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I wish I could upvote this a million times!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:40 PM
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After I broke up with my first boyfriend who was a gamer I refused to date anyone that played video games. I’ve rejected guys because I didn’t like their music collection/taste. On the flip side of that I did date a guy because he had a rare cd I was looking for and I wanted to listen to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:26 PM
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That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever both genders have the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 04:50 PM
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It is though you said there are no attributes that make a women promiscuous except her decision to be that way. I said same with men. My argument is there are attributes that make both genders desirable to the opposite sex, the more desirable you are the more options you have. Both men and women that are desirable have the choice about being promiscuous or not you can be desirable and not be promiscuous it’s a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 03:30 PM
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I don’t think being treated as disposable is a sign of strength. I think men that treat women like that are assholes and should be avoided. It’s not wishful thinking you are correct that if you don’t value something you will treat it as disposable if a man dosnt value a women it doesn’t matter if he slept with 100 women or 0 he will still treat her as disposable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 08:56 PM
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Those men might not have the choice I said the men that have options have the choice if they want to sleep around or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 08:47 PM
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Sure a man can sleep around and gain confidence from that but that is not the only way to gain confidence there are also plenty insecure playboys
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 08:43 PM
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Confidence doesn’t come from sleeping around. Confidence comes from being secure in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:32 PM
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I agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:27 PM
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Again women aren’t actively attracted to cheaters they are attracted to the traits that cheaters might possess. Being treated as disposable isn’t one of them. There are plenty of men that didn’t have a lot of luck with the ladies that still treat women as disposable. These are the men that are having the hardest time they lack the qualities women are attracted to and have a fake til you make it attitude. They act like assholes and take on the negative traits of the successful confident man think…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 05:27 PM
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Bullshit! Women care about promiscuity especially women that choose not to engage in it. If confidence is the main thing women are attracted to then confident men will have more women attracted to them, therefore more options. It’s not that women are attracted to the promiscuity it’s the confidence. Men will date the shy girl sure as long as she is “hot” that girl will also have options being shy isn’t going to stop her from engaging in promiscuity if that’s what she wants to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:53 PM
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Same with men. The more desirable you are to the opposite sex the more options you have it’s up to you to make the choice about how many you are going to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:44 PM
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Women aren’t attracted to promiscuous men but they are attracted to the things that allow them to be promiscuous. Just like men don’t like promiscuous women but are attracted to the attributes that men find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 03:42 AM
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After 30 it’s a big problem but it starts to get weird around 25
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:09 AM
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I’m not sure doing research on tik tok is helpful. But I can buy into the possibility that women could have higher sex drives speaking only for myself I’ve had a higher sex drive then all of the men I slept with. But that might have something to do with the fact that I’m not attracted to overly masculine domineering men. Or the kind of men that thinks sending random dick pics is a turn on. That being said even with having a high sex drive rape is still horrifying. And it’s really upsetting that …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:31 AM
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This is it! I like being approached if it’s done correctly and politely like this. It’s all part of showing effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 06:42 AM
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It’s role reversed red pill. If it sounds ridiculous it’s because it is coming from anyone yet this line of thinking is being pushed by red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:02 PM
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(F) in my 40s I’m not that picky I only have 2. Definitely looks. Younger guys are just so much better looking. They have nice tight bodies and well developed 6 packs. They have a higher sex drive that can match my own and are usually more adventurous since they lack experience. It’s just scientifically proven that women’s sex drives increase the older they get so I don’t want an old impotent man. Dating a virgin is important because I don’t want to deal with the baggage and let’s face it I’ve n…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 08:10 PM
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Or maybe they do see men as people and do think housework is inferior and they don’t want either party to have that be their only existence and modern women want a truly equal partnership where both the man and the woman have to do the inferior and mundane housework so you don’t live in a shithole and both parties also need to provide towards the budget. And maybe the real problem is viewing housework as inferior if we stopped doing that and saw the value in having someone keep house and run err…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:12 PM
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This is the answer and I think this is the biggest problem with what is going on in the dating world now it’s more superficial then it ever has been. Top it off with people being less social and having less social skills it’s a recipe for disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 08:16 PM
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And this is why men gain value when they age it’s not because of money or security those are just bonus it’s the maturity they gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:55 PM
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I agree kinda, that is the decade I was in my 20s. The things that were better then in my opinion was there was no dating apps you did meet every potential prospect in person and I do think that was a huge plus. I personally was only single for a very short time I started dating my husband in 2002 when I was 20. Before that when I was single dating was in a sense easy for me in that I even then before dating apps I had a lot of options, but not many that I was actually interested in after gettin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:45 AM
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By that logic anyone who has ever lost a spouse had a failed relationship. I can’t think of anything more insensitive and horrifying to say to someone that was in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 01:24 AM
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I’m in an age gap relationship it’s lasted 2 decades so far none of what you said matches my reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:45 AM
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I’m in an age gap relationship and 2 of my friends are as well none of us were seeking an age gap relationship we all met the same as you through similar social circles. All of our relationships are happy, healthy and long lasting none of us are being manipulated and we didn’t go into it for money. I can say for myself I will never regret it I’ve spent the last 21 years with my husband and it’s been wonderful nothing like what it’s made to seem on Reddit. That’s not to say that I can see how it …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:34 AM
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I was told I need to get therapy in this sub because I’m a trade wife in an age gap marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 04:26 AM
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I completely agree with you that’s how I would describe Peterson as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:02 PM
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You are so correct I think what peterson was doing was a good thing. The way he was treated is exactly what opened the doors for people like Tate. In the same way some of these extreme mansphere ideas are hurting their cause the extreme on the other side is hurting them. A good example just 2 days ago in this sub I got told I have mental health issues because I’m happy as a trad wife, I just got a notification from Reddit that someone was concerned about me with a link to a crisis hotline if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:21 PM
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That second paragraph is spot on that describes every conservative man I know
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 03:09 PM
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Yeah I agree with that and I can relate it’s probably why I like him
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 05:03 AM
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I agree with this it’s always bothered me that Peterson, Walsh or any conservative man gets lumped into the same group as Tate and other actual slime balls not to say that some conservative men can’t be slime balls but so can liberal men it’s not a political thing it’s a douche bag thing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:48 AM
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Sure that can be true it can also be true that a guy will cheat on a 10 with a 4 it can also be true that a guy will never cheat on a 1. It all depends on what kind of guy he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:46 PM
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Yeah it’s interesting it’s something I’ve been dealing with for 20 years so it’s not exactly new
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:53 AM
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Yes and I was self aware enough as a 20 year old ADULT to know I wasn’t being groomed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:46 AM
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I’m very self aware I know I dont have mental health problems and yes we didn’t start out as a typical traditional lifestyle but we grew into it after 20 years and honestly I wish we would have done it earlier it’s awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:30 AM
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I’m a trad wife I don’t have mental health issues at all and my husband treats me like gold
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:19 AM
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If a man wants to pump and dump it doesn’t matter if the woman is a 1 or a 10 his motive is the same he isn’t suddenly going to want to commit to a 10 because she is a 10 in his mind if he can pump and dump 1 10 then he can pump and dump multiple 10s
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:16 AM
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If this sub gets permanently banned I’m off of Reddit completely
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:08 AM
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Yeah this blows I don’t ways agree with the viewpoints shared here but I think this is a really fair sub where you can express yourself if this is the direction Reddit is taking then they can suck a bag of dicks
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 03:59 AM
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We could just call them mouth breathing leg humpers if it makes them feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:53 PM
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But they do not directly but they do it’s how I found red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:24 PM
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You don’t have to see someone’s Reddit profile to know how they are when you are getting to know them in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:55 PM
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You shouldn’t care what I think I’m a random internet stranger. I don’t care if you change your tune I’m just pointing out that this kind of thinking is what make men undatable. If you are happy with who you are and are single and happy more power to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:49 PM
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I just read this and I’m going to have to agree with Lilith on this. You are very clearly showing the exact type of personality I would avoid. You guys are making all of this so much harder on yourselves. You are criticizing her for not having real world experience yet her real world experience matches mine. If you wonder why men are having such a hard time dating it’s this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:27 PM
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In my dating experience the looks of the man had nothing to do with their willingness to commit. It’s a personality type and why personality matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 03:54 AM
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I can say from personal experience that my relationship is perfect it’s loving, healthy and supportive as well. We have a strong connection and a ton in common. We have been together for 21 years and hopefully many more ahead of us. I was 20 when we stared dating he was 36, so a 16 year age gap. We are very happily married. He has morals he isn’t a creep he didn’t groom me he isn’t controlling. I wanted to be in this relationship as much as he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 03:22 PM
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Kind of but not really. When I was single I was dating a lot quite and yes a few at the same time. When I met the guy that became my husband I was also dating a few other people I had a hard time deciding between my husband and one other guy. I obviously went for my husband I did however on occasion wonder what my life would have been like had I went the other way. Even though I wondered about that I knew I made the right choice I can’t see how I would be more compatible with anyone else. So no …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 01:56 AM
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Reddit is the only social media I have. I never had Instagram I did have Facebook a few years ago but I got rid of it and it was constant on there. I do get dms and chat requests on Reddit more then I thought I would but not as much as I did with Facebook.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 06:42 PM
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Oh lord even that was fake this guy is a loser. I had no idea who he was until I recently started looking into the whole mansphere thing, I got instant loser vibes from him but it’s even worse knowing that his whole rocker image was fake as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:36 PM
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Yes I’ve dated one. I had a boyfriend that I wasn’t really physically attracted to he was overweight but had a kind face that made up for it. His personality is what attracted me he was kind and respectful and treated me like gold. But it was also his personality that began to turn me off although he was a really great guy he was also a gamer and that made him boring and predictable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:20 AM
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I’m sure his method has been about as successful as his dating life in the 80s. I have a feeling most of what he is selling about his life is the fantasy he built up of himself. He is just an old hair metal guy that thought he was Vince Neil and tried to be a “rock star”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:12 AM
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Women want to fuck other men as well wanting to do it and actually doing it are 2 very different things. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you will stop being attracted to other people. This isn’t a gender thing both men and women get befits from monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:26 PM
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Yes hope, it’s nice to see young people that want committed relationships over hookups. I personally like the trust, devotion, commitment and stability that comes from monogamous relationships, it’s a lifestyle choice. There is nothing wrong with any lifestyle choice as long as it’s not hurting anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:12 AM
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Well to each their own I guess. I would never be fulfilled with that set up but it’s not my life. As long as it’s working out for everyone involved and you all have fulfillment and happiness then it’s not bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:06 PM
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Well I wish you all the luck in the world ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:58 PM
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Ok I will give you that I also consider myself conservative but I know there are things I don’t completely align with either people are complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:41 PM
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How is being in an open marriage conservative?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:35 PM
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You give me hope for the future! it’s so nice to see this especially at you age and especially here. Best of luck to you out there finding the right one but with your attitude you probably don’t need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 06:34 PM
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Also a woman here I like Peterson as well I agree with him most of the time I don’t like that people put him in the same space as Tate
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:38 PM
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I have personal experience with this and from my point of view this is true. When I first met my husband who is 16 years older then me he had to work a lot harder then the rest of the guys to win me over.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:19 PM
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I understand the reasoning behind it as well and every woman has a choice to decide for herself the life path she wants to take. But to me this concept is just as predatory as convincing young poor men to sign up and die in the military.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:42 PM
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This is why I have a problem with modern feminism they are pushing this ideology and getting women to exploit themselves. Modern feminism is way more misogynistic then red pill will ever be. Jeffery Epstein would have never been as successful as he was without jizzlane maxwell. Women manipulating women into an industry that’s sole purpose is to befit men’s sexual desires while subjecting yourself to often dehumanizing sex acts for money is not empowerment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:39 PM
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This is just as disgusting as some of the red pill logic I read in here. I will never understand why women think being a sex worker is empowering if you don’t like the idea of one man using you for sex why make a career of it and have multiple men do it to you? You worry about looks fading and your partner leaving you but the chances of that are way less likely then the certainty of not being able to work in the sex industry after you age out and looks fade and what will you have to show for it …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:11 AM
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I didn’t watch the videos but I’m a traditional wife and I think there are tons of benefits to it I love my life and I love my incredible husband for providing it for me. But you absolutely have to find the right guy for it to work. If you are the type of person that views sex as something special and not just something you do because “it’s just sex” then having a low body count is a plus and always will be. It doesn’t matter if guys believe you or not those that don’t believe you aren’t worth y…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 06:43 AM
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Loyalty, honesty and trustworthiness, love, shared values, deep connection, excitement, sex and attention
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 10:16 PM
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This is such a nice post during purge week I’m grateful for this! I’m also grateful for everything in my life I have an amazing husband, great friends and a loving family life is good! I try to show my appreciation to all of them as much as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:09 AM
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the last 3 paragraphs are priceless nice job!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:50 AM
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Thanks 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:23 PM
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How do you become a mod and why would you want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:12 PM
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You guys are all right in this. Sure it dosnt take money to make a women naturally attractive that’s the key word naturally. But it is said all the time in this sub alone that there are so many things that can be done to improve your appearance both for men and women. Guess what though ALL of those things cost money. Those athletes that are dating women that make less are paying for them to look that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:40 PM
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There are many circumstances around this but looking at it from a very black and white perspective I agree with you. And since I believe in marriage and commitment I don’t believe in breaking vows you are supposed to be together in sickness and in health for richer or poorer so you make it work if something happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 12:06 AM
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I wish that would happen I think it would reduce hookup culture
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 11:56 PM
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I put them in order of importance 8, 10, 4, 7, 11 if I had extra points I would want to add these 3, 1, 5
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:48 PM
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Absolutely not I wasn’t fucking anybody during that time before I slept with my husband it was 2 years that I went without sex my standards are to only have sex in committed relationships every guy I considered as a sexual prospect I also considered as someone I would want to commit to and they all had to wait I never in my life gave it up easy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:11 PM
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My best and worst were from the same guy my husband. The worst I will say is because of me and the best was because of him. The worst: I will start by saying I’m a n count snob. I think promiscuous are gross and I like monogamy, I have a low n count and I want men with a low n count it is important to me. I never wanted to get above 5 that and never wanted to be with someone that had over 5. When I met my husband everything clicked he was as close to perfect for me that I found but nothing is pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:23 AM
