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| 2 | Women are hypocritical about sex work.Men should never disclose or tell the truth about seeing sex workers while single. It's none of her business. The past is the past right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/26 01:23 AM |
| 4 | Is a man being nerdy a turn off?You should go read the advice on the dating apps subreddits. Any time video games is mentioned on a dating profile, it's down voted. Apparently, at best video games are solo hobby with no time for the partner and at worst it means you are a the worst lazy troll person. Some people see video games players as a dog whistle for whatever ism. You are not going to get the correct answer here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/26 12:47 AM |
| 5 | Do you think women are partnering with men less because they are being influenced/brainwashed my feminism now. Or do you think the reason women overwhelmingly partnered with men in the past was because they were influenced/brainwashed by traditional culture?I don't solely think it's feminism to blame. I think it's the materialistic brain rot of social media and dating apps. Am I supposed to pretend that Female dating strategy hasn't grown in popularity over the last 5 years? How about the insane defense of awdtsg websites/apps? People act like the Internet Brain rot only effects young men. I leaned about the 666 rule from the women at my old office job. The social media noise effects everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/26 08:05 PM |
| 5 | The proxy for wealth.I leaned about the 666 rule from a group women at my old office job. It was their way of filtering out men. Because " men ain't shit nowadays" direct quote. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/26 03:42 PM |
| 49 | Approaching women at bars/clubs a waste of timeIf you are not top of physical attractive your best bet is to develop a life that lets you met and interacting with other potential partners. Everything else relies too much on luck to effectively work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/05/26 08:15 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Women should not pay for their own flight to see a guy.Is this lady a sex worker or something? Why would she have sex with someone she doesn't want to? This debate post sounds like you're advocating for this woman to be a prostitute or a sugar baby. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 01:02 AM |
| 5 | People shouldn't shame men for paying female hookers for sex.What's are the lines we hear from women all the time? " the past doesn't matter" or " don't hold women response for the past" " don't compete with a woman's past". If all that's true, then some guy paying of legal sex worker shouldn't be a problem at all then. He should be able to date if or when he gets the opportunity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/26 06:26 AM |
| 8 | Men want to compete more than date.A lot of your posts seem to follow a pattern. First the descriptive “that’s just reality.” Then the defensive “women shouldn’t be blamed.” Those two together create the impression that you’re both explaining the system and protecting it.. Even if you see yourself as only doing the first. Your framing is basically market realism. Dating works like a market. The more interested side invests more effort. That’s not unfair it’s just supply and demand. Many men (including me) see it more as reciproca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 04:01 PM |
| 5 | Men want to compete more than date.Didn't you make a post a while back about men have to compete to date? That if you don't compete,then don't get mad at women if they don't want those men. Not wanting to compete is unattractive, right? Natural selection at work. Isn't that what you said? Now it's men just like to compete for the sake of competition? Which one is it? is it both? Or is whatever position that benefits you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 03:16 PM |
| 0 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?Now I'm leaning towards you are looking for reinforcement. You narrowed the definition of repeating just now. "Topic wording is different therefore not repetition". The point was about repeated core themes not identical titles. “Thank you for demonstration” That’s just debate sarcasm. It doesn’t actually address the substance. “Anyway, you failed to answer my question.”Return to the original framing. Whoever controls the frame “wins", right? Trying to force the discussion back into the box you h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 05:33 PM |
| 3 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?I mean the wording of the posts changes, but the core themes or ideas are pretty similar and repeated several times. “Why blame women for liking attractive men?” “Men’s narratives about women are logically inconsistent” “Men misrepresent women’s motivations” "Men don’t hold other men accountable” “Why shouldn’t men listen to women” The specific questions change but the core themes keep circling around the same ideas. Mainly defending women’s autonomy in attraction and critiquing contradictions i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:37 PM |
| 3 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?Maybe you shouldn't constantly repeat topics because you don't like the answers people provide. Are you learning anything from these debate posts or just looking for confirmation bias? There are other subreddits if you want to keep recycling the same topic or ideas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 04:08 PM |
| 1 | If men shouldn't listen to women, then why women should listen to men?"while many men want to know how to even get a chance, and women supposedly don't know that" Partially true. Women often state what makes them stay or feel good while in a relationship not what gets men pass the first filters or the opportunity to compete. "why men should listen only to men" I don't fully agree with this. The "only" is the part I have disagreement with. I think men's advice about getting past the initial thresholds or filters is more valuable. But once past those filters then wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 03:54 PM |
| – | “Women date ugly guys all the time” is just not trueIt's too old to be accurate anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 01:39 AM |
| – | “Women date ugly guys all the time” is just not trueThe OkCupid study where the "80/20" dating rule came from is 14 years old now. At least quote a newer study with updated information on dating apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/26 01:04 AM |
| – | “Women date ugly guys all the time” is just not trueFor "the bar is in hell" comment. Always remember it means for men that make it pass the first threshold, which is physical attractiveness. Doesn't mean "Chad". Just their version of physical attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Men need to have higher standards.Dating isn't fair. If you are not physical attractive standout then you are going to have to accept some unbalanced Dynamics in the beginning of dating. Paying for dates and planning stuff like that. But at some point the dynamic should slowly shift to a flow of back and forward. Not making the case to 50/50. A lot of men do get stuck in the "always paying" lane. A relationship of utility. Men do need to learn to filter for themselves at some point and not be filter. Learn to walk away when you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/26 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Most women screen for vanity metrics, not true compatibilityMen with bad personalities are going to struggle with short term and long term relationships. Physically attractive men with only be able to have short term relationships. Also I'm not going to defend men with bad personalities. Dating is not fair. Men with lower physical attractiveness will need to develop other avenues of success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/26 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Most women screen for vanity metrics, not true compatibilityFrom the male perspective, it can look like very attractive men sometimes get lower barriers to entry. Faster sex, less effort required, fewer standards enforced while average men are asked to demonstrate stability, patience, emotional maturity, planning. When those standards are framed as universal moral requirements, but appear flexible depending on attraction level it can trigger resentment and anger. That doesn’t make women evil. Strong attraction lowers friction. That’s human. But when men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/26 02:23 AM |
| 1 | If hypergamy is real why do you think that listening to men is useful?The “don’t listen to women, listen to men” advice isn’t meant to mean “listen to random unsuccessful guys.” The logic is “listen to people who get consistent results.” That can apply to men or women. The reason men say not to rely solely on women’s advice is because women often describe what makes them stay or feel good in a relationship not necessarily what gets a man through the initial filter, physical attraction or looks, Those are different stages. If hypergamy were strictly true in the ext… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/26 06:52 PM |
| 3 | If attractive men use women as disposable with all that entails simply because they have options, then logically any man who will have options will behave like that, and others will just quietly want to, what makes a man a desirable to have in woman's life?I never argued that dating should be “fair” or that looks shouldn’t matter. Physical attraction operates as the initial threshold. Once someone clears that exposure creates opportunity, social skill determines conversion, and character determines retention and reciprocity. Effort matters but only after baseline attraction is met. What I was describing is how some men experience differences in standards depending on attraction level. When men observe that looks heavily affect early filtering and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/26 10:01 AM |
