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Find a partner I'm happy to spend the rest of my life with. Someone feminine and loyal to me. It's definitely not impossible as some RedPill guys believe, but you do also have to be the best version of yourself (gym, fashion, finances sorted, social skills, life satisfaction).
/r/TheRedPill22/08/22 08:36 AM
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Yes I've definitely been in that situation before, it's not uncommon. I was fuck buddies with a girl, but she stopped seeing me because she entered a relationship. I looked at his pictures and he was definitely less attractive than me, and had a beta smile in his photos. But he was offering her something more than just good - a solid relationship. Plus he wasn't extremely low value. So the chick preferred to be with him rather than continue fucking me. Yes she could play the double game and ther…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/22 02:55 AM
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Nope. Being higher value is not enough. It could be Brad Pitt wanting to fuck her but she would still say no. The longterm relationship is valuable to a lot of girls and if they're in a good one with a decent SMV man, they're not going to throw that away for a roll in the hay. Now if Brad Pitt was offering her a genuine long term relationship, she might consider it. But that's just not realistic, the really high SMV guys just want to pump and dump. And she's not willing to compromise the relatio…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/22 12:54 AM
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I'm not encouraging blue pill fantasy. I'm aware of the risks of marriage and I would encourage everyone to think twice and even open a trust account to store your property/savings in. Even a pre-nup isn't enough in the country that I'm from. So I'm not encouraging blind blue pill fantasies. I'm just saying as Alphas we have the ability to affect the lives of women who fall in love with us, such as the wife in OPs story. Wield that power responsibly, don't run around abusing it. When a girl trul…
/r/TheRedPill18/06/22 03:54 PM
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Ok then let me ask you my friend, is your lay count over 20? No disrespect intended, and I'm not trying to enter a dick measuring contest. It's just that with the guys with higher lay counts, you begin to see patterns in the girls you fuck. Some girls (of course not all) fall head over heels in love with you, like the wife in OPs story. Would that wife cheat on him? No way! She remains loyal despite his cheating. Once you become alpha enough, some girls will fall head over heels for you. Of cour…
/r/TheRedPill17/06/22 12:30 AM
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Well it's better than bottling up emotions, like a lot of people do these days. Not the healthiest dynamic but it's better to express yourself rather than not.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/22 01:45 PM
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So let me get this straight. You don't think there is one single example in the whole of US of a successful, monogamous relationship amongst young adults? Also, have you ever cold approached? That would explain it. Your going by Tinder data points and fraternity sluts. Not a good pool of people to be drawing from.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/22 01:37 PM
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Nope not cuckholding myself. I have enough experience with girls to spot the k-selected ones from the r-selected ones. A lot of girls out there will not cheat on their boyfriends/husbands, they are happily married, etc. This is why cold approach is so important. You get to see the girl's eyes light up with attraction at you, but they will not give out their number because they will not cheat. If you haven't cold approached and just going by what you see on Tinder, that is a very adverse bunch of…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/22 04:00 AM
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This is exactly why I stopped cheating, and having casual sex with women I was not fully into. As alphas, we are in a position to cause serious damage and emotional pain to women. I have certainly done my share of hurting, and don't want to be involved in these kinds of situations anymore. Wield your power responsibly, don't lie and cheat, and don't string along women who you are not into.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/22 01:35 AM
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If you disagree, please post pictures of a male 5 and below who has approached and slept with a female 9 based purely on his game.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/22 06:12 PM
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Approach as much as you want my friend, I'm all for approaching. I'm a daygamer myself. Just don't be fooled that a male 4/10 can get a female 9/10 with just his game. Or better yet, try it out yourself! If you're a 7/10 in terms of looks, you might be able to pull the 9's once in a while with a lot of skill. But if you're a male 5 or below, give it a try and please report back to us with pictures. I will gladly admit I'm wrong. And you can't use any transactional things of any sort. Should be b…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/22 04:40 PM
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Great post, I mostly agree with you. The only thing I would add is make sure you're not going for women too above your league. I'm about a 6 or 7 out of 10. I know if I only approach the 9's, it will be close to impossible for me to get laid. Even more impossible if I was a 5/10 male. So make a realistic estimate of your own sexual value and keep that in mind. A strawweight UFC fighter is not going to have a good chance against a heavy weight UFC fighter, even if he is the most skilled guy in th…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/22 10:39 AM
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I'd recommend high vibe communication by Julien. Or if you can't buy it then even just his free YouTube videos are gold.
/r/seduction06/06/22 01:31 PM
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Be honest, you'd love to be able to pull a young Latina with blonde highlights in a skirt.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/22 06:05 PM
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Interested
/r/RedPillBooks28/03/22 02:32 PM
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I am very interested
/r/RedPillBooks28/03/22 02:32 PM
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I agree with your post, it's a great post. Better to be one than the other. But I want to expand some theory a bit. There are three pillars of male SMV: looks, status, charisma. They're like stats in an RPG game. If you spend all day having fun in your apartment like Tyler Durden, you will max out your "charisma" and ignore the other two. This will get you chicks no doubt, but there's also other ways to spread your stats. If you max your "money" you will have no life. You'll be fucking lots of g…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/22 03:43 AM
