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Not true. I was over 40 with no kids, and did very well, had a ton of fun. I have since settled down.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/26 04:04 PM
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Your wife sounds like my ex. The house belongs to your parents, therefore will not be a part of the divorce no matter how much she says she will drag it into the picture. Don't give her a cent. My ex tried similar tactics, but got nothing. I would suggest getting financial statements on every account you have going back at least a year, then opening a new bank account in your name only. Any direct deposits should go to the new account. No direct contact, only through lawyers. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 03:23 PM
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Absolutely. My ex had $170k in student loan debt and tried putting me on the hook for that. A good lawyer will get you cleared of that. If they are really good, they could tie that doctorate into a higher earning potential and give your ex less in the division of assets. (You did not state your education or earning potential)
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 10:40 AM
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It's a great feeling. When I left my ex, I went all out: white, black, Hispanic, Asian, short, tall, big, skinny, I tried it all. Be safe and enjoy.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 09:07 PM
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If you can't see the signals to run, go for it and get married, as this will be a huge learning experience. Personally, I would drop her and walk away.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 05:07 PM
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I had a three phase battle plan. She possibly could have taken almost a third of my retirement, and received alimony for years. I had an ace or three up my sleeve.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 04:06 AM
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None
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 03:52 AM
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Yes, at first making around $85k, then minimum wage. I left her when she quit with the idea that I would support her destructive habits.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 02:04 AM
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18 years
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 01:45 AM
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In my case, that was the money the lawyer used to pay his time and filing fees.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 08:25 PM
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California, in the Central Valley. Yes, $5k was all it took. Retirement, house, alimony at stake. She didn't touch my retirement, I paid no alimony, she sold the house for the profit, but left with nothing after I informed a creditor of the pending sale and her windfall. They took every cent of that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 08:01 PM
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I paid my lawyer $5k, the best money I could have ever spent at triple the cost.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/24 07:45 PM
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From the sounds of it, you're filming in public. There is no expectation of privacy in public, so you are free to film as you desire.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/24 09:54 PM
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IANAL, but if you each have a vehicle, she won't touch the car anyways. Same goes for your inheritance, especially since he has not passed, but most states do not allow a spousal claim on inheritance. As for your savings, it would depend on how much you had saved prior to marriage, same for pensions. I would get child support spelled out in the divorce, and I would agree to allowing her to buy you out, if, and only if, it were based on current value and she agrees to either have your name remove…
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 05:54 PM
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Don't do this unless you are getting away with no other things like alimony, child support, or other lingering payments to her. If that is the case, and she wants to buy you out, demand that the house either be refinanced to her name or sell it outright. My ex tried getting me to pay the mortgage for six months after the divorce was final so that she could refinance it in her name, but it would never happen (she had a $170k devt judgement against her).
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/24 12:14 AM
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My ex tried that to the tune of $15k. She had to eat that, as the day I filed made her responsible for everything after that point. Once I found out about her plan, I closed all joint accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 06:02 PM
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My ex is a narcissist, so she will likely never realize or understand what she did wrong to make me leave her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 05:57 PM
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That makes sense. May your settlement go as smoothly as mine did.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 02:44 AM
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You still get emails on a joint email account? I would delete that in a heartbeat.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 11:19 PM
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If you have a house that you used a VA loan on, make sure it's fully taken care of in the proceedings, including who gets it, if refinancing is a requirement and what timeframe, or what timeframe is required to sell the home. My EW tried getting slick, but I torched her lawyer before the settlement hearing. EW had to sell the home, which freed up my VA loan.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 10:31 AM
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I went from living paycheck to paycheck with my exwife to now having more money than I know what to do with it. I am getting out more, traveling quite a bit, and find myself happier than I have ever been. It's amazing what waking up and seeing the true story can do for a person.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 04:12 PM
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She had about $170k in student loan debt, oddly enough she tried becoming a lawyer (failed out). I busted her lawyer before the settlement hearing because her loan servicer had sued her for not making payments. I whipped out that letter and told her lawyer that she wouldn't ever be able to refinance the house due to her judgement, and that she was only entitled to.about a quarter of my retirement. I gave her another copy of my initial offer and let her know that she had exactly 30 days to accept…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 05:12 PM
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Mine quit a good paying job, went to minimum wage, and demanded alimony, half of my military retirement (despite only being married to me for half of my career), wanted me to pay the mortgage for six months while she refinanced, didn't want to buy me out on the house, and wanted me to pay half of her debt. No kids. In the end, I had her agree to sell the house and keep the profit ($110k because she sold for far under market value), no alimony, we kept our respective retirements, and our own debt…
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 04:00 PM
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It took seven years, but I noticed her drifting away. I tried and tried to get her to love again, but it wasn't to be. She went down a self destructive spiral. She wouldn't talk to me, and made irrational decisions that greatly effected both of us. When she quit her minimum wage job that was barely allowing us to make it, I left her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/22 07:10 PM
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I hate to break it to you, but she did you a great favor by throwing that giant red flag up before you walk down the aisle. It seems she let the cat out of the bag that you will be paying for half of her debt. Unfortunately, her idea isn't true everywhere. I just finished a long and drawn out divorce in California, and my ex had $170k in student loan debt, and just like your girlfriend, she thought I was going to be stuck with half of that, because in this case, the majority was during the marri…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/22 04:53 PM
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Yes, the guilty mind accusing the innocent saved me in my first divorce. Private investigator got all the evidence I would ever need. Signing the papers as she was 6 months pregnant while I hadn't seen her in 10 solidified that she was cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/21 08:26 PM
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Maybe that's just as good as it gets?
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/21 10:01 PM
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I offered to pay off student loans she opened with me as cosigner, she sells the house and keeps the $170k profit (houses are selling in 3 days or less at 10% over asking). I agreed to pay the mortgage for two months after the divorce to aid in the sale. In return, she doesn't touch my retirement, I get my personal belongings, and I don't sue for Watts credits (about $60k). She picked what benefitted her, wanted half my retirement, and wanted alimony. At the hearing, her lawyer saw that she lied…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/21 01:25 AM
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Currently in a similar divorce, but finally got her to agree to my terms. She wanted to buy me out, but after slapping her lawyer with mail that came to my new address, she realized that she couldn't possibly be approved for a home loan. I have a retirement that she wanted half of, but after her lawyer saw through her lies, she understood that the initial deal I offered was more than she could ever negotiate. After four months and a settlement hearing, she caved in.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/21 11:11 PM
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When it is discovered that a claim was made up, they should get the same penalty that the person being charged would have received. It might help curtail many of these frivolous claims and claims that incite hate and violence.
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