notsopurexo Archive

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2	Girls call me Sir a lot Funny how you mentioned being called sur, but you call women girls. I’m assuming you’re not having sex with children so you are pushing the women you have had relationships with in a submissive role. Perhaps we attract what sow? You may also look old (not saying you do, but I would call older men sur by default) or be in a job of authority.	/r/seduction	10/08/22 12:02 AM
2	I am great at first impressions and first dates. But things always die out from there. A few things: 1-Find happiness in your life alone. This will include some “business” and a few things you don’t compromise for a new partner …. Until your well established. This could mean having a regular gamins Tuesday night or yoga on Wednesdays … a few things like that. 2-Keep texting to a minimum. Texting gives you a fake sense of knowing someone and makes you feel like you’re falling in love with someone when you don’t even know them. 3-Stick to no more then one date a week until exclusive…	/r/seduction	13/06/22 11:39 PM
1	What do I do if I start talking to a girl and realize she isn't attractive? Maybe get glasses? Seriously though think about what you’re trying to archive out of a short convo - it could be just practice. You should also have good conversation exit strategies (eg at a party you might say “well it was lovely to meet you and have a little chat, I might walk the room …”) for your own life. Use these. Although your comment comes off a smidge superficial, and you should be able to tell if a woman is attractive from a few meters away, it is ok to have a chat with someone and r…	/r/seduction	11/05/22 09:27 PM
15	How to create conversations people can respond to? or ask questions back to? Try to ask about something that may interest the speaker. For example, I was in a zoom meeting with a lady who had a print on her wall and asked her about it. Her face immediately relaxed and she chatted about this for 5 min. The print was nice. But honestly I wasn’t in love with it. And as she told me about it I asked more open ended questions (the type you simply can’t answer with one word) like “how did you come to have it?” Etc It’s actually, and this is going to sound a little mean, worth p…	/r/seduction	28/03/22 11:01 AM
23	When a woman says she didn't feel a connection or a "spark", is that something that is purely a matter of natural chemistry, or is it a sign that there wasn't enough escalation. Also I never say “let’s be friends” to someone I don’t actually want to keep in touch with. I say “not spark, all the best” (nicely). But I can’t speak for other women.	/r/seduction	05/07/21 06:12 AM
55	When a woman says she didn't feel a connection or a "spark", is that something that is purely a matter of natural chemistry, or is it a sign that there wasn't enough escalation. In my case, I’ve used this line in the following circumstances: 1-As per above, I’m not attracted to the guy. As women tend to fall in love with the person, rather then look, if you become a good friend (I’m not saying be a doormat) you could go on to dating from there. This has happened to me a number of times. A good guide as to whether there is potential is whether she is your equal in the friendship after making this decision (ie reaches out to catch up, keeps up momentum of texts, etc). Hap…	/r/seduction	05/07/21 06:10 AM
2	is it too late for me ? Ohhhh how sweet! Good luck, I believe in you!!!	/r/seduction	02/07/21 09:49 PM
2	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? For “later” Love it! Who said planned sex has to be bad 😂🙌	/r/seduction	02/07/21 09:01 PM
0	is it too late for me ? r/namechecksout r/Sexism	/r/seduction	02/07/21 07:48 AM
1	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? Literally ROFL How have you figured out how we thing? What makes you special? Hahaha	/r/seduction	02/07/21 04:59 AM
1	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? Yah I mean of course be a gentlemen’s and bring rubbers. I like (well I used “like” loosely here) skyn	/r/seduction	02/07/21 04:58 AM
1	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? Ahh yes you Sir are a MF genius! Please it would be so romantic (from a girl's perspective). You finish up and say "hold on a minute" grab a box of donuts/pizza(I like it cold)/whatever and bring it to bed....oh I would marry (or potentially stalk? hehehehe) a man who would do this for me!	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:48 AM
2	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? Yah like why don't people talk? I'm not judging, I ask myself stuff like this every day facepalm but yah...just lets talk to each other.	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:42 AM
2	is it too late for me ? its the only way to get better and rebuild confidence to start dating 1ReplyGive AwardShareReportSave So a bit of personal story, maybe this will help: I wrapped up a relationship (during which I gained a lot of weight) three years ago. I've just lost 11 kilos now, took me five weeks. Honestly like not even that hard looking back. I look amazing, if I may say so myself! hahahaha AMYWAY, my one regret is I didn't assess what I needed and work on myself first. My train of thought was "He's been a …	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:41 AM
7	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? Bloating sucks tbh, worst part of being offered food (which I love) B4 action! Such a dilemma! Or maybe I'm just abnormally gassy? Who knows....	/r/seduction	02/07/21 03:36 AM
2	is it too late for me ? Women are going to weigh two things first off the bat: attraction (both visually, and based on visceral things like voice, energy level, and communication skills) and your genuine intelligence relevant to hers. Be polite, be kind, and be authentic to the best of your abilities, and that’s half the battle! I would second this. I do feel (for me anyway) I find it easier to focus on one thing at the time and often feel it easier to work on myself first (sort out the addiction and your diet and al…	/r/seduction	02/07/21 02:40 AM