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Yup I completely agree
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:22 PM
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I’m ok with a little flirting my husband and I are both flirtatious it’s not a problem anything beyond that though is totally unacceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:20 PM
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That makes it harder but since I’m not single and haven’t been in a long time the idea of making out with any man especially one that is below my husband is repulsive so the woman still seems more appealing if it’s just a fun make out session I would still want the more attractive person and in my mind it doesn’t feel like cheating. Now if I were single and looking I would probably take the guy if he was only physically unattractive and didn’t repulse me with his personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 11:10 PM
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I’m straight but if those were my options based more off of the personality traits then even the looks I would choose the woman. If that man was my only option I would become a lesbian.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:50 PM
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I got 11
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 05:21 AM
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Got my hair done earlier this week my nails are getting done tomorrow. I’m going to church tonight for Good Friday and making dinner when I get home. I will make a balsamic glazed salmon with truffle honey Brussels sprouts. Tomorrow night I have dinner planned with friends. Sunday morning is church again then I’m making brunch at home for me and my husband. For brunch I will make French toast with the bread I’m baking right now and lots of strawberries and whipped cream.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 07:10 PM
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Bingo I’m also in an age gap relationship my husband is 16 years older and he definitely had to work harder then the guys my age it’s not impossible if the attraction is there but it’s a lot more work
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 04:51 AM
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I’ve been wondering that to the way some of these guys describe themselves makes me wonder how many have deformities or if they just have body dysmorphia
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:51 PM
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The past matters it always does it does shape the present. That being said the past matters less as you get older. When you are a teen you don’t have a past yet all you have is future. When you are in your 20s you might have a small past but you are in the present so people in their 20s are really starting to form their pasts. That is why dating at that age sucks because you don’t know if the person has outgrown their past yet or if they want to. Once you get into you 30s it’s easier because you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 05:06 PM
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This is funny to me I went to catholic school when I was a kid we had to go to church every Friday morning but it was a Ukrainian Catholic Church so the mass was in Ukrainian my whole family speaks it but they never taught it to me so when I would go to church I never knew what they were saying so I never really learned religion and I still can’t understand Ukrainian so it was such a waste 😂 but I do still go to church on Easter anyway it’s the only time I go you can easily find a non denominati…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:39 PM
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I’m adjusting to my new haircut on one hand I love it my hair doesn’t get caught in my pants anymore on the other it feels too short
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:40 PM
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😂 she could
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 02:36 PM
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You need to meet the hypothetical women I created a few days ago 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:40 PM
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Super cute just don’t spend too much or get anything too big keep it simple but flowers on the first date is a huge plus extra extra bonus if you know what her favorite flower is and get that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 10:09 PM
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This is very nice I hope you are doing well 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 10:06 PM
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And ken was always just an accessory secondary to a good pair of shoes 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 06:51 PM
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For me it’s my partner as long as my basic needs are met (shelter, food, clothing, healthcare) I’m in a good place yes you need a job for that but it’s also much easier to get your basic needs met on 2 incomes. My partner shares my life with me we love each other and enrich each others lives and he brings me more happiness then any job I’ve ever had.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:58 AM
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Marriage literally is about being beholden to your spouse till death do you part if that gives you an ick then you are missing the point of marriage. When the point of marriage gives you the ick and you say divorces are wonderful it doesn’t sound like you are fully committing. But you are right weddings can be cheap but I still don’t know why you would want to do when you seem to be going into it with one foot out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 09:19 PM
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I don’t understand why you would if you are missing the point of marriage? What are the reasons for marrying if it isn’t going to be until death do we part? Weddings and divorces are expensive financially and emotionally why would you want to go through that if you don’t plan to fully commit?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 08:25 PM
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Then marriage isn’t for you and it’s good you know that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:44 PM
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Marriage is a beholden to me forever commitment that’s the point of it. divorce horrible sometimes necessary in the worst case senecios. but it’s still horrible it’s just the better horrible if the person you ended up marrying turns into a abusive monster.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 06:21 PM
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I wouldn’t even consider option B Option A sounds good romantic gestures are a plus and he sounds like a caring compassionate guy the bedroom stuff might be a problem it really depends on what you mean by aggressive is he not into aggressive (violent type) sex with weird kinks that’s good then option A sounds like a really great choice provided there is chemistry but if you mean he isn’t aggressive in bed as in he doesn’t initiate dosnt put in any effort and just doesn’t seem into it then option…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:48 AM
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Lol or really old and I don’t go online much I basically live under a rock
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:54 PM
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My husband did get to see the ramones though he has a set list from one of the shows he got to see all the great bands
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:18 PM
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I will check them out thanks I would have loved to be able to see the clash or the ramones I did get to see the Sex Pistols though but even that was weird Sid was dead at that point and Johnny was on an oxygen tank the whole time in between songs and that was 96
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:13 PM
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What the hell where can you still literally buy people unless it’s a service like prostitution I can’t see a virginal woman selling her virginity online is this seriously a thing and if it is how do you actually know she is a virgin it seems more like a fetish thing to me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:10 PM
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I’m not totally saying it is but you can even see it in this sub I was talking about it with cim zim yesterday
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:56 PM
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She would be a legend this is the way 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:54 PM
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How old are you? I was born in 81 and even I know by the time I was going to shows it was already drastically different from what my parents were doing i also didn’t get picked up in a Prius if my friends didn’t have a car we took the bus but there was less drugs and it was less dangerous when I was younger now it’s almost like cosplay with the kids now and the music changed to think of the ramones vs Green Day to I don’t even know what a current popular punk band is to compare
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:53 PM
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Well I promise you there is a rule for low n women as well all of the low n women I know in real life all went for low n men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:34 PM
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I don’t know about that I’ve been going to punk shows for at least 25 years now and I think it’s changed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:55 AM
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The music isn’t as good anymore though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 02:17 AM
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I do care a lot I’m a low count woman my count is 3 the first 2 guys a had sex with were both virgins my husband is the only guy I had sex with that wasn’t but I wasn’t either I knew his count before we had sex it is higher then mine but he is also 16 years older then me so I definitely took that into consideration it’s still low though his count came from long term relationships not hookups
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 12:16 AM
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If there really is a formula that could be the reason so many guys struggle with dating especially if they struggle in math
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:51 PM
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I don’t wrap my mind around it completely but I do find it interesting I didn’t know what most of this crap was now I do I’m not sure that makes me a better person or not I’m just now aware of the existence of red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:49 PM
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Ok so it’s m count now for heterosexual women so then as a heterosexual woman I care about a man’s (w) count
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:43 PM
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Lmao this is ever dumber then trying to change (n) count to (d) count now we are adding in weird made up sexual algebra to weird statistics to make up weird rules you guys have officially made sex extremely boring (well maybe unless you are an accountant and this turns you on)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:42 PM
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So it isn’t about the d count we can may that to rest it actually is an n count that guys care about
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:37 PM
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I’m newish I’ve been around here for a couple months and yes there are always exceptions I know I’m one of them on many things and not the best example but for most of the women I know a man’s virginity isn’t frowned upon until he gets to a certain age then it gets weird
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:36 PM
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But she has a d count of 0
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:33 PM
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Ok at least that is consistent thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:33 PM
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I’m going to sort of agree with you. I am a traditional conservative women not a virgin im married. I was living my life happily not know what the hell a red pill or blue pill was. But it found me in real life and I started digging into it and it lead me here. So here I am a traditional conservative women posting on Reddit because I do have the free time since I’m not working. I do question why I spend my free time here though summer is coming so you probably won’t see me much soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:32 PM
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Lmao how does that math work?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:24 PM
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Ok so if a guy gets a blow job he isn’t a virgin anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:23 PM
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Lol some women do I did
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:22 PM
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So then I’m that case they guy she is in the relationship with isn’t the alpha
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:21 PM
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Oh I agree most are hypocrites and inconsistent and I don’t care what they think so I don’t see it as justifying myself so much as sharing my experience and I don’t mind doing I can’t speak for anyone other then myself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:20 PM
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Ok not you personally since you wouldn’t want to commit to a woman that has this history but let’s say this woman was doing this because she likes it obviously and she didn’t want any dicks in her unless it was going to be in a committed relationship so she was getting eaten out but a bunch of hot chads some that were really good at it and gave her amazing orgasms but then she meets a guy she really likes and wants a relationship from him and he agrees they are now in a long term relationship sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:15 PM
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So if you got a blow job once that was your first sexual experience but never made it inside the pussy you you still consider yourself a virgin?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 11:07 PM
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So that’s probably one of the least misogynistic things I’ve seen here it’s ok for the women to get “pleased” as long as she isn’t “pleasing” men nice job you get a gold star lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:14 PM
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Also ladies should take note of this you get all the benefits of an orgasm without having to do any work and you can still have an n count of 0 it’s a win all the way around 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:11 PM
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Absolutely it’s nice to have such givers as you!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 10:09 PM
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Lol no they get to lower their count you are still a slut since you were giving oral 😂 I’m joking btw
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:57 PM
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See there are always grey areas there are no real rules to any of this just what you are comfortable with and what works within your own personal life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:55 PM
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Lol not that many people were marring young 20 years ago I know I am a different generation but I’m still an outlier for my generation
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:49 PM
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I agree with this I don’t judge the guys that say they want a low count women I understand that I like low count men. I don’t have any problem with how ever many people someone chooses to have sex with that’s their life but if it’s someone that I’m going to have sex with I need to know we think about sex the same way. I don’t want to be seen as a number I want to be seen as a person if I’m going to share the most intimate part of my life with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:44 PM
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I lost my virginity at 14 by the time I was 20 I had 2 partners my husband was number 3 he is the only guy I have been with in the last 20 years because I’m not a cheater and I’m not into hook ups all 3 of the guys I was with were long term relationships my brain is not broken lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:33 PM
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So look at my post a little bit further down what if a women never had a dick in her ever but she had 50 men go down on her and gave her amazing orgasms would she still be a virgin or an alpha widow and ran through?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:24 PM
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Thanks and I agree I do think oral on either end is a bit of a grey area but everyone is different
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:22 PM
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Never say never I know women that love that more then sex and would rather have that be their sexual experience
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:21 PM
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Lmao it’s a new thing now it stands for dick count because apparently that’s all that really matters to some of these guys its dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 09:19 PM
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I agree I really think it didn’t come down to gender in this case but lifestyle. If you don’t care about count number or engage in hookups that is a lifestyle choice that both genders live by. But people that are turned off by hookups aren’t going to be with someone that does it there are always exceptions to every rule but generally this is true. Low count women don’t want high count men I will say it again lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:24 PM
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QfM: I saw guys say they don’t care about N count they care about D count. So if that is true what do you count as sex is it just actual intercourse or dose that include blowjobs as well? If it also includes blowjobs because it’s still a dick how would you feel if the woman had absolutely no dicks in her but she was on the receiving end of oral? What if she refused PiV sex anal and bjs but she had 50 men go down on her and had mind blowing orgasms from it would that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:19 PM
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I was like that as well
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:10 PM
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I agree with this I’m low count when I lost my virginity I wouldn’t do it with anyone that wasn’t a virgin as well. When that didn’t work out I didn’t care if the guy was a virgin (but I did prefer it) but I was looking for 5 or less anything in the double digests was a deal breaker for me. The women I know in real life that are also low count have the same views. Low count women want low count men. When I was single I would have and wanted a virgin more then a slut. I will say though at this po…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 07:09 PM
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Well I think everyone wants more and I don’t think anyone should get brownie points for just having sex I think that is part of the problem. When you have the at least I got laid mindset a lot of times in the end you end up feeling used and unfulfilled. Like I said you sound like you are in a better place now and I’m happy for you i really do hope things work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 02:39 PM
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The little mermaid (this will always be my favorite and the reason I will never totally give up Disney unfortunately) Nightmare before Christmas Alice in wonderland Peter Pan Alladin Fox and the hound Malifficent Beauty and the beast The frog prince James and the giant peach
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 02:04 PM
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My husband and I are both animal people but when we met he was more of a cat guy and I had the dogs
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:09 AM
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That sounds horrible I’m sorry you went through that. Did you want something more from them or were you ok with just hooking up and leaving? You seem like you are in a better place now though so good for you I’m happy for you. I hope you get what you are looking for!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 11:11 PM
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As a 41 year old woman I’m not into younger men at all. I don’t have much of anything in common with younger people in general and I find I “vibe” with people in their 50s the most. But with that being said where I could see the appeal would be purely sexual younger men are more attractive and have higher sex drives. The way you described yourself is also appealing you seem to have your shit together so I can see how a single older woman that also has her shit together would be attracted and you…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 10:00 PM
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I think I’m more naturally feminine as well but I do have some masculine traits. It was always like that even as a kid so I think it is more nature. When I was a little girl I loved playing dress up and playing with my dolls but I was also more high energy. I would rather play with the boys because they looked like they had more fun climbing trees, jumping off of swing sets and doing tricks with their bikes I just wanted to do all that stuff with them while wearing a dress. Now as an adult I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 09:42 PM
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Oh I totally agree I get horny daily sometimes multiple times a day side note also why I think and agree that reactionary sexuality is bunk but again just because I have a fairly high sex drive and I know other women with higher sex drives that still dosnt mean they will just have sex with anyone they are still selective and it needs to be more then just I’m attracted to you or I’m horny to seal the deal where I think this hypothetical drug would help would be for women with low sex drives that …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:11 AM
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Large tattoos like a full sleeve are anything but impulsive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 10:19 PM
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I’m a women and I’m going to have to disagree with this. I find there to be a huge double standard among a lot of women in regards to age gap relationships and sex workers. I don’t understand why a woman at 18 isn’t mature enough to make her own decisions on who she dates but is mature enough to become a sex worker. In both cases the woman could be manipulated and used and cause damaging results. But there is a far better chance of having a healthy age gap relationship then there is becoming a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 06:33 PM
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That is actually my point I’ve had this conversation about being “sex positive” with a few people that use that term I asked them to tell me what it meant there was no real consistent answer the main thing they all said was something along the lines of not seeing sex as dirty or shameful. Some would go into something about not kink shaming I asked if there were any “kinks” they weren’t into and there always was but that was ok because they didn’t “shame” anyone who had those kinks. I then asked …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 01:58 PM
