neversleeps212 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	DM Slide Strategies?		neversleeps212	/r/seduction	15/12/19 03:59 AM

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5	I'm really starting to wonder if it's even worth it. I'm on a massive as dry spell guys. Is this what hookup is about? Bro rejection is a part of achieving literally anything in life. If you want a job you have to apply to multiple ones knowing some will reject you. If you start a company you have to ask investors for money knowing some will say no. If you want to buy a house, you often have to put in offers on multiple places because other people may have the winning bid the first few places you see. It’s just a part of life. Stop being so passive.	/r/seduction	14/09/24 06:20 PM
8	Is being cubby/fat that much of a deal breaker? Are you attracted to fat girls? Bigger girls will probably be more okay with you having some extra weight but if you expect your girl to be in shape don’t go around expecting her standards to be lower than yours. Not saying big dudes don’t ever date hot women but that’s the exception that proves the rule. And in case for your physical and mental health I’d encourage you to get in shape. Taking charge of your body and exercising and watching what you eat while help your confidence, improve your s…	/r/seduction	15/08/24 02:24 AM
2	How do you stop feeling insecure about interracial dating? The people who will have a problem with your interracial relationship aren’t the kinds of people whose opinions you should care about…	/r/seduction	09/04/24 01:11 PM
10	There are so many hot, tall, white,funny rich guys. Why would women choose me? First, there actually aren’t that many guys meeting all of the above. It’s a minority of guys who over 6-ft. Only a subset of them are white. Most probably aren’t simultaneously funny, in shape, and conventionally attractive. And only about 10-20% of people (depending on location) are making six figures plus. And then of that already small group how many are actually in the dating pool vs partnered up already? But that said, you do have to bring SOMETHING to the dating table. So work on yourself…	/r/seduction	29/02/24 05:43 AM
4	How to seduce someone you are in the friendzone with Generally speaking it’s pretty tough to get out of the friend zone. I’ve done it once before but I think that was because the girl was interested in more initially but it took me a year and a half to make the move. Honestly your time and energy is probably better invested looking for other girls. Also I think jealousy of other girls can be one of the things that gets you out of the friend zone, so just accept it, live your life, and be open about pursuing other girls. If she has any romantic int…	/r/seduction	19/02/24 08:28 PM
2	Dating does not work black/ethnic men in the U.S. Bro buys into the negative stereotypes about black women but then complains that women of other races won’t give him a shot which is likely mostly due to buying into negative stereotypes about black men…	/r/seduction	18/01/24 02:40 AM
2	I’m 30 and I’ve never had a girlfriend, my face is very disproportionate and I’m on autism spectrum, could I realistically make myself attractive to women? (Pics included) Some things that might help you. First, take a total break from social media and porn. If you don’t have an active social or dating life, and you’re consuming a lot of porn and IG models then of course you’re going to feel unattractive in comparison to the people there when in reality most people in the real world don’t hit that level of attractiveness. Second, a break from porn (and masturbation) will help you find more plain looking women attractive. Finally learn to cultivate the eyes you wan…	/r/seduction	29/10/22 02:57 AM
1	Keeping a solid 9 I love this. Thank you. It’s what I need right now. I’m coming out of a bad marriage and definitely in the rebuilding phase.	/r/seduction	28/10/22 11:58 PM
1	Keeping a solid 9 Take a step back mate. You’re so focused on getting this girl this girl that you’re “non-neediness” has turned into what’s actually a very needy act at pretending to not care. Focus your energy on investing in your own life not this girl. Try to actually not be needy. Put energy into your career. Make sure you’re hitting the gym and prioritizing your mental health whether that’s vacation, meditation, or something else. Take time for your friends and if you don’t have them put in the effort to ge…	/r/seduction	28/10/22 11:22 PM
3	GF is Bi. How and where do I find a third? Or just use a Facebook post for free.99! That way your mom knows to ask around at her book club and your great aunt Carol can check with her knitting group to help you find a third!	/r/seduction	25/10/22 04:31 PM
4	Is your sexual life going to be lower or over once you're past the age of 25? Your life is what you make of it at every stage of life. I grew up in a very religious, conservative family and didn’t even really talk to girls until college and it was after college before I even lost my v card. I moved to NYC when I was 27. At that point, I’d only ever been with one girl and was still super shy and insecure. Fast forward 7 years and while I’m still very much working on myself, I’ve been with 30 women (most cute to hot and none of whom were straight up ugly). I’ve also had a c…	/r/seduction	25/10/22 07:21 AM
24	GF is Bi. How and where do I find a third? And don’t forget to ask around at your next PTA meeting and also update your LinkedIn bio for maximum coverage!	/r/seduction	25/10/22 01:32 AM
0	Great Date, No Text Back (M) You fumbled the bag bro. You acted low confidence and needy throughout and failed to build any sexual tension. You waited too long to ask her out and then on the date you didn’t escalate physically (at least not that you described), and then you cut the date off like you had to do stuff but texted her immediately which is weird. Like it suggests that you were nervous about things escalating physically and bailed out.	/r/seduction	23/10/22 11:20 PM
1	Does ignoring girls work? The technical term here is breadcrumbing. She’s dropping you a little trail of breadcrumbs to keep you following after her but she’s not interested in you as a primary romantic or sexual partner. You’re really just the fallback to her backup plans. There’s nothing wrong with continuing to stay in touch a little bit and seeing if anything further develops but don’t expend mental, physical, or emotional energy pursuing someone who, at least at this point in time, has you very much on the back burn…	/r/seduction	19/10/22 11:59 PM
3	So, when do girls start thinking it is offensive to not make phisical moves? Yup, if you’re gonna ask don’t ask directly. Just let her know that’s what you’re thinking and let her react.	/r/seduction	19/10/22 06:30 PM
48	So, when do girls start thinking it is offensive to not make phisical moves? Offensive isn’t quite the right term. But yes I’d you don’t initiate a kiss you run the risk that either the woman doesn’t feel like you find her attractive or she feels like you’re not confident and capable of seducing her. There’s no easy rule on when to go for the kiss or not. It’s really about reading a woman’s body language. If she’s leaning in towards, seems comfortable when you touch her arm or shoulder, and is even touching you back, those are all good signs that she’s probably receptive…	/r/seduction	19/10/22 06:10 AM
11	Seduction is easier than people think I’m an introvert and can be outspoken and sociable and make people laugh. Obviously it didn’t come as easily and naturally as it might have for more extroverted people but people skills are just that - a skill that can be developed like anything else. Being an introvert just means you can t go out do that every night. You need to recharge and do your own thing at times too.	/r/seduction	19/10/22 03:51 AM
2	Should I disclose the fact that I am talking with other people? Bro sliding into someone’s DMs isn’t the talking phase 😂😂😂. “Talking to someone” typically means that you’ve been on multiple dates with a person and there is at least an unspoken agreement that you’re likely to continue seeing each other romantically. Flirting with someone on IG is not that…	/r/seduction	18/10/22 10:58 PM
