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| 12 | Saved myself from an awkward attempt at conversation by being straightforward.I’m sure they’ll definitely be watching it and not doing something else...😉 | /r/seduction | 18/06/19 10:01 AM |
| 3 | Something you may want to tryThis is an extremely wise post. I’ve reflected and asked myself these questions honestly and I think that I definitely am accountable in attracting the wrong type of people (or possibly people with the same negative traits as myself). At least I’ve realised this now and can work on bettering myself more. Thanks for this, I’ll be reading over it again (no doubt hundreds of times haha). | /r/seduction | 16/06/19 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidenceI read over your list of traits a man needs to have and I largely agree with you. However you said “don’t be 5’5 or you’re almost fucked”. I’m 5’6 and have dated about 20 different women in the last 3 years (being in 3 relationships, one lasting over 15 months in this period) and I dated women who were professionals, were attractive and had good social lives. Most of them were an inch or two smaller than me, one was taller and the height thing didn’t bother her. I’m very muscular but I still liv… | /r/seduction | 08/06/19 12:30 PM |
| 0 | Fuck dating apps, we need to instill the concept of cold approaches and building confidenceI loved your reference to video games and evolving your character. That has given me a whole new perspective. Thanks for sharing that, it will help me continue to improve myself. | /r/seduction | 08/06/19 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Is it inappropriate to ask out my physiotherapist once she’s finished treating me and I won’t see her again?Haha I’m a noob. I literally just Googled it there 😂 That’s a great response. Thanks for linking it here. I also noticed that the comment below was from a PT and she was saying about how PTs can come across as friendly as they’re trying to distract the patient from the pain. There could have been a fair element of this in my session but she did make a few sexual innuendos. Thanks again. | /r/seduction | 06/06/19 01:23 PM |
| 3 | Is it inappropriate to ask out my physiotherapist once she’s finished treating me and I won’t see her again?Not sure if I should believe a troll 😉 | /r/seduction | 06/06/19 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Should the guy always be the one to initiate? For example, setting up dates, making the first move, kissing, sex, etc.Ah right, gotcha. That makes a lot more sense now. Thanks for explaining :) | /r/seduction | 15/05/18 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Should the guy always be the one to initiate? For example, setting up dates, making the first move, kissing, sex, etc.That’s a great perspective on this, I’m going to bear that in mind and screw rejection. If I go in for the kiss and she doesn’t want it, then I will back down, otherwise I’ll be thinking of your comment with positive emotions. Thanks :) | /r/seduction | 15/05/18 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Should the guy always be the one to initiate? For example, setting up dates, making the first move, kissing, sex, etc.Ah right, I see what you mean. It’s the potential risk for the girl being higher than the guy and that’s what is likely holding them back (if they like the person). Thanks for this, it’s helped :) | /r/seduction | 15/05/18 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Should the guy always be the one to initiate? For example, setting up dates, making the first move, kissing, sex, etc.Ah I see. Thanks for this. There’s this one girl who I’ve been seeing for months (who secretly liked me but didn’t make it obvious at all) until I started holding her hand and then kissed her, to which she reciprocated. Probably would still be at the talking stage if I didn’t make the move haha. Thanks again. | /r/seduction | 15/05/18 05:43 PM |
| 3 | “Fuck It” -- The Magic Words -- How I Learned to Approach Any Girl.Excellent post here. Your trigger phrase is actually the exact same as the one I have used for the past year or so - and it works a charm. I used it when I was on holiday in Spain and approaching girls. I got really nervous beforehand and just before I was about to chicken out of approaching them I said the magic trigger phrase and committed to it. Now I only got like 1 or 2 actual dates from over 2 approaches but it gave me that feeling of “I didn’t bow down to my fear - I pushed past it and go… | /r/seduction | 05/05/18 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ahhh okay, I see what you mean. It’s funny that that’s how women and most people perceive it as I’ve dated multiple girls at once and then suggested to be exclusive with the one I like the most, instead of just “dating and seeing where it goes”. If it doesn’t work out, I still have other women that I’m dating. But maybe that’s what I’ve been doing wrong. I appreciate you pointing it out to me, so thank you :) | /r/seduction | 02/05/18 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ah right, okay, I think I get what you mean now. So if I was meeting someone, just keep expectations low and my options open? I’ll bare that in mind about letting her “win me over” and how to play it cool. