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REMINDER 👑nyclaurco/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 12:10 AM
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100% they cared about me a lot and wanted me to feel good all were quite different - some were highly educated, some were not; some were extroverted, and some were introverted; some were STEMmy, some were artsy, etc. men will be good in bed if they care about you. they will make sure to perform well and ask you exactly what you need if they’re at least a little in love with you. casual sex for women is a sham. women should not engage in it without knowingly taking the risk of being used as a hum…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 04:11 AM
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women care about personality. a lot. sorry, men! he is likely very charming and romantic when you first meet him. he chameleons into a woman’s ideal partner. he encourages them to talk and talk so he figures out what this ideal is while saying little about himself; he’s doing this for a nefarious reason, but the women see it as him totally caring about them. he is likely full of convincing excuses when women notice a few red flags. then by the time that they realize that he’s a train wreck, they…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 03:13 AM
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get on twitter and tiktok. ...actually, don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:22 PM
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TRP only works on neurotic, anxiously attached women with low self-esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:56 PM
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the majority are not. like, the vast majority. extremely online, mentally ill types are the loudest on the internet, and they are also the types who were more likely to be in age gap relationships. i have gotten into situations more than once with 30+ year old men at 19, but it never progressed further than talking because i was too mentally/financially/socially stable. the exception, of course, is a young woman who is using an older man for his money, but her feelings towards him are not genuin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:24 PM
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it’s a comforting narrative. it’s like the “beat it, chick” meme. the same woman who rejected you at 20 would reject you at 30 and also 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:56 PM
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it’s certainly not older women who are against age gap relationships. there are so many gen z girls and women freaking out online over couples who are, like, 19M and 17F.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:45 PM
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we’re not a hive mind. we’re not different vessels controlled by one divine feminine. some of us want to be courted, some of us want to be treated like how you’d treat a guy friend (except you have sex) during the dating process, some would accept “walk dates” and have sex for a mcchicken and insist on splitting the cost of the mcchicken 50/50, some are sugar babies and prostitutes, and some are looking for a church boy who believes in waiting until marriage. some women love sex, and some don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:37 PM
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most of the ones who i know met at some kind of school environment which makes sense. adults have to purposely put themselves out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:45 AM
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yeah this happens a lot when two people only plan to hook up but think that they like each other because they become attached
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:01 AM
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i’d like to add that personality type matters just as much as looks or money, for what you should want in a partner. the example i’m going to give is coming from a woman’s perspective, but i know that this can go both ways. i’m astonished at how many homebody type guys who are only into solo hobbies want to date women who like going out. like you’ve got these introverted guys, who are sometimes nerdy but not always, who are into video games, watching tv, making gundam models, or other things tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 02:20 AM
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her first boyfriend was in his mid 20s, and she was 16. 16 is legal in NZ, but if you’re already “official” at 16, you just know that he was skulking around by the time that she was only 14 or 15.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:34 PM
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not sure if relevant, but her older brother’s girlfriend looks exactly like billie, and it disturbs me. you can find side by side pics on google images.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:32 PM
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we see beauty in the ones who we love, respect, or admire, even if it’s not conventional beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 02:46 AM
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yeah, i agree with this. as it is, so many women say that they no longer bother with the apps because of the caliber of men on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:21 PM
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either everyone lowers their standards by like 15%, a lot of people will stay single/less kids will be made by the middle class, or we need a war.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:13 PM
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it’s really a shame that all of this is being pinned on women by trp when most of the issue is coming from the rapid introduction of new technology and the economy/capitalism. i’m not even sure that i’m trying to disagree with this post, really. there’s the obvious porn addiction problem like you said. once upon a time, porn was for adults, and you’d have to go to the 18+/21+ stores to have access (or find your older brother’s stash), but today’s 11 year olds see gonzo porn on the internet befor…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 09:08 PM
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i’m actually in a pretty niche field that i don’t want to reveal here that requires you to know how to do statistics and use some statistical software (little coding as a treat) AND how to write a great research paper. it’s kind of hellish, but it’s super interesting, and someone has to do it. i think that a lot of biology people and neuroscience people can write well. i dunno why, but it’s just something that i’ve noticed. it’s anecdotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:36 AM
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i actually went out with one of these for a few weeks when i was quite young. he told me that we’d be better off as friends. i actually agreed. he would then date unstable women who had nothing going for them, to be frank. he put me on this weird pedestal even though i was only his friend and not a girlfriend. i didn’t realize until years and years later that he probably used me to antagonize these girls who were already in a very bad place. i feel guilty now for accepting the “platonic” dates, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:28 AM
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dudes will do the most insane shit ever instead of just breaking up with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:41 AM
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i think it’s that the issue of a clean home isn’t just about aesthetics, preferences, or opinions. sure, people have different tolerance levels of what is clean and what’s not, but i mean the guys who just won’t do anything and will live in squalor unless they’re told to clean up otherwise. that starts affecting health and sanity. basic needs vs. some wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:33 AM
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by reading! and not just scholarly articles. some sociology, philosophy, and thriller/drama type stuff for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:32 AM
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i agree about not trying to change someone. i don’t believe in nagging. i ask my partner for something once or maybe twice. if it happens, cool. if it doesn’t, i learn to live without it, or i leave. nagging only makes the person that you’re in a relationship more complacent. more comfortable. lazier. they see how worked up, angry, and miserable that you are... and they see that you’re not leaving. they’ve internalized that, and they’ll try to push even more boundaries by doing less to see how f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:56 AM
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thanks. i’ve gotten this same compliment three times in this sub but nowhere else for some reason, and it’s surprising every time because i chose the way of the stemlord. i guess my responses here are just lengthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:03 AM
