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Casual sex is only about sex. Neither party is supposed to be in it for anything more than that. It really isn't that much different than paying for it while looking for a longer-term partner. Also, the casual relationships themselves may be low cost - getting to them however is not. Hinge is £14 a week, dude. A WEEK.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:25 PM
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No thanks - if I want to get my dick wet without commitment, I will see an escort. https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1qw9tr1/paying_for_it_is_so_much_better_than_casual_sex/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:13 PM
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Women have easy access to casual sex, and sex in general, while men do not. That is the advantage a solitary woman has over a solitary man. Both are NSA / not long term, so if women choose not to date, and men struggle to find dates as a result of that, then sexbots and AI will fill the void because most men do not cross the threshold to access casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:57 PM
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As long as we have sex robots / AI girlfriends and hookers to level with women's easy access to casual sex. You cannot mute the male sex drive. Every road, every lamp post and piece of public infastructure was (most likely) put there by a man, to subconsciously build for a future wife and kids
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:08 AM
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For the most part, yes. But there are absolutely exceptions. t. went into back-office financial services at 19, never went to uni, now 27 and still going strong with my shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:07 AM
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that wasnt even possible 5p years ago bro 2021 isn't 2001
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:08 AM
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Well they certainly aren't liberal or libertarian
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:31 AM
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Yeah, and those slime balls are ending up with just-as-slimey women, are usually filled with drama and there's no love in it whatsoever. I have seen this in both media and real life. There is nothing wrong with being shy or neurotic or anxious etc as long as you treat people nicely. Not "nice guy" but you get the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:17 PM
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There were signs, trust me. I even booked a few days stay at her city for it. We met while on a group travel tour some years ago, then months later I worked up the courage to hit her up and she seemed genuinely excited to see me. Although I did say, "even if it didn't lead anywhere". I guess the flipside is that now that I have tried to peformatively rizz someone based on what dating advice for men told me, I can now confidently say I would rather someone not be into my authentic self romantical…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:08 AM
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Agree completely. Sad that the internet has caused many men to think "I have to do X Y and Z so that she likes me" - I fumbled a really good looking date because of it and have regretted it ever since, wish I was just myself even if it didn't lead anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:26 AM
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This mindset doesn't account for situational and contextual factors that can affect ones' ability to meet people easily. If your workplace doesn't have a lot of women you'd consider, if you don't have an adequate third space, if you didn't go to college etc etc. Many attractive people can lack prospects solely due to how their life is arrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 02:14 PM
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I was referring more to where you do the approaching - daygame, nightgame, at a coffee shop or in a bar etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:56 AM
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Well yeah teaching isn't ideal at all for workplace relationships, there's probably extra rules on that more than any other profession. In any case though you would be socializing and progressing outside work. Approaching women is really just saying "how's it going?" randomly when up at the bar or out in the smoking area. Like you're talking to anyone else. Just talk as if they were a regular stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:09 PM
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When you say you are scared, what scenarios do you imagine approaching a girl in?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:40 PM
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27 Roughly around 4 or 5, I can't exactly remember. But it's definitely under 10. I know you said no apps but I did have 1 date in the last few months, otherwise 0. I live abroad right now, originally from the UK. For a while I frequented bars and other night spaces since they're my only real option for meeting westerners my age, but regardless, I find that every time I want to approach a girl, she is always with A. friends, B. a boyfriend or C. family. B and C are obviously no-go for me, and in…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:27 PM
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I just want a female companion, man. The internet makes it out to be so difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:32 PM
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There is a lot of slavery in work
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:32 AM
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That flair gonna get you banned on sight
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:21 AM
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To sum it up: my biggest problems have always been logistical. I never went to uni - which turned out to be one of the best choices I ever made though it does have one or two critical drawbacks, not being surrounded by women being one of them. And when it came to work and third spaces, people I was interested in never really showed up a lot in person. I have also always hated online dating / apps because frankly ever since their inception I always found them to be stupid. I've only been on 4 fir…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:11 AM
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"Baddie" used to be short for bad guys in movies lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:23 AM
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I always had a lighter on me even though I don't smoke for exactly this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:34 PM
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Correct. And mostly because of false societal programming that doing so makes you a loser. (You can still do it while trying to play "the game", lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:27 AM
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Would you recommend going to bars and clubs alone? If you avoid the "usual" ones and go to specific venues / events that play the music you like, then that is absolutely a valid reason to go alone - in fact, it's getting even more popular now with people de-toxing from social media. If the music isn't good then a good hack is to have a pair of earbuds handy playing your own music. Can actually be a good conversation starter ironically. You'll want to frequent the smoking area (get a low mg / non…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:56 AM
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There is one way that Gen Z men can meet women, but everyone else shuns them for it. (Hint: it involves money)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:51 AM
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The issue with this mindset is that it's very easy to get into a slippery slope. Like, yeah, you're not entitled to sex, but there's a point where it starts to become moving mountains to get it - if that effort is not being reciprocated then is it really still your fault?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 04:51 AM
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wut
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:00 AM
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What app? What kind of things did you text to get to sex
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 08:28 AM
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Nice man, you mogged a guy to get your gf. It's a lot of effort to interrupt two people in conversation. Wonder if you followed the advice of any redpill gurus at the time. That guy who had no chance probably turned into an incel in the end lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 08:27 AM
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So she texted you and you didn't have to do anything specific to move the needle? She moved the needle instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:17 AM
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For lack of better expression then
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:17 AM
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I don't believe in it but it do be like that tho
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:16 AM
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It is abundantly clear in men-women discourse including this sub that men are the initiators and drivers of everything romantic and sexual with women and this is being propped up by both genders. Language doesn't change the mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:07 AM