1	Eye contact, relaxed and expansive body language are key to projecting masculinity. Despite what modern society says, women respond respect dominant, masculine behavior Maybe it depends on where you live? But I lived in NYC for 6 years, and now I’m a very fast walker lol. I got places to be and things to do.	/r/seduction	18/10/22 07:23 AM
5	Eye contact, relaxed and expansive body language are key to projecting masculinity. Despite what modern society says, women respond respect dominant, masculine behavior I agree with most of this but you don’t need to be a slow walker clogging up the sidewalk to be dominant lol. IMO, if you walk slowly it looks like you don’t know where you’re going or have no real purpose or intent behind where you’re going. Save that shit for the beach or a nice in a scenic locale.	/r/seduction	18/10/22 07:03 AM
17	Is having your own place mandatory to get girls regularly? This is where values alignment comes in. For some girls, they’d rather live better now and save money more slowly but others will love the idea of saving up now to get a house or pursuing FIRE and that alignment will make you more attractive. It’s polarization essentially.	/r/seduction	18/10/22 03:47 AM
38	Is having your own place mandatory to get girls regularly? Mandatory? No. Easier? Absolutely. But in your early 20s it’s probably less of a big deal. But as you hit your mid and definitely late 20s, it’ll become an ever bigger deal.	/r/seduction	18/10/22 03:44 AM
1	How come I see more white women prefer black or Asian guys? If you want to pick your women like food items off a menu then best come correct. Get shredded and rich or you know don’t obsess over a racial fetish, be a good person, develop a personality and try to form genuine connections with whomever you meet as individuals not members of a racial group…	/r/seduction	17/10/22 03:24 AM
1	After making plans to meetup with a woman, do you continue the conversation or not until the date? I kind of leave it up to the girl a little bit. If she’s being real chatty and asking questions, then sure keep the convo going but I also don’t force it if she’s not asking questions or trying to chat a lot then just leave things be and the day before or the morning of the date if it’s an evening thing, text to confirm the date. You don’t want to use up all the east questions like where did you grow up, how many siblings do you have, how are you liking it in this city, etc before the date	/r/seduction	16/10/22 08:15 PM
1	Really need some clothing style help There’s not really one “right” way to be well dressed. It’s really about finding your personal style and dressing for your body type and shape. Walk around the mall and see how different brands are merchandising their clothing together and see what you life from that. As far as body type, look for dudes with similar proportions to you that you think dress well and see what styles and brands they’re rocking. It’s also worth noting that what’s fashionable can vary a lot by where in the world/count…	/r/seduction	16/10/22 06:06 AM
1	Why am I cute and not hot? That’s the same height as Mark Wahlberg and Zac Efron. Do you think they get called hot? Honestly I think you gotta fix your attitude from this woe is me, life is hard shit if you want some to view you as hot.	/r/seduction	16/10/22 01:52 AM
2	29 years old just about recovered from mental health setbacks and I want to meet beautiful girls but feel lost First off, good for you sorting your mental health. Based on what you said about your friends and desire to improve your conversational/social skills, I’d say a logical next starting point would be to broaden your social circle. This will not only give you the chance to meet women but also just expand your friend and gain more social support (which is important for mental health). Try meetups or classes for something that interests you (cooking, salsa dancing, yoga, wine tasting, book club, etc)…	/r/seduction	12/10/22 05:24 AM
1	Does height really matter? Was she actually taller than you or just wearing crazy heels? I’m 5’8” and currently in the talking stage with a girl who’s 5’6” so taller than me when she’s in full going out mode heels. But honestly it doesn’t matter to me or her. As a personal preference I like women to be shorter than me when we’re both in tennis shoes but honestly I don’t care if she’s taller in heels because that’s just appearances for other people not reality. Plus when you’re horizontal on the bed it ain’t the height tha…	/r/seduction	12/10/22 04:29 AM
6	Does height really matter? Probably like 5’10” but in 5 inch heels since it was at the club	/r/seduction	12/10/22 04:26 AM
1	Telling women they're hot on dating apps or irl? I mean on a dating app it’s kinda already implied that you find them attractive or you wouldn’t have swiped. You’re also not gonna be the only one doing that by any means so it’ll be harder to stand out. Compliments are more effective in IRL neutral contexts. Like say there’s a girl you like and have mutual friends with and you run into her at a party. Complimenting her appearance can be a way to hint that your interested in more than just friends with her and transition the conversation from fr…	/r/seduction	11/10/22 10:55 PM
13	"Work on yourself bro" is actually bad advice for young dudes I think the issue is somewhat more nuanced than this. First, I have yet to see anyone say that you need to work on yourself for years as opposed to say a few months. Second, I think the advice has to be somewhat individualized. If you suffer from severe social anxiety and/or have issues that require therapy, telling someone to just go talk to women likely won’t work. As an analogy, let’s imagine that you want to become a great baseball player but your absolute awful at hitting a baseball. You ha…	/r/seduction	10/10/22 07:16 AM
1	Do women ever make the first move? I can think of maybe two women I’ve slept with who made the first move. And one was fresh out of a breakup and the other was just a very sexually liberated woman. BUT plenty of women will make it very easy for you to make the first move if you have the experience to read the signs and the confidence to actually make a move. You say in the comments that you don’t really go to the bars and you apparently don’t use dating apps, so how are you meeting women? Dating isn’t easy by any means but it is …	/r/seduction	10/10/22 02:04 AM
2	Don’t hide what makes you unique. Anything can be perceived as attractive as long as you’re passionate about it. Tell her why your passionate about those things, what you hope to make, how you got into it, etc. just don’t get into the weeds about how the XYZ brand 3D printer is technically superior to the BCD brand printer for tensile strength carbon fiber fabrication blah blah blah	/r/seduction	09/10/22 01:44 AM
10	Don’t hide what makes you unique. Anything can be perceived as attractive as long as you’re passionate about it. The idea is right but to be clear the result will be what Mark Manson calls polarization. The things that make one person more attracted to you, will make others less attracted to you. We can see this play out in the real world. The things that make the left love AOC are the same things that make the right hate her and vice versa with Trump. If either tried to moderate themselves they would merely decrease how much the other side dislikes them while making themselves less appealing to their supp…	/r/seduction	09/10/22 01:42 AM
2	19 M college student There’s nothing inherently wrong with you mate, but you’re 19. Most people haven’t found their person yet or figured it all out at that age. If anything, it sounds like you might need to work on setting boundaries. Toxic women are always going to go for men who don’t have proper boundaries. And in fact, if you don’t have the ability to set boundaries, it’s not just romantic partners who will take advantage. It’s everyone. And if you want to encounter different people, change your social context.…	/r/seduction	07/10/22 10:20 PM
4	Having an active conversation with a girl, but she already has a bf Bruh why you getting hung up on one girl who isn’t single and seemingly doesn’t even live in the same place as you? A lack of an abundance mindset is playing tricks on your head. Stay friends with this girl and see if she can introduce you to other girls or cut it off and head for single waters but don’t clown yourself with fantasies about stealing her from her boyfriend. As to your question about why does she do X,Y, and Z, that’s unknowable. Why do people do half the shit they do? It’s some co…	/r/seduction	07/10/22 08:04 PM
