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| 153 | Instagram sharing some solid ideas this morning.. | MOOD FOR LIFE | mynamespaghetti | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 02:44 PM |
| 35 | Not quite a queen.. a princess in training? | SEEKING ADVICE | mynamespaghetti | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 02:20 AM |
| 1 | A Christmas present to me, from me. Because I'm done waiting for someone else to treat me like the queen I am. | LEVEL UP | mynamespaghetti | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Merry fuckin Christmas - a present to end the year for me, from me. In 2019 I dropped the dead weight from my life, got a new great job, new city, and in 2020 I’m coming for my Queendom. It’s about damn time. | MOOD FOR LIFE | mynamespaghetti | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 06:38 AM |
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| 40 | Imagine being this uselessI loathe grocery shopping, so I’m an avid user of instacart. If a dude picks up my order, I always cringe. They can’t find things or make any decent replacement recommendations. I’ve had one single dude that impressed me and didn’t stress me the whole time. Once I was making something specific and the guy couldn’t find ricotta because “they were out”. I needed it for my recipe, so went to the same store that same afternoon… they had plenty of ricotta. But because it was in a non-obvious location… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 06:04 PM |
| 26 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂Well put. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 02:55 AM |
| 50 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂It’s alright, I’m in my 30’s/grave already. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 02:53 AM |
| 3 | If he says his mom, sister, aunts, or female cousins don't like him...Yup. I love my brother, but I do not like him. He at least married the woman he finally knocked up at 36, but has had 2 additional kids since then. My parents and I have already discussed what will need to be done if/when he bails. There are stipulations in my father’s will for all 3 girls. I’m designated as executor of his estate and the trusts for the kids, because my brother isn’t to be trusted with money. He married a “Mormon” woman who doesn’t really go to church at all, but still believes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:36 AM |
| 62 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.And then go ahead and schedule in a repeat of the same conversation in 1-4 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:42 PM |
| 52 | It's the signs of affection and support in the little things over a period of time that makes a man high value. Don't settle for neglect and then lovebombing - the real deal is out there.Pretty sure you can nix the “friends” part off that “FWB” part. I don’t even have no-benefits friends that would do that shit. Who’s got time to be out counting pennies when you’re sharing with people you care about? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 03:21 AM |
| 12 | He was being pushy, so I blocked him.Stop giving them so many chances. After his first request, you knew what he was after. Even if you decided to give him the chance to shift strategy, the next time he asked you should have just blocked immediately. Also, POF used to be referred to as Plenty of Felons a few years ago, and from what I hear, it hasn’t improved at all. Check out Bumble, Hinge, Match, or OKCupid instead maybe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 06:10 AM |
| 24 | Hopefully after leveling up, we choose neither!I can’t unhear a laugh track. And then it’s the only thing I can hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:14 PM |
| 25 | Realizing your guy is LVM: Guy brings illness home, hides it, infects his gf and is lazyHoly sheeeeeet. You think her comment is bad? Look at her post history for this gem in AITA. Her edit must be straight from the Forever GF Pickmeisha Bible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:26 AM |
| 17 | Ye Olden HVM had it figured out a century agoNah, and now they’re too busy feeling oppressed by us womenfolk. No matter how wonderfully begowned we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 04:50 AM |
| 3 | My online dating experience in IsraelI dunno, I’d have been curious about that one too. Like, wtf is a “redneck” smile. I have rednecks in my family, they all have different smiles. Unless you’re missing teeth and have an obvious lump of chew in your lip, OP, I’d want to know what that meant too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 02:46 AM |
| 79 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?When he literally told me, and I still told him I would wait for him. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 12:49 AM |
| 30 | sneak peak into the realities of a pickmeishaAnnnnnd repeat.. ad infinitum | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 01:47 AM |
| 48 | What in the pick-me?Deserve is a strong word, though. Treating people well because you want to, is one thing, but I’m sure your friend would not be thrilled if her husband suddenly expected this behavior from her as his standard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 02:11 AM |
| 43 | How do I get over an unreciprocated crush?Time to find something to occupy your time that doesn’t include staring at your phone, and move on. You know he’s not into you, so you now need to stop being into him. Recognize your time is better spent on other things. If all else fails, I’m a fan of the rubber band on the wrist therapy. If you think about him, snap the rubber band on yourself. Boom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 02:05 AM |