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Depends if you mean the western world or the whole world. Western world, I would say about 60%. Entire world, definitely 20%. Then I would just add 10% for women - 70% western, 30% worldwide.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:40 AM
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This post is about to be taken down because Clavicular is in the spotlight. Sorry OP, you're about 5-10 years too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:27 AM
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Thanks, I've saved it so I can read it after the mods delete it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:26 AM
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It do be like that though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 05:15 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 02:55 PM
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I totally agree in principle, however you have to look at the flip side and tackle the motivation for why men get into red pill - it is a means to an end and ensures they keep what they desire. If you communicate honestly, there is a huge risk that you will turn her off / she will make you wait / she won't see you in a romantic or sexual light. If you don't keep your wits about you in relationships, she can take advantage of that and cheat on you while not giving it to you. Basically, if you're …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 05:01 AM
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Short men are getting laid! Yay! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:10 AM
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Um, the entire purpose of sex robots is because men are having less sex and all that because of, you know, everything to do with modern dating. If a man gets a sex robot there's no way he has any intention of getting with a real woman. Also, there are quite a few easy ways to hide a life-sized robot - just get an ottoman bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 05:41 AM
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The problem with this mindset is that if men had it, then NO MAN would get a girlfriend, unless women are then encouraged to become the driving force in dating / relationships, which isn't going to be taken by them lightly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:25 AM
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hahaha based
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:48 AM
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But a lot of times they're not even acting expectant, they will reach for their card and assume they'll end up going dutch while secretly wanting the man to go "I'll handle this" and pay for it. The man is often not allowed to ask to go dutch or expect to do so. The risk factor for the guy is the awkward situation but the reward comes from handling it well. I agree it's bullshit - it's why men can never tell whether they should or shouldn't pay the whole bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:40 PM
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Then that proves my point and really can't blame you, dude. Honestly don't get why people have a thing about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:34 PM
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I guess it depends on the guy. If he has an otherwise established life but there aren't many dating prospects at work or in other spaces he's part of, then can you blame him if he dedicates at least one avenue solely for dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:17 PM
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I personally wouldn't give two shits if my participation in a community is now awkward because of dating, because not only is that how I genuinely feel but it displays confidence and not giving a damn, which are supposed to be attractive male qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:15 PM
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The issue is that although women say otherwise, it often turns out that they still secretly want the man to put his foot down, take charge and pay for it. It's a shit test.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:07 PM
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Some of those maybe not the best examples but I think just generally undermining her and treating her like a princess that can't protect or do stuff for herself. I dunno
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:34 PM
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I think he means stuff like carrying heavy things, DIY, fixing the car, protecting her whenever they're out, stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:08 PM
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I agree, if only women stopped responding to them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:42 PM
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Because it is simply one of the many buttons that society tells men they need to push if they want to get laid. Nuff said.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 08:52 AM
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Lmao this was all true about 10-15 years ago but now women have wised up to this shit. This is post-redpill world now - women will smell from a mile away if you're faking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:05 AM
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They don't know how to make a conversation / interaction flirty, how to show their romantic and sexual interest According to whom? Trying to establish a standard of flirting is exactly why guys struggle being in the friendzone. Stop pretending that this is an exact science - it's not. Anyway, for OP's benefit - the trick is to find something you like about a girl and compliment her on it. Not because the internet told you to say this at the right time and so on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 04:03 AM
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You need to be a little bit of a jerk, a challenge and must trigger a bunch of negative emotions in a woman to actually succeed in dating. All of this needs to come out naturally without you thinking about it - it's not something you work towards then get. Not by forcing or acting it out - if you do that then women will smell that from miles away. The same goes for the "nice" traits - your friend acted like the Nice Guy(tm) not because he's actually a decent person but by complimenting her acade…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 01:52 PM
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On the surface, they don't. But my point is they do nothing to influence or change anything about how women behave, they encourage it instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 05:46 AM
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This is a pretty flawed argument for a couple of reasons: Weak men = betas / inkwells / average joes / etc etc who all struggle to get with women, therefore, most will have no incentive to pedestalize women. Yes, you get some fringe idiots who give money to OnlyFans girls they will never meet or at the very least never get to touch or be with. Strong men / Chads / Alphas, despite their status and all, actually do very little to change or oppose female nature, despite how much they speak out agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:20 AM
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I think it's fine as long as they do it quietly and without plastering memes about it on social media - I see that as rubbing it in men's faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:12 PM
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Also: There is an enormous population of men who pay sex workers for non-sexual services. Companionship, to talk to him, etc. So clearly it isn't all about the sex This is an interesting point because there's this concept in the online-independent escort space that technically you're paying for their time and companionship only, and this was traditionally a means to skirt laws in some countries where flat-out paying a stranger for sex alone is illegal. So technically, you're not really paying fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:09 PM
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Quite a fair number of them do, actually. As well as married men, and other men who frankly shouldn't be paying for it. Trust me, I know. They're the ones who jade the prostitutes which paints the nice guys / guys that don't fit society's criteria for casual with the same brush.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:03 PM
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I actually agree with you on quite a few of these - the slutshaming, taking care of children, masculine friendship - but I'll just explain why I think it's ended then tell you the points I disagree on. So, yes, across the world as a whole, men are in positions of power, but in the west? You must've been living under a rock. Like, just look at DEI in companies, media nowadays, movies with an overwhelming amount of female leads... etc etc. But from a more real world perspective it goes deeper: wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 11:57 AM
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If you make analogies like this then you're the one who should touch grass. We are animate beings with cells that are constantly being divided and replaced. And not many people know this, but there's this neat little thing called menstruation, where every month or so, the walls of the vagina are sloughed off and replaced with new walls. So even if you ignore the fact that pretty sally takes showers daily, there's no real difference to the cleanliness of the cooch.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:23 AM
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So it is sex for status and not the sex itself, which I find pretty warped to be honest. Bragging about it which may drive his friends to pay escorts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:32 AM
