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Yeah the most important thing is to be honest with yourself about your goals. And be critical and open minded about your goals changing. Figure out what you want and figure out what you need to achieve that. Really when it comes down to it, you have the power to make your life whatever you want it to be. It's not easy, but it's your life and you can steer it in any direction you want to.
/r/seduction02/05/13 07:40 AM
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If you're awesome, and have a great lifestyle, then you can very well get a 10 if you find a compatible one. You probably won't be same night laying her, but if you're a good fit, and you are living a lifestyle that she respects and admires, then you got a good shot.
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:43 PM
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I think it's being taken the wrong way. I meant to express that the community was something that I completely embraced, and at one point was the most important thing in my life. And now I have chosen to completely distance myself from it, because it stopped serving me, and it possibly even had a destructive influence on me at times.
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:41 PM
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OK first, don't worry about being too nice with these girls. If I were in your situation, this is how I'd play it: I'd use the girls as social proof to pick up other girls while I'm out. Keep these girls as friends, and go after other girls. You can gossip with them too about the girls you're dating. Be cool and non-chalant about it. I have a similar group of friends. The one girl calls me "Deuce Biggalo". It's fun. They like to hear about my fun experiences, and I try not to come off as braggin…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:37 PM
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Yeah well most of the people in the community are just trying to make a buck. You have to sift though a lot of shit to find anyone authentic. Also a lot of the community guys got these shitty fake "I'm the man" persona's. I've seen supposedly the best guys in the world pick up in clubs on many, many occasions, and I can tell you I have natural friends who are better.
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:29 PM
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How and when should you express interest in the girl especially in social circle? Calibration. You express interest when you can tell she's interested. Sometimes she never shows interest, but she will still go along with me, come back to my house after the bar, and I'll go for the kiss there. I mean it's touch these days in social circles, so I play it safe and hold of showing sexual interest for some time. I find it just builds attraction and sexual tension if you can do it well (and still flir…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:26 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:20 PM
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Why do you hate cold approach? Because I go after the really hot girls, and I'm not hot enough to do that well with cold approaches. Don't get me wrong, I will occasionally do a cold approach, but only if I feel like me and the girl will vibe well. Most of the time we don't. I guess I like to screen girls a bit first and build up some attraction before I put myself out there. It works better for me that way. I can get hotter girls through my social circles. I mean sometimes I will "cold approach…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:19 PM
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Yeah I play it passive and patient. Just focus on going out and having fun. Then escalate logistically. Find an excuse to invite her back to your place. If you're vibing well then try to kiss her. Mostly it works (for me at least), but sometimes we aren't vibing super well and I'll try anyways. Even if I get rejected, I play it super cool and tease her. I tell her now that we got that out of the way, we can be friends for real, and I won't always wonder if I missed an opportunity. No regrets. An…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:16 PM
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Here's the thing, some girls aren't going to give a shit, and others are. There's no one way to do things. Your best bet is to find bars or scenes with the types of women that are compatible with your lifestyle. Now you really don't want to rely on your occupation or play it up too much. I always said that the more I accomplish, the less I feel a need to talk about my accomplishments. It's better if these things just come out over time, instead of you trying to slip it in the conversation. But i…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:12 PM
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Well I never got good at hooking the really hot ones on cold approach, and the only guys I've seen do it with somewhat consistently are the good looking guys. This is why I don't focus on cold approach. I'm a quality over quantity guy, so I got involved in cool social scenes, built a cool rep, surrounded myself with cool people and cute girls... it's the whole lifestyle that the really hot ones want. Anyways this is what worked for me, and I'm congruent with it all. Not for everyone. Bottom line…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:07 PM
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This is something I was waiting for people to ask. My advice: don't do it. But if you told me that 5 years ago I would have done it anyways, and to be honest I'm glad I did. Anyways what I did was hire an instructor for a 1 on 1, then I basically showed him the lifestyle I was living and he was intrigued. This instructor lived in the same city, and I had a lot more connections when it came to parties and whatnot. So I had value I could offer him. We became friends and he saw my level of understa…
/r/seduction01/05/13 11:03 PM
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I would say it's very important to respect yourself, where you are at and where you want to go. This is different for everyone. I don't prescribe to "shoulds". The community has found a way to help guys with common sticking points. I read probably a hundred ebooks, tried everything from very indirect to very direct to social circle. I pushed myself, but in the end I found where I'm comfortable. I found a place where I can be myself, and I think it would have taken a lot longer had I not pushed m…
/r/seduction01/05/13 10:57 PM
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First, if you actually care, read the book The Passion Trap by Dean C Delis. Even just downloading the sample from amazon will explain a lot, as the main premise is explained in the first few pages. Second, you need to be living a lifestyle that she respects and admires. And she needs to be doing the same. Without mutual respect and admiration, you will eventually start to resent each other. Women respect and admire different men for different reasons, so you have to figure out why and how she c…
/r/seduction01/05/13 05:57 AM
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What are your tips on texting and maintaining a dialogue when you're not around? I'm not big on elaborate text game. I'm pretty casual and I tease sometimes. If me and a girl didn't make a good connection in person then I usually can't turn things around with text. I just play it cool, laid back and not too much. What is your approach on what to say when you see a girl for the first time? Situational openers are the best. Really it doesn't matter. I talk to her a bit with a qualifying attitude, …
/r/seduction01/05/13 05:50 AM
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I'm almost 30 and I've done a lot in my life these things aren't so out there for me and a few friends I have. I'm doing an ama with a throwaway, mostly so I can be honest and critical of the industry. I'm not trying to sell or promote anything.
