notquiteright519 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I don't understnad any of this thread...what is done?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/22 01:40 PM
1	Why do many women no longer desire sex after marriage? Kids 'coming first' is a broad statement. Like, what do you mean exactly? I mean yes you have sleepless nights helping them with homework emergency over a quiet night you had planned with your partner. Yes, you make sure you have them registered for swimming lessons even though you can think of 96 different things you'd rather do. Yes, they come first. But if you stop planning special nights, times to talk, connect etc because you just don't think of it anymore because of kids...then that's wron…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/22 05:39 PM
1	Not wanting to date a guy that still lives with his mother isn't a hot take See what I mean though? You said doctors...then related it to long hours. Many other jobs work long hours, so why not just say 'long hours' and not specify doctors? My whole point was OP was isolating a specific group not at all (or only loosely) related the actual attributes she's trying to weed out. Aside from what she ATTRIBUTES to men who live at home, there are many 25 year olds at home who still tick all her boxes except having a physical space of their own. Same with doctors...long hours …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/22 04:01 PM
1	Not wanting to date a guy that still lives with his mother isn't a hot take Ok, I'll accept that...then this is a random preference that should hold nothing against the issue of a man living at home, but it's just one woman's preference. I still wouldn't want to be (if I were male) the 'lucky chosen one' of this woman because now I'm not the best person out there for her, just the best one with my own apartment. I still question the logic but whatever, people are out there turning down doctors so.... ;)	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/22 07:07 PM
1	Not wanting to date a guy that still lives with his mother isn't a hot take If you can't see the difference between a 'situation' (living at home) and a 'personal attribute' (hasn't fully matured yet or has an unnatural attachment to their moms) then I think this isn't worth discussing further. Edit - spelling	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/22 06:35 PM
1	Not wanting to date a guy that still lives with his mother isn't a hot take It IS what I was saying. OP is painting herself in to a corner as she is using a wide brush to label men living at home as undatable. There are a wide variety of people living at home at 25. She's painting them all with the same brush. Maybe her more 'accurate' issue is 'I won't date immature men with an unnatural attachment to their moms who haven't fully developed into an adult yet. For example..men living on their own but their apartments are being paid for by mom and dad. Same situation, jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/22 01:49 PM
0	Not wanting to date a guy that still lives with his mother isn't a hot take Yeah, I get it...I do. And that's a good comparison with the lip piercing thing. I woudn't be attracted to someone with a lip piercing. For sure. However let's say I met a person with a lip piercing and we hung out as friends, got to know them, realized they were freaking awesome and we clicked, started to have feelings for each other....I mean I wouldn't say 'sorry, I really don't date people with lip piercings'. Sometimes there's more than the piercing, sometimes there's more to the living at …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/22 12:56 PM
4	Not wanting to date a guy that still lives with his mother isn't a hot take I think having a preference is fine, but also each situation can be very different. Are they 'intending' to move out soon, like they have a plan? Saving for something? Paying student loans down first so they can move out debt-free? Helping parents out for a while? (covid messed up a lot of people's financials). I feel there's a great variety of people who still live with their parents and I think you paint yourself into a corner a bit by laying it down like that. I mean sure, we can all have 'pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/22 01:55 AM
1	Incels waging 'war against women' and pose 'emerging threat to children', study finds \| UK News lol, yes they did! They are somehow now on equal footing with the rest of us because no one can 'see' how demented they are in person. Now they're hidden behind avatars and we can't tell they're missing half their teeth and live in the back shed. I feel there was always hatred in people, but now hatred has a platform and to your point, they now have a global audience instead of just the corner in front of the coffee shop. It's scary.	/r/MensRights	03/10/22 12:48 AM
1	Incels waging 'war against women' and pose 'emerging threat to children', study finds \| UK News I'm sorry, I hadn't heard of this 'killallmen' thing...honestly people as a whole these days care far too much about what is online and maybe don't recongize that when you maybe just meet people and have conversations with them face to face, we'd be a lot happier. But I digress.... I do agree that for some reason, it had become 'acceptable' for all the anti-men sentiment to run rampant in the aftermath of the popular feminism wave. All the 'we don't need a man'! stuff is ridiculous. The whole po…	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 09:06 PM
2	Incels waging 'war against women' and pose 'emerging threat to children', study finds \| UK News Well I think it's all our jobs to keep things under control. I mean, we are a society. If I was on a group full of women who talk about men being useless and we should kick them in the nuts when we see them...you bet I'm calling that out. I've called out friends who talk about the 'man-baby' or 'man-cold', no one needs that talk anymore. It doesn't help anyone. We all have a responsibility, don't we?	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 08:34 PM
