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Both men and women have a wide range of tastes but ime a man is more likely to find various types of women attractive (i.e a particular man will find blondes AND brunettes AND redheads attractive) and women are more likely to have smaller subsets (i.e. a particular woman will find blondes OR brunettes OR redheads attractive, but be less likely to be be attracted to all 3). My taste in men doesn't overlap with my girlfriends at all when it comes to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/19 10:55 PM
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If we're being realistic though she'd cap you before you even got in punching distance. She's a ghetto hoodrat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/19 09:11 PM
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I don't think there should be an "agreement". It should just be a natural phenomenon. I.e. when vetting you've noticed he prefers the company of males and therefore has no female friends. My fiance is that way. He has masculine interests and prefers the company of men. He had a few females in his friend circle but was not specifically friends with them. Myself, his sisters, and his mother are the only women he interacts with in an emotional capacity. You are emotionally manipulating your boyfrie…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 05:19 AM
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The girl herself. She literally said she hated how she annoyed others with her weirdness. You trying to romanticize a phase where she felt awkward, lonely, and annoying is pretty insulting when she straight up told you that she was able to grow from it and is much happier with herself and her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/18 06:12 AM
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Weird isn't a synonym for interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 09:42 AM
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A sexual history that shows a desperation for sex is definitely a turn off. I don't think there's a disconnect. There's is a difference between a man that has slept with 20 beautiful or desirable women and a man who has slept with 20 uggos.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 04:23 AM
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Even if said nurse had intentionally switched babies, the woman wouldn't love the child she was raising any less. There's no equivalent for men being duped, but women love children regardless of if they were accidentally or intentionally misled.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 10:48 PM
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Women don't stop loving or investing in a child when they find out it isn't theirs. In some stories a mother tries to get custody of both her biological child AND the child she raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 04:47 AM
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No idea. I'm just pointing out that Southeast (and also South apparently as India and Pakistan are South Asian) were the ones left out. AFAIK North Asia isn't a region unless that's just a synonym for Russia.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 01:12 AM
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Southeast were the ones that got left out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/18 12:31 AM
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This one looks like it'll give you a general idea about her.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 06:42 AM
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I think one of the most RPW Greek gods is Hestia, goddess of the hearth, home, domesticity, and family. She's a virgin goddess, and depicted as modest, nonconfrontational, and chaste. She stepped down as one of the twelve chief gods to allow Dionysus to join in her place.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 05:29 AM
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That's super cute and creative, I love it! I do a lot of at-home beauty as a form of self-care and cost effectiveness, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 05:08 AM
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Greek mythology, or mythology in general, is super interesting to me. The biggest takeaway from the Greek pantheon for me was that Greeks regarded their gods as flawed, just like humans. The gods felt jealous, insecure, angry, had troubled pasts, were adulterous, murderous, and vengeful. They played favorites and fell in love. They sacrificed themselves for others, and sacrificed others for themselves. I'm going to go ahead and say that Hera would definitely not be a RPW role model, though Zeus …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 12:02 AM
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Nail preference is entirely subjective. 99% of the time men do not notice or care. The royal family has very particular rules for every aspect of one's appearance, one of them being that nails should be short, neat, and not be noticed. That's why royal women wear nude or clear polish. I do my nails at home every week. I do an almond nail shape with a nude pink and sparkles on the tips. Sometimes I do dark purple and lilac or metallic rose gold. I can't recall my fiance ever commenting on my nail…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 11:50 PM
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Smile and say no thank you. If they repeatedly pester you, go ahead and block. You aren't obligated to be submissive to strange men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 11:44 PM
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My fiance presents almost all of the alpha green flags, to varying degrees. I haven't seen women go out of their way to flirt with him since high school, but he very, very rarely spends time with women at all as his career and hobbies are male dominated. He has all of the beta green flags, though I am still trying to build his confidence so that he feels comfortable leading. We're both young, 23, and have been together since middle school. I have a dominant personality and had him firmly by the …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 06:39 PM
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I'll just say this. As a traditional woman, if a man joked about being in bed with me all weekend and trying to impregnate me, without sufficiently knowing me or committing to me, I would be thoroughly turned off and he would no longer be in my dating pool. My idea of flirting is talking about romancing me not fucking me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:53 AM
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Is he talking about that in the context of a committed, exclusive relationship with you? Because you do not mention at all that he is in a committed, exclusive relationship with you, which is the prerequisite of a traditional man who wants to start a family with you. There are plenty of men who desire traditional relationships, after they bang a dozen or two women. Edit: Also, if you seriously thought it was just a fantasy, you wouldn't have mentioned it. Obviously it's a possible red flag for y…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:47 AM
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Your only option for not getting pregnant is requiring him to use a condom. You do not have enough time to get in birth control and have it become effective. It's not a large leap to say this man has an impregnation fetish; he is aroused by the idea of impregnating a woman (and usually abandoning the mother an child). A GOOD man that is worth pursuing a relationship with would not talk seriously about having a family with you without already being in an exclusive relationship. Not to mention, yo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 05:37 AM
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I'm currently engaged. We're looking at a March 2019 wedding. I wanted a really soft, romantic wedding. My aesthetics were blush and champagne, outdoor venues with greenery or near the beach, and maybe a brunch reception. Turns out the fiance wants more of a "club" vibe, in a banquet hall with uplighting, and hours of dancing and drinks. So that's what we're doing :) It was a complete 180 in terms of venues and decor, but I'm excited about planning it. Fiance's family is Mexican, so I've been ha…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/18 02:19 AM
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It sounds like a case of mismatched libidos. There's a possibility he will mellow out, but if you are serious about him and having a family with him, you also have to be prepared for the reality that he will have this libido permanently. I am the high libido in my relationship. I could easily have sex twice a day. My fiance on the other hand is a 3x a week sort of man. It was insanely frustrating when we moved in together because I thought the sex would be just as frequent as when we were apart,…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 12:49 AM
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OP, it sounds like you already know what to fix. Improve your appearance and build your confidence. Start working out, build a skincare and makeup routine, create or refine your wardrobe with flattering clothes. And developing confidence in yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 07:58 AM
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This is so true. It also doesn't help that women are ingrained now to affirm other women, even it is an outright lie. Morbidly obese? Men just can't handle those curves, boo 😍
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 06:25 AM
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Looks matter much less to women than men when it comes to relationships. Personality, job, status, education, intelligence, etc. are taken much more into consideration. As far as sexual attraction goes, making a woman feel sexy matters much more than a man actually being sexy. Given Harry's sexual history, I'm sure he knows how to do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/18 08:01 PM
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Nonsexual physical affection Companionship Taking care of the cooking and cleaning responsibilities Emotional support The possibility of a family/being a good mother Financial contribution Monogamy Romantic love
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/18 08:31 PM
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I'm saying verbatim what used to be common knowledge in this sub 3-4 years ago. Naturally RP men exist. They are the ones that grew up in a nuclear home with parents that followed traditional gender roles. They are the ones who were raised to understand the strengths of men and women either through religion or conservative upbringing. Naturally RP men (that RPW would be interested in) are the ones who have a history of monogamous relationships despite easily being able to have casual sex. It's v…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/18 09:08 AM