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mothers tell their children to do their fair share around the house. your wife should not have to tell you to do your fair share. if you see a mess, then do something about it. do not wait to be told. obviously i am talking about the typical millennial relationship in which both people are working outside the home so both partners claim to do “50/50” around the house. stop relegating your wife or girlfriend to take on the role of house manager. the manager tells everyone else what to do and when…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:51 AM
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i am once again saying that “nice” is the bare minimum. it’s not that you aren’t good looking enough, even though that may be true on a case by case basis depending on who you approach, but if you bring nothing else to the table besides “nice”, then you will be forgotten.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:43 AM
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it’s embarrassing to say, but it takes like... hours of planning (time of day for lighting, good hair, good skin, good makeup if applicable) to get a good photo of yourself unless it’s a very lucky candid at dinner or vacation or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 10:36 PM
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i think that the way you do things is definitely more healthy than doing everything for sex. you can’t put all of your eggs in one basket.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 08:06 PM
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pretty sure they were closeted gay guys
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:41 PM
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after reading these comments, it seems like men do everything for sex. i don’t know if it’s more interesting or pathetic. i’m a woman who enjoys sex a lot, but i also go on social media or clubbing because i enjoy it. i make art because i enjoy it, and i like to look at others’ art because they enjoy it. i go to school because i enjoy the topics, and i’m trying to make money so i can give myself a comfortable life. all of these guys are saying that they don’t want to do anything or contribute to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:38 PM
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men do better in person than they do on dating apps. i was on tinder for all of a day about 5 years ago. i dated my first match for the majority of a year, and it ended amicably because we wanted different things out of life. i swiped right on maybe 1 out of 100 guys. the majority of guys have horrible photos of themselves. most straight men look better in person than they do in the photos. a significant portion would use multiple group photos, and i couldn’t tell which guy owned the profile. so…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:32 PM
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they don’t care. they want to get their dicks wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:24 PM
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in this situation, duh. single mothers are blamed when they’re the parent who stayed. there’s at least 3 logical fallacies happening in your response. single parents regardless of sex raise happy, successful children when they have lots of money. the parent who is absent and either doesn’t send anything or sends a pittance is to blame for the child acting out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:35 PM
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never the father for leaving, huh. doesn’t even occur to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 07:20 PM
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they’re married and one is gay so they’re all unwanted advances
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 06:29 PM
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fantasy world. my 55 year old female relatives are still dealing with unwanted advances from droves of men, some men as young as late 30s. perhaps the wall is 60.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:08 PM
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that’s actually untrue. pick up a developmental psychology textbook. teen girls and teens in general aren’t moody due to being “hormonal messes”. their brains are doing what they’re supposed to be doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:02 PM
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shan was batshit and possibly even a scammer or criminal, but the thing is, you just get a divorce like everyone else instead of murder
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 05:01 PM
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what are you saying? every time some guy snaps and kills his family, people want to investigate the wife. there are entire subreddits dedicated to blaming chris watt’s wife for the annihilation, for example. when a guy overdoses and dies, people like blaming his girlfriend or family. ariana and mac miller come to mind. school shooter? somehow the mother is getting dragged into it, meanwhile it’s either the father’s guns or the now adult kid’s own guns. just plain old domestic violence? rape? wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:45 PM
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you guys would an hero after living as a teenage girl for 2 months. since the beginning of time, women are blamed for men’s bad behavior. teenage girls cannot like a single thing without being mocked relentlessly. they cannot look or talk like anything without being bombarded with slurs and more relentless mocking. god, what a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:22 PM
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me and my bf literally got ID’d before we could see the joker movie so i sympathize. luckily it did not jokerfy either of us
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:51 AM
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it really might all be in the shoes. probably sounds crazy, i know, but different shoes on a long haired man, for example, can give off way different vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 01:12 AM
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you’re basically a unicorn. it’s safe to say that all men do at this point besides the unicorns. most women play nowadays, too. many of us use the play station as a device to watch netflix and hulu as well, so even if the guy doesn’t play all the time, he probably plays sometimes. i’d say that the female equivalent is a woman without an instagram account.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:50 AM
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i don’t get offended when men don’t want to be with women whose hobbies are ONLY entry-level makeup knowledge, reality tv, social media, and listening to music, as in not making it. women don’t want to date men whose only hobbies are video games, listening to music, going on the computer, and, like, collecting funkos. it would be goofy for someone with no hobbies to demand a skydiving, martial artist, expert baker, guitar player in space. basically, consoomers shouldn’t expect to date creators. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:39 AM
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men on the street rush to help me carry heavy objects, say nice things to me (different from street harassment, obviously), and open doors. if a stranger wants to do those things, but the guy who supposedly loves you doesn’t want to help you, then what the heck is going on? just think about it for a second, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:47 PM
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i refuse to believe that a normal 25 year old man would rather date a high school senior instead of a young woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 05:59 AM
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it’s just cartoons from japan. i like anime, too. it’s just that a lot of guys do choose to do solitary things and then wonder where the women are at. even the gym which is stereotyped as a chad activity is solitary.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 11:23 PM
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applebee’s half off apps
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:17 PM
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join a coed activity, or do something that women like to do. like become a dj. or join a casual sports team that isn’t segregated by sex or a poker league. make art or do photography and see if you have a local scene for that. the number 1 tip for guys that i see is go to the gym. but that’s mostly a solitary activity. gymcels exist. you can be ripped but lonely still. incels also gravitate towards solitary things like video games and anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:16 PM
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they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:22 PM
