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I don’t believe every single male female relationship is bad news, as long as they’ve always been platonic and have always wanted it to remain that way (which it seems a great deal of straight men are incapable of). But I’m also extremely distrustful of women who only seem to befriend men and only like to hang out with the “boys”. They tend to have a strong pick me mentality and have little camaraderie with other women, and consequently whatever relationships those women have. I’ve befriend men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:51 PM
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He reveals so much about himself with his use of words. “She’s pretty sensitive”, “I finally gave in”. Without even knowing that English isn’t her first language he’s already a pos, but that detail makes it so much worse. It’s one thing to speak a 2nd language confidently in a casual context, but imagine doing so while you’re in excruciating pain and in a hospital setting where you may not even fully understand medical terminology in your 2nd language. Also Hospital systems aren’t universal and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 02:38 PM
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Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 01:53 AM
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Reading that instantly made me think of Leslie Knope’s infamous binders on Parks and Rec lol. I really need her to share this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:34 PM
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You think they’re getting better? Each generation just plays out the same misogyny in different ways. More and more men are watching porn at a younger age, they think sex work is work and that it’s appropriate to ask women if they have an onlyfans. They out there saying they’re feminists and that 50/50 is equality lol Yeah but I’m really glad they’re more in touch with their feelings and are “open-minded”. Sorry but that’s not enough and it doesn’t bode well for future generations of women. What…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 02:34 AM
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My pedo teacher told me that I had my walls up and that I need to explore out of the box when I was in 9th grade. He was giving everyone advice at the end of the semester and that’s what he decided to tell me. He thought I kept too much by myself, and at the time I almost believed him but it didn’t take long for me to realize that he was full of shit and was just trying to groom me. Not at all surprised when I found out years later he was fired for sexually harassing his students (he taught most…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:03 PM
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Don’t buy it as a suicide, since it’s weird that the boyfriend was also MIA at the same time. They really need to talk about domestic violence and what flags to look out for in school. How to report, utilize shelters, what resources to use if you’re in that situation or you see a loved one is, etc. These behaviors are already coming up with high school boys. Should supplement sex Ed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:51 PM
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Saw a few sane comments, especially one other women calling it out as porn sickness and objectification. But unsurprisingly the majority are just a bunch of pickmes and scrotes lauding how great and fun it is for women to be exploited for their amusement. Saw a few comments comparing sex work to any other job (like McDonald’s). And another dime where one women said how “we already fuck our husbands for free” so this is no big deal for a sex worker. I feel like there should be a bingo card for th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 02:42 AM
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This was my same experience. I remember asking my future husband to hit me during sex and he was like , "wtf umm no, thats not cool. Not down for that" and became noticeably uncomfortable. I remember feeling like a weirdo and later reevaluated my sexuality and why I desired to be abused that way. Truth is no one who loves and respects themselves or their partner would do this or ask to have this done to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:59 PM
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I remember this being pushed on me during my teens as a millennial. But even then it was still considered deviant and not a normal or guaranteed part of sex. Of course the more porn sick men became in my generation, the more I would hear about this from my peers as I got older. Same thing with anal. Now for Gen Z it looks like this is just accepted and no one even thinks to kink shame. It's sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:50 PM
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It's upsetting. Especially because being even partially strangled can have long term effects that dont manifest until later, some of which can be fatal. BTW these effects have been noticed even in cases where the victim doesn't have any noticeable bruising or pain. It does not take much. I felt sick reading how he was "choking her as hard as he could". Women's necks are comparatively fragile (especially for someone her stature at 5'4) and it does not take much to injure us from strangulation. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:44 PM
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I'll admit I am a fan of football and enjoyed growing up watching it with my family. My family are all from different areas in the states so there were times when we would be actively rooting against each other lol but it was always in good fun. Thank God none of them are Neanderthals like this moron. Just embarrassing. Also my team has suffered pretty bad losses for the past 10 years, including losing a superbowl and I've never once acted out like this. What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:09 PM
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Thing is men know to hug each other while keeping space between their lower area, boner or not. So for a guy to deliberately shove his erection on you while hugging means he did it on purpose. So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:33 PM
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Umm you need us to tell you that you should kick out your disgusting loser BF? He's doing this shit while living at YOUR mom's house. He has no respect for you or your relationship. BTW red flags are indicators that tell you something may be wrong. You just listed whole ass problems showing how awful your BF is. They aren't red flags at this point. I mean reread what you wrote, reflect how you're feeling right now and ask yourself again if this relationship is worth it. I'm sorry but this isn't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:33 PM
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Ooo i remember reading about that widow support group. That initially shocked me but then I remembered that one of my coworkers got fired and soon after killed himself. He was married with a daughter. I remember thinking it was so tragic but then it turned out that the reason he got fired was because he had CSAM on his phone. Were not allowed to bring cellphones into the worksite and if they do they have tech people onsite who will go through your phone to make sure you aren't disclosing anythin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:16 PM
