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I don't come on here as often as when I first discovered this subreddit, not because I don't agree with the things here but because I've listened to the advice here. I'm living my life, building my career, thinking about my future and NOT stressing over some guy. I feel free. I'm so thankful for this place showing me a whole new light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:57 AM
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I've been called Jewish slurs before and the holocaust jokes get to me. I drop anyone if they make them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:56 PM
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I really thought this guy was going to stab me out of rage today.... I stalled during pouring rain right when the light turned green. It's quick turn around to get moving again, like max 10 seconds... the guy behind now only nearly rear ended me when the light was red but honked then kept honking even in the turn. He quickly parked while I was still moving and got out of his car throwing his hands up and walking towards my moving car. I kept going to the next major box store (both very busy plac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:33 PM
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Thank you! That was a great explanation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:48 PM
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Could you explain what a Mahr is? Like do you get the money as a couple or does it go to your parents? Sorry this has nothing to do with the question... I just want to learn lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 12:33 PM
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Would you live with another woman? I found a woman roommate solely because I work at home and feel like I'd be isolating myself far too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 11:52 AM
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I work at home and just moved onto an apartment (very spacious) with two 60 lb dogs. Although I only feed them in the morning (grazers and for some reason night eaters), I walk them separately 3 times a day. Morning, noon and evening. plus the odd running out to go to the bathroom. I do this for their wellbeing and because I CARE for these dogs. If someone is just looking for another person to care for their dog. that's a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:19 PM
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I need advice... I moved into an apartment with a roommate. They recently fully came out as transgendered (male to female). I 100% support then etc. But how do I gently tell them of the dangers of being a woman? They understand it to an extent, but somethings I do, like required them to be home when the washer/dryer delivery happened didn't make sense to them or why the cut off to take my dogs out to the bathroom is 9.30 (last tiny bit of sunset left). Getting them to remember to lock the front …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 04:09 PM
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Unfortunately it was because she was dying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:04 AM
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The dating video I think MIGHT of had some poorly translated parts.. I think him saying "am I king ? " could of been more of a joke then him being serious. Hebrew can be hard to translate since it's such an old language and often modern words aren't in it. I'm surprised they didn't go old school with a Yenta (Yiddish for matchmaker) lol. My parents always threatened me with that when I was younger and I was always like 👀👀👀 oh hell. no really religious jew would want me though because I have 7 ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:15 PM
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Interesting! I ended up looking up hasidic on Wikipedia to read more deeply the beginnings of it. Didn't realize Yiddish was mostly kept to hasidic because I know it and am not hasidic. Thank you for the history lesson too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:11 PM
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I'm Jewish in ethnicity but not religious. The woman reminds me of my grandmother mildly. That she raised her 7 kids hasidic. Mine tried to do that and my dad was the one that got away as in pork tasted too good and the woman he married wasn't Jewish. 30 years of marriage and 10 of those his mom REFUSED to talk to him because she was died to him for marrying outside the community.... to a catholic no less. Also like how she kept using kosher for describing her movies... I'm still watching it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:06 PM
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I had to look up Haredi because I honestly have never heard of it! Apparently Hasidic is a sub group of Haredi. At least that's what Google said. Thanks for the new information!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 10:03 PM
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Yeah sounds about right. Anyone less then them is not Jewish. I wouldn't even venture to hasidic neighborhoods in NYC or Philly theyre just... their own world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:54 PM
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I didnt get a chance to watch the whole thing but the woman doesn't seem to be the same sect of Judaism as the man... He seems to be hasidic Jewish while she's a lighter more free sec of Jewish. It could be explained later in the movie but that'd be why he's such an asshole. I'm Jewish and personally I avoid hasidic jews. They're often holier then thou types because they're the "strictest" of sect. Sorry if you're Jewish or hasidic it's just my personal view especially on the men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 09:45 PM
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I was seeing this guy that I thought was HVM. Turns out he wasn't. I was playing resident evil 8 on my ps4 at his house. He just kinda flipped and stopped texting me claiming to be depressed. Very rude. Not what I thought he was. I'm PROUD of myself because I didn't try to reason with him. I just left it. I went on my vacation and enjoyed it. Made important plans for my best friend to move in with me. AND I followed up on my promise to myself that when I got home I would ask for me ps4 back and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:51 AM
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It sucks but I almost always try to get a family member with me or the person I'm seeing at the time to be there with me when I talk to police or any of the sort. Mostly for emotional backup but also because of things like this....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 11:45 AM
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That's a great thing to keep in mind. Thanks for sharing !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:42 PM
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I havent done research on cats yet but I'm working on switching my dogs to a raw food diet. maybe that could help your cats too??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:43 PM
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What has the vet said?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:37 PM
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Sending positive thoughts to your cat! I'm getting home from vacation at midnight tonight and I can't wait to see my dogs and cats (and hope to god the cats didn't get petty and destroy and cords). I want to give them forehead kisses and tell them how much I missed them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:09 PM
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It really has!! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:52 PM
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I'm on vacation in Colorado right now. It's morning time, there's a nice breeze going. it's 75 ish out. It's absolutely beautiful. I'm currently reading a book on my phone enjoying it. Only thing missing is a cup of coffee. Thanks to FDS I'm not out here stressing about some man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:41 PM
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I was 16 when a 22 year old groomed me. it's not just CRINGE shell see. She'll look back with heart break and turmoil that someone did that to her and the people around her who did know didn't do anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:18 PM
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I'm sorry my "extra" kidney is reserved for my dad or brother if they ever need it (not eligible to give to my mom or I would if she needed it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:23 PM
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Hearing "I have demons in me" immediately turns me off. I hate the saying and it implies I'm too immature to get therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:21 PM
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I have a concentration in cybersecurity! don't work in it at all lol. found my passion in data analysis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:13 PM
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Thankfully I have a computer degree and refuse to take my technology to repair shops. (and if it's something I can't fix I have a sibling that can)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:30 PM
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I have a HUGE problem with the photo place that printed these and sold them. I worked in a photo printing place (digital age sadly) and they made it EXPLICITLY CLEAR you DO NOT sell ANYONE inappropriate pictures of any kind. So that means some LV person at the print shop willingly sold these enlarged images without the woman in them even there in person to give any type of consent. that's gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:07 PM
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Did you level up for yourself or for the pictures and resumes you send to men and their families?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:55 PM
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I get it. I would feel guilty too! But my immense fear of getting and STD is greater
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:51 PM
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My cousin met her HVM through grad school. They got jobs at the same company but different locations. The minute he was able to he transferred to her city. Poor dude had to meet her LV dad this weekend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:24 PM
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I would just delete numbers and apps. You don't owe them anything. You're allowed to change your mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:21 PM
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I'm confused. Why does he want you to do that ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:19 PM
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15k in debt!! how did that happen?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 01:49 PM
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I may be sheltered in this aspect but I never understood the couldn't better their education in the technology Era. Online schools exist. My parents also didn't help me and they were "low income" because they were retired and income was low. I got Pell grant and that covered EVERYTHING at a community College. I did the last 2 years at a university so I have some loans but Pell still paid a lot...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:45 PM
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I have an ungodly key collection on one of my car keys set, even keys to a house none of my family owns. I should be safer and hide my keys but I hope the amount of keys on there will just...be a lot... and my other set only has the key fob and a library card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 10:41 PM
