notabtthepastuh Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
38	Expected Violence? This is SUCH a great point. So often women are so concerned about being vetted that we forget that WE should also be vetting and discerning if this is a suitable spouse.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/26 06:30 PM
23	Expected Violence? ZERO. I come from a very blue collar Italian-American family and my husband comes from an upper class Irish-German Catholic family, both families are EXTREMELY traditional… this would NEVER fly in either of our families. To the point that if my husband ever touched a hair on my head his own brothers and father would handle him. A real man doesn’t have to “correct his wife.”	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/26 06:29 PM
3	Men who demand traditionalism and submissiveness from women without being competent himself will never deserve it and should not get it. I could not agree more with this. My husband has EARNED my submission by being a traditionally masculine man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/06/25 09:35 PM
1	Women don't like emotionally available men. Even if they like, that doesn't mean they think so. I think that there’s a lot of truth in this. It’ll definitely give me something to think about :-)	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 02:28 PM
1	Women don't like emotionally available men. Even if they like, that doesn't mean they think so. I never said that his mom’s diagnosis wasn’t enough. It just happened to be on top of some other life stressors. I suppose the point I was trying to make is that I think OP is correct that women lose respect for their partners if they cry often and can’t handle their emotions on a regular basis. However, I disagree that women lose respect for their partners if they show emotion or are vulnerable with them. 🤷🏻‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/25 01:04 PM
0	Women don't like emotionally available men. Even if they like, that doesn't mean they think so. I’m not sure I understand what you mean. Can you give an example?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 11:53 PM
3	Women don't like emotionally available men. Even if they like, that doesn't mean they think so. That’s really sad for you. What type of women are you emotionally attracted to, and what kind of things do you show emotion for?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 11:51 PM
8	Women don't like emotionally available men. Even if they like, that doesn't mean they think so. lol. I would lose respect if my husband broke down in tears often or if it was because he regularly wasn’t able to handle his emotions… especially if he didn’t have traditional masculine traits to balance it out. But my husband sobbed in my arms a few months ago after his mother was diagnosed with a terminal illness on top of some other major stressors. I didn’t lose an ounce of respect for him. In fact, it made me love him more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/25 11:46 PM
5	Would you let your spouse cheat on you if they treated you well and provided If I loved my husband I could not handle repeated infidelity and would need to leave. If I went into a marriage with more of a “business relationship” mentality I think I would be just fine and would stay.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/25 12:05 PM
9	I'm scared and in shock (TW: s**ual abuse) If this happened in America you need to report that social worker. She is a dolt if that’s the advice she gave you. Abusers get MORE abusive, not less. He raped you- and told you (in his own words) that is how he punished you. You deserve much better. ❤️	/r/RedPillWomen	27/12/24 03:22 PM
1	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? I see my husband in a wondrous and miraculous way. He is the best man I know, and I’ve been lucky to be surrounded by a bunch of good ones. If that sounds like I’m objectifying him I’m clearly not articulating things clearly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 04:43 AM
1	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? That’s a fair question! 🙃 I suppose my answer has a bit of nuance to it. Admiration is defined as having an object of esteem and a sense of ‘wonder’ in a miraculous way. Appreciation, on the other hand, is defined as recognizing the full worth of something. From my personal experience, my husband is happiest when he feels admired by me, while I am happiest when I feel appreciated by him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 04:13 AM
2	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? Yes, but I believe that for a woman, respect feels akin to being loved and appreciated. I imagine that for men, being respected feels more like admiration.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 03:59 AM
1	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? Yes, those traits help us feel safe. More importantly, they contribute to our overall sense of security in a relationship. I believe these traits also foster respect, which I’ve heard is vital for a man’s happiness in a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 03:42 AM
1	How often do you fear that you'll be romantically rejected because you're not masculine enough? As a woman, this is the answer. You can have whatever hobbies you like, listen to whatever you want… but true masculinity is in leadership, resilience, courage, self-control, trustworthiness and having sound judgement. Those are the internal traits women want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/24 12:28 AM
4	How did you know your husband was a provider? You have a kind, yet direct conversation about each of your expectations and goals. Obviously this isn’t a first date question but before you are engaged you’ve got to have the uncomfortable conversations. My husband and I are Catholic and in order to be married in The Church you have to go through pre-Cana. It’s amazing how much people don’t talk about beforehand. I think this is one of the reasons my husband and I have a happy marriage. If my children don’t get married in the Catholic Church w…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/24 09:01 PM
4	I think that we need to define what a high value man is. What if we make a list on what defines a low-value man. Mine would be if he belittles you and doesn’t respect you as a person. This includes being dishonest and being a hypocrite. There are (and are going to be more) predator men who hide behind the facade of being red-pilled and traditional but they are nothing but frauds who want to prey on women they find to be unquestionably submissive. It’s a problem.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/24 10:24 PM