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This is an interesting place to be because so many guys just want to use the woman as a human Fleshlight and move on. Or just don't know what they're doing. I think first of all you need to be willing to coach, and second of all you need to be willing to kick someone out of bed. As far as pre-qualification, I think you need to get reviews from past lovers, so being part of a larger friend group might help. Another way might be "describe what you'd like to do with me" early on in the conversation…
/r/seduction15/07/26 04:14 PM
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Coke dealer
/r/seduction07/04/26 12:39 AM
3

It's personality. Being kind, witty, kind of a "BMOC" vibe, being charming, and a little self deprecating.
/r/seduction31/03/26 01:30 AM
2

You are overthinking it. Go whichever night works for you and voila you have something in common with the other people there now! "Hey man how are you liking it? I was wondering what the vibe here was like on Fridays.…" Etc
/r/seduction22/03/26 05:52 PM
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Just say "haha only if she wants me to" or "nah, I don't do 'weird,' " If you want to flip it, "nah, why, YOU'RE not going to get weird with ME are you?" If you have more time and space, you can always validate that some dudes are weird so you can see something like "haha I guess some guys have been weird in the past but not me." "nah man weird dudes are out here giving us earnest normal guys a bad name" I think the overall point is you need to be able to have a quick response without getting fl…
/r/seduction12/03/26 08:06 PM
4

There is no one technique that always works, and the fact that you think there is is a turnoff! Learn to read the woman, try a few different things and do what works!
/r/seduction16/02/26 01:21 PM
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So let me get this straight: someone went out there, tried a bunch of stuff in Bangalore, and gave a very thorough accounting of what he found. And he's mostly getting shit in the comments? I'm reminded of old Teddy Roosevelt: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valia…
/r/seduction07/12/25 02:34 PM
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Did you hit?
/r/seduction28/11/25 02:31 PM
2