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Somehow my 3 cats are golden retrievers of the cat world and have absolutely zero idea how to cat properly.... I take it as a red flag if they don't like ANY pet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 06:33 PM
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It feels weird to say not to date below your social class because education could move you up in classes.. but I did date a guy below mine and he had some really pent up feelings about the fact I'd never lived in a trailer before. It was odd..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 12:38 PM
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OHH. I was really thinking he has like cat fur or something in his mouth... Thats...gross.. and so unhealthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 12:31 PM
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I'm sorry what is a furry mouth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 11:17 AM
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That sounds like a wild time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:46 AM
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I got lucky with nearly perfectly straight teeth so all I've done is brush my teeth, but like just SIMPLY BRUSHING would help remove stains... the bare minimum isn't even that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:34 AM
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I've been getting more obsessed with teeth cleanliness recently... How do these men let their teeth get so bad? I was watching tv and these guys were missing teeth FRONT TEETH or had rotten teeth that needed to be pulled. I suppose missing a tooth is whatever maybe but overtime not having a tooth in that place can really mess up your health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:01 AM
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God I hope not. I will completely leave the dating world if it becomes that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:12 PM
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The georgia one kills me. I live there and see SO MANY of those
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:11 PM
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I've had "relationship" anxiety before and I know it's not normal. if I have to have that anxiety in every relationship then I'm staying single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:16 PM
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After he got caught assaulting his sister's by his parents, his dad took him to a state trooper... the trooper was arrested for CSA charges twice and is still in jail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:22 AM
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My mom got married at 27 (dad was 32). She's the second youngest in her family (8 siblings) but was the oldest to get married and honestly is the HAPPIEST. No divorce or separations compared to her siblings. I aspire to stay single until I find an HVM or ill just stay single and adopt a child. I don't need a man to complete my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:03 PM
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I love that he's trying to be a "hot car guy" but drives automatic. Probably talks shit about others cars and thinks he knows best but has never worked on a car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:02 AM
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Do it for yourself! itll feel better after it's done too. I have webbed 2nd and 3rd toes and can't move them well. Probably wouldn't get surgery on it because it'd be deemed as cosmetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:05 PM
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Bluecross blueshield of Illinois. I didn't look it up with insurance. just Google does insurance cover hammer toe surgery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:03 PM
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I did a quick Google search (my lord and savior) and it said if the doctor deems it necessary then it can be covered my medical insurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:01 PM
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I think your feet look fine!! There are surgeries that can correct hammer toes with they ever become painful when wearing shoes etc. They put a rod in to straighten it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:54 PM
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I had a stalker who worked with me. He threatened to kill me and burn my house down because I wouldn't go out with him. I was 19 or 20. He then learned who my abusive controller ex was and again almost inflicted violence to me through him. You're not overthinking it. I would switch up your routine and park in a different place. Ignore people who ask about your tattoos unless it's a genuine question. Thankfully all my tattoos are on my thighs or abdomen solely to get professional jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:49 PM
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That brings back memories. My mom has broken brushes in my hair because she wouldn't brush it wet. Ah childhood memories lol and she wonders why I never smiled in pictures...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:43 PM
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Thank god my mom was a pushover with me. She wanted me to wear dresses and after the 3rd melt down from me she gave up and let me wear whatever and keep my hair whatever (I won't forgive them for the time they agreed my hair would look good looking like a haircut from the 70s) did you mean short hair not straight hair? tbh I HATED my hair as a kid because the in fashion was straight hair. It took years for my hair to return to normal after frying it so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 06:43 PM
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I would scream bloody murder as a child if my mom tried to brush my hair. She has pin straight hair and I got my dads curly hair. I dont have a tender scalp. I would sprint to my dad for him to brush it since he knew how to handle it a lot better. The angry mom hair brushing was the worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:58 PM
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Mine would be that the mom/wife would cook dinner. I don't know why it was a conversation in 5th grade but I remember people saying what their mom made for dinner the night before except for me. My mom is banned from the kitchen since we were very young and my dad always made dinner. It never occurred to me that it was "a woman's job" till about 5th grade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:59 PM
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Looks like s21 has it and Google pixels. Apple has some good privacy on iphones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:57 PM
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I use mint to track my budget! It also provides a credit score as well. Although I really didn't use it for the first year I had it, I've found it very useful now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:10 PM
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Samsung phones outside the U.S are often sold with 2 sim slots! Not sure if the U.K is like the U.S in not having this version but they could!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:08 PM
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I want to see this movie. Maybe I'm remembering 101 Dalmatians wrong but didn't cruella want to steal the puppies to make a fur coat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:11 AM
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I'm Jewish and I certainly didn't realize I was among Nazis. I guess I'm a shitty jew for agreeing with FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 09:49 PM
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There was an article that I read a while ago about how the mothers anxiety during pregnancy can affect how much anxiety the child has too. I hope some of the people affected by their parents stop the cycle and not fuck up their kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:31 AM
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I got enough affection as a child thankfully and am still close to my parents. We did move a lot though when I was a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:29 AM
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Adalock? I want to do cameras but at the same time I know they don't really have the best security firmware inside the camera that stops me. (same with internet of things)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:28 AM
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I'm so proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:37 AM
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Could you put another lock on your door? Replacing a door is far more worth it then losing your life. I just made a post asking about apartment safety tips. My parents and brother have these sticks that go under the doorknobs and it stops the door from opening. There's one for sliding doors too! He sounds like a scary guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:35 AM
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I had massive abandonment issues as a child. I thought my parents were going to leave me for good. If they went out together without me I'd start panicking (till like 14)... That fear has bled into my adult life. I've gotten therapy for it and have been doing better but sometimes it is really hard to realize it's time to leave. After reading the article the only possible reason from there would be death... My moms mom died when I was 1 year old and I know it had a big impact on my own mother. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:25 AM
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ohhh! I see. I don't have cable, just saw in on pyrocynical and he talked about all Ed's bullshit merchandise and that he has a tattoo of himself...?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:51 PM
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I looked her up too. She has almost 1million subscribers on YouTube! So hopefully she's glowing up! She's honestly so beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:44 PM
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What the absolute fuck is "big ed"? Watched some commentary on YouTube and now watching his second attempt at dating... He just said "my age range is 29 to 48" bitch you 55. I'm so frustrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:20 PM
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Yes it's a joke lol. Every joke and every episode is a satire on something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:51 PM
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Crate/cage. Crate aren't inherently bad. One of my dogs has a Crate because she's anxious and it's her safe space. although we don't close the door to it. My other dog refuses to get into one but shes also a super outgoing doggo. It's when the fog isn't trained for a Crate and it causes distress is when it's bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:19 PM
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This isn't the guy I'm vetting but his roommates dog.. I don't blame the dog in any way, but she's eaten the dry wall in the house, will eat ANYTHING that's within distance of her cage during work hours. Her nails are talons. She has no training. The roommate runs a mile a day maybe more but won't bring her with because it "won't tire her out" ????? Pretty sure her glands need to be expressed and if they aren't done are pretty painful and can become infected. Shes a sweetheart when she's calmed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:21 PM
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Thanks for the information! Since the 2 days of posting my comment my eyes are been less dry! and tomorrow will be the one week mark!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:22 PM