1	How many girls have you approached in the past month? But hey a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step! Make it 8 next month and so on and so forth	/r/seduction	07/10/22 06:10 AM
1	I've become insanely good at hinting at girls I like them, but I'm incapable of walking the next step. Help? If they’re really that into you what you do isn’t as important as just doing something. Are you getting them into a place where you can make a move? Eg inviting them over?	/r/seduction	07/10/22 04:09 AM
22	How many girls have you approached in the past month? Good on you man! But might need to bump the numbers a bit if you want to live up to that username haha	/r/seduction	07/10/22 02:00 AM
3	I’m confident in myself and feel like a total package man — but my marketing sucks. A lot of it has to do with unlearning the shame and repression a lot of us have around sex. A lot of us have internalized the idea that our sexuality is wrong or shameful or pervy or creepy. And while expressions of sexual interest can be appropriate or inappropriate, sexuality itself is not inappropriate or wrong. I also think sexuality is a subset of sensuality which is mainly just being really present in the moment and in your body rather than your head	/r/seduction	06/10/22 11:56 PM
6	Dating apps are awesome for a 40 plus year old man So what do you mean changed everything? Did you stop trying to play it safe and made more of an effort to show who you really area and let your personality come through to polarize women or what exactly? And how much was it changing your profile pics vs what you wrote about yourself on the bio vs what you communicated when you matched with women?	/r/seduction	06/10/22 09:38 PM
1	Wha can I do? I mean it’s good that you’re being honest with yourself about what you’re bringing to the table. Now that said, you maximize what you can offer. Shave your head or get a hair transplant. Get in shape. Dress well. Get a solid stable job if you don’t have one. But ultimately you’ve gotta realize you ain’t gonna be pulling dimes. But there are ugly women out there who just want to find a decent guy to build a family with. Make a list of all the non physical qualities you find attractive in women (e…	/r/seduction	05/10/22 10:24 PM
1	How to not get friendzoned by a girl? Read Models by Mark Manson with a focus on the concept of polarization. In essence if a woman, is attracted to you or even neutral about you, the worst thing you can do is leave her hanging when it comes to your interest and intentions towards her. Women have egos too and also like to protect themselves from rejection, so if she’s unsure about you, she’ll quickly move you to the friend zone. So to avoid that, make your interest known clearly. You don’t necessarily have to explicitly say, I want …	/r/seduction	03/10/22 06:29 AM
8	How to deal with rejection I think a lot of guys struggle with rejection for three reasons. First, we often fail to realize that women are wayyyyyy more sexually selective than we are for both biological and cultural reasons. The most selective dude would probably still bang 25-30% of the women around him and is interested in having sex of it’s been more than 24 hrs since his last lay. Whereas the least selective woman would only want to fuck maybe 10% of the men around her and likely isn’t that interested in fucking rand…	/r/seduction	30/09/22 10:27 PM
1	What works well for nighttime dates Other than bars? Dinner is a bad first date idea. It’s expensive and if the date isn’t going well you can’t leave easily in the middle of it.	/r/seduction	29/09/22 09:41 PM
1	I'm using my dog to hook up with girls Glad you didn’t use Chip’s real name! He’d probably be really embarrassed that you outed him as liking to watch lmao	/r/seduction	28/09/22 11:34 PM
4	I (22M) need help conversing with girls in public. You’re thinking about this wrong. You’re mindset conscious or unconscious seems to be what can I say to make this person like me. And of course that’s a very difficult proposition when encountering a stranger plus it makes you lower status than her. Instead, think what would I like to know about this person and use that frame of reference to guide the conversation.	/r/seduction	27/09/22 12:03 AM
0	How can I take rejection graciously? https://www.thecut.com/2014/12/nicki-drake-and-the-charms-of-male-thirst.html	/r/seduction	26/09/22 07:00 AM
5	Is the game rigged from the start? Mate they’re not getting laid because they’re foreign. They’re getting laid because they’re active, so interesting things, have a vibrant social circle and are generally going out and leading a cool life. You could build up you’re social circle, take a trip, and start chatting with locals in the place you’re visiting just like they’re doing…	/r/seduction	26/09/22 04:57 AM
5	How can I take rejection graciously? Do you want the good news or bad news first? Psych: they’re the same thing. Everybody gets rejected including really good looking guys. Even Drake is always drooling after women he can’t get or at least can’t lock down (eg Nicki Minaj). So understand that rejection happens and really it isn’t personal and need not be a big deal.	/r/seduction	26/09/22 01:46 AM
9	Advice for a 37 year old virgin So you’ve literally never had a burning desire to ask a woman out and you’re confused about why you’re a virgin? Maybe you’re asexual? Or gay?	/r/seduction	24/09/22 08:11 PM
1	dont know what to do with this girl So she showed mad initial interest and you failed to really escalate and take her on a date or sleep with her or much of really anything it seems. Basically you behaved like one would with a good friend… and now, surprise surprise, she thinks of you as a friend and is probably prioritizing other guys. And it sounds like your response to being friend zoned is to act even more needy which is not going to help. It’s tough to get out of the friend zone but I’d say the best way is to show her another…	/r/seduction	24/09/22 05:59 AM
78	Shower thought: Girls aren’t complicated. They just want to be desired + feel special by a man they perceive as high value The key here (as in most things) is nuance. It’s hard out for the boys. It takes a bit of effort and leg work to even get a date, so understandably some newbie guys get super excited and want to go all out to build connection and make the girl feel special. But girls tend to get too much attention and stalkery shit. So if you treat a girl like your queen on a first date, you’re going to come off as desperate or stalkery and she’s going to pull back because it’s too much. Treat your girl like a q…	/r/seduction	22/09/22 10:41 PM
1	How to build a strong frame? This is where the importance of self improvement and inner game comes into play. Being a confident person with a strong sense of self worth isn’t a role you play or a costume you put on. It’s more than lines or routines or “moves” you put on a girl on a date. Others have addressed this at length in this subreddit so to keep it brief, it’s basically about addressing negative beliefs and fears and working through those while also developing real strengths ground your confidence in. The other key a…	/r/seduction	21/09/22 10:44 PM
1	Is the "texting is for logistics only"-Mindset really still applicable these days? I think the line is pre-dates vs post date(s). Text isn’t the best way of making a first impression on someone so try to limit the texting before a first date to mostly logistics. After a date or two, text is a way to show someone you’re thinking about them, stay on their radar and build anticipation for the next date and obviously as you go on more and more dates it’s natural to begin texting more frequently. But it’s still important to make sure you’re not being overly needy (eg always being t…	/r/seduction	21/09/22 06:08 AM
1	Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff? Attraction is about emotion. So IMO deep conversations can work well but only if they’re structured to things that can play to emotion and passion. So a discussion of the pros and cons of reparations for slavery is probably going to lead to her eyes glazing over while talking about your experience as a community organizer and your consequent passion for racial justice will play far better because it lets her get to know you instead of having to critically analyze some esoteric hypothetical. In g…	/r/seduction	19/09/22 10:12 PM
