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The best way I've been learning to overcome this problem is to look at it from her perspective. Remember a time that you were truly busy. Like didn't check your phone for hours busy. Even when you do, you can't really start a conversation, because you have so much shit to do. That's probably her issue. I find that most girls aren't rude on purpose. They might either be busy, can't talk right now, or aren't in the EMOTIONAL STATE to make plans that they'll regret later. Or she's just not interest…
/r/seduction24/12/13 08:02 PM
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I think for the most part, things should be treated with the [Beginner] and/or [Intermediate] tag...Advanced PUA's are already out in the field trying out techniques, not here reading advice on reddit haha.
/r/seduction24/12/13 07:26 PM
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I think his point 6 was directed at those guys who are eating themselves on the inside trying to find the perfect way to confess their love to a girl. He wasn't explicitly forbidding telling a girl that you like her (you've got to remember the majority audience of this subreddit) And for point 7, again, I think he's directing it at those people who will try 10 or 12 times to get in contact with a girl before they get the hint. I have a 3 strikes policy, and tend to do well with that.
/r/seduction24/12/13 03:58 AM
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If you think of something, do it. Chances are when you don't give yourself a chance to hesitate, you do it confidently. Your brain doesn't have time to rationalize why you shouldn't. If she doesn't like what you do or say, whatever. She'll get over it. At least you DID something, and with confidence for that matter. Just imagine this: if you don't tease (possibly borderline harass) this girl, some other dude will, and will fuck her like a gorilla after he does. Also, don't wait for openings. Mak…
/r/seduction19/12/13 06:16 PM
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What if he doesn't give a fuck what you think? Suddenly alpha.
/r/seduction19/12/13 04:33 PM
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Great post, man. People often times forget that everyone is a real human being, regardless of how attractive you are. Insults and disrespect have no place in ANY social interaction, much less to someone who's showing genuine interest. I've conditioned myself to have the mindset of 'whoa, dodged a real bullet there' instead of being pissed that I was rejected.
/r/seduction18/12/13 10:46 PM
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Being open to new situations is a great trait to have, don't discount that in the slightest. But when you encounter familiar situations, and find yourself doing the same thing over and over again, that's when you have a problem. I feel like you need some time to pursue your own interests, your own passions and discover your own motives. That way, people will respect, if not at least understand your points of view. I find that I occasionally change my opinions based on new information or experien…
/r/seduction12/12/13 08:54 AM
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Agreed. They need to justify it to everyone else somehow. But there's a more dominant and direct way to do this without all the pussy-footing around the real reason why you're leading her to so many places. I've definitely done this in the past and gotten great results, but is it the best way to go about it? Probably not.
/r/seduction12/12/13 08:50 AM
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"She's kind of hot" is a reason to bang her. "She's an amazing person that brings out the best in me, and I do the same for her" is a reason to pursue her for more than that. Don't get the two confused, and you'll be on your way to being the best version of yourself. Make a conscious effort to expose yourself to many many women, and you'll find that being "Kinda hot" doesn't mean shit.
/r/seduction12/12/13 08:47 AM
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Haven't met in real life, she's showing no IOI's, possibly in a relationship, and no reciprocation? Dude. You're not going to build attraction through a computer, much less if you ask her more questions. Tell her you want to see her in real life to do something fun. If she's resistant or rejects you outright, pull the plug and move on.
