notevenatthestart Archive

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14	Get rich slow with the miracle of compound interest. You'll be looking for a stocks and shares ISA. There are any number of providers out there, but you can find a good comparison on the website Monevator, along with introductions to most topics of relevance to investing. That's probably the best place to start. There's also a UK personal finance subreddit which has some useful (albeit basic) material collected on the sidebar.	/r/TheRedPill	21/10/17 02:37 PM
2	Men build with stone, women with sand. I was just thinking of that; thanks for the link. It's always worth reading again.	/r/TheRedPill	15/05/17 09:32 PM
6	There are no cool girls, just cool ex boyfriends You're right. It's the slightly more poetic way to express "28" in English as it was spoken a century ago.	/r/TheRedPill	19/10/16 05:32 PM
24	There are no cool girls, just cool ex boyfriends You're not kidding. He gets it spot on. Man reaches the maturity of his reasoning and mental faculties scarcely before he is eight-and-twenty; woman when she is eighteen; but hers is reason of very narrow limitations. This is why women remain children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling matters to the most important.	/r/TheRedPill	18/10/16 05:26 PM
1	I Keep A Negative Person Around As A TRP Experiment - The Toxicity Reeks Just wanted to say that's a particularly interesting story you quoted there. I've copied it down to read over a few more times. Thanks.	/r/TheRedPill	14/09/16 12:57 PM
1	It's Hip to be Square. Maybe it isn't that simple but since I've "normalized" appearance-wise I feel invisible in the crowd No doubt an added complication in this case is that your own behaviour is likely to change depending on how you feel. If you stand out with your appearance - in a positive way - you're more likely to feel confident and act in a way that gets positive results, I suspect.	/r/TheRedPill	20/08/16 11:02 AM
11	She Can Never Be Your Equal Don't expect them to bring the same level of maturity you bring, it will only result in them letting you down and growing disgust for you for expecting something she can't provide. It wasn't until I started reading and internalising TRP that I realised how unfair I was being. With my girlfriends, I had a series of perfectly adequate goldfish who I was judging on their ability to climb a tree. And obviously they came up short when being measured by that yardstick, which didn't make either of us h…	/r/TheRedPill	26/05/16 11:53 PM
1	How to pull yourself out of depression Excellent post. Too many people throw their arms up and say "but it's a chemical imbalance in the Brain!"... as if the brain and its chemicals hadn't specifically evolved to react to external stimuli. It might not be true that everyone can pull himself out of depression by his own efforts but it's sure as hell not true that everyone has to sit around and wait to be pumped full of drugs before he stands a chance. And while talking and therapy and whatever else might help some people, that can be …	/r/TheRedPill	26/05/16 11:47 PM
10	How can you succeed in life while you can't get an erection? Like anything. A few drinks with people is fine, but needing to drink half a bottle of wine to get through the day isn't. Eating pizza is acceptable, but stuffing your face with junk food every single day isn't.	/r/TheRedPill	26/05/16 11:40 PM
2	A moral dilemma: should I bang an old friend's ex? that is something that bigger that you can get from sex And this isn't just some random "bro-code" moralising shit; this is sense and logic. Think rationally about which of the two brings more value to your life. She's a girl; she offers sex. That's it. That's the sum total of what you can get from her since hopefully you know enough to know she's not LTR material. A good male friend, by comparison, especially one who has kept you from getting arrested, is a damned useful asset. Making good frie…	/r/askTRP	22/02/16 03:53 PM
8	Confidence problem I am really bad at texting, i can easily talk in person This is a bit like saying "I'm amazing at lifting weights but I'm no good at burping the alphabet backwards". You're good at a thing that's useful and bad at a thing that's much less important. Text minimally, ideally only to arrange meetups. Play to your strengths.	/r/askTRP	22/02/16 03:37 PM
-2	While drunk, my old oneitis basically admitted she misses when I was her little beta bitch. I just needed to vent and talk to some dudes about this. I definitely appreciate the need to vent, but I'm not sure this is adding all that much value to the sub. There isn't really anything there to discuss and it doesn't add anything to our understanding. All in all, it's just a common confirmation that girls actively encourage guys to orbit. We all know that and we all have a thousand examples of it. I know it's hard not to crow "BUT IT ALL MAKES SO MUCH SENSE" after the world starts to swim …	/r/TheRedPill	22/02/16 03:25 PM
