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10	How can they just move on? Men choose family over happiness. Women choose happiness over family. Women seem to move on faster. But the reality is they just detached from there partner and family well before theu announced their departure.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/03/26 04:12 AM
2	"Making" her get a job was the best decision I had ever made. My personal experience... My ex-wife was the same. I made enough for us to live comfortably. She did everything she could to avoid getting a job. But when I would get home the house was a straight mess, the kids needed food, she wanted a dog that she wouldnt take outside so there was sh*t I'd have to clean up. She had another parent take out 1st grader to and from achool so she wouldnt have to drive the 3 blocks..Every chore I would come home to because she was busy binging dumb reality shows. I…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/03/26 10:44 PM
2	Yet Another "Figuring Out Dating" Question Shortly After Divorce Question Only you know when the time is right for you. But the reason people say stay away from dating for awhile is because your full of emotion and not thinking... at least not with your upper head. Your going to become attached quickly and to people you dont want to be attached to. And its going to draw out everything out and make it worse.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/26 01:42 AM
3	My wife just left me… Get an attorney, sounds like it wont be contested. And move forward one step at a time. Its cliche to say "work on yourself" but thats the truth and not just "get a gym membership" but also get some therapy to process the heavy load of emotions that flooding you right now. It will help you process so you can find that path forward. Instead of going it alone and it dragging you down for years before you realize it.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/26 01:37 AM
3	Struggling with the decision of whether or not I should divorce my chronically underemployed wife. My ex wife was the same. We got married young and I had a career that would support us both. She would get little part time jobs and complain about them. Thats when she wasnt outright refusing to get one. . Near the end i paid for her to.go.to.school (which she doeant use to this day and still does the minimum effort.) Turns out she had borderline personality disorder which is why she was lazy. It doesnt make them inherently lazy but it does kill there ambition and drive. And other things you ha…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/26 04:16 AM
4	Wife is done with me, but wants to live together Get with an attorney to help you get everything set up and safe for damage control and when thats done file for divorce. Dont leave the house and document everything with dates and times and eventually you will want to video interactions. Stay cool and let her be the one looking like a nut. Its pretty clear she has already found someone else she just wants to be a leech. I would wager she has probably been unfaithful a lot during your marriage. Going off what you have told us she has said.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/09/25 08:52 AM
3	Realizing ive been making child support bank transfers to ex and realized I should have been making them through the Child support enforcement agency. If I start making payments through the agency, will they make me start from the date the court order was made? If a person needs CS in order to "keep a roof over their child's head" then maybe they shouldn't be the custodial parent.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/09/25 08:47 AM
5	What did you do with your wedding ring ? To be fair I rarely wore mine. I was in the military and my job required me to take it off and on.. off and on.. and so forth... I lost my original one and had some cheap ones I lost as well. Pretty sure the ex pawned the one I gave her off for some cash to impress some lower she didnt know was married and she was nothing more then a side hoe.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/08/25 02:03 AM
9	Separated Wife Jealous? Its a pretty common borderline narcissistic trait. She went to see if the grass was greener, and while she has no intentions of being with you ever. She doesnt want you to be happy with someone else... she doesnt want the grass to be greener because of someone else. This actually can help you out as women who are like this can ans will be stupid. You just need to stay calm and let her dig a hole. My Ex was like this and while I lost some time with my son and was always angry. I never let her see…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/25 08:33 AM
15	Wife cheated during separation You were separated so... whatever. But if you want to, wait til after you get paid out and then present actual evidence to the guys wife so your not a crazy ex.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/25 08:13 AM
7	Bad news! Depends on if kids are involved in the divorce and her diagnosis (75% survival or terminal.) But ultimately you dont want to stop. Tragedy always brings people together. And either she will drag you down with her while she is going through it or suddenly you will reconnect she will get through it and... you will be where you are now once it wears off.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/25 07:12 AM
11	Ex brings homewrecker bf to my kids' events on my days with them. So what happened was my ex had been playing stupid games. We had just moved across the country and we bought a bunch of house stuff we didnt need before and were making payments on it. The stuff had both our names on it so she kept calking them up to come get it saying we didnt need it. They would drive the hour to get it and either I wasnt there or had to tell them "Is it all paid up? Then i am keeping it so stop coming out." One day she had them come out for like the 10th time and she showed u…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/25 08:13 AM