/r/seduction12/12/13 02:13 AM
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If you're contributing more to the party than the average party attendee (you're playing music there, so you definitely are) then yes, it is an overwhelming plus. You're creating value by being there and playing your music. People will respond to this. It's a great DHV, and an interesting talking point in conversation. WAYS TO NOT BLOW IT: Don't be the guy who goes around opening sets with "How did you like the show?" because it implies that you're outcome dependent. Don't make it a huge deal in…
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:57 AM
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I've got pretty decent text game, and have picked up on quite a few of the nuances of text conversations with girls. This is all from personal experience and theory, so don't take it as fact. Be busy. If you can't, at least give the impression that you are. Wait 5-10 minutes between responses more often than instant replies. If a convo is good, and you've got a decent chain going, it's okay to reply pretty quick. But every now and then, throw in a decent sized gap so they know you're not sitting…
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:48 AM
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Stop thinking of sex as the endgame. If your entire goal of the relationship is to hookup, then keep doing what you're doing. But girls need an emotional connection as well as a physical one. Tell her something that not a lot of people know about you. Tell her about how you used to pretend you were Robin Hood in your tree fort when you were a little kid, and how you still like to pretend you're a superhero when no one's around. BUILD DEEP RAPPORT, NOT JUST WIDE RAPPORT. She has to feel like she …
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:30 AM
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Knowing your own unique identity is STEP 1. Know exactly where you stand on issues. And be consistent in your beliefs. If you let yourself be influenced by other people all the time, then no one will know who YOU really are, even yourself. Disagreement is PERFECTLY FINE. Don't be afraid to speak your mind on any particular issue, especially when you don't see things the same way as someone else. Don't be provocative when you express dissent, you don't want an argument or a fight. But don't be a …
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:24 AM
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I like this idea, but I feel like it could get out of hand pretty quickly. What if you don't know what to classify something as? Say for example you're quick to close. Good thing, right? But then she drops off immediately afterwards, and you're left wondering where you went wrong? Identifying strengths and weaknesses is a key aspect of it, but I think your focus for improvement should be more narrow. If you used this model with 1-2 aspects of game at a time, it won't get as confusing in the fiel…
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:16 AM
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Your problem might be the fact that you live in a college town. College girls are easily attracted, but also easily lured away by shiny objects. College is a time for exploration and self-discovery, after all. I find that most girls who are into hookups are also the ones who lose interest fairly easily. Sometimes there's just nothing you can do about it. If you don't think that's the issue, try being more of a challenge. Once they hookup with you, they feel they've conquered you. They've achieve…
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:08 AM
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Look at it rationally. Drunk = Not giving a single fuck. Amusing yourself. Having a good time because you KNOW you're going to have a good time. Your day game is bad either because it is bad, or because you THINK it's bad. Not to say that you should be in state 24/7, because that shit's damn near impossible. Even the best have their off days. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be the charming, charismatic heart-stealing dreamboat that you think you should be, and just have fun. Have no…
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:01 AM
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Solid advice, but it seems like it was a couple sentences dragged out unnecessarily into an entire article. The main takeaways I got from this were: Set Frame/Light Kino Bounce her around Lead the interaction Nothing really new or insightful, but fundamental nonetheless. And I agree, the "Hey, let's move coincidentally closer to my house, real quick, just for a second" might work sometimes, but girls catch on real quick and will only allow themselves to be led if they truly want to. In this rega…
/r/seduction12/12/13 12:49 AM
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Agreed 100%. This is what I was trying to convey. The original comment was something along the lines of "keep using the same techniques, it worked to get her so why wouldn't it work to keep her?" Building attraction and maintaining it have overlap, but shouldn't be confused.
/r/seduction01/12/13 08:14 PM
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Never ask. It doesn't work unless she's really REALLY into you. And dumb. Act like you would be grossed out if you saw any seductive pictures Escalate snapchat convo's using suggestive humor 1/10 times it will hapen OR Befriend strippers Get nudes daily ??? PROFIT
/r/seduction01/12/13 03:40 AM
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no.
/r/seduction01/12/13 03:37 AM
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Fantastic post.
/r/seduction01/12/13 03:17 AM
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I would have to disagree here. Yes, everyone loves the chase. Trying to get something they can't have. While the PUA stuff establishes your role and hers in the relationship, it can't be sustained. If you keep up PROPER game, she will get bored because she can't actually ever get you. She'll feel an emotional distance that she can't close, and move on to someone who will share themselves completely.
/r/seduction30/11/13 11:06 PM
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Care to elaborate?
