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What you gonna do when your wife gets a new male running buddy and he fucks her on the side of the trail? That's my big takeaway. I'd ditch the bitch (running pal)
/r/askMRP29/11/24 12:47 PM
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Rian Stone breaks all of these down for retards (like me) to understand. Read along then watch the videos!
/r/askMRP25/11/24 11:04 PM
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Boundaries don't have to make sense to anyone but you
/r/askMRP20/04/24 11:35 AM
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You talk too much. Own your shit tomorrow on r/marriedredpill
/r/askMRP01/04/24 09:36 AM
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Be confident, no crying or complaining. My father in law had cancer and would constantly bitch and moan (justifiably because it's painful and fucking hurts I guess). But when he wasn't around, my MIL was awful. Saying how much of a baby he is and disrespectful behind his back. They don't need the extra stress. She'll be stressed the fuck out either way, but yours on top of it is a heavy load for a woman. Best of luck and I hope it all turns out amazing for you. Just stay active, confident and ma…
/r/askMRP09/03/24 05:35 PM
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Read No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say no I Feel Guilty. You're afraid to be assertive. Learn to be assertive. It's scary at first.
/r/askMRP10/02/24 10:19 PM
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I have a lot of work to do in my own life but this is great stuff when applied. Shifting mental models is hard and takes time. I sometimes still feel like I need to check in or send a nice text to check the temperature of her emotions or whatevever. But I don't anymore. It's not my problem. Good luck pal. I seen you read NMMNG but read it 5 more times. You'll catch things you didn't retain the first time.
/r/askMRP22/01/24 05:41 PM
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Expanding... SIDEBAR. NO MORE MR NICE GUY. WHEN I SAY NO I FEEL GUILTY. You're scared of her reactions and emotions. Guess what, it's not your problem because it's not hurting her. She's trying to manipulate you in to feeling bad and staying with her rather than you having your own life apart from her. If you keep giving in, she will be seething with resentment because you've been betatized. And she can't look up to a pussy who answers to mommy. Do whatever you want as long as things are taken c…
/r/askMRP22/01/24 05:05 PM
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253lbs What makes you think it is my ego that stopped me from approaching women that night? Restraints is on my list of things that I would like to do to my wife. As we were talking about fantasies. It was I thought that if she is open too being restrained, that puts me in a dominant position in sex. And I know that's not the only way then getting handfuls of hair during blow jobs, saying dirty things. I will not be a bitch. And to the last point, I guess I was trying to ask, when you spot other…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 10:31 AM
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You're walking on eggshells my friend. You have to teach yourself that her mood cannot affect your mood. A lot harder to do than it is to say. You have to be able laugh in her face when she's spewing her emotions at you. When she's in a mood, just disappear. Go play with the kids if you have any. Go to the other side of the house. Go out into the garage. Do something, or pretend you're doing something. You have no frame and she knows it. Try the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck". Too ma…
/r/askMRP16/01/24 08:27 PM
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OYS 10 Stats FAT. 36, 6'1". Lifts OHP 125, DL 300, SQUAT 300, ROW 125, BP 145. I am maxed out with the weights I have at home. Going to sign up for an actual gym membership instead of doing it in my garage since it has been extremely cold lately. It is really off putting to go out there when it's 4° with the wind chill and making it -10°. To make up for that, for the past week, I brought in my 40lb kettlebell and followed some YouTube routines. I'd rather go to a real gym and even meet some gori…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/24 08:16 PM
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That makes sense now. I'm trying to catch myself to figure out how I'm actually feeling. I don't want to lie to myself about validation sex or actually wanting to fuck. She initiated with me again last night and I wasn't even really in the mood but I know to never reject your woman. I can't lie and say that I didn't smirk a little bit and feel good that she initiated with me. I actually felt like the prize for once. It was more along the lines of "she needs this for her to feel validated." Unles…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/24 11:40 AM
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It is really stupid and lazy of me to not be meal prepping by now. I've been drinking a lot more fluids to help with my Hunger like you suggested. It's the drive-by snacking and thinking "I did good for the day, ice cream for everyone!" attitude. I've been fat my entire life. It is a horrific addiction/mental model to overcome. I know it's decisions and actions literally. Ordering the containers and fucking sticking to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 07:02 PM
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I'm ignorant as to what you're suggesting or implying. Could you explain what you mean, please? I'm stepping out of my comfort zone by trying new things in bed such as being more assertive and taking control and doing what I want. But I don't know how it correlates to losing as erection. My only guess would be a little anxiousness and not being in the moment. I wasn't able to fix it so we stopped for that night but had no issues of following morning.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 05:26 PM
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Oys 9 Stats 255lbs, 6'1", 36yo, married for 10 years, together 16 years Lifts & diet 115 OHP, 285 SQ, DL 300lb, BP 135 (I don't get it I've always been weak af here), ROW 125lbs BJJ 3 times a week Met some super jacked military guys and gave me some pointers on diet and what they do to maintain their caloric intake and not fuck around. All they do is meal prep. Same thing every day then switch it up at the end of the week. They say it sucks but it's what they sacrifice for their physique and hea…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/24 11:42 AM
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ASK ME HOW I KNOW. You are the one person over the past few months to give me solid insight and I see you adding value. I'm just trying to do my part.