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 02:08 PM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ah okay. So basically focus more on my goals and myself and if she asks about having something more serious, just be honest and tell her that I am too busy/focused on my own goals/achievements instead? | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Thanks man, I appreciate you saying that. That’s what I was thinking. I mean, we speak everyday (and a lot throughout the day too) and meet up as much as we can (we’re both busy with work). I tried holding her hand on our last date and she seemed happy to let me do it (even though she’s not the biggest fan of public displays of affection). She told me she hides her feelings from everyone (even her family) so it’s hard to figure out how she feels. How did you tell your girlfriend about your feeli… | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Thanks man, that’s a good point. I mean, it’s worked well, I’d say I’ve fallen for her which isn’t great, especially if she isn’t feeling the same/similar. So by resist, do you mean communicate less, play hard to get? I thought those would show a girl that you had a lack of interest? Haha I suppose when you put it like that, you’re right. | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Yeah, I agree, I hate playing games, I find it a waste of time. You’re right about the other interests too. I’m a very keen sportsperson and train everyday, plus I work full time and have other side hobbies too. But I should focus on them a bit more, she’s just managed to integrate a lot into my life as we’ve trained together, etc. It’s not really sex that I’m after, as there’s another girl (who’s quite hot) that I’m speaking to that would easily be up for sex, however, I want something more. Li… | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 11:09 AM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ohhhh I get it now, so she has to essentially work for it because she’s aware at how cool you’re playing it because you have other (multiple) options. It’s kind of like finding a job - if you’re unemployed nobody wants you, whereas if you already have a job then everyone wants you haha. | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 07:48 AM |
| 2 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ah I see. I notice that neediness is the biggest point here and from what I’ve read of Models by Mark Manson, he says that women dislike a man who is needy (and understandably so). Out of interest, why would it convey that someone was unsure? I mean, surely if they were asking to be exclusive it means that they know what they want, right? Or maybe I’m missing something haha. Thanks for the explanation. | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 07:44 AM |
| 2 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Thanks for this. I’ve known this woman for about 4 and a bit months and we get on very well and share a lot of the same opinions and values. I really like her and want something more with her. I told her that I liked her (which I said was a secret) and she messaged me later saying that she might have a similar secret to me, but won’t tell me what it is just yet. I feel as if a guy should be able to just ask a girl straight up, but I want to avoid being needy, but you make a great point about bei… | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ah okay, that makes sense then. I’ll try not to be as available too then. Thanks for the explanation. | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 07:19 AM |
| 1 | Why is it not a good idea for a guy to ask a woman about going exclusive, and that the woman should initiate it?Ah right, so neediness is one of the main factors for not mentioning it? I didn’t realise about the chasing away part which is a good point and understandable if the woman thinks you’re needy. The main reason I ask is that I’ve been dating this woman (we’re both mid twenties) for about 4 months now. She messages me very frequently and has initiated dates with me on multiple occasions. I told her recently that I liked her and she said “she might have the same feeling”. I’ve dated other women duri… | /r/seduction | 01/05/18 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Quiet girlsNo worries man :) | /r/seduction | 12/02/18 01:55 PM |
| 13 | Quiet girlsI hear you buddy. I’ve recently gone exclusive with a really quiet girl and even though it’s all official and we’ve kissed and been pretty intimate, sometimes I doubt if she’s into me and yet she keeps meeting up, speaking to me and being intimate with me which are all good signs. When we were on our third date, about 4 hours into the date, I gave her a light kiss on the lips and she replied “I’ve been waiting for you to do that all night”. Now, I would have said there were little to no signals … | /r/seduction | 12/02/18 01:50 PM |