| 2 | If attractive men use women as disposable with all that entails simply because they have options, then logically any man who will have options will behave like that, and others will just quietly want to, what makes a man a desirable to have in woman's life?"Why blame women for being attracted to attractive men?” You’ve asked this several times in the post. I’ll give you my best shot at answering it fairly and honestly from a male point of view. I don't think most men aren’t angry that women are attracted to attractive men. Men are attracted to attractive women too.Where the friction usually comes from is perceived inconsistency. From a male perspective, it can look like very attractive men sometimes get lower barriers to entry. Faster sex, less ef… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/26 03:19 AM |
| 31 | A lot of guys here endlessly whine about dating, but only give the most lukewarm effort into actually doing itYour stack idea is incomplete. Looks isn’t just a lever you keep pulling. It’s often a threshold. Especially on apps. Below a certain baseline more exposure just means more silent rejections. Social skill can’t even come into play if you’re not getting initial traction. Stacking looks to exposure to skill helps. But it’s uncertainty, not guaranteed. There are real caps and environment effects. An average guy can be above threshold in one social scene and completely filtered in another. Improveme… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 02:28 AM |
| 6 | How should women “take accountability”?I think this debate gets derailed because “accountability” gets interpreted in the most extreme way possible. When red pill guys say “women should take accountability,” what they usually means is If you consistently pick a certain type of guy own that pattern.If you reject certain men own that preference.If your standards filter out 80% of men accept that tradeoff. That’s it. It doesn’t mean sleep with men you don’t want. It doesn’t mean accept abuse. It doesn’t mean lose rights. It means if I c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 08:22 PM |
| – | Men have strong "men are wonderful" bias which makes it impossible to talk about any behavior any men display.Its not unreasonable or unfair to say that some men get defensive when male behavior is criticized. That absolutely happens. But I don’t think that automatically proves a “men are wonderful” bias. When topics are framed broadly or with moral language like “men are not responsible” or “men are illogical”. People are going to feel personally attacked even if you say “not all men.” That doesn’t mean they think men are perfect. It can just mean they disagree with the framing or feel the critique ove… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Some men think that deconstruction of gender norms means that they should be attractive no matter what.I didn't shifted the topic. From the start I was questioning whether what you’re calling “men doing nothing” is actually men pushing back on a system where early effort is still heavily one sided. You say men don’t have to follow traditional rituals, but in the same breath you argue that if they want results, they logically should because supply/demand and attraction dynamics still reward that behavior. That’s basically saying the rituals are optional in theory but required in practice. I agree … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/26 03:44 AM |
| 6 | CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average MenFor average men who are not physical attractive standouts, dynamic environments often decrease the disadvantages from apps or nightclubs. Increasing your social presence in environments where women can see you over time is what works. "Just join hobbies" is bad or incomplete advice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 08:11 PM |
| 4 | Some men think that deconstruction of gender norms means that they should be attractive no matter what.I want to make sure I’m understanding your position correctly, because the framing shifted a bit. Earlier the argument sounded moral, that men who question initiation or effort are entitled, lazy, whining. Now it sounds more structural, that supply/demand and responsive desire simply make initiation strategically necessary for men, whether it’s fair or not. If the core point is just “this is how the incentives work adapt or lose visibility,” then that’s a math argument and I can respect that. Bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Some men think that deconstruction of gender norms means that they should be attractive no matter what.I think the friction isn’t that men want to “do nothing.” It’s that deconstructing gender norms hasn’t been even. Traditional male obligations like provider, initiator, payer are optional now. That’s fine. But traditional male attractiveness expectations are still very much active. So when men question effort expectations, they’re not saying “I should be attractive without trying.” They’re questioning why certain norms were dismantled while others stayed intact. If someone prefers traditional co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 06:18 PM |
| 0 | What are the problems with dating apps?I’m not saying you’re asking for “high quality matches” in some unrealistic or negative way. I’m saying the combo of filters + how Hinge surfaces profiles creates a really small, chaotic pool where ghosting is just more likely.Each stack cuts the pool down. So even if each filter is reasonable on its own, together they make consistency rarer. That’s the compound effect I was getting at. You’ve mentioned wanting younger, less experienced, shy student type guys. Suggested they might be more willin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 10:11 PM |
| 1 | What are the problems with dating apps?You’ve narrowed your pool a lot at the same time you’re asking apps to give you high-quality consistent matches. ENM + narrow age range + short distance + skinny + discreet or no face pics + FWB expectations = a really small slice of men. That doesn’t mean you should change what you want, but it does mean ghosting and flakiness are going to be way more common just because the overlap is small. A reframe of thinking as to why this could be happening. A match doesn’t mean much on apps. It’s litera… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 07:20 PM |
| 1 | What are the problems with dating apps?I think it's because you're matching with men who have high option volume. These men have options. Matches have less value. I bet these men are juggling multiple matches. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 03:32 PM |
| 1 | What are the problems with dating apps?It might help but I'm not 100% convinced. I think a quick video chat before any date would be more helpful. Or even video chat to plan the date would be better. That way they know it's harder to fake and its zero effort or zero commitment just to take a video chat real quick. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 08:24 AM |
| 1 | What are the problems with dating apps?Those are the easy ones to spot. The good scammers are now using a multi-layer approach to dating apps now. Using people search engines to steal pics. The people search engines helps them ID people that are hard to find. Then they use a simple bot of low level social engineering. If the person asks "trick" questions then the bot with switch to an AI model to make it more believable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 08:16 AM |
| 1 | What are the problems with dating apps?"Not serious" means men view the person with the profile as not serious with intent. Even if that intent is hook-ups or FWB. The person with the profile is just killing time or bored. Which does happen quite a bit. Some people even make anonymous profiles to view what their options are even while dating/relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 08:09 AM |
| 21 | What are the problems with dating apps?The app definitely pushes profiles that get a lot of engagement. That usually means conventionally attractive/muscular guys get shown more. Those guys also tend to have more options so they ghost more. It’s not that only muscular guys are on there just it’s that they’re amplified. Most guys on dating apps assume women are talking to multiple matches at once. So they don’t invest too hard early on. That can look like ghosting but sometimes it’s just low attachment. Anonymous profiles and no face … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 04:53 AM |
| – | What makes you not to want to date a woman?Independence isn’t a problem. Neurodivergence isn’t a problem. Lack of dating history isn’t a problem. Those don’t scare me. What would make me hesitate is Low warmth or low enthusiasm, Feeling like I’d have to prove I’m not “one of those guys”, or feeling like romantic connection isn’t actually important to her I will say there is a BMI limit. I used to be extremely overweight. I won't go back. Anyone that isn't interested in a healthy lifestyle, then I'm not interested. I want mutual desire, e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/26 01:10 AM |
| 1 | There is no reason for women to ever believe “men feel love through sex”.I’m trying to understand your framework better. If emotional intimacy can exist fully in friendships, and love is separate from sex, what distinguishes a romantic relationship structurally beyond exclusivity and physical contact? If romance is essentially deep friendship plus exclusivity, what makes romantic love meaningfully different from having one prioritized best friend? And if loneliness can be solved through friendships, what role does romantic desire uniquely serve? I’m not arguing, I’m … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/26 12:51 AM |
