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myopicdreams/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:47 AM
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Well maybe they aren’t a 6 or 5 to be attracting 6 or 5’s? Also, maybe you live in the wrong place. Gender dynamics fluctuates a lot geographically
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 08:22 PM
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Every time I have dated an unattractive man they have been much less nice and much more insecure/jealous than good looking men. To the point that while I don’t care about looks for attraction I am reluctant to date unattractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:34 AM
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The quality of sperm lowers with age too. The risk of genetic defects increases rapidly with fathers past age 40. In surprised they take your sperm
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 08:40 AM
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Is this your special code for “my belief is completely emotionally based and not really supported by evidence or logic so I don’t want to get into a discussion that might cause me to experience cognitive dissonance or, tragically, amend my beliefs”?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 10:48 PM
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Lol your opinion means nothing to me as we clearly have very different values
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:36 PM
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Yes! I had 2 babies in my 40s with my husband who is 11 years younger than me and likely would not have considered doing so if he was my age because sperm quality declines with age and contributes to about half of risk. No problems with either baby and likely because he wasn’t as old as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:57 PM
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Yeeeaaaahh… just saw a video of a 25 year old being interviewed with his 10yo fiancé and what I guess is her mother in the background 🤮 Not creepy at all /s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:26 PM
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So gross!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:19 PM
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I’d much rather the 19yo for my 19yo because she doesn’t need to think about “settling down” until after college and I would hate for her to be with someone likely to push her to waste her potential and become dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:19 PM
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I wouldn’t want to be with any man that doesn’t want to wait to have sex until it’s a “hell yes!” Or who is so insecure they want to know how many dates it was for them v someone else— hell, I’ve never had a man ask any such question. So weird! People are not interchangeable and I am so glad to have never dated guys who think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 12:43 AM
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Well, what is said publicly and understood silently are often different. When thinking about people as individuals we are likely to have different considerations than when thinking about population level questions— and often the people who are making population level decisions are not thinking about the effects their solutions have on individuals personally. Here you can read a bit about how larger populations of young men relate to war historically— and how societal mating preferences encourage…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:55 PM
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I understand that one of the systemic uses of war is to lower the number of adult males in a population which reduces crime and likelihood of revolt because young men have higher testosterone levels and are more likely to engage in aggressive behaviors when deprived of access to mates and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:19 AM
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But unfair if women do the same
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:35 PM
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When they say divorce rate they mean percentage of marriages that end in divorce— the number of marriages doesn’t change the rate— whether 50 of 100 or 500 of 1000 the rate would still be 50%
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:34 PM
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Hmm looking back I may have confused you with someone else on the misanthropic part. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:30 PM
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No it actually wasn’t. Why would I? I don’t know you and your posts are rather misanthropic there is no indication you like anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:03 PM
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I asked didn’t act and there are people who aren’t attracted to either gender, in case you weren’t aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:38 PM
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Didn’t accuse you of being gay. I said maybe you aren’t attracted to women. Not a binary situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 02:18 PM
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I find women more beautiful than men but am straight— even on days I wish i weren’t 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 09:17 AM
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Maybe you are simply not attracted to women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 09:15 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/amiugly/comments/tz0nzy/46f/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:58 PM
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If a guy can make me think and laugh, is kind and compassionate, and stable I don’t care about anything else really.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:30 AM
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What I’m saying is that in my experience I have more advantages with age and a much higher quality pool of interested men as well
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:56 PM
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Actually there are some epigenetic changes caused by excess fat (which alters hormonal balance) and may be heritable. We are still in the early stages of understanding the complexities of our genetic makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:09 AM
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The is a surgery that can increase height by I think 3” . It is apparently quite painful and expensive but so are the surgeries many women put themselves through…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:53 AM
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Do you actually spend much time with people older than 30? Phase of life differences are huge issues and most 40+ yo guys I know aren’t looking to have kids and are ready to finish raising their kids and enjoy freedom or chose to be child-free. I rarely see any men in my social circles date outside of their age group unless they want more/some kids. My friends and I are late 40s and never lacking in suitors. I’d say I have an easier time attracting men now than at younger ages even though my loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:42 AM
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Masturbation is also a sexual act and neither makes you not a virgin. Again… who ordained you the minister of defining virginity? Hope this troubled girl is seeing how obtuse you are
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 07:24 PM
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Oral sex is not historically sex— sex is an act that can lead to pregnancy. Just because you believe you are the judge of meaning doesn’t mean you have the right to be for anyone else— especially not vulnerable people seeking support. You should butt out.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 05:19 PM
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Every age and culture has its own norms about what constitutes virginity but in Judeo-Christian tradition it has generally been based on breaking the hymen — penis in vagina intercourse to be specific. Not sure how old you are but I’m in my late 40’s and even in my mothers generation a virgin was determined by sexual p-n-v intercourse. Most importantly… who made you an authority on virginity?
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 10:17 AM
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Wtf? If she hasn’t had intercourse she is a virgin. How gross. If you want to attract the kind of love The Irwin’s shared you need to work to be the kind of person your ideal partner would want. Good men do not want insecure, passive, doormat women and will leave as soon as they think you are one— only a bad person wants to exploit or control another person. Work on learning to give yourself love and respect then you will be able to attract a partner who will do the same and whom you can love an…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/22 08:47 AM
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Great analysis
/r/ExRedPill19/10/22 05:20 PM
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Just because you believe something now doesn’t mean you need to continue believing it. We CAN help and change our beliefs if we want to. You are not a victim to your thoughts unless you choose to continue being so
/r/ExRedPill02/09/22 08:05 PM
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😮 this is disturbing to read. Question for you… I am 46f with a 1yo, 3yo and 14yo. Probably will hit menopause within a year or so. According to your formula am I supposed to off myself in a year with two preschoolers and a high schooler?
/r/ExRedPill01/09/22 08:59 PM
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I don’t think most people with that view believe having a small dick is a moral failing but rather that some men with small penises develop pathological behaviors due to their insecurity or because their penis size causes them to develop a narcissistic injury leading to antisocial ideas, beliefs, and behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 03:10 AM
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Personally, I would wait longer the more I like a man because it is a bigger risk of getting attached and hurt if it doesn’t work. I don’t have casual sex or a high n count but I don’t care about my n count, I just care about being respectful of myself by being cared of who and how much I am vulnerable with. I agree that higher n count leads to worse relationships because it tends to lead to disconnection and dehumanizing partners. I don’t want to sleep with a partner I don’t care about it respe…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 09:31 PM
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Modern woman with 3 kids here. I don’t drink at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 03:49 AM
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Absolutely oppressors can be oppressed! How many oppressing managers have people above them oppressing them too?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 08:47 PM
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I think Ukraine is accepting volunteers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 04:44 PM
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Lol because historically men have been so faithful before the advent of feminism 😂
/r/ExRedPill28/03/22 02:36 PM
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Glad it works for you but 🤮
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 06:54 AM
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If your penis is actually that size it is above average and should pose no issue for most women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:08 PM
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Stimulating the clitoris during PIV should allow you to bring her to orgasm during PIV sex. If you need her to cum from your dick alone please know that many/most women do not cum from PIV sex without additional stimulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:52 AM
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I don’t have one night stands or sleep with assholes but if I were to become pregnant, even by rape, I would not likely abort because I am opposed to killing anything if I can avoid it. Children need loving parents and people but it doesn’t have to be the biological parents and all kinds of families can work if done thoughtfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 11:41 PM
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First of all, maybe re-read slowly? No one asked you about taking any chances and no one suggested a need to be saved by anyone. Also IDGAF if you believe I value intelligence over looks but I found out many years ago that even the most beautiful man could only keep my interest for a short time if his mind couldn’t challenge me or meet my philosophical wanderings. I’d guess you either overestimate the intelligence of people (even in STEM) or erroneously assume you have some idea of the level I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 08:30 AM
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What you don’t understand is that human beings are complex creatures who can be paradoxical in many ways. He is from Eastern Europe where visiting prostitutes is normal and especially so for a guy who is intelligent rather than a dumb jock. He is high quality in terms of looks, wealth, and intelligence— he could stand some work in some areas just as we all can.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:36 PM
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I’m not sure what point you are getting at and how hatred of women is related to the topic of how women can fix things for RP dudes. Misogyny is not in the control of women any more than misandry is in the control of men.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 06:31 PM
