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9	We talk about looksmatch...but what about effortsmatch?	Discussion	neetykeeno	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/21 08:09 PM

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12	Women getting upset over the fact that Men like younger women is mainly irrational All the women never treated you the same...after one date that went nowhere? As in multiple women held onto their opinion of you for months or years? I am forced to conclude that the one date was not the only data point they were taking into account.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/23 04:10 AM
2	CMV: The take-away shouldn't be that "women think 80% of men are below average"; it should be that "women suck at rating men systematically". The takeaway is that there's probably some sort of base rate issue going on that a decent research design could eliminate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 12:32 PM
1	Should people protest this issue, if they believe in it? Because society isn't run just for the autists who need 100 percent clear cut rules and never want to work with shades of grey. We allow some things we think aren't great. We have a zone in which one is free to exist but existing in that zone means a lot of people don't like you. You're allowed to be a giant piece of shit in some ways and have to rely upon yourself not to do that. Same thing goes for baby trapping men by getting pregnant off a short relationship. Totes legal, totes awful, not go…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 03:35 AM
2	Women insist that their “taste” or standards are instinctual and without any outside influence, and that they can’t be changed when the opposite has been proven when it comes to physical attraction. Their inflated standards are quite clearly the direct result of their abundance of options. "The prison effect is a perfect example..." Ummmm... Actually... It's a kind of creepy example.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 09:19 PM
6	Simping is making dating absolutely unbearable and guys are enabling and reinforcing terrible behavior on both sides. Maybe if instead of just telling girls off when they frivolously part you from your time, energy and resources you could start seeking out, recognising and valuing women more who don't behave like that? I mean just saying you guys are largely ineffectual even when you play act at being mean and that's why those particular girls pick you. Unless you're willing to accord good behaviour some positive value in the SMP and RMP you're surely stuck with those mean girls. I mean seriously you know the t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 04:49 PM
1	Pretty much every advice targeted at men is to make them to wait until they are too old to do anything If you want to do better at dating it is better to be at a fat chicks place than to be home trying to level up in a game you're not even that keen on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 01:05 PM
6	What is exactly emotional labour which women do? Emotional labour for male adults is largely a waste of time. Men certainly appreciate the flow of living in a household where you're acting as the memory and actions safety net so things like their mother's birthday don't get forgotten but they are never actually grateful for it to any extent commensurate to the effort involved. This post is clear evidence that men don't see or give thanks for the effort and I strongly recommend women don't explain the effort for if you explain it then men will …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 01:30 AM
2	Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions. The most lonely times of my life have been in failing relationships. There's nothing as good for making one completely isolated and feel as though the grave would be a less unkind and isolating place than the touch of a man who is draining one dry of all ones emotions in return for nothing but loneliness. Being alone is just neutral in comparison. Being alone... that's solitude and it is benign. An inapproprate man is loneliness incarnate and he follows a woman from room to room turning her soli…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 12:26 AM
1	The modern dating dynamic is extremely uneven and it only seems to be getting worse No. The point is he's judging the husbanding worth of those men according to the grading system men apply to each other for the purposes of an initial approach to be friends... and then delusionally thinking that should be how his sister grades them for an initial approach to be a life partner. If his sister was trying to foist a brilliant, funny, stylish but extremely fat and loud friend on him that would be similarly messed up. He's not staring down the barrel of a life as a wife and he needs …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 12:05 AM
9	The modern dating dynamic is extremely uneven and it only seems to be getting worse Stop judging your sister as egotistical for rejecting a few professional athletes. There's plenty of professional athletes out there who are hell to live with and if the ones on the app didn't seem suitable to her she's as justified in rejecting them as in rejecting anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/23 08:35 AM
1	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? I think it is that we've finally recognised a certain sort hypocrisy in building the sort of covert relationship that can be ghosted without consequences and then running to the world the relationship was hidden from for sympathy and validation when the ghosting happens but you didn't want it to... apparently ghosting is only supposed to happen to others? It's like watching a criminal call the cops because someone stole the groceries they had shoplifted at the supermarket. How embarrassing how r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/23 05:21 AM
15	Does the past matter? Talking about sexual history Consider whatever you damn well want ...save everyone a whole lot of wasted time by saying no. Men aren't holding up their side of the need for no to be said...say no more often guys In the unlikely event I decide to date again I will still be totally unwilling to repeat the sex in the shower with shaving cream everywhere experiment of 1988. How bad can it be I hear you ask? Bad. It was bad. Not ha ha funny bad. Not omg this is so perverted bad. I'm talking shriveled skin, shrunken tissues and d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/23 12:30 AM
1	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? Oh you sure can. But... no-one is going to care. You complain passionately enough to any of your friends the friendship might even suffer because you've just admitted you had a relationship you really cared about but didn't trust them to know about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 10:52 PM
2	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? The longer the relationship goes without there being mutual friends the more troubling the whole situation is. Guys love apps precisely because of the lack of accountability. Screw up and say something repugnant and stupid, be a complete unfeeling sexist dork on a first date, try to escalate and give her a scare...who cares right? Nobody sees it. They can be psychopathically unbothered by what people think as they gradually learn to hide their bullshit. This is the flip side. Screw up and she ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 10:47 PM
1	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? Relationships that aren't observed by mutual friends create the space within which it is acceptable. You've both, for your own potential convenience accepted a situation in which the other person can be disrespected that way, it shouldn't be a huge surprise when the other person disrespects you for their own convenience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 10:35 PM
2	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? If he's expecting sex in the context of a relationship literally no-one of value in his life knows about or has had a chance to get to know the girl and feel empathy for her, he's probably not a decent man. And can be ghosted without qualms. Block and delete.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 10:28 PM
4	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? Well avoiding sex with douchebags that's kind of one of the contributing reasons guys get ghosted after multiple dates? So a relationship starting from zero, no shared social circle...both right from the start are able to ghost each other pretty easy. So they date a bit and they're both waiting for the other to volunteer their social circle thereby eliminating the ability to ghost without consequences. And neither does. And as time goes on the guy gets more pushy for sex as proof of her seriousn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 10:20 PM
4	Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships? Until you've got a shared friendship group, have contact with each other's families and know where each other works, ghosting is a very real possibility. I find it hard to sympathize. Someone who is ghosted knew where things were at and it was either early days or they were preserving their own ability to ghost, cultivate multiple possible partners, wait for the other person to offer entry to their social circles first, etc. They lingered in the ghosting zone and did not push forward out of it b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 08:09 PM
1	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? I'm a woman. When I hear other women complain of loneliness I attempt to relieve their loneliness as much as possible through friendship. If you or any other man doesn't like me doing that. .rough shit I don't care. And there is no way a man's ability to please is 100 percent about a woman's perception of him. That's delusional. And men who believe it aren't worth a tinker's cuss.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 04:46 PM
2	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Why would any of us who have decided men are a case of the juice ain't worth the squeeze seek to improve to get a better man...when improving in ways that please ourselves first and foremost is a much surer bet with better payoff? Men are like one of those scams where it is like "give me a thousand dollars and I will give you five thousand" and women ain't all about that now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 07:31 AM
1	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Look I get it, you don't think many men are in need of improvement in order to be tolerable fixtures in another person's life. That's something you're allowed to think And it doesn't change the fact that there's a whole lot of men that women can't find a use for and don't want in their home.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 04:29 AM
3	I don't get why Western Women complain about Passport Bros So when is your plane flight booked? Have you even applied for a passport? Do it do it do it, if it is so very excellent do it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 04:23 AM
2	What percentage of the men you date, do you end up having sex* with? I've only ever dated guys I've known and liked for some time through social circles (six months was the shortest time) so like...all of them. I wouldn't have accepted a first date if I felt sex wasn't likely to be highly acceptable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 10:45 PM
2	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Men are garbage enough that there are women who actively prefer loneliness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 10:37 PM
9	I don't get why Western Women complain about Passport Bros When is your plane ticket booked for?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 09:40 PM
3	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Well... you're in charge of your empathy and I'm in charge of my empathy and they're all in charge of the empathy they extend...see how this works? You've got your ration to extend or hold back. And you've got no say about what other people do with their ration. Personally I've got a lot of empathy for women who have decided that men are such garbage that crippling loneliness is a better choice. I personally do not suffer from loneliness so I find being single and not looking to be in a relation…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 09:34 PM
1	If youre a normal guy, what is the "bare minimum" to be able to get laid, or have dates? He has to stop lying to himself about himself. Guys who don't lie to themselves don't play the stupid ego protecting mind games with themselves that sabotage appropriate decision making. Every day there's guys not recognising a good thing when they see it because they've at some point lied to themselves about their value or their prospects or their options or their ability to follow through on some grand plan.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 09:24 PM
7	I don't get why Western Women complain about Passport Bros Oh fucking hell, take your thumbs out your buttholes and go do it if it's so cool and easy and unproblematic. Go on. Off you all go. Why are you still here? If it's such a perfect solution why are you wasting one moment listening to us list the disadvantages... like if you can't tell good girls from terrible girls just on casual acquaintance locally because you're a huge sperg how the fuck will you do so in the context of a drastically different culture... when you could be off earning money to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 09:01 PM
1	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Spoiler? Lol. They work for a living and make their own way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 08:25 PM
1	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? If one can get hold of two cakes, why not eat both? It isn't like there's men out there worth staying skinny for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 07:13 PM
1	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Nobody waives away their right to speak. In most parts of the world that aren't shitholes people got a right to speak. You however may if you choose forgo your right to sit around listening to other people speak. That has always been your right. You've never had to pay any attention.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 02:41 PM
2	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Women place their standards with regards to hopefully being able to live their best probably lives. For a lot of women it turns out not having a man is what they see as their best probable.life. You can if you wish discuss with the women who aren't cheerfully resigned to this how you happen to perceive men as a better deal than they do. But for most women who go manfree that window is a small one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 08:46 AM
0	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? If women who you think are on your level in terms of value are systematically prioritizing their relationship to themselves and their own lives over having a relationship with you then without a doubt they are expecting the books to balance with you in some way that leaves them seriously out of pocket. Now I do understand that you don't want to think that could possibly be down to you, your attitudes, your actions. However you, your attitudes and your actions are the only part of the equation yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 06:58 AM
1	Describe the "modern man" Takes responsibility for doing the traditionally female self maintenance in his life. For example monitoring and maintaining the appropriateness, availability, state of repair and cleanliness of his clothing. He would never end up in a situation where at 7.30 am he is petulantly complaining to his wife that all of his shirts are missing one or more buttons and he doesn't know what to do. When his wife who also works paid employment volunteers help with these things...for example if one day she d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 06:46 AM
0	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? If girls only want you when you're rich, ripped or famous...if they expect those extras to balance the books... maybe it is time to examine how generally costly of their time, inner peace and social relationships loving you is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/23 06:29 AM
1	Are there any women in favor of the passport bro movement? Well make sure to warn the autists who don't know their arse from their elbow that they are going to be faced with a mate search problem...since avoiding mate search problems completely especially the issue of how to tell a girl is who she says she is, that's what a lot of them think passport bro lifestyles provide. Tell a guy to go down the pub and talk to girls...if it fails he's out the cost of a couple of beers. Tell him to go to Thailand and talk to girls, that may have cost him half a year…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/23 06:26 PM
20	Do you agree with the belief that women don’t have to change themselves or dedicate significant time and effort to self improvement to have the relationship they want? Yes, getting into a situation of being liked by the man you want rather than just the men who no one wants is difficult and competitive and difficult competitive things require change and development. And... you're not allowed to be seen to be competing because that turns most guys off. They may say they like it but that doesn't mean they like you personally when you do it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/23 09:50 AM
0	Are there any women in favor of the passport bro movement? They often aren't the smartest or most experienced of guys ...and I really wish other guys would stop lying to them. It doesn't lead anywhere good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/23 01:05 AM
4	Are there any women in favor of the passport bro movement? The ones that haven't been run through are religious, culturally conservative and love their country and families and usually don't want careers so there's very little reason to want a foreigner. They don't want to go to some crazy country full of nakedness and porn and people who don't go to religious services regularly and sleep with a man who has odd and morally dubious foreign ways to get a green card. That's the sort of thing bar girls do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 07:07 PM
2	Are there any women in favor of the passport bro movement? I'm neutral to very mildly scornful about the basic issue of going overseas to look for sex. What really rankles is the dumbass lies supporters of it tell us. It has significant risks and costs. Stop telling young men that Colombia is safe. Stop telling young men that nice traditional girls who are still virgins can be easily pitched up and will happily marry outside their religion and culture to migrate to a different continent. Stop pretending that being autistic and anxious (as many of those …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 04:40 PM
1	Is it common for women to have “handbag boyfriends”, as in, men they are in relationships with solely for the boost to their status, and are more concerned with showing off the relationship than actually caring for the man? What are your thoughts on such relationships? That sort of thing is popular among celebs and generally it's a two way street, both members of the couple are experiencing career enhancement and entry to the other person's social circle. Normal people work for a living and between a full work week and all the other business of living they need to get done, they don't have time for entire relationships designed merely to impress others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 11:11 AM
2	The whole “wOmEn dOn’T oWe yOu sEx” narrative is bullshit, the vast majority of men do not think this at all. Most men just rightfully expect to be able to get women at or below their level of attractiveness. Why do you think that's a rightful expectation? It has never been generally the case. The eras in which it happens are rare and short. Low value women with any sense have always fled from low value men...whether to workhouse or to nunnery or to stay home and spin to add value to the products of their parents farm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 02:23 AM
1	Very fucking equal Eh. Where I'm from we had votes for women well before the first world war. What ass-backwards country are you from that didn't?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 02:05 AM
1	Daily Reminder It's purge week, recreational unreasonablenesss is actively encouraged which is presumably why your eight day old account haven't been banned yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/23 04:28 PM
1	Daily Reminder If you mother is 100 percent more horrific and hard to deal with than mine, I only gotta not tell her to fuck off and eat a bag of dicks 50 percent of the time. It's just maths.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/23 04:12 PM
–	Q4All: Is the !cumulative! risk a woman faces when going on a date even positive? If you're married you may have less control over what precautions you enact. And even less control if you've got kids... bringing friends round and leaving doors open. Yes there are married women living very safe lives with the assistance of their husbands. That is certainly not the same thing as just getting married makes you safer. Men often don't have the same enthusiasm for precautions that women do or the same caution about letting other men enter the house, drinking in the house, dodgy unc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 10:30 PM
–	Q4All: Is the !cumulative! risk a woman faces when going on a date even positive? It's possible to live a very safe life as a single woman. I don't think it is reasonable to class all single women together as a risk category...some would be at extreme risk (single meth addict who is single due to her violent mood swings doing sex work at the local truck stop?) and some would be at very low risk (single woman who works as a public servant processing forms, lives with her parents in a very secure townhouse in a nice part of town, drives carefully, has money set aside for a safe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 04:38 AM
3	Female women, would you forgive if your significant other cheated on you? No. I attempted to in 92. Cheaters wouldn't have cheated and lied if they hadn't somehow felt entitled to it. From their point of view returning to fidelity is a downgrade they reluctantly agreed to in order to salvage something that should be due to them no matter what they do. Cheaters feel the discovery of their cheating and the subsequent reckoning is grossly unfair.... to them. Cheaters whose cheating gets reigned in often sulk and withdraw effort in revenge. Ok bitch you let me back...now …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 09:07 AM
2	Why are so many women so casually accepting of the fact they’re attracted to toxic men? Mostly people who are attracted to a stream of toxic people have some dynamic going on that they need to think about carefully then work out over the course of several relationships with people they have every reason to hope will be better for them and I don't know about you, but most people are rather sensibly not up for spending that long being angry with themselves rather than just wryly accepting that they are working on understanding a problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 06:56 AM
6	Women are allowed to complain about the suitors they get but men can't Disagreeableness always comes with blowback. There are people in life who have decided to face the blowback and disagree anyway. As a somewhat disagreeable woman I can assure you that both men and women face blowback.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 05:59 AM
1	Older women who complain about age gap relationships are just jealous Who? I mean I know he's some sort of actor but he's never made it on my radar as anything other than a name people here yammer on about occasionally. He's just not a big deal in Australia at all. He's a random guy. He can die too if the alternative is marrying or fucking him. I go off and look at his Wikipedia entry...oh I did see he was in Deadpool 2 which I saw on a day we did a movie instead of tabletop rpg because someone phoned in sick. Whatever. Unmemorable.in a sexual sense. He's just ano…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 04:50 AM
2	'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not Conservative You can't really tell from passing acquaintance with them though. My father was one of the fakers. Here's a few of the many tells...for those looking to avoid fakes. Says he likes hunting or fishing but only does enough of it to get a few photos. Owns more guns than the number of times he has gone out to shoot in the past year. Has firm opinions on the superiority of a particular sport but only watches the big game on tv not the rest of the season and only goes to a game when another person sugg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 09:16 AM
3	'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not Conservative Conservative men put a lot more effort into appearing masculine. That's not the same thing as actually being more masculine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 05:33 AM
15	Pretty much every advice targeted at men is to make them to wait until they are too old to do anything It's not that going monk mode is better than just doing the work of self improvement while also working on dating. It's that socially avoidant autists melt down like badly designed nuclear reactors run by morons as soon as discussion of some of the compromises involved in making progress dating while low value are raised. To make best progress dating you need to date in good faith and enjoy it. You might have to seriously and in good faith flirt with, date, fuck, consider a possible future with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 02:09 AM
1	Purple Pill Debate Going Dark June 12th for 48 Hours to Protest Reddit's Ban on 3rd Party Apps In each subreddit I am in I am fine with whatever consensus emerges on whether to protest or not. It's not a big deal either way for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 01:28 AM
7	Older women who complain about age gap relationships are just jealous Like most men you exhibit zero understanding of what it is to be a crone I'm in my fifties and have had all the kids I want and all the dick I thought I wanted. I neither need nor want to acquire men. They are too much effort that can be spent on other things. If you offered me Leonardo DiCaprio to fuck, kill or to marry....I'd by preference kill him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 12:32 AM
5	Since when did requiring physical attraction for a romantic relationship make you superficial? Well it's main purpose can certainly no longer be to provide plausibly deniable soft porn at the price of about twenty bucks per copy delivered by snail mail. There's too much totally free and immediately available online competition on that front isn't there. SI swimsuit edition needed to move away a fair bit from being highly expensive plausibly deniable soft porn and court alternative markets or there would be no SI swimsuit edition any more. Instagram took most of the market for swimsuit tit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/23 02:30 AM
1	The no-fap movement has noble purpose, but it is based on a delusion. Porn is a necessary evil for the good of most men If you think that a man who rubs one out twice a day because his marital sex life went through a lull is going to be as able to get out of that lull as readily as a man who doesn't then you are sorely mistaken. Eventually his wife is going to start tentatively giving indicators of interest and he's just going to ignore them or delay them unreasonably because right at that very moment his balls are drained. Don't get me wrong, I totally think fapping should be entirely a personal decision. Just y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/23 07:31 PM
1	Can women be creepy? Absolutely women can be creepy. Neither 1 nor 2 is necessary to be creepy although they can sometimes occur in conjunction with creepiness. Necessary to creepiness is unwillingness and/or inability to let other people's level of discomfort with you and your actions guide to a reasonable extent how far you attempt to intrude into some aspect of their or someone they feel empathy for's personal sphere. It isn't even necessarily just a sexual thing either. The religious zealot who won't let up...th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/23 02:45 AM
0	The no-fap movement has noble purpose, but it is based on a delusion. Porn is a necessary evil for the good of most men Porn definitely helps some men never have sex their entire lives. It is probably for the best. The inability to overcome addiction to easy dopamine is one of the major challenges humanity faces and this is a good way of removing genes associated with it	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/23 11:49 PM
1	Men and women are disgusted by each other's sexuality on a base level Eh. Victoria's Secret has to make realistic market based decisions and so their continued existence catering only to a skinny aesthetic probably depends on how much men are willing to spend on lingerie for skinny girls. It's that simple. You want it... someone needs to pay for it. Skinny girls don't really need lingerie because men will fuck them whatever and fat girls really need well designed lingerie to look good and that means they are willing to spend and for a retailer to get their spendin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/23 02:49 AM
3	Is it possible for a woman to choose a man based on how he would treat her? People aren't even trustworthy when they resolve to treat themselves a certain way...how many abandoned diets, exercise regimens, courses of study, hobbies, musical instruments... It's often very hard to work out how someone will treat you just by listening to the noises their mouths make.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 07:38 AM
–	If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are ok Well there we have it....you want the mediaeval era back and children being raised by women who can't read a medication information leaflet or a recipe or help a kid understand basic schoolwork. Because it's better than...consults the long list of things low value men think are just too hard... pulling your weight financially and staying faithful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 02:38 AM
–	If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are ok Hmmmm patriarchy was pretty damn condemning of all infidelity in divorce court in my country...and since I wasn't stepping out on the marriage and had a better ability to understand and use systems than him it wouldn't have mattered a single solitary damn what the opinion of women and infidelity was. And y'know...those letters workplaces give telling a person why they've been fired? Yeah photocopies of his little collection of those would have been presented as evidence. Failure to support, you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 02:30 AM
–	If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are ok Under patriarchy I wouldn't have been allowed to leave without exposing his infidelity (which I had been initially willing to work through but after a very short while realised heeeeey why am I even trying he's such a fuck up) so I guess patriarchy would have also resolved it but more work dragging his reputation to resolve it would have been necessary. I guess maybe that would have been preferable in an odd sick way? Not just hurt him but hurt his whole family's reputation with anyone who knew …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 01:50 AM
–	If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are ok I left a husband back in 93 who kept losing jobs. It wasn't just the lack of income, that we could have worked with. It was the lack of willingness to take measures to attempt to address the causes of the joblessness combined with the utter fucking disrespect involved in not even lifting a finger to do housework that was usually my burden even though I was going nuts taking on as much paid employment as I could get. I waited until I'd managed to find him work to leave Basically his behaviour dur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 01:24 AM
3	CMV: Many acts that would get a man labled as "Toxic" are tolerated when women do it. Why do you regard women trying to build worth in their lives right out the gate as soon as they can whether or not they have found a life partner yet... including getting qualifications, good jobs and buying real estate as being passive aggressive to men? I mean seriously it's not like there's any worldwide shortage of brokeass bitches if that's what you prefer...and a lot of men find it a pleasant surprise when the woman they fancy has enough assets that forming a household with her doesn't inv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/23 04:22 AM
1	Discussion : Whats the most eye opening real life example of TRP in action you’ve ever experienced? Yup	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 03:16 AM
2	Discussion : Whats the most eye opening real life example of TRP in action you’ve ever experienced? She was very tall, very fat and very masculine. I think she just wanted to feel she had what it took...and when I dumped him then she was left with the reality which was he was going to grieve my loss forever. I wouldn't call it competition with me in any personal sense so much as a desperate attempt to occupy any sort of role in which she did not feel as low value as she was. The mistress is stereotypically the sexy one, right? So if she's a mistress she must be sexy? But for my ex it was just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 10:11 PM
0	Q4ALL: Why do so many men think they would get a sexual harrasment charge for attempting to talk to a woman? Are they really that clueless about how to speak to a woman without sexually harassing her? They think they'll get in bad trouble for the same reason they get in small amounts of trouble to start with. They're shit at the whole social perception thing. So shit that they can't even tell after doing something bad or incompetent what it was they did. The world must seem incredibly fickle and arbitrary in ways that can't be predicted or explained. That said, it still makes incredibly good sense for women to react very badly to the things women react badly to...such as lurking, furtiveness,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 09:35 AM
-1	App for lonely men -"Men just want to feel like someone cares" Yeah men don't want to just talk. You're never going to get decent women in a place like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 06:12 PM
-2	Dating as a whole is much easier for women. We don't actually care how difficult dating is for you. The answer to who has it worse is...shut the fuck up and go masturbate to porn if you're finding this too difficult. Basically you're the gender who all too often thinks of us as "targets for sex" as you so charmingly put it...but will still have a big fat puling whine about how on dates we are unwilling to pay to put food and drink and entertainment into ourselves to mess with our neurotransmitters and make ourselves better targets. You're…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/23 03:10 AM
0	Q4W: Have you personally, or do you know any women who were only able to find success with men after lowering their standards? How do you feel in general about men or women lowering their standards to find success? Yes it's obvious from observation that most men and women do drop standards somewhat but most people don't actually go discussing it because it fits into the category of talking shit about family. That's normality. You post seems quite low effort BTW, I think the mods would be well within their rights to delete.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/05/23 10:03 PM
1	Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around. She doesn't want a boyfriend and has known this her entire life from when she first started becoming aware of heterosexuality. The inherent nature of men tends towards the pushing of women's boundaries. Her boundaries exist to create order and harmony in her personal world so that she can stay sane and not overwhelmed. Personally I think if she ever just accidentally found a special someone it would have to be another autistic woman with needs very similar to hers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/23 11:18 AM
13	Women are valued for what they are, Men are valued for what they provide I think if men valued women for what they are and not what they do, they wouldn't throw as many tantrums when what a woman is is beautiful but what she does does not include fucking him. Every whining puling maggot of a man who hates women because he doesn't get pussy is evidence that men don't love women just for being.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/23 12:44 AM
–	"Self-improvement" makes you jaded even if it works for dating. No. You don't want a natural unimproved girl. You might say you do....but once a low value unimproved man has such a woman on his hands he inevitably suffers greatly and complains about it...about her spendthrift nature....about her reckless speech that alienates his friends and family....about her fat body due to never having learned to set goals and work towards them... about her inability to earn to defray her cost (he'd probably tolerate paying for the keep of an improved version of her)...a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/23 03:29 PM
–	A lot of men are jealous of women It isn't the refusing to pay for first dates that is a problem... there's strategies for mate seeking that involve very little in the way of paying for dates. The problem is that men who don't want to pay for dates refuse to get out of the business of routinely asking strangers on dates. They want the date and don't want to take personal responsibility for the fact they are in a position where they desire a particular woman and she don't know them from Adam and has no emotion yet other than at b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 10:54 AM
1	"Infantile men" There's usually a huge discrepancy between the amount of information present in a picture and the amount of information present in a seven word description of the picture. I can't really agree or disagree without the picture itself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 10:18 AM
2	"Self-improvement" makes you jaded even if it works for dating. Well...duh. Humans "natural" value usually isn't much better than that of a very weak and unwell animal. We have compulsory schooling precisely to stop parents producing kids who have no improvement added to them. If people have access to lots of varied delicious food their "natural" unimproved value is mostly fatass. If people have access to unlimited leisure time, chairs and sedentary entertainment their "natural" value is mostly physical weakness. If people are allowed to retreat into make be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/23 01:58 PM
10	The women who end up as single "cat ladies" are usually not the typical hot, party girl Cheese girl rejected a man whose ideas about what is socially acceptable to project into the world around issues of money and abundance and hospitality was profoundly different to hers. I can't see anything wrong with that. They were obviously at totally different ends of a spectrum there and a life together would be a struggle. The drama of the way she did it was excessive but a no is a no whether it happens on the spot or after the date when considering a second date. This is the entire point …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/23 12:25 PM
2	Men's obsession with the sexual purity and virginity of women harms young men "you are not allowed to do any mistake in this" Especially as that message is the favourite of men who...well they're not exactly getting it right a lot of the time are they? Awkwardness and error personified and so difficult to explain even the simplest things to. The men who are the least demand the most then wonder why that ain't working for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/23 11:17 AM
1	Q4all I don't want to know, they and the weirdness around them can be someone else's problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 09:49 PM
2	Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solution The cause is your fat arse on your comfy chair while you search for easy dopamine online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 08:24 PM
–	Pretty much every advice targeted at men is to make them to wait until they are too old to do anything Mostly people give sexually unsuccessful men simplistic advice because that's about all people think those men can understand...and from what I see here daily I'm not sure that it is an ncorrect assessment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 04:23 PM
0	Are women actually attracted to toxic men? That's like asking are men attracted to toxic women. Everywhere one goes there are men who have had relationships with toxic women. And yet...they swear it is not the toxicity that attracted them. People, eh?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 03:33 PM
4	Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solution An addiction that is disabling is an addiction that is disabling no matter how many people have it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 02:22 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You're missing some of the connotations of "letting" someone do something. It has very similar connotations to "allow" or "permit"...the implication is that you have the ability to stop someone doing something you are extending your indulgence to them to allow them to do it. "I let my boyfriend play on the computer sometimes." Can you hear the connotations now? How about "I'm going to let you eat today?" Are the connotations coming through now? You might want to get a better feel for the word if…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 12:33 PM
2	Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solution May I suggest that an addiction to online life could be classed as a disability then?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 11:13 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread "letting her do a lot" Idk dude...if that's the way her freedom is conceptualized in that relationship I can 100 percent see why she left to be free.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 06:41 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Sounds to me like she'd been just going with the flow for a very long time without questioning it, then discovered the "the flow" consisted a whole lot more of doing what he likes than of doing what she likes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 06:38 AM
2	Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solution "should be natural and organic" Having friends is natural and organic for most humans. If it isn't for you, you probably have a disability that you need to make deliberate efforts to overcome to get the same results. That's just life. People do it all the time for all different sorts of disabilities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 04:51 AM
4	Women claim that men are not trying that hard, and men claim they tried too hard... this is a possible explanation and solution Having friends is too hard, give up now? Dude. "very dark times" Dark times that can be relieved by making friends. But making friends is too hard. Have you considered that everything has gone dark because you're too lazy to go down the shop and get lightbulbs, and organise a ladder to stand on?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 04:44 AM
1	Isn't this red pill thinking? Girls will choose attractive jocks over quiet nerds, even if they are equally misogynistic. Part of the appeal of the jock over the nerd is the jock is willing to leave the house to take a jog or go to the gym or do sports and stop getting on your fucking nerves if you're having arguments. That's priceless when times get hard in a relationship. It's quite corrosive always feeling you are fleeing the house just to give both of you a bit of respite. If that's shared then the situation is less likely to derail totally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 06:26 PM
1	Most women don't need a "hoe phase" for the 80/20 argument to hold Meanwhile bitter normie has tugged his dick to approximately 3000 hours of porn including all sorts of weird gross stuff and inevitably some of it would have been underage or trafficked women...and he expects his girlfriend to be just fine and dandy with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 03:35 PM
2	Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around. Well for one of my daughters it is a combination of tactile sensory issues, finding other people draining and a high desire for predictability in her life. She knows that pleasing herself is difficult enough, adding on someone else's needs and desires is more difficult and if those needs and desires include a desire to be exploring her body and wanting her to feel in specific ways...well that's a nope nope nope. She enjoys hugs with a precise amount of pressure...if she issues the invitation to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 01:52 PM
10	Women can be borderline autistic, even mentally and socially retarded and they will still be able to get guys, have dating options, overall, still be able to get into a relationship, but not so much the other way around. A whole lot of autistic women identify as asexual and/or aromantic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 01:56 AM
2	Both genders are really bad at gauging what “average” looks like when it comes to discussions about looks and ratings I don't think you understand heterosexual women's sexual assessment of men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/23 12:35 AM
4	Both genders are really bad at gauging what “average” looks like when it comes to discussions about looks and ratings Sigh. Moobs are not sexy at all. They are antisexy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 11:02 PM
1	Both genders are really bad at gauging what “average” looks like when it comes to discussions about looks and ratings Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 10:54 PM
3	Both genders are really bad at gauging what “average” looks like when it comes to discussions about looks and ratings Errrrrr no. Seth Rogan got a moobs problem. He's certainly not a five or above when he's fat....and he has to get quite low body fat before they go away. Moobs really limit a guy's attractiveness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 10:11 PM
2	If a guy owns a home, do you think it's acceptable for him to charge his girlfriend rent (or require some other kind of financial contribution) to live with him? Is it immoral? No. Is it advisable? That is entirely a matter between the two people and I'm not about to give either of them much sympathy if they break up over it. I didn't ever pay rent to a boyfriend. I paid my way though. I strongly suspect I paid more than rent would have been at the time...but that was the early nineties and the past is a strange place with abundant affordable housing. Also...I always preferred that the residence be in my boyfriend's name only and strongly recommend that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 09:10 PM
0	AI Girlfriends are just pure exploitation. Society? No. That's techies who are mainly dudes who are into devising and selling that stuff. Don't blame it on society. It's a very tech thing and a very male tech thing at that. Society in general doesn't care what you do about your loneliness so long as it isn't disruptive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 07:42 PM
1	Today I learned RooshV got his second virginity! I'm just waiting to see him and Peterson glom onto each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 07:35 PM
13	Here's economics answer to the classic question that countless women always ask: "Where have all the good men gone?" The "good men" were never that good to start with though even before apps and internet and all that...they were presumed to be good because they'd never been tested. I say this as a woman in her fifties who watched a large number of her age cohorts marriages implode because the guy was never as good as he advertised.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 05:14 PM
3	Women don't appreciate male breadwinners Once I've got enough...and for me enough isn't a whole lot... anything else you earn is just you playing reindeer games with your guy friends. I'd get pissed if I was married to Bezos and he didn't take two steps to put his dirty socks in the hamper. Like...why should I be grateful? The hyper-earning focus isn't a benefit to the family it is a damn annoyance preventing him being fully there. Men who are intent on being appreciated as income streams should marry whores with expensive tastes. It's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 04:17 AM
3	Makeup is a deceptive and unfair advantage that women have in dating, I have seen girls who look completely unrecognizable without it. This gives them an extreme upper hand by wearing a disguise whereby they are able to play several points above their actual league. Add "on TikTok" to the end of every sentence in that post for greater clarity about what is going on	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 01:04 AM
2	Women don't appreciate male breadwinners He maybe should have put less effort into avoiding gold diggers if having a woman who isn't incredibly excited and motivated by money is so terrible for him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 12:58 AM
1	Is "trying" overrated? That's fine.. Don't try if you don't want	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 09:19 PM
4	"Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this. Oh FFS somewhere there is a tabletop roleplaying group full of smelly middle aged neckbeards for you to get started on the business of having friends. Touch some grass in Eberron or something. Try to be on your best behaviour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 06:42 PM
2	"Working on yourself" is a two-way street where men can only learn and improve if they can, well... actually get to date women first If you're an autistic dude you've probably got to learn most of what needs to be learned by deliberate exposure of yourself to situations you find socially taxing, and hard and painstaking self reflection. Or give up. That's just the way things are. In school there are individual educational plans for slow kids, disabled kids etc. In adult life you sink or swim. Any one hundred adult people....at least twenty of them are at that time sinking on some major life challenge. And there's steady churn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 06:32 PM
–	People who say "Sex isn't a need" don't know how it is to be the average man Sex isn't a need any more than owning a pet is a need. And neither of those things is the business of broader society to supply to us. I'm beginning to think we're raising boys who don't have a properly developed ability to contextualise discomfort, frustration and inconvenience and accept it as just the way life is sometimes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 05:58 PM
1	Is "trying" overrated? If you want something you probably need to be regularly putting in effort towards it. I mean just saying...most of ordinary human success is the result of small incremental improvements plus planning and effort not to go backwards. How an ordinary person ends up in the situation where treating chasing ordinary success like a full time job is necessary is either by remarkable poor luck or not trying in the right ways at all for an extended period of time. Yes, the men of previous generations trie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 08:35 AM
6	Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys? Engineers tend to treat us as problems to be solved. The quickest and least troublesome way for me to solve your problem when you have defined me as the problem is for me to remove myself from your life completely. Easy done. Bye bye. You can handle things now...I am no longer your problem. Blue collar men tend to treat us as people who like everyone else, have problems and are trying to solve problems. It's just a whole lot nicer way to interact with a life partner. Engineer: Girlfriend unit is…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 09:43 PM
1	Question 4 Women: Do you value the men in your life? They vary.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 05:49 PM
1	why do people argue they are afraid to marry a virgin because the sex might be bad? People don't know precisely what they think about sex in general and in particular until they've had sex. And some people...don't even enjoy sex. Or like sex but not with someone with your characteristics. Culturally we have a lot of forces trying to shape our sexual being. So you don't really know who you are underneath that malleable stuff until you set yourself in motion and interact sexually for some extended period of time. You can't learn this shit by talking and I can not stress this enou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 06:56 AM
1	If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship? It took you how many times to discover you didn't enjoy it? That doesn't sound very smart	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 05:19 AM
15	Discussion : Whats the most eye opening real life example of TRP in action you’ve ever experienced? The only incidence of what redpill term "preselection" I have ever seen was the girl.my ex husband cheated on me with. She stopped fucking him the moment I dumped him but I'm pretty sure if I'd fought for him she would have been determined to win and keep him. Guess I just didn't place enough value on him for that, ha.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 04:41 PM
3	I'm a passport bro. Ask me anything. Well I hope that works out for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:31 PM
1	Men being required to ask women out overvalues women You're not required to ask anyone out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:16 PM
8	I'm a passport bro. Ask me anything. So you plan...what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:09 PM
16	I'm a passport bro. Ask me anything. You're in your mid fifties. What's your plan for when most of the people you were related to or close to in the USA have died or drifted out of contact and you become frail aged, vulnerable and easily exploited in a foreign country?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:04 PM
1	Do most women really value different attributes when looking for a relationship? Women have different personalities and are attracted to different lifestyles and mostly seek men who are consistent with those lifestyles. We might regularly think wrongly that we can change a man for the better...make him more stable or more conscientious...it is considerably less common that we think we can change an Anglican priest into a jetsetting A lister party boy or a winemaker into a stockbroker.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 11:49 AM
–	Do you think woman have greater in group bias? "TikTok" Touch grass. Leave your bedroom. Go live a real life and stop treating the TikTok algorithm and the people who ride it as your peer group.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 01:56 AM
1	The Red Pill is dying and RP influencers are killing it. Oh...fetch the popcorn.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 01:21 AM
7	Why do women really live in constant fear of men? Maybe the question, given the statistics, shouldn't be why women are very cautious about men but rather why aren't men more cautious about each other. Personally...I'm never going to forget the creepy old guy who attempted to lure me into a car when I was nine years old. I backed away and ran in the opposite direction to that the car was facing and ducked into a business around the corner that only a local would know was open. I possibly saved my life and certainly avoided a lot of trauma, and I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/23 12:05 PM
3	If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship? And the reason you did it before was? I mean I'm fine if the reason was didn't feel secure enough to refuse or still unpacking the difference between what is liked and what society says should be liked. That's fine. But I'd want the truth of it. It seems rather a big thing...a formative moment so to speak. If I'm someone's life partner and a formative moment impacts their interaction with me I've got an interest in knowing the truth of it	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/23 11:29 AM
2	If your husband/boyfriend would have oral sex with all of his past exes but would never do it for you even if you enjoy it, would this cause problems in your relationship? I'm capable of taking care of myself sexually better than any man can. His oral sex skills aren't a deal breaker. I'd want to know why. I need honest reasons. Maybe there's a problem and maybe there isn't. I can't even begin to tell if there is a problem tell unless I know why.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/23 10:11 AM
2	I think Women are lying when they claim they don't dress look or get implants for male attention There's a huge difference between makeup and implants. Makeup helps make you look healthier and more vital. I've never been a huge fan of it day to day but I wear a little if I must leave the house looking tired. It isn't about sex appeal for me...I am an urban dweller and it is about looking like I am not a pushover. Same reason I keep my hair under control and clothes in good repair. I want to look like I can take care of business. Like a meth head can't just walk up to me and loom over me and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/23 05:29 AM
–	Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some? Because a lot of the answers to that question are deeply personal...and therefore for people you've known long enough to know that they aren't psychos. And a lot of the people who ask that question do so very quickly as a power move...and come across as psychos. I mean seriously. I own real estate. Like hell would tell that little detail to someone on a first date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 07:34 AM
3	Does someone know why some guys are so obsessed with a woman's fertility? Because they think if despite vivid memories of having found old men just gross we can all be convinced to say "I do believe in age gaps, I do, I do" it will somehow mean their youth and vitality and hairline and erectile function aren't gradually diminishing day by day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 07:07 AM
0	CMV The main reason why Dating today is f*cked for Men is not because of feminism/equality. 90% of the damage comes from Online Dating. Nationalize dating apps, maybe?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 12:53 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trimethylaminuria See a doctor? Also could be an infection of some sort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 11:25 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread It's not an accurate enough statement to use by itself to make major life decisions. Sexual attraction certainly can speed up a decision to have sex. But so can other things. And there are also things that can slow down the decision to have sex...and a lot of those things are very sensible, situational things. If for example the first date is only going to be a quick coffee during your lunch hours because you work in the same part of town and both of you would rather eyeball each other as soon a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 11:22 AM