2	Should I Join A Church Group Just For The Purpose Of Meeting Women? That’s a bad idea on many levels. First, it’s manipulative and dishonest which is both unethical and reveals a lack of inner confidence to be open about who you are, what your stand for, and your ability to get women being yourself. Second, I very much doubt it would work well for you anyway. If you’re looking for a relationship, it’s best not to start from a place of dishonesty. If you’re looking for easy hookups, religious girls are probably going to be even less inclined than the general popu…	/r/seduction	19/09/22 04:59 AM
2	How do I get over the fact that I won't have sex until I'm a adult in my 20s and missed out on sex and dating as a teenager? I mean I understand where your feelings come from for sure bro, but at the same time letting yourself stew in that anger and pain, isn’t serving you. At best it’s a distraction and at worst it’s going to throw off your mood and your head. Focus on the future and what you can change for the better there and if you’re feeling really stuck on what did or didn’t happen in your past, maybe talk to a therapist. Don’t let a shitty past lead to a shitty future. Wishing you well bro.	/r/seduction	10/09/22 01:47 AM
0	Shit tests - what are they? When are they being asked? And how do you pass? It depends a lot on what the question is and when you’re asked. For example, how old are you or what do you do for work is a pretty fair biographical question on a date. It’s more of obvious shit test if it’s a stranger you just approached in the bar and they’re already asking you to qualify yourself. But even still being too evasive can convey shame about being too old/young or having a subpar career. In contrast tho, things like your body count or whether or not you’re trying to have sex with …	/r/seduction	09/09/22 10:28 PM
29	Toxic advice in the book "models" The advice could be used to justify toxic behavior sure but I don’t know that it’s inherently so. I think the general principle is that there’s a chicken and egg problem where a woman won’t be interested in physical contact until she’s attracted to you but if you don’t initiate any physical contact the chances of her being attracted will go way down and furthermore initiating physical touch is a way of displaying confidence which is generally an attractive quality to women. This doesn’t give you…	/r/seduction	09/09/22 08:19 PM
6	Too afraid to ask this IRL: Over the last year I’ve gotten more better/confident with women, I still can’t figure this one part out… Try the reverse psychology Hail Mary. Part of the deal with the cockblocking friend is that it’s implicit rather than explicit that she’s a bitter, party pooper cockblocker. So put her in the position of having to qualify herself as cool and chill by saying explicit things like, “I’d really like to go over to the bar to get to know you more where it’s quieter but idk if Megan (name of the cockblocker) is going to be OK by herself if we leave.” Or “Are you going to get mad if Sarah and I bounce e…	/r/seduction	07/09/22 10:57 PM
1	Second date ended with us making out. But I got friend zoned? You aren’t really going to learn what you’re doing right or wrong from one girl sample sizes so don’t overreact to this admittedly frustrating experience with this one girl if what you normally do is working. It could be she decided to be exclusive with someone. Or already is juggling like 3 other guys. Or maybe you should have escalated more on the first date or less on the second date. There’s no real way of knowing for certain. Keep your head up and move on.	/r/seduction	07/09/22 07:07 AM
1	How often should you text a woman you just met or cold approached? It’s not about how many texts or how frequently you text as much as it’s about the purpose of the texts. If you just met her or approached her, the focus should be on arranging a time to get to know one another in person. After you’ve been on a couple of dates it makes sense to text more conversationally to keep her interest up but even then you want to avoid seeming needy or giving her the impression that she’s the only game in town.	/r/seduction	07/09/22 12:01 AM
1	What’s the point in working on yourself if you have women dating guys that don’t? But I mean that’s logically going to lead to getting less interest from women. You’re interacting with far fewer of them and there’s no natural vetting the way there is with your classmates (whose reputations precede them in most cases).	/r/seduction	06/09/22 04:45 AM
1	What’s the point in working on yourself if you have women dating guys that don’t? Yeah but you were likely in school as a teenager and literally surrounded by available girls. Are you in college now or post school where you actually have to work to meet women?	/r/seduction	06/09/22 04:36 AM
1	What’s the point in working on yourself if you have women dating guys that don’t? Well Chief, were you personally getting the girls without working on yourself? If you want your life to change then you have to change something about it. It’s as simple as that. And chances are that “loser” has something you don’t - like confidence or lots of sexual experience or a cool social circle or even a good drug connect. Worry about your journey to become the best version of yourself not other dudes.	/r/seduction	06/09/22 02:25 AM
2	40 matches and 0 dates. Conversations never start or die after one or two messages. What am I doing wrong? Bro I think you’ve discovered your problem. If your matching with girls 30 miles away in LA traffic that’s like an hour at least of driving. A girls calculus is gonna be that (a). It’s impossible to sustain a relationship when you’re that far away and (b) if she’s looking for some casual D, she’ll want someone closer who can arrive more quickly and is less likely to flake as distance equals flakiness in LA	/r/seduction	01/09/22 07:29 AM
8	PSA : you DON'T have to go for a kiss on the first date (this is how I fumbled 2 hotties) Bro if a girl is still turning down your kiss multiple dates in, there’s no salvaging it, move on to the next. Now as to how to handle getting curved on a first date kiss, I have a few strategies. First, don’t rush the kiss. Slowly move close to her (if she’s not feeling it, she’ll move back). Then look into her eyes. Then look at her lips, then look back to her eyes and then slowly lean in for the kiss. If you build up to the kiss slowly and she’s not about it, she’ll probably get out of kissin…	/r/seduction	01/09/22 06:49 AM
68	PSA : you DON'T have to go for a kiss on the first date (this is how I fumbled 2 hotties) TBH, it seems like the issue wasn’t so much about kissing or not kissing as much as it was awkwardly waiting till the end of the date and then trying to force it. Set it up so the girl can dodge the kiss if she’s not into it. IMO, the first girl probably would have ghosted you to begin with. The second girl, you should have gone for the kiss when you were cuddling on the couch. You fumbled the bag bro. That doesn’t mean all guys should stop going for the kiss on a first date…	/r/seduction	31/08/22 09:48 PM
3	Is FT in between dates a bad idea? It’s a bad idea because it creates an expectation of closeness that won’t actually be achieved without spending 3D time together. In other words, all that time on FT will let you learn a lot of facts about each other and your respective lives but it won’t translate into feeling as physically comfortable and at ease around each other as you’ll expect after learning so much about each other because your lizard brain still sees a stranger. To be clear, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a li…	/r/seduction	31/08/22 05:34 AM
13	What do you say when a girls asks you about your previous relationships/experience and your a virgin? Wait how does this question come up if you’re not dating?? You walk into the conference room at work and the boss goes, “Alex what are this week’s sales numbers? Tony what’s your body count? Are you still a virgin? You look like a virgin to me.”	/r/seduction	28/08/22 08:50 PM