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I would have to say the girls I know not much they either don’t give it up easy but when they do they committed to the decision or the others have multiple partners with not much filter
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 03:32 AM
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I genuinely enjoy sex and have never done it under “circumstances” it was always an active choice and something I wanted to do
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 03:18 AM
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Professionally I feel like I’ve been taken seriously 90% of the time personally among friends and social circles I’ve been taken seriously 95% of the time while dating it was 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 01:15 AM
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There are always consequences to the choices you make in life no matter what they are and that includes hook up culture but it doesn’t include sex positivity because they are not the same thing. Being sex positive just acknowledges the fact that sex is and should be a mutually pleasurable experience for the consenting people involved no matter how many people you choose to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 04:36 PM
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All of the married women I know had a count above 0 before they were married myself included we all have happy monogamous marriages and 2 of us myself included have traditional marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:21 PM
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Sex positively and hook up culture are not the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:14 PM
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Exactly there are all kinds of people in this world there is no “right” way there is only a right way for how you want to live. I love your flair by the way!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:44 PM
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I agree to a point there are different mentalities behind hook up culture. There is no one rule to any of this but typically if you have someone with the mindset of using people for sex or trying to rack up a high number for an ego boost these people will have a hard time committing later or will cheat if they do. If you have the average person that is single not ready to get into a long term relationship and are occasionally having sex or hook ups once they are ready to commit their past usuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:27 PM
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It does not it works the same for both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:12 PM
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I think having such extreme rules and standards just makes everything harder. Now I’m not saying don’t have standards everyone should but this particular ideology is hurting these guys chances even more. They are already having a hard time dating because they are looking to have the best of both worlds they want to hook up now but can’t but they want to marry a virgin by the time they want to marry women in their age range won’t be virgins and it’s not that easy getting into an age gap relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 01:10 PM
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Finally some common sense why does everything have to be so extreme these days there is a middle ground and a grey area to everything
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:24 PM
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This is the best answer I’ve seen about this double standard
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 11:59 AM
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It’s better to have no experience then too much experience a virgin is better then a player. But the no experience is only good if it was by choice or having a good reason. If you have no experience but want to be a player but can’t it’s a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:26 AM
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This thread made me laugh and made me think of the movie Harold and Maude. But I have a very real life example of this I was going to write it in the post about grandparents but I think it’s way more fitting here. My grandmother got a divorce from my grandfather when she was 40. She never remarried and once she was “free” she started dating younger men. As long as I have been alive she has a always had multiple younger men around her doing anything that she asked them to do for her she used the …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:39 PM
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I agree men should initiate the first move and ask the woman out I also think they should initiate the first kiss but I personally like to be the first to initiate sex because that never happened until I was ready if a guy initiated it first it put me off I never cared about who paid for the first date every time I would go out during the courting phase I would except to pay for myself but most of the time I didn’t even if I offered as far as moving the conversation if both of us were not engage…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:59 PM
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Sorry I’m not ignoring you I have a bad sinus infection right now I’ve been very groggy the last couple days. I tend to agree with you I think what you wrote is important and what matters but I also think especially now everyone is way more superficial these days and that is huge part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 02:12 AM
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I don’t have a problem with all age gap relationships I’m in one and 2 of my good friends are there are creepy predatory guys but not all of them are and I think it’s insulting to call all men in age gap relationships pedophiles and the women as stupid childlike victims that don’t know what they are doing because of a frontal lobe or something yet women of the same age can enter porn and that’s empowering also my age gap relationship is 16 years I was 20 he was 36 I was attracted to him we are v…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:02 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 09:55 PM
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Yes so I think you have a good understanding of why women are picky and the kind of things they have to look for obviously everyone is different and are looking for different things but I think your answers are realistic and reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:46 PM
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Speaking as a traditional wife that actually lives this life and enjoys it I can tell you there are advantages and disadvantages to it but it seems so many people get those wrong. While I agree with a lot of what you said what “traditional” really means is monogamy and commitment that is the foundation all the gender role stuff is secondary. You mentioned that traditional relationships are stable and you can’t have a stable relationship without monogamy and commitment to each other. An example o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 08:30 PM
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I’ve ended on good terms with my first boyfriend but I wasn’t attracted to him anymore when we broke up for me the relationship was dying for awhile before I broke it off and it changed how I felt about him I know he was still attracted to me he did take it hard even though we were still friends and on good terms I did go to his wedding my husband was with me and my ex obviously moved on I wish I can say I’m still friends with him but his wife didn’t like the idea of us remaking friends so I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 05:12 AM
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This needs more upvotes what a great comment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 04:46 AM
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I don’t completely disagree with you but I’m a little hung up on the word strategy because when talking about it in this context it feels more like manipulation to me I think it’s one thing to have standards and a goal in mind and let things happen organically but once anyone starts saying I have a dating strategy here is the game plan if feels more like you are looking for an ego boost or to use someone rather then trying to just be natural
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:22 PM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:29 PM
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Thanks this makes sense you are very helpful 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:26 PM
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I agree I didn’t bleed at all when I lost my virginity and I don’t know any women that has but I do know it must happen since it is something that gets talked about a lot I just don’t personally know anyone that it happened to so it can’t be that frequent either
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:50 PM
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For me this I a little complicated I will start with saying I actually don’t think slut shaming is bad but I also don’t necessarily think promiscuous women are bad either here’s my take some people men and women have high sex drives and some don’t mind casual sex and that’s totally cool it’s the people that manipulate lie and cheat that are the assholes the ones that intentionally use someone for sex or lead them on thinking they have other interests in you besides sex but they actually didn’t t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:24 PM
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I really don’t think all women that are having casual sex are doing it for a free meal there are quite a few women that do enjoy sex and the ones that do and also have no hang ups with having sex with someone they just met are doing it because they enjoy sex same as guys that do it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:04 PM
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Oh wow that’s crazy to me and really hits home that I’m definitely not Demi I was getting crushes on boys when I was in grade school and I spent a lot of time wondering what my first kiss would be like
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 02:55 PM
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Thank you I might check it out just to get some more info I’ve been learning so much since I’ve been here it’s kinda fascinating
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:53 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:40 PM
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Thank you for this explanation I didn’t know what Demi was until I got here and I’m learning more about it the conclusion I thought is yes you definitely won’t have sex with someone you don’t have feelings for but you also aren’t sexually attracted to them either until you catch feelings so if you are capable of having sexual attraction without having feelings for someone you are not Demi even if you won’t have sex unless you have feelings for the person as well
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:30 PM
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When I was in high school we had a really weird mix of friends in our group there were Tom boys, girly girls, goth kids, gamers we didn’t have too much in common other then we laughed together I didn’t see much of a split in high school but I did notice more of a split when I got older I’m more on the feminine side and I noticed the Tom boy type women would put down about how I dressed if I wore heels or makeup they were just way more critical of me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:39 AM
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I see this as no different then guys in their mid 30s or older that slept around and now want to go after young girls to make wife material not all guys can do this and not all women can pull off the AF/BB and if either side is actually using these “strategies” chances are good you are going to get burned in the end most people that don’t do the casual sex thing are typically already in a long term relationship or married by the time they are in their mid 30s or if they are not they are turned o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 12:28 AM
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I agree thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 08:48 PM
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As this woman you have options as well could you stay faithful to this man knowing he is cheating on you or would you look for a better option
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:29 PM
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So then you think if you are looking for a long term relationship that could lead to marriage and that is your goal then looks are the least important factor
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:26 PM
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The numbers don’t surprise me and thank you so much for this because you seem to understand why women a so picky and that’s what I was trying to get at with this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:20 PM
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This is great thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:16 PM
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Well for this particular question about body count seems to be the question that men have given the most detail on and I’m not surprised that there have been so many that said they wouldn’t care about the man’s count or if he cheated on them ect I knew I would be getting a lot of answers where men were just building up this hypothetical girl to be what they were looking for and not actually trying to see it from a the girls point of view or why women are as picky as they are but I have been impr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:32 PM
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Ignore it he is being an ass
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:30 PM
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Would you honestly be happy with that arrangement you have options so you could pick a man that wouldn’t cheat on you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:23 AM
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I love these answers and I agree with you thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:21 AM
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Oh man that is a very different world I’ve been around that world a bit and it’s not the norm at all and none of them have low counts but your answer makes sense now and if you were this woman you you opt for an age gap relationship as your best option then
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:16 AM
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So if the mainstream is pushing against traditional gender roles and a women follows the mainstream wouldn’t that be compliance and a negative? If a woman chose a traditional role when the current social expectations are not to wouldn’t that give her strength and authenticity and be a positive? How would being authentic to yourself be going against your own interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:11 AM
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I can’t change you view on this at all as I agree with you completely
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:57 AM
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If he cheats he isn’t giving you his commitment though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:56 AM
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Contractors are in a great field handy guys should be in high demand and valued more I think it seems the meeting people is one of the biggest problems in this day and age I don’t think the apps help there needs to be more places where people can be social in person I wish you luck you seem like a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:50 AM
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So you would have sex and try to get into a relationship with someone that only values you for your looks and would leave you if he found someone better later on what if this man made you sign a prenup or didn’t marry you and then leaves you with nothing would you still be on easy street
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:44 AM
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From your perspective attractive women date men with a high body count so you wouldn’t filter that out if you were a woman do you think the attractive women that are dating those men also have a high body count? If you were a low body count attractive woman that didn’t want to add more to your count and wanted a long term relationship do you think a man with a high body count would be a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:40 AM
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So you would lower your standards and “settle” for Chad if you were this women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:28 AM
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Yes the man would have to have meet your expectations for what you are looking for but as being this women you have options so it would have more to pick from so what would be the most important thing you would be looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:25 AM
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Why would you date someone if they told you they didn’t want anything serious but you did
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:57 AM
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Is your sister in a happy marriage? Do you struggle with dating if so why do you think that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:56 AM
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This is the absolute truth
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:54 AM
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What if the wealthy guy was only interested in you because you were attractive and wanted to use you and not be in a relationship or would be in a relationship but would cheat on you would you care
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:53 AM
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So the beautiful women that date high count men are they’ll do they have a low body count or a high one
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:52 AM
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Do you think these women are doing it mainly for pleasure or because they think they can lock Chad down or because Chad is lying to them stringing them along and do you have a problem with this set up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:47 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:42 AM
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I agree thanks for answering
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:40 AM
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So if you fell in love you would be willing to settle on values? Thank you for the response
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:38 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:36 AM
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Would you have the same filters if you were a women looking for a man
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:31 AM
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Thank you I appreciate your answers have you personally struggled with dating if so why do you think you are
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:29 AM
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Thank you for this great response and thank you for taking it seriously by actually trying to put yourself in the opposite role how hard have you had it in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:27 AM
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I kind of do have a format I’m looking for literally just answer the questions posted
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:54 PM
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In this case you are the women and you don’t want to have sex with chads you only want to have sex if you are in a committed relationship you don’t want to add to your body count is Chad still someone you would go after if he has a reputation of sleeping around
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:53 PM
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Ok so you would want a low ish body count if you were a women especially because in this scenario you are a relationship minded women that dosnt like casual sex would you filter out men that had a high body count would think that the man would not be capable of committing to you if he had a high count as well
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:50 PM
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Ok you are looking way to much into this yes it’s an absurd hypothetical question can you look at it from a simple perspective and just think about what kind of man you would want to date what would you filter out for if you had options but didn’t want to sleep around
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:46 PM
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Ok would you have sex with the chads even though you value your low number and don’t want to add to it unless it was the right guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:44 PM
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Lol it’s not about trying to find the father of your children at 18 it’s about finding a long term relationship that could possibly turn into that not necessarily trying to do that at 18 what are you like now describe yourself if that’s what you would want in a man
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:42 PM
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Well this is the correct mature answer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:40 PM
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Don’t be so hard on yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:39 PM
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Did you read the post I’m assuming you are thinking they would just sleep around what if you were a relationship minded women that didn’t like casual sex you wanted to find 1 guy that you can build a life with what would you look for in that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:38 PM
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It’s not what women are looking for in guys it’s what you would be looking for in guys if you were a women. how picky would you be? if you had options what would you filter for if you were looking for a long term relationship? Describe your perfect man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:36 PM
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Thank you for this thought out answer I appreciate it. As far as the sexual compatibility thing I was thinking a long the lines of frequency like would you care if your partner had a higher or lower sex drive would that matter to you if you were unbalanced there? The social pressure thing I will try and explain with a few other questions Do you think people would try and play matchmaker with you if so do you think it would help or hurt? Do you think people would judge your choices and would that…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:33 PM
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I agree with you and there are a ton of factors that can cause relationships to go sideways I’m just curious to see what qualities men would want for themselves if they were in that position what would they filter for how picky would they be
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:54 PM
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Sounds fair
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:51 PM
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So nice cute and nerdy would be all that mattered to you nothing else
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:49 PM
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I want to see what men would look for if the tables were turned if they were the type of women they want what kind of man would they choose
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:42 PM
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I agree with this completely
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:40 PM
2