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i’m in my mid 20s (F), so i am not a predator’s prime target anymore. i’m also not even close to being old. coming from this outsider’s pov, we begin to feel a motherly instinct for those girls who are 16-22 at around my age. it’s not out of jealousy. we all still have droves of men who proposition us on the regular into our 50s. my mother is 55, and men still don’t leave her alone - even men in their late 30s. sometimes, this “motherly instinct” that we feel can be a bit of a projection on our …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:19 PM
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the issue is that guys might be “satisfied” with any woman, but they won’t really be happy with her. women know this which is why most of them are literally annoying to try to date in the beginning with the shit testing and vetting techniques. it’s also why they’re reluctant to make the first move and have a man just go along with it. they do not want to be a woman who is “okay” to you, they want to be a beloved girlfriend who is cherished and respected, if they are giving that same energy back …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:08 PM
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it’s projection. the men who threaten this are the ones who are upset about being alone and terrified of dying alone. most cat ladies are perfectly content. the vast majority of old women become cat ladies by the end of their lives, actually, since women statistically live longer than men do. also think about how most women marry a guy who is a few years older on top of that. plus, women do not want to remarry after divorce as much as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:04 PM
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some doctors believe that BV is ping ponged back and forth between partners (gardernella) and think that both should be given a round of flagyl. before pumping your dude with flagyl, though, he should really take a full STD work up. he could have one of the two things up there or something else like trich. not even necessarily cheating, a decent person could have it for months or even years without knowing because many people are asymptomatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:45 AM
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so annoying. he still didn’t learn. he’s saying that video games destroyed the relationship. no, you did. you destroyed it. you chose to keep the video game consoles in the house knowing that you’re psychologically addicted rather than donating it to a children’s hospital or throwing it in the trash. if it wasn’t vidya, it’d have been something else anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:34 AM
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condoms at the end of the day are 99% effective (and often lower than this tbh since some people don’t use them properly), not 100%. you can be unlucky and catch it. even when vaccinated because not all strains are covered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:55 PM
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reoccurring BV and yeast can also mean an over abundance of mycoplasma or ureaplasma. these are bacteria found in the genital flora of most people, but it can overgrow and show up on a PCR test as an infection. the man could be carrying this over abundance either from cheating or from a partner way back when before you even started dating. little is known about this bacteria, and some doctors do not even know if these are true “infections” or not because of this, but they are very, very small so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 10:51 PM
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generally men are more likely to be attracted to their female friends, but some women are attracted to some of their male friends. it’s just more common for a man to be attracted to his female friend than vice versa. this is because of a multitude of factors. some of it could be that men are just hornier than women on average. some of it could be that women are more open to being friends with men who they perceive as ugly, but men don’t even want to know ugly women, even as friends. any “ugly du…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:40 AM
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each one is sure that “covid did it”, and i’m just nodding and hoping that that’s the case and that their dudes’ laptop search histories and discords aren’t filled with hours of unpleasant surprises
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:19 AM
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it sort of swapped throughout the years, huh? i’ve had 3 female friends this year confide in me that they are thinking of leaving their LTRs because of their boyfriends’ low libidos. and that’s just the 3 who are actually so stressed that they said it out loud. wondering how many women are actually dealing with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:10 AM
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yeah. they’re literally jealous that the “hot guys” get to beat us, and they don’t. sick. meanwhile, there are plenty of hideous abusive men, since many abusive men are insecure and depressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:31 PM
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any man who tells you that another man is bad for you is just trying to have sex with you. he probably has no idea whether or not the other man is bad and doesn’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 04:24 PM
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yeah, they’re in denial about all of this really. 86% of young guys have had sex. let’s say that 5% of them lied in the survey (if this is a self-report study). then that’s 81% who actually did have sex. there is no top 20%, bottom 80%. it’s top 80%, bottom 20%. if they’re sexless, then they’re in that bottom 20%. that must fucking hurt to admit that, and it must be way easier to lie and say that they’re part of a mythical bottom 80%.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:46 AM
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my parents have the diamond. it’s a large good quality one from my grandmother’s ring. i don’t want moissanite or any other knockoff, and i don’t care if it sounds snooty. my grandfather before he died said that i should use it, so it’s sentimental. i’d like for it to be put in a pave setting. i also don’t mind solitaire, but i’d prefer pave. i hate halo rings. absolutely no halos. i don’t mind where i’d get engaged as long as it’s not like... in the apartment. or on another big holiday. i would…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:11 AM
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then scream “AWALT”. because they only purposely attract and date borderline, complex-PTSD, or anxiously attached women with high neuroticism lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:01 AM
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land of the many pork-juice faced, pimply, obese weeaboos, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 10:20 PM
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strange how this extremely common logic doesn’t apply to other lines of work. even the most sex positive, neoliberal, porn-consuming people proudly say that they would never date a porn star, camgirl, or dancer and that it’s basically r*pe if you’re a woman who has never told your boyfriend that you used to work at a tiddy bar in the past or something. not once have i ever heard anyone say, “i love eating food, but i’d never date a chef,” or, “i love wearing nice clothes, but i’d never date a de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 10:18 PM
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yeah, i like the way that you put this. they’re completely void of masculinity. however, they can’t pull off femininity, either. that’s just as much work. who can’t really empathize well? who can’t express their emotions? who can’t understand the complexity of others’ emotions? who can only understand happiness and anger? children. they’re childish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:57 PM
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we’re always told to take the passive role. we don’t ever want to hear: well, you were the one who approached me asked to be exclusive asked to get engaged asked to get married asked to have kids but then you have people like this who just... revise history anyway and claim that they never wanted any part of the idea that you came up with together. i still don’t believe in making the first move or pressing for engagement, but it seems like finding the right man is the most important thing at the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:46 PM
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the highest form of love is not abuse. don’t take this advice, if you were serious. do you really want a girlfriend who locks herself in the bathroom threatening to cut herself with a razor when you try to reassert boundaries? do you want a girlfriend who feels everything at volume 100 and lets you know this but has NO empathy for you or anyone else? do you want to deal with false abuse allegations when you break up, which are exceedingly rare, but almost always come from cluster b abusers whose…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:45 PM