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"oh you do coding? you must be pretty smart" yeah I am thanks. I even graduated college. guess I got the lucky genes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:35 PM
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Reading about these fathers on FDS kinda of opened my eyes. I always thought fathers were like mine where he spent every second available with his family. Even took us on business trips (when it didn't affect school) so he wouldn't be away from us. I wish every daughter got a father like that. It breaks my heart reading about these dads not believing in feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:33 PM
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I'll have to remember that! I probably won't get plugs or anything. The lasik surgery mildly scared the heck out of me honestly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:03 PM
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I'm proud that even though it took 6 years (was a pickme and wondered away from school for toxic guys) I graduated with a degree and have a job where I can support myself. It's something I would stay awake at night scared I wouldn't be able to. Many nights of laying on the floor in my dads home office while he would give me a pep talk that I can actually do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:08 PM
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I got lasik last Friday so this week is really just using eye drops every hour im awake (been advised to do so). Besides work, I'm spending the week finding the perfect 30th anniversary gift for my parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:58 PM
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Ah yes who needs funerals! they can all be unknown Graves for all I care! /s. I havent been to a funeral in years... (went to 5 or 6 before I was 12) and they helped me understand death better and closure. Knowing where my grandparents are and can visit them if I want is a comforting thought when you barely had living time with them..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:55 PM
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Adding to the curly hair part, if it's brushed correctly too! If it's brushed right after a shower and the correct moisturizers put in, it will look wonderful! If they brush it dry then it's gonna look awful with damaged hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:33 AM
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My best friend is gay. She didn't come out till college time. Her family rejected her and still tries to send her messages about "the guy you're going to marry is out there" I'm moving out to her state soon and we were discussing unloading the moving van and she said she doesn't have any straight male friends because they all thought they could hit on her and change her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:12 AM
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Yeah I second this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:39 AM
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Holy fuck. Thankfully I've never been with a guy who's tried to pull that type of shit. But that is SO SCARY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:05 AM
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I had to go to a consultation recently for the arm implant birth control (painfully periods) and the doctor had to talk me through all contraception. She told me how condoms aren't effective because you need to assume the guy will take it off or mess with it. Getting the arm one so I know no one can mess with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:53 AM
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I'm similar to this! My dad never really cared if it's daddy or dad. But now being 25, if I call him daddy he thinks I want him to buy me something (specifically lunch most of the time). My parents are mostly mom and dad...sometimes parental figures 1 and 2...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:49 PM
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Saved this for future use. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:16 AM
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My dog got 1 reeses cup months ago. I had a full panic attack thinking I horribly harmed her. After hours of research, if you're American, the chocolate in candy is basically not chocolate. Bakers chocolate is when you really have to worry about a dog and even then more so if they are small dogs. My dog is 60lbs and would have to eat like 1 pound of pure chocolate for it to have an effect on her. Thank god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:17 PM
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I really needed to read this today. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:00 PM
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I'm seeing my best friend for 4th of July. My passport came in last week so we are now going to play an international trip for summer 2022 (I'm vaccinated but also hopefully covid tapers off). And we are discussing buying a house together. She's my sister why wouldn't I want to love with her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:39 PM
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Hey! Which language are you trying to learn? I may be able to help! I struggled in the beginning of learning languages because I felt like my math skills weren't good enough. It's not as bad as you think. A lot of times it's simpler math then you'd think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:36 PM
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Good god. I hope your grandma ran !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 02:34 PM
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I started my new job today and so far they've been really nice. I've gotten 10 min breaks every 50 mins to move my legs. They're super nice. My last company abused the fuck out of me. Im looking forward to working here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:26 PM
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I should start following this! My cats are some of the friendliest ones I've ever interacted with. If they don't like someone then there's something sure as hell wrong with them. Same for my dog. She's in general a loving of all people time but there's some guys she's iffy about and doesn't trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:27 AM
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I survived years of sexual assault from a boyfriend. I got off drugs (weed, nonprescription adderall and xanax, and shrooms). Focused on school, finally graduated and now have a job that will allow me to save for a house and pay off loans. He use to tell me how worthless I was. Proved him wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:39 PM
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My first period happened when I was 12 at my grandpa's house. For whatever reason it didn't process in my head that it was my period but also didn't alarm me? So my mom came into the kitchen and told me my period started and what to do and I looked her in the face and said no? no it didn't. what are you talking about? Overall we have been pretty open about it. My mom did have a small meltdown when I told her I was om birth control at 20 (for painful periods) because she was worried about the bc …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 01:06 AM
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My old coworker would mansplain how to do my own job. Which you know... i was qualified to do and was good at it. I would let him run himself in circles while I did my work.
/r/askFDS19/04/21 09:35 PM
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No sorry im half asleep. I meant if him not having a lot of friends when they met would be a red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 09:08 PM
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I negotiate through email only. I don't answer calls and I won't come in to test drive a car unless my price is met. I also pit 2 or more dealerships against each other. X says they can do 22k well y says they can do 20k can you top that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:57 PM
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The second point is so true. When my LVM and I broke up a long time ago, I thought about kidnapping his dog to make sure he was taken care of. The dog I got (from Craigslist and was 18 months at the time) came from a man (his sister met me never met the guy). My pupper NEVER had a vaccine in her life. Wasn't fixed either and would hide if you yelled at anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:52 PM
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Reading these comments has me thinking about my own family. My brother married a Filipino. We moved frequently so he didn't really have many friends to begin with. When he did have friends it was a mixed group of people. Should he of been read as a red flag? btw his wife is his world and their son too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:26 PM
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My great grandmother left Belarus by herself at 16 to travel to a country along the Atlantic and get to America. She left knowing she'd never see her family again. This was around 1910 (records don't appear till they're in America. everything else is oral history). Her family sent her with all their money knowing they'd never see her again. They were later killed for being Jewish. Once she got to America and settled she somehow ran into an orphan boy that use to work on her dad's farm. They ende…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:44 PM
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That would be great it a male had to take birth control. I was on the depo shot not realizing that it could cause bone density issues and im also not entirely sure if this is related, but after about 4 months on it I could crack my chest and the people around me could audibly hear it. I stopped taking it for about a year and the cracking basically stopped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:03 AM
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When I worked retail during college, the GM of the store (like Costco or sams) came up to me and asked me to fold the clothes because as a woman I should know how to do it. I responded that I dont know how to fold clothes since I hang everything up. He tried to show me how to fold clothes after that. Never could quite "get the hang of it".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:45 PM
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I ended up looking it up again because I never did after the first few reports. The bf killed himself too at the seen after shooting 21 bullets at everyone. The police suspect the motive was because ANOTHER GUY tried to talk to the girl at a bar. The killer literally has dinner with the victims parents hours before this happened. What the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:12 AM
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This reminded me of my best friend. She went to college in the mid west. She had a friend that on her 21st birthday was shot down by her dorms. Her friends birthday was like 10 ish days before mine. She called me panicked that on my 21st I'd die too. Her friends boyfriend of 5 years killed her. Why? There was no reason. He just did it. I never met this girl because I live extremely far from the college but I think about her sometimes about the phone call I got from my best friend crying that I c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:58 AM
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What dog did you get? While reading this I'm also watching the guy I'm vetting unfixed dog (he's 15-18 and the guys parents never got him fixed) try to get my dogs attention who's sleeping between my legs. My dog gives a whole no fucks about this other dog. I hope to obtain that level and be able to leave my life for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:55 AM
3

