notonthat Archive

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1	Need help with flirting in a nightclub Funny enough when you’re good at it you’re wildly relaxed socially. You desire, you flirt, but you don’t care about any expectations because you don’t need them. In fact I rarely focus on my own expectations and needs as I know they will be attained regardless and just make sure her and I are having fun together. It’s very zen like	/r/seduction	20/07/22 12:35 PM
3	Need help with flirting in a nightclub It’s like plausible deniability. She avoid social stigma, also avoids any rejection, and if sex happens then “it just happened” like serendipity	/r/seduction	20/07/22 12:28 PM
4	Need help with flirting in a nightclub Correct. Never buy a girl you just met a drink (note: if you’ve been in conversation a while and legitimately enjoy her company buy her a drink if you want free of any expectations). If it’s ever an overt direct issue, never say no, as she may leave — say “maybe” Girl: buy me a drink? You: Maybe. But you just walked into my life and my mother said never to drink with strangers. Let’s talk and get to know one another first. If she presses, tell her go over to that guy, get a drink and come back a…	/r/seduction	20/07/22 12:24 PM
2	Need help with flirting in a nightclub Simplify opening, especially in nightclub — remove the excuse. Instead of “Hi, o saw you and though you are interesting, I’m xyz” go with “You seem interesting, who are you” add a Hey before if you need to get attention. Another: “I like your style, who are you” be a little more assertive. Flirting is like adding a tease onto a statement that also implies a relationship between two people. You can make them as cute or outrageous as you want. Examples: - do you always do that. I’m not going to be…	/r/seduction	20/07/22 12:17 PM
1	Do You Guys Take Shots Before a Date? Thanks mate. 2-3 places, making physical contact effortless and comfortable right away (light hug initial, guiding her by small of back, physically opening your hand to request hers at the table so you can see her rings ask if they have any meaning to her, taking her hand to cross the street, etc) plus just having a low key fun attitude with some good taste she will absolutely love falling into adventures with you As many girls (even my current gf has told me) the bar for most women from the typ…	/r/seduction	20/07/22 11:38 AM
1	After a shit tests you and says “I’m just playing!” does that mean you fail the test? A shit test can be many things but for things like this where she is being rude: treat her like she just said something low-key socially retarded. Like a homeless person coming up to you saying words that make no sense. Impossible to understand Don’t “maintain” your frame. Just find this shit funny. What is there to maintain? Either find her absolutely amusing, or if you want to have fun tease her about ‘this is what it’s like to talk to a girl on her very first night out…usually the women I mee…	/r/seduction	15/07/22 10:35 PM
2	Do You Guys Take Shots Before a Date? Always sober. But I’m always calm and relaxed and love dates and have a good time. Instead of drinking before hand I’d focus on getting your 1st date format down, and understanding how conversations work a little better. My date format: mine is 3 places. Meet at first one. I see them often come up we hug, I often tell them they look wildly stunning, guide to bar, get drink, maybe share each other’s drink on way to table and sit across table from each other at first place. Initially sitting acros…	/r/seduction	15/07/22 10:03 PM
1	Potentially toxic trick that I use to get girls interested A “trick” that isn’t an authentic part of who you are comes from some kind of insecurity. Caring too much is seeking some kind of approval. Better to want and desire, but to not need or care to the point you do “tricks” to build inauthentic attention, or attention seeking behaviors I would never do anything like this because it’s silly, inauthentic and I’d be seeking some approval or response when I could go about it a much more interesting way that leads somewhere that comes from somewhere that…	/r/seduction	15/07/22 09:27 PM
1	How can I meet someone in real life? I totally get you don’t want to seem like a loner. And as a man, it’s hard to Imagine what the view of the world must be like, even everyday situations, from the perspective of a petite female…we likely walk through the world each feeling a very different way. Maybe think about flipping the script in your head, instead of seeing it from a place of weakness (loner), look at going out on your own from a place of strength (independent woman, social, okay in a group or out by herself). If that still…	/r/seduction	16/05/21 10:01 AM
–	How can I meet someone in real life? Easy way: start going out either with friends or on your own. Go to bars with a book and a mental attitude of being approachable. If you find someone you like that converses with you in a way that excites you be open and friendly towards him, it really is up to the guy usually to say something about exchanging numbers or that he enjoyed the conversation or finds you attractive and would like to get to know you more. Other ways are join social activities you enjoy or you want a man to enjoy and m…	/r/seduction	16/05/21 01:18 AM
2	How to last longer in bed? I might be different for a couple reasons but what I typically do is start slow. Almost more sensually. Sometimes I drive hard a couple times and stop, and if I feel close to ejaculating I just breathe deep, stay present and tighten up the muscles around the prostate or bladder. Usually after a couple seconds this leads to a complete relaxation of the process and I keep going. The other thing about me, and I don’t know why it happens is I can stay hard for quite a long while after ejaculating. S…	/r/seduction	03/05/21 08:31 PM