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Yeah I agree with that as well, definitely also a good choice. I was just thinking the firm response would increase attraction and possibly cause her to stay loyal. It worked on my relative who was going through a similar thing. Either way, definitely better than what OP did - "It's ok, it's my fault, etc.." that's such a bitch move and shows he's not being authentic to his true feelings.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/22 01:58 PM
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I would have shut down her request - "I don't want a girl like that, that's unacceptable, etc.." Basically letting her know that that's not OK with me and if she wants to do that then she can fuck off from my life. Her choice. And then I would seriously consider scaling back the amount of investment I was putting in her.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/22 06:32 AM
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Nice! Also just curious, what does "blew her back out" mean? You smashed her doggie style until her back gave out lol? I'm so lost
/r/TheRedPill13/02/22 09:04 AM
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I think something you're doing is attracting the wrong type of girls. There are plenty of feminine and non-gold digging women out there, you just need to find them. Maybe it's something in the method you're using to find them, or your mindset, or something along those lines. You're giving out these vibes that are attracting the wrong types of women. Congrats on all the hard work you've done, sounds like you're in a much better place now! Time for some adjustments that will make you ready for a h…
/r/TheRedPill06/02/22 12:44 AM
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Dude if John was cut as you say (like <15% bodyfat) then I have no doubt he will be getting laid from his approaches. And over tinder. Most of my tinder lays were meet for coffee, chat. Second date invite over and bang. At no point did I do an exciting activity. Truth is looks is the most important factor of SMV. I'm not saying it's not important to be happy with your life because it definitely is a big factor, but looks is more-so.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/22 04:44 AM
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Great post. I agree with everything except just want to nitpick one thing. I don't want to be a dick because I really do agree with your post. I just think a male's peak SMV Occurs around 35 and starts to drop in his 40s. If you're looking to get married around 35-40 is a good age. Just my 2cents, this is what I've heard from daygamers who are active in the dating scene, apparently their results tend to decrease after 40. These guys are out in the field getting real world feedback every day so I…
/r/TheRedPill06/01/22 11:54 AM
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oh yeah he's up to some shenanigans on YouTube.
/r/seduction29/12/21 07:16 PM
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Still my point stands. It's up to him to decide how he feels about it. Don't ask what others think because every man and his dog has their own opinion. It's better to follow your gut. Whatever that might be.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/21 07:00 PM
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Just want to jump in here. I think this is up to you to decide, don't look to other people for guidance. Meditate and ask yourself, are you happy with this girl? Personally I don't mind a little bit of slutty past but I can't handle anything too extreme. You sound similar to me. Maybe you can be okay with her slutty past? Try to. No shame in that, as long as you're happy and don't give a fuck what others think.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/21 02:09 PM
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No it's not, but your options will be severely limited. My last girlfriend was from cold approach, best results from combining both.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/21 02:31 PM
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What you described is a warm approach - i.e. approach after an IOI. The best results are by learning both cold AND warm approaching. I get the feeling from your post that you're too pussy to handle cold approach, so you're making excuses to weasel your way out of it.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/21 09:15 AM
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Not denying she'll treat you better if she likes you, but there's still a MASSIVE difference between a hooker who likes you, and a girl you fucked for free from the club. Difference is day and night.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/21 06:24 PM
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Sounds like you've been dating kind guys in the past. I'm guessing they didn't have enough strength/frame to balance out the kindness, which makes anyone appear soft or weak. If you really felt attraction for a guy, you would be okay wth them asking you not to wear make up. I think you're dating guys that just aren't traditionally masculine. I think in the future you could benefit from targeting stronger guys. E.g, someone who's wrestled in the past, those guys are carved out of wood. Or just ha…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/21 12:45 PM
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Sounds like your standards are high. You're looking for a successful, high value man with millionaire clients and a strong frame. All in one! Those guys with millionaire clients are generally chodes. They spend a lot of time at work. Whenever you have one extreme, other things tend to suffer - E.g. if you find a guy with rock solid frame, maybe he won't be monogamous. If he has a successful business, maybe he'll be a bit of a corporate chode What I'm trying to say is it's difficult to get all in…
/r/TheRedPill21/11/21 11:45 AM
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how the fudge did you comment on this ancient post lol? I thought it would have been locked
/r/seduction15/10/21 10:17 PM
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Yeah well if it's an ongoing issue then yes I agree it's a dealbreaker. I also wouldn't date a girl if she had no vagina, no matter how hot she was. If it's a one-off thing or jitters on the first night, then that should be no problem to handle without losing value.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/21 12:04 AM