/r/askMRP20/12/23 06:33 PM
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I edited it. I trusted my friend and it led to him feeling comfortable messaging my wife on social media. The attention was met with open arms then it was sought after. Women are delusional to think that it can be a platonic friendship. Instead beta orbiters do not pull the trigger. They just wait. Other types go for the kill and make intentions known. "We're just friends" is hilarious. PTSD is kicking in, GOTTA RUN!
/r/askMRP20/12/23 06:25 PM
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Never trust a human with a cock.
/r/askMRP20/12/23 06:17 PM
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I had a severe speech impediment growing up and I've curbed it tremendously over the years. When I went to speech therapy we would actually call places and place orders. I'd call and just ask what time the place opened. I hated it. I'd have to read out loud to my class KNOWING it would be a gigantic shit show. We'd play "popcorn" where whoever was reading aloud would pick the next student to read. Guess who was always fucking picked next. I had crippling anxiety to order food going out to eat. G…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/23 05:57 PM
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I'm also a terrible writer. Just edit the best you can and leave out stuff that doesn't matter. My problem is I add too many stories and examples. Some of that stuff is not valuable to the situation and a waste of your time. I'm still learning on how to OYS. You should do that as well. Go back to the marriedredpill sub and go to the latest OYS post and read the examples. I can't imagine you will stick with it because most don't as I did not myself 2 years ago. I was back in the same boat and her…
/r/askMRP20/12/23 04:03 PM
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Cock block, interfere however. But most of all be a better man than your friend. She's bored with you and you must be unattractive to her. So the main rules are be attractive and do not be unattractive. It really helps to be funnier than your friends. Don't be afraid to be crude or offensive. Especially in public but it still has to be funny. And not at your wife's expense. I was kind of in the same boat and I felt paranoia and a horrible amount of fear. I was paralyzed by it. Don't bother looki…
/r/askMRP20/12/23 10:20 AM
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Thank you for this. I try to not eat if I'm on the couch or on my phone already. I'll mindlessly eat handfuls of cashews or trailmix. 500 calories later I'm like FUCK. I'll try the fluids thing as well. There could be something to it thru could curb my false hunger. Its just being fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 11:35 PM
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Stats/Lifts/Fitness Married 10 years, together 17. 1 (9yo), 1 (16yo) 36, 6'1, 255lbs. Failed miserably at my goal of getting to 225 by Jan 1st. Joined back in BJJ finally. It's been killing me. Glad to be back. BP 135, DL 300 5X1(all the weight I have), SQUAT 265 5X5, OHP 105 5X5, BOR 125 5x5 Eating and calories in are my major area I can't seem to get under control with my fat stupid compulsive eating. Social Went on a tropical cruise for 5 days last week and My God the amount of women that are…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/23 04:29 PM
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This shit hurts every time I read it
/r/askMRP18/12/23 08:09 PM
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Ever since joining again back in October, I can't shake the feeling of this urge to finally take a leap and start locally growing my food product. Join fairs, festivals, free sample and local small grocers and delis to get the name out there. I've done a lot of research so far and I want it to be more than a side hustle eventually. I work for someone else's vision in an industry I want nothing to do with and I hate it. Been doing it for 13 years at this point. I'm ready for me. If I fail, fuck i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/23 03:46 PM
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I do not run the finances. My wife is very good at saving when it's worth saving. I don't spend shit. Maybe $30-$50 a week if I go out. If we don't have anything to look forward to, it is like a free for all on amazon and the Chinese cheap bullshit clothes. I've chimed in with my opinion on the excessive spending but it's going to be a dog fight trying to gain control. Time to start warming up. I've canceled a few subscriptions that we literally never use and also started going to ALDI and Sav-a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 07:16 PM