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Re revenge— it very much feels like a revenge when you guys imagine that women hit some sort of wall because of the manner in which you present it… it feels like “ha ha these women won’t give us a chance because we don’t meet their standards and they deserve to be miserable and unloved”… it’s really gross. As to whether my hubby is attractive— just based on looks he’s probably an 8/10, body 9.5/10. But TBH his looks are less important to me by far than his intelligence
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 06:27 PM
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Ya, in general there is no reason for women to invent something to fix a “problem” only a tiny group of men want to make them believe is an issue. The vast majority of men are not red pilled or buying into this BS because they developed the skills and attributes they needed to compensate for their flaws— like everyone else who wants to succeed in achieving their goals.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/22 01:42 PM
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Lol, you really hate to have that wall theory of yours busted down by the realities of life, it seems. Did you know that before birth control the average age of last childbirth for women was 45? Did you know that in my 40s my odds of either baby having a defect was 1/250? Did you know that him being under 35 took those odds to 1/800? My husband couldn’t do better than me nor I better than him because we are both very high quality people who fell madly in love. I actually have 3 daughters and I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:37 PM
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Y’all are too damn funny in your idea that women hit some imaginary wall in their 30’s. I got married at age 42 to my husband who was 30 at the time, 6 pack, hottie, makes 6 figures. 4 years later we have a 3yo and 16month old and it took far fewer practice sexcapades than we guessed it would to get pregnant. Both babies are perfect and smart as hell. Y’all be delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 12:09 PM
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Ya, actually your and my experiences really validate my suspicion that transactional sex is very harmful to engage in much, if at all, because it creates a strongly established neural pathway that can be difficult to avoid returning to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:29 AM
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I think, though I may be wrong, that it is because he only had 2 other relationships, which were short, and aside from that only used prostitutes so he made himself connected to meaninglessness as the default sexual mode. And like other default settings we create for ourselves it became the normal he reverted to once he felt fully relaxed in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 10:26 AM
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I wouldn’t have much cared before being with my husband but I will probably never again become involved with a man who has gone to prostitutes because I think it really skewed his understanding of sex and cannot connect with me during sex. I feel often like I could easily be exchanged with any other body and it wouldn’t matter. He is the first man I have been with who used prostitutes and the only one where I’ve ever experienced this disconnect. It was not like this at first but after a year or …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 01:20 AM
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Normally I can guess by context— I can’t here. Hamsters work at the speed of light? What word did you mean to type instead of hamsters? Though what you wrote is hilarious 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 06:22 PM
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Lol more than half of my clients are male and I actually have more of a soft spot for men. Perhaps you are leaking your own bias on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 05:46 AM
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It makes sense for many men to want to have as much sex with as many women as possible— there’s no point in arguing with biology— in fact, it makes sense that the ideal situation for most men is the way it traditionally was in society. That men can have sex with as many women as they want and have one or more wives to provide them with children they acknowledge as their offspring. Unfortunately, this “dream” situation is only ideal for men and really sucks for women. IMO every person should be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 12:28 AM
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I guess I don’t believe I ever said the things you say I said. I didn’t say it s “ok” for women to believe they are committed if introduced to friends. I said that introducing her to friends is likely to make her think that he is “moving forward” in their relationship and that he is interested in more. I didn’t say women’s biological response means that it should be understood that all sex is meaningful but that women are biologically inclined to develop attachment in sexual relationships and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:28 PM
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Last attempt here: I don’t believe that healthy sexual relationships are transactional whether casual or committed. They take place between mature human beings who care about the well-being of the person with whom they have been intimate. I don’t blame any guy if a girl assumes they are in a relationship without that being communicated; I simply expect healthy and mature men to understand that women have feelings that are important and should be considered— not all women have the same feelings a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 08:20 PM
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😂 first of all, everyone on the planet is biased, it is impossible not to be. Second, I didn’t say it’s not possible just I’ve never seen such a thing. This may be due to the fact that I exclusively hang out with kind, moral, people who are really into integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:53 PM
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Dude… you might want to look into social and emotional intelligence because you are sorely lacking from your posts. 1: sex= he owes me something…. Sigh, I just don’t know if you are able to understand this but for normal, sexually and emotionally healthy people, sex= building a connection with another human being in a very vulnerable and authentic way, assuming it’s not a random hookup/ONS. Short biology lesson: when women orgasm their bodies release oxytocin like they do when breastfeeding and …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:51 PM
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First of all I have never been a side chic so you can calm down on that. Second, if you don’t understand the difference between a relationship with sex and without sex I’m just not sure what to say. I never said it is ok for women to be biased and not men. What I said is that it is logical to assume, for a woman at least, that fwb might lead to attachment/deeper feelings (often happens) but there is NO reason for a dude who is being treated like any other guy friend to think one day it will lead…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:56 PM
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Do you really see no difference between platonic friendship and two people having sex when it comes to romantic relationships? You expecting eventual sex from your dude friends if you help them out or fear they will expect sex from you if they do you a favor? When you add sex to any relationship you are at a very different level of intimacy and emotional bonding vulnerability than in platonic relationships. Sex usually leads to attachment, especially for women, and many women are not aware it is…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:35 PM
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Sorry I thought I replied to OP
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:28 PM
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I should reiterate that this is just based on my observations of people. Every friend zoned guy I’ve known was not in any way told that they were in the running for more when they were not. What I’ve seen is guys friend zoned and convinced that if only she realizes how great he is she will want him. Re women, and I’d guess this varies by age and geography, and being used for sex I’ve seen lots of ladies used for sex by men who say how much they are into her when they want sex and even will take …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 03:18 PM
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Well in the case of being friend zoned I’ve never seen that happen with lying on the woman’s part, only the man’s. With regard to being used for sex… often this is also related to women being lied to by men. So I guess they are the same in that in both cases men tend to be lying to women. Also… why does having sex with a man equate to being submissive to him in your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 01:47 PM
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Wow, your kindness is inspiring 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 10:30 AM
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Ah… I think you just explained TRP
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 05:45 AM
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I am fascinated by this social trend and am looking to understand the cycle of men who get wrapped up in this.
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 05:30 PM
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I’m really curious what gave you guys the idea that it is reasonable to expect women to treat every man they have dated in the same way? That is just crazy. People are not interchangeable and neither are relationships. Some people open up quickly and relationship bonding can occur soon and others are more cautious and so it takes longer to establish a bond. Some attractive to you people make you feel comfortable and some make you feel nervous and all butterflies in tummy— the way women respond t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 05:29 AM
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IDK that this response is particular to men but rather to people who have the ability to do so— create an OLD option that prevents to problems on both sides: no spamming, no unsolicited dick pics, maybe no access to pics until after swiping right on description profile… just go down the list of major complaints from both sides and brainstorm options for addressing them through app design
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 09:28 PM
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Translation: I just want to complain and soothe myself with self-pity instead of doing the work of trying to help solve the problems. Which might also be an indication of one’s quality as a partner in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 09:15 PM
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Dress size will give you a much better estimate of her body size anyway. I am athletic enough that even when a size zero was falling off without a belt I still weighed 145. A 5’3 woman with low muscle mass might wear a size 12-14
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 01:05 AM
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Lol pot meet kettle
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 02:56 AM
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I can demand whatever I want and my partner can choose to agree or not. THAT is what happens in normal relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 02:40 AM
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You do know that even married women get to say no, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:46 PM
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You sound like every dude from the court mandated domestic violence classes I used to teach. That belief system sure worked out for them /s. In one class each person shared how much this sort of thinking ultimately cost them in $ and the average was 25k. Some paid more than 100k for the behavior this attitude often produces. Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:33 PM
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Maybe both. I see a lot of shocking mind habits on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:51 PM
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IMO whether or not they are putting effort into themselves physically the problem is more likely a personality issue rather than a physical one. Their negativity is probably far more off-putting than their looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 07:46 PM
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I can understand that. AND, what I am saying is that physical attraction can grow— just as getting to know someone can make them less physically attractive— attraction to other (at least for me) is only a little bit about physical appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:03 PM
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The first sane thing I’ve seen from your position.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:45 AM
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I bow down to your awesomeness for that first sentence!! 🥰🎉🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 11:24 AM
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I wouldn’t settle for anyone… I think it is not fair to either party. I just believe that sometimes attraction can grow and I know myself well enough to know that a person’s physical attributes are less important to me than their character.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:30 AM
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I’m guessing less attractive women get another short end— based on complaints I regularly hear and have never personally experienced. For instance, I’ve been shocked to hear from many women that men expect sex on the first date or at least by the third date. I almost never kiss on the first date and if I do it is a pretty chaste kiss. Third date would be making out and sex with me is likely to take several months of getting to know each other. I have literally NEVER had a man complain or pressur…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:17 AM