–	How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors? I like picnics. A lot of how I felt would depend upon the emotions he has around the change in what he is doing. If he's full of vengeance and hostility to women, blaming women for everything, no longer wanting to put anything of himself in a relationship then that's a problem. If he's decided to behave differently because he's decided that maybe he had a role in the energies he brought to previous relationships and that flinging large amounts of money and effort around before two people had a s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 11:05 AM
2	Would you marry someone that was not very bright? I think it could be very stressful to be married to a man who is ambitious but otnay ootay ightbray. Is he maybe a little susceptible to scams? I would need more info. Life with him would be very stressful if he is chasing every get rich quick scheme. People who aren't real bright can still be wise if they've got an accurate perception of themselves and a bit of humility. He would need to be wise if he couldn't be clever	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 04:14 AM
1	Women of PPD, how often do you get hit on in public? Australia	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/23 06:12 PM
1	Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man. https://youtu.be/M2iNLt_hUZg	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/23 01:47 PM
6	Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man. "men would be a lot less frustrated if women just told men what lies about themselves will be necessary to procure women's cooperation" Lol. Nobody but you personally cares about your frustration. Other men and women would cause you a year of frustration if it meant they got free fries at McDonald's for a year.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/23 01:42 PM
4	What is your opinion of male celebrities who despite being found not guilty of their sexual assault allegations are still canceled and banned from their industries? Being found Not Guilty doesn't mean everyone just forgets the view through the little window into your bullshit that was very publicly seen during the court case. A lot of people are profoundly unlikable but we don't get to see how unlikable they are most of the time. The court response isn't going to ever be exactly the same as the public response.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/23 03:27 AM
1	Women of PPD, how often do you get hit on in public? Approximately once per fifty hours spent on public transport or at public transport locations like bus stops and train stations. I've tried everything I reasonably can to prevent it other than taking up bicycle riding instead. Every other context my efforts have worked. I'm fat and fiftyish and do literally zero to provoke this other than exist and go about my business.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 07:31 PM
1	How do you treat unattractive people? Depends on the nature of the unattractiveness and the nature of the approach	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 06:36 PM
1	Q4W, What is a boring relationship to you or a boring man? Closed off and in retreat from the world and interesting experiences and ideas. Basically the sort of dude who won't walk down the street with you to find out why so much water is flowing down the gutter, won't come out to look when sky is spectacular, isn't interested in taking a three minute detour to drive past the local Mormon temple to see the goddamn gilded statue those fuckers just put on top of the place, grumbles when you pack a picnic basket so the family can go eat baguettes and play …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 03:19 PM
2	If you define "creepy" behavior on a subjective basis, then would men be justified in labelling unattractive women who approach them as "creepy"? What constitutes creepy behavior or being creepy or being a creep or creeping someone out (all slightly different things) is pretty complicated and has subjective and situational aspects to it as well as objective aspects but yes, women can also be participants in the various dynamics on the creepy sides of the dynamics. Do the autists here just never experience being on the receiving end of these dynamics? Is that what's going on...you never feel the creepiness yourself no matter how creeped ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 02:26 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread And semen is full of prostaglandins that can trigger it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 01:13 AM
1	Q for Women: How many of you genuinely enjoy being "objectified" in D/s kinki play with a man whom you trust enough to be totally vulnerable, obedient, and subservient with? In small fun doses of course. I don't particularly enjoy it for itself, but in the development of a relationship it can be interesting and informing for the couple to occasionally hand control to one party. I don't think at any point in my life I could want it often or tolerate a relationship where the control doesn't equally as often land in my hands too. If I'm always being vulnerable and he isn't my gut reaction isnt ooooh kinky ...it is oh no something hinky... what's he hiding!	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 12:59 AM
1	The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men. Meh. He's doing it there to distract from the political power mongering reasons why he is cultivating lonely bitter men. His feelz you see, can't question a carefully timed choking up and a bit of eye water...which he seems, if you examine a few examples of him doing similar on other occasions, quite able to summon just by slowing his tempo and admiring his own words.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 12:10 AM
–	It appears that women don't want men The OP raised it first. He'd do guys if he could suck a dick. Well....he doesn't have to suck a dick to do guys. There's guys who are fine without that. Maybe if he fucks a few of them he might even change his mind about dicks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 01:38 PM
2	I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women. Autism isn't a mental illness. I'm tired of acting like you guys with significant long term problems experiencing sex are mostly neurotypical. Most of you have autism and have excused yourself from maybe 40 percent of normal adult social thought and behavior your entire adult lives and are disabled. You present a huge social problem to yourselves and that's just the way it is. Getting closer to normal is a lot of work you don't want to do...but having a relationship with you as you are now is a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 01:34 PM
–	Do you think woman put on a “customer service” face? And probably believes dating apps are their only hope for a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 12:44 PM
–	Do you think woman put on a “customer service” face? You say "customer service face" I say "appropriate levels of privacy and decorum in mixed company and among people of either gender whose reaction I am still deeply uncertain about" And trust me...this is not a service to men. Socially competent people of either gender filter for their audience. If you've deluded yourself you don't have to... that's not going to go well for you long-term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 12:42 PM
5	It appears that women don't want men I hear there's better odds of rain in the Attacama on days you see clouds. Just saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 11:17 AM
10	It appears that women don't want men We express interest mostly in ways that require a man to be at least a little socially perceptive and paying some attention to notice. And that's fair enough. If a man isn't even paying attention passively to a woman he obviously doesn't want her enough to be a good partner. If he hasn't gained a minimum level of social.perceptiveness then even worse...he isn't interested in people at all	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 10:42 AM
2	Some scientific results on work/life/fertility balance I can understand leaving after winning the lottery. I left a useless lazy shit of a husband back in 92, just after he'd got a job with which he could afford to take over the whole mortgage if he wished to keep the house. He wasn't big on holding down a job for longer than 18 months and was always getting sacked with cause. Getting out when he was set up for success if he would only put in reasonable effort was... fitting. He was in a good position all he had to do was not fuck it up... something…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 10:31 AM
16	It appears that women don't want men The men in this community...geez. Why don't you women approach men? But when you approach us you know we can't trust you! But don't you dare feel that way about us too...that we are dangerous and not to be trusted! You have to be willing to act like our advances are welcome and help us seduce you! Even though we neither like nor trust you! Yeah let's call the whole thing off. Go fuck other men, some of them are happy just to take a dick and not give dick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 09:59 AM
2	I think the biggest problem in dating is that women are simply not honest about what they are attracted to, and despite the fact that men have learned this they are simply told: “so you’re going to tell an actual woman what she wants?” When men say never take dating advice from women. Yeah whatever. Most of you who feel like this your problem is autism and it isn't just women whose replies to you are not understood by you. If a woman emphasizes niceness and sensitiveness to you she's probably noticed that you're not nice or sensitive and are being not nice and not sensitive in precisely the way they find unsexy. This is a form of communication that most people instinctively understand...you approach the tech studies teacher and ask how to sand your woodwork project....he tell…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 07:01 AM
–	Those who criticize people who engage in workplace romances are hypocritical I don't hate those romances in and of themselves...they just never seem to work out even comfy for workmates. I even took concerns about one office romance to personnel who transferred both the participants to new worksites. See this girl I sat next to in an extended open plan office and was going through a complicated divorce involving a half renovated house likely to bankrupt them both, where she still had to live together with her ex in one room. She got drunk at the works Xmas party and fuck…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 04:19 AM
–	Those who criticize people who engage in workplace romances are hypocritical Having a relationship with someone at work is kind of shit even if you are a married couple that got hired separately well after you got married. I know that one from personal experience. While there's nothing morally wrong with flirting with or fucking a workmate it's just really goddamn stupid to bring the unavoidably attached dynamics into the workplace Don't expect sympathy if it all blows up and goes to hell. That would be like bouncing a soccer ball off your window in front of all your fri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 03:39 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Maybe she's taking unpaid time off because her department has a lull in demand for labour. Maybe her employment contract has an option of twice the time off but at halfpay provision. Maybe she's worked there longer than you and genuinely just saved those holiday days up while saving up the money. Maybe her job requires work on public holidays sometimes and there's a provision that she takes the pay for those public holidays as a set number of hours of extra vacation leave. You don't even know wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 01:37 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Would you like her to dump him immediately to bring her reality into line with what you think she deserves?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 04:38 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Well don't you want to know? If some or all of it is just clever use of existing employment provisions, frugal living and a few hacks to get cheap airfare and accommodations... don't you want to know.so you can do it yourself? Or y'know...if it is the shit all the dogs you just whistled up are baying for... don't you want to know for sure so you can write a detailed diatribe?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 03:02 PM
5	Daily Community Chat Megathread You know...if you used some social skills and talked to her she'd probably just tell you how she affords it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 01:51 PM
19	What is your unpopular opinion regarding your own gender that could make others call you a gender traitor? We're an anxious lot, us women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 01:43 PM
1	So do most people apply no critical thought to dating and relationships? Most people aren't autistic.They don't need to overthink this stuff. Also the people who want everyone to think so much also tend to get offended when other people think but the end conclusions aren't to their satisfaction. Even those who say they want this don't really want this..They don't want to be the recipient of "I still sort of like you but decided to divorce you because I can't see this marriage being in anyone's long term interest" even when it is 100 percent true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 12:22 PM
-2	Q4Women: Do you enjoy rejecting men who approach you that you don't find attractive? I am volcel. Doesn't matter what you look like, you're a nope. I don't enjoy exerting the emotional effort of holding back my natural reactions...which are usually something like a curled lip and wrinkled nose and then "no" delivered with ball withering tone. How much effort I put in to not delivering my natural reactions will depend on many factors including how generally stressed I am, how egregiously poorly judged the approach was, and what I am doing at the time. Basically...if you approach …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 12:15 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Let us discuss the aspects of gay sex you conveniently omitted. If you are fine with getting your dick sucked and putting it up some guys bum, congrats you're a top. It's ok to be gay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 08:46 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread And how many of the Instagram owning modern women of America would there be...who do naked field invasions? It's a simple matter of counting isn't it? I guess one could also count how many men do naked Superbowl field invasions...I mean that's fair isn't it, if we're talking what's typical gendered behaviour and what isn't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 08:24 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread A lot of us do? The word fuckboi was literally invented to enable us to warn each other about gross men who stick their dicks anywhere they can	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 06:26 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Ummmm so just inform a nonAmerican who can't be expected to know these things ....how many modern women are there in America and how many of them have done a naked Superbowl run?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 06:22 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread There's people who like me and people who don't. This doesn't bother me. Should it? I don't think so. One gives too much of oneself away and becomes too generic if one aims to be pleasing to all	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 06:17 AM
–	CMV : A big cause of confusion is that the male “average” is statistically above average, but women understandably perceive this above average guy as average You're confusing average with satisfactory...they are two different concepts. It doesn't matter if fat and skinnyfat and porn addiction are all kind of average... something can be average but not satisfactory. Most average men are not satisfactory. Does it make one solitary shit of difference to my assessment of those things as unsatisfactory of they are also kind of average? Nope. Just like fat being average doesn't make fat women satisfactory to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 06:03 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread His body is slightly above average being not fat or skinny fat...but I have less than zero desire to be in close proximity to it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/23 03:32 PM
4	CMV : A big cause of confusion is that the male “average” is statistically above average, but women understandably perceive this above average guy as average Let's call the whole thing off then. Oh wait..Guys seem incapable of doing that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/23 03:12 AM
-1	Q4All: Who says "if you approach you'll get arrested"? Who are these men? Cowards. They are cowards. Now don't get me wrong, I don't think approach in inappropriate circumstances or inappropriate ways should be done. But ummm...the worst that is likely to happen to you if you do it is you get sneered at. Every job I have ever worked required me to have more courage than that. Fast food? Some of those customers are violent, fight and do dumb shit like light bins on fire. Cleaning hotel rooms in a crappy hotel? Yeah that was a bit scary you walk in and someone's been co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/23 02:18 AM
2	CMV : A big cause of confusion is that the male “average” is statistically above average, but women understandably perceive this above average guy as average Yes. This He may be six foot tall and have a good job. He also has a massive porn addiction, is skinny fat, anxious, and whines a lot. Is he average? Does it matter...he's barely satisfactory.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/23 01:48 AM
1	No one ever seems to want to acknowledge that women consistently go for abusive, bad natured men. If you bring this up all they do is shame you to silence the discussion, and this is probably the most prominent example of gaslighting in dating/gender dynamics. Guys who are of that opinion usually when they speak to a girl they're always looking for some way to feel superior to her. They look for some way her exes were in their eyes inexcusable choices and if they can't find any way they were particularly terrible...if they were just ordinary flawed but in ways that she wasn't on board with they decide that her problem is that she's too picky. It's basically just a strategy to always say "woman bad" hiding behind some sophistry designed to try to circu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/23 10:54 PM
-2	CMV: Missing out on teen love as a male can be hugely detrimental in later years while courting a woman. If they didn't have enough sexual drive to put themselves forward in their teens when sexual drive is usually at its strongest and after a solid decade or more of total sexual deprivation still don't have enough sexual frustration built up to allow them to desire and fuck a 2/10 because with her they may be getting an easier run ... maybe what's in essence wrong isn't that they missed some opportunities. Maybe it is that there's something wrong with their maleness.Maybe they're just lacking in s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/23 12:39 AM
9	Women claiming to be 'Sapiosexual' often do so either inaccurately or as code for something else. Mostly it just means obvious stupidity really gives her the ick. It's just a nicer way of putting it than "if you do something spectacularly dumb before I am deeply fond of you, you're gone" She just says "sapiosexual" because it's less in your face to suggest to guys she's never met that being smart is attractive than saying "don't be an idiot please do not be an idiot too many guys are idiots if you know you're an idiot don't waste my time" You're over analysing something really simple. Don't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/23 12:52 PM
1	Should sex toys be permitted in a relationship The real doll is getting put in the garden shed as soon as he lets it get stanky...I'm fine for washing ordinary scale sex toys for both of us but I draw the line at anything I have to bathe like an elderly person with dementia	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 04:40 PM
-2	Have you ever tried look at dating from opposite sex's perspective, by making a fake account? I also.don't go randomly asking a thousand folks for the time when I don't need the time. Look it's real simple and guys who don't like their app experience are just missing the obvious...leave the app. That's what most women have done. Imma assume if you're still there you love it there. There's no.one threatening to beat you if you breakup with an app. Don't look at what they say look at what they do. Men obviously love apps because men don't leave apps. Anytime a man who is still on the apps …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 02:35 PM
–	Dating would be better if people just accepted all they are entitled to is apathy. That third paragraph makes me wonder if you've ever been to a bar in your life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 01:06 PM
-4	Have you ever tried look at dating from opposite sex's perspective, by making a fake account? No..Why would I waste other women's time like that? It's like stealing from them. Why are you seriously considering wasting other men's time like that? I know men have it difficult because they say so. I know women have it difficult because they say so. I know apps are craps because neither men nor women are happy with the apps and at best see them as a tedious grind through masses of profiles of inappropriate people who don't want them in the way they wish to be wanted. Get off the apps if they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 12:58 PM
0	Is the "you can have it all" narrative actually doing women more harm than good? Life's full of potentially missing out and missed opportunities no matter what you do and humans have always had to deal with that. I don't feel any more sorry for her than I do for the dudes whining about never experiencing young love because they were kind of slow working out that it didn't just happen it required someone to overcome inertia to make it happen. Some people do have something very close to "it all" and that's just reality. For quite a few women a fairly good career and two or thr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 08:41 AM
1	Are men always expected to be the entertainers on dates? Or maybe even in relationships? Well...yeah...if you're following the pattern of you saw something you liked and now you are going to go get it? You've decided that the energy her arse or her tits or her face is putting out is worth a second look and then you ask her on a date because of that. Meanwhile she's probably got no energy from you yet that motivates her beyond mild curiosity. Basically all she knows of you is likely to be that you're probably kind of average but she doesn't know what flavour of average yet. Women are…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/23 02:43 AM
2	Are men always expected to be the entertainers on dates? Or maybe even in relationships? There's no point for a woman in working to be appealing to a date once she's decided there will be no second date. I mean just saying. You're probably seeing a self protective behavior there in any woman who did this and then did not later show interest in a second date. If you don't want him, don't do anything to have him, because that's a great way to acquire a stalker. My personal experience as a woman and observation of friends is that women in relationships are very big on having fun and be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/23 12:10 PM
1	There is a 50/50 male to female ratio, but somehow more than half of young men are single. How does this make sense? I think there's a lot of lowish value young men in steady dating relationships with lowish value young women and a lot of those men have like only slightly above z zero chance of getting another girl but regard themselves as single and available because they've never had the talk about exclusivity... and a lot of women dating those men who think they are part of a couple. They're the sort of losers who used to post to ask red pill about shit like "I got my first plate six months ago and the sex …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/23 10:04 AM
5	Crazy ex-girlfriends (or boyfriends) aren't crazy. They're abusive. Calling them crazy downplays the seriousness of their actions. Yep. That's my experience too. It's shorthand for "I think she's difficult to be around but don't go asking me too many questions about it." She's crazy she never wanted to go out to parties and tried to make me stay home. Don't ask why, she's just crazy. Don't go talk to her about it, she's crazy. Oh...she says it is because I would always drink and then want to drive. Well of course she'd say something like that she's crazy. She's crazy she threw out my things. Oh you asked her about it. Well …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/23 04:43 AM
1	If you were a pretty 21 year old women how would you make the most of your looks? Forget about relationships with men and especially with rich and powerful men... they impose restrictions and try to keep you disempowered and controlled, they don't actually want you to be wealthy in your own right. Forget about sex work it doesn't pay enough and ruins your reputation. Find jobs like actress or singer or politician where looking good for the public is important and gives an edge...also you'll naturally end up travelling a bit. Invest everything you can in businesses that make m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/23 07:07 AM
4	Why are so many child free women not pet free? It doesn’t make sense to not want kids but want pets instead. As someone who has had both cats and kids... Child. Your child did not bring three serves of fruit and veg in her lunchbox today. She only brought two. No, an extra large apple does not count as two serves You need to do better. This is unacceptable. Do you want your child to end up unhealthy? Is that what you want? Cat. Oh that's Fluffy. She likes to hide on top of the fridge and scratch people who try to befriend her. All your friends try to befriend Fluffy. Some get scratched. No-one blames F…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/23 12:37 PM
–	Are alternative aesthetics, in terms of attraction, relevant after 25? After sometime in your mid twenties you need subculture substance not just subculture aesthetic if you are doing the subculture thing. That doesn't mean the aesthetic is worthless and neither does it mean you always need material resources. Material resources are very nice though, definitely of substance. Let's say at 19 you hang out in the student common room looking very environmentalist alternative and randomly going to protests and being vegetarian. At 25 if you're following the curve you ne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/23 05:47 AM
–	Your position with this whole crowder thing, especially the video, determines if you're actually TRP I think it is highly likely he was on camera doing similar many times. That particular video was just the pick of the litter because he's very publicly prolife and there he is threatening his heavily pregnant wife.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/23 05:08 AM
–	Your position with this whole crowder thing, especially the video, determines if you're actually TRP I don't think it's wrong for those TRP men who oppose no fault divorce to abandon him over this. Collection of evidence of wrongdoing and then public exposure of that evidence was normal in fault based divorce systems. Protecting ones reputation by proving fault of the other party was normal. And among that particular crowd it is still regarded as normal and fair and just. She's being a good conservative woman who only divorces if her husband is at fault and she can show evidence she isn't at fa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/23 04:22 AM
58	If current hypergamy continues, there will be huge genetic bottlenecks and eventually endemic defects I tell you what...get back to me about genetic bottlenecks if the world population gets down to a billion and is still shrinking. Until then I don't give a solitary single shit about this theory. One billion was the population in 1800 ce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/23 08:18 AM
1	Q4M: I think your rating scale miscalibrated when talking about "average women". Which of these women is average to you? Hmmmm. Average to below average face and a distinctly homoerotic body presentation. Katie McRose from Right Choice Shearing is your match.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 09:13 PM
9	Is sex tourism a hidden gem for men who want causal sex? The guys that fantasize about going to places sex is less than $25 an hour are largely too chickenshit scared of the illegality of prostitution in their own countries to pay any amount at all for sex. The reason they aren't scared of paying for sex in Colombia is they basically know nothing about Colombia and in most cases they don't intend finding out. It's like how Gilbert and Sullivan wrote the Mikado about a fictional Japan. They want to talk about how great for men almost free sex would be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 08:03 AM
8	Is sex tourism a hidden gem for men who want causal sex? https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/traveladvisories/traveladvisories/colombia-travel-advisory.html	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 02:05 AM
36	Is sex tourism a hidden gem for men who want causal sex? It's dangerous. The men running those girls care about you personally even less than the miniscule amount they care about the girls they run...the girls are an asset and you're just a temporary income stream I really do not recommend going alone and I recommend you choose a person to go with who has been doing it a while. And think ...really think ...and research...all the ways it is possible to be led into terrible situations in countries that are casual about things like sex trafficking. Every…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 01:03 AM
-1	CMV: Women don't have a reason to complain about men not putting in effort. Lol who are you trying to date... Instagram hotties? If you're aiming at those girls you need to be on their level in the thing they care about. But those girls are less than one percent of girls. Pick a different demographic and make sure your shirt fits and your feet don't smell.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/23 10:48 PM
1	CMV: Women don't have a reason to complain about men not putting in effort. Now there you are moving the goalposts. It is all most guys who have just started dating need to acquire as extra to normal in the way of the specific categories of things the OP mentioned, in order to have a very good chance of not screwing over all his starting points because of those categories of things. But obviously it's too much work and we're too fickle so he should just give up. It seems to be what he's hoping to do...just excuse himself from the being suitable game.So he's excused. He …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/23 10:45 PM
-1	CMV: Women don't have a reason to complain about men not putting in effort. That's the spirit boy. That'll show them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/23 11:43 AM
1	CMV: Women don't have a reason to complain about men not putting in effort. Yes yes I hear you, it is all too hard to know a handful of fun places to go and to own a tuckable shirt that fits and a pair of sneakers that don't smell horrible. Feel free to stop trying. Keep being boring and looking and smelling like a mediaeval swineherd. That'll show 'em.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/23 03:48 AM
2	Women who call all other women 10's/perfect/gorgeous are engaging in intrasex competition It's sisterhood...amd women's friendships as they manifest as in large part an extension of sisterhood. Historically speaking a lot of the time women were married off without much say and left their families to go live with their husbands family. Things would have been particularly rough for the unattractive sisters and it wouldn't be improved by them believing they lacked the ability to be seen as fuckable. Uncertainty doubt and reticence are a luxury of the very attractive in sexual situations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/23 12:36 AM
1	CMV The Domination of online dating, leads to less and less variety in Men. More and more Men are the „same“. I really wanna discuss this. Some same-y same-y things are good. Like you know... standardized spelling. Anyhow subcultures and individual tastes exist. You maybe just have to learn how to express more things about yourself at once if you're having trouble being broadly acceptable while still keeping your niche appeal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/23 11:25 PM
5	If most men are vulgar and disrespectful than the wholesome ones should have no trouble connecting with women... yet they seem to struggle the most Never trust a person's glowing assessment of their own wholesomeness. What you're generally seeing in people who think themselves to be wonderful is a combination of a denial that their less stellar qualities exist, a lack of self examination, and a bunch of outright lying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/23 11:19 PM
1	What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumped Just don't have anything to do with men ever...if you think they crap up your life intolerably when they hit it then quit it then you're certainly not strong enough for the extended, layered, multi-natured suffering of having one of them decide to stick around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/23 11:17 PM
0	realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in men Nope. Men are like poisonous berries that look delicious but make you vomit if consumed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/23 07:50 AM
1	Imagine you were a man. How would you make your cheating ex regret breaking your heart? If she's a sadist FFS don't look or act like you're hurt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/23 04:55 AM
0	Imagine you were a man. How would you make your cheating ex regret breaking your heart? I'd tell her I forgive her and sincerely wish her the best with him. Be unfailingly polite to her whenever we accidentally encounter each other. I wouldn't talk shit about her. I would frame it all as just one of those things. And I would stay in her social media and permit her to stay on mine...filtered where that is possible. I would never comment though Then I would have a good hard think about all the things she apparently thought I wasn't good for. Was I too unfit? Did I not have enough soc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/23 04:41 AM
1	Ladies - What percentage of the bills would you expect your man to pay if you lived together? I have had two major cohabiting relationships. The first one all of both our pays went into a joint account from which our mortgage payments were taken and he was the one who did the chore of paying bills from that account. This was before internet bill paying was really a thing, and he had the job location and hours that a regular visit to the post office worked better with. The second one...he owned a newly purchased house before we met so we just sort of agreed at the start that he was paying…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/23 01:13 AM
0	realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in men A woman's own fingers work better than a man's dick	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/23 12:00 AM
1	realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in men When the love of a man is the prize a woman is always the loser. A man's love is usually stifling and controlling and has negative utility and generally ruins a woman's life. If she's willing to accept trinkets as the prize she can win trinkets. Our entire culture is set up to try to get women to accept trinkets. Because when a woman stops wanting the trinkets a man carries she takes a good hard look at the man himself and...ewwwww.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/23 08:00 PM
6	realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in men Well then why don't more of you go your own way? That's the sensible conclusion once one is of the opinion that the opposite sex is garbage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/23 11:25 AM
15	realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in men Eh. The real shock is at fifty looking around at the guys you didn't think were too bad back in your early twenties and seeing their relationships and their divorces and their failures and their horrible fatal flaws writ large in the tragedies of their lives and how they mess over their wives and kids and realising that the entire game is stacked against heterosexual women because men are what they are. That's the shock ..not "where have all the good men gone" but "aaaaaargh men weren't good omg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 11:34 PM
0	If expecting a woman to cook/clean because she’s a woman is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man because he’s the man be misandry? I don't expect men to ask me out. Trust me...you can just not ask me out and there will be zero backlash from me. Is fine. This is as far as I can tell most women's point of view. Of course it is the job of someone who asks a person out on a date that involves expense to pay. This applies even to nonromantic dates...if I ask someone to meet me at a cafe to discuss a business matter I buy their coffee and light meal. I'm not going to, hypothetically speaking, ask some starving gen Z artist out to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/23 07:55 PM
1	Women often lie or “trickle truth” because they genuinely feel like they did no wrong and victimize themselves Lol, when I left my ex husband back in 1992 I fucked a mutual friend within 48 hours. No regrets no apologies. You know how the mutual friend knew I was single? About two weeks before moving out I'd sat down with my soon to be ex and thrashed out a bunch of rules and a roadmap for getting through this all as painlessly as possible. He agreed and then basically five minutes after I left started breaking as many of the rules as possible...we agreed no shit talking to mutual friends until the divor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/23 07:36 PM
0	TikTok gender swap pill: Women surprised that most of them look like unattractive men Ok Cupid dudes actually are on average way way below community average though. It's like a rummage sale there. Stand on any busy city intersection watching the diversity of people cross as the lights. The dudes are gonna on average be way above the guys who leave their profiles up on OK cupid for a zillion years. Just facts. Women put up a profile and in a few months they are either happily matched or they have deleted their profile because they decided interacting with what is on OkCupid for th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/23 09:16 PM
3	TikTok gender swap pill: Women surprised that most of them look like unattractive men What I see there is the app hasn't changed her feminine posing, hasn't given her a little bit extra jawline and shoulder to account for T, hasn't swapped in a less feminine pair of trousers and hasn't taken all her lip or eyebrow cosmetic efforts off properly. If she's got brothers with similar genetics to her and who are doing standard.male appearance choices about things like facial hair and clothing my bet is that gender swap is less masculine than any of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/23 09:01 PM
26	If the future implies that 1/3 of people will remain unpartnered for their older age, it will be a nightmare https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Single_women_in_the_Middle_Ages#:~:text=In%20medieval%20Europe%2C%20there%20was,married%20in%20their%20mid%2Dtwenties. We've had similar rates of lifelong single status before. What is likely to happen is social institutions and economic behaviour adjust. Maybe we will see the equivalent of monasteries and nunneries. Maybe it will become very normal for unmarried family members to live with family members who have kids, and provide childcare and free labour in retur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/23 05:58 PM
1	Both genders would do better in the dating market if women did not insist on marriage and weddings so much One less thing for average women to desire from average men. We can throw it on the same heap we threw protection and being given stay at home status and chopping firewood and taking his surname and having him be the driver and... Keep going. I'm sure if you try hard enough you can achieve a world in which the average man offers nothing. Can't wait to see how that goes for men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/23 06:05 AM
4	How important do you think teen love is? I think most of you guys bemoaning your lack of teen love are really just unhappy in the now about the now and looking for things in the past to blame it on, looking to blame it on anything but who you choose to be right now. If some girl had been your highschool girlfriend and then it had been nothing after that I don't think you'd be grateful for the past love...I think you'd find a way to blame her. Why did she have to dump you or why did she have to be not good enough to not dump. You'd stil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/23 03:25 AM
-4	A lot of dating advice given by women here only works for women Because where ever a woman goes online there's incel tears flowing. Can't help but get some salt on us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 10:25 PM
0	Do TRP men even have interests outside of getting laid? I think a lot of them have hobbies but their hobbies are worse than no hobbies because they deliberately chose their usually quite time consuming hobbies and also what specific activities they do within their hobbies and how often as havens way back when the difficulties of getting the attention of the opposite sex really began to bite. Their hobbies don't have room for normal social circle formation and they lack the self examination to realise that was deliberately self inflicted. They in thei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 07:56 PM
-3	A lot of dating advice given by women here only works for women Well enjoy your Tinder experience then. Four dudes to every girl and most of the girls are in it for shits and giggles and to see if that one guy they liked in high school shows up. Hmmmm. Apps don't work for you, making actual cold approaches obviously doesn't work for you because if it did you'd all be out doing it not delaying as long as possible while you looksmaxx and wealthmaxx, and having a social circle doesn't work for you because blah blah blah reasons. You're all really at the ends of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 04:55 PM
-2	Promiscuous women who preach that you shouldn't judge women by their sexual past are the first ones to judge virgin guys for their lack of sexual past They got out there and found a guy who met their attractiveness requirements and assessed the risks involved in potential clinginess weren't too awful. They were possibly passed over by other guys they found just as or more attractive because the prospect of a fumbling encounter full of having to instruct, followed by risks of potential clinginess wasn't his thing. That's life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 03:52 PM
-2	Promiscuous women who preach that you shouldn't judge women by their sexual past are the first ones to judge virgin guys for their lack of sexual past So?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 03:29 PM
-2	Promiscuous women who preach that you shouldn't judge women by their sexual past are the first ones to judge virgin guys for their lack of sexual past Those sound like two very reasonable concerns.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 02:34 PM
1	Should men be offended if they have to get get money first before you date them? Some man somewhere is gonna be offended whatever and however women choose, that's many a man's nature, to get angry and take offence. Same man getting angry because he's broke and got rejected probably gets just as angry three years later after he gets a job and a car and an apartment and hears that a homeless man has a girlfriend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 02:20 PM
1	FBI documents reveal that Red Pill terminology like "Chad", "Looksmaxxing" and "Red Pill" itself is being flagged and monitored as an indicator of incel violence or racial/ethnic based extremism. How if at all do you think this will impact TRP as a source of dating/life advice? I think I'm looking forward to when those who produce content for incels start being given the full treatment when they try to board commercial aircraft. Ok that was a joke. I'm just amused by the idea not actually looking forward to it. What isn't a joke is that it is going to be nice for my government to be able to ask the USA for risk assessments that include this risk factor when our border control assesses whether people meet the character test for entry to Australia. https://immi.homeaffai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 06:34 AM
2	Straight Women: Is an unattractive man or an attractive woman preferable to you? (Please read post) I don't want either of them. I would choose the woman because she would be less likely to act like a total piece of shit. Yes I know you said he wouldn't do anything she didn't do during the encounter. You can't follow him forever though... eventually he might try to track me down or talk shit about me or whatever, like unattractive guys tend to do. And I wouldn't believe you if you said you could stop him remembering it. It's not just that a guy is unattractive...it is also that low value guys …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 05:30 AM
1	Many young people nowadays say dating is more trouble than it's worth Nah it's really easy and almost seamless. Oh... you're new to metal detecting and seeking advice...well how about we meet at this local beach and I can show you the three detectors I own and we can detect the beach together? It was pretty clearly an attempt at getting me on a date without calling it a date. And yeah I'm old. But jeez. Young people meet each other too over stuff they interact with first about online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/23 12:01 AM
0	Many young people nowadays say dating is more trouble than it's worth "met online" doesn't necessarily mean "met on a dating app" People interact online and sometimes they decide to meet. I've met lots of people online who I then met in real life. In the past month I'd say maybe a dozen people so far, maybe two dozen this year? I'm not looking to date. I do however use the internet to find things I am interested in doing and interact a little bit with those involved before I start. I mean seriously this is part of how doing stuff and having social circles works no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 11:51 PM
4	Many young people nowadays say dating is more trouble than it's worth Well for starters, maxxing anything is probably a waste of time for most people unless you also enjoy that process of maxxing. There's a law of diminishing returns and there's a curve to those diminishing returns. Both the efforts required and the payback from the results of those efforts starts to look hellishly fucked up once you're near the max. As soon as I hear a guy say "maxxing" I wince because it is stupid and cringe. And secondly...you've got social development needs that aren't about s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 06:45 PM
12	Many young people nowadays say dating is more trouble than it's worth Step 1 was his biggest mistake Step 1 should be goes out and learns the various types of social life of his town or city, gets a set of social circles. Anyone for whom Tinder is the entire journey not just a sideshow is either rather unusual in their needs or an utter fool.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 06:01 PM
7	the fundamental issue with most dating advice directed at men is most of it boils down to “be someone else entirely” And because people like so many different things, it's really not unreasonable to change somewhat to be more liked. You've got options in self improvement. Especially if you're right down the bottom of the pile on all measures you've got so very many options to get started. You can choose things that enhance how you get on with yourself too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 04:49 PM
1	SOME men in your league will try to use you. But if you only go for men above your league, ALL OF THEM WILL The dating app platforms are designed to easily permit strangers to casually use each other. Any man or woman who isn't ok on some level with that happening over and over to them shouldn't be on the apps. The thought that one can avoid it by shooting lower is ridiculous. Low value men are still men and like to have sex without regard for the emotional consequences to a woman. Low value women are still women and still like to toy with men's feelings, futures and wallets then decide nah not feelin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 08:12 AM
5	SOME men in your league will try to use you. But if you only go for men above your league, ALL OF THEM WILL Most women have already left dating apps or no longer use them seriously and with intent. This whole post of yours sounds like trying to argue us back in on your terms. Like there's some right way to use the apps that will deal with the problems. Just come back and swipe yes to ugly dudes, lol. Nope. Ugly dudes, weird dudes, socially inept dudes fat dudes scrawny dudes...those are matches to make through social circles. Observe from a distance and mull over if you've got what it takes for fifty …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 01:50 AM
3	Asking your partner to wear less revealing clothes: controlling or boundaries? People come from cultures. Cultures have defining cultural experiences and cultural norms. If it is normal in her culture for attached women of a particular age to post a particular sort of pic in a particular way and it isn't normal in yours then maybe that's something you should have pushed to work out between you before you went and started feeling attached to her. People also have their particular interpretation of their culture. If she likes posting half naked artsy shots of all her biker s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 11:25 PM
1	When She complains that her man is "bad at sex" Sex is a bit like dancing. Sure it can be taught. Try as they might some people will never be truly good at it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 04:42 PM
2	Do You Think This Woman Was In The Wrong? You hate her. And she's what's on Tinder. Remind me why you're still on Tinder?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 10:02 AM
3	Do You Think This Woman Was In The Wrong? It's bleak...ON TINDER. Most women aren't ON TINDER. You don't have to be ON TINDER Any day you can get OFF TINDER How fucking stupid does a man have to be to keep ploughing hours of swiping INTO TINDER when he doesn't even like the girls who can still endure the place and swipe no a hundred thousand times just to get a bit of cock attached to a muscular body and handsome face? Fucking hell.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 08:47 AM
0	Do You Think This Woman Was In The Wrong? Well if she wasn't there those guys would just fuck a different Tinder chick. It isn't gonna be the top guys who really miss out if her contribution is removed. Someone gets bumped from getting laid and it ain't the guy at the top...it is the guy at the bottom isn't it..	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 05:39 AM
1	Are most western women going to marry most western men in the future? Two incomes is the only way most young people in my country can afford to buy a house that isn't in a remote, rural and economically depressed area.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 03:59 AM
1	How do you think women respond to "pick-mes", and why do you think that is? It's just what actual real-life pick-mes are like to be around. They latch on then attempt to inflate a guy like he's some sort of balloon. That's their strategy to try to get more of a guy than they can easily get based upon looks, charm etc. Then when they dump...it is sudden and ruthless. He broke a covert contract. They were going all out and so should he. Idk. Maybe we just hung out more than the current generation do and saw more of each other not tiktok etc. I'd seen it happen twice alrea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 01:50 AM
2	How do you think women respond to "pick-mes", and why do you think that is? Pick-mes are irritating to have around in ones social circle. They latch onto some slightly shitty guy who theoretically has potential but just can't be bothered reaching his potential and give him a bit of pep talk and a lot of sex and blow smoke up his arse about how wonderful he is....then when he's as attached as he ever could be they realise he's not going to improve in response to all that boosting and they dump him very unceremoniously. Then shitty guy starts having a big fat whine about …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 01:12 AM
7	Do You Think This Woman Was In The Wrong? Lol. Men complaining that a woman has a low swipe rate. Most women aren't on Tinder. They've in effect swiped no to anything and everything just by deciding Tinder is full of trash and is too much effort reading profiles of trash and interacting with trash. So there you go being hostile to one of the girls who is still on tinder, still bothering to even look at your trash profiles. And five minutes later you'll be whining about sex ratios on Tinder. Wah wah wah where the girls at? Gosh...I wonde…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 11:53 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread https://www.youtube.com/@missfayesworld303 Miss Faye's World She's alive, Kevin Samuels is dead. Lol. Have a nice day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 09:22 PM
0	When a girl says she loves you, what she loves is what you do for her, how you make her feel and the lifestyle she's able to participate in by being with you. It is irresponsible to form lifelong reciprocal arrangements with other human beings unless the arrangement is probably going to enhance both their lives. If one or both of us are bound to be crushed the relationship is one that should not progress. Romeo and Juliet is a tragedy not a romance. One of them should have had more sense for both their sakes. Women seem to understand this better than men. And as for women running off when things go to shit...they don't tend to when the cause is random…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 05:02 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Basically. "Hey dude...I'll keep your girl terrified and you keep my girl terrified... every man wins! The guys here who whine about women "hiding behind modern law enforcement" are basically upset because we'd rather pay taxes and think that works out better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 03:48 PM
2	Are most western women going to marry most western men in the future? The leftover women thing in China is obviously government attempts at social pressure and manipulation. With their gender imbalance any woman leftover is not a hapless unfortunate...she has deliberately chosen to be left over.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 02:42 AM
3	Are most western women going to marry most western men in the future? Sigh. In every college there will be some girls doing a new guy that often but it isn't typical. It wasn't typical when I went to university in the nineties and it wasn't typical among the girls my daughter was friends with when she went to university with a couple of years ago. She knew precisely one girl who fit that description and that girl was and always had been a mess... skinny and pretty but anorexic and a borderline. That girl always had some boring guy orbiting her until it got too pai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 02:19 AM
1	The amount of economically, emotionally, & physically viable men in society is declining. How do we change this? Fixing housing prices would go a long way towards giving everyone something to work for. It's time we once again built what used to be called dormitory suburbs...row after row of cheap houses slapped together fast usually as a result of government intervention and priced to be affordable on an ordinary wage. Yes the developers can make more money off macmansions and also want the government to stay out of the business and not undercut them...fuck the developers making a new suburb is a privilege…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/23 12:33 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread They want compulsory DNA tests because they don't want to take personal responsibility in the relationship for the decision to check up on something like that. Because while she's unlikely to dip out because of the test later on in the relationship she might say "look I really want to see your phone immediately this one time...and yes I think I'm owed a free pass on doing so this once because remember that time that you went and got a paternity test even though we actively planned the conception…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 10:11 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread If fatties are what you can get then fatties are what you are worth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 09:50 PM
-2	Q4All Does the BP hate the idea of systematic approaches working because they destroy the idea of things just magically happening? No.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 03:02 PM
1	Women in no kids relationship with a man who severely outearns you: do you reciprocate his contribution in any way? Well y'know... that's life and relationships. Complicated. Not simple. Comprised of complicated expectations, agreements, goals, desires, differing systems you are part of, plans, previous experiences between you... complicated even for one person and you get two people together and the complexity isn't times two it is more like to the power of two. Then add kids and that's more complexity. Have I in the past stepped up and done more for a significant other who got himself more work? Yeah. Have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 12:18 PM
1	Women in no kids relationship with a man who severely outearns you: do you reciprocate his contribution in any way? Well I'm not in such a relationship but I know something about relationships in general due to actually having been in relationships most of my life. It's going to depend a lot on the nature of the relationship and whether those things he is doing are truly for me too. For example if we are unmarried just cohabiting for the while and with no stated long term plans together and he's becoming a tired grumpy overworked asshole to pay his mortgage on his house off faster...like whatever dude you're …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 11:09 AM
15	Are most western women going to marry most western men in the future? Nobody currently gets married because what's the point if you're unable to accumulate enough wealth to buy a house. That's what marriage is for...house, then a focus on kids or building lifestyle or building wealth or some combination thereof. It's a public commitment to build a life together. Bob and Chloe get married and that announces that they are going to start doing real stuff... everyone cheers. Most women aren't having huge amounts of sex. With your western this and western that but no u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 09:22 AM