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yes. i’m unsure if this guy has ever experienced true love.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:41 PM
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very not true. above 6’4” can easily plunge a man into weird lanklet gray alien man territory. unless they have a slow metabolism, they must eat a lot and work out a lot not to look like abraham lincoln or become skinnyfat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:39 PM
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you done, big bird? i’ve never seen any love more pure and passionate than that of two ugly ass people. you can see two pork juice-faced, pimply, weeaboo nerds on the train heavily making out and staring at each other like they’re rolling on mdma, but it’s 2pm, and they’re sober. they’re just deeply in love ever since they met each other at some kind of con. there used to be pairings of medium uglies in the high school hallways who would embrace each other as if they haven’t seen each other in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:25 PM
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the first sentence is right there. i just said that women can also be coomers. it’s not even that uncommon because of 7th wave online feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:53 AM
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women can also be infected with porn addiction and neoliberal sex positivity coom brain. but some of these women are just doing the pickme cool girl dance because they think that this is what all men want now. it went from totallyyy loving watching football recaps/him play single player video games to totallyyy loving dangerous or degrading sex lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 12:43 AM
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i’d like to see them last for like 6 months without the square in their hands which contains free depraved, wretched porn on demand 24/7, no video game systems, and no social media. maybe it could be a like a reality tv show. bonus: coming home from an arduous job to 3 screaming children, a rambunctious lab, and a pill-addicted, alcoholic housewife who’s once again spent more money on stupid avon products.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 12:34 AM
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it’s because everything we do is wrong. if we like certain male-coded hobbies, we’re faking it to be cool for guys or learned it from an ex. if we like female-coded hobbies, they’re extremely stupid, vapid, and pointless, and we don’t even have real hobbies. if we do well in school and work, we’re bad mothers and wives or don’t care about perpetuating the human race as birthers and caregivers, but if we don’t, we’re useless gold diggers. if we wear makeup, hair styles and dye, nails, and nice fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 12:22 AM
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hi, friend! you can try explaining the gap on your resume by claiming that you were a caretaker for a family member. it looks “valid” for women since we’re expected to do all of the caretaking and raising for free anyway. you can also say that you worked at one of the ten thousand places that have closed in the past year and a half since it’s not like they can verify that information anymore when something is gone. it’s usually not good to lie in general, but 99% of jobs don’t care about us as p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:40 AM
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i’ve noticed that men and women respect differently. most men go around saying that you must earn their respect. women respect people as the default until they see or hear something from you that they don’t find respectable. i like being in the latter camp and assuming that someone is respectable, but being this way means that you must have strong boundaries and are good at enforcing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:48 AM
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what you put in quotes is why women aren’t having sex until 3 months in now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:28 AM
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that’s just you, though. you’re not every guy. i’ve seen guys IN HERE say that nagging them to split the bill is a total turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:11 AM
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women don’t want to explain the same exact thing half a dozen times during sex. simple as.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:38 PM
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no, it’s, “i will not engage in casual sex.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:15 PM
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exactly. we’re not going to tell a guy “what the hell are you doing go back/do this instead” 4 different times. we communicate once. if they still deviate or stop or move or whatever, that’s it. we don’t want to sound rapey, and we don’t want to turn ourselves off by literally nagging during sex. CoMmUnIcAtE. how about comprehend? 95% of casual sex is just not worth it for ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:51 PM
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i did to the other guy who replied to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:15 AM
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i was raised middle class, so yes, my environment definitely had something to do with my way of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:14 AM
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from divorcepeers.com: In 51 percent of custody cases, both parents agreed -- on their own -- that mom become the custodial parent. In 29 percent of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement. In 11 percent of custody cases, the decision for mom to have custody was made during mediation. In 5 percent of custody cases, the issue was resolved after a custody evaluation. Only 4 percent of custody cases went to trial and of that 4 percent, only 1.5 percent completed cus…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:50 AM
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well, according to statistics, 91% of men do not want custody. that’s why there are way more single moms. many of the moms want custody, but many also probably just have to have custody since most men don’t want to be single custodial fathers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:17 AM
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woman answer i’m interested in my field. human nature has a little craving for competition in it. it feels good to achieve a goal. stability and safety. i know that i want kids someday, and i would never have them unless i could support the child myself without the help of a partner. your partner can just up and leave you out of nowhere, strike you, or cheat, and i don’t want to be eating kraft dinner and stuffing my kids’ feet into shoes that are too small for them if child support comes in tar…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 07:56 AM
4

two main factors: chemistry. you either have it, or you don’t. this is not only a thing with men. it’s important to women. it’s primal. couples who are obsessed with each other say that they can’t get enough of the smell of their partner. these couples usually don’t have to painstakingly “learn” how to touch each other and kick off the relationship with 3x a day mind-blowing sex. you want to speak all the time, and your senses of humor mesh super well without trying. you could do everything “rig…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:20 PM
1

Kpop boys, Prince, and David Bowie may dance around, wear pink and purple suits, wear dangly earrings, and cake their face in makeup, but if you stripped them naked, took off their jewelry, told them to be quiet, and hosed them down to wash off the makeup and glitter, you’d see that they’re masculine. Park Jimin, Prince, and Bowie do not suffer from low testosterone. They don’t have poor facial structures that include recessed chins/jawlines and bug eyes. They don’t have tits. They don’t have pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 06:59 PM
2

it’s not if he’s “hot enough”. they have casual sex with men who they think are disposable hot pieces of ass but make seemingly better men who seem like boyfriend material wait because they’re afraid of being pumped and dumped. some people can’t fathom this because they don’t understand that women actually desire sex and are actively punishing themselves by making both of them wait. it’s a necessary evil in order to know if the guy who “likes” you actually likes you or only wants sex. you can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:40 PM
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i would say yes. while abrahamic religions do oppress women, there are almost no women who don’t participate in any institution or activity that is “unfeminist”. there are radfems who wear makeup and heels, for example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:32 AM