1	Nervous breakdown? Thought pattern has drastically changed from reading a lot and chasing the lonely path of entrepreneurship. Yeah: Step one is to sort out your sleep patterns and you'll have to do it by 'force'; get yourself in bed at a certain time each day and force yourself up at some other time. Eventually your body will adapt. Healthy food is the next priority, along with starting some kind of fitness programme.	/r/askTRP	13/01/16 02:03 PM
1	Massive censorship on reddit of discussion relating to migrant gang rapes with clear implications for red pill. Okay, let's explore the legal ramifications. Here's how I see it: If there's a right to healthcare and the government doesn't provide adequate provision to healthcare as determined by the courts, such that Fred doesn't receive any healthcare, Fred could presumably sue the government. That's usually how it works when the government breach a citizen's rights and would be analogous to a child's parents suing the government for not providing the child with adequate educational provision. More plausi…	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 03:32 PM
1	Massive censorship on reddit of discussion relating to migrant gang rapes with clear implications for red pill. The same way you make sure that kids get an education without forcing people to teach or that roads get built without forcing people to build roads; you use incentives. In other words, you pay the doctors with money. The government can also subsidise training. I've heard that medical degrees in the USA can be quite expensive. In the UK, you can get the education for free and know there's a job at the end of it. That's proven to be quite a powerful way of ensuring a steady supply of people. Of co…	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 03:04 PM
15	Massive censorship on reddit of discussion relating to migrant gang rapes with clear implications for red pill. Quite. The NHS in the UK doesn't go around dragging doctors away at gunpoint. They do something entirely different. Bear with me, because it's pretty radical; giving the doctors money in exchange for their services. The doctors, like any other employees of any other company, can choose to leave their jobs if they want at any time.	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 01:55 PM
2	“…And Lucy Tries Harder” You don't put yourself in a position where "people who will talk shit about you" have an effect on your life. You don't get involved with anyone at work and you make sure you're active in a number of different social groups, so at worst the damage is compartmentalised. Obviously work and university aren't the same in this regard, and it'd be absurd to suggest avoiding all girls at your university, but it might make sense to keep things entirely professional with the hot girl in your seminars if …	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 01:38 PM
4	“…And Lucy Tries Harder” I've said it before, but OmLaLa's posts really ought to be required reading. If you haven't already read it, his "Such is My Nature" from 7 months ago is a classic, both because of what it says and how he draws the reader into thinking about it by writing an allegory.	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 01:21 PM
8	“…And Lucy Tries Harder” So what we're saying here is, essentially, AWALT.	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 01:15 PM
3	“…And Lucy Tries Harder” That's an excellent contribution; thanks for posting it. It's a phenomenon everyone knows about but it's very useful to see it laid out and discussed there. I don't know if it's already been covered but I think it'd make a good post of its own, tied in with this and expanded to include habit-forming behaviours in the "monk mode" phase.	/r/TheRedPill	12/01/16 01:13 PM
1	Nervous breakdown? Thought pattern has drastically changed from reading a lot and chasing the lonely path of entrepreneurship. Before you start making any life-altering decisions, we need some emergency triage. We need to hit the reset button. Here's what we do: Stay awake through the day until 9pm. That might mean going for 24 hours or so without sleep. Then get some rest. Alarm for 7am. From now on, you're in bed by 11pm and up at 7am. First thing you do is some exercise: Up, press ups, situps, whatever, then into the shower. That's the plan for the forseeable future. Sorting out your sleep schedule is important. With…	/r/askTRP	10/01/16 02:22 PM