Ok fair answer but I’m the post imagine you aren’t a whore you are looking for a loving relationship what would you look for
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:34 PM
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So you wouldn’t filter anything out
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:33 PM
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I think there is a lot of truth to that I think a lot of what the men complain about in here with women only going for the most attractive most successful men and taking part in hook up culture is strengthening the patriarchy I don’t think it’s empowering women at all but I don’t think red pill is the answer for men either I think the way men talk about women in here is pushing women away further and it’s creating a bigger divide I know nobody likes hearing men need to do better I do think both …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:18 PM
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Yes looks are important for initial attraction if you are well below the bar you are going to have a hard time no matter what but if you are like most people average there are things you can do to enhance your appearance to help with initial attraction but you can’t keep a long term relationship if other things aren’t in place looks will get you hookups easy but hookups only last as long as your youth and looks do if you want along term relationship looks are not as important who you are as a pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 09:06 PM
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Women have high standards I know I did I was very picky men have standards to but I think by the time you are 30 if you haven’t figured out how to talk to women that’s more on you then women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:24 PM
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No I think red pill men get less sex and that’s why red pill exists and I don’t think it’s helping men I know most of red pill philosophy is a big turn off for me but honestly so is a 30 year old virgin there has to be something up with this man that he couldn’t have any success at all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:16 PM
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If any man approaches me in a polite no pressure manner I don’t find it creepy never have it gets creepy with how he handles the rejection if it’s a polite rejection and he calls you a bitch or insults you in some way he is a creep if you are in a position where you cannot outright reject and he can’t understand the social cues and it starts to turn awkward it gets creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:59 PM
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I’m not going to disagree with this but maybe modify it women may have a type they are physically attracted to I definitely do I would and have dated men that didn’t fit that “type” however I never would consider a man that didn’t fit my personality type
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:31 PM
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Looks are king if you are only looking for hookups yes that really is the only thing that matters if that is what you want but if you want to build a relationship with someone and build a life with someone then looks play a much smaller part
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 07:19 PM
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No looks make attracting people easier so it will give you more options in dating but it definitely isn’t the most important thing looks fade for everyone everyone will eventually become an old person so just because you are young and attractive if you can’t keep a relationship or build a life outside of your appearance you will still have a hard time
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:32 PM
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This is the truth your self worth shouldn’t be based on your looks but who you are and looking good will not always bring you a good life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:29 PM
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It’s not that I’m not listening or not opening my eyes it’s that I personally have never read a romance novel in my life nor have any of my girlfriends it’s seems like reading romance novels was something older women did generations ago I personally hate rom coms I would rather catch covid then sit though one my girlfriends on the other hand love them so that’s why I think it’s a better argument and I don’t want to turn this into “well just because I don’t do it means it doesn’t happen” but I am…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 02:08 AM
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I just want to say thank you for being here I also value traditional roles and I see the benefits of them I’m also a traditional woman in a traditional marriage but I definitely do not completely align with either side of this coin your complaints are the same as my own
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:25 PM
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The glass half empty thinking is what is driving this I think
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:12 PM
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This might be why it is going more mainstream or at least seems to be I didn’t know or experience these issues outside of the internet either until I did meet a couple of guys that had these weird ideas and it caused me to look into it further and that’s what brought me here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:10 PM
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This again I have a serious question do you guys all have the same script you are reading off of? I’ve never heard of a problem with women reading romance novels before I think you might have a better argument if you were talking about rom coms. This is the second time someone mentioned romance novels being a problem setting unrealistic standards for women before this it was all talking about women’s expectations for paying on a first date you guys are all saying the same talking points it’s wei…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:04 PM
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Maybe that’s why there is such a push for sex bots 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:39 PM
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I have been asking those last 3 questions since I’ve been here I would love to the answers
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:29 PM
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I’ve been just slightly longer than you and I have the same reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 03:27 AM
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I really like this answer
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:15 PM
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Lmao!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:14 PM
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You have just become one of my favorite people here 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 10:07 PM
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I see what you are saying you need to meet someone before you can take them on dates meeting someone is the first part of the hurdle but these are good places to try you could also try taking classes like cooking classes or something where there are people around and you can be social
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:52 PM
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That’s awesome I’m happy for you! I’ve been with my husband going on 21 years and I agree it’s nice knowing that you can look back on your life and it was always the same person by your side sharing your life with you. I was just thinking again about that generational thing and I don’t want to rag on the younger kids at all but there is so much that gets said in this subreddit about biology and human nature and looking back at how humans mate sometimes when I read these things I read it as if I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:49 PM
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I know the generational thing comes up a lot I was just talking about it yesterday on the video game thread I’m 41 I’m in an age gap relationship of 16 years because I couldn’t click with guys my age and I’m just grateful I’m as old as I am now because so much of what you said is true
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 09:14 PM
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You know how to date guys should listen to you 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 08:59 PM
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It is bad out there and has been for at least 2 decades I think video games ruined a lot of men well that and porn but it kinda seems those 2 are correlated
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:21 PM
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Even though I did think that I couldn’t be that mean to him we split on really good terms he was a really great guy and a great catch for someone that appreciates gamers and I was really happy he found her they have been married for over a decade at this point and I went to their wedding
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:56 AM
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You are not underestimating it and I think that is a big reason my position is rare I found when I was in high school the girls didn’t like it very much then either but many “settled” and learned to deal with it and now you have girls that grew up with it to and there are girls that are into it I also noticed that is where this divide between “chads” and “betas” grew the guys that didn’t play video games went where the girls were and they really had their pick because the rest of the guys were i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 05:53 AM
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You can say that if you want but it was my first relationship I was 14-17 when we were dating and it wasn’t what I was excepting a relationship to be like it was all we did “together” he wasn’t really interested in anything else I was way more social and I did start to entertain myself but every time I would try to include him it was a battle to get him away from the games we weren’t compatible but that was like 25 years ago I did find someone that wasn’t at all interested in video games and he …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:21 AM
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It’s a major ick for me it wasn’t a big deal when I first started dating and my first 2 boyfriends both played video games my first boyfriend was a major gamer the second only did it occasionally so it wasn’t that big of a deal but I still didn’t like it after being in a 3 year relationship with someone who was more focused on beating the next lvl of whatever game instead of going out and living life I was constantly bored but that was in high school once I graduated and was single that became p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:03 PM
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I’ve never had casual sex so I can’t compare. I’m the more ‘demanding’ one in the relationship I have the higher sex drive. I would feel satisfied with 3-4 times a week but I don’t put pressure on him we go according to his schedule because the sex is better that way I would rather have quality over quantity so we do it around once or twice a week. He makes up for the lower libido with physical intimacy and he still flirts with me and makes me feel sexy and it builds up for a great time for when…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 08:20 PM
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I am his lover, his best friend, his support system, and his comfort and contentment We both work hard to make each other happy. We are both always there for each other, we celebrate the good times, and we know we can endure the bad ones we always make it through. I can try to summarize what he said to me on Valentine’s Day. He told me that he loves at the end of a stressful day he can come home and I give him peace and joy. When everyone wants something from him all day and has demands from him…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 07:58 PM
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I’m not sex is really important to me I do enjoy and desire it I don’t think it’s disgusting evil sick or twisted but I have no need to “call out” other women that have a different libido then myself
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:25 PM
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Yup I tell that to the women in my life as well it’s no different
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:24 PM
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Yeah like spending any time on any kind of social media it’s all a huge waste of time and it’s why i barely did it and why I got rid of the only other social media account I had which was facebook
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:23 PM
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I give the same or similar advice to the women I know
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:21 PM
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This is not making me feel better it’s honestly just turning into a waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:19 PM
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I don’t go into those subreddits I try not to spend too much time on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:18 PM
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Nope not at all I already feel really good about myself and my life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:15 PM
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I agree everything starts with yourself and all you can do is try to stay happy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:14 PM
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I completely agree with all of this no a positive attitude is not going to change your genetics and yes I’m not going to deny that looks play a role as well but you can change your attitude even when you can’t change your looks and it will help and yes I totally understand that some people need words of encouragement and a little push to make themselves feel better because they can’t always get it on their own
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:12 PM
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Again I get it life is really shitty sometimes and it’s more then normal to have negative feelings about situations just don’t let it make you bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:09 PM
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Also this goes for men and women if you read the original post this isn’t an attack on men and what do single moms have to do with this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:06 PM
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I’m not trying to discount anything but I think if you have a negative view of yourself it’s not going to help you talk about lived experience and just about everything I post comes from either my lived experience or people I’ve known through my life and what I know they experienced when I wrote this post I had a person in my life in mind it was one of my guy friends from high school he had a hard time dating even though he seemed to have everything going for him the only thing that was holding …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 08:05 PM
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I get told I make things too complex as well I can relate to that and yes I’m older to so I see things similar to you I just try to make the best with what I have
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:55 PM
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Yes it is definitely a joke I thought the laughing emoji expressed that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:51 PM
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I don’t know how it can be solved if I did I would fix it but I think it starts with exactly that realizing that “perfect” doesn’t exist everyone has flaws you can try to change them if you feel those flaws are what is holding you back but it’s also important to realize everyone also has strengths and to build up on those so many people are beaten down and broken that’s why they don’t want to take the criticism and see it as negative and think you are beating them down further
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:07 AM
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Yes I think they have a negative view of themselves because of the unrealistic expectations they have of how things work because they are not Henry whoever and can’t get Instagram models they think they suck
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 02:34 AM
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Thank you! And I think this is a great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 02:11 AM
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It might be circumstance or it might be attitude I know it’s easy to get a defeated mindset when things don’t go your way and yes I didn’t have any problems in the dating arena that has been the easiest part of my life so I don’t understand the struggle in that department but that doesn’t mean my life was easy I just didn’t let my problems hold me back I don’t know anything about you but I do know if you keep holding yourself back it’s not going to change
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 02:10 AM
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I don’t think everyone has an extreme attitude but I do think a lot of people have a negative view of themselves that start to hold them back
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:39 AM
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Everyone has their struggles this is mine at least I used some punctuation this time instead of just blindly typing like I normally do 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:36 AM
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No it is everything but you do have to have realistic expectations and outlooks a positive attitude is not going to change certain things that cannot be changed but you can’t let the things that you cannot change hold you back be positive about the good qualities you have and build on those and change the things you don’t like that can be changed things will start turning around if you aren’t willing to even try because you have a negative attitude your situation will never change
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:35 AM
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I think the same rules do apply to men that’s kind of the point of this have a positive attitude don’t take rejection personally learn from your mistakes grow as a person and find someone that values you without caring about the opinions of the people that don’t matter in your life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:30 AM
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I did not know this that’s terrible
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:25 AM
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Well if you don’t have a positive attitude and can see yourself achieving your plan you will lose motivation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 01:24 AM
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Yes this is true and if you are struggling to even get in the game there are things that need to be addressed what is it that is causing the problem why can’t you get on women’s radar so to speak that takes self reflection to figure out what the problem is before it can get addressed but if you think you are shit and everything around you is shit and you give up you are setting yourself up for failure
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:53 PM
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Yes it’s exactly this!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:36 PM
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Maybe fat phoebe dosnt give a fuck that you rejected her because she has a positive attitude and she knows her worth and she will find someone that appreciates her
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:34 PM
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Ah I see I’m not trying to dismiss anyone I do think there are some valid concerns and frustrations and yes you can be miserable and still get women but it probably won’t last because getting women isn’t what you are missing that is making you miserable or maybe you aren’t getting the right women because you are miserable and it’s making it worse I don’t know I do think some of these concerns should be addressed seriously but I also think some of this mindset is part of the problem like I said e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 10:31 PM
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Ok I’m going to agree with some of that I don’t know Robin Williams and I’m going to assume you don’t either so we can only look at it from the outside and yes no one was able to save him from himself but if he didn’t see some value in himself and didn’t build up his strengths and just gave up early on he would have never achieved the success he did obviously and unfortunately he wasn’t able to maintain it for reasons none of us will never know maybe he his success wasn’t the kind of success he …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:39 PM
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Again everyone has their own struggles most of the time you don’t know about them that’s why you can’t judge your own life by people that seem to live on “easy mode”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:11 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:10 PM
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It’s 3 it’s not a question I get asked by men but I’m sure it’s also because I’m not in the dating market my husband knows it came up in conversation with my girlfriends once so they know and I have no reason to lie about it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 08:21 PM
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You should try Rush, Placebo and Jack White
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:50 AM
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I completely understand what you are saying but I think all of those reasons you stated make women slower to commit I know that is definitely true for me it took 10 years of a relationship before I got married and another 7ish before I took on a traditional role and like I said that was never the original plan it is important to have a back up or safety net of some sort in case things to go south but that is the same for anything nothing in life is guaranteed life happens the economy can crash y…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:57 AM
