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Don't really know what to say to that because, well, I do? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 01:19 PM
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This is so incredibly on point. It generally doesn't come off at first as them "gaming" you, it comes off as genuine interest in you with a charismatic edge. They aren't generic in their interactions, it's just carefully crafted fakeness that you don't see through until later. That's usually the point where people will leave, because nobody likes or appreciates that shit. So yeah, narcissists can get their foot in the door. But more often than not, they'll end up alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:21 PM
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I don't hate men, but you're right that I couldn't care less about male problems on a large scale. I care about the problems my male friends face on an individual level. I'll support them, we'll talk through their issues, I'll help them get dates, talk them up to other women, all that jazz. But on a societal level? Yeah, no. It's not an important or urgent matter. I'd have room to care about it if we collectively tackled women's bodily autonomy being threatened and/or taken away first, all of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:43 PM
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Exactly how I feel, too. A majority of my male friends deal with this to some extent or another, so yes, it's a THING, but I really don't care beyond my immediate friends. I'll support them and help them, but no way is it a pressing societal issue that requires attention from everyone to fix. We've got bigger fish to fry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 07:36 PM
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Agreed. On an individual level, I care about the emotional well-being in regards to sex and relationships of my male friends. The men directly in my life who I care about and who care about me. But on a large scale? Couldn't give much of a shit, really. If our rights to bodily autonomy weren't being consistently threatened or taken away, if women weren't being consistently oppressed and raped and diluted and subdued in backward countries and religions across the globe, if trans women could simpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:37 PM
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You’re not involved in sex
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:58 AM
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I’m going to use myself as a bit of a case study here. I’m 24 years old, and for the majority of those 24 years I have been under the direct influence/surrounded by very angry people. That anger manifested in a multitude of ways from those people. My father has always been an explosive kind of a man that cannot bottle his frustrations or moods. My mother has also always been emotionally explosive, quick to switch from neutral to angry overreactions and the like. The majority of my ex boyfriends …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 12:16 PM
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Exactly. I can completely accept that we’re animals and have very little control over our basal instincts, but we DO have complete control over acting on and analysing those instincts. That is something other animals do not do, so there is very little excuse for actually performing negative behaviours when we have the ability for self-reflection and the questioning of our instincts/desires/whatever else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/24 09:49 AM
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The “boy mum” and “girl dad” extremes are the absolute WORST, borderline incestuous dynamics. It’s insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 10:01 PM
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This is a stupid argument. Everyone has leg hair, not everyone has a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:58 PM
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You’re taking it VERY literally. I have personally always interpreted it as a bear that is guaranteed to attack you in the worst way it can or a man that is guaranteed to attack you in the worst ways he can. The worst thing the bear can do is ultimately kill me. There are things worse than death. It’s not up to you to decide what those things are to other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 09:08 AM
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uh huh you sure got me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:59 PM
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Imagine someone with a somewhat decent amount of social and/or political power showed up on your feed and started talking with an intense passion, eloquence and fundamental ignorance about their well thought out ideas to extract fundamental rights away from a particular group. Pretty concerning stuff. Now imagine it’s just some guy saying “men need abortion rights” And you have you, not at all concerning to me but highly entertaining. No need to engage in a discourse with you lmao, thanks for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:32 PM
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Amazing. It’s so beyond ridiculous that I can’t even be mad at it. I’d like you to post more!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:21 PM
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That last paragraph is genuinely on a whole other level of insane lmao. Is this just bait, because no one can truly believe that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 11:07 PM
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I think we will just have to agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 01:13 PM
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No I still disagree with you. The betrayal IS the lie, and taking away the opportunity for you to decide for yourself is a direct result of the lie. Shaming someone for lying is reasonable. Sleeping with 100 guys isn’t a betrayal in itself if it occurred outside of the relationship. Only the lying was a betrayal.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:58 PM
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I know a lot of people are saying they’d go for it and talk to him again, which I don’t necessarily disagree with, but I would like to just offer something you might’ve not considered. It IS odd for someone to have a dating app and say they have no social media. And I know that it’s not uncommon at all for people to delete and re-download dating apps, but those two things together would make me think “he has a girlfriend already and she found the app + is posted on his socials.” It’s also not at…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 09:25 AM
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A little shaming for the lying sure, but not shaming over whatever the true number is which I assumed it what you were asking about, so apologies if you weren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 09:41 PM
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What’s “harsh treatment”? Because of course there are both men and women out there that will downplay or even increase their body count number for whatever reason, but if the true number comes out later and that’s a problem for either partner then breaking up is the solution to that. If that’s what you define as “harsh treatment” then sure, but if you’re asking me if that would give one partner the green light to belittle and insult the other then no. Nothing warrants that. Adults shouldn’t beha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 11:47 PM
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My point exactly. It’s most likely lying for Reddit bragging rights, but even in a world where it was true it would be the sheer hypocrisy of “a promiscuous woman isn’t wife material but of course a promiscuous man who exclusively seeks out sex workers is perfect husband material!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 07:40 PM
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I meant more where did you meet them and how those friendships came to be, but your overall hypocrisy has answered my question so that’s fine, you sought them out for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:07 PM
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I mean that’s obviously a different kind of situation. If two people felt genuine regret or unease about parts of their past that, shared them with one another, and grew together because of it then that’s obviously an amazing thing. But that’s very different to having one person who does not feel regret or unease about their past and another person telling them that they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:55 PM
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Unrelated to the topic at hand, but I’m genuinely curious how a red pill man has curated such a seemingly extensive social circle of women that directly contrast with a lot of his beliefs? How have you come to form friendships with porn stars, strippers and escorts?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:41 PM
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This is completely right. If I were single, I’d have no problem with a guy (respectfully) saying he wasn’t interested in me because he has a preference for women with a lower body count. That’s absolutely fine, I’m not going to push back against that or argue with him because I too would not want a relationship with someone who has that preference. I WOULD have a problem with telling a guy my body count, him seeming okay with it, and then bringing it up later as a means to shame or insult me. Fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:30 PM
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I did a quick search of recent uses of “ick” on both tiktok and Reddit (where posts about it are more commonly found), and I saw two types of the most recent uses: 1) the original intended use of the word as humorous but still relatable i.e “when you’re on a first date and the wind starts blowing the napkins around and he frantically tries to catch them all” - clearly funny, clearly not relationship-ruining, still an instance where the fantasy-veil of a person is momentarily dropped and you see …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 03:08 PM
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The “ick” is a meme that describes the concept of one person seeing the person they’re dating in a ‘human’ light when they’re still in the honeymoon stage, which inevitably causes a strange cringe feeling. Examples of an ick are hearing the other person in the bathroom, seeing them spill food on themselves, watching them trip over, basically anything that reminds you that they’re a human and not a fantasy. It’s nothing to do with men being “feminine” and it very much encompasses both genders. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:14 PM
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I feel like this works both ways, but it’s also not as black and white as you’re making it out to be. NOBODY wants to be with someone that is 100% unrelentingly wholesome. Equally, nobody wants to with someone that is 100% an utter dirt scrap of a human being. You want someone that is equally balanced and can react to life with the appropriate level of emotional response. You want someone that is kind and wholesome, but that doesn’t let the world walk all over them. You want someone that has mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 10:28 AM
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I don’t think you’re getting it? The context of the two things you’re comparing are very different. They aren’t on the same playing field. Both are acceptable but to compare them and argue that one is only acceptable if the other is too makes absolutely zero sense. One thing is for fun, one is for safety. If you’re going to come off as begrudging that women need the train cars (not WANT, it is sad to us that they are needed) then at least bring up something that men also need to use for your “go…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:16 AM
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It very much isn’t but hey, what else can I expect trying to explain on this particular sub? It isn’t the smartest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:06 AM
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Well no, bringing up boys clubs is not a relevant or comparable point to women’s-only train cars. I agree with you that they’re fine to have, whatever no one cares. But they have absolutely nothing to do with this conversation. Apples and oranges. So no, not relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:25 PM
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I already agreed with you about men having designated men’s groups and women having designated women’s group. It’s nice to have those spaces there for people. So I don’t know who’s salty or why you’d need to clarify that your point stands, especially seeing as it wasn’t in anyway relevant to the topic of women’s train cars that are ONLY there to circumvent the public groping epidemic?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 09:13 PM
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And equality also includes making accommodations to put everyone at the same level. In a MAJORITY of cases, men do not board a public transport vehicle at night and have their first thought be “what if one of these women tries to grope me? Am I safe around these women?”. That is VERY MUCH the first thought for women boarding transport at night with men around. Therefore, accommodations are made to make the experience of travelling EQUAL. Now women can worry less that they might be sexually assau…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:42 PM
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I don’t have an issue with defined male and female groups as long as both sets of activities represent the actual interests of the groups and aren’t sexist (i.e Girl Scouts being sewing etc when girls WANT to build fires and learn survival skills just as much as boys do). But this isn’t a good comparison seeing as women-only trains cars are specifically there because Japan has a public transport groping problem. The train car isn’t there for fun, and it’s actually sad that it HAS to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:32 PM
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There’s more to a relationship than just the romantic “duties” of a boyfriend or a girlfriend, which is admittedly the first thing people think of when talking about relationship experience. There’s a huge element of emotional maturity that is very specific to intimate relationships that you (generally) slowly develop from your teen years well into adulthood. There’s facets to conflict resolution that differs when you’re romantically intertwined with someone rather than say a friend or a family …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:26 AM
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It heavily depends on age I would say. To not have had a relationship but several experiences of casual sex at the age of 27 is a red flag in terms of the the perspective from a potential partner imo. That is a considerable chunk of your years as an adult spent without cultivating invaluable experience of what it means to be in a romantic relationship, to love and how to treat a partner, to navigate how YOU take on the role of a partner and what that means to you. This is all CRUCIAL learning an…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:28 AM
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I think it can be difficult, especially on this sub, to remember that there are real people behind the keyboard and we should always be trying to bridge the gap between how we would act in real life and how we act online. I still have to catch myself sometimes, but we’re all a work in progress :) I hope you have a wonderful day too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:42 PM
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I suppose both our perceptions are purely anecdotal, so we may never truly know beyond what we see and experience individually. It’s possible that perceptions of lager bodies are shifting and that we’re both correct. Social stigma around men finding bigger bodies attractive may well be diminishing in the era of body positivity.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 03:04 PM
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Yes exactly, what you said about your personal attitude towards it is exactly how women (for the most part) think about it too. Sure we might internally find our friends partners unattractive based on our own preferences; but we’re never going to bring it up never mind use it to humiliate them both. I wish people gave more thought to the roots of their instinctual behaviour. There’s a reason we do all that we do, it’s not a huge ask to want people to reflect on why.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:38 PM
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I’ve read and taken in every word you’ve said there and I apologise. I too got defensive about your initial comment. Reading the sheer amount of other replies completely disregarding and showing no amount of respect to the concept of a women being clearly disinterested or made uncomfortable by their approach is obviously deeply troubling to me as a woman and that is what I was talking about. I took it out on your comment assuming it was like the rest, I was wrong there and I apologise for that. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:11 AM