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I have, IRL interactions, sometimes found that attraction can grow when a person is great in other ways. So I often would consider a date with a guy I wasn’t attracted to who had, for instance, a strong intellect. This is harder to figure out in OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:06 AM
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In the article I found it interesting that while most women rated most men at 2.5/5 or below they also messaged 2/5 rated men most often. So that would imply to me that they are less motivated by their perception of attractiveness— which is consistent with what I’ve observed in grown women IRL. Young girls (18-25 or so) may be more into looks but most women care far more about other factors as they mature.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 04:03 AM
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Ok, I’d like to see the data that allows them to report they know what women are thinking. I’m a psychologist and I rarely see studies that would presume to read anyone’s mind— real studies report on behavior and what people say they think. Survey is known not to be very reliable and so reputable researchers know not to claim survey results accurately reveal the contents of people’s minds but rather reveal what the person chooses to report which can be biased by many factors
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:04 PM
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Accepted by whom? Show me evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:55 PM
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In my experience, when I’ve dated guys who think I’m out of their league they treat me very badly. This makes it not worth it to give less attractive men a chance because EVERY time I’ve done so it has resulted in me being treated like crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:51 PM
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Actually they didn’t say men are dumb— if you read carefully. They said this is behavior they dislike that comes from dumb men. If you need more explanation— there are men who are dumb and men who are not dumb. Dumb men often display a behavior this person does not like. This does not mean they believe all men are dumb. This is very basic logic kiddo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:45 PM
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Um… you do know a simple Google search isn’t evidence right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:40 PM
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Exactly how do they presume to be able to read minds here? If she messages a guy there is no reason to assume she thinks he isn’t good enough— are they sending surveys asking if she thinks this? When I was on OKC I never got any 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:39 PM
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This so much!!! Too many guys today don’t understand that just because you want something doesn’t mean you are entitled to have it! I REALLY want a private island in the Caribbean…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:30 PM
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Exactly what I was thinking! Why should attractiveness have anything to do with how people are treated by people in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:24 PM
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I have no reason to doubt you. The thing is… most men I know who are emotionally and psychologically healthy end up finding a partner whether they are 5’4 or 6’2 though maybe it can take some time (22 is pretty young). Actually, a lot of this pill stuff is bad info that I find hard to understand. For instance, the advice to spend hours a day working out— that is terrible advice for any guy who wants a smart and nerdy female. Smart and nerdy ladies are generally smart enough to know they want a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:35 PM
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I would be very impressed if he is able to do so as this baby factory has been permanently shut down 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:42 AM
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Actually you might be surprised at how much of diagnosis can relate to how you look— both in physical and mental health fields
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:15 AM
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Oh… reading the title I assumed these women choose to be alone… like choosing to be child free
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:09 AM
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I’m not sure if it is fair to characterize the situation as one of girls not having empathy for guys in particular as much as it is to say that most people have a hard time empathizing with people who are very different from them and those whom they are very close to. It doesn’t seem to me that most guys are any better at empathizing with most females either. I think I have a particular advantage due to my training and experience as a therapist— mostly with male clients in Silicon Valley, so man…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:14 AM
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A few years back I realized that most people experience public life differently than me. I had a conversation with one of my less attractive female friends and it was really eye opening— we were out together exploring a cute little town and she commented that it was “so different” when with me than when alone and “didn’t I sometimes wish I was less noticeable— that I could be invisible when out and about?” She said she found it somewhat uncomfortable to go out with me because she wasn’t used to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 02:31 AM
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Would I accept it? Well I would do what I could to improve my situation and past that I would have no choice but to accept my reality. This is life. It is not “fair” that some people are born rich and some poor, some beautiful and some ugly, some to great love and others to abuse and neglect… life simply isn’t “fair” in thousands of ways and yet we can’t blame anyone for that— it is simply reality and so far no attempts to enforce “fairness” has actually accomplished being fair. If I were unattr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:49 AM
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There is no “fair” in this topic that is possible. You might think it is “unfair” for me to not respond to every guy who messages me on OLD or who hits on me in public but is it “fair” for me to be obligated to spend hours every day trying to respond to 200 shotgun messages or even to weed through them and try to find the ones who actually read my profile even if I am not going to be interested in them? Would it be “fair” for me to have to accept dates with people I have no interest in? How much…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:02 AM
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Perfect 🤩
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 12:50 AM
3

This response reeks of your inability to navigate the world outside of your limited echo chamber.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 10:22 PM
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I am in a few of these subs because I find these relational philosophies fascinating in a morbid kind of way and am trying to understand the whole thing… finding that there is no understanding any of the pills and so I came here to see how people are working their way out of it.
/r/ExRedPill23/12/21 09:21 PM
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wow, sorry for the delay :) I had a client
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 07:48 PM
2

here you go... it is apparently questionable that the results mean what they were reported to, though. https://www.amjmed.com/article/S0002-9343(05)00270-6/fulltext
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 07:42 PM
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Well, there is a kernel of truth about the DNA. Apparently they have discovered male DNA in women's bodies that did not come from their children or relatives and the only explanation proposed is that women retain DNA information of the sperm they have received. I only saw one article about this though and I didn't look at the details.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 03:33 PM
4

Because self-fulfilling our prophesies is more comfortable than dealing with cognitive dissonance and trying to change our beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/21 07:33 AM
1

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:30 AM
0

Well, in most cases men don’t have to take care of domestic duties and children nearly as much as women. Also, wives tend to improve their mates social lives and take responsibility for that In many ways. Tell you what, if there is one thing I really need in MY life it’s a wife 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 07:47 PM
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The funny thing about men’s so-called aversion to marriage is that all studies show men are happier and healthier when married but that women are less happy and healthy when married. Isn’t it strange that the ones who seem to benefit most want it least?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:15 PM
2

That can also happen if you become too dependent on porn and masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:51 AM
1

How can you not tell the difference between someone who voluntarily joins a place to meet people and a random person just living their life?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 02:51 AM
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Have you been using the same approach every time? Maybe it is a system error.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 07:25 PM
4

Confidence is attractive but "dominance" disgusts me. I am completely turned off by any man who attempts to display dominance over me or any other person because I believe it is driven by insecurity. The only person any man needs to show dominance over, IMO, is himself and he displays that through his discipline, responsibility, and self-control. Attempts to show it by use of others only tells me that they have not yet learned to practice self-leadership. I neither desire nor would accept a man …
/r/ExRedPill14/12/21 07:18 PM
2

Nobody dumps anyone for giving them too many tingles unless they are unpleasant tingles. Sorry but you need to know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:26 AM
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The thing you aren't getting is that it is not just looks that can get you to the door-- and looks won't get you to the door if you smell bad or are a total asshole or are seriously mentally ill. I've seen plenty of guys get to the door and past it who are unattractive, obese, short, poor, and/or disabled. You have to learn how to play the hand you were dealt to win at life. We all get some good cards and some bad, some of us more one than the other, but no matter how many high cards you get you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:50 PM
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Women are more prone to falling for people they have sex with because their bodies are more flooded with oxytocin during sex than men-- the same hormone that is released at birth and during breastfeeding-- which promotes bonding. Not all women experience this to the same degree or in the same way but on average this is why.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:30 PM
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Just because something isn’t completely based on merit doesn’t mean it is not also based on merit. In the race scenario you posed the winner won based on their merit of being the fastest from the selected group. Just as in the olympics they aren’t running against everyone in the world— just a select group— and it is still merit based. Look, I am by most metrics in the top 10% of women my age and even pretty easily can compete romantically with women half my age because I’m good looking, fit, cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:05 PM
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Do you mean good looking? Attractive to women? Looks alone will only get you so far. Even the guy with the best looking face and body gifted to him by nature still has to take care of hygiene, dress well, and take care of himself to be physically attractive. That might get him through the door but for nearly all women this is not going to be enough-- he has to have a personality and social skills that get him the rest of the way. At every step in the process there are types of work that must be …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:35 PM
1

What you aren’t getting is that the attractive guy had to work at being attractive. Both physically and in terms of social skills and charm. Just because something looks easy doesn’t mean it is. I can sketch you in 2 mins and it may look easy but it took decades of practice. I can make you feel comfortable and I can be completely nonjudgmental and compassionate with you and it will look easy— you would likely think it’s natural, and now it is— but it took a lot of work to make it natural. The go…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:05 PM
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Most of my life my friends were mostly men now my two best friends are female and my acquaintances are equally split. I don’t treat them any differently except I don’t talk to my male friends about female stuff they don’t have any interest in (childbirth, menstruation, peri menopause etc..) unless they ask. My friends and I rarely discuss sex other than in general terms and that is same male/female.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:35 PM
1

Most people invest their time and effort into things that don’t provide a good return on the investment. We are rarely rational creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 12:45 PM