1	Incels are objectively right and I can't understand why so many anti-feminist people still fail for their propaganda. 1 - So all the women in my circle are fairly equal in physical attractiveness to their mates...they always say when you look at someone, they just 'look' like they belong together...well, that's pretty much all of us. So not really exceptions. 2 - I'd hate to be dating now, look at all the plastic women with the fake nails, fake hair, fake faces, and making loads of money on OF or tiktok or whatever...I couldn't keep up! So...I think it WOULD be possible these days because there are still women …	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 08:11 PM
1	Incels are objectively right and I can't understand why so many anti-feminist people still fail for their propaganda. Ok, then we're both wrong. I married 'down' in the looks dept (I mean I'm just being honest) because my husband is a truly good, decent, hard working man who makes me laugh - we make each other laugh, and while he wasn't someone I thought I was 'love at first sight' attracted to...his confidence and inner strength just made me go weak in the knees...he grew more attractive the more his personality won me over. And no, neither of us are rich so that wasn't a factor.	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 07:27 PM
1	Why do people tell unattractive guys to be “nice” to compensate for being unattractive? Well I mean everyone should default to being kind to one another, shouldn't we? Do YOU want to hang out with someone who isn't a nice person? I don't really get the argument here. You want to be a jerk and 'get sex anyways?' I can be a total B!!ch to my husband and he come near me with a 10ft pole. If we talk to each other kindly and crack some jokes and hold each other's hand and smile at each other...we're getting busy :)	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 07:15 PM
2	Stop saying "Pseudo-feminism" They should do away with the word 'feminism' now...or leave it for the radicals as you're describing. If we all want equitable treatment for all, just call it equality or equity...but FEMinism is not going to represent all men and women who basically agree, that men and women, on the whole, should be treated equally. I am what was called, back in the 90's 'a feminist' but I am not today's feminist. Too scary :)	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 07:12 PM
-3	Incels waging 'war against women' and pose 'emerging threat to children', study finds \| UK News I do feel badly for socially awkward people...whatever the gender. But like you said, no one is 'entitled' to a girlfriend/boyfriend. And to poster above...yes actually, it's fair to paint a group by the same brush because everyone in that group is either posting, or reading and not calling out, other men who are being rapey and hateful and misguided. So of course when you see red flags like that, you're going to try to spare 'innocent' kids and young men from falling down that rabbit hole of ha…	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 07:10 PM
1	Incels are objectively right and I can't understand why so many anti-feminist people still fail for their propaganda. Men 'select' good looking partners too....not just women. I think men feel rejected more because of their high libido so they're looking for sex more frequently. And...you're not looking for the 'ugly' women any more than women are seeking out ugly men.	/r/MensRights	30/09/22 07:01 PM
1	Are men capable of raising kids by themselves? Wow, you're straight up wrong. 'No one cares for kids as much as their bio parents'? Um....no one 'should' but plenty do. If you don't want to be a parent AT ALL and you put up a kid for adoption and parents who want nothing more than a child will absolutely love and care for that child more than a parent who did not want them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 04:22 PM
1	Which Would You Pick Well because #1 doesn't exist. there are no 'guarantees' and no reason why someone who doesn't love you will automatically 'act' as though they do, for the next 50 years, consistently, and never leave you. It's not real. Almost EVERY scenario is #2, because NO scenario is #1	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 04:19 PM
1	Men have it easier and harder in dating Interesting...the first two paragraphs are awful. 1 - attractive successful man wants to date a lot and 'get away with sleeping around' on partners. 2 - attractive successful woman will attract a lot of the above, and she'll get cheated on...because all the successful men know they can sleep around. There ARE successful attractive people wtih NOT huge egos who are fairly normal. Or, they become that way AFTER playing the above game and getting tired of it because none of that nonsense produces m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 04:17 PM
1	Which Would You Pick I just don't think this is real so can't answer. It would be better to give 'real' scenarios.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 04:09 PM
1	Every pill fails at properly addressing the biggest issue guys face when dating. Anxiety. So question then...what about 'fear of rejection' in other areas of your life? Like your job, your community, your family....do you suffer the same fear of rejection or is it just with women? If you can be confident in your job but not with women, then what is the difference here? It's not a 'your confidence' problem, it's maybe understanding the realm in which you're playing. With your job, maybe you fully understand what's required. Maybe not so much with women? So...learn more? Be open to ask…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 04:08 PM
32	For marriage, it's logical for men to marry the youngest attractive woman they can pull. So compatibility has nothing to do with it? Or are you suggesting 'all things equal...'? Also, women can also be judged on how hot their husbands are, so how does this equation really work out? If you're a woman and you have an older dude, she loses so you can 'win'.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 03:59 PM