1	Q4All Does the BP hate the idea of systematic approaches working because they destroy the idea of things just magically happening? I don't want a man. My system involves with increasing degrees of directness showing and/or telling men who show interest that they need to go away I am not interested. The general response I see from highly systemetizing men when I run my system on them is they become personally angry at me. Could you guys maybe stop doing that? I assure you that it is just my system.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 09:10 AM
1	CMV: Dumping awkward or unattractive guys into the Alaskan wilderness in late winter might make them more attractive. I don't think that should be necessary. Just consistently doing things that stretch their current limitations should be enough for the majority of men. That's a large part of the problem with men who do poorly dating, the utter refusal to engage with the outside world if it makes them uncomfortable. A while back I was discussing with one of the posters here places to go meet girls and take girls and had one of those moments of utter despair for the ability of some guys to get out and deal.with t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 08:20 AM
3	Dunning–Kruger effect in action: Those who suggest that men who struggle with dating hire sex workers are the ones who know the least about it Yes well....they mostly don't seem like the sort of people even other lonely people are eager to spend time around even on a platonic basis. Too many moments when they say insane shit that points straight at them being bad company. And I say this as someone who says some pretty damn insane shit herself at times. But y'know...tell them to work hard to make more friends because right now that's probably the best thing that is reasonably attainable and they do the online equivalent of Joshua's peac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/23 12:12 AM
5	Dunning–Kruger effect in action: Those who suggest that men who struggle with dating hire sex workers are the ones who know the least about it Usually I suggest it to men who seem like they are going to seriously harm self or others if they don't get to have sex. I'm not going to stop suggesting it to those men. They should get their courage and their money together and purchase some sexual services. Or y'know...if they've been making a bigger deal about their situation than actually exists and don't like being told to step up and pay... maybe they should stop portraying themselves as in more dire straits than they actually are in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 11:17 PM
3	Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman? You get a lot of drunks and violence and working when you should be asleep and minor injuries you have to work through in fast food. Also if you work the front counter you have to actively sell cheese and fries and stuff... that's an exercise in not being to proud to get rejected. Gas station is a lot of dodgy shit happening and being the only one on to handle it. Some of the dodgy shit is fairly high stakes too like people smoking around the pumps,.crime, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 06:31 PM
3	Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman? A second job in fast food or working at a gas station would go a long way to toughening up some of them and is a whole lot more accessible than most options. Even doing a weekend as a volunteer collecting for charity would toughen some of them up more. I never cease to be amazed how little concern men pay to whether the pairing they wish for will actually work. A traditional woman wants marriage then kids. A soft woman wants you to shield her from harshness. A feminine woman wants support to con…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 05:54 PM
0	Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman? Women want a future that works out ok. You are not a future that a soft and traditional woman can make work out ok. You might have to want a woman who is less traditional and/or a bit more of a hardass if you want saving, Cinderfella.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 05:33 PM
14	Men who don't have the desire/ability to financially provide, do you think you deserve a traditional, soft, and feminine woman? A lot of it is really soft guys think they deserve even softer women so they can feel like the man. But a very soft woman isn't going to stay soft long if she's having to take responsibility for too much stuff. It takes real grit, determination and a bunch of other not soft qualities to keep a household running while the other person just gets to stay soft. Someone gotta be hard. Someone gotta deal with spiders, do a budget, insist necessary tasks be done on time, tell the hard truths that must …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 02:15 PM
1	Q4M - Is fit, feminine, friendly, and cooperative REALLY all you're asking for? You know...you guys say that and say that and say that...but when it comes down to it...you say differently when the same thing is asked but framed differently.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 04:36 PM
2	Q4M - Is fit, feminine, friendly, and cooperative REALLY all you're asking for? Ikr? There's not a lot of mention of one of the most coveted things "makes me look like a winner not a loser to other men" Get them boasting between each other about their standards and it becomes very obvious that most of them are disappointed with a girl who doesn't also function as a trophy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 10:08 AM
22	Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become? 99 percent of humanity thinks a Warhammer action figure collection is a bit lame and not self improvement. Just saying. Don't try to blame women for that one. Look the answer to this one is really easy and right there in your post...that last paragraph of yours indicates you don't think that a woman having the tingles for a man improves life in a way a man actually values. So just try to be wealthy and then you can marry a gold digger or pay whores...and also afford as many lame action figures a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 03:46 PM
1	How safe is it for a guy to get black out drunk in presence of girls? Being accused of something you didn't do is probably less of a legal risk to your freedom than doing things you are too drunk to fully see the risk of and that your sexual partner is unable to fully protest about due to too drunk. Basically you're almost certainly going to get let off if the only evidence is an annoyed woman who was also drunk saying you had some safe-ish sex she wouldn't have agreed to if sober...this getting let off is far less likely if there was actual physical damage done. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 09:12 AM
1	Fathers work harder overall than mothers on average. It's just the logical conclusion that must be reached from "dumb boy brain"...what competent adult woman wants a manchild as a life partner? Either a person is properly adult or they shouldn't be in a serious relationship that needs to be load bearing. Someone who has a "dumb boy brain" or "dumb girl brain" is always going to be the first and greatest part of the load their partner must carry. That not only doesn't leave room for kids (personally I think even for people who don't want kids, havi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/23 04:42 AM
0	Fathers work harder overall than mothers on average. "dumb boy brain" Well if it is inborn there's no fixing it with discussion. Time to stop bothering with men, and their dumb boy brains. They are just too damn annoying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 07:36 PM
1	If you're a guy with a girlfriend, part of your "job" is to keep her from being bored. Well...yes? I mean you want her to stay interesting and she wants you to stay interesting? So you don't torture each other with boredom in the relationship that comprises maybe 95 percent of your human interaction outside work. You youngsters don't remember the couples that stayed together only because they weren't allowed divorce. One of the things they used to do to torture each other with was boredom. He would refuse to allow the purchase of a new dress more than once a year...in revenge she …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 10:21 AM
4	Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money? This. I've encountered this personally. I buy expensive coloured pencils...one by one. Sometimes I buy watercolour paint tubes. Sometimes I buy a couple of embroidery threads or a metre of linen. That's my splurge if I want a bit of cheerful retail therapy. So a male friend gets on my case about how much more expensive this is than just buying a set. And I have to point out to him that he also buys a little treat every three to four months... but every time its hundreds of bucks worth. I buy... …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 04:23 PM
1	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Oh I'm basically old and retired so what I do now is own capital...I work but it isn't necessary so much now so it is mostly self employment for fun. Plus I am not looking for someone to lay down with me so it isn't relevant to me in the same way it probably is to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 09:05 AM
3	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Well if you're happy living your live how you live it and not understanding the perspectives that inform how much more you can possibly attempt, then keep doing things your way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 09:01 AM
13	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies A lot of guys prefer to be leeches. That doesn't mean they all do. But certainly enough of them do that it is ridiculous to credit all men with being good, noble and productive. A sizable proportion of men are.baggage being carried by everyone else. The leeches need to stop thinking they are owed anything just because they have a Y chromosome and so did Plato and Socrates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:40 AM
4	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Fixing it all? Hard. Fixing enough of it that there's a lot less leeching going on? That's not so hard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:21 AM
5	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Could pick a purpose and could seek mental health care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:15 AM
1	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Parties don't just spring out of nowhere....they are organized. If you're part of the "show up if invited" crowd you get what you're offered when someone judges you a suitable as a passive building block of their vision and that's all you get.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:13 AM
6	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Bars and restaurants are one of the places where social circles happen. So is online...online has various places in it and talking in the comments of a mutual friends Facebook is still social circles. If you're not actually participating in making social circles stuff happen...if you just show up for stuff other people are the motive force behind... you're leeching.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:08 AM
4	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies If you're a leech because you're purposeless and crazy... you're still a leech.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:04 AM
5	CMV: What’s the point of marriage when it only benefits women? Well really is it that much to fucking ask that you commit to participating in keeping her entertained? Is her life truly to be only trudge trudge trudge through the work of helping you earn enough to buy a house then trudge trudge trudge through the work of raising kids, trudge trudge trudge through the work of keeping you happy sexually way past the point you've fallen into sexual routine and your dick don't work so good any more because you're a middle aged man who has been sedentary in front…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 05:26 AM
21	CMV: The perception that men are inherently (or most likely to be) net drains on women's lives drives more men to RedPill/Blackpill ideologies Well I keep saying that social circles actually work well for finding mates when you don't bring immediately obvious value, and men here keep saying no that's too much work like having friends and doing stuff and not being an obvious loser when observed closely over time is just so extra a thing to do. A lot of guys just prefer to be leeches. That's just who they are. They leeched off mom and dad, they leech off their friends by doing very little to contribute in social contexts other than show …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 05:08 AM
1	How are men who are finally getting the chance to date and women who have been dating since their twenty's compatible? At forty it's very unlikely you're ever going to be CuChulain winning Emire or anything at all like that no matter what you do. You've basically managed to not capitalise on the twenty most important years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 02:01 PM
2	Are men genuinely worse potential partners these days? If every man was successful, would these problems still persist due to hypergamy? The hatred women sometimes hold for men is as nothing compared to the hatred men hold for each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 01:54 PM
1	How are men who are finally getting the chance to date and women who have been dating since their twenty's compatible? Well you don't have to see them as compatible...but I've actually had relationships and sex...I've also raised daughters... and I think the porny old dude and the old slapper are more compatible than a porny old dude and an inexperienced young woman are. Young women get the ick like whoa so easily they get icked out, the old slapper has had the ability to feel ick quickly and easily fucked right out of her. And porny old dudes? Kind of icky. I'm in my fifties and have had only two partners and I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 10:56 AM
1	How are men who are finally getting the chance to date and women who have been dating since their twenty's compatible? It's not about being perfectly equivalent it is about being as likely a match as you're going to get under the circumstances. She's had ten partners and he's watched ten thousand girls get fucked in porn. And yeah maybe some of the women his age are going to find his porn use gross. But. The more actual partners they've had the more likely they are to be able to deal with it. Why would she want to be with him? Idk... maybe they've got similar hobbies or are from similar backgrounds or they both …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 10:30 AM
1	How are men who are finally getting the chance to date and women who have been dating since their twenty's compatible? I have no idea what you are trying to say. Virgin men who have been wanking to internet porn for twenty plus years getting increasingly particular and specific about what they want when they do get a relationship are not sweet innocent boys who just happened to have got a bit wrinkled sitting round on the shelf for two decades longer than the rest of us. Their minds have had all their "firsts" even if their bodies haven't. The average young woman of little experience is likely to find them not o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 09:56 AM
0	How are men who are finally getting the chance to date and women who have been dating since their twenty's compatible? Well once upon a time there was barely any porn. But now? There's lots of porn and virgin men still gonna be sick fucks and wanna stick it up your pooper. In essence one can become a sexually dissolute libertine without ever having touched a vagina. So yeah...a woman who has fucked maybe ten guys over ten years most of it vanilla vs some guy her age who has been stroking his dick to increasingly weird shit with zero actual real life experience? Well that's as good a match as either of them is li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 09:30 AM
2	Are men genuinely worse potential partners these days? If every man was successful, would these problems still persist due to hypergamy? Sounds fucked up to have to do that just to marry Bob the Inadequate and make his babies. I mean just saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 01:27 AM
4	Are men genuinely worse potential partners these days? If every man was successful, would these problems still persist due to hypergamy? Women as a group have a greater central tendency. So if everyone pairs up according to income ranking for their gender and then the women stop earning to have babies there's going to have to be at best some women going from having by themselves a halfway decent wage on the lower side of average but still livable to two people plus kids living well below the poverty line on a very meager wage with a husband who thinks he's king dick and head of the household despite having required his wife to do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 12:26 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Well she's not wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 05:23 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Depends on what the catcall was and what the local legal definition of sexual assault is. In some places for sure "show us yer tits or imma come down there and rape you" would count as sexual assault.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 03:04 PM
1	Are women's insecurities tolerated while men's are seen as problematic, a weakness, or demonized for being inherently toxic? "everyday men". Hmmmmph. You, I presume, mean heterosexual men. Of course gay men are everyday men. The gay neighbors I lived next to for ten years? Gay every day. 24/7. Society is a whole thing but it is also compromised of individuals. If overwhelmingly women aren't keen on interacting with heterosexual men about heterosexual men's problems, and men aren't keen on interacting with heterosexual men about heterosexual men's problems well that's a lot of not dealing with heterosexual men's proble…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 05:34 AM
4	Are women's insecurities tolerated while men's are seen as problematic, a weakness, or demonized for being inherently toxic? Women will listen and empathize endlessly to gay men whining about love and sex. It isn't male gender which is the problem. It is heterosexual men and the way the whine almost always ends up blaming women in some way. I mean seriously why would I invest two hours and three Midori coolers into this exercise in cheering up a male friend just to end up being told it is my fault for being old and fat and not attracted? As to why men won't listen to each other whine...shit...I don't know and I don't …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 04:08 AM
1	Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth? I'm not for them being mandatory but am for them being very easily obtained.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 01:08 PM
1	Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth? It varies with the legal system involved. In a lot of places you are out of pocket for what you've already paid but aren't compelled to pay any more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 01:06 PM
2	Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth? While that would be unfortunate it would eventually end up taking out of reproductive circulation a bunch of men who are in essence crap and would be very likely to kill someone else probably a spouse or one of their kids sooner or later anyway. I think it is worth it. The widespread privacy implications of government DNA databases are what concern me not the occasional murder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 12:57 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Australian research on housing wealth and reproductive intent. Just thought here my be a good place to link this because there's a few people here who agree that housing is pivotal. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1051137721000371	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 09:58 AM
2	Q4W: Based on these videos of nightlife in Thailand, could you honestly blame a man for wanting to experience it? It's over for the unattractive unfuckable guys in this current generation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 09:17 PM
1	Q4W: Based on these videos of nightlife in Thailand, could you honestly blame a man for wanting to experience it? Lol. That war was fought and lost in the seventies. Passport bros are refugees.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 08:46 PM
1	Q4W: Based on these videos of nightlife in Thailand, could you honestly blame a man for wanting to experience it? Yeah well... that's life. How many guys do you think have run through the average Thai hooker? Passport bros...it is like wiping your dick on the same sock every dude you flew in with has used.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 07:31 PM
1	My take on a deeper reading of Manospherians Neuroticism about Single Mothers? (and AF/BB) Well y'know....you make your own mind up how important leaving offspring is vs having a life with less risk of certain forms of major tragedy vs maintaining whatever particular form of social appearances matter most to you. People who want to reproduce more will take the risks and accept the losses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 04:31 PM
0	My take on a deeper reading of Manospherians Neuroticism about Single Mothers? (and AF/BB) Yeah whatever...the only ones of my friends and family who died in their thirties were a guy who was pretty much an incel and was all anger 24/7 and had a heart attack...and a size 4 woman who didn't know the meaning of the words "sit down and take a rest" who got cancer and I reckon it was from the continual stress of overwork. Feel free to not partner with fat chicks for whatever reason you want but the fact is most fat chicks make it past menopause.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 03:44 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Dating platforms probably need a nonprofit government owned version that exists in stark contrast to the commercial versions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 12:07 PM
2	What is your opinion on YOUR children being/wanting to be transgender or homosexual? And it would be fair for me to gripe about my misfortune and the burden of listening to me gripe would be shared fairly and because of the sharing of that burden my kids would feel less troubled by it. That's just mom being mom, like whatever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 10:51 AM
5	What is your opinion on YOUR children being/wanting to be transgender or homosexual? Those are their lives to live...not mine. If I wanted the right to gripe about not having grandkids I should have had twenty children not two.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 10:37 AM
1	My take on a deeper reading of Manospherians Neuroticism about Single Mothers? (and AF/BB) Manosphere guys have the basic adolescent mindset. Child..."My parents take care of me, I don't necessarily get everything I want because lol, parents." Adolescent..."I can buy things for myself I can take care of myself but whyyyyyyy does everything have to be so expensive, this is so damn unfair I only have $1000 but the halfway decent second hand car is $5000 why is the system so rigged against me why haven't the previous generation fixed everything already why are there no good jobs why won'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 09:23 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Weight loss surgery I can kind of see it? I mean you've come to some sort of equilibrium as a couple... you're fat but you're both doing/not doing stuff so you both feel you're both giving about the same, both providing love and care. Equilibrium. Then one of you has weight loss surgery it is a whole lot of discomfort and inconvenience and changes the equilibrium. You wonder why your spouse doesn't idk...do more too? Spouse is maybe happy about your weight loss...in which case why the fuck aren'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 05:13 AM
7	If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better. "change several things about themselves, their behaviours and their routines, in order to date a woman" And what exactly are these frightfully difficult to change things you think men are being required to change and thus justify you requesting that women stop seeing the process as settling for less? That's the key to whether what you are arguing makes sense or is a steaming pile of shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 03:31 AM
2	Q4W: Based on these videos of nightlife in Thailand, could you honestly blame a man for wanting to experience it? Why do I have to "incentivize" guys if I disagree with what they are doing? You guys go do whatever you think is morally appropriate...and everyone else has opinions about what you did. That's life. That's how it works for everyone. Other people have opinions. Get the fuck used to it. We aren't your mothers and we don't do deals like be a really good boy for a week and keep your room tidy and we will cook your favourite dinner. Off you go to Thailand if you want... there's no way we can stop you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/23 05:57 PM
–	CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn. If you're in a relationship you're both equally responsible for everything. That includes doing housework and earning money. Obviously the actual split has to be a dynamic changeable thing and come down to circumstances and resources and what you are trying to achieve. Earning all the money definitely does not mean just getting to ignore the household situation any more than taking care of the household means you just get to ignore what is happening with the funding situation. Surely this should…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/23 05:48 AM
1	Ladies, how big of a factor are bad memories from your last BF, when it comes to your choice of the next one? I have no idea. There's something not quite right about some guys	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 09:18 PM
3	Ladies, how big of a factor are bad memories from your last BF, when it comes to your choice of the next one? "lump.on the couch" Oh that hits home. I had a lump on the couch who didn't even like it if I did housework around him. I'm supposed to be paying him attention! Guys.... don't be a lump on the couch, if you invite yourself round and she's doing housework take the hint...you help competently with housework, you shut your mouth or you fuck off back home.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 11:08 AM
6	Has your disposition been changed now that Tristan tate ex has said there was some manipulation as she got emotional. Didn't like him still don't like him. It amused me that the comparing notes now appears to be happening publicly and how butt hurt his fans are about it. That's like a the average socially incompetent guy's nightmare scenario, a bunch of women he knows talking publicly in detail about how shit he is. I'm delighted. Really enjoying this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 10:59 AM
-1	current trends in Purple pill subreddit Yes. Eventually it will be so much that way here that the subreddit gets banned...thus being datapoint #746389028272 in the relentless acumulation of evidence about how certain dudes ruin all they touch and how therefore it is extremely wise for a woman not to let them touch her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 01:11 AM
2	Q for Women: Does it bother you, not bother you, or flatter you, or just not care if men check out your ass while you walk by? I mean if they do it discreetly, and you notice it, and not overtly ogle you like a mouth breather. If I notice they aren't being discreet enough.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 06:09 AM
11	CMV: Simps skew the lower end of the dating market more than Chad does The vast majority of ordinary girls do not sell feet pics, their own used clothes as fetish items, work cam girling, or create sexual content for money. If you see a sizable number of these girls being "randomly" interviewed in the street... that's not fucking random at all. That's those guys giving those girls time on screen...a little publicity for the girl or the website she is part of, a little extra "zing" to those guys content to help boost algorithm engagement. Heck she may not even do an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 03:21 AM
12	CMV: Simps skew the lower end of the dating market more than Chad does "I've been following some guys on social media..." STOP Those guys are content providers and are making money. They are not in the business of showing you a representative sample of reality. Those guys and their content were found for you by algorithms and those guys work hardest of all to be something that in some way will be pushed by algorithms. Those guys do not replace getting out there and seeing the world yourself, having friends and getting to know real people. You need to unfollow those…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 12:25 AM
–	How do women honestly feel about guys that are genuinely going about improving themselves but still can’t get laid? I feel that at least they get to be better people for their own sake. Everyone gotta live with themself right? Better to be healthy and successful if you're all you've got. Anyhow. Not everyone gets what they want. Being a person currently having a relationship doesn't necessarily means you get what you want. That's part of human existence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 12:03 AM
4	Chasing women is a waste of time. Well a whole lot depends on what you're doing with that time to chase women and what else you were actually going to be doing with that time if you didn't chase women, doesn't it? Time passes at the rate of one hour per hour no matter what you're doing. It isn't like if you forgo building a social circle and instead stay home with porn and gaming and delivery food you end up with a stash of hours to spend later on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/23 12:33 PM
3	Why men say the system wants to keep you single. The richest man on the planet makes handbags and shoes. Ladies do you realize the system has a vested interest in keeping you single? The majority of people who use computers for work are not software techies...they use the computer at work...and don't actually have to do much more than answer email and maybe some zoom on their home computer. And they buy far more computer for home than they need for work. The majority of people's who use a computer for education buy far more computer than they need. The difference here is you like computers. And you like people who like computers. And you don't like handbags. And you don't mu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 05:34 PM
5	Why men say the system wants to keep you single. The richest man on the planet makes handbags and shoes. Ladies do you realize the system has a vested interest in keeping you single? And for some women a designer handbag is an important part of the image she projects in order to make money. But that's not most women. It's exactly the same as with computers and men. The majority of men don't do anything actually necessary on their computer that couldn't be done with a $400 secondhand setup from some guy in a tiny shop in a cheap neighbourhood who buys joblots of old computers off a place that does complete refits for businesses and then checks them all out and sells them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 03:07 PM
2	Why men say the system wants to keep you single. The richest man on the planet makes handbags and shoes. Ladies do you realize the system has a vested interest in keeping you single? Whatever. He's just another man who wants me to live my life a particular way. Just like the rest of them he doesn't count fer shit. I'm volcel and I have purchased no Louis Vuitton. That's the way to do it friends. And lol at "computers his wealth potential"...for most dudes a better computer is a status symbol and a time suck and gets updated because the computer owner wishes to boast about the upgrade and play games that are more effective time sucks than he currently plays. Pissing his life …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 11:16 AM
1	How fit men should deal with overweight women on OLD How much more statistically likely were they to prefer slim men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 02:11 AM
2	How fit men should deal with overweight women on OLD Well there's a zillion different types of body issues and you're not going to for sure discover all of them in even a dozen dates. You're screwed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 01:57 AM
2	How fit men should deal with overweight women on OLD Swipe left if you don't like the pics. Actually look at pics okay? Not looking at a profile properly is begging to match with things you don't want. Brought it on yourself. If they didn't have a picture showing their body and you discover they are fat or really anything you don't like ... And you decide it's a level of do not want that changes things...politely excuse yourself from continuing the interactions. If they had pictures but the pictures were grossly inaccurate (this includes for issue…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 01:46 AM
1	Q4W: Would you date a man who owns fleshlights and sex dolls? Flashlights yes, sex dolls no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 06:35 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't get asked out by decent men because decent men recognise all the signs of lack of interest I project. It's a mystery why the assholes keep trying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 04:06 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread There aren't a lot of tools for mods to keep order so you gotta push the ones you have to their limits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 03:57 AM
1	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? I'm fine with the idea of there being a crime of falsely claiming the presence of birth control relevant to an incident of consensual sex. I think the burden of proof would have to be pretty high and that a lot of accusations wouldn't make it to court due to being petulant outbursts from people against whom no actual crime was committed or due to no evidence existing. I don't think falsely claiming the presence of birth control should be a crime if no sex takes place with the person lied to or i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 11:17 PM
0	Why do overweight women have such an easy time getting sex, but a very hard time finding a relationship? They generally don't? There's fat brides all over the place even with the tendency to diet down down to make good wedding pics. Only the ones who couldn't screen to save their lives do. Their skinny counterparts who just can't screen get incredibly shitty husbands instead. I tend to think the fatties are better off on this front.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 10:47 PM
4	Everyone man should make a dating profile as a moderately attractive Woman and see how you feel. You can see how desperate some men seem.. I just think it is unfair to his daughter to frame it the way you initially did. She's kind of crap in so many ways but objectively she took a fuck of a lot of time and effort to try to help him get his life together in a manner that was as close to being on his own terms as possible. He didn't "let" her run his life like somehow she just spontaneously took over because he became ill and she could take over then. He needed and relied on her running his life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 10:14 PM
9	Everyone man should make a dating profile as a moderately attractive Woman and see how you feel. You can see how desperate some men seem.. I think "let's his daughter run his life" isn't fully reflective of the truth. He was a benzo addict in some serious trouble with his addiction. Someone had to run large swathes of his life for him or he's fucked. Now he's got other people for the business and touring stuff because now he's got various forms of higher level patronage. And presumably because he's a major asset they also keep an eye on him medically. But back then....he was lucky his daughter was willing to do all that for him eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 06:05 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You could put an axe right through his head in his sleep and then go to prison. Guy I worked with, his mother did that to his father after my coworker moved out and she was left putting up with it alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 02:52 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Just another beauty grift over-systematizing everything in all the most pointless ways to appeal to girls on the spectrum. I paid AU$140 back in the eighties to get my colours and personal style type done...what a rip-off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 02:21 AM
2	Myron from FNF is the best thing to happen to men, specifically younger men You think we should maybe let Myron know how totally fixated this guy is? I mean...just in case. I dislike Myron, he's both tedious and rapey...but I still don't want him to end up like Paul Sheldon in Misery.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:58 AM
2	Talking to women "as people" first usually gets the guy friendzoned There is no simple set of rules we can give that effectively replace social skills and social intuition. We tell men to get to know women as people if they appear to be completely neglecting that option at great cost to their success. We tell men to move more quickly to sexualise the situation if they appear to be always tardy in making an advance. We assume that once they add a new behaviour to their repertoire they will then use their social skills and intuition to decide what behaviour is bes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:41 AM
2	Is ghosting less immoral, or even amoral, for women to do because of safety concerns? Ghosting is a big deal if you're exclusive and less of a big deal if you aren't. If you're exclusive a ghosting partner leaves you wondering when you can take your life back. If you're not exclusive you just find someone else. I strongly suspect a lot of the people who see it as immoral not just a bit rude are people who are expecting exclusivity behavior from their romantic partners even without an agreement to be exclusive. I also think ghosting pisses men and women off about equal but women a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 08:39 AM
5	Generally speaking, most guys in relationships are not valued for who they are, but for how they make their girlfriends feel and what they can provide for them (attention, money, status and so on). I value lots of thing, creatures and people for what they really are. But if it makes the cut to be in my actual home or be held close to my body...it's probably going to have to be good for me. And if we're talking about a living thing I'm not going to be bringing them home or holding them close unless not only are they good for me...I would also want to believe that I could be good for them in return. Tigers? Love them. In my home? Doesn't sound good for either of us. I think the ideas you hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 05:58 AM
1	I've had 40 Hinge dates. I firmly believe a woman's initial interest in a man has a window of time to it. Well...you can't really trust your own initial perception of what a person projects on the first few dates. Everyone has their own strategy it isn't just natural reactions. Women are just as complex and strategic as men. And even what you see of natural unstrategic reactions can mean different things depending on other aspects of the person If a woman is being sparkling and responsive and attentive the first few dates it probably means one of these things. She's into you OR she's not not into yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 03:43 AM
1	How to get over how easy it is for women to have sex? Well...I am not you so I don't know precisely what will get you over this. But I think it makes sense to put some thought into the slightly revolting nature of what it is about men that makes this possible, the average man's willingness to have sex with almost anything. Then you can understand women as not just people who have remarkable sexual access but also as people who exercise remarkable sexual self restraint.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 01:13 AM
7	In all seriousness, Men what do you want from women in regards to solving the modern dating problems ? Well that's nightclubs for you? Full of drunkenness, darkness and loud noise, none of which really discourage misbehaviour. It's definitely her fault but it isn't really worse than the male misbehaviour that often happens in nightclubs such as grinding on random unconsenting girls. Nightclubs kind of suck. The price for creating that "anything can happen" vibe is sometimes the anything that happens is bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 06:04 AM
18	Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shock This. That's like...it's like having a knack for walking on broken glass without getting cut.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 04:59 AM
12	Got a window into average woman's dating life. It was an absolute shock Eh. I had a male friend who fire juggled his way through a whole bunch of travel. Sounds only about as risky as what she's doing...sudden poly relationship to obtain housing and food sounds like a huge risk. Learn how to fire juggle, there's always boring ass people looking to impress friends by having someone interesting stay a week or so. Or get ripped and learn how to suck dick. Old gay guys right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 04:57 AM
2	Weight Preferences in Dating - Most Comprehensive Dating App Study To Date You don't think the situations she gets into by accepting the tall white skinny men other women reject will be humbling enough?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 12:38 AM
2	Weight Preferences in Dating - Most Comprehensive Dating App Study To Date You should look at all the photos before you say yes to contact if you're unwilling to be polite about stuff potentially present in those photos. Simple as that. And let's be blunt about this... daily on this subreddit we see guys...even tall skinny white guys... who can't get anything. If she's into tall white skinny dudes enough to be a bit more sexually eager than usual then that's potentially some socially inept autistic tall white skinny dude's virginity taken care of. I say you've just pis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 12:21 AM
5	Weight Preferences in Dating - Most Comprehensive Dating App Study To Date "accidentally match with overweight women" "accidentally" is that what they call it now? If you're playing the numbers game and swiping yes to everything without looking then it's a bit bloody clueless and lacking in self awareness to get snippy that other people are wasting peoples time by swiping yes inappropriately.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 11:43 PM
3	The “modern woman” is changing, and the “modern man” needs to adapt to the change Well if most women are expecting a three course meal from you that's something you should pause and think about. Things like that happen for reasons. Maybe those particular women are playing the numbers game to get a man or group of men who will pay and pay... keep going keep asking for what you want eventually you get it. Bloody annoying isn't it...to have your inbox flooded with people playing a numbers game? But y'know... that's something women got to put up with too, men playing the game of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 10:03 PM
0	The “modern woman” is changing, and the “modern man” needs to adapt to the change "men are always the ones..." Sounds like you bring it on yourself. "Women who are going to reject the coffee date..." So what. You don't happen to like those women and if you ask them on a coffee date they let you know who they are. It's perfect. Sounds like the system of sorting is working fine and everyone is working out real quick what each other is about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 01:07 PM
3	Alright, let's talk about the "female gaze" versus the "male gaze." As a dude, I gotta say, I get pretty damn irritated by the way people explain this concept. Can't we just appreciate different perspectives without trying to turn it into some kind of battle of the sexes? Let's discuss. Gosh, it is almost like you want body positivity without wanting to use those particular words to describe it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 11:52 AM
-1	The “modern woman” is changing, and the “modern man” needs to adapt to the change Well yes when men ask then men should pay. But..in asking the asker gets to choose what sort of invitation to issue. So if you're not keen on buying steak there's always coffee. And if you're not keen on even buying that well you're probably going to have to get inventive. You can invent can't you? You guys are always saying men invent everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 10:54 AM
5	The “modern woman” is changing, and the “modern man” needs to adapt to the change The implementation and the function of a lot of the traditions has changed with the times. 1920...you need an engagement ring to help compensate for damage to your reputation if he calls off the engagement 2020...an engagement ring is an optional symbol of your agreement to marry. If you aren't even in agreement on the ring well that's not a good sign is it? 1920...of course he pays for everything...I earn almost nothing if I even work at all 2020...asker pays for first date	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 05:09 AM
1	I’m curious what this sub thinks of Aba and Preach’s latest video on Fresh and Fit interviewing a rape advocate laughing about rape with no pushback. I've already exhausted all the fucks I have to give about F&F. Everyone involved in that show is a tedious asshole and everyone who bothers to watch more than five minutes of it is not much better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 03:51 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread So long as the guy who never makes me cum never requests sex and the one who never makes me laugh doesn't mind the fact my friends are more important to me than him, well about the same really they are about the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 10:20 PM
1	Women here advise guys to "touch grass" and "talk to actual women" yet stigmatize and threat profile men for approaching them Well then. The thing is you're supposed to actually learn from your experiences touching grass. What the man who has had these experiences should learn is that cold approach is hard and he's not good at it. And maybe he should try to form social circles for a while and think harder about why cold approach is by its very nature so hard and in what manner he is crap at cold approach. We didn't tell you is would be easy at all times when you touched grass, just that it was the path forward out of w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 08:09 PM
1	Actual evidence that women are treated better than men overall ? That's not the way things are for most women. And really...a lot of it an average man can get just by wearing a suit... which most men don't bother to do anymore whereas it used to be common at all social so whatever. Also, I think most men are treated better by both men and women than the somewhat odd men we get here are treated. You guys are weird. The reason you don't realise how weird the other men think you are is you're not pushing boundaries with them as much as with women. It is however …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 12:39 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread What's stopping you doing something about it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 09:23 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Caraway seed cake. Idk...it's an awkward thing to like because it's not available in the shops anymore, really it's a cake from my grandma's era. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Caraway_seed_cake	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 04:08 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread No cauldron here. If I was going to get one I would buy a potjie from the local camping shop...they don't come with pentagrams.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 03:54 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Ummmm...sorta but sorta not? There's no major practical consequence but a lot of women feel uncomfortable doing it and not completely without reason. There's potential that if the host of the second or later events notices they will think you made less effort for them... dressing well and getting with the spirit is part of being a good guest and a new look is definitely more getting with the spirit than same old same old is. Also dresses are more stylistically specialised than suits and one dres…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 03:43 AM
1	The internet has effectively killed romance And then they complain that she sees them as beta.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 05:19 PM
1	The internet has effectively killed romance I think most people did more physical labour and also experienced more infectious disease and more violence and got used to the bleakness of being physically inadequate very early in life...their first encounter with that was not in conjunction with romance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 05:07 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread It makes perfect sense. It dates back to the days when just about everyone was married and by that age women tended to either have a retired husband a few years older than them who wanted them home or a husband who was invalid in some way and needed them home. Obviously it cost a lot...but them old men they need their wifies...if she's working and he isn't obviously that's socially corrosive because she might start wanting control. It was part of welfare for old men as much as for old women. Aus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 04:51 PM
0	If A GF Can Post Bikini/Half Naked Pics, Can Her BF Like Other Women's Pics as well? That would be between them. A whole lot of it is going to be local and cultural and a matter of how that particular post is filtered. For example if you live somewhere with a lot of beach culture a picture of someone in a not terribly skimpy bikini top and a sarong style skirt just casually walking down the beach isn't likely to be seen as a big deal posted to friends.who live a very similar lifestyle. But same clothes, sexually posed, posted to 5000 international followers? Bit different. So I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 02:48 PM
8	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? I'm frugal myself so I didn't work it out until I was exposed to the unhinged ravings of the anti-engagement ring guys on Reddit and realised...these are the guys who marry a beautiful girl then complain about her getting her nails done or paying a personal trainer. Marriage to them is instant demotion from goddess to bangmaid. And inevitably that's going to make the marriage fail. He's not going to like that her looks fade quickly and she's not going to like that she's not cared for as well as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 12:06 AM
4	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? If a woman has been spending a huge amount keeping up the beautiful appearance that attracted her intended husband then it is reasonable to expect her intended husband to make a nontrivial gesture of commitment to assisting her to keep doing so after the marriage. And that's what an expensive engagement ring is. A man can endlessly wax lyrical about how beautiful a young woman is, how she's a 10. That's just words. It is no proof of intent. A $30,000 ring however? Thats real. That costs him. He'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 11:27 PM
5	What would a Red Pill alternative from a leftist perspective look like? The fight for decent wages, affordable housing and low educational debt burden for all adults must be fought and won so you're not trying to date from your childhood bedroom and any girl who you approach knows that forming a family with you is not a financial impossibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 10:08 PM
7	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? Well I would certainly understand it better when they say they are weary of women if they'd more often follow it up with staying away from women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 09:32 PM
1	Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist. Well have fun with that then...where I'm from we all lock our doors, it's how we keep the meth heads out. https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-10-24/adelaide-had-highest-meth-use-in-cities-in-world-study/11633416	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 07:36 PM
3	Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist. Waiting for Goldilocks eh?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 07:18 PM
0	Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist. The only thing it does is get the point across that you think it is fine and dandy for other men to exclude you, but not for women to exclude you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 07:10 PM
1	Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist. But the locking doors bit...why include it? Most people lock doors.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 07:03 PM
3	Red Pill is a Cult that is brainwashing young men to be misogynist. Locking one's door is misandry? I'm intrigued with this mindset. Do you walk past houses and think "I bet a woman likes there and that door is locked to keep me out because she thinks I'm a rapist!' What do you think when you see a man locking his door?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 06:53 PM
14	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? Oh I like men a whole lot less. And a lot of behaviours of other women that I used to think were dubious I now think are just common sense. Like wanting expensive engagement rings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 05:53 PM
2	"Standards" are largely irrelevant, because the market tells you how desirable you are Well...go partner with one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 05:46 PM
1	"Standards" are largely irrelevant, because the market tells you how desirable you are Homoerotic appeal is different to heteroerotic appeal..We've been over this many times before here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 04:10 PM
1	Who buys the plan B? Anyone with any sense is willing to pay. And anyone with a desire to have sex with that person again will offer to assist in the obtaining of the plan B...whether by paying or picking it up or providing transport or whatever. It's the sort of thing that sets off alarm bells if the other person appears uninterested in being part of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 04:07 PM
1	If coming on too strong is so unattractive why does love bombing seem to work so often? The guys who are successful with it are good at creating a credible narrative and good at recovering from missteps. And I can't stress this enough...they fail a lot too. They meet plenty of women who know they are full of shit and act accordingly. So they early on test the limits of what their target will believe and that reduces time spent. People get lead up the garden path pretty easy if they want to be and the story is credible and they've made an initial investment in it the whole thing wil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 05:51 AM
4	Myron from Fresh and Fit, is the least grittiest person in the Manosphere/red pill, Tate is more of a grifter And when considering the differences in turd smells those of us who very reasonably wish to limit our amount of turd sniffing really can't trust the word of those who like turd sniffing... because if someone likes sniffing turds they're wired up wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 03:40 AM
5	Myron from Fresh and Fit, is the least grittiest person in the Manosphere/red pill, Tate is more of a grifter This is like arguing which dog turd smells more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 02:14 AM
0	Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves? Women could do with being more ambitious with the size and scope of the projects they take on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 10:13 PM
1	Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single? Everyone who has a reasonably high capacity for joy has to leave a lot of joy unconsumed. I choose what is the best thing to leave on the table...and it's men. The things men bring via intimacy are as a package what I least care about missing out on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 09:28 PM
1	Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single? I'm doing my cardio in peace kthx. When I do weights I do weights in peace. Bye.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 09:10 PM
0	Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single? I'm good as is. Even the aspects of myself that are basic. Maybe even especially the aspects that are basic. Liking long walks in autumn and walking through the fallen leaves is peak. Fleece leggings and a sweater in winter. Reading whatever the latest popular book is. I'm fine with keeping all that goodness to myself to keep it safe. I'm ok with everything about me that is neither great nor terrible and I just can't be bothered with anyone who wants me otherwise. There's plenty of girls willing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 09:02 PM
0	Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single? Functionally speaking every guy has potential for that sort of shit...and I just can't be bothered looking for one who doesn't used that potential because those guys are rare... probably less than one percent and every guys attempts to look like those guys until.hes good and comfy with a woman. So.much easier and so much more reliably a good result not to date men Men. They are literally chaos. Jordan Peterson is a big old benzo addicted liar...it is men who are chaos.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 07:46 PM
1	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. Starter housing near employment needs to be cheaper. It solves so many problems if it is. Any other solution at this point is bullshit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 04:32 PM
4	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. I lived through that era. The main difference that actually changed outcomes was economic. Young people could afford housing. Then they couldn't. The rest of it...trifling by comparison.. Also https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Luigi_Taparelli Social justice has been around for ages. The broader concepts go back even longer than the term.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 04:16 PM
2	Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single? I'm good as is. I can stick with what I got and it all work out fine or I can take on a whole other human and have to deal with his bullshit. It's just not an attractive idea. Especially not since all over the place there are men complaining about ordinary stuff women do. I don't want some dick posting photos of the five pillows on my bed to https://www.reddit.com/r/toomanypillows/ thinking he's being funny. I don't want jokes about UGGs and pumpkin spice latte. I don't want arguments if I decid…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 03:40 PM