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i don’t know any women like this. not a single one. off the top of my head, i’m friends with a caretaker of many family members, a tennis player, military girl, a theater kid who is also a pro athlete, a dj, a photographer, and at least half a dozen artists, as art is one of my main things. the women who i meet on a day to day basis also have something going on. i live in a large coastal city, for reference. i just don’t believe you unless it’s different in like ohio or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 11:57 PM
1

imagine accepting a walk date? “woof woof, sounds fun master! i’m your fucking dog. take me for a walk.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:46 PM
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for real, who are these people? do they not have jobs, class, hobbies, friends, or family? this sub is yet again inventing a new kind of woman to be mad at.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:44 PM
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it’s not that the next gf is better or anything. usually, they just think that you won’t dump them. ever. for any reason. it doesn’t even cross their minds as an option. when they get dumped over something, whether it’s a lack of a ring or refusing to buy her flowers, the next girlfriend gets it right away and often. because in his mind, this is how you keep a woman around. he is learning from his “mistake”. if you dump a guy for never giving you flowers, you’ll see that the next girlfriend’s so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:35 PM
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i wonder if these guys who don’t believe in marriage also don’t believe in marriage with margot robbie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 11:27 PM
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or maybe men have different tastes in women, so they’ll see a redhead or fat girl or dark girl getting hyped up by guys who genuinely find her pretty, but then other men are like “ew she’s red/fat/so dark” and say that she’s being overhyped.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 11:02 PM
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some of them are just pedophiles but don’t realize it. they get angry at women because they’re supposed to date women but aren’t attracted to any of them. maybe the denial and anger is their own psyche protecting them from the fact that they are indeed pedos. there’s that brand of inc*l that goes on about how disgusting women are because of body shape, the vagina being too close to the butt, their period, when they’re hairy, when they dress in basically adult clothes, when they work, when they’r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:47 PM
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you can’t tell if it’s fake unless it’s overdone or the surgeon screwed up. attractive people have ugly kids all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:14 PM
2

literally doesn’t matter. being hot in the face and wealthy is so much more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:13 PM
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in 2006, 78% of people reported having sex, and 86% of men reported having sex. that wasn’t too recent, but still. seems like the 80/20 statistic is true, but flipped. the bottom 20% don’t have sex, which makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 05:21 PM
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women do all the time. nose job, blepharoplasty (eyelid), double jaw surgery to reduce it or jaw implant to create a better jawline, lip flips, lip injections, face/brow lift. trans women even get their brow bones shaved down. if you’re really hideous, it’s worth looking into.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:58 PM
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hair plugs/good quality toupee (there are nice ones out there, not like the trump kind) and be wealthy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:56 PM
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i guess in a capitalistic world, yes. there’s a limited amount of money. if a guy gets rich on his own, he’d normally stomp on many throats in order to get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:21 PM
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oh, come on. it’s not even 80/20 anymore, it’s apparently 90/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 02:18 PM
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rather than begging women to lower their standards, they should strive to meet them. not just for female attention, but for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 01:47 PM
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LOL. unfortunately, you get it, or you don’t sometimes. i can tell when people want to be approached. i do not make the first move or initiate in a romantic setting, but as far as platonic relationships, i do. what i’m describing is something like this... it depends on the setting. you can’t say a bar or a club is good and the library is bad. sometimes the architecture, the mood, the type of people, hell, even the weather can facilitate socialization. if someone is sitting in a way that looks “o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 01:29 AM
2

it’s literally just vibes. this is the least helpful answer ever of all time, but that’s all it is. this is especially shitty if you’re neurodivergent and just don’t get social cues or “vibes”. will it help if you’re hot? yes. but i’ve been approached by hot guys before during situations in which it was like, “are you serious right now?” oh, another thing. we have better peripheral vision than you and have been taught to be vigilant of our surroundings at all times. we see you. if you stare at u…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 07:50 PM
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guys will say “eh why not” to any woman who they find somewhat attractive and then waste her time by being not very enthusiastic in the relationship only to dump her and ask out a woman who they really like. women are pickier, which this sub often complains about, so that’s why men pursuing is the better option for both parties. it ensures that both parties will be very into each other. i’ve never approached a man before, and i never will, not because i’m scared of rejection: i do not want accep…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 12:42 AM
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at first, yeah, but a whole lot of people keep them out of boredom or even validation. if a lot of users aren’t using the app very seriously, you may not really get an accurate representation of how attractive you are to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 12:07 AM
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no, it’s not. when my friends and i were younger, we would go on their apps drunk if we were partying and rapid fire swipe randomly on people. probably swiped left on some decent guys and swiped right on some creatures. we’d also message some of the random matches. i was once doing this on my male friend’s phone, and i wound up swiping right and sending the first messages to his now fiancée. the majority of women who use it download it, use it seriously for a few weeks, get bored of it, and then…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 11:55 PM
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i’m assuming that the majority of posters in there are men ages 14-25. i meant “we” as in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 10:44 PM
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pointing out that fake nails are fake isn’t ribbing or teasing, either. it’s basically like saying that the sky is blue. a completely neutral observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 09:58 PM
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we don’t think about them. but if we did, we’d probably spot a glaring flaw. it’s usually as something as simple as an annoying personality trait or her garbage dating strategy (she’s a habitual man-chaser instead of letting them pursue her, is drawn to married men, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 08:37 PM
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they created this situation, though. if they didn’t respect women less who slept with them right away, and if their brains quite literally didn’t get “bored” after the instant gratification rather than the chase (has to do with hormones and neurotransmitters, again), then this wouldn’t be happening, and women would happily sleep with them right away. women don’t like it either!!! besides the people who truly do want to develop a relationship (or even marriage) before sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 05:06 PM
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it depends on the woman. some are very blue pilled. some are very libfem. they’ll have sex with a guy who they really like as soon as they want. they take the risk of being pumped and dumped. some know that most men enjoy the chase and know how their neurotransmitters/hormones work. they don’t initiate anything, but they’ll hope to be courted. they will wait 2-3 months after hanging out about once per week.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:47 PM