60	What do I say when women ask me, “how many girls have you slept with”? “Enough to learn that sex is about connection not notches on a bedpost.”	/r/seduction	28/08/22 04:08 AM
2	What’s her motive? Validation, revenge or she just likes me? Let me ask you this, is the cousin clearly identifiable in any of the nudes? Eg you can see her face or an identifiable mark on her body like a unique tattoo?	/r/seduction	25/08/22 11:49 PM
2	How to prevent fear of cold approach Deconstruct your approach and build up each facet just like you’d learn any other skill. So what I mean by this is that a lot of guys start approaching thinking they’re going to get a bunch of pussy and of course they almost always strike out a bunch instead (cold approach is a numbers game even for for experienced guys after all). So get out of your head and lose the expectations to start with. When you do that, all of a sudden you aren’t worried about saying something really clever that’s goin…	/r/seduction	22/08/22 01:21 AM
4	Thailand a bad idea? There’s going to be a language and culture barrier to some degree, so I suspect it won’t be that easy to pick up girls who aren’t sex workers. If you’re struggling with anxiety, honestly I’d say spend that money on therapy. As someone who’s dealt with anxiety, the thing to understand is that it’s not rational. Confidence isn’t the antidote. Recognizing anxiety for what it is and having ways to step outside of that feeling are much more powerful.	/r/seduction	16/08/22 08:40 PM
1	7 Rejections since starting two weeks ago. How do I not let this get to me? You gotta understand that L’s are part of the game brother. Don’t get hung up on the outcome. Focus on your process and getting that right. As an example, let’s say you’re a wide receiver on a football team. It’s third down. You run the play… and the QB gets sacked. Sure it sucks but rather than getting hung up on how the QB hung onto the ball too long or the left tackle didn’t block well, look at your own technique. How was your footwork off the line? Did you run a crisp route? Was it the right…	/r/seduction	16/08/22 12:59 AM
3	How important are lingerie and sexy clothes So it feels like your post is about a couple of different things here. So first up on the lingerie front, it’s definitely an added plus, but for me as a guy and I suspect for most other guys it doesn’t necessarily make us that much more turned on. But obviously if it was a whole like French maid outfit and role play or something that would definitely be excellent lol. The second part, sounds like you’re essentially seeking a more dominant partner and someone to explore more with. On that front, …	/r/seduction	15/08/22 09:32 PM
1	What's your response to this shit test? "You're not going to murder me are you?" That isn’t a shit test because there’s (a). Some actual validity to it and (b). It’s easy enough to dismiss as not being applicable to you. A shit test would be if you had a group picture in your profile and she said something like, “wow, your friends are really hot.”	/r/seduction	14/08/22 09:44 PM
3	Played by three different girls in one night for my table at a club Bro this is how clubs work. If you could just walk into a club and be approached instantly by interested women you wouldn’t need to buy a table. You’d probably also be Drake if that was happening. The point of the table is not to get women interested in you. It’s to get you access to approach them to create interest through an interaction with them. Also tbh club girls are looking for more than a free drink in most cases. Ever wonder how all those IG models spend all summer in Mykonos despite no…	/r/seduction	14/08/22 09:15 PM
0	I see people here saying women are rooting for you, just approach. But ive also seen the darker side of women. Some women i approached used me to brag in their social circle in a negative way. One woman even said to me ‘not if my life depended on it” I mean any time you try and talk about a group as a monolith i.e. women as whole, you’re going to have exceptions. But in general, if a woman is straight and single yes, she’s hoping to meet a guy that’s worth dating or even the one.	/r/seduction	11/08/22 07:29 PM
4	This could just be a coincidence but in my experience whenever I'm toxic a girl wants to be with me but when I'm genuinely nice and not toxic to girls they usually dump me. Why? Honestly most of this doesn’t seem “toxic” per se as much as it just seems like avoiding being overly needy and having a life while leaving room for push pull on the attraction front	/r/seduction	11/08/22 01:36 AM
1	Is it weird to approach a topless girl? As long as you aren’t staring at her tits or getting an erection it shouldn’t be that weird unless they’re obviously in a remote area with few people and would presumably be expecting to be topless in a relatively private setting. But if it’s a busy public beach just go for it.	/r/seduction	10/08/22 11:41 PM
4	Hooking Up On Vacation Advice So you don’t have any experience here where your conversant in the language and culture and you expect us to write you a magic Reddit comment that’s going to break your 2.5 yr dry spell? That’s a bit like saying “Hi, I don’t know how to drive. Tell me how to win F1 Grand Prix this weekend.” Not trying to be harsh here but set aside any expectation of getting laid and just treat this vacation as a chance to practice a few approaches knowing there’s zero chance you see these girls again. Despite w…	/r/seduction	09/08/22 11:32 PM
3	How do I tell my best friend, I don't want to take him with me when approaching/ meeting women? Look there’s probably room for both things here. Assuming you genuinely count this dude as a friend and not a frenemy go out with him occasionally with the mindset that you’re there to have fun with your buddy and have no expectations about scoring chicks and then also set aside some time to approach in your own. Every good relationship is a combination of boundaries but also accommodating what the other person wants. Sounds like you need to find that balance with this dude	/r/seduction	09/08/22 01:07 AM
3	Why is it that only old women check me out? This thread made me literally lol so thanks for that! Here’s an analogy that might help. If you’ve been to a pro sporting event you’ll notice that as much talking as the players do on the court, the fans talk more trash and more aggressive trash than the players. Those same people wouldn’t say those things to the face of a jacked 6’4” linebacker if they were on the field with him. Now to your current situation. Those older women aren’t in the game so to speak. They know you’re not gonna come ove…	/r/seduction	09/08/22 12:55 AM
11	I’m nearly bald. I’m a Norwood 4 at age 27. I’m shaving it all tomorrow. Look first off, a shaved head is gonna look way better than some sorry ass comb over. Second, I know bald dudes who not only got chicks but have wives now. Sure you’re not going to be a pretty boy, Ryan Gosling type with 19-year-old IG models swooning over you. But if you man up, there’s no reason a lack of hair is gonna be what holds you back bro.	/r/seduction	06/08/22 08:47 AM
3	is the dating world superficial or accepting? You get out what you’re putting in. If you’re only tryna date 23-year-old models then best believe they’re gonna judge you on how hot and rich yiu are. And if you’re only tryna smash without putting any time or effort into getting to know the girl or develop a connection, don’t be surprised when the girls who will hookup only want super jacked chads. Not saying you should date unattractive women either but come in looking to find an emotional connection and get to know other people as actual ind…	/r/seduction	02/08/22 07:35 AM
7	What are some good plausible deniability ideas (excuses) to bring a girl home? So I’m a huge cocktail nerd and actually have a pretty impressive home bar and can make a lot of craft cocktails, so if the date is going well I’ll suggest a venue shift from the cocktail bar to my home bar under the auspices of making a cocktail customized to her spirit and flavor preferences. And most of the time that ends with not only cocktails at my place but my cock getting some tail too.	/r/seduction	29/07/22 05:42 AM
4	She texted “wanna cum join me for a naked yoga session later on today?” Man stop asking the internet how to live your life. Do you want some vintage pussy? If you do, go get it. If not, pass. This isn’t that deep.	/r/seduction	25/07/22 09:33 PM