/r/seduction28/11/13 08:27 AM
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You sure as shit don't need to be good at texting. Numbers are a means to see her again, not build attraction. You can't vibe with someone over pixels on a device.
/r/seduction28/11/13 08:25 AM
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Your points are valid. Your less than eloquent and ad hominem way of expressing them is depressing.
/r/seduction27/11/13 04:58 AM
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Definitely this. Letting yourself get that worked up about it in the first place is a huge mistake.
/r/seduction27/11/13 03:48 AM
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90% of all #-closes are just not perfect and you need to do a little attraction building via text to reduce the chance to get a flake. So it is very important to be good in text game. That's a very bold statement with little to no validity. People's methods differ, don't assume yours is exclusively right.
/r/seduction27/11/13 03:33 AM
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Same way you deal with female shit-tests. Amplify, redirect, or ignore. I guarantee you that everyone else in that group knew that the comment was over-the-line. It's how you deal with it that can make or break you. A good response to that specific one would be something like, "Impromptu roast of me? I'm down!" and start making "My sister's so ugly" jokes.
/r/seduction26/11/13 10:52 PM
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Whew. That was pretty interesting. I would say that you did a lot more wrong than you did right, but ya got lucky. I'll try to give my criticisms in the flow of the OP so it's easier to follow. When HB7 declined you asking her out previously on the bullshit reason that "she's talking to someone" it was definitely a rejection of you, not the date. I had no idea that "talking to someone" was an exclusive stage in a relationship. Also, being the "fun friend" for too long will get you stuck in that …
/r/seduction26/11/13 10:31 PM
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The more you think about someone, the more power you give them. Return to your roots. Take her off the pedestal you put her on. She's not perfect, or even great for that matter. She's just another girl who happens to have yet another one of her friends in love with her. Make a conscious effort to stop having her immediately come to mind when you think of/hear anything in a romantic context. Love songs, people asking about your romantic prospects, reasons why you're doing something: all examples …
/r/seduction26/11/13 09:23 PM
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Observations using only your description: First date, she was definitely interested in escalating things sexually. Second date, she was definitely feeling the emotional connection, but not the physical one. Most likely because you didn't escalate properly. Not enough kino, sexual tension, suggestive humor, etc. Learning to escalate in ANY situation, not just the right one, is key to proper escalation. Yeah, it's risky. But she went out on a date with you, that should be enough indication that sh…
/r/seduction26/11/13 09:10 PM
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If it's a WHY about ONE GIRL? Never. If it's a WHY about MULTIPLE GIRLS? Possibly. Analyzing one situation is sometimes useful, analyzing trends is way more.
/r/seduction26/11/13 09:02 PM
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was about to post this hahaha
/r/seduction26/11/13 08:58 PM
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I think your second to last paragraph answered the last one. It's completely situational and for the individual to decide. Although there are other factors that can give you a better idea. If she waits within the area for a few seconds to gauge your reaction, it might be an IOI. If she immediately or quickly goes to move away, isn't waiting for your reaction, or is laughing about it closeby with her friends, it's probably her being a brat, and should be disregarded. You can also not respond imme…
/r/seduction26/11/13 08:52 PM
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First response is gold.
/r/seduction26/11/13 08:47 PM
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My response is usually something along the lines of "Whoa there. You gonna buy me dinner/drinks first?" Anything like this to let them know that it wasn't appreciated (even if it was), that if it was warranted it's not free, and that she has to make it up to you. Make her qualify herself, and that there are consequences for her actions. If you're not interested in her, I would just ignore it. It shows to anyone else who saw it that you're indifferent, and/or it happens all the time to you.
/r/seduction26/11/13 08:46 PM
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Could be that she's a little self-absorbed, or just nervous and doesn't know what else to talk about, and trying to give you a chance to tell a similar story/experience. If you find the conversation very one-sided, either act disinterested or interject with something like "wow, you talk a lot, don't you?" Be sure to tease her, kino, and escalate, otherwise its just like she's talking to a friend.
/r/seduction25/11/13 01:42 PM
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