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ADVICEneedthisonetoo/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 09:00 PM
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I agree this is part of the issue. Thank you for your comments. We were both single parents for a long time. Their mom left and moved away seven or eight years ago, but now she is back and has regular visitation with them. She seems like she's high conflict. I grew up in a divorce situation with step parents so I try to cut them a lot of slack because I remember it being absolutely awful. As far as I can tell they are only like that at our house, they clean at Moms and at their cousins house. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 07:55 PM
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It's a fertility issue. I don't know what to say about the men. I usually think they're less attractive with age, except for my DH. I've seen pics of him in his 20s and find him more attractive now. He looks really sexy with his salt and pepper beard.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 10:01 PM
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Yep.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/17 02:08 PM
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Good idea! I don't have time to make a big list, but these are my glaring, desperately need to work on type of flaws. Maintaining Relationships: I really love people but I'm struggling to maintain relationships outside of my home. Last year I got married and moved to my husbands small town and know literally no one outside of his family and the very small church that we go to. I want to make my own friends here but between my husband and 6 kids combined I'm just drained! To make things worse its…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/17 07:04 PM
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I'm married to a wonderful patient man too. I was a single mom for a long time and had become very independent. I'm a work in progress too!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/17 05:03 AM
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It's a ladies only shooting club at my local gun range :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 05:19 AM
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DH and I are starting paleo this week. Any great recipes?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 04:56 AM
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No but I shall put it on my list. I got both the The Surrendered Wife and The Excellent Wife as audio books during a free trial of Audible. Can't beat that and I bet they're still on there.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 10:14 PM
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My DH put on like he didn't care until I found out he really did! Our home has a lot of brown and leather, it has a cozy feel to it I think. It's not girly looking at all to me. We have brown suede couches in the living room and some dark brown leather ones in the study. Our table is dark brown wood. We both love the white walls and the nice contrast between the light and dark. I'm kind of minimalist but we have hundreds of books and a bunch of bookshelves because DH loves them. My husband's stu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/17 02:58 AM
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Thank you for this!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 12:40 PM
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I definitely don't want to do that, or come across as patronizing. He was talking last night about possibly changing fields and I told him that whatever he wanted to do we would make it work, and reminded him that we have room financially to weather a change like that. I just want to be helpful, not a wife who freaks out.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 12:35 PM
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-give my amazing DH more compliments -give my kids my undivided attention when they want to talk -apologize to my dad -be a more connected friend -join the ladies gun club -paint the living room -finish organizing the garage -go to the gym three times a week -pray daily for my friends and family -read more books. This is actually my DH's resolution but since our thing is him reading to me it'll be mine too :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 05:08 AM
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Great post. There's a wonderful book on biblical submission called The Excellent Wife. Its a thorough guide on how to be submissive and includes specific steps a wife should take to protect herself should she find herself in an abusive situation. I highly recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 06:28 PM
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You sound excited about loving your man and I'm so pleased for you. If you like Pinterest you could start by collecting yummy recipes there. I have a board there where I pin foods I think my DH will like. I also have a recipe binder I've made up at home that has a full 30 days worth of recipes in it. They're pretty much our family favorites at this point. You could start a collection like that, just tell your DH that you're trying a new dish x times a week and want his yay or nay on each one so …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 10:08 PM
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Hmm, I meant sanctuary as in peaceful place not as in holy place. We have various books in the bookshelf, some religious some not.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 03:16 AM
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I was one who had to learn homemaking the hard way, after I had my first child more or less. Making my home tidy and welcoming is a priority for me now and I help other ladies do this as a side business. Start looking now to figure out what kind of style you like for decorating a home. This may change as you get older but it's a good place to start. My first home was country blue, floral, and kitschy. My current home is light brown suedes, dark brown leathers and various shades of wood, light co…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 12:04 AM
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It makes sense to think SMV correlates with fertility since men are biologically attracted to markings of fertility. Women tend to be very fertile in their teens and 20s and that diminishes in their 30s.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/16 03:13 PM
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Don't waste your time, dating a filler will keep you from finding a marriage material guy and/or distract you from working on yourself. My mom always told me not to keep dating anyone I couldn't imagine myself marrying and I thought it was dumb when I was young, but now that I'm older I wish I'd listened.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 05:36 AM
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Me too and I love his hands. My DH has these big bear paws for hands and they make me feel very safe and loved.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/16 08:16 PM
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I love wearing makeup and flowy lace up tops, I love homemaking, I love encouraging my man, I love having a soft curvy figure, and I love several of the unique sexual pleasures I am blessed to enjoy as a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/16 03:20 AM
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The men's sub isn't the same, those men seem to be on a different mission. This sub is to support and help ladies who want to embrace their counter-cultural but God given femininity and the respect of their man. This isn't a religious sub but these are actually biblical principles. My husband likes that I'm smart and resourceful but doesn't care one bit about my education or accomplishments. When he brags about me to others it's about how well I manage our home or how sweet I am to him. When he …
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 05:41 PM
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Maybe she was proud of it, IDK.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/16 08:10 PM
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Either didn't see or didn't care. She was beautiful, sweet and super social. Their marriage ended with alcoholism and adultery. I don't think either of them got a good deal.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/16 08:09 PM
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Goals for December -reread The Excellent Wife -find some good paleo recipes for my man -finish organizing the garage That's gonna be it because this is a super busy month for us.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 03:46 AM
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I've never been asked by a man I've been dating and I've never offered it either. I remember talking about it with my high school girlfriends, but not since then really. One close friend married right out of high school and had been sexual with about 80 guys but told her husband it was only 3. At some point during their marriage he found her list and flipped out. I'd flip out at a number like that and a lie like that too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 01:40 PM
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I'm still learning but I've started saying "I trust your judgement" and "you're so good with xyz, you'll be able to make it work." I also like to tell him I really respect the way he handled a tough situation or issue (I'm so impressed with his self control at times, he's awesome!)