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IMO one of the problems for many people who are experiencing similar frustrations is that your understanding of personality and theirs are likely very different. Almost everyone thinks that they are good people and nice but our self-awareness might not actually be very good. How do you know if you have a good personality? What is an objective measure of it? Yet, we generally think that our own ideas about good personality are universal. Nope, not at all. So if you want to have better luck in rel…
/r/ExRedPill10/12/21 07:18 AM
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You have to work at friendships too, if you are any good at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:18 AM
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That is absolutely a meritocracy— just one you might not like. Do you think attractive people don’t work to be attractive? Even the most natural beauty has to put effort into it. Usually the most attractive people invest the most in their appearance and are better at it than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:17 AM
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That is not the point being made. It seems that you do not understand these kinds of articles… it actually doesn’t show anything related to that question from what I saw. See, the thing about research is that you can’t assume it answers questions other than those specific to the study and those answers may still be shown to be wrong in repeat studies.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:58 AM
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Ok, going back to the actual study and not the very biased heritage foundation interpretation… they are defining comparable peers as the control group which is age/gender (not transgender) matched from the general population. It is well known that suicidality is always higher in groups with mental illness than in healthy controls and gender dysphoria has a high suicidality rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:12 AM
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And maybe you don’t get it. Seems like none of you guys are willing to consider any alternatives to your assumptions which honestly translates to me directly into “definitely not likely to be a considerate or sensitive lover”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 01:08 AM
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And maybe in the example above the 15 guys she liked it with were sensitive lovers and the one she won’t is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:35 AM
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Do you actually know how to read journal articles? That doesn’t specify post transition and FTM don’t get transition to having male genitalia because it is super expensive and doesn’t work well. Yes, transgendered people have high rates of suicide and attempts but this is independent of transition status. Why do people insist on citing things they don’t understand how to read?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:34 AM
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Single as in unmarried? Perhaps that is related to age and to religion since conservative people trend older and more religious which are both associated with higher probability of being married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:19 PM
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Maybe it’s not because she isn’t sexually attracted to you but has some other reason. If she has had anal sex and enjoyed it with some past partner and not with another she may think it is likely you will also be a bad experience in this because, for example, you don’t listen well in sex and she doesn’t trust you to stop or be careful if it hurts
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:53 PM
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Seems like it’s 95% imaginary here for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:45 PM
2

It may not be useful to have these conversations with people who seem not to understand that people are not actually replaceable. That is a dysfunction that cannot be talked away.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:40 PM
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I’m sorry 😢 you deserve better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:54 PM
2

Looking for any evidence to support your claim on Google scholar, pro quest, ebsco, and Apa… not finding anything but maybe my lack of penis is making the search engines too complicated for my poor graduate degreed female mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:40 PM
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Maybe your ideas of masculinity are too narrow
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:31 PM
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If you think you like women you are delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:29 PM
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Why would you be with a man you believe would leave you in an instant for someone more attractive. Do you have low self esteem?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:25 PM
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IMO this survey is problematic because it doesn’t reflect important variables. For instance, a salary of 78k is below middle class where I work and nowhere near top 2%
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:08 PM
2

I never said there is anything wrong with men. If and still, by your definition I’m saying that your reasoning would also imply that wearing sexy shoes is misleading men into thinking women want someone to have sex with their feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 05:46 AM
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According to your comment wearing sexy shoes would then be misleading for men who do have foot fetishes. You aren’t the only person in the world and if women only are misleading men who are interested in them and thus it doesn’t matter what you think about pretty much any woman alive… not to insult but to say that no matter how hot you are most women on this planet aren’t interested in you. Edit to add that AFAIK most men don’t consider clothes that make a woman’s ass look good to mean they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:19 AM
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WTF? Clothing choice has nothing to do with wanting anal sex anymore than showing off your tummy with a crop top means you want some dude trying to have umbilical sex with you. Likewise, Just because a woman wears sexy shoes doesn't mean she's looking for a man with a foot fetish who wants to fuck her toes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 01:09 AM
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Lol my husband accused me often of marrying him for his money and then got mad when I responded: do you really think I’m an idiot? If I was gonna marry someone for money I would marry someone with money. Then he says something about knowing his potential and I’m like yeah, anyone reasonably smart looking to marry for money isn’t going to bank on potential when they are already dating several with actual money already. Seriously irrational and then they accuse us of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 07:23 PM
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Why are you with a man who treats you this way? You deserve better and might benefit from being single until you are sure you know that.
/r/ExRedPill07/12/21 03:23 AM
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I find it simplest to take people at their word and not try to read minds— even in relationships— because I feel like I’m just as likely to be wrong either way and at least if I take them at their word i don’t have to be responsible for their actions. So no, I wouldn’t doubt a man’s desire in a relationship. To be quite honest I have to admit that in a relationship, unless they choose to share their thoughts with me, I still don’t think they are any of my business. People have a right to keep th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:53 PM
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What other people think about me is none of my business
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:47 AM
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Authenticity is how I would suggest filling the void. It is only when you seek to discover what is true and right for you that you can achieve happiness. Trying to fill any part of yourself with constructs like masculinity and femininity is a fool’s errand. Be yourself: you are worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:42 AM
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Nope. It would not occur to me that any man I would be willing to be in a relationship with would be settling for me. Then again, I also wouldn’t date any man who would be willing to settle for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:12 AM
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I don't understand what this simp stuff is about. It is absolutely natural for people of both sexes to want to do things to please their partner and make them happy-- a lack of motivation to do so would be a huge red flag about a person's relational abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 10:49 PM
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Have you considered his advice is good but you don’t yet know how to follow it? Your post just tells me you didn’t comprehend what was written.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 09:33 PM
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IMO those issues happen because you are dealing with superficial people (possibly like yourself) who aren’t aware enough to care about other’s experiences and perspectives. IMO the best indicator that someone will be sexually satisfying is their level of sensitivity to the needs of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:08 PM
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Not just that; for being pushed into prostitution, being drug mules and runners, and all kinds of crap
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 07:56 PM
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Lol the comment literally begins by stating that those are things said by the women here. So if they are not then that would be the definition of not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 03:06 AM
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But when I used to work with women in jail nearly every single one was there because of a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 02:05 AM
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Most of the women’s responses I read here do not agree with your reasons aside from risks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 02:02 AM
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Research has suggested women are happier when their partner is less attractive than they are: https://www.google.com/amp/s/brightside.me/inspiration-relationships/women-are-happier-with-less-attractive-men-according-to-a-study-802250/amp/
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 08:34 AM
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Lol 😂 is there some logic behind that statement? I can’t see how you figure that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 09:45 PM
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Btw I would break up with any man who was insecure enough to try to judge my feelings for them based on my history with anyone else. I have no desire to be with anyone who fails to understand the incomparable nature of individuals and thinks there is any rational way to compare two relationships with each other based on something as variable as the length of time it takes to feel comfortable with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:59 PM
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Well, first of all, I don’t personally have any set length of time for having sex. I am a fan of the “if the answer isn’t FUCK YEAH! Then it’s no” philosophy and only have sex with people if and when I am fully excited to do so. I haven’t thought about the average time I would wait as I don’t even remember how long I waited with each partner since it doesn’t matter to me. I believe I go slower with men I am REALLY into because I experience a lot more fear of getting hurt and I t be to respond to…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 12:54 PM
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As I said, the more vulnerable I feel to potentially having my heart broken (the more I like a guy) the slower I am going to go. That is the opposite of what you seem to believe and that is fine. I am just one data point but I don’t think I’m the only person like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:27 AM
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The more I’m into a man the longer I am going to wait for sex. Did you notice that last part? I’m not making him wait, I am waiting until I feel safe enough to be vulnerable with the person because I know that physical intimacy causes me to feel much more emotionally bonded. It is a matter of self-protection. In my experience, any guy who is seriously interested in me has been willing to wait until I’m ready
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:47 AM
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What we see in others of our own and other genders probably depends greatly upon one’s social circles and also maybe age group. My friend group ranges in age from 20s-80s but are almost all very liberal and sexually open. It includes a good number of poly people and none of us care about “body count” or feel shame about sex outside of relationships. I still observe differences about willingness to have casual sex and also the type of casual sex chosen between genders. I observe men are much more…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 08:38 PM
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Hmm… depends a lot on your geographic location I think. In the Silicon Valley area all the women I know stay quite progressive no matter how rich and successful they get. Perhaps the ones who don’t are moving to less progressive areas, though
