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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
-2	disappointed with advice Thank you!	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/26 01:09 AM
3	Husband came back from working away and now he’s acting completely different. Am I overthinking this? “Hey, did something happen on the trip? It feels different than before you left.” After something hurtful: “Ouch, that hurts me. Did I do something? I’m wracking my brain but I coming up empty. Please tell me what’s bothering you so I can help fix it.”	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/26 01:08 AM
85	Is this a dealbreaker? Yes, this is a nope nope nope nope nope for me	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/26 10:28 PM
4	Restraint It helps. Just remember some things are worth bringing up even if they might be hurtful to discuss. Try to find a way to do it so that it won’t be destructive. Don’t bite your tongue if you’ve been truly wronged or are experiencing an injustice.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/07/26 04:40 PM
17	Restraint “It takes twice as long to build bridges you burn” Is what you have to say worth the effort it will take to repair?	/r/RedPillWomen	07/07/26 10:55 AM
9	Uhhh red flag? Don’t pursue any farther. Or ask him why he’s not dating men since they’re clearly so superior.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/26 02:00 AM
7	I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated. Blocking your exit so he can rant at you is not acceptable. Since he has done this, I would suggest always choosing a room with another exit or going out of the home. In no healthy relationship does support look like enduring forced confinement and verbal beratement. That is never okay, not matter what the other person is going through. Please stay safe and have an exit strategy. Definitely bring this up in counseling and insist that this is a boundary crossing for you. Your feelings matter too.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/26 11:07 AM
5	I (29f) am struggling to support my bf (36m) when he is in crisis. Perspective/ advice would be really appreciated. It is unfair. It’s like expecting you to hunt for treasure without a map, compass, shovel or even an idea of what you’re looking for. Maybe you’ll get lucky and stumble upon it one day by chance but it’s unlikely. If he’s able to articulate that you’re doing a poor job, he should be able to find words to at least speculate as to what might make him feel better. In the moment of mental anguish, it may not be possible. But afterwards when you both have returned to a general state of calm, have a d…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/06/26 01:58 AM
2	How to get over self consciousness? Take stock of your opinion of yourself. Where do these ideas come from? Were you bullied for your appearance? Do you spend time on social media seeing Instagram model bodies (even if unintentionally)? Has someone in your life made you feel a certain aspect of your body was less desirable/acceptable? Do you focus on others imperfections/physical flaws? Seek to find the root of your insecurities. Now evaluate things that are within your control to change. Decide if it’s worth it to alter. Does you…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/06/26 01:51 AM
7	The guy (M32) I (F25) have been seeing has started wanting to see me at night only and keeping things surface level. I’m thinking of calling it off. Am I overreacting? To the very last statement. 32 is NOT old enough to say “it doesn’t always work”. Something else may be going on. Health issues, outside stress, porn addiction. I would steer clear personally.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/26 11:15 AM
11	All I wanted was to be a wife but now idk what to do Sweetheart, it’s so lovely to see someone who wants so earnestly to preserve their marriage. However, confronting him with the truth probably won’t do much because he already knew the truth and he kept it hidden from you. I’m not a “leave him” fan but infidelity is an absolute breaking point for me. It’s more than a rough patch, it’s spitting on marriage vows. From my own experience, I broke up with my first ever boyfriend at 22, completely convinced I would be alone and lost for years. I met my…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/06/26 11:31 PM
4	I am TERRIBLE at letting my husband help me, and then I resent him for not helping me Big hugs, I’ve been there too. Motherhood has been extremely humbling. I love my husband and he did his best, but he failed me in so many ways during my recovery. I failed to communicate properly with him too about my needs. We learned a lot about ourselves and each other. I’m glad you found my comment helpful!	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/26 05:30 PM
14	I am TERRIBLE at letting my husband help me, and then I resent him for not helping me I was definitely this way postpartum. My husband was genuinely trying to help me but I made myself a motherhood martyr about EVERYTHING. In my case, I believe it was about trying to regain some sense of control. Not happiness or fulfillment or peace. Just control; control to be a nasty, bitter wench. I’m coming out of it now. I think you’re already winning half the battle by self reflecting after the fact. You know what the problem is. Have you openly apologized to your husband for these inciden…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/26 10:36 AM