2	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. Things weren't that bloody different thirty years ago. I was alive then and dating. And now I see how my daughter dates There have always been incels, there have always been men who had a choice between a serious relationship with a woman they weren't happy with and wasn't happy with them or no unpaid sex at all. And more broadly speaking this is a human reality...not every human is particularly acceptable to other humans. If you want to destigmatize male sex toys, ask some halfway prominent men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 03:06 PM
4	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. Yes...a lot of these guys seem to think everything going more sexually conservative will just deliver them a wife who doesn't scare them and that's the end of it. But...conservatism is going to take a huge cut out of literally everything to accomplish that. Gaming culture would be under siege. Porn, sex toys, contraception, atheism, recreational use of alcohol and soft drugs, comfortable clothing, approaching ladies without being introduced, long hair, being out after dark, table top RPGs, facia…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 01:27 PM
1	Rapper Waka Flocka walks off Fresh and Fit podcast over debate about rape culture and body count. 6 girls leave as well. Myron says rape culture is a myth. Was he being way too insensitive with this topic whether it’s true or false? We're really harshing your squee.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 11:56 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yeah whatever dude, he asked how that one particular dynamic can happen and I told him. Stay pressed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 11:05 AM
5	Daily Community Chat Megathread A lot of them with middle class parents have a stay at home.mother who still does all that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 06:50 AM
6	Daily Community Chat Megathread You live with your parents. Your mother does all your washing and ironing and cooking and cleaning...other than just keeping your room tidy. Your parents pay all the costs of the household and maybe you pay a bit of board. You work full-time and see your boyfriend for maybe a total of 18 hours a week. You're always presentable. Then... You move out with your boyfriend. The apartment has no washing machine and everything must be washed some distance from your residence. He's fucking useless at ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 04:58 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Usually they have enough sense to know their boat has already sailed without them and so buy their kids way in. Taylor Swift is an example of this. She's talented and it turned out a worthwhile thing...but for every Tay Tay there's thousands who just bum around on the money keeping their parents hopeful they will get their lucky break.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 04:09 AM
1	How come every criticism of women in this sub seems to get qualified by criticism of men by a majority of people in the comments? So? You think putting a bad human behaviour in context as a bad human behaviour is a bad thing? Idk dude...I don't really think we can properly address something like "drunk women picking fights at bars and starting bar room brawls" without also addressing things like "drunk men being ridiculously prone to violence" and "a lot of men go to bars to be around drunk women in the hopes of sex and that's why the barkeep doesn't throw drunk women out so much" and "a lot of men calling for chicks to ge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 01:08 AM
4	Q4W: What do you think when the less attractive friend prevents men from talking to you? That footage looks like it is from somewhere the drinking age is quite young and young female family members occasionally get to go chaperoned so they don't go sneaking out alone. Remember...not everywhere has your country's laws and culture. I have no idea what happened in your particular experience. Edited to add...for some reason that club is really giving Luxembourg vibes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 12:13 AM
1	Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich? It isn't. It's actually kind-of scary. The chances of a rich man being a scoundrel are very high indeed. A relationship has to work out ok financially. As in we need housing, food etc. If I can't work out how that is possible wiith him he's a nope even if the chemistry is good. We both need to keep looking. We both need someone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 09:31 PM
2	Rapper Waka Flocka walks off Fresh and Fit podcast over debate about rape culture and body count. 6 girls leave as well. Myron says rape culture is a myth. Was he being way too insensitive with this topic whether it’s true or false? I predict that sometime in the next five years he will experience a RooshV style conversion to whatever flavour of conservative Christianity is common in the community he was raised in. Like full all the way conversion not just conservative overtones.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 09:22 PM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. I think you're a fool if you don't attempt to disqualify as well as qualify. Pure idiocy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 08:47 PM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Yeah whatever dude ...I've always had a long list of jobs including a great many highly regarded or well paid jobs that in men I thought were incompatible with me and my lifestyle or values. No cops no soldiers no lawyers no politicians no trust fund boys living on inherited wealth no surgeons no used car salesmen no FIFO no house flippers no hairdressers...the list goes on. It is probably about 20 percent of all livelihoods. It's important information and if a guy don't like answering the quest…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 06:37 PM
1	What are women even expected to do during the courting phase? In response to the initiation of the first date, the person being asked on the date needs to make an immediate decision based upon whether they see a possibility of it going further. This is actually quite a stressful thing to do... there's a lot of hostility out there when men feel you went on a date without some sort of belief it maybe might work, and there is also hostility if you don't just give him a chance. Furthering the conversation is just what socially competent people do. If the girl …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 05:25 PM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Well y'know...if you don't actually think the question is an important one it seems like rudeness. But also...if you don't think the question is an important one then thats kind of a warning sign that you're leaving this form of compatability to the last moment to kludge something together because you're arrogantly sure it won't be you who.misses out on life opportunities.because of that. So whatever, it's still a great question to ask whether you enjoy being asked it or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 04:37 PM
5	Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women? Well don't then. You're allowed to just not. You don't have to put yourself on the treadmill of keeping another person happy if you think that either or both of you will fail to keep up with that	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 06:22 AM
4	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Well that works with some livelihoods but not others? And to find out if it will work a person might have to start by asking their date what their job is. So y'know...you can deal with the reality of people being farmers and publicans and military folks who go on deployment and musicians whose band has to practise in the garage and have dramas and people who flip houses for a living and are always living in a construction zone and pastors who are available to the church community a whole lot and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 01:23 AM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Eh. The nature of humans is complexity and just about everyone has a handful of different rare attributes. If everyone had to suppress the rare attributes during dating so nobody ever found a date boring or an instant nope it wouldn't be an improvement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 01:09 AM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Unless they like that sort of thing. Which some people do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 12:55 AM
1	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Well yes. How someone relates to their livelihood or lack thereof is a very big thing. It's really difficult to consistently fake too, especially as a relationship deepens and more details and data points are known. If someone has only got so far because they are a workaholic or have deprioritized other stuff, that's important to understand if one is on a path to maybe considering forming a household with them. It's probably easier to fake ones relationship to religion than it is to fake ones re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 12:46 AM
0	For men dating is basically a series of job interviews. Employment and relationship are the two things normal young adult humans invest similar amounts of time and self in. Because of that similar degree of time and energy investment you can get a lot of clues about a person's relationship potential and tendencies by the way they answer questions about their job. Look I get it, a lot of men don't like women attempting to work out who an individual man really is. Probably that dislike boils down to the man having a suspicion that if inspected too clos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 10:36 PM
1	Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences. Punishment of women is the attempt to deal with this source of male anxiety. Slut shaming and associated measures involve a consensus of devaluing a woman until she is universally regarded as worthless if she is unchaste. So y'know...men don't have to deal with weighing their lust and love against their fear. They can fuck her so long as they walk away after...safe in the knowledge that other men will feel ashamed to admit to wanting her for more than sex. She belongs to no one and everyone. It …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 03:40 AM
1	Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences. When I say relationship I usually include short term relationships. I know you don't want my theory to be true but it just fits so well with so many things. Back before effective law enforcement,when just about every male livelihood involved being outdoors, every man who had her before might decide to do a bit of murder to get her back. Chads were especially dangerous. Men are...scared.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 03:22 AM
7	Do you think the concept of an "Alpha Widow" is valid? (i.e. As an average man, it's fair to assume that a woman with a high body count has been with someone who is more attractive than you and this will make her value you less.) Man dates woman who has dated many other men. Man gets dumped. Or has a terribly lackluster relationship that ends fairly quickly. Man decides it couldn't possibly be him He also.dismisses the idea she's naturally a picky girl and always has been, the idea she's just noncommittal, the.idea she's been enjoying sleeping around too much to stop even though she thinks she probably should settle, the idea she's working through issues from her parents divorce, the idea she's starting to doubt the whol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 02:44 AM
1	Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences. I don't think it is primarily about getting cucked. I think there's genes that make the dislike of having a wife with a high count more likely and they date back to before effective law enforcement. I've explained it before. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/soqanm/comment/hwig71y/	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 01:16 AM
2	Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences. Whether you want to discuss the reasons or not, there are still reasons. And it is a good idea to understand the why on some level. I keep saying it is inborn. For much of our history the biggest threat to a man's reproductive capacity that he encountered in mate selection was that she'd be some other guys crush and that guy would murder him over it. Unsurprisingly some dudes are just as upset about nonvirgins as other dudes are about spiders and snakes. The only thing that calms their dread of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 08:53 PM
-2	Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates? I wouldn't go any further with this until we had properly discussed together the frustrations in raising an autistic child and he had accepted he is a grown-up now and this is grown up stuff and I don't have to just keep working with shit equivalent to "no I can't wear shoes to school" from him any more. It fundamentally is no longer my responsibility to tirelessly help him integrate with society while he pouts and complains and fights the process, it is now his responsibility. This would be abs…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 04:15 PM
0	The Top 5 Biggest Traits That Predict Someone Will Become A 30 Year Old Virgin (Not By Choice) More guys diagnosed. We really don't have a good idea yet about how many girls are on the spectrum but masking it with all.theyve got. Those girls aren't going to behave like neurotypical girls...they know they aren't normal and don't have normal capacity even if they haven't put a name to it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 02:39 PM
4	The Top 5 Biggest Traits That Predict Someone Will Become A 30 Year Old Virgin (Not By Choice) Girls with Down Syndrome have parents who know the last thing their daughter needs is a guy who isn't similarly.disabled, and refuse to facilitate relationships they don't think will work. Girls with high functioning autism take one look at guys with high functioning autism and nope on out because those guys are needier than neurotypical men, and autistic girls are already hard pressed dealing with being disabled	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 02:07 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) I've gone on dates that involve no-one paying or extremely minimal expenditure. I see my daughter go out with guys under circumstances where very little expenditure happens and one person is as likely as the other to put their hands in their pocket to pay. Once again...this is not rocket science. Men and women do things like take a walk on the beach or checkout a bookshop together or go to see public fireworks or join a broader group of friends to walk around a local secondhand market. That stuf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 01:13 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) Stop issuing date invitations if you don't like the dynamics involved. Mate seek in other ways. Or issue date invitations making very clear how your invitation differs from the usual. Or issue date invitations to dates that involve no expenditure. It's not rocket science. You're not a fucking victim just because other people who might be willing to spend time getting to know you don't want to spend twenty bucks on getting to know you. You've got choices that allow you to stop paying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 11:47 AM
1	The Top 5 Biggest Traits That Predict Someone Will Become A 30 Year Old Virgin (Not By Choice) Habitually blaming others rather than self. Slightest whiff of that is like distilled essence of ick. Just dab a little "she friendzoned me" behind your ears and wash your hair with "I'm a nice guy, but girls would rather date drug dealers and abusers" shampoo if you want to be virgin forever.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 11:02 AM
2	Do you see men's very low standards for sex as a good or bad thing? That men have such low standards is a terrible thing. It is part of the reason men won't just go away when women refuse them. Guys know that enthusiastic sexual participation is better but they are kinda sorta willing to lower their standards on that and go for women who they have to nag or pressure into sex. Terrible, just terrible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 10:46 PM
10	CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the future Ah yes. The belief that the role of women is to gently yield to the behaviours, beliefs and needs of men. Fuck that noise. Most women do just fine without a man and if she doesn't want to put up with shit she doesn't have to. It isn't up to anyone but her to decide what is a little thing she can tolerate and what is a very big deal breaker.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 10:37 PM
1	Obesity has absolutely nuked the chance to go on a date with even regular women Not particularly. Plenty of chunky guys do ok. Just not if they are chunky and socially inept, or chunky and incompetent or chunky and short/unsymmetrical/weak jaw/etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 09:18 PM
-1	Obesity has absolutely nuked the chance to go on a date with even regular women Slim women tolerate fat men if those fat men are socially adept, competent and appear to otherwise have good underlying genetics. And that's their right, even if it does leave slim guys who don't meet those criteria feeling left out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 07:52 PM
1	do you agree with chat gpt on bodycount? Oh you can have standards alright. It's just if you've make some level of commitment there's also a corresponding level of being expected to attempt to negotiate and explain if someone who isn't crazy or violent suddenly appears to have fallen out of line with your standards. For example if a woman would never be with a man who has used a sex worker, but she discovers her SO has used a sex worker a year before their relationship started, then simply dumping him for being a gross icky John (eeeww…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 07:25 PM
3	do you agree with chat gpt on bodycount? Lol. 5.5.5. Five foot tall with five inches and lasts five minutes. Waiting for the hate to roll in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 11:46 AM
3	do you agree with chat gpt on bodycount? "simply because" I think that's the key phrase. It's not ok to just walk from a commitment because you found out something very ordinary and normal but to you undesirable (like n count, or debt, or that they vote differently to you or that they once used to think Jordan Peterson was cool) that you hadn't bothered to ask about before making the commitment. You're expected to discuss it in detail as a couple and try to see each other's point of view and then split if it can't be made to work. You …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 11:41 AM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) I think you underestimate the effort of dealing with strange men who really want sex and aren't so much into sitting around and talking then being told no. That can get quite stressful. It's why women when asked mostly say no to a date. It's not all wine and roses. It is risk and pressure. It doesn't stop being risk and pressure if she buys her own bowl of limp spaghetti and glass of house wine. And men can stop paying...if they go for finding mates through ongoing contact in their social circle…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 11:00 AM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) Women aren't obligated to be homogeneous in how they respond to things any more than men are obligated to be so. That's just life. You're not pulling carefully categorised items off a shelf in a spare parts shop. You're approaching real people and you can easy enough get said no to just because. There's nothing morally wrong with not wanting to pay for being hurried along into furthering someone else's agenda when their agenda is a thing you haven't decided to go with yet. And that's precisely t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 06:34 AM
2	Where is all this "men are lazy, useless, losers" rhetoric coming from? Losers = probably can't have any woman, if they have one probably won't get to keep her Useless = the reason they can't is because they are a significant nett loss to any person they are in a relationship with not a nett gain Lazy = wouldn't take all that much more effort not to be useless and they've certainly got recreational activities they could cut back on to do so but that's too hard and onerous apparently even though they say the lack of relationship is ruining their lives...totes willing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 04:28 AM
1	Women are attracted to qualities that allow her to do less Well...yeah? For all of human history marriage has possibly been the start of a roller coaster ride of gestating, breastfeeding and raising over a dozen offspring. If a man has zero willingness to make a anyone's life easier, babies gonna die. It's been bred in. If he's useless he's literal death and to be dreaded. Just like a lot of men feel dread about women with a lot of exes...most of our history some other man feeling a claim to her was a serious risk to a man's life. But hey...how hard rea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 03:13 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) He doesn't have to pay for events he doesn't ask to have exist. Why doesn't he ask we sit on a bench nearby and chat a while? Why doesn't he ask we meet for half an hour in a local scenic city square and chat about whether we are compatible? Then mutually negotiate a second meeting if we both think it appropriate. Look I get why men want to have the as yet largely unknown woman they are interested in being well fed and a little bit liquored up. Makes things smoother and easier if you're both ful…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 02:55 PM
3	Who should men be listening to? For advice, direction, understanding. If you're old and don't care your season has passed...make yourself a cup of tea and stop freaking out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 11:28 AM
1	Why are men's lived experiences dismissed or unacknowledged? Isn't Jordan's entire thing nowadays screaming about trans people and nagging women to make babies? The guy is genuinely unhinged.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 11:19 AM
1	Why are men's lived experiences dismissed or unacknowledged? I personally don't think men were "brainwashed" I just think men have always been sort of garbage but most are inarticulate garbage and they found themselves a couple of garbage voices there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 11:08 AM
1	cmv: I think dating multiple people at once is not only morally awful, and but also effectively awful. I don't think there's a problem if you haven't started getting sexual yet with any of them. A whole bunch of meets and first or second or third dates without actual sex is just eh whatever, people doing their screening and sorting	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 05:27 AM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) Well nice to find that out early then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 11:43 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) I've always, in phases in my life when I was seeking a partner, been fine with meeting types that weren't the classic date and did not involve two people going off together to consume a parallel meal or beverage or a paid experience together. Asked if I want to just show up to a regular meeting of part of your social circle at a cafe where a bunch of folks all order for themselves and can get away with ordering nothing? No problem. Go sit down on a sunny bit of grass together for an hour? No pro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 11:31 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) He's only expected to pay if the activity he planned involved paying. He had the freedom to plan a risk he was willing to take.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 02:50 PM
7	CMV : If you want to live by the traditional values, then u also have to accept the disadvantages that comes with a traditional life. This applys to both genders. Yeah whatever...you don't have to sell your soul to a corporation but most of the time that means one guy in the family basically sells all your souls to the corporation of his choice. It is not an effing improvement if the whole shebang hangs on the whims of some prick like Elon. Daddy's not coming home this week he's taken his sleeping bag to work in hopes he makes it through until Elon divests.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 02:41 PM
0	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) "I wonder what that makes them" Someone who has a container of meal prep at home that cost her $3 to make and isn't feeling like sitting down and paying $20 for food and wine to attempt to feel more receptive to a guy who just decided he liked the look of her butt and also totally lacks ability or inclination to come up with less expensive ways to appeal to her. That's what that makes her. There's food at home calling her name. There's a computer and an entire world of entertainment at home call…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 02:04 PM
-1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) I don't think a lot of the guys who complain about women not paying find those other options particularly acceptable. They'd be already doing them and not complaining if they found those other options acceptable Basically a lot of them want a woman who doesn't know them and is not yet definitely attracted to experience a whole lot of mood altering.experiemce like good food, drink, entertainment on a date with them so she can become more relaxed and inclined to feel attracted...but want to do no …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 01:52 PM
9	Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why? The fact he filters and then inevitably he whines about what does and doesn't get through the filter...not enough girls not skinny enough girls not girls who accept low effort not girls with high libido not extroverted girls who can carry a conversation whine whine whine why aren't there enough of precisely what I want ....why haven't those ones set themselves aside for me why hasn't everyone spent the past fifteen years preparing to please me here today now I have decided I need to leave offspr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 12:48 PM
-1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) So what you really want is for women to be more enthusiastic about romantically charged contact with random strangers. We aren't. That's just how it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 12:24 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) Bars and Clubs are also one of the locations where some peoples social circles enlarge. People don't end up just making dates on nights out. They also talk and whole groups of people meet. And sometimes they say things like "hey let's all of us meet at the New Year's fireworks" or "hey I do tabletop roleplaying too...I'm running a game at a local gaming store why not swing by on this day and watch see how it suits...we could do with another player" People don't just mill around looking for the p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 12:09 PM
-3	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) Well then. Common sense says if both men and women aren't real keen to do asking or paying that dating a stranger sucks and relationships should start between people who are part of the same social circle and have some idea about each other before starting ...and mate seeking should primarily involve broadening ones social circle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 11:58 AM
1	Would you be okay with your partner having a good friend of the opposite sex? Good? OK. Neutral or Evil? Fuck no.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 07:50 AM
6	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) What you guys really want from us is for us to accept the date and pay. But if paying becomes the norm, accepting the date will become even more rare. Because accepting the date is usually a very close judgement call on something that could turn out good or bad...and twenty bucks kept in our pocket instead of spent on a plate of limp spaghetti and a glass of wine is twenty bucks still in our pocket and that's always always good. Women don't need to go on first dates with strangers if they have a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 07:13 AM
1	Short men Well... wearing worse fitting clothes and having worse style couldn't possibly do much good so...	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 05:59 AM
7	Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering. The system doesn't support women definitively deciding no at age 18. If it did, we would let women get their tubes tied on their 18th birthday...and a lot would. The system deliberately forces the keeping of open options.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 10:49 PM
1	How can Facebook Groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy Balance Female Safety and Male Privacy? https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/11re8b5/comment/jc891iw/ Just linking the subthread you bizarrely chose to reply to by mention but not by direct reply. Fourth amendment protects Americans against their government not against each other. And no ... individuals from the next town over talking shit about you is not totalitarianism. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Totalitarianism#:~:text=Totalitarianism%20is%20a%20form%20of,over%20public%20and%20private%20life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 09:32 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Don't you have a high score to be chasing or some ingame asset to grind for?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 03:23 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Oh I can understand why they do that. I just don't understand why they think anyone should give two shits about their sexual desires if that's how they've chosen to deal with it. If you're rubbing one out to porn twice a day and filling up all your spare hours with games, then well apart from needing to earn enough to live and to save for your frail elder years... that's you taken care of. Not a problem. Some other more driven guy gets the girls, some other more driven guy probably gets the prom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 03:10 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread It's early days yet for Peterson hating. Just saying. He works tirelessly to offend new populations of people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 02:08 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread That sort of makes sense? They recruited initially for a campaign where they were expecting Ukrainians to welcome them with open arms as the same race and culture. We saw the coverage of the captured prisoners...pretty much all white boys. Then hundreds of thousands of young men fled Russia to avoid possible conscription...those guys would have been mostly ones who had lost friends etc, ones with well paid urban jobs or remote tech work and money behind them, ones who felt the imminence of war r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 01:32 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread They usually want a special friendship...and rarely care much about the gender of that friend...that special friendship is highly emotional and has lots of cuddles and hugs but no icky genital stuff. Think of like...two inseparable desexed cats raised from kittenhood together. Cuddles, comfort, thinking of each other, telling each other everything, maybe buy a house together, maybe sleep in the same bed wearing pajamas of course. Make dinner together do the dishes together. Grand romantic gestur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 12:45 PM
4	How can Facebook Groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy Balance Female Safety and Male Privacy? Naming then urging violence or with the clear intent to urge violence and you'll definitely have a large possibility of Facebook trouble and maybe a.visit from police to say don't do that. Just name her? Most probably no consequences, a slight possibility of the naughty corner which women are also put in occasionally...example Clementine Ford. Look,.guys who hate women tend more to the autistic and seem to in all but the least complicated matters lack an appreciation of how close to the brink th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 08:47 AM
6	How can Facebook Groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy Balance Female Safety and Male Privacy? The ones I know of that were for guys but got cancelled seem to have lacked effective moderation to keep the posts within the legally and socially acceptable zone. The same does not appear to be true of this recent crop of women's groups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 05:45 AM
5	How can Facebook Groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy Balance Female Safety and Male Privacy? But has society decided that? I mean you're part of society too and I doubt you've decided that. Why do you say "society has decided" about one and not the other. The vast majority of society is probably indifferent. Personally I think both are naff and I don't want to be involved. No to cruel photos of random passersby. No to groups that share date info...if I ever start dating again I will screen the old fashioned way...by no sex for ages and ages. People have different opinions, platforms hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 05:21 AM
0	It’s in western men’s best interests to just go overseas versus trying to convince American women to change CMV I don't think the countries they go to are good places to find the longterm relationships they say they want. Good for running a rotation of plates maybe. The girls in a sexually conservative country who are willing to quickly cough up sex (another thing passport bros demand) are firmly inhabiting a particular social space...they are blatant terrible sluts and whores. Once as a woman you inhabit that social space in a sexually conservative culture well that's what you are, you never get to go ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 05:05 AM
0	What are signs that a person is using you as second choice or is settling for you? Practically nobody was anyones first choice. Just assume you weren't and get used to the idea. Stop watching porn, put effort into real partners instead. Porn trains you to respond to things like bizarre exaggerated vocalisations during sex. It basically trains you to believe and enjoy fake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 04:17 AM
0	It’s in western men’s best interests to just go overseas versus trying to convince American women to change CMV The autists who have the most issue with mate seeking in the west also tend to be spectacularly bad at intuiting the meaning of social stuff. They often barely get by in their native culture and language. I'm not sure it is responsible to unreservedly advocate a move overseas to them. Which doesn't mean there's no potential advantage in changing locale and for some of them even if it doesn't bring mates it might bring greater willingness to step out of their comfort zone. Just a bit of caution s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 03:22 AM
1	How do you feel about tomboys? It ceases to be a useful distinction once you are past the age of schools and recess time and cliques and limited friendship choices available. People dress how they dress and it isn't a big deal. People have different interests which can mean they see more or less of each other due to being different places doing different things but preference for a different way of expressing ones gender through interest choices is only one of many things that cause a diversity of personal interests.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 02:33 AM
1	Who is generally viewed more positively by society, a single man or a man with an unattractive girlfriend/wife? Depends in what way the wife is unattractive. If she stays reasonably normal in body composition and dresses and acts appropriately then it's only an issue in very image conscious environments like the movie industry Same with an unsuccessful husband. He can be respectably unsuccessful...a low paid teacher, an Anglican vicar on the smallest stipend in a grotty little town... or he can be a lazy bum. And the only contexts that really care about genteel poverty are certain conservative contexts th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 01:49 AM
16	How can Facebook Groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy Balance Female Safety and Male Privacy? Basically this. Laws about slander, libel, defamation still potentially apply but there's no real right to not have people talk about you. I'm constantly amused by men who I strongly suspect have no trouble with for example women being photographed in public and the photos shared suddenly deciding it has gone too far when a story about a date being immensely awkward or predatory get shared. Her odd shaped arse is fodder for mockery just because she took it down the shops when she went to buy gro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/23 12:28 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread https://youtu.be/s0zgLphOe5c I laughed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 03:47 PM
1	Slut shaming is bad, but what's the actual appeal of being a promiscuous woman? Well I'm not that way myself but I've known some... mostly when I worked in fast food back in my young adulthood, late 80s early 90s. The pill was about five bucks for three months worth after government subsidy. Learning about the practical side of doing sex is an interesting thing whether you're doing it with an LTR or randoms . These girls usually were informally renting a room on a cash basis without a lease had very little money left for anything like entertainment after paying expenses and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 03:17 PM
3	Actual evidence that women are treated better than men overall ? Because for most women it doesn't actually work out to being treated much nicer in every small situation or even a significant proportion of really important situations and only a guy with poor social intuition and a hefty victimhood complex would think it did? I'm walking home alone after a shift at night after the buses have stopped...if a predator sees me I will be seen as an easier mark than another man...and oh guess what... there's precisely zero other people round so I get the full pointy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 01:29 PM
13	How can an average-looking dude inspire visceral attraction in women!? I don't think anyone gets the best another person has to offer... people don't even do the best thing they have to offer for themselves and if that's the only thing you will regard as success you're going to be permanently unsuccessful. You believe something profoundly stupid now go live the stupid life it brings you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 08:55 AM
4	Q4W - Why did Maslow, in his Hierarchy of Needs, originally list Sex as a Basic, Physiological need? Yeah it's reddit ...and reddit and especially this subreddit is mainly entertainment. If you wish to entertain us with a well researched and thought out, thoroughly referenced full of evidence treatise on Maslow's hierarchy of needs feel free, knock yourself out. Everyone else here is fitting in replies to you between other stuff...in my case I am eating one of these.https://www.broadsheet.com.au/national/food-and-drink/article/halal-snack-pack-no-adelaides-version-called-ab, and watching a YouT…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 05:49 AM
5	Q4W - Why did Maslow, in his Hierarchy of Needs, originally list Sex as a Basic, Physiological need? It's just the most obvious reason given what's available about him and his career easily and without great effort. So that's what I'd bet on. I can't be arsed going off and reading for a week just for Reddit...if it was for money or marks at college I would go do research. But Reddit? Pffft. Really it is spectacularly normal for great thinkers who formulate stunning new and highly useful paradigms in the softer sciences to not get everything perfect in the first attempt doing so and make errors …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 04:37 AM
0	Do women want another guy when they end a relationship? First time I was too busy packing and listening to my ex weep and whine and threaten suicide at me to have any opinion other than just wanting to escape. Gave the jerk two weeks notice and tried to get stuff done like finalise joint financial matters...what a disaster. Fucked someone less than two days after I left though. I hadn't planned on it but when the offer was made it took me very little time to say yes that sounds lovely. I guess it might have taken me a month or two to come round to lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 04:23 AM
12	Q4W - Why did Maslow, in his Hierarchy of Needs, originally list Sex as a Basic, Physiological need? His Wikipedia entry seems to indicate he greatly disliked his mother with whom he had a poor relationship, found physical development the most important part of manhood, tried to turn himself into a muscle man, failed, then married his cousin. My guess is he greatly craved the validation aspect of sex and felt this more as a need than most other men who got on better with their mothers and experienced less body image issues. And no that's not saying he was a terrible person. Just more reliant on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 03:18 AM
1	Most men would have no issues dating if they had a lifestyle that allowed them to organically meet women. Every way of meeting has its own dynamic and this is the app dynamic. The app heavily favours male agenda in providing a relatively private setting in which thirst, desperation, mistakes and low social skills won't be seen by a crowd. It disfavours women's agenda by allowing anonymity that can easily be exploited by dangerous people. Women don't just keep behaving the same in a setting like that...they recognise this is riskier and so become harder to tempt. It's not rocket science. Apps are not…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 01:31 AM
2	Actual evidence that women are treated better than men overall ? I'm a short woman with small hands and I've never been physically suited to the most hazardous jobs. I don't really see that as an advantage in life...not having the option to choose yes or no to working on a prawn trawler or being a roofer? Most people who are physically suitable for those jobs choose no...the ones that choose yes are usually not only male but also temperamentally suited individuals. But I've certainly been suitable for some pretty gross mildly dangerous jobs, like poultry proc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 01:04 AM
1	Most men would have no issues dating if they had a lifestyle that allowed them to organically meet women. You're rating women too low and men too high. Probably because of all the time you spend around average to below average men, and all the time you spend seeking and enjoying carefully crafted digitally enhanced images of above average women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 12:22 AM
1	Would you sign a contract with a dating agency, to date someone they choose for you, for a week? No thanks. Sounds ghastly and like people would play all sorts of unpleasant games to get compensated not penalized.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 11:21 PM
1	Most men would have no issues dating if they had a lifestyle that allowed them to organically meet women. Well it's no particular joy for 4/10 women either...the boyfriends they can get tend towards being not just ugly but also socially dysfunctional, not particularly grateful for being in a relationship with someone of their own level of attractiveness which translates into a lack of respect and very hard work emotionally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 11:03 PM
25	Actual evidence that women are treated better than men overall ? Being seen as less of a threat is a double edged sword. I mean really. For example mechanics try to pull scams on women more not just because they think a woman knows less...but also because they are more confident a woman won't break their nose for them when she works out she's been conned.You don't need research to know this, it's just obvious. Short guys will also tell you...it kind of sucks to get less respectful deference because you're seen as less to contend with	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 10:47 PM
1	Most men would have no issues dating if they had a lifestyle that allowed them to organically meet women. Well considering how much some guys whine and become hostile when they even halfway think women are doing guy stuff to get boyfriends...what do you suggest? She's a fake gamer girl and is only doing engineering to get a husband! Get these chicks out of male spaces! You might want to muzzle your gender's whiney ass incels a bit...or take them out the back and punch their mouths repeatedly until they ain't gonna say jack to anyone... if you don't want to have to take up knitting and book clubs jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 10:29 PM
1	Can you explain the thought process of this guy obsessed with my body count? Some time ago I formed the opinion that the reason this obsession exists is not significantly about paternity. Guys just rationalise their feelings that way. The feelings exist on a spectrum and are in my opinion heavily genetic. They continue to exist even in situations where genes aren't the big deal. A guy who is going to need to use donor sperm and knows it might still prefer a low count wife. Throughout human history right up to the start of modern policing, the biggest threat a relationshi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 06:59 PM
2	Honest question for men and women: How do people date? I worked at a hamburger place in my youth. Some people start terrified to ask if someone wants fries with that. The quiet studious types are the worst. And guess what... that's also the group who if they make it to adulthood without needing a McJob tend to be the most ruthless about McJobs being easy and therefore deserving of no respect. Like they'll literally make would you like fries with that jokes about the career prospects of people doing degrees that require slightly better social and exp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 10:24 AM
4	Most men would have no issues dating if they had a lifestyle that allowed them to organically meet women. "accidentally ram our car" Don't go giving the crazy guys here ideas like that. In six months they'll be complaining "look this is expensive...why do I always have to pay for the car ramming? That last landlords insurance company worker really screwed me over in court and my car insurance is now $2000 a month. It's insane. And I still haven't touched a vagina. Why can't a chick run a car into my house sometime? And what about all those girls living in high rise apartments how is a man expected t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 05:43 AM
6	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. "a married man" No thanks. Sounds like garbage to me. Also...a cheater respecting boundaries...pull the other one it plays jingle bells. A cheater might tread carefully due to your potential to blow up his life but he's no respecter of boundaries. "A travelling business man" No thanks. Sounds like garbage too. He'll show up to his schedule not mine and disrupt my life. That's not me scratching an itch that's him expecting servicing. He can pay a call girl for turning her life upside down to be t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 10:51 PM
12	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. I'm happy alone and I don't hook up. I don't know any happy alone women who do. Once women are done with it they're done.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 08:51 PM
4	How realistic is Magic Mike? You've had a sheltered upbringing. Back in the late eighties in Australia there was a party sales company called Luvawear. They sold sex toys and lingerie. If the party made sales they got a male stripper. I haven't seen Magic Mike. The strippers at the Luvawear parties were clearly gay but still really nice to be around. They didn't seem real wealthy... probably dancers who were looking for a more regular gig than just being on a talent agency's books as backup dancers for bands and stuff. Thei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 08:43 PM
1	Men get accused of being "shallow" and "gross" for just wanting sex, but criticizing women for doing it is "slutshaming" If you're approaching many people for sex as a numbers game, you are almost certainly approaching among them people who are low count and find casual sex and the people who want it from them repugnant. Even those who are not low count have a fair chance of seeing certain contexts for approach as gross, sleazy, creepy. There are social scenes in which an easy going approach to sexual behaviour is present and people who are socially perceptive and moderately attractive to others partner easily for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 08:16 PM
24	CMV: The female expectation of looking physically attractive is way, WAY more easier than the male expectation of being a provider. You know what's easiest of all for most women in the developed world? No husband, no kids, no inlaws, no need to be more pretty than just presentable. Just a job, an affordable residence within your budget, a couple of cats, a vibrator, hobbies, friends. Sleeping in on Sunday morning without some guy pressing his dick against your butt crack to wake you up. Never having to accommodate anyone's food pickiness. The second bedroom all yours too...an art studio, a YouTube creator studio, a gaming sp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 06:40 PM
3	Hypothetical thought experiment: opting out of parenthood for men I'd certainly consider some system where opting out in some way costs the man other reproductive opportunities. That's essentially part of what child support does anyway...he poor now. But I don't feel it would be by itself enough to address all issues. Certainly if everyone after an abortion used for nonmedical purposes or skipping out on fatherhood could have their fertility magically muted for six months well that wouldn't be too awful for society...but it's not great in terms of bodily auton…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 08:35 AM
2	Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why? Oh I don't always respond with a sneer. But it absolutely is my right to..And totally reasonable. Especially when as always is the case, I am.approached as part of an "approach many" strategy. And well what the fuck else is it going to be but an "approach many" strategy when a woman not possessed of rare ethereal beauty of the sort that instantly silences a room (that's pretty much all of us) is being approached by a total fucking stranger? That guy doesn't care about me. He's not doing this for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/23 07:25 AM
4	Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why? I don't hang round such places if I am feeling tired, grumpy, in pain , burdened or any of the other things that are likely to just have me dumping my reaction on someone without filtering it But y'know... you're potentially going to find irritable drunks and people who aren't censoring themselves anywhere alcohol is imbibed in large amounts. Just saying. Talk to any eight people sitting at a bar and one of thems going to be ruder than usual. Goes with the territory.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 06:11 PM
0	Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why? Well I don't think I am. However... If you approach randoms in the street asking them to get with some agenda of yours you WILL approach people who are all those things. A possibility of those things goes with the territory of y'know...totally unscreened stranger sitting at bus stop. And sneering at someone isn't illegal...nor is being sneered at by a stranger you will never see again dangerous. Guys who do cold approach in public places are pretty much going to be sneered at. It is part of the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 05:40 PM
9	Male Delusion Calculator! A lot of working class, religious and rural women marry early.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 05:04 PM
2	Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why? No dude. I don't always feel obliged to pull myself together to do that for you. You run the risk of an "Ewww no" if you catch me off guard. That's just how it is with bothering strangers in public places. Maybe I'd focus quicker if you were choking and needing a Heimlich...but your general desire to wet your dick is not an emergency.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 05:02 PM
1	How is it physically possible that there are twice as many single men as women? This is the sort of thing I would want to very carefully read the research design and questionnaire involved to answer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 04:17 PM
3	Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why? We even use it to refer to places...music...dolls...paintings...that meth addict looking guy who hangs round the supermarket entrance... politicians we think are lying... people who don't take care to hold their phones so the camera isn't pointing at anyone... jewellery made out of human teeth... Creepy is creepy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 04:13 PM
23	Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why? I don't regard myself as obliged to you to be as polite in rejecting a cold approach as the cold approach itself was. If you approached me you had far longer to formulate a polite advance and the luxury of deciding not to approach at all if you did not have enough time. Then you went and put me on the spot, having precisely zero idea what my current state of mind, stress level, state of health etc are. Just walked right up to me and demanded I formulate a response that didn't make you feel bad. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 04:05 PM
1	Do men even enjoy dating women? And this is the bit where we discover a man tacitly admitting the actually rather large male role in hypergamy. Dudes don't want women who know they are above them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 03:38 PM
1	Do men even enjoy dating women? Around here? More than AU$20 a kilo at Coles. And I'm not going to pay that for something that I mainly associate with the slightly metallic tasting canned oxtail soup of the 1970s. If I'm gonna have to get over a food's bad associations to eat it, it had better be a cheap food.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 03:11 PM
2	Do men even enjoy dating women? Porterhouse here in Australia is sold bone out not bone in. I wish someone had warned me in my twenties how damn volatile meat prices are. I mean it should have been obvious but young people are dumb. Slightly older lamb was basically trash meat when I moved out of home, a kilo of chump chops on special could be bought with fifteen minutes of the adult minimum wage. Now we sell that stuff to America and they are all "ooooh lamb, so classy" about lamb that's a few days away from being hogget. lol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 02:03 PM
12	Q4W: Whats your score on the Female Delusion Calculator? It's only delusional to have very high standards if you're unwilling to just deal with not being able to get your standards met They need to add another question about that. If you're willing to just deal with your standards not getting met, no delusion exists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 10:32 AM
2	Do men even enjoy dating women? Ummm...yeah...sort of? I do sort of enjoy grocery shopping? I mean it's a necessary chore but that's no reason not to enjoy it. I rock up at my local grocery store, grab a trolley and roll on into the produce section which is usually a delight...the fruit of the land...plums with a dusky bloom to them, strawberries... today there are blackberries. Just a whole world of lushness, crispness, juiciness, I can't afford it all but whatever. Ooooh there's perfect celery and broccoli today, affordable …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 06:32 AM
1	Do Fresh and Fit bring women on the show to actually discuss dating topics or are they trying to embarrass them or something else? It's a grift. Views, clicks, algorithm engagement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/23 07:34 PM
2	CMV : Most Women wouldnt reject Mr Perfect just because he has a high bodycount, most Men on the other side would easily reject Mrs Perfect if she has a high bodycount. 80 body count? Ick. But someone will have him. Or if it is a her, someone will have her. I have no doubt about that. And they've got the experience to find that person. If you're not high body count or regularly interacting with and being sought out by those with a high body count, you probably know pretty much nothing about high body count dynamics... nothing about the reality of having that on offer to you or walking around offering it to people. It's spectacularly ridiculously normal for peop…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/23 01:19 PM
1	For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan? Marriages were like that all the fucking time before cohabitation was tolerated and no fault divorce allowed. Those are the escape hatches if in marriage you want to pull stunts like having secret bank accounts...just don't be fucking married if that's what you're into, duh. Young men who pine for the fifties are delusional. Most marriages nowadays are reasonably good. That's because we don't recruit everyone to marriage, we allow cohabitation and we allow easy divorce. I am in my fifties and my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/23 11:19 AM
1	For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan? It's usually ok if someone out of general anxiety for the threat people can pose to each other chooses to secretly keep aside a reasonable (in the context of the general household budget) amount of money for immediate expenses in case they need to flee. Sad...but ok. Nobody should feel bad about enough for a bus ticket to safety and maybe a few weeks in the cheapest backpacker hostel. People also.do a bunch of shit when a marriage is in the process of dissolving and some of it is justified and s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/23 09:37 AM
1	For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan? I wouldn't expect full details of anything from just a boyfriend. If we're married...I'd be pissed. I'm not one to push a man for marriage. And I kind of dislike weddings. He obviously desperately wanted full benefit of the way the additional difficulty in separation makes a person more likely to stay in a marriage...but to skip out on his end of that it being more difficult deal. I mean why couldn't he have just idk...not fucking proposed? Shithead. I'd feel like some long, complicated multiste…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/23 12:46 AM
2	Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly Used Lol. I've known a girl get pregnant very conveniently when her boyfriend got a base level public service job in another city and didn't offer to take her with him and it looked like the relationship would fizzle out. First holiday when he came back to visit family. Ooops...now he gotta beg for a transfer home. Not every baby trap is about money. Baby traps aren't as common as many men fear they are...the majority of women think it is a foolish choice... but there are many circumstances in which …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 09:30 PM