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Yep. My mother told me to save my infatuation phases and crushes for school. But once I'm an adult to make sure that in any relationship, the man is more in love with me than I am with him. The thought of that used to depress me, because every romantic relationship portrayed in media seemed to push the idea of how wonderful it is to be swept up and head over heels in love with a guy. But turns out that's BS and my mom was being realistic and looking out for me. This is why we always tell women t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 05:11 PM
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I remember a time when I was younger when the guy who would openly talk about porn was regarded as a weirdo and inappropriate. No one wanted to be that guy, even if they did watch porn themselves, because all the other girls thought he was a freak. I hate how normalized it has become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:45 PM
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Yeah I'm not clicking on a perez hilton link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 12:44 PM
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I just saw one where a woman was bragging about being a stay at home GIRLFRIEND. The absolute clownery. 🤡 The very least you could do if you're going to buy into this tradwife bullshit, is actually get a ring and a marriage license so you have some stake in the whole thing once it goes up in flames.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 12:43 PM
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My thoughts exactly. It would've been better for her to just act nonchalantly and say something acknowledging what he had said but not make any commitments. If he presses, say you need to think about it later. Then as soon as you're home and safe, block and delete. I'm glad she's OK but this could've really escalated and she would've been stuck in that car with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:28 AM
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I always think of the Gail Dines quote, "If tomorrow women in the west woke up and decided they really like their bodies just think how many industries would go out of business - the cosmetic industry, the clothing industry, the diet industry, the gym industry - and then think of all the allied industries that support those industries". It honestly disgusted me thinking how much these industries make a profit out of my insecurities (which only stemmed from pressure to conform to the beauty stand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:08 PM
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What answers are you looking for here? You wrote several paragraphs about your dislike for this woman (including the bonus comments you made later in the thread). I think it's fairly obvious that you don't like this lady as a person, let alone as a friend soooo what is this? Your only connection seems to be that you were in school together or knew each other around that time. It's not like you're coworkers where ending a friendship would require more tact and care. Cut ties and move on. Honestly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 06:54 PM
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I saw a great thread on Twitter that explained how men are more prone to developing paraphillias: "Basically men's sexuality has evolved to prime men for instant reactions to stimulation (including thoughts, feelings, sensations) and has been selected for the ability to reproduce many times with many people. Women's sexuality has evolved to allow us to choose to invest time and resources in a mate, to reproduce relatively few times. This is different to men's sexuality. The drivers of male sexua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:19 PM
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Exactly. I mean every serial killer who was a sexual sadist enjoyed fantasizing about doing these things. There's clearly something wrong with them. I hate the whole sexual liberation movement, and how it gave sexual fantasies an automatic free pass. Basically anything is ok if it turns you on. Crazy how a guy could say that he likes to strangle women and everyone would be concerned, but he can just add that it makes his dick hard and suddenly it's ok because it's now a kink. Like why is that be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 10:01 PM
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Nope. He's changed a lot over the years (for the better) but I do think my mom deserves better. However my maternal grandfather is an HVM. I spent a lot of my childhood with my grandparents, and seeing how he treated my grandmother planted in my head standards to expect long before I even found FDS (sadly my parents relationship was basically "what not to do"). My grandparents were both active in my upbringing and made up for so many things that my parents lacked. And to this day they still help…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 12:50 AM
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Same. This was really why I gravitated towards smaller boutique gyms that teach barre, pilates, yoga and even cycling. They're mostly attended by women, taught by women and women owned. I find that when a man does attend they tend to behave and mind their business when they're in a room filled with women. Memberships tend to be more expensive than your standard gym but it's worth avoiding the company of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 09:28 PM
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Umm his parents aren't great people if they're calling you a whore lol If your BF doesn't speak up for you now,, then he never will. I'm sorry he has his hangups, and I can sympathize how growing up in an oppressively religious household can fuck up how you relate to people and your relationships. But, that's something he needs to sort out before he enters a relationship, and in this case he either needs to do it ASAP or you need to end the relationship. When I first met my husband's family, one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:27 PM
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Facts. First time I got written up in my adult life, was by not laughing at my idiot supervisor's joke. Didn't make a face, or scowl or anything, just kept a neutral face and didn't laugh. A FULL WEEK later I received a write up. Scrote literally wrote that he was trying to lighten up the mood (lol) and that I made things awkward by not laughing. I was only 20 at the time and remember being floored by it and thought that this guy was just an exceptional asshole. Nope, turns out I would encounter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:41 PM
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Exactly. I've lived in apartments for most of my life and I clocked that as a bullshit excuse. Not once have I ever had anyone on staff just barge into my apartment without knocking or saying anything. I was very happy when I relocated and moved to a nicer place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 12:44 AM