| 1 | There is no reason for women to ever believe “men feel love through sex”.Is in your world view or model then does Desire = emotional investment + consistency and Sex = optional, separate from love? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 11:04 PM |
| 0 | There is no reason for women to ever believe “men feel love through sex”.What are "beta male" traits? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Can you explain why you want more dates/vacations?Man, I hate traveling now. Used to love it but now I live a super strict diet and no drinking. Don't see the point in travel if I don't eat or drink like normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/26 05:59 PM |
| 15 | Men, why are you surprised that attractive women are attracted to attractive men af/bb? And should women feel the same?The core idea of af/bb is many men experience different treatment depending on how much raw attraction a woman feels for them.That difference feels unfair when Past partners got spontaneous sexual enthusiasm. Then Current partner only gets stability/safety. Men interpret this as “I am the backup plan”. Stability/safety is not consolation prize energy in healthy adult relationships. Long term attraction is built on feeling Stability/safety and desired. The problem is usually not feeling desired b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/26 01:33 AM |
| 11 | Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you?When some men say “dancing monkey,” they’re not saying they hate women. They’re describing the feeling of front loading effort without knowing if interest is mutual. The issue is the phrasing makes it sound like basic dating is degrading which understandably rubs women the wrong way. A better presentation for the argument is "early dating can feel like a unbalanced dynamic, and men sometimes struggle with not knowing when effort is being reciprocated." That doesn’t mean women are wrong to filter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 05:19 PM |
| 16 | Men are spinning narrative about them being desperate but they are desperate for top percent of womenYour framing guarantees gender war replies. Yeah, some men say they’re “desperate” but still have standards. That’s not hypocrisy though. It just means they’re not attractive to the women they want. That’s a normal human experience. Women complain about “where are all the good men” while filtering out a ton of men too. Same dynamic. The real issue isn’t standards. Everyone has them. The issue is when either side pretends they don’t, or acts like the other side’s standards are immoral while their… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/26 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Has modern male self-improvement become a socially acceptable form of insecurity?Online dating made the competition obvious. When you can literally see the imbalance, self improvement isn’t insecurity, it’s adaptation. Improving because you want to grow is solid. Improving because you’re terrified of rejection is probably not healthy in the long run. Red Pill is right that the market can be ruthless. It’s wrong that self improvement guarantees anything. It just lets you compete. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/26 10:48 PM |
| 0 | What do you actually want women to do?Most men aren’t mad that women have standards. Sleep early, wait, don’t wait, date hot guys, or don’t date hot guys. The frustration usually comes from mixed signals, unclear intent, and unbalanced expectations. Not from women’s choices themselves. Women don’t need to date men they’re not attracted to or move at any specific pace. But if attraction is tentative or conditional be honest about that instead of keeping someone in the dark while they’re already invested. Women don’t need to only date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/26 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Men know that they have to compete but when it's time to act they give up to their egoLet me check if that I’m understanding your position correctly. In uneven dating environments like apps or strangers men should expect to compete first. Initiate, plan, pay, and generally demonstrate value before interest is clearly shown. Reciprocity comes later once attraction is secured. If a man doesn’t want to do that, opting out is fine but he shouldn’t expect results. If that’s correct, then my position is simply different. But not oppositional. I’m fine with putting in effort to be visib… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/26 01:00 AM |
| 2 | How do you treat a girlfriend you deem as only “temporary”?I've never strung along a woman. Especially with the label of girlfriend. But I've hooked up with women, that I had no intention of being serious. But that was mutual. The line for me was never doing anything for her that a boyfriend should do. My example was don't call me if tire pops, your stuck on the side of the road and need help. That's not me. Call AAA. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 02:58 AM |
| – | Saw an instagram reel and it made me sick in my stomach about womenHer behavior is unacceptable, but men also need to stop buying into relationships where their value is purely transactional. Loneliness can make people tolerate dynamics that harm them, and that’s something men should be honest about without blaming women as a group. If you’re dating, learn the difference between control first vs mutual first dynamics. Real relationships are built on reciprocity, not on constantly proving your worth. Care without mutual effort isn’t romantic, it’s unsustainable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 05:12 PM |
| 1 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?In practice, I’m never going to know how she treated her exes unless I interrogate her about them and that would be a weird and unhealthy dynamic. I’m looking at the present. All I can really do is set my own boundaries for what feels like mutual effort and genuine connection now, and decide whether I want to keep investing based on that. Desire and choice can change over time and they don’t always move in lockstep. Some people are fine with that dynamic, others aren’t. That’s not about proof or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 10:06 PM |
| 5 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?I think this is a good place to close this, because at this point the disagreement isn’t about misunderstanding. It’s about fundamentally different assumptions. My position has never been that desire should “appear on its own,” that people shouldn’t invest, or that attraction isn’t co-created. The point has always been how an adult decides whether attraction and effort are becoming mutual, and when it’s reasonable to stop investing if they aren’t. That’s where we diverge. What keeps happening in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/26 02:55 AM |
| 21 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?I think you’re arguing against a version of my comment I didn’t actually make. This wasn’t about demanding reassurance, grading a partner, or sitting back while someone “proves” their worth. It was about how adults interpret behavior to decide whether a relationship feels mutually desired or quietly transactional and whether it makes sense to continue investing if it doesn’t. That’s not insecurity. That’s discernment. Saying “she chose you” isn’t a substitute for desire. People choose partners f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 05:08 PM |
| 47 | What are ways (besides sleeping with him on the first date) that a woman can prove she's as attracted to her current partner as she was to her exes?If a guy feels like she’s less into him than her exes, it’s usually because her behavior doesn’t communicate excitement or investment. Initiates affection and attention.If she texts first sometimes, reaches out, or makes plans. Excited about to see you again.Shows admiration or genuine compliments. Flirts or Playful teasing, lingering eye contact, light touch, and laughter. Expresses curiosity in interest, thoughts, goals, and life.Defends and prioritizes you. Maintains effort.Not just appearanc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/26 02:53 AM |
| – | Women don't owe you explanation of their standards.I’m not arguing that women owe relationships, explanations, or justification for who they’re attracted to. I’m not saying women should compromise desire, lower standards, or accept men they don’t want. Economic pressure has changed dating markets globally, not just in the U.S. That has increased material expectations in dating. That change didn’t come out of nowhere and I don’t blame women for adapting to it. At the same time, men are allowed to talk about how that shift affects their experience… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 05:19 PM |
| 36 | What do you wish women would understand about dating women?I actually learned about the “6-6-6 rule” from women at my first office job. Not the internet or other men. This was late 2019 early 2020. We were at a group lunch, and one of my coworkers , recently divorced, was venting about how “men ain’t shit nowadays.” The other women agreed . One woman mentioned she was following the “6-6-6 rule” for dating. Two others immediately agreed. The rest of us had no idea what that meant. So after explaining the idea, most of them thought it was a great idea and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 04:48 PM |