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it’s not a double standard, she just likes you better. the guys who she has sex with right away are just pieces of meat to her. men who use attractive women as fleshlights but give commitment to dull attractive women who are interesting and kind and fun to be around aren’t called out on the double standard. it’s just called dating who you like. but if someone doesn’t sleep with anybody until a rapport is established, they don’t have casual sex lol. simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 03:23 PM
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that is often who she is, though. plenty of people don’t like to do it off the bat before they’ve vetted the person to make sure that they’re not crazy or lying about who they are or are just uncomfortable with the idea of sex until there’s some kind of relationship or bond present.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 02:55 PM
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it really is so dumb how they put so much energy into trying to bring women down instead of trying to level themselves up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 07:43 AM
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i think that men think that pointing out that we wear fake nails or eyelashes would be insulting to us even though we openly talk about wearing them. the fake nails and lashes that many of us are sporting nowadays are comically long and fake looking, too. i would just think, “oh, he knows a lot about nails... maybe he owns a nail salon or is gay or has a sister,” not, “ugh, how dare he realize that these nails are FAKE.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 07:38 AM
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yeah, it’s super common with very online men actually. if a woman isn’t fat or too skinny and doesn’t have a singular very ugly feature (like a giant nose or something), they gotta think quickly, and they usually blurt out that the woman looks like a man. there are a lot of things about a woman that can make her feel manly like if she’s tall or not so curvy or has deep set eyes or has an angular jawline or is athletic or doesn’t like makeup and cute clothes, so it’s a pretty good insult since yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 07:32 AM
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this is most guys, even the “progressive” ones, yet a lot of the guys here get irritated when women say that they employ a 2-3 month waiting period before they have sex if they really like the guy and want a relationship with him. why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 07:25 AM
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red pillers and pink pillers can argue until they’re blue in the face about various topics, but this is where we truly reach an impasse. women would rather be alone than with a man who they don’t like. men would rather be with a woman who they don’t like rather than being alone. this is very not true for a lot of women and men, but if you look at the class of people rather than the individual, this rings true. women remarry much less often, women are the choosers rather than the pursuers simply …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:51 AM
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i’ve read scholarly articles that concluded that women don’t care if their friends find their partners attractive, but men require the approval of other men, or else they will break up. it’s very odd how red pillers say that women don’t love unconditionally but men do since men break up with you if their friends find you ugly, but women will defend you from their friends who call you ugly. i am very interested in interpersonal relationship psychology, and i’d love to know why this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:27 AM
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people will say that you’re wrong, but both men and women want to go to a party where there’s more women than men rather than a party where there’s more men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 02:03 AM
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one time a guy in a facebook group in excruciating detail explained that when he stopped being obese that “his fat pad no longer swallowed up his penis, and he didn’t have to pull it out of the fat to use it anymore”. we love the internet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:40 AM
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you ever notice how when there are posts or big conversations about penis size that sooo many women chime in to say how size doesn’t matter or that they prefer small penises, but when you’re at a bar or party and somehow get looped into a conversation about this with a few buzzed ladies that almost all of them prefer the larger end of average or a bit above average? in vino veritas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:35 AM
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technology cannot take away the role of a human mother. have you ever read about harlow’s studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 05:26 PM
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it doesn’t. they’d rather be alone than be with someone who they’re not crazy about. men frequently date women who they’re not crazy about, which is why i discourage women from making the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 05:24 PM
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it’s not that women with degrees “don’t like” to date a working man. it’s usually the opposite. when you’re a woman, you are far more likely to be cheated on if you date a man from a lower class. that being said, you are far more likely to be cheated on if you date a man from a higher class. the most successful relationships tend to be when you’re both from the same class background as well as very similar in age (less than a 5 year gap). the relationship is also less likely to fail if you get s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 05:20 PM
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it’s not always about the money, you’re right! you can be a great conversationalist as a researcher, teacher, nurse, or art historian while making a very modest salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 01:13 AM
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lol, i stumbled upon here because someone said that it was the new f*mcel sub. i wanted to come here to gawk. i’m interested in the psychology behind social relationships, sociology, etc., and it’s sometimes fun to have a good laugh. then i was scrolling and thought, “weird... this is just the basic dating advice that you’d hear from your grandma or aunties. where are the -cels? all of the women here are drowning in so much male attention that they’re trying to figure out a way how to wade throu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:44 AM
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yeah, this is it. they’re scared of being alone. they’ll monkeybranch into a relationship with a better girlfriend or temporarily cheat with women who aren’t even as good as their current girlfriend, but they won’t end things. they’ll end things if they get cheated on, and of course they’d end things if they’re being abused by a woman, but they’re not going to leave a woman who they’re just “meh” about. that’s why i tell women who complain all day about how terrible their boyfriends are to just …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:29 PM
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really don’t think this is gendered. as far as men go, i’ve seen some who essentially believe that women aren’t humans and should be used as incubators and chattel as well as for men’s sexual pleasure. they think that women are incredibly boring and have nothing to offer and if they have any interests it must have been influenced by their fathers or exes. i’ve also seen some guys who have oneitis for their entire lives, remaining devoted to one woman from age 14 until they die; they’re either lu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:22 PM
2

the red pill encouraging that blows my mind. a woman with no skills, money, or brains is going to ask for alimony. furthermore, a woman who is so feeble minded and insecure that red pill pick up artist tactics work on her is anxious and neurotic and is therefore much more likely to cheat, abandon, cling, or abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:23 PM
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i am once again saying that high value men who are attractive and educated do not marry broke, untalented, useless, beautiful dumbasses. ESPECIALLY when they come from a family with money. just because you see a lot of neurotic, unstable weirdo celebrities try to wife a narcissistic 22 year old hot girl or an equally as deranged fellow celebrity doesn’t make that the norm. wall street moguls, well-renowned surgeons, successful lawyers, engineers, and old money trust fundies tend to marry women w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 05:14 PM
