quality of the relationship, then put more effort into gaming other girls so you have lots of options in case you guys split up. Just saying "I don't wa…	/r/askTRP	18/03/15 09:58 PM
3	I've slowly watched my divorced co-worker become red pill in front of my eyes. RSD has some good shit. And about the 100 rejections, that sounds hella fun, if you're in the social mood. If I went out and did that, I think my balls would grow 50% in size.	/r/TheRedPill	17/03/15 11:39 PM
1	How do you rekindle your fire when you're burning low Reconnect with yourself. Like go on some long solitary walks and just meditate while you're walking. No pressure to go anywhere, just wherever your instinct takes you. Or do the same but take a drive or bike ride. No obsessive thinking, just have a calm mind and focus on how much you love just being alive and being yourself. Think about it, you are lucky to be even alive at all, so be grateful for it. A lot of problems come from when we get all hyped up with obsessive thinking, and identifying o…	/r/askTRP	17/03/15 11:08 PM
2	How to become the selector? You select by doing approaches, because you literally get to choose who you approach. But then the girl also gets to do a "selection" when she decides whether to reject you or not (or keep you hanging for a long time, which is essentially the same thing). And this selection process continues for the whole duration of you dating/interacting with this girl. At any point you can decide to next her, and she can do the same. The main difference between her and you, though, is that you actively determ…	/r/askTRP	17/03/15 09:26 PM
1	"You Don't Own Me!" I dont think either person owns the other. Its just two people interacting for a certain period of time. You can't own somebody.	/r/askTRP	17/03/15 08:28 PM
1	What to do if I've already been Beta, but want to pull away to become a Challenge? Dude, you are fucked right now. You are getting involved with a "Type A" in-charge chick who you fuck raw, while you don't even have your shit figured out yet (still a lot of beta tendencies). You're punching above your weight class. You're in too deep. Find a nice submissive girl (downgrade a little on attractiveness if you have to), use condoms at first until you're SURE it's safe, and practice developing your alphaness. In the future, don't even get involved with a girl if you think you can't…	/r/askTRP	17/03/15 08:11 PM
1	Why do I have a low-libido? I never considered that I might have low estrogen. I always wondered why my libido sucks but my T is pretty high (I also feel like a robot most of the time). I need to look into this more.	/r/askTRP	16/03/15 02:20 PM
1	Why do I have a low-libido? Great story. Thanks a ton. I have some reflection to do.	/r/askTRP	16/03/15 02:18 PM
1	Why do I have a low-libido? Supplementing L-Citrulline is more effective than L-Arginine for blood flow. But I haven't found any of L-Citrulline, L-Arginine, or Maca to improve my lack of libido. Just my personal experience. Have also tried Tribulus, Fenugreek, Ashwaghanda, and Tongkat Ali. The only one that did anything was Tongkat Ali, which actually did increase my Test level, but not my libido.	/r/askTRP	16/03/15 12:30 AM
2	Why do I have a low-libido? Anybody have personal experience with this as a cure to their lack of libido? I'm on a NoFap streak (89 days) and I'd rather not end it unless I have a very good reason to.	/r/askTRP	16/03/15 12:27 AM
1	Red Pill LTR Theory and the concept of "Game" Your posts strike a chord with me. It sounds like you know your shit. Do you have any tips for eliminating any thinking patterns of looking up to women? That's something I'm struggling with right now. How did you accomplish this?	/r/TheRedPill	15/03/15 03:56 PM
1	Prioritize your goals: abundance mentality is the most important thing Makes sense, if you already have abundance and can get with hotter girls without much trouble. But if you're struggling, the 5-6s are an excellent resource.	/r/TheRedPill	12/03/15 01:17 PM
4	Prioritize your goals: abundance mentality is the most important thing Huge post. Loved the mo-ped analogy. Thanks a lot. To the people saying you don't want to mess with too many girls of low quality because word gets around, you have the complete opposite mindset that you should have. You want word to get around that you're fucking a lot of chicks. Even if they're not super hot, it doesn't matter. People will just remember that you're the guy who's laying a lot of chicks, because almost no guys have the balls to do that, regardless of the quality of the chicks. G…	/r/TheRedPill	11/03/15 06:30 PM
2	A redpill thought: Superiority I agree there's no avoiding the sub-conscious near-instantaneous calculations your brain will always do to evaluate others. But I still maintain that sense of superiority relative to your past self is a strong generator of self-confidence, and sense of superiority relative to others is much less reliable, since it is always changing with your circumstances. One day you hang out with a totally beta dude and you feel like a boss. The next day you hang out with someone way bigger than you with a ru…	/r/TheRedPill	09/03/15 08:48 PM
30	A redpill thought: Superiority I think of it in terms of being superior to my past self, rather than being superior to other people. If you have to be superior to other people to be confident, there will always be someone who is superior to you who now has the power to take away your confidence. Instead, I realize I was given random genetics and a life situation at birth, and what's important is that I do the best with what I was given. If I am constantly improving myself so that my present self is superior to my past self, I…	/r/TheRedPill	09/03/15 07:36 PM
3	You have What Women Don't Absolutely women can improve their SMV. They just have low incentive to do so in the current sexual market, and always have lower incentive to do so than men on average. Working out, eating healthy, acting more feminine, fashion, makeup, cooking skills, good in bed, etc. are all effective methods.	/r/TheRedPill	09/03/15 07:26 PM
19	Confident? Your voice gives you away in milliseconds I think you're conflating confidence with certainty. You can be confidently uncertain (as in boldly stating "I have no fucking clue"), which is probably the best default position to take, while only acting confidently certain (as in boldly stating "I am absolutely sure") when you know for sure you're right. Of course, like everything, there's a continuum here. I get what you're saying though. You can easily determine who's just pretending to be certain about everything to try to project an "alph…	/r/TheRedPill	08/03/15 05:05 PM
-13	A disturbing eye opener. On this subreddit, men are taught that forms of dishonesty and lying can be empowering, too. Shameful? Or just sexual strategy?	/r/TheRedPill	04/03/15 06:41 PM