2	Women of PPD, what differentiates men who are successful with women? You're calling 'success' dates/flings/hook-ups. That's like 'one time' success and doesn't necessarily mean relationship success. To have lots of dates and hook-ups, you're likely talking looks/charm. If you're talking longer term success, you're talking someone who yes, has charm (you have to be positive, and have people WANT to be around you because you make people around you feel good), but then it's maturity, ability to have conversations, care about the other person, want to learn about the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 03:55 PM
3	What is something you wish your own sex would stop doing? Mega-Thread We can't cry about sexist comments like 'don't be such a girl' then say things like 'you have a man-cold'. Sexist comments are sexist comments. Period. It's not OK for anyone of either gender to make derogatory comments like that. Also...it's not 'ok 'for women to slap guys. Doesn't matter if it doesn't give them a black eye. You can't put your hands on someone. Period.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 03:52 PM
2	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? Great insight. I like that distinguishment.	/r/MensRights	11/09/22 09:18 PM
0	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? Look, I don't know what you want from me, ok? You're a little overboard with this...go write your letters to the colleges of surgeons and physicians or something ok, because your reddit rants aren't helping anyone. And you comparing rape to circumcision is a little out there as well, and you know that. There is no problem with the hymen. If you think things haven't moved fast enough to ban circumcision, then absolutely, fight the fight...but there is still a lot of varying EDUCATED opinions on t…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 05:04 PM
1	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? I don't really know much about it as we never considered it for our son. And maybe I said that too flippantly about who chooses. I just said that my husband, given he has the equipment, I feel should have the last word. I strongly suggested we don't circumcise...we read through all the literature at the time, not about 'how' it's done but about why, benefits/drawbacks and what current thinking is on it. I mean I almost thought I was going to be a neglectful mother by NOT circumcising my son beca…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 04:39 PM
-1	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? They're the ones who protect a woman's "right to choose" to mutilated their children (only boys), for example. I don't understand what this means...are you talking about abortion and circumcision? First, women and men should be able to choose what to do with their bodies. Women aren't holding down baby boys and circumcising them. It's both parents in general. In fact, I believe in most cases, the mother leaves it to the father to decide...it's MALE equipment and men are better able to dictate wh…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 04:22 PM
0	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? I don't know...DID they have a ban on testing on women? Do you know this? I never suggested 'abusing vulnerable populations ends up only affecting women'. Maybe it's different where you are, here in Ontario Canada they only recently changed donation levels. Maybe you're more advanced. I don't think it's helpful if anyone wallows in victimhood. But I think we all need to acknowledge where there are 'wrongs' and work to fix them. Because if we keep focusing on one gender (i.e. the feminist movemen…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 03:00 PM
0	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? I'm pretty realistic. Do I go around expecting the worst from people? No. But I try to keep my eyes open. And my short comment doesn't take everything into account of all the parenting I'll be doing on gender/consent issues :) Guns - no thanks. I'm in Canada, we don't worry much about guns here. Both of my children will have to be very careful when choosing partners for all the various reasons, including what you've mentioned. You can't 100% protect yourself from everything, but you can certainl…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 02:55 PM
0	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? I agree with you about circumcision...just because it's been done for years doesn't mean it's right. This was a long held religious belief about cleanliness, and as we've evolved...science has proven that the cleanliness benefits are minor compared to potential risks and (in Canada at least) it's no longer covered under medical benefits and many doctors won't do it. I totally agree with doing away with it. Our son was not circumcised. There are still many gaps between men's and women's health, m…	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 02:51 PM
2	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? Thank you for seeing what I was trying to say. If all women had kept bad mouthing any progress made, even while still there was so much work to be done, it's not helpful and doesn't help bridge the gender gap of kindness and understanding towards each other.	/r/MensRights	09/09/22 01:48 PM
2	As a young man in his twenties, I've found that no one really cares for you, not even your parents. You and only you are your ultimate caretaker. Relationships can be totally exhausting. There is a reason best friends are usually of the same gender..we relate better to each other, and nothing wrong with that. My best friend and I have already planned that if a time comes in our old age when our partners have left/died we're retiring together golden girls style :)	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 09:13 PM
1	As a young man in his twenties, I've found that no one really cares for you, not even your parents. You and only you are your ultimate caretaker. I find this true of anyone...hometowns have a huge stigma to them especially if you've grown up, have family there, always know someone somewhere. A fresh start is great for anyone in need of breaking out of old habits/versions of themselves held by others.	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 09:10 PM