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you’re welcome! many doctors don’t even know what these infections are. they’re super common and are associated with miscarriages. if you get recurrent UTIs or vaginitis after sleeping with the same partner, definitely specifically ask to be screened for these. they could be the culprit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:12 AM
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just don’t. even if he shows you that he’s herpes, hiv, chlamydia, and gonorrhea free, it’s not enough. you can still get hpv, mycoplasma, ureaplasma, trichomoniasis, and god knows what else. a lot of doctors won’t know what’s wrong with you for months and keep giving you yeast infection medications until you wind up writhing in pain with pelvic inflammatory disease unless you advocate for yourself. and yes, there’s a shot for hpv, but not all strains are covered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:22 AM
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is it irksome or awkward when you can sense that you’re being shit-tested or questioned? well, yeah. but it is far worse when a guy doesn’t care about you at all besides what you look like and what sexual and maid services that you provide, which is the telltale sign of a low value man. anyone worth dating is going to vet potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:08 PM
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our vaginal health and number of infections is subjective because we’re fine on our own. we can become sick because of the presence of your dirty dick messing up the general flora which can make the smell different, introducing your bacteria to the urinary tract which causes UTIs, and introducing your “bad” bacteria to the vagina that may outnumber our “good” bacteria which can cause BV, yeast, and mycoplasma infection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:26 PM
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“high value” coastal elite men do not want to date poor, uneducated women. i’m a woman in a big city, and i just know this for a fact. if a wall street mogul, medical doctor, or engineer approaches me, they ask me what i do within the first few minutes of conversation. to be a real dating prospect for them, you have to have a higher education and a respectable job title. they expect you to have some type of passion or hobby on top of that, like playing an instrument, doing art, or doing some typ…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:23 PM
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i’ve always said that the only excuse for it is if your partner is abusing you, and they’ve somehow financially or physically trapped you to stay with them. like, if they’re hitting you and gaslighting you, who the hell cares if you start a new relationship while you create your escape plan? it’s probably not healthy since you should heal on your own after that kind of situation, though. however, i’ve been seeing all of these stories about one spouse refusing to touch the other for years. years!…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:38 AM
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i find it interesting that everybody here with the victim complex tries to say that men commit suicide more, women are privileged and have more dating options, and nobody cares about lonely men. but if a woman points it out (men’s loneliness, suicide rate, less options)? anger. disagreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 07:51 AM
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thanks, i’m guessing that i’m gonna get downvoted heavily as usual, though. this sub is more like... burgundy or sangria pill debate because it’s heavily red.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 07:44 AM
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really? i have a wide face, and i feel like it looks wider when my hair is longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 07:11 AM
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these statistics just show how the threats of “the wall” and “dying alone with cats” are just projection. they’re not women’s biggest fears. they’re men’s. women are fine alone once they’ve matured and shook these fears that were planted in our heads since we were kids. we’re not the ones who monkeybranch from long term relationship to another without being alone. we’re not the ones who remarry after divorce or death of a spouse. the women who are guzzling wine and eating lexapro and zoloft to g…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:23 AM
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probably more suicide. probably more anxiety and depression medication being slung. divorced, unmarried, and widowed women tend to flourish by living longer, having less frailty, and having higher levels of happiness compared to their married peers. the opposite is true for men: married men are the ones who are healthier and live longer. many such cases!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 05:55 AM
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...huh? usually people just kind of vibe until they’re in their mid to late 20s when they start seriously looking and then shack up or marry in their late 20s or early 30s. besides the few people who got married very early (and actually lasted) and some spinsters who die alone (which is fine - we all die alone technically) or settle at 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 05:44 AM
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i think they’d rather risk the chance that their very low N-count girlfriend gets bored and “wants to see what’s out there” than taking the chance that a regular to high N-count girlfriend will have seen a larger penis. most of this at the end of the day is obsessing over their own penis size and sexual skill. most people want to find someone whose values align (having sex only when married, having sex in serious relationships only, having a lot of casual sex...) but it’s clear why the people wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 04:55 PM
2

i’m a woman, and i have a much simpler answer. like 85% of them are poorly done or tacky. i don’t know fuckall about tattoos, but most of the ones that i see on a day to day basis are lopsided, asymmetrical, incorrectly shaded, lining that goes thick and then thin, faded. then there’s the actual content of the tattoo, and a lot of that is usually cringe or overdone. this goes for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 04:50 PM
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it is a bit odd that his photos somehow radiate that he’s not confident in himself. can’t pinpoint why. maybe it’s just bias since we read about who he is, but he just looks awkward and unsure of himself really.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 07:25 PM
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you can’t “use” anyone on dating apps. you’re making yourself a commodity when you upload a profile and start shopping for people to have sex with like you’ve went to the store and are going through many flavors of ice cream before deciding on a few to take home. also, the boys in here crack me up. if this guy was 5’8”, you’d be calling telling him to pack it up and rope, since he has an average face. if a woman had those crow’s feet by 28, that type of nose shape, and that hairline, you’d all b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 07:13 PM
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it’s women in general. go on twitter. tweets making fun of pick mes get retweeted 80,000 times. also in real life, these women are spoken about by other women who are either concerned for them or clowning them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 10:12 PM
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this is a class and capitalism thing that is affecting the middle and upper middle class. for some reason, there are these weird rumors that spread, stating that you need like half a million dollars to raise a kid. that’s really not the case. those statistics always include things that the average family doesn’t and shouldn’t provide. they even include things like tuition for a 4 year private college... yeah, my kids can go to public universities, and hopefully they’ll bust their asses for schol…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:37 PM
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i live in an extremely large and diverse city, and no man has ever had the audacity to ask me to split the bill during the entire courting period (before exclusivity is established), forget the first date. extremely online people are really cut from a different cloth than “normal” people, i guess. i say this as someone who is way too online.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:30 PM
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bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:26 PM
0

women say the same thing about pick mes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:25 PM