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I never said that and I also don’t understand what is so crazy or wrong about saying “if those women aren’t showing you interest, then they’re just not interested”. That’s something you would learn immediately in the moment. Instead of getting upset with me for pointing out that a lack of reciprocation implies a lack of interest, maybe consider looking at a DIFFERENT WOMAN rather than cold approaching the one that is giving you absolutely nothing. If you’re consistently being rejected from afar,…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:48 AM
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This is sad but true. Women generally care a lot less about if a guy is chubby, or overweight or anywhere between the two. In turn, there’s no weird sense of social shame about that between women in their circles. Men on the other hand do frequently find themselves attracted to chubby, overweight, or anywhere in between women but they DO for some reason share an unspoken social shame about the fact. I think for a lot of people that feel shame about their attraction to bigger bodies, and those wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:18 AM
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You’re so close to getting it. You ever think that if a subset of men never experience indicators of interest, then the women they’re looking at just simply aren’t interested in them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:05 AM
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I personally feel it’s just strange for anyone to propose without there having been a previous discussion where you both express that you’d like to be or feel ready to get married. It’s genuinely wild to me that people do it out of the blue. Surely the surprise should be the “when it happens” not “if it happens” right? In the case where both partners know they’re on the same page, I genuinely don’t think it matters who proposes. I think it mainly falls down to who is going to enjoy which role in…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:51 AM
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Yes you must add bug-eyes to the list immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:46 AM
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I have to say, your definition of a “creepy guy” is what is most likely considered a creepy guy in a secondary school setting when everyone around is just itching to scratch at ‘odd’ behaviour and people with bad social skills. A genuine creepy guy is the grown man that honks his horn and shouts out the window at you at 15 as walk to school with your friends. Or the guy you told that you had a boyfriend to at the bar, but he keeps hounding you with “he doesn’t have to know though”. Or the one th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:43 AM
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Knew I’d find you here andrew
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:29 AM
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This just really is not some inventive brilliant manipulation tactic, it’s quite literally the thing called “making a good first impression”. Nobody is going around spouting the whole truth about themselves on a first encounter, especially when their only goal is sex. Every single person, regardless of gender, is making a conscious effort to make themselves sound as humble and appealing as possible. Everyone knows it, and the majority choose to ignore it if they have no intention of sticking aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 01:27 AM
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Yep this is exactly what I got from it, and exactly the feeling I experienced too when I first met my now bf. Something a lot of these commenters don’t seem to understand is that a LOT of the time, you don’t get with a guy genuinely believing or knowing he’s going to fuck you over one way or another. You don’t naturally go around labelling everyone good or bad. Everyone is grey, and it takes time to truly see a persons true colour’s because humans are naturally fucking terrible at being objectiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 05:05 PM
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I was thinking exactly this. If the same man you married would have completely up and left you to be a single parent when you were dating, why on earth would that be someone you would want to marry? It’s completely different if we’re talking about unmarried, broken up co-parenting but I think OP is actually saying marrying the kind of guy that would have left you as a single parent is on par with marrying a guy that wouldn’t have. There’s obviously exceptions, but in terms of two unmarried peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 07:28 AM
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Dear god did you read your own article? All it states is that prefrontal cortex and overall brain development continues into the mid-to-late 20’s, and that the specific number ‘25’ came from averaging that. But thanks though?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 06:12 PM
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I’m not going to lie to you mate, this is probably one of the densest replies I’ve ever received on this particular sub, and that’s saying something. You’ve not -actually- replied to any of the points I made bar the first one, and even then essentially all you’ve done is agree that it plays a part in decision making and rational thinking but decided that you don’t give a shit about that fact. The fact that it PLAYS a part is what makes it important, if we’re going to debate on an individual-by-i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 06:06 PM
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Your prefrontal cortex is not fully developed until 25 years old, the concept of rational decision making is quite literally not in full swing until then. You’ve framed this post as though it’s utterly ridiculous to consider people with underdeveloped brains and decision making skills as people with underdeveloped brains and decision making skills. It’s not a ‘lack of respect’ women have for other women, it’s literally an instinct to protect them. I agree with you that men see boys as men, unfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 02:31 PM
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The way this post is -so close- to the point women are making and yet just misses it entirely is absolutely hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 10:17 PM
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I also thought the “Influencers have a financial incentive to keep their followers dateless” was a fucking profound sentiment. It’s genuinely shocking to me that some men truly believe the TikTok and YouTube shorts bros are really out here with men’s best intentions in mind. “Treat women like shit, act like a shit, and you’ll get all the women” yeah, doesn’t like a recipe for failure so you’ll stick around in the manosphere-ad-revenue-pool at ALL.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:31 AM
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I don’t disagree with you. I think whether you’re a man or a woman or any gender in between, if you’ve entered into a sexless marriage from what was a previously sexually active relationship then that’s going to hurt emotionally and feel frustrating physically. I don’t think the person with the low libido would be in the wrong at all for not forcing themselves through it, as I don’t think the person with the high libido would be in the wrong for feeling confused and hurt. I just think it’s a mat…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 10:32 AM
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It might well be, but it doesn’t make it abuse. Try and look at it this way, you’ve come home absolutely starving and ask your partner if they’ll make a meal for you. For whatever reason, they’ve not been enjoying cooking lately. They say no, so you do it yourself. Is that annoying for you? Probably, yes. Is it adding an extra step toward getting something your body wants? Yes. Is it abuse? No. If someone’s wants and needs aren’t compatible with their partners then that’s no ones FAULT. Unlike c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:54 PM
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You think abuse is being married to a beautiful wife you can’t have sex with? God you’ve lived a shielded life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 10:35 PM
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My apologies, but was very entertainingly on the nose while it lasted haha
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:05 PM
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“If a woman thinks I just want to fuck why not just have sex with me” Sums up this sub perfectly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 02:56 PM
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Exactly this. My partner later told me he was actually shocked I suggested we get in his car and drive somewhere on a date while we were still feeling each other out. He was aware of the dangers of dating as a woman despite never having experienced that caution himself, it isn’t hard to just ACKNOWLEDGE the experience of meeting someone has some levels of added danger for women. It’s hardwired into us to either expect it or plan for it in a way that men just do not themselves think about when me…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:49 PM
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It just sounds like you in particular just haven’t met a good crowd of lady friends. I’m a woman and have had countless platonic friendships with men my whole life. My oldest ever friendship being with a guy I knew since primary school, we got dared to kiss once in a game of truth or dare when we were about 13 and ran behind a tree to fake it because we just couldn’t do it. I just recently went for drinks with him to celebrate him becoming a father. All my make friends have been friends because …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:39 PM
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For real. I still made sure to keep my location on and text my best friend while I was on the first few dates with my now partner. Literally because of the fact that you never know and it is all too common for something to happen. It doesn’t even have to be outright on the spot rape or murder. It could be assault in any form, threatening behaviour, coercion, trafficking, taking you somewhere dangerous, DOING something dangerous while you’re with him. It’s always in the back of our minds to keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 05:22 PM
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Sure but it’s to my understanding from reading the replies that you wrote this specifically at single mothers. So initially when you wrote this post, or even your mindset in general, why are you quick to condemn single mothers but deadbeats and single fathers in your mind, get a pass? And where is the concern about these men being extremely promiscuous and collecting baby mamas like Pokemon cards? For the record I do agree with the general point that any single parents shouldn’t be bringing non-…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 06:40 AM
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And where’s your criticism of that? Surely the guy impregnating two women is the base problem that comes before single mums having sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:45 AM
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I think dark humour and jokes should be made at the expense of yourself or at the expense of the people you’re with that you know are fine with it. That way it’s actually funny and relevant, not just being ‘edgy’ for the sake of it. Like someone else has said above, making a joke about their partner getting raped on a walk. Neither one of them have a personal sensitivity to the topic that would cause upset, and there’s no risk of upsetting any third parties because you’re making the joke with so…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:12 AM
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Just like someone else said, who hates Howard? Maybe it’s just me but I’ve never encountered this discourse as a fan of both shows, but people in the himym “fandom” have absolutely expressed disgust with some of barneys actions. Howard is absolutely creepy but Barney is quite literally thought of as criminally creepy both in the show and by the fans of the show. They’re both seen as loveable creeps by fans that are invested in both shows, the only real differences between the two that I can thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:53 PM
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Just like another comment said, liking someone's message is just a polite way of acknowledging them when you can't think of a reply or can't/don't want to continue the conversation but don't want to leave them on read. I think your friend is wrong about it being an opportunity to demonstrate you're interested in them. I mean sure, some people might LIKE if someone did that to them and double texted but I don't think anyone is explicitly liking messages with that intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 09:16 PM
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Are you just not reading this person’s conversation with you? YOU are talking about women that sleep with some guys and make other guys wait depending on if they want a hookup, relationship or just for the fun of it (which I’ve never heard of but I won’t erase your experience if that’s the case) SHE is talking about women who have never had sex or women who have made ALL guys wait. Are you just not reading and arguing with yourself over a point she isn’t even making?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 07:14 PM
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Her definition of flirting with her friends was being purposely and moderately sarcastic and dramatic in response to them. Read back her previous comments. Yes, I think most couples with a sense of humour and shared friend group would be fine with that kind of flirting (IF you can even call it that)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 03:45 PM
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No, it is unfair. If the mother didn’t want an abortion while the father explicitly expressed not wanting to father a child, then there should be a fail safe measure DURING the pregnancy in which the man can opt out of child support payments. I say during the pregnancy because there are occasions in which a man might agree to becoming a father but once the baby is born; just disappears. In this instances, agreeing to becoming a father during the pregnancy SHOULD result in paying for child suppor…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 04:48 PM
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OP didn’t state whether this behaviour was based on attraction + the tribal beliefs/rules. The implication in the post is that it was done with the intention to foster obedience and control, unsurprisingly given that rape is more often an act of control than direct attraction. So it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with homosexuality, based on the information given to us at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 12:56 AM
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Thank you for acknowledging, we’ve all learned something truly awful about history one again!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 02:14 PM
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There’s no reason to be surprised that makeup can make anyone of any gender look better. Makeup itself isn’t feminine, it’s how you style the makeup that could be considered masculine, feminine or neutral. At its core it very much literally is just making your skin appear clearer and even toned and/or extenuating natural contours of the bone structure, any extras like fun colours, lines and shapes are just for personal style preferences that could equate to gender if you choose to view it that w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:17 PM
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This isn’t homosexuality, this is just raping children and teenagers to terrify, belittle and essentially ‘torture’ them into obedience. What kind of post is this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 12:14 PM
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Isn’t it more likely that you would hear more stories of ridiculously awful women cheating on their man for a “stronger” one than not? Who is going around telling stories about women that didn’t leave their man for losing a fight? Literally no one, so you’re going to hear about the opposite. Also it seems your last anecdote about beating up a dude that was harassing women makes sense in that those women were attracted to the fact that you acknowledged his harassment and publicly punished him for…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 04:13 PM
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No because exactly, why drive your mental health into the ground and actively push genuine people away from you just to appeal to these types of men and women that spout this bs. Be you, attract people with a similar outlook to you, and fuckin live as a human being with emotions and problems and meaningful relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 03:27 PM