2	How can I still be feminine while dealing with anger over injustice? Can you be more descriptive about what you mean by injustice? Have you been wronged by the justice system personally? Are you upset about an injustice you see for others? Do you feel you are being treated unfairly by someone personally. Each could potentially have a different response.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/26 12:25 AM
10	Advice please? Personally, I give very little credence to anyone who listens to fresh and fit seriously. They are known for putting sex workers/OF on their platform and those same sex workers experience a surplus of views after the episode airs. From the men who listen/watch the podcast. Sure they claim to be successful with women, but neither have long term loving relationships. He honestly sounds like the type to use red pill as a smoke screen for being over controlling. There’s a big difference between “I l…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/26 12:24 AM
2	Wedding when like 90% of the guests will be his?? Nah don’t force friendships like that. I’ve seen weddings where one side was over stacked. They had each person walk down separately. They also then sat on the side/front row so it wasn’t super obvious that there was an uneven amount of groomsmen-bridesmaids.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/05/26 12:35 PM
4	Every christian dating site feels like tinder I met my husband in my early 20s on OkCupid in the summer of 2020. I will say I was becoming more devout in my faith, often going to evening weekday services as well as Sunday mornings. There were no single men at my church. I had to sort through many toads and worthless conversations before I found even a single genuine person to talk to. Having your own faith based questions will help weed out the no-gos. Don’t rely on the branding of the site to do the sifting for you. Do you believe in God? …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/05/26 10:38 PM
8	Almost 11 months postpartum with second baby and really struggling I honestly believe there a times when we simply can’t be GOFL. One of those is when experiencing sleep deprivation, which you are. If you’re finding yourself wishing you would get injured just for a rest, that’s a serious warning sign. I’ll commiserate with you on the clueless husband bit. I’m in early pregnancy with my second and I have a toddler. I’m so tired and sick all the time, my house is disgusting. Last night, I was crawling around the house trying to get my toddler ready for bed. It ev…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/26 11:54 AM
4	I don't think I can live the life I want or be the woman I want to be if I have kids I’m not trying to convince you to have or not have kids. Here’s my thought process. I will eventually age if I am lucky enough to live that long. All looks will fade and I will eventually be an old hag. No amount of beauty routines, skin cream, or plastic surgery will halt the march of time. I’d rather be an old hag with kids than an old hag without. My life simply would not be complete without my son. Anecdotally, I’m 29 and my sister is 27. I have a kid, she doesn’t. We have aged about the sam…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/26 06:51 PM
5	Waiting until marriage question My position appears to be unpopular but again I speak purely from my own experience here. I won’t sugar coat it. Yes, there were a lot of rejections. That’s something I made my peace with. They weren’t the men for me because we didn’t share the same values in that area. I do want to reiterate that I was celibate because of my religion. I also had non religious reasoning. I didn’t feel I could manage the possible downsides of sex outside of marriage: unplanned pregnancy or STIs. Also, I am the ty…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/26 03:46 PM
1	Waiting until marriage question I’ll speak from my own experience. I waited until marriage with my husband. I am very religious, he is less so but still a regular attendant at our church (he was not a virgin when I met him, I was). We were married within a year of meeting for the first time at 24/26. We met online. It’s tricky to tailor an online profile to communicate this without stating it outright. Especially if you’re not religious. It should occur somewhat organically in conversation. This is a conversation that needs to…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/02/26 01:36 AM
2	Settling: is it really what it seems? What do you mean by “couldn’t face himself”.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/01/26 01:32 PM
18	Been chatting to two guys recently, how do I decide between them? I used to feel guilty talking to multiple men online. Then I realized that I wasn’t actually dating any of them and didn’t owe them exclusivity. If they want to date you exclusively, they should ask for it.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/01/26 07:48 PM
11	Capable husband, but doesn't do things I second this. Being able to dry clothes is a household necessity. Yes, you can line/air dry but that isn’t always practical especially in the winter or if you have limited time (like working full time).	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/26 05:55 PM
15	FIL cut my toddlers hair behind my back Even the most “calm, feminine, submissive” women can still be mother bears. My own son is almost two and I’m letting his hair grow so I can save a lock of his baby hair. He also stays one day a week with my mother in law. If he came back from his visit with trimmed hair, I would be devastated. Yes, I understand it’s just hair and will grow back, but it’s against my wishes and interferes with making a keepsake. Baby hair is precious to some people! Does your husband support you in this? It would …	/r/RedPillWomen	14/01/26 12:33 PM
