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Sounds like a therapist might help if you can afford it. I got out of an abusive marriage 5 years ago and I'm still carrying that baggage. I know how affecting it can be. I finally started seeing a therapist a couple weeks ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:46 AM
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Doesn't seem like there's anything to be concerned about since you already (rightly) made him an ex :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 06:45 AM
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This is definitely true, but if you search "petite" on a porn site, you won't find normal women who happen to be thin/small, you'll find barely legal women and women pretending to look barely legal. Petite is a code word for "skinny teen who looks younger than she is" in porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:16 AM
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What boggles my mind is how so many of the women in that thread were like "porn is fine, but saving pictures is crossing a line!" Like... wtf? It's still porn. Tripping over themselves to find a way to be angry while still being the cool girl about porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:14 AM
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Here's the original: https://www.removeddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gszae2/update_my_26m_girlfriend_26f_drunkenly_told_me/ You can just type in "move" in the URL to change reddit to removeddit and they will show you all deleted posts and comments :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:12 AM
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I agree, the comments shocked me too. I feel like that reaction happened because the story has the perfect combination of 1) the man writing it, not the woman, 2) a very severe outcome (eating disorder), 3) the fact that the man looked at porn with women who looked nothing like his gf. Either that or MGTOW are still asleep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:27 PM
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I will never fuck with any man who has been accused of rape. I don't even give a single shit about the 3% that were falsely accused, it's just not worth the risk. If any woman EVER claims that a man sexually assaulted her, he can fuck right out of my life. My safety is on the line here - better safe than sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:00 AM
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I think these women push their pick-me advice because they're trying so hard to validate their own bad choices. It makes them feel defensive/challenged when you reject a man for things that they accept in their own relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:35 PM
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You said it was an "Obama policy," when even the article you linked clarifies that Trump's institution of a zero tolerance policy against illegal immigration led to all the families being separated. That policy, which is responsible for all the children in cages, was not an Obama policy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 12:56 PM
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No, it wasn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:48 AM
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After I finally got out of my abusive marriage, one of the most hurtful things was to see how some of our mutual friends (who knew about the abuse) continued to be friends with him as if everything were normal. Some of these were people that he himself had admitted the abuse to. I have seen this happen in other instances when the man is abusive as well. The fact that people can pretend like abuse is no big deal, even when they are personally friends with the victim, just shows how little our soc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:46 AM
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Unfortunately I can't use Venmo because I don't live in the US, but if you make a Paypal, please message me the email associated with your account!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:16 PM
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OP, is there a way to share your Paypal or Venmo without revealing your identity? I would like to contribute to your get-the-fuck-out-of-there fund.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:03 PM
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My sister lost her virginity to a guy who later called her "meat curtains" in an argument. A few months ago (12 years after that comment) she got labiaplasty because she was never able to overcome the insecurity that he created. FUCK these shitty men. May they all get porn-induced ED and spend their lives alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:39 AM
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As a woman who was in an abusive relationship for many years, you have to understand the cycle of abuse is called a cycle for a reason. Manipulation and gaslighting can work on anyone, especially young women who haven't had a lot of healthy relationships for comparison. It's easy to see the storm from the outside, but sometimes the victim just can't see it or doesn't know it can be any better. I didn't realize what has happening to me was abuse (constant psychological abuse) until I had already …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:26 PM
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I would like to see anyone try to refute the statistics behind this image. Because here's the facts (source): Worldwide, women perform 76.2% of the total amount of unpaid care work, 3.2 times more time than men Taking into consideration time spent in both paid work and unpaid care work, women spend more time working every day than men - globally, by region, and by country income level. Between 1997 and 2012, the gender gap in time spent in unpaid care declined by only 7 minutes (from 1 hour and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 12:59 PM
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They're right - I do not care in the slightest if men don't get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:52 PM
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There's a libfem halo surrounding women in the sex industry. You don't need to worry about talking over them. tbh I think there are a lot of people talking about the issue, but I don't often see sex workers doing the talking. I feel like the debate on all sides is dominated by non-sex workers talking about sex workers. But there are more former sex workers on this thread than any I can remember in the mainstream feminist subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:14 PM
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I think your sister is confusing HVM with tradcons. HVM are diverse and not only attracted to any one "type," just like HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 03:35 PM