| 11 | Are dating events worse than appsI've been to a couple of events. Couple hosted near the college I was going to. College age people. Then a hotel conference I was at, just happen to be having a dating events on the same nights. The dating event needed more men so they were handling out free tickets and free drink tickets. It was extremely picky women and or a couple "chad" guys getting all the numbers or interest. I had more fun people watching then the actual dating event. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/26 01:13 AM |
| 1 | If she wants you, the sex doesn't matterSearch for a post on ask women over 30 "I’ll admit that my fiancé is middle of the road " So many women admit that they married horrible toxic men just for sex. That after they had explosive divorce, they had to train their next partner just to be good enough just to be passable. Something that they refused to before there destructive marriage. Men should continue to improve and work on " techniques, endurance training, penis size relevance, toys, supplements, positioning charts". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/26 05:15 AM |
| 8 | For men who say they’re afraid of being used by women, what are the things she’s using men for? What are the signs a woman is using a man? What are the signs she isn’t using a man?I know three men, all long-time friends from elementary schools, who were used for security and stability. They had solid careers, good jobs, and were genuinely committed. Two of them later found out the kids they were raising weren’t biologically theirs. That’s what I think of when someone says “being used by women.” In all their cases, there were signs but they were ignored. One friend was literally told that marrying her was a bad idea but he wouldn’t listen. Some of the biggest red flags wer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/26 07:57 PM |
| 9 | How comfortable would you be if you found out the person you were dating had “lowered their standards” for you or “was giving you a chance”?It's depends on which "standard" was lowered. I went a on first date with a women that complained that I didn't drive a nice enough car for her. This woman didn't have her license, didn't have a job at the time, didn't have a car and lived with her parents at 31. Would her lowering her standards really been a problem? No not really. With that said, I've dated women that I've had to lower certain standards for. I'm not going on a dates with demonic troglodytes. Just people that haven't met that m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/26 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Would you find it weird or embarrassing if your long term girlfriend proposed to you?No, I don't care as long we're on the same page about marriage. It's shouldn't be a surprise that she asked. Like she beat me to it kinda of thing. I don't like surprises. A surprise marriage proposal sounds like the 9th level of hell nightmare fuel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:18 AM |
| 3 | Are men more likely to accept a woman’s more promiscuous past if he’s had less experience?I think older men with more experience will not care at all. I'm older and couldn't careless as long as I'm the only one that gets to sleep with her. For younger men(under 30), I think I will be split. Experienced young men that don't care. Then experience men that do care. From my experience these men are usually religious hypocrites. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 02:12 AM |
| 15 | Are men more likely to accept a woman’s more promiscuous past if he’s had less experience?A lot of less or inexperienced men will have trouble with it. It's would be jealous or insecurities. Jealous that they missed out on same type of experience. Especially if she has done things he wants and he doesn't have the opportunity to do the same. Insecurities like ," why is she dating me" , "it's only a matter of time before she dumps me for someone like ex-partners", "she must have been dumped by someone better than me and is only using me for something" , " I'm going to be bad at sex the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/26 12:31 AM |
| 4 | Sexual history can never be over-written. Her best will always be better than you.I think there is a mix up with past sexual experiences and physical attractiveness. There was a thread titled "For women with sexual experience, it is more probable that their best sex would not be with their partners but with some toxic guy" a while back. In the post are two links to ask women posts. It breaks down to many women admitting that they married horrible toxic men just for sex or extreme physical attraction. The women talked about despising having to communication/teaching with "good… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 04:34 AM |
| 2 | If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean?Nope. But it's a repeated enough to stand out as a source of failed relationships. Again, I'm older, so I've seen and experienced with this source of problem. It's easier to identify repeating patterns and stop them before hand. Setup of success, not failure in long term relationships. Date people that you find physically attractive along with other important attributes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 01:54 AM |
| 2 | If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean?No, I think those men are lying. Even if they don't want to admit it or not it. Just like a lot conservative men like or will only date liberal women. Why? Because dating hardcore conservative women isn't all that great. Just like when men here and other subreddits complain about wanting 50/50 relationships. How can these women do 50/50 relationships without a career to pay of it? I see men talking about not caring but suddenly it's a not a problem if she can help pay for the down payment on a h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 01:19 AM |
| -1 | If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean?Women have a much higher standards for physical attraction when it comes to hook-ups/fwb. Vs long term relationships. Not judging just stating what I read. Direct quote from one of the threads is "Given that FWB is all about sex and not about a connection I would have a much higher physical standard for a FWB. I'm willing to date people I'm not physically attracted to bcuz what's on the inside is more important and I can get over looks," "I can get over looks". No you can't. That's settling. How… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 12:11 AM |
| -1 | If you don’t sleep with a man on the first date, what does that usually mean?After reading a lot of the threads in the ask women no censor subreddit, I think men should have a dates/time limit for sex. Not saying it should be the first date. That seems too fast and reckless. But there should be a cap. If she doesn't want to sleep with you within the cap then your just some guy she's settling for. Miss that dead bedroom nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 09:50 PM |
| – | What tangible benefits do men get by caring about womens rights?Bell hooks defined feminism as ending sexism. Not opposing men, and argued for a feminist masculinity that “loves boys and men” and demands for them every right we want for girls and women. A lot of feminists haven't even read their own academic authors. They just want to be mad and angry. Under the top comments you can see the some of them fighting tooth and nail against a system that is about ending sexism. They just about don't want to admit that feminism has deviated from it's academic writi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 07:43 AM |
| 22 | Men who dont get dates and relationships biggest problem with womenWe’re already seeing the early version of AI/robot dating, and it’s not just men. Women are participating too.So does the same logic apply to them? Are they also fumbling chances or not wanting to dating in their lane? Do we suddenly accept that some people just don’t have viable options in the current dating market? The issue isn’t that some men mess up opportunities. It happens. The issue is that this argument is constantly used to erase the existence of people who don’t get opportunities at a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/25 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Federal Agency Urges White men to file discrimination claims in anti-DEI escalationFrom the same article "White people still hold a disproportionate share of the top, highly paid jobs in the US at S&P 100 companies. But the share of executive, managerial and professional roles held by people of color increased by about 2 percentage points compared with 2020 — more than double the average annual gains at big and mid-sized US companies in previous years." | /r/MensRights | 20/12/25 08:01 AM |
| 18 | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessNo one deserves anything. Isn't that the line from the blue pill? Well it applies here too. "a real man wouldn't be intimidated" Does the blue pill believe in gender shaming into coerced behavior? I thought they were against that? Or is it one of those "rule for thee but not for me" things? No one likes a hypocrite. This lady can do whatever she wants in dating from a single mother. But men can also do whatever they want. Most men aren't going to want to deal with 5 kids. That's a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 03:36 PM |
| – | AI and it's effect on women's expectations with respect to online dating.Ai will be used for maximum engagement for maximum profit. What the results might be for matches or dates so be it. I do think at some point dating apps will offer AI partners to keep even 0 match people paying something. It will use AI images based on profiles and AI messages based on real messages from users. Offering a wide number of personalities and appearances. All within the app while trying to match with someone real. Next level dystopian stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/25 07:43 AM |