The way around it is to have multiple irons in the fire. Just be like yeah cool no worries and then head up the next girl on your list. If you don't care and pull away....
/r/seduction27/06/25 04:02 PM
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Someone who actually did research haha good work
/r/seduction21/06/25 05:06 PM
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This literally reads like some of The insider threat cybersecurity training I have had to take, and I know not only find it accurate, I find it entertaining
/r/seduction14/03/25 04:30 PM
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These girls have these boundaries and we have this bizarre need to stick our dick in it. It can be just as much fun to do everything but actual sex. It can be creative, it can feel naughty, eat them out, get blowjobs,mutual masturbation, watch each other masturbate, come on her face, come on her tits, she sits on your face... The possibilities are endless! You can do this all with no ulterior motives, and as a nice little side effect some of these girls are going to realize that you are so fun i…
/r/seduction27/02/25 07:37 AM
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Man. Build a social life, and life in general, that FULFILLS YOU. That's it. If it's making model trains, if it's sim racing, if it's acro yoga, if it's being an insufferable gear geek for some outdoor activity like hiking of skiing...just do it! There's someone out there for you as long as you're comfortable with your self.
/r/seduction04/02/25 11:53 PM
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It happened to me late last year as well. It happens. You can probably learn from it. Also, if you being excited gave her the ick, she wasn't for you.
/r/seduction04/02/25 11:41 AM
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Make them feel safe Take your time. Think of how long it would take you from kissing to orgasm and multiply that by about 10. Listen to her body. You'll notice subtle things like a sharp intake of breath, increased respiration, bucking her hips, her pussy getting wetter, Go forward, then draw back. The pattern doesn't need to be always progress so you're kissing you're touching maybe you make your way to touching her panty covered pussy you touch it for a little while and then you go back to jus…
/r/seduction02/02/25 04:46 PM
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I just have a question, is this some sort of contest to see if you can get laid on the first date? My greatest successes have come from pretending that I'm not interested in sex at all and then waiting until the third or fourth date when the tension is palpable.
/r/seduction30/12/24 04:30 AM
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I think you'd be surprised how many men do not know this stuff and this is a PSA for my ladies out there
/r/seduction23/12/24 06:00 PM
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I think there's already a big problem with your assumption that the two options are mutually exclusive. Many women are horny, and want a relationship. You can definitely sleep with a woman on a second or third date because you are being attentive to their meetings, you are a great conversationalist, you are making eye contact and making her feel comfortable. Will it result in a relationship? Who knows. But you can both be happy. Just please don't be one of those guys who abuses a woman's trust a…
/r/seduction23/12/24 02:17 PM
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The second date is the dinner or hike or activity or whatever. Also you can, you know talk to the person and pick up vibes on what they like to do during the coffee date.
/r/seduction22/12/24 01:37 PM
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They're actually better. Women generally want a low commitment, low stress very public first date for safety. Add in that you are consuming a stimulant while you chat and also time boxing it for about an hour and it's a winner. Especially if you are the one to call time on it. I think that the midday first date for coffee is extremely underrated. One of the reasons why it's so underrated is it allows you to demonstrate that you are not trying to get her home and you're not trying to play any gam…
/r/seduction21/12/24 09:37 PM
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And root is Australian slang for sex. 😁
/r/seduction19/12/24 04:28 PM
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It's the same principle as a comedian telling a joke and building up to a punchline, or good storytelling. Even music works this way. You build tension and make it so the only thing that can break the tension is a laugh, or the bass drop, or in this case, the next level of physical escalation.
/r/seduction19/12/24 02:53 PM
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Do you have friends you can talk to about this? Everyone needs friends to talk to about these things.
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:24 PM
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I'd say give it time. If you're going to spend the rest of your life together, what's a few months here and there? But definitely start being mindful, checking how you feel, communicating, and test her a little bit because she's testing you a little bit already.
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:18 PM
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Well you're the one who said you're not her BF when she asked... what's your goal here? If it were me I'd be talking to other girls
/r/seduction18/12/24 03:04 PM
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It sounds to me like she's just extremely busy. I think you pulling away a little bit or setting a new boundary might help clarify things for her.
/r/seduction18/12/24 02:51 PM
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Having an orgasm with someone releases oxytocin, which is the trust hormone. When that trust is violated, it is natural to feel a stronger sense of rejection than before you had that intimate moment. Maybe understanding that it's a neurochemical response may help?
/r/seduction16/12/24 07:44 PM
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"thanks. You should see his owner."
/r/seduction14/12/24 12:58 PM
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Not everyone is everyone's cup of tea and that's OK. In between the heartbreaks and failures, you're going to find women who like you for exactly who you are, and these are the moments to live for.
/r/seduction02/12/24 04:45 PM
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Know how you become interesting? By putting yourself out there more. If you were to approach multiple women per day, the WORST case scenario is that within a few weeks, you would have some epic rejection stories that would be hilarious to retell.
/r/seduction26/11/24 10:39 PM
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By making up for it later.
/r/seduction20/11/24 08:24 PM
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Dude your dad obviously has great genetics, a great fitness routine, AND a great diet. He's in the top 1% of 55 year olds, appearance wise. I believe this post is not in good faith.
/r/seduction30/09/24 08:18 PM
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Honestly? Therapy. You need a person in your corner who will validate you and also give you assignments. My theory is, as grown males, we are lonely and we seek affection and validation and some of us are somehow wired or trained to think of our romantic partner as the source of literally all of that. So you have to undo that programming. The issue is that you have to be able to stand on your own two feet and talk about your feelings and lean on the right people when appropriate, and honestly, e…
/r/seduction28/07/24 09:47 PM
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Might be couples with kids and this is the only alone time they get. Could also be affairs
/r/seduction25/07/24 04:25 PM
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"against?" Tf dude this isn't a competition against the girls. If you've not in the business of brokering a win-win result, you're destined to "lose."
/r/seduction24/07/24 04:15 PM
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Just say something. Different people have different terminology but a couple of good lines would be "I want to eat you out," "I think it would be fun if I gave you oral for a little bit, what do you think?" or "I think it would be so hot if you sit on my face." If you are planning on getting laid, you definitely have to know how to communicate! I will also say this: after a night out of drinking and dancing,, a lot of women aren't so fresh down there. Some women will be self-conscious about this…
/r/seduction16/04/24 05:18 PM
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I could see where somebody advocating to move to another country in order to seduce a woman might make certain people feel a little bit disturbed. But you know what else is disturbing? Going on a subreddit where the explicit purpose is to help people get laid and expressing displeasure over somebody reporting back on a very effective way to get laid.
/r/seduction15/04/24 07:47 PM
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This is a success. Good job.
/r/seduction12/04/24 07:58 PM
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I can't believe some of the comments here trying to argue about whether women like bad boys or Nice guys. The key here is to be authentically yourself and understand who your target audience is. Myself, I'm definitely a niche taste, but I am like Kryptonite to the small percentage of women that are attracted to me. Sure, I work on being more comfortable and confident and grooming myself properly and so on, but I'm not going to change who I fundamentally am because I might get more pussy. THAT is…
/r/seduction10/04/24 07:57 PM
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Just flirt. Some compliments. See if you can find a certain exercise or movement that she is really good at that you hardly ever do and compliment her and say something like I don't even know if I could do that. Also make sure you perform some of your best movements that you are particularly good and/or graceful at. The gym is an absolutely amazing Powerhouse of pheromones and body parts which are engorged with blood. There are all kinds of things you can try like you obviously have to read the …
/r/seduction31/03/24 03:24 PM
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Having these thoughts is fine. Many many people have internal fucked up visualizations when they are jacking off and it is totally normal as long as you're not actively engaging in risky or harmful activities. I once had a girlfriend in college who said that at times when she was finding it difficult to come, she needed to imagine a latex clad badass Nazi woman whipping her. And let me tell you, all these people that are telling you to go to therapy, what's going to happen is if you tell your th…
/r/seduction23/03/24 12:19 AM
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There's nothing wrong with communicating clearly ahead of time. Like you can literally text him, let's pretend his name is Jason. "Hey Jason. I think I'm ready to have sex with you when you come over to my house. Do you want to have sex first and then eat dinner?"
/r/seduction18/03/24 03:03 PM
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It was because I lacked confidence.
/r/seduction18/03/24 02:07 PM
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Because I was in my prime and missed many many opportunities.
/r/seduction18/03/24 01:48 PM
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Guess what? I'm 49 and still regret not having more sex when I was in my 20s. Do with this information what you will. But I'll close with one of my favorite sayings: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today.
/r/seduction17/03/24 08:24 PM
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I agree with mainstream psychology that the way you relate to the opposite sex romantically is pretty much imprinted by how you relate to your opposite sex parent. This is not your fault.
/r/seduction14/11/20 02:12 AM
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You are now at a dead end, then.
/r/seduction13/11/20 10:35 PM
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I have Fordyce spots and most girls don't notice. Having said that, I have a lot of the same feelings as you, just not as bad. How's your relationship with your mother? My mom emotionally neglected me, used guilt as her primary tool, and overall I feel like a lot of the issues I have with women boil down to my relationship with my mom. My 2c
/r/seduction13/11/20 10:26 PM
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Hey man, I have to ask, if you're in a super cool monogamous relationship, why are you hanging out in a seduction subreddit? Not trying to throw shade, I agree with many of your points, but just wanted to know.
/r/seduction14/10/20 07:34 PM
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My mom never did that with me and that's why I am almost estranged from her
/r/seduction16/08/20 03:45 PM
1