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I guarantee it's not the sexual activity that ruined it for her. You massively lowered your status by getting embarrassed by it. You should have just laughed it off and said "haha, Little Guy is not wanting to play tonight". I've been seeing my current girl for 5 months and we haven't had sex yet (my choice) but I guarantee you she is really into me. You don't need P in V action to keep a girl happy, it's all about how you act and your status. ED is not necessarily low status. How you react to t…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/21 11:29 AM
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I like this post, and I like that you pointed out that different girls go through their hoe phase in different ways. Not all girls are getting throat fucked. It just depends on her upbringing and how naturally slutty she is. Best case she she dated a guy as a "short term relationship" for a few months or something, as you pointed out. Anyway when getting married, i definitely would not be able to marry a girl who's had too many dick. I'd prefer the unslutty girl who's maybe had a short term rela…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/21 07:12 AM
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Yes for casual sex women have it much easier because eggs are more expensive than sperm. But for relationships, pig girl has no chance with a higher value man. High value men date high value women and vice versa. This applies for both sexes
/r/TheRedPill10/04/21 03:02 AM
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The corollary of that is any man can get a woman - if he is willing to drop his standards low enough. My point is OP is talking about the cute women. The cute women mate with high value men, and vice versa. It's just how the SMP works.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/21 06:19 PM
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The corollary of this is men don't even look at, let alone approach, the ugly women. High value people mate with other high value people. Big shock!
/r/TheRedPill09/04/21 03:49 AM
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The simple truth is doing "coupley" things (plus sex) will make the girl bond to you. And there's no easy way to back out of that arrangement without hurting her. Just have to be mindful of this. Personally I don't think it's worth putting girls through the pain, if I'm not relatively serious about her.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/21 04:31 AM
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Yeah. And these mixed signals will make the girl even more obsessed than normal.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/21 01:04 PM
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Verbally you might be direct and straightforward with them, but I think your actions are pointing them in the opposite direction. Are you taking these girls to dinners? Spending lots of time with them? Doing coupley things? A true lover doesn't really leave room for mis-interpretation. He pushes hard on the first date, or fucks her on the first night. She has no expectation whatsoever of anything more. I think you're giving off boyfriend vibes, even though your verbals are honest.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/21 10:31 AM
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Only guys who approach will understand that this man is speaking the truth. The others will find some sort of rationalisation to dismiss this advice.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/21 11:40 PM
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A girl will not reject the hotter guy off the street in favor of the guy in propinquity - provided the hot guy was able to connect and get her invested in the interaction. If it was a random spam approach without connection, then of course. It's crazy the amount of investment you can get from a girl in 5-10 mins. Easily enough for her to come out on a date.
/r/TheRedPill02/02/21 11:39 PM
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As you said, some girls are just "Yes" girls from one look at you. Most girls will be "maybe" girls. For these, looks are definitely not enough. You need peronsality aka. "game" Also as you self improve your personality and looks, the proportion of "Yes" girls will increase and you will close a higher percentage of the "maybe" girls In summary, that's why red pill is true and black pill is false
/r/TheRedPill28/01/21 02:33 AM
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Yeah exactly, if also a bit subjective. If she makes your quality of life better, then that's a high value girl for you. And there's nothing wrong with doing what makes you happy
/r/TheRedPill07/01/21 05:53 AM
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All of those are great points, especially when it comes to relationships. You could call it MMV (Marriage Market Value) However you missed the biggest factor for a woman's SMV - looks. As long as she has looks, she will have endless supply of alpha chads willing to bang her, and beta orbiters looking to wife her. It should be noted that the alpha chads might not stick around after sex because her MMV is low Edit: This is just my personal opinion, curious what you guys think
/r/TheRedPill06/01/21 03:10 PM
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Mate, don't beat yourself up over having those negative feelings. They're going to be around for a while, until you get a bit older. I was a virgin and loser until I was 25. Being a virgin really messed with my self esteem. But what helped was just accepting my situation, my negative feelings, and committing myself to becoming a better man. Commit to going to the gym, commit to getting an education, commit to fostering true relationships DESPITE what negative emotions show up. All this hard graf…
/r/TheRedPill15/12/20 09:06 AM
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Firstly props for having a solid 7.5 on rotation! Secondly, sounds like you messed it up already because you're going on dates. It's too late, she has already caught feelings and wants you to be her boyfriend, not just fuck buddy. If I were you I would make a decision. A) break up cleanly with her, or B) give the gift and start moving towards a more stable relationship Anything in between will send mixed signals and cause pain for her. It's sort of like stringing her along. Personally I don't do…
/r/TheRedPill12/12/20 02:15 AM
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Bilzerian is a provider chode who has no game. I'm talking about enthusiastic sex with women who have True Desire.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/20 04:33 AM
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No doubt he has a hot wife. But she's probably one of three chicks he's banged in his life. If that floats your boat and you prefer quality over quantity, that's perfectly fine. But that chick will probably be average/mediocre because you don't know game. The world is full of hardworking, talented and successful men who have no game. They usually end up in a marriage with a mediocre chick and live the simple life.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/20 01:12 PM