| 17 | Always testingNo.. not to me either. It sounds like either he was back-pedaling his terribly unchivalrous first offer to make it seem like it didn't really happen, or he's playing games. Neither option is okay. OP, he shouldn't be "testing" you at this point (or really any point), you're 9 months into dating one another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 02:38 PM |
| 4 | RESOURCES! How to go about surviving the Coronavirus self-isolation period! Do it like a Pro!Saving! Thank you for putting this together! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 03:46 AM |
| 6 | I have a question for former pick me or cool girls. How do you come to terms with the things you used to do?Part of loving yourself is learning to forgive yourself. Self improvement is learning not only to recognize those behaviors you don’t like, but to understand why you exhibit them. We’re not perfect, it’s not a flawless path, and growing pains are part of it. Don’t beat yourself up for not coming to this naturally, this is something that needs to have been taught. And please don’t beat yourself up if learning about it doesn’t flip a magical switch. No magical switch exists. Just learn to forgive … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 03:43 AM |
| 29 | Woman giving head after getting anal... just so she can get cuddles. I would rather hire a massage therapist to give me a massage for those oxytocin induced endorphins. Lorttttttt"Loved it" - sure she did. I'm sure it had nothing at all to do with her PickMe behaviors claiming to be the kink-hungry temptress there for all of his lust-filled needs. Nope, not her. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 04:59 PM |
| 5 | You make it easy to replace youHAHA! You took the best years of his life? Damn. That means it’s all downhill from here. I’d ask him how he thinks he’s going to get even shittier as a man. Good on you for getting out and getting yours, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 09:57 PM |
| 9 | I had a realizationSis, it's time to level up. If the men and women you meet are all LV, you need to expand your social circles. Start working on yourself, grow your education (this doesn't mean just school), your career, your hobbies, and focus on becoming more HV yourself. You'll notice that you'll start meeting more HV people, they will naturally be drawn to other HV people, and those that are LV in your life will start to drop away when they can't keep up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 05:40 PM |
| 5 | Woman finds video of husband having sex with her while she’s asleep. LVM in comments says she’s overreactingWell I truly appreciate that. You be safe out there too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 09:50 AM |
| 13 | Woman finds video of husband having sex with her while she’s asleep. LVM in comments says she’s overreactingYeah.. that part lost me. Police aren’t HR, I doubt they would not be on her side? He admits to it and has video evidence. Spousal rape may hit road blocks still in the court systems, but I can’t imagine the cops not doing something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 07:11 AM |
| 17 | So bored due to this forced quarantine by my state that I almost went out with a LVMAmazon sells books on Kindle, and there’s a Kindle app for your phone. Boom. Read a book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 07:01 AM |
| 7 | This guy legit has 2 women fighting over him. How does something like that happen??I’m glad this was fake. But I’ve deeeeefinifetly seen a number of PickMeishas trolling for some military dick in base cities. Similar to this description, they’re looking to lock down a man quickly with that spousal income they get, and graduate to Dependapotamus Pick-Mes. Some women shock me with what they’re willing to put up with and actually chase. Then again.. my brother is still married, so I shouldn’t be that shocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:59 AM |
| 21 | LVM cheats on wife of 12 years with breast cancerThis is absolutely atrocious, and I hope she takes his ass to the cleaners for it. But I’m so glad she’s finding this out at 32, and has not and will not waste any more time on this POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 06:48 AM |
| 52 | This is why you never build with a manThis poor woman! But I'm hopeful for her. This is a woman walking through a real tragedy in her life, dealing with all of the pain and grief that comes with it, but she is still walking. Her post includes her getting therapy, hitting the gym, improving herself, and wanting to jump back into her old career. It's a hell of an uphill trek, and she's still feeling the pain, but it sounds like this woman is going to come out the other side leveled-up and a renewed queen of her life. I'm rooting for h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 08:15 PM |
| 69 | NO EXCUSES - Date Multiple Men Until Commitment is EstablishedThis is a fantastic reminder! Thank you. I've dated a handful of HVM in my 34 years, and I know I've ruined my chances because of this. I was too available, too pick-me, and too desperate for their attention and validation. The LVM in my life manipulated and took advantage of these behaviors, milking them for all they were worth. The HVM hit the road. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Bumble match’s response to me saying I don’t believe in sex work and I think it’s bad for women. He knows more about feminism than me!Definitely. I might have sent a "lol, k" through first, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 08:00 PM |
| 23 | #MyTreat .... yeah because I’m gonna pay for a date you’re asking me on 🤯 this is why I have decided to only date men that make 6 figures. Men have looks standards soI can have money standards. That will at least eliminate cheap men who think paying is a treat .... uh passWhy, whatever do you mean? Are you not into the greasy-looking, beanie hat-wearing, frowning-for-the-selfie, stoned eyes-looking types? /s OP, you shoulda swiped left on this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 07:56 PM |