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My dog is not aggressive at all and is a loveable goofball. We trained his demand-barking out of him soon after we adopted him. However, the one "bad" habit he has that we will never untrain is that he will always bark aggressively whenever a stranger comes into our place. When friends and family visit, we just simply have him meet them outside, let him sniff for a minute, then they walk in and he's ok. After a while he gets used to them and it's unnecessary. However whenever maintenance, delive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:42 PM
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Honestly dating apps are innately low effort. I know people use them because, "they're busy and don't have time to vet and meet people " but if you don't have time to even meet others or initiate the dating process then how you gonna have time to actually date and get to know a person/vet? If you're busy with other shit in your life then continue doing that or rearrange your priorities and time management. You should be looking for people who are involved in your same social circles and who enga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:25 PM
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Honestly I don't think these people can be rehabilitated in any way. I think they should be dealt with the same way we deal with rabid dogs. I also think you're being really nice with suggesting chemical and not physical castration as an option. I watched the Louis Theroux documentary where he visits a pedo facility that acts as a sort of halfway house for convicted sex offenders after they serve their time. He interviewed several of the men there. Some were desperate to reform themselves to go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 11:43 PM
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OMG what a queen. I couldn't stop laughing at the tall guy asking her out saying, "I don't use snapchat either". That guy gets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 12:44 PM
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Seriously how do you not bring up your kid in conversation? Everyone I know with kids offhandedly mentions them in some way. Either the kid is not a significant part of his life (which will always be a big red flag to me) or he's purposefully being deceitful about his relationship to the mother. Also his friends and family didn't bring it up either? When I'm with family I always ask about their kids and general family life stuff so thats fucking weird too. I get a single parent not wanting to ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 12:48 AM
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Really pathetic. She mentions she has other partners too...but none of them are living with her sooooo what is she getting out of it? Oh right she gets to live with her husband's girlfriend. What a pleasure lol sis probably doesn't even pay rent. I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:52 PM
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Best advice for any woman wanting to have kids, is to make sure that at a moments notice, they can leave their husband and be financially able to support their child and themselves. Also make sure you've developed long lasting relationships with a few trusting people (other women preferably) who would help you at your time of need. This can be friends, family, whatever. Point is, not to financially or socially isolate yourself or become fully dependent on your spouse. Because if a situation like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:16 AM
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A woman that worked in the same building as me was victim of an attempted murder-suicide by her husband. Bastard shot her several times in the chest before he shot himself. Thankfully she survived and he offed himself successfully. The trigger for this incident was not only because she was having an affair (with another coworker) but that EVERYONE at our work site was aware of it. Now, I dont condone cheating but I sure as fuck don't think it's punishable by death. You leave the relationship and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 04:50 PM
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Really enjoyed this episode and everyone discussing their perspective on pickmes and how to help them (if possible). I thought Lillith's strategy of covertly peaking pickmes was helpful but I also understood Reaux's criticism of it and how it can be misconstrued and even used against you by narcs. Honestly I resonated more with Savanah's suggestion of telling pickmes how their lives aren't made better by the presence of LVM/NVM and that there are more pros to being single than in a relationship …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 04:37 PM
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"She's supposed to do this this and that" NO. She shouldn't have to do shit, she should just be able to enjoy her coffee by herself and not have to engage with some dusty scrote. It's absolutely maddening that women are expected to deal with this behavior just because they're women. I dont know why men won't get this through their heads. You finding me fuckable doesn't make me interested in talking to you. I don't know you, and I don't want to get to know you. Shoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 02:22 PM
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Sis...HVM don't go to strip clubs or hire strippers and they definitely don't condone other men who are OK with lying to their wives. When men tell you who they are, BELIEVE THEM. He's shown you what to expect, so now the question is do you want to commit to this person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:39 PM
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Okay the first two paragraphs I could understand where he was coming from. When kids enter the picture you're going to find yourself compromising on things like your career and lifestyle. I think it's understandable to be frustrated by that aspect of family life, even though it was his choice to have kids. Nothing wrong with venting and occasionally thinking "what if?" as long as you don't dwell on it. But then he said, "I've already given up so much to spend time bonding with my kid and working…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:17 AM
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HVM can identify scrotes just like the rest of us. Dad knows whats up and he can also empathize with a single mother. Instead of engaging in typical scrote behavior where men don't tell on eachother and turn a blind eye, he did the right thing and gave this woman advice that was beneficial for HER and her kid. Of course the pickmes and scrotes of reddit were unhappy with this advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:55 PM