| -2 | The man paying for the date is a status symbol to womenWomen on Reddit talk about it's the feeling about a men providing a meal. Which is a gender role tradition. It's fine for the most part as long it's measured. But I would want gender role traditions that I like as well. Give and take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 12:14 AM |
| 16 | Men who don't approach women, why?It's not all men that don't approach women are nervous. It's just now that cold approach only works for the top percent of men. Average and below shouldn't waste their time with cold approach. Warm approach works best for these times of men. I find warm approach works better for me since I would already know the women already. Don't have to guest if we are going to get along together. Lastly, it's 2025 more women need to cold/warm approach more. Time to get with the risk of falling like the rest… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/25 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Why are Men are obligated to pay but women are not obligated todo anything?They act like this is optional in that states is crazy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 06:01 PM |
| 1 | The reason online dating sucks is because men like every women profileNo, You can google it. But I'll help out with the search terms for you. "Popularity Bias in Online Dating Platforms" "Algorithmic Matching of Romantic Partners" "Biased Decision-making on Dating Websites" "User Strategies Dating Apps" "Debiasing Desire intimate platforms online dating" "Does premium subscription pay off? Evidence from online dating platform" I'm not arguing the dating apps should be free. I'm arguing that dating algorithm don't work for a majority of people because of the monopo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 07:28 AM |
| 6 | The reason online dating sucks is because men like every women profileYour anecdotal experience isn't evidence. There are academic papers written about how dating apps use match throttling to encourage users to pay for premium features to boost their engagement. The match group has a monopoly on dating apps. They have no incentive to help people find a partner. There only incentive is to "encourage" users into paying for features. Extract as much money from the user as possible while they engage with the platform. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 06:00 AM |
| 13 | The reason online dating sucks is because men like every women profileDisagree. Majority of dating apps are owned by one company. The match group. It's a Monopoly. They do whatever they want to get maximum engagement. Telling men to be more selective on dating app isn't going to help. Doesn't matter anymore. The feed and algorithm is rigged to the max. Won't change anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/25 12:13 AM |
| 4 | Men in college and early 20s should focus more on getting really good at sex than being a good relationship material to have more dating success and even relationship success a bit.You made that " best sex with toxic guys" a little bit or so right? After reading all the comments in the linked posts. I've adjusted my advice for young men. They should grind for a better life at a younger age. Health, education and savings. But now it includes being good or even great in bed. If that means hook ups with women that are not relationship material then so be it. Get experience and get better. A lot of people put up with toxic abuse for great sex. If a young man can build a good l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 05:33 PM |
| 20 | "They SAY they want XYZ, but are inevitably repulsed when they get it". What is XYZ when it comes to men?Manic dream pixel girl | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/25 12:48 AM |
| 44 | For women with sexual experience, it is more probable that their best sex would not be with their partners but with some toxic guys.God damn that second thread is horrific. So many women straight up admitting that they married horrible toxic men just for sex. That after they explosive divorce they had to train their next partner just to be good enough. That's adbb stuff. If this is the truth it won't be self esteem issues. It will be a another filter especially since so many the women of them refused to help their partners get better at sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/25 12:43 AM |
| 2 | FULLY destigmatising sex work is a net positive for men but bad for certain feminist narrativesI don't get it either why so many women are against sex worker. It's not like you want to sleep with these men anyways, at least someone gets paid for it. Also I also think a lot more women would buy sex if they had a better stable options. The fact is the government and random people shouldn't able be to tell two consenting adults what they can and can't do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 02:39 PM |
| 6 | Being a stepdad is legit good strategy for some guysYeah but you still wouldn't have any idea though right? "Women are viewed with suspicion for dating men with kids." This comes off as a constantly online take. There are single mothers who purposely wait a long time to meet introduce new boyfriends because of the crime and suspicion of other men. I also saw your other comment " single mothers who are willing to make compromises." Some are for sure. But there a lot that aren't. It's almost like the Internet isn't a accurate measure of real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 06:06 AM |
| 30 | Being a stepdad is legit good strategy for some guysHave you dated a single parent? You talk like someone who hasn't actually dated a single parent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/25 05:27 AM |
| 9 | Feminist opposition to legal paternal surrender/paper abortion is clearly not actually about the best interests of the child, since it disappears the moment that a woman is exercising paternal surrender on the man's behalfWomen should have access to pro-choice options. But men should also have some version of this. If it needs to be permanent restraining order and complete legal paternal surrender. Then so be it. Other comments are all ready stating. "When a women has an abortion there is no child that needs resources. But when a man leaves a child, there is" Who's choice was it to have the child knowing full well that the father didn't want to be there? Who had the child knowing they needed help with resources t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 08:57 PM |
| 15 | Why do men need women?I don't need a woman. I want someone to spend my my life with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 10:27 PM |
| 3 | What's the point of sleeping with someone you aren't attracted to?It took years before either even tried to date again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 02:51 AM |
| 4 | What's the point of sleeping with someone you aren't attracted to?Not from religious families in this case. I don't know about the men the wife's dated before dating before my friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/25 02:50 AM |
| 4 | What's the point of sleeping with someone you aren't attracted to?In my friend's case it wasn't religion. It was a lot of family pressure to get married and have kids. Wanted Grand kids. But theses families weren't religious. Also societal pressure, at least with one of the wife's. She felt like getting married was something that adults did. Hitting milestones in life as a mark of success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 08:09 PM |
| 7 | What's the point of sleeping with someone you aren't attracted to?Yeah. Looking back there were odds things. It got really bad when the wife's started cheating. The yelling and the manipulation went to the next level. But the men didn't know till later what was going on. Early on, I would say that the woman never planned any dates or helped pay for anything. It was the expectation that the men did of it. The not planning any dates really stood out. Then that turned into not helping with vacations or trips. Gifts also were weird. Majority of it was definitely o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 08:04 PM |
| 5 | What's the point of sleeping with someone you aren't attracted to?It wasn't me. It was two male friends. So I saw the destruction from the outside. I only know what they told me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 04:59 PM |
| 17 | What's the point of sleeping with someone you aren't attracted to?I know two men that this happened too. Both ended in explosive divorce. I also know the reasons cause I was friends with one of the wife's as well. Pressure and drive to get married. Wasn't having any other luck with other men that treated them the way they wanted to be treated. Made the feel special and worked hard at keeping them happy. The idea was roughly, " I thought after enough time I would find him attractive". It's not like these two men were ugly but not something that the wife's ideal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 03:17 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: why do you no longer court women properly?Women who say "you are lucky to be in my presence" don't deserve courting. Gross. Courting is an old dating function. It's built on old gender traditions. It doesn't work in the modern dating anymore. Stop missing old dating gender traditions norms. You don't get to pick and choose old tradition dating norms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/25 05:25 AM |
| 12 | What is your goal in dating?Someone to spend time with.I don't need some to be my caretaker or house manager.I don't want to be sole provider. Everyone pulls their weight. I don't expect you to be a maid so don't expect me to be an ATM. No kids. Marriage only for the tax break, otherwise sole permanent partner. I don't want to deal with more than one person like that. I've a game backlog and other hobbies too do. Hooks up feel useless and unfulfilling. Being with a partner is better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 07:03 AM |