2	Do some guys really ask the girl if they can kiss her on a first date? And i also heard this girl who is a dating coach tell guys that one way they can be a good kisser is to ask her consent before you go for a kiss! How do you guys feel about that? I think the key is to make it really clear what you want to do. Like don’t just lunge at her face mouth open. Make eye contact and get within about 12-18 inches of her face (while also making sure you’re not physically trapping her if she wants to bail). Then look to her lips and then back to her eyes and slowly lean in. Alternatively, say something like, I kind of want to kiss you right now, and see how she reacts. That way you’re not exactly asking for permission like a school boy trying to us…	/r/seduction	21/07/22 09:22 PM
3	33 yo male looking towards having kids but not living together Yeah good luck with that when after you whisper that you want to put a lil angel in them you tell them “and not pay a dime in child support.” The Colorado River won’t be the only thing that’s running dry in California…	/r/seduction	19/07/22 11:00 PM
5	33 yo male looking towards having kids but not living together I mean is there some woman in the world that wants this too? Sure, are you likely to meet someone who wants this, lives in your vicinity, is in the right age range and you both find each other attractive and compatible as co-parents? I wouldn’t hold my breath tbh…	/r/seduction	19/07/22 09:16 PM
3	How do I fight the overwhelming urge to reply to texts immediately? Easy - just start overthinking the messages you send back like the rest of us do.	/r/seduction	18/07/22 04:45 AM
1	Is Android a turn off? It’s a small thing but remember one of the first interactions with a girl is going to be her texting you after exchanging numbers either from an approach or swapping a few messages on a dating app. Do you really wanna give her one more reason to ghost you?	/r/seduction	17/07/22 07:57 AM
3	So many girls call me a fuck boy and bad boy now, but they still don’t let me hit. Tf??? The term fuck boy isn’t necessarily a term of endearment to the person using it. It’s more a descriptor of a set of behaviors and accomplishments that some people might want to accomplish despite the pejorative attached to it. As an example, someone might call billionaire Jeff Bezos a dirty capitalist pig. But if you get in a fight in the comments of Twitter defending Elon Musk and you get called a dirty capitalist pig, it doesn’t mean you’re a billionaire or that this person thinks you must be …	/r/seduction	14/07/22 12:15 AM
1	Do many women realize the power they hold in dating and use it to their advantage? Dating apps are skewed in terms of the number of easy matches available but the actual market is not. It’s very easy for a woman to find a guy who will fuck her, but most women want something more than that, which is where the market evens out. The random in her DMs is probably asking to hook up or offering to make her his sugar baby, so if she’s looking for an actual relationship those aren’t viable options.	/r/seduction	12/07/22 07:52 PM
2	Why do so many girls say they love Trader Joe's in their dating profiles? And I’ve met white girls who only date black men, Asian girls who only date white guys, white guys who only date Asian chicks, and black guys who don’t date black women. Lots of people suck. What’s your point?	/r/seduction	16/06/22 09:18 PM
1	She said she was on Birth Control? Don’t go raw with randos. Obviously it feels way better but it’s very risky if you don’t know the girl at all. Tbh, even if you do know the girl and she’s on BC and believes she’s clean there’s still some risk but it’s a much more acceptable level of risk imo. Also here’s the thing of this girl is going around having one night stands with strangers with no condoms, it’s literally just a matter of time till she ends up having an STD	/r/seduction	12/06/22 11:22 PM
1	Can someone give me actual legit advices that really work? Meeting women is like working out (or any other form of self growth for that matter). What works for one person might not work for you and vice versa. But just like working out, even jumping on the “wrong” body part split or rep range is still better than sitting on your couch. So get out there and find out what works for you. Trial and error is the only sure way to know what’s gonna hit for you	/r/seduction	19/05/22 09:34 PM
3	I can’t sleep with a woman because I feel like I’m doing something wrong My guy, girls don’t go over to your place because they want to share your double bed and lay on your sheets that were last washed a week ago. Unless you’re dating homeless chicks, these girls would be more comfortable in their own beds. They’re at your place because they’re interested in sex.	/r/seduction	13/05/22 09:19 PM
1	Cold Approach is Brutal A few thoughts here man. First, think of the positive. You got laid out of all this so at least there was some upside to the rejection. Second, the more you do something the better you’ll get and the more comfortable you’ll feel, so if you stick with this, your results should improve and you should become less sensitive to the rejections. But here’s the thing you don’t have to practice game as a numbers approach. The whole approach any and all attractive women all the time thing is a PUA approac…	/r/seduction	02/05/22 07:55 PM
1	How to break the touching barrier with a girl without looking like a pervert? If you’re meeting a girl from a dating app for the first time, a light hug is pretty normal and then the touch barrier is already broken. If you’re talking to a random stranger, touching her on the arm or shoulder to emphasize something you’re about to say works. A variant to this if you’re joking around and she says something ridiculous, is to gently push her away while shaking your head and saying something like “you’re ridiculous!” When you build up a bit more rapport and you say move to the …	/r/seduction	18/04/22 06:18 PM
2	How do you talk to women when you're not into Harry Potter, The Office, astrology, Marvel movies, anime, or video games, etc? What about outside of pop culture? Do you travel at least somewhat? How about hip bars and restaurants? Do you try any of those? And if you’re at a party there ought to be lots of easy openers. For example, say, “how do you know [host name]?” Or, “How’s your weekend been so far?” And then if they say something like, “oh pretty good, I went to see the new Batman yesterday.” You can say something like, “so how does that compare to all the other Batman movies they’ve made? I haven’t seen it yet.” T…	/r/seduction	20/03/22 12:38 AM
12	Is it actually that hard for short guys? As a fellow 5’8” dude, the online thing is tough because of height inflation. If you put 5’8” girls are gonna assume you’re really 5’6” and if you put 5’10” and then show up being actually 5’8” they’re gonna be disappointed 😂🤦🏼‍♂️. It’s a lose-lose.	/r/seduction	18/03/22 10:37 PM
2	Don't be this guy (RANT) The problem is too many guys have an overly narrow view of what it means to be attractive. First attractiveness is more than just appearance. Being funny, passionate about what you, well informed and a good conversationalist, successful, and/or well dressed are all things that can make you more attractive. Second, physical attractiveness doesn’t require you to be 6ft (though that helps) or white. Tom Holland, Justin Bieber, Usher, Mark Wahlberg, and Zac Efron all got famous and rich in part beca…	/r/seduction	22/02/22 04:27 AM
1	If you want to date 9's and 10's, daygame is the way. Idk if I’d agree that beautiful women never get approached but it’s undeniable that when you practice day game, there’s little to no competition which automatically improves your standing. At a bar or club or even a party where the liquor is flowing lots of horny guys are going to be out shooting their shot or at least lingering around trying to put out the vibe. And in that scenario you need to stand out from the pack, which is harder to do. With day game, you’re likely one of one. You may not …	/r/seduction	18/09/21 03:12 AM