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I think the patriarchy has long since ended lol but I'm curious - what would ending it do in this case?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:28 AM
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Agreed. And in particular with bad sex - it's wise for a virgin or guy on a dry spell to practice with a professional so they won't disappoint a real partner in the bedroom down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:26 AM
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You mean if she didn't advertise herself and didn't accept a request to meet. Even if you're willing to pay her rate she has no actual obligation to be there, she can screen out bad clients anf stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:21 AM
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The whole "girl wants you" applies to LONG TERM as I've mentioned repeatedly in my OP and this thread. Feelings aren't exactly involved in casual sex. It's about status more than anything - the guy gets his "I made a woman have sex with me" validation and the girl gets off to being fucked by someone in power, but they don't like the guy himself - only the cock and status attached to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 12:22 AM
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It means exactly that - choice. They can do it for a while, do it every now and then, or not at all. They can do it as a side to their main job. And speaking from experience they really are just everyday women who happen to sell companionship and sex. I also only see white westerners so it's all familiar.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:06 PM
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Okay but if you read the very first sentence in my post above, I am referring to independent escorts who do it by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:56 PM
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who u talking to lady
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:45 PM
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Because it's consensual?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 01:43 PM
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Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:43 PM
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And you have to pay for the premium option on Tinder just to be shown to the other person... same for every other dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 10:14 AM
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And guess what happens when some men aren't even into rough sex. Yeah, who would've thought guys would be in the wrong for not wanting that!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 10:10 AM
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Paying for it over time and not getting a result in return is not good. Knowing that you can pay a fixed sum and get it is awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 09:55 AM
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Well that's what I said in my OP so there ya go.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 09:52 AM
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You're having casual sex without a condom?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:07 AM
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k
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:44 AM
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It's all "pretending" in so far as men fake it till they make it and women are super conscious of what they're doing in that moment and there's no real love in it. And that isn't true, it may surprise you to know that some women actually enjoy sex and charge for it accordingly, then stop once they've gathered enough money for whatever it is they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:40 AM
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It's a service. Some providers do some things that others don't, some are better for some things etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:37 AM
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Okay well they don't do it in front of me and it never comes back to me so I'm all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:32 AM
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You know as crazy as it sounds I try not to think of it that way and I do love women but it's hard to maintain bro
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:30 AM
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Well yeah if it was a problem then they'd refuse, sure it might stink but then the guy can just settle for sex and then go to another escort in the future. It's no big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:29 AM
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That sounds like you're going on a date for a long term partner, which as I said is valid. I doubt your flair lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:27 AM
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I mean the whole ick meme thing, just look at what supposedly gives women the ick... and we're not even talking kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:21 AM
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It's more like you have to be smart with your investment - you pay a bit of money to get them to care, not too much, you then weigh it up as you go along etc. But it usually doesn't end well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:20 AM
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Women in consensual relationships do care about men or they wouldn't be with them That can change at the drop of a hat. Professionalism in your presence sure, do you honestly believe they dont share stories between themselves though? I'm sure they have a great laugh. Well you don't know that for sure, do you? And even then, so what? And again, she went through with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:17 AM
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Okay but the fact is, they went through with the request. A civvy wouldn't. They would get the ick, storm out of the room, and then gossip to everyone she knows. And if the prostitute does gossip then as long as you didn't use your real identity / name / phone number then what can she do? Obvs assuming you didn't do anything abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:16 AM
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I agree in principle but is that always the case though? Like if you're referring to a brothel or street-level prostitution then yes, and of course trafficking which is not what I endorse at all. But in my experience there are escorts who are actually enthusiastic to see good clients after the client introduces himself a little in their request for a booking and the escort has all the power in the world to be there or not, no one is forcing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:12 AM
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Thank you for writing my point out so concisely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:52 AM
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I agree. I wouldn't go near agency sites, brothels, walk-ups, onlyfans or wherever, any women with tattoos and piercings, any filipino / latina / romanian / east european as those are likely to fall within those categories. But the white escorts with websites and who write english well, there are plenty of legitimate ones who do it because they want to. They can pull out at any time, and they don't have a pimp, but they do it anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:28 AM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:21 AM
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If you think sex workers don't talk... To whom? You're not using your real name and phone number. Except, as we know, many men who visit sex workers are also in relationships. Yeah, it's unfortunate. No reason to visit SWs when you already got a source of intimacy. Hey personal preference. I like the tension and build up. Nothing hotter than sexting with someone all day knowing you're gonna fuck each other's brains out that evening. "Tension and build up" is mostly game playing but it sounds lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:17 AM
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Nah I think I'll keep going
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:11 AM
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The good old ad hominem, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:49 AM
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A man pursuing a woman just to get his dick wet is not trying to connect with women, and he will actually be blamed for trying to do so. We live in a society where allosexual behavior is encouraged and rewarded while demisexual (longer-term, more emotionally invested) is discouraged. Also, I never said not to date. I have been on dates, was on one off Hinge a couple of weeks ago. I am looking for connection. I can definitely small talk, and talk about subjects with some depth. That isn't annoyin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:49 AM
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Yeah Mexico and Vegas are very bottom of the barrel, sorry dude. UK / Australia / NZ / parts of Europe via online is where it's at.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:27 AM
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Humans are social animals my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:25 AM
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Where I'm from (London) there are plenty of well-adjusted women who do it on the regular, sometimes temporarily for uni fees or even as a side hustle to their main job, all voluntarily, and are completely normal "girl next door" types. They're not supermodels but by no means streetwalkers, and they're not off cesspit sites and X.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:23 AM