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Maybe in other countries I could certainly believe that. But in the US, we have almost infinite amounts of work in various field. I said worldwide. And there's still a lot of trafficking in developed countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 06:02 AM
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(Unless they were forced, coerced, deceived, trafficked, etc) Unfortunately this is the case for the vast majority of sex workers worldwide. You're talking about the 1% of sex workers. If women had decent economic and educational opportunities and weren't so discriminated against by men there would be almost no sex work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 03:00 PM
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Yes, and there would no supply without the demand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 02:53 PM
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You are poorly educated on this topic if you think the question you posed is "simple" - it's still being debated by researchers and academics much more knowledgeable than ourselves. All answers are theories (although mine is supported by data at least), and your theory that men beat their wives because they're 'systematically disempowered' makes it clear that you don't even have a basic understanding of the topic or even the reality of gender inequality worldwide.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 06:16 AM
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haha k
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 01:58 PM
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No, many times culture coalesces from stereotypes or bad science or misinformation, etc. There is definitely no rule that culture is always (or even mostly) built on biology. A lot of our norms come from religion. Actually I would be interested if you could tell me why you think that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 01:56 PM
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I think that's just an innate part of our biology. I keep seeing men say this but I would like to see the research. It makes sense to me that men would be more attracted to women of childbearing age, but not to the arbitrary ages of 18-25, especially considering that women between 25-34 have less risk for all kind of complications in pregnancy/childbirth. (source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4418963/) There is not really any 'should' when it comes to sexual preferences, I just t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 01:54 PM
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just leave PPD if you can't debate without calling someone neurotic right out of the gate
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 01:45 PM
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Some men have power, most do not, to varying degrees within a hierarchy. Women are above most men. In each rung of the hierarchy (social class/income bracket), men have more power than women. They make more money, own more property, have more retirement savings, are more likely to hold positions of relative power, etc. than women of their same income bracket/social class. A higher percentage of women live under the poverty line. Men have more power and resources than women by just about every me…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 01:45 PM
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I think it's exactly the opposite, since men already hold the social and economic power worldwide. I'm not talking about violence that comes from desperation; the vast majority of male violence does not fit this criteria. Violence is also a way of demonstrating/expressing power, which is often how male violence is used when it's wielded against women and children, and even against other men. There are so many social norms that support men's use of violence as a way to defend their ego/social sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:32 AM
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You have given me no reason to change my beliefs, and I can easily look around and see a culture that encourages the idea of youth=beauty (but only for women, eh? which is how you know it's bullshit). I don't know why you have such an aversion to considering how culture affects the things we find (and don't find) attractive. What the evidence shows is that sexual preferences, unlike sexual orientation, are learned and strongly depend on the culture a person was raised in. I personally love my pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:23 AM
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Of course not, but when a massive pattern emerges, as it has with female violence vs male violence, it's worthwhile and important to consider why that pattern exists and what we can do to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:06 AM
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> I struggle to think of examples where men want to accentuate their age. Look at media products like ads and movie posters. Women will never have any wrinkles, while men often have deep wrinkles, to the point that they look photoshopped. There's a whole meme in our society about attractive men getting hotter as they age. We are literally surrounded with cultural suggestions that support this idea. Your post is missing any real or meaningful analysis of how our culture contributes to the idea of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:05 AM
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I simply don't agree. You may think youth equals beauty if you find ageing to unattractive in and of itself, but I don't. For most people, men and women, I don't think there's a significant difference in attractiveness between early 20s and early 30s. And I also don't find signs of ageing to be inherently unattractive. These are just ideas that have been drilled into our heads since birth; there is no objective truth to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:57 AM
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But the thing is, you're now talking about something specific to certain countries' sociocultural contexts (like the US for example). Black men are not more violent than other ethnicities in every single place where black men exist. However, MEN (of every race, nationality, ethnicity, religion, etc. etc.) are more violent than women around the entire world. This is significant and I don't understand why people refuse to acknowledge or address it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:52 AM
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The vast majority of all types of violence is committed by men. Do you not think this is worth discussing? Or we should ignore it because it hurts your feelings?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:35 AM
