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Rantninjaxams4/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 11:28 AM
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Your definitely not alone, was very much in the same place. Choose yourself and your kids and don’t let some rotten cunt wreck your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 04:46 PM
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I understand 100%, I tried for almost 5 years after the affair I knew about. Throwing away your entire life is hard especially with kids involved but living in absolute misery isn’t a great option either. I hope your more successful than what I was, good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 04:44 PM
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As someone who took the dogs with them I’m gonna say they are lol.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 02:25 AM
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Because he wasn’t with me 90% of the time during those 2 months because I probably would have caught him at my house. He choose to stay at his mothers who is never home so the chances of him getting away with that were much greater. He was doing it multiple times a day there including having people pull up in the middle of the night to sell. Easy to do over there. And yea I could definitely tell something was up, he wasn’t himself. I thought it was his meds being adjusted because we have had to …
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 06:34 PM
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Yea I’m not typically one for meds like that but sometimes they are absolutely necessary. You have no idea wtf has gone on with him however so feel free to withhold the judgment.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 03:35 PM
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Great advice, thank you
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 12:29 PM
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Its really hard and you have to put in the work for things to improve, not wait for it to happen. I struggled really hard the first month I moved into my own place but eventually became comfortable. Another month or so passed and I met someone I really enjoy spending time with. I had a really rough past 6 years. Was cheated on and treated like shit by the person who I trusted most and tried to fix things as best I could (I couldn’t move past it and she filed). I’m now with someone who values who…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 05:41 AM
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There nothing to understand brother, she’s rotten and selfish and lacks true integrity and decency. Good people don’t do that to others and honor their word, its really that simple. I’m sorry your here but shes given you a golden opportunity to improve and be a stronger person. Embrace that shit and evolve. Fuck that bitch, your better than what she deserves anyway. Don’t dwell and move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/25 03:54 PM
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Experienced this. One of the exs friends even gifted her a cake with a topper showing the ex bride shoving the husband to the side with the words finally free with my kids right there the weekend I moved out. This lady didn’t know me, what I went through, how I was cheated on, abused, taken advantage off, that I make the effort to see my kids every fucking day and cook for them because my ex can’t, that I mowed that bitches grass up until 6 weeks ago, ect. But yea, thank god I’m gone! She has a …
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 09:13 AM
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We had our problems, I was pretty upset I did the entirety of the cooking and cleaning for over a decade for example and I was overly critical about certain things so I definitely had my faults as well but she ultimately cheated and I couldn’t get past it. Tried for several years but I definitely had built some walls and she wasn’t happy with the amount of love I gave to her “officially”. Unofficially I often wonder if there was someone else or she just hit that 40yo midlife crisis horseshit tha…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 03:47 PM
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I didn’t although I thought about it a thousand times. Probably wouldn’t have ended well for me, I don’t know when or if I would have stopped after I started hurting that mother fucker and neither of them are worth me completely screwing up my life. He got his in the end, kinda. You see they ruined two families, 6 kids involved, and he was an abusive piece of shit whose wife was afraid to leave him. She tried in the end and he held a gun to her head in front of their kids. Ended up going to jail…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 07:19 PM
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Emdr therapy, it will help you process that shit properly. Wish I would have done it years ago. Good luck man, it sucks but you’ll make it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 12:02 PM
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Cheaters typically don’t truly regret their actions.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 09:05 PM
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Angry rock lol Rise against, I prevail, lp, ect. All the screaming and yelling is therapeutic 🤙
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 03:28 PM
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Sadly this is 1000% accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 03:42 PM
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Thanks man, best to you as well. I’m sorry your here.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 01:36 PM
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6 years out from her affair, 5 years of trying to live with that for the greater good and working on the marriage, 1 year after her filing, and 2 months divorced. Almost 19 years married. Have been living in the same house but thats coming to an end, had an offer accepted on a house 2 days ago. It does get easier over time. It can be one hell of an emotional roller coaster and there are more bad days than good, especially in the beginning. All of you will get through it though, just like I will.…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/25 11:17 AM
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Your not responsible for her ho ass activities brother. No one is perfect and every relationship will have its ups and downs but there is zero justification for fucking someone else when you are in a committed relationship. Thats a choice she made on her own regardless of what problems you guys had.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/25 02:46 PM
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I’ve worked with several women that I probably could have cheated on my wife with but I never wanted to go that route, Ik I would have ultimately lost my family and that was reason enough to stay loyal. She didn’t feel the same however and had an affair. Our marriage wasn’t great before and despite its improved state (imo) shes not happy with a less than perfect marriage and filed. Its been 6 years in may that I found out and dealing with the pain and sense of loss over that time was really fuck…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 10:31 AM
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The fact you feel the need to ask speaks volumes. Its your life and at the end of the day you have to live with the choices you make and be comfortable with them but if it was me I would do everything to stay in that kids life, hes the most important thing here. Not your wife, not your side chick (who was perfectly ok with splitting up a family btw), not even your fucked up cheating bs or how much your worth, but that little kid who deserves to grow up happy and feeling loved. Fix your shit dude…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 11:26 AM
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I feel this 100%. I can let go of her, she already had an affair, but the loss of my family is killing me. Its very difficult for men because of how we are wired, we find comfort and happiness being part of a group. Women don’t think like this. Best you can do for yourself is just recognize things are going to be different and you will adjust and get through it just like every other shitty situation you have been dealt in life.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 01:12 PM
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Been through this and stayed for 5 years until she decided I couldn’t give her what she needed because of the resentment surrounding her affair. She begged me to stay and I did foolishly. It totally depends on him and if hes the type to hold onto things but my advice would be to end it and don’t drag him through that. It’s abusive and unfair to him. Each person is different and I know couples that have stuck it out but it didn’t work out for myself. I won’t lecture you about your choices but I d…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 11:46 AM
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Her affair. She begged me to stay and I did my best to move past that, still got brought up on occasion however and I was ultimately unable to. Pretty sure I have some pstd from that time in my life. Had nothing but the best intentions for my family. She claims that I’m unable to give her the love she needs because of that trauma so shes had enough. Could be interested in someone else unofficially, who knows. Probably better off because shes never valued me or anything I’ve ever done.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 06:06 PM
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Your a lousy kindergarten teacher, I seen those fingerpaintings you bring home and they suck!
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 07:06 PM
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Sex never really turned off, definitely became a chore at different points for her throughout the marriage however. Sex is pretty much the only thing we did have outside of our dedication to our kids and pets. It was usually pretty awesome. That said I would definitely do it over again for my kids. Shes a manipulative, abusive, and cheating pos but we somehow churned out two great kids that I think the absolute world of. They are definitely the best of us and worth the 19 years of crap I went th…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 01:58 PM
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Stuck in the same situation man, shit sucks. She filed the beginning of last month after having told me in February that she wanted a divorce. Waiting on papers to be served. I’ve done so much for this woman, even tolerated a fucking affair as best I knew how. Beyond furious and hurt. The silver lining is I get to live with my kids fulltime and my dogs, all of which are 10 and at the end of their lives, get to stay in a proper house with an actual yard. My two shepherds have severe anxiety and t…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 12:03 AM
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