1	I value the opinions of this community far higher than any other, I think I need some guidance on how I should feel about cheating. How am I supposed to feel? But I cannot tell what the red pill mentality to have here is. Sexual strategy is amoral. There's no prescribed view to take and, honestly, I don't think it's worth your time to worry about what he's doing with his life. In a sense, asking what the Red Pill says about cheating is like asking what Christianity says about purple or what current Brazilian military doctrine says about the diseases of goats' livers. Still, here's my take on it: But, in a situation where someone you live with is const…	/r/askTRP	10/01/16 02:13 PM
1	Recently diagnosed with Muscle Wasting disease which will cripple me eventually, here is my plan, need red pill perspective. Gonna be confined to a chair most of my life, but how can I use that to my advantage? Learn programming? Picking up skills that can help my law career, networking is going to be hard. A career in law has the advantage that it's your mind that needs to be sharp and not so much your body. You can play that to your advantage. In terms of networking, while you eventually won't be able to do it quite so traditionally, you'll have an advantage in that through your condition, you'll be instantly recogn…	/r/TheRedPill	15/12/15 02:05 PM
1	The Most Powerful Weapon in Your Arsenal Good post. I felt so much more power in a straight denial. That's because you were in the strongest possible negotiating position; where you don't want to do something and the other person has nothing to offer you to make it appealing to you. "I'll do it if you get me a drink" is a position which can be negotiated and twisted and manipulated. It implies that the other person has something to offer you, that an exchange can be negotiated, that your acquiescence has a price; that the two of you ar…	/r/TheRedPill	14/12/15 04:11 PM
3	I cut her off and now she's trying to reconnect. Ignore it. She wants to drag you back into your old orbiting ways. You stand to gain absolutely nothing by replying and I think you know that, really. "Yes, you did X to upset me!" sounds butthurt. "No, of course not" opens the door to "So why are you ignoring me, huh???" and all that nonsense. "Who is this?" sounds witty and clever but all it leads to is an argument about why you deleted her number. I wouldn't mind replying because she's a babe and I'd like to know what she's like in bed If she…	/r/askTRP	04/12/15 04:01 PM
2	My sister. You've got to think about what you stand to gain. What's the absolute best case for you? That she says "Oh, gosh, that's a very good point that I haven't considered. My mind has been totally changed!". That's very unlikely to happen. It's a waste of your time and if anything, it's only likely to further entrench her position. Much better to smile, nod and then change the subject. It's far more powerful if she finds that nobody actually cares about her crusades. Worst case, she goes on as she was…	/r/TheRedPill	27/11/15 05:30 PM
3	Alone and scared and confused: what should I do with myself? You're still young enough to be able to finish college without it being a problem. Graduating at 24 or 25 isn't going to hurt your future career. Whatever you choose to study, make it something rigorous; my suggestion would be a hard science. Someone who has got a good degree is maths or chemistry is manifestly not an idiot and that'll come in useful even for jobs in unrelated fields. Check out your local university's employment statistics for recent graduates to give you a good idea of what emp…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/11/15 04:10 PM
1	Guy Turns 6 Figure Down Job at Google for Girlfriend, She Dumps Him Anyway Thanks; I appreciate you taking the time to say that. We all of us have a lot to learn and sometimes it can very most useful to see how someone else thinks about an issue to put it into perspective. You're right; that's one of the most important things this place offers.	/r/TheRedPill	27/11/15 01:29 AM
6	Jezebel reader takes the red pill Heh. Herrick was writing when there was no need for the red pill, not as we know it now. He was reminding his reader of something that he or she already knew well. In those days, fundamental truths about the nature of men and women were considered just that, fundamental truths. Not that the early 1600s would have been particularly nice to live in, mind you, but one feature of that grim reality was a more realistic view on how men and women should behave.	/r/TheRedPill	25/11/15 05:43 AM
87	Jezebel reader takes the red pill Imagine you're dating a girl. You take her somewhere. It doesn't matter whether it's ice skating, to a museum, for a walk or for a weekend away somewhere. First, consider the case where her eyes light up. "This is wonderful," she says. You're exposing her to new things. You're seeing her life move to a new level right in front of you and you're with her as she experiences that blend of nervousness and excitement that comes with the unknown. "I've never done this before!". She's thinking of you, …	/r/TheRedPill	25/11/15 05:38 AM
