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:D thank you
/r/seduction17/10/16 06:52 PM
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True this
/r/seduction16/10/16 04:51 PM
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Girls are just emotional creatures, stuff like this happens. My guess is that something traumatizing happened to her in the past and it overwhelmed her when you fucked her.
/r/seduction16/10/16 01:45 PM
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Meet girls on World of Warcraft
/r/seduction22/06/16 10:05 AM
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That'd be a lie though. lol.
/r/seduction22/06/16 10:04 AM
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Being afraid of "being the outlaw" is normal and a human thing to do - nobody wants to be singled out as the "bad guy". This may be because of our prehistoric ancestry, where being kicked out of the tribe for misbehaving meant death. Nowadays this danger is obviously not real anymore, but realize also that your fear probably stems from lacking confidence in your emotional intelligence. This confidence you build over time with experience - there's no way around this but exposing yourself to inter…
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:42 AM
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For most outer-game specifics I'd 1000% agree. As the "answer" here is realizing when you make excuses, this is not only applicable to learning game but to your whole life. Being more real with yourself also will make you more attractive in turn. While I also agree that just going out a lot and eliminating excuses is not going to get you good by itself, for me it's the single most important thing that'd help guys break through. And not be lazy fucks on top of that as well.
/r/seduction22/06/16 06:29 AM
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I support this, also because when I got more busy my self worth was on the rise as well.
/r/seduction21/06/16 11:04 PM
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It doesn't really matter if you made out with her or not (I think it's rather a plus actually), but if you made a solid connection with her emotionally.
/r/seduction21/06/16 11:02 PM
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Meeting girls in the next major city shouldn't be affected by this, right? For bang location, go to her place after the date.
/r/seduction21/06/16 11:00 PM
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Exactly. It's about repetition, not looking pretty every day.
/r/seduction26/05/16 10:44 AM
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Snapchat is really awesome. The best thing is that you can check who saw your snaps: for me it replaced "checking on" girls I met or I am seeing. I just post a crazy party snap and if I notice that she saw it, I know that I am still on her mind. I used to take funny selfies and send it to all girls via WhatsApp, which was a lot of work. With Snapchat now it takes only a fraction of the time, and you get immediate feedback as well.
/r/seduction19/04/16 10:03 AM
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Nice math. My problem is, approach anxiety is a kind of fear and thus inherently illogical. For me, mathematical models like this haven't helped me as much, but rather training my willpower and focusing on making my body move towards the girl. I takes a lot of energy the first tries, but after a lot of pushing myself (for years) it became easier. That being said, I think keeping a reasoning like yours in the back of your head is important for times that you feel low. Lastly I wouldn't count outc…
/r/seduction11/04/16 09:44 AM
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There's nothing wrong with trying to get over someone's fear of rejection, even if that means doing dumb stuff and getting rejected on purpose. You'll need to toughen up and this is a really direct way to do it. Everybody that calls this a stupid idea probably has a lot of fear of rejection himself and would benefit from practicing this.
/r/seduction31/03/16 03:37 PM
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This is not a big deal if you think it's not a big deal. Be prepared for girls to ask a question about this, but don't be afraid about this being a deal breaker for most people. It's not.
/r/seduction27/03/16 05:00 PM
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This is a controversial topic. I personally believe that all guys are wired to at least interact with different females, even (or especially) when they are in relationships. You can try to suppress this, but it'll always show up in a way or another. Your only choice is whether it'll be controlled (just chatting) or uncontrolled (cheating). So my advice to you is that you should talk about this with your gf and make clear that you would like to chat with other girls. I bet she'll be fine with thi…
/r/seduction27/03/16 04:56 PM
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I know exactly what you mean, I've been in this situation too many times before. Recently it got a lot better, but only through exposing myself to these kind of situations over and over again. Try to understand that it takes a long time to beat insecurities like the one you described here. Keep your head up and be proud that you took action. It's another tiny step towards being the cool guy that doesn't give a shit about all this. You got this.
/r/seduction26/03/16 12:42 AM
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I used to think about this a lot, but nowadays I just throw out some invitations and just forget about them if they do not answer. You should 1) get more options (numbers) if you're thinking about this too much and 2) observe how emotionally attached you are to the person you're talking to. It's normal that you feel disappointed if she declines your invitation to hang out, but also keep in mind that there's a shitton of girls in this world who are eager to hang out with you. Lastly, of course yo…
/r/seduction26/03/16 12:37 AM
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Yo ThrowawayPUA, did you remove this post from the seddit overview? I can't find it anymore. That'd be kinda weird.
/r/seduction21/03/16 01:10 PM
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Exactly. Relationship life can be as tough (if not tougher) than single life.