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I don't believe in monsters but I still let my daughter spray "monster spray" around her room because it makes her sleep easier at night. Or does me letting my kid spray water on her closet door and under her bed mean I secretly believe in the existence of monsters?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/18 12:34 AM
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TRP and RPW are not in the same dating pool. TRP's main demographic are disgruntled former bluepills who are learning how to be successful with women. It is much harder to be successful with women if you purposefully limit the number of women you interact with by only pursuing monogamous relationships. RPW are looking for naturally RP men. Naturally RP men do not share the same attitudes as TRP. They haven't experienced the mass rejection, sexual frustration, or cruelness that the dating world c…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 11:52 PM
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A 5 will tolerate a lot more from a 9 than a 6. Even if his exes were 4-5s. You don't have to be disrespected to get a hot girl. But a decent amount of guys will put up with it to get exclusive access to her body. Especially if she's a decent girlfriend besides the disrespect (has home training, low n count, faithful, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/18 03:48 AM
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If she doesn't respect you she thinks she's better than you. If you are dating her then you also think she's better than you. So she's probably pretty hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/18 02:27 AM
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Glean the bits of RP that are relevant to you and disregard the rest. If you had none of these concerns prior to reading about them on RP subreddits, they likely aren't relevant to your relationship. My mother is thirteen years old than my father. They started dating when my dad was maybe a year older than your boyfriend. Happy, healthy relationships with an older woman and a younger man do exist.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/18 02:14 AM
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I have a generally positive relationship with other women. I live in a friendly place so I make small talk with female strangers regularly. I enjoy the company of my friends and we don't really have that cattiness that seems to plague others. But I also don't have a friend group, all of my friends are people I've met individually and we usually hang out one-on-one. So there isn't really a competition for social status or male attention. I also don't have a negative relationship with any of my fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/18 07:42 AM
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Upper Middle Class
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 11:33 PM
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I don't have any attachment to my last name and no blood relation to it (long story). I can't wait for the day I take on my fiance's name and become a cohesive family unit with our daughter.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/18 03:48 AM
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If you aren't already, I would find organized groups to go do these things with. Even if you are only meeting like-minded women, they would be able to introduce you to other men in their social circles. My SIL is getting married to a man she met through a mutual friend. You really have a lot of untapped potential in your hobbies to meet eligible men. I see. I'd just keep in mind that queen/princess analogies are frowned upon in RPW/TRP because of their association with pedestalizing women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 10:04 PM
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You haven't been able to find any men doing those activities? Those are extremely varied and sound like excellent places to meet men. You do not lead a queen, you bow down to her. That is the line that is drawn between treating a woman well and treating a woman like a queen. A good captain is obviously one that treats his first mate well, she's the one he entrusts with responsibilities and decisions when he isn't able to. Additionally, there is a difference between looking for a good man and hav…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 09:37 PM
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If you are looking for someone to treat you like a queen or a princess, RPW is not for you. RPW are not looking to be put on a pedestal to be idolized and spoiled. They are looking for strong men capable of leading and inspiring them to be the best they can be. They are looking for partners, not servants. Changing that mentality will likely be the first step in being able to attract the men you are looking for. A princess mentality is a turn off. You mention a lot about superficial things like d…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 09:03 PM
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You can't make yourself not attracted to someone. What you do it keep your feelings in check and stay loyal to your boyfriend. If you can't do that: break up.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 12:09 AM
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There are plenty of looks in /r/makeupaddiction that are purely based on trend, not heightening attractiveness. I honestly don't know any men that would say they like instagram brows, black lipstick, blinding highlight, or some of the other popular makeup trends that veer towards artistic than attractive. They might not mind it on girls they otherwise find attractive, but I doubt any are going to say they prefer it to a natural or enhanced makeup look. I would definitely go more flamboyant with …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/18 01:35 AM
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Why? I want to know what the general male perspective is considering I'm not one and neither is Atlas. So us agreeing doesn't change anything. You not really knowing one way or the other doesn't mean I should change my post to accommodate you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 07:48 AM
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For the man. The act of marriage doesn't produce a child so a child would only 100% occur in one scenario and regardless, it's common sense that a child would develop better in an environment where both parents have publicly and legally agreed to be together versus one without those designations. The couple responses I've gotten have said marriage is riskier, but have only really mentioned the financial aspects. I'm curious to know if the social and psychological cost/benefits shake out to the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 06:41 AM
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I would have said the same thing if you said "having a child is riskier for men, yes, I suppose". Its weird to me that you couldn't strongly back your answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 04:30 AM
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That's the conclusion I came to. I found it weird Seil couldn't definitely say marriage was riskier, and kinda copped out with the "it depends on the circumstances" line.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/18 12:21 AM
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So it's still pretty up in the air then whether either is riskier than the other since it seems like you don't feel too strongly about your final answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/18 11:42 PM
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Truthfully I didn't realize the assumption is always to compare against a woman in the same position versus a man in either position. I'm assuming you mean more to lose financially. So what I'm understanding is that if a man is financially better off and wants a family, having a baby mama is better than risk a divorce and ex-wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/18 11:30 PM
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Specifically for the man. Is a man putting himself in a riskier position by having a child out of wedlock or getting married? Not trying to compare the risk between men and women (it's well known in the sub that marriage is riskier for men than it is for women, but is it even riskier than having a child out of wedlock?)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/18 11:07 PM
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So is having a child out of wedlock riskier for a man than getting married?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/18 10:43 PM
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For men. Hence why I'm specifically asking men and not everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/18 10:42 PM
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There's a difference between being direct about your intentions and threatening someone to go along with them.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 11:47 PM
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There's no reason to stay in this miserable relationship. He doesn't want to fix things, he wants to get revenge. You can't change the past and truthfully you probably should have ended the relationship years ago when you were unfaithful, but it's all water under the bridge now. Neither of you will be happy in this arrangement. He is obviously bitter and jaded, you feel trapped and guilty. This is not a relationship you would want your kids to base their future relationships off of. Divorce him,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 09:57 PM
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Those are all examples of traits, not a culmination of them. Regardless, intellect has no bearing on frame, emotional stability, healthy boundaries, financial literacy, promiscuity, capacity for abuse, etc. There are plenty of men with good frame, can keep their emotions in check, and don't bow to their mothers despite never having even a high school diploma. Just look in the hood. These men usually don't make good partners either for other reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 05:18 AM
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Maybe he has no frame, he's highly emotional, a mama's boy, irresponsible with money, has 4 kids by 4 different women, abusive or any variable of other traits that make him a poor partner. A high value man is a combination of internal and external factors.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 03:36 AM
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Exactly. It's as cringy as I'm an independent woman who don't need no man, but if she did... Men ain't shit and she'll give you paragraphs upon paragraphs of personal anecdotes explaining why and end it by talking about how thankful she is to be an independent woman who lives a fulfilling and enriched life without them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/18 04:17 AM
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It's more so that despite saying women have no place in their lives they spend a disproportionate amount of time thinking and talking about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/18 04:23 AM