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I probably do care a little. Caring less is progress. I was more assertive rather than playing the cat and waiting for a green light to move forward on the mouse the day of my OYS. Just went for it rather than inching in waiting for a sign of interest and being a fag about it. I can tell I need to be a little more aggressive but still attractive when initiating. I can see the disappointment in my shitty attempts at fucking her. Definitely fat and weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/23 03:55 PM
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I fucked her good last night. A little more game and assertiveness went a bit further than I expected at my stage. Interesting to actually pay attention and use the tools provided. We'll see how it goes the rest of the week. Even put my finger in her ass while she was riding me with no resistance. Thanks for the push
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 01:44 PM
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Nah man not trying to get sympathy. Just a thought. I'm going to read up on game and put it to work. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 06:59 PM
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Do you have any examples or ideas of your pulling attention and being an asshole? I normally just go find something else to do away from her but it still comes off as butt hurt I'm sure. I can be a real asshole to a lot of people but my wife? Hahaha. I'm just curious on what asshole -ish things you've done to turn it up a notch? I wanted to call her a boring cunt the other day but I got scared 🤣. She was being a boring cunt though.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 06:58 PM
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Yeah I'd love to take it to completion. She can can be talking and hinting at sex all day and then recoil at my initiation. I'm obviously doing something wrong. My initiations are predictable and probably annoying. The other day she was in the mirror getting ready and I grabbed her by hips and pull her in to me. She bent over, grind her ass on me til I'm hard then pulled away teasingly. It's in my head "throw her on the bed and rip them panties off". I got scared, afraid she'll call me a fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 02:23 PM
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Oys 7 Overview Looking back at last week I worked hard but I didn't do shit the 2 weeks I was banned. I failed for 2 entire weeks. Looking at the 2 weeks I was banned I put in minimal effort to anything. Until I posted OYS last week and wrote it half assed as fuck. Being called out on it kicked me in to gear again. I don't have an excuse or reason. Just pure laziness. Just trying 1 day at a time at making better choices. Books NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rian Stone Frame, Rational Male, Book of Pook (curren…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 10:49 AM
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Yeah it's an old injury from baseball then BJJ just made it 100% worse. I fixed one issue with it but it's different. According to Google and me being an internet doctor it seems to be an impingement. I will look into exercises you gave me. I do appreciate you. Things are going significantly better in my life. It is true the way I react to things, people will follow. Strange to watch.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 07:26 PM
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You are right. It is a half assed OYS. I normally do a draft the day before but I did not yesterday. I contemplated rewriting yet but it would be just filler because I, like I said, did not do shit for 2 weeks. I'm here though. I DO plan to do shit, and improving is my goal. STFU has done good for me the past 2 weeks and that's a fact. I feel like an asshole for even posting that I've done nothing but I want to post, I want to own my shit. If I didn't, I would have posted. There's no excuses for…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 03:32 PM
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Oys 6 I was banned for 14 for an OYS violation. I would hate to say it but I feel like I realized oys is actually keeping me in check. When I was banned, I felt like I had nothing to lean on and I couldn't do it by myself. During those 2 weeks, I fell off. I ate too much, I didn't lift as much as I should l have. I cannot seem to correct my shoulder issue when doing overhead press and bench press. I need to go see the doctor. It hurts pretty good with any weight over 95 lbs. I found a bulletproo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 11:40 AM
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Probably real gay
/r/askMRP21/11/23 12:56 AM
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Yeah I fucked off. It was all wrong from the start and I never internalized a whole lot. Fell back in to the bullshit and was complacent. Bit me in the ass big time. Sprinkled things here and there, The 2 year thing Rian Stone talks about is exactly what happened to me.
