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That does not sound like what your daughter needs. Brother, do right by her. The best you can. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/19 03:26 AM
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I'm really struggling with this. I know I want to be able to tell my son I did everything I could, that I tried my hardest... But the will... Finding the will to really do that. It is a challenge.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/19 02:11 PM
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How are you doing?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/19 02:09 PM
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I thought I had no other choice for the sake of our son. But all everyone else had said so far had led me to the feeling of no other choice. For me it was a compounded series of behavior, feelings, risk vs reward. I had her served, she was shocked. I could have convinced her to sign anything in her state of mind. But I'm not a complete asshole... She went to see a lawyer. We talked and agreed we trusted each other more than attorneys. In talking, she has agreed to work on herself, now understand…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/19 12:52 PM
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I decided in desperation. Wife was unwilling to do counseling, I was always walking on eggshells.... Felt unable to be the father I wanted to be. Everything had to be her way. Her being an immigrant and traveling to her home country with our child, if she chose not to return that would be the end of me being able to be a father. I felt that filing for divorce was the only way to prevent my son from being taken from me. So I did. Since we have lawyered up, we both realized we trust each other mor…
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/19 06:30 PM
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This. Is. Where. We. Are.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 09:32 PM
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I chose to file. Hardest thing I've ever done. So hard to choose, knowing how many people get hurt. In the house, out of the house, in the family, out of the family. I didn't make the choice lightly. I knew the consequences. So effin tough to spend time understanding what you need to deny everyone (myself included) what they want.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 08:10 PM
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One child, 2 years old. Part of why I filed is our major personality conflicts. I feel like I can't be the father I want to be when she's around.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 08:08 PM
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Thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 07:28 PM
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Rereading this, thanks for wishing all 3 of us luck. I know my STBX had made me miserable, but in the end I want way is best for her, as that will be best for my son and therefore best for best for me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 11:53 AM
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I'm praying it doesn't come to that.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 01:43 AM
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Stay strong, child welfare is paramount.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 01:40 AM
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Don't want to leave the home. We have a child and I want to fight for custody.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 01:37 AM
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Yeah our situation is weird. I'm the breadwinner, she's the home maker. She is also an immigrant with no family here, small network of friends, no US based work experience, no formal degree. The plan is to cohabitate until this is done. Hopewby then she will have worked long enough to rent a suitable apartment. She is what most would call emotionally abusive and manipulative. But I have managed so far to not ever be violent or lash out. But then of course, there are always false allegations.... …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/19 01:23 AM
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Thanks. Wife is now consulting a lawyer. Wants full costody of our son. And so it begins.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 03:22 PM
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Thx. Wish I wasn't here tho.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 02:10 PM
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I did it yesterday. Close enough right? I had wanted to do it after, but I could not play the part any longer. Besides, my wife is planning to travel, with our son to a county that does not respect US custody laws and us not a member of the Hauge Convention. Needed to get it done in time to secure my son in the states.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 12:17 PM
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I'm thinking this is something I will do eventually. I've inherited a wedding ring with an awful history. My grandfather brought it back from WWII because my great grandfather told him to bring back a souvenir. It haunted him until the day he died. I think this ring has a place alongside that one. Taking the naked finger for a test drive while no one is looking. It's weird.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 12:14 PM
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Thanks. I don't know what I'll do with mine. I never even liked it, it is white and rose gold, meant to match hers which was rose gold with diamonds. Anyway, not particularly relevant at this point. If anything just a signal of my willingness to bend to her will to no avail.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 12:10 PM
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Thanks. My wife had taken hers off a few time during our marriage. The first time was a fight, early in the marriage, maybe 6 months in... With a note saying she did not need me. I drove to her work with the ring and told her to put it back on. Then again when she got pregnant... For obvious and fair reason. We had another ring that my mother had given us that fit a little better, but she would only wear it when we went out. Our third anniversary I resized the original ring... Got on my knee and…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/19 12:07 PM
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Temporary orders are being drafted, but I need to tell her now. I'm sick over this. It's killing me.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/19 05:04 PM
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Nice quote. I like it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/19 06:09 PM
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Ugh... My situation is like my STBX is deliberately pushing me. So I know that feel. But I'm one step ahead in this case. Feel guilty as fuck... But I've gotta take control of my life and my sons life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 08:49 PM
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Stay strong that sucks. Why can't you see them?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 04:45 PM
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My wife will be devastated. I'm sure it's not different for anyone else... But every is about to spiral into chaos. I swish it could be avoided.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 11:18 AM
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I understand. I agree. Still don't like it. But in. Looking forward to ending the charade... I feel like we have both been playing a part we don't want in a b movie. I know eventually this will be neat for our kid.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 11:16 AM
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I'll be doing this in the next few days/weeks. I'm terrified. But know it's the right thing to do.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/19 02:38 AM
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I am not out for blood, just want to do right by my son. Money comes and goes, which is the whole point of money. Sure it is hard to come by and is overly significant in our society. But it is not so valuable and I am tyring to not let it interfere with my ability to be humain. time will tell.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/19 01:30 PM
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This whole ordeal just makes me feel so ill... makes me want to call it off and just suffer this marriage...
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/19 01:27 PM
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I'm not out for blood. Just what is best for my child.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/19 01:16 PM
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Every day! I am the one that puts him to bed and gets him in the morning. Feeds him breakfast and brushes his teeth. each moment I cherish. you think I could lose my son?
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/19 06:44 PM
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Thanks, that is why I am not willing to let him leave. Need to keep him here. no doubt she will go nuts, that scares me also.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/19 05:53 PM
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I am working on the courage. My Greatest fear is losing my son, my wife being an immigrant, has threatened to take him away before. I'm OK with shared custody and firmly believe that our divorce will benefit our son. But fear of him being raised 10,000 miles away.... in a country that does not give a shit about me... is strong. Lawyers have told me that wont happen, but courts are stupid... and my STBX is vindictive and unstable. It has not even been 4 full years yet the only reason we are still…
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/19 05:58 PM
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Thanks I don't disagree with what you are saying. I am concerned that my wife, being an immigrant, will return to her home country. While I myself would not mind this too much, it would make the divorce an event for my son as he grows older... being unable to see his mother and extended family. I understand, that if I am considering divorce, I should be focused on myself and my rights more than preserving the rights of my wife. This will be a major event for her... and the easiest thing to do is…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/18 02:29 PM
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I've been thinking about this. I would like her to find happiness within. Not because I want to leave her, but because I am failing at being her source of happiness. Also, I would like her to be more independent, make her own appointments for doctors and stuff at least. Again, not because I want to leave her, but because I am tired to never getting it done properly or quickly enough. English is her second language, but she is capable of these things and I think she would feel better if she did m…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/18 11:00 AM
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What exactly does that mean? Also, it is clear to me what I want. But I don't want to devastate my wife. She'll surely be ruined, maybe not, but i think so. I am trying to be sympathetic to her and i am really trying to do what is best for the family. However it is unclear if I am doing that for my own moral salvage. Should I even care? I should... Because i want to be a good and decent man an example for my son.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/18 02:11 AM
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yeah, I know. I guess I am just looking to compare my situation to others, see if my breaking point is reasonable or if I am running away from it. but you have a completely valid point.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/18 09:05 PM
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