Man, I thought you were going to say that you actually approached and that the approach failed. In which case I was going to use the "task failed successfully" joke. But to fail to even try? You gotta do better. It's always better to make a fool of yourself rather than be too scared to try! I know this sub is all about positive reinforcement and patting each other on the back which is important especially between males. We've got each other's backs. But sometimes you also need a kick in the ass.…
/r/seduction26/07/20 03:59 PM
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Please keep in mind that if you can do it with this girl, you can do it with another girl. And another girl after that. And again and again and again. No girl is irreplaceable.
/r/seduction01/07/20 03:09 PM
0

The mouth is the dirtiest place in your body! Well, unless you're female.
/r/seduction17/06/20 12:12 PM
10

I can't believe you guys mouth kissed. You know that your mouth is full of germs, right? And so is hers.
/r/seduction17/06/20 03:15 AM
18

Double entendres are nice. Or like refer to thefact that you're taking a shower or you just took a shower.
/r/seduction01/06/20 12:06 AM
3

This.
/r/seduction11/05/20 03:26 AM
5

Yes. Also, you have to keep trying.
/r/seduction05/01/20 03:55 PM
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This post is going to be very succinct ... goes on to be a two-screenful wall of text
/r/seduction19/12/19 03:28 PM
9

The whole point of working hard and having money is to be able to solve problems.
/r/seduction07/12/19 09:26 PM
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People still go to shopping malls?
/r/seduction03/12/19 07:54 PM
1

You're only going to attract desperate losers who are willing to pursue you because you're out of their league. If that's what you're going for, and you like drama and difficult relationships, go for it. But the best experiences with another person are when you're both on the same level. It's not you vs the other person. It's a team sport.
/r/seduction27/11/19 01:25 PM
1