23	How to deal with some manosphere guys degrading women? Reconsider accepting criticism from anyone whose life you wouldn’t want to live. The people spreading this around are likely not doing so because they are happy and fulfilled in their own lives. If it’s really dragging you down, stop looking at them. Block their pages. Request to not see their content. Don’t spend your precious minutes being talked down to and degraded. Don’t keep their company or make time for their conversation.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/01/26 07:13 PM
6	How do you see the traditional wife role—toughest job or easiest path? It’s a catch 22. If it’s easy, you’re accused of being lazy or selfish. If it’s too hard, you’re a slave to your family and will probably end up discarded for a 22 year old. Both are highly exaggerated outliers. You could make this job as difficult as you want it to be. Especially if you have kids. Deciding to keep them at home, homeschool, be screen free, cloth diaper, cook all meals from scratch, garden, line dry your clothes, knit socks for the whole family for Christmas, etc. You could also …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/12/25 01:34 AM
3	What did your partner get you for Christmas? He fixed my treadmill and got me a massage gun. (If it breaks again, I get a new treadmill). I’m also going to buy new running shoes.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/12/25 12:05 AM
21	How to stop worrying about getting too old to find the right man for me? First off, that guy was petty for sending you that. Stop listening to the manosphere on this. You’re aware about these claims, time to get it out of your feed. If you’ve already done the work, as you say you have, now it’s time to let it be known you’re available and what your intentions are. Are you online dating? Meeting people irl? Have you mentioned to your friends/co-workers you’re looking? In a paradoxical way, the moment you stop looking is when you find your person. I used to hate when p…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/12/25 09:30 PM
1	book recommendations I’ve heard that The Proper Care of Husbands is good. I’ve listened to reviews but haven’t read it myself. May be something you could look into	/r/RedPillWomen	14/12/25 09:34 PM
7	Do you generally expect men to reach out to you in the beginning when online dating? I met my husband online dating. Just to lay the ground work for my experience here. Online dating is low stakes and relatively low investment. Please do not get so hung up on one guy unmatching you. I know it stings, I’ve been there myself. I had several in person dates that I thought went well but never heard a word back. I got stood up. I got ghosted. And the thing is, they just weren’t the men for me. I kept at it. Meeting new men and learning how to have a good conversation online. I continu…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/12/25 01:45 AM
5	When and how did you realize that you wanted to have kids? In my early twenties working with young children. I realized I loved seeing them learn and build a relationship with them. I imagined how much more I would like it with my own child. I decided I didn’t want to give that away to a daycare worker. I did everything I could to secure a good husband/father who could eventually provide a stay at home mom lifestyle. Finding the right man to be the father is extremely important. I feel it’s best to not have kids if you feel like he wouldn’t be a good fa…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/25 12:01 AM
4	What Stereotypically Masculine Trait, Hobby, or Household Duty Do You Take On? I kill the bugs. My husband is terrified of spiders	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/25 09:35 PM
2	Nurturing a new relationship without the hamster's help I’ll stick my neck out to say this. Understand that you can’t control someone else actions. In this case, make yourself the prize. Don’t give in too much or you will just become a distraction from his woes. Invest your time in yourself. Be peaceful. Stay grounded. Take care of your body, mind and soul. Continue your life as is and don’t bend too much around him. Personally, I would not be with someone who was not already divorced or in the final concrete stages of it. If this is meant to be, it …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/25 01:42 AM
4	Husband wants to quit his job Are you saying he’s not responsible for the human life he has helped create?	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/25 10:55 PM
1	Husband wants to quit his job What about him supporting you? Pregnancy and postpartum are the most difficult times you will have physically in your life (barring serious health crisis). And for my two cents, I hate apps and feel that people are generally fatigued of them. Idk if this is golden goose he’s hoping for. Stay with the job. I saw you mention he gets 5 months of paternity leave. That’s unheard of in most fields. My husband had to take a week of vacation and then it was back to work bc his company didn’t offer pater…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/25 10:53 PM
4	Husband wants to quit his job He’s in for an even more rude awakening when caring for baby takes up all of his non working hours. I think he’s seriously underestimating how intense the needs of a newborn and postpartum mother are. The last thing you guys need to be doing is quitting this job to focus on what is, for all intents and purposes, a hobby. You’re both in your early 20s. There is PLENTY of time to pursue dreams and ambitions. Newborn season ain’t it.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/10/25 10:47 PM