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The average women isn't maintaining relevancy in social media over the long term. They might be constantly on it, but mostly to read/like/comment, not to post, which is what gets attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/18 10:00 PM
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It sounds like you still don't have a firm grasp on who you are as an individual and as a woman-- which is perfectly normal at our age. You're still adjusting to being an adult, to making your own decisions and being accountable for them, to navigating both your everyday life and the trajectory of your future. Firstly, don't be so concerned about the size of your social circle. Having 2 or 3 quality friends is so much more beneficial than having masses of superficial ones. Being shy or introvert…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/18 07:46 AM
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1) Is casual sex psychologically healthy only for a minority of women, or is there more that is there a higher amount of women it is healthy for? The psychological benefits and drawbacks of sex are partially innate, but mostly socially conditioned. While casual sex might be encouraged on the surface of our western society, the consequences of it (unable to secure commitment or be able to commit, single motherhood, etc.) are not positive for our communities. And in more conservative or eastern so…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 02:49 AM
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It shows that fame and money outweigh looks and attraction. There are plenty of examples of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/18 09:13 AM
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It's hard for me to believe that he has willingly held off from sex for over a year. Are you sure he isn't getting some on the side while you are working 50+ hours a week? You mention he needs trust, but it'd sounds like he's using it as an excuse to avoid sex with you considering you already have long term, effective birth control. He already trusts you to keep all his basic needs met (shelter, food, utilities, etc.) anyway. The only pros of your relationship can easily be maintained in a plato…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 12:22 AM
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Sounds like he makes a great friend then.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 12:14 AM
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They're the easiest examples of traits we're discussing since no one here knows each other IRL or are a part of the same social niches (college girl in a west coast city vs. older male professional in the deep south for example). Even if we aren't talking specifically about Cardi B her persona in another female is going to be more influential vs. a more modest female among younger women. She'd be more fun to hang out with. Female social hierarchy =/ sexual/relationship market. Females are not co…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 10:01 PM
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Age separates the qualifiers of a high status woman. Young females value: - Trendiness Active social lives Interesting jobs/experiences Young high status females are the ones that are college aged or slightly older that still manage to have the lastest makeup, clothes, and technology. They have social media accounts with large amounts of followers and have jobs or experiences that other females think are interesting. They are active in their social circles. Young females do NOT care about the bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 09:01 PM
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From someone who has a relationship you want to emulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 08:37 PM
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Cardi B is currently pretty high in the female social hierarchy. Do you consider her classy? I sure as hell don't. She's trashy but that doesn't mean she's isn't an alpha bitch with a lot of influence over over 20-something women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 08:35 PM
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Lolol. So you care that a woman you will never bed has a high value husband? What a fucking waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 08:32 PM
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Then why is the harem fantasy (who by definition are only sexual with you) so widespread?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 10:46 AM
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Aren't most rites of passage just as arbitrary? It's considered a part of growing up. No *girl wants to be stupidly inexperienced. Learning what you like in bed, desensitization (not getting dickmatized oneitis), having experiences, etc. Not sure why this is a bad thing for men either considering most say they love fucking sluts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 10:37 AM
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That's literally what a female social hierarchy is. Do you think other men care that a woman has a high value husband? NO. Do other men care that a woman is a good hostess? NO. Do other men care that a woman has a network of other high value women? NO. A chaste, feminine woman with good cooking, housekeeping, and parenting skills is what is going to matter to men. These things do her no favors in the social hierarchy if she is the only single female among married peers, has a small/dead social l…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 07:48 AM
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The female social hierarchy is about the value of women as percieved by other women. Male opinions are a non-factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 05:46 AM
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In the 20-something circle it's a neutral or positive. A slut phase is considered a rite of passage in college if you aren't conservative or religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 05:31 AM
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Seems like most men, especially on TRP, want sexual exclusivity from a woman. It's the highest form of plating to have several women who are only having sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/18 05:10 AM
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Marriage is to women what a woman's sexual exclusivity to him is to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/18 08:16 AM
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I didn't realize we decided the "I want to be treated like a princess" shtick is now red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/18 07:59 AM
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That's the exception not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 10:38 PM
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The first meme is the skinniest of all the pictures that were posted in that thread. I'm talking about all the commenters and specifically the ones who posted their SOs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 10:36 PM
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It wasn't just the meme I posted...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 07:01 PM
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I mean this was just on my timeline this Wednesday. https://imgur.com/a/ooqgL
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 11:12 AM
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Seth Rogan is about what I was talking about too. Maybe a little huskier.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 10:38 AM
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An active sex life does though. In general though, girls have sex with guys not because they find them sexy, but because those men know how to make their women feel sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 10:18 AM
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Most sub-7s have a pretty low attractiveness threshold. Basically if aren't a slob and maintain hygiene you'll find a girl that likes you as long as she finds the rest of you appealing. Chubby guys have gotten popular among the groups I'm in.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 01:00 AM
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Agree. A lot of my female peers have boyfriends/husbands who I would not consider attractive but likely tick a lot of the boxes on their personal checklist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/18 12:54 AM
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In the end, I don't think it matters, but my family has a weird history with last names. I have my mom's last name. But it's not the one that she was born with (her maiden name is her step-father's). She changed her last name when she was an adult to match her biological father, though his last name is his own step-father's. Even if I had my father's last name, his own last name is his father's step-father. So regardless of what name I had gone with, neither were blood-related to me in the first…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 08:00 AM
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Unless you're Brazilian, Hispanic covers you. Maybe you should learn the similarities. You have a white dad. So your family wouldn't be that culturally involved anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 07:44 AM
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Hispanic moms baby their sons. Anything and everything is done for them and they can do no wrong. It's what leads to: Their sons growing up into thugs if they're low social class. Sons living at home well past the age of adulthood because either no one compares to mom or mom doesn't approve of any potential wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/18 06:02 AM
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I just graduated in May with a B.A. in Business Administration. I have an awesome job working from home as an HR Specialist. I set my life on hard mode by getting pregnant at 16 by my boyfriend of 2 years. Despite that, I managed to graduate high school on time and go to a state college for 2 years before taking the plunge and transferring to a university 3,000 miles away. My SO and I have been together since 14 and stayed strong through it all. Motherhood came extremely easily to me and I'm ble…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 03:08 AM
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That's only in theory. Of the men that actually found out their wives/girlfriends were cheating with women, very VERY few were actually "cool" with it. A betrayal is a betrayal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/17 05:47 PM
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Then why have you been fixated on the number of men perpetrating? 1/5 isn't surprising when you consider it consists of rape, groping, molestation, unwanted sexual advances, indecent exposure, peeping/hidden cameras, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 08:22 PM
