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Do what exactly? That’s a pretty broad question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 07:56 PM
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I sympathize with the efforts to be attentive and romantic can be received as “creepy” Any kind of attention is creepy when it’s unwanted. Women don’t realize they’re subconsciously rejecting a guy by labeling his efforts as creepy when in fact, he’s making the effort to be endearing. So then she goes and tells all her friends that he’s a creep, thus ruining his reputation. Example: after a good date, he might send her flowers at work to say he’s thinking about her. If She did not think that hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 03:11 PM
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Please share any specific threads you’re talking about: I am genuinely curious about this “law” bc I keep googling the circumstances of men being forced into child support for children they didn’t acknowledge as their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 01:21 AM
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Most women find conflict in rejecting a guy right there bc we don’t know what his reaction will be. It’s far to often that the guy won’t take no for an answer and will lash out at her. This is why women give out fake numbers. But I just take the approach that I prefer to keep my phone number private and do most of my charting and casual conversations through apps. I say the same thing in OLD when they want to ditch the dating app. I feel that giving out my phone number gives way too much access …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 08:00 PM
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I don’t give out my number. I’ll connect on snap or ig or whatever, but my number stays private.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 07:50 PM
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Really? Bc I just did a quick search and I’m not seeing any threads where men are crying about paying child support for kids that are not theirs. My guess is that it occurs with serious LTR where he assumed the role of father for a significant time period, therefore voluntarily taking responsibility for the child. Men are putting their own name on the birth certificate out of their own free will, because they are assuming responsibility for the child. I could see isolated incidents inside super …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 02:12 PM
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Kind: having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature Nice: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory I don’t see a significant different here. I know a person claims to be nice but may show a lack of kindness to a particular sub group of people. Ex: when someone is nice to you but rude to the restaurant server. Personally speaking, I don’t get enjoy a relationship with someone who is always agreeable. Don’t be a doormat. Or as I have experienced, a bear rug.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 03:49 AM
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Just bc you KNOW that men do everything with the motivation to be attractive and find a mate, does NOT mean that you KNOW women do everything with the motivation to find a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:07 PM
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Every man has the right to a paternity test at any time. Nobody is forcing men to pay for children that aren’t theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 09:31 PM
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Men are just as guilty of ghosting. I will say that I don’t ghost, and will let a guy know why I thought something he said was wrong or whatever. The problems I’ve seen is that they double down to reinforce their stance and claim “it was a joke” or “you’re just being sensitive” So in the regard, why waste to time and energy to explain to someone how they’ve insulted you and said something that made you uncomfortable? They aren’t going to listen anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:13 PM
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Well yea! That’s entirely voluntary on his part. He chose to make that decision and accept the child as his own. That’s quite different than saying there’s a law that makes stepdads pay child support after a breakup without that being part of the nuptial agreement. How often are men dating pregnant women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:34 PM
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Ummm I work out because I don’t want to feel like crap. After having babies, the extra weight is physically exhausting to carry and I’d rather be able to sleep at night than feel my joints aching. That has nothing to do with getting a mate 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:26 PM
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You sound like you’re speaking from personal experience. Why tell in yourself like that?!? No seriously, go visit one of those exhibits. They are not sexy or attractive outfits at all. Rapists are predators and do not care about what someone is wearing or how “attractive” the woman is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:45 PM
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It’s attracts mates, whether or not we want. A woman who does it up every single day is doing it for herself. The attraction is a a bonus and if a guy happens to chat her up, she’s under no obligation to entertain him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:42 PM
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Tell me more about these animal instincts that you’re such an expert of!!! You should check out the exhibits called “what I was wearing.” They’re pop up awareness exhibits where they show case what people were wearing when they got raped. It might enlighten you a bit. My desire to put on makeup has less to do with attracting a man and more to do with the occasion. The style of my haircut is for convenience. Same for my nails. The clothes I wear are what I’m comfortable in and how I see MYSELF as…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:14 PM
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I want to know where in the hell are men being forced into child support for a child they don’t actually have? Seriously?! I can’t get child support out of the actual fathers and not once have I ever considered asking an EX for child support just bc they were around my kids for a couple years. I need answers!! Where is this “law”? For me, there’s a lot of factors that make dating hard. 1) I already have my kids and will not be having any more. 2) plans have to made ahead of time. Sitters have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:03 PM