66	How do I get dates? Is 23 too late for me to start dating? Look mate, I’m not trying to be harsh but “your thing” doesn’t seem to be working out too well does it? Too many people thinking they can have a drastically better (aka different) life without actually changing much. If you want to change your life, you have to be willing to substantially alter your current behaviors and mindsets. So no that doesn’t mean dancing has to be your thing but if you approach this by rejecting out of hand all the things that are “not your thing,” there’s a very good ch…	/r/seduction	15/09/21 04:37 AM
1	So I am dating this girl for three days now and I really like her and I think she likes me as well. However, in the third day, she confessed her admiration to me and her words changed to more endearing ones like "my love", "darling", "baby", "I love you" etc. Facts and the women who are most susceptible to “game” are also probably more needy and ill prepared for relationships in general	/r/seduction	10/09/21 01:38 AM
2	So I am dating this girl for three days now and I really like her and I think she likes me as well. However, in the third day, she confessed her admiration to me and her words changed to more endearing ones like "my love", "darling", "baby", "I love you" etc. Couple clarifying questions: when you say dating for three days what do you mean? Three days since your first date? Or you guys have had the define the relationship talk and agreed that you’re “dating” aka in a relationship?? If it’s only been 3 days since the first date or a total of three dates or something, seems like she’s getting wayyy too clingy too fast.	/r/seduction	10/09/21 01:36 AM
2	[deleted by user] You’re framing it wrong. Her interest is not in you as a person or even necessarily as a romantic/sexual partner. Her interest is in her own validation. Maybe she’s lonely or feeling a little insecure. But whatever the situation is, it’s about her not you, know what I mean? She’s likely experiencing some negative emotion and based on the fact that she as your put it “dominated in the relationship” she likely thinks she can compel whatever response she wants. As for her interest, if she didn’t bo…	/r/seduction	23/08/21 08:57 PM
3	[deleted by user] You passed the shit test. Don’t let her keep living rent free in your head. If she had something tangible to say, she would have said it. She just wanted attention.	/r/seduction	23/08/21 08:39 PM
3	Rule: if you have to guess whether she's into you, she's not. It’s not at all true that a girl will go out of her way to make it I unambiguously clear that she’s into you. However, if you go out of your way to show her your interest and she’s dismissive or unresponsive then yeah, she’s not into you. But most women tend to wait for guys to make the first move both because that’s what’s culturally instilled and also because women don’t like rejection and hot women generally don’t have to make the first move as plenty of guys are willing to go after them.	/r/seduction	22/08/21 08:02 PM
3	The reward is far greater than the risk when deciding to talk to a beautiful woman Yup, too often guys think only about the negative emotions they’ll feel if rejected while discounting the sting of regret if they are just passive and let life and women pass them by. Also worth noting that when a stranger rejects “you,” she’s rejecting her impression of you at this moment - not the true you. She doesn’t know you. She’s rejecting her hastily constructed mental model of who you are and what you’re about. Don’t take it personally because she doesn’t know you personally.	/r/seduction	12/08/21 09:14 PM
7	Life is so unfair That’s how bar environments work, Bro. Think about it. It’s loud as hell and everybody is drinking. It’s not like you’re going to have a really deep conversation about the meaning of life or somehow slip in that you volunteer with disabled kids. So what else is a girl going to judge you on but looks? And in SF (a city I refuse to live despite being in tech), a girl really has her choice of dudes. So don’t just put effort into your appearance. Think about how to stand out from average looking guy…	/r/seduction	31/07/21 07:18 AM
31	Life is so unfair That’s how bar environments work, Bro. Think about it. It’s loud as hell and everybody is drinking. It’s not like you’re going to have a really deep conversation about the meaning of life or somehow slip in that you volunteer with disabled kids. So what else is a girl going to judge you on but looks? And in SF (a city I refuse to live despite being in tech), a girl really has her choice of dudes. So don’t just put effort into your appearance. Think about how to stand out from average looking guy…	/r/seduction	31/07/21 07:18 AM
2	Made an approach and went horribly wrong lol Bro it’s all about getting reps in so you get more comfortable making approaches and better at the approaches you make. So in a sense the approach itself is the end game just like you go to the gym to get jacked and have visible abs sure but you don’t expect to get that from any individual workout. Plus my man, if she blew out of there that quick without you even explicitly hitting on here, I’d say it’s more about her than you. Maybe she just wants to be alone in nature or just got out of a brea…	/r/seduction	24/07/21 04:38 AM
1	In response to the "do girls like muscles" post And don’t forget the mental benefits too. Exercise is shown to help with depression and anxiety (though definitely not saying it’s a cure or substitute for professional help when necessary). For me the biggest mental benefit though, was the sense of self efficacy it gave me. When you realize you can literally change your body, you start to believe in your own ability to create the life you want through your own actions.	/r/seduction	12/06/21 10:03 PM
12	This girl put her legs up on my chairs leg rest. I jokingly grabbed her legs and threw them off. Then she smiled at me and put her legs back up. Is she flirting? The only question that matters is do you want to flirt with her? Because there’s no definitive universal answer as to whether or not this particular girl was flirting with you in this particular instance. So why are asking the question? You’re asking because you’re afraid to make a move yourself without being certain she’s into it because you’re afraid of being rejected. That’s your real problem. Life is always going to be full of ambiguous interactions with women. Stop trying to decipher and ov…	/r/seduction	19/05/21 05:49 PM
1	The one shit test that will make or break you Yes, early on when you’re first starting to hang out with a girl this is a common shit test and you’re right about how to pass it. On the other hand, the situation you described is “a few months” into dating this girl. At that point, why are you still taking this girl out on dates? If that’s how she’s gonna play it, I’d downgrade her to FWB status and just hit her with bootycalls. I get the desire to keep getting laid. I don’t get the continued output of time, money and effort towards a woman wh…	/r/seduction	11/05/21 02:35 PM
1	Misconceptions about Having Hobbies I think this makes a lot of sense as far as helping explain an unfamiliar hobby to a woman without getting into the weeds (or seeming too nerdy if it’s a niche hobby). But OP is wrong in assuming that hobbies don’t have varying degrees of worth in how women perceive them. Start by defining hobby - it’s the thing that occupies a substantial amount of your free time outside of work and that you likely spend a decent amount of your discretionary income on as well. Now think about this from a woman’…	/r/seduction	14/04/21 09:37 PM
2	I missed a shot today The great ones believe they will succeed even when they have just experienced a failure	/r/seduction	10/02/21 07:30 PM
9	I missed a shot today Bingo! Kobe Bryant - one of the greatest scorers of all time - was a career 44.7% shooter. The NBA League average has never been lower than 43.9% from 2000 on. So what made Kobe a great scorer wasn’t that he was more likely to make a shot. It was that he could immediately shake off a miss and be ready to shoot again the very next possession.	/r/seduction	10/02/21 07:06 PM
1	It's not that 'nice guys' finish last, it's men forced into acting nice as a result of them being too weak to stand up for themselves or their beliefs that will never prosper. I heard they were working to make it at least 6x bigger to accommodate humans, though	/r/seduction	08/01/21 03:22 PM