1	CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things cost Well that's a conversation to have with the woman you intend to marry, who may very well still want a nice bit of bling for her finger. It's a hurdle. So people who can't jump hurdles together become frustrated with each other and are discouraged from marrying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 08:52 PM
1	Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for men Eh. Things fall by the wayside in life. I always wanted to keep chickens...like ever since I was eight years old. Never did make it happen and it still looks unlikely. Now let's imagine the position of chickens and children were reversed in my list of priorities. Back in the late nineties when I decided it was kids now or kids never, and asked my long-term boyfriend to knock me up...I might have instead decided to seek a place to live that was conducive to keeping chickens...which he wasn't real…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 08:39 PM
19	Do most single women have a "Steve"? Well yeah, I have hung out with nerds while being in a relationship most of my life and half of the males would have been up for it despite it being sure to fuck over most of their friendships if they did. Always had to be careful not to be accidentally seen as interested. Always had to make sure I kept track of whether particular guys had seen me too many times without my man present...if I attended the mixed group that went to the movies on a particular weeknight two times in a row alone, the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 05:12 PM
4	Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for men Personally I think that middle aged men are just more inclined than women to use alcohol or pot to self medicate away the various aches and pains of middle age...and women are more inclined to visit the doc with a laundry list of "shits fucked up" and get given antidepressants as part of the overall response. But hey I guess what the fuck would a woman in her fifties know about aging compared to the twenty something men of the black pill.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 04:38 PM
1	"Don't fuck a man on the first date because he will ghost you" is terrible advice. And here is why. Nah. You learn a whole lot about how men hide their bullshit by putting him through ten dates of hiding his bullshit. If you're going to have sex then be dumped well you want to have learned something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 01:14 PM
8	CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things cost This. Also it is why the tradition of the engagement ring is vitally important to stop idiots marrying without having had to confront the realities of what they each really feel about spending money and what you get for your money. I swear...the engagement ring hate I see...dudes you should be grateful for the conflict it brings to your relationship. If she wants a $50,000 ring and you want a $100 ring...well that's representative of an entire category of conversation you will be having over and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 10:26 AM
4	this is still the most alpha fux, beta bux proff i have ever seen on reddit It's an incel circle jerk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 09:38 AM
1	this is still the most alpha fux, beta bux proff i have ever seen on reddit This is all kind of circlejerky though, as a post framed this way? I mean I'm happy to discuss it if it's framed less like an excuse for incel rage bukkake where they gather round in a circle and shoot their anger wads all over people they've never met and whose actual personal struggles they've got no idea about or real concern for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 09:35 AM
1	Is playing video games an ick be honest? Even just the 30 pounds overweight at 25 is a very bad sign if it is due to a behaviour you are thoroughly committed to for acquiring dopamine and therefore aren't likely to do anything to correct. Consider where the conflict between the HAES and the weightloss fitness types originates, right? HAES says you deal with that by consistently trying to make healthier choices on a range of fronts...the 30 pounds isn't the problem in itself you can be 30 or 130 overweight, you just keep trying to eat, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 07:02 AM
2	Is playing video games an ick be honest? It's not an ick per se but a bunch of stuff that may be present in a particular gamer due to immersion in gaming culture or devotion of too much time to the game or addiction to easy dopamine might be ick. There are an awful lot of icky gamers Plus y'know...bare minimum is bare minimum. That's right next to below standard isn't it. If someone is deliberately being bare minimum rather than solidly acceptable at say 25 and it is because they won't lay off gaming a bit...well it's like being bare m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 04:52 PM
6	Stop telling men they need a woman, and how much better a wife will make their life. Places that have algorithms to match viewers to content that people are paid to produce. You're getting what you are willing to watch. There's no great wave of specifically women demanding that men participate in marriage. There's individuals who ascribe to various ideologies... usually religious and/or conservative...who see a specific type of marriage as some sort of solution to a bunch of woes. There's a few people with their own weird ass personal ideas. There's people who are looking for th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 09:51 AM
1	Things that women support the most are about avoiding the responsibility that women being equal imply Meh. I'm leaving alone the reproductive stuff because others are addressing it and am just going to address the employment stuff. Being well.able to or better inclined to work a specific shitty variety of job is not a disadvantage in the economic sphere. I say this as a woman who has worked a few crap jobs that are highly gendered to women because women are seen as less threatening, generally faster at certain tasks and more visually detail oriented. Nobody is, outside of trafficking situations …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/23 07:33 AM
2	Women getting all these degrees is really just intrasexual warfare the upper classes and beta males trying to take all the women. Meh. Being harder on people who can't seem to keep unrelated shit like flirting or political obsessions or religious proselytism out of classroom time Is fairly normal for professional degree courses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 05:08 PM
1	I don’t think the amount of money a man makes actually matters What do you enjoy doing that does not involve other people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/23 05:52 AM
1	I don’t think the amount of money a man makes actually matters What do you actually enjoy doing that involves other people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/23 05:49 AM
1	I don’t think the amount of money a man makes actually matters That's your depression talking. Heartbreakingly beautiful looks break the system. But they aren't the primary dynamic of the system. Massive wealth like Elon breaks the system. But it isn't the primary dynamic of the system. Massive audacity combined with creativity and ruthlessness like being the leader of a drug cartel breaks the system but it is not the primary dynamic of the system. Sparkling charisma and the ability to talk anyone into anything breaks the system but it is not the primary dy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/23 05:40 AM
1	I don’t think the amount of money a man makes actually matters Resources will potentially have opportunities showing up more often and earlier.Nobody who doesn't have a fetish for it is going to be as thrilled to fuck you under a bridge among trash and homeless people as they would be to fuck you in a tent in the park...or your car...or a room in a boarding house...or that place you are house sitting...or your room at your mother's house...or your seedy little bedsit...or a halfway decent one bedroom flat...or your nice apartment...or your actual house. It'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/23 04:33 AM
5	CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all. If someone wants to find meaning and strength and sees it as a very big deal they are doing well the vast majority of the ordinary business of living then that's a good thing. So many people don't, right? We got people who can't even make a credible attempt at changing a tap washer even after watching a YouTube how to, can't really dress themselves and look like crap because of it, don't wash their arse when they shower, can't sew on a button, lodge their taxes on time or are failing to lodge ta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 03:47 AM
1	As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men. And it's incorrect. Straight out incorrect. Dudes be thinking that the women they put themselves in the way of be all the women there really are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 02:48 PM
1	Why did you get divorced? I, in hindsight, don't think he ever intended to take on the responsibilities of marriage. None of them. Not a one. He just wanted me to and knew I would take them seriously. Unsurprisingly it was a mess. I've described the mess here on occasion but well really, you can imagine. That was never going to work in a country with no fault divorce and even in a country with fault based divorce it's still only going to work with a spouse who lacks the grit for a divorce based on infidelity. Nothing I c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 11:37 AM
1	Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do? At a friend's housewarming with my now ex...he is bored and goes home early. The relationship is six months from the end of a grinding two year process of breaking down. Get lift home from mutual friend. He flirts very mildly. I don't reciprocate or shut him down. Relationship eventually breaks down. Mutual friend.flirts again. I reciprocate. Result 25 years together and two kids. Separated now but yes while we were together I wouldn't have changed more than minor details about that sequence of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 09:42 AM
1	As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men. Some men prefer the environments in which it is possible to get away with not being particularly accountable... like Tinder and going back to their place. Then surprised Pikachu face when the particular women who also desire that lack of accountability also enjoy those contexts. If you are a person with good social functioning who wants partners who also function well socially then social circles are the place. It's not rocket science guys. You'll tend to find people in a place who like the norm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 08:20 AM
1	As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men. I read it, I just think he's made an error in maths. The girls who are pretty and sane and like to be in a relationship are always going to be mostly locked away in relationships and when they become single be scooped up by men who know them through social circles. If he wants girls who are pretty, available and unproblematic then he's not going to find them easily. This is just how trying to date someone from an in demand category works once you are past the age at which people have started coh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 06:21 AM
1	Women of Reddit, what is your actual body count vs. the body count you tell the men you're with when they ask? Two. Mr 1 knew it was 0 because it was freaking obvious, Mr 2 knew it was 1 because he was part of the same social scene as me and Mr 1 for the six years it took for my relationship with Mr 1 to run its course. The disparity is... I didn't tell them any number because we all just knew. Unless you count that neighbour boy who on one occasion I made a single clumsy attempt at tongue kissing in a tent made of kitchen chairs and old sheets when we were both 7 years old...with the end result being we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 05:20 AM
4	As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men. It's less that they never have to learn and more that hotness is so in demand that all the good hot women who want relationships just get into relationships within a month of deciding they need one and stay there...then the crazy ones who want relationships go on to have lots and lots of dates and ONS and short term relationships spreading their craziness round. My daughters talk about their social circles and this is exactly what is happening. Those guys seem more self aware than the OP about t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 02:36 AM
1	As a man who’s dated quite a bit, I’ve found more women tend to be socially maladjusted than more men. Goes through your stuff? Certainly not unknown in men on dates. Rapey behaviour? Certainly not unknown in men on dates. Talking nonstop about themselves? Certainly not unknown in men on dates. I think some context is missing here. While you're certainly not at fault for what those women do, the fact you're getting so many of them is probably understandable and possibly fixable if more context of your mate search location, your age and search behaviour and choices were known.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 01:58 AM
1	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate Well let's see how it plays out. Personally I am expecting if the war becomes extensive that well before conscription some generous sign on bonuses and relaxed standards will soon be tempting a bunch more ugly low income virgin dudes and a bunch of potential trashy dependapotami into working out what side their bread is buttered on and agreeing to marry to enjoy all those military benefits. Marry, he loses the v card, knocks her up then off to Europe for hookers in between blasting things with g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 10:44 AM
1	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate The fleeing Ukrainian men of fighting age in Russia will get conscripted and sent once the flow of traitors slows and a situation that is hard for troops to retreat from opens. Probably in large clearly identifiable groups so they'll fight real hard knowing if captured that's gonna be identification as Ukrainian and a treason trial when the war is over. It's gonna suck bigtime for them but nobody really likes a traitor... people who benefit from traitors find traitors useful but they still detes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 08:11 AM
3	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate You know...even if we disagree about improvement in fat percentage, physique and physicality making a person more attractive and have to leave that there because we'll just end up arguing in circles... anyone who thinks diet and exercise and being outdoors can't improve mood directly is quite foolish. That stuff makes many people happier. Of course if protesting that you are so unhappy is like the only weapon you got then maybe you've decided to not to do things to be happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 05:19 AM
1	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate You know a lot of you guys talk about short ugly aspie doctors and suchlike who can't get laid That's not your average sexually unsuccessful guy though. Average sexually unsuccessful guy gonna be a target of the invader... he maybe dodges death long enough until he gets trusted by the invader to go invade someone else and dodge death at the hands of defenders. They don't put the locals in charge of conquering or subjugating locals. You do know that? An aspie with a doctorate who is as OP.describ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 04:59 AM
1	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate Well, y'know, if your face be a busted face...and you don't fancy or can't afford lifting...and you firmly believe sexual.success is about.looks...get lean and learn to look capable and graceful in motion. There's like dozens of diy hackysack videos on YouTube. They don't handle quite the same as bought ones but they are ok. Or if there's a local Buy Nothing Project group on Facebook just ask if anyone has a hackysack they aren't using. You can do something or you can do nothing. Just don't expe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 04:44 AM
0	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate Exactly what role do they think Putin will assign them? Remember OP says they are guys who are failing in jobs, economy, dating and everything else.. There's one available role if you don't bring skills, and that's dodging bullets and drones. If Putin has resources for training he's gonna train Russians.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 04:27 AM
4	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate Dude...I've lived in apartments with a lawn...the guys who play hackysack out the front do ok with girls. They're out there showing off their physicality...while paranoid shut ins are at their computers making excuses to people on Reddit and bidding misere in the great card game of life. On hot nights when the aircon doesn't keep up and people get out for fresh air as soon as a cool breeze happens, the guys who have been visible are the ones the girls go talk to. It's not rocket science. Even du…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 04:20 AM
3	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate If the girls say no...say "that's cool...just thought I'd ask. Thanks" and you know what you've just done...you've respected a "no"... you're like twenty percent more trustworthy in their eyes than before. It's basically a no lose strategy if they don't use their spot and you ask to use it once. You either get respected for taking the no exceptionally well or they say yes and that creates a situation in which they have your number and might call it ("hey do you know what's happening with those s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 04:08 AM
0	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate If you don't think brownies will work try something else. Hi I am (introduce by name) I noticed you're not using your car parking space...can one of my friends park there tomorrow we're gonna watch a movie together. Ok.Here's my number call it if you need the car moved for an emergency. Then next day take a couple of cans of beer or soft drinks round...here we had leftovers, thanks so much. Don't push it at all, just establish yourself as OK guys. Then later when you're playing hackysack out the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 03:39 AM
0	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate Yes I get that you're poor. I've been poor. There are options. If you're sitting at a male friends place watching movies then that is what you both have chosen for yourself. You guys choose that. You didn't choose something else. You didn't choose to go down to the lawns in front of your apartment and play hackysack which at least makes you visible. You didn't choose to make a discord for all your friends who want to get out more to plan getting out more. You didn't choose to know every damn ent…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 03:04 AM
8	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate The person I replied to said men often don't have friends and so feel scared to go out. Those guys should make some friends. Not having friends is no excuse. They can't expect to attract a woman and sustain a relationship if they can't even get a same sex friend or two in a world that apparently supposedly has a multitude of single guys in the same predicament. Nigel Nofriends shouldn't be surprised at finding himself with a dry dick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 02:43 AM
4	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate Then those guys should make some friends. If men won't be friends with you and women won't date you maybe you're the common factor?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 02:32 AM
6	Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperate "rather join Russia" All their 18 year old soldiers from rural areas will just read your mind from a distance and not randomly target you in the street or drop a bomb on your home or shoot you while looting your house...right? That's how it works...right? You'll be able to just stay home playing games on your computer while invaders set things up perfectly just for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 02:27 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I'm old as heck. The product Perma-tan? Takes its name from old slang for any tan colour a person kept all year round.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 12:39 AM
2	So, who's fault is it? Why? Capitalism has been allowed to become too dominant politically. Plus the birds have come home to roost after patriarchy...men have spend many generations in what amounts to reproductive sheltered workshops, women have spent many generations with it not mattering if they wanted marriage and babies because that's what they will have...end result is we've got men who are deeply unattractive and women who aren't that fussed if they don't have a man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 12:02 AM
5	So, who's fault is it? Why? Housing cost especially is restricting young people's lives. In the eighties and nineties everyone had friends who lived in share houses with one or two other people, friends who lived alone, friends who lived as couples and friends who were buying alone or as couples. Now it is very much more large squalid large boarding houses and overcrowded apartments or living with your parents.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 11:56 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I think if a guy goes for that age gap then she does dumb teenage shit like get pregnant because she forgot her pills...or she marries him quick then leaves in a few years when she outgrows him or decides she needs a different future...then there really shouldn't be much sympathy for him. So. If it all turns into a dumpster fire because you started up with a 19 year old, are you willing to grit your teeth and stay calm and reasonable and not throw gasoline on the flames?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 10:09 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Well he's got a really nice perma-tan too. I've never seen him as beautiful though, I find his jaw muscles far too exaggerated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 09:56 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread The ugliest guy I know is also an unpleasant person and I've known him for decades. I don't think anything he could do would get me past him being a shit for so long. He could invent a hundred dollar machine that shat out one tonne blocks of carbon at the cost of five bucks each, thus enabling affordable carbon sequestration, and he'd still be the same dickhead. Second ugliest guy I know...well I'm not in the market now but when I was, if he'd just asked me out and turned the sort of charm and c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 09:44 PM
5	Daily Community Chat Megathread Can we ban the term "suicide fuel"? I think it normalises suicidal ideation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 09:31 PM
2	60% of young men are not chronically single because they "lack emotional skills" I fully support any measure that spreads the idea that footballers are crap men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 09:21 PM
3	How would you feel if your long term boyfriend had a personal "# of blowjobs before cohabitating" rule? No...it isn't revenge, it is seeing if he can take what he dishes out. If he can't then he's not a good candidate for marriage. He's not intending on giving me any equity in the relationship. He will always regard himself as by right having access dealing out more discomfort in conflict than I am to be allowed. He's a "walk on eggshells around him" boyfriend and would become that sort of husband and eventually, father. All six requirements could be fulfilled in one leisurely weekend afternoon. H…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 08:38 PM
16	How would you feel if your long term boyfriend had a personal "# of blowjobs before cohabitating" rule? It makes me think he's probably more autistic than I had previously figured. It makes me feel like seeing how he takes being on the receiving end of something similar. It's an important question if this is to last...the thought of that type of gameplay being inflicted on me the rest of my life without me doing a little of it back myself turns my stomach. I've got my own place. It's not fancy but it's mine and set up to accommodate my needs. I own it outright. I'm in no hurry to leave and cram my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 04:10 PM
7	Sex Tourism/Mail-Order Bride Weekly Discussion Thread There's potential hazards as well as potential payoffs and the line between audacity and hubris is a fine one. Here's some thoughts if you want to minimize hazards. Cultures you don't know well are always harder to assess social situations and people's personal credentials in. The place you are most likely to be able to tell if a girl has been a straight up hooker or is running a scam is the place you are most culturally familiar with. You will not be easily attracting the attention of the girls…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/23 08:26 AM
1	Does status indicate sexual success? Success is like gender. A whole lot of it is socially constructed. Probably even more than for gender. I mean...one can argue that dead isn't successful but governments give posthumous bravery medals and funerals have eulogies so definitely there's strong pressure against dead being seen as definitive failure. If not even dead is failure despite our deep aversion to and avoidance of it? There's some questions to be asked. So maybe before you examine sexual success, social success, material succe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/23 02:30 AM
0	Does status indicate sexual success? Well some sort of demonstrated ability, success, assets and/or status at something other people care about is definitely preferred if you're trying to find someone to take you seriously as friend, lover, spouse, employee, person to buy stuff from, team member, brother in arms, ally, leader, band member, artist, performer, student, person asking for votes...the list goes on. But y'know... we're all participants in multiple hierarchies and we all hope for and respect different things in life. Ther…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/23 02:01 AM
0	Some questions for women Pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding are all more physically intimate than sex, especially when they occur without much in the way of artificial intervention. Which one is judged most intimate tends to vary woman to woman. Edited to add...lol, copped an immediate downvote for that one. Stay pressed guys, you're almost certainly never gonna go as into someone physically or demand and receive as much from any woman or be gifted as thoroughly as you did with yo mamma. That's just how it tends to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 10:59 PM
1	Some questions for women 1.Sex is a subset of physical intimacy. It isn't even the most intimate physical experience. 2.I am willing to put up with some chore-like aspects but if it is all chore, forget it. 3.Yeah. Time. My hair. My physical cleanliness. Having to wash the sheets. 4.Men should manage their desires better. Want however much you want...stop holding others responsible for your neediness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 06:43 PM
0	There is no such thing as "free sex". If I'm not getting anything worthwhile out of sex...no pleasure, no happiness no sense of connectedness and safety, no hope for a satisfactory partnership leading to a bright future, no sentimental glow, no reinforcement of a great relationship then duh, that's free sex and nobody is owed that from me. Go home and tug your dick to pretty pictures online. I'll be doing my housework and painting and writing and hanging out with family and friends and sleeping and earning money and a thousand other…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 05:25 PM
–	What do you think has lead to a decline in men "putting themselves out there"? What decline? I'm fatter, older and put in less effort than ever before and experience at least five times as many approaches.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 04:58 PM
2	CMV: Women open themselves to more danger when being "nice" in rejection rather than being honest He ended up having a heart attack in his late thirties. I don't think being him was very good for him either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 04:51 AM
2	What is the "ick" and what triggers it for you? I can guarantee you that you have multiple issues on which you would have adverse reactions to the idea of reproducing with a woman based upon her particular stance on those issues being one you feel crosses some line in how we treat should treat people vs how we treat objects.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 11:58 PM
1	CMV: Women open themselves to more danger when being "nice" in rejection rather than being honest No the murder of the boyfriend happened weeks after my friend's advances to her...but the news article said they'd been together over a year. But y'know...none of his business anyway, she presumably didn't want my friend just sitting there for hours in her workplace nursing one coffee and waiting to catch a glimpse of her boyfriend...work out which car he drives, etc. Somehow she'd worked him out... probably overhead something while he was talking to other friends and she was doing her job takin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 11:46 PM
3	What is the "ick" and what triggers it for you? "but aren't human beings literal objects" People who say things like this tend to be all fine and good about it until they or someone they empathise with feels... even on the basis of basically nothing or in a situation where it is utterly appropriate... like they've been made into an object. Just try to use any argument here that basically goes "She's a stranger, dude she don't know you from Adam, she's got no obligation to spend ten minutes making polite and useful replies you can work with ju…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 10:34 PM
2	New study finds men are leaving the workforce en masse, why work hard if you are not entitled to a wife nor children? This already happened in Japan by men turning into Hikkikomori and japanese economy is in the brink of collapse, men have left the plantation since there's nothing left for them My guess is in the USA a lot of fifty somethings got a COVID inheritance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 10:10 AM
1	Theory: dating apps have irrepairably damaged Collective Unconcious Sexual Selection (CUSS) health. Theory: Humanity has faced thousands of challenges to its ability to mate select and reproduce, most of them the result of technological change. The spear changed mate selection behaviour. The waterskin changed mate selection behaviour. The wheel changed mate selection behaviour. The sewing needle changed mate selection behaviour. The telephone changed mate selection behaviour. Weaving changed mate selection behaviour. This is how humanity places evolutionary pressure on itself in an environment…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 12:33 AM
1	Why women aren’t having kids and settling down young. And...how normal did you turn out?	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 01:41 PM
2	Why women aren’t having kids and settling down young. That's every midlife crisis though innit? The regrets inherent in the path taken even if the path was good and fruitful. Mothers just complain less publicly because friends can gossip and explaining it to kids in their teens or early twenties without giving them some sort of emotional damage is next to impossible, explaining it to a male partner just risks making him unhappy and regretful needlessly over stuff he won't fully understand.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 04:57 AM
3	What do you think of men wearing shoe lifts to appear taller? I'm not fussed about it one way or another. It's a choice people can make. Obviously if they are made too high to walk in comfortably then they'd be just as silly as traditional high heels that are made too high to walk in comfortably. But if they are comfortable and wearable then sure why not? I don't mind if men wear them or even if women wear them. Would it be a bit of a surprise if I suddenly found out a man was five foot five not five foot seven? Sure..but back when I used to wear bras regu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/23 03:22 AM
2	Even after a lot of self-improvement and personal growth, adult single men are increasingly entering the dating environment with a lot of resentment A resentful adolescent upset about what basically amounts to the cost of things. Isn't this pretty typical for adolescents though? And always has been? The ones who buckle down and work systematically get somewhere, the ones who keep giving up at regular intervals get nowhere.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 10:38 AM
1	Dating and biology - why women don't want men/relationships anymore https://youtu.be/A6zoA7nS2eA It is not beyond the realm of possibility that women invented the spear to hunt small game.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 04:17 AM
1	Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men? I think the thing is that if as women we're in a long term relationship with you, at some point we've somehow decided you aren't trash. Furthering a relationship with someone one thinks is trash is in itself a trashy thing. So you're not trash because whatever we know about you and is possibly something we could think is wrong with you we've worked through ànd are to terms with, you don't think we're trash because obviously OBVIOUSLY since you aren't trash you've done the same for us, coolbeans …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 01:28 AM
1	If WW3 started tomorrow, what would you expect your man or men in your country to do? Not necessarily. On the side of the family the sperg mostly came from we had family members who were sent home from basic with a tut tut in WW2.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/23 07:53 PM
1	What do you think about the lonely but successfull men who get a fwb with money instead of getting married? Whatever. I mean it's their lives they are in charge of, not mine. They both run the risk of scaring off future partners who are less inclined to feel comfortable about prostitution.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/23 08:43 AM
1	If WW3 started tomorrow, what would you expect your man or men in your country to do? I don't have a man. And if I did he'd be in his fifties. Maybe he'd join some home guard sort of effort. I'd probably end up working in a munitions factory. Makes sense. No longer reproductive age, I am a sensible choice to take that particular risk of accident and chemical exposure for us all My daughter's boyfriend....idk. That's largely down to his family's values and I haven't asked. My family haven't been real keen since WW1 when great grandpa took grandpa and his other brothers rural to av…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/23 07:18 AM
1	having sex while moderately drunk isn't rape Yep. We don't collectively enforce all that many sexual boundaries in society nowadays but intoxicated sex being potentially illegal due to consent issues and socially seen as sketchy is one of those boundaries. And it isn't going to ever be any other way. Events like the death of Diane Brimble https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Dianne_Brimble and Lynette Daley https://amp.abc.net.au/article/9239312 are always in the public consciousness reminding us that sex requires responsibility and into…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/23 05:52 AM
1	having sex while moderately drunk isn't rape Well it's a complicated legal issue and if you find yourself on trial all the online conversations between internet folks from different jurisdictions around the world aren't gonna matter two shits compared to shades of meaning of individual words in the laws of the jurisdiction you are in. So I recommend that before they get drunk and have sex, people know the laws where they are having sex...that they really know those laws well. And reconsider the drunkenness or the sex or even both if necess…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/23 04:49 AM
1	If a straight man is (at least partially) unattracted to femininity, what does that mean? It just means you're a real human, not a stereotype. Gender mostly socially constructed. The things it is constructed out of include the broad patterns of ways in which the biological sexes tend to vary due to genes...but it is pulled this way and that by other forces too. Fashion. Politics. Religion. Technology. Economics. War. Racism. Cults of personality around royalty, celebrity etc. Gender is mostly socially constructed. Who knows...if Charles had not married Diana and instead pushed for an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 08:08 AM
1	CMV: Men who don’t have their sexual/romantic needs met, should receive tax incentives Prove it by going on strike. An effective strike. One that matters. Nobody just gets given stuff because they threaten to withdraw their labour they get given stuff because they can and will withdraw labour in numbers large enough to matter. Prove it. Go on. Prove it. Prove eeeeeeet. You fucking can't. You guys on average lack the courage to take any action that involves sustained discomfort. Even when you lose your shit and and kill people it usually involves self deletion or self deletion via …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/23 04:29 AM
1	Why aren't friendships pushed and encouraged onto young men as much as relationships? Because you're supposed to have doing the basics of the friendship thing...selecting friends, making friends etc down solid before you leave middle school and then have consolidated and expanded that knowledge before leaving highschool. What you're asking is like asking why we aren't pushing for teaching the adding up of positive integers to college students. You're past that developmental age and anything you missed learning is now your own problem as an adult. Also...I say this as a gen Xer...…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 10:39 PM
9	Most women would rather have a placeholder boyfriend than be single What is this piece of shite sophistry of yours. A place holder boyfriend is a boyfriend. A place holder girl friend is a girl friend. Those are positions in a person's life that by definition are liminal, transitory, a lesser, conditional and almost always temporary version of a permanent idea. The girlfriend is as much a place holder as the boyfriend. You're both still just a try-out if you haven't made lasting plans. And boyfriends and girlfriends have always offered benefits to each other. He…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 10:21 PM
1	Is pre-selection actually real? Well I'm pretty sure it was the existence of a lovely house on a large patch of land we were buying together, not the existence of me personally, that had some other chick hopping on my ex husband's dick back in the early 90s when home loan interest rates in Australia were nearly 17 percent. I spoiled it for her by up and leaving way before interest rates dropped or the mortgage was paid down enough for her to just swoop in without taking on huge repayments. I left, she wouldn't move out of her …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 04:47 AM
4	Biggest hypocrisies of PPD I haven't yet seen anyone saying that settling is basically rape...just that for many women it is deeply unpleasant, feels physically and emotionally terrible, is an ordeal and does not lead to being a happy contented person who enjoys sex, and that therefore women must be free to choose to embrace being single and seek happiness and contentment that way instead of settling. I have seen no-one telling men who have embraced being single and found happiness and contentment that they need to return…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 03:05 AM
4	Statistics on single women buying properties on their own Housing prices get high enough and eventually those with homes rent out rooms. And as I have mentioned...the house makes her more marriageable anyway. Maybe some hot guy will seduce and marry the weird volcel chick to get housing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 02:02 PM
18	Statistics on single women buying properties on their own Yep. I know two men younger than Boomer age who bought a house alone. One did it after a relationship in which the woman wanted to buy a house with him fell through but he'd become attached to the idea. The other, his parents were house flippers and convinced him they could start him cheap and flip him up to something real nice. Meanwhile I know half a dozen young women who have bought and another handful who desire to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 12:53 PM
8	Statistics on single women buying properties on their own Well if not even a woman who brings her own money is enough for you to feel you're not being exploited then have fun with your dysfunctional standards there I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 12:35 PM
4	Statistics on single women buying properties on their own They want a certain lifestyle and that's why they spend years saving a deposit alone, depriving themselves of the lifestyle that money could have brought them in renting a more expense place? Lol, whatever dude.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 12:32 PM
3	Statistics on single women buying properties on their own Geeky people who get fannish about things. They tend to form loose sort of social scenes, clubs and cliques around the things they are fannish about and sometimes those social scenes etc start to border upon becoming communities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 12:30 PM
24	What, or when, do you think the breaking point will be? Things tend to bend rather than break. Men will start picking up their own socks more. Young women will save and invest more so that they can afford to either go volcel, become a single mother or accept a less financially successful man if necessary and thus have a wider range of choices. Young men will become more wary about the dangers to their social development of adopting a lifestyle that comprises mainly gaming and porn. People will become more cynical about digital images and also about w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 10:56 AM
11	Statistics on single women buying properties on their own I've noticed it among the slightly aspie volcel women in fandom. They are nearly all into achieving home ownership as their major life goal. Surprised how many men here seem whiny about it. If you don't want to be wanted just for your money than surely the more women who have that side of life sorted, the better...right? Just have to not be garbage and maybe you can persuade one of them out of volcel status.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 10:14 AM
7	What impact would a male birth control pill have on the dating and marriage market? If you could graph out outcomes good vs bad, both men's and women's graphs would get a reduction in central tendency. That's true of most things that move control more towards individual control. There will be men who given more control fuck up even worse...tell their partner they are contracepting but really are lackluster at that, lie to get someone pregnant and then she aborts a child he wanted leaving him bereft, uses the contraception stealthily to try to force a child free life on someone …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 09:49 AM
8	Seen repeated claims “there are more attractive women then men.” Yes. Effort. Women are expected to put in more effort basically just to be allowed to inhabit public, social and employment spaces without being laughed at either to their face or behind their back How much more varies with the situation but the reality is clear that usually more is expected of women. Go to any workplace filled with average base level white collar workers like a large government office that processes paperwork. The men will be in shirt that is 90 percent likely to be white or bl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/23 07:05 AM
1	Why is sexual exclusivity important to you? https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/104htad/comment/j35rv5w/ That's my answer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/23 11:03 AM
1	"Be her friend first" or "Make your intentions known" - Which is it? Because both offer different costs, risks and payoffs in different situations. It's like someone saying "high quality animal protein is a good source of satiety and appropriate fuel for your body" and another person saying "vegetable foods high in fibre are a good source of satiety and appropriate fuel for you body" They're both right...but maybe the choice between beans and eggs for breakfast this morning is about other things too?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:43 PM
1	Social Media and its impact on young men and women I think if you want to do something about female content creators using unwitting dates for content then the things that would have to be changed would also affect male content creators. There's plenty of women out there who would like an end to various forms of creepy content that use people who have never given permission to be held up for sexual and social ridicule. You can probably muscle up a bit of activism on this front if you are willing to be respectful enough of feminists to actually w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:02 PM
3	Apparently genuine, well meaning guys don't even exist in some peoples worldviews His problems are roughly analogous with the problems everyone else has in living. He complains about other people doubting his motives, he complains about the allure the wicked sometimes have, he complains about people's gullibility, he complains that those who lack principles get ahead,he complains that he himself has lost out to those who lack principles. Then he complains that he's just trying to make sense of it. Well here's the sense to be made of it... that's humans. I blame lack of humani…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 01:18 PM
2	Q4W: Do you feel the need to control interactions on dating apps even unconsciously and if so why? Look, I don't do dating apps but I sure as shit understand what is going on 1 Well yeah ..they want to control the flow and pace somewhat just like you want to control the flow and pace somewhat. 2 it stems from them not having the same opinion as you about what a desirable flow and pace is at that time. I'm sure they know very well both of you have the power to just end the conversation. I doubt it is due to loneliness most of the time, much better places exist for random entertaining chat than…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 12:50 PM
-1	Apparently genuine, well meaning guys don't even exist in some peoples worldviews Why should I have to suggest anything? He's the one who seems to be implying there that the things we currently do aren't achieving sufficient suppression of certain behaviors for his liking. So what are the specific, achievable, affordable and timely measures he suggests? Or is he just having a big fat useless whine about the same old human realities we've been dealing with all along as a species...in effect a massive gripe about just being human and how it is all too much for his delicate sens…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 12:07 PM
1	What is the reason for why women find most men physically unattractive? What would we need to do I tend to assume that basically forever ordinary men have been murdering wives who show too much tendency of being attracted to a whole lot of men. It has long been evolutionarily more favorable to women to have a very limited range of men who do it for her...and for those that do it for her to be the ones who are totally capable of murdering most husbands in revenge. Once again we see the bills for thousands of years of patriarchy come due. It was never going to last. There's only so much breed…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 11:10 AM
-1	Apparently genuine, well meaning guys don't even exist in some peoples worldviews So the world's a terrible place full of predatory men and women and people falling prey to them. What are you personally doing of significance to stop that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/23 08:26 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread We're not an advice subreddit. That's what it comes down to. If someone is trying to extract a dedicated focus on advice from us well it's far from ideal for them and for us. And if they keep pushing for what is acceptable here to centre around extracting advice not having discussion or debate or even outright combat or perspective sharing whatever else we also want to do...they need somewhere else that can be all about advice. It's really quite profoundly rude and/or clueless of them to keep pu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 09:44 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread I've always found the term "cum bucket" to be rather interesting in how it implies men are just walking by and lobbing sperm from a distance...when the the reality is they are on the whole desperate for access to a bucket of other men's come, spend hours pondering how to get closer to cum buckets, walk past the most empty cum bucket to interact with the most obviously full cum bucket at a party, will spend extended time periods in the vicinity of cum buckets, and at the very first opportunity ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 09:05 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Millennials are so weird, you're so weird.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 07:59 PM
8	Daily Community Chat Megathread Can someone with more patience than me start an explain dating to autistic men subreddit? Because I really would like that to be a different subreddit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 07:43 PM
2	Apparently "reading the room" is harder than people here claim it is Well duh... that's just human beings. A man's overt approach suddenly becomes you're fat and I was just playing with you for laughs when the girl says no... a man's flirting attempt with a pretty girl at the bar becomes oh just talking about the football game and grabbing a drink here's your chair back when her seven foot tall well muscled boyfriend gets back from the bathroom. And yeah dude you are goddamn autistic and you do need to learn to read the room. And ain't nobody got time to explain …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 07:24 PM
2	Why don’t more women like sports? Sports are boring as shit...a lot of men are bored by sports too it isn't just a woman thing. I stoically did netball as a kid, for the Saturday afternoon church team my sister coached.Goal defense. Apparently my main skills were being a warm body on the court so that the team would have the numbers to even exist, and having really good awareness of how to be as annoying as possible to opponents without breaking the rules enough to disadvantage my team. I didn't press my daughters to be more inv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/23 07:20 AM
1	Social circles are really not a good way to meet women If someone firmly warned me off hitting on another specific person I would probably comply but at a suitable moment ask the person who warned me off why? I mean surely the reason is highly relevant? If you asked you might have found out important context... your friend may have given you a few hints or even the whole tea...maybe the room mate has had recent bad experiences and is angry at men, maybe your friend suspects that room mate is a lesbian but in denial about it and her love life is a ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/23 12:17 PM
1	Is It Ever OK To Romantically Approach A Woman On An Online Videogame Well...it certainly has potential to be regarded as kind of lame, right? I used to play a word game at PopCap called psychobabble that had chats attached.... always some guy or other there trying to get free chatsex. Lame. So if potential to be seen as lame is something you are ok with then I guess it is ok?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 10:25 PM
1	The RP needs to accept that often horrible men are great at hiding their red flags. The BP needs to accept that often these men make these red flags painfully obvious. http://www.thespectrum.com/story/life/2015/07/05/close-calls-utah-ted-bundy/29742385/ Everyone has the gift of becoming justifiably afraid based on small cues and everyone has the ability to assauge others' fears and hide some danger they present. It's not a simple matter who wins in any such conflict of abilities.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 08:45 PM
–	Hot single moms on dating apps prove that women can stay fit during marriage but they choose not to Hot single moms on dating apps are proof that cohabiting with a man is not good for a woman's health.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 03:36 PM
1	How would you react if your (potential) girlfriend/boyfriend saw your posts and comments on this sub ? To quote Iggy Azalea...sloppy drunk but I'd do it sober.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/23 03:15 AM
6	Women Aren't Lying, They are just being Polite I too think women aren't lying. I think it is about more than just trying to be polite. There's a fundamental disconnect between what some men think they are entitled to in the way of answers and what most women feel obliged to provide in the way of answers. Men...as they set eyes on a woman they want some of those men tend to expect her to give the sort of care, help, concern in dealing.with them that a woman they have an actual positive and long standing relationship (sexual, platonic, family …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/23 11:20 PM
1	Is there any chances I could keep my gf? why she acted like that? And that's up to us to remedy why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/23 09:54 AM
1	Is there any chances I could keep my gf? why she acted like that? Not here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/23 09:50 AM
1	Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground up You're probably not an average man though are you? You're probably someone who in some way for some reason hasn't been properly socialised into the society you live in. There's average men all around you finding partners. I don't know in what way your socialization has so utterly failed that you feel you're building what you need from pretty much nothing. Maybe you're the child of migrants and they systematically socialized you the complete opposite of the direction you needed to go. Maybe you'r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/23 12:42 AM
6	Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground up So basically a girl who had been in that situation would have you turning over every part of her life looking for bad stuff...always expecting bad stuff... looking at every situation from the point of view does it indicate bad stuff...but a girl who hadn't would get waved through. Aaaaand this means...the girl with the past would have to become real good not just at the normal task of not doing bad stuff but also managing that intense level of scrutiny and all the resulting times a boyfriend jum…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/23 09:21 PM
4	men should never help women with anything unless they clearly verbally request it Yes we understand you think the world is so damn unfair to men as a group...based on the "evidence" of you personally having really bad situational awareness and getting into trouble because of it A friend of mine once picked a tiny female coworker up bodily and walked off into the forest while she was engaged in and holding her own in a serious physical fight (which she hadn't started) with another larger female coworker at their works Xmas staff bbq. To get away and run she punched him in the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/23 09:01 PM
5	Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground up You've got a lot of sympathy for that 15 year old boy who never bothered to get social. OK. How about this. You meet a beautiful kind-hearted twenty year old woman. At age fourteen she ran away from a troubled home life and over the course of a year had six sexual partners of varying degrees of abusiveness before her aunt, a fine woman, found her, got her an abortion to deal with a second trimester pregnancy and took her in. Apparently no lasting physical harm, not even HPV or herpes. Wifey mate…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/23 08:19 PM
2	Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground up Why do you say you have no skills, experience or product? You've spent approximately two decades as a member of society. You've had access to huge amounts of cultural information and social experiences. You've received an education that has a curriculum that experts endlessly work to improve. Why are you so ill qualified to recommend yourself to strangers? https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/575521-perhaps-said-darcy-i-should-have-judged-better-had-i	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/23 07:06 PM
3	Should we just raise the consenting age to 25? For most forms of wrongdoing there's a zone where it isn't illegal it is just kind of shitty and gets informally judged. For example it is illegal to murder but it isn't illegal to make someone wish they were dead...it is just very poorly regarded. And I'm ok with that graduated dynamic existing. Also you might want to consider that for the examples you gave a graduation of public attitude to them exists according to age. An eighteen year old joining the military might face opposition from famil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/23 09:29 AM
2	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Why would anyone want someone who radiates with anger when they aren't getting their own way?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 04:43 PM
3	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating It doesn't matter if he wants a baby or not... he wants a lot more interaction than just a few people to talk to...and the reality is hes got a hobby interest he is informed on he's almost certainly got a few people to talk to. He's dealing with a market place in which the young women who are under time pressure and must compromise and can't just hold their assets and enjoy their own company and occasional one night stands...want babies. And he's not anywhere near the most suitable or desirable.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 04:30 PM
3	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating "simply doesn't want to be shunned" I'm sure there's other clock collectors he can talk to. Of course you're downplaying exactly how much he actually wants, aren't you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 03:59 PM
2	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Most babies are planned and happen after a series of efforts to obtain suitable conditions in which to have a baby.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 03:18 PM
2	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Because he's not here for help. He's here to feel good about failure by placing blame and punishing. Any request for help he makes is just bait for a trap. The only reasonable response to that is point out that the truth of his situation and tactics has been noted and we have accepted that this is how he copes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 02:29 PM