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As. 30+ woman, I can say that I’m not settling. Maybe it’s bc I had a very close call with a narcissist/alcoholic a few years back and refuse to ever put up with mistreatment ever again. I believe anyone who has experienced toxic relationships will have the knowledge and strength to stay away from red flags. That’s not being picky, that’s being smart and valuing yourself. While most people around me are married and going on family vacations and exploring cool stuff, I’m the broke single mom work…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:19 PM
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When y’all are complaining about heavy makeup, unnaturally colored hair, fake nails and lots of embellishments, THEY ARE NOT FOR YOU! It’s fine to say you don’t like that type. Bc everyone has a type. But I promise you that the type of women who is doing this, does it bc SHE wants to do it and has nothing to do with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:10 PM
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Yup! I keep my hair quite short for convenience. Saves money on shampoo and weeds out the doosh canoes that assume I’m a lesbian or a Karen lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:07 PM
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Ambition is attractive. Achievement is more attractive. You can have ambition to invent the next great toaster oven and finding a partner to back your dream and support you is golden. But if that toaster oven fails and you refuse to let it go, then you’ll be stuck in a situation where your partner feels cheated for their efforts. Check out the movie Acrimony. It’s just an example of how toxic ambition can be if there’s no results. The flip side of being partnered with someone who is comfortable …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:36 AM
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This list is garbage. 1-5 are not red flags. They’re cosmetics that make women feel beautiful and confident. In most cases, they do it for themselves and have little interest in doing it to attract a man. When a woman is confident in herself, she exudes a confident a attitude and that in itself, is attractive. 6) social media can be an addiction and someone who posts more than they engage would likely mean they have a mental illness ie narcissism.* 7) fishing for compliments? This person needs t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 09:37 PM
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My response to that post would be that communication across the digital platforms come with zero context and or emotion. How often is Yeah! Confused with yeah… like one word can mean excited and also bland. Which is why one word responses are annoying. Online communication isn’t for everyone tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 09:14 PM
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I’d love to see that post. I’m over 30 and reading this list like dude needs to be dating more mature women, ones who are sure of themselves and more genuinely “real” rather than trying to chase the perfect standards of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:55 PM
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I’ll be sure to let you know when I release my book telling my entire story for all the details. Maybe next time you won’t be so dismissive as to say “that’s not really abuse if you agreed to blah blah blah”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:21 PM
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Yes. Manipulation and ultimatums run very deep. Just because a person stays with an abuser does not mean they consent to being abused and controlled. As many told me, if he didn’t hit me, then he wasn’t really abusing me. Yet I was fighting to maintain control over myself and decisions for my children. He was violent and had manic outbursts when I didn’t do things his way. Quite often I went ahead and did what I wanted to do despite his reactions. I also had many lectures on what abuse would pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:41 PM
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Parentheses said “that part came later” This is grooming and literally how any abusive relationship starts. It’s starts with expression of opinion and compromise. Any two people coming together from different backgrounds will have this experience in the beginning of a relationship. There’s no other way around that. I didn’t AGREE to changing my clothes, I did that on my own, only in the sense that I ditched some of my “junior” type clothing (crop tops and booty shorts) But he wasn’t satisfied an…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 03:19 PM
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“Perhaps” …. I’m guessing reading comprehension is hard for you. Did I need to detail every bit of the two years I endured this scenario? Yes, abusers will start small and then escalate their demands. That’s what grooming is. Op wants to know the line between being assertive and being controlling. The answer is that you can express an opinion and hope your partner will respond or at least compromise. That’s assertive. But when that opinion is forced on a person and they’re punished for not compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:52 PM
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Yes he did actually do all that. Im sorry you misread my original account of how a situation can go from aggressive assertion to absolute psycho controlling behavior. In the beginning, it all seemed like my choice. But after a while, it was controlling. Sure I gave up volunteering, but I never wanted to be isolated from my friends or the passion that I had for those projects, which is why I did it in the first place. Like I said, I was ok with not working those events, but then he wouldn’t allow…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:55 PM
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The line is drawn where discomfort is found. Let’s say the couple agrees to having location services on. You want to know when they’re done working and headed home safely and you want to have a meal ready for them. So you time it all out so that they can come home, have a few min to relax and then eat. But what if they don’t know you’ve got this surprise planned and they stop by a friend’s house on the way. Their friend had a mini crisis and needed a friend to talk to. Is there a “rule” between …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:37 PM