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Honestly, I'd rather be the random Joe getting laid a lot, rather than Khabib.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/20 12:51 PM
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Firstly, he is experienced so he is less likely to be needy / pussy whipped. He knows he can go out and pull another girl of equal or better quality. This confidence manifests in a dynamic shift in the relationship, where the girl becomes the needy one. Secondly, he has experience with a wide range of women, so he will probably choose a girl who is more likely to remain loyal / wife material. Sign a pre-nup and he's golden.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/20 02:32 PM
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A guy who's smashed a lot of girls and has a lot of confidence/experience usually won't fall into that trap. He will be approaching marriage from a position of power, not scarcity
/r/TheRedPill10/10/20 02:19 AM
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Technically, you might be correct. There might be no good logical reason to get married. But I would say men should follow their core instincts and do whatever the heck they feel like. Ultimately that's the best way to live life. It's better to do a technically incorrect move that resounds with you, rather than living a "technically optimal" life that doesn't. Besides, this attitude is what is attractive to women and what Rollo Tomassi calls "mental point of origin"
/r/TheRedPill08/10/20 09:38 AM
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Good post. I especially liked the part about grieving on your own time. Too many guys can't process their own demons, and look to others for approval
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 04:45 AM
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tried hitting on girls at uni parties when i was in my early twenties. Got rejected harshly. Led me down the rabbit hole of PUA and red pill.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/20 11:18 AM
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You sound like a normal guy. Not obsessed with hating women, and not looking to be a master player either. Just pick up some tips here, get your mindset right, and find a nice girl for you. Personally that's what I'm looking for as well.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/20 07:52 AM
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If you've never experienced a female simping over you, you're missing out. Women can definitely simp. I've had girls giving me sex on tap whenever I want it, pretty much completely in my frame. They were trying hard to please me and get me to stick around. I bet she was secretly in love with me. These are the type of girls I would settle down with, and the type that has a low probability of dumping you in the future. Women and men simp in different ways. Men buy OnlyFans subscriptions, women coo…
/r/TheRedPill19/09/20 10:51 AM
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Good shit! Set one of a thousand. Keep going!
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:29 AM
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My dad actually met my mum through a street approach. He was watching too many John Travolta movies lol.
/r/seduction09/09/20 01:27 PM
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I don't know how your perception skills can be so shit with that much experience. I can tell for myself pretty accurately
/r/TheRedPill08/09/20 04:06 PM
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Yeah that's what I'm talking about as well. It's not 100% accurate of course but can get a pretty good idea.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/20 11:39 AM
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Yeah exactly. That's the important thing
/r/seduction08/09/20 09:54 AM
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You can have a fairly accurate guess. There are signs, if you look for it. E.g. is she actually investing in you and fully in your frame? And if you never portray yourself as a potential partner, you will miss out on a lot of good girls who would have loved to date you.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/20 08:12 AM
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Guys that have a lot of experience with women (i.e. notch count of like 30+) can usually pick a good girl, from what I've seen. You get a good feeling for which girls are completely under your spell, and which girls are not. I know some girls are very good at acting like they're really into you... but you can sense the truth once you hang out with them for a while. It's one of the perks of being a PUA, get a lot of real experience with different types of women.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/20 04:07 AM
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Get height increasing insoles. Can add 1 or 2 inches to your height, which can make a difference. Great video on "more plates more dates" youtube channel regarding these insoles. Also, all that inner game jazz the other guys mentioned.
/r/seduction06/09/20 04:50 PM
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I'd say own it as well. When you're in state and out of your head, your voice will naturally be resonating at its natural pitch and will sound pleasant to listen to. Look at RSD Tyler, he has a high pitched childish voice but still gets laid. If you really still want to improve your voice, there are resources out there. Try "change your voice, change your life" by Morton Cooper.
/r/seduction02/09/20 03:30 PM
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When a girl doesn't reciprocate our sexual interest, that is what I'm talking about. You can call it friend zone, human being zone, or whatever.. Now there's nothing inherently wrong with it. She still respects you and treats you as a human being So if that's what the guy is looking for, then great! Go for it But if he's looking for something more (i.e. sexual interest), then there is a problem there. How to solve the problem? That's where /r/seduction comes in! Make your intentions clear, or mo…
/r/seduction31/08/20 03:25 AM
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Yeah kinda true. She treats him like a female, doesn't see him as a masculine man. The dynamic is similar to two females, no masculine polarity there However they're not stupid. They're aware when the guy has feelings for them or wants to bang them..... But that still doesn't change the neutral, friendly dynamic.
/r/seduction30/08/20 11:35 PM
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Thanks. A bit off topic but thought I should share
/r/seduction30/08/20 11:01 AM