2	As a young man in his twenties, I've found that no one really cares for you, not even your parents. You and only you are your ultimate caretaker. True, and a lot of people who constantly feel the needs to talk 'the rat race' even among friends, are likely the ones struggling the most. With insecurity, with life, whatever. Those who are doing well all around, don' t need to boast about it.	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 09:09 PM
3	As a young man in his twenties, I've found that no one really cares for you, not even your parents. You and only you are your ultimate caretaker. Good advice, and also that friendships take time and work, so you meet 10 new people and if 1 becomes a friend, that's great.	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 09:08 PM
11	As a young man in his twenties, I've found that no one really cares for you, not even your parents. You and only you are your ultimate caretaker. please go no contact with your horrid mother. YOu don't need to hear one more word from her. She is warped...you still have a chance at a great life.	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 09:03 PM
0	As a young man in his twenties, I've found that no one really cares for you, not even your parents. You and only you are your ultimate caretaker. So sorry you're feeling this way...but please understand this is what you've learned from YOUR life. Your upbringing sounds horrendous and parents are supposed to love and adore their child, not tell them they wish they weren't born. There IS a better life for you. Focus on the things you do love and be open to those around you...you WILL find people like you. Just because your family relations have been awful, doesn't mean no one cares. You will find your people. :)	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 09:02 PM
5	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? I have both a son and daughter in their teens. We talk to them both about consent, assault, etc and that it's real for both of them. Now, some things are addressed differently, like my daughter who is 5'2" might need to be concerned about protecting herself physically, carry a whistle, don't be alone, etc. while for my son, we talk about how to recognize that yes in fact, just because a woman may be smaller doesn't mean she can just do anything she wants. There are boundaries, and if someone sla…	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 04:24 PM
-7	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? That's what women used to think...and things change. We're evolving... we really are. I'm sorry that there is still so much awfulness out there, but it's changing. The fact that these conversations are happening and people are using more gender-inclusive language when it comes to issues traditionally male/female. I have read numerous papers recently about this, that if we're not including both genders in how we discuss trauma, assault, etc we're causing harm. It has to change and it is.	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 04:05 PM
5	Do you think most men are oblivious that they've been Sexual Assualted? Totally agree, and I think this is the evolution of sexual assault awareness. It came out gangbusters and was focused on man-on-woman assault because from a reported standpoint, that was the biggest issue. But as we started looking at it, (i.e. as more eyes were on this as a problem, and we evolved our way of thinking about rape/assault/harassment) it was crystal clear this went both ways. I still believe the slant towards man-on-woman as being the larger issue is also because of the relative si…	/r/MensRights	08/09/22 04:00 PM
2	I’m honestly getting tired of defending myself as a man I agree...and the more they normalize men as victims of crime by women, the more it would help men report and speak out about it. I mean, that's what we strived for in giving women a voice, so we should want the same for men.	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 09:54 PM
1	I’m honestly getting tired of defending myself as a man I really don't like the general 'lumping in' of all people of the same gender. Saying 'men' or 'women' implies 'all men' and 'all women' and it's unfair, inaccurate, and alienating. So I totally agree with you. If everyone could just ...freaking...stop it already...and treat people on a case-by-case basis then we'd get along :) I mean, sometimes when discussing things like 'generally women take on a primary parent role' or 'generally, men are physically stronger than women' is acceptable because…	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 09:53 PM
2	Just imagine if the roles were reversed That's disgusting. Who wants to see that? That's not cool at all. Good and bad in all...no one should get away with that.	/r/MensRights	07/09/22 09:46 PM
-14	"Nurse Who Won't Give Viagra to White Conservative Men Resigns" (June 29, 2022) Well, to be fair, we (largely conservative men in the US) ARE voting to take away a woman's right to have an abortion. So we did say 'no more ability to have a say in what happens to your body'. I read a lot about women saying 'if god's will about making babies is the reason for banning abortions and birth control, then god's will giving a man erectile dysfunction should be the reason to ban viagara'. I mean, I hate to say it but I see their point. And I do stand with the pro-choice group on thi…	/r/MensRights	26/08/22 06:46 AM
2	My (18f) boyfriend (18m) wants to record a video of me consenting before we have sex This is a tough debate...I totally see both sides. A person who is assaulted by a partner or date has a VERY difficult time proving he/she was sexually assaulted as it comes down to consent. And since no one is in the bedroom with them, it's a he/she said- he/she said. So I totallly see where men are like 'do I have to wear body cam to protect myself' and women are like 'do I have to video this so I will have proof if anything goes sideways. Seems a video is literally the only foolproof plan and…	/r/MensRights	26/08/22 06:39 AM