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Completely agree with your stance. It’s not deceptive or morally wrong if you’re just doing it. It’s just straight up WEIRD if you lie and say it’s your real height, just as weird as it would be to claim your push up bra size as your real size. If you don’t say anything along those lines and simply live your life with your height boost or boob boost or whatever, no harm done. People should be allowed to be comfortable and happy with their own appearance whatever that means for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:32 AM
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I’m seeing a lot of comparison with drunk fighting and drunk driving here being that a drunk person doing these acts would be rightfully criticised. But these arguments are missing a crucial point. Consider it this way: If you are sober, and purposely allow a drunk person to drive you home then that is morally shitty of you and you will absolutely be given shit for it. If you are sober, and you engage in a fight with a clearly very drunk person instead of walking away from the situation then you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 04:34 AM
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I don't think anyone giving red pill advice to anyone is a good idea lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 08:47 PM
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Referring to a girl telling you the female point of view of fetishes and attraction non-combatively as a delusional feminist seems combative on your part. All the “deal with it’s” as opposed to a discussion. People getting “triggered” or understandably annoyed by the implication that you can speak for anyone and everyone doesn’t automatically make them feminazis. I’d like to have one conversation on here minus the go-to insult buzzwords, just once.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:43 AM
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One woman. How can you make such a sweeping statement as “women do not hold beliefs” and actually believe it with your whole entire chest? I am truly dumbfounded
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:24 AM
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I was going to try and comment for an actual discussion, but all your replies to comments trying to do that have been “try not to cry feminazi lolol” When will we have intelligent and interesting people posting here that don’t resort to weird “haha got u stupid” insults the SECOND someone doesn’t share their view? It’s not even angering anyone, it’s just strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 05:21 AM
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Exactly, Johnny Depp isn’t attractive to me at all as himself. In character though, most of his fantasy characters, he is incredibly hot. Edward scissor hands notably.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:12 AM
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No because there’s also such thing as “hot ugly” I.e, Channing Tatum, Zak Efron etc. Objectively conventionally attractive by societies standards yet aesthetically underwhelming, boring, and thus unattractive to many people. Female equivalent would likely be the kardashians for many people. So obviously it’s not about money, it’s about looks. Because these rules apply to people in your real life too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 04:09 AM
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No, in most cases it would actually be a turnoff if they never cried and that goes for all emotions. Normal regular people that don't have any outdated hang-ups about gender expectations appreciate emotional maturity. If a person doesn't ever cry, that is strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 04:16 PM
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I really do not like the Alpha/Beta/whatever rhetoric but that was funny lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 01:11 PM
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Where does the muscular, dumb, average height guy fall? Or the skinny, but incredibly attractive and intelligent guy? And any other combo
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 12:53 PM
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You have never seen this on this sub? I don't know what to tell you then, look harder? Because it's here, frequently. You'll find a overbearing amount of people sporting these points of views in the comments, agreeing with each other and defensively maintaining their position in opposition to logic. Redpill men often being the source.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:53 PM
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The reality is there will always be people out there men or women that have your ideal n count as a sexual/romantic partner. I'll concede that if you're looking for a partner, their n count may have an effect dependant on your views. But if we look at it more broadly, we can see raging anger and frustration over high n count Chads and Stacey's who the person doing the complaining would not even be interested in pursuing due to whatever other reasons they view them as being categorized differentl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:40 PM
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You don't think those who are viciously angry over how much sex strangers have should be fair game to be pathologized by everyone else? And that's just one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:22 PM
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From what I’ve encountered, they also advocate there never actually ever being a valid reason not too either. I respect and agree that lack of attraction should = leave her. But what I cannot wrap my head around is the people that believe there are no good reasons, no reasons more important than sexual satisfaction, or (lack of) attraction is only ever the reason. Just boggles the mind that some people can be so black and white about human brains and experience and lack so much empathy you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:43 AM
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You mean why do men keep bringing it up as posts lmao. It’s been beat to death and resolved. If she has a REASON to withhold, respect her reason with empathy and understanding s accept it isn’t personal or find that sex act elsewhere. If there is no reason, then she just isn’t that into you. Case very much closed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:17 PM
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I really do not understand why you’re insinuating this is personal. This sub has recently been FILLED with this “oddly specific, theoretical’ behaviour of men. Have you not seen? You’re interpreting it as anger, this is frustration I’m feeling specifically toward OP and related posters, this is in response to that. Like I’ve said, I’ve never had sexual encounters where I’ve ‘performed’ in place of passion or otherwise. That’s never been my style as someone that cares about equal satisfaction and…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 11:14 PM
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I’ve never bothered putting on a performance for anyone, but it doesn’t take a genius to know what it would entail. And my recent post history? To you mean my recent comment history? As in, the comments on the NarcissisticAbuse sub where I’ve been trying to support and relate to fellow victims of emotional and physical abuse? You’re assuming that has any relevance to this discussion about porn? Why are you even associating an unrelated topic with an unrelated topic? That’s like if you previously…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 08:30 PM
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Be warned men's rights isn't all roses and daisies, you'll come across mostly comments rather than posts that are similar to that of PPD, but there are much more logical and reasonable discussions on there and some genuinely good points of conversation. And I agree, my main reason for frequenting PPD is exactly that; the discussions you don't see anywhere else. Ignoring the fact that the discussions are often done poorly, the actual topics are interesting when you sift through the bs and find th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 07:29 PM
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I'm not really sure what your point is. It's well understood that porn is amplified in terms of actions and vocalisations to appeal to an audience. It is art imitating the parts of sex that are enjoyed in real life, but the point is is that they amplify those parts beyond what is real. As a woman, do you know distracting to myself it would be to amplify my moaning more than what feels natural? Instantly you would go from passionately being in the moment to suddenly in your head thinking about wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 07:23 PM
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I never said any woman who doesn't act like me is faking. I'm also not saying being loud, enthusiastic, etc is fake. You know full well that I'm saying PORN is fake. They're paid to aggressively suck air through their teeth the second the breeze of a mans zipper being undone brushes past their nipple. They're paid to thrash around uncontrollably like their life depends on it. They're paid to pretend to cum at a time marker. Tell me how purposely replicating ACTING in real life is passion. Passio…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 06:57 PM
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I honestly had my eyes opened by frequenting the Men's Rights sub, there's a lot of pain and rightful upset over there about issues I wasn't even aware of as a woman. But not so much on here. It's essentially a cesspit of 'Laws=morality' 'Women dumb goldigger' and 'I am OWED anal sex NOW' Most people are open to having their views changed on actual social/gender issues that are coherent and logical. Neither of those things are often present here, it's like the worst of the worst people come here…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 06:46 PM
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I appreciate your concern but luckily some of us have managed to find men that don't want or expect or NEED us to put on a fake performance! No need to feel sad for me, I have real passion that I'm not paid or scripted to do in front of a camera!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 06:30 PM
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Oh you poor boy. Doesn’t know the difference between passion and fake moaning/fake thrashing around that people are paid to do. This is such a sad post for men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 06:32 PM
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It’s literally for the same reason that many gyms have an excessive amount of mirrors, not only to watch your form but to look at yourself get pumped. You’re going there to feel good and make your body look good, if you’re feeling like THE shit while you’re there it’s going to motivate you even more when you’re looking at yourself. Also personally, I just cannot wear baggy or loose fitting clothes to the gym. It feels all in the way and distracting, not to mention the last thing you want is your…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/22 02:36 AM
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I’d like to also point out, assuming that the vast majority of men do know that the women in porn are acting and all of that dramatisation of pleasure is fake; it completely makes sense as to why they would find it attractive watching it ON SCREEN where you can easily pretend it’s real and enjoy it, but if their partner was to act like that in real life suddenly you become part it and you’ll be aware that YOUR partner is fake acting. Not a porn star on the internet you don’t know, not some hypot…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 04:14 PM
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Maybe it's an area or algorithm thing? I was living in quite an artsy diverse city back when I was using Tinder, even many men had really interesting fun profiles but it was more often the ladies would be made with effort and the majority of the men's would have been rather unflattering or uninteresting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:59 PM
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I actually have a funny story related to this, well me and my bf find it funny. I was leaving my block of flats where I lived a few years ago and this dude was coming in through the main doors. He would often stop and small talk to me if we passed in the hallways, and the chats were pleasant and friendly. So I'm walking out and he stops me for some small talk, I'm sort of in a rush but don't want to be rude so I stop and chat. We're talking for a few minutes and then I say that I need to get goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:28 PM
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Being put on a pedestal will come with her believing you can do no wrong. You will eventually do wrong, because you are human. You will do wrong over and over again because it's what we are. This will cause her some reoccurring cognitive dissonance about her view of you and the relationship. Ends in seeded resentment toward you because she can't process the two conflicting ideas as well as her own insecurities big enough to make it so she puts her partners on a pedestal. You feel resentment towa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:17 PM
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Honestly because online profiles more often than not do not do people justice, especially in how women are evidently often more skilled in curating successful profiles while it's more common to see profiles from guys uploading a picture of himself from the down-up double chin angle with no life in the eyes, endless shots of him and his mates in bars and you can't actually tell who the profile belongs to, or just generally quite boring, simple pictures. It seems the divide is that women tend to u…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 06:08 PM
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Maybe it's just our different understanding of the word, I've only used/seen it used in reference to romance and love genres catered toward young women to the point it became it's own genre; i.e. Dirty Dancing, Grease, Easy A etc. The Handmaids Tale is none of that, in the same way I wouldn't think of The Purge franchise or even Hunger Games as a chick/bro flick. Which is honestly not even a good comparison and is just based on genre, because Handmaids Tale is miles more brutal in terms of world…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 02:59 PM
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“Chick-flick-ish” Dear god.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 05:07 AM
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Sounds like these women in your life are subtly encouraging you to get out there more and actually try. Women aren’t just accidentally going to stumble in your home and fall on your dick, you have to flirt with them, ask them out etc. Sounds like you haven’t bothered with any of that and somehow you’re wondering why you have no luck doing something you’re quite literally NOT doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 05:03 AM
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You’re acting like it’s easy to spot a jokey rhetorical question on this sub, at first glance of that question judging from 99% of people’s extremely weird and nonsensical viewpoints if here; I also assumed it was serious. It is unfortunately genuinely not hard to believe some dudes on here would question why a woman wouldn’t stay with a man if he wanted to get married to someone else in the future but not to her, that’s just the kind of nonsense we all expect to read now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:51 AM
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That it? More nitpicking? Way to prove a point mate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 01:06 AM
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Idk what your point, obviously there are both men and women that aren't into fat people. I never said ALL women like fat guys, I said this post was ridiculous. God you people don't half nit-pick comments do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:58 PM
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Is this from personal experience or?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:13 PM
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I should've /s at the end of that sentence haha, but damn right lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:11 PM
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Hold on a second, you essentially used one type of woman as a factor in this experiment i.e. YOUR definition of a 'high quality woman' being MODELS and INFLUENCERS. And yet somehow, it didn't occur to you that models will be attracted to other model types? And your definition of a 'beta male' here will have it's own group of women that would think of that guy as their ultimate alpha, as the model type girls would consider the model type guy. As in, people have different preferences based on thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:02 PM
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Ah so you're just looking for a reaction, you don't actually believe what you're saying you just want people annoyed at the incompetence. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:30 PM