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 02:46 AM
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Actually, 50% of people are average, by definition 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 08:36 PM
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Sorry for the long-winded post, I find the human mind and its development process to be amazing in complexity and idiosyncrasies. Short version— IMO you have essentially infinite or incalculable value due to your uniqueness. We all build our inner world ourselves and each one is different in a billion different ways from any other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 09:48 AM
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I’m sorry my comment led you to feel like an alien. I do read these comments here, only see them usually from men, and while they make no sense to me at all I have to admit that much of the thinking I read here makes no sense to me. I am not sure why having to work to be attractive or having trouble finding people who are attracted to you has anything to do with your intrinsic value. First of all, most women invest an incredible amount of time and effort into being attractive to men yet this doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 09:38 AM
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I’m sorry you feel that way about men. I absolutely disagree with you about men not having intrinsic value— I believe all human beings have complete and absolute intrinsic value. I actually do not understand your position on this at all— however, I will admit that I am far more concerned with matters of the mind than of the material world so there is that. What I value in a partner has very little to do with looks, wealth, status, power etc… all of those things bore me immediately. What I care a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 07:47 AM
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Yep, what you describe is exactly the insecurity I spoke of and have experienced before. This is exactly the thing that would make me pause about dating a guy less ambitious/accomplished than me. IMO there is no reason for my partner to fear on these counts because I would never enter into a relationship with a person I didn’t feel lucky to be with and who I don’t consider to be exceptional and impressive to me. The things that make me feel that way about a partner may not be reflected by their …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:52 AM
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It would not be an issue for me as long as he wouldn’t get insecure about my achievements.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:03 AM
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I wouldn’t call it predatory in general but I don’t think of myself as a victim. I would say that this sort of question would need to be put forward in a careful and sensitive way to not jeopardize the friendship. And it depends on the woman. I’m exceptionally difficult to offend so if a guy friend asked me if I “want to fuck” while I’m married I’d probably laugh and say something like “my husband wouldn’t approve.” If I were single I would probably try to use humor or reason to let them down if…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:09 PM
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You said you’d rather fuck a friend and you don’t care if that made them uncomfortable and my point is that if you don’t care about their feelings (whether you don’t care if asking makes them uncomfortable or if they feel uncomfortable after agreeing and having sex) then you aren’t their friend. One of the issues here is that some guys enter into “friendships” with ladies only in hopes of fucking them eventually rather than because they truly value them as human beings and actually want friendsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:44 PM
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If you don’t care if your friend feels awkward or uncomfortable then you aren’t their friend. Friends care about their friends’ feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:16 PM
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So you agree it is at least as hard a job as most others? I think there are more physically difficult jobs for sure but SAHM is a complex job that requires physical, intellectual, emotional— well it requires all of the parts of yourself and, even more taxing, is the fact that the stakes are pretty high in the job. The personality is formed in the first 3 years and babies/toddlers are also prone to hurting themselves due to their endless energy and curiosity…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 07:40 AM
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I agree to a certain degree and still, at 1&2 it’s not possible to keep them alive without actively watching them pretty much all the time. Ive never had a job before where I had to be so on all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:52 AM
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All I know is taking care of a 2.5yo and 1yo is harder than any job I’ve ever had from waiting tables, driving a taxi, cashiering, or being a therapist/psychologist. I’m totally not a helicopter parent but toddlers legit spend their days trying to injure themselves and each other in the most creative ways possible. I just left urgent care because 2.5yo decided to see what would happen if she stood half on a chair and half on a push toy while I was rescuing the little one from being stuck half on…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:21 AM
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Taking good care of kids is a mentally taxing job that requires a lot of sustained focus in many ways— I find it far more difficult than any other job I’ve ever had and when my husband has to do it (like if I am too sick) he can’t deal with the demands and agrees it’s way harder than his job as a programmer but still somehow thinks his 40 hours a week is all he should have to put in and I should be completely responsible for all childcare and housework. Then he wonders why I’m not happy and am p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 12:03 AM
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When we had our 2.5yo we decided that I would stay home with the babies until preschool after they could communicate if anything bad was happening to them away from us. I thought we were on the same page of 50/50 investment of work but we were not. IMO our time is equally valuable and we should be equally investing our time in our family— he works 40hours at his job while I work the time he is gone at home with the kids/taking care of the house. I assumed that 50/50 meant we would split duties 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:17 PM
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Would that still hold true if you also only count couples who have been sexually active within the same timeframe?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:25 AM
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So… you don’t want therapy because it will take “years and years” and is expensive but want life coaching which isn’t going to be helpful, and is usually more expensive, instead? I’m still very curious about why you think life coaching is the way to go here?
/r/ExRedPill16/11/21 04:37 PM
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Can you explain? Incels are not the majority of men so if a women sought to model herself off men’s insults wouldn’t she be better seeking majority opinion rather than that of a group outside of her target market?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:32 PM
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Apparently you are not susceptible to reason in your unswayable correctness 🤪 good luck with that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:10 AM
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No mainstream news outlet has a greater than 30% population audience. Mainstream medical treatments aren’t needed by the majority of the population. Mainstream differs according to the sense in which it is being used. In terms of ideas, mainstream almost never means 50% or more because there are few ideas shared by the majority of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:05 PM
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Seriously, I have no idea what you mean when you talk about "the top x%" of men or women. What makes a person in the top %? When I have been single I have never thought about whether a guy is in some % of "value"-- a person's value to me has nothing to do with the kinds of things you could discover on an app. I would guess that most of the guys I know are not in the top 15% by your metrics-- many are too short, not super attractive, not super fit, and yet most of them are able to find dates on a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 07:50 PM
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People are entitled to be picky, life partner is too serious a choice to settle for a person who will make you unhappy, but many people would likely benefit from being more realistic about the factors that actually increase their happiness rather than the superficial factors that matter very little in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 07:37 PM
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Lol and this is why it is such a hard problem 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 07:01 PM
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And approaching married people for hookups is also pretty crappy and potentially dangerous for them (and even the prospective suitor).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:36 PM
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I gave you the example of plastic surgery, which is mainstream but not used by the majority of people— 37% of women and 19% of men said they would consider it but I couldn’t find stats on how many of those actually have. Vegetarianism is now mainstream but only 2% of people are vegetarian. We can consider something as mainstream when it is broadly known about and acceptable among the general population— and this can be a low threshold like the 2% number of vegetarians.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:34 PM
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It is difficult for me to not accept friend requests that are not clearly spam from empty profiles for several reasons so I guess I’m just SOL on that side.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 04:14 PM
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There is a vast difference between being approached by people with rings and approaching the randomly.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 04:10 PM
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You are confusing mainstream with majority here. These words have different meanings and thresholds for accuracy. In order to be majority it has to be more than half but mainstream can be far less than half. This is especially true in nonbinary systems. Plastic surgery is mainstream but it is not used by the majority of people, for instance. The use of politics was because that was my immediate response of a time when 30% is mainstream.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 10:09 AM
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When I was on OLD both in my late 20s and late thirties I can tell you it was so overwhelming that I stopped replying to anyone I had not messaged first. I even wrote this on my profile and felt so guilty for being one of those people who doesn't even acknowledge others but it would have required hours per day to so. Also, at least 75% of them seemed like shotgun blasts rather than a direct attempt to engage with me specifically. I've heard pretty much the same thing from most women I've known w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 10:02 AM
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I hate it when random guys message me anywhere other than a dating app. I would never respond to that approach and I wish there were some way to avoid it. Due to several factors it is problematic for me to not accept friend requests-- and I'm constantly getting messages from guys trying to hook up. It's especially rude because I say I'm married on my profile-- hey yo! dudes! Please stop randomly sending private messages to married women! I've worked with many DV offenders and most of them would …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:13 AM
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Did you know that the Nazis only had 30% of the German people's approval? 30% is a huge number when you are talking about the whole population. From what I've seen, most people have at least tried online dating if they have been single any length of time since it became available.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 09:05 AM
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I appreciate your honesty. You are correct that I have called others' out on this issue as well because it is really sad to see so much suffering among other human beings and I hope to be able to help however I can. You believe that being called rigid is an insult, which is not how I intend it, and so you already understand that this tendency is problematic in relationships. I think there are times when it is great to be rigid-- like when it comes to standing up for your boundaries and principle…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 12:30 AM
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As a life coach/therapist currently on sabbatical I am very curious about how you think a life coach is going to be able to help you? Given your posts I would suggest that you need some therapy before you will be able to benefit much from life coaching and no ethical life coach without mental health training would take you as a client unless you were also in therapy. IMO you need serious help finding your way out of the victim mentality and into self-empowerment. I would highly recommend you see…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/21 12:11 AM
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If I could upvote this 100x I would! Great post!