Grades confuse the hell out of me. I never know what grade goes with what age. Girl I even remember my dogs birthday 😂 she just turned ten and I need to make her a cake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:48 AM
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We moved a lot when I was a kid and this was in the middle of a move. This is a genuine mistake on my dads part from the stress of moving. He's never forgot out birthdays otherwise, but he put my brother in the wrong grade in middle school. He put him a year below what he actually was and didn't realize it till the first day of school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:12 PM
2

Good luck! You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:01 PM
25

Did DMX die? I don't particularly care about him but CNN app sent a headline saying he died and then a different news app said his manager said he's on life support and isn't dead. Either way no domestic abuser should be celebrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:04 PM
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I dont watch 90 day fiance. I saw a clip of this guy on I believe Cody Ko? What did he do to Rosemarie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:53 PM
36

Finally got my ghost of a boss onto a call to tell him I'm putting in my 2 week and had to nerve to get mad and annoyed like he wasn't underpaying me. Then tried to argue about my vacation time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:46 PM
1

my mom was petrified of an older man teaching the club. Plus I was almost kidnapped twice and that really didn't help her anxiety
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 10:58 PM
1

I didnt call him that until FDS. He actually came creeping back into my life 6 months before finding this sub. As soon as I found it, I had the courage to block him from my life. The nightmare of him finding me started again but I can live through those knowing I'm fully free from him. I went to therapy for a while to start the healing process. I'm very closed off about anything sexual and get called awkward for it (I drop people who say that). During the time I was with him I didn't have a rela…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:56 PM
2