| 2 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for the bro, I appreciate it 👌 I’ll bear that in mind. She’s invited me to a party that her friend is having in a couple of weeks so maybe that’ll be the chance to practice introductions haha. Thanks again :) | /r/seduction | 09/02/18 08:12 AM |
| 3 | When is too soon to date exclusively?I think this has just happened. We were on a date last night and she mentioned (out of nowhere) that she deleted all her dating apps because “she doesn’t need them anymore because [she’s] happy with [me].” I was like “good, I’ll delete mine too then as I’m happy with you.” I never said anymore than that and the rest of the night was great. So I’m happy that things are beginning to progress more naturally like most people have suggested. Thanks again :) | /r/seduction | 08/02/18 03:07 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Haha I do see what you mean now. I didn’t say any more after that but we’ve been speaking a lot more than usual and we’re going to be seeing each other more frequently too. Hope this is a good sign of things to come :) Thanks again for the advice :) | /r/seduction | 06/02/18 08:17 AM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for this, I’ll go and look it up now. As for bringing it up, I asked her what she was mainly looking for (casual, serious, fwb, etc) and she replied “definitely something serious and preferably long term”. I just said “cool, I’m looking for something similar” but didn’t mention much after that. She’s very shy though and there’s times where I’m not sure if she’s into me, but when we kissed the first time last night she was like “I’ve been waiting for a kiss all day”, then we made out for a… | /r/seduction | 04/02/18 07:39 PM |
| 2 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Ah I see haha. Yeah, that’s true. I’m not even sure if she’s had sex as she told me she’s never had a boyfriend and doesn’t like going to parties, etc, as that’s not really her scene. But she could have easily had sex on multiple occasions, so I’ll tread carefully but not super carefully :) On the topic of make out sessions, we made out non stop for 2 hours yesterday at the end of a 12 hour date. I’ve never kissed anyone straight for that long and at the time it only felt like 15 minutes haha. W… | /r/seduction | 04/02/18 07:36 PM |
| 2 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for this, great advice!! I see what you mean about it being individual circumstances. I really click with this girl and I get strong vibes that she feels the same way. We bumped into her mother and two other family members and the girl I’m seeing said to me after it “my mum’s given me the deal of approval and seems to really like you.” But yeah, I don’t feel this is too rushed just now, but I’ll leave it a couple more dates and decide after that. The other girls I was seeing, I was a bit … | /r/seduction | 04/02/18 07:31 PM |
| 2 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for the advice. I saw her yesterday and it was a long date (but didn’t feel long at all). I casually talked about relationships, etc, and she was like “that’s what I’m looking for” without me mentioning us specifically. Met her family too as they were coincidently at the same place we were at. We’ll see how things progress from here and I’ll bear in mind what you said 😊 | /r/seduction | 04/02/18 07:27 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Hahahaha this has made my night!! I’ve had “hot and steamy” sex with women before and they’ve still not been “invested” even though they said they were haha. But I appreciate the point you’re trying to make :) | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 09:53 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for your answer, you're right, no two people are the same, only some situations are similar and similar isn't enough. The cues I've picked up on so far are: she definitely likes me, she said that she loves spending time with me and always clears her schedule for the day we are meeting up and is more than happy to spend time with me. The second date was a lot more physical than the first. We were holding hands and cuddling for more than half of the time we were with each other, as well as … | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 08:50 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Ah right, I see what you mean now. That’s good that your wife looks out for you like that then, however, I’d prefer to only date and have a relationship with the one person. I’m certainly not judging you, it’s just a preference for me to stick to one woman at a time haha. I’ll take your advice about meeting up more often then, which might be a challenge during the week because of work but I’m sure we could work something out. Thanks again :) | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 07:18 PM |
| 3 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Hahaha well how do you know we haven’t had sex already? ;) You’re right though, we should probably do that before we commit to something like a relationship, although from the kisses we’ve had, we’ve been very engrossed in them and I feel if sex was anywhere near as good as our kisses we’d be more than good to go. The sex thing is a little challenging. We both work full time and both live at home (saving up to buy a place as opposed to renting). But still, I’m sure we could find time to have sex… | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 07:15 PM |