/r/ExRedPill14/11/21 11:50 PM
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I hope you come to empower yourself one day and realize just how much of all of this stuff is your choice, your responsibility, and luckily that means within your power to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 09:46 PM
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Well, I would consider that to be a risky strategy in various ways because it is likely to cause problems when those women find out and feel you have been less-than-honest with them by not being open. I’d guess it would tell them not to expect honesty from you in general and be harmful to the basic relationship trust level. That’s just my opinion though, FWIW.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 09:44 PM
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I agree I could have been more careful in my response, however your interpretation of this as an insult is not congruent with my meaning of the statement nor it’s intent. First of all, I don’t see rigidity of thought as an insult at all. It is a personality trait that is by itself a neutral trait: there are times when it is a positive attribute and times when it is negative. More importantly, my intent in sharing this observation was not to insult you but rather to challenge you to question how …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 09:35 PM
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I’d say as long as you are open and honest with all parties it is a decent strategy. It is much better than casual sex with random people because hopefully you are developing connection with your casual partners that allow for emotionally satisfying encounters on both sides even if there is no intention of LTR. Empty/meaningless sex without connection is damaging if habitual rather than rare. We can have meaningful sex with people we don’t intend to have LTR with as long as we do develop friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 06:45 PM
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Yep. And that only means lack of meaning if you choose to view it as so
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:18 PM
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Lol you are funny. Ignorance =\= lack of bias
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:17 PM
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Have you ever had a baby? A newborn baby is a little less physiologically dependent than When unborn but not tremendously so. They can breathe oxygen and orally consume calories but are not good at regulating their temperature or mental/emotional state. Skin-to-skin contact is now recommended for all newborns because it helps them regulate and learn to self regulate all of the life functions they need to master to survive outside of the womb. This co-regulation process is initially intense and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 07:42 AM
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I actually have no idea why one would compare a person to others to see how well their morals etc match yours. Doesn’t it make more sense to simply compare their traits to your own or that which you seek? Who cares what they are like compared to others if they fit well with you? This is very difficult for me to wrap my head around and why I think comparisons among people is foolhardy. Then again, I also don’t believe in comparing the self against others— I think we are much better off comparing …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 06:44 AM
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I say that I don’t think fear-based personality traits are authentic because I believe that they are products of trauma or modeling parents who have these traits rather than natural parts of the self. Some people are naturally more cautious and risk-averse but with good parenting that doesn’t have to translate into fear. When someone has a fear based approach to life it is worthwhile to make the effort to overcome this unnatural habituation and build an internal sense of security that will help …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 06:37 AM
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Best advice is create the self and life you want to live. Find what gives you a sense of meaning and makes you feel like you are being your best self and explore the edges of your potential. Don’t live small; let yourself shine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:58 AM
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I’d say you’re not a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 05:56 AM
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I think that it is both true that we can never know the inside of another’s mind and that truly happy people are attractive to others regardless of their physical traits— this is because truly happy people share their happiness and tend to make others feel seen and appreciated as human beings. I am talking about working to achieve a state of happiness that is deep enough to radiate outward- even if quietly. I truly hope that everyone has met at least one person like this. The type of person who …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 11:52 PM
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I will once again express my amusement at the rigidity and inability of so many men here to accept that their understanding of women might be incomplete or incorrect— especially given that so many have so little experience with actual women and especially with actual healthy women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 11:18 PM
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Funny how you think you know more about women that women do. I bet you wonder why you have trouble with women too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 11:15 PM
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I agree though a sensitive man who is over-endowed can learn to control himself and not hurt his partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 11:14 PM
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Lol law of attraction has absolutely nothing to do with happiness— it is a strange and unrealistic fad that at best leads to short-term happiness and at worst injured it’s followers. Modern research and thousands of years of human thought indicate that the only reliable paths to happiness is through living a meaningful and “good” life (however you define it). Sarcasm can be fun but only when it isn’t mean. Most people who say they have a sarcastic sense of humor actually have a cruel sense of hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 11:09 PM
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My main point of difference stems from my personal belief that comparison between people is a futile and damaging habit. I don’t believe it is necessary to compare people to other people to understand how they make me feel, how well our motives and morals align, how well our hopes and dreams compliment each other’s… in fact, I believe that our habit of comparing makes it much harder to find satisfying partners because we are likely to keep comparing and always find ourselves wondering if someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 10:59 PM
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Yeah, I don’t know what it is like to live in a 3rd world country. I do come from a more conservative place that is generally much more superficial but even there my chosen friend group has always been with people focused on meaning and happiness and I still observed that happy people are attractive to most people even if they otherwise wouldn’t meet that person’s standard profile of what is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 10:45 PM
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1) while agreeableness is a personality trait many people, including you, seem to conflate it with passivity and conflict avoidance. They are not the same things and passivity/conflict avoidance are unattractive manifestations of agreeableness while flexibility and easy-going ness are attractive manifestations etc… IMO passivity and conflict avoidance tend to be fear-based responses and are thus unattractive in partners. Almost no one wants to be with a person living fearfully whether or not the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 10:37 PM
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Lol well enjoyment influences attraction if you have ever experienced a thing. I find jalapeños to be very attractive and yummy looking but having tried them I am no longer attracted to eating them because I don’t like my face being on fire. As long as it’s within the range of normal penis size has little to do with attraction for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:59 PM
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Neither of those statements is evidence. Happiness is sexually attractive and causes its own halo effect. Have you really never met a happy person?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:54 PM
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Ah. I am far from saying we get what we deserve— we very rarely do. There is tremendous suffering in the world and no one deserves to suffer as most of us do. I am talking about something completely different. How we respond to our tragedies of life typically determines their ultimate effects on our lives. No one would/should blame a person who is suffering for feeling victimized, angry, and bitter and yet if we live in those states then that is what we are putting into the world and how we will…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:53 PM
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Lol why not be honest and instead directly ask if the actual question being asked is rude? Do you think you are really tricking us by proposing asking a completely different question, that most people would support, and then saying it supports the actual question? The fact that you propose not asking the original question clearly says you already know it’s rude and just have very little social intelligence. Seriously, what you did there was very much like when toddlers put their head under a bla…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 05:50 PM
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We have been married for 4 years and have perfectly healthy 2.5yo and 1 year old kiddos. No defects and no problems getting pregnant. Took 4 months of trying with the oldest and the little one was an oops baby. The fathers age actually matters as much as the mothers in terms of risks of birth defects.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:44 PM
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https://www.apa.org/monitor/2018/03/datapoint If you look at the chart 4th place is personality disorders and people with BPD are going to make up 95% of those voluntarily seeking treatment and also will be a healthy percentage of those in the trauma/stressors category because it is often misdiagnosed as ptsd in men and also commonly diagnosed as cPTSD now as many therapists attempt to help clients with BPD avoid a diagnosis that is likely to make it hard for them to find treatment. Your rigidit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:39 PM
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Well, IMO that is partially because many men conflate need for connection with need for sex— all humans, even men, crave both. The reason I say this is because the women who have their sexual needs met through masturbation have deeply emotional and intimate relationships with their friends that are able to sufficiently meet their need for connection. Men are far less likely to have similarly intimate relationships with their friends and so, for most men, they need to get their connection needs m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 09:24 AM
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Your Thera is not wrong because they are very high risk in many ways but the fact that therapists often don’t want to treat people with BPD does not mean that people with BPD do not seek therapy. In fact, BPD is one of the most common issues we encounter among undiagnosed clients and is always a risk in accepting a new client. When practicing before, and likely also when I resume, I limit my client load to 2 BPD clients even though I enjoy working with them and there are many who need help but c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:57 AM
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And I actually have experience as a therapist and have not only read research showing that people with BPD are the only personality disorder population that tends to seek therapy but have personally worked with many clients with BPD. Bpd is one of the biggest issues for therapists because they are over-represented in clinical populations and extremely difficult to have as clients. For a very long time they were considered untreatable because we didn’t know how to help them but DBT was actually d…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:48 AM
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Actually studies have shown that happiness increases with age until 85 or so
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:35 AM
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Lol, I find that assumption that women can’t find men hilarious! I’m 46 and have men hitting on me all the time and not just for sex. My mom and aunt are in their 70s and still have men trying to get them into relationships leading to marriage. I think it depends on the woman maybe… but I’ve never seen this wall. My husband is 34 and he is a handsome engineer who makes 6 figures. He’s only 5’8 but is very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 08:27 AM