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I've only done it and enjoyed doing it with my current partner. The order of our sexual encounters was him going down on me first multiple times, then eventually we had PIV sex and several months later I trusted him enough to go down on him. Never felt degraded doing it, and not to give TMI but I do get physically excited just from the act of doing it. I dont know if it's just because I'm attracted to men and going down on a man hits all of the senses which my body responds to but it works for m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:29 AM
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Exactly. Only instance I would have another adult sleepover is if we had a late night going to a concert/show/drinking and they want to sleep it off. But the whole sleepover part isn't planned or the main event of the night. Grown ass people (who aren't fucking) don't do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 06:28 PM
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Same. I kept going on reddit and looking at my feed like...oh yeah there's nothing going on. Without FDS I wouldn't bother having an account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 12:01 PM
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Reaux humming circus music when Elle was talking about her redpill days was pretty funny. Honestly, when Elle veered away from political talk and told us about her life as an ex handmaiden I found it much more interesting to listen to. Redpill to FDS trajectory is unusual and I wonder what would make someone like that have a come-to-jesus moment in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 05:17 AM
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You didn't miss much. She later quoted Bush unironically and then espoused the stupid 2nd amendment talking point how "good guys with guns" would deter the bad guys. Could not stop rolling my eyes the entire ep. Honestly I want more Savannah (I feel like she gets less speaking time) and less of whatever that was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 01:26 AM
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Yup. Even when Brian admitted he pushed her, the officer chimed in and said something like "to make space between you two right?". I didn't catch that the first time and it was infuriating to listen to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:44 PM
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What a fucking loser. How do you reach your 50s have a successful career, raised two kids and the words, "I want to have a harem" come out your mouth. Congrats, you sound like every 13 year old pornsick boy who's obsessed with anime waifus. Jesus christ men are such imbeciles. Also we all saw your sad dad body, and you still have the audacity to think the likes of Misty Copeland and Halle Berry would have anything to do with you????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:50 PM
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Umm why did you continue to sleep with the ones who didn't say they cared about your HPV? Did I misread? Also similar to Herpes, condoms do not completely prevent you from transmitting HPV to them, nor does it protect them from contracting it. Better than nothing of course, but I just want to clear up that misconception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:16 AM
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I immediately thought of the skincare subs as well. It kills me when they come in and ask for help and give NOTHING. They don't address their skin concerns, what products they're using, etc. they just come in and say, "help me with my man skin". Like fuck off and read the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:38 AM
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Yep. Just knowing that there is a 99% chance that they go home and jerk off to rape-on-tape is enough for me. I'm automatically not interested in anything they have to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:28 AM
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Exactly. Anna will be better off while he will continue to derail his own life. I am only sorry for the baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:24 PM
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Gonna be wearing masks and sunglasses outside for the rest of my life. Should buy more hats too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 04:57 PM
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omg that happened to me at work when I was responding to something a scrote said and he kept interrupting me but I wasn't finished and refused to shut up for him. So we were just talking loudly over each other and it was the most infuriating thing but I just continued to raise my voice until he stopped. It feels so ridiculous yelling over someone but I'm glad you didn't stand down. You have to establish boundaries and confront them when they cross the line, otherwise they'll just keep doing it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:12 PM
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Yep. I probably have a similar disposition to OP, and used to be constantly bombarded with other coworker's shit. The personal things these people would disclose to me... But I've encountered scrotes like this, and you realize after a while that they just want to talk AT you and aren't actually interested in having a conversation unless you agree with everything they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 10:38 AM
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It seems weird because it is. They want access to you and your life without actually interacting with you. Socializing takes skill, effort and mutual participation. Social media allows people to skirt those requirements. If it's not integral to your job and how you make a living, I really recommend deleting any social media that you can't participate anonymously in (reason why my reddit and twitter don't have any personal identifiers). At the very least, make them private and don't add distant s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:19 PM
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Ugh I forgot about Rose West. Awful, Also Karla Homolka (who participated in raping and murdering her OWN YOUNGER SISTER and other women/girls) is not only alive but free and living life in Canada. But Wuornos who killed a couple of johns gets the needle, like there really is no justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:42 PM
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When I first started my true crime obsession as a kid, I remember wondering if there were any famous female serial killers and Aileen Wuornos popped up (this was before the Charlize Theron movie came out). Even then, reading about her crimes, they did not appear as brutal and terrible to me as other famous serial killers (Ted Bundy, Night Stalker, John Gacy, Dahmer, etc.). It wasn't until years later as an adult that I figured out why. And honestly, it's because I do not give a fuck about a coup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 06:35 PM
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Killing Eve. All of the women in the cast are amazing and Sandra Oh is particularly great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:46 PM