| 1 | What do men mean when they say women's standards are too highSaying “same socioeconomic level as my family” and “any entry-level job is fine” sounds open to class-mixing, but it isn’t. Socioeconomic status isn’t just a paycheck. It bundles background, education, occupation, and wealth. A cultural/education match and not “any job" match. Again, totally fine to want someone from the same class. Just call it what it is, instead of framing it as open when it’s not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/25 12:17 AM |
| 3 | What do men mean when they say women's standards are too high"same socioeconomic level as my family, have a job (any job at all)" These our contradictory statements. I bet between two equally attractive men. One a doctor and the other a pizza delivery guy. The doctor win every day of the week. Which is fine. Just be honest about it. You're trying to portray yourself as that you are not. Most men are irritated about the dishonesty then the standard itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 05:36 PM |
| 9 | Q4M: when was the last time you were too intimidated by a woman's beauty to approach?I don't do cold approaches anymore. Haven't for a long time. I only approach women I know in some way or another. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/25 07:30 AM |
| 34 | Why are modern women against the idea of submitting to their man, but all for the idea of submitting to their boss?What kind of "submitting" are you doing for your boss? Is it your contract to be submissive? It's never be in in any of my job contracts to be submissive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/25 08:24 PM |
| 31 | Why are men putting less effort in pursuing women than before?The last couple of women I've dated had some one sided expectations. Basically I there to make them happy but with no reciprocation. The relationship was about them and not us. So now I'm much more aware of it. Take my time figuring out if they are someone worth dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Why don’t more men use sex workers if their main goal is simply sex?$20 dinner for two? Where? The cheap menu as certain fast food places. Maybe. Last time I checked, no women is looking forward to the cheap menu at Taco Bell for a dinner date. Simple, It's illegal in most countries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 02:32 PM |
| 17 | CMV: We need better ways to prevent western men from dating/marrying non-western womenWhy care what "men we wouldn't even look at twice" do? This comes off as trying to punish ugly men for changing to a different date market. " You are so ugly and undesirable, we get to control who you're allowed to date". Authoritative control is fine when you get to make the rules, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 11:02 PM |
| 4 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appOpinions are free, accusations aren’t. Once a post attaches my real name to a claim that can wreck my reputation. Defamation laws give me a right to due process. It is exactly the same shield that shut down “rate women” sites in the 2000s. Now it's fueling lawsuits against the Tea app and AWDTSM groups. But I'm not a hypocrite, so I support the use of defamation laws it both case's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 12:56 AM |
| 5 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appThe tea app is a searchable blacklist with zero due process. Public people search sites may list my address, but they don’t label a lie next to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 11:09 PM |
| 13 | More men should be standing up for the free speech of AWDTSG and Tea appLet it go. AWDTSG and Tea app are massive surveillance and doxxing website/apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/25 08:31 PM |
| 13 | The Tea App proved the vast majority of men are bad man, women have no choice but to accept polygamy/settle or stay single.The Tea leaks didn’t prove "most men are trash.” Screens shot showed women leaking men’s nudes and fishing for money. So quit pretending bad behavior is one sided. Women are engaging in the same shitty behavior they condemn men for. People are facing consequences. Multiple lawsuits against AWDTSG groups are already in court. Crowd sourced shame apps aren’t solving safety. They are for spreading leaks, lies, and lawsuits. Stop defending these groups and apps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/25 03:36 PM |
| 30 | We were raised by people who hate usI'm in the title of this video and I don't like it | /r/MensRights | 29/07/25 06:29 AM |
| – | All measures to fight bad men unfortunately end up hurting normal menThe idea that “good and honest men have nothing to fear” is often used to justify surveillance tools allow profiling, civil rights violations and unchecked authority all in the name of “safety.” But these apps and websites are about control not safety. Anonymity combined with crowdsourced judgments with no accountability create an environment straight out of authoritarian logic. Authoritarian regimes claim they only watch the “bad guys.” These apps and websites mirror that logic. Stating only th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 03:29 PM |
| – | What are the real tangible examples of society becoming anti male?Here's a paper called "Women who hate men: a comparative analysis across extremist Reddit communities" https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-024-81567-9 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/25 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Do women look down if you have less wealth ?I mean, I've had fights with the women I've dated because I couldn't afford more vacations, day trips or expensive dinners. Not wealth but a certain lifestyle for sure. Money issues are one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Not all women, not all men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: If you only got 80% of your ideal traits in a mate... You would view that as settling, right?People aren't numbers and real life isn't a fairy tale. I'm not perfect and neither are you. The truth is few people will ever care about and even fewer people will love you. If this person loved me and was 80% of my desired traits. Then that sounds like a awesome life long relationship. Sign me up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/25 06:49 PM |
| 3 | If men weren’t accusing women of being whores for no reason, women would have a better view of paternity tests."And there are women who never know their baby daddy was molesting their kids until years later" If the base of your argument is that, men shouldn't have relationship with women that can't trust then with your own statement cant I also blame the woman for having a relationship with bad men. Right, I can't say choose better to women but it's perfectly fine to say to men. Blaming people for wanting to trust but verify. Doesn't mean they should be blamed for if there partner does turn out to be hor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/25 11:33 PM |
| 3 | If men weren’t accusing women of being whores for no reason, women would have a better view of paternity tests.Ancestry.com support has a page directly related to DNA not matching for family members. Taking years that these families don't know the truth. Often not until someone is dead or dying. Years ago there was a reddit post about support workers talking about it. That is a legit fear. But men could solve this by quietly and discreetly have the DNA tested. No need to ask. Just get it done then decide. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/25 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: do guys want women to be obsessed with them?No, I want a healthy relationship. "Obsessed" is unhealthy fantasy nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/25 03:04 PM |
| 4 | Q4M: By which date can a woman expect a gift from you?If a woman on a first date talked at me like the woman in this video. I would just ghost after the first date. They ain't no way I'm putting up with that noise. That is a crazy level of entitlement. With that said, I've purchased flowers for a second date. But I don't consider it a gift. Just a nice gesture. But for an actual gift, it wouldn't depend on the number of dates. It would depend on relationship level. Dates don't equal relationship stage. I would need a certain level in trust in the r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/25 02:18 AM |
| 9 | Q4M: Why do guys bristle at the notion of a woman deserving princess treatment?In the women I've dated that expected "princess treatment", it was always one direction. It was super entitled behavior. It was always about them. I was supposed to be happy constantly waiting on them. These were always my worst relationships. I've gotten better at spotting women that wanted princess treatment. I avoid them like the plague now. I want a mutual relationship built on work and understanding not whatever princess treatment is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 02:52 PM |
| 79 | In the presidential elections in Poland, just like in the United States, the conservative candidate won due to male voters. It seems like a pattern, and liberal / left political forces need to start doing something about it.I won't ever willing vote for conservative/Republican person. But get why some men don't want to vote for liberals. Here is post from the genz subreddit talking about how drop out rates of males. https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/comments/1l1p6yn/boys_are_now_about_60_of_high_school_dropouts_and/ People are in the comments fighting tooth and nail against the idea that the current system doesn't help young men. The default answer is it's their fault. Pouring gigantic amounts of hate instead of will t… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 03/06/25 06:22 AM |