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I will start by saying I’m a 41 year old woman I think men watch porn as a visual to masturbate same as some women my opinions on porn have changed through the years I will start by saying I remember when the internet came into our lives in the mid 90s I said this then and I say it even more now it’s too damn easy for kids to gain access to it I wondered then what would happen to the kids that were exposed to it during childhood and we are starting to see the results of it now with some of the t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:48 AM
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I am not on birth control and haven’t been in about 11 years I’m married I have been on birth control in the past and it was only to prevent pregnancy I never had a good experience with the multiple forms I tried I started with the pill and that changed my periods I’ve always had very mild very regular periods that lasted about 3 days with minimal cramping but after I started the pill my periods stayed regular but the cramping got worse they lasted longer and gave me a much heavier flow on top o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:47 PM
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I completely agree with everything you said
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 07:07 PM
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I’m also a woman and nothing about the above view of traditionalism is appealing to me either and if that is what is being pushed as traditional I wouldn’t want it for myself or any other women however I am in a traditional marriage I stay home I cook I clean I take care of all of the household responsibilities my husband works and pays all of the bills I do not find it degrading because my husband respects me and never pushed me into it he never felt like it was “my role” to do this so we didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:08 PM
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Yup definitely had a party phase it probably started as a teenager and I haven’t really stopped yet but it has slowed down in the last 3 years so it’s been about 25 years now I did it an doing it because it’s fun I’m not a huge drinker I mostly just very much enjoy going to concerts and hanging out with my friends my husband was in a band so we did the whole tour thing so we were in a “party” environment frequently no I never had a hoe phase I never participated in hookup culture I have been wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:19 AM
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This has been my exact take on what a lot of men in here view as traditional as well
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:47 PM
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Yes I get that a lot as well or the new buzz word I was “groomed” into it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:43 PM
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I’m a traditional wife I stay home I cook I clean I take care of the house I don’t have kids my husband works and pays for everything I appreciate that he takes on the responsibility of providing me with a wonderful life and I respect him enough to make sure everything is taken care of for him when he gets home I want to make sure to ease his stress since I live basically stress free because of him I want to be the reason he feels like all the bullshit he has to put up with at work is worth it h…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 01:04 AM
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I like this post I’m sure I could come up with a list however most of what I would say all comes down to 1 thing and it goes for all people it’s not gender specific but I will use a gendered example to fit the question but the 1 thing I think it all comes down to is respect treat others as you want to be treated example if you are a women that wants to be “simped” over then you need to simp it you get what you give
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 12:13 AM
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Yes I think sex and physical intimacy are 2 different things and both are necessary and at least for me the best sex I’ve ever had was when I had both No absolutely never but I have a high sex drive I wanted sex more then 2 out of 3 of my partners and I felt like one of them was giving me duty sex and it is part of what caused the relationship to fail No and honestly I can’t even imagine feeling like that This one is a bit tricky but no I don’t think men should want sex less again I have a high …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 11:11 PM
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Ick is definitely a feeling of repulsion once you feel it you start to think that you can’t get away from the person quick enough I typically respond to it by giving short answers and try to avoid engaging in further conversation some things that cause it for me are A stranger staring at me too long like stalker ish type staring Bravado or arrogance when you can tell the guy is actually really insecure but he is trying to over compensate for it these guys usually brag about their accomplishments…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 12:47 AM
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You have only been with her a month and you are trying to change her it doesn’t sound like this is going to be a healthy relationship and yes you come off as extremely controlling
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:07 PM
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I kinda think this depends on how high the sex drive of your partner is if you are in a relationship with someone and are already having sex you don’t need to “remind” them of how sexually attractive you are and they will still want to have sex with you but if her sex drive is lower then she won’t want to have sex with you as frequently as you want it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 10:59 PM
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I am honestly blown away that this is seriously being discussed and no I don’t think you can have a meaningful relationship with a robot anyone that thinks this is a real option has definitely never been in love and probably never even had real interactions with the opposite sex and maybe for those people this can be a poor substitute but it will never replace the beauty and complexity and humanity of being in a relationship think about when you first meet someone you like you get the jitters ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:17 AM
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I also don’t think a high count is inherently wrong but I do see it as a huge red flag for me I see it as a character flaw it seems to me that most people men and women that do have a high count do it out of narcissism it’s an ego boost to show off sexual prowess and get bragging rights they are using the other person or at times the 2 are using each other not even for sexual gratification at times just more so they can say they got laid the more people they can sleep with especially if they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:10 PM
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Thank you 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 06:48 PM
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I think we read this post the same way I completely agree with what you are saying
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 06:40 PM
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So this was never about romance novels this post is about AI porn but I’m willing to bite at this you very well could have an augment that romance novels could devalue sex and intimacy in the same way porn does it might even be the cause for some “dead bedrooms” if the man isn’t living up to the woman’s fantasy however there are at least not that I’m aware of support groups for women that are addicted to romance novels women engaging in that fantasy isn’t overtaking and ruining their lives just …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:53 PM
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You couldn’t be more wrong on that so let me explain no I don’t have a problem with nude photos or paintings or whatever I also have no problem with whatever anyone finds attractive so it’s not even about that I think it’s normal and healthy to be attracted to women and honestly in some ways I think AI porn can be better for women I would much rather have an AI model doing gross degrading shit to fulfill some weird fantasy then to put an actual women through it just because she looks the part bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:24 AM
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Thank you so much I appreciate it I’m trying sometimes this place and the things that get said pushes me further away and I have to question why am I wasting my time but from time to time I see posts like this and I can’t help but want to just give someone a huge hug and say everything is going to be ok
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 03:22 AM
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I actually completely agree with this and now after Covid so many more of those third spaces are gone it’s really sad and you are right the problem is definitely beyond social media and apps I think these problems have always existed but they weren’t as extreme the best way I can put it is it’s made the difference between the haves and have nots like I think the people that are more social/ have good social skills and being reasonable attractive also helps but those people apps and social media …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 11:45 PM
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I will tell you I was a “normie” woman a few months ago I really didn’t know how bad the struggles are for some people or how bad things are now I haven’t been in the dating scene for a long time now so it wasn’t a concern for me it wasn’t a problem I had to deal with it wasn’t that I didn’t care it just wasn’t my problem after being in here I can see obvious reasons why some are struggling just by what their view points are but there are some I genuinely feel bad for I could imagine putting in …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 09:43 PM
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I get the same reaction when I bring things up from here in real life conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 09:23 PM
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This is just getting creepier and even more dehumanizing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 07:28 PM
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Because sex is really special to me it’s the ultimate connection you will have with someone it’s not cheap or meant to be given away to anybody just because I’m sexually attracted to them sure the desire is there but the sex would be meaningless and hollow even if it was physically good I would feel emotionally drained I’m not capable of having sex with someone and then moving to the next as if the first person didn’t even exist it feels shallow and dehumanizing if I’m going to give that part of…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:02 PM
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Why isn’t pat in jail?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/23 05:54 PM
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This is a great point
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 04:37 PM
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Has no one thought that women could be dating other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:10 PM
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I love everything you are saying and I think it’s true this movement is so superficial and looks and status based and pushes the hookup culture they say they hate it does absolutely nothing to help improve on finding a long term relationship or finding actual meaningful experiences which is what so many people are truly lacking this isn’t making better men or a better society like they preach they are trying to do it’s giving them tools to allow them to be successful in the superficial hook up s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 05:17 PM
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I think it’s a totally reasonable expectation if your relationship is completely shallow and meaningless but then that means the man has to stay totally fit and he better not go bald
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:52 PM
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I love the way you broke this down I’m one of the outliers in your post I’m in an age gap marriage there is a 16 year age gap between me and my husband we started dating when I was 20 but going by your breakdown I was not interested in older men I wanted to date someone my own age the most important thing I was looking for was character I don’t know what monkey branching is I’m going to assume it’s dating multiple men I never did that once I was in a committed relationship but while I was single…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:07 PM
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I don’t think my husband or any sexual partner I’ve had is responsible for giving me an orgasm however if he isn’t into trying to make it a mutual pleasurable experience it’s bad sex and not worth having
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 08:43 PM
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For the most part no I won’t wipe a smile off of my face I try to be upbeat and smiley at everyone especially babies but I also really love when men hold doors open for me if a man does that I will always give him a huge smile and a thank you I try to encourage that I think it’s good manners the only time I will wipe a smile off of my face for a man is if I’m alone not many people are around and I get a “vibe” or if he is aggressively staring at me to the point where it makes me uncomfortable it…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 08:10 PM
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Only in a fantasy world
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 05:23 PM
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I don’t hate men I have wonderful friendships with many men and at times it’s easier for me to make friends with men instead of women I cherish the men in my life but there are certain types of men I don’t like I wouldn’t say hate but I definitely don’t want them in my life but that goes for women to
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 05:05 PM
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Welcome I agree its nice to see people like you in here it gives me hope
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:43 PM
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This is an interesting question I’m going to assume since the parallel universe isn’t described in detail that instead of being born female I was born male in this current universe there are so many opinions in here that women have it easier however it seems the men in here are pining after Chad more then woman because they know men actually have it easier but in their minds only if they are a Chad now on one hand I wouldn’t want to switch because I love the way my life turned out and I wouldn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 05:31 AM
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Well this was about the courting process and that is typically up to the man to start it especially in a traditional courtship women will become romantic back if she has interest in the man
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:18 AM
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I just really found out about it recently this sub was my first real experience with it and I got here during purge week so that started me off with a real bad taste in my mouth I’m glad it’s more rational now. I don’t spend much time online if any really my Reddit account is fairly new so I was blissfully unaware of all of this until now. What lead me to start looking into it was real life conversations I was having with people I’m very traditional and I’m mostly conservative so these people I …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:55 AM
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Thank you! I hope yours is wonderful as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 11:06 PM
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Lmao this was great I was in tears laughing your creative writing skills are top notch
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 09:11 PM
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To keep it simple just reread the first paragraph of this post it’s not about male dominance or female dominance for that matter either it’s about recognizing the difference between masculine and feminine energy and knowing they are different but equal and they compliment each other it’s about balance on dominance I could go on and it’s definitely not the most detailed but it’s the basic idea
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 07:25 PM
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I’m going to completely agree with everything you said first off your original post is perfect that’s exactly how I see it as well and I’m also going to completely agree with the point you are making here just from what I’ve seen in this sub should be enough to prove the point you are making since I’ve been in here I think I’ve only seen 1 comment from a man that seemed to have the right ideas of what a traditional man really is most of what I’ve seen is exactly what you described
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 03:14 PM
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I’m a traditional woman that posts on Reddit I do think it’s worth it and I have an extremely happy and fulfilling life but I also happen to agree with this post it is extremely risky because there really aren’t enough men that are worth the risk
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 02:11 AM
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I love this so much in so many ways my husband and I hold hands when we go to sleep at night to 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:41 PM
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I’m gonna use this as tool to start drafting my Valentine’s Day card to my husband so thanks for giving me a head start these are the things I love about him He brings out the best in me and I do him we are both givers and want to make each other happy and support each other in good times and bad we don’t take each other for granted and we both appreciate every thing we do for each other can you imagine a love that is so proud it never has to question why or how He has no sense of entitlement wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 07:31 PM
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It’s easy to keep attraction and interest alive for a really long time if you were compatible in the first place if you share the same interests and have similar personality types keep it fun and spontaneous but communicate so it builds to a deeper level
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:49 AM
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I’m going to answer your question first and say I’m not sure this is always going to be the answer I know someone that tried this and after a couple times it still didn’t work out But I want to comment that I love how you are talking about traditional men the way you put marriage and family first and the way you speak about the beauty and importance of it makes me smile but my favorite part is how you view the difference between masculine and feminine energy and how they are different but equal …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:21 PM
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Lmao I warned you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:11 PM
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Yes that’s exactly how I feel that’s kinda what I was getting at the women that are wanting long term relationships and marriage tend to be more romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 03:01 PM
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You absolutely get it nice job!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:40 AM
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Ok so this is just how I see things don’t take any of it at gospel I’m going to take this way back before I was even born to the sexual revolution because that’s where I think every thing went haywire now I don’t think it was all bad feminism back then was a really good and very necessary thing it did give women more opportunities and gave them equal footing so they were given the choice if they wanted to become housewives and mothers or if they wanted to do more with there lives then just be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 12:35 AM
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No problem let me take care of a few things and I will get back to you later today
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:18 PM
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If you really want me to go into detail I will but it’s going to be long a wordy and I will have to do it later because I don’t have the time to really explain right now
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:12 PM
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You can say thank women for it all you want but I also understand how we got here I’ve always said if you want to understand where we are now you have to look where we came from and sorry but men played and are playing a really big part in this
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:07 PM
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Look I’m just gonna say like I just did a minute a go I’m not a fan of hook up culture at all I think it’s gross and I don’t like when either gender does it but its not my life to fuck up if they want to do it let them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:04 PM
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Yes I’m not a fan of it personally I think it’s gross I’m definitely team monogamy but I try not to judge other peoples choices if that’s what they want to do but I think it’s obvious hook up culture isn’t helping anyone find happiness in the long run
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 08:02 PM
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Definitely not insinuating gender now where it isn’t a douche thing is if both the people know ahead of time through text messages or whatever that the first “date” really is just meeting up to hook up then good on you guys you do you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:58 PM
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I get hit on by men constantly so yes it’s very much by choice
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:54 PM