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Very true. Relationships have compromises when two people come from very different worldviews. When I 28 and began seriously dating an older man, I started to dress more conservatively, as I was no longer a college aged single girl, I was approaching 30 and about to get married. So longer shorts, less spaghetti straps and just a general preppy style that complimented his style. However, if I did happen to buy something he didn’t like or put together an outfit he didn’t approve of, he’d let me kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:27 PM
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It is! Bc people are preferring to be more isolated and untrusting of people. It became painfully obvious during lockdown that neighbors were unwilling to help neighbors. Especially people with kids who were unwilling to allow anyone to help bc they don’t trust people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:37 PM
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He claimed that he loved my spitfire personality that fought back when he said stuff like that. But he was a true narcissist and I had a very strong village that wasn’t going to tolerate his existence anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 09:26 PM
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Literally. I was a single mom and my ex fiancé often stated that nobody else is going to want a woman with two kids already bc men don’t raise other men’s babies. Like he invented the stepdad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:28 PM
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First off, people who air their relationship openly will always catch extra input with narrow minded views. Just don’t do it. Saves everyone a lot of grief and energy. The ones who do this are contributing to the toxic environment. Most of the time, it’s money and stability. People will say anything to keep a partner from leaving, including promises of change in attitude. Abuse always starts small too. First it’s a violent outburst against inanimate objects like throwing something. She’ll get sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:22 PM
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Won’t stop men from abandoning their children either.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:16 PM
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A lot of women don’t realize that certain medications will render birth control Ineffective. A round of antibiotics will cancel birth control effects for several weeks, yet doctors do not warn anyone of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 07:15 PM
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Skin are is just as good as wearing makeup. In the last couple years, women have realized makeup is less important than having good skincare. And if you know how to wear makeup in a natural way, anyone care wear it bc you can’t tell. Have you ever seen a local TV personality out in public? I Guarantee your weatherman and sports anchors are wearing makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:21 PM
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True, but a straight man who has a quality skincare routine is sexy. Let’s get facials together!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:49 PM
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To me, a man around my age, 37, would look like; a job/career path with ambitions for growth. Stable living conditions and transportation. Emotional intelligence and maturity. Doesn’t trash talk ex’s or his parents (no matter how shitty they were, therapy exists). Hobbies and friend groups that he can share with his partner but also be ok with partner doing their own thing as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 04:14 PM
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I did waste my youth on myself. No regrets!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 03:16 PM
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How about men not abandon their committed relationship and family bc he’s horny for a “hotter” woman. There’s a whole to say for how attractive a person is based on personality traits. Do not dump the mother of your children just bc her body changed! Grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:41 PM
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Yup! Artists need their space to work. Personality types vary in all relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 03:40 AM
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In a mutually respected relationship, there’s no tit for tat. So to answer your question, no he doesn’t put his own desires aside. He’s happy following her lead. Not all men want to be the alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:57 PM
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That’s not their relationship personality tho. It’s not about tit for tat. He loves watching her work and explore. He loves being in the supporting character role and isn’t fighting about who’s in charge of what.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:23 PM
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There’s no opposite. “Damaged” is just a sad excuse to claim a woman is beaten down and Carrie’s too much trauma to be fully functioning. A person, any person, is capable of being confident in their decisions so they don’t need acceptance or permission from anyone. It’s just a personality type that some women have. Just like there are men who are ok being the homebody, full time dad while their partner pursues a career. If I had to give a name for that type of lady, then I’d say she is a Captain…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:20 PM
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He’s the kind of man who knows that his lady is steering her own ship. He may or may not be particularly interested in her projects, but he goes along to support her, knowing full and well that she’s going to do it with or with him. He has the choice to stay behind, or tag along to see what she comes up with next.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:12 PM