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It's not 1 in 5 men sexually assault women. It's 1 in 5 women are sexually assaulted. A man who sexually harasses women isn't someone who thinks that behavior is wrong. He wouldn't be sexually harassing 10 women in his life time. Thats likely a daily or weekly number.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 07:29 PM
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It isn't one man per instance of sexual misconduct against a woman. It's likely your 1/100 or 1/10 figure who harasses a multitude of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/17 06:19 PM
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Yes. My aunt is an outspoken, assertive woman who leads her household. It seems like my uncle has his own personal goals/aspirations, and as long as those are respected, he's content letting her run the show. I'm sure it helps that he's generally easy going and low maintenance and while my aunt can be... overwhelming, it's very obvious that she loves and respects him. She's playful with him and appreciative when he helps out. She's actually the one that taught me to stop nitpicking how chores ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/17 07:55 AM
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Code for none.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/17 01:57 AM
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I feel the same way. I find a man who is able to sleep around but only sleeps with women who meet his (hopefully moral) standards much more attractive than a man who is able to sleep around and does so indiscriminately.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/17 09:24 PM
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You give women too much credit. A surprising amount of women would be willing to support a complete deadbeat if he was attractive and has good dick game.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/17 11:38 PM
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If you have a Duty to Act law where you are, yeah, you're obligated to do something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/17 08:33 PM
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Wow. For once I fit a target demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/17 05:14 AM
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1) It's made me much more conservative/traditional in how I plan to rear my daughter and any other future children. Beforehand I didn't really think about what kind of people I wanted them to be outside of "well-adjusted, respectful, happy"TM 2) A tiger parent is someone who pushes tangible successes over the emotional well-being of their child. I don't think it's something to emulate. My best friends in school were Asian American and their parents were strict compared to other western parents, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/17 03:20 AM
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I didn't realize you take orders from a secretary. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 10:20 PM
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And men are mentally fragile, peace-loving beings who would never think of solving their dilemmas through violence? Pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 10:19 PM
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What does Islam have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 10:17 PM
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I don't mean to say that these 4 points are all there is to marriage traditions, just that they provide evidence women didn't have the autonomy to choose their own mates (though neither did most men) and be the main influencer in geopolitics.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 10:17 PM
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So then why don't the nearly equal amount of registered male voters step in to stop it? You can blame toxic femininity but there's an equal amount of male apathy that thinks it's acceptable to allow it to continue. Men and women have identical political rights granted to them. They can put up a fight if they wanted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 03:07 AM
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It has more to do with geopolitics than women supporting and encouraging victors of war.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 02:58 AM
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Arranged marriages/suitors, children as property, coverture, and bride price are all evidence of that. Arranged marriages were the norm until the 18th century I believe. While affluent and powerful men were able to arrange their own marriages, the fathers of the women had the final say virtually always. Children as property of the parents has only recently been challenged. This shouldn't be surprising. Coverture is a 12th century law saying a woman's identity becomes that of her husband's upon m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 02:54 AM
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Doesn't discount the fact that women were not the ones behind the most significant wars in history.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 02:33 AM
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Society encourages overprotective helicopter parenting by essentially making independence -nurturing parenting a CPS-worthy offense. You can't even let your children walk a block to the park without worrying about child services taking your kid. "Toxic femininity" may account for some of it but societal acceptance of helicopter parenting is what perpetuates it to this level. When I was growing up my father was the overprotective parent, by far.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 02:31 AM
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Only within the last century or two. Before then women were the property of their male family members. Females didn't get a say in who they were mating with in the 1600s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/17 02:27 AM
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I get along with my father much more than my mother. We have similar personalities, morals, and opinions. Conversely, me and my mother have conflicting opinions on the majority of subjects. We have a very small amount of subjects we can safely discuss. My mother is much more traditional than today's generation of women, but I wouldn't call her RP. She does not discuss her past and the little bit that I've uncovered from her and her family leads me to believe that there is a lot of baggage and re…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/17 04:41 AM
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Yes. I should have put alphaness in quotations.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 02:16 AM
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He makes less than a quarter was she does and instead of increasing his earning potential wants her to continue earning but also take on all the housework and raise a child. He's not fulfilling his role as a protector (he raped her ffs) and provider and doesn't have any room to place those sorts of demands on her.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 10:24 PM
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He doesn't want her to quit. He wants her to take care of the home while also being the primary breadwinner. Essentially, he wants her to take on both roles while he flexes his alphaness.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 10:21 PM
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Icing me out when he's mad. It usually doesn't have to do with what the indiscretion actually is, just his frame of mind at the time. It used to kill me because 90% of the time he wouldn't tell me what it is and then it ends up being something stupid that I could have fixed easily if he had told me ("you didn't wash the pair of socks I need for tomorrow" type stuff). When I started doing it back to him he couldn't handle it so now he doesn't do it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 10:03 PM
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K<sup>2</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 05:19 PM
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Lolol. And you're obsessed with responding back to me so I get all the validation I need from your attempts at appearing... cocky? No clue but it's keeping me entertained so whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/17 09:31 PM
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You still replying?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/17 08:32 PM
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it's sometimes harder for an intelligent woman to be playfully innocent and fun I'd argue that it's women who think very highly of their intelligence. The types who play into their "smart and serious girl" tropes versus girls who see their intelligence as another trait like being athletic or creative. I think it's one of those caveats that a lot of women seem to overlook in RPW. There's a difference between an intelligent woman and an "I'm so smart" girl.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 08:26 PM
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Apparently GI Joe did the same for the little boys of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/17 02:42 AM
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Lolololol And where's your evidence that feminists are behind the law? You're the one that said it's obvious that no one else would have come up with this law. Read the French Civil Code. See where this law is put. And what it coincides with. Or go read /r/mensrights because this is posted up all over the place. They have the history of how this law came to be. I don't see why I have to be your personal translator and hand holder when it's apparent that this is all about gender roles and family …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/17 02:26 AM
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They made it a fucking law. Tradcons advocate rigid gender roles and male disposability. You know what the male role is according to tradcons? Protectors and providers. So if a man is not protecting and providing for a family, he's not doing his job. Tradcons do not give two shits if the man is being cucked, they care that he is doing his job. Using Atlas' words, Tradcons are "anti-welfare, anti-abortion single mom worshippers" who attempted to end the welfare system by saddling the mom and kid …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 04:42 PM
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I believe it. Although they have different motivations, they seem to lead to similar actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 10:26 PM
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Because the kid has a father and the wife has a husband. Feminists say the mother doesn't need no man and can do it all on her own. And if she can't, well there's always welfare. Pro-divorce, pro-welfare. Tradcons say that the child's need to have a traditional family supercedes all other reasoning. A divorced mother will need to rely on welfare which just isn't good for the family or the government. Anti-divorce, anti-welfare. Feminists don't give a shit about families, tradcons do. So why woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 10:24 PM
