notigglybuff Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Reminder: narcissists mimic HVM early on	DISCUSSION	notigglybuff	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/20 10:43 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How do we avoid men that we gotta one day throw in the trash? Is vetting enough? Part of me worries about the breadwinner thing for this reason. Sure, it's here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iulgd0/z/g5mnzxo	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/09/20 06:09 AM
83	How do we avoid men that we gotta one day throw in the trash? Is vetting enough? Part of me worries about the breadwinner thing for this reason. How do you avoid men like that? Simple answer is you don't. I posted about my own ex-husband already, who was the epitome of HVM, amazing in every capacity, and turned into a nightmarish monster over the course of a few months - a year. You need to have exit strategies and never ever give up your financial independence. Always put yourself and if you decide(d) to have any, your kids first, and never be afraid of putting an end to a relationship if things turn sour. I could write a book on this s…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/09/20 11:31 AM
10	Anyone else become a pickmeshia even though their parents taught them better? I grew up with a HVW for a mother and a HVM as a father. As a result I understood love and giving in a relationship. I thought everyone is like that! Took me a lot to realize I'm wasting my love and giving, my energy on some people, and not everyone is going to reciprocate. I also had low self esteem because of bullying. I'm 36, but now I understand what my parents tried to teach me about relationships. The way I see it, I was unlucky - encountered people who didn't appreciate me, who were low v…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/09/20 06:10 AM
6	Shit LVM do that they think they can get away with DRaMa quEeN	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/09/20 07:04 PM
10	FDS is anti polyamory Thank you, I'm trying and fighting, I'm determined to heal my life. It's really hard though and hard to think about all the time I wasted on all this. I can't let this brainwashing and abuse define who I am in the future.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/09/20 09:51 AM
119	FDS is anti polyamory Due to my unresolved traumas I used to be really into poly. Lived in a "poly" relationship for a few years. Got my life ruined so bad I'm still not sure I'm going to be able to live a normal life ever again. I'm 100% celibate right now and will probably stay celibate for the foreseeable future. Trying to rebuild myself and take back all my lost pieces. It literally ruined my life, and I can just hope and pray (not even religious) that this is not how my story ends.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/09/20 06:33 AM
152	I was only trying to help 😭 So if we stop being doormats and establish boundaries, we're part of a hate group. Got it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/08/20 09:37 AM
23	Ladies, leave him well before your relationship turns into this 🙅‍♀️ I used to do this too. I now realize that if they do this, they don't respect you, period. You're supposed to be two equal, mature adults who navigate life together. You're not even supposed to clean up after your children after a certain age, because they should learn to do that themselves, they should have the need to live in a clean, organized environment and not expect mommy to be their unpaid maid.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/08/20 08:09 AM
15	I see no lies Wow, the audacity! My ex-husband was unemployed for years and I supported him. Then he got a job, I was working and studying full time, building my own small business, cleaning the house, cooking, raising our child, taking care of everything, and then he came home and yelled at me if I was sitting down to get up my ass and do something every once in a while. He yelled at me a lot (in front of our small child) that I don't ever do shit and I'm being a drama queen for being depressed. I thank my l…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/20 07:09 AM
41	How does anyone see this and like/share it cause they think it’s cute? Barfffff This just makes me sad and angry. There are enough women stuck in toxic relationships, suffering through every single day, but holding on to the hope that one day he'll see. One day he'll realize what she's doing for him and everything will change and they'll live happily ever after. Seeing this tweet back when I was in my own toxic, abusive relationship would've given me hope and strength to hold on instead of pushing me in the right direction to finally take off my big red nose, wash off the c…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/03/20 07:43 AM
40	Get you a guy whose compassion, care, commitment and sense of responsibility live up to this beautiful example from the animal queendom. 🦅 🦅 I got pregnant, after 30 hours of labour I had to have an emergency C-section, I was abused by the some of the doctors, it was highly traumatic, too fucked up to even talk about it. I got PTSD and depression, he promptly fell in love with a 20 year old and left me and our child. Of course only after being an emotionally abusive ass for years and lamenting how I'm upset "all the time". (I wasn't. I was deeply depressed, but still put on a brave face for my family's sake. Sometimes I tried to talk…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/03/20 05:56 PM