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Honestly, I look around at women and I do not not see that women 18-25 are more attractive than women beyond 25. Beauty and youth are not synonyms. I think this idea has much more to do with : Status: men perceive to gain status among their peers by dating younger women, and it boosts their self confidence Dating norms: it's much more normalized/accepted for men to date younger women than for women to date younger men Social norms around ageing: Men don't age better than women; signs of ageing o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:33 AM
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It makes men angry when women's self-esteem is not attached to validation from men. "But... but... how can she be confident when I don't even want to bang her!" They actually think their opinions about women should the deciding factor in how a woman perceives herself. Absurd. This is why you see the Nice GuyTM freakouts when a woman rejects them. "WeLl YoU'Re UgLy AnYwAy!" The only way LVM have any chance with women is by trying to make a woman feel less than she is worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:19 AM
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Only hot women should be confident They even shit on hot women for being confident. They want any woman's sense of self-worth to be completely dependent upon validation from men because they want to be able to manipulate women with their approval/disapproval. If the opinions of men no longer matter to a woman, she is free from their control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 09:15 AM
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Why would you believe a movie, written usually by very unattractive men as writers are gross, would be any form of reality? You're making it sound like people make a conscious choice whether to believe what is presented in the media or not, but they don't. They grow up consuming media that gives them a certain impression about what things are like or should be like. It informs the way we see the world, like it or not, and there's nothing we can do about besides not consume media.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 11:52 AM
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I understand a man being wary of your body count if he is also a conservative man with a low body count and wants to make sure he's w/ someone who views sex the same way. But I feel like 9 times out of 10 that's not the case with the guys who ask, they're just assholes Absolutely. In my experience 95% of men who care about body count are either hypocritical misogynists (the kind of guys who expect their wives to fill the caretaker role but don't want to fill the provider role) or weirdos/incels …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:23 PM
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completely agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 03:14 PM
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I almost included this shitty metaphor in the post as an example of how men see women as objects. That and the 'who wants unwrapped candy' metaphor are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 02:21 PM
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I don’t think you should lie unless he really presses you (but why is he pressing you?) Exactly. IIRC the FDS handbook says to lie, but I would just dump a guy if kept pushing about it. The fact that he cares so much (and feels entitled to know in the first place) speaks to his values, and those are definitely not my values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 01:59 PM
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Exactly. The ONLY reason men want to know your number is so they can judge you for it one way or another. It's none of their fucking business anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:54 PM
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My bf has never asked me how many partners I've had, or what I've done with them. He wanted to know why I had left them, how they had treated me. And even then he only seemed to genuinely have interest in what I had learned from dating them, he didn't want to know specifics. They never will. SAME, it's such a wonderful difference from the insecure little boys trying to compare dicks with your exes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 12:45 PM
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I would like to add that 'love bombing' is a technique used by abusers to get someone to quickly fall for them so they find it much harder to leave when the abuse begins to emerge. Be aware of any man who is head over heels for you way too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:34 PM
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This is very true - I've had girl friends tell me this exact thing. Sad :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 06:17 AM
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After I got divorced, I had no room in my heart for actual dating for about a year. That year was the only time in my life that I've had enjoyable and non-complicated FWB/casual sex arrangements. I genuinely liked the guys I was seeing, but I just was not emotionally available, whether I wanted to be or not. The FWB situations only worked because my heart was hard - they didn't work before and they haven't worked since (unfortunately, because sometimes I feel like it would be easier that way).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 10:56 AM
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She doesn't identify as a feminist or care about women's rights, per her own statements. And her whole persona is like depressed 50's housewife putting herself at the mercy of the men in her life. That said, I do like her music, especially when I'm working. Oh and she also hexed Trump and invited other women to join her, which is kind of rad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:37 PM
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"I'm looking for a hot fit woman (under 35, must have long hair) to be my personal trainer and personal chef, and also to have sex with me even though I'm extremely overweight. Oh and I live with my parents." the AUDACITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:10 AM
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the warnings against promiscuity is not to control women, but to keep them safe, mentally and physically. My personal attitude toward casual sex has changed a lot because of this sub, but I still think there is a fine line between protection and control. People often try to justify controlling others by saying it's for their own protection or for their own good. So I think it's important to bring to light how casual sex negatively affects women, but everyone can still make their own choices and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:17 PM