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Our bodies will change overtime as we age, even without undergoing pregnancy. If your man only likes you for your current body, do not marry him and for fucks sake dont reproduce with him. Expecting your partner to look like how they were the day you met is childish and shallow. Growing old together, and experiencing all the changes that come with it, is a privilege. If he can't see that, he's trash and undeserving of companionship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:12 PM
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It's astounding how brazen they are with their porn use. Like I remember (back in the day) if some guy would talk about it openly he was considered a weirdo. Of course boys and men would talk about it amongst themselves, but it would only be within their social group and never within mixed company. Now they don't give a fuck. They've normalized rape on tape and sometimes I don't feel like going out into the world, when I think about how many men I interact with happily admit to watching porn. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:40 PM
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Yep. Unless its someone in staff or someone I actually know outside of the gym im not taking off my headphones for you. Also any guy who interrupts you when you're in the middle of doing something clearly doesn't value your time so that's an automatic no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 07:13 PM
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The fact that he only wears joggers (glorified sweat pants) and t-shirts shows that he doesn't bother to make any effort and instead of improving himself he just wants to act like an insecure asshat and put down his wife. This is what LVM do. They try to bring you down to their level and then put you down for it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:11 PM
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Size and shape does matter. We were all told this growing up and as a result very few of us have any dick standards. Clit stimulation is key of course, but some dicks are just inadequate which makes PIV sex "meh" or just bad. This in combination with men's general selfishness and poor performance in bed leads to lack of orgasms from penetrative sex. We're told it's not important because the truth is men can't do anything to change it, no more than change their height. While that is unfortunate, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 04:05 AM
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My husband and I both grew up playing videogames as a pastime, however neither one of us would ever revert back to how we played back then. It's one thing to play marathons when you're a kid with little autonomy, lack of responsibilities and not much else to do, but as an adult? Fuck no. And if you're like this scrote who is not only an adult and married but also has kids, then there's no excuse. I couldn't imagine being married with kids and the first thing my husband does when he comes home is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:24 AM
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It kills me when they say," I just like cuddling and being intimate" as an excuse. Like yea sis me too, but I also like to finish as well. Those two things aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:38 AM
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These women are basically having obligatory sex and taking what little crumbs they can get, because they were told that PIV and a man's orgasm is the end-all be-all to sex. It's not. Majority of us aren't having sex solely to reproduce anymore, we're doing it to cum. Sex should be enjoyed by all parties involved, and if you're not cumming at least once by the end of it, that's fucked up and your partner should feel bad. You can enjoy the intimacy and affection of sex AND also have an orgasm(s). …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:33 AM
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He was portrayed that way because Abraham and his family directly influenced the show and were shown in a positive light. I do think Selena was too young and inexperienced to get married, but that's what happens when you're raised by a controlling authoritarian father. I don't know a lot about her husband Chris, outside of his relationship with Serena so I can't speak to whether or not he's an LVM or not, but I did read his book about her and he had nothing but love and admiration for his wife, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:44 PM
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My sister is going through this. She divorced her NVM nearly a decade ago but he still pops up and makes her life a living hell by using his connection with her kids. Now she's married to a LVM, and he slips by because he "isn't as bad" as the NVM but he's still awful. My family makes a lot of excuses for him, but I see him for what he is. I found out she's pregnant again and I feel incredibly sad for her. The reality is that even if she divorces her current husband, until the kids age up, she w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:06 PM
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Yep, it didn't take me long to realize that the whole "I'm assertive, or I'm blunt/brutally honest" = "I have no emotional intelligence and don't how to interact or relate with others". You're just a dick, and it's not a trait you should be bragging about. Truth is, it's easy to be cruel and inconsiderate to others, but having empathy takes skill and practice and is a sign of emotional maturity. If you're incapable of doing that then you're not ready for a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:33 AM
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Exactly. I can enjoy a hike and a walk by myself, having a date tag along tells me nothing about him other than the fact that he has two legs to walk on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:04 AM
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For real, if you don't have enough chemistry or interest to power through dinner without awkward pauses then just leave sis. You're meeting for the first time, you both have had a life full of experiences separate from each other, so how do you not have anything to talk about? A change of scenery or flowers to look at isn't going to make a difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:52 AM
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She could just have her husband hire cleaning services to help take care of housework, which would free up time for her to go out and engage in a hobby or whatever where she could meet other women and befriend them so she could have someone "to talk to". How is her husband getting a second wife the first solution you think of to those problems? Completely brainwashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 03:10 AM
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Huge turn off. Also talking about their dicks all the time. I remember boys in middle school constantly saying those dumb jokes and innuendos, except they had no context or social awareness or comedic timing so it was always cringe. It was pathetic then and it is even more pathetic for a grown ass man to STILL be talking like that. Did you not engage in any other hobbies, interests or life experiences or are you still as vapid as a 12 year old boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:30 AM
11