1	Guy Turns 6 Figure Down Job at Google for Girlfriend, She Dumps Him Anyway is as far from a fully-developed woman. It could be argued (see, for example, the sidebar article Women, the most responsible teenager in the house) that, no, a 19 year old is pretty much a fully-developed woman. A woman is a girl, in fact, and that's the whole point. Drawing a distinction is meaningless, then, and you can pick whatever word you like. Sure, she'll get better at manipulation as she gets older, her looks will peak and then deteriorate and she'll become more bitter and cynical but …	/r/TheRedPill	25/11/15 05:27 AM
1	How not to be emotional person? You said you wanted to practice being not emotional. It's not been something that I've had all that much trouble with, but I'd suggest this: Pick a sport you're interested in or a political argument in which you have a stake. Say you particularly support party A and you hate the candidate from party B, or you really want the red team to beat the blue team or you're a committed atheist who hates religious people. Whatever, pick something that's guaranteed to get you emotional. Watch the sports ma…	/r/askTRP	24/10/15 05:55 PM
1	First cold approach and number!! it'll be easy for me to fuck this up so I'm asking and open to any advice Yeah, you didn't come here for advice; you came here to brag. But that's okay. You did good. Keep lifting, keep learning, and remember your outcome independence. She's just a girl and you can always go get another.	/r/askTRP	24/10/15 04:43 PM
5	Did I pass or fail? No problem. Girls are good at this shit; TRP just levels the playing field. It's usually easier to see what's going on from the outside in cases like this. It'll help you in the future though if you can learn how to think rationally and impartially about whatever situation you find yourself in. Consider whether you're just doing what someone else wants you to do. And if you're doing anything for a specific girl (worrying about a conversation, say) then that's a good sign you might have gone wron…	/r/askTRP	21/10/15 02:04 PM
17	Did I pass or fail? She messaged you (her ex) out of the blue and you're responding immediately? And you're apparently invested enough that you want asktrp to analyse your conversations? Sounds like she's said "Orbit!" and clicked her fingers and there you are, just spinning right around her, though it might not seem like that to you. Take a step back. She's only a girl. Focus on yourself for a few days/weeks; be too busy to get back to her. Don't pretend to be busy, but be busy. Short answers. Maybe invite her alo…	/r/askTRP	21/10/15 01:44 PM
41	I animated some RedPill side-bar content. Hypergamy, Shit-Tests, AWALT. "Back when I first found TRP, we had to read the sidebar material." "Wow, really, gramps?" "Yeah, we didn't have these virtual reality programs to demonstrate the principles. /u/IllimitableMan's virtual seminars didn't exist yet and neither did /u/GayLubeOil's virtual training program ($19.99, available from all good retailers). We didn't even have videos then! It was just words we had to read."	/r/TheRedPill	14/10/15 12:08 PM
13	Neil Strauss, author of "The Game", prostrates himself before womankind and begs for forgiveness. Exactly. Give it a year and he'll have a new book out called The Game II: The Rematch or The Away Game or something stuffed with lots of delicious new controversy for internet feminists and angry PUAs to argue over. There will be blog posts everywhere, sales will soar and yet nothing at all will have been achieved at any point. Let's be honest: The Game isn't all that interesting anyway, exactly because of what you and some of the other posters have identified. It's not about a way of life like …	/r/TheRedPill	10/10/15 11:32 PM
2	“Such is Our Nature” Excellent. I would consider Such is My Nature to be absolutely required reading not just in this sub, but everywhere, and this is a worthy sequel. Really good work.	/r/TheRedPill	09/10/15 11:07 PM
12	29 year old woman hurt her boyfriend cares about her high partner count. Gets told her sleeping with 17 men makes her 'average'. I think men have a 'second puberty' at around 25-30 that actually creates 'adult'-like thinking in a greater proportion of men than in women Definitely. Men have the capacity to continue to grow and to better themselves, if they don't get held down by the soft and the weak. A man at, say, 35 can be at the height of his game. He's fit and healthy; he understands the world around him and both respects himself and is respected by others; he's a master of some things, a skilled practitioner of other…	/r/TheRedPill	09/10/15 10:19 PM