/r/seduction21/03/16 12:42 PM
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Right, the cold feels uncomfortable but is not really dangerous to your health (as long as you prepared properly).
/r/seduction21/03/16 12:13 AM
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Have fun. I'd love to hear if it helped you.
/r/seduction21/03/16 12:09 AM
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I guess you showered too cold for too long without practicing beforehand. Don't give up if it helped you :) just don't do too crazy shit in the beginning.
/r/seduction20/03/16 08:17 PM
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If I was you I would just try every move out that comes to my mind. This is the only way you'll learn: By analyzing the direct feedback that you get. If a girl was weirded out by my moves, I'd just straight up admit that I have autism and apologize to her. Boom, you should be good.
/r/seduction20/03/16 07:43 PM
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This feeling of you're trying too hard probably stems from you not being comfortable what you are doing yet. This is not a bad sign. Try out different things, and most importantly observe how you feel and how she feels. For example, if one of you is tensing up while you do something, back up again and try again later.
/r/seduction17/03/16 01:21 PM
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I actually feel you here. It is true that all this is not scientifically backed. That's because these truths are generally not accepted by main stream society, some say because society would go down in flames if everybody tried to learn pickup. Your approach from a psychology angle sounds cool, best of luck.
/r/seduction16/03/16 09:01 PM
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Sounds good, best of luck.
/r/seduction16/03/16 08:55 PM
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Right, in my experience it takes a long time (or a good mentor) to loose your fears. There is no other way out though.
/r/seduction16/03/16 06:51 PM
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Buddy, the reason there is no new material is that everything has been figured out long time ago. Content producers in the dating industry still try to find new angles shedding light on problems people have when learning this stuff. This is not a necessity though, you could just learn how to get good with girls knowing the very basics like: being confident in yourself approaching a lot will make you learn this by yourself move towards abundance and away from scarcity .. It's all there on the int…
/r/seduction16/03/16 12:42 PM
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Great. I wish more people had self-awareness like you.
/r/seduction16/03/16 12:26 PM
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Wow, what a monster post. I am impressed. There's a lot of value in your comment and I'll have to read it again to get all of it. Edit: What you are saying is true and important. Setting goals is vital for getting anywhere. Also it is true that these fears don't make sense logically and that you can intellectually disarm them very easily by contrasting with the goals you set for yourself. The only problem I have with this is that I am not always thinking this logically, especially when I have a …
/r/seduction16/03/16 01:11 AM
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Alright?
/r/seduction16/03/16 01:00 AM
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Good for you ;)
/r/seduction16/03/16 12:59 AM
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You just found out something valuable about internet advice. It is always tailored to a specific target group and you may not be part of it. This is why you're finding opposing pieces of advice and they may be true at the same time, just for different people. I wrote an in-depth article on this some time ago: https://medium.com/@nerdwithgirls/stinging-advice-79257ed325a0#.o910du9z8
/r/seduction15/03/16 06:45 PM
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Cold showers. It sounds too simple to be true, helped me the most though. Wim Hof has a free video class here: http://www.wimhofmethod.com/video-miniclass/ (I am not affiliated with Wim Hof whatsoever. I just love his stuff).
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:56 PM
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You already gave yourself the answer. Ask questions like what she is doing, send jokes and pictures and evaluate from the answers she gives. I have this problem sometimes and there is no universal question to find out. Judge yourself what makes sense to ask. BTW, I made a free app that helps you with remembering girls. Check it out here: http://socialcontacts.nerdswithgirls.com/
/r/seduction15/03/16 05:52 PM
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Nah, please don't start doing this. It puts a lot of pressure on the girl and is not going to get you anywhere. Rather try to start reading the girls you are talking to. Does she seem to be into you? There's a million signs that a girl is into you and you can all look them up on the internet. Ideally though you develop a feeling for how much she is into you. How? Practice. A lot. I'm three years into this stuff now and I'm now reasonably good at reading whoever I'm talking to, but nowhere near m…
/r/seduction14/03/16 03:00 PM
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Well, buddy, she kind of told you to fuck off earlier ;) And yeah, I also observed that some women are really uncomfortable with any kind of sexual approach, especially at their work. You have to move on then, but luckily there's so many women.
/r/seduction14/03/16 02:50 PM
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I think Tinder is just more popular in the US. Here in Germany, girls use Lovoo more. All in all I also have the feeling that girls in Germany are not as open to online dating as in the US though.
/r/seduction13/03/16 02:30 PM
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I feel like you're doing fine right now but you want to push yourself harder and find motivation to become even better at life. Just go for it, you have everything you need.