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Maybe pornstars do. You do something long and often enough it becomes what you know, like second nature. It still doesn't make it true that pornstars are just "normal women who know how to throw down in the bedroom" They're told what to do, instructed and prepped. They're told when to pretend to cum, they pump themselves full of coke pre-shoot to get hyped up and energetic, the over the top dramatic dirty talk and moaning isn't because the guy is making her feel good, it's because it brings in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:25 PM
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Ah yes, man believes the woman to is exclusively paid huge amounts of money to pretend to enjoy mediocre, stressful, and uncomfortable sex with a camera in her face and ass is actually the REAL depiction of sex. Yes very good, you are very intelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:45 PM
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You have no technical obligation to step in for anyone in trouble, but the oddly smug tone over it of this post is just weird. That's all I have to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:41 PM
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I mean, she's not tricking anyone into a relationship that would be uncomfortable with what she does. Sounds like she'd be upfront and pretty open about it. Can't fault the lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:34 PM
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Exactly what I was thinking, all I see from men is "looks looks looks" and bashing fat women, while all I see from women here is the literal range of men's bodies they like. It's almost as if instead of listening to us, they'd rather make up their own reality to be mad at!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:15 PM
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No. Why would we care if someone is socially viewed as 'undesirable'? The body positivity movement wasn't started by men, we the majority aren't emotionally bullying incels based on their looks but praising fat people, burn victims, etc for accepting theirs. Women don't like incels because the ones we come across thrive on insults, trying to demean and condescend us, write on here about wanting to legally fuck minors and not caring if their hypothetical sons are physically and emotionally sexual…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:37 PM
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I completely agree, and I also think these people and men are completely overlooking how mentally and emotionally damaging it can be for a child to have a sexual relationship with an adult. Yes in the moment it might feel accomplished or wanting, but whether it is noticed or cared about or not: that WILL have a developmental affect on their outlook on life, relationship toward sex and emotion, self esteem etc and very much etc. Shit like that will mess you up no matter how much you want it in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 05:57 PM
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I don't understand why some men say things like this and then those same men say "people only care about women and girls being sexually assaulted, what about men and boys?" Because apparently some of you are just straight up OKAY with your sons being taken advantage of, manipulated etc by older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:58 PM
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Stop acting like you give the tiniest shit about what complete strangers are doing lmao, I'm supposed to believe a random person on the internet actually CARES if strangers are fat or not? You passionately and angrily care about it? Or you passionately and angrily care that those same big ladies are out there fucking more than you? This is very funny and I don't even think you'll be able to zone out of your head bubble to see all the laughable sadness in it unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:42 AM
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Are you saying you view both men and women doing that to be sociopathic?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 02:58 PM
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Okay kid
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 12:38 AM
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Your key words here: 'instead of' You can have a hot guy be incredibly smart, you can have a hot guy be above average, you can have a hot guy be average and you can have a hot guy be dumb as shit. You can have an average looking guy be real intelligent, average or dumb as shit. An ugly guy be all those things. The point is there are a multitude of factors to be considered that isn't just smart or not. People DO care about looks, as they care about intelligence, as they care about many other thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 09:19 PM
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I mean this may be the experience for some, but it's absolutely not a rule or majority. There's so many conflicting opinions on here yet all of them are looking for a way to label all women as users. Intelligence is a factor for MOST people, men and women, who are educated or have intellectually demanding interests and hobbies. You're saying that men in general put a hard FOCUS on intelligence when selecting a potential partner where as women don't care? Well all I see from most men on this sub …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 08:49 PM
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Firstly what is the correlation between loathing your professional peers and being on tinder as if said co-workers should be the first port of call? If you're speaking strictly about people in a professional/educational environment, why would people want to shit where they eat if we're assuming tinder is hook-up focused, and we can imagine that these women have other social circles with likeminded/status individuals wherein starting up a relationship would have no career or complicating their pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:16 PM
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So there are zero intelligent women who want intelligent conversation with their partner? Or want to share hobbies and pastimes that serve intelligence in some way? And what about the women that already have significant prestige and money due to their own intelligence? People oftentimes date within their social circles, and someone with prestige and money is likely to date someone with similar prestige and money and not to gain something, but because it so happens that that is the kind of people…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 04:47 PM
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This is exactly what I was thinking. If someone you regard as an equally intelligent person is brushing you off from talking about intelligent topics, then you probably weren't having a conversation you were likely just talking AT them to get some kind of validation of your intelligence. Also, the majority of people don't want to engage in complex conversation just for the sake of it at a moments notice, it's sort of the same as the running joke about how 'deep' people will try to force a deep c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 04:39 PM
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I'm massively open to the alternative This is the issue. You shouldn't have to be 'open to the alternative', you should already know that obviously women are PEOPLE. As in, all people have depth and complexity. Why is this even something you would need to try and find out? This is just as ridiculous as saying "Are women even real? Maybe they're just lizards in a skin suit"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 04:06 AM
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Yeah honestly it seems like a copy and paste thought process from the comment sections here, it’s sad young people are being influenced to act and think like this honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:33 AM
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Why does this need explaining? FDS and TRP are both ridiculous ideologies that don’t represent reality, humans or refer to any context of anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:17 AM
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she needs to disclose every detail of her sexual past Is this a teenager that's written this? Surely adults getting into relationships don't act like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 07:30 PM
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no prob :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 09:52 PM
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Is it okay now?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 09:07 PM
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As a woman, I do nothing. In your context, he would be absolutely correct and justified in his decision because I do not feel it's okay to push people into doing things they were previously abused into doing. Glad to see all the women here reiterating the exact point I made on my post last week. If anyone thought I was bs’ing that we wouldn’t give a fuck because we UNDERSTAND and RESPECT people’s reasons for not allowing themselves to be taken advantage of, read these comments lmao Edit:typo Edi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 01:49 AM
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I appreciate and understand (both) your experience(s) But do not create such a ridged box for yourself, because if you ARE interested in meaningful friendships or relationships with women then you will miss out with this “do not ever” and “very rare” belief As a woman who who does not condemn emotions, hardships, feelings or opening up, we aren’t rare. But if you position and actively present yourself as someone who doesn’t experience emotion or never opens up, then you’re specifically going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:28 AM
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As a woman, those guys are NOT above average. This is probably why you have a hard time with women, because you don't understand them one single bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 12:37 AM
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The US isn't the whole world, it is an example. Take marital violence in India as another example. I am, again, not comparing these instances to OVERALL violence. I am saying these instances are a result of the 'judgment' of another autonomy. School shootings, stranger rejection violence, marital sexual assault, murder cases in which the driving motive was some form of rejection. THESE crimes I am saying are a result of people feeling JUSTIFIED on acting on their judgements. That is my point, is…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 09:44 PM
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Oh I definitely misunderstood your comment then haha. Agreed though, demand and reasonable expectation are certainly different. You can't ,reasonably expect, people not force or pressure you, that is an automatic non negotiable demand. But you can reasonably expect sex acts from partners barring valid reasons as to why not. Basically, everyone is entitled to bodily anatomy and communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 09:16 PM
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READ. I accept the right to judge. Just do not deny doing so has consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 09:04 PM
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Good job on infantilising me as an argument tool! I'm sure you are very well respected in debate communities. See mass shootings in response to social or romantic rejection See rape within marriages, as in, a feeling of automatic entitlement to a partners choice and body See rejection violence, a simple google search will show you it's prevalent enough of an issue. If you read very closely, I never said that the majority was all of those committing the crimes/acts being a result of this belief a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 08:58 PM
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If some people here are to imply they are the 'good choices' despite their views and actions stating otherwise, I think then the pool is just filled with a whole lotta bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 08:40 PM
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I very rarely will resort to this as I can usually rationalise other peoples points. but what the FUCK are you talking about? This entire discussion has just been you ignoring what I'm saying, then repeating what I've already said as if it is a counter argument, and then bringing points that are either obvious, established or irrelevant? Mate I can sleep at night with my solid stance, cannot say the same for you. This has been hilariously sad to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 08:32 PM
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I empathise with your awful experiences and for those I am truly sorry. But you shouldn't wear your sufferings as a 'badge of honour'. That is unhealthy, I and many women alike do not want you to suffer.
/r/MensRights12/12/21 08:16 PM
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Okay, show me that it isn't an infrequent result, either way I'm of the belief that it is, especially judging the 'I will get what I want through whatever nefarious means available to me' rhetoric I see on here and RP subs. I am arguing occurrence directly in response to you arguing against it, but I'm happy to oblige if you want to switch the narrative to frequency. Despite my point being 'it happens' and your original implication being 'it doesn't'. If you're happy to accept that it is a facto…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 07:49 PM
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Read my entire reply again, but apply it to what you've said and read it very carefully. All you've done is reword yourself and I despise repetition. My points stands, and I am utterly confident in it. If you cant understand that I'm not making a sweeping statement, and see the blatant holes in what you're saying then at least the lurkers will. I don't think I'm the one being obtuse here. Also your point on self proclaimed incel terrorists is again, proving my point. I didn't explicit state sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 07:10 PM
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You have clearly not read or are just plain refusing to comprehend what I have said. Are you really so disillusioned to believe that point A cannot and will never result in point B? It is not a debate. People OBVIOUSLY will commit crimes related to sex/insecurity/feeling 'owed' as a direct result of the whole concept of disagreeing with a basic human right. That is a fact. I didn't say it was all cases or every single person that does those things. But it is a FACTOR and it IS a reason for many.…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 05:54 PM
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Sure, others have the right to dislike and disagree with a basic human right of choosing who you have sex with. But you're acting like disagreeing with it doesn't come with consequences? It is not as harmless as simply expressing your thoughts on the choice. It directly influences those who are prone to committing illegal or questionable acts into feeling justified in doing so. Many rapes, harassment, stalking, threatening, etc and very much etc cases and situations against women who could not b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:53 PM
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Then we just disagree on the bottom line of it and cannot relate to each others perception of human nature and nuance. End of really.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:27 PM
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And with my last ex, I explicitly and maturely addressed and tried my absolute hardest to communicate the many points of my unhappiness for years and was met with nonchalance, ridicule, anger and 'bitching'. My prior ex all of the above and throw in diagnosed NPD, physical violence etc as I do not want to go into too much detail. Many ltr/shorter relationships before said ex just the top half, sans the abuse. Many friends and their exes just the top half sans the abuse. The women commenting thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:24 PM
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If you saw my own post here the other day you would've seen many comments quite disturbing comments implying the opposite of the above^ All of which were by men. So yes, on this sub I think there are those that do not understand or agree with this concept. But my intention and opinion would never be to hurt or imply hurt toward any gender, I just apparently wrongly assume that the above point is obvious to most men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:15 PM
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See my other comments. It's a very shitty thing to do when it's simply how they deal with all breakups. Of course there are exceptions as to why it might be understandable. Don't want to lump everyone in the same boat!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 04:09 PM
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Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 02:25 AM
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Agreed. But like I said, there are other factors besides attraction. It is not the be all and end all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 12:06 AM