I just can't comprehend how we've gotten to this point. I understand in the past, when women would put up with their NVM spouses because they either had no choice (especially financially), or leaving them would be social suicide...but now? I just don't understand. As much as I give men crap, the truth is that there are men out there who not only don't do these disgusting things (because not getting off to porn or degrading acts n gore is the bare minimum) but can actually add to your life and be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:08 AM
6

Exactly. I have no issue with cats, like if I go over to someone's house and they have one I'll pet or play with it but I would never live with one. And honestly I don't understand how people let any pet (dog or cat) sleep in their bed. To me it'd be the equivalent of wearing my shoes in bed. Same goes for any sitting area like the couch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 02:35 AM
8

He is 100% the kind of guy who would feel "betrayed" if she was just masterbating or used a toy. Sis please run far away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 08:23 PM
8

Yea Ovarit showed promise, but ended up not being the space I wanted after reddit did their massive ban. I've noticed that there are a lot of conservatives who just hide behind GC, and I've mistakenly assumed they were pinkpilled or radfem. Had this same issue on twitter when I started getting conservative talking heads on my feed because the GC users I followed were liking their posts. yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:20 AM
9

I remember my sister's LVM husband joking about how he ate my nephew's birthday dinner. We had all went out for dinner, and my nephew was of age where he wanted to order from the adult menu now. Haha. I remember him carefully selecting what entree he wanted, it was adorable. Of course it was too much for him to eat in one sitting, so we packed it up and saved it for later. He 100% planned to eat it later, but his POS dad (who has the wherewithal to prepare and/or buy his own damn food when he's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:08 PM
47