/r/askMRP16/11/23 01:25 PM
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Yeah so she found out about it 2 years ago unintentionally. I never mentioned it but bad OPSEC on my end. She freaked the fuck out about it and thought I was leaving her then. Shit was great for the longest time but it was all LARPing on my end. It all wore off obviously. I accept it's harder this time around because I showed massive improvements then. Even for a limited time, it'll be considered bullshit until actions are shown all around. Dude I wish I had the balls to say "I wish I could be f…
/r/askMRP15/11/23 11:47 PM
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I also agree that the relationship is up to women That's why I avoid taking any responsibility for it in my answer (at least an attempt). Obviously I want the best for us but who knows where that road goes right now. Calibrating and putting my tools to use seems to be quite the challenge. Thank you for responding though.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 04:16 PM
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I usually do not respond to people like to start arguments. To me, it felt more like a fear based question and her hamster is going out of control. I'm just trying to calibrate and lead her hamster out of the maze. And it's on fucking steroids. Thank you for the response. My hamster is also on steroids right now.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 04:06 PM
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Oct 24th. It was great too. Very enthusiastic, rough. I hate fucked her in a vegas hotel room and she loved it. Nothing for a week, been on her period up until yesterday.. Nows the time for "upping" alpha I imagine.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 08:15 PM
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We have definitely had open conversations about her sexuality of sorts and that's never came through. Any dominatrix kinks or anything. I'd even let her take a shot at it if she wanted to honestly now that I'm thinking about it. We have straps and constraints we've never even used. The only thing she pries (or used to) was to put stuff in my ass. It's not about ego, I have just found it uncomfortable in the past. She feels the same way about anal. I've never pried or pushed for that because I'd …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 08:02 PM
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I mean business when I look up how to put reddit text in bold 💪
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 06:44 PM
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We've been fucking regular and having really good sex for a couple years then I went retard a couple months ago and confronted her on some dumb shit. Talking to a male friend on IG. And the way I confront of her was pathetic. You can go into my post history and find if you'd like but I'm pretty sure I fixed that problem. I stooped so low and went through her phone and told her and all my insecurities and paranoia was right out in the open. So I am pretty low in her eyes right now. I'd like to ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 06:09 PM
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I feel like I tried everything to get through her nope. I don't really know seeing as I've never really pushed boundaries. I'm getting shit today over the whole thing. I called her a "hot bitch who can make me cum" and that's what she's dwelling on. We're both fucked up. It was pretty hot and steamy last night so idk what her deal is. Maybe just bitchy because I didn't fuck her the way I should have. I guess we both felt a little shame. What we did was out of the ordinary so I guess it's just a …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 06:01 PM
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I will not be a male submissive. I will not discriminate against people who don't mind that but I don't believe that's for me. Being extremely horny and sex deprived for a couple weeks. I just wanted to bust. My wife is literally doing anything to try to get me to rage. Pressing all my buttons daily and shit tests. Denying sex/physical touch. I'm surprised it even got that far. If it ever goes that way again, I will shut it down because I will not be a male submissive. And that is not what I'm i…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 01:40 PM
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I definitely tried to cum on on her but it was a big NOPE and tried holding up MY pillow to block it lol. I also tried to stop everything after a couple denials but she baited me into it by saying I was going to watch porn to get off in the morning. So RUDE hahaha. Onward.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 11:54 AM
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I felt a little ashamed because I didn't push through. I did enjoy the experience for what it was but after it just felt a little strange because I've never jerked off to completion in front of my wife. We usually end up having sex before I finish. I really feel like it's what she wanted from me. To rip her clothes off and take it. Hold her down and fuck her like a wild animal. Yes her words and stiffness when I would try anything more put me back in my box where she was in charge of this experi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 11:34 AM
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Oys 5 *Lifts/health 255 lbs 6'1" Lifts have not improved much, still working my way back up to squat weight after pulled hamstring. I know cardio doesn't help build muscle but I have been doing a lot to burn the calories to lose the weight. This is the lowest I have ever been in weight since probably high school. I'm proud of myself for this but I cannot slip because of my progress. A lot more to go. My food choices are always hard because I love to eat. I love to eat a lot. I've lost weight thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 10:49 AM
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Fwiw, I did go to bed within 15 minutes. It would have been 30 minutes on the couch before bed, or just getting in bed 15 minutes early. It was at the end of the day. As I've mentioned before I tend to have a lot of get togethers. And a gossipy retard (mom) noticed that my wife and I have been quite distant from each other would normally there's a lot of interaction/playing around and flirting no matter who's around. So she asked my sister if she knew if anything was going on. Which my sister al…
/r/askMRP03/11/23 03:35 PM
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I didn't even know what intrinsic motivation was until you just said it and I looked it up. I like your idea of the foot on/foot off the gas. And everything else you said I will take into consideration. I will look into Iron John as well. My wife knows what I want but not I'm viewed as a dangerous sexual animal. Just a horny fuckin retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 09:56 PM
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So my main thing was not bring able to actually go do something else. I doubt I would have left the house but we were minutes away from going out trick or treating with other parents. The other thing was, even after coming back and pretending for a couple hours everything was okay, I was still annoyed and didn't want to be around her. So when we got back is when I decided to go in the other room and she was surprised that I didn't want to sit with her. That's where I had said in another reply if…
/r/askMRP02/11/23 08:53 PM
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To have my foot on the gas in my opinion would mean to keep driving towards success and positivity creating a better life and outcomes in all aspects (financially, socially, intimately). Letting off the gas would be getting complacent and literally with no drive. Sitting still, not succeeding, excelling or moving forward with anything. Simply wasting and rotting away and going stale. If you have another perspective or way of looking at it, I would love to hear it. I'm open-minded to anything and…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 04:51 PM
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So I'd have to do to disagree on the big covert contract part. Normally I only sit on the couch about an hour before bed and I will throw something on YouTube on the big screen and relax. I can agree with that during an argument though. Because in the past I would have tried to smooth things over by sitting next to her and giving time and attention even though she was disrespectful hours before. You ever heard the the whole "Never go to bed mad at each other" quote? I lived by it. Doing anything…
/r/askMRP01/11/23 07:06 PM
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She was leveling up exponentially and trying everything to get me to react. The only thing I could do at that time finally walk away. She said some things I am not comfortable posting here but extremely disrespectful I tolerated most of it with fogging and AA. Like I said though, she was leveling up and would have gone great lengths to get me to react or argue.