21	29 year old woman hurt her boyfriend cares about her high partner count. Gets told her sleeping with 17 men makes her 'average'. I decided to read through the two posts before I read OP's analysis. I burst out laughing when I got to that bit. For some reason, I hadn't seen it coming, but, yeah, it made absolute perfect sense. Of course she has two kids. You gotta feel bad for the guy in this case though. He was pretty fucking stupid but he didn't know any better; he believed all the lies, did everything he'd been told he was meant to do. I'm glad for him that it looks like he got away, though. The scary thing is that he w…	/r/TheRedPill	09/10/15 10:01 PM
3	Guys I fucked up. Consider forwarding screenshots of the relevant parts of the messages (the threats of self-harm) to the university authorities. Then: The apparent betrayal of trust will probably put her right off you, solving that problem. If she does engage in any serious self-harm, you can sleep easy. It's morally off your back because you've passed the problem to people who are literally paid to deal with that sort of thing. And this leads into: If she does do anything and the story gets out, part of that st…	/r/askTRP	27/09/15 10:50 PM
2	Social Circle Ouch. As a nerd, this stings a little. Heh. It stung to write, too, and my post was as much written to myself as it was to you as a reminder of how (I think) I should be doing things. So what you're saying is: go to meetups other than Python and Big Data Analytics. Got it. Definitely. If you dig out the post entitled "So you’re a boring fuck: How to become interesting in 3 Easy Steps [Part 1]" from the main red pill subreddit, it does into a bit more detail about balancing hobbies, but it's fair…	/r/askTRP	25/09/15 10:14 AM
2	Social Circle Flaws: I tend to be risk-averse, and over-analyze rather than act Sounds to me that you need to get hobbies that involve more action and less thought in order to balance out your personality. Go on a white-water kayaking and camping weekend with an outdoor adventure training company; offer to abseil down a building for charity; run a 5K/10K/half-marathon/marathon. When you do, introduce yourself to people and get chatting. Keep in contact with them if you can and want to. They won't all become y…	/r/askTRP	24/09/15 03:43 PM
1	Hey girls! I need your honest opinions - do I need to change my behaviour? To start with, your SMV only really has meaning when you're in the sexual marketplace, just as any commodity only has a value when traded on the free market. That's how one determines value in a market economy. Until it's actually up for sale and the offers come in, everything is just theory and guesswork. So (good news!) your piercings, breasts, cheerleading past, interest in women and lack of a father figure don't matter at all if you never go back on the market. Do those slut markers still co…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/15 02:14 AM
2	Woman gets engaged to 'perfect guy'. Then messages an 'old crush' to 'meet up for coffee'. I'm surprised you heard that more than once... in a hot tub with arms wrapped around another man, grinding with a guy on the dancefloor, messaging ex bfs Any one of these is a nexting offence by anyone's standards, surely?	/r/TheRedPill	03/09/15 12:21 PM
2	Looking for advise on having a serious father/son talk. Exactly this. Go hunting or fishing or whatever. Spend time in silence together. Crack open a few beers by the campfire. Just exist, as men, without anyone bringing in "shoulders to cry on" or "opening up about feelings" or any of that. That'd be good for both of you-- and you might even find yourself feeling somewhat closer to him afterwards.	/r/askTRP	27/08/15 06:00 PM
6	Is it really cheating on them if he or she withholds sex? A relationship is an unspoken contract not to fuck other people, and to fuck each other regularly. is she really cheating when she seeks sex from other men By your own definition, yes, it's really cheating. That said, if he's withholding sex from her and she wants sex more than she wants to be with him, then he can't be surprised when she cheats or leaves. See Briffault's Law: Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. If he's sufficie…	/r/askTRP	27/08/15 05:50 PM
0	Withholding sex test- Failed? It went wrong when you replied with "Don't threaten me". You shouldn't have to say that. As you probably realise looking back, only a weak person needs to say "Don't do this to me" where noone would consider doing it to a strong person. That made you sound insecure. You could have laughed and said "Okay." and then yourself left, or turned to something else. This has a number of advantages: You've made it clear you're above the pettiness of the argument. You just aren't interested. You have more …	/r/askTRP	27/08/15 05:37 PM
1	3 Reasons Why You Will Never Make Gains Interesting. I might try that with the rice this week. Thanks for the reply.	/r/TheRedPill	05/08/15 01:13 PM
3	3 Reasons Why You Will Never Make Gains What kinds of vegetables? How did you incorporate them? I'm guilty of not eating as many vegetables as I should; left to my own devices, a lot of my meals would probably reduce to meat and potatoes.	/r/TheRedPill	04/08/15 10:57 PM