My brother knows but I have no idea how to even start telling my parents because they would be devastated that they didn't protect me more. I've told some people. I've found if I say my childhood rapist people see it for what it is over I was 16 and groomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:37 PM
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I was 16 when I got groomed by a 22 year old. I'm 25 now and he still haunts me. it haunts me his parents and family knew but didn't do anything to stop it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 12:42 AM
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I hate my current work place. Its honestly super toxic. but know what I did? applied to hundreds of jobs. Today I got a job over for a job that pays double and will fulfill my desire to always learn. If a man can't do the same then he's out of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:50 PM
2

I'm happy for you!! I have 3 cats and 2 dogs and honestly they are completely my world! the only downside is the cats claw my couch a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:11 PM
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The only male attention I'm willing to accept right now is from 2 of my cats. If being a "crazy" cat lady means having some amazing pets ill glad be that cat lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:08 PM
2

I did talk to her on the phone but even then it could be a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:41 AM
6

I actually never put a profile picture on my linkedin. recently I had a recruiter reach out to me about a job in the next state over. She harassed me every day to put one up and that the company won't contact me till then... it was super uncomfortable and I just said thanks but no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:41 AM
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I have GAD too. I take medicine for it although it doesn't completely take it away I don't have constant panic attacks. But all the aspects of you that you described are great ones to have. You sound like a great person. You are SO MUCH more then your physical looks. I have a friend who frequently quits jobs from mental illnesses. She's an amazing and caring person. Society shouldn't judge you on productivity because it's not the only thing about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:43 PM
75

What are some things you love about yourself that aren't physical?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 04:22 PM
51

The only men I trust are my brother and my dad. Both of whom have proven to be trustworthy over and over. Even before FDS I never trusted men, including ones I dated. I always thought it was ME being the issue that something was wrong with me being ready to leave at a moments notice. But after FDS, I've realized I've always done that because men are shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:24 AM
24

I've actually been discussing buying a house with my best friend (basically sibling) soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:07 PM
14

💀 I ALWAYS forget walmart sells guns!! Im not a gun person in any way so it never crosses my mind. This reminds me of the time when walmart tried to lock up poc hair products.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:41 PM
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I grow up in upstate NY. It was for sure a culture shock coming down to the south! Surprisingly Plan B in Walgreens isn't locked up! it does have a sensor on it but it sits on a shelf so the only person who will see you get it is the cashier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:25 PM
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I cant wait to be a bitter old cat woman in my flat!! I'd 100% rather grow old single and achieve my dreams then suffer with a LVM!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:19 PM
73

The Krogers in the south (at least in Georgia around me), you HAVE TO ASK THE PHARMACY to get condoms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:16 PM
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Shes 80% disabled from a suicide attempt. Because of this shit men. This girl who was a CHILDREN is now disabled for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:06 PM
6

girl was this house 10000+ degrees as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:57 AM
8

Jesus I was way off. Thanks for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:20 PM
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Maybe I'm just slow af right now but they got together when they were 34? and were together for 14 years after that and married a year? Then he left her for a 38 year old? He's a shitty person regardless of age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:16 PM
7

Did I just read the plot line to somewhere different universe trailer park boys?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 12:14 PM
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I started to watch "To catch a predator " and after all these years and it's literally just men so far getting caught. Even a NYC firefighter WHO IS DEFENDING HIS ACTIONS. what the fuck is wrong with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:03 AM
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alive realized this recently as well! I got a giant tattoo on my thigh and I mean giant. took 4 hours. mostly done with a 3pt needle so painful too. I love it. But I DROVE with my then boyfriend and of course he couldn't drive my car because it's manual and god forbid he drove me! Get it done havent eaten in like 6 hours at that point. Pounding headache and this mf demands sex and kept demanding till I gave in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 07:04 PM
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I'll try with a different email! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:43 PM
10

I use to watch them! I got a weird vibe from Dan because of how much he would talk about sex?? or just be odd all around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:14 PM
10

I tried to make an account a while ago and it says it's waiting for membership approval as an unverified account?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:12 PM
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🤡🤡🤡 Please tell this to the sex offender who tried to kidnap me from my front lawn when I was 8 (he got arrested later for being a pedophile). Or my uncle who thought at 12 I shouldn't be wearing tank tops to bed (pre puberty). Or the 40 year old who told me he could treat me right when I was 19. But you know what, these men are totally right. None of their friends could be sex offenders! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:09 PM
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I'm sitting here eating pretzel sticks reading this bullshit and all I can think about is how I'm glad I don't have eating issues like I did in high school. They weren't quite ED level but they were getting there. I recently went from around 100lb to 140lb and honestly I look better now then I did in the past. Fuck these redpillers for trying to attack vulnerable women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:42 PM
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I agree that large age gaps are major red flags and just wrong. But I do have a question, is it less weird if they are 40 and 50? I'm looking for people's opinion on it. Honestly I think 5 years is max for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:05 PM
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I just got way too into watching this guy's other videos! One predator actually tried to sue him for being caught and the police using this dude's video footage as evidence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:02 PM
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He woke you up at 2am to make you wait 12 hours to talk? nah fuck that! My phone is ALWAYS on silent. Even my parents know to call me twice before I answer the phone even. I do this so my rest never gets disturbed nor do my favorite hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:36 PM
21

My skin care routine will have me looking like I'm still 30 at 44 while this man gonna be looking like he's 60+.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:25 AM
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How dare women care about their safety! Edit: I got a message from a scrote to get a grip. Too bad I won't in fact. get a grip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:50 PM
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You actually described perfectly how I feel in my work place! I'm in IT and am the only female in the department. I'm forgotten so much so that I didn't even know we were moving our database somewhere else. Yet I get most of the criticism and the most work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:51 PM
13

I dont think I'd want to relive my rape trauma over over to "heal" through BDSM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:37 PM
11

I bet if you tried to even brush that hair, you'd break the brush immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:27 PM
24

Can we PLEASE talk about how he'd sweating bullets in some of the clips and his hair is something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:18 PM
10

A brothel. Even if they sell sex they don't deserve to die and this man's excuse being a sex addict is pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:04 PM
37

