notmy2ndopinion Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	Any other shows like Ted Lasso		notmy2ndopinion	/r/Divorce_Men	06/10/25 01:47 PM

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2	how can i help my dad get out of depression? First off, you sound like a great kid looking out for yourself and your dad. Second, check out what “parentification” means.Your dad is accidentally turning you into a mini adult because you’ve been forced to grow up and take care of yourself, AND take care of him. I’m glad you care, but you’re missing out on your childhood. It sounds like your isolation is in part due to shame you feel and it’s like a spillover of his shame and guilt and low mood. Find some things to do with your dad and don’t …	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/26 04:42 PM
3	3 months in and struggling with my health. I crashed at a friend’s house for three weeks and he encouraged me to time a leave of absence and to go to the ER for my mental health. I ended up in an intensive outpatient program for a month and to be honest, having the structure of a daily program with therapists and a nurse psychiatrist was life changing. I had an accidental withdrawal from a mood stabilizer and I was able to safely come off of my migraine medication and start up antidepressants over the course of 2 months. We just settled …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/03/26 11:05 AM
7	The Quiet Patterns of Split Custody Nobody Tells You About Wow it felt like I was reading a short story about aspects of my life and you were my narrator.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/26 04:31 PM
2	How do you handle the "quiet" in the house? I want to subscribe to more updates from you, these words are why I’m here! Love to hear it working so well and I’ve been doing a lot of these tips myself.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/26 04:18 PM
1	How are you improving your social life post divorce? A local subreddit had a post about making a WhatsApp group for folks interested in group activities together (ages 25-45) with sections for meetups, general chat, hobbies, movies, sports, rants, cooking, etc. The “guys who just want to have lunch” chat has been the best part in finding community; turns out we are all lonely post-breakup and seeking out a new chat group has been a great bonding experience. (The girls have their own private chat too)	/r/Divorce_Men	15/01/26 05:38 AM
6	The treatment for divorce that worked for me Solid advice for a new year. Here’s to 2026!	/r/Divorce_Men	01/01/26 08:12 PM
9	Ashamed of my inability to get over what caused the divorce. I’ve become so cruel. I need to get this off my chest. I’m not a good person anymore. Karma is a bitch. Your feelings will change, it’s okay and normal now to feel petty and spiteful and guilty all at the same time. I wouldn’t worry about this twisting you into someone horrible. Forgive yourself and forgive her and move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/11/25 05:09 PM
2	Should I request Child Support? Take the CS. Do not advise her to hide anything from the court!	/r/Divorce_Men	30/10/25 11:45 PM
21	At marriage counseling today... Gottman’s four horsemen of the marriage apocalypse: contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/10/25 11:44 PM
2	Discovered meditation at 54 after my divorce - sharing what actually worked for guys like us 5-4-3-2-1 is also helpful: * name five things you see * four things you hear * three things you feel (touch) * two things you smell * one thing you taste Keep repeating this until you feel grounded in the present moment. Name your feelings internally, set your intentions based on your values. (This is a summary of my favorite technique I learned in my PHP. You can also use it at night, visualizing your favorite memory/calming place to help you fall asleep.)	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/25 02:14 PM