/r/askMRP01/11/23 06:51 PM
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She was leveling up exponentially and trying everything to get me to react. The only thing I could do at that time finally walk away. She said some things I am not comfortable posting here but extremely disrespectful I tolerated most of it with fogging and AA. Like I said though, she was leveling up and would have gone great lengths to get me to react or argue.
/r/askMRP01/11/23 06:13 PM
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Yes. I said "You're being disrespectful and this conversation is over." Is it hiding the bad though? I just don't want to share my business with other family members. They just noticed things were off at the last few get togethers and how distant we were.
/r/askMRP01/11/23 05:53 PM
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Yeah I do have poor boundaries. Punishing bad behavior has never been applied from me. So stepping out of my comfort zone, is in fact, uncomfortable.
/r/askMRP01/11/23 05:35 PM
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It was more addressing me dragging it out hours later. But yeah, I'm a pussy sometimes for sure
/r/askMRP01/11/23 04:06 PM
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Good point, I did not catch that. Yeah, don't fix what isn't broken I suppose. I guess I just hear MY wife telling me what to do out of his post. Like a compliance test you know? But if it's what they normally do, don't be a dummy to change the dynamic. I hope I'm understanding this from a different perspective. I'm a retard but trading notes is part of this so if I'm missing something, I'd like to figure out myself too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 02:56 PM
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Why does he have to post pics though? For everyone to see how great of a family they are? There's not really any details of if he normally post pictures on Halloween or family events/holidays. I hate social media and the way people use their kids to get that dopamine hit from the likes and comments. I'm definitely guilty of it in the past but if she wanted them posted, she could have done it herself or asked him to send her the pictures. God knows that icloud has 20,000 photos already. But none …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 02:49 PM
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Oh good, silent treatment. In my experience it is hard at first to deal with silent treatments and her being cold. But you can find things you have to do ie, go to the gym or take care of stuff that you've been neglecting. It's "you time". Reset tomorrow. If she is not being bitchy or disrespectful, then just pretend it doesn't bother you if you can handle that. Faking it is hard. I still let my wife's mood affect my mood too. Crush those fuckin eggshells you're walking on.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 02:25 PM
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My initiations aren't funny stings. I have listened to NMMNG a few times but never read it. I learn something new every time or take something away at least. Same with Rian Stones "Frame", WISNIFG, and MMSLP. I've listened to all of them a few times but just started again. I went through all of this 2 years ago and never fully internalized or put the effort in. She even knew about all this 2 years ago. She went through everything and seen it all. Sex was fucking insane and abundant. I let of the…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 01:18 AM
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Thank you for the suggestions. I have never thought about taking time for myself to cook an amazing meal. And especially not telling anyone. I am thinking of this as a challenge and I'll take you up on it. Seems like an interesting way to reflect on why I do the things I do. It is my passion, and I love the results. But I've never done it just for me. Thank you. I'd feel so alone I think. Fuck i might even cry sitting there by myself. Every time my wife goes out of town or away for the weekend, …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 01:07 AM
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I def do not like her... right now. Most of the time I do. At least I thought I did.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 12:52 AM
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Honk her nose 🤣🤣🤣 it seems like a nuke button but also hilarious
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 05:04 PM
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I asked myself the same questions. I asked if I actually love my wife. I asked myself if I am afraid of being alone or if I am afraid of not having having a mommy caretaker to make sure all my bills are paid on time. I asked myself if I want to do it all on my own. I asked myself this a lot over the past couple months because I went from being 20 year old loser to a 36 year old loser letting life happen to me. I could do it on my own. I can take care of myself. I haven't had to prove it yet but …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 04:16 PM
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I did say "Which new girl?" Hahahaha
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 03:21 PM
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Edit. You shared this and I thought it was a reply to mine. My Reddit is acting crazy. Edit 2. I'm just retarded. You shared a comment in regards to people being nice but the "emotional landscape" is what caught my eye. Because that's all I really hear about is emotional connection. "Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman’s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendevous. Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:50 AM