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Why would it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:10 AM
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Women cheat, women talk about having multiple guys non-chalantly, women lie about their body counts - not complaining except maybe the middle one but these are frequent talking points. Monogamy isn't realistic any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:05 AM
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All women had sex with other men, dude... and there's no guarantee the woman your with isn't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:56 AM
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Okay but I would much rather have the connection in a long-term arrangement than the love-hate drama-filled shit that casual tends to entail.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:51 AM
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I mean, your first thought when it comes to having sex with a prostitute (woman) is other men. That's pretty gay if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:49 AM
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Casual isn't about genuine connection, so yeah you get validation that you "seduced" her but you're not supposed to actually care about her according to casual-havers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:42 AM
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YMMV but those are all pretty tame for paid stuff except maybe spanking. Some do some don't. But you're also far less likely to be judged and casual sex partners can always storm out of the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:39 AM
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That is due to stigma rather than any real reason not date a "whoremonger", as you put it. And yes, I would. Knowingly or unknowingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:33 AM
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I usually browse elsewhere, I lurk a lot then recently found the energy to post.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:25 AM
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Men who do a lot of casual sex are really not that much different. They care about scores and ego boosts, not connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:19 AM
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So it's about status and not about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:44 AM
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Sex is awesome Is it really though? Do you get to live out your fetishes? Is it as nice as depicted in movies and amateur porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:30 AM
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I mean it depends on the context of where you meet her but nah come on, not the very first.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:24 AM
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you need to know how to approach with confidence, keep them entertained and generally come across as an interesting, fun person If this isn't all coming out organically then you're doing something wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:40 AM
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k den :(
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 05:54 AM
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Is it a red flag if it is purely a result of situational things, i.e. he was sent to a boys only high school, he didn't go to uni, he lived on his own since he was in his early 20s and never flat shared, and he doesn't buy into the whole "approach" and pickup thing. Is it his fault then if it never "falls into place"?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:44 AM
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It seems that older men, like retired and 60+ are more likely to feel the most lonely and isolated. In terms of not having a partner, don't think so. Many have been there, done that, and maybe are just lonely in general. Either way it's quality loneliness unlike getting past 25 and still never having had a relationship. Though there are gen Z and Millenials who are incels that feel lonely due to not having a partner or possibly also not having many friends. Yes but my point was that if they got …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:31 PM
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With the majority of men there is a psychological. almost evolutionary drive to go from family > friends > relationship (as in, who you care most about in your life, if that makes sense). Hopefully I am just single - honestly it's really hard for me to gauge it because I get very few opportunities to meet women, follow up with them, ask them out etc and I've always been disillusioned with dating apps. But that said, the definition of incel (thought it was censored here for some reason lol) is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:10 PM
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While I agree in principle that you should have friends before relationships as a form of natural progression, I can say with certainty it makes zero difference to 'the male lonliness epidemic' - I've been looking for a relationship for years but it's just never happened. Men can absolutely be inkwells by the very basic definition and be completely well-adjusted in every other area. I have an established third space that has depth, i.e not just a hobby club or anything, we have multiple shared i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 01:47 PM
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I can see why many guys prefer it and why from a purely evo-psych perspective it would benefit, but I actually prefer and would expect a bit of experience - not hundreds but, say, 1-3 serious relations and not many hookups. I don't want to have to "take care of her" excessively and have the external pressure not to mess it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 01:37 AM
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Because it's just stupid, honestly. You know why he's approached you. He knows why he's approached you. He made up his mind on wanting to shag you the moment he decided to approach. Like are you expecting some novel thing to come out of a guy approaching you after you looked at him for 3 seconds???
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:05 AM
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Are these women approaching men at the bars lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:52 PM
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For me it's not really a woman's beauty, but the situation. She'll be with her friends, with a guy or two (one of whom may or may not be her boyfriend), is she preoccupied, when is the right moment to say something, etc etc. When you have all this shit in the way then her beauty almost becomes an afterthought, lol. I mean most women are attractive to most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/25 10:05 AM
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You're 38, I'm 26, maybe there was a better time that I was born too late for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 10:03 AM
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The issue is they don't want relationships on equal footing they want submission. Women don't really care about men, but when they do, they demand dominance more than men demand submission. Men want romance and wholesomeness without all the sentimental over-the-top stuff but women prefer the allosexual man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:46 AM
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Time, headspace, health (arguably).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:22 PM
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incls Incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 09:13 PM
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Ok but what about toxic femininity? Toxic masculinity eggs it on but it is the women who deliberately wait that have the final say.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 09:08 PM
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In regards to what? Women are very apathetic nowadays. They don't care about men. Not that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 09:06 PM
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I mean we more or less live for a chance with the opposite sex, everything that men built and did in the world was in the pursuit of sex. And who said anything about a bitch? She's only a bitch if she's not giving it to you. The only people who can realistically expect faithfulness are muslims.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:18 PM
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And disposing your only source of companionship and intimacy until you find another one will make you a loser. It'll be a while before you get another one as time goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:49 AM
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Why do I get a sexualised Dora (the cartoon one) ad for an AI chatbot when I read webtoons? If anything we should be legally mandating adblockers or the Brave browser. That'd go a mile protecting people from this type of shit, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:34 AM
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I mean, while dating in our 20s, as long as I'm having a piece of that ass and other dudes aren't in the picture, I really don't see what else you can do about it. Puss is puss.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:27 AM
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So the vast majority of men, even top men who you wouldn't think get cheated on, are cucks by definition. In other words, woman can instantly turn a man into a cuck on a whim.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:20 AM
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The esoteric male hate is strong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:54 AM