2	Monk Mode, Month 1 Review (1600 words) Good post; thanks. If this gets enough interest, or even if you just feel it would be useful, I hope you post another update in the future. Perhaps you could touch on your mental state; do you feel any different? How does your daily routine compare now to how it did before? How long do you see yourself staying in monk mode? Best of luck.	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 10:42 PM
3	"Aww, you're just so cute!" These are classic belittling behaviours. Bullying. The problem when the bullying is perpetuated by a group is that it's pretty hard to break up while you're still in the group, you know? Even the best comeback that would work in neutral company becomes another excuse to mock you. It's a no win situation when it gets like that and I don't know if it's even possible to turn that sort of situation around-- that's something you know yourself, I suspect. At this point, we have to wheel in some logic …	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 03:00 PM
3	How To Save My Cousins All you can do is set an example. When they see you, they need to see a strong man, who goes to the gym a lot, has a good body, who plays sports and is comfortable in his accomplishments without being arrogant. An example is far more convincing than an argument. At some point, the 9 year old is going to be looking around for a role model, consciously or subconsciously. He'll be thinking of men he knows and admires and he'll think of you. The answer to his question "Who do I want to be like?" wil…	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 02:35 PM
1	My Interest Just Broke Up With Her Boyfriend, Partly Because She's Been Cheating With Me. How To Proceed? And the end of the day, her relationship with her boyfriend is her problem. I'd steer clear for a while and let her come to you, as the other replies suggest. Remember, though, if you're planning on LTRing her: If she cheated on someone else with you, she'll cheat on you with someone else. Be careful you're not back here in six months surprised and heartbroken because a known cheater cheated.	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 02:25 PM
3	"Aww, you're just so cute!" As someone else said, this is an issue to do with how comfortable you are in your own body. Do you go to the gym and lift weights? Most UK universities have fairly competitive rates for students. I didn't start until after I left; if I had my time again, I'd be down there every day. As you build strength, it'll be harder for people to say things like that to you and easier for you to laugh and say "Fuck off" when they do. I've got a developing beard Problem with a developing beard is that it hig…	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 01:46 PM
3	What do I do if I have niche hobbies? I won't link to it because I'm not sure what the policy is here on linking to other posts on reddit, but look up a post from three months ago called "So you’re a boring fuck: How to become interesting in 3 Easy Steps [Part 1]". He divides hobbies into categories and suggests that "To develop a well-rounded personality, you must pursue at least one hobby from each of the three cardinal spheres: The Physical, The Creative, and The Mental." Like anything here, I wouldn't take it as gospel, but it m…	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 01:16 PM
1	where can i get a red pill therapist Consider one who specialises in psychological issues affecting ex-soldiers and servicemen like PTSD. I'd say that gives you the best chance of finding someone with the attitude you're after. That's a suggestion based on no experience, though.	/r/askTRP	02/08/15 01:07 PM
3	Is it better to plate a 5 or keep working? Not at all what I'm into they don't do anything for me For practice, by all means, but you seem to have answered your own question there. Would you invest hours of your time in something which didn't provide any benefit in any other part of your life? Plate and keep working. Always keep working.	/r/askTRP	01/08/15 03:59 PM
1	Should I quit the dating game forever and focus on academia I'd listen to /r/dogextraordinarire; his post sounds like good advice. Some more thoughts: Some of the most social people I've met at university have been Indians. I've no idea why it's the case, but often they're the ones I met at the bar, at clubs or at conferences, who come over and introduce themselves on day one. I find it really hard to interact with people I am not close with as I feel that they would get repulsed by my looks. So this is the crux of the matter, right? You want to meet new…	/r/askTRP	01/08/15 03:39 PM
1	The 30 Day Challenge #1 - SLEEP People in the UK should note that melatonin, as useful as it sounds, is only available on prescription here and not over the counter. It's only usually prescribed for insomnia for those over 55. Source.	/r/TheRedPill	01/08/15 12:55 PM