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Believe me, I know the struggles of being a red head lol. But it depends on the reason WHY they're not giving head or doing anything else. That is the whole point. If there is NO reason, you already know I stand by thinking it is still their choice but why wouldn't they? Or their partner should find someone else because I agree that the issue is probably attraction. What I am saying is, is that there are other factors to consider before you double down on the reason being lack of attraction or l…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 10:57 PM
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Not one I can demand out of others but one I'm aware of. This. Some people really need to read this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:38 PM
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No I am not. If it's manipulative, I vehemently do not condone it. If it is for safety, in RESPONSE to manipulative behaviour, unconscious etc then I understand it. I made a comment detailing where it might be understandable and when it is not, read it before you reply because I don't want to spam by repeating myself. It is like people in this sub cannot comprehend context and real life outside of the reddit bubble.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:32 PM
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You know what I mean by skin off your nose. You know the differences in what i'm saying. I.e; mild discomfort you can put up with vs you were manipulated into an act in the past you didn't want. One is going to be fine to overcome for your partner, one has the ability to cause you mental anguish. This isn't hard to grasp. Not everything has to be all or nothing, levels exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:21 PM
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Read my other reply to someone else on this. Sometimes it’s just plain asshole/emotionally abusive to do this. Sometimes it’s valid, necessary or just makes sense to do this. Sometimes it’s not even a conscious choice. Context matters, relationships are all different. Find my other comment for more in depth
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:12 PM
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In the cases where he was a jackass/abusive/uncaring/manipulative etc etc, I don't see the problem. It's easier (and sometimes safer) to grey wall someone and then leave. Some people, many people, also do not consciously do this. You feel yourself pulling away but you still might have love for them, or THINK you have love for them, care about them etc. The other cases, where he is not one of those listed things? Yeah, put on your big boy/girl pants and breakup with them. Don't string them along …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:04 PM
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They’re just assholes who want to have the blame solely on their partner for not “fixing” problems they wouldn’t even acknowledge were trying to be fixed. You can't just generalise like that. I'm sure a good portion or even half these instances would be like that, where the gf is in the wrong and uninterested in fixing it. But the other portion/half? Yeah, she's distancing because she HAS tried fixing the problems and he was uninterested. Trying to fix them now when it is too late and she's over…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 07:58 PM
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Yes I agree. If you don't LOVE but it wouldn't be any skin off your nose to do something, give it a try. If you don't like something for a REASON that would hurt your body/mentality/relationship then talk about it together and come to an understanding. You also should not want to do something with your partner that you KNOW would hurt them mentally or hurt the relationship. It goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 07:46 PM
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I think what usually happens is being misconstrued. I'm sure many people do employ backup options, but what I understand is that there is a vast difference in the way men and women prepare and deploy breakups. Women usually spend weeks/months after internally deciding to breakup; grieving the relationship. As in, getting over the relationship and their partner before they actually end it. Oblivious to the change in behaviour, OFTEN this goes unnoticed and when the breakup DOES happen, it appear …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:54 PM
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I'm not talking about the normalcy of 'paying for dates'. Maybe it is just my area or in my experience and if so, I'm willing to concede that our individual experiences are not the same. But I'm talking about the normalcy of 'treating each other'. Each other being the operative word. Maybe this is just a healthy couple concept. As in, turn taking, or one gets the movie and one gets the snacks. I imagine I agree about as much as you do in the idea that men should pay for everything and never be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 11:51 AM
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But. It is just not usually the truth. I’m not arguing that your version never, ever happens. I’m in the belief it’s an everyday occurrence for people in the single, casual market to decide who you’re going to fuck and who you’re not based quite heavily on attractiveness. But the fact remains that OTHER, quite important factors come into play when you’re discussing relationships. And believing that you have a healthy partner who will not force, manipulate, take advantage of for a sex act IS A HE…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 11:26 AM
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I agree with that, but I’m referring to the instance in which they will say that there is no other possible reason. It starts and ends with “attraction” and if she won’t give in, despite her reasons, then she simply does not love me enough. Feelings matter up until the point they are actively harming other people and are delusional. That goes both ways, I hope you see what I mean. But I agree, the only answer is to just act accordingly for your best interests in the situation. The only two optio…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 10:57 AM
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Oh no worries. I think that's been happening a lot on this post lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:21 PM
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Okay, let's even the scales in terms of a trade off. Say you or another hypothetical man wants to do anal with a gf and she doesn't want to but is willing to give it a shot. She wants to do pegging and you/this dude equally do not want to. Are you going the extra mile? And what I was specifically talking about in my reply, was not in situations where it just a case of simply 'wasting money' but comparatively in a case where hypothetical woman does not want to do a sex act due to being exploited …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:46 PM
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Agreed that you treat your partner better than you treat other guys. What I'm arguing is that a sex act does not exclusively, and very likely doesn't equate to treating someone better than someone else in the eyes of women. I accept that that seems to be the way a man might FEEL in the hypothetical situation, but that is not the REALITY of the situation in the majority of cases. If your ONLY qualification of being treated better resides in getting 99 out of 100 of her sex acts, while her ex got …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:39 PM
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Because.. Because that is not what the topic is about. My post is about the dozens of other posts talking about relationships. If you switch the narrative then the whole discussion changes and becomes something totally different. Why would anyone care if their casual sex partner did a sex act with their ex and not with you? You aren't committed to each other or in love, no expectations of that person to treat you as you treat a partner. It would be a non issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:29 PM
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I think I misunderstood the phrase as literal, I haven't heard that one before. But okay I am genuinely interested in a breakdown of this separate from the original conversation so I can make sure I'm understanding your perspective. So just to clarify, do these alpha situations include or exclude the situations I described in my post? As in, would an abusive or otherwise sexually morally distorted guy qualify as this if his 'title' was earned through exploitation, manipulation, taking advantage …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:12 PM
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It's not that I blame them for thinking it, it just seems when presented with a selection of counter evidence they're very quick to disregard. I can completely understand and sympathise the emotional side of it to an extent, but sometimes you cross a point where you can't battle feeling with logic because it's exhausting. The 'no rules for chad but rules for me' mindset is visibly toxic. Look at some of the genuinely disturbing comments on here. It's not something I think needs any kind of promo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:00 PM
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Well yes. As we’re discussing boundaries and people setting or not setting them. This scenario most clearly reflects the explanation of what I said. Obviously you can use another scenario, but if you want me to break down each one with the same point that might be tedious no? And there is a difference in how people view sex and people. To your point, You do realise it’s entirely possible for a woman or man to give a fuck about the feelings and humanity of a person you’re just fucking? You don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 12:42 PM
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That is literally exactly what I’m saying. That the reasons are key and Important, and based on those reasons you figure out if the relationship continues or it doesn’t. Exactly what I’m saying. But it isn’t ‘alpha fucks beta bucks’ Everyone fucks. Some people just don’t want to do certain things regardless of attractiveness. There are plenty more things to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 12:37 PM
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That’s your right to expect from partners you’re compatible with. Just don’t disregard other people’s perfectly valid reasons for not wanting to do ONE thing as ridiculous. People aren’t black and white, there are reasons for most decisions. I’m only trying to convey that message on be of those who were shut down for even suggesting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 12:34 PM
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Anyone can expect anything. It's the reaction to boundaries that separates people. As in, you can feel entitled to something and be react angrily when someone doesn't agree and refuses. Yes, okay, lets say ALL sex acts are a relationship specific expectation. Does not change my point, I was merely comparing them to the normalcy of treating your partners vs the less normalcy of couples all engaging and being okay with the same acts. One is much more equal and quantifiable than the other. But even…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:42 AM
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Agreed, perception, individual perspectives and communication are key factors here. And yes. Anyone can end a relationship for any reason. If we're acknowledging that anal isn't a relationship specific-expectation in comparison to treating each other, then we're acknowledging the prospect of experiencing anal sex is likely more of a priority right now than engaging in a LTR. While I think this mindset probably should've (and if this wasn't hypothetical, probably would have because someone willin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:29 AM
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I am not talking about casual sex. I am talking about established serious relationships. I am talking about this within the confines of the men that have already committed, as the topic is specifically about this issue within relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:20 AM
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To save you some time, I draw the line where either I understand his reasoning but maybe the situation doesn't meet a need of mine. In which at that point you look for someone more compatible. Or I draw the line at the obvious point in which there is no REASON for the difference is treatment, it is because he simply does not like me as much. As I also said, at that point you leave. But to answer your question, Yes same answer. Especially in that scenario. Might I be a little surprised? Yes, Migh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:15 AM
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Yes, completely fair to me. Why would that not be? Edit: Because it's not about me, or an ex, or any kind of competition for who loves who more. He was insecure, paying for things unnecessarily was the unhealthy way of dealing with that emotion. He is no longer insecure, why would I WANT him to A) continue feeling insecure for my own gain or B) Be unfair and unreasonable for no good reason, when I know he is being perfectly logical and fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:58 AM
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Well that would depend on your reason for not wanting to do it but still doing it. Was this woman financially abusive? Were you impressionable and thought that was what HAD to be done in a relationship? Were you made to feel inadequate if you did not provide the trips but have now developed a better sense of self worth and left that toxic woman behind? If so, yes. Completely reasonable imo. Edit: I would not want a partner to feel like he owed me anything. If my reasons above, or any others, app…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:47 AM
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You're right and I did acknowledge multiple times in my other points that honesty and communication is fundamental. If someone is dishonest, that is on them, regardless of sex. But can I ask, is that issue related to women/wives not wanting to do one or two specific sex acts or is it related to low libido? IMO low libido is not what I'm talking about and an entirely different issue to this one, but one I'd still be happy to discuss
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:44 AM
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Why would you not want to find someone compatible with your needs to have them met? Why would you actively try to persuade someone who is not compatible, to be compatible, when you could find someone that is suited to you? ALSO, why would you engage in a relationship just for sex, get mad when that person has feelings and boundaries, when there are millions of likeminded people who will not put up those blocks? I don't understand this logic, it is very literally, bottom of the barrel pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:40 AM
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No one said they were the only gender. And yes, that's okay with me. Given he has one of the reasons stated in my post. If not, I will find someone sexually compatible with me. It's not that fucking hard to understand. People do not NEED to be uncomfortable. Find someone compatible to you that is on the same page. You have no obligation to stick around if you haven't found what you're looking for. You people honestly..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:36 AM
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If someone is not doing something for you that would be no skin off their nose/reasonable relationship expectations; without a valid reason for doing so, then you find someone who will. You are not compatible and no one is saying you have to stick around and deal with it. Way to be dramatic and miss the whole, extremely obvious point. It's like talking to children istg
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:34 AM
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I said 'outside of that rough sex fiasco' and acknowledged headspace. Reading is fundamental. And as I previously said, no one should be feeling uncomfortable and couples should communicate. If a man can only orgasm through anal sex, and a woman does not want to do anal sex, there's only really one solution; and that solution is not forcing one of them to suffer? Obviously? Find someone compatible to your needs. It's not that difficult to understand, I cant help but wonder if these types of ques…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:30 AM
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1) Assuming we're probably referring to anal sex (hence my logistics comment) A dick can be perfect for vaginal sex. Your anus is not a vagina, it will not work to accommodate a dick. Girth, length, shape, left to right leaning, all great variations and accommodatable for a vagina. Not a bumhole. 2) Your last comment "I think the men who seem to treat women nice and respectfully are the ones their partners end up setting boundaries with" Uh yes? But I don't understand why you've framed that as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 10:25 AM