| 2 | When is too soon to date exclusively?You know what, I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with this. I am a bit worried I’m going to lose her to another guy(s) and the reason being is because we get on so well together and that’s only been from two dates, not to mention the messages we send each other. It definitely is an insecurity on my part, as I just don’t want to lose someone great, but then again, if I don’t know what she’s truly like then how can I know if she really is as great as I think she is after only two dates? I’ve… | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 07:11 PM |
| 3 | When is too soon to date exclusively?This is great advice and I definitely agree on the whole two way street think. I hate double standards and believe both parties should be treated equally. Therefore, if a woman vets a guy then a guy can vet a woman. I agree about the true colours thing too. Sometimes I’ve jumped in too fast (more casual dating tbf) and then realised the person I’m dating isn’t who I thought they were and I’ve had to stop seeing them. Thanks again for the advice. | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 07:03 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for the info, that’s pretty good to know. See, I’m currently dating another girl (I don’t know if the one I’m considering going exclusive with is dating anyone else and that’s only fair if she is), however, if she is dating other people then I wouldn’t want to invest in just dating her and then be like “oh, you’ve been seeing other guys when I’ve just been seeing you because we never talked about it.” Would you say it’s better to date exclusively and then after several months/whatever the… | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 06:59 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for your advice. So are you technically in an open relationship with your wife then? When would you suggest would be a good/better time? What about if we met up with each other on a more regular basis too? Technically we’d get to know each other faster that way too. | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 06:57 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?Thanks for this advice too. I agree about communication being extremely important and vital to the success of a relationship. However, I think I’ll take your advice and wait until after the engagement party and maybe try and probe a bit to see how things are going. As other people have said, maybe two dates in is too fast (even though we’ve been talking for over a month straight, maybe more time is needed). She’s very introverted as well too if that helps, so she tends to be much more of a think… | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 06:54 PM |
| 1 | When is too soon to date exclusively?See that’s what some of my friends had said but others had said the complete opposite. The way it is just now is that I’m dating other girls (I don’t know if she is dating other guys) and I would stop dating them if we did get more serious. That’s why I thought if I bring it up to her then I’ll get an answer one way or another. However, I do agree about the needy part but I’ve assumed before (after dating for months) when I’ve been with girls that we’re boyfriend and girlfriend and they’ve been … | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’ve been seeing calls me “broski” but seems into me as more than a friendCool, I will thanks :) | /r/seduction | 31/01/18 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’ve been seeing calls me “broski” but seems into me as more than a friendThanks buddy :) Any tips about going exclusive/when it should be brought up? | /r/seduction | 31/01/18 08:17 AM |
| 2 | Girl I’ve been seeing calls me “broski” but seems into me as more than a friendI asked her jokingly about the friendzone thing and she said that I definitely was not in the friendzone. She said that she says broski all the time. We later had a great kiss so I’m assuming that I’m not in the friendzone 😂 | /r/seduction | 29/01/18 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’ve been seeing calls me “broski” but seems into me as more than a friendWell that’s what I wondered as we already had a really great kiss on the first date, but I’ll try again and hopefully that’ll give me the answers I’m looking for. Thanks :) | /r/seduction | 27/01/18 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Girl I’ve been seeing calls me “broski” but seems into me as more than a friendSure, that sounds like a good enough idea then haha. I’m seeing her soon anyway so I can ask her in person too :) | /r/seduction | 27/01/18 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’ve been seeing calls me “broski” but seems into me as more than a friendHaha do you think so? I’ll try it out then :) We’re meant to be meeting up on Monday anyway so I’ll do it then. Thanks for the advice. | /r/seduction | 27/01/18 03:38 PM |
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