35	"Well some other guy just took my [18 M] g/f (now ex I guess) [17 f] virginity." Bonus: Other guy has already moved on to banging a new chick in less than a week. It's hard not to feel angry when you read that. Not just anger, but the first anger; anger that hits you and carries you back to when you first felt like that; humiliated, furious, betrayed. As we've read and learned and pondered and lifted, all of us here have all developed some kind of a skin against this. Depending on how far along we are, we're starting to realise that AWALT. This situation angers us, then, but it doesn't surprise us. We should remember that this young man, though, didn't ha…	/r/TheRedPill	31/07/15 07:48 PM
1	UPDATE: Avoiding Wedding Drama You're welcome. It's just a big decision for me to close the lid on this. Sure, but then big decisions do sometimes have to be made. Talking can be very helpful but you can only prevaricate for so long; eventually it's decision time. Presumably your SO will have input too. I'll probably have to see her at the next wedding There's no reason you can't be distantly polite to her in future when you're in the same room, just as you were this time round. It comes down to this: If you really want to av…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/15 06:50 PM
2	OmLaLa on YouTube I'd probably be less likely to watch a Youtube video, honestly, than I would be to read a submitted text post. A text post I can read conveniently in otherwise wasted time in a way I can't with a video and I can go back and re-read a thought-provoking part of a text post much more easily. To similarly 'take notes' for a video could be more difficult-- though I suppose you could always consider posting transcripts of your videos, if they lend themselves to being seen that way. There's also the fa…	/r/askTRP	31/07/15 03:43 PM
1	What's the cure to oneitis? Lack of experience is always a drawback. Book learning (reading the sidebar here) helps a lot and gets you a bit of a headstart, but ultimately, in anything, you need experience. And experience involves failing again and again until you learn how not to fail. It's something that it's easy to be scared of. Best of luck.	/r/askTRP	31/07/15 03:09 PM
1	Does anyone belong to/have experience with Men's Clubs. Not strip clubs, traditional Gentlemen's Clubs. I can't speak for the United States, but I've spent some time in some of the London ones. Generally you need to know someone to get in initially, and then if you apply for membership, you'll need a few current members to sponsor you. They can get expensive but I won't deny a Club is a nice place to relax. The members vary, both between and within clubs. Some successful men, some old money. Often the atmosphere is more academic than you'd expect in other male-only environments, though it depends …	/r/askTRP	31/07/15 03:05 PM
5	What's the cure to oneitis? If only there was some kind of cure in pill form. A pill that you could take. A red pill. I'm afraid the moment I come across a girl that actually shares the same values and ideals as me, I will lose touch with TRP and become a BB again to enjoy the delusional moment. Seriously, here's how I see it: What do you think you'll be offering her if you go BB again? Will that be something she wants? No. Will it be good for you? No. You need to integrate RP into your life so that if or when you do meet …	/r/askTRP	31/07/15 02:52 PM
1	Increasing my strengths and decreasing my weaknesses monk mode tips and advice Some of those are very vague: "4) Too nice". It's helpful to have it there so you're aware of your problems but the essence of monk mode and the reason it can be useful is that you strip things down to the bare minimum. Pick concrete goals that can be qualitatively assessed every day: "Go to the gym for one hour every day", "get 7 hours of sleep per night", and so on. Social anxiety: Do you use reddit or Facebook a lot? Think, hard, about what you get out of them. In fact, think hard about what …	/r/askTRP	31/07/15 02:44 PM
11	LTR wishes to change Facebook relationship status to "in relationship with LTR" I obviously try to stay very un-involved with social media. I keep it for contacts and events only. And there's your answer: You don't put silly things like that on your Facebook page. As you say, this has the hallmarks of a comfort test. If you turn down the Facebook idea (and I'd say if you were going to kill it, you should have killed it on the spot and not promised to think about it), you need to offer some other morsel of comfort.	/r/askTRP	31/07/15 02:38 PM