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Nothing except the legal consequences if the courts find out. I mean, there's nothing stopping me from driving without a license but it's still a law and I still face the consequences if I'm caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 08:40 AM
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Under the premise that the child's DNA is their own. Since an infant can not give consent only the consent of both parents or a court order can supercede the infant's right to their body.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 08:22 AM
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Tradcons. They're the ones that are all about the sanctity of the family.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 08:15 AM
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Abortion and adoption are avoiding consequences. Actually raising the thing isn't. I don't see how she's avoiding consequences. She's now branded as a single mother and all the stereotypes that come with it. She's condemned herself to nearly unavoidable poverty. She's become a slave to her child until it comes of age. And then will likely still try to care for it out of maternal instinct or something. She played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. Instead of aborting it when the baby daddy jum…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 03:07 AM
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And I am. But I don't see a foreseeable future in which the welfare bloat is cut completely. So the likely scenario in these financial abortions are single moms clinging to the states pockets instead of the baby daddy's. At the end of the day, I wasn't the one who got laid, he was. So why do I have to pay when I didn't get anything out of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:40 PM
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Yup. But they're also protecting every single taxpayer who didn't contribute to the kid. At the end of the day, the chump who got a girl pregnant should be dealing with the consequences, not my tax dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 02:25 AM
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Solely because the government doesn't want to pay out for the kid if they don't have to. Physical abortion absolves the parents AND the government of responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 05:46 PM
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Of course they had children after marriage. I didn't say didn't. I also didn't say that women didn't have sex after marriage. Your random statements don't discount mine. Like at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 07:10 PM
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The societal shame of single motherhood and lack of government resources pushed them into securing men to provide for them and their (unborn) child. While single motherhood is higher now, I'd wager children born out of wedlock/men raising kids that aren't theirs is about the same. It's just more obvious now because women are supported by the government instead of a lone beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/17 04:48 AM
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My "Top 3" are relationship-minded, family oriented, and driven. I suppose the unsaid traits would also be having compatible personalities and no issues with addiction, abuse, or infidelity. I'm not looking for a man who has engaged in ONS or FWBs; I want a man who is choosy with the women he associates with since I am also choosy with the company I keep (in friendships and relationships). In addition, I don't have to wonder about his fidelity and happiness in a relationship if he naturally pref…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 04:34 AM
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Fair enough 😊
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 11:51 PM
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It's the difference between a stay-at-home dad and an *absentee dad. A straight beta father is a better bet than a straight alpha father.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 11:41 PM
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From a strictly biological perspective men are more disposable than women. A man can father many children, while a woman can only mother one (excluding multiples) at a time. A shortage of women is much more costly to *the growth of society than a shortage of men.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 09:50 PM
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I don't have a high paying feminine career, model-worthy looks, a plethora of friends, or tons interesting hobbies and I had no issue finding a LTR. Neither do hundreds of thousands of women with a lesser level of professional and personal success. If you are so introspective that you can discount the suggestions of every single person here, then why don't you know the cause of your romantic failure? You're the epitome of special snowflake syndrome.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 07:43 PM
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Professionally successful, Romantically inept. Not uncommon at all.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 06:40 AM
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You realize that women overwhelmingly initiate divorces right? Them initiating those divorces doesn't set them apart from the millions of average women getting divorced. A divorce is a failure. Regardless of who initiated.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 05:58 PM
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If we're using ancedotes then my experiences completely contradict your own. I grew up in a big city and then moved to another. I faced absolutely none of the issues your talking about. The players did not need to pretend to be anything to get pussy, even in high school. They were the ones girls called up when they were tired of being virgins. That isn't even an exaggeration. My friends looking for LTRs and marriage weren't worried about their men stringing them along. They were worried about th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 05:55 PM
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These are inexperienced men and they do have tells. In a large, liberal city there are thousands of willing women looking for ONS, FWB, etc. My entire generation is filled with them. Having to fake a personality and a million excuses are too much work for a high-value man who doesn't have to hide his lack of intentions to get low maintenance, NSA sex. It's hard for me to even take this seriously because of how outlandish the idea is that a man who lives in a city that thrives on meaningless sex …
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 10:55 PM
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Domineering: asserting one's own will in an arrogant way. Manipulative: characterized by unscrupulous control of a situation or a person. Masculine: having qualities typically associated with men, like strength or aggressiveness. There is nothing edit: marriage-worthy about an arrogant, controlling, and aggressive woman. A high-value man is not going to put up with that in a wife. Jolie has been divorced two, going on three times. That is not a sign of a woman who is great in the relationship ma…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 10:45 PM
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Lol no it won't. The first step to being submissive is VETTING THE MAN. RPW do not just become submissive to any man who pays her attention. And if you vet him wrong, you withhold your submission and move on. It doesntatter how big or liberal the city is. Because the core concept of submission is that you are willingly giving up that control. Not having it taken from you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:06 AM
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In the relationship marketplace over the long run. It doesn't matter how pretty a girl is. No high value man will tolerate a cunt of a wife. And if he does he is a beta and therefore a poor choice for a husband anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 03:02 AM
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I currently work in behavioral health and am transitioning into human resources. My SO is in automotive maintenance.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:18 AM
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People will do whatever they can get away with. It seems many people would rather be treated badly by an attractive person than outright ignored by one.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:17 AM
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They're hot.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 04:58 AM
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Technically yellow (or I guess the official term is amber) is the lightest brown on the spectrum, but basically yes. Everything except standard brown and black.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 02:59 AM
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For what it's worth, most people will not reveal to those that know them of their disdain/regret for having children. However, lots of voices on the internet echo the sentiment.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:38 AM
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Blue, green, hazel, gray, yellow, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 09:00 AM
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Relationship minded: He has had at least one serious relationship in the past and doesn't have a string of ONS or fuck buddies. Not because he can't get them, but because he's choosy about who he fucks. Family oriented: I'm very much into family myself and I know I couldn't be with someone who couldn't stand to be around my family or theirs. Ambitious: A man who doesn't have goals for himself or his family wouldn't make a very good captain IMO Physically, I like lean, tan men with colored eyes a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:34 AM
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RPW equivalent is a doormat. We see the difference between being a doormat and being submissive. For a RP male, either are beta behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 05:56 PM
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I was raised Christian and my SO was raised Hispanic Catholic. Both of us are agnostic. Religion isn't a factor in our values or relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 06:05 AM
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I think the general consensus from TRP is that alpha, beta, omega, etc. are male descriptors. Men and women do not play by the same rules. Alpha girls as described in your article: domineering, manipulative, and masculine, do not usually perform well in the relationship marketplace over the long run. They either engage in hookup culture or settle down early on with early bloomer alphas who become poor partners which they nag and cheat on into oblivion​. For RPW, they are the women to avoid, not …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 05:51 AM