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That's a fair observation, but I would be inclined to imply that what was publicly expressed before that observation was the whole 'body count-thot-for the streets- rhetoric when discussing potential partners. It's not a far cry to assume that, if your observation is correct, it hasn't stemmed from a place of deceit or 'lying to your beta to hide the alphas', but more in the effort to avoid unwarranted judgement and preconceived notions? But yes, I'm sure there are those that do it to cover thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:59 AM
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That's a valid point and I accept that. The only thing I can really say to that is to encourage better communication between partners. It's not fair for anyone to do something they're uncomfortable with. But remember, outside of that rough sex fiasco, it's probably not healthy to view giving your partner an orgasm as a chore while you're expecting one (assuming so). Not sure what the other reasons might be for that outside of stamina, libido and headspace. Something to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:30 AM
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While I do appreciate your acknowledgement to my attempt to understand, and I respect you may have had some unpleasant interactions with women on here. I don't enjoy being singled out as a 'good one', there are lots of women I've seen make this very point, I hope you can get to talking with them :) But to your point, I can understand why insulted and hurt would be the initial reaction. But is there a point of understanding that the reason is often NOT that the previous partner was better? In my …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:22 AM
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'women lie so often that...' I'm just going to stop you right there. I thought this was a discussion/debate not a sexist circlejerk. If you're going to do that, just don't bother responding. I won't dignify it. Change the phrasing and you have the reality that SOME people do lie in relationships. An unfortunate reality we cannot avoid. But you apply pessimism to everyone and nobody wins. Vet your dates, keep your standards high and trust your judgement. Presumably if you land someone you respect…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:13 AM
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And that wouldn't be fair. See above comment smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:01 AM
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Because regular ass people are not that fucking insane? It doesn't NEED a statistic, obviously? You realise I'm SPECIFICALLY referencing a person that ENJOYS something, but REFUSES to do it for no reason? As in, has sought out a relationship with someone, they are serious together and have been for awhile, and person A refuses to do something with ZERO reason. And you're acting like that insanity is some quantifiable number that disproportionately effects the majority of men in relationships and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 09:01 AM
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Amazing! Best of luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:47 AM
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Yes they are. But you're disregarding the vast majority that A) Aren't getting into serious relationships with people they do not like (we aren't talking about FWB, talking stages, casual etc) B) The people that WOULDNT lie in this situation. Myself being an example, having been in the exact situation. You can say I'm the exception but that just isn't true, there is nothing fundamentally different about my outlook than the women I surround myself with, and those they surround themselves with etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:47 AM
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I don't understand the reply. My answer to your questions is just the same. If there's a reason, right lets work it out. If the reason is not compatible with me, I can respectfully revaluate my involvement without making him out to be a monster. He would still be within his rights, I don't have to like it, but wtf am I going to do other than find someone else who is compatible with my wants? If there is no reason, see above. But this time, anyone would maintain much more of a right to talk shit …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:41 AM
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I'm sorry to hear it, but glad to hear it wasn't anyone's fundamental judgement or personality flaw that caused it haha, maybe that leaves room for hope it can fixed? Wish you luck dude, shit isn't set in stone, I'm sure you'll figure it out :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:30 AM
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Thankyou, I really appreciate it. It's like 8am and bouncing ping pong balls off of brick walls get's pretty exhausting by about 5. I like that line, but I would imagine that would probably generate some responses akin to "Men are proportionately disadvantaged in the sufficient collection of young, naïve vaginas. Why should we have to bow to the needs of females who won't beg for our approval like they did for their brainwashing abusive ex, not fair :(" I swear I have done my best to not be sarc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:23 AM
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I think it's fair to assume in your scenario, most women, myself included, would imagine mr 'betabux' would be less interested in participating in an act she had genuine reason to not want to participate in, as in; understanding of her reasoning and valuing her humanity and partnership over the wanting of a single sexual act. This is assuming she has a valid reason and isn't just plain dismissive of his personhood or wants. In that case, it's very cut and dry. She either has a valid reason and y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:14 AM
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Ah yes, excuses. There could be no other, valid reason for it. You're completely right. The audacity of us ammirite?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:02 AM
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This was funny but also I'm sorry to hear it. Out of curiosity though if you don't mind talking about it, was there something that caused the decline or would you say it's just something that happens in combination with age and ltr?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:55 AM
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I read the first line and thought, okay, seems fair, a good suggestion on how to better stabilise society. Then I read the second one and just completely checked out. I from the bottom of my heart hope you're not serious. If you are open to hearing REAL experiences and looking into the actual psychology of abusers, people with NPD etc then feel free to message me and we can talk. But as a victim of severe and terrible mental and physical abuse by the type of person you claim to be as 'not comple…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:53 AM
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Foul. You are not 'edgy' or a messiah of men. I would assume many men would find this attitude repulsive. Please, seek help.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:44 AM
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No because you'd be absolutely correct, I agree with you that men go the extra mile for women they think are worth it. But 'going the extra mile' is not disregarding any of your own perfectly valid reasons for not engaging in a act. If you don't have a reason, then I agree with you, you lose nothing at the expense of doing something fun for/with your partner, and if you choose not to then they have the right to be upset with you for brushing off their wants for NO REASON (key words there). But i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:41 AM
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No you're right. Anal was the example because it was specifically the topic of discussion this week haha. But take any act, and apply any of the reasons listed. It still stands. If she was never manipulated or tricked despite not liking it, didn't like it then but did it for validation and has her own self worth now (look for a different comment where I addressed 'why did she want his validation but not mine') or any of the other examples in my post, but for absolutely no reason she doesn't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:34 AM
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Obviously not. Environment, experience, interaction, upbringing etc etc influence your state of mind and level of maturity. Young men are also often the victims to abusive older women, and those looking to take advantage of naivety. Even outside of relationships, isn't it both majorly young male children AND 17-21 year old men that are targeted with military service propaganda? You have zero idea about what you're talking about, you just want an argument with someone that isn't pro-taking advant…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:23 AM
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Glad to hear it, while I vehemently disagree with your perspective, it is your right to have and dictate your own life by. Username checks out btw
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:14 AM
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My point being that my example is what you assume is the exception, when the exception is actually what you’ve all been debating about. The exception is the people you all claim are the majority, who are so black and white that they strut around with their lives completely defined by attractiveness. No other factors, they have no nuance or critical thinking. Just this abstract silhouette of a woman you’re imagining that does not make up for vast population of real lives and real people. And you …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:11 AM
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Okay, just a troll then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:02 AM
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I didn’t see that comment, and didn’t think it would make much difference seeing as I’m getting a lot of extremism of entitlement elsewhere in these comments haha, But my main point was just individualism and context, yeah I might have tried, but there absolutely are others in a similar situation to me that haven’t that my point aligns with
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:01 AM
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I’m grateful for you highlighting the point about stable vs unstable relationship. A person who has not established boundaries and self love is not going to make a healthy partner, mother, or team player. But as a person who WAS subject to a cruel ex in adulthood, I take issue with your phrasing of ‘letting it happen’. You don’t get with a guy and the colours are shown immediately. It often takes years, slowly and gradually and very very subtly breaking down those walls of individuality, confide…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:58 AM
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No one owes you anything just as much as you do not owe someone your time or effort if they are not offering what you want. You are well within your rights to think in this distorted, out of touch, frankly quite strange and upsetting manner but do not subject non-like minded individuals to it. Find someone who is COMPATIBLE with your beliefs and the problem will be solved and everyone will be happy. If you find someone who thinks the same way that you do, then this entire thing would be an compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:44 AM
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I am not entertaining this if I’m right in assuming the implication here is to find young women who are still in their naive and easily influenced state of mind in order to specifically get certain sex acts from them that you would otherwise assume they would regret/not want to do if they had more experience and knowledge. For anyone reading, THIS RIGHT HERE is the bottom of the barrel. Don’t be like this guy. Many of you here are understanding, lovely and interesting human beings that have a fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:37 AM
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Maybe that’s true maybe it isn’t. My very overarching point in many of my comments is that it just falls down to the truth of the situation. You are either going to trust your partners word or you are not. You are either in a healthy, communicating relationship or you are not. You don’t know me, you are not in a relationship with me, why would you trust me? Completely understandable. My partner is, and he does. That’s what’s matters, that is the point. Much less people than you think are devious…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:31 AM
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It is not undeniable, to me, that 5 straight decades of 2nd and 3rd wave feminism has produced redpills. The development of the perspective makes complete sense. You can’t have one thing without another. And yes, I understand redpills label them and sort them. That’s ironically what I’m taking issue with. I, however, am not confused nor do I exclusively promote ‘feel good’ responses. More ridiculous topics than you might think are extremely obvious in a way you don’t, can’t or won’t relate to. Y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 06:14 AM
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It really is all about context and individual people. I don’t want to go too TMI as I am still a person not an avatar ahah, but we have tried. We also fall into the category of “different sex organ to ex” My current partner is significantly more endowed. I do care about his wants, of course. Like I said, people’s reasons and experiences are all different. And many men really are much more kind, considerate and caring than some on Reddit make them out to be haha. My partner doesn’t mind because, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:49 AM
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Haha glad you didn’t run screaming! But yes that’s an extremely good point. I think in a case where you have someone who falls into the “acceptably comfortable” range with presumably no other ill-effected traumas/issues involved, you’ll probably have a couple scenarios: - You have a very varied, exciting and satisfying sex life with your CO to the point where, while acceptably comfortable, the cons of it that do still exist only JUST about outweigh doing it where both partners just agree it as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:41 AM
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I answered something similar in another comment. But to your exact point, exotic vacations meals etc are usually enjoyable and fun for both parties, people will very rarely have an aversion to vacations haha. But if you mean more “I spent so much money on my ex and really spoiled her, but I am not willing to do that for you” then yes! Of course I would feel hurt! Not because I EXPECT my partner to splash a ton of money on me and spoil me rotten ( I do not, and never would) but because I understa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:16 AM
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No I do agree with what you’ve said to an extent, if you look through some of my other replies I believe I’ve addressed your point almost exactly if you’d like to try and find them. I don’t want to spam by repeating myself over and over but if you do want to find it and point out anything else then I’m happy to discuss :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:05 AM
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See the rest of my comments, plenty of people have disagreed, and I have been happy to engage :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:03 AM
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Do you know the definition of indoctrination? I am more than willing to accept and discuss any criticisms, holes or issues with my opinions. I am not willing to engage in pointless back and forth with people who have created a separate explanation of reality outside of reality. You are free to hold your opinions, but I see no point in discussing them when they are not based in logic, reality or fact. It is purely blanket statements with no reasonable backup. It’s generalising with zero room for …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 05:01 AM
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If you scroll down you will see my own personal anecdote. Tldr: I did a sex act with a crappy ex for validation in my past. I am no longer in a shitty relationship, I no longer have questionable self esteem. Current partner is in all ways; superior. I am not interested in doing aforementioned sex act anymore. It was uncomfortable and painful. Me and current partner have a very non-vanilla sex life. I do not starfish on the bed and expect him to be satisfied. ONE act I am not interested in being …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:54 AM
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Look man, I don’t see the point in engaging with this comment but for the sake of anyone else reading; If you’re already raring to go using Red Pill or Female Dating Strategy buzzwords and making blanket statements about things with no reasoning or critical thinking, then this isn’t the post for you. I’m not interested in conversing with people who are already indoctrinated into a specific set of beliefs or mindset. Your minds will not bend to logic or reason. Please go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:43 AM