1	UPDATE: Avoiding Wedding Drama Something short? "Thanks for your email. I wish you well for the future, but I think it's for the best that we go our separate ways." Chances are, whatever you send, you'll get a reply back. You're not likely to be able to get the satisfying closure of a devastating monologue that sends her, chastened, out of your life. All you can do is cut yourself off with the least fuss for you. I'd just like to highlight some of the things you said: I just don’t see how she could possibly redeem herself. It…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/07/15 02:32 PM
1	How to kill the flake? Even the "looking forward to tonight" seems unnecessary. Just "I'll pick you up at 8" or "I'll find you under the sign/next to the Christmas tree/by the front door". It's clear, to-the-point, not rude but not obsequious.	/r/askTRP	24/07/15 03:16 PM
1	Being a wuss The obvious thing would be "going out of my comfort zone" and just watch those damn scenes. The one thing which holds me back is that it really feels like a hypersensitivity (i get nightmares/daydreams) and this surely does not seem normal to me. I think you've hit the nail on the head there. You want to be able to cope with exposure to something when at the moment you can't bear it. Logically, the only way to get to that state is to expose yourself to it. You need to take a careful, sensible ap…	/r/askTRP	24/07/15 02:10 PM
1	Short, early 30s man facing 7 years of dating failure. Feeling helpless and hopeless. That's short, sure, but it's not outrageously so. You need to make sure it's not your defining feature. I can relate to solitary hobbies, but let's think this through: You need to maximise the number of women you're meeting and make sure that when you do meet them, you're at your best. You need to be comfortable in the company of other people; a guy who is respected and liked by others. I suggest adding some hobbies that help with these goals even if they aren't your preferred way of spending yo…	/r/askTRP	19/07/15 04:27 PM
3	I want to win her, but I don't want to be heartbroken. Need help for my next move. I really want that girl The problem is with the word that. You want that girl. TRP can help you get better with girls and with life in general. It can't really get you one specific girl. I don't want to be heartbroken You're invested in her. You want her. She has the power to ruin your evening. She has the power to make you happy or sad. That's not a strong position to be in. You need to be in a position where you're doing things for yourself; where you're improving your life and become the man …	/r/askTRP	19/07/15 04:21 PM
2	What are some steps to change your mindset? I have realized that just reading books and articles doesn't help a lot. This is important. You can read for hours but then when you stop, you're still sat staring at your computer screen or at your phone, you've still got the beer-belly and you're still too shy to talk to the girl at the next table. Something I'm slowly coming to realise, which is obvious but still difficult, is that you need to make things happen. 3) Talk to people. Meet a new person a day. Start with taking off your watch and…	/r/askTRP	19/07/15 04:16 PM
3	Short, early 30s man facing 7 years of dating failure. Feeling helpless and hopeless. All I can offer are the first thoughts that occur to me as a dispassionate observer. I'm no expert. First, I think you've missed out some relevant pieces of information: What is it you want? You mention getting two LTRs out of OKCupid, but are LTRs your goal? Or do you really want plates? Or do you just want to be admired without having any particular arrangement in mind? How tall are you? Are we talking dwarfism here? 5ft? 5ft 5? What else do you do? Do you meet girls anywhere else? What are yo…	/r/askTRP	19/07/15 04:01 PM
13	[Mod] May 2015 TRP Address 110,000: Surpassing mensrights - the men who saw the problem, then doubled down on their worldview. You will occasionally hear a woman who has been diagnosed infertile claim she "no longer feels like a woman." The same worry may also be heard at the onset of menopause. That's interesting, thanks for that. Let's compare that to men who say they "no longer feel like a man". What sort of things induce a man to say that? The things that I think of immediately are: Sexual dysfunction Some sort of crippling injury Loss of mental faculties A lack of control over life So for women, it's the ability to…	/r/TheRedPill	02/05/15 12:45 PM
1	Injured and can't go to the gym. Feeling depressed Here's how I see it: Imagine a guy comes to you and says "I need to start doing exercise but I really don't want to", what would you say? (I hope) you'd tell him to sort out his mental discipline and to take himself to the gym. What about if he said "I don't know what to do right now. I'm feeling depressed and I don't want to go to the gym. Part of me just wants to keep eating McDonalds but I know that's not the right thing to do." Sometimes being mentally tough means going to the gym when you r…	/r/askTRP	24/04/15 03:32 PM