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Um... that's not how it works, at all. This is men having to go on many dates until one woman wants him and gives him sex / intimacy. Say he goes on 20 first dates, doesn't make it to the second with any of them, then 1 woman posts shlock on the app and now he'll never get to 100, because he's been cast out over trivial shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:26 PM
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Okay, but women still take the gossip seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:11 AM
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i don’t think even the average normal good guy thinks about this That is, until he inconspicuously dates a woman who proceeds to gossip about every little thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:03 AM
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But you don't know right from the start if you want to spend years and years with them... you just happen to meet them without thinking about it, then it goes from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 07:05 PM
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"Just be yourself" is more bluepill where redpill usually tells you "never be nice to a woman", "never tell a woman she's pretty" etc etc - redpill is far more likely to impose rules on what you can say or do to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 08:56 AM
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What makes this difficult is red pill telling you to be sexual in a specific way, but what we should be telling guys is, tell her what YOU like about her. "You've got some nice thighs, I bet you're the one on top" - something like that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 08:41 PM
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While it sounds healthy on paper, the problem is that disincentives men from trying. You cannot tell men to decenter women, yet also remind them that they have be the ones to initiate, to pursue, to ask her out, to seduce her and basically control everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 09:30 AM
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Because I was addressing two different parts of your post. I don't get why worrying about not satisfying a woman is a problem with men who are only attracted to those they have an emotional connection with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:30 PM
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What's wrong with demisexual?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:09 PM
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short finish time just you wait until you hear about the opposite problem
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:09 PM
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I don’t watch porn. I listen to porny audios and on occasion read erotica The dopamine hit is probably the same
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 02:51 PM
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OP would fit right in by moving to Saudi Arabia.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:14 PM
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real life dating is an absolute irrecoverable dystopia I attended Thursday dating events (look it up). The only reason they're naff is because dating apps and social media spilled into the real world. Dating is a dystopia because of dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:10 PM
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I mean I know my opinion is pretty cliche but the thought of being mistaken for a bot never crossed my mind, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:07 PM
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What sub are we on again?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:51 PM
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Women were never having sex for free, lol. Men are always exchanging something for it - time, headspace, emotional support, marriage, resources, and of course, money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:13 PM
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How are women having sex with men they're not attracted to? OP makes zero reference to any cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 01:10 PM
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Gender conformance really matters To what extent? There are different archetypes of guys that women like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:56 PM
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Dating apps will get rid of themselves with the way they're going. Pay for play features, men having no success, women having shitty dates from them, the list goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:43 PM
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tip toe around the line See this is the fastest way to overthinking, nervousness and self-doubt, none of which are conducive to the confidence that women like. "Oh be a bit of this but not too much this but also kind of be this". Own how you feel. Don't be afraid to tell a woman she's pretty if that's what you genuinely believe and not just to score points. (then again it kind of does both lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 11:26 AM
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Girl...friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 11:24 AM
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If indiscriminate swiping is the best solution then the apps are seriously not worth it. It's not 2015 anymore - get off them. Women are ditching them too. There are social apps that are getting more popular nowadays that focus on in-person meetups.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 10:56 AM
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We don't have to fuck them, we don't have to have relationships with them, we don't have to have children with them But one of you eventually will.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:31 AM
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Actually it's quite simple - womens' lives are usually chaotic. They simply have too much going on. Work, family, friends, social media, internet, TV, and yes, other men, all take up their time and attention at a much greater scale than men's.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 06:01 PM
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WAY more people in any given social circle or work environment are sleeping with each other than you know. I do wonder exactly what happens when they get it on - I wonder if they have specific kinks or they treat it like it's just sex going to the bathroom
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:29 PM
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If your roommates mind their own and / or you can make it work then great. Just that having your own space makes it a lot easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:01 PM
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Only to realize that the job you're in is a sausage fest Not necessarily. Go to workplace socials, find another job or focus on going to events in the evenings. All the women you see at the grocery store or the gym don't want to be approached at all. So now all you're left with is dating apps which the vast majority of men do not do well on. There are singles events and social apps where people go to dinner with strangers, such as Timeleft - only caveat is that you need to be in or near a major …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:36 AM
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At the cost of everyone knowing every single thing you did with someone. You feel like you're in Love Island or Big Brother. Every relationship is public knowledge and risks harming your academic progress. When you're in college and most likely living with others or in dorms, people know when you're fucking. So much better to start dating once you're working, earning money and living on your own if you can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:35 PM
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You don’t have to treat average looking women to nice things. That’s reserved for attractive women that can actually date millionaires and celebrities. Rubbish. You wouldn't be on a date with a woman if you didn't think she was attractive to you. Men need to remember that we are the ones doing them a favor by giving them our attention, validation and time. It’s not the other way around. Lmao what planet are you living on? Women don't give two shits either way, they're just as happy single. Women…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 08:54 AM
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situationship No thanks I just want a normal relationship and not some shitty social media trend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:32 PM
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You can't do anything wrong on dates, you're being held to not just her expectations that you're not aware of, but her friends, the government, social media and a whole lot of other influences based on how a date should go.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:29 PM
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You treat people you like to nice things. Nothing to do with gender beliefs or delusions or whatnot. Most men absolutely do not pay in some way shape or form. Not only do men pay for dates, they build and do things in life to build a civilisation to share with women, children and families. They expend time and energy going out, to bars, to socials, and dating apps to get women. They expend headspace by dwelling and worrying on this sub's subject matter and how it affects their lives. Men absolut…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:13 PM