11	Is pag Sunnat make woman lower rank I want to say this with gentleness; in the United States, this is considered genital mutilation. Many people look at it as an affront to the female body. I think you should be talking to several OBGYNs about treatment options before you look to have a sexual relationship with a man. You deserve deep sympathy for what was done to you. Tradition or not, it’s cruel to expect anyone to be in terrible pain for someone else’s sexual pleasure. I don’t how a western man would feel specifically about it,…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/09/25 02:02 AM
6	How can I change my life when I’m that physically unattractive? I’ve never ever been asked out on a date and my phone is dry. Well telling yourself that you’re not good enough and that you’re physically deformed will only drag down your mental self image. Stop that. From a fellow big bump nose woman, your nose is a generational gift. So many women before you had it too. Can you breathe? Can you enjoy scents? Then your nose is fine. Try saying, “my nose is perfectly functional.” Same for the lazy eye issue. Are you able to read, drive and see colors? Have you looked into strengthening the lazy one? Ask your doctor for r…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/09/25 02:46 AM
0	What is wrong with reddit? I follow the sub for my state and I’m about to leave bc it’s constant negativity and how it’s the worst place ever. I love it and I fit in well. I’ve yet to be banned for following here but wouldn’t be surprised if I did eventually get banned.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/25 12:21 PM
2	Do I go to church today? If he’s awake, just say I’m going to church. Then get ready and go. Church is about fellowship and learning about God. It’s a beautiful thing for a family to go together. Lead by example. Perhaps you may inspire him by your devotion to God and your child.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/25 04:06 AM
10	Dating after college hopeless? I met my now husband a few years after college on a dating app. Never dated in college. He’s my dream guy. Life doesn’t end at 22. I had a great time just talking to guys and learning how to go on dates. You don’t need to talk to them ever again if you don’t want to. This phase should be fun. I know it’s easy to compare yourself to others, I struggle with that too. You never know how they truly feel. Maybe some of those people in 3-4 year relationships feel like they’ve missed out on dating arou…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/25 12:36 AM
7	The fastest a man has proposed to a woman I know someone who met him in December, dating on Valentine’s Day, engaged in early April and married in early August. They went from meeting to married in less than 9 months. That’s the fastest I’ve known personally. Myself, I went from meeting him to engaged in 6 months and then married 6 months later. So we knew each other one full year by marriage. Not sure if that’s what you consider fast or not.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/03/25 10:37 PM
5	Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and provided I would leave. An aspect of being a provider includes providing security. I wouldn’t feel secure if my husband was cheating.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/25 10:22 AM
1	What does your husband do for work? Fleet mechanic for a utility company. Pay and benefits are excellent for our area. Plus his skills allow him to do side jobs that are easily a couple hundred for a few hours of work.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/24 01:53 AM
3	Postpartum woes I think I need to apologize to my husband bc I’ve been doing exactly this. He’s doing a wonderful job and no one is taking care of him 💔	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/24 04:18 PM
2	Postpartum woes Oh my, do I ever feel this right now! Last night I was in absolute tears after 12 hours alone with baby. It’s like my body is torn to pieces when he’s away from me and at the same time my mind is screaming that I need a break and to be alone. Why is it so drastically different?	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/24 04:14 PM
5	Postpartum woes 6 weeks postpartum and this is all so true. Hardest thing is taking care of myself. I have a list in my head that needs time be done: once baby is basically okay (clean, fed, safe) I need to get water ready, eat something, lay down to rest if baby is still okay by himself. Then and only then, can I do a non-care task. I’ve had to stop myself from unloading the dishwasher, vacuuming, folding clothes, etc so many times. It may only take 5 minutes but I could be using that time to recover. Take you…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/24 02:31 AM
37	If you were single, how would you get ready for marriage (energetically and in real life)? When I was single I did several things. First get finances in order: pay off debts, start saving. It removes a significant amount of stress from life. If you don’t have debt, great! Start saving today. Having a good chunk of change for emergencies sets you up for success even if things go wrong. Recommended is at least 6 months of living expenses (rent/mortgage, utilities, food, basic transportation). Learn to appreciate the things you already have and stop buying things that don’t add value to …	/r/RedPillWomen	09/06/24 01:55 PM