19	Ex brings homewrecker bf to my kids' events on my days with them. The guy that convinced my ex after months to leave me showed up at my house with her once. I told him to get off my property or I would fuck him up. I had just gotten out of the military and was in the best shape of my life... plus the guy was like 5'3.... he ran and hide in her car. 3 months later theu broke up when his fiance gave birth to their kid... oops she was the side hoe... both of them have gotten it back 10x since.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/25 01:00 AM
2	Getting a divorce Never move out. I get why guys want to.... but dont. Try and keep your distance as much as possible and 100% record your interactions. This sounds earily similar to my ex wife. Married 7 years 2 kids. She was basically cheating at the end talking to.guys and sending pictures. While going through it she went out and got tattoos and a nose ring. Well after the divorce (I won if you want to call it winning.) She was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Which explained a lot of whay happe…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/08/25 12:00 PM
1	Have you been to therapy before? How did it go? I have, but not for a serious mental health issue. I do it now and then basically so I can rant and decompress and figure out the steps I need to take to get over a slump. You only get what you put into it when it comes to therapy. My ex wife for example cant be honest with her self much less a therapist. This leads to therapy not doing anything for her. I think this applies to a lot of redditors (not any particular sub.) There are a lot of bitter and angry people her that have almost no self ac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/25 07:06 AM
5	Why the delay? She is already getting some form of legal advice. She also wants the house and is going to do things to con you into moving out. It puts her in a more advantageous position.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/25 10:03 AM
–	What are some secrets men dont tell women? For women that there is at least one of your guy friends you see all the time thay has/still is jerking off to your pictures on Instagram or FB...	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/25 08:53 AM
–	Guys who don't hang out, spend more time gaming, and don't date are actually MORE likely to support gander equalety If women are in a relationship were they work and do all the household duties, then they arent really in a relationship. I split all the house stuff with my girlfriend because we both work. At one point I was between jobs so I took over all the household chores. I scheduled out what days I had to do what M-F. It took all of 3 hours to do everything. Did a few application and phone calls then binged Netflix played games. If I didnt have the need to work I would 100% without hesitation be a stay a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/25 12:02 PM
2	What’s the stupidest thing you had to deal with while going through your divorce? 1) My ex got a Pro Bono attorney. He was actually the county prosecutor looking to make his way to being a judge. 2.5 years into it I go see my attorney and I see my Ex's attourney leaving the building. So I ask if they finally were doing stuff about my Divorce which was moving at a snails pace. He told me no. That they often worked on cases together and that he was going to move into one of the rooms down the hall.... I fired him right there. When my next attorney requested everything he had...…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/08/25 02:02 AM
2	The fixation on “purity” in women is often rooted in male insecurity, not morality. Yeah for some guys maybe its insecurity... For me a high body count is 100% a red flag. I feel the same way towards both men and women. A high body count tells me the person doesnt have the ability to make good decisions. It tells me they likely had a series of 1 nighters (risky behavior) and/or a series of failed short term relationships where the common denominator is said individual. Its a funny train of thought reading this comments. Its not a man being insecure because he doesnt want a 25 y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/25 01:45 AM
–	Why are men obsessed with younger 23 year old women when there are so many women in their 30s,40s, and 50s who look phenomenal? Baggage.... The older a woman is the more they seem to have. A guy doesnt want to be treated like trash because the women he is dating had a bad relationship 7 years ago so all men are the same. Guys dont want that woman that decided to be party and be the town bicycle were everyone got a ride. Now they are ready to settle down afte 4 kids and 3 baby daddies... no guy wants to be the consolation prize...	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/25 01:21 AM
1	Why do poor people get dogs? My ex is like this. She basically buys a dog each year and then after 5-6 months gives it away or takes it to a shelter... then a few months later gets another one.. rinse and repeat. She literally es in income based housing and collects SNAP and whatever else. Gets mad because she has no money (Split 50/50 but our son stays with me 90% of the time and I don't pay CS.) But she bought a motorcycle (a guy she dated for a few months had one so she had to get one to be cool.) Last month she bought a…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/25 06:22 AM
1	Women using oppression as power and a shield from accountability I absolutely disagree with this. Anytime discussions of rape/SA/DV happens its almost always a die hard feminist that wants to downplay or ignore that is does happen to men and that its vastly understandable reported because of how its treated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 06:14 AM