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If you have talent it will definitely help you I know when I was younger I had a huge crush on a guy that could draw simply because of his talent he was also a really great guy I tried so hard to get his attention but he was very much a loner and wanted to stay that way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:09 PM
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If you except sex on the first date you are a douche
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:07 PM
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Lmao ok I literally spit out my tea with the bad boy Bobby scenario thanks for the laugh I do like what you said about it having to be natural though I think you hit on something there. some of these techniques that get talked about in here do have some basis of truth I will give a personal example in a minute but the problem is when it starts to become textbook and these techniques start to read like some kind of manual that you have to study because it’s the absolute truth it starts to turn in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:04 PM
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Letters are more personal then text messages
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:48 PM
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I’m sorry that happened Covid really fucked things up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:46 PM
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For the guy that broke up with his girlfriend no I don’t help him I view what he is dealing with as karma my cousin on the other hand I haven’t given up on he never tried to screw anyone over he is just shy and insecure and as far as Jordan Peterson goes I actually really like him I don’t agree with everything he says but he is not in the same lane as Andrew Tate he isn’t even on the same road I don’t think those 2 should be lumped together Tate is a vile disgusting human being
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:12 AM
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Let me ask you this about dread game does it work if genders are reversed? Will a man “get better” or try harder to be better for the women if she got a lot of attention?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:03 AM
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I agree with that there are things in the feminist movement that I also have problems with it is a collective problem and just like conservatives vs liberals both sides are just becoming more radical it’s not good
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:00 AM
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Do you think it can change?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:50 AM
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I completely agree with this I can see how social media can suck you in I’ve spent way more time on here in the last 2 months then I probably have in my entire life I need to put down the phone and get back to real life soon. You seem like a really outgoing person that has the right ideas I hope the best for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:50 AM
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Do you think this is working? Do you think people are happier and having more fulfilling lives living like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:28 AM
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I love this post the pine cone thing is so adorable it makes me happy to see younger people that still do things like this thank you for cheering up this post! Do you think if people got off social media or at least used it less it would help with dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:26 AM
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I was more trying to see what women are looking for or how they would respond I completely agree guys can’t be weird about it there are so many things like love bombing that I didn’t know was a thing so I’m starting to see even more what the problems are
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:39 AM
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I love this so much this is exactly what it’s about thank you for sharing and congratulations!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:35 AM
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That’s so sweet I said earlier I think the lgbtq community definitely is doing relationships better these days
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:57 AM
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That’s not romance that’s fake like almost everything on social media real romance is very intimate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:53 AM
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I agree with this and it comes from personal experience my first boyfriend was a gamer i broke up with him because that was all he wanted to do which sucks because he really was a great guy but he did find a gamer girl and they got married so it is possible to find girls that are into it you can see them in this thread but for me after I broke up with him I refused to date anyone that played video games that was a major turn off for me they all had the same personality and it really clashed with…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:52 AM
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Well that’s part of the problem these guys are lonely and depressed and say they just want someone to love but they only want the hottest girl to love so they treat the girls they get like crap and wonder why things are the way they are if I were single in the dating game right now and my choices were a “chad” that’s going to treat me like shit or an average guy that treats me like shit I would warm up a cup of tea and sit home with my cats and be totally happy with that situation
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:24 AM
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This is terrible what makes you think her husband doesn’t think she is beautiful
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:05 AM
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That is not my experience sorry I gave you the example of one guy I personally know and have known for decades that literally did what you are saying women do he dumped his loyal virginal girlfriend on the hope he could have sex with someone better looking he blew his chance and really hurt the good girl he had and now he thinks women are to blame for something he did in his case if all he wanted was to be loved he had that as for the other guys most of them never even tried they just assumed th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:22 AM
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The few I know in real life fit that typical gamer stereotype they spent and based their entire lives around video games 1 of them had a great relationship with a great girl that was very loyal to him and she was attractive no super model by any means but she was pretty he dumped her to go after the hot chick that flirted with him one night because he thought he had a chance with her it devastated his girlfriend who thought she had a great guy but it turned out he was just another “bro” the hot …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:50 PM
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Some of that shame and ridicule comes from how they act though they say one thing and then act a completely different way and actually come across very threatening
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 11:18 PM
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Well I’m really happy it worked out for you and you found someone and I have empathy for your struggles and most other men but I still have empathy for women’s struggles as well I know what I have been through and I know what women have had and still have to deal with and a lot of the time it’s far more dangerous even after you navigated through the dating game you still may not know what it’s like to be terrified to sleep in your own bed at night
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 10:38 PM
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I just saw a post about that dread game tactic and I was grossed out and I can easily see how it doesn’t work
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 10:21 PM
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That honestly does sound painful and you are absolutely right in that last paragraph I can see your frustration how are you dealing with it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 10:18 PM
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Ah ok so you like to be the one to make the advances then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:52 PM
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The paying on the first date thing seems to come up a lot and honestly at this point in my opinion I think it would be much easier for everyone to go Dutch then you are only paying for each others time with no other exceptions and you are using that time to get to know the other person to find these things out about them if the first date seems to go well then why not stick your neck out a little more with romantic gestures
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:49 PM
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I think the women that complain about hook up culture are the ones that don’t participate in it I fall into that category
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:39 PM
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I’m definitely worried about the future if things don’t change but like I said I’m optimistic I even see hope in some Reddit subs I think a lot of people are realizing this can’t continue
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:37 PM
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You hit some things here that I really took to heart I actually don’t no any woman that doesn’t have any insecurities around sex or men or both I will speak from my own personal experience mine don’t come from sleeping around mine comes from having 2 horrific stalking experiences one required me to change jobs and one required me to move when things like that happen in your life it becomes difficult to be too trusting and some of the things that happen are most of the time difficult to talk abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:33 PM
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Absolutely women hold the cards when it comes to sex some want casual sex some do not
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:09 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:04 PM
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That’s a really dark way of looking at it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:03 PM
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Yuk that’s just gross
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:02 PM
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I agree with everything you said I didn’t come here looking for dating advice I’m just trying to figure out what the hell is going on in a world I know nothing about not dating but the online thing I realize people here are struggling I’m trying to understand why
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:01 PM
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But what if the actual letter you write her means more to her and is way better then the “you up” text and she goes for you instead
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:56 PM
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I think that is a fair approach for your current circumstances but do you think holding back on traditional courtship is hurting you in the long run? Maybe it’s more then 1 out of 20 women that want this and you are missing out? I honestly don’t know I’m asking your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:54 PM
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This makes me sad that you went through this. And I know everything that you went through I’ve had so many similar experiences like I said I have a fairly large social circle but it used to be much bigger it shrank for all those reasons you just mentioned it was a really weird experience but I did develop stronger bonds with the people that remained in my life and they are the ones that actually care about friendships relationships and bonding the superficial friendships are the ones that droppe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:47 PM
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I don’t think that is true it’s definitely not true for me or the women in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:33 PM
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That’s it exactly romance is respectfully courting a women that is exactly what I was getting at there are plenty of women that won’t have sex with the “bad boy” if you want to attract a women like that romance cannot die
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:31 PM
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This doesn’t make sense to me if you want emotional company you will get sex as well that is a relationship and you need romance if it’s just sex then the romance isn’t required
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:26 PM
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I’m not turning this into a men vs women argument but I will turn it into a hook up culture vs relationship argument those 2 worlds don’t mix and there are men and women in both if you like hook up culture sit at that table and find someone or many someone’s over there and play by those rules if you want a relationship then you can sit at that table and find someone there it’s really that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:15 PM
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What do you mean by you need convincing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:08 PM
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This makes sense thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:06 PM
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I agree with this completely I don’t like the taker culture at all but I’m optimistic and I know it’s not hopeless the people in my life are very much how you described it is in Europe so I have hope it can change
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:04 PM
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I completely agree with that there are some people that just want hookups and I think you absolutely need to be completely honest about that pretending they want a relationship when all they want is sex is deceiving and I don’t know why they try that there are plenty of women that just want to hook up as well
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:58 PM
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That’s is awesome congratulations!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:49 PM
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Lol sorry I’m trying to get through all of these messages but I just answered that I do think text messages are great but hand written letters last much longer
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:48 PM
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Maybe that is true I am very traditional i appreciate hand written letters over text message any day they last longer and you can look back at them throughout your life
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:47 PM
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That’s the thing not all women want traditional men and not all men want traditional women it’s about finding the person that does
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:44 PM
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Selfish thank you for saying that I agree it seems everyone just wants their dues without any giving anything all relationships are a give and a take not just romantic ones it’s friendships to we are losing that I’ve used this analogy to my friends before everyone wants someone to hold their hair back while they are puking but no one wants to hold the hair
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:42 PM
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I do agree with everything you said especially with the gay and lesbian couples I know they seem to have the courtship thing down it’s the heterosexual single people I know that are struggling the heterosexual couples I know are in happy healthy relationships or marriages but the men in those relationships are romantic and do romantic things throughout the entire relationship not just on occasion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:37 PM
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This is the 3 comment I’ve read about love bombing I don’t know what that is can you explain
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:31 PM
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Well if you aren’t compatible it’s not worth it but if you find someone that is compatible don’t you want to get to know what works for her as an individual to out compete the other guys
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:29 PM
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So it really is the online dating that is ruining everything?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:26 PM
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So are relationships dead then? Is the end game for everyone truly just sex now?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:19 PM
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Yes you are saying what so many women I know say it’s not the grad gesture it’s the little things that the other person does for you that are unique to your relationship so women still want to be wooed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:13 PM
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Lol well every thing is these days but you can get around the commercialization of it it’s honestly not that hard it’s not about the gifts or dinners you can find other ways to make it special most cost little or no money
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:07 PM
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What are your dating goals? And are you having any luck in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:04 PM
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So are dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:03 PM
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I don’t know what love bombing is but the women I know don’t take showing interest as insecurity they appreciate the efforts but I guess that’s part of the reason I’m confused because if you start to date someone and you hit it off you want to continue to see that person it should naturally progress to sex and then to a relationship and then possibly marriage now if you are only doing these things to get sex and sex is your only end game with her I can see why it would be a turn off and she woul…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 07:02 PM
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I completely agree with this it’s not about the flowers it’s about all the little things that are unique to the 2 people in the relationship but the romance is still important to you it just needs to be shown in different ways am I correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:53 PM
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So you are saying it is dead and the little things don’t count anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:48 PM
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They were out of touch when we were young but that doesn’t mean they stopped being important to people I know I love them and appreciate them it’s how my husband got me out of all of the other guys I had to pick from he was the only one who did it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:46 PM
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I don’t always think it’s from someone that has no personality but I see what you are saying and you did get to the intimacy part of what I was talking about in my post it doesn’t have to be love letters and flowers it could be long conversations by a fire I just used flowers and love letters as an example
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:44 PM
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I see what you are saying and I agree don’t put all of your eggs in 1 basket basically so don’t do the grad gesture on the first date see how it goes if it’s someone you want to continue to see get a feel of the person you are with if she is a romantic then move forward with romantic gesture if not move accordingly to what she finds stimulating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:41 PM
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Wouldn’t dating apps also be part of the commercialization then?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:36 PM
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I understand that and usually this kind of stuff happens in a relationship still but it can also start to happen during the dating phase and maybe since it doesn’t that’s why dating is clinical or better cynical
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:35 PM
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No that’s not exactly what I’m saying women show affection before the flowers in most cases I’m saying both sides show affection in different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:33 PM
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Barf 🤢 you better start cheating on your right hand with your left if you actually believe this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 01:40 AM
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That’s a good simple way to put it 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 11:00 PM
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Kurt Cobain is my gold standard his looks and his personality. I based every guy I ever dated off of him more the personality I can still be and have been attracted to men that don’t look anything like him as long as they had similar personality traits. The only obvious turn off to Kurt is the drug addiction so no I’m not into addicts and have never dated or considered dating anyone into drugs. However I am really into musicians they are a weakness for me and unfortunately drugs tend to go hand …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 10:02 PM
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I’m going to agree with a lot of what you are saying and I’m glad someone in here is bringing up some of the actual valid points about some of the things men are going through it’s not fair to demonize all of them and turn a blind eye to the problems they are facing however it’s extremely hard to support a movement when the loudest voices only complaints are extremely superficial and they feel so entitled to sex that you see some actually supporting rape some of these ideas are very dangerous bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:05 AM
1

