nrehedon078 Archive

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3	$400 an hour There's no end to red flags. Experience can turn almost anything into red flags. Willingness to do therapy together to learn and improve: green flag. Willingness to sit at the table and agree on a prenuptial that protects each of you: green flag. As an aside, accepting loss is hard. Jobs, patents, etc... they change us. Life happens. If a would-be spouse cannot be available/ present for her loss or yours, that's big red future monkey brancher. Might be the one red flag I see now: how loss is han…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/08/24 01:47 PM
0	There was a term about a study or theory that women have all the sexual power what is that term or study named. Sounds like Camile Paglia's writing. Otherwise not sure. She's a good read: a feminist who's honest.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/12/23 02:36 PM
1	Schedule Mediation isn't "figure out how to make her happy." Simply counter with what you want - she's got no income, no time commitments that help the children - make it what you want, she can work around that. After that counter maybe middle ground gets found. Can't say how a court will act, but it's going to cost a great deal more to find out.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/12/23 05:25 PM
1	Realizing some thing about my mother in my late 40s. Narcissistic defense is real - not to excuse it - but damaged people cling to narcissists because they can like a pair of pieces of a shit puzzle. BPDs love Narcs, for example. Not to diagnose or suggest that's what it is, but that's common enough. Healthy people don't stay with unhealthy people, that's the nutshell.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/09/23 10:02 PM
13	Anyone else have a sixth sense about their ex's affair? Mine admitted she had a crush - a week later while shopping I saw and knew right away, a guy working at this spot - it just clicked. I knew it was more than a crush instantly, knew there was a lot more and with whom. I thought I was crazy at first, but I casually said "so that guy at ....." and she blushed before getting angry. Yeah. You can just know.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/23 08:47 PM
2	She wants to get a mediator. Settle this without getting messy with lawyers. In CT legally separated is the exact same thing as divorce. You'll go through the same process, only not be able to remarry. That's the difference. Your advice is otherwise very good - unfortunately it's not like that in CT. If you file and don't have the plans, they may make them for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/23 05:38 PM
1	What happened to r/Divorce? Mods throwing tantrums over API. check back weds.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/23 05:56 PM
4	Advice so the soon to be ex wife birthday is Saturday. I keep on going back and forth of getting her something or not getting her something. What do you guys think? Personally, I don't think so. I think it's about seeing a good example.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/23 06:16 PM
8	Advice so the soon to be ex wife birthday is Saturday. I keep on going back and forth of getting her something or not getting her something. What do you guys think? Yeah- show the kids the best you are, not the bitter, not the resentful, or any number of reasonable ways to feel. Show them you do what's decent. She might not be your future as some say, but if you're going to keep being a father show them you respect their mother. You don't need to like her. But show the respect. It's about them, not you, on this one.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/23 04:37 PM
7	Advice so the soon to be ex wife birthday is Saturday. I keep on going back and forth of getting her something or not getting her something. What do you guys think? If you have kids, send flowers- not red. Show them kindness counts. If you don't have kids, why?	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/23 04:17 PM
2	Wife doesn’t want to be married anymore. She suggested we move into a multi family unit after I said I’d move out in a few months. You'd need ironclad boundaries - and contractual backing off them - or it is guaranteed pain rather than just highly probable. I'm looking at the same thing, but my STBX and I are mutually finished with marriage. Can it work? ... I'd say it's less likely than an average marriage.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/23 06:45 PM
6	New girl wants me to meet her in Las Vegas This is underrated advice. Most important thing you can do for yourself, that anyone can.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/23 02:17 PM
4	Getting married This is really the best answer. Have a plan and a pathway for dealing with disputes. Realize you can't predict how either of you will grow or change. Get a lawyer to codify all that you can. Read what McWiffersonMcgee said again. I won't say don't do it, but: Don't do it without a plan. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst: statistics say it will happen.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/22 02:52 AM
4	Is this a reason to get divorced? This is the correct answer. Absolutely. OP: Get the finances protected before offering therapy. There's always a small chance you can help, but not if you're enabling her still. Good luck.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/10/21 04:45 AM