2	How are ugly couples sexually attracted too each other? Anecdotal evidence here. Just from what I have seen on Facebook, the vast number of men calling her "mid" are from a different demographic. Its not that she is mid, its because she isnt one of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/25 06:08 AM
2	The below 80% of men should strive to get dating apps removed If men would just boycott them so the ratio wasnt so lopsided then they would close down and more people would find happy relationships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/25 06:56 AM
2	After divorce, how to not show income Texas has a cap on Child support per child. So it makes it not as bad but most states they go off "income." But that doesnt mean anything. In Missouri men start off with like $1,500 while the woman starts off at zero. Then they plug o. How much you get paid each month and other sources of income. My ex was making aboit what I was but she was pulling in a lot of CS from her first kid. At the end it came out with her ahead of me just slightly... so they wanted 52% of my pay each month. I am glad s…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/25 04:38 AM
-2	The ability to get sex when you want to is not inherently a virtue. Most men don’t want to have sex with gay men either. This entire post had me going "whaaa??" Because its really bad. The reality is women have ridiculous standards. Why? Because they have the illusion of choice thrust onto them by social media. They have quantity over quality. And choose low quality guys over and over because they are great arm candy. Guys settle because they have 2 choices typically. 1) They end up with someone that is below them because the women in their "league" have inflated ego because of quantity. And wont give them the tim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 06:07 AM
1	After divorce, how to not show income What? No... Alimony is spousal support. It means that all man has to notify only pay for his kids but pay for his wife to "maintain her standard of living." It has zero to do with kids. After the Divorce in no way should one person be picking up the slack of another adult they arent with.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/25 04:21 AM
9	After divorce, how to not show income Our family court system treats it like its the 1920's Women dont have jobs, women dont have bank accounts, women are the best at being a parent... and so forth. They can both make the same amount and split custody 50/50 and they will still make the man pay out of his ass for child support and/or alimony.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/25 09:45 AM
6	Dating a divorced guy He's not ready to be with anyone right now. He still had a lot of unresolved issues and he is trying to force a relationship. I went through the same thing. When I got divorced I was pretty pushy and the victim and just not a good version of myself. So I had a lot of chaotic short relationships. When I finally figured it out, I took care of myself and I was a different person. So here's the thing... let's say tomorrow he suddenly fixes himself and he is doing great. He wont be the same person...…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/25 09:40 AM
2	Do These Events That Transpired Sound Like Gaslighting / Emotional Manipulation Tactics So, I was in the Army. My ex-wife pulled this shit all the time. Constant threats of Divorce, constant "I am leaving you!" I went to SAPPER school and she told me if I left she wouldn't be there when I got home. Well... she was there when I got off the plane when I returned. In the end it is like when you hear people breaking up and one of them talks about killing themselves. Its nothing more then a manipulation tactic to try and keep control of the other person. Its start small and gets more an…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/25 04:46 AM
3	5 years later.. I doubt she will actually do.it and its an idol threat. Also courts dont like to modify things especially if they have been in place with no issues for years. So 8nless there was some drastic change with you then... she will get laughed out of the court room and thats if she can find an attorney.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/25 09:24 AM
2	Does this lying strategy actually work? Yes they can get you if its your word vs hers... they will take hers. You have to document everything. Written and video when you can. If she is saying g you are abusive. Take your kids to see a therapist individually and have the therapist document that the kids are saying its not happening and they arent being forced into saying it isnt. Ask some of the parents/teachers you do all the school and coaching events with to make a short statement they have never seen you "out of control." Get those…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/25 09:19 AM
2	Alienating mother I had to... would go to pick up my son for example when we verbally agreed to exchange custody (early i divorce no court order.) She would tell me no and say she was calling the police because I was there... I documented everything on paper, every day that I showed up, everytime shecalled the police (who did nothing.) I went as far to have a go pro in my car and I would film me pulling up knocking on the door, her yelling through the door she was not going to let me see him, and she was calling …	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/25 08:57 AM
6	Trying to move on but I don’t know how. You need to get your stuff in order and get a divorce and move were you have a support system. As someone who was in the military for over a decade and then had a couple of post military "uniformed jobs." I can tell you, most of the men will bang anything with a hole between their legs and the women are worse. I once saw a girl come out of a barracks room wearing skimping lingerie. Walk to the next room go inside for 30 mins come out and go to the next one. And she was absolutely hideous looking…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/25 08:32 AM