Isn’t the problem that you aren’t getting fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 02:07 AM
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He is being snarky that’s what these guys say is the advice they get when they complain but you picked up on the attitude and that’s the real problem these guys have
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:50 AM
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The veruca salt song is great and very accurate! But I’m gonna throw one more pop culture reference these guys in here remind me of the cabbage head guy from kids in the hall.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 04:45 PM
0

Lol yeah my husband is in a band
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 08:40 PM
2

My social circle is I have 15 close friends and family members that I confide in and they confide in me 7 are friends the rest is family then I have about 50 friends that I communicate with somewhat regularly but I don’t have deep long conversations with I don’t have facebook or instagram so I either hang out with them in person or call or text it’s usually texting or I call on their bday I don’t hang out with them as often because I am usually hanging out with my inner circle on at least a mont…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:42 PM
2

This is a damn good question that I would like to know the answer to
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:22 PM
2

Thank you for this!!!! I’m conservative as well and the men in my life are also conservative none of them act like this as a matter of fact none of them heard of red pill until I brought it up over a dinner conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 12:05 AM
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There absolutely is a middle ground the men that find it are the ones that are the most successful in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 10:01 PM
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Do you not see the problem with this logic? Middle age man can cheat if he feels inclined to do so yeah and so can women cheating should not be normalized for either gender. If you think a middle aged man can pick up a teenage virgin and she will be faithful while he is cheating on her that young girl still has more options then men if you hurt her in that way she will not stay faithful to you either if it didn’t work for Elvis it won’t work for anybody.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:57 PM
1

Then why is it associated with conservatives?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 11:21 PM
2

That’s exactly what I thought this is not a conservative movement and conservatives need to divorce themselves from this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 09:33 PM
2

I wouldn’t call myself a red pill women especially after seeing what this movement is this last month but I am a conservative especially when it comes to how I view relationships I believe in marriage and monogamy but if I were single right now and thankfully I am not I would never date a red pill man I don’t find this ideology to be conservative at all it’s just a cesspool of misogyny and frankly it’s insulting to women and conservatives
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 09:32 PM
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How the hell is a ploy relationship conservative?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 09:21 PM
2

You get a pass from me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 07:08 PM
2

This same scenario applies to women to and this is why things are broken
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 08:54 PM
0

This guy gets it!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 08:47 PM
2

Yes it’s like the difference between being book smart and street smart attraction is not just physical attraction that obviously helps both men and women but physical attraction is not the only thing that gives you sex appeal. There is so much focus on physical appearance because that’s the easiest thing to point to and yes there are ways you can become better looking but the people in the top percent are born with it you can’t fake it till you make it you can only try to get closer to it. The p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 07:53 PM
2

Someone in their 50s is gen x but whatever and as much as I think the ok boomer thing is funny most of the time I really think for this situation you all need to listen to your elders they did dating better then you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:31 AM
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Yes it’s exactly this!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:38 PM
1

2 by 35 is that really the average? What is the average for these “chads” do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:04 PM
1

I love this!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 02:01 AM
1

Yuck it pains me to say this but I actually do agree with you on these points especially about hook up culture
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:56 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂 what a load of shit this is I broke up with my first boyfriend who I lost my virginity to because he had a fairly bland personality when I was with him I could see my life before I even had a chance to live it so no getting the virgin isn’t going to pair bond with you if you have nothing to offer her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 07:40 PM
1