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As much as I agree with the general notion that all men pay in some way shape or form for women to spend time with them, escorts should not be the last resort - they should be thought of as there to help you get along until you manage to make it without directly paying for it. Or if you're a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:15 PM
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This is some main character syndrome. Why is it always your fault? You can only do so much before the onus is on the other party to give. Are there people who put in more effort? Absolutely. But they're not the only ones getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:01 PM
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What is it you think effort entitles you to get, exactly? If you're a well-adjusted, hygienic and decent guy and you make the effort to put yourself out there and go on dates then you should find someone eventually who wants you. It's not that hard to grasp. Men are biologically determined to do shit in life for women. It's the natural end result. Sex from a woman who doesn’t want it? No, sex with a woman who wants me. Where's this coming from?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:52 PM
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If you put in the effort then yes, you are entitled to get something. This isn't about men doing nothing and subsequently complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:13 PM
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Except "undesirable" means a boat load of trivial things that wouldn't be considered undesirable in a non-dating context. Playing video games - even if it doesn't take over your life is undesirable. Being into nerd stuff is undesirable. Not using an iPhone is undesirable. The whole ick thing, you know. It's not that a bunch of actual undesirables are complaining about not getting it. Not anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:12 PM
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Either become desirable According to whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:04 PM
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I have never seen any YouTube video, post online complaining about gooners ever talk about moderation. It's always black and white to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:35 PM
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she’s the one who kissed me first because she was tired of waiting Okay? So it was totally fine for you to be shy, and because you didn't have negative enforcement against being shy (lucky you), you just so happened to come into yourself and be more outgoing on your own terms. That's pretty sick, dude. In a really good way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:05 PM
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I didn't say anything should be "done for me". The key word was pretend - the point implies that as the man it is on me to fit in by sharing somewhat of the same interests as women. That either happens on its own or I have to fake it, which isn't genuine. And I completely agree with friend being in the name - people normally like to find other people they can click with. Is that such an alien concept?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:13 PM
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C: just doesn’t fit in anywhere meaning he’s just an outsider and doesn’t have much interpersonal experience with anyone. I'd be curious to know what OP suggests men do about this one. I cannot in good conscience pretend to be interested in women's hobbies or interests since that's a form of NGS. I don't listen to mainstream music, don't watch TV or Netflix and didn't go to college, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:26 AM
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Not sure if you're agreeing with me or saying meeting women organically is pathetic, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 06:06 PM
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True those, except b) completely false lol, why do you think men don't approach, everyone got anxiety nowadays
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 01:33 PM
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approach approach approach lol As if the only way to acquire a woman is to cold approach her in public. What happened to the days of people just meeting through school, college, work, or better yet something intangible that brings them all together? The days when you never really gave it much thought? It kind of just "happened".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 12:34 PM
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*date sideways
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 10:28 AM
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And what is the looksmatch of a tall, perhaps muscular woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 04:17 PM
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All men pay for it. Sex work is just the more straight-forward way without having to jump through hoops and fill certain criteria to be eligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 04:11 PM
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Modern dating is a problem, the Red Pill offers a solution. Not a great solution, but a genuine one. As long as that remains as a solution and not the solution, then we're good. Redpill heavily implies that if you don't follow their methodology, you won't get laid. At all.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:42 AM
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They have all fucked. They are clearly attractive enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:07 PM
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I seriously doubt most women care about men that much to obsess over them. Nowadays, if he's disinterested, even if it's legitimate, she'll just be like "Ok, whatever" and go back to being happily single, and / or finding a guy just as attractive if not more than him. Women do not care either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:00 PM
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Yes. If she's willing to give a conventional beta male a chance, she's a saint.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:34 PM
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But what did you do from meet to sex? Any specific things in mind where you thought "right, Ima try this and hope it results in sex"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 02:14 PM
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How do you acquire sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:09 PM
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simps must suffer We all simp in some way shape or form.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 08:00 PM
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He is liklier to view you as easy otherwise. If he views you as easy, he's less likely to want to pursue things long term What is with this assumption that if you give him what he wants out of you then he'll suddenly stop liking you? Like, hello? Mr Boyfriend is going on dates with you, worrying about whether you'll respond to his texts or not and acting in all sorts of ways like treading a fine tightrope with zero margin for error, all so he can achieve sex and companionship with you. If you fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:40 PM
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the man can't control himself because she's so sexy Are you saying I should tell a woman how hot she is contrary to what feminism and TRP tell me?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 07:25 PM
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Women hating men and telling other men not to bother with them literally is blackpill / MGTOW / incel line of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:54 PM
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Unless OP is LARP'ing as a blackpill, hilarious coming from a redpill man - I thought you guys were supposed to convince us that we'd have worthwhile relationships by swallowing red. But I was always a skeptic - push a series of buttons in the right order to be with women who hate you, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 09:37 AM
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I imagine the ideal woman in this day and age would just be: * Low drama, easygoing, mature. Doesn't cry or complain a lot unless it's warranted * Kind and compassionate, not a mean person by default. * Can function on her own - has a stable job, education, financials, middle class. For specifics I would say any full-time corporate job or in retail would work. * Little or no politics - too many raging liberals and trump supporters. * Low or no social media presence - uses Instagram / Facebook to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 04:20 PM
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Routine screening for prostate, testicular cancer like they do for breast No draft OR women are drafted too (preferably the former)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 09:59 AM
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I have none of those and went on two dates with women taller than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 11:51 AM
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I hope you're not considering leg-lengthening surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:22 PM
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the 90s spiderman cartoon You're a pretty cool dad
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 04:12 PM
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If he used escorts when he was young and still coming into his own, provided he treated them nicely, then stopped once he found a partner, would you still not like the fact?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:07 PM