| – | Men who have given up on dating, why?I'm a caregiver for a couple of disabled family members. It eats up most if not all of my time. I understand that women don't want to have to deal with that. I get it. Second reason, is I'm more or less picky. I don't need to be babysat/mothered and I don't want have to do that for anymore people. I'm burnt out on it. I have a super short fuse for bad or lazy behavior. The last woman I tried to date lied about having children. Told me after several dates. That was a couple of years ago now. I'm … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 11:04 PM |
| 1 | What would you describe as unreasonable female standardsAny standard they hold me to that they can't meet is unreasonable. But I purposely don't try and dated women I find unreasonable. I just move on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 08:11 AM |
| 62 | You want to understand why the left are losing men? Peak Guardian article shows the reason.This is what "feminism is for women by women" means.Feminists can understand the issues face men but given the option will choice themselves even single time. This is part of why they're losing an entire generation of young men. Why be apart of a group that doesn't listen or actively belittles your problems. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 23/05/25 07:27 AM |
| 0 | Women don't mind men being starved for intimacy. Women do mind if men find a fix for it that does not involve them or if they walk away or worse if men decide to deny intimacy to them.I do agree that there is this weird issue with finding alternative routes to sex or around sex. The first one is porn. If you visit certain subreddits like askwomenover30, askwomenuncensored or twoXchrome you will differently find a hatred for porn usage. A lot of the women will state out right that they refuse/reject any men that watches porn. Even non addictive porn usage is considered unacceptable. The specific reasons can vary be in this groups. The second one is passport bros. The passport … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/25 06:29 AM |
| – | Current dating landscape sucks for young women"well educated and making good money" why would these men want to date a high school educated bartender? Seems like option 2 is her level, she just doesn't want to be there. She should go to college to leave option 2. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/25 02:33 PM |
| 66 | Invalidating men’s issues is counterproductive to feminism.Yeah, that's the point. Do you remember this a couple of years ago? https://www.reddit.com/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates/comments/mcsu95/highschool_boys_made_to_stand_and_apologise_for/ Feminists hide behind their self ownership of equality to evade the truth. "Feminism is for everyone". "If you believe in equal rights, then you are feminist". But then go do this shit. Feminism is for women by women. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 15/05/25 04:25 AM |
| 3 | Why do PPD men tell women to ignore red flags then turn around and complain that we date criminals and bad people?I use "pay your way" on the first couple of dates as a filter. I'm not interested in princess/queen types. Covering your cost shows intent. I'm only helpful and generous to people I know.I don't drink at all. So I'm not going to pay for drinks unless I'm in a committed relationship. I'm also not interested in children so that point is irrelevant to me. "There are always men who are willing to pay". Yup, there sure will be. I'm sure you will find someone to do so. Doesn't mean I'm going to change… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 06:39 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: What are some examples of "womanese"?Hey I'm going to stop at (inset food place), do you want anything? "I don't want anything" then proceeds to eat nearly all my fries and three bites of my sandwich. I've learned to get grap something anyways. 90% of the time it gets eaten. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Women's advice to men here is to keep them guessing, single, guilt tripped until they're so old they'll get creepshamed anyway" People putting single young men on treadmills of endless self-improvement often in departments that will take years to accomplish" This the advice I got almost 20 something years ago. Part of it worked. I did get more interactions with women. It did set me on the path of being of higher standards. I put all this work in, I was going to get my efforts worth. Now I expect equal effort in return. It definitely has limited some of my dating options. I think if people had just been honest about cer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/25 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you marry outside of "The West"?Most fault only divorce or no divorce counties are very religious. I'm not religious so I very much doubt a woman from one of countries would want to marry me. Plus the cultural differences from these countries would be extremely hard to bridge. So it be a no just on the religious and cultural differences from these countries. I've dated outside the US and dated women who were in the US on a Visa/visiting. Even in "West" counties the cultural differences can be very large. I would still have to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 03:08 AM |
| 5 | Why don't men want to date single moms?I dated a single mom right after I turned 20. I thought she was great. I figured there would be some bumps but what relationship didn't have bumps. The whole relationship ended up being about her. Not even the kid. It was her. I did end up help her with the kid. At some point I got attached to the child. When the relationship inevitably imploded, having to stop spending time with the child was awful. After that I decided I couldn't do that again. No more women with children. As I've gotten older… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: first date, she tells you her birthday is in 2 weeks. How much do you gift her on the spot?You're right. If she had said the trip was to the Vatican, I wouldn't have assumed partying. I would have figured a couple of drinks with dinner. Which I'm completely fine with. But she's going to Miami. People don't go to Miami to stare at the building's. Second, The money is given on the premise of spending it on drinks. Which she didn't say anything against. I am under no obligation to date someone that enjoys partying, drinking or clubs. Especially since I am sober. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: first date, she tells you her birthday is in 2 weeks. How much do you gift her on the spot?I don't drink at all. Completely sober for 7 years now. I hate the party and club scene now. Trying to date someone like that would be too much for me. I would be out. I can choose for whatever reason to not be interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 06:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: first date, she tells you her birthday is in 2 weeks. How much do you gift her on the spot?It would depend on how long we were talking before the first date. But even with that said $300 bucks for a birthday is only something I've done for a very select few. Like a direct relative or a long term girlfriend. I don't think I've ever spent that much for a girlfriends birthday for a relationship under 6 months. Most likely just offer to get her a desert or something like that if the first date was a dinner date. "girls trip in 2 weeks for her birthday" I would lose interest after hearing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 05:50 AM |
| 1 | For men who have been approached at least once in their life: Do you think the women who approached you were in your league?Actually it's been a mixed bag of same level, lower and higher. If I really think about it, it's slightly more for the lower level. But just barely, like only one or two for the lower side. But the way I gauge someone on level isn't directly related to physical attraction. If I can pickup on them being lazy, bad hygiene or poor character then they are on a lower level. In my experience, a decent amount of women do the subtle side of approaching. It's like they want you to know it's ok to approac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/25 05:44 AM |
| 2 | What is the ideal partnership ?After having my own health problems and watching so many family members with health problems I learned it was easier to be disciplined to keep enjoying the things I liked to do. Plus plane seats are already uncomfortable, weighing less makes it much more tolerable. That sounds very rough. My parents stayed together all this time. It's just now both are disabled. I've got 25+ years being a caretaker. I'm crazy burnt out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 01:15 AM |
| 2 | What is the ideal partnership ?No passenger princess or Queen nonsense. Hate that stuff. Someone to be healthy with. Used to be 400lbs. I'm not going back. That means healthy eating and regular exercise. I believe in " freedom in discipline" especially when it comes to health. I don't have real belief in gender roles except one really. No hairy legs. I don't know why but just something that I really like. In my past relationships I always paid for waxing or the materials for it. So in this ideal relationship, I would continue… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/25 08:59 PM |
| 27 | Why are men’s standards “normal” but women’s “gold digging”I've never called a woman working a 40 work week a unambitious loser. While I have been called a loser because my 40 hr job didn't pay enough for all the vacations she wanted. That's not financial stability that's greed. Go search "ambition" on twoXchrome. It's a great read in mental gymnastics for justifying the greed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/25 08:44 PM |