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I also believe that my wife does see that I'm extroverted and I like to talk to people and sometimes be the center of attention. And for the longest time I was never the guy to be invited to parties and stuff like that, so I start my own parties/bbq's. Over the past couple years, I have been invited to numerous parties and guest listed for special events. Don't get me wrong, they are not extravagant. Just regular people parties and barbecues and concerts. A lot is punk rock/underground stuff. I …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:45 AM
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OYS 4 My mission Just be better. Be in charge. Be assertive. My vision To be a successful man with options, financially independent and the freedom to do whatever I want without feeling bad or guilty. I want to fuck. A lot. Whether its my wife or 6 other girls. Lifts/health Weight 258(no change) Calories in, not enough out. . Height 6'1" age 36 Squat 200lbs (recovering from pulled hamstring after 7 weeks off squats) OHP 95LBS, DL 245LBS, BP 165lbs. Rotator cuff is screaming right now. Taking thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 08:52 AM
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Just stick to it. I fucked off for 2 years and back at square one.. if not square 0. But worse then before. Do not let off the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 06:09 PM
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Wow. I'd love to hear your thoughts on the skills to create attraction. How are you physically? Or how were you before MRP? I'm not even close to the boat you were in but when I think about what is happening in my relationship, I could imagine the things you saw and went through. Very scary. I'm trying to get it in my head that I have nothing to lose at this point but I know inside that I would be crushed if I went any further south.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 04:19 PM
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*EDIT/UPDATE 8:03PM** OYS 3 Lifts Same as last week. Was on vacation, did plenty of walking. Not able to do regular exercises so I improvised and used what I could for the 5 days I was gone. Reads WISNIFG has been slapping me in the face every chance I get to listen. I've slipped back over the past couple years. I do not and have not used the tools available in the book and am relearning. NMMNG has also reminded me of how I fell in to a hole and began my nice guy ways again without even realizin…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 01:48 PM
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Seems reasonable that if I've given a request to help with stuff around the house while I'm doing other things, that she should get up and do it. It is supposed to be my ship though. So if FO fails short, it STILL has to be done. It seems reasonable to leave her some responsibilities rather than doing it all myself. I have not owned it as that's what I want for the standard. How would a masculine IN CHARGE man handle it? I am far from that so I'm still asking silly questions.
/r/askMRP18/10/23 04:58 PM
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If I can say that I have any abundance of anything, it is the double binds and shit tests right now. It is almost laughable to see it in action but it also is realistic and very concerning. I am not getting broken down or letting her change my mood in any way. Just trying to stay away to avoid getting sucked into her frame any more than I already am. I do have a question though. When I'm getting things done around the house, and she's sitting there doing absolutely nothing- how the hell do I get…
/r/askMRP18/10/23 01:35 PM
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I'll remember that. Sharing meals is cost effective and also less calories. Expensive and full of salt in Vegas.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 05:12 PM
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Would you agree that it might be best to not even try to go through her phone or monitor at this time? I know it definitely won't help me but I just have the insane feeling that I have to look and I have to know but I really do not want to know. I don't think it matters because it won't change the situation. I tried to give less fucks but it is pretty hard at this point. Even though there is nothing I can do, I hate being out of control. I failed to mention that I am obsessive and also compulsiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 01:36 PM
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OYS #2 Why I'm here I'm a dancing monkey. I'm a beta husband who pretended to be something I'm not. I have let go of all of the things I thought I had learned and "internalized" over the past 2 years and it has all gone to hell. No respect or attraction from my wife and my marriage is in rough rough seas right now. Goals Be a successful man with abundance. To not be needy and codependent. To feel abundance, to not feel scared and unsuccessful. To have a better outlook on life and have high self …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:35 AM
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I was about to go to bed with a halfway clear head for once. This is an ugly truth that was on my mind at my bbq. But reading that is fucking horrific.