Yup so you are losing those good women when you believe in the Madonna whore complex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:26 PM
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I’m not pushing any preferences I’m not a lesbian I’m in a marriage with a man. But I do have lesbian friends that are married and their marriage and how they feel about each other is no different then mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:40 PM
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No I don’t think women are prizes I actually kinda resent that because you aren’t seeing her as a person you are seeing her as a prize a trophy to be won. I was saying men that have this view of holding on to the male fantasy are extremely toxic to women it repels them more then anything so you would be lucky to find 1 girl that actually wants to be in a relationship with you. I’m also not saying you have no right to have standards please do but if your standards are based around this ideology y…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:34 PM
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Infidelity and abuse are really just it but infidelity isn’t just cheating it’s also porn addiction and going to strip clubs
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:52 AM
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It’s different when you find your person it’s great to have strong friendships I have very good strong friendships with a few women I even love them they provide laughter joy happiness and it obviously is easier to talk with them about female issue because they have a sense of understanding but at the end of the day they go home to their own lives they go home to their own families sometimes they move and you have to maintain the friendship long distance when you have your person you share your …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:43 AM
5

That is also very true but it’s a different kind of companionship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:23 PM
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Companionship we may not always agree on things but we know we will always be there for each other for richer or poorer through sickness and health till death do we part
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 10:46 PM
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What I mean by adapt to reality in a nutshell is you need to let go of the male fantasy that you will have swarms of women at your feet when ever you want them that is not reality the reality is you need to consider your self lucky if you can find 1 girl that wants to be in a relationship with you in order to do that you can’t view marriage and commitment as something you settle for it has to be something you actually want and you can’t view marriage as a way to control women that pushes women a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 04:29 PM
2

Lmao!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 04:14 PM
2

I didn’t say happy I was definitely not implying that a women based her happiness on a man I said happy to have you as a partner if you treat her right. I also understand that look’s definitely play a part I’m not going to deny that it plays a part both ways but it’s not the most important part for a long term relationship or marriage you need to be compatible and treat each other with respect those are the 2 biggest things. I’m also aware that men are having a hard time in the dating pool these…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 02:16 AM
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Ok first off you can’t buy a human slavery was abolished during the civil war. but again you still aren’t telling me anything I don’t know can you seriously tell me how this is a mens movement when it only benefits a small percentage of men? How is this going to help the majority of you guys now not generations from now but right NOW! All I’m seeing in here is we have done countless research and it turns out men and woman are attracted young hot men and women I’m shocked this is because of femin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:34 AM
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Again I agree with you and I think that’s why so many women are opting out of the marriage/family path and focusing on themselves and building a career it’s also why you are seeing such a huge rise in alternative relationship and sexual lifestyles but you guys don’t like that either because it takes even more women off the market for you and making it harder so it seems to me you need to adapt to reality
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 08:34 PM
1

Thank you for the explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:56 PM
2

Ok I totally understand that however if you understand that the fantasy is not reality and you want reality then shouldn’t you give up on the fantasy tone down the sexist rhetoric and focus on finding a wife also shouldn’t you try and disassociate from incel mentality because they are really bringing down the chances for the rest of you guys
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:53 PM
1

Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:44 PM
1

What is a simp
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:30 PM
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If this is the case for all men then why are men in here promoting marriage they should be completely fine that new hot young girls are made every day and they are willing to sell themselves to you why insult them if they are doing what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:21 PM
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Yup everything is the women’s fault here and they wonder why they can’t find women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:13 PM
3

What is a thot? Is that a sex worker?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:42 PM
6

I completely agree with you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:33 PM
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Wow really “they made the decision and don’t accept consequences” that line of thinking right there is why women are choosing careers over motherhood it is becoming painfully obvious in the sub that the men who promote “family values” are only doing so because they want women to be domestic slaves and not an actual partner
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:06 PM
3

Im friends with 4 guys like this 1st guy: he is 46 below average looks but not ugly he can’t hold a steady job he lives with his parents and is always up to party he has wild fantasies about hooking up with women that have super model good looks and is constantly making sexist remarks that objectify women he really thinks he can pull women that are way out of his league but he will settle for just about anything so he is constantly and aggressively flirting with anything that moves I call him Pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:07 AM
2

Low n count woman here as well and this is perfectly stated!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 07:27 PM
1

I find this to be a good example of a good guy sex is a big deal to you and you only want to have sexual encounters with women you have feelings for there are plenty of women that feel the same way and that’s why they hold back sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 05:42 PM
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It’s exactly this! Most of of the guys I see in here want to participate in hook up culture but can’t. so then they default to well I just want a relationship so I’m looking for a “good girl” but they can’t get a “good girl” either because they have 2 sets of values they think it’s ok for men to participate in hook up culture but women cannot. they live and die by the Madonna/whore complex. women that don’t participate in hook up culture do not want a man that does either and not because he can’…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 05:22 PM
1

In short cautious Here is why this is the long part. I am that innocent woman that recently stumbled upon an online echo chamber and was oblivious to how hateful and dangerous it is. Many of the things I’ve seen would fit the profile of a serial killer. Because we live in a polite (yet sexist) society offline I’ve always have been cautious of men and assumed they were sexist until they proved otherwise, they show me that by treating women with respect, want them to have equal opportunities and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 10:40 PM
3

Does he have a 6 inch dick or is that too average?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:24 AM
1

What that you belong to a rape cult? I think you just proved that yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 10:01 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:15 PM
2

I’m new to all of this I had no idea this world existed until about a month ago and just reading the stuff in here and with a few personal experiences my only conclusion is it is a rape cult I actually used those words on a comment earlier
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 09:06 PM
0

One question though what is PUA
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 08:49 PM
3

I had know idea this was going on so long I just found out about it so this helps me understand. I have a cousin who told me he is in men’s rights groups at first I laughed but asked what it was he explained it as basically self help for me to teach them to be better men basically what this post is saying I thought oh wow sounds like a great idea I support that until I started to hear what he was saying and started to look into this
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 08:31 PM
2

Thank you for explaining this so clearly!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 08:28 PM
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Ok sorry I will give you that it’s just how I type
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 07:16 PM
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I wasn’t talking specifically about you I was talking about those 2 specific men and all the crap I see in here about “the wall” but I’m really happy you can acknowledge that it happens to both genders it’s called aging it happens to everyone so if you can see that at least it’s a start you might have a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:40 PM
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I’m sure I did bruh it’s hard to wrap your head around reality when you have been fed some much bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:38 PM
1

The last thing I feel like I should add is your concept of “hit the wall” is bullshit both those guys that were eagerly trying to get in my pants were 10 years younger then me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:38 PM
1

What is this Chad thing I honestly don’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:14 PM
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Lmao absolutely not I never fucked a guy like you I’ve been fucking the same guy for 20 years and when I was in the dating market I avoided men like you like the plague as far as attractiveness goes it was never important to me I always looked for the kind of guy they were and how they treated and thought about women those were the guys I dated as far as the men I met that clued me in to this crap they were guys I met in real life through different social circles all from different backgrounds a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:11 PM
1

I was totally going to say I think video games are the equivalent for men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:36 AM
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I’m going to agree with you on this social media has had some really negative effects on society
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:34 AM
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You guys really aren’t that smart I’m very new to this red pill crap community and Reddit in general but I came across some of you in the wild at first I thought it was just general misogyny until I started hearing some of the same buzz words I realized something else was going on I didn’t know what it was but it was obvious to me that their is serious brainwashing going on
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 06:05 AM
2

That is true
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:56 AM
2

Dating and sex are not the same thing I think men and women should both date a lot to see what they like but if the end goal is a long lasting relationship or marriage then both genders need to keep the count low
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:56 AM
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I feel like you can learn that experience from other peoples mistakes though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:46 AM
2

Absolutely this is exactly how I dated when I was younger and this is what worked for me
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:44 AM
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I completely agree with this but I feel like that explains hook up culture in general not just for women but also men
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:34 AM
2

Yeah this is great I’ve always said teenagers should date teenagers they should be off limits to everyone else so they can figure it out for themselves sure they are ready to experience sex and relationships they have been invited to the party but they still need to sit at the kids table
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 02:31 AM
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If a women telling you her sexual history is a turn off you must have multiple stds
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 09:44 PM
2

Sounds like you are so much better off now more power to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:51 PM
1

So if this is how all men really feel about women then women should just become lesbians and avoid this shit all together is what you are saying
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:43 PM
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I only joined to try and get a better understanding for what is going on in a world I have been almost completely removed from the more I see the more I want to go back under my rock so I’m not sure how long I will last here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:28 PM
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Yes to this! I’ve avoid social media a lot I’ve always wanted real organic life experiences I’ve also been out of the dating scene for 20 years and I have an active social life I meet a lot of different types of people when I have conversations with some of them I actually say where are you getting some of these ideas I assumed it was because of dating apps which I have never used and won’t since I’m married so I just got this account recently and I seriously feel like I’ve been living under a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:25 PM
1

In case the is a serious question I will avoid be snarky and actually answer it’s for the same reasons men have issues with promiscuous women I’m a low body count woman it’s not because I don’t like sex its because it was difficult to find a man I wanted to have sex with and yes the body count mattered to me men that had high body counts were out of the question for me because I think men that use women for sex do not actually value women they value sex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:25 PM
1

Why can’t men pair bond with women who had sex? And I’m not a fan of periods they are uncomfortable and make me crabby
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:10 PM
1

I find this “red pill” mentality to be complete bullshit these guys are gross you can’t have it both ways if you are looking for a relationship and you want to “pair bond” and you think having a low body count is how you do that then both men and women need to have a low body count if you want a “high value” woman you need to be a “high value” man it’s really that simple you can’t be a high value man if you don’t actually value women these “red pill” guys are making it obvious that they don’t va…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:23 PM
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I’ve never counted blow jobs as sex or included that in my body count I also never thought about anal because I don’t do it but if I did I would definitely add that to my body count but I would always talk about these things with my partner before we had sex I made sure he knew my complete and honest sexual history before I never saw any reason to lie about it ever I don’t believe in lying to someone you are potentially going to get into a serious relationship with especially not that but in tur…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:05 PM
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I do agree with you to a point this relationship dynamic works really well for me and not just me but 2 of my best friends that are also in marriages with men 10+ years older then them so no I don’t think ALL older men that are in relationships with younger women are predators however my experience is a lot are there is a difference between being attracted to younger women and wanting to date them and actually having whole complete fulfilling relationships with them and the ones who go after you…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 03:11 PM
3

I have no idea what most of these groups are but I love the post nice job!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:27 AM
1

What is a thot/of girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:14 AM
1

Thank you for explaining I think I’ve found a few of those subreddits and they are horrifying
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 02:45 AM
2

I take this issue very personally lol I’m a 41 year old married woman and I consider myself a feminist I’m a millennial but I’ve always related to gen x more my husband is 16 years older then me (gen x) and we have been together for 20 years I dated guys my own age before we met and they just didn’t do it for me I felt like I had absolutely nothing in common with them and they bored the hell out of me mainly because they all had a video game obsession when I met my husband he just spoke my langu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 12:42 AM
2

As much as I totally agree with what you are saying about men not insulting a vag they can get inside and the men who do are “incels” I have to admit as woman this isn’t pleasant and can’t be comfortable my first thought was this has to be fake I’ve never seen anything like this before if this is real I feel really bad for her I would never insult her for it but would highly encourage getting it fixed my second thought was how can that even be posted here I’m obviously very new to this Reddit wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:03 PM
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I had more then 1 good laugh especially the charts and “studies” as if their view points weren’t bad enough that have to turn why they can’t get laid into a PowerPoint presentation making everything even worse 🤣 but very funny on my end
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:34 AM
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Yes exactly please let them have this platform to speak so this garbage is out there and you know who to avoid when you meet it in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:31 AM
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My only take on all of this can be summed up with toxic masculinity hurts everyone especially men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:24 AM
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