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mysteriouslypuzzled/r/Divorce_Men14/08/21 02:37 AM
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Lawyersmysteriouslypuzzled/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:59 AM
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And even more importantly. Document everything, if she threatens you. Document it. Mean and spiteful emails/ messages, keep a record of them. If you can prove that she is being vindictive and malicious. It can only work to your favour. Please remember. Lawyers are not your friends. They only care for one thing. They just want to make money off of you. The longer a divorce lasts. The more money they make. The faster you get divorced the better. Lawyers WANT you to fight over possessions, family e…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 11:47 PM
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You don't pay for her lawyer. If she wants a divorce. Let her pay for her own stuff. My dad is divorced. He refuses to pay for anything that he feels like he shouldn't be paying for. Laws be damned. Also. Look up the term: " conflict of interest" I'm pretty sure it applies to your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 04:18 AM
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Alternate weeks. One week you. One week her
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 12:35 AM
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Probably really hard to find a pro bono lawyer. Unless va can set you up with one. Another option is to go to a university library and see if you can do some self education for layering. But I'd leave that as a last ditch resort.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 02:23 AM
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I'm sorry brother. That's rough. Hate to say it. But you're wake up call was too late. She was probably checked out a long time ago. You might have a better chance getting a job in a delivery truck. Amazon is still busy as fuck. So is Walmart. But Amazon is hell to work for. Use the pain. Don't let it drown you. Use it to keep you sharp. Pain means you're still living. Still breathing. And keep records of everything. Screenshot everything. If she is sending you messages to drive you crazy. Show …
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 01:35 AM
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Hate to say it man. Its hard finding a job driving a rig right now. Fleets are working at 50% capacity right now. Because of the tariffs. Don't know if you're just looking for a truck driving job. Keep on moving forward buddy. One day at a time. One battle at a time. One step after the other. Don't let her win. She fucking with your head. And that's the worst. Don't let her see you suffer. Don't give her the satisfaction. I don't know how shit went down with you and her. But you will be OK
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 01:00 AM
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If you're a veteran. You know how to fight. And this is what this is. You're fighting a war against a mean enemy. You're in the suck...the suck is hell. Can the VA find you some work?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 12:46 AM
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Man..that's rough. Are you sure the kids are yours? Cuz it sounds like she was cheating on you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 12:40 AM
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You say she has power over you. You're right. She has your freedom. No price is too steep for freedom. So fucking pay it and be free. Give it up. Give it all up. And be free. That's the point I was at. I told the judge. Said it to his face. Spare me the bullshit. Make it reasonable. And let's get this over with. And I guess i got lucky. Because that's exactly what happened. You want out? Make an exit plan and stick to it. The longer they extend it. The more you lose. In more ways than one
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 12:38 AM
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You're welcome. Needless to say. You don't have to actually buy anything. You just have to make her think that you did. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 08:39 PM
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Honestly bro. You shouldn't care. It doesn't impact your quality of life in the slightest. Just makes her look small minded you keep on being good to yourself. People that try to compete with you means you are doing something right. And they are simply trying to catch up to your higher/ better standards. In fact, you should take it as a big compliment. And for shits and giggles somehow have her find out that you got one of those fucking machines. The ones that have "real thrusting action!" Then …
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 02:19 PM
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If she's copying you. Then use that to give your kids the best life. I.e:take them out to a waterpark or paintball. Then see if she will copy that. If she does. The kids win twice. If she doesn't. The kids will still win. Cuz dad is doing fun things with them
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 02:06 PM
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Better to walk away from things than keep on going back to court for years. The only person who wins in those scenarios is the lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/25 07:04 AM
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You my friend...are in what is called the "the suck"...you're at rock bottom. And the thing about rock bottom is: you can only go up from there. You're lost. But I got you man..you're gonna be OK. Do little things for yourself. Bring some joy into your life. Me? I do it by fucking around on a bass guitar. Can't play for shit. But it's soothing for my raw, blistered soul. I make things. Fix things. It's my fuck you to the cosmos. There's a thousand small ways you can make your life better/easier.…
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 03:56 AM
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Because they didn't see the need to make themselves better when they were with you...they didn't consider you incentive....