19	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? You could also bring a couple of pastries - ie two donuts or something. Will set you back $3 and you / she won't get bloated before doing the deed.	/r/seduction	02/07/21 02:18 AM
67	Had sex with this girl before. Now going to her place to ‘watch a movie’ at 9PM. Do I go empty handed? Can you just ask her? I mean if I'm headed to a friend's house I'll usually say "Do you need me to bring anything" or "Have you eaten?" I know you mentioned you don't drink - you could bring kombucha, herbal tea, coke, what ever you're (and she is likely to be) into.	/r/seduction	02/07/21 02:16 AM
1	“You fit in on my days off” Hahahaha thanks for your response! Depends if he wants to be healthy and develop as a human OR a super alpha who SMASHES women 💁🏻‍♀️ @ethanashtonn, the choice is yours!	/r/seduction	30/06/21 11:25 PM
4	“You fit in on my days off” Could we look at this another way and perhaps say she is dedicating time to him when she feels she can give 100%? She may be ok catching up on work nights if he’s comfortable with the fact that she’ll be cooking / food prepping / etc or maybe they could go to the gym together. She may also think perhaps he’s not open to this. Maybe she’s just not ready. If her time commitment or schedule is not enough, OP should have an open and honest conversation about his feelings and ask for more. Relationsh…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 11:14 PM
1	To be interresting you have to be interrested : don't over do it This is great advice!	/r/seduction	30/06/21 11:09 PM
2	How long is too long? As a girl, I don’t see this as an issue. My only recommendation is ensure you build enough before you tell her, ie not in your first convo. A couple of days ago I spoke to a guy who told me he hadn’t dated since his divorce 12 years ago. I didn’t dig but he seemed committed to share that meant no sex. It was our second conversation. This was just too early and overwhelming and this, and the fact that he overshared on a number of other topics and came off as very needy started to turn into an amb…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 11:08 PM
1	So I went on 5 dates today Yah it’s disgusting 🤮 Also how does he remember all their info 🤯	/r/seduction	30/06/21 11:00 PM
3	Tinder vs bumble vs hinge for casual relationships? I would actually say any of the above, just be clear about your intentions. For hinge / tinder, you can include it in your profile or ensure you discuss it in the first few comments. For bumble it needs to be in your profile because girls are the ones deciding. Transparency will mean you only match people that are looking for the same. Note: Your match % will go down significantly but don’t see that was a personal thing (as hard as that is). In the same way that if you read a woman’s profile tha…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:56 PM
2	Girl is coming to my place tomorrow. Keep photo up or take it down? I think you should post a photo of one of the pics. Tbh it’s hard to say without seeing them. Can you dump a photo online?	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:51 PM
2	Girl is coming to my place tomorrow. Keep photo up or take it down? Or better (worst?), taken through a window and blinds?	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:51 PM
4	Girl is coming to my place tomorrow. Keep photo up or take it down? I second this. Also don’t inherently change yourself as you meet someone - they need to get to know the real you (this is a mistake I’ve made times and times again!) Obviously compromise is required long term but if she has a problem with the pics she can either: -Discuss with you -Opt out She might actually love the pics. Dating is getting to know each other. This is the whole point.	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:50 PM
2	Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friend It’s also ok to touch very lightly - actually I prefer it. Touch like you didn’t mean to but there’s a lot of traffic and are being protective and putting your hand up was almost a reflex! It’s very sweet from a girls point of view! 😊	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:47 PM
3	Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friend You could also practice platonically with friends who are girls. Because it’s not at all sexual. But it starts building tension - it’s hard that effect on me many times anyway. Due to all that stuff I listed in my previous post. If you do it with a friend, it will come off as more protective then anything. Remembering that women can easily be friends with guys, they likely will not see into it. It’s the no fail approach.	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:39 PM
6	Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friend The space between the girl’s hands in this pic: https://www.fitness19.com/the-hip-dip/ Really important: Not touching bum. Not touching bra strap. Don’t get close to either. It creates tension and shows that you have respect (ie not grabbing bums in public/too early in dating/ etc)	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:37 PM
5	Subtle, light, playful touch is crucial in building attraction and reinforcing the idea that you are more than a platonic friend Hand in the middle of the back, horizontally, is a huge one for me, right in the dip. Great one to use as you stand before crossing the street / crossing a door (and letter your partner walk first). It’s also great for various reasons: -As it’s behind the person, it’s unlikely to make them uncomfortable. -You can put your whole hand (lightly) -For me, it feels protective which I love -If someone I only saw as a friend did it, I wouldn’t be repulsed or in appropriate. -It’s not “sexual”, eye you’…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 10:29 PM