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See my comment^
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:36 AM
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No you’re not taking crazy pills, I completely get where you’re coming from. I think it’s just extremely easy to see the world from our own perspective and figure that that’s how everyone thinks. Really, everyone has a different POV on what is extremely or mildly uncomfortable for them, what is a crossing of their boundaries and what is compromise etc. I can actually speak from this personally. TMI warning if you’re not comfortable with hearing my sex anecdote. Years ago I was previously in a ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:31 AM
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If my partner experienced pain, discomfort, or upset during sex I would absolutely stop. Luckily, at least in my experience, most men do not see getting their partner to orgasm as an uncomfortable chore. More so enjoyable, sexy, fun, and if it the stamina DOES start taking a hit, it usually means you pause for awhile or get creative with it :) If you don’t enjoy bringing your partner to orgasm I suggest you talk to her about it and figure out a way that works for both of you, although judging fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:16 AM
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Agreed, honesty and communication saves a lot of hassle and gets everyone to where they want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:10 AM
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Yes completely agree. This post was predominantly targeted at those who would be genuinely interested in a breakdown of the discussion between all the arguments and thousands of conflicting points and misunderstandings. There are absolutely people here who just straight up only care about their own sexual satisfaction, at the complete expense of another persons wellbeing. Those are not people that I care to even try and reason with, I would rather just forget they exist and hope I don’t bump int…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:08 AM
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While I completely respect your point, and really do admire your maturity, I do think it’s unreasonable to assume people wouldn’t at first be hurt or feel strange that their partner did something with their ex and enjoyed it/didn’t mind it at no personal expense or discomfort (key part) but won’t do it with you. But in reality, I think a simple discussion regarding how your partner has likely developed their boundaries since then and just simply doesn’t want to participate in things they don’t e…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 04:04 AM
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I don’t disagree with you. If all you want is a particular sex act, and you do not care why someone won’t do it, then you should absolutely leave the relationship. Go and find what you want with someone else, and she can do the same. But also, if you don’t care about your partners feelings, well-being, or boundaries then you just straight up shouldn’t be getting into relationships with other human beings. Be single and have casual sex with people who equally do not care about you as a person. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:56 AM
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Exactly this. I’m hoping most of the argument around this topic is rooted in regular Reddit miscommunication and understanding of what the other person is getting at. But unfortunately at least SOME people are implying they wouldn’t care about the boundaries, reasons, insecurity etc of their girlfriend, they just feel as though they are entitled to any sex acts her ex got to have, regardless of the criminal, evil, or plain jackass scenario in which he got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:51 AM
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Hence why I said, in the 0.0001% of cases where someone would be as nonsensical as to enjoy a sex act with an ex, but refuse to do it with their current partner; the current partner has no obligation to be okay with that and stick around. The reality is, regular everyday people are NOT that nonsensical, and 99.99% of the time there will be a valid reason for her not doing it if that is the situation at hand. Edit: “and stick around”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:46 AM
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We definitely all are. But ironically, divorcing your husband because they’re not attracted to them is probably the most honest someone could be about their preferences haha. But in all seriousness, do you think then that maybe in previous generations there was more of a taboo about being upfront with your physical preferences; which led to unhappy pairings; which now is leading to divorces? Or another reason? But if it was for another reason, such as financial stability, I do sort of fail to un…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:44 AM
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Could you clarify what you mean in your first point in relation to those who lie about their preferences? Just want to be sure I’m not misunderstanding And while I agree there are woman who keep a ‘seat warmer’ so to speak by staying with a man they aren’t that into, I’ve personally found that it seems more common for women to hang around too long in a relationship they don’t want while it’s more common for men to string along the hope of a relationship with women they don’t want. Seems like a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:59 AM
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See edit
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:47 AM
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I don’t agree with ANY hard and fast rule in these kind of mindsets or situations. RP, FDS and any others out there come up with these ‘rules’ to weed out undesirables but really it just comes off as ridiculous. Context matters in the real world and you won’t set yourself up for any kind of decent, fun, spontaneous, enjoyable life if you’re restricting yourself and others to that kinda nonsense. Edit: to clarify; my point is CONTEXT. As in, not every woman is using you and not every man is cheap…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:45 AM
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As a woman, with many close friends being women; in MY own social circle I’ve never really encountered lying about your preference for men. Personally for me; if you looked at my dating records you wouldn’t see ANY kind of pattern in the physical department. I’ve liked different things at different stages of my life and preferences change as you change and your environment changes, and for me; I just like who I like. My best friend is very openly into larger frame men; be it chubby or muscular w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:39 AM
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A lot of these grievances are connected. There would be more than enough money to go around if the people hoarding most of it paid their fair share as opposed to exploiting loopholes. It isn't 'taxpayers vs taxpayers who need access to services' it's 'taxpayers vs the people hoarding their taxes'. Transgender people ARE taxpayers and deserve to have their money put into services they need as much as you. Suicide rates in the entire lgbt community are staggering. This doesn't make them defective …
/r/MensRights09/12/21 02:20 PM
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This isn’t a sarcastic question so please actually respond to this directly; what is it exactly that personally bothers and affects you about it? Also, that comment sounds very familiar. Hold on, isn’t that exactly what society did to gay people? Yes, and then we realised it’s actually NOT an illness and we can actually just leave people alone to live in peace without locking them up in institutions.
/r/MensRights09/12/21 04:39 AM
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Maybe I should just post ss of this discussion so we can end this whole topic for good haha :) I personally think us reasonable minds are getting overshadowed by the miscommunication comments, the 'get over it incel' ladies, and the 'just pressure her' bros. But yes completely agree with your points, lets hope we get some visibility to the sub lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 09:30 PM
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Thankyou for addressing each point, I physically cheer at an in-depth conversation on reddit that isn't sarcasm haha. Just to clarify on the first point about how long she might know CP compared to ex, I do personally think it would matter to most in context. Say a woman was with an ex for 5 years and they did anal, and she's been with the new partner for 6 months and they're in the honeymoon phase; 1) you don't have complete trust in someone at 6 months, many non-vanilla sex acts require some l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 09:04 PM
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not directed at me but I wanna answer. She ENJOYED anal with her exes but doesn’t want to do it with you. First ask the questions to yourself: 1) how long have I known her compared to her exes? 2) my dick particularly girthy? Is the shape not butthole-compatible? 3) could the reason be an embarrassing recent medical issue? If none of those questions are relevant, and she genuinely LIKES anal sex, then yes obviously it would be very odd as to why she doesn’t want to do it with you, and probably d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:46 PM
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Maybe I should have clarified. I wasn’t speaking on 25 to then 50. Sure you could use that gap as the example and answer accordingly; but assuming your answer was ‘yes’ to that question, regardless of the issue of being attracted to the younger version, to me that still begs the question of specifically why would you feel okay taking advantage of the naive, insecure 25 year old’s need for validation for short term satisfaction. But also, I did mean an age age more like say 20: naive, easily pres…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:12 PM
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The facts seem to be hurting YOUR feelings. Gender dysphoria is the illness, transitioning is the cure. If a brain is developed as a female brain, but the body is male, you fix the body to match the brain. And Vice Versa. Why are you crying over someone else’s body lol? Edit: typo
/r/MensRights08/12/21 08:04 PM
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Simping isnt wanting or giving a affection my guy, nor is it being nice or respectful. It’s demeaning yourself for approval. I.e: continuing to shower a girl/guy with compliments and gifts despite the fact she/he is genuinely nasty to you and uninterested. (Unless it is an abusive situation) On the other hand, showering someone with affection who is interested in you and reciprocates those gestures is NOT simping. You’re just paying for a service, and presumably going to have a nice time.
/r/MensRights08/12/21 07:59 PM
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Very strange response. Why is phase 2 of the hypothetical woman automatically less attractive, more demanding and less pleasing? Odd assumption. I also never said it was in exchange for commitment, it was personality type A vs personality type B, being in a relationship with the woman in BOTH examples was implied as part of the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:49 PM
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Completely agree with you, and good point on the remark that the only socially acceptable forms of emotional outlet is encouraged violence. I do also think the homophobic nature of society also extends to internalised homophobia too, such as adamantly not wanting to be perceived as gay for having intimate friendships with other males. I think it is something that certainly needs to be unlearned, but I do also think that labelling any intimate friendship as homosexual is damaging to everyone. Man…
/r/MensRights08/12/21 07:45 PM
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Sure, I mean in terms of a Chad who is comfortable executing pressure, negging, guilt tripping, reward or ultimatum etc etc. upon a woman who is fairly obviously to him; quite insecure within herself and the relationship and naive to her ability to place boundaries. The manipulation there would lie in the intentions and the actions of the Chad done purposely against the vulnerabilities of the woman with the end goal of getting a sex act. But notice in my previous comments I added “,or” to clarif…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:26 AM
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I see your point in that it successfully gets the job done which helps all of those people; men included. But I don’t think it’s right to say that it does NO harm. The narrative strung along in exactly these types of charity media is WHY poverty stricken men are often pushed to side when they aren’t included in a family unit with women and/or children. Yes, this type of coverage helps everyone in those specific situations, but the unsung narrative indirectly hurts vulnerable men elsewhere. Subco…
/r/MensRights08/12/21 04:12 AM
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Traditional women will be traditional. Idk why this is surprising, conservatism doesn’t move for modernity or equality of groups. Note I am pro no sides, they all suck, I just do not see how this is surprising.
/r/MensRights08/12/21 04:01 AM
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I’m a little confused, are you worried a child would falsely accuse you or that someone else would falsely accuse you of hurting the child? But to your point, women do understand that a FALSE accusation can ruin the life of an INNOCENT man, it’s complete and utter degenerates that do not CARE if a false accusation ruins a life. But false accusations do not happen to nearly even slightly the same scale as real ones. If you’re not doing any casual everyday raping or molesting then you have more ch…
/r/MensRights08/12/21 03:56 AM
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Uhhhh this doesn’t seem like a ‘sexes’ issue, this seems like a ‘your gf is being quite immature and selfish right now’ issue (assuming this is a recently developed problem). Just talk to her about it dude
/r/MensRights08/12/21 03:49 AM
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Yes absolutely the very intimate, open style of female and lgbtq+ friendships are definitely the sort of gold standard for representing friendships in society. I don’t necessarily think that’s a bad thing, majority is majority and what is most seen will be most understood, but I do absolutely think people should make themselves aware that there is of course more than one way to have friends. Reserved friendships are just as much friendships as me spooning my bestfriend after a night out haha. Bu…
/r/MensRights08/12/21 03:44 AM
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Interesting observation, I do have to wonder though if that comes down to the quite vast difference in which the sexes have displayed their friendships? As in the sort of running joke that many close female friends will often be mistaken as lesbian couples due to the very VERY physical, mental and emotional closeness they (we) usually display quite publicly and openly. I feel that maybe that sort of BOLD and public closeness may overshadow the other styles of having friendships which often would…
/r/MensRights08/12/21 03:29 AM
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I’m getting the impression from the wording of a lot of these comments that it is very much a generalisation of all women in this scenario, and that there isn’t room for other, vastly more common reasons someone wouldn’t want to participate in a sexual act again. I’d be very much inclined to say that while yes, I’m sure some women are manipulated into seeking Chad validation, or have insecurities that lead them into sex acts they don’t really want to do for ‘approval’, it isn’t MORE common than …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:18 AM
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“She didn’t like it but she cared so much about the validation from the Chad she went with it enthusiastically for his needs” This part doesn’t make sense to me. Plenty of women WANT to try anal, it isn’t something that is purely reserved for male pleasure/curiosity. We are sexually curious too. Some women may have tried it for the first time with their ex, find out they don’t like it, and then never do it again with their ex and current partner. ALSO another point you have to consider is absolu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 02:50 AM
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Ooh that’s a good point I didn’t think of that, I guess read into it or use some sort of VPN to be on the safe side maybe?:)
/r/MensRights29/11/21 05:28 AM
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I don't understand why you were being downvoted, you were asking a valid question. I personally completely disagree with circumcision, but it's important for people who don't know the negatives or have questions to be able to interact with and read these threads without them being downvoted and hidden away is it not?