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Honestly, I find success with women can be condensed down to several things. Level up on these core things, and success will go up. In no particular order: -Looks -Style -Social freedom -Swag factor (aka. vibe) Looks and style are self explanatory. Lose weight, hit the gym and dress well. Social freedom is self explanatory. It's the ability to do whatever you want. Want to approach a girl? You can do it. Want to make conversation at the supermarket? You can do it. It's something which can be lev…
/r/seduction30/08/20 06:50 AM
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Indicator of Interest. Basically when a girl does something to indicate she likes you. Sometimes it's subconscious, other times it's conscious. E.g.,playing with her hair, looking/staring at you, etc..
/r/seduction30/08/20 01:08 AM
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Most likely both are IOIs. The second one is a very strong IOI. The first one could be just a casual glance, but probably is an IOI. Only one way to find out eh? Go up and say hi ;)
/r/seduction29/08/20 06:06 AM
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​ so true.
/r/seduction26/08/20 05:03 PM
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Try to get an "it's on" moment. Sounds like you definitely haven't had the "it's on" moment yet. The best way is to just go for the hand hold. Sounds like she is already quite invested in you, so just hold her hand and gauge her reaction. If she is holding your hand back, congratulations! You've had a clear "it's on" moment and you're pretty much in intimate mode. If she pulls her hand away, or if it's super limp and you can sense that she isn't enjoying it, just let go of her hand and carry on …
/r/seduction26/08/20 02:30 PM
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Yes I feel this too! So much. Like the exact same thing you described lol. It's like a fear of crowded places, or a fear of people watching. I think the answer is being in state + consistent action. The times where i had no problem in crowded areas, I was in state. Do you know what being in state means? If you try to get into a good state/good vibe, combined with consistent action and growing a pair, you should overcome it
/r/seduction26/08/20 01:52 PM
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Firstly, Mystery is pretty good. He is tall and good looking, at least a male 7.5 Neil Strauss never really banged that many hot girls anyway. Most of the girls he pulled were 6's or low 7's Looks are very important. Looks get your foot in the door, but you need personality (game) to seal the deal. If you can't get your foot in the door, doesn't matter how tight your game is, she won't give you a chance Hot girls have a higher looks threshold. If OP is a male 5 always targeting female 8's, that …
/r/seduction24/08/20 12:49 PM
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First thing is what is your looks, and what is the looks of girls are you approaching? If you're a male 5 approaching 7's and above.... not gonna lie that's going to be almost impossible. No amount of game can make up for bad looks. Harsh reality.
/r/seduction24/08/20 07:53 AM
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The red pill is simply about intergender dynamics. It's about the dynamics between men and women. Women will often fuck "alpha" guys for one night stands and then marry up the safe "beta" option. This is a true and common dynamic amongst men and women. This is just one example of male/female dynamics. The RP is simply about mapping out these dynamics so that men can be aware of them. Any addition on top of this definition is beyond the scope of RP. Sounds like you're getting into TradCon territo…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/20 04:27 PM
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Literally do whatever you want on dates. Assume leadership, set the frame and she will follow. Grab a takeaway $3 coffee as you said and go for a walk in the park. Or just go for a walk in the park without the coffee, for free lol. Enjoy the sunshine
/r/seduction13/08/20 10:26 AM
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Dude you need some positive results. Get that upward spiral going. I'd suggest: Buy some dumbbells and make some gains. Check out NaturalGallantBodybuilding for great tips Good diet, that will help you look better Fix up your style/clothing Take high quality new pictures for Tinder/Hinge/Bumble Approach girls everyday (if possible. I'm avoiding this step at the moment because of Corona) These are the fundamentals, and always will be. You need to improve on these fundamentals, and results will fo…
/r/seduction13/08/20 03:48 AM
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Look, just use some common sense and your intuition. There's a difference between a Hard No and a soft no. If you're not sure, listen to her body language. If she's physically pushing you off or closed off, then that's probably a Hard no. Back off and try again 10 mins later. Same response? Then that's a HARD no But if her body language is inviting/open while she mumbles no, then try some gentle persistence.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/20 01:51 AM
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Confidence Gap by Russ Harris - A book about confidence in general, and the negative feelings we need to embrace. Helped me especially in my beginner noob stages. Beginner Daygame by Nick Krauser/Tom Torero - Beginner daygame book. Practising it has given me a couple of daygame lays. It's shown me that I can do this.
/r/seduction11/08/20 02:12 PM
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Perfect! You had fun and approached some strangers and cute girls. That's a massive win in my books. Keep doing it consistently and it will be much easier. Fun dancing today, fun having sex tmrw.
/r/seduction09/08/20 02:41 PM
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This advice is gold. I was going to write something similar but word it better than that. I was also a late bloomer, losing my virginity at 25. All throughout uni I was obsessed with losing my virginity. Adding onto the great advice above, work on yourself. Read self help books that resonate with you, build that awesome life. Go to the gym, it will really boost your confidence. Do you use online dating? Try the 100% free "losing virginity" guide by Good Looking Loser. Good luck mate. Keep at it.
/r/seduction04/08/20 12:24 PM
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I don't think you necessarily need to "control the frame". Sounds combative Focus on having fun, and talking about whatever topics you want to talk about. Once you're having fun and enjoying yourself, the girl will naturally let herself fall into your frame.
/r/seduction30/07/20 02:19 PM
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Dude stop playing it safe. Ask her out already and whip her up before somebody else does! Methods to ask her out: Do it over text Do it in person Try randomly holding her hand Do it with a bouquet of flowers and Rick Astley playing in the background Doesn't matter how you do it. "Just do it"
/r/seduction29/07/20 02:00 PM
1