1	Marriage… what’s the point? It ranges from how property and assets should be divided to what to do about kids and support when they have them, pets whatever. They can be thrown out, but they are a good buffer. Typically when they are thrown out its due to things like fraud, coercion, if a spouse has an accident and is paralyzed from the neck down and the divorce gets filed right after... that kind of stuff. If its on the up and up they go through.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/25 05:57 AM
2	Marriage… what’s the point? They only get thrown out if their is evidence of fraud, lack of disclosure, etc... if its done right by an attorney and you are open and honest about everything they hold up in court...	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/25 05:50 AM
1	Marriage… what’s the point? When marriage means something to both people it can be amazing. When one or both wipe their ass with the paper they both signed then its a shit show. No man... I will say it again for the guys in the back NO MAN should ever ger married without a prenup. If she isnt willing to sign it then she isnt their because she loves you... your just a meal ticket.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/25 05:29 AM
–	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy I am a little mad cause I had this idea 2 years ago. Dating a app were (both men and women) can make comments like "so and so ghosted." And then after so many individual comments like that there would be a little AI text like Amazon does on products that sums up reviews. I just wasnt sure how to do it without it being abused.. Someone probably saw it and made it into something..	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 04:17 AM
2	Average guys are expected to abide different rules when it comes to dating The only thing between flirting and sexual harassment is if the intended target thinks you are attractive or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/25 08:53 AM
4	Advice on leftover syndrome You have to distance yourself from her. If its not about the kids then you dont need to talk to her about it. My Ex did thing were she would date (she cheated and was dating before the ink on the divorce paperwork dried.) And was in and out of relationships. While she was in one there was almost zero.contact between us which was great. As soon as she was single again, we'll them she wanted to be my best friend. Probably because I couldnt just disappear because we had a child. So it was a cycle o…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/25 06:28 AM
3	Im posting this with the utmost respect to all the great fathers....then there's the DV spouse. My ex wife was the abuser. Her first husband (for like 6 months because he nocked her up and her parents wanted them to get married.) Was a pos...he has never recognized he was abusive not just physically. He has around 12 kids last i heard with only 2 of them being full blood because they were twins. Anyways, everything was great until it wasnt and she learned I wasnt like hom and wasnt going to beat the crap out of her for speaking up. So she became the violent one. She even wore it like a bad…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/25 06:11 AM
1	Divorcing due to lack of attraction…? You mentioned marriage counseling, but have you and her done any individual counseling? It sounds like you have things going on that is seeping into your marriage and rather then focus on that you're focusing on her weight and hitting it with a hammer... The reason I ask if "both" of you are seeing individual counseling. It also sounds like she is going through something and would benefit from it as well. She let herself go? Like what she gained some weight after a kids and getting older? That h…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/25 04:20 AM
4	Finally turning the corner! I got divorced so I understand the sadness and depression that comes with it. But men need to know its not the end. Its in fact the beginning of a new chapter. I think guys get scared about it because of all the horror stories (which there are a lot of.) But once come out of it... its freeing. No longer do you have to "ask permission" to hang out with your friends. No longer do you have to worry about buying something you want and getting bitched at because it cost $100 when the ex wife blew $10…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/07/25 05:48 AM
3	How much documentation you need So here's the thing you may not want to hear..it depends on what is being documented because if its just some texts or "on such and such day at this ti.e she called me an asshole." Secondly its not like physical abuse where you can have pictures and/police reports. So it really turns into a he said she said. And people can get rotten to each other when the marriage is fail8ng and it may come off as you grabbing for straws and makes you look petty. Thats just how it is.... However. If its somethi…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/25 05:16 AM
7	How long until you started dating? It took me a couple of years to actually be serious about dating. I wasnt in the right mindset and tried to date because my ex cheated on me and ran off with some guy. But I ended up with a lot of women that were glaring red flags that I ignored because I wasnt were I needed to be emotionally and it really made things worse. After taking a break from it all and getting myself together... it got vastly better and I am happily in a relationship for about 7 years now and neither one of us wants to …	/r/Divorce_Men	18/07/25 06:42 AM
1	What’s the NUCLEAR OPTION for Ending a Divorce Fast in Texas? I read the comments and... sounds like you have a shit attorney. It took me 3 to get one that wasnt jerking themselves off while reaching into my pocket. My exes attorney was stalimg and wouldn't respond to anything. I went to the courtroom (which i didnt need to) and he would request it to be continued over and over. My first 2 attorneys were trying to get me to roll over and give in to whatever she wanted if I wanted to end it. My 3rd attorney was in shock that after 3 years the only paperwork…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/25 07:30 AM