/r/askMRP17/10/23 12:45 AM
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I beat around the bush big time and didn't state the boundary with consequences..I was scared when I confronted her and honestly should have came here 1st. I pussy footed around saying I find it makes me uncomfortable and asked how she'd feel if it was the other way around. She said she'd feel the same way even though it's all platonic conversations. For now. I was a big bitch about it. I also assumed that it was just implied it's not OK because I wouldn't do the same. Is it bit disrespectful as…
/r/askMRP12/10/23 11:20 PM
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Yes I have read when I say no I feel guilty. I resented doing yleven though I didn't want to. I did it with a bad attitude. But in the afterthought I feel like I should have been there for her and helped her out in a time of need instead of blowing up and making her feel bad when there was no other way for her to get to the hospital. I honestly don't even think I apologized until she brought it up at least a couple weeks after the fact. I just said something along the lines of "yeah I understand…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 03:26 PM
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I sincerely felt bad so yeah I apologized. I felt it was warranted for fucking up. It didn't help anything, that's for sure. But is it actually wrong to apologize if you are sincere? I know it's a low value thing if you are apologizing to try to smooth it over for a better outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 01:41 PM
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0% Alpha 0% beta. Thought I was being cute/cocky but sometimes she was always the butt of the joke. Embarrassing her. After denial of sex I would take away time and attention away until the next day and try initiate. Kino too frequent/too insincere. Maybe was still just too unattractive to just take what I want. I got real shitty with her about 4 months ago because she needed a ride to see her dad at the hospital because he was dying of cancer. I had something planned that day and I still took h…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 07:49 PM
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Idk why I would spend the time doing that. I've read that is always the idea. Game/kino/escalate/initiate. Then if declined, remove time and attention (not even wanted in my case). It was overtly exclaimed that physical touch is not welcome but attempting to push through with a smile was still validation seeking. I am below level 0 at this point In the beginning of this disaster, I became grossly affectionate for like 2 days and snapped out of it. I realized it was dumb. I was also basing my moo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 04:44 PM
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I'm a co dependent, anxious idiot. And I'm telling you, I've never been like this. But mainly I think because there has never been an obvious threat that I have noticed. It really hit me hard that is possible for other men to swoop in.
/r/askMRP11/10/23 09:32 AM
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I mean there is stuff to catch up on around the house that I've neglected. Putting my time to good use I suppose. Now that I type this, though - I thought I was well past choreplay. But when I look a little deeper, there's a boy that says "I hope mom likes that I'm doing a good job". I know it's definitely not gonna result in ejaculation.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 09:08 AM
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It's the relationship. I obsess (as you can see) and I'm either in control or out of control on most things. Vacations and weekends fuck me up and I lose all momentum and discipline sometimes but I know it's a never ending task of eating right mindfully.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 10:54 PM
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I went to an anger management therapist for 6 months before. She cried about politics to me. Literal tears. It was pathetic. She was a 450lb black woman with a shaved head. It was disturbing
/r/askMRP10/10/23 09:33 PM
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Also, that's why I implied I went Rambo. Fucked it all up
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 08:12 PM
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Protein, greens, veggies. Stay away from sweet treats and stuff that's not fuel for the body. Still doing crazy upper body weight exercises for cardio and strength. My legs are useless right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 07:10 PM
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There's a bunch of home repairs that needed done such as new ceiling fans, supports for my daughters bed, random things. Got a bunch of supplies and am working now to get it done. Save some work for when she's home. I just got home, she'll be home later. No plan to sit on the couch for the next few days. Or ever. I initiated last night and got further than I have recently. Still shot down but at least some kissing and groping. (Yay for scraps) I felt like I moved too slow and it went stale withi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 07:09 PM
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I'll send my venmo
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 05:43 PM
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Just posted pal
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 05:43 PM
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OYS 1 You can find my disgusting victim puke over at ask MRP yesterday titled "I think it's too late". Lifts/diet OHP 125lb max, DL 300lb max , BP 200max, Sq 280lbs max Weight FAT (260) Was over 400 a 3 years ago. Lost 100lb, then barely tried after losing more then went up a bit thinking I was "good enough". Diet back on point, eating clean and no bullshit unless we go out to dinner. Appetizers are like crack. Have been training BJJ and MMA for over a year now but had to take a break 5 weeks ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 05:41 PM
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I only care out of jealousy and her not wanting my attention or validation right now. I wouldn't think she would be so stupid to escalate but I have been so naive and hypergamy slapped me right in the face so hard. Wife goggles have crumbled into dust at this point and I just have to work on myself before I do anything. I can't handle a divorce, I don't know how to enforce boundaries without still feeling bad. And I am a huge failure right now.. I feel much better this morning but everything sti…
/r/askMRP10/10/23 12:40 PM
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I could def defend myself but like you said I went about it totally the wrong way. Unattractively mate guarding and then just by going to him and doubling down after that I assume would probably be even worse and more embarrassing. I could definitely defend myself against him and I would not be afraid to do so if it came down to it but I really don't think that would help any. I'm not going to fight a a guy for a girl. I've been doing bjj over a year and this guy is like 52. Strong but old. We'r…
/r/askMRP10/10/23 10:43 AM
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She's withholding because "I'll go back to doing the same stuff and acting the same way". It's a fucked up power struggle I can't get a hold of. We fucked the night before I said anything then she shut it down. It's been 5 weeks. We're both irritated but I'm telling you it's a power struggle. I see it in her eyes.