The block thing could be you blocked him from your phone number but not apple's imessage. I could be wrong since I haven't owned an iPhone in years now but it could be it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 03:49 PM
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I havent been following this as closely as I should be, but I thought they were legit massage parlors or spas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:38 PM
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They didn't even exist in the first place! Lol The stereotype jews are good with money came from the fact Christian's couldn't loan money out but Jews could because it was a rule from the new testament. It's crazy how something from the 1200 a.d is still around today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:30 PM
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I'm so proud of you! 🎉🎊 I deleted all my social media years ago when I realized my mental health would be so much better without it. Its a little hard at first but now I feel so much better NOT worrying what everyone else is doing compared to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:49 AM
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I had a similar experience! I've talked about this ex before on here but 3 years with him leads to a lot of stories. Comedy is something I've always enjoyed. I've always been a fairly funny person, but this man would just straight face me for anything that wasn't sexual humor. It took a while to get back to my funny not angry self after leaving him but I'm back to who I was before for the most part. I'm glad you're able to laugh again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:45 AM
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This is a wonderful post! I'm not currently in a relationship but I've been in some where they would not chill on jew jokes or finance comments because they were dating a jew (me). Its gotten to the point I dont mention it much. I'm not religious but Judaism still has a whole culture that I would like to have some part of but it makes it really hard to do when hear someone call you an insulting term for jews. I did leave them pretty damn fast though. Thanks for coming to my tedTalk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:37 AM
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At 32! and he's like this! Girl I'm glad you left even more now. He should have himself for the most part figured out by then and know the help he'd need. I'm hoping by 32 I have a 6 figure job and a house not arguing over my mom being way too involved and needing more therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:12 PM
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oh no...45 mins away... oh...no... he's got some therapy he needs to do lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:47 PM
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I am so sorry for your pain! I lifted cat litter wrong once and my back was in pain for a week and all I could do was lay on the floor in the living room( so I could still be annoying to my family) and if some man had the balls to try to have sex with me I would of lost it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 07:26 PM
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You should make it a test! If they don't drop off soup and Gatorade they ain't the one. I had the flu, bronchitis and lastly strep throat (first time in my life ever) back to back (in 2018) and the guy I was talking to told me he will drop me if I didn't go meet him even though my throat was in horrible pain. I wish I had FDS back then. I would of blocked and deleted him then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:49 PM
12

Drew Gooden did a YouTube video on a show that is similar in concept and I believe he talked about a radio show too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:10 PM
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I'm glad he's you're damn ex! that's horrendous and I'm sorry that happened to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 01:43 PM
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He sounds like a crazy lunatic !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:50 AM
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You should of gone to the hospital! and he should of turned his ass around and gotten the Gatorade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:46 AM
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Good lord. I hope you left him and don't let anyone do that to you again! Thankfully my mom always intervened when I lived at home and someone was trying to get me to go out when I was sick. It annoyed me then but looking back she was in the right for doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:45 AM
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Thank you! I'm chugging water and hoping for the best. I also have a cold press on my forehead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:41 AM
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My self got me soup! Via doordash 😂 Thanks! I just keep reminding myself this is temporary and it's for the better to have it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:31 AM
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Cherokee County is the county directly next to my county. I glanced at this post quickly this morning but just now realized it's in Georgia. My heart goes out to the people who were killed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:58 PM
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Yes I can relate so hard to this. But you should forgive yourself! You're taking the steps now to improve yourself :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:51 PM
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My brother had one or two drinks when my sister in law was pregnant and he always asked her if it was okay because it was something she couldn't do even if she was at work (overnight nurse) he wouldn't drink because she couldn't. My dad did the same with my mom as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:48 PM
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Probably care. I have a guy like that right now. He will not cum until I do. He cares about what I enjoy and if I don't like something it's never brought up again and we move on. It's just right. not to short but im not dry and in pain by the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:46 PM
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I like to stare them down if they try to get my dogs attention. I stare down any man who even remotely tries to make me uncomfortable or tries to get my attention when I don't want to give it. I've been called a cold bitch before and I'm 100% okay with that. But also what type of doggo is she?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:43 PM
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Just reading the first few sentences reminded me of a guy who graduated high school with me. About 2 weeks ago, he killed his girlfriend and his girlfriend mom then tried to kill himself. He did eventually die last week in the hospital. But now their daughter has neither parents nor a grandmother. Why did he feel so entitled to 2 other people's lives?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:19 PM
5

What is a fruit hamper?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:16 PM
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I wish I followed her and my dad's advice more in my teen years tbh. My dad showed me what an HVM looked like my whole life and I just let society tell me otherwise. God that's horrendous!! you were 9!! Why would no one believe you? Neither of you probably even knew what sex or anything sexual was. That thought process the adults had is why men feel so damn entitled. My cousin who is about my age from the same aunt and uncle use to beat the FUCK out of my brother and my brother would just take i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:03 PM
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Reading this reminded me of when I was 12. Hadn't hit purity and was weird pajamas that had a tank top. My mom's sister and her husband were visiting amd my uncle told my moms sister to tell my mom I needed to cover up because it could give men inapp thoughts. My mom is like the definition of FDS. Focused on herself, paid for college AND a master. etc. she DESTROYED her sister and her husband for thinking it was okay to ask that in her house or EVEN HAVE THOSE THOUGHTS AS AN ADULT MALE. It was t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:40 PM
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I got my 5 pets. I dont need a man. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:05 AM
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thats just SO extreme. why do all this work? sex ain't worth all this work. I'm just shocked that men have to nerve to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:52 AM
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Your ex asked you on a trip but also had planned to break up? what some bullshit that is! Who would get someone excited just to leave. And my therapy wonders why I'm so iffy about relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:17 AM
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haha! I already have everything set up for when covid restrictions lift!! then I'm out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:19 PM
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I'm actually looking to leave this country to New Zealand. For multiple reasons obviously. My degree would get me a good job there , it's pretty but most importantly, it's the second safest country in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:05 PM
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Thank you for the indepth answer! I live around Atlanta and the crime here is on the rise. There have been 3 or 4 interstate shootings. These people were DRIVING when they were shot. They all happened within 2 weeks of each other. One day hopefully both countries see the need to invest in mental health. we can only hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:50 PM
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I dont live in the UK so I don't know the answer but why is crime up? also this case is horrendous and unbelievable. Police are suppose to be trusted but even they are killers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:36 PM
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After reading it, the one about having to be married or give birth for a woman to feel value struck with me. I'm not from an Asian culture. But very often I've been treated like a kid at work compared to someone who is also my age but has a kid or is married. I've discussed this with my best friend who also feels the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:14 PM
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I live in the "wonderful" state of Georgia. I was 16 when I was raped. He was 22. The consent maybe 16. But that's if the other person is within 4 years of that. She was a CHILD. what is wrong with people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:12 PM
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Shes gonna need more therapy after she leaves this fucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:10 PM
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I think I would deck any guy that tries to make my rape about him. She needs to leave him cause we all know he's not hurting. She gave him an excuse and he ran with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:08 PM
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The last part I talked about to my therapist. We're still working through it, but apparently it's a low self esteem issue. Because you are worth it. You are amazing. I've always had severe abandonment issues which lead me to being in an abusive relationship in the past. Now im focusing on getting my self esteem higher and know my own self worth.
/r/askFDS02/03/21 05:54 PM
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Maybe you should think about moving if he broke a window!! That's some scary stuff and could lead to more violence. I had the same feeling towards freedom when I left my abusive ex. It lasted unfortunately for years. I still occasionally get the feeling I need to check in immediately and then I realize I'm truly free to live my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:04 PM
5