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wave 1 - we want the vote just like men, ok wave 2 - we want to work just like men, pay for our own stuff and not be demure submissive housewives, awesome wave 3 - we want more female representation and less dumb misogyny, ok wave 4 - look, we just don't like men all that much, ok? we don't want let alone need you Is what it feels like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:53 PM
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"give him the look in front of his friends and other men in general to make them jealous and make him feel loved" Most guys don't give a shit about this. When this happens it's almost always a woman thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:48 PM
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I don't follow anything to do with Taylor at all (like I just don't) but IIRC she did a skit some time ago parodying the alpha male trope, don't know exactly which one it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:44 PM
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Redpill people just never sound happy. Everything has to be hard, everything has to be serious etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:16 PM
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In an ideal world a woman would be as free to seek and obtain sex as any man, but we know that isn't the norm anywhere in the world Uhhh... are you living under a rock?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 09:34 AM
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It seems to be more apparent that a "ran-through" girl would choose not to date at all rather than settle for a non-player. There are exceptions of course, but that's typically the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:37 PM
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Maybe you could point me to some "actual research" instead of taking the piss out of me?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:08 AM
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The Book of Numbers: Analyzing the ROI on the Pursuit of Women by Aaron Clarey. Has all the numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 10:19 AM
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Yes. Sex powers the whole economy. Every road, every brick laid was put there in the pursuit of sex. Every man should have one or two relationships in his young life before a certain age. Once you've done that, THEN you can say that sex is no longer a need.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 12:39 PM
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I don't know, in my experience there's a notion that women tend to romanticise men of lower classes, because they tend to be more alpha while middle-class white-collar guys are seen as beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 01:27 PM
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But we want sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:17 PM
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And for every human being who has a job, there are 20 more who are forced into slavery
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:15 PM
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It's not that they walk out, because they will still have to pursue relationships which escorts, no matter how nice they are or how much time and money is spent, will never truly replace a relationship with a "normal" girl. But it does make it a lot easier - can fallback during dry spells, far less pressure when dating, etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:14 PM
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Good genetics (healthy, good physique, good height, attractive) Resources (financially stable, able to financially take care of his partner and kids) Personality traits that align with being a good father and partner (involved, caring, nurturing, prosocial and altruistic, committed) What if I have all of those except I'm 5'7?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:11 PM
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Funny and interesting according to whom? Figure out what you find funny, make your own observations on things, and double down on what you find interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:23 PM
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But the platitudes must have worked if they got it naturally?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:19 PM
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I don't know how God would feel about joining his religion to pursue women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:17 PM
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With clubs it's not anxiety - that can be solved by having a few drinks (literally one of the reasons you're there), it's the fact they're loud AF and not ideal for talking, so your only real option is the smoking area. But then you're better off just at a bar - clubs are for going with people you already know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 01:16 PM
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If she pushes for it then no shit sherlock!!! But in terms of men pushing for it, I'm under the impression that it should be on the second so as to not seem too much "player" (I'm certainly not, lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:46 AM
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Just to confirm - are you talking about international travel? I'm from the UK and for the trips I did I used one of the few tour providers we have where you don't really know who's going until you get there. Will have to look around on Facebook to see if there's any, but I imagine it's a lot more popular in the US since you have way more options in terms of staycations, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:43 AM
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This 100%, only major downsides though are that it's expensive and you have to hope that there's girls from your city / area or reasonably close rather than just your country. I had to travel 2 hours to meet a girl from a trip once, we had a date but it didn't go anywhere after that... not ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 10:39 AM
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Simple - anything labelled "dating" immediately pre-empts the whole ordeal with people's perceptions and ideas that were programmed into them by media, society and culture. Much better to attend regular events and have it sort of as an unwritten expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 10:36 AM
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And the hobbies themselves are silly. Salsa dancing? No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:37 PM
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Not only are they naive, they're lazy. They never talk about where to find women, how to talk to them, and how to do so in a way conducive to progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:10 PM
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I usually apply number one by default but apply number two in my own ways because it feels natural to me. It's always good to take notes from internet coaches but also equally good to toss out the stuff you can't roll with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 04:44 PM
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The internet taking things to extremes as usual. Nothing wrong with video games - just play the older ones for a couple hours a week as a pastime, not a hobby. Or socially with other people in person. Nothing wrong with corn - you're just looking at the shitty stuff. (anything from the front page of cornhub etc - consume tasteful stuff that has meaning to you - but keep it light, and you don't need it if you're in a relationship - don't be dumb) Nothing wrong with drugs - avoid anything that's w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 02:54 PM
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While I don't agree with being toxic about making men pursue women, I understand why they ought to be the ones chasing - because women (and people in general) are just so preoccupied with everything in life that guys still have to be the ones organising and moving it forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 02:11 PM
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(Men who say this usually develop major Nice Guy syndrome after getting rejected a few times) "Most men are pigs/perverts". (Oh and you're not?) "I am 28 and I would never even look at a woman who is more than 2 years younger than me, they're children to me" (we get it you like virtue-signaling) damn bro im cooked, i just got invalidated, guess redpill is the only way (skull) But in all seriousness, there's nothing inherently wrong with these, though I agree with not bragging about it. If asked,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 12:29 PM
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Yup. Common knowledge. Men do sex. Men make sex. Sex in its most basic form is a man fucking a woman. Most of the time anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 02:04 PM
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A-men. The worst part is that the men who tend to peddle the advice of "you don't need a woman to be happy" most likely have already been in relationships which qualify them to say that, and they're telling that to dudes who've never had GFs. Just obnoxious really
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:33 PM
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do you have a bachelors in this shit or something
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 12:09 PM
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Location?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 12:08 PM
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That's true, but I'm just contesting your claim he'll do better on dating apps. I'm not seeing any non-normies having success on dating apps anytime soon - many attribute their plight to their abundance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:41 PM