Yeah, just start saying hi to the people that you're standing in line with at the store, for example. Or just examine other people as you're there watch their movement queue off of them. Is one of them buried in her phone? Is somebody bored and looking around? You start to learn and practice these behaviors in low-risk social situations like this, then move your way up to bars or parties or whatever.
/r/seduction27/09/19 09:49 PM
0

I would try two things in parallel. Number one is there's this whole section of the internet where women get into these goddess womb Awakening, Shakti Temple type of things. Try hanging out on those forms and maybe going to one of those workshops with a Yoni egg or whatever and see if anything happens. Number two is figure out the gay neighborhoods, gay bars, Etc and start hanging out at though at those places. This is, of course, knowing how to approach, having game, Etc.
/r/seduction15/09/19 12:10 PM
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When that happened in my case, the girl had a boyfriend but she was kind of flirting with the idea of cheating on him and she didn't want him to see her add me as a friend.
/r/seduction21/06/19 09:33 PM
1

Good feedback.
/r/seduction15/06/19 09:35 PM
6

How to navigate the insurance and repair process.
/r/seduction11/06/19 08:10 PM
5

I'm a fan of saying something but most people do the "stare into eyes, at mouth, back at eyes" move.
/r/seduction06/06/19 04:33 PM
1

I love that you're spitting the exact right advice we parrot at fellow men.
/r/seduction09/04/19 02:44 AM
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Dude in the right part of any gritty city, this goes down. There's usually night life near these places. Either that or a group of kids playing drums on paint buckets.
/r/seduction15/02/19 05:19 PM
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What are you doing on /r/seduction LOL?
/r/seduction06/02/19 06:43 PM
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Nature doesn't care if she frustrates you. It's not fair, but that's how the world works.
/r/seduction06/02/19 12:46 AM
4

Am I the only one who thinks this is wildly inappropriate language that doesn't belong on this sub?
/r/seduction18/01/19 11:26 PM
3

Yeah you're too worried about this one girl. You think this is the last or the best girl you're ever going to hit it off with? Please. Take your shot, brother.
/r/seduction16/01/19 05:00 PM
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I get my EFAs from Flax Seed oil, which is way cheaper and tastes better than fish/krill oil. In order to feel an appreciable difference, I have to take literal handfuls of the fish oil gels, but FSO I can dump several tablespoons into my protein shake. (protip: banana is the best coverer of flavor of FSO) Yes, you can buy fish oil in a bottle, sometimes with some lemon or other flavor added, but there's literally nothing you can mix it with to make it taste palatable, and it's way more expensiv…
/r/seduction08/01/19 04:25 PM
1

You miss every shot you don't take.
/r/seduction07/12/18 04:25 AM
2

Yep. The key is to use a Google voice number so you can block clingers. Works both ways LOL.
/r/seduction12/09/18 05:48 AM
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Wait. There was top upvoted advice on here recently that said you keep all messaging on the platform until you meet for the first time. 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
/r/seduction12/09/18 01:33 AM
1

The League had it's heyday in DC about a year ago then dropped off the map.
/r/seduction09/09/18 02:17 PM
2

This is a multilayered question. On the one hand, you could teach yourself to be dominant in bed. On the other hand, you could try different sexual roles while you are experimenting to figure things out. Finally, it's possible that your new cocky exterior is not an accurate reflection of your true self and your fears are due to you not being true to yourself. Think about it, but most importantly, keep taking action. Going out and doing is far more noble than offering feedback on the internet.
/r/seduction08/09/18 03:13 PM
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It's not gender specific behavior.
/r/seduction07/09/18 04:36 AM
3

Dude this right here should be a sticky; it's such simple, easy to follow, straightforward, unambiguous direction. I love it
/r/seduction31/08/18 02:55 AM
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Good to know. Thanks for contributing.
/r/seduction30/08/18 10:16 PM
8

Are you female?
/r/seduction30/08/18 05:10 PM
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Not yet. Thanks for the advice. You're doing God's work.
/r/seduction19/08/18 02:17 PM
2

The point I was trying to make is that keeping score is not cool and antithetical to most of the advice on this sub.
/r/seduction19/08/18 02:12 PM
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I'm 43 and definitely have trouble pulling the younger ladies. I kill it with my age group but anything below 35 is really tough. Mind if I ask your tips for the younger ones? Also what's your physical build like and how do you dress? Thanks!
/r/seduction19/08/18 12:10 PM
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I'm 43 and I don't want to speak for OP, but I lost count in the teens (many years ago). The number is not a big deal, man.
/r/seduction19/08/18 12:08 PM
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Thanks, man.
/r/seduction08/08/18 02:09 AM
1