/r/seduction01/05/13 05:43 AM
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also I forgot. The one non-game book that helped me understand things a lot is called The Passion Trap by Dean C. Delis. Fantastic book.
/r/seduction01/05/13 04:34 AM
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You mean like real committed relationships? Or friendships? Either way the pickup scene is quite diverse and I'm sure you can find a lot of value. I'd be weary though of relying heavily on any advice. If you don't understand why you're doing something, to the point where you're doing it authentically, then you need to really question why you're doing it. For friends with girl: They love an authentic guy that they can talk to honestly. And be fun! For a relationship: Probably the most complex thi…
/r/seduction01/05/13 04:33 AM
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I think you misread the tone of my post. I have no regrets about my experience in the community. It was an invaluable time in my life. I also don't claim to be better than anyone. Just that I found my own path, and it's in a lot of ways different than the conventional techniques. No that it's better, just that it works for me. I have a lot of criticisms of different aspects of the community. There are certain destructive mindsets that people might get caught in. I'm just offering another perspec…
/r/seduction01/05/13 04:27 AM
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1)What aspects or things from GAME helped you the most? Understanding that if you're confident, people will follow your lead. In just about anything. 2)If you could recommend any books or material what would it be? What other material (outside of PUA) helped you? Sex God Method (I think it's by Daniel Rose). I don't prescribe to it entirely, but it helped me push things sexually and become much better (and more confident) in bed. Few things help my confidence as much as knowing I can give a girl…
/r/seduction01/05/13 03:42 AM
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I haven't been back here in a long time. Always wanted to do an AMA here.
/r/seduction01/05/13 03:25 AM
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It's hard to work your way up once everyone has assed where you're at. This is why it's good to be involved in multiple social circles. Then you pick the cooler people out of two different social circle and connect them. Invite them both out and introduce them. Be a connector. Your value in a social circle is based on the value you bring. If you can get guestlist at cool parties, or if you have cute female friends, you'll be high in the social circle. One thing I do is often go out with cool and…
/r/seduction01/05/13 01:37 AM
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It's just a way to engage out of nowhere. Not a way to build attraction or anything. This type of stuff works for me because I build attraction first. If it doesn't work for you then it's not your texts you need to work on...
/r/seduction01/05/13 01:30 AM
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I think it depends on the context. In this case, I look at it as I look at sparring. I spar (kickboxing) and when I really focus on what I'm doing, I get in the zone, and have a lot of attention. I react without thinking. Now if I go into my head and think "ok, I'm sparring, I better watch what he does so I can react quickly", my reaction time is a lot slower. It's because I'm in my head in my body, instead of just being in my body. Hard for me to explain, but you can be present without being aw…
/r/seduction01/05/13 12:28 AM
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I've gone back and forth with this. Honestly how well this works-- as with a lot of seduction techniques-- depends on the girl. If I ever say something that could be considered bragging, I always play it down. Make it seem like not a big deal and change the topic. Similarly if she sets things up in a way to try to get me to brag, I'll just smile and change the topic. Giving up the chance to brag is so rare, that when you do it you'll seem way cooler than anything you could have bragged about. An…
/r/seduction01/05/13 12:21 AM
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I think you need to re-evaluate things. College is all about your social circle. Do you have many friends? Are they cool? Do you have many female friends? Are they cool? If the answer to these questions is "no", then that should be your first order of business.
/r/seduction01/05/13 12:05 AM
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"I swear I saw you at H&M today. Except you looked a little off. Was that you?" Then follow up with how the girl at H&M was with a douchy guy and that you didn't think it was har because you assumed she had better taste than that, on account of her giving you her number and all. I just made this up but you get the idea.
/r/seduction30/04/13 11:58 PM
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Honest answer: Be physically attractive. There's only so much you can change, but that really is the equivalent to the alpha male. So what's immediately in your control is your health. Healthy women are more attractive. Keep in mind you're asking the wrong group of guys here. On reddit guys will always say they like it when a woman makes the first move, because guys on reddit typically aren't alpha males that can have their pick of women. Guys who aren't getting laid would LOVE a girl to make a …
/r/seduction30/04/13 11:50 PM
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What do you focus on when you're taking to a sibling or good friend? Being present is different from mind-body awareness. It's almost the opposite. You want to get lost in the moment. Here's an exercise: Focus on creating a warm, happy, and sexually confident feeling inside yourself. Be a loving, caring don juan. Then extrovert it. Bring it from the inside to the surface. Feel your suave sexiness, your compassion, and your social spirit. That's the state you want to be in. Practice this meditati…
/r/seduction30/04/13 11:25 PM
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Hey man I checked out your "Am I Ugly" post and I can certainly say you have the potential to do very well. Now my advice: Take a break from "the game". Think about what you'd be doing if you had the hottest girlfriend imaginable (besides her). What are you passionate about? What kind of lifestyle do you really want outside of your relationships? Focus on that stuff. That's how you really start to become a more attractive and more confident person. Stop looking into techniques or mindset: get ou…
/r/seduction30/04/13 11:15 PM
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One of the most attractive qualities in a man (and one that the community often overlooks) is self-reliance. That means not looking to someone else for answers or direction, but manning up and trusting yourself. When you internalize what is taught here, you eventually have to give it up and become self-sufficient. Then, when you get to a real problem that you just can't solve on your own, then you can come back around looking for answers.
/r/seduction30/04/13 11:04 PM
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