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 02:57 AM
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With all the shit that happens, yeah, you're gonna underperform..work doesn't care if your life gets turned upside down.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 06:55 AM
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Find a real estate agent to do the hunting on your behalf. For your new place. If you're looking to rent. You could find a place that's fully furnished already
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 02:21 AM
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Right now you're on the front line. And the front line is hell. But you're gonna be OK. Just keep on fighting. And speaking of fighting. A punching bag really helped me. Frustrated? Punching bag. Stressed? Punching bag. Horny? Hand.... 🙃
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 10:51 AM
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She knows shes going to lose, Whatever she is trying to weasel out of you outside of court has absolutely zero advantage for you. Plus if she really wanted to. She could have texted you. But she won't dare. Because you can use that to your advantage. If you meet with her. Make sure it's somewhere with your lawyer and if possible a camera.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 11:01 PM
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Mission accomplished. And as others have said. Get her nothing. It's what she truly deserves. Plus, it just makes you the asshole. You're hurting, and rightfully so.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:51 AM
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Give her some..head sized, brown bags. With a note that says: i got you some protection,...INSTRUCTIONS: place over your head before sexual intercourse...
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 10:54 PM
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Fuck yeah
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 01:32 PM
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Haters are gonna hate my dude. Sex has been scientifically proven to provide all sorts of physical and mental benefits
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 11:13 AM
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You need to talk to a lawyer. And sort out the finances. Supporting kids is one thing. Supporting your exes extravagant lifestyle is ridiculous. I would say you need to tear off the bandaid. Tell her that you can't afford to support 2 households. Especially if you aren't living in one of those households. Unless you want to keep things amicable for a particular reason. But that still brings me back to my original point. Talk to a lawyer. Find out what you are legally responsible for. And take it…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 01:17 AM
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You're not alone mate. We are all in the shitstorm. Things will get better. You just have to keep on going
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 08:41 PM
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Oh look! It's a red flag parade! Cmon guys! Wave at it!
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 02:53 PM
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So does thinking with your dick. Sometimes it hard to tell which one you're thinking with...
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 01:08 PM
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Good on you. And good luck. Things can only get better. But they should add something to that saying. You gotta put in the work to make things better. Haha.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 11:09 AM
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What I did when I got fired was give myself a day,( and the time before that) a week. I needed that time. To pull myself together. I mourned the loss of the job. Did some self reflection. Then, as the saying goes. I picked myself up. Dusted myself off. And started looking for a job. You're only human. You have a lot of shit on your plate. It's ok to feel like life sucks right now. Cuz it does. Just let yourself be sad for a bit. Don't let it completely disable you. Give yourself some time. Then …
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 08:53 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 06:59 PM
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I would burn them in front of her. Then piss on them to put the fire out.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 03:35 PM
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Lazy means they don't move much in bed...even with when you're on top of them.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:56 PM
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Take the job and make the money. If it was meant to be. She would still be with you. Life is a lot more enjoyable when you aren't broke. If we're you. I'd treat myself. Have some life. This is your opportunity to do the things that you couldn't do because you were with her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/24 04:04 AM
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All I have to say is: don't be afraid to let go of things. I've seen divorces go on for 10 years. Because one person or both weren't willing to let go of something. Record everything you can. Conversations threats etc If you have things that have emotional value. Take them out of there before she becomes aware of the divorce. It's a lot easier to have something than to get something back by fighting for it in court. Or she might destroy them out of spite/vindictiveness. If she badmouth's you to …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 02:54 PM
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Thanks mate
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 11:09 PM
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Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:56 PM
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Do you have kids? If yes, how did that get figured out?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:55 PM
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I haven't taken anything to a judge yet. This was just us discussing it with each other
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:54 PM
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And that's one of the core problems. I think she's gotten a wake up call. We've had some very good talks yesterday. Addressed things we hadn't addressed before. She conceded points that she dismissed before.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:30 PM
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Get to see and raise my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:26 PM
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That's my biggest problem. I'm kind of a trainwreck, gotten better over time but, adhd doesn't help either..biggest hurdle is my kids. They're my world, and splitting up means I lose out of being in their lives. And I lose out enough as it is because of my job. She's hurt and upset. But I was very upfront and forthcoming. I did drive that point home. This might have been her wake up call. And mine, I'm sceptical, but willing to take another crack at it. And see how it goes. Your points are solid…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:26 PM