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More likely implying inexperienced females are more likely to stay in poor relationships if they aren't aware they are in one. Same can be said for inexperienced males thinking their bitchy GF who nags and guilt trips them for seeing their friends is marriage material and truly cares about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/17 08:55 PM
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I can hire a nanny and house keeper. I think this is why SAHMs and housewives get so much flack. Society believes they perform a job that can easily be done by others, only they're unpaid and on call 24/7. It seems that the two types of people that will belittle women are either jealous because they believe it's an easy job, or feel pity because they think only brainwashed women would want to do a job that has no pay, no vacation, and no upward mobility.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/16 12:15 AM
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Sure but not voicing her concerns will lead to resentment, bitterness, loss of attraction, and tallying up flaws because yes, AWALT.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 07:18 PM
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She's looking for ways to be upfront about her dislike of his facial hair but doesn't want to say it in a rude or disrespectful way. I wouldn't call that manipulative. It's been bugging her for a month now so shutting her mouth about it obviously hasn't been helpful. Voicing her concern/preference in a respectful way and then not bringing it up again if he decides to keep it is her best option.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/16 05:32 AM
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That's an awful idea. No serious relationships by 30 is a huge red flag for any high quality woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/16 09:26 AM
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Include a category for "His Money" in your budget. That's something that I learned to do to save my budget too, lol. Just a set $40 (or whatever) a month that he can spend on whatever his heart desires. Holy crap, never mind. My husband uses 40% of our income on whatever he wants. I don't think I could negotiate him any lower. Now I'm off to lala land to imagine what we could do with all that savings.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 12:17 PM
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What do you consider a high partner count?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/15 04:14 AM
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Some girls are actually as turned off by high partner counts as guys are, especially the girls that have <3 counts. There are posts at RPW that confirm that. If she says that she's had <3 and is okay with you having a high number, she's lying to you: about her number, or being okay with yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/15 06:33 AM
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Its sad you think your mother, sister/s, grandmother, cousin/s, childhood friends, current female friends, or female coworkers couldn't care less whether you lived or died if they don't or didn't want to fuck you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/15 09:53 PM
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Probably because the Forester will go seek out another driver to cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/15 04:23 AM
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If me proposing an alternate theory to your explanation is altering the situation, then so are you. Stop acting like a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 10:45 PM
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Lol. Don't get butthurt because I disagree with your opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 02:51 AM
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Or more likely because he wasn't intimidated by the woman. If a man 6 inches taller and 80 lbs heavier started feeling him up, it would have been a different experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/15 02:41 AM
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Bahaha my boyfriend plays the same way with our daughter. Play wrestles and body slams her into the bed and all sorts of things that look entirely too rough. It's definitely a male thing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 10:34 AM
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Go to r/makeupaddiction and look at the "natural" or "no makeup makeup" looks, especially ones that do a before and after. That'll give you an idea on how much makeup you are comfortable with and how much of a difference it makes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 10:28 AM
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For our first we decided that SO would get to pick first name for girl and I would get to pick first name for boy. We had a daughter so he picked her first name and I had her middle name be the name my father wanted to give to my little sister. We're open minded about the names of our future children. I agree with the other posters that you have to be completely in agreement. I don't think my dad ever fully forgave my mom for changing my little sister's name until I gave it to my daughter.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/15 06:16 AM
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Until you have to deal with his baby mama. And then he's noooope.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 06:07 AM
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I think it's that women find fewer men attractive but also don't place as high of value on physical attractiveness as men in terms of commitment. So a woman will date a man who is less attractive but has other redeeming qualities (masculine, stable job, a talent, etc.) but will only sleep with a man who she finds very attractive. Hence the 80% of women will sleep with 20% of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/15 04:05 AM
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Lol you set the bar way too low if you think a woman's success in life is wanting kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/15 04:59 AM
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Because she got a wealthy man to enter into a marriage with her that views spouses as equal partners. If you don't think that is an achievement you're delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 01:09 PM
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She got a wealthy man to agree that he wanted a marriage that views the spouses as equal partners. If he didn't want to open himself up to that he shouldn't get married or have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/15 12:38 PM
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You're attractive. Just only in the context of sex, not commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/15 08:54 AM
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Nope. I've met way too many dudes who either have no goals or their goals are to "work out" or "get a job" and take no steps to achieve them. I'm also 20 so it really isn't that surprising from my male peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/15 10:22 PM
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Lol. Betas are better to start a family with/be in a relationship with/be around for an extended period of time. Not to mention SO and I have a kid so if we were to ever not be together I wouldn't date anyone unless they were also single with kid/s and thus also show an interest in family.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 03:19 PM
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Physically? I find men who are 5' 7" to 5' 9" and have a thin frame attractive. I like brown skin and colored eyes. I actually recently noticed that the men that I find atttactive have these similar traits. Personality? A sense of humor and dedication to his hobbies. A desire to provide for a family is really important to me too. So family-oriented is a given. Having goals and working to achieve them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 05:14 AM
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Are you comfortable hiding your sexuality in public? I don't really hide my sexuality in public as much as keep it to myself because I don't think it's anyone else's business besides mine and SO's. I have no problem talking about sex in general but anything that has to do with MY sexuality is reserved for specific close friends. Are you straight? Bi? Are you comfortable with your sexuality? I am straight and comfortable with it. If you had sexual experiences in highschool or college, do you thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/15 04:55 AM
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I didn't say anything about morals? You said that larger testes have been equated to higher rates of female infidelity. Its a known fact that female chimps will have sex with all males within their group which means that female humans do so on an even grander scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 10:51 PM
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That affects the other person though: now the sucker has to choose between being a daddy and paying child support. And if a guy really decides not to wear a condom for a one night stand I really don't have any sympathy that he gets pulled in. He was an idiot. But I wouldn't classify lying about contraceptives to say, lying that you lived in Switzerland for 6 months or that you make way more than you actually make, or even what job you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 09:57 PM
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Huh. And female chimps have sex with all the males in her group to make sure none of them kills her young, and we're worse than that. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 09:50 PM
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But everyone is not going to stop. Why would you stop doing something that makes you more attractive, takes little effort and is enjoyable for a lot of women. That is literally the same as telling men "just be you. Women will love you for who you really are." Like yeah, you can just be you or not wear makeup but you are going to have a much tougher time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 06:32 PM
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In the bigger = more female fidelity way or the reverse?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 01:46 PM
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It's not like they won't get a job for not wearing make up. You underestimate how much attractiveness plays part in the hiring process. I'll link the study when I get a chance. Even then, being constantly asked if you are sick or tired or being told that you do not look professional all come into play when you decide to not wear makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 01:40 PM