Thats insane! even if I supported strip clubs I'd NEVER ask my siblings to go with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:42 PM
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I use to be a push over for a lot of things, but surprisingly when it came to strip clubs I always put my foot down. Don't beat yourself up over it! Just work on the future :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:35 PM
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Its a LVM friend so for sure easier to cut out of my life but still wtf!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 04:24 PM
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Why the fuck do Boys think I'd want to go to a strip club? No I don't want to go see naked women so you can feel better about yourself going because a woman went with you. You can't pout all you motherfucking want. It won't change my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:37 PM
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Oh lord. I hope they find their way to leaving these LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:09 PM
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Did these women buy the rings themselves too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 03:07 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you left your ex because that's some bullshit and you deserve 1000000% better then him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:10 PM
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My most recent ex would of just sent me "sorry" so it was a nice change of pace. Thanks! Of course the person who hit me has zero damage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:52 PM
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I've known him since high school so not completely new to me. But youre right! I'm going to keep vetting him and make sure I keep my heart safe. thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:51 PM
13

I can relate to that so much. I do my own car work and going into an car part store makes me want to bang my head against the wall. If I go with my brother then we're left alone but if it's just me I have a 10 min explanation on whatever I'm working on. My personal favorite is when a boy tells me I can't work on cars because I'm small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:48 PM
5

Thanks! I live about an hour away now! So I'm safe where I am :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:58 PM
5

nope! a long time ago when I was dating him his family kept tabs on me at all times SOMEHOW and would tell him what im doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:50 PM
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I really really hope this is just someone trying to get karma because if not holy shit she's going to need a lot of help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:04 PM
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I have! I look for my one exes car whenever I go into a certain town. Thankfully I moved 3 towns over so I'm fairly at peace. But last time I interacted with him he told me how he spotted me before and his family. it was unnerving know I was being tracked like that....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:00 PM
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I use to get really bad anxiety that I was gaining too much weight in high school. It took me forever to accept my body stretch marks and all. It horrendous the body standards for women. I wish we had the same sizing chart as men instead of what it is now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:21 PM
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Ah yes the unrealistic standard for women. I wish i could tell my younger self that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:18 PM
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Um. I had stretch marks at 18. This toxic thinking messed me up for so long. I was 110 lbs IF that and had plenty of stretch marks on my "perfect" butt. I've just recently been okay with just gaining any weight and having more stretch marks. This boys thinking is disgusting. I hate the sexualization of my body. I'm not overweight but I swear to God if one more person says I've gotten thick I will lose it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:24 AM
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That makes sense then lol Try philly jews (I'm joking) I'm sure their are HVM out there. just have to have patients for to find one and leave all the LVM in the dust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:22 AM
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One of my exes was raised by a single mom till probably 10 or 11. But even after she got married, he was treated like a god. His dad's whole family constantly praised him for doing nothing. Weighted on him hand and foot. it was ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:28 PM
6

Split second thought he bought you and your dog fresh pasta lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:22 PM
12