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really was completely what her goal was, It's the attention that did me in. I don't consider myself a victim in any way. Thinking with my dick and I was fully aware of that. Probably would have continued if j wasn't caught. I don't even regret it. Past few month I kept on telling her, we need to spend time together. We need to make time for us. I was reaching my breaking point. And I knew it. I didn't tell her that. I do want to make it work with her. She was crushed yesterday. Devastated. And a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:59 PM
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But I do want an amicable divorce. She is the mother of my kids. And I do not want to get embroiled in a legal battle. Because the only people that truly win. Are the lawyers
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:27 PM
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There's definitely been withholding of sex and affection. And that has been something ive been trying to get her to understand for years. She always come back with: you're jealous of your kids. And last night I finally had enough of that answer. And came back with. No, I'm human. And human beings need love and affection. That shut her up.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 01:25 PM
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Get a lawyer. Make an exit plan. Gather your courage. Prepare yourself for a court battle. Prepare yourself for whatever ahe might throw at you. Fortune favours the prepared. At the end of the day. Possessions are nowhere near as valuable as peace of mind. Look at yourself. You are in a state of misery. Because of this person. You give. She takes. That is not a way to live. A healthy relationship has balance.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 05:10 AM
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Depends on what you want. An emotional relationship. Or simply a physical one? Do you think that you are ready to trust another woman to have a relationship with? Me personally. I just wanted to rebuild my confidence in having sex. So I kept it strictly physical. Even now. I don't think I want any kind of relationship like marriage. I like my freedom. I like having my place the way I like it. And I have a maid to clean for me. I like to cook, and I like my cooking. There was just so much of a bu…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 08:30 PM
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Collect air miles. Frequent flyer miles. Spend the weekends with them as much as possible. Get a visa that collects these points. Pay for everything with it. Then pay it off at the end of the week. Good way to build up points
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 05:29 PM
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I second the not buying the house. Absolutely do not go into a joint investments of you are getting a divorce. Lots of online guides about how to go about it. Make a list of everything. Consider what is going to who? Make another list of things you can't part with, And another with things you can. Then make a third list of things that she will want. Include things that are on your want list. Put some serious thought into where you are willing to sacrifice in order to keep other things. I've read…
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 05:24 PM
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If you guys are truly amicable, then I'd say that you are going to have to bite the bullet on this one...you don't want to go to court over something aa minor as this. At the end of the day you are still saving money by paying 50% of 2 days.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/23 11:48 AM
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Firstly, talk to a lawyer. See what the process is, and what the likely fallout will be. Some states, if not many, guys get the shaft legally. In a perfect world you live somewhere nearby, so you can be close to your child. And you get 50/50 custody.....Some places make it, so it isn't even worthwhile to get divorced. ( I don't know what the details are of your prenuptial.) The only thing is can't stress enough is, whatever you do. Don't let yourself get dragged into a prolonged legal battles. T…
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 01:53 AM
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Here's my experience. Prolonged legal battles only benefit the lawyers. The best outcome is a swift divorce . The sooner it's over the sooner you can move on with your life
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 02:04 AM
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I think you already know what the answer is.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 02:01 AM
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Did she, or did she not cheat on you? And how crushed are you going to be. If it's not yours. Is the child your only doubt? Knowing her the way you do. Is she, or is she not going to make your life hell. By using that child as leverage? What other reasons are behind you getting a divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 01:23 AM
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Borrowing will get you nowhere. The only thing you can do is cancel all the cards. Consolidate if you can. Sell off whatever you can, to pay off some of the debt. And somehow find a way to get a second income to keep yourself afloat.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 01:19 AM
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If you don't have a retirement fund. Nows a good time to start. I have a car maintenance fund. where I put 40 a week for any needed maintenance. It usually covers the majority of car maintenance costs. (You might want to save more if you drive a luxury/ European car) If your car is in good condition consider keeping it, until your finances are in good shape. Before getting something new. Too many people overextend them selves by buying new automobiles, and other things. In order to keep up with …
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/22 04:55 PM
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There's always 3 sides to a story. And there's always a pattern.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 10:58 PM
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And I'm not willing to go running to mommy. :p
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 07:22 PM
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Your first comment is neither here nor there. Telling OP that it's impossible to choose is wrong. You can't be neutral in something like this. Your mother will still be your mother if you don't take her side. And if she disowns you because of it. That doesn't reflect well on her character. Marriage is something you have to build. You choose to get married and have kids and make a life with them. Now OP's wife has walked out on him. He has so much to lose. I can't tell you how many people I've he…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:56 PM
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I depend on my wife for all kinds of things. And she depends on me for many things also. It's called marriage. Its called being a husband. Who are you married to? Your wife or your mother?