/r/seduction06/03/16 08:16 PM
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This is nothing, man. Girls can do things to you that are a lot meaner and will hurt a ton the first time you experience it. Better get used to it ;)
/r/seduction06/03/16 08:13 PM
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I'm trying out the Wim Hof Method and it's great so far. On top of exposure to the cold, you learn certain breathing techniques that help you pushing the envelope with willpower related things like cold showers.
/r/seduction06/03/16 08:10 PM
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The thing about this question is: It gets asked a lot, and usually by people who shouldn't worry about it too much. The ones who get banned from malls and clubs are the ones who never asked themselves this question. There's a great chance you'll just be fine.
/r/seduction06/03/16 08:07 PM
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As finalxcution said, either move or get a drivers license. Decide how important this is to you.
/r/seduction06/03/16 07:54 PM
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I go out about three or four times per week at night, and I try to talk to people every time I leave the house at daytime. At times I set goals like that for myself yes ;) Depends on how much time I want to invest momentarily.
/r/seduction06/03/16 07:52 PM
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Keep going. The second time is not going to be a lot easier, but you have to keep going if you want to get good at this.
/r/seduction03/03/16 04:17 PM
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My idea is to go out without a social circle. You need to leave the house to meet people though in any case. If you can't go to bars, go out in the daytime. That's what this whole subreddit is about.
/r/seduction03/03/16 04:15 PM
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That's good point, don't be pissed off if you don't get laid. I put too much pressure on myself plenty of times.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:23 AM
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I lived in Leiden for a year and went to Amsterdam a lot, it was crazy times. What city do you live at? For sure there's something big close to you, like Den Haag, Rotterdam. Groningen was pretty cool too, and I went there alone as well.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:21 AM
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Thanks for your post. I'm not a bomb with 10's (yet) either. Going out alone builds the foundation though to get there.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:19 AM
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Nope. It's more a blogging site that looks really pretty.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:17 AM
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This. "man's topics" usually stick, but really you can talk about anything. Don't go to deep with your conversations in first sentence obviously if everybody's there to party.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:17 AM
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I know exactly what you mean dude, and I still feel like this sometimes. Just never forget that everybody acts in their own interests and you being alone and/or having no friends concerns them only little. What does concern them is having a great time and getting to know interesting people, and this is what you have to focus on.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:15 AM
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This is really helpful. Gotta do this more
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:12 AM
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Alcohol does help ;) Just you'll learn less and your health takes harm after a while.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:10 AM
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Thank you and have fun out!
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:08 AM
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No worries, and good luck!
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:08 AM
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Exactly, thanks. Plus: In the beginning it'll be hard, but do it anyway.
/r/seduction03/03/16 01:07 AM
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No, it's Android only for now. I'm thinking about an iOS version if people really dig this.
/r/seduction29/01/16 02:46 PM
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Dude I totally get where you're at. I still feel like I'd weird people out sometimes, especially when I'm in introvert-work-mode and decide to go out anyway. What I mean with slightly autistic though is that I meet people (friends of friends, or strangers in college) again and again and I have no clue that I talked to them before. It's like someone cut the memory of me meeting them before out of my mind and it can be embarrassing as fuck, because basically I am that asshole who is talking to eve…
/r/seduction29/01/16 02:44 PM
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If you want to hit on customers, be aware that your boss might not like that and that if you fuck up, you'll potentially lose your job. That being said you can flirt with customers, just don't say risky stuff. Having a normal conversation followed by a suggestion to have a coffee some time shouldn't offend anybody to the point that they're complaining to your manager.
/r/seduction28/01/16 09:31 PM
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The only thing that's bullshit about the whole introvert/extrovert discussion is that you have to be either. The truth is that everyone has an introvert and an extrovert SIDE, which develop to different extends in everybody. Your introvert side may be reading books, working for yourself, and (especially for me) thinking really deeply about anything. Your extrovert side comes up whenever you lose yourself in conversation with someone and generally whenever you are doing creative work. Being (temp…
/r/seduction28/01/16 09:24 PM
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Thank you! I'm planning on doing something like that.
/r/seduction28/01/16 09:08 PM
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Why are you afraid of loosing her? Say you help her get slimmer and she then dumps your ass, you can still have the confidence of helping someone become a better person. To make this a mindfuck, if you have the attitude I just described, she will probably not leave you because she will see how much value you give.
/r/seduction16/12/15 04:12 PM
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Just text her when you feel like seeing her, then don't drink when you're together. Do that a couple of times and you're friends with benefits without alcohol, which you tried to achieve I guess.
/r/seduction16/12/15 11:01 AM
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