Hey! I saw a screenshot of this on cringetopia because apparently it's cringey to have standards and wants??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:08 PM
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Where are you finding so many Jewish men? lol In the souther US, it's kinda like a treasure hunt. One I don't participate in. Hard-core religious jews can be TRASH. I honestly don't try to get involved in them. I'd be considered a disgusting person to them since my mom is not Jewish. it's a very toxic culture. That being said, there are some HV ones. My dad chose love and married my mom. His family disowned him for like 15? years or so. He's been married to my mom for 30 years and wouldn't chang…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:25 PM
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I live in the south so it might be slightly more common of a comment here. It's an ethnic descriptor because there is DNA markers that only show up In jews. They stayed in their own groups so much so that their genes remained the same. Hope that helps. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:26 AM
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No. My mother never converted. My never converted either. It is very hard to convert to being Jewish. Growing up I learned about both but I'm not really religious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:18 AM
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Oh yeah. I would of given you the exact same advice! My dad is "technically" dead to his family because he married a catholic thus breaking the "pure" bloodline of being Jewish. Orthodox jews are just as toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:48 PM
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I'm not racially mixed but ethnically am (Ashkenazi jew) if I hear one more guy go "I've never dated a jew before" or all. the. God. damn. jew. jokes. I will explode. Sorry this probably doesn't belong in this post but it reminded me of it and I got mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:35 PM
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He makes dinner for her every night when she works otherwise they make it together (she's an over night nurse). Like he could be out and about on a Saturday but will be home by 4pm to have dinner ready for her at 5pm. My brother isn't an outwardly expressive person. We don't say I love you to each other its just known. But he makes sure to tell her he loves her every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:58 AM
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They gave me the first ring my dad bought my mom (their first valentines day) as my high school graduation ring. It was a small ring but its beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 11:24 PM
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Oh totally! I asked my brother the other day how he didn't become a fuckboi. He was slightly speechless but also said because our parents told him how to act like a passionate human being. Like how hard is that to teach boys today?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:49 PM
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My dad use to buy my mom rings constantly for anniversaries or just because. she eventually had to tell him to stop because she doesn't have enough fingers for the rings lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:46 PM
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Oh man I love that. My personal fav for me is when I'm working with my coworker and we find a bug in the system and it's HIM who found it. Not us. Just him. He always includes me in the solution part whether our boss says so or not because my coworker is a good person. But it still drives me up a wall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:56 PM
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I'm in the IT field doing as a DBA. This field is honestly super toxic. I love programming especially SQL and database stuff. I get paid 10k less then my male counter part who has the same title as me and has worked the same amount of time as I do. Him and I have discussed it before and he agrees I do more work. Even with my SQL skills and the fact I spend ALL my working time in it (creating reports etc), he gets to do the cooler more intense stuff. He is trusted more then be and it is clear as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:19 AM
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I live with my brother and his wife. We've always been close growing up. The rent is low so I can focus on paying back student loans. They're my support squad. My parents are 20 minutes away now too. I dont care what any man thinks. I'm close to my family and it will remain that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:12 PM
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Same! Then I have to tell all my friends my comeback to feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:28 AM
56

When I was paying my way through college, I worked at a deli in a popular southern super market... I asked this older man (probably 40s or 50s) if he needed anything else. He replied " I'd like to take you home and show you some things." And something about being a house wife. I'm awful at processing comments like these because I don't expect them. It just ended in me staring at him and him staring back at me until he walked off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:05 AM
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I think my parents did a great job telling me what a HVM is. They spent years telling me I don't need a husband or boyfriend to be successful, to follow my own dreams and to be me. My dad was heavily involved in my life, cooked every night, took me to sport practice with my mom. I still did stupid stuff because of outside influences but they've always stuck by their values even today. I think it takes time and a lot of talking to someone for them to see their worth. I typically am always there f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:53 PM
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I will be celebrating my dad's birthday on valentines day (his bday is the 11th). It doesn't sound like much but he made me into the person I am today. So I'm going to buy him flowers and just genuinely annoy the ever living shit out of him. (we have a thing where if one of us is drinking we try to make the other laugh). I'm excited to spend it back with my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:25 PM
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thank you!!! I blocked him that Friday and deleted him! I have NEVER felt more free!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:43 AM
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I was that teenager. I had a 21 year old grooming me at 16. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:58 PM
12

Ah yes. I wear short shorts because I want men to have sex with me. not because it's hot outside or because I paid for multiple tattoos on my legs that I enjoy seeing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:57 PM
5

I'm glad he wasn't harmed with a concussion and was able to leave that day! The car was ruined and when we went to get his mechanic tools out of the car, he saw his lunch (pizza) and I have never seen a grown man get so excited he had food still.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:41 PM
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My ex boyfriend had a similar experience happen. He's on the verge of being a HVM (going to therapy to correct himself). He got into a car accident, clearly had a concussion because he kept repeating himself. He didn't want to leave my side but I had work. Eventually got his dad to come watch over his concussion ass lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:34 PM
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I had a similar relationship. 3 years together 5 years separation then another 6 months. I blocked and deleted his ass last Friday. This sub helped me and askFDS too. I meant the guy when I was 16 and he was 21. Someone wrote that he was my child rapist and that really drove home how abusive and messed up the situation was. I feel so free right now. I bought myself an early valentine's day gift (opal ring) because I'm pretty sure his ass wasn't going to do anything for thay day. I'm glad you're …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:30 PM
12

haha. I posted that reply referring to actually clowns but then realized it could all mean pretty much any man since most of them are clowns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:54 AM
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I love your username. I am petrified of this happening to me and I would say 95% of the time my blinds are closed. No one is going to look at me. I'm also scared I'll look out my window at night and see a clown
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:33 AM
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haha the first time I said it by accident. and told him I had to be home by 10. didn't talk to me for a few years and then told me how much I crushed his ego saying that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:24 AM
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When a guy does that to me I always say "wow you were the quickest yet" and that always destroys them. You deserve more and especially someone who loves your body!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:21 PM
2

I unfortunately read the message because I use visual voice-mail to delete things and the app ACTUALLY for ONCE managed to transcribe the whole call. But I deleted it immediately and continued enjoying my Friday!
/r/askFDS06/02/21 04:09 AM
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Thank you!! I have a lot of people supporting me now! This subreddit is amazing
/r/askFDS05/02/21 11:54 PM
2

Hes already called me (went straight to voicemail) while I was out buying a celebration cake to share with my brother and his wife. He worded it so I sounded like the bad guy. But fuck it. I ain't his mother.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 11:33 PM
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Thank you! I actually did it around 9am EST time. Blocked his mom too from everything. Going to get a cookie cake to celebrate.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 07:43 PM
4

My brother knows some and all my friends. Is it really my right? I've struggled with that
/r/askFDS05/02/21 12:42 PM
5

I think im just going to block and delete. don't think he deserves a break up text.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 12:20 PM
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Thank you so much!
/r/askFDS05/02/21 12:19 PM
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You are so right. Reading these comments and messages from people has really given me the courage to just leave. I don't think he even deserves a break up text truthfully.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 12:19 PM
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I use to love working on cars and all he ever did was call me a ricer. Thankfully he refused to go to my house this time around because I have 3 lovely cats so he has no idea where I live. Thank you for the kind words. I think I just need to pull the bandaid off. He wasn't good then and he wasn't good now.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 03:14 AM
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