4	It's not that 'nice guys' finish last, it's men forced into acting nice as a result of them being too weak to stand up for themselves or their beliefs that will never prosper. I hear Derek Zoolander has a center that could do you a lot of good! 😂	/r/seduction	07/01/21 09:52 PM
2	Always go back to her place? Nah it’s not a universal guy thing by any means. There could be a few reasons for it. One obvious one is that as the visitor you control when you leave (generally) and don’t have to spend the night if you don’t want to. It could also be that he has a girlfriend or partner he lives with. Or it could just be that his place isn’t ideal for a variety of reasons. Maybe he has roommates or a shitty/messy place. 🤷🏼‍♂️	/r/seduction	21/08/20 04:46 PM
3	Why do girls care so much about Instagram? One of the things you have to keep in mind when you’re dealing with girls, is that for them being abducted, raped or murdered are unfortunately real risks that they have to think about - particularly with online dating. From female friends I’ve talked to, IG is a way to see if someone is somewhat normal and has friends and family members. It’s a way to feel a little safer with a stranger. And then beyond the safety side, attractive women have so many potential male suitors that they’re looking f…	/r/seduction	22/06/20 09:22 PM
1	Weird situation, should I ever move in for a kiss here? Hope things work out one way or another for ya!	/r/seduction	18/05/20 08:50 PM
1	Weird situation, should I ever move in for a kiss here? I mean idk what the situation is for you, but I guess the thing you have to ask yourself is why you think it’s impossible for it to be a relationship with this girl and act accordingly. Has she made it so abundantly clear that she’s not interested that pursuing it further would be at best wishful thinking and at worst frankly disrespectful to her? Or is your ego trying to protect itself from rejection? There are definitely times where you have to know to let stuff go and move on but there are al…	/r/seduction	18/05/20 08:43 PM
1	Weird situation, should I ever move in for a kiss here? There are no absolutes here. First, it’s possible that she views you as just a friend but potentially a FWB. That is she might be down to hookup with you but realize it wouldn’t go past the occasional hookup. So as to whether or not you make the move, it really depends on how much you want a relationship with her vs how much you’d miss the friendship if things go weird. A rule of thumb I’ve used here, is would it make you sick to your stomach to think about her fucking another dude? If yes, than…	/r/seduction	18/05/20 08:02 PM
31	How to subtlety ask a guy if he wants to see my tits? I mean if you want to be direct just be like, “quarantine has me really sexually frustrated so I took some nudes I think are pretty hot haha. Wanna see?”	/r/seduction	04/05/20 03:03 AM
2	I’m not sure how to Initiate sexting without being too forward So I’m a little confused about whether or not you guys are dating atm or not but if you’re currently in a romantic/sexual relationship it shouldn’t be that hard. That said, just like real sex, you’ve gotta warm a girl up a little bit before she’s gonna be ready. So instead of just being like, “hey wanna send me a nude?” Maybe text her something about a past sexual encounter. Like “do you remember the time we fucked on the balcony of the resort in Cabo? That was so hot. I wish you weren’t so far …	/r/seduction	13/03/20 05:32 PM
2	Escalating and getting the kiss in a relaxed setting At a high level, you introduce more touch to begin with. When you’re talking to her, and she says something funny gently squeeze her arm as you laugh. If you’re bantering with her and she says something ridiculous or that you disagree with as part of fun debate, go, “oh just stop” as you gently push her away from you. Make sure your touch is light, doesn’t linger too long and obviously isn’t on any sexual areas of the body. Basically make light touch a part of how you talk with your hands as par…	/r/seduction	08/01/20 03:52 AM
1	How to smoothly shift to conversation after a DM opener So other posters have covered a lot of the core issues here but there’s another really obvious one. In your last message there’s really nothing asking her to respond. Early on in convo with women you typically have to ask questions to keep her responding.	/r/seduction	08/01/20 03:35 AM
11	Tips for Crushing Social Anxiety The key to overcoming most anxieties is progressive exposure. In other words, you have to do the thing that makes you anxious to teach your subconscious that there’s actually nothing to fear. So if your phobia was say spiders, your start by looking at pictures of a spider and then maybe being in the same room as a toy plastic spider and then going to a pet store and looking at a real one behind glass and so on and so forth. For you, I’d suggest starting with low risk social interactions. You’re …	/r/seduction	03/01/20 03:19 AM
2	Need help breaking the ice / being more initiating First, just do it. Make your goal be to approach X number of women rather than to get a girlfriend or even a date. If you really hit it off with someone great! But view this first and foremost as a chance to get comfortable being a social initiator and finding your personal brand. Most attractive, single women don’t need mixers to get approached by random guys, so you’re probably not going to meet any super models at this thing which should ratchet down the pressure, so just try to approach a bu…	/r/seduction	19/12/19 12:26 AM
2	The gym... I think the key is don’t interrupt her workout... if you’re both waiting for a class or getting water or she’s like looking for an attachment for cable machine or something, it’s one thing to try and opener. But don’t make her pull out her EarPods AND stop what she’s doing... that’s so low percentage (and kind of rude) that it’s not worth doing...	/r/seduction	15/12/19 03:54 AM
1	How to make the move from conversation to kissing when your alone together in the living room/ bedroom? What I usually try to do when I’m talking to the girl is to gently touch while we’re talking as essentially a gesture that’s part of the conversation. I tend to talk with my hands a lot so if I’m emphasizing something or she makes a joke I’ll start by grabbing her arm (and quickly letting go obviously). I do that a few times and see how she’s doing. Then if she seems engaged and comfortable with that I’ll touch her knee next time or put my hand on her. I’m also typically leaning towards her at t…	/r/seduction	15/12/19 03:32 AM
1	Response time is a perfect indicator of interest level when dating - Do you agree? On the one hand yes, it is an indicator BUT I think it’s very contextual to the person and also how long you’ve been talking to them. If they have an intense job and it’s say you’re first few dates don’t be offended if it takes a few hours for them to respond. That said if someone who used to text back quickly starts to respond really slowly, that’s usually a sign they’re over it.	/r/seduction	15/12/19 03:23 AM
16	How do you ask a girl out that you haven’t talked to a lot Bro, just ask her out. Say hey, we haven’t gotten to talk much this semester, but I’d really like to get to know you! Are you free for dinner/drinks/coffee. The study group thing is your mind clowning you bro. As the previous poster said, it’s innocuous and that’s both the problem and also why it appeals to your subconscious - because it will protect your ego from rejection. If you ask a girl on a date, she either says yes or she says no and you have your answer right there. But with your innocu…	/r/seduction	22/11/19 04:12 AM
1	She sent me this the day before, but posted a picture dress up like an hour ago. How should I handle this? Uhhh... you do realize that most of the pictures people post on Tinder weren’t taken literally that second right? For all you know, she was sitting in sweats and goofing around on Tinder because she’s on her period... Maybe she puts out on the first date and didn’t want to do so while on her period. And now you’ve come across as an insecure and potentially possessive weirdo. In the words of DJ Khaled, you played yourself. Her original message indicated a willingness to still meet up. You should …	/r/seduction	14/09/19 06:05 PM