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:50 PM
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Thanks and I agree stfu is a good plan. Tested it out during a conversation last night and almost bit my tongue off but think I did OK. I'm firmly in my man's corner and want him to know it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:24 PM
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Maybe so! She has been remarried for 5+ years, but I think she may regret leaving DH.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:15 PM
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Thank you so much for this perspective. My man is a family oriented protector type and he married right out of high school. There are no divorces in his entire (huge) family so he was blindsided for sure. He definitely knows the worst of marriage. When we were dating he was slow moving and it bothered me because I didn't understand what his problem was. With the perspective you just gave, maybe he was just trying to be careful and make a better choice of woman.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 04:01 PM
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I'm afraid that's what kind of ex his is too. She tends to call him during the day when he's at work (trying to work). I have no idea why he answers, I wish he wouldn't. I'm trying not to act on them. I'm trying to disengage some but not disengage from my husband at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:53 AM
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Thanks. I'm sure trying.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:45 AM
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Its easy to say that. My first husband had an ex-wife and kids too and these things just weren't issues.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:38 AM
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She's ten years older and yes she does.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:31 AM
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This is good advice. I haven't talked to anyone about it IRL. I'll be honest and say I was ill prepared for the level of involvement his ex has in our lives. I dated him for 3 years and never met her till after we got married. I heard him talk to her on the phone one single time during those years. I had no indication that it would be so constant. My first husband had an ex wife and kids and it was nothing like this. And before we got married he was at least open to more kids, now he's not.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:29 AM
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Indeed. I'm aware that it's irrational and unfair that why I'm trying to deal with it. I haven't given him any hard time about it, but not knowing how to deal with it is rough.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 01:19 AM
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This is a good post, thanks. Men want to feel loved too. I'm going to look into that scalp massage, my DH would really enjoy that. I'd say the things I do to intentionally love my man are scratching his back, playing with his hair, just being interested in what he has to say (so many women seems flat out unwilling to treat their man like a human!) cooking for him, finding out what makes him as an individual feel loved and doing those things and letting him know when he gets it right with me too.…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 04:06 PM
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Amen to that. My husband's favorite thing of mine is a black jacket. He comments on it all the time. Anytime he comments on my clothes I make a mental note of it. I try to wear my hair and makeup how he likes it too. He told me once that it makes him feel loved that I look nice for him and that stuck with me. We dress modestly as part of our religious beliefs (it honors God and others) so I have to save the sexier things for home alone time :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 02:12 PM
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My new husband and I waited until marriage because of religious beliefs. We dated for three looonng years. It was a little scary to not know what I was getting into but on our honeymoon I found out he is amazing in bed and it's only gotten better since then. My first marriage we had sex before marriage and lived together once we were engaged. I was the kind of gal back then that wanted to try things out to "be sure". It turned out badly for me and I don't recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 05:53 PM
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My new husband and I waited until marriage (for everything but kissing) because of religious beliefs. We dated for three looonng years. It was a little scary to not know what I was getting into but on our honeymoon I found out he is amazing in bed and it's only gotten better since then. My first marriage we had sex before marriage and lived together too. I was the kind of gal back then that wanted to try things out to "be sure". It turned out badly for me and I don't recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/16 05:53 PM
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