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Sometimes they just tattoo it on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 01:30 PM
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Women don't have to be ripped to get men to sleep with them or commit to them. Simply having a good hip-waist ratio and not being hideous is enough. Men have to be successful in most if not all aspects of their life while an attractive girl can be unemployed with no car living at home with her parents and not have any problems getting sex or commitment. Women need to keep their p-count low to keep a high value man attracted/committed while a man's p-count is fairly irrelevant to keep the attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 01:22 PM
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For the purposes of getting laid I don't really see any harm in lying unless its about something that can directly affect a women, like having an std.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 12:32 PM
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Why are you trying to argue that men and women use the same techniques to attract the opposite sex? TRP recognizes that they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 12:29 PM
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Women don't lie about how much they make. What's your point? Its already pretty well established that males and females don't employ the same tactics to attract the opposite sex. If wearing makeup was going to get a guy laid quicker and by hotter girls you really think he wouldn't slather it on?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/15 12:18 PM
1

We are a lot different than when we were 14 and our relationship has changed a lot too. One example would be that unlike a lot of other couples that got together as adults, we don't have a lot of interests in common. In the beginning we were able to get by on pop culture, school, and ourselves (goals, own interests, family, etc.) but now I don't particularly care about pop culture, he isn't into talking about school because he spent/spends 8 hours a day there and doesn't want to spend another mo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 03:56 AM
1

I'm very happy with my relationship. My SO is very hardworking and selfless when it comes to me and our daughter. We are currently in college and both work part time. He isn't particularly alpha in the way that TRP advocates and right now we don't have a captain first-mate relationship although I hope it will eventually turn into that. I am a pretty casual user here and use things that are beneficial to our relationship. Early on in our relationship most of our problems stemmed from my insecurit…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 12:46 AM
1

Haha thanks. It makes it super hard to relate to what my friends have to go through though because my SO and I got together during a period of our lives where asking "will you go out with me" through hangman was acceptable and exclusivity was a given, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 09:20 PM
1

The dynamic of college relationships is weird. Im 20 and have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years. My best friend is in an eyeroll-inducing relationship with her roommate after she was convinced by family and other friends to break up with her high school boyfriend. My cousin who is also 20 is stuck with a guy she resents because they're having a baby together. An acquaintance of mine was freaking out because her boyfriend of 3 years didn't want to get married at 20. I…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 12:02 PM
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Hand holding, giggling, acting coy, embraces, and butterfly kisses are super cute to witness but from my experience PDA is mostly of the ass grabbing, animated snogging, dry humping variety. Ick.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 11:49 AM
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TRP is a sexual strategy sub. They are looking at what is most effective for the largest number of guys. Most of these guys are looking for sex without commitment with 18-24 year old attractive women. Majority of these women respond to what TRP preaches and act how TRP teaches. The analogy has been that TRP is the men's locker room. It's meant to do everything but stroke a woman's ego. Nearly every saying that TRP has isn't meant to be taken literally even though a minority of Red Pillers do tak…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 09:22 AM
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I'm a female. And even if I did live at home and work as a cashier at the grocery store it would not even factor in to how the rest of the world perceives me as opposed to if I were a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/15 12:56 AM
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Men are treated like walking wallets. Especially in the dating scene. Or walking status symbols because everyone knows that the guy who has a good job and a nice car is going to be treated better in all aspects of his life than the guy who lives at home and works as a cashier at the grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/15 05:55 PM
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Society isn't really all that gay friendly. Homophobia is still pretty common place.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 11:38 AM
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Why would milennials lie in an anonymous survey in a sex-positive culture
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/15 01:57 AM
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So if someone is bisexual can they just not have any friends whatsoever because of the higher possibility of unrequited attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/15 08:36 AM
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That is a sigma.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/15 08:01 AM
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It's only a "parent turn off" in Western cultures. My best friend is Chinese, her parents are immigrants. She is dating a guy who is Chinese American, very, very Americanized. Her parents didn't initially like the guy because of how American he was, including living on his own. They found it disrespectful to his parents as he is expected to care for them until death. It's different cultural expectations. They literally thought that he was a loser because "if he can't take care of his parents, wh…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/15 04:51 AM
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I must be seeing some sort of side-branch feminism then. Most things I see from feminist websites or that are said by the very few feminists I interact with find chivalry offensive because it patronizes them or something. That they are strong, independent women who have men around as lapdogs and validation objects to praise how independent and strong they are. They put their careers first and control the finances. I do see what you're saying though now.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 11:33 AM
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That those ideas are *not exactly supportive of feminism? Weren't you saying she held ideas that supported feminism?
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 11:14 AM
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I do not believe that opposite sexes can ever be completely equal, as there are very specific limitations for each gender. I also believe that there is nothing wrong with many of the gender roles that have been honored throughout history. I want my sons to choose a partner who honors their manliness, strength, valor, chivalry and masculinity, and I am raising them to honor the qualities and virtues in their partner as well, even if those qualities include being maternal, ladylike, demure, and fe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 11:05 AM
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I do not believe that opposite sexes can ever be completely equal, as there are very specific limitations for each gender. I also believe that there is nothing wrong with many of the gender roles that have been honored throughout history. I want my sons to choose a partner who honors their manliness, strength, valor, chivalry and masculinity, and I am raising them to honor the qualities and virtues in their partner as well, even if those qualities include being maternal, ladylike, demure, and fe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 08:10 AM
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Most parents project their own values and perspectives on their children. I'm not sure if you have children or not but I would assume if you had sons, you would raise them with red pill values: ones that you husband would also presumably possess. I'm not disagreeing with you, I just thought this article gave good points of what is wrong with modern feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 07:01 AM
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It's definitely not perfectly red-pill but I found some stuff I resonated with.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/14 06:13 AM
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Being a slut for your man is very different from being a slut with any Tom, Dick, and Harry that comes along. Learning how to pole dance to please your SO is perfectly acceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/14 05:35 AM
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Most RPW wouldn't go for the guys that are on TRP. Mainly because most men on TRP are not looking for LTRs or marriage, which is the goal of a RPW. The men that RPW are dating/married to have probably never heard of TRP, they are just naturally red pill. Would both be able to identify the RP traits and thus a potential LTR? If the men and women of TRP/RPW practiced what they preached then it would be pretty easy to identify those traits because the majority of their gender doesn't exhibit them. …
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/14 03:07 AM
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How does RPW define "equal"? Is it simply a synonym for the same?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 08:33 PM
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The thing is he doesn't necessarily have to be a leader in the world or a leader of men, just a leader in the relationship. That is my utmost hope for him. Thanks for writing this comment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/14 01:53 AM
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There are some aspects that I respected in my father (the main influence of what kind of man that I wanted to have in my life) that are lacking in my SO, namely being the breadwinner and making final decisions. However, there are still things that I very much respect about my SO. He has always had my and our daughter's best interest at heart and will fight for and defend us, even if it has been against his family. Despite having difficulties actually job searching, he never hesitated to start se…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/14 01:50 AM