/r/MensRights28/11/21 05:34 PM
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Just go on google maps and choose a random address to put in haha
/r/MensRights28/11/21 05:30 PM
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Thankyou I appreciate that. I didn't mean to 'trauma-dump' on your post, having slept on it and re-reading it I can see it somewhat reading that way so I apologise for that, I just wanted to highlight some of the similarities me and others have found with this specific situation. I would be the first to advocate for male DV survivors, but unfortunately it's all too common for people like him to make their partner look crazy and unhinged to create a manipulated narrative, and she comes off as inc…
/r/MensRights27/11/21 12:49 PM
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I don’t really understand these comments. As someone who managed to escape a man who would physically and verbally abuse me and purposely try and push me into an emotional, vulnerable and ‘hysterical’ state in public while he could switch off his deranged anger and vile words at a moments notice to turn on the boyish charm to strangers and friends; all in an effort to push the narrative that he was lovely and upstanding and to discredit me weeks, months, years in advance to where I might speak o…
/r/MensRights27/11/21 05:54 AM
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Exactly the writing just wasn’t great, and the acting just felt off. I have to admit I wasn’t able to swallow more than an episode or two cause it really just didn’t vibe with me, but could you tell me some examples of the ‘girl power’ focus in it? I do generally agree though, doing the whole ‘girl power’ thing for the SAKE of it does feel honestly a bit condescending as a woman. Unless it’s relevant to the story or a theme, adding in unnecessary buzzfeed-like dialogue about being a woman existi…
/r/MensRights19/11/21 06:10 PM
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Exactly, well said. The point of ‘black lives matter’ is to -specifically- shed light on injustices committed against black people BECAUSE they are black. “All lives matter” is basically just saying ‘no crimes against anyone should be committed ever’ It’s obviously not wrong or incorrect, it’s just blatantly fuckin obvious. The point of BLM is to SPECIFICALLY shut down racists, stand against injustice within the police system, and show support for black people that have been victims of mistreatm…
/r/MensRights19/11/21 06:01 PM
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I’ve thought a lot about the Doctor Who issue. It didn’t tank because they made the Doctor a woman, they just cast the wrong woman. When they made Missy the new master, she was FANTASTIC. Seriously, imo the perfect new casting added so much depth and layering to that storyline that just resonated perfectly, so you can’t say it’s gender based. Jodie wasn’t right for the part of the Doctor is the only issue. She would’ve made a good companion, but Olivia Coleman, Helena Bonham Carter, Minnie Drive…
/r/MensRights19/11/21 05:52 AM
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From what I’ve personally encountered, It’s ‘Whatabouism’ when someone who genuinely doesn’t care about any of the issues just brings up the ‘what abouts’ for the sake of an argument or in some cases actually just do not like the opposite sex. Edit- I.e say you have a dude commenting on a women’s dv awareness post sumn like “yeah we’ll all women are fuckin liars anyway, what about the men that need help?” (Source, literally check the comments on ANY activism/news site Facebook post) These kinds …
/r/MensRights19/11/21 05:24 AM
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Happy mens day!
/r/MensRights19/11/21 05:09 AM
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This is assuming every woman in her 20’s looks like how she wants to look, is mentally and physically healthy enough in order to “be their true selves” and doesn’t take into account cultural restraints. A better way of putting this would be to say ANYONE shows their true character when they are mentally and physically at their best, because whatever age or time that is, being at the top of your game really reflects who you are as a person at your core. Nothing to do with the specifics of age and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:57 AM
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"The way Tinder operates leads vulnerable individuals towards depression, feelings of isolation, and some will even resort to acts of violence against the general public" This part is harmful. Depression and isolation? Sure, I can see how any major corporation involved in digital social lives could play a role in that. Violence? Nah, sorry, that's a scapegoat for a deeper problem that's your own responsibility to handle. Don't give people that are already prone to physically taking out their iss…
/r/MensRights15/11/21 02:45 AM
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I relate to how rough it can be giving your absolute best to someone undeserving, only to feel like you have nothing left to give when someone deserving comes along. Great to know you got it back! Takes a lot of work and confidence :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:22 PM
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The 3 months after part is rough, but don’t lose that creative, loving part of yourself because it wasn’t suited to someone from your past.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:17 PM
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That’s fair enough I see the irony there lmao, I wasn’t aware that the meaning had evolved to be used in that buzzfeed-esque kind of way, I guess I just don’t socially or digitally move in circles of those kinds of people that would use it in that manner. I’m sorry that’s been your experience. I can see where that frustration would come from if you’ve also experienced that treatment first hand, maybe we should just come up with a new term that describes anyone condescendingly explaining somethin…
/r/MensRights14/11/21 07:35 PM
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Think in schools/college/university years. Girls are slut shamed for promiscuity by their peers/bullies. Men are shamed for their virginity by their peers/bullies. Even tight-knit families are guilty of this toward their children. You have a 20-30 year old unmarried daughter who is still enjoying the social scene and casual relationships, add in an overbearing mother that wants grandkids asap. What occurs next is some real uncomfortable and insulting Christmas dinner conversation. These are ster…
/r/MensRights14/11/21 06:09 PM
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I think it's pretty well understood that corporations prioritise money and profit over -people- and their wellbeing. This isn't surprising. If a website, app, game, fuckin movie is making you depressed and hindering your mental health then you have the option at anytime to cease interaction with it. If you're being in ANYWAY violent toward the general public then that is YOUR OWN issue to solve asap that is completely separate. Depressed people don't start stabbing people unless there is another…
/r/MensRights14/11/21 05:58 PM
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I wish I could give this an award.
/r/MensRights14/11/21 05:52 PM
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You don't need to take 'responsibility' for that. That wasn't your fault. It's ridiculous to think that people can be on guard and protect themselves from danger at all times. You were raped, and I'm so sorry. I hope you've been healing and I wish you all the luck in the world. DM if you ever need to talk dude.
/r/MensRights14/11/21 05:50 PM
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I mean this girl has obviously not thought about men's and women's issues in her own head and is only spouting off fake bs tiktok activism. It's never even worth 'debating' someone like that. But to just answer your question, I do believe the new Texas abortion has sparked some well needed debate in women's healthcare and bodily autonomy rights. It also goes without saying that a disgusting amount of countries and cultures are still highly and shockingly oppressive of women. These ARE real human…
/r/MensRights14/11/21 05:44 PM
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I’m sorry if that’s been your experience, I’m not going to debate that that is obviously wrong and unfair. Language can be a very unfortunate thing in the way that meanings are passed on by generation and misinterpreted. I think this is why it’s important for the open minded, level headed men and women to band together and fight ALL the issues we face, and spread this kind of knowledge to prevent ANYONE of any gender from falling down the extremist pipeline :( (I’m not sure why I’m being downvot…
/r/MensRights14/11/21 05:01 PM
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Do you have some sources for this? I’d be really interested in reading up on it. I care about men’s issues just as much as women’s, and believe light really should be shed on these types of injustices. Unfortunately my experience on this sub hasn’t been amazing and I’ve come across a lot of anti-women types of posts/commenters, so it really nice to see an open discussion on this post!
/r/MensRights14/11/21 04:54 PM
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This wouldn’t be mansplaining. Mansplaining isn’t the concept of just a man explaining something. It specifically refers to a man assuming a woman doesn’t know/understand something in her own field. I.e: If a man was training a woman and is professionally her senior; explaining something to her wouldn’t be mansplaining. Especially if she has no expertise and you can SEE she is lacking in certain related areas. If a man is being trained by a woman that is professionally his senior and tried to ov…
/r/MensRights14/11/21 04:34 PM
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How hypocritical your comment is. You JUST cried about how liberalism is an enemy of white men but got all pissy because someone acknowledged that conservatism is often linked to racism and class divides? So what, out of those two viewpoints the more realistic one to you is that white men have it worse than minorities? Jesus...
/r/MensRights09/11/21 01:08 AM
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I never said he did say that, I said he was saying that he was expressing that 'traditional' role and lifestyle is what ALL women experience. Which isn't true, it's simply not a fact contrary to the original post. None of what was written is a fact, OP is upset by something that isn't true. I can understand being upset about the struggles men DO face (i.e family law, mild social aspects, little representation in the fight against mental health issues) but you can't just make up a bunch of random…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 02:41 PM
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Could you provide some links for statistics or articles on those claims? I'm more than happy to hear out your thoughts and have my horizons broadened if you are too. I like a well mannered debate. I don't want to directly address those points until I've read up on them of course, as I'm struggling to wrap my head around the tax one, money pocketing one, welfare and benefits one and the hiring one. I have my substantial doubts, but more than willing to read into it. I'm not going to disagree with…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 07:32 AM
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I'm more than happy to thoroughly engage with any evidence that you can provide me. I have not stated once that YOU as an individual have not faced discrimination for your gender, and that you do not face personal struggles with dating, emotions, careers, or anything else. I'm disagreeing with OP insinuating that women as an entire gender do not face any social struggles. I don't know how you can call me a disgusting excuse for a human being for saying that women get lonely too, as OP insinuated…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 06:59 AM
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Unfortunately, a dating app that is entirely based and marketed on shallowness probably isn’t a great representation of the entire male or female experience. Surprisingly. Women get lonely too, might be easier for us to bag a quick fuck I’ll grant you that as women tend to be a little more selective so as not to be labelled a “whore” (something which again, men shot themselves in the foot with starting) but love and relationships are a problem for everyone. Careers and education are hard work fo…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 06:40 AM
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I believe I meant to respond to a comment in response to your comment, not directly to you. My bad
/r/MensRights17/10/21 06:25 AM
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No, no it really isn’t what they’re referring to. They’re referring to being hurled insults at when rejecting someone, no one in their -right mind- sees a man that politely takes no for an answer as an oppressive force. Where are you all getting these ideas of feminists from? This place is basically the male version of the “cis men are all rapists and horrible people” side of tiktok it’s insane to me that you can all genuinely think to these extremes. You are what you claim to hate.
/r/MensRights17/10/21 06:14 AM
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In my experience, People will only usually have a problem with it if you infringe upon the spotlight of another groups issue by suddenly making it about yourself when you’ve never ever mentioned it before. For example, everyone has that asshole friend who tries to “one up” your story suddenly as soon as you’re getting attention for yours. When it comes to social issues, while this result may not always be the intention it can certainly come across that way. For example take sexual assault, men s…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 06:03 AM
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Actual feminists don’t say that. Assholes do. Just like all men don’t rape. Assholes do. I’m a feminist, i would never even think that let alone say it to a rape victim. So no, it’s not all “feminist women” defending rapists.
/r/MensRights17/10/21 05:55 AM
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Do you not see the irony in saying “it seemed as if my reputation was being dragged through the dirt because of my gender” and then immediately going on to bash feminism and group all feminists and opinions together. You sound very young given your week-long dating experience, tiktok (not all, but a lot) is a cesspit that does NOT represent true feminism. Young girls unfortunately are influenced by hyper extreme and frankly offensive views on men. Young boys are influenced by hyper extreme incel…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 05:51 AM
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It isn’t any less harmful. The majority of feminists, myself included, wouldn’t disagree that putting pressure on young boys to fulfil certain societal roles is wrong. But don’t associate feminism with tiktok. Don’t ever do that, very slippery slope. Don’t associate anything with tiktok. It’s a platform trailer built for extreme opinions and insights that don’t reflect the general view point. Language and connotations are important. Putting a point or a pressure on physical attractiveness to chi…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 05:41 AM
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“I feel like it’s absurd that I would have to save texts and snapchats to protect myself in future” Unfortunately, the world we live in means in pretty much all situations we need to protect ourselves from potential harm. Keeping screenshots of conversations with people we don’t trust, carrying a weapon for protection, taking a different route home from work, avoiding people we think might try to fuck with us. It’s a shitty part of the human experience. But I do hope you understand that there is…
/r/MensRights17/10/21 05:23 AM
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Is this genuinely, from the bottom of your heart, how you see life as a woman? How you ALL see life as a woman? You think women don’t feel the HUMAN emotion of loneliness? That all womens only goal in life is to marry and take care of children all day, that we don’t aspire to work hard and build our careers? You genuinely believe that love comes any easier based on gender? Part of me really believes deep down this is just a troll post, or must be written by an angry teenager. I cannot genuinely …
/r/MensRights17/10/21 05:07 AM
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