| 14 | I am a longtime lurker at r/breakingmom, and I suggest reading through posts there flaired “man rant” to see the extent to which LVM treat their wives and children with no respect. It will sober you up if you’re ever doubting incorporating FDS into your life.Holy shit balls, Batgirl. That was a train wreck. Just read through some of it and my heart aches for these women. The utter defeat in some of their responses to shocked comments, that they can’t leave, “he pays the bills” “he’s a good dad” “he’s good sometimes”. Just read the post history of one girl where literally none of that is true. She posted recently his “good traits”, and on top of it being an obvious plant for her SO who likely has found her account, his good qualities are laughable. H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:58 AM |
| 12 | I’m a Pickmeisha learning how to become a HVW and I just remembered one of the worst PickMe things I ever did. Come cringe with me!Who puts a washing machine outside?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 10:57 PM |
| 7 | LVM thought he could get away with a $6 engagement ring from Amazon. His fiancee found out when she was going to resize it at a jewelry store otherwise she would've been fooled.It’s the effort this lacks that is so awful. He legit just searched “engagement ring” in amazon, probably after casually deciding that he better propose, and bought one of the first he saw. I clicked her link and the ring is even on Prime delivery. This two legged trash monster has spent longer wiping his ass than he did picking out a ring for his (I hope former) fiancée. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 03:35 AM |
| 19 | Stay at home mum takes care of 5 kids and LVM husband doesn’t even manage to get her gifts.No, but she’s so stuck physically and emotionally that she doesn’t want to hear anything but validation. 5 kids and no job — it’d be hard to leave if she’s not doing anything to financially protect herself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:23 PM |
| 81 | Stay at home mum takes care of 5 kids and LVM husband doesn’t even manage to get her gifts.The wife commented on this post — the husband left for a snowboard trip with his best friend today.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 06:52 AM |
| 3 | Should I wait to find a HVM to have a Baby at 35 years old?How was freezing your eggs? I’m 35 and considering it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 03:11 AM |
| 5 | Should I cut this off before it starts?Being an introvert is not an excuse to try and make your first date “Netflix and chill”. TBNT. Thanks, but no thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 02:41 AM |
| 14 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doI think you already got your answer here from him. He wants to date someone for 3-4 years. He’s not ready to marry, and he doesn’t want to commit to you. If he wanted to, he would. He knows what’s at stake, and he’s still okay to push you away. Enjoy NYE, and come the new year, let him go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 03:01 PM |
| 16 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to do“I’m sorry you feel that way”... the narcissists apology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 02:57 PM |
| 21 | Is he (28m) stringing me (29f) along? Not sure what to doAnd he said “someone”. Not you. Thank him for giving you an honest and true answer and move on. If you stay you’ll only be wasting more of both of your time. If he was considering marrying you, it would have already been on his mind as the pieces of his life are moving together. You’re worth more than a delayed afterthought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 02:56 PM |
| 13 | Homeless (?) HVM Behavior (?)Is it worse then when they flat out ask you want you want, and then get you something else with even less effort? Sometimes I’d rather not get a gift than be feeling like “why did he even bother”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 03:46 AM |
| 35 | The LURE method: How to make men crave youIt’s fascinating because these methods or manipulations are all already tools we employ on a regular basis, almost subconsciously. This is just a good way of identifying and assigning these tools to optimize the outcome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 03:35 AM |
| 5 | Not quite a queen.. a princess in training?That's a pretty spot-on description. Are you just horny? TBH, probably. Do you like yourself? Working on it, and mostly yes now. I battle some old low self esteem issues, and ongoing impostor nonsense. But that's been another reason I've paused my dating life, trying to eliminate that false feeling of worth tied into relationships. It's fucking awful and I hate it. So my focus lately has been on me and making me happy and more successful. In the last 4 months I've started a new, much better, muc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 05:35 AM |
| 8 | Not quite a queen.. a princess in training?This is great advice! Making notes would help me be a bit more clinical and objective about interactions.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 03:53 AM |
| 12 | Not quite a queen.. a princess in training?Sure. I've insisted on paying my "fair share" in most relationships, and nearly cut off ties when dating someone I discovered they had what I would consider "fuck you" money because of this. He absolutely insisted on paying for a lunch when he didn't eat anything, only had a soda. I couldn't wrap my head around it, and he had to insist, and made it clear that he was "comfortable". Embarrassingly, it made me uncomfortable. Prior to first meeting, or before I decide I'm truly interested, I'm aloof… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 03:52 AM |
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