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We probably did move in together too young but it was the best option for us since we already have a child together. We lived with my mother and little sister for 3 months before moving on our own (the summer before college started). Aside from being cramped my mother was backseat parenting so it was hard for my SO and I to really get accustomed to parenting a toddler and I was REALLY not cool with that. I also felt like we were a burden to my mother as she was/is struggling financially. His fam…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/14 01:46 AM
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Yup that's usually what the posts here talk about: finding a man that is capable of being a captain versus trying to change the dynamic of an existing relationship. It's been hinted at that by improving yourself you can help your SO take on the captain's role, but its never been stated outright.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 09:44 PM
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I am. My relationship is really important to me despite my faults and mistakes in it. That's why I decided to ask for help here rather than r/relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 08:20 PM
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I feel like I am just in a cycle of making myself unhappy by trying to be more like a rpw while still continuing to do many of the roles I have been doing and not seeing consistent progress. When I first stopped nagging my SO about anything and everything our relationship took a noticeable upturn. He wasn't grumpy at me all the time and was more forgiving of my mistakes. However, as of late, despite continuing to not nag, his attitude toward me soured again. I think it might be because the stres…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 07:10 PM
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Ugh I know. I've been like this for so long I don't even know where to begin. If I just suddenly switch everything I've been doing I feel like that wouldn't actually help anything, though.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 07:01 PM
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I just recently started doing a cleaning ritual before school because I've been overwhelmed with the house. For the last couple days I've been making sure my kitchen is spotless before I leave for school. I'm hoping that as that becomes a normal thing I can slowly start doing the dining room, living room, bathrooms, and bedrooms as well. I hadn't ever considered that I was trying to initiate too much. I just assumed that action rather than constant "discussion" was a better route to go. I'll def…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 06:58 PM
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Thank you for the tips. It was solely my money before I had my current job. At the time I didn't care because I made significantly more than him and I didn't find it a big deal. Now I have a job were I made roughly the same as him so my income doesn't completely cover the bills anymore. With my reduced income I need my SO to contribute more financially but nothing ever really gets done about it when I tell him. I'm considering asking him if we can get a joint bank account so that I don't have to…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 06:49 PM
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My SO came from a home where everything was done for him. His mother and older sisters did everything for him, including occasionally doing his homework for him. I honestly thought that emulating how he grew up would be the best way to take care of him after he really struggled with doing things himself for the first few months we were living together. I don't want to get more into it because the OP just sounds like a giant complaint about him, but eventually I just started doing everything beca…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 06:40 PM
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There are many things that he does exceptional on. But I'm here more because I want to change myself to better our relationship then list all the things that he does great on and that don't need improvement. I'm trying to list all the overbearing, dysfunctional things that I do in this relationship because I feel totally overwhelmed on how to change it. When we first moved in together I did not do any of the things I was doing now. I just assumed it was a given he would be able to find a job, re…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/14 06:28 PM
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Staying for "the sake of the kids" is really just a lame excuse if you don't plan on putting any effort into fixing and maintaining your relationship. My mother did this and it was so obvious. They didn't sleep in the same room most months and had little physical interaction (holding hands, hugging, kissing, etc.) My mother was so curt when she was talking to my dad. My mother's unhappiness and their unhealthy marriage was pretty damaging to me and my sister as children. My father was probably n…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/14 12:18 AM
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She should be initiating no contact. This guy is a loser and isn't worth her time.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/14 09:38 PM
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The reason people think it is flawed is because it doesn't take into consideration first, second, and third+ marriages. I remember reading that something like 20% of first marriages end in divorce, 60% of second marriages, and 80% of third+ marriages. If I can find the source I will link it : )
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/14 04:00 AM
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I think in the scenario respect is meant as admiration. With the man wanting his wife to look up to him, to admire him, to be proud of his accomplishments, and yes, to respect him. Conversely, at least for me, I don't have a need for my SO to look up to me in that way. Yes, I want him to respect me and my choices, to celebrate my accomplishments with me and to be proud to have me as his wife, but I don't think it is the same desire. Additionally, I want to know that if I were in a dangerous situ…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/14 11:22 PM
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I'm honestly surprised that no one has mentioned online dating as a way to meet men. A friend of mine has a father who recently entered a relationship with the help of online dating. He definitely has his baggage but also very good points. All the other advice applies as well, of course. Many of the men are there because they have baggage, or they aren't as attractive, etc. They ARE going to have to lower standards. However, I think it is a viable option for a post-wall woman.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/14 03:32 AM
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Oh my gosh, this. A girl on my Facebook feed posted a status about how feminism is basically irrelevant now in America and they should be focusing their efforts of women in third world countries. Then a feminist comments and essentially sidesteps the issue by saying "Yes, we know that horrible things happen in third world countries, but we can't forget that sexism still happens in America". Basically every girl that commented said that they had all been discriminated against at one point, but ne…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/14 09:12 PM
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I've seen a configuration of Maslow's hierarchy of needs that placed addiction below basic needs and I believe that is accurate. People with addiction place that addiction over their need for food, safe and secure environment, among other things. If a person will choose their addiction over the necessity of a safe environment, or food, or their health, they are not the type of person you want to put your trust and faith in.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 02:13 AM
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It really would have been an unfortunate situation being Mrs. Butkiss for the rest of her teaching career. However, still having a different last name from your husband seems I don't know, sad, to me. I guess that's why I brought up both husband and wife changing their name. I had another teacher who got married and her name changed from Wilson to Leeche. That one also got some snide comments after class but I think she couldn't care less because it was the name of the man she loved. I don't kno…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/14 03:12 AM
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Yeah. For the most part I've known women who refuse to take their husband's name because they think it's embarrassing. An elementary school teacher of mine got married to a man whose last name was Butkiss. She opted to keep her original last name. I've always thought that if the bride (or the groom) didn't like the groom's last name this was their chance to pick out a new one. I've known people who get married and have a combination of both the last names as their married name.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/14 01:00 AM
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Motherhood isn't the hardest job in the world. But it isn't a cakewalk either. I mean if you're doing it right. The birthmother who "took care" of my adopted cousin probably thought it was a cakewalk. But she also only fed him twice a day and changed his diaper every two. I think mothers and fathers are equally important. They rear their child in different ways and care for them differently because they are both individuals. I learned how to be independent from my mother and how to stand up for …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/14 02:14 AM
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Is that females judging the attractiveness of females? Because that isn't the same as males judging the attractiveness of females.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/14 08:34 PM
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Yes. You will find in Africa that girls with a higher body fat percentage are much more attractive to local males than those with a low body fat percentage. In an environment without an abundance of food, higher body fat equates to wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/14 08:32 PM
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Additionally, since when is that an attribute?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/14 08:03 PM
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Yes. Most non-Western cultures believe in collectivism/communalism rather than individualism. That is, one is expected to make decisions after gaining the input/acceptance of the patriarch (matriarch in some cases).
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 04:14 AM
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