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Actually, unlike other personality disorders, people with BPD often seek mental health treatment because they experience profound suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 12:09 AM
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Fingers can also to the job just fine
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 12:54 PM
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Lol. This just indicates that you would benefit from getting out of the house more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 12:52 PM
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Based on what evidence that is not your opinion? The most assured route to orgasm for most women is masturbation. Casual sex/ hookups less frequently lead to orgasm for the average woman because it actually takes effort and getting to know the specific woman’s needs to get most women to orgasm and many men either don’t understand this or don’t care much about her orgasm as long as they are getting off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 12:48 PM
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I am constantly amused by how this subreddit is full of men with almost no actual experience with women and yet are rigidly convinced that they understand “the truth” about women. Perhaps you should consider that your rigid adherence to your opinions are part of the reason you are unsuccessful with women no matter how much you work out and play games. It is amazing how many people who are unsuccessful romantically by following this bs continue to insist it is true even though it isn’t actually w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 12:41 PM
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Visual attraction and physical enjoyment can be very different things. Ever worn a tight-laced corset?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:44 AM
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Can you expand?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:43 AM
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Based on what evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:43 AM
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Oh, also re different parts of the world… I don’t know where you are but I live in Silicon Valley and I’d think it doesn’t get much more STEM than that. My friend group mostly includes computer scientists, project managers, doctors, teachers, artists, yogis, therapists, and data analysts etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:41 PM
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1) why does the idea of HV partner irk people? Well, for me and most people I associate with a lot of that is because it is very stereotypical and ignores the complexity and nuance of human beings. There are very few functional people who do not have great attributes and great limitations as well. If you appraised people individually according to their unique traits and quirks you would easily find that all people have good and bad and the issue isn’t about finding “the highest value mate” but f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:37 PM
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That’s a lot… um. So re agreeableness and conflict avoidance— that is likely to get men friend-zoned pretty quickly I’d guess. At least, I find it hard to be attracted to such men (and most women I know as well) because those traits can easily come off as timidity and lack of confidence. Most women do not want an aggressive man but also don’t want a passive man— assertive is the goal here. Passivity and timidity translate into weakness often and most women do want to feel like, if push came to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 07:18 PM
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Uh…. Ok. Anyway I find the evidence you’ve given me problematic in several ways, first because it is not from medical or scientific sources and second because that seems to be a highly problematic methodology of gauging size. The human memory is notorious for being bad at remembering spatial relationships and size— their perception of what they prefer is unlikely to be accurate recall of the actual size… I would want to see some evidence that they could remember size from one day to another (for…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:47 PM
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Do you have any scientific or medical sources on this? So far what you’ve shared have not been
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 04:46 PM
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They looked at 100 women who had never been pregnant and found that vagina lengths, unstimulated, range from 2.75 inches to about 3¼ inches. When a woman is aroused, it increased to 4.25 inches to 4.75 inches.Jul 20, 2011 https://www.webmd.com › features Vagina Size and Sexual Pleasure: Does Size Matter? - WebMD
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:51 PM
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I agree that changing people’s beliefs tends to piss them off but that is not the only way to improve the world. Mother Theresa arguably changed the world for the better (at the very least for the thousands of people she helped, including one man I personally know who she rescued from being abandoned on the street as a newborn) and I haven’t heard too many people angry that she saved babies. Mister Rogers arguably improved the lives of countless people with his work and kindness and while some p…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:50 PM
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Can you please provide sources for you information? Re banging against the cervix not happening 😂 well I happen to have a vagina and a cervix which is not tilted and I can tell you from experience that banging against the cervix is not comfortable. 6” inside most women’s vaginas as inside of the cervix and the cervix is only open during ovulation &period (certainly not wide enough to pass a penis through) and when giving birth (and I haven’t heard of too many people having sex when far enough in…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:35 PM
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Perhaps not. Would you mind educating me about why you believe this to be so?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:27 PM
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Socio-economic status
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:25 PM
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Umm… sources?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:00 PM
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What were the models based upon? Many women are less spatially oriented and have difficulty estimating size. Was it based upon self-reported preferences of penises or some other means that could somehow correct for incorrect reporting? When aroused the average vagina has a length of 4.25-4.75”. Banging against the cervix is actually not a very comfortable sensation so 7” all in would be pretty uncomfortable for most women. Also, after 3.5-4” in length I would guess that girth is actually more im…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:59 PM
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Wow, I’m so sorry life has hurt you so badly! I never said life is fair or just, it very often is not, and yet many people experience tragic circumstances and grow from them rather than devolving into bitterness. Some of my terminally ill and chronically hurting clients had the greatest sense of meaning and peace— sometimes it is more accessible, I guess, when it is the best that you can hope for. I agree that far too few people live with meaning and purpose— this is a sad result of consumerism …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:52 PM
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No, you need to get past the superficial! Money/status is inconsequential to people who are living in happiness because they know that money/things/status can only provide empty and fleeting joy. True joy requires inner work, finding your intrinsic motivations and meaning, and being able to connect with others in deep and meaningful ways. I’m afraid that you just won’t be able to understand what I am saying until/unless you encounter a different quality of person than you are accustomed to. I ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:29 PM
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Is this a serious question? If so, may I ask how old you are? 1) you may be able to trick someone in the short run but you will not be able to do so for long and the deception will destroy all trust and respect if not the entire relationship. 2)if what you think will make you happy is a long row of notches on your headboard of all the women you’ve had sex with… I have to warn you that it is a costly pursuit that can really damage your ability to have healthy relationships— and it is almost certa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:10 PM
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Well, good luck with finding happiness and fulfillment in your life. I hope you eventually learn how to be more open-minded to the possibilities that your observations may not be true in all places and for all people. I’m sorry your life has given you such a negative opinion of people. In my experience, we get from life what we put out into life. If you live in a negative mind you will likely find that the world meets you there. Fortunately, it is not actually that hard to switch into the habit …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:58 PM
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As long as it’s within the normal range no. If it’s either way too small or way too big then that is a concern but not necessarily a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:48 PM
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Oh, also, I don’t currently see clients but for the 7 years I did see clients I gave all the ones seeking help finding partners the same advice I give here (and all of those were male clients since I live in Silicon Valley and I’m not even sure it’s possible to stay single as a female here unless you really want to due to gender imbalance). Some of them came to me after being red pilled and trying pick up artist BS (which is really just as damaging for men as for women). After working on themsel…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:36 PM
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Lol… yeah, nightclubs is certainly a VERY limited set of people. Most relationally healthy people would never even consider dating someone they met at a club or at least they would be very hard to convince such a person was likely good partner material. Generally, based on your response, I’d guess you actually are correct about your own chances and tactics to use. I haven’t the first idea of how to attract shallow, unhappy, unhealthy, materialistic, or immoral people. I was under the impression …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:28 PM
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And IMO your problem is that you think you have an objective observational view when you a) are basing it on a limited population, b) most likely disregard or deny conflicting evidence due to your investment in this belief system, and c) most likely are basing your views on a very outsider perspective that fails to capture the nuance and complexity of human sexuality and attraction. If your pessimistic view is based on your inability to attract a woman I highly suggest you work on being as happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 01:03 PM
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Meek, btw, is not a trait that most modern humans consider attractive… most “meek” people I’ve met are actually pretty passive aggressive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:48 PM
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I’m sorry you believe this to be true. I’d say the men I know who are actually gentle and kind get sex pretty much whenever they want it and easily find beautiful, educated, kind, and genuinely good women to partner with. Then again, I, and the people I know, consider looks obsessed men and women to be LV no matter how attractive they are. The men and women I associate with tend to be quite attractive, fit, well-educated, high SES, kind, and authentic— what we also consider to be HV attributes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:48 PM
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IMO being a high value person of either gender simply requires you to be authentic, continually work towards growing into your best self, and living a life that makes you happy. Tbh being a genuinely happy person is the most high value trait anyone can have and every truly happy person I’ve ever met— no matter what they look like or how much money they have— has as many potential partners as they could want because most people want to be happy and it is damn near impossible to achieve happiness …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:43 PM
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It helps you understand what women want, huh? Um… I don’t personally know any women who would subscribe to the ideas I read over there. Mostly sounds like a lot of victims (kinda like TRP) so if you are looking to hook up with women who believe the world/men victimize them then it can help you understand them but… why would anyone want to be involved with people who are so negative, frightened, and insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:03 PM
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My husband is almost 12 years younger than me. I’ve dated men younger, older, and the same age as me and I rarely find it matters. Same with height. But I am mostly attracted to intelligence rather than external attributes— most of the men and women I know are very similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 11:05 AM