I can't believe you guys got Dr. Gail f'ing Dines. I can listen to her talk for hours. Also I really appreciated her talking about her son and how she raised him with an HVM. Gives me some hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:43 PM
32

Yes! So many men feel that they need to make commentary on every fucking thing. It's like no one ever told them that they aren't that interesting. And you know what, it's fine if you're a bland boring person, just keep it to yourself. Sometimes I wonder if they even hear themselves or realize what they look like? No one is trying to have a conversation with you, no one cares about your stupid jokes or comments, and frankly you're not even that nice to look at soooooo why are you talking? I don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:37 AM
38

Yep. The only place that has a clear, front facing photo of me on social media is on my Linkedin profile and I still get weird messages from scrotes, despite it being a "professional" site. They have no regard for boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 01:14 PM
174

Exactly. My husband just does things. The most recent example happened earlier this week. I ordered some takeout, the doordash guy mistakenly grabbed the wrong bag and delivered someone else's order (he left it at my door without knocking so I didn't have a chance to correct him). My husband immediately drove to the restaurant where my order was and got it for me. I didn't even have to ask. Btw, it wasn't even his food (he had eaten earlier at work) so this was entirely selfless. THIS is the sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:01 PM
18

I honestly feel for parents, educators and caretakers of young boys because the entire situation seems hopeless. Even if you do everything right you're still competing against a society that reinforces the patriarchy in every facet of life. It's a life long struggle. It seems the odds of raising and educating an HVM (who remains that way) are very low, even with the best intentions. I also hope they don't mind the criticism because I really appreciate having a space where I can think about and d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:57 PM
51

I don't see how reinforcing gender is helpful? No one conforms to one specific gender 100% and women, especially, are oppressed by it. I mean it's a tool used by the patriarchy. It's not just a set of characteristics and behaviors that are tied to women or men, it's also hierarchical (where masculinity is considered superior and feminity is inferior) so how would we even begin to rearrange gender norms in a beneficial way? Im not convinced that that can be accomplished by picking and choosing, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:27 PM
17

One of my coworkers covered the same shift that I usually work one night (so we've never met before), and not even within 2 minutes of meeting he asked me, "how seriously I'm quarantining" (eww) and if I wanted to get together outside of work. I simply said I'm in a relationship, so no. Wasn't rude or abrupt about it, so no worries (I thought). He immediately becomes defensive and says, "oh I wasn't like asking you out, you just seemed like a cool person and I wanted to hang out". riiiight. Beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 02:47 AM
211

The fact that heels are mandatory for women at work and they can't even wear prescription glasses tells you all you need to know. It's no wonder why so many western scrotes are obsessed with Japan and their culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:50 PM
20

I love this podcast so much. I can't express how great it is to hear other women discuss and voice the same things that I go through, think and have experienced. And without any male input!? Ugh priceless. Listening to Stana (? pls correct me) talk about reconciling with the fact that her life isn't going to be the idealic social busy life she envisioned in childhood really hit me. My social expectations set me back for years. For so long I felt like a failure because I couldn't meet those expec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:34 PM
7

No, the point is that if he still "struggles" with it then it means he's incapable of seeing women as full-fledged people, and has no issue with objectifying them if it means he can nut. He's not a teenager anymore, and if he really needs help then he should get out of the relationship and improve himself. Not HV at all. And not a person I would want to regularly interact with, let alone date and be intimate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:50 PM
3