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:44 PM
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Yes. My wife won. She's the mother of my children. I love my kids, more than my toxic mother. You are partially to blame here. 1. For letting that shit happen . 2. For not setting boundaries. 3. Whether you like it or not. You are the center of this conflict. And always will be. So you have to deal with it accordingly. I've never had the ultimatum dropped on me. Because I knew what kind of games my mother plays. And I have zero patience for them. Don't get me wrong. She's my mother. But that doe…
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/22 06:31 PM
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Being cheated on sucks. I think it's one of the shittiest things a person can do to another. Everybody else is sleeping. My youngest didn't go to sleep until just now. Funny thing is. I'm pretty sure that I was the most tired out of all of them. I'm beat. I worked my tail off today. I can feel the tiredness in my bones. But now I can't sleep. Go figure...
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 03:24 AM
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I'm sorry man. That's rough.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 03:08 AM
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Zero interest. I might get a girlfriend at some point. Perhaps cohabitate. But I treasure my place being my own. Having things the way I want them. It's blissfully peaceful. You automatically lose that by cohabitating with someone.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 04:52 PM
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Hang in there man
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/22 02:03 AM
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There's a lot factors at play here. Key to that is battling mindsets of men and women, and finances. At the true essence of the matter is: a corrupt justice system that doesn't give a fuck about either party, and its only goal is to wring as much money as possible out of men and women regardless of income and social status. You want true change? All you need to do is overhaul the entire justice system, AND, self entitlement of both men and women. IF both men and women in failed marriages put shi…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/22 08:14 PM
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Im going to play devil's advocate here : If you agree with that line of thinking. Then you should also be know that by nature women pick the men who they instinctively perceive as giving them strong healthy offspring. So does that mean that she found a healthier stronger mate? Thus justifying her cheating on you? Should there be laws in that effect too? "Sorry, found a mate with superior genetic material, thus; this nullifies our wedding vows and all the years and money we've invested together..…
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/22 05:13 PM
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The question is, can you afford the house with your income alone? And here's a lesson I learned the hard way. Lawyers only care about making as much money off you as possible. So if the house becomes the quicksand that will have you stuck in a divorce proceedings forever, let it go. They will never admit this. But it's no skin off their bones if you want to fight over your mothers wedding rings. They're there to make money. The longer you take. The more money they make. If you want something. Tr…
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 02:12 PM
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Been in the same boat....wonderful girl, wonderful family. But just didn't FEEL, like the right girl for me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 10:55 AM
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What about your dreams and life goals?
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 03:34 AM
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Quite frankly. I'm just so over women. At least at this time. 😅 I just want to generate happiness for myself and my kids. Biggest problem with most women, (in my opinion) is that they don't know how to make themselves happy. (When in a relationship)
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 03:04 AM
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Me neither. That's one thing I would like to understand better. If I barely make ends meet right now? How am I supposed to pay for a lawyer multiple times?
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 02:20 AM
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Get a mediator. Or go see a lawyer together to make sure everything is written up properly.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 02:16 AM
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Lol. That's hilarious!
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 02:10 AM
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I was thinking of something along these lines. Finding a RV of some sort.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 02:09 AM
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Do what you gotta do. But talk to your lawyer first. If you walk out. You give her the upper hand. Plus you will look bad in court. Precedent is a huge thing in court. And if you don't care and are willing to lose out on things. Take everything that is important to you. With you. Because it's a lot harder to get something back.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/21 01:50 AM
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It is a bunch of bullshit
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 12:02 PM
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The problem is we are living paycheck to paycheck as it is. With 2 incomes. How do I cover the necessities on 1 income?
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 12:01 PM
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