6	”Being the starter girlfriend” I’d take Sheraseven’s advice with a lot of salt. I’ll paraphrase so please correct if the quote is not verbatim, “I’m not here to talk about morality. I’m here to get you that bag and keep that bag.” Her approach is more appropriate if your primary goal to get as much monetary value out of your partner as possible. If that’s what you’re looking for, then that’s your choice but it sounds like you may be interested in getting more from your relationship than just expensive toys. Anecdotally, I met…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/24 05:34 PM
2	Mother - Complex - Appreciating one’s Mother Love this idea! I didn’t fully appreciate my mom until I got pregnant. I told her with tears in my eyes during first trimester, “this is so hard, thank you for being my mom.” She gave me a small smile and said, “it’ll all be worth it. We suffer for our children and would do it all again.” Highly encouraging at that moment. She let me explore my creativity fully as a teen and appreciated my personality, something I know now she didn’t get from her own mother. I’ve rarely heard her say something n…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/24 11:03 AM
3	Happy Married PRW, please brag on your husband a bit! He is a natural provider type. He likes to work and have something to do, it helps give him purpose. He says he’ll be working his whole life no matter what, it’s just the way he wants to be. I got a raise when we were dating. It was maybe a dollar over what he was making at the time. He was proud of me but I could tell he was not happy with himself. Unbeknownst to me, this set the wheels in motion for him finding a better job that pays 3x what he was making with even better benefits. He was not …	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/24 07:46 PM
4	Happy Married PRW, please brag on your husband a bit! My now husband came off as aloof and kinda dorky. I was also more shallow at the time and thought his fashion sense was abysmal. After the date I thought to myself, that was a nice time but I don’t think I’ll see him again. He then sent me a message that he had a great time and many compliments, only one of which I remember, “You are more wholesome than I could’ve hoped for.” That’s a specific trait I was ascribing to at the time. He saw who I was trying to be. Other guys I went on dates with di…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/24 06:14 PM
10	Happy Married PRW, please brag on your husband a bit! Going on 3 years now and about to deliver our first baby! We met online during the summer of 2020 and got married summer of 2021. Both in our late 20s now. He’s a mechanic and made me a homemaker when we found out I was pregnant. Some things that have made my heart soar in 2024: He’s gotten into home defense and is learning how he can protect us if needed. A pipe burst in our bathroom and he fixed all the plumbing himself. Bought a car in cash for me so I can have something safe to drive with th…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/24 09:28 PM
6	Happy Married PRW, please brag on your husband a bit! Congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m due May 8 :)	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/24 09:13 PM
3	Should women give flowers to a HVM? When he sees flowers, my husband really only has two thoughts 1) my wife likes flowers. 2) I need to mow the lawn. Flowers would not be appreciated in the same way as his favorite snacks. So I have a little bag of his favorite treats ready to go!	/r/RedPillWomen	08/02/24 01:44 AM
6	Female friendships I feel that hardcore! I have no advice to give, I just want people to be different (lol I know that’s not going to happen!!!) I’m a stay at home wife, waiting on the first baby. The amount of times I’ve reached out to spend time with other women, all age groups and job statuses mind you, and been rejected is starting to get to me. Everyone cancels the day of. This is a vent because I fully understand that these women have lives, jobs, children, obligations, and need rest too!!!! I just would lik…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/01/24 11:05 AM
1	Those of you who waited until marriage to have sex, was it worth it? And those who did not, was no big deal? You’re so welcome! I was worried about how a future partner would react to. When I was talking to men on dating apps (which is how I met my husband) if they mentioned something sexual, I would later bring up that maybe our values didn’t match. When he asked why (most did thinking that we couldn’t be that mismatched) I’d bring up the no sex until solid commitment. Some respected it (usually older mid 20s-mid 30s), others had legitimate questions which I was okay with giving basic answers about, a…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/10/23 08:35 PM
36	Those of you who waited until marriage to have sex, was it worth it? And those who did not, was no big deal? Yes it was worth it for me! I was raised in a religious/ traditional household (never discussed sex though). Early on I adopted the mantra of “I will have sex when I am able to deal with the consequences (STIs, pregnancy, possible heartbreak, etc).” Keeping sex for marriage does help keep your head clear to see if a man is really worthy and able to be your husband. My previous relationship I was able to leave relatively easily as I wasn’t as attached as I could’ve been. All of my sexual experien…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/23 11:22 PM