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Young men are litterallly the most physically desired men lmao. I dunno about you, but here in the UK it's almost a given that women my age (24) are doing it with men 5+ years older minimum, usually ten. Unless the guy is super-attractive everyone gets called a "baby" as high as 27 years old. I've seen it happen. It's crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:35 PM
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Good looking non-normie man: Will do better on dating apps than IRL I severely doubt that, as very much a non-normie guy. I hate all the politics and game-playing involved in using dating apps (mainly when to message, not responding too quick, leaving her on read etc and other bullshit) and I'm sure many more do, whereas normies are A-OK with all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:28 PM
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Damn, guess my only option for meeting women my age (24) is to spend £27,000 and get an extra £50k in student debt for the privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 01:53 PM
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I myself wanted to be a Baker Get an office job and bring cakes into the office. Your colleagues will love you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:37 PM
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They just don't like them because they aren't white, it's okay when whites do it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:40 AM
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lol, muslims aren't even relevant outside of Birmingham, Luton or east London anyway. And I've never even seen them complain about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:57 PM
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The bad boys have more quantity of sex but the good boys are having more quality sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:38 PM
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And yet somehow no one is complaining about prostitution?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:36 PM
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You have to apply a bit of context here. There's different forms of prostitution each with their own associated issues and culture. Most people who are against prostitution are only familiar with the streetwalker junkie stuff you see portrayed in movies. The sole act of exchanging money for sexual services with consenting adults shouldn't be illegal, but of course when it involves trafficking, if it's forced or the prostitutes are underaged etc then that's when it becomes a problem. But that's l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:46 AM
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In the UK where I live prostitution is decriminalised and no one is complaining about it "hurting" society.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 11:39 AM
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No one should worry about them unless it becomes anything more than a "I'd bang her / him" thought. But ultimately it shouldn't matter as long as you and her are still intimate with each other. If she does cheat and withholds intimacy from you, she gets the boot.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:21 PM
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Sorry you didn't get what you came for!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:07 PM
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Sexbots and the like are only good in the interim - they're not a long term solution, but they're fantastic to fall back on while looking for a relationship with a real girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 07:02 PM
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There would be less orbiters if prostitution was legalised / decriminalised, absolutely. Having access to an easy method of getting laid would eliminate niceguys simping for poon.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:57 PM
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I wouldn't necessarily support it but I couldn't give a single flying fuck what any of my family members decide to do, since if they really wanted to do that sort of thing then they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:53 PM
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He was taller and most likely a few years older than her. Whatever spat they had before she died was just a catalyst.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 07:01 AM
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So, I was on a date last night with a beautiful lawyer who’s 4 years older than me You're winning, my man! TRP and FDS BTFO!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 12:08 PM
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Stop obsessing and just do you, mate. And just remember that preferences are only preferences and not necessarily hard requirements - any woman who makes a big deal out of any physical trait is probably not one you want to be with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 06:48 PM
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More like lose, lose, lose in OP's case.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 06:43 PM
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Yes. Every time I open a dating app, I'd say about 90% of women's profiles have no bio with a good portion of those just linking to their Instagrams. You're not meant to take dating apps seriously - guys are falling into this trap and it's causing a lot of problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 09:03 PM
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My friends are just as nerdy if not a lot more than I am, and I enjoy their company and they're very important to me. If I just wanted to "get laid", I'd visit a prostitute.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 08:57 PM
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I wanted to read it :(
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 12:34 PM
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Dating apps have been an advertising platform for women's social media accounts since about 2014
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 12:33 PM
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You know how virgin barely legal girls want mature, ambitious, successful, kind, good looking man that's really good in bed and will always support them no matter what? Fixed that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 12:38 AM
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When either of them cheat, but only if they stop being intimate with the person they're cheating on.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 09:30 PM
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Does working out feel forced? Working on your public speaking? Studying for class? Improving at work? These don't involve talking to people. These are things that you do to build yourself. It being forced doesn't matter then. You know that if you do these things, you will eventually get the end result of those activities. Doesn't work the same way when socialising. You try and force conversation for the hell of it, and people are either gonna be irritated or know you have some ulterior motive. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 08:54 PM
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Agree 100%. I was kind of being sarcastic about the getting laid part in my OP. Guess I should've made it more obvious!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 08:38 PM
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For the record, I want to socialise. I want to go out and do all these things. But I can't do it alone. Everyone else will be in groups, or at least that's how it is where I live. And there really isn't much to do at bars and clubs other than just keep buying drinks and sitting alone, because that is what will happen most of the time unless something starts. I have a few buddies, but they're pretty nerdy and not really into nightlife. Unless I just go for the sole purpose of meeting people, I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 08:27 PM
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Doesn't it ever feel forced to you? I much prefer to sit back and let things occur organically. I'll talk if it feels normal, but anything else makes me feel like shit, even though I don't fear rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 03:53 PM
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I seriously recommend you do it sooner rather than later. It might be trivial in the long run, but you need that experience to feel comfortable for when it really matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/20 06:47 AM
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One involves spending a lot of money, having to push a series of hypothetical buttons in a very specific order, knowing exactly what to say right there and then no matter what in the hopes that MAYBE, just MAYBE, you might just get laid with a 6/10 airhead but with a lot of caveats, and that's assuming there isn't any competition around (don't count on it) The other involves spending a lot of money and getting laid with a 9, with little to no caveats beyond contraception. I think I know which on…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 06:34 PM
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the best thing about using hookers while you finish improving and coming into your own is it alleviates thirst, demystifies sex and allows you to treat women like they arent some prize Holy mother of fuck, this. I don't care what everyone else says - I am so fucking glad I got my virginity taken care of at 17 for this very reason. I'm 21 now and while I still haven't organically found love (no shame, more due to logistics and moving around in life than anything), at least I can have a relaxed at…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 07:19 PM
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