I used to go to brothels a lot. It's a bad habit to be involved in, and if you do it long enough it becomes part of your personality. Don't do it, if you get cravings then learn to deal with the cravings. Look up addiction control strategies online, etc.... nip the habit in the bud and just don't do it. Just jack off at home lol
/r/seduction27/07/20 03:31 PM
1

Yeah, wallowing in the BP-RP shit too much is not healthy. Yes pretty much. I honestly believe submissive girls are awesome and fun. They're down to do whatever you want! I definitely want something like that for a LTR. I dated a submissive chick once, she was cool with whatever. If I wanted to chill at a park on a weekend and read a book, or go out for a lazy brunch... she was happy to go along with it.
/r/seduction20/07/20 11:58 PM
1

I've dated girls who were clingy and would do anything to hang out with me, and let me tell you, they are definitely NOT easy to interact with (e.g. Good luck telling her that you prefer seeing your friends instead of her, especially if she has few/no friends herself) Needy is okay, but that girl sounds super controlling. As the leader (masculine) you should tell her you're going out with friends, and just do it. She should fall in your frame and listen to you. What you described is something di…
/r/seduction20/07/20 03:20 PM
1

if one person falls into the other person's frame, then that usually means the person with the stronger frame has higher perceived value. Yes you're right. I want my girlfriend to see me as very high value. I don't want to be easily replaceable to her. She should see me as a rare catch. You're missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is masculine-feminine polarity. That means the man is the leader and the woman is the follower - the man sets the frame and the woman submits to his superior frame.…
/r/seduction20/07/20 03:14 PM
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I like this explanation the best. My way of explaining what a high value woman would be similar, but slightly different. I want a woman who is totally in my frame and does pretty much whatever I want. Basically, she will do anything for you as long as she gets to hang out with you. This is pure attraction. I don't want to be meeting a woman halfway (what mainstream blue pill media says) and I don't want to be compromising myself in order to accomodate her. She should be doing that for me
/r/seduction18/07/20 02:29 PM
1