| – | Women do not have ridiculously high standards in menThis was posted about a two months ago. Go read it. https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1ij8spj/women_do_lie_about_their_preferences_and_research/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 03:20 PM |
| 86 | 'Tate phenomena' surges in schools - with boys refusing to talk to female teacherI'm not sure how much of this I believe. I remember hearing the same stuff in the 90s and we ended up with a generation of young boys that Adderall was pushed onto. Just seems like the new method of shame, lecture and control for the next generation. Go look at the twoXchrome post about this. It's just all "good! Let them fail out! Who cares!". I thought feminism was for everyone? What happened to that? | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/04/25 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Men, how many times have you asked a woman out over the past 12 months?Zero. But I will say that I haven't done cold approaches in years. It always ended up be a bad relationship. For several years now, I have to know the woman for a while before I will ask her out. I need to know about her character, beliefs and ideologies. I'm not dating no effort passenger princess. In my case physical attraction isn't my top priority. It's much lower. But I do want someone who does try to be healthy. I used to be extremely obese. I have since lost most of it. So it's important … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/25 06:41 PM |
| 4 | Feminists somehow acknowledge men being expected to be breadwinners, stoic protectors and pursuers under "patriarchy hurts men too" while they simultaneously tell men their dating issues have nothing to do with society or women.I know there are men that are hypocrites. I won't argue against that. But this post was about feminists being hypocrites. Which a number of them are. This "but men also are being shitty" doesn't mean I said anything incorrect. I can be critical of feminism all I want and still believe of gender equality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Feminists somehow acknowledge men being expected to be breadwinners, stoic protectors and pursuers under "patriarchy hurts men too" while they simultaneously tell men their dating issues have nothing to do with society or women.I'm not sure if it's being a feminist or it's being liberal but the liberal feminists I know, sure do love enforcing gender roles on their male partners. Or at-least the appearance of gender roles, it's slightly different from the conservative view of gender roles. Being stoic for sure. They don't like having to deal with male emotions. "Don't expect me to be your therapist" is the thought here. Money too. A lot have changed the labeling of it as to not appear patriarchal. It's "ambition" now. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/25 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys approach women they cannot afford?First, I don't believe shit about social media. This definitely comes off across as humble bragging. Probably a "numbers" men. Guys that just shoot off messages in high numbers in the hopes something sticks. They don't check profiles or anything. Just click and send a message. Zero thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 01:53 AM |
| 9 | Q4M: do you consider yourself a gentleman?By this woman's definition of gentleman, then no. I require separate checks till the relationship is been defined as exclusive. This is a hard line for me. The thing is I'm not looking for someone to cook or clean for me. I'm been a caregiver since a young age. I know how to run a house inside and outside. This has made me picky with the women I date. During the "talking and finding out" phase I expect the other person to pull their weight in terms of effort in pursuing a relationship on a equal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 08:49 AM |
| 5 | Many (not all) women don't really want vulnerability in a man for his own good. They want the guy's emotions to serve as a means for them to feel good, important, flattered and/or protected.One point I've seen here and repeated on other subreddits is, trauma dumping doesn't equal vulnerability. Like it's some type of proper counter argument that other women not actually wanting to do the work of emotional needs for their partners. I think this is one of the points that women don't have a leg to stand on. How many posts on other subreddits are there about men getting dump after crying in of there girlfriend for the first time. I have experience this when I was younger after the pass… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Many (not all) women don't really want vulnerability in a man for his own good. They want the guy's emotions to serve as a means for them to feel good, important, flattered and/or protected.I don't think vulnerability is the issue. From my experience a lot of women don't/ can't do their share emotional needs/labor. Of all of my past relationships and dating I think only two of them were willing to put my emotional needs/labor at the same level as there's. I don't blame the other women for being bad partners. They live in a system that doesn't require them to care or put effort into male emotional needs/labor. On the other side is so many men have lived without it. It's seem odd or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: "You're husband material" should be a complimentI've only seen irl "You're husband material" in two contexts. 1. When a woman is rejecting a man. It's a polite way of saying " you are not for me but for someone else". Second variation is when someone in the social group is complaining about a failed relationship and the women in the group with say it as a way to lift the spirits of the person. 2. This is the version I have experienced. It's been state over and over again. Boils down to " you are stable and I think you can provide a good life … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 05:04 PM |
| 3 | Men and Women should have higher standardI've learned this lesson the hard way. A couple of women I dated in the past, all masters level education or above, weren't actually attracted to me. In their words they saw all this potential in me and were planning on molding me into someone they could control. I was a vessel to something "acceptable". This was the plan since they men they where attracted to didn't want them. The fights that would happen when I pushed back against being manipulated were crazy. They couldn't understand why I wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 10:44 PM |
| 2 | Are you woried about feminism?Feminism doesn't own or control the concept of equal rights based on gender or sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/25 05:27 PM |
| – | Subtle misandry is rampant in feminism and it really does contribute to gender divide.The "Pop culture" version of feminism will always defend feminism as a whole because to them feminism means gender/sex equality. Any one who attacks feminism doesn't want gender/sex equality. They have zero incentive to criticize feminism. For them feminism works. It helps them achieve their goals. Until you can provide real evidence that feminism is wrong for both men and women and a viable second path for gender/sex equality. Feminism will never leave. Complaining about it all online does noth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/25 05:16 PM |
| 3 | Modern feminism has caused damage to the healthy romantic dynamic between men and women.The market has changed, women have to adapt. Can't sit on the bench anymore. Everyone has to being active participant or get nothing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/25 06:39 AM |
| 4 | Bar is not in hell for anyone.Most women over 30 will catch on fairly quickly that they are being strung along, if they end goal is marriage and children. From my experience with dating, women who say "the bar is hell" fall into two camps. First is the women you can't pick out men or dates correctly. This can be subdivided into at fault and not at fault. Some people are just bad at picking up on other people being terrible. Some people are really good at hiding it. The at-fault people in this group usually have "an attractio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/24 07:23 AM |
| 22 | Do you think the left wing will try to appeal to young men in the future?They try but it will fail. The left wing would have to admit that feminism isn't for both men and women. It's for women by women. It would be a start if they're just honest about it. The left and feminism has not connected with young men at all. They need to change to an egalitarian approach. Young kids don't understand or comprehend the gendered imbalance across the workforce. They just see that they are ignored while others receive more time and effort. Don't try to tell me that feminism is fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/24 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Do you expect to date a person with your political beliefs?Single Millennial here, I used to think it was possible to date people of other political groups. But as I've gotten older, I don't want to deal with the differences anymore. It just makes life a little easier when someone is in the same political thinking. I understand it will shrink the dating pool for me. I won't date someone from a conservative religious standpoint or a feminist one. I'm not an "enlightened centralist". I just don't want to have to live by a 2000 old book and I grew up in a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/24 04:05 PM |
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