1	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Feel free to online judge as harsh as you want dude. It isn't like doing so is ever going to help any neurotypical fertile woman reading this to come to the conclusion that a baby with an autistic man who is radiating anger and inability to see the perspective of someone who has walked that road is a spectacularly wonderful idea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 02:23 PM
0	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating The price of entry to the passing on genes game are a person willing to share their genes and a womb willing to carry the fetus and some plan for raising it all to adulthood. If OP can organise those things he can pass on his genes. It can be as simple as egg or sperm donation...just keep donating and hope someone else makes it all happen. Or as complex as donor egg, surrogate womb and a team of nannies. OP hasn't organised these things so OP doesn't pass on his genes. Simple as that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 02:14 PM
5	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Everyone makes up their own mind about who gets told no ...if you are casting a wide net and persistently get told no then that's not specifically just me telling you no, is it? It's everyone. And maybe they are right to do so. People don't like certain sorts of baggage in a partner. Odd behaviour, disadvantagous genes, functional deficits,	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 08:32 AM
3	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Cool... you've found a way to get a warm inner glow of success even as the result of failing utterly at getting what you really want. Probably for the best really, the clocks aren't going to wind themselves and nobody understands them like you do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 08:10 AM
3	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Well how else do you suggest it happen... when it clearly isn't in the interest of a sufficient proportion of women that you're chances will stay screwed unless force is applied.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 07:58 AM
2	Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples. You guys are just so unimaginative with your unlikely suggestions to make this all more punitive. How about if everyone who wanted rid of a pregnancy had to carry the child to term then in the first week of life take the baby to the gold plated shrine to the great god Wepunishhoes and ritually strangle it herself on the alter while being livestreamed and her name and the names of her relatives to the fourth degree are read out for some full family shaming...after which the baby is DNA tested and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 07:55 AM
5	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating If a couple decide not to have kids for any reason, that's fine. If they decide to run the risks that's fine too. It's a personal decision, people's reproductive choices are not community property. You don't get access to another person's body against their personal judgement of what is best for them just because you've got a bit of autism.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 07:14 AM
6	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating If my kid saw what I had written she'd agree with me. She remembers the endlessly tiring hassle it was for all of us. And yeah she doesn't want to have kids herself because it would be too stressful in many ways. She remembers how it was and doesn't want to return to it but in the role of mother. If she decided to anyway I'd help but I sure as heck don't fault the decision not to. It's rational, sensible and compassionate for her not to. So who are you assuming will do all that stuff if you have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 06:54 AM
4	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Look dude...I say this as someone who raised an autistic kid...I can tell just from talking to you right now that you'd be highly stressed and next to no help as a parent during the endless rounds of appointments, consultations, tests, talks with teachers, planning appointments, etc necessary to raise an autistic kid mainstream nowadays. In not breeding with you they are sparing everyone involved including the potential future kid. You don't automatically get everything handed to you on a silver…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 06:25 AM
2	Almost anything a man does can screw him over in dating Can't really blame someone for not wanting to do the thing that potentially makes babies with someone who clearly has a heaping serving of the genes that make babies with autism.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 05:53 AM
3	There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was Reintroduced It's mainly men who are victims of crime. Men love hurting other men. Men love killing other men. The only people you hate more than women are each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 05:10 AM
2	Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate? Manosphere grifter. I've a few questions that are mean spirited and petty and I don't think will ever be properly answered so I don't ask them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 05:02 AM
3	There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was Reintroduced I tell you what...we can pay for the babies out of women's taxes and the cost of policing crime out of men's taxes. Since crime is mostly a male issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 04:16 AM
1	If you had a 48 year old husband, unemployed and had 50K in IRA savings, would you divorce him? If he still enjoys her company and apart from the money issues she reliably cares about his physical and mental wellbeing he should probably put in place arrangements that his money not be managed by her if he becomes incapable of managing it himself, then stay married. He's not exactly in a sweet spot for remarriage when it comes to age/money and the age range when men start becoming disabled is not that far away. Single women with as much money as him are very likely to prefer to stay single, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/23 01:26 AM
1	Why is chess separated by gender as a game? Probably the mods? It's either you...or the mods.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 06:49 PM
6	CMV: Telling unsuccesful men that the young women in impoverished countries only want them for their money is pointless, these men believe that women their age in their country are the same. And we can't blame them. I warn them that the girls overseas who will be quickly interested in marrying a man from a strange culture that they have to relocate to live in are usually going to be up the risk taking and opportunistic end of the range of the women in that country. It's a highly relevant warning and I am going to keep giving it. Though fuck knows I probably should stop because those dipshits usually do it because racism and so watching some chick he would never have assumed was proper wifey material if she …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/23 04:30 PM
1	Why is chess separated by gender as a game? BS eh? No dude on this one you're the bull's rectum blurting out paddock patties, you're not a wise voice. You really think you've got this sorted better than both FIDE and the mass of chess centre committees all over the world who saw the possibility and decided yeah that's a very smart strategic move for the game...more players, who will bring in another generation of players we weren't properly reaching? They want more players long-term and more young women being encouraged to at least get to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/23 07:59 PM
1	Why is chess separated by gender as a game? Chess at a level necessary to become seriously competitive in over the board competition is largely transmitted in families...the earlier the better. Basically you're best off learning it the very moment you become capable of doing turn taking and following game rules...four or five is a good time. And a common pattern for elite players is grandparent teaches same-sex child. Any chess player who learned at age ten would be better if they learned at age eight, even better if they learned at age s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/23 04:06 PM
14	Do you think a man wanting his woman to remain physically fit in a relationship is a reasonable thing to want? If her body isn't to become that household's dumpstat when things get tough, he needs to be right in there stopping things getting that tough for her. Because that's what womanhood means...it means if you're poor you give the high quality food to the kids and live mostly on cheap food and leftovers (which nowadays is gonna be carbs) and if you're overworked with no spare time self care and exercise is given up before care of home and kids and if you're unhappy or desperately tired but the kids n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/23 02:12 PM
14	Do you think a man wanting his woman to remain physically fit in a relationship is a reasonable thing to want? Well like so many things in life...it depends? Is he willing to co-operate with and contribute to them as a household having a healthy lifestyle... taking his turn at shopping for and making healthy meal prep, going with her on runs, exercising with her, when she has kids take proper full care of the kids while she goes on a run, possibly doing more aerobic exercise than fits with getting himself swole because hey a family can go bushwalking together that's healthy family life? Or is she going t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/23 12:44 PM
8	If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on? OK...I'm an actual woman. In her fifties. Has had kids. Has gone volcel. It's easier to get me to orgasm now than it was 35 years ago...whether I'm getting myself off or being got off. I'm less "precious" about my genitals too...know exactly what they can take and what is too much. However. Over the years I became more willing to end an encounter, a relationship, or kick someone out my bed for eating crackers...ie, indulging in irritating behaviour or behaviour that inconveniences me be it in or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/23 08:29 AM
2	You are offered 1 million dollars, untaxed. In exchange, you can never have sex/sexual intimacy ever again. Do you accept the offer? Hell yeah I accept.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/23 05:05 AM
0	The consequences of sexual liberation have been a disaster for the human race. That's a lot of words to say you think that if any of the poors are having more fun than you the system is broken.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/23 05:01 AM
2	Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia? Well I generally am left leaning and don't mind taxes being spent on improving things for people. I'm just not real keen on paying twice which is what happens when you buy in a brand new community. I had friends who built in new subdivisions back in the eighties. Good taxpaying folks. They paid like 90 thou for a house that would be 60 thou closer to town, on a shitty sloping block too, and all that extra was what the developer had to pay local government for roads and stuff like a library and c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 09:15 PM
4	Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia? Well y'know not everyone wants to be married or would make a good partner. If you make that the bare minimum for humans to do, a bunch of humans are going to be very unhappy and make their partner and kids unhappy too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 03:09 PM
2	Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia? Pretty sure it's the same reason MGTOWs don't go off and do the same. I've already paid for my share of that footpath and this community centre and that bus shelter and those street trees and that fire hydrant over there and a bunch of other community things...and have no intention of making a new place where I gotta do it all over again. Plus y'know we won't be excused from continuing to pay for those things for the community outside the gates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 02:49 PM
1	Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia? I'd still need to pay taxes so like whatever it makes more sense to stick around and use the things my taxes pay for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 12:56 PM
3	What do people think about Kevin Samuels? Just another manosphere grifter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 09:12 AM
2	Q4W: Do you ever purposely wipe a smile off your face upon making eye contact with a man? Not diagnosed but there's a fair bit of it in my family and I am definitely in the dweeby dorky nerdy part of the population.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 06:24 AM
1	Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum? Well you're just not going to have the same sort of encounter or relationship if you don't. If that's ok with you then just don't make her come. There's no law against you not pleasing women just as there's no law against women not pleasing you. As for a lack of pleasing being used as an insult... people say the things they think will disturb your peace. Plenty of skinny women been called fat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/23 06:22 AM
2	Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum? Well men are physically stronger and thereby generally have access to more choices of employment...if you ranked men by what percentile of men they are in for strength and did similar with women, the men would always have more choices than the women at the same percentile level...they have almost all the choices women can make plus a lot more choices that would require strength. Given the importance of resources in just about all options we have in life and in enhancing the effectiveness of ever…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/23 08:35 PM
8	Q4W: Do you ever purposely wipe a smile off your face upon making eye contact with a man? You're still not going to attract me in that moment, I'm actually going to be inclined to see you as ugly even if you fit conventional standards for handsomeness and that moment of you showing predatory focus so early based on so little and in a situation where you damn well should damn well know that smile was not a signal to you will set the tone for all future interactions. It's very simple to understand. You showed me how quickly and easily and socially inappropriately you reorientate upon m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/23 06:21 PM
18	Q4W: Do you ever purposely wipe a smile off your face upon making eye contact with a man? Sure. Yeah. I do this all the time. If I can see a bunch of tiny reorienting-to-target-me changes in a strange guy...face, posture, etc .. and realise they are in response to a smile of mine that wasn't actually directed at him, I will very firmly and unmistakably withdraw my smile. I don't like it when strange guys start the process of getting off on my smile. It's all too fast and creepy and based on basically nothing...the way it happens in a split second and suddenly he's targeting targeting…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/23 08:59 AM
2	Do you like the opposite gender? I used to like men as one likes things one wants to be near... beautiful huge trees, blue skies, that sort of thing. Now I like them like I like...sewer farms. Or drizzly days. Or that large industrial bakery down the road. Necessary parts of the system but I don't care to get intimate. And of course sometimes I hate them. Like I hate the sewer farm when it lets off noxious gas and the wind is blowing right at me	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 04:53 PM
1	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. Sometimes cheaters by their cheating set up the precise emotional and/or social situations that will also push the other person to also cheat. It's a thing, it happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 04:07 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread A decent sized house fully paid off allows a single woman options. Lots of pets? No problems. Take in a lodger for company? Easy. Get together with a man who can't afford to buy a house and have kids with him? That's do-able. Single parenthood by birth or adoption? Hard, but harder in rentals. Retire early and foster kids? If you've saved enough. Marry a guy with a good job then you buy a really really nice house and he likely needs no convincing because you brought a good amount capital? Yup.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 07:48 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Oh it's definitely the right of anyone to do Botox and fillers. It just maybe isn't a wise move to do more than a minimal amount. Plus we're right on a tipping point in terms of public consciousness of the long term effects, I think. Injectables for all got popular and mass market affordable at a certain rate, right... suddenly they were everywhere. And it really wasn't that long ago. There's a bubble or bump or whatever you like to call it of users progressing through what's going to happen as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 05:40 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread He hasn't just had Botox he's got some major pillow face happening from fillers....he's gonna be in trouble as soon as he starts losing facial muscle volume and connective tissue with age...and I haven't seen any data on it yet but I am absolutely sure that Botox does one no favours in that process because paralyzed areas have always been more inclined to wasting. Lightly with the injectables guys, you're borrowing from your future face if you go heavy. My advice to any woman considering him is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 05:17 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Among conservatives being socially pilloried is for the kids of the poor, the brown, and progressives. It will never matter how many shitty short marriages she racks up, how many times she goes kissy up to a sex trafficker, how many of her kids don't have their father in the house, how much cosmetic surgery she gets, how much red lipstick she wears and how short her skirt and low her neckline...she will never face as much public criticism from conservatives as a girl walking home at night from a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/23 05:03 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Well it depends on you and your locale and a lot of other things. In the unlikely event I was going to stop being volcel and even more unlikely event I were to ask a man on a date ...I'd probably pick one of several different locations near me suitable for outdoor painting and ask him to show up to paint watercolour with me on a weekend day 3pmish. I'd tell him I will bring the materials and drinking water but I don't need snacks so if he needs snacks better bring his own. Simple, fun by my defi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 08:07 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You don't know how to be fun without buying stuff, and you've accepted this personal deficit of yours as so natural, so normal, so unavoidable that you completely ignore just not going out to spend money as the sensible option. Why would anyone want a date with you enough to even give you the time of day? You've embraced outsourcing the creation of fun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 07:55 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread You pay for the first date but you also decide what the first date is. How fucking difficult is it for you to think of something to do with a stranger that is safe, fun, free or nearly free?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 07:35 PM
1	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. That's terrible, I'm so saddened you had that in your life especially so young. Well done on surviving that. It rarely works out well when parents pressure their kids into relationships. A woman in one of my in-laws families was pressured to find and date a well off man and have kids because she was very odd and wasn't real capable of earning a living and it would be a poverty existence on government income support otherwise . Ended up getting post partum psychosis leading to schizophrenia. Turn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 05:02 PM
1	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. I hang out on websleuths and similar places occasionally when there's a local crime. It's fairly common for the boyfriend or girlfriend of a missing person to get in a new relationship at about the six month mark but hide the new relationship so they can keep giving credible tearful interviews. It isn't anything sinister more that they still feel obligation to help find the missing person because well that's actually a bigger deal in many ways than staying together if the person is found alive. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 04:52 PM
2	if dating is so dangerous for women why do they do it at all? Well if that's how you see things that's how you see things. It's your sex life and if for whatever reason you don't follow up on indicators of interest because you think a woman makes them too late or for the wrong reasons that's fine. There's a lot of men out there and a lot of women out there and it is no big deal when a possible connection is missed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 03:46 PM
2	if dating is so dangerous for women why do they do it at all? If they are cautious types then no matter how attracted they are they are going to hold off until they are reasonably sure of character. That this may mean forgoing a relationship or two with guys who only want a woman who upon first seeing him immediately flings her clothes off, lays down in the road and screams "take me now" while rubbing her clit is no big deal. I think cautious women are probably fine with forgoing those men. Cautious generally seeks cautious. Wanting a woman who fucks befor…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 03:23 PM
4	Daily Community Chat Megathread Women have their own opinions on you and your pp. Have you considered maybe warming up a cantaloupe then cutting a hole in it? Cantaloupes don't have opinions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 12:50 PM
2	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. So basically your argument is that if you think it is OK it isn't cheating and you'll jump through hoops and futz with the definition of cheating or the definition of OK to prove it isn't cheating. And my argument is that if it fits in the definition of cheating then it's cheating...and if it fits in the definition of ok it's ok...and if there's something anything in the overlap between those two sets the answer is not to get desperate to evict it from that crossover zone by sophistry, redefinin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 10:27 AM
4	Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women. Those guys were fine with what was on offer until they discovered they couldn't afford the best of it. Look it's fine to decide to go for a cheaper market. I do it all the time...look at the clothing in the fancy shopping centre on the luxe side of town then haul my ass an hour bus trip away to spend a tenth the price at Best&Less. Just... people are more complex than consumer products. The person you "buy" is also "buying" you. And the person you actively tailor your presentation to is also act…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 06:23 AM
1	Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women. Well then. I guess they've been priced out of a market that has high purchasing capacity. That's the economic way of describing the situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 06:01 AM
5	Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women. Would it help you if we just called those sex tourists low value?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/23 05:37 AM
-3	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. You know what I've learned from this conversation? Conservative men don't think anything they do, any betrayal they perpetrate, anything they themselves promise and fail to deliver, any pain they cause, any tortured situation they place a spouse in loses them the right to have their spouse deliver 100 percent on her vows. Conservative marriage is a goddam joke. Conservative men are a joke.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 06:05 PM
1	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. If someone is at the point where their usual ethics and standards are breaking under pressure that's one of the directions they can break in. Friend of mine from my teenage job had a mother who killed his father with an axe to his head in bed. My friend had just moved out on the urging of his girlfriend whose opinion it was he didn't have to stick around to be abused and it went from all his father's rage being distributed between two victims and it all landing on his mother. One night she got b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 02:49 PM
1	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. Or I suppose just put an axe through the abuser's skull while he sleeps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 01:58 PM
3	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. Food pantries aren't a thing everywhere.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 01:32 PM
3	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. All of those choices cause more risk or more damage than the alternative. And the last is just ridiculous... expect kids to wait for food until a divorce can be lodged?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 01:16 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yeah it's a bit that way. TTRPG in particular are difficult to manage because one guy who gets obsesso and stalkerish over a girl can basically ruin an entire game that five or six people have deeply invested in. I've had good luck doing TTRPG just with family members though. Thats basically the only way my daughters were going to be able to safely play in their teenage years. We had a lot of fun, I think it's healthy for kids to see their parents playing different characters...it let's them kno…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 01:00 PM
5	Daily Community Chat Megathread Well for starters it is a huge time suck and that almost always means at least mild neglect of other aspects of existence. It tends to, just like social media overuse, indicate something is up with this person's searching for neurotransmitter release. It's a notable thing. Like if you notice a guy drinks energy drinks or vapes or whatever. Not a good thing that's for sure but maybe tolerable. Not good though. It also tends to have a bunch of stupid unpleasant attitudes associated with it for exa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 11:00 AM
-5	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. Sometimes people don't break up because they think they can handle it and they took a vow. Then it gets worse than they ever thought possible and no they can't handle it. Why would she break up in the last three months or less if she could tough it out by getting a little cock on the side? It isn't just him and her involved it is three families and their reputations. It is the hospital staff and how they didn't sign up for dramas. He's gonna fucking die and the people who matter are the ones who…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 10:35 AM
0	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. Conservatives often refuse to see at all. Eyes squeezed shut, hands over ears, chanting no no no, there is no stress a situation or a shitty partner or both in combination combined with inability to flee could inflict that makes cheating the least awful choice. Progressive women see but more of them see the rare and exceptional stresses women sometimes encounter more clearly than the rare and exceptional stresses men sometimes encounter. Personally I think the conservative state of profound deni…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 10:19 AM
9	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. We know conservatives cheat too... quite avidly and often in situations where progressives would just divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 08:49 AM
1	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. Is it disgusting if you've been cheating on her for years yourself...and she's always held up under the strain but now she's gotta watch that bitch you were fucking also come visit you in hospital? She's just got to hold it together for three months not to make the situation worse than you shits have already made it. If calling up her old highschool boyfriend and having him bend her over in a cheap hotel for an hour gives her what it takes to smile and endure and think "well I got mine too" and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 08:43 AM
1	if you're a fake dishonest woman you can't complain about fake dishonest men I suggest you at least experiment privately with ordinary concealer and colour correction concealer so you've got the skills, know what is possible and got it as an option in situations like taking photos for dating apps or an ID card for work. There's no reason a photo that includes a huge purple scar or cyst on your cheek needs to end up worn on your chest facing customers for years when a bit of coloured spackle could have calmed that purple right down to the point of being unnoticeable in a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 08:33 AM
1	Rejection Therapy - A Brilliant Idea Or A Complete Waste Of Time? You're talking about https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desensitization_(psychology) Yes it can work for many things. You're probably going to at some point experience what is called an extinction burst...that is a temporary escalation in the problematic feelings and behaviours as your brain automatically keep applying current favoured reactions to the stressful stimulus while you keep exposing yourself anyway. So expect to at some point feel very stressed and want to run away, have every coping mech…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 07:38 AM
54	Study finds that only 36% of liberal women think cheating is always wrong, whereas as 71% of conservative women think cheating is always wrong. The words "always wrong" are in the statistic there? Not "is cheating broadly ok" What I think it means is that progressive women have less of a knee jerk reaction to the word cheating and treat the question like a logic test. Is there ever even one circumstance in which it is not wrong? What about if your boyfriend you were with for six months has been missing two years and isn't there to be broken up with and nobody knows if they are alive or dead because they were kind of flakey to start with…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/23 06:37 AM
18	if dating is so dangerous for women why do they do it at all? Women vary markedly in risk tolerance....as do.men. A lot of women don't date in the way that is usually meant when we say dating.is dangerous. They refuse male approaches and meet men in contexts that aren't particularly sexualised and then after observing for quite a while, give out indicators of interest. Often the first official "date" occurs months after first meeting and after many hours of being in the presence of the man. Many women also take other measures to reduce the amount of dating…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 09:20 PM
26	Women should definitely be shamed for settling "she's afraid of dying alone" how many times do we have to tell you guys...women are very much resigned to dying alone. Husbands usually die first and children take off to far flung places for employment. A huge number of women die without family present in aged care facilities or in their homes. It's normal, we know it is normal, we know we can't hold the same expectation men do that a marriage makes dying alone unlikely. We die largely alone, often immobile and demented, propped up in bed and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 08:50 PM
1	What do you think is the best way to deal with shit tests that are coming from women? "right at the start of a relationship" you say? If you don't like it don't have that relationship. Save both of you a lot of trouble. It's not a "test" dude, it's just how she is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 04:29 PM
-1	Newbie Question: Why did Pick Up Artistry become more right wing? Because conservative ideology is on the ropes taking hits to the face and conservative pundits and politicians start off upright and principled and not only thinking but also saying some guys are scum of the earth but discover quick enough they will metaphorically suck all sorts of dick for assistance. Whose dicks are available? The dicks of men who don't get pussy. If it isn't in a vagina it is looking for attention from someone and there is money in giving that attention. Example...Peterson re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 11:36 AM
1	How are there enough high value men for all of the women who feel entitled to them? Women overwhelmingly eventually either settle or decide to actively cultivate a satisfactory single existence...in effect settling for themselves. I suggest men do the same. One thing you should consider is that one of the things that underpins the standards a woman sets is her ability to please herself. A woman who is self sustaining, industrious, composed, in control of herself, takes pleasure in a great many things, competent and of positive mindset is likely to have very high standards...as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 11:03 AM
4	How are there enough high value men for all of the women who feel entitled to them? That's incel tolerance for you. They've got one tune and they will play it all day long.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 10:46 AM
2	if you're a fake dishonest woman you can't complain about fake dishonest men I really wish more people would understand the definitions of plastic surgery vs cosmetic surgery better. I mean just saying, plastic surgery is a huge field and cosmetic surgery is a tiny part of it. If you get your hand busted up at work and a surgeon fixes it up to restore function.... that fits in the definition of plastic surgery.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 10:09 AM
1	How are men supposed to meet women these days? If you're neither physically attractive nor personally charming nor particularly high in status then there are no low hanging fruit for you. You've got to find a situation in which you can meet women while actually doing activities that demonstrate whatever value you actually have to offer. I can't advise you what that is for you personally because here, to the best of my knowledge, you've never shown us in what way your company may actually be of value to a woman. However, here are two examples…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/23 08:55 AM
11	CMV: All the character traits women despise in men they display far more frequently What's to be deep about? Some men are chasing after intimacy with people they hate. They need to stop doing that. It isn't good for anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 11:42 AM
3	CMV: All the character traits women despise in men they display far more frequently I really like Miley's recent song "Flowers" Maybe you and any man feeling this way should buy yourself flowers. I mean just saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 11:23 AM
2	I think women do have a sense of entitlement when it comes to men as well Yeah that's my experience too. Most women I know spring for a truck and a driver and the driver's offsider. Cash money, problem solved. You get the right people and equipment. No dealing with amateurs and temper tantrums and the inevitable injuries in overconfident guys. At which point in this argument the men that are upset that male roles have been outsourced to the economy are probably gnashing their teeth but whatever...five hundred dollars and it is done right, no favours owed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 04:41 AM
2	I think women do have a sense of entitlement when it comes to men as well Small talk = immediately telling someone people are talking shit about them? I mean seriously...let's say someone you didn't really know decided to make small talk to you about rumours about you..let's say it's a girl and "oh you're Bob...yeah everyone has been talking and laughing about that time Susan stood you up on three dates in a row and how funny it was that it took you so long to work it out and even then you tried asking Susan's younger sister out and she stood you up too and how you're…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 04:31 AM
2	I think women do have a sense of entitlement when it comes to men as well Well she can't read your mind, and see that...she has only your words and the situation to go on...some guy came up and within a short time was peppering his friendly talk with something that drags her down. And you can be pretty sure that she'd encountered negging in the past. She gave the perfect reply if you were negging. The neg "hey there's these people who think you are low value enough to talk shit about you" the reply to the neg "boy if you wanted to be high value to me you shoulda done …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/23 02:36 AM
8	I think women do have a sense of entitlement when it comes to men as well "just mentioned in passing that.... someone saying.a rumour" You negged her. Or at least that's how she perceived it. World's clumsiest neg. Why would you expect that to go down well? She gave the ideal reply if it was a neg.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/23 08:03 PM
2	Creeps and a-holes keep hitting on women because sometimes they get results. A guy who's respectful will be seen as boring or not even noticed. Most men on the planet are not virgins or sexually inactive. Even if one counts in the elderly whose sexual inactivity is usually at least in part related to physical decline.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/23 12:54 PM
1	Creeps and a-holes keep hitting on women because sometimes they get results. A guy who's respectful will be seen as boring or not even noticed. I don't want any guy. We're not a collective. Are there common patterns? For sure. There are common patterns in most human behaviour. Common patterns do not constitute collectives. Guys aren't a collective just because nine out of ten single dudes who walk into a party scan the room and head to the same three tipsy girls talking together in tight dresses, full makeup and a bit drunk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/23 06:09 AM
1	Creeps and a-holes keep hitting on women because sometimes they get results. A guy who's respectful will be seen as boring or not even noticed. No dude. I don't exert any more control over another woman's sexual behaviour than I get to exert control over another textile arts crafter's crafting behaviour. Do ugly toilet roll covers continue to be made despite my opinion they are heinous? For sure. You're asking for a collective to be created where none currently exists if you want individual women to each consistently apply the same standards as each other to all men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/23 05:57 AM
3	Creeps and a-holes keep hitting on women because sometimes they get results. A guy who's respectful will be seen as boring or not even noticed. Oh. So women should only be treated with respect if we decide to act as a sexual collective and organize to share info and rigidly exclude men based upon criteria we as women agree is for the best? Well that's a radical thing to suggest. It will probably require some sort of data base of men and refusal of all.men who do not show ID so we can quickly tell whose who. But yes, with modern technology this is probably doable. We can probably totally and permanently exclude men based upon their previ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/23 02:03 AM
1	The body positivity movement is a way for healthy looking women to reduce their female competition Meh. A lot of people date the start of the Fat Acceptance part of body positivity to Steve Post's Fat In.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/23 06:42 PM
2	Two question for bluepillers And that's why we need a mixed economy...we pay for one with personal cash and the other with socialized cash plus votes and that difference means we are just that bit closer to getting what we really need.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/23 11:55 AM
1	Everyone blames the men in age gap relationships, but women keep participating in them. That decade from 60 to 70 is a whole lot of change. Doesn't look like it to the young but trust me there's a fair chance in her late sixties she'll say fuck this noise, my body hurts and my mind wants more peace than men give women, and either cash out or put some more distance between them than he would prefer. In which case yeah I would hold old Buzz there more responsible to be getting it together and not wallowing in self pity or assigning blame to others than if it was a same age relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/23 09:56 AM
5	Everyone blames the men in age gap relationships, but women keep participating in them. If there's a big enough age gap that the younger person has a lot of growing up to do, the older person has very little justification in complaining when that growing up happens and the entire relationship falls over because the older person has been outgrown. Because older people? Should know about growing up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/23 06:57 AM
3	Two question for bluepillers 1) yes. A sizable and indeed growing proportion of society is still denied the material resources necessary to nurturing themselves to meet developmental milestones on time...for examples housing they can afford at an age they need it. Patriarchy still lingers like the smell of a rancid fart in areas of existence like housework. Society lacks scripts for and support for the inevitable residue of the system of mate findiing. And of course individual dysfunction still afflicts individuals. 2) Larg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/23 11:02 PM
1	I'm going to dismantle the blue pill in 8 sentences, and dismantle the red pill in 9. I will then give what I believe is the only valid approach to mutually fulfilling relationships. Mainstream society most definitely does not believe that all things can be fixed by talk. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irreconcilable_differences	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/23 04:05 AM
2	Height requirements is shallow, preferences are not I don't think it's shallow to filter prospects on hookup apps down to a reasonable number by any means necessary and to be blunt I wouldn't care if it was shallow. What the fuck do you expect when your dick is waving in an ocean of dick... individual attention for all? And in real life it doesn't work so much that way... people talk and other forms of attractivess can come to the fore if you have other forms of attractivess. And she still might nope out mainly over the height but yeah you were a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/23 02:53 AM
0	Why are men here so opposed with being the nice guy a woman means and ends up with later in life? Back then his mother had to remind him to shower.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/23 07:01 PM
17	WGTOW Evidence? From what I've seen a lot of young women got a taste for it during covid lockdown.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/23 06:10 PM
5	Women shame men for having preferences that they (women) can easily meet. Nah. I'm in my fifties, have raised my kids and am now cheerfully single and most relieved to be so and remain so. Mission accomplished so time to stop hanging out in the combat zone. Volcel all the way now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 05:06 PM
3	Women shame men for having preferences that they (women) can easily meet. That's mighty sad then, that you with whatever it is about you that makes you unsuitable for your preferred women and the fat girl aren't any use to each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 03:10 PM
8	Women shame men for having preferences that they (women) can easily meet. Well just go get a girlfriend of your preferred sort, and they'll shut up	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 02:30 PM
1	Is the bar really “in hell”? Well if it is necessary I will address the reply criteria flair at the start of every first order reply I make. I can do that. Doing that is not a problem. I'd rather do that than get a flair. The problem was it not being clearly stated that we had a responsibility to do that if we didn't want our posts deleted just in case we weren't what the reply criteria flair asked for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 01:55 PM
26	Women shame men for having preferences that they (women) can easily meet. Men are just so tiring. Look there's lots of stuff I don't particularly want in men. Some of it I discuss here when it is on topic because this is a place precisely for that purpose. But generally in real life? I leave the fat short balding autistic socially-inept stupid foolish overly aggressive wrinkled lazy smelly greasy greying small-dick momma's-boy profoundly-unsexy, brokeass, can't dance, farts too much, doesn't do housework, likes to stonewall, can't dress yourself, can't sew on a button…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 01:46 PM
1	Is the bar really “in hell”? u/jellybeanzandtings was the mod who replied to me and presumably also the one who deleted my comment...is that a Mrs degree alternate account?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 11:15 AM
0	Daily Community Chat Megathread Not answering it WAS the answer to how seriously I take that question. DUH.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 08:58 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Hmmmm you just sideways accused me of lying. Yeah whatever I think you happen to be nose deep in a lake of your own self deception and desperately trying to get others to drink that lake down for you. There's no path in life that leads to a major goal that will not place significant demand on you in order to walk that path. There..Enjoy that truth. Let it roll around in your mind. Remove one demand on you and another will spring up. Getting what you want involves demands upon you. That's intrins…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 08:44 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Women currently refuse first date requests frequently despite the norm of asker pays ...so much so that it is really hard for most men to get dates. Adding in a requirement for the person who is asked on the date to pay for their date expense wouldn't fix dating...it would change dating to have a different problem. Fewer people would say yes to a date. The people doing the asking already complain how hard that is...that so few accept an invitation to a date. Dating would just become a broken and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 08:13 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread So how am I wrong when I say all major mate seeking strategies have downsides in that they are demanding of something, often many somethings from the person using the strategy...and that obsession about creating a strategy with no downsides is more about a basic desire to avoid meeting demands than about a desire to rack up wins? Over and over again we get this here...can't do this strategy can't do that strategy can't do the other strategy because omg the demands...there is however this one str…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 07:59 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Why would I need to? I've got life experience of being part of mixed friendship groups and seeing a wide range of male friends deal with dating in different ways. The ones who asked many girls who had shown no real interest then proceeded to start spending up big on the ones who accepted dates were dumb as shit but never wanted to see how stupid they were being. There's a pattern in some guys. They decide they MUST do mate search a certain way (ask strangers on dates...Tinder...find a girl at wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 07:41 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread "if they want to date" There's other alternatives for becoming familiar enough to make a move on someone that aren't asking strangers out. If you ask strangers out there's alternatives that don't involve significant expenditure. You guys choose your strategy and must pay for your choice. You don't want to do the effort that is social circles, you don't want to pay for a strangers comfort while they give you an hour of attention...I've seen men complaining about the expectation not to be boring a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 07:02 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread What gets me is how they go on about the purchase price of the meal as though the woman has been enriched by that amount and is sitting on a pile of men's money cackling. Lol, no dude. She's ahead of the game financially by the cost of whatever else she was going to eat minus the cost of preparing for and getting to the date. Meals at home rarely cost more than five bucks. If she took an uber she's not making a profit that's for sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 06:38 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Believe it or not...on those few occasions I have asked a comparative stranger to go somewhere to get to know me for any reason, be it love, friendship or business, I have either paid for the occasion or taken out my card or cash to pay and been told no we can pay for ourselves. Every time, if it was my idea I regarded myself as on the hook to pay. Men ask huge numbers of women who have shown no sign of interest on dates that are far too expensive and would ask even more uninterested women on ev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 06:32 AM
2	Is the bar really “in hell”? I am very overtly a woman here except for the fact I don't do flair.due to flair not being particularly accessible via the method I use to access Reddit. I've got a long history of severely pissing off dudes here while overtly being a woman, though. I got a reply to my first level post saying check the posting criteria and repost under automod if necessary. Pretty sure other people now see my first level post as deleted. So I'm suspecting there's some modly incompetence happening. Or maybe we've…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 03:46 AM
3	Is the bar really “in hell”? Well...way back when, once a guy had a girl he could let his standards lapse to like whatever and she was stuck with him because marriage was forever. A lot of guys have always used that to just become pigs once they are married. And idk whether it is culture or a situation that evolution has brought men to so they best exploit what patriarchy offered or pure human selfishness but a lot of guys stick with that roadmap. Well behaved in courtship, pigs once it becomes difficult to leave. I persona…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 01:26 AM
6	[QFW] How do you feel about the character Waymond from EEAAO? Would you be attracted to someone with a similar personality? The actor is married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/23 09:10 AM
1	would you lose interest in your man if he lost in a fight to alpha Chad People generally have sets of opinions about physical violence that are created and sustained or overturned by the environment they live in. You're likely to find agreement about what is good acceptable violence and what is bad unacceptable violence amongst people of the same geographic location, class and educational level, ethnicity and in circumstances where racial experiences are very different, race. Also important, if there is a family history of criminality or employment in jobs that requ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/23 05:57 AM
1	The less physically attractive a man is, the better they have to be Well yes if you've got a dump stat... really any sort of dump stat it doesn't need to be appearance... you'd better have some max to go with that min otherwise you're the npc villain in someone else's starter quest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/23 02:57 AM
3	[Q4W] Whats the furthest distance/time you would be willing to travel to see someone you really like in the first parts of dating? I live in a city of about a million people with a long skinny greater metropolitan area mostly sandwiched between hills and sea. Most of it is accessible by public transport even though the distance from the north to south is two train trips of about 45 minutes each. I have never in my life been willing to date outside that area. Next major town over? Forget about it.Same distance into the hills as from end to end of the contiguous suburbs but no public transport? Forget about it. I am not leavi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 08:26 PM
4	Is it worst for a married man to get another woman pregnant, or for a married woman to get pregnant by another man? They are both pretty damn shit for a marriage. From what I've seen getting another woman pregnant seems to create two sets of kids who are more fucked up than the kids when a wife has another man's child.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 01:34 PM
1	Men, delete your dating profiles IMMEDIATELY And those grapes are sour. Also...all the other foxes should cut their tail off. Seriously...modern existence and the ubiquitousness of the ability to doxx kinda sucks but don't stop living because of it. If you quit dating sites do it because they don't really work that great.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 09:24 AM
1	Men who follow Instagram models Well it's not exactly high value behaviour. I think a lot depends on how self aware and aware of broader human experience the guy is about it. If he thinks he has a real relationship of any sort just because he likes and comments...if he thinks everything she shows or says is extemporaneous and unedited truth rather than a careful performance polished up by any method available...if he uses what he sees on Instagram to set a yardstick to judge anything other than similar Instagram posts...if he …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 07:28 AM
5	Women are rude to men without consequences Most of the time yeah. Also...produce your phone and you don't get the option to deny having one later on when they want your number so it's a significant strategic move. That or for some lowlives of either gender asking for the time is a pretext to see your phone and decide if to steal it. So much so that it is one of the reasons I wear a cheap Casio watch. If you ask for the time...if I am playing along with it being a genuine query you get the time, not confirmation I have a phone, a look at …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 02:09 AM
6	Women are rude to men without consequences Men are rude to other men regularly without consequences. Women regularly get hit because some guy thought they were rude. It's not some crazy ass two tier system. There's some slightly different tendencies in dynamics for men and women but that's not usually the first cause of the impunity when someone seems to be able to just do whatever without consequences What it most often comes down to, whether a person who is being rude gets hit (or effectively told off in a significantly shaming way or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/23 01:39 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Anyone who says something like "we weren't actively trying to conceive but weren't trying to prevent either" needs to be solidly laughed at. Sex without contraception means you are doing the standard first stage of actively trying to conceive which works for over 80 percent of couples. What a dumbass. Also if it was about the same time neither of them can really assume they are the father and a DNA test is in order no matter what the mother says.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 11:53 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Sad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 08:35 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You're the one scared of emotional damage from some chick giving you a jacket and no need to buy another drink. https://youtu.be/bHb5CFGYz1A	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 08:21 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread PCOS...or she's entered perimenopause early. she needs a hormone workup that's for sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 07:49 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread If you'd like to art, and your natural aptitude is rudimentary at best, something like urban sketching might be more to your liking? The youtuber I am linking to does a lot of urban sketching. https://youtube.com/@teohyc	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 04:04 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread And she doesn't want to be traumatised by a man who has given her reasons to feel he will do exactly that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 03:00 AM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread People feel very little moral responsibility to prevent transitory discomfort to someone who they feel is becoming a physical threat. This is like basic human nature right? The bus driver of the last bus that night pulls into the interchange and the rough aggressive kids who have been a nuisance hassling other passengers all the way get off to talk to another set of kids. The bus driver takes off suddenly dot on time and just "doesn't notice" those rough kids chasing and yelling to get back on t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 02:41 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread It doesn't quite work that way...one of you will just know either they can't do another or another is a dumb idea and either the other person persuades them or not. And it's usually got to do with personal standards, state of health of the parents, housing availability and what the actual needs of the existing kids are. I quit at two and didn't go to three even though my then partner wanted more. The house was a mess, my health was too bad to make it satisfactorily not a mess, pregnancy would ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 02:17 AM
0	Daily Community Chat Megathread She was probably "giving a chance" to the sort of guys here who whine that girls need to just give to them a chance	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/23 01:41 AM
1	What women in their 30s seem to ignore is that the biological imperative for a man is slighty more forgiving than a woman and a man can get his shit together in his 30s or 40s, a woman who is 35 and is still holding out for a high tier man is absolutely done for. Yeah We need more affordable bedsits and one bedroom apartments. There's a lot of people whose peak romantic relationship should be a childless one, started only once their brains are fully mature, with a long-term FWB they only have to deal with for at most an afternoon at a time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/23 07:57 PM
2	Men depend more on women personally; women depend more on men institutionaly Women pay taxes too and it is as reasonable to expect the government to provide assistance with issues that are more common for women as it is to expect the government to provide assistance for issues that are more common with men...such as having been assaulted by other men. And a great deal of the help is help with children who theoretically men could have in their care more often if men tried harder...all assistance given by the government to raise a child is assistance to raise a man's child…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/23 07:43 PM