Well in that case lol My recommendation (and this is for any product or service) is to try and purchase makeup from brands that are owned and created by women or purchase any brand that are sold from small businesses run by women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:22 PM
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4B is saying no to dating, sex, marriage and having children. There's also the, escape-the-corset movement, which is rejecting beauty standards made for the male gaze. They cut their hair short, stop wearing makeup, no plastic surgery, etc. Ultimately they're all about centering themselves and other women and recognizing that men have nothing of value to add to their lives, in fact they're usually detrimental (i.e LVM and NVM) so it's best to avoid them in every aspect. When I first heard about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:00 PM
12

I'm in my late 20s, but even I feel lost with the current makeup trends. I understood lip and eye makeup growing up, but the whole contouring, highlighter, full face thing seems so extreme. I grew up watching my sister do this for her ballet performances and theater shows, where the makeup is purposefully exaggerated. But seeing women do this for their everyday looks will never look normal to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:09 PM
55

Everyday the 4B movement in South Korea makes more and more sense to me. No dating, no sex, no marriage, no child rearing. Enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:30 PM
30

Yea same with Lawrence of Arabia. They managed to convey that the character was being raped without explicitly stating it or showing anything. In fact, you don't even see him or the assault when it's happening, it's eluded to by the reaction from another character. It still hits hard when you realize what's happening, but nothing gratuitous AS IT SHOULD BE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:58 AM
15

"Bra-less"? I'm so confused by that added detail. I don't know many women who would wear a bra when they're relaxing at home anyway. The shoes come off, off goes the bra. Has nothing to do with my spouse. What sort of flex is that? Maybe he wanted to write topless but knew that would be even more unbelievable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:39 AM
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Yea my HVM will randomly walk away at times (either to the bathroom or our balcony), and I know it's because he's letting one out lol. Became really obvious during quarantine, but very much appreciated. Like, I get we're all gross gassy humans, but it's a small courtesy to take a moment and step away. Same goes for burping. Sometimes you can't help it, but at least say excuse me after. I don't know why some scrotes think it's funny to take this opportunity to go full Homer Simpson style and belc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:10 AM
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So I started doing all of those things within a few months of living in a major city when I was a teenager. You learn pretty soon that it doesn't pay to be nice and you should never give any stranger the benefit of the doubt. The amount of scrotes I came across who would try to capitalize on my politeness was insane. However even after moving out of the city, I found that these habits were useful anywhere. Turning to stone should just be our default setting with men. Give em nothing. Also to avo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:39 PM
21

I just finished watching "The Vow" series about the NXIVM cult. And one episode focused on how they were training all the women into believing that they were emotionally irrational...among other things. Like these women were deadass apologizing for expressing their emotions in the middle of conversations. Treating it like it's some maladaptive behavior that men are conveniently immune from. That whole series was a wild ride and there's a lot to unpack, but I cannot believe that grown people (who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:32 AM
10

Great episode. Really enjoyed the commentary about the LVM and NVM princes and romantic interests. There's a comic series called, Fables, and part of the lore is that Prince Charming is the same dude in all of the stories of Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty. He's basically a philandering pos and every one of his wives end up divorcing him and level up themselves. I just always liked that interpretation, because it's pretty realistic that a wealthy spoiled prince would take advantage of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:19 PM
10

Okay so can we now talk about how men's sperm undergoes degradation after age 35 that not only creates difficulty with conception but can also cause harm to the mother and child. With the latter manifesting as developmental issues, mental illness or congenital diseases for the child. As always the burden of fertility and reproduction is placed on women, but men need to have the light shone on them as well. The whole, "men can reproduce into their 90s" crap is tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:38 AM
3

He went on an incredible "journey" in the past 6 months? lol okay dude. It sounds like you've just been stewing because you got dumped, and then wrote this sad pathetic letter to make yourself feel better. If that's a journey then good for you buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:18 PM
2

There's a comic called, "The Mental Load: A Feminist's Comic" that has a specific chapter called, "you should've asked" that delves into how unfair it is not only for women to be doing the actual chores, but for men to put it on women to be responsible for delegating what needs to be done. It goes into how we tend to have a constant mental load regarding what needs to be done and taken care of around the house that is exhausting. Meanwhile men get to mentally check out and take a back seat, wait…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 11:01 AM
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