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My partner is Tunisian and they no longer have the 'marry your rapist' law. I also currently live in a different Muslim-majority country that also doesn't have that law. Edit: In North Africa, looks like only Algeria and Libya have marry your rapist laws. They've been repealed in Morocco, Tunisia, and Egypt. Also been repealed in Turkey and Jordan, and numerous other Muslim countries never had one to begin with. It's also interesting that quite a few non-Muslim countries also had these laws and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 05:11 AM
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I don't think this is true at all. Maybe for a handful of extremely Islamist countries, but definitely not the case in 'most' Muslim countries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:07 PM
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Ugh fuck off Pablo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 04:21 PM
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Yeah I've heard Brits use that phrase before, may be a British thing. It means on her period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:37 AM
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I have definitely had sex too soon and gone boo-hooing to my friends, but I have also had sex where I absolutely did not care if I ever saw or talked to the man again. It all depended on my state of mind and if I liked the guy or not. Not all sexual encounters are the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:04 PM
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but also condemns the very movements and philosophies that are historically and also in the modern day related to improving the lives of women? I am a staunch (liberal) feminist and I haven't seen this attitude much in this sub. Like you mentioned, I have seen critiques of attitudes/beliefs within liberal feminism, but as we all know, feminists are not a monolith and I doubt you'd ever find 2 feminists who agree perfectly on every issue. Although I don't agree with 100% of FDS ideology, I have f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:48 PM
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Yeah I agree, I don't understand what they're saying about "women who have casual sex are automatically banned".. like, are they? I don't think so. The idea is just to make sure that whatever arrangement you have benefits you explicitly and not only the male partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:02 AM
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I know, that was the kicker for me! As if "I want a man who's healthy and mobile" is too much to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:56 PM
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TRP/MGTOW men: Women are disposable and less intelligent and rational than men, they're only worth tricking into bed, pump and dump bro Women: Some men think women are inferior and don't even see them as people, just objects to be used and abused TRP/MGTOW men: OMG that's so sexist, I thought feminism was supposed to be about equality, NoT aLl MeN u guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:13 AM
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How did you break it? I've also had a lifelong nail biting/picking habit that has been a devil to stop for any significant period of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:38 PM
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Has close female friends I would say having no real female friends is a red flag. In my experience, men who don't have female friends are men who have no interest in women as people and only interact with women to try to sleep with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:36 PM
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It sounds like you're demisexual, meaning you only feel sexual desire for people you have a close bond to. Cool :) https://www.bustle.com/articles/155277-what-does-demisexual-mean-here-are-6-signs-that-you-may-identify-as-demisexual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:33 PM
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I'm recently single and my ex is 44 and in incredible shape (bodybuilder), perfect hygiene, always smells great, super healthy lifestyle. Then I go on a dating app and most dudes in mid-30s and beyond look like complete shit. Either they're lying about their age or life really punched them in the face. These mfers are 38 looking 55. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:32 AM
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Thanks for posting OP. The stigma related to HSV is so much worse than the HSV itself. I also would appreciate this sub not perpetuating this stigma. A few more facts I would like to highlight: HSV can be transmitted without an active sore. It's called viral shedding. HSV-1 can be transmitted to the genitals through oral sex - in fact, 50% of new genital herpes cases are caused HSV-1, not HSV-2. Blood tests are extremely unreliable if there is no current outbreak With condoms and anti-viral meds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:45 PM
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I think the larger point is to not perpetuate this stigma in this sub. It's perfectly fine to have those standards, but members of this sub also have STIs, including HSV, and we are not doing anyone a favor by contributing to an already heavy stigma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:33 PM
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They also discourage testing because learning you have the virus has a much more negative impact on your wellbeing than having the virus without knowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:29 PM
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Getting blood tested without having a current outbreak is notoriously unreliable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:27 PM
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FYI you can still get oral-to-genital HSV through oral sex even if they don't have an active cold sore. It's called viral shedding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:25 PM
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No, she had him by the balls. Remember the subtle (not so subtle) threat at the end, when they were in the shower together? And she made him get in the shower to make sure he didn't have a recording device, so she still didn't trust him. She had inseminated herself too and gotten pregnant. She owned him by that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:55 AM
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Hi, I know this post is old but I was searching the sub for this topic and I came across it. Let me share my story and limited experience. I met a guy at the gym, we started talking to each other a lot, went on a couple dates, but sex didn't happen because I wasn't sure how much I liked him. Right after that, I went on a long work trip. Hooked up with a guy during the trip, used protection but it didn't matter, got genital HSV1. Obviously, was devastated. When I returned from the trip, I planned…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 03:50 PM
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