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Depends on if you want the fish to approach you voluntarily or via coercion and trickery. Unless you are trying to attract women to kill and eat them you are probably better off going for attracting voluntary involvement. If you want a decent relationship you really should avoid coercion and trickery. If you just want to fuck and aren’t having luck with women interested in just hooking up for whatever reason just go to a prostitute for fs. Treat people well, be gentle with everyone because life …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:59 AM
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Seems to me that both TRP and FDS people are unlikely to have much luck in relationships because they don’t fully appreciate the humanity and complexity of the opposite sex. Both appear to approach dating armed with stereotypes and some pretty toxic beliefs about themselves and potential partners as well as some serious insecurity and lack of honesty with themselves and others. I have never understood the games people play in dating or the beliefs they subscribe to often— why lie about who you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:47 AM
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So in my brief visit it appears to me that FDS is pretty much the red pill for women. How is it that so many men and women have become so damaged and incapable of honesty and true intimacy with each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:30 AM
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Lol I doubt I’m too susceptible to brainwashing at this point but thanks for the warning
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:27 AM
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I’m my experience, women who are looking for what so many of y’all call Chads are specifically uneducated, materialistic, low SES, and pop culture oriented. Super buff guys who spend hours at the gym are not at all interesting to most educated and high SES women because a) they tend to be boring as hell ( investing too much in being physically buff and nothing in their minds), b)most men who invest that kind of time on being buff are insecure which really sucks in a relationship, and c) high SES…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 10:24 AM
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I’m interested i your theory but I e never have been sue of what “fds” means…. Can anyone explain?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 05:46 AM
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No way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:55 AM
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Re not being able to get pregnant at 39 without ivf etc… I have a 1 yo oops baby who was born 9 days before I turned 45.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/10/21 08:26 PM
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I’d say the length of time depends on a lot of factors— some people are easier to connect with, some people are easier to trust, some people are more transparent, some people are more guarded. Strangely, both not feeling connected enough and feeling too connected can make me more cautious: if I feel too connected it is far more emotionally dangerous and if I don’t feel connected enough it isn’t worth it to me. I’ve found I don’t orgasm without trust and deep connection and so I can’t think of wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:56 PM
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I don’t know why you think this. I have no desire to be touched by anyone I don’t feel a connection with and I especially don’t want to be intimately touched by anyone I don’t feel deeply connected to or respected by. I don’t enjoy meaningless intimacy. If I did enjoy such a thing I would do so without worry as I care nothing about what anyone thinks of my sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:25 PM
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I can only share my experience… I would hesitate to take a man seriously if he didn’t offer to pay for the first (and probably most) dates because, in my experience, men who don’t who I have tried to have relationships with have been generally cheap, selfish, terrible lovers, insecure, and generally entitled pricks. I don’t mean cheap with me but cheap in their lives— with tipping and helping others etc… So I wouldn’t absolutely write off a guy who didn’t insist on paying for a first date but it…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:34 AM
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I haven’t had any problems with finding men who are ok with my notions that are very similar— I am not interested in sex without feelings and respect in place. IMO men are willing to wait until I am ready if they are actually interested in me as a partner. I’ve only had a handful of dates who were not willing to wait as long as it took for me to feel ready for adding sex into the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 07:00 AM
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I’d like to see a poll on this— I never find being hit sexy (even playfully)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:37 PM
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I have had the same experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:38 PM
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Why do so many men think women want them to smack their butt?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:17 PM
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Do you understand the scientific method at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:11 PM
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My observations of this subreddit is that you guys that post this kind of crap have no idea what it means to be a sweet or nice guy because you don’t really understand that women are fully human, complex, beings. What you usually seem to believe to be nice is patronizing or attempting to buy affection. No self respecting woman is interested in either. Learn to actually be kind and compassionate then see how things work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:34 AM
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Funny how men answer a question asked of women… so maybe one different thing would be having the experience of not having random dudes answer for you when they have no clue about the subject matter… but assume they know more than you because— penis
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:18 AM
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Hahahahahaha says the guy who is whining about women he doesn’t even know and likely no actual experience to be whining about 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:00 PM
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I’m sorry life has made you so bitter and unhappy. I hope you find your way out of victimville
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:51 PM
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Lol I just have to laugh at you as I take care of my infant and toddler 100% of the time because my “responsible” husband doesn’t feel like “babysitting” even though I have the flu. If men are so responsible then why do so many of you call taking care of your own offspring “babysitting “?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:03 PM
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Every really funny guy I know is never single except when they wanna be no matter how short, overweight, bald, or unattractive they be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 09:25 PM
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Both race and gender play a role in aging… when I was working at Dior they sent me to a skin training and there they said that Asians show age slower because they have thicker skin than other races, darker skinned races have natural sun protection, and men have thicker skin than women. Not sure if all that is true but it would explain why white women seem to wrinkle faster
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 04:00 PM
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Develop your sense of humor. A funny man of any height and looks (even income) is a real catch.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 08:51 PM
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This study does not prove all of your assertions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 04:24 PM
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Ok, I agree with this comment. I agree that they clearly have mental health issues and need compassionate attention. I believe it is not helpful to demonize anyone and that these echo chambers are making things worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 04:23 PM
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I'd guess that if you are seriously asking this question then you may not be able to really understand the answers you get. While I am not 100% sure of what you mean by an FDS woman, probably the bigger problem is that you can't understand why a HVM would want a HVW who respects herself and is a whole person. It is a sad thing to be so disillusioned and alienated from others that you restricted your awareness of others to a shallow caricature of what they really are. I can only imagine it simila…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:15 AM
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All of the happy and confident people I’ve ever met are never without a romantic partner unless they want to be and this goes for both men and women of every age range, level of attractiveness, and socioeconomic status. Probably the most attractive thing is true confidence— which should not be confused with arrogance because arrogance is just insecurity in costume— but many people would rather see themselves as victims of whatever thing instead of empowering themselves by taking responsibility f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 05:50 AM
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Wow, y’all are delusional. I’m glad I don’t have to live in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 05:40 AM
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Sounds to me like you are hanging out with the wrong women. I know no intelligent, self-confident, and self-respecting woman who would consider mating with any type of criminal or other non-viable partner. If you hope to attract high quality, intelligent, charming, and sexy women you have to have similarly worked to cultivate these qualities within yourself. You will know you have entered the world of this different level of living because you will no longer know anyone who would consider mainta…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:51 AM
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I haven’t scrolled back up to check again but wasn’t the bit on loneliness followed up by predictions that these poor lonely men will get so angry that they will rise up in violent revolution against the injustice perpetrated against them? Seems to me that the cause and effect you alluded to very clearly implied that in order to avoid violent revolution we need to make sure that these men have sex available to them... Do you really not see the reasoning problem presented here? Very simply it imp…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:40 AM
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Please show me data to support this hypothesis that not having sex is physically destructive for men. I have been a therapist to a good number of men who would be considered “incels” by most and things I noticed seemed to most impact their ability to find relationships included: 1)not being willing to change to become the kind of person who would attract the kind of woman they wanted. 2) not being interested in/attracted to the women who were available to them (in many cases perhaps because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 09:17 AM
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I’ve met a lot of short ugly broke-ass men who are stringing along shocking numbers of women who are having sex with them on the regular— often pretty women— so it’s not the short/ugly/poor that is always the problem for men who cannot find partners. When you come across like you are a victim of whatever please understand that is probably the most unattractive things you can try to sell yourself with. People living in a victim mentality make terrible partners and typically will continue to be un…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:42 AM
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How old are you? This seems like an idea of love from someone who has never actually been in love with a whole and real person in a real-life relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:32 AM
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Umm the poster specified murdering the person she would be forced to marry who raped her... if he is raping her then why does she not have the right to protect herself in any way available, in your mind? If you were forced to marry a man you were not attracted to and he raped you (since you were able to be forced to marry I’d guess there is also little option for other means of escape) you don’t feel you would have the right to use poison to escape the situation if it was your only way out?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:27 AM
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Funny that you say these are facts but don’t provide any actual evidence to back up your claims and theories
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 07:44 AM
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