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| 1 | You're the protagonist! | MINDSET SHIFT | notablossombombshell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:43 AM |
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| 29 | All it takes is that one.The personal risk often just isn't worth it. Why opt for the stress? It is stress you get when you relent against your better instincts but still have to be on your guard. Like trying to engage through a door that's open just a crack. Or you keep the door closed, and what passes for conversation turns out as muffled shouting. It's almost kinder to stay silent. And less headache too. For virtually all my life I've ruled out dating white men, and there are other demographics I've since added to th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 01:55 AM |
| 3 | Real reason why pickmes and scrotes are opposed to women getting a decent engagement ring.Engagement rings don't have a long history in the US. Approximately as old as women's suffrage? I forget. And in more recent decades the custom has been aggressively exported around the world to overtake local customs so that De Beers can profit even more. That said, just because these rings started as a newfangled means of selling diamonds in addition to providing a form of "insurance" -at a time when few women could be financially independent- doesn't mean their purpose is now antiquated. I wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 11:45 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/6/2020Hey u/pqrsthrowawayyyyy I'll explain here in case others might want to chime in. I said I agreed with mods removing your post, because I'm against proposals to single out men of color like that. On this subreddit. I wouldn't have an opinion if you and other Desi women made your own community to critique people who share your heritage, for you to have that discussion among yourselves. I'm not here to tell you #NotAllMen or #NotAllDesiMen. I'm here to remind you that reddit is primarily a non-Asia… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 02:50 AM |
| 5 | Am I going crazy or are men starting to look worse and worse?I have found so few of them solidly attractive that there was a time when I doubted my place on the Kinsey scale. But that doesn't make me demi or gay, just because it's rare for a man to A) be my type and to B) take care of himself / live up to his potential. Likewise, preferring fictional depictions of men over the real deal, for the sake of character development satisfaction, says less about me than about what's out there. You still might not be as hetero as previously thought. Or you could b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 11:08 PM |
| 10 | Shun them.A true HVM treats a woman right regardless of what he thinks or feels toward her. If he does not like her, he may avoid her, but he will not hurt her, and if he did, he regrets having done so. He does not treat a person poorly whatever the circumstance. If a man must think you his equal or superior, or if you must inflame his passion for him to treat you well, then he is opportunistic and unworthy, and I would not be flattered to earn his regard. In society, however, it is difficult to keep only… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 10:20 PM |
| 5 | Just further indoctrinating the idea that men doing the most basic human actions is something praiseworthy. Why exactly am I blessed? Because he knows how to vacuum a fucking carpet?I like how this message declares you "blessed" if he does any of these, not all. Cooking and cleaning, or even just cleaning different aspects of the household is more than award-worthy, apparently. Gotta say, though, three out of four of these examples do make nice stock photos. Apron dude is esp zesty with that picture composition. Meanwhile, laundry man also clears the (low low) bar by demonstrating he's not allergic to purple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 09:49 PM |
| 26 | Thinking about being in a relationship rn is revolting. Anyone relate?The type of person to tell you "like attracts like" is also the type to say no one can love you until you love yourself. It's such lazy reasoning even if it contains a sliver of truth. Fact is, most people don't know what being in a worthwhile relationship feels like, and how much of that is our own fault varies. Societal expectations don't exactly set us up for success, and many partners -oftentimes men- are all too happy to take no responsibility for the result. Relationships are a cooperative… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 08:44 AM |
| 19 | How should your partner stand up for you?A good partner will take their cues from your reaction as to how to proceed. They should be able to read your body language -or, if in doubt, get verbal confirmation that yes there's a problem- and figure their role from there. Your partner should step up and help shut down unwanted attention but be sensible enough to avoid physical altercation whenever possible. A good partner does not expect you to stew in discomfort for the sake of keeping the peace. Nor does a good partner look for an excuse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 07:02 AM |
| 1 | As follow up to a recent discussion here, I propose we create a #NoGoodDesiMen flair.Singling out ethnic groups for bad behavior. Classic. Glad the mods took action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Sisters, what led you to realize you needed the knowledge from this subreddit instead of dating the conventional way. In other words, what made you woke to the game?Actually, I didn't come here to learn how to up my game. I came to reddit to gawk at what people are saying about dating under lockdown, and boy did this sub deliver. The stories, the memes! And then I delurked, dusted off an old account to participate, because this place is pretty comprehensive when you dig into the message. I may not agree with everything, such as marriage, but I'll always be down for shining a light on the disrespect we receive and exposing the numerous ways nvm try to manipu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:52 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020I see your endurance. Your efforts resonate with mine. Carrying a secret like this alone is a lot, even when you have the will, the way. We feel what we feel. Worse, self-blame burdens the struggle. For me, the particulars of my present case make pursuing a relationship inadvisable (although not impossible). So I permit myself to entertain the fantasy on my own, while remaining mindful of the reality that it does not exist outside my head, that it is unlikely to come to pass, all the more unlike… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 06:26 AM |
| 2 | Healthy BoundariesMan, I knew all this three years ago and I'm still mad I wasted time ruminating what to do. I could've made a decision in two weeks or under, instead of dragging it out two months plus, and it's not much consolation to understand I got off easy, knowing others have lost years on relationshits. My problem now is, every time I read relationship advice, or anecdotes that hit too close to home, I trigger myself again thinking about the ex I nearly agreed to marry. I'm trying to forgive myself for al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 03:31 AM |
| 4 | Don’t be a fanAgreed. If we're not together when I follow you on social media, we're not getting together after I do. I may follow people I find attractive, but that's because I like having attractive friends. Same principle with texting. If texting becomes our go-to, we're staying casual, won't make the leap to LTR no way. Not unless interest levels are abnormally high on both sides. Not much room for mystery, it's just the nature of the medium. Texting can only be a light supplement to other methods of comm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 02:08 AM |
| 6 | The Male Pick Me: Nice Guys Can Be Just As Low Value as Chad"Nice Guy" would be a great way to name the category, if it weren't already shorthand for "man who thinks his primary trait is 'nice' turns out to be anything but" on the internet at large. It's never attractive when a prospective partner's need for you is interchangeable with their need for somebody, anybody. You're a person, not a bunch of components - it doesn't matter how high you rank on paper; comparison shopping only goes so far. You are not your list of traits, no matter how quality. You… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020Hello! This too will pass. These feelings will fade. I'm in a similar boat right now (actually I went from hurrah I can feel; I'm not dead to infatuation to hmm better milk these emotions into artistic inspiration while I can to huh I'm in kinda deep to the occasional whyy am I still like this-is this pathetic or what and social distancing is def not helping in that regard) but lemme talk about what the situation was, for me, before. Years ago, I had a brief relationship in college. We parted wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 09:13 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020Sounds like you're fishing for success stories. If I may, though, I'd like to offer some positivity on being a late-bloomer regardless of whether the progression caps off with an ideal partner. IMO, when you start late you start with more critical thinking ability and emotional regulation -very important tools in your arsenal. And physically you're still blossoming if you perform even the minimum self-care; this is the age when estrogen levels peak and when women nab starring roles in acting. At… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 08:12 PM |
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