16	Do you ever regret it? The actual divorce no. She was a horrible person and had I known who she really was we never would have gotten married. I hate that I spent my younger days of adventuring with someone that didnt deserve it. I am deeply conflicted some times and feel bad wondering what my life would be like today if we had never met. What would have been if those life altering choices hadn't been made or were made differently. The reason I feel bad thinking like that is because had I not met her my son wouldn't h…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/25 07:03 AM
5	More Difficult - Divorce or Death? Both? I dont think you understand how much hate can grow between 2 people especially when one not only ruins everything but makes it a personal mission to utterly destroy the others persons life.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/25 06:40 AM
1	What hope do/did you have of dating and finding someone in your 40’s? It wasnt that bad. Just stay away from online dating and meet someone out in the wild.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/25 08:18 AM
2	Initiated I initiated the Divorce but she is the one that walked out which made things easier i guess. She took a lot of medication that she hid very well while we were dating. After we got married she decided she didnt need it cause everything was great. This started the roller coaster of attempted suicide, being g physically and verbally abusive, she wouldn't refuse to get a job most of the time and when she would it was some part time thing, her 4 hours was like working 18 hours in a coal mine or somet…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/25 08:16 AM
2	I’m Just Ready to be Done Its tough to be married to someone that has serious mental health problems. Its impossible to stay married to someone with mental health problems that refuses to acknowledge it. I met my ex-wife. While dating for a year things were perfect. We got married and the medication she was taking she decided she didnt need anymore cause things were going great. So after multiple suicide attempts, involuntary stays, her being physically abusive... the divorce had to happen. She would talk to friends and …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/25 08:51 AM
1	Contempt of court Document document document... I had a folder and each page had a laminated copy of the parental plan along with a blank sheet of paper. I would record times and dates she would break things in the agreement. Whether it was visitation, making medical and school choices without my consent. It would be in your best interest to do the same so you can drop a packet of how she has been regularly breaking the agreement with dates and times paired with what the agreement says.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/07/25 08:50 AM
4	Is there hope for me? If her income has changed and she is making significantly more (who she is with income doesn't matter) then she isnt going to get "more." Just dont let her know you are taking her back to get it adjusted or she will drop her jobs and play the "see i dont make any money" game. I would also recommend getting an attorney for it and have them file a subpoena for her bank records for the last 1-2 years. I had to do this because my 3x was trying to lie about how much she was making. She was claiming a…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/05/25 03:08 PM
4	First date Go out and have fun... but it's your first "date" so dont expect some long lasting relationship. Your going to have several "rebound" dates/short relationships.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/05/25 02:54 PM
1	Help with 50/50 schedule I gave my ex wife "main custodial parent" because it made her feel better and I used it as leverage. If my ex wants to move out of the school district she has to notify me by certified mail 60 days in advance, then I get 30 days to respond by certified mail. If I say no then she has to take me to court and explain how moving is "for the benefit of the child not for her." People who have seen my paperwork are like "whaaa?" The deal I offered that was reasonable. Her attorney advised her If we wen…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/25 11:07 AM
2	Help with 50/50 schedule In Missouri w worked with a guy that was getting $5 a 0aycheck because they were garnishing it for back pay lol. The CS form they use when they showed it to me... Men start off at $10k and women $0 before any information even gets put in. So basically you have to be poor and she has to be rich AF if you dont want to pay CS.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 01:02 PM
9	Guys who've had the worst divorce, do you regret meeting her? Regret meeting her... no. We had some good times and I got my son who is the most amazing person I know. Do i regret how things ended absolutely. I always wonder if I did thing differently if it would have been different. She had past traumas that caused a lot of mental health issues. What's infuriating is, she refused to get help for her kids, refused to get help for me, refused to get help for herself. But 4 years later she dated a POS who cheated on her and dumped her and that's the guy she d…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 08:21 AM
3	Help with 50/50 schedule I dont know of any place that CS is based on % of custody. It's based on income disparity. Even if you had custody 60/40 if you make a lot more then you would still be paying her. It's really stupid. But is sounds like she wants that CS $$$ and give you some weird days where she gets the weekends and you get them when she wants to go out and do whatever and you can play babysitter. A 50/50 split would be more like Her: Sun, Mon, Tue You: Wed, Thur, Fri, Sat Her: Sun, Mon, Tue, Wed You: Thursday,…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/25 08:09 AM