35	Do you think mothers are confused as to why their now grown nice guy son has yet to find a partner? My mother knew exactly why my brother had trouble ...they were all the same autism issues she'd been having to deal with in him from infancy. He didn't have an autism diagnosis because that was rare around here in the 1960s but she knew he was not quite right in many many pervasive ways. She concentrated mainly on making him fit to earn an income because there is only so much helping that is possible when you are up against a person's inborn nature and my brother might be able to survive being s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/23 08:17 AM
1	What women in their 30s seem to ignore is that the biological imperative for a man is slighty more forgiving than a woman and a man can get his shit together in his 30s or 40s, a woman who is 35 and is still holding out for a high tier man is absolutely done for. Men here overwhelmingly say they don't care about a woman's wallet or career. I think in general the likes of the OP aren't toting up what the women they are contemptuous of have done with themselves other than whether they have stayed slim. The men who do look for such things and are willing to consider them as a form of personal beauty tend to find highly functional wives easily.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/23 12:32 AM
1	What women in their 30s seem to ignore is that the biological imperative for a man is slighty more forgiving than a woman and a man can get his shit together in his 30s or 40s, a woman who is 35 and is still holding out for a high tier man is absolutely done for. I too agree there is no point in this discussion. You are simply unwilling to appreciate just how many men are unable or unwilling to have a relationship with a woman in the lower half of the relationship curve that is better for her than her being alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/23 12:16 AM
7	Men depend more on women personally; women depend more on men institutionaly Men get paid for the jobs they do. If overwhelmingly more men are plumbers you could choose to see it as women being institutionally supported by men's labour...you could also see it as men being financially supported by the money that women pay to get their plumbing done. If you think certain male dominated categories of work are underpaid then that's maybe an issue just like the underpaying of certain female dominated categories of work. Tax burden falls disproportionately on pretty much the p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/23 11:47 PM
1	What women in their 30s seem to ignore is that the biological imperative for a man is slighty more forgiving than a woman and a man can get his shit together in his 30s or 40s, a woman who is 35 and is still holding out for a high tier man is absolutely done for. No dude. It takes more than a job and an erect penis for a man to be a good choice to raise kids with A lot of those guys who you think are some massive untapped source of good men are more dangerous to below average women than the men they condemn below average women for being with. It's the underlying contempt you see. He's never going to see her as anything other than proof of his failure in life. Contempt is poison to relationships and it must not be present at the very start. If a woman is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/23 11:17 PM
0	What women in their 30s seem to ignore is that the biological imperative for a man is slighty more forgiving than a woman and a man can get his shit together in his 30s or 40s, a woman who is 35 and is still holding out for a high tier man is absolutely done for. "someone who's reasonable" That's actually not a statistically likely option for some women. Women's graphs on most attributes have a greater central tendency...there are just more temperamentally or intellectually or morally or whatever very shit men than very shit women. Low performance on one or more of those attributes absolutely can make a functional relationship for raising kids impossible Then add to it the fact that even men who have almost nothing to offer but bad life choices and their…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/23 10:58 PM
24	What women in their 30s seem to ignore is that the biological imperative for a man is slighty more forgiving than a woman and a man can get his shit together in his 30s or 40s, a woman who is 35 and is still holding out for a high tier man is absolutely done for. Many women want babies but not at absolutely any cost, right? Putting up with a guy who makes her life worse by being big fat man-baby who wants a bangmaid mommy is a huge cost. So a lot of women shrug, say "can't have everything" and resolve it is ok if necessary to settle...for themselves. And that's ok.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 07:44 PM
1	Women who do expect a man to pay for a date, do you still expect him to pay if you know as fact you're not interested in him sexually at all? The purpose of asking a girl out is to get her to judge you favourably...so duh judging is built in? I don't judge for the lack of spending if the date was reasonably well thought out and respectful of the needs of a stranger to have the security of being in public. Spendy date locations like nice restaurants and movies and professional performances tend to take on board a lot of the planning for the location to be interesting, the availability of toilets, parking etc however that's just the tru…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 06:00 PM
0	Women who do expect a man to pay for a date, do you still expect him to pay if you know as fact you're not interested in him sexually at all? Well that's exactly what it's like... asking a stranger to stump up money to attend a costly event that was entirely your idea and has only a small chance of working out for them. It's asking them to pay for a lottery ticket for a prize that currently only you want. If you asked a movie producer you had just met out to pitch a movie at them would you expect them to pay for their lunch and drinks? Of course you wouldn't. You've got this idea in your head that your movie will be good enough, the m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 04:54 PM
0	Women who do expect a man to pay for a date, do you still expect him to pay if you know as fact you're not interested in him sexually at all? Of course he pays if he was a stranger who asked me out on a first date with significant dollar cost attached. He had other options...he could have asked for socials instead, he could have asked to meet to do a free activity like wander round the art gallery here that is free. Don't ask girls out on spendy first dates unless you're willing to spend. Do something else instead. Stop trying to sell total strangers lottery tickets where the cost is $20+ and an hour and a half of time and the prize i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 03:01 PM
2	Is there any point of asking questions to women in this community? The closest thing to instamodel porniness on my Instagram is the occasional flowering of the Titan Arum at the local botanical gardens. The way that spathe gradually unfurls to reveal a brilliant burgundy lining and the massive upright spadix. Hot dang. My Instagram is clearly a sign that public morals have gone to hell. The closest thing to relationship drama is the old friend who does wildlife rescue and occasionally posts footage of spicy wildlife that does not wish to be taken into custody. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 11:37 AM
4	Effects of Introduction of Male Birth Control (Vasalgel) They want lots of potential employees to keep wages and working conditions down. They want large families and responsibility for all social support to be within families to free all government revenue for other uses such as fucking over other countries to enable financial exploitation. If you're too worried about keeping that baby fed you're too worried to go on strike. You're probably stressed and unhappy and desperately looking for help...just perfect for God's message right? They want you to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 11:11 AM
10	Effects of Introduction of Male Birth Control (Vasalgel) Pretty much. That women could use effective birth control is already an argument brought out against actual abortion in order to reduce sympathy for women who are pregnant and don't wish to be. It isn't going to be any different once men have an effective birth control option. The pronatalists are gonna be shoving it in your face every time.You had an option and didn't use it. Since you're already a long long way from getting financial abortion my guess is this will kill financial abortion forev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 10:58 AM
10	Effects of Introduction of Male Birth Control (Vasalgel) I think that the chances of financial abortion becoming a thing will become precisely zero.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 10:24 AM
0	Is there any point of asking questions to women in this community? I've always been quite blunt about short guys. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/yex3aw/comment/iu236q4/	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 07:52 AM
6	Is there any point of asking questions to women in this community? Instagram has a broad user base but it is nearly impossible that any person's engagement with Instagram involves a representative sample of that user base. I mean just saying....my Instagram is home decor, a couple of handfuls of personal friends, local businesses and a bunch of arts and crafts topics and creators. I can't even remember the last time one of my suggested posts was a fitness blogger with a fat ass popped right into the camera. I suspect the same is not true for most of the male po…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 07:46 AM
3	Entitled sex starved men, sex is not a resource. It’s like asking women to let you eat them just because you’re starving 1000 years? What the fuck is it with you guys and your lack of historical knowledge? 1000 years ago the Iron Age had ended and Christianization of Europe was halfway completed. So people had swords and axes and spears and stuff made of iron, and their legal systems were either various pagan ones at their most developed OR the brand new laws shaped by Christianity being fervently inflicted on the locals. So...if a bride abduction happened it was unlikely to involve a club and there was an even ch…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 02:14 AM
10	How do men get one sided open relationships? Step 1...be very very dependent on having a partner so that you even want this in the first place rather than just to be single and fuck around for a while longer Step 2 be foolishly overconfident Step 3 find someone who likes you enough to agree to it...this may mean developing some form of likeability yes that's a big task for some of you Step 4 half your friends push you away because they know how dumb this is even if you don't Step 5 spend months or years gradually wearing that person down w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 11:07 PM
2	Are many men really relocating to developing countries to find women to marry? Most of the ones who talk about it are too chickenshit to do it. Poor countries, third world countries, unstable countries all pretty much demand masculine behaviour from men. Since one of the reasons they aren't getting sex in the first place is usually lack of healthy masculine behaviour to appeal to the majority of women of course they either don't go to Uganda or wherever for a bride or if they do they wimp out and head back real quick to the safety of a country where things are better suite…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 10:47 PM
5	Entitled sex starved men, sex is not a resource. It’s like asking women to let you eat them just because you’re starving Do you like even help anyone?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 10:34 PM
1	"Just work on yourself, bro" is a polite way of gaslighting men You game a lot? Because that's a very gamer-y point of view, that strategic advice is usually intended as a cheat or short cut that means you get to skip a lot of the other normal grind. That's simply not the case for most real world strategic advice. Working on yourself isn't a cheat code. It's a way of systematically improving your odds in all the other stuff you still need to keep doing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 10:23 PM
6	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING It is about the delusional beliefs that low value men have that quitting good jobs en masse (if that can even be accomplished) means anything other than the good jobs being taken by.women and by men who can get a girlfriend. I mean great...I'm all for it...now we don't only get to dictate who gets sex we also get to dictate who all the best jobs go to. Well done losers, keep shooting yourselves in the dick.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 09:00 AM
4	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING https://youtube.com/@roseinchina1 You reminded me of this...I watch it for the cooking but maybe some guys here should watch it to fix up their algorithm to be stuff that makes them hopeful not miserable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 07:42 AM
5	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING Most people don't try anymore and that makes sense...so many more entertaining things that use up time like games on the computer. You're not going to get a 1950s wife and you're not a 1950s man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 07:36 AM
6	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING I can see you've already started irritating me to death by filling up the subreddit with the exact crap that gets subreddits banned.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 06:47 AM
6	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING I'd be more inclined to believe this "all men ever dreamed of is a wife and kids" stuff if Wife Bad jokes hadn't been such a high proportion of humour aimed at a male audience my entire life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 06:43 AM
11	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING Well off you go to somewhere else then to get a wife...bring her with you or relocate to her country...why are you hanging around complaining at us when you've got two options for solving the thing you've decided is the problem?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 06:26 AM
18	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING This. Anyone with even a small amount of knowledge about history of marriage would know that for most of history a bride had to be acquired from her family...who would keep her on the homestead instead to enjoy the fruits of her labour if the deal was not a highly favourable one or the girl wasn't keen and was therefore likely to run home causing all sorts of damage to the family reputation. Even my own grandmother spent years earning good money doing beading in the 1920s before she eventually d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 05:55 AM
2	Cardinal sin with women --am I wrong? The first point...yeah loyalty is important. However if you're going to have that as a test you have to be real careful to think logically as well as emotionally about whether the precise form of loyalty you wanted in a particular situation was reasonable to expect from another human. I mean imagine you're at a friend's place with a bunch of other mutual friends and you've all had a drink or two and you drunkenly decide to do something physically stupid and as you are getting started on Stupid I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/23 05:22 AM
2	Cuddling is more intimate than sex? Time drags when you're being cuddled and aren't feeling it	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/23 01:00 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread I have just encountered the concept of tinned fish date night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 12:38 AM
1	Who gets men's best side: the Madonna or the Whore? Men have a best side? Oh well...I guess if they do the person who gets it is usually some alpha male...their boss at work or some politician or public figure whose lives they admire or some military commander who sends them to die.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/23 09:46 PM
2	Sometimes I wonder “just who the hell are these women holding out for??” Gyms tend to have a higher proportion of sugar babies than most places. I mean just saying. I think maybe that little bit extra that you think distinguishes some of those girls at the gym you like from the girls who you think are just "bland" is those girls are working femininity like it's their job because it is their job. I mean it all fits doesn't it? The boyfriend who is always in the shadows or away. You like girls who put in a whole lot of effort. Like it is their career. That's what's to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/23 09:06 PM
1	The Value of Sex I wait as long as I think necessary under the circumstances. There's a lot of different things about me, the guy, the circumstances that could have an impact on how long that is. I have never factored "looking easy" into that decision ever other than that I'm not exactly one for doing things like visibly leading someone off to an empty room at a party because it seems a little crass. I'm not into casual sex and have a low count. I don't care if relationships take a different amount of time to ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/23 05:56 AM
2	What would women like to hear ? A) If you're going to go proactively warning me I'm fat cranky and old and that's unattractive maybe get a man I actually find attractive to do it... because the usual time I get told such things is when some gross dude who is a zillion times worse than nothing tries to pick me up on the bus or train and I reject him and he tantrums at me. Realistically speaking, given all those past experiences it's only going to work if my natural reaction to the guy telling me I am unattractive isn't "Good...…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/23 05:27 AM
3	What should the father get in return for alimony? I'm from a place where alimony is very rare indeed and only to be ordered to make the divorce processes just and fair in unusual circumstances and then for as small an amount and short a time as possible. So all that's down to the judge involved. For instance a person might receive alimony until the property settlement if the judge decides that the ex spouse is deliberately slowing down the process of the property settlement out of vindictiveness. The whole idea of getting something in return fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/23 12:05 AM
1	Women need scarcity to respect and love a man. Men need abundance. Well it is my personal experience that men don't increase any of that, and probably can't. Like they've got some set point on that which exists no matter how they get treated. Which is why changing a man through treating him well is just a bullshit idea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 07:30 PM
3	Women need scarcity to respect and love a man. Men need abundance. And then when you genuinely find yourself in a position of profound scarcity and you have developed no other value to her other than this? I think the guys give more when they get more thing is bullshit too. Five inches doesn't become seven inches if I ride it harder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 06:25 PM
1	Study shows that the "Happiest couples have sex once a week" Makes perfect sense to me. Sex isn't the only thing that makes people happy. And one afternoon of really good sex you take time over probably makes you happier than three times as many incidents of hurried repetitive thrusting. So it makes sense to do a weekly slow burn of unresolved sexual tension then spend a few hours on the weekend lolling about in bed playfully. That means the sex is going to be more passionate when it happens and you're not having to fit it into the rest of the week where …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 08:04 AM
4	Thoughts on the claim: proximity makes women vulnerable to cheating Wow. You remind me of the male friend who after I left my ex husband became just so sure he was going to get to fuck me, got angry when I started up with a different guy and then started going on and on about how he was still friends with my ex, went out of his way to remind my ex a social event we had agreed to together but my ex wasn't terribly into and would just have forgotten without reminder, then had a massive reality check when at that event he was co-hosting another guest asked my ex wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 05:25 AM
1	The AWALT Belief Hurts Men's Progression Eh, she's a young person who hasn't worked through all the contradictory things she believes...in that she's not too different to a lot of the guys here who want high libido twenty year old virgins who commit swiftly but have never loved another man. And those guys here who are like that will date her. Oh they'll say here that she's not attractive or she is just for ONS but we all know they won't hold to that if she seems even slightly inclined to touch their PP. Similarly she'll probably budge …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 09:42 PM
1	Lying to protect women? They've got even less control over the things that are wrong with you than you do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 06:11 AM
1	Lying to protect women? Well y'know...life is mostly choices about the stuff you actually can control. You live your life you make your choices, you deal with the consequences. You can give up entirely, you can keep trying to get the particular sort of success you most want, you can do things that shake things up and open up your mind and maybe lead to other sorts of outcomes or maybe just lead to you giving up anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 05:07 AM
1	Lying to protect women? Well this is what you get when you talk to numerous different people about a topic. My opinion is not comparing would be fine if you were able to be accepting of your situation and not make it an issue for others. However if you do make complaint long and loud...people are going to compare. That's part of the price of admission to expecting people to listen to complaints. If I went to a cooking group to complain about a pound cake rising unevenly I would hear almost nothing but "I do these thing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 04:02 AM
1	Lying to protect women? Because you've totally failed to accomplish a normal life challenge and are complaining to other people about your failure. Of course you will be compared to those who have achieved more success than you. Comparison is one of the ways human beings understand what is happening.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 03:29 AM
2	Lying to protect women? Plenty of ugly guys get sex and relationships if they don't have any of those other factors.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 02:40 AM
2	Lying to protect women? So what caused this situation if it isn't the usual suspects...autism, rigid thinking, anxiety, fear of failure and a sense of entitlement to better than average outcomes?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 02:25 AM
2	Lying to protect women? Is it that you're a virgin at 39 but don't think there's something wrong with you? How did that happen, I'm curious. Or is it that you're a virgin at 39, know very well there is something wrong with you and are just pissed that women won't play along with some sort of fantasy of plausible deniability you want to assert? Please be very specific about which applies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/01/23 01:56 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You start the interaction by basically telling them you aren't what they want. Not everything we communicate is in our actual words a lot of it is in our timing of our words. They don't want someone like you, you told them straight up what you are by how you initiate courtship, they reject you. This is what you want isn't it...the feature of the system you implement the system to get, right? Quick rejections. Not wasting time on girls who don't want you. So...why are you unhappy with how this pa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/01/23 12:12 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread They're not against it. They are shocked by it. They don't see it as attractive or the mark of a functional human being and don't give the sort of relationships you desire in response to it. They don't want you as a fair, equal and beloved partner if you don't demonstrate ability to do the usual delicate dance of courtship. The fact you reveal yourself as a weirdo with no self preservation skills straight up and hand them your instruction manual is shocking and revolting but in essence a wonderf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 11:34 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Well you go try it if you want...you are however turning off anyone who uses the most normal model of understanding early relationship formation and making yourself the primary prey animal for multiple different predatory behaviours. And anyone normal who knew how you were going about things is going to laugh and say "well that was coming" when the shit goes down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 11:15 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread You're such a fucking prey animal it just ain't funny. If the price of admission is to give you the perception they are making a baby with you, you'll attract predators who can work with the timeframes of that. There is absolutely nothing so dangerous in life as handing your instruction manual to a stranger to read, on the expectation they will then use your capacity the way you intend rather than commence ruthless resource extraction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 10:33 PM
2	Why are open relationships so taboo? Lol, you're one of them. Stand over there way the fuck away from me so any eventual knife chase does not involve me or my place of residence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 03:24 PM
4	Why are open relationships so taboo? If someone is savvy enough to be able to make it work they likely also are savvy enough to decide not to bother because is too much work and risk for something really not that much better (if at all) than a monogamous coupling one actually puts similar effort into. Basically...only dumb crazy arrogant assholes do it. It isn't morally wrong per se just very very stupid, and stupid people can be terribly annoying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 12:23 PM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread Because wanting to just come out and say that straight up is you demonstrating you've got fuck all sense of self preservation. You're basically giving her your instruction booklet with how to operate you like a machine...and you don't even know her at all yet. She could not want to have your kids but want any damn number of things you don't actually want so much and you've set things up so she's now got a very good chance of getting them and giving you only a few crumbs if she plays along a whil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 08:03 AM
15	Why are open relationships so taboo? The only attempted murder between two members of my friends group was entirely due to a couple being recklessly overconfident they would be just fine in an open relationship. And ...oh boy were they smug about how special and exceptional not like other people they were...right up until one of them was welding a knife and chasing the other ones lover out the home of a third friend. And then guess what? Zero fucking shame on their part. The rest of us would get embarrassed if we had an awkward ord…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 05:40 AM
1	CMV: Women can't be upset at some men telling them to "choose better" if they keep perpetuating the notion of a "Woman's Intuition." Yeah whatever. Men hurt women it's been that way forever, totally fucking ordinary...I'm never thrilled by it but I'm barely surprised. at least this time we are more likely to remove the shittest of the shit genes from the genepool	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/01/23 02:48 AM
2	CMV: Women can't be upset at some men telling them to "choose better" if they keep perpetuating the notion of a "Woman's Intuition." I firmly believe that every awkward incel spree killer would also be capable of and have a tendency to killing a wife and kids. And I just don't care about the reproductive ambitions of autistic dudes who aren't that but are unwilling to work to not appear that way (lazy resentful rigid and oblivious..unfit to be fathers) or unable to fathom the work needed (highly disabled, likely to produce similarly highly disabled children) and therefore end up caught in the same net.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 11:48 PM
1	"A woman with no relationship experience is more prone to have a heart broken, that's why women should have dating experience before marriage". How true is this statement? Well it's a strategy and it works for some but others find it isn't to their liking. I certainly wished I had got over my aversion to transitory relationships and dated round more but that doesn't necessarily mean it is what every other women should do, would do, can do etc. Life's not the sort of game that works that way, with one and only one path being the best and only good path.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 04:12 PM
2	CMV: Women can't be upset at some men telling them to "choose better" if they keep perpetuating the notion of a "Woman's Intuition." I am pretty sure that when married they are monsters for their wife and kids to deal with, rarely have a happy family, raise unhappy damaged children and they are some.of.the types of guys who kill their entire families when as usually happens, things aren't going well for them as.husbands and fathers. I like it when they don't get to marry. It throws into sharp.focus that they are the problem...not arguments within the couple or their wife wanting to leave or an argument with their in-laws abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 03:44 PM
1	CMV: Women can't be upset at some men telling them to "choose better" if they keep perpetuating the notion of a "Woman's Intuition." Random attacks suck but my conscience says pressuring woman to interact with these men and eventually live with them and produce babies by them sucks even more. No reproduction for creepy ass murder types....yeet their genes into the sun.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 11:24 AM
7	What are the signs that a man doesn’t “get” women? Instagram blah blah women on Instagram blah blah all women are this all women are that because girls who post lots and lots of sexy selfies to insta. Basically if he thinks what he sees happen on Instagram reflects the overall reality of women better than it reflects his particular Instagram reading choices.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 09:55 AM
3	Daily Community Chat Megathread It isn't automatically creepy but it can very easily become so if you lack perceptiveness and the ability to see things from another person's point of view.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 08:41 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread https://youtu.be/dbgjQZUSiCw Wives wanted in Faroe islands.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 06:00 AM
1	If you think one gender is superior/has it easier, would you prefer your children be that gender? I am glad I had daughters. I think sons have it easier though. I think girls tend to develop better attitudes to lots of things because feminism leaves them in no doubt they will have to be strong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 12:14 AM
2	Can the difference between the female sex drive and the male sex drive be evidenced by the stark differences between gay male sexual patterns and lesbian sexual patterns? I think part of the reason more lesbians move in together so quickly is there is less concern between them about physical abuse....I'm not saying there isn't DV in lesbian relationships just it far less often becomes dangerous to life, livelihood, physical wellbeing. So they don't need to spend so long sizing up the safety of the match and they are less scared about the possibility of what happens in a bad break-up. Far more willing to treat cohabitation as a type of extended date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/23 11:09 PM
-1	CMV: Women can't be upset at some men telling them to "choose better" if they keep perpetuating the notion of a "Woman's Intuition." Adults who refuse to take responsibility for the growing up they still have to do should not be surprised if other adults aren't real keen to do with them the thing that produces more humans who will need help growing up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/23 09:50 PM
-5	CMV: Women can't be upset at some men telling them to "choose better" if they keep perpetuating the notion of a "Woman's Intuition." So basically this is a plea for single women's dating lives to become sheltered sexual workshops for awkward young men with Asperger's...who are probably kind of terrible in relationships at pretty much the same rate as non Aspie men are, and most certainly are not a sure bet to find a decent guy if they just ignore the red flags. No dude. Nope. Incidentally...every loser neurodivergent male that loses his shit and kills a bunch of people because no-one will touch his pee pee is evidence for jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/23 07:33 PM
2	I’ve never experienced a woman initiating a romantic interaction in my life. How long can this continue? "How long can this continue?" Forever. There are ways of communicating possible availability and gradually ramping up sexual context without making a direct approach. Women use those methods when they particularly want a man and accept that maybe this means they will see him go off with a different girl instead and have to start over with a different man. Guys don't use those slower methods because those methods are slow and there's always another guy who will just ask her, and that annoys the m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/23 03:27 PM
8	“I see average couples everywhere” Okay, what exactly do YOU think think an “average” couple look like? Nothing wrong with being same sex attracted. Young people are us thirty years ago...but less active and worse food. Same sorts of pairings. If I stand on a city street on a Friday night watching the couples who have met up after work to go shopping and for a coffee I am literally seeing history repeat but with slightly more adipose tissue and slightly less muscle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/23 01:14 PM
27	“I see average couples everywhere” Okay, what exactly do YOU think think an “average” couple look like? I'm in my early fifties. When I look at couples in their twenties I see people like we were in the nineties only everyone is a little less fit because they grew up with more fast food and sedentary entertainment options so choose those things more often . Same sorts of pairings. Like I see a couple in the street and think "lol that's a Steve and Catherine match (or David and Julie or Jennifer and Tony) but they don't go walking round local conservation parks then eat a picnic like we used to" If…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/23 12:57 PM
6	Men need to give up on western women and go overseas The key thing for a western tourist isn't how likely a local is to be victimised...it is how likely you, a westerner, visibly identifiable as in essence a walking source of cash and items easily converted to cash, interacting with places it is easy to pick up girls poor enough to want to play that particular game, are likely to be victimised.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 03:04 AM
1	Who should pay on a date? What do you think? If you've asked out a stranger then you should pay that first date. Simple as that. You've formed a very specific intention that they aren't on board with yet but are maybe curious about, they are indulging you enough by giving you time and attention. Nobody will ever accept a random invitation from a stranger if it becomes usual the asker does not pay. Don't want to ever pay? Ask for socials or number instead and talk until you aren't strangers and feel ok discussing a low or no cost meeting. G…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 01:04 AM
1	The difference between manopsherians and everyone else is an acute lack of perceptiveness and intuition So it isn't just getting girlfriends for you...it is not having male friends either. And you've done plenty of skill building activities. Well obviously you aren't one of the group I described as "a lot of them"	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 12:18 AM
3	This is just sad but we need to talk about it Considering how shit the gender ratio already is on dating apps any sort of additional demand on female participants would probably result in the apps going from next to useless for men to totally useless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 12:12 AM
1	Men need to give up on western women and go overseas Keep chickens...or pigs if you have enough land.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 12:01 AM
9	Men need to give up on western women and go overseas Well off you go then. It's fairly normal for people to work all year to save to go on ordinary holidays, that's nothing difficult or unusual to achieve. Maybe make friends with another coomer sex tourist so you can share some of the expenses and provide support if things fuck up as they sometimes do in shit poor thirst traps. Oh and be careful of scams and never ever hand over your passport to rent a vehicle, what happens if you do that is they get a friend of theirs to steal the vehicle and the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 11:55 PM
5	The difference between manopsherians and everyone else is an acute lack of perceptiveness and intuition I think a lot of them saw all attempts to get them social skills and physical fitness as deliberate torture, and fought with everything they had to prevent it. I mean look how many of them claim there is no effort put into getting boys to be social and competitive...and how that just does not fit with the reality of everyone else's experience of school, neighbourhood and family. Extracurriculars, being dragged round to family events and expected to fit in and be polite, physical education and en…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 11:06 PM
4	This is just sad but we need to talk about it Womens cosmetic efforts have been suppressed many times in history. Always we resist, fight back, keep up opposition. Guys don't do that. Go do something useful about your situation, buy some spot concealer and a set of one inch lifts. It isn't women's lot in life to be less free just because you're afraid of seeking your own freedom.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 07:49 PM
6	This is just sad but we need to talk about it Nah..Women get pressure of that sort too. Guys just back down to the pressure that's all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 05:54 PM
11	This is just sad but we need to talk about it What's to talk about? You're not actually entitled to see the full reality of someone's body or face unless they show it to you. That's reality. Live with it. Masks, veils, makeup, beards, bangs, toupee, wigs, hats, high collars, baggy clothes, burqas, carefully posed and lit photos, getting a pump and being horribly dehydrated when you take a photo, clenching your fist to make your forearm muscles obvious, sucking in your gut, getting abs airbrushed on for a photo, shapewear, tailored suits, lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 03:48 PM
3	Why women try to discredit any survey or study which doesn't show them in good light ? I don't feel any particular obligation to come out in support of them in those few arguments about the data that I agree with them on because I know they have a rabid desire to attack me just for the fact I am a woman and will do so as soon as possible. I leave them to fight it out alone. Never give someone who hates you with every fibre of their being an even break. Don't back them up and don't date them, they don't have even ten seconds of loyalty in them. Those who argue against you are since…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 02:35 PM
6	If there is one thing that Purge Week has taught me It's purge so I concentrate on having fun not expending energy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/01/23 01:55 PM
2	Brutal racepill for Asian men. Making a different choice of maybe half a dozen photos so that the statistical outcome of a split second decision a group of other people make about you improves to the point they on average get an actually correct rather than incorrect idea about your intentions is changing yourself totally? Lol ok...if you say so bro.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 09:12 PM
1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. Advice...make a different choice of photos so they don't make adverse snap judgements about you. Reaction from PPD dudes "OMG that's selling out u so racist" This sort of shit is insane isn't it? I advise about the choice of maybe half a dozen photos that guide a few seconds of someone's perceptions that hopefully will then be followed up by many many hours of more detailed in depth interaction. Without those few photos being right for that moment any further truth about him won't get told at al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 09:04 PM
2	Brutal racepill for Asian men. I assume the man with the Tinder problem already knows such women exist (because why the fuck wouldn't he know) and for whatever reason he's not dating them. And that's ok. He shouldn't need to account for that to be given insight into why the fuck Tinder is such an ongoing statistical fail for him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 03:55 PM
2	Brutal racepill for Asian men. Oooooh you've got an Ay-rab friend...game over right that's some sort of gen Z trump card! Look I know it makes you uncomfortable to think a bunch of women are so casually racially stereotyping purely for their own convenience in sorting through masses of men on tinder...but that's what's happening and it is worse to deny it than admit it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 03:50 PM
1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. Well it is an option of sorts just like going to the Philippines or Thailand for a bride is...only he'd have one advantage in India that most white guys don't have in Asia, he speaks a bit of one of the local languages and looks like what the local parents expect. He's got a real.chance of getting a foreign bride who isn't a jaded opportunist. Another option is just to stop relying so much Tinder and concentrate on meeting new people by activities and social circles but I am not recommending tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 01:16 PM
6	Men age like wine, women age like... Depends what measures you use, really. Tom has one genetic child who wants nothing to do with him, Kelly has two genetic children who as far as I know she gets on with ok. Like I said...two very different people. But everyone loses that battle against time...those who rely too heavily on cosmetic medical procedures tend to lose it later but suddenly and spectacularly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 01:06 PM
1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. Everybody stereotypes on Tinder based upon appearances, the entire sorting process pushes people to quick and dirty calculations of the odds of what a person is. Tinker tailor soldier sailor rich man poor man beggar man thief etc...someone ought to update that skipping song for modern conditions. Presumably women get shown far more profiles than men and that just ups the pressure. And as the Indian guys here have pointed out...we keep saying we don't discriminate but they keep getting below par …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 12:50 PM
1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. You're being screened out because you are, because of a visual similarity, being lumped in with a large group of men who I think we can agree are most like to be poor prospects. It is also possible that the type of women who make it through is heavily influenced by the assumption you may be gone soon...idk about that I guess you actually see the profiles of and maybe message or talk to the girls who match...do you think they are the ones you want?. All that other stuff is lovely but you've got m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 12:29 PM
3	Brutal racepill for Asian men. I have no problem with him being in America. He's got a problem being in America. No amount of complaining that he's not what those girls see him as will change anything. Quickly communicating what they need to know will change things for him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 12:17 PM
1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. Yes...but nobody knows that until they are told. They know that you're most likely, on balance of probabilities, something else. If you want them to know it you need to tell them somehow. Look, this is just how life works. Whether it is fair or not is irrelevant to the fact it is happening. Women look at your profile and assess you as something you are not. Your profile does not convey what you need them to know, it conveys something else. Women aren't going to start giving guys who are probably…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 11:50 AM
-1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. There's plenty of girls back in India. Just saying, if having to assure people he isn't typical of Indian men in America/Australia/etc is too onerous there's probably thirty or forty million single Indian girls he can go after.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 10:48 AM
5	Brutal racepill for Asian men. And if the non-Indian girl makes it past that hurdle her reward is ongoing interaction with the expectations of Indian in-laws. Even Indian girls who are socialised to expect that often find it hard to stomach. It's objectively a huge stinking pile of shit and Indian men perform below what their physical appearances (which are of a wide range of different attractiveness) would attract if this stuff wasn't a factor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 10:44 AM
1	East Asian men of PPD: is this true? No. The comment was not for your benefit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 08:59 AM
47	Men age like wine, women age like... Eh. She's five years older than him and stopped acting and came out as a lesbian some years ago. And clearly doing nothing to appeal to the opposite sex or look young whereas he's clearly doing everything he can including having too much filler injected and then needing to have some of it dissolved. Two very different people with very different goals in life, that's all. He'll lose his race against time eventually it is never a race one wins.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 07:54 AM
-1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. You may be seen that way in real life after a bit of interaction as you walk, speak, sit etc. But does it shine through in your dating profile? If you're relying on that dating profile it needs to properly differentiate you from the Indian guy the girls don't want. I urge you to think very carefully about that guy...who he is and the worries he creates in women. One of the first things the fresh off the boat arrivals do after going to a club or pub or two and seeing how things are is to change t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 06:56 AM
-1	Brutal racepill for Asian men. I've said this before...with young Indian men the deal breaker that breaks the deal even before the swipe is that many of you are present to study and earn but not planning on being in the country permanently. All the travel photos work against you. You need to rework your profile to from the first photo reflect intention to stay in the country permanently. I have no idea how you should do that but you've got money so maybe pay someone to work that out for you. No shit, if your profile was all "…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 04:49 AM
2	Does female loyalty exist anymore? Oh yes infidelity has always been a thing too. Divorce too... although that's highly variable by society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 03:32 AM
2	Does female loyalty exist anymore? We really don't teach enough history, archaeology etc. Between the people who have no idea that the way we live has changed a few times and the people who know but lack the knowledge to reality test what they are being told and thus believe wish fulfillment fantasies, there's an awful lot of stupid out there. Knowing what the alternative options are...is not infidelity. It is one of the ways your ancestors survived.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 03:07 AM
1	QFW: Do you think you could pull women if you were a man? I think I would want to try fucking another man up the arse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 02:24 AM
1	QFW: Do you think you could pull women if you were a man? A week is a silly timeframe...is that why you're all kissless because you don't think more than a week ahead...which let's face it due to the nature of full time employment timesucking means you're living tactically rather than strategically, more or less just an hour by hour existence in your time off. Go to Paint and Sip, collect socials. Then if you decide to go a bar you can probably go with a good prospect. Or y'know...if you do almost anything, take some chick. Just remember who was friend…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 02:21 AM
2	Does female loyalty exist anymore? I think more importantly we evolved under conditions of shorter life expectancy than nowadays. It wasn't uncommon to have two or three marriages in your lifetime and no divorces. It just makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint that everyone has all the single members of the opposite sex they know ranked in their mind in terms of how suitable a partner they would be, and remain on good terms with the best candidates. Because duh, that's how your small kids are going to get to survive if your …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 01:54 AM
0	East Asian men of PPD: is this true? Whatever dude...show me on the anatomically correct boy doll exactly where it was Stacey refused to touch you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 01:41 AM
1	Women legit believe that there is no such thing as a below average looking woman Hmmmm You know what? She's not above average for 25 year old women in general but she sure as shit is above average for single 25 year old women in most parts of America. Men...if you want a pretty one without taking seriously inconvenient measures like relocating yourself you probably gotta get on it early. You snooze you lose. How does it feel to have lost the game before you even realise you were in a competition?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:37 PM
1	East Asian men of PPD: is this true? A reminder to my fellow white women...if he's got fucked up ideas about women of his own race, he's trash no matter how hard he tries to impress.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:26 PM
1	Andrew Tate's popularity shows that the Redpill is winning. Andrew's popularity currently gives him a don't-drop-the-soap problem. Congratulations Andrew enjoy your prizes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:20 PM
2	Sexual Economics Theory Thankyou for admitting that a whole lot of the issue isn't just what she did with her body but the existence of living breathing and possibly difficult to deal with men she did it with. There's not a lot of men willing to admit to that. I presume you'd be a whole lot more OK with a widow than with a divorcee. Which historically speaking has been the usual way of things, to marry a widow is respectable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:59 AM
-2	It's insane how the other gender refuses to recognize their privilege. Lol...male sketch is looking right up his crotch and individual muscles lovingly drawn, female sketch has no details. Somehow I think the guy who drew that really does not have women to blame for his problems implementing heterosexuality. It is ok...just fuck each other we won't judge.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/12/22 11:47 AM
2	Thoughts on women being treated on dates If someone I don't know asks me somewhere and I decide well maybe... there's still no way in hell I am going unless they pay. If I want to go pay money to do stuff I've got plenty of options that aren't going to some stupid venue that some man who doesn't know me chose with intent to please not me but the woman he imagines me to be. Simple as that. It isn't unfair or unreasonable. I just don't find the self serving and poorly informed plans complete strangers make for me to be as conducive to my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/22 09:44 PM
1	Does money automatically make you more attractive to women or is it more than just that? Money makes more things possible. Even leaving aside the issues of gold diggers and whether it makes you more viscerally attractive...money makes more things possible. I can't believe I am having to explain this to a grown adult living in a capitalist democracy...but try to have money if at all possible. Money is transport so you can go places. Money is a bottle of wine to take with you. Money is getting that bad front tooth fixed. Money is your own apartment not just a bunk bed in a shared room…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/22 08:47 PM
1	Do women prefer to give their number or to be given a number? Well obviously it is in the man's interest to get a number or other contact detail But... equally obviously...if there is no way in hell she will give a number under current circumstances then giving her your number does offer some small chance of her thinking it over then making contact. Think situationally. She's at work and obviously it is not a workplace in which giving out a number to you will evoke a good reaction from workmates and employer? Give her your number or contact details...say w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/22 08:32 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Does he have much previous history of anti environmental activism? If not, my guess is he wasn't doing real well and was trying to perform the Peterson Pivot from grifting off incels to recipient of the considerably greater largesse of the fossil fuel industry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/22 03:54 AM
0	Women, is it true that men get friend zoned if they don't make moves on dates? Two people who each require the other to show evidence of sexual desire first in order to fully fan the flames of their desire. The more sensible of the two decided to turn their carnal thoughts elsewhere and just be friends. That's what happened. Look I get it that being a man who would rather be moved on than make moves is difficult because the odds are against you in finding a woman who likes to make moves but is still single. But eh, that's your problem to solve innit? Most men like making m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/22 01:44 AM
3	Question for everyone: could you commit long term to a person that swiped you left on Tinder? I don't fuck photographs. Just saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/22 11:31 AM
2	Question for everyone: could you commit long term to a person that swiped you left on Tinder? Well that's something they are free to do. People are free to handicap themselves any way they want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/22 08:55 AM
2	Question for everyone: could you commit long term to a person that swiped you left on Tinder? One's interaction with the broad idea of an attribute is different to one's interaction with it as manifested in specific ways and great detail in a real person. Tinder profiles are like preliminary pencil sketches and real people are like oil paintings. Tinder is far from an ideal way to meet and assess people. I get the feeling a lot of guys here desperately want Tinder to be always enough, and this is the sort of thinking that results...that decisions taken about Tinder profiles mean more tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/22 08:29 AM
3	Question for everyone: could you commit long term to a person that swiped you left on Tinder? Sure, if I was in the market for a relationship He swiped left for reasons then he meets me in person in an environment more conducive to paying attention and discovers those reasons weren't such a big deal. That's sort of how fleeting contact vs extended contact works a lot of the time. I mean let's say he thinks " she looks so disagreeable" then we meet at a party and yeah I am a bad tempered bitch but we spend half an hour together beating up verbally on some idiot of a Jordan Peterson fan. S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/22 08:12 AM
1	[Meta] Add a new rule: "Read posts before you reply" Oh I frequently ignore entire swathes of a post when I reply. I read it. Then ignore it. Deliberately. Gonna keep doing it. You see, there is an entire cadre of annoying shit eaters who like to write posts that are so fenced in with caveats and demands about how exactly they want us to debate a topic that it is clear they just want to silence anyone who disagrees. Their form, simplified right down, goes something like this "Some people say that there are different sorts of M&Ms... I disagree. Ch…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 11:19 PM
1	QFW: What do you consider "the bare minimum" in a relationship? He has to, on balance, when all costs and benefits are taken into account, make my life better than a life alone. I'm very good at pleasing myself and quite happy alone. So obviously that means he needs to bring something of substance and not make so many demands that the benefits are eaten up by the costs. One would think this would be an easy thing for a human to do for another human but apparently not	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 06:47 PM
2	women are not self-aware on how badly they treat men You hang round girls you know are onlyfans girls then complain when they are all about profit. Then when you cast shade and they say something insulting in return you think that's all about them treating you bad. And you draw the conclusion that you retaliated because somehow you were forced to and it is all women's fault men treat them bad. How about... don't hang round onlyfans girls unless you are cool with the general lifestyle? When you do and they turn out to be all about money don't get s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 04:25 PM
7	Rising women's complains today about dating do not add up to the reality of their sexual privilege "lose like 1/3 of their life" Dude, we've never issued guys a wife at birth. Well at least not in the West. Who knows what happened elsewhere.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 04:12 PM
1	Rising women's complains today about dating do not add up to the reality of their sexual privilege On average men are doing just fine. The bottom end of the range is missing their sexual sheltered workshop though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 03:56 PM
1	I am invisible to the women that I find attractive Look at it that way if you want but the fact a particular man see things that way pretty much defines him as someone who in his formative years has only had anything to do with the very least effective women there are and has done nothing significant to raise himself above that context. Or in fewer words....your momma.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 01:13 PM