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You do care about women right? Do you know what an ectopic pregnancy is? Do you know what what happens when a baby does not form properly and can literally kill the mom if they don’t evacuate the toxic cells? It’s a sick and twisted way of thinking that nonexistent babies are more valuable than the health of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:45 PM
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I’m going to ask you to stop harassing me now. You’ve been at this well over an hour and I already said I was done and you doubled down to move onto a whole other comment on a different threat. You’re not funny and you’re not going to change my own opinion of the general topic of the debate. People are not objects and they don’t lose value, whether you mean sexually or financially. It’s a disgusting point of view to have. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 02:06 AM
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Grow a pair and learn how to debate like an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:57 AM
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*this. Women stand up for themselves and get told to stop being emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:42 AM
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Boobs. He likes his ladies topless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:37 AM
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It sounds like you’re the one with feelings 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:14 AM
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Who said anything about me? Women reach their sexually peaks in their 40s, hence the reason you see older women with younger men. And you’re talking about her value being tied to her reproductive purposes, that’s even worse. Don’t post on debates groups if you don’t care to engage in a debate. Of you would call a woman emotional for having an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:04 AM
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You agree that it’s gross but you double down on the sexist rhetoric. JFC HUMANS DO NOT LOSE VALUE WITH AGE! individuals who make shitty life choice may not have much to show for their time spent on earth, but that isn’t specific to either sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 12:56 AM
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Thank you! These types of men will find every reason to trash on women and then thirst all over their profiles, desperate to find their “number one lady” or whatever. They’ll tear up single moms but can’t comprehend how some women don’t want children at all. And then act like grown men don’t have baggage too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:02 PM
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When men get grey hair, it’s acceptable. When men get wrinkles, it’s acceptable. The societal standards for women pressure them to stay younger looking. Bc as this whole post has suggested, the older the women, the less she is valued.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 07:24 PM
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That’s bc men are allowed to age while women are pressured to stay young.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 06:37 PM
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It’s good fodder for Whole Man Disposal Service groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 06:27 PM
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Exactly bc I’m a woman. Duh. A man made a post and a woman doesn’t agree lol. Is this your first day on the internet? Did OP post this in a male only group? No. Did he not expect responses that wouldn’t agree? Maybe, but that’s now how this works.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:42 PM
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How tho? How do women lose value with age while men gain value with age?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:40 PM
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It’s a disgusting analogy and totally unfair. A fair comparison would be to make them both cars, then explain their differences. This post is comparing apples to oranges and riddled with sexist rhetoric. Of course it’s offensive. It’s literally saying women lose value for have multiple owners while men’s value is raised for having multiple owners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:33 PM
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Try following the conversation….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:30 PM
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Except that we’re actually talking about people, not items manufactured in a factory. Each individual lives life by making decisions that lead to an outcome, whether that be a negative or positive outcome. Regardless of their sex, a person will increase in value if they put in the work to do so. If poor decisions are made, then they won’t have as much success. A person does not gain or lose value based on their levels of success. A person is a person, not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:30 PM
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You truly believe that men don’t lose value if they’ve had multiple partners? If I met a 50yo man who’s been married 5 times, I’m not going to see his value as being more. Did that experience make him an expert husband? No, it’s the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:13 PM
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Your analysis is gross. Women do not lose value with age. It doesn’t matter how many “owners” she’s had. Try making a fair comparison. Both men and women are cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:06 PM
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I absolutely love being compared to inanimate objects. -said no woman ever 🤮 ETA: I have blocked “thoughts” for doxxing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 04:01 PM
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Exposure to sexual knowledge = slut Desire for sexual knowledge= hussy Preference for quality = materialistic
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:46 AM
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I believe this falls under control the category of sexually compatible. The desire for porn is not isolated to one gender and can be enjoyed by couples together as well as solo excursions. It’s important for couples to communicate their desires before they start engaging in such activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:09 AM
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