Yes but you have to be doing the right things! Improving yourself, being awesome, etc... If you neglect those things then game will always be rough on you
/r/seduction18/07/20 02:03 PM
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Was gonna leave a mean comment because I thought you were saying that PUA=negging..... until I read the last few paragraphs. You clearly know how to interact and connect with ladies. Well done!
/r/TheRedPill17/07/20 11:16 AM
1

I can see myself wasting a lot of time like that. Being someone's friend means spending time and energy... and chances are likely that it won't go anywhere. I'm introverted and just don't have the time or energy to spend on multiple "friendships" with women. I'd rather walk up, BOOM have a flirty/sexual chat for 2 mins, then I can know whether it's on or not. Personally I've had a lot of success with this approach, but everyone's different and you should do what works for you.
/r/seduction16/07/20 07:48 AM
18

Good work on taking action! Seduction is a contact sport. The only way to get better is to go out in field and expose yourself to contact on a regular basis. Don't just stop with the one girl at the gym. Make it a part of your life now. At the grocery store, waiting in line, anywhere and any time. The more you do it the easier it gets.
/r/seduction27/06/20 05:22 AM
26

Yeah i think this is correct. I live in Australia where prostitution is legal, and the rules of the Sexual Market Place are still in effect. Legalising prostitution doesn't suddenly increase your Market Value. Hot women are still in high demand, and have an abundance of men to choose from
/r/TheRedPill16/04/20 01:25 PM
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Typical red pill. Top comment is dude being condescending to a guy who's out there approaching women and getting laid. Once you're getting laid from the club, then you have the right to judge others
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 12:56 PM
1

Keen! Sent you a facebook message already haha
/r/seduction01/02/18 12:29 PM
2

I use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy in all aspects of my life. It's not exactly a philosophy, it's more of a blend of Buddhist mindfulness and existentialism turned into a gold standard psychological treatment for several disorders, including anxiety. It is awesome and I would encourage you to check it out! Other than that, Arostotelian virtue ethics is cool and about building character
/r/seduction01/09/16 02:26 PM
1

great personality is what will ultimately make me happy, and personality can be found in 6's as well as 9's. That's just me though, your wants may be different
/r/seduction20/07/15 04:43 PM
1

Sounds good, I'll keep an eye out for it.
/r/seduction08/01/15 01:56 PM
1

Yeah :)
/r/seduction30/01/14 05:45 AM
1

PM me if you're still up for it
/r/seduction28/01/14 11:19 AM
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