1	A request: I want to find data on monkey branching My experience was that upon leaving my marriage it was as if men who I thought barely noticed me just suddenly appeared out of nowhere offering themselves. Like a buffet and I could pick the best. I'm having trouble seeing how without a specific research project you could separate this phenomena from the phenomena of a new partner already being in place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 10:41 AM
0	I am invisible to the women that I find attractive You're not undesirable in the dating market you are just undesirable to the women you really want. It is very likely that the women you want not only share certain personality and physical attributes but also that they deliberately tailor their presentation and behaviour towards getting a sort of man with a lifestyle and future who is very much not you. In other words you want women who have actively worked to be the wives of men not like you. That's why there's no women like that who want you. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/22 10:29 AM
1	Women, how often do you see men as enemies? When they won't take a hint and back the fuck off. When they expect me to just automatically be the one to do something tedious and supportive that they would never do and it is because I'm the girl. When the "why don't you smile" shit comes out. Back when I had minor daughters when they looked at my daughters sexually. Back off asshole I want to chop your balls off and mail them home to your parents.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/22 05:33 PM
1	Why do you require someone who is “college educated”? I wouldn't require that. I would require someone who I can have intelligent conversation with that includes abstract ideas and elements of the arts and humanities. Most of those people are going to be either college educated to some extent or some flavour of really messed up high school drop out. Also to be quite blunt...most STEM graduates wouldn't make the grade. Sorry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/22 08:01 PM
1	Sugar babies are much worse than prostitutes Yeah whatever. Those guys who do the deal are not being taken advantage of. I sure as shit know what I am doing when I hand over money to a plumber to fix my toilet. You somehow think those guys don't know what they are doing when they leave similar amounts of money on their "girlfriend's" bedside table after she helps them with their "plumbing"? The language they use around the transaction is designed to make the transaction a happier one for both of them...if you don't want that transaction it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/22 09:17 AM
1	Women often use fear as an excuse to be rude to men even though men have assaulted/victimized more men than women If it is two strangers then she doesn't know you. She has no idea what the cause of the oddness is... whether you are spergy or schizophrenic or intoxicated or behaving oddly because you've finally made up you mind to abduct and kill someone for the first time or any of the other possible causes of oddness...and she is absolutely allowed to feel threatened and insecure and shut it down hard. I keep saying it over and over again... social circles are better environments for mate seeking...not eas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/22 03:34 AM
0	If you don't like that the girl you're seeing used to be promiscuous, just find another girl Lots of men take it in stride. Look I'm not saying you have to change your risk management. Manage risk any way you want...other people manage risk differently and are out enjoying the fruits of their greater willingness to interact with risk. They feel less insecure in the face of risk. You're allowed to be insecure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/12/22 03:20 AM
1	Women often use fear as an excuse to be rude to men even though men have assaulted/victimized more men than women The mild rudeness is a message too. Not only does she want the conversation to end...she has no further use for you after it ends. What the fuck does she have to do for you to get the message...break out in this song? https://youtu.be/-BiJKq7ynms	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/22 03:50 PM
2	Which of these two men are more attractive to women? It is very rare an Eastern European man passes my looks threshold. Neither of them pass on raw looks. Sorry. I find they have the least attractive faces of all men. If it was absolutely necessary I choose one for casual sex it would of course be Zelenskyy. Because he's probably more fun to talk to. I don't know who I would choose for marriage, they both present a more dangerous context than I ever want to deal with	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/22 01:37 AM
8	Women often use fear as an excuse to be rude to men even though men have assaulted/victimized more men than women Shutting down a conversation with one word answers or moving away from you communicates I am uncomfortable in your presence and want to end the interaction. If you wanted communication well...you got it. You don't want communication. You don't want to get the message.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/22 12:49 AM
-1	If you don't like that the girl you're seeing used to be promiscuous, just find another girl All that's your insecurity. And like... that's ok, you're allowed to be insecure you're allowed to cling to the systems of thought that rationalise your insecurity. And you know what? Maintain enough personal value not to ever really need the thing your insecurity is centred around...or redefine what you thought was a need as merely a want you can do without... and then you can disguise that insecurity pretty good, right. You need never feel the shame of having your insecurity noticed or the dis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/22 11:26 PM
-2	If you don't like that the girl you're seeing used to be promiscuous, just find another girl It's absolutely insecurity. The thought of doing something that isn't illegal or immoral and that other people do as a matter of course and is quite possibly necessary to your success if you don't have many other viable options is sending you into an emotional spin of fear of the consequences of such a thing. It's ok. You're allowed to be insecure. You're allowed to regard some things as stuff you just can't deal with . But. Nobody else is ever going to not go get laid at the time when their min…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/22 06:37 PM
-2	If you don't like that the girl you're seeing used to be promiscuous, just find another girl It is insecurity if you've not exactly got many other options, time is slipping away and you're whining about how lack of a relationship is destroying your life forever...which is precisely the sort of situation a lot of guys here seem to be in. They are literally giving up the thing they say they want most because they don't have what it takes to handle the feelings and hazards involved. That's insecurity. You are more secure in your feelings about risk if you don't go do that thing so you don'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/22 06:19 PM
8	If you don't like that the girl you're seeing used to be promiscuous, just find another girl And all things considered men do plenty of going on the attack after being rejected...one of the more common male responses to refusal to hand over contact details is to loudly and very publicly call the girl a whore or fat or a bitch. So like...boo hoo fucking hoo, a few guys get told that if they were less insecure about a woman having previous partners they might actually get a girlfriend... that's maybe not particularly polite in some situations but FFS on the scale of rude responses to reje…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/22 04:03 AM
3	Why do women hype each other up only to never be friends or talk to each other anymore? Well... miserable yes, I've just spent a couple of days in sinus pain and we're about to enter a heatwave. Lonely? I fucking wish. Too much Xmas too many people and we haven't even had Xmas day yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/22 01:53 AM
1	Why do women hype each other up only to never be friends or talk to each other anymore? It's because where ever they go the pretty girls are gonna get social entry opportunities from men. So you know...they can take bigger risks with potentially making an entire friendship group disgusted with them. You're all fucking disposable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/22 11:54 PM
5	Why do women hype each other up only to never be friends or talk to each other anymore? Idk...why do physically strong men put each other in hospital and kill.each other so much? Is it because they are just too goddamn stupid to take up options for aggressive behaviour that don't result in imprisonment?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/22 11:47 PM
–	Girl wants to wait before we have sex The deal is why the fuck you asking us why when you haven't asked her why yet?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/22 06:06 PM
3	Women are much, much more socially influenced by rules/trends/regulations than men Well of course sometimes I hate men...they can be quite foul creatures at times. Look at that whole Russian invasion thing. Kind of yucky isn't it? So are the guys who find approach to be too risky actually men? Just wondering. They seem to be in the majority here in PPD. Should we rename this r/MenWhoArentMenDebate?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/22 03:16 PM
2	Women are much, much more socially influenced by rules/trends/regulations than men "Men on the other hand, love taking risks." Oh good, that means you actually enjoy being the ones to make a first approach. Whew for a while there I was forming the opinion that men hated the associated risks. So... what's the problem with the guys who think approach is too risky are they not real men?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/22 03:04 PM
1	Tinder and other dating apps are rotting the brains of women Well we've come a fair distance haven't we...back in the eighties the sort of men who now say the internet is rotting our brains wouldn't have for a moment admit we actually have brains. Tell me more about how concerned you are that we have brains that actually work...tis music to my ears. Tell us how for millennia you've depended upon using our brains.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/22 11:15 AM
5	The whole "women want relationships, men want sex" cliché is not only a gender stereotype, but also a subtle variation of the "women are good, men are evil" narrative. I am of the opinion that when you say women will have sex with only certain men who you are really thinking about is attractive highly personable women with good options both for sex and relationships...basically the sort of woman you would choose if you could. And when you say men would have sex with anyone you are talking about unattractive men with bad personalities. Because you identify with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/22 04:31 AM
1	I don't think a lot of TRP gurus are really on the side of the average guy They are grifters, they keep flocks of incels to fleece	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 06:11 PM
1	If you want to marry someone, what n-count would you tell them you have? Ummm what's the mechanism of how this happens and if it involves deleting previous partners from existing or adding new ones can I choose who? Definitely would delete the shittiest of my exes from everyone else's version of the timeline. Don't think it would change my marriage ability much...just fancy erasing him for its own sake. Don't want to risk erasing the best of my exes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 09:27 AM
1	You can't complain about older men dating younger women if you're a young woman who only dates men who make $80,000 or more. And so what? Your standards and how the fact you don't bring the value to implement them now and didn't bring that value in the past either makes sure you miss out on certain things are your problem. Nobody else cares you get no bitches...they don't care because they've got their own standards to examine and compromises to make. Yeah we find it irritating when those suffering from having missed out have a cry and a moan but you know how to fix that...you fix it by shutting up and coming to terms…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 09:15 AM
1	You can't complain about older men dating younger women if you're a young woman who only dates men who make $80,000 or more. It appears they are demanding it from you and that's your problem. Plenty of men getting sex and relationships without that level of income.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 07:50 AM
1	You can't complain about older men dating younger women if you're a young woman who only dates men who make $80,000 or more. Nobody makes you settle for anything. You take what is on offer or you get nothing. People can hold to as high a standards as they want. Look sometimes it is your own standards that make you miss out and sometimes it is someone else's standard and sometimes it is a little from column a and a little from column b. And so long as you're willing to take it on the chin when you miss out that's fine. If you genuinely can't handle marriage to anything other than an 18 year old virgin...or someone who …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 07:40 AM
0	The Y-Chromosomal Bottleneck Probably Wasn't Caused By Extreme Polygamy By the time we get to actual recorded history the dynamic is in place all the way down until you get to actual slaves. If all you've got in life is your freedom such as it is and paying your various obligations to the local powers and the conditional right (usually conditional on providing labor and fighting ability) granted by the local chieftain to use of whatever the equivalent of a hide of land is https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hide_(unit).but you've got a daughter and a bunch of your neighbo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 07:11 AM
1	The Y-Chromosomal Bottleneck Probably Wasn't Caused By Extreme Polygamy Isis has a broader ideological structure imposed top down to make them expansionist. If we're talking neighbourhood land grabs within a broadly pagan bronze Age or early iron age structure in Europe that's just not what is happening. The whole neighbourhood generally wants peace and is tied together by community structures and individual family alliances and marriages designed to give peace and distribute resources but the need or desire for resources by large individual families sometimes over …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 06:22 PM
2	The Y-Chromosomal Bottleneck Probably Wasn't Caused By Extreme Polygamy I should imagine not even bothering to take female slaves/wives was pretty common when the raid was due to population pressure. I mean what's the point of dealing with weepy women who are just going to create a political bloc in your family if you've already got more women having babies than your family can reasonably feed and what you really want is land and cows? Plus those women have families that aren't the family they married into and if you leave any heirs to the land alive their maternal …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 12:08 PM
7	Do you know anyone who is in a one-way open relationship? I have known people with an open relationship where one person by choice didn't make use of that option. I have known no long term open relationships of the sort you describe. Nobody agrees to that for any length of time. And quite frankly I wouldn't trust anyone who says they agree to it. They gonna just get some quietly on the side If they feel resentful or unhappy... and sooner or later they will feel resentful or unhappy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 08:34 AM
1	Q4W: What do you think of a dude doesn't try to escalate to full sex the first night? That's normal for strangers meeting for the first time. Normal, prudent, sensible, competent. I'm definitely not into fucking a stranger on the first date and would be turned off by a man making that attempt. We're supposed to go off, cool down, reflect and think it over. People who already know each other...well there's a whole history there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 08:15 AM
6	80 percent of breakups are initiated by women (rising to 90% in educated women) To permanently finalise the issue of joint assets to permit both parties to have some security in ownership of what they currently have and what they will acquire in future. To define child custody and access issues to give both parents the protection of the law and new obligations under the law. To remove the assumption of parentage from any future children of the woman. To permit remarriage. To remove future claims upon the estate of one person by the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/22 08:04 AM
2	CMV: Women open themselves to more danger when being "nice" in rejection rather than being honest An ex friend of mine became incredibly angry about a woman who said no to him and told him she wasn't attracted to him at all. When did he get angry? After her boyfriend (who he had known nothing about...she was someone who worked at a cafe my ex friend used) was murdered horribly by a random crazy and her tear stained face was front page news. He was angry that she'd given him a reply that was final due to lack of attraction rather than give him a reply that would allow him to treat the horribl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/22 03:26 PM
1	Modern society kinda shows why virtually all historical civilizations were Patriarchal. The extreme specificity of your post seems to indicate you think you have the right or the ability to insist that the argument only go on the directions you wish it to. You don't have that power. That's just not something you command.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/22 02:34 PM
2	Modern society kinda shows why virtually all historical civilizations were Patriarchal. Virtually all historical civilizations were heavily pastoral/agricultural. The powers that be don't need massive amounts of reproduction any more. One farmer supports a hundred and fifty people to eat like kings, not just four people or six people or whatever the near subsistence productivity rate used to be. It is no accident that the end result is systemic support for pressuring women to provide good sex, consistent emotional comfort and early reproductive opportunity to men they aren't thrill…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/12/22 09:50 AM
1	Why aging women are less choosy than young women: oestrus cycles. Hey guys...there's a 30 year old inexperienced dude with a link to something, offering you advice on your sex life...form an orderly line, don't all rush forward at once for his pearls of wisdom. You too can have his level of success. Just sit back and age like wine ... I clicked the additional article information link. 2008. So what's the current state of research?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/22 01:49 PM
2	Traditionalism and biology is used as an argument by women when it supports them but is dismissed when it doesn’t Look, there's plenty of dudes who are very vocally being whiny little dicks about absolutely anything a woman says or does that doesn't suit their male sensibilities. It isn't that nobody replies in a shaming manner to women it is that the people replying in a shaming way mostly don't manage to formulate good arguments. They do things like say "Sorry not beautiful and no amount of authoritarian tolerance..." Then throw a fit over getting ratioed by people mocking them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/22 12:00 PM
1	Traditionalism and biology is used as an argument by women when it supports them but is dismissed when it doesn’t Sure I or anyone else can use a particular type of argument in one instance and dismiss it ior be wary of it in another instance. Sometimes the particular application of an argument is faulty. Do kangaroos have great big back legs and stubby little frobt legs due to evolution? Well yeah I'd be willing to argue that unreservedly. Is that incel over there sitting in the corner at the party sulking because of evolution? Idk... that's less fucking obvious isn't it? Could be all sorts of things...or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/22 11:52 AM
4	Most average men would be happy with a healthy weight, average looking women. It is connected to the fact that fat women have jobs and want to buy clothes and want to see those clothes on bodies like their own. Simple as that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/22 10:21 AM
5	Where do you recommend meeting women? That's a silly question. How comfortable and adept you personally are in an environment play such a huge role...and how comfortable and adept you are has a large learned component too. If you're heavily systemizing my suggestion is this...write a stonking great list of all the different options and try not to be exclusive in writing that list, include stuff that seems great but also things that don't personally appeal or that you don't think offer good odds. If you live in a city and come up wit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/12/22 05:42 AM
1	which MOC Men of color face the worst difficulty in dating? Pretty sure our most racially hated and oppressed population get lots more action than Indian guys... who aren't even in the top three ethnic groups for being racially hated. Our law enforcement systems literally kill innocent Aboriginal kids on the regular...but a slim young Aboriginal man with a gleam in his eye can still get his dick wet. It's mainly the assumption that the Indian dude is a blow in who will blow out. Given current demographics of young Indian men in Australia that's an entire…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/22 10:27 AM
2	which MOC Men of color face the worst difficulty in dating? This is one of those topics that as soon as anyone gets close to saying anything true and meaningful the mods gonna delete it. But anyway here I go. I'm an Australian white middle aged woman with daughters btw. Young Indian men over here are most often over here for study and to earn money while studying so they can set themselves up back in India, and there's a bit of a perception that they want to casually fuck white girls during that time significantly more than they want to fuck any other ra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/22 09:00 AM
2	Do women truly get over their "first love"? Well it depends what you mean by "over" Forget that era of my life? Nah. That was the first grappling with the lifelong issue of how fantasy is not reality. Cross the road to piss on him if he is on fire? Nah.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/22 07:17 AM
1	Most average men would be happy with a healthy weight, average looking women. Dude...bore us enough and we will go elsewhere then this whole subreddit will go the way of every other incel dominated space...and the incels will be on the lookout for another space to ruin Dance for me incel, dance for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/22 07:06 AM
19	Most average men would be happy with a healthy weight, average looking women. Yeah there used to be rules against incel content. The place has gone to shit once those rules got dropped.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/22 05:33 AM
1	Their is no incentive to date as a man And if he dates for a while it won't even take ten minutes to plan most dates. He'll have a list of places he knows and it is just a matter of in some cases quickly checking if they are still as he recalled them...still doing business if they are a business, currently a visitable location if they are a park or tourist attraction. I mean jeez...most ongoing couples have something like that list in their heads just for their ongoing entertainment needs. Most asexuals who aren't after partners keep…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/22 05:17 AM
3	Trad Wife Tourism Sigh.. Someone needs to tell men but as usual they won't listen. You aren't getting the traditional ones if you go just for a wife but not to live there for an extended period first... you're getting the adventurous opportunists, already well distant from what you believe them to be, who will ruthlessly use the fact you have a preformed.opinion that all women of a particular nationality are what you are looking for. I mean seriously would you expect the most traditional and pious women in Americ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 06:32 AM
3	Their is no incentive to date as a man There is no incentive to date but we all know countless men do it anyway. I think I can at this point either call bullshit on there being no incentive...or applaud your discovery of the fact that men are deeply illogical, stupid even, and probably not to be trusted to run their own lives Decisions decisions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 06:15 AM
2	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? You think Brock Turner only frequented shit holes? You think compromising situations never happen randomly...that nobody ever passes out in the street or in an Uber due to accident or illness? I'm thinking a lot of you who currently believe the sun shines out of men's arseholes and women are just unreasonable would change your minds pretty damn quick when faced with the reality of wandering round the world just trying to make a living and have a fairly sedate social.life in a female body. I thin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 06:11 AM
1	Are big city dating scenes not worth it for below-average males? Big cities have a lot of social.contexts around hobbies and interests that small towns just don't. You don't tend to find games shops that host tabletop roleplaying games in small towns for example. If you want to be very social in a small town it is likely to involve a sporting activity and you won't get a lot of choice which sporting activity. Music scenes are less varied In small towns you get what you're given and that isn't much. Within easy walking distance of me in the medium sized city I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 04:15 AM
1	Would you approach men if it'd eliminate the problems with men approaching No. I wouldn't believe whatever shit I was being told to make me think that's the way it would work out. There's just nothing you could tell me that would make me come to the conclusion that an increase in women approaching would lead to an adequate decrease in the most problematic approaches by men. He's not hassling the pretty office girls on the train for their numbers because he's the sort of guy those girls would voluntarily choose to interact with at a bar, party or social or hobby activit…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 03:46 AM
2	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? You'd be behaving remarkably less detached from this if you were the one behind a dumpster with a freshly fucked vagina being stuffed full of pine needles...or if that was potentially the endgame every time you turned your back on your drink for a few minutes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/12/22 03:27 AM
3	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? Those men and boys want to stick their dicks in you...how do you deal with that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 07:31 PM
3	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? You don't think that happens?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 07:27 PM
4	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? But wouldn't you develop the girl version of whatever is fucked up with you... maybe become a compulsive reader of romantic fanfic barely able to concentrate on your job because you've got highly specific sexual tension narrative running through your head 24/7?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 07:23 PM
0	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? Theyre not even specifically about that really...or at least they weren't when I checked them out. Purely about looksmaxx. Why you want to looksmaxx isn't the issue. Want it to leverage a better job...or get a better partner...or become an actress or rock star...or get your mother to shut the fuck up about your looks...or always have attention...who gives a fuck really that's your business. Have they changed?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 06:39 PM
7	Question for Men: What would you do if you were a woman? You say you wouldn't have mental health problems...but the statistics on mental health problems seem to indicate that women don't have an advantage for that. Why do you think you as a woman with female hormones and increasingly as time went by socialization and eventually preferencess and goals would fare any better than you as a man has?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 06:33 PM
-1	Would you date a man whom has an OF account and regularly tips on it? He's buying the premium version of something that isn't that much better in premium version...porn is largely free. When someone does that...pays a lot more for only a small and largely irrelevant upgrade you always gotta ask why, especially if they aren't possessed of large amounts of money for trivial indulgence. The answer usually speaks to who they are. I buy expensive watercolour paper and paints for what is really just an occasional hobby. That says something about me. Maybe it says someth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 08:46 AM
2	For anyone who has self-proclaimed extremely low standards, what are those standards? An estimated 80 percent of sexually active people have HPV...which is more often than not undetected. Light use of alcohol is normal in western countries. If you want someone who doesn't buy a bottle of wine so they can have a glass with a roast they cooked and then use the rest later in cooking...who never buys a couple of small bottles of hard cider because the week is going to be a hot one and spending an hour on Friday evening on the porch with cold cider sounds perfect...who doesn't like a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 11:26 PM
4	For anyone who has self-proclaimed extremely low standards, what are those standards? Don't make my life worse, make it better. I've long since given up on men. The bar is literally on the floor and they can't jump it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 10:19 AM
2	Do you think some women are against sex work because it takes away a lot of their power over men? We are probably better off in the long run if the ones who feel like doing that just do it and get shot by police..Takes them out of the gene pool more reliably.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 10:13 AM
1	Do you think some women are against sex work because it takes away a lot of their power over men? I don't want sex work to be just another job that the government can cut off unemployment benefits if you won't take that job. Simple as that...the poor deserve better than the.normalisation of the use of their bodies for sex work. The less legal sex work is the less likely this is to happen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 10:05 AM
4	Men leveraging anything for dating/sex is bad If someone is shaming you for something that you don't think should be shameful, go off and have a good think about the nature of what you did and then decide whether to be ashamed or not. Then decide how you are going to deal with it when someone attempts to shame you again. You're not going to escape the reality of there being people thinking those actions you are describing are shameful just by ceasing to listen to one category of person.All those things you listed...there are men too who thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 12:12 AM
1	N-COUNT WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Dude...some guy not wanting to date a particular.woman is a non-issue. Dick is cheap and plentiful and even piteously begs to be picked it up in the street. Dick can be replaced...or even entirely forgone which is probably the more sensible option for a woman nowadays. We assume men want to waste our time, want to inflict things on us we don't want and want to hurt us if we don't want to let them because that's the approach enough men take that if we don't assume it we will inevitably end up get…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 10:04 PM
1	30+ women are a bore when it comes to dating So how many 30+ women have you dated?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 02:14 PM
1	Why makes someone undateable? A lot of the time they are just people who you know in five minutes to five days of starting to hang out with them that living with them and trying to have a productive household with them would be misery...and they either can't see the aspect of themselves that causes this or even worse they see it and count it as irrelevant or as a virtue. Uncontrolled argumentativeness for example. Persistent tardiness even for important events. Casual rudeness to strangers. Prioritising own needs too much in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 03:00 AM
3	N-COUNT WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD No dude, what women don't want is two things...you using the information to pretend to be compatible when you aren't, and you using the information to harm them when they decide they don't want you. Humans aren't particularly trustworthy and a man with an erection is probably less trustworthy than most. Women aren't obliged to trust men who they know pretty much nothing reliably about other than that he lusts. Yes I know it would be a lot more convenient for you if other people came with an accu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 02:08 AM
0	Is there really a double standard where an ugly guy comes off as creepy and an attractive guy comes off as attractive when they approach women? Eh. Creepiness is complicated. It largely has to do with a sense of there being a wrongness that could become threatening. As a species we've somewhat got a tendency to see busted faces and bodies as wrong. But...we've also got the tendency to see busted behaviour and manners as wrong. And we definitely see being approached for something majorly inconvenient by someone who has no demonstrated ability to adequately reciprocate as creepy...a situation likely to end badly. Beggars are creepy...whet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/22 01:49 PM
3	N-COUNT WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I tell my daughters to in the early days of dating imagine the worst possible person he could give any piece of info to...and if you're not reasonably sure yet he won't hunt that person down and tell them if you decide to end contact with him, just don't give that info. Men are pathetically vindictive shits when we don't touch their pee pees, this is why men can't have easy flow.of information in early dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/22 08:30 AM
3	The women who advise men they should get to know women as "people" first before trying anything also crap on "sneaky nice guys" for having with ulterior motives I've noticed a lot of the more unrealistic guys here seem to have a lot of black or white thinking going on. As if they either have to be BFF or total strangers. And as though they've got absolutely no control over that if they interact with someone. It can also be seen with their attitudes to staying friends after romantic awkwardness like a rejected approach or a couple of dates then being told it isn't working. They don't seem to know how to stay on friendly terms unless it is by being close …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/12/22 03:05 AM
-2	The women who advise men they should get to know women as "people" first before trying anything also crap on "sneaky nice guys" for having with ulterior motives So how many such approaches have you made and how has that been working out in your personal experience?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/22 05:01 PM
16	What causes women to not understand that they are being used by top tier men? Yeah whatever. Women learn about the best and worst of maleness when they have a relationship with a sexy guy who doesn't care about them. What loser dudes are scared of isn't so much that a woman might get her heart broke and still not understand. That's actually good for loser dudes, gives her some unsureness and moments of vulnerability during which she might fall on a lesser guys cock. What loser dudes are scared of is the experience actually opening up a woman's eyes. Because once she knows…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/22 02:12 AM
7	This is the worst time in human history to be dating. This. And they are filmed front on, in quite unvarying lighting and replayed in a manner that is not the same as how we normally observe someone. In real life you'd bloody well notice something very weird was up with their faces.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 08:09 PM
2	Men are dropping out of the labor force because Non-college-educated men have seen their pay shrink by more than 30% since 1980 compared to the average earnings of all other prime-age workers. Their weeklythey’re upset about their social status, according to a new study https://youtu.be/ftCPAnHPjZE I've been the higher income earner of a couple several times. Only two relationships...but over many years and life changes. If he isn't close to matching either the hours I work or what I earn he still definitely needs to be matching my level of effort. Yeah I get it guys don't do as much household decorating or fancy cooking or sewing...that ain't so much their thing. So get your arse out in the backyard and grow some veggies, into the workshop and make some furniture, into some overalls and d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/22 08:38 AM
1	What is your policy for covid? Can you date an unvaccinated person? Slightly below smokers and slightly above people who don't wash their hands if it was only pee.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 12:03 PM
7	How do PPD subscribers deal with boredom? Is the future unofficial polyamory? I've never had a boredom problem and don't understand those who do. Just y'know...read a book make some art take a walk write a story sew a garment watch a video phone a friend play a game visit a relative pick an argument...there exists more thoughts worthy of thinking than I could ever get round to. That goes for sex, fantasies and masturbation too	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 11:45 AM
1	Makeup is for fake people. You can tell it isn't just their real skin can't you? So how much more fake is it than say a pair of gloves?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 11:36 AM
5	In regards to OLD do you hide what you want because you know you'll get less matches? Well of course the matches would be few. They'd be excluding people who matched to the overall spirit of the mans life but not precisely to the details. I mean seriously...let's say someone has a three year degree but excellent conversion of that degree to career success, turned 40 three days ago, has paid their mortgage off totally but has five thousand of educational debt on terms that are so good not paying it off faster than required and instead putting the money into investments makes sense…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 04:53 AM
1	Women will rather meet someone online with even a single mutual friend than a stranger in real life You have to work at whatever scale, context and level of quality you can to start and then work up. There are social contexts, many of them fandom and hobby related within which aspies and neurotypical people interact quite well and see each other as valuable. Start there. Accumulate people. Make one thing use it to make another thing, etc. Spend as much time as possible in your most social mindset. Pick up skills on the way. Be there at the start for people who go on to have social value.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 11:18 PM
1	Women will rather meet someone online with even a single mutual friend than a stranger in real life Most people are harmed by people with whom they have let down their guard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 11:04 PM
1	Women will rather meet someone online with even a single mutual friend than a stranger in real life At age 25 both the marathon and the social stuff is easier.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 09:14 PM
1	Women will rather meet someone online with even a single mutual friend than a stranger in real life I'd find it easier to reach the above detailed goals than to train for a marathon...and I am certainly not in the least bit extroverted. The first big step is to establish routine social participation you feel comfortable in and to which it is easy to invite most of the people you want. So depending on your age and currently prefered social scene that could be the coffee shop meet or going clubbing one of the party nights of the week or something else. And every week you work to make that happen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 08:34 PM
1	Is having mental illness or being neurodivergent the most unattractive trait a man have? Well...yeah? The question isn't really why most women don't want to risk a mentally ill man attaching himself to them and only tend to do so if the form of mental illness or personality disorder is heavily normalised by the culture within their social class for example sociopathy in the upper classes or low level alcoholism in the working class...the answer to that one is obvious, mental illness sucks to live with, makes life more difficult and even brings physical risk. The question isn't why w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 07:53 PM
1	Women will rather meet someone online with even a single mutual friend than a stranger in real life I think extroverts just kind of do it naturally to some extent. And introverts and autistic people just sort of mostly use the social structure extroverts build then complain how hard it is when they fall out of those structures. It's objectively a realistic goal, to build a certain amount of social circle. You could sit down and decide a list of things that would mean you were at a certain level then set about attaining that list. But subjectively it can be absolutely overwhelming to some peopl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 06:58 PM
2	Women will rather meet someone online with even a single mutual friend than a stranger in real life Yup. I mean it definitely is harder as an adult I'll give them that. The social structure of people's lives is more fluid when they are younger, when they get older it sort of crystallizes more and all the people who makehigh value friends tend to be clustered around the people who performed really well at social circle formation. Going in cold with no friends is like that story about the person with a giant paperclip who decided to see if they could barter their way to owning real-estate. Hardw…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 04:41 AM
14	The current dating market is evidence of our slip back into naturalistic mating behavior. It's not just that. It is also the way industry sets up wherever and however it damn well wants and then just expects workers to travel. For some people to get a job at all requires travel, for others to get a well paid job in their preferred line of work requires travel.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/22 07:35 AM
0	It is possible to change? Is it possible to stop feeling revolted and anxious? Idk about the specific situation because I've never been in it...but we regularly see people dealing with things that initially scared or revolted them. Someone hates everything about coffee it makes them gag but loads it up with milk and sugar and learns to drink it doing overnight shifts. Someone takes a job at a chicken processing factory, throws up first day and is just fine by the end of the first week. The new recruits learn to crawl in …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/22 05:49 AM
1	If most women wouldn't date a bisexual man why are fictional gay relationships so popular with straight women? Some of the time it is to avoid dealing with the traditional roles of women in certain types of narrative which quite frankly tend to be horribly unsexy. I mean...Patroclus or Briseis? Choose!	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/22 05:40 AM
1	You have the opportunity to marry or be married to a billionaire , but you have to become a stay at home wife, would you do it? Billionaires are usually scoundrels. Hard pass. I don't even need to examine the conditions which incidentally aren't even all that difficult for me and I would barely notice any change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 10:34 PM
2	What are your thoughts about diamond engagement rings? I think in cultures with a tradition of engagement rings it is reasonable to expect a durable engagement ring that is given according to that tradition, of a value that corresponds to social class and is at least somewhat suited to the preferences of the person who will be wearing it. Marriage is about public declaration that you will adhere to certain social expectations, you can only throw out so many of the social expectations involved and still be taken seriously by your families and social …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 06:37 AM
2	It seems like women 25+ only like BIG and MASCULINE men You've tried nothing and are all out of ideas! OK whatever. You've got like five minutes before even your babyface looks too old for a much younger woman to bother with...so what are you doing wasting even five seconds on Reddit?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 04:38 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Preggo is a moderately popular fetish. I mean just saying she can get a few months of interest just from that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 07:30 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Nah. Women want to impress cool women. Cool in this context overlaps a bit with hot but it is not exactly the same thing. Iris Apfel...cool but not hot... notice me Iris Camilla Parker-Bowles...not cool not hot might as well not exist to me Princess Diana...was cool and hot... actually that's a combination that kind of scares me like don't hang around deities you'll only get hurt you mere mortal Sundry Kardashian women...hot but not cool...but I would pretend they are cool if there is a paycheck	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 07:24 PM
1	CMV: The average man's contribution to civilization exceeds the average woman's contribution by leaps and bounds. Well take it as a metaphor for whatever extra thing you want us to do for men here and now other than not underpay them for the actual work they do when they work for us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 06:55 PM
1	CMV: The average man's contribution to civilization exceeds the average woman's contribution by leaps and bounds. Shit...I don't care. I think you're wrong about a few things but even if I didn't I still wouldn't fucking care. Are you yourself willing to suck some guys dick because he's a descendant of a population that invented something really important to humanity? Or because he works in an essential industry or inventing stuff for the future? Of course you aren't. You aren't attracted and you won't do it it's not going to matter how much he is attracted to you or what he does or what a group he is a mem…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 06:08 PM
1	anybody have a friend that's doing all the right things but still has no luck with women Nope. All the men I have known personally in my half century of life who consistently couldn't even get a date had issues with what they were doing. Mostly it was something they weren't working on and didn't want to work on and would make excuses to work on anything else but. And from what I hear from my kids, nothing has changed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 05:14 PM
1	It is much harder to be a conventionally attractive man. Most long-term relationships are two ordinary people who beta for each other. That's just the way of it, a decent standard of living takes two people working full-time and then one of them taking as little time off work as possible to raise small kids. I think you need to understand that all normal women who want a long term relationship are going to approach you from that perspective regardless of their level of attraction to you. It's just what needs doing to live prosperously in this era.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 03:48 PM
15	The dad bod preference is nothing more than virtue signalling Dad bod to me is a guy who is functionally somewhat strong and does a lot of physical activity for fun and/or utility and/or profit without it being a formal exercise program. He exercises dietary restraint without becoming caught up in dieting until every part of his body is perfectly lean. So you probably don't see much of his abs. And he hasn't done spot exercise to improve his aesthetics...he does not give two shits if his traps are huge but his pecs are undefined or vice versa. Dad bod is a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 12:30 PM
1	Q4W: How important is monogamy to you, really? So...a tiresome dude with poor conversation who doesnt contribute to housework and I probably wish would spend less time with me vs a not tiresome dude who is off slipping it to someone else and bringing me home some STI...and probably also doesn't do housework.. Both are trash. If I had a gun at my head insisting I distribute a relationship choice to each one I would fuck the average dude once probably not catching anything because Mr Average Single guy isn't getting laid much then make him cry…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:31 AM
1	"I'm single because there are not enough good guys for me" is just narcissism Oh I don't think I'm better than other women. It's just that men are trash.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:10 AM
1	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end Yeah more men are noncustodial. Noncustodial parents usually have access and usually expect their significant other to cover varying amounts of childcare responsibility when the kids are round...and let's face it if noncustodial parents were into doing childcare they would be unlikely to be noncustodial in the first place. And it is ridiculously common for a noncustodial parent to expect to get their kids back in custody or have a higher amount of access once they've got a committed partnership …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/22 06:08 AM
3	What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy? This. Don't do things you don't want to do in order to have sex. Women have been carrying most of the responsibility for preventing unwanted births, then part of the ability of women to carry that load fully has been legally removed from them. It isn't unreasonable for women to decide to attend to what their priorities and options are... including refusal of certain types of sex with men who are still fertile. And it isn't unreasonable to point out to men that they've a simple cheap option to be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/22 03:45 AM
2	What's your stance on the post Roe v Wade vasectomy advocacy? Well it is cheaper and safer Look, don't expect the removal of a major form of female fertility control not to have an impact on you just because you're male. It takes two to make a baby and of course the chances are you will end up dealing repeatedly throughout your life with consequences of this change. Feeling pressured to have a vasectomy is likely the least of it. The entire landscape of your sexual life has changed if this is happening in your location you just don't know it yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/22 03:22 AM
1	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end You haven't raised kids have you? Women usually have to do most of the waking up in the night, cleaning up after, wrangling of, chasing after and planning for a kids needs. That's all time and energy a person never gets again. And usually a guy doesn't actually want another bunch of kids once he has had a family already so raising a man's kids pretty much means signing off on not having as many kids oneself as one would want. To spend it all on some baby mommas kid while the baby mommas is off w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/12/22 02:34 AM
40	Women tell men to stick to their league, but women are attracted to one type of men - those out of their league And skinny fat. Idk how many totally sedentary guys out there think they are above mildly overweight girls with hourglass figures just because they look at their own BMI chart and see not overweight, and then look at the fat on their own shoulders and call it muscle while ignoring the chubby ring of pudge above their trousers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 08:19 PM
0	Women tell men to stick to their league, but women are attracted to one type of men - those out of their league There's no such thing as a league. If you can access someone who is legal you can make an approach. That's not the case for competitive league based activities. There's no way I am going to get to play the grandmasters in most large chess tournaments...the tournament has structures to see they don't waste their time with my shitty take on the Colle system and I don't waste my time with games in which I am crushed so quickly I don't have fun at all. That's what people are inviting you to do for y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 08:06 PM
1	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end Everyone gets selfish once they become sufficiently fearful. I don't agree with the dumb shit they say or think they should be indulged. I just think they are piteous creatures. I'm definitely not flattering or validating them by pitying them. We should pity the piteous. It's the human thing to do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 07:33 PM
1	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end Sure, it has elements of risk I'm not arguing it doesn't. As a woman I certainly never wanted to take that risk myself by being with any man who already had a kid. I mean like fuck no would I want to raise any guy's by blows. But how one assesses that risk depends on an awful lot of different factors. Some women are willing to do it and they are sometimes making the correct choice for them. Same with men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 07:30 PM
0	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end Yeah there's guys who find the existence of a woman's previous partners...even just one or two of them to be very anxiety producing, and like so much with men and relationships that anxiety gets attributed by the man to the woman as the cause. A lot of men will indeed do sexual deeds that revolt them or cause them anxiety then deal with the anxiety afterwards...by blame by secrecy by running away by reframing the situation by all sorts of methods. That's a known dynamic. It is probably a dynamic…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 05:38 PM
2	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end "no man wants to raise another man's child" While I think very few people male or female actively want to raise another person's child for its own sake you need to understand that humanity is incredibly diverse and there are people out there for whom it makes a very sensible choice they are not instinctively repelled by and have very little problem with. I've known more than one person who's reaction to their new love interest already having children was relief that they could have family and th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 04:55 PM
2	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end Just because there's a wide variety in something doesn't mean it is not innate. I personally think that there is both a large social and a large genetic component to the intense revulsion some men feel for women who have had other partners. At various points in our history and prehistory a woman's previous partners have probably represented serious threats to her current partners life...and yet populations were small and being able to partner with such women also offered a reproductive advantage…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 04:19 PM
2	Men are afraid of dating and marrying single mothers because they could be on the hook to pay child support for children that aren't theirs if the relationship end I strongly urge any man who is restricting his dating because of this sort of material and feels it is unfair and too much restriction to actually seek professional legal advice about the risks and not rely upon manosphere outrage porn. Lawyers work for you and go through a rigorous education in their field, the writers of opinion pieces work for clicks and dopamine and their sole qualification is internet access. And no that's not me recommending that you commit to single mothers...I am recomme…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/22 04:06 PM
3	If someone cheats, but knows that they never do it again, should they come clean? That's a quite complicated question once adult problems like mortgages and offspring are involved. Sometimes a person can through wrongdoing set themselves up so there is no course of future action that is actually good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/22 05:37 AM
1	Female women here, I want to hear what you have to say about a dating book I read. Why don't you just get out there and be non-needy around some women you think you might like to be with? Ultimately it isn't going to be some generic man projecting non-neediness at generic women that will be relevant to you is it? You aren't precisely the men I have met in the past and those women and the contexts you will approach them in aren't precisely me or the contexts I have been in. Class, culture, age, era, subculture...the differences are huge. Just get out there and be non-needy. The…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/22 03:50 AM
1	Average women who somehow scored a very attractive man a few years earlier who left them and now they won’t lower their standards Let me guess...you also believe that it is always the woman who leaves because men are blameless. A woman in that situation would mostly likely do the usual things people do upon permanent loss of a valued long term relationship....grieve then get on with life in some form that they can now accept as normal and in which they can experience a full, mostly healthy existence. That's the point of the grieving process right? It cycles you through a series of emotions repeatedly forcing you to think a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/22 02:53 AM
2	People from broken homes and dysfunctional families rarely make good partners. They may, however, make as good a partner as your sorry ass is likely to get. Most families have some degree of dysfunction...and a lot of the worst of it gets hidden by putting up a good face.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 09:09 PM
3	Do you ever expect sexual exclusivity from men before exclusivity is clearly communicated and/or discussed? Do you think it's reasonable for women to do so? People nowadays absolutely need to have these conversations not assume. But on the other hand you've got absolutely no comeback against someone who abruptly leaves giving you no chance to talk them round, because they assumed exclusivity and then discovered you were not being exclusive. That's totally reasonable in the eyes of most of the rest of the world. It isn't so much that you are in the wrong with what you did... more what the fuck did you expect...that this won't ever happen when someone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 03:14 AM