/r/askMRP09/10/23 07:13 PM
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I ate all the paint.
/r/askMRP09/10/23 06:04 PM
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Yeah even when I am aloof around the house doing things, every time I walk by there's either a question or something to say by her. But for like a whole week or was just quiet and reserved...1 word answers and glued to tik tok. I'm just moving around being cheerful and nice to my kids and she normally hops on board with the fun people. Even if it's "chill time before bed" normally full of conversation and looking forward to our vegas trip next week and cruise on December. Its just all a harsh re…
/r/askMRP09/10/23 05:28 PM
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I've learned a lot of mental models and lost a lot of my nice guy ways but def still working on being fat. And DIDN'T STFU at the most crucial time.
/r/askMRP09/10/23 04:38 PM
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It wrapped up before he got there anyway so he never showed. Probably made her sad😂. I literally did not have the option to uninvite him without the obvious reasons though. It would have blew up a whole bunch (with all our friends) if I said he wasn't allowed. I'm not even threatened by him. Its HER who likes the attention. But she's attractive so I'm sure he's not loyal enough to me to not fuck her. He's just a cool dude and can't deny that. And I don't want to compete with somebody. I'm not go…
/r/askMRP09/10/23 04:34 PM
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She said s he is afraid to be intimate with me right now because she doesn't trust me and doesn't feel safe anymore. She said she wants to have sex and to be intimate but if she gives it up I will just go back to the same way I was. I don't even bring up the issue, I just still initiate knowing I will get shot down mostly haha. Actually every time in the past month. I'm so confused and mad at myself and I don't know how far things will go..i honestly don't think it'll go anywhere and I'm trying …
/r/askMRP09/10/23 04:08 PM
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Yes it was a CC for her not to invite or accept other male attention. After being with her for 16 years, I assumed it was just implied. As we have had discussions about that in the past but never online chatting that I can remember. Just hanging out with other men is an absolute deal breaker. But I feel like I just made it worse by confronting it dude. The conversations haven't gone anywhere in the dangerous territory but I'm afraid that the addiction to validation and attention will just suck h…
/r/askMRP09/10/23 03:35 PM
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I read many situations on here before I made my decision to mention it. And it was ungodly stupid of me. She knew something was off and she got all sweet and nice and asked me what is on my mind.. I reached out to one of the mods through a DM but I never heard back so I didn't bother posting for whatever reason. What would you have done?
/r/askMRP09/10/23 03:07 PM
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I failed hugely. I get so much validation from everywhere in my life except my home. And that's where I want to feel the best. I thought it was but it was all bull shit. I'm not looking for fault nywhere else but I'm just so blown away that I screwed up so badly. Here I am explaining and rationalizing.... Oys tomorrow, yes. I thought I had it figured out and failed on oys about 4 months in. I'm one of the hundreds that eventually deleted my old account. Horns helped me a lot and I had this going…
/r/askMRP09/10/23 02:49 PM
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She will think you're butt hurt for a long time. Because you probably will be. You should not have told her "you're skipping bjj because you're little muscles are too sore". DLV right there, my friend. Kino throughout the day, escalate/initiate when you feel and if/when you get rejected, go to bjj. Or do anything else to hide how butthurt you are.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 04:45 PM
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I only heard a windshield called a windscreen once in my life and it was by Michael Bisping. Yesterday...I can guess where you're from👀
/r/askMRP08/03/22 03:39 PM
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Walk through the problem with them and try to understand who was in the wrong. Logic rarely works but give it a shot. Even though it's ALWAYS nonsense and they're over in just a matter of minutes or hours. Don't react or be emotional. It's up to you to calm down the chaos.
/r/askMRP28/02/22 10:36 PM
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