It's a little bit of both, but honestly more of B than A. It's like your success rate is about 1%. Here are some tips to improve that, but you're still going to fail a lot more than you succeed. Then you start developing an intuition for it, and you stop going for the really lonh shots. Then you get married or someshit. There's an end game somehow.
/r/seduction07/08/18 11:12 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction07/08/18 06:39 PM
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To be fair, I enjoyed doing the exercise, but yeah I wouldn't have gone up to her if she was not attractive, and she probably knows that. Interesting perspective, and I'll incorporate it. Thanks.
/r/seduction07/08/18 06:29 PM
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Yeah I agree. Like I said, I probably won't see her again but for sure yours is more ideal.
/r/seduction07/08/18 05:10 PM
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Thanks. This is great advice. I agree that my opportunity was limited and I had to make the best of it.
/r/seduction07/08/18 05:05 PM
3

Thanks, dude. This is what I needed to hear.
/r/seduction07/08/18 05:04 PM
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Maybe I should have added more context: I have been going to the gym on and off for about 9 years. I am friends with the owners and am friendly with most of the staff. Have never "gamed" at the gym before yesterday. Having said that, thank you for expressing the risks. I agree with your original sentiment that I get a pass this time.
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:49 PM
4

You’ll care later lol Can you explain why I'll care later in case I want to adjust my actions?
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:09 PM
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OK, I could have been smoother at the end. I saw my shot and I took it, but perhaps I could work on my form. Thanks!
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:08 PM
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I didn't appreciate your tone or your advice. It was a very low-risk, high reward situation and you made it out to be some kind of high stakes game.
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:07 PM
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Thanks! I know I could do better, too, but this is just a start in the right direction.
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:06 PM
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The purpose would have been for going hiking, she said she loved nature. But the opportunity as it presented itself was short, and at the time I didn't mind being more direct.
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:02 PM
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So first of all, I don't care that I got curved by a hot chick in front of a few people. It's been decades since middle school so that mentality has faded for me. Having said that, if trying and failing started to become a pattern that negatively impacted how I felt in front of people I know well, I'd stop. I understand that hitting on women at the gym is frowned upon, but I was willing to break that social norm once. People hit it off at the gym enough for it to be a soft rule, not a hard one. …
/r/seduction07/08/18 02:01 PM
1

The odds are good, but the goods are odd.
/r/seduction31/07/18 10:34 PM
1

So on the second scenario, do girls go for that?
/r/seduction05/07/18 04:03 PM
4

So this is something where you have to decide: is it worth sabotaging my career to keep being that way or is that something I'm willing to correct in order to rise up in the world?
/r/seduction05/07/18 03:04 AM
2

First one is cringey af TBH. Others not so bad but I agree with the other commenters, you need at least one relaxed one in there. Don't despair, you're pretty good looking, so let that shine through.
/r/seduction29/06/18 01:47 PM
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The fuck is with the clickbait title? This isn't BuzzFeed, OP
/r/seduction26/06/18 04:02 PM
2

Do nothing about the second one. Don't you have like 40 more women to ask out? Mental energy forward, not backward.
/r/seduction26/06/18 03:50 PM
1

He's pursuing things that capture his attention more than you.
/r/seduction25/06/18 05:04 PM
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You don't become more talkative. You become aware of the fact that you aren't very talkative and work to deal with that first. Start paying attention and observe more how it affects the people around you. Then decide: it is truly advantageous to become more talkative or not?
/r/seduction25/06/18 05:03 PM
4

And trust me, you don't have to remind me that everyone shits and bleeds all the same. Oh right, cos you're a doctor! Took me a sec.
/r/seduction30/06/17 03:32 AM
3

Whaaat? Are we still playing these games? Some of the best stories are about texting the same night. Sometimes if you're really into each other you can say "text me when you get home, OK?" Then text her back "great, glad you got home, sleep well/good night!" or similar. Then, the next day, ask her out again! Also good to get a feel for her schedule so you don't freak out and wonder why she's not texting you back when you know she does barre class every day or while she's at the hospital she only…
/r/seduction30/06/17 03:29 AM
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