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depends. my friend was friends with this very attractive and interesting guy who once complained about basically getting pumped and dumped. well, we got closer to the guy, and he mentioned not giving oral sex. it clicked. he probably had 30 bodies before we were even 20 years old, but no woman stuck around because of how selfish he must have been in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:20 PM
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they think that they’ll be an exception, and maybe they’re right. my mom and dad genuinely split duties 50/50. and no, not the type of fake 50/50 where everything is tit for tat, and the woman winds up sacrificing much more. if i didn’t have a good male role model, i would not get into long term relationships with men. being pink pilled, people think that i must have no dad or a bad one, but it’s the opposite. i know that men can be good because of him. he was the kind of guy who was the footbal…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 07:43 PM
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um, no. i wouldn’t date someone who i didn’t find handsome, so it would be awkward if they didn’t find me pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 02:22 PM
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their relationships fall apart statistically. relationships with age gaps (over 5 years), different classes, and different morals end in divorce way more than couples of a similar age, class background, and morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 07:40 AM
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yeah, every guy wants to be used for money. every guy wants arm candy that gags every time that she reluctantly has to have sex with him once or twice per month so that he doesn’t finally lose his mind and kick her to the curb, leaving her without his fortune. every guy wants a girlfriend who closes her eyes and wishes it was over every time that he kisses her or takes her to some boring rich people event in exchange for a louis. and then bangs the hot 21 year old pool boy. hey, at least his poo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 07:38 AM
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serious answer now. honestly just chill. pandemic ruined dating. dating apps are trash. join a social group. my parents are together but both joined a poker league so they meet new friends all the time. the single people in those leagues probably have sex and date. i know some people my age who do, like, some unisex adult dodgeball league. also change the way you look at things lol rating people on a scale is toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:53 AM
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you hit the wall, i guess. should have settled down with a NICE woman during your prime years in your early to mid 20s instead of enjoying the pussy pendulum ride for all these years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:44 AM
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i don’t know why this question is targeted at men. i’m bored, so i’m going to give some perspective anyway. other women may not love my answer, but the number of men who approach you highly varies depending on where you live and what you’re wearing. i live in a big city. besides very untouchably ugly women or women who look super angry or aggressive, all women get approached. obviously, more attractive ones get approached more often. i think that you’re on the money about people coping by saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:47 PM
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no woman worth dating is going to play barb the builder. women, unless very inexperienced, do not want to sign up to date a work in progress who is likely broke and maybe even unmotivated just to end up being dumped for someone else after 3 years when the guy actually becomes successful and thinks that he can do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:13 PM
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extremely. even if you managed to date the hottest man or woman you could imagine, you’re eventually going to get bored of them if their head’s empty. however, you must be sure that you aren’t also the boring one. if everyone who you meet is a jackass, you’re the jackass. same with boring. or maybe you’re not exactly boring, but you don’t inspire people, either. few people are actually truly boring. you could have two normal or interesting people who just don’t vibe, and they might think that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 08:51 PM
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huge slap in the face to female Mets fans everywhere
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:16 PM
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this entire sub is just men projecting. 21% of men leave their sick wife, while 3% of women leave their sick husband. women are the ones who love unconditionally if anything but file for divorce more overall due to abuse or financial ruin.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:13 PM
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no. men who drag eastern european, southeast asian, and south american women over to the states to marry them are often surprised that these women are also “spicy”. they are also more blunt about what they want, which is a husband who provides. sure, you might get to “lead”, but these women are the ones who are truly in control and literally married you for money, stability, and status and will leave you immediately if you lied about your financial status or become broke. and they’ll tell that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:09 PM
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yeah it’s just annoying that the whole thread is like reeeeee!!! wammin!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 09:48 PM
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women tend to criticize the little things that men don’t even think about. the eyebrows, if a woman’s eyes are too close together, the fact that she’s wearing an outdated high-low floral printed skirt, having a bad waist to hip ratio, stuff like that. men usually opt for the hard-hitting, more general insults like fat, ugly, manly, anorexic skinny. men’s insults are also often “incorrect” which is incredibly frustrating. they’ll say that high waisted bottoms are ugly and unflattering when they’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 09:15 PM
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i always say that wanting to argue with women about their own social movement, the way that we choose to look, and the way that we choose to act is a feminine trait. every man who i’ve dated when asked about feminism is like “that’s not really my business”. guys who are very against it and guys who are way too into it show different kinds of red flags. i guess i’ll elaborate a bit on the suspiciously pro-feminist guys - they’re not too concerned about sex trafficking or women’s health care but a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:52 PM
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you can never tell here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:48 PM
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when guys are taller than 6’4”, they start reaching gangly, marfan’s syndrome looking territory unless they really make it a point to gain muscle or fat. they are also extremely rare. the reality is that most women would say that 5’11”-6’3” is the ideal, and most would have no issue with 5’9” or 5’10”. the guy’s face is the most important part. and the more attractive the body and face, the shorter the height that women are willing to accept. there was this guy at my school who is 5’5” who was e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:12 PM
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yeah, this really threw me. almost seems like a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:08 PM
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LOL, what? maybe it’s a regional thing, but men are still always approaching us, even after fourth wave feminism and hashtag metoo. i prefer it this way and hope that it stays the same since i think that online dating is a shitshow, even though some men occasionally irk me while i’m busy. i will say that it happens a bit less often due to the masks, as they hide most of our face and create a sort of alienated, less social vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:05 PM
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i was 19. so was he. yes, young. however, i found out that he had over 30 partners by then. he was extremely good looking and very charismatic. my one friend who knew him well told me that she couldn’t understand why women (well, girls at this point) would only hang out with him once or twice and then run away since he is so good looking, intelligent, and interesting. well... none of these 30 wanted to act as his fleshlight even though he was “chad”, as the guys on this sub would say. she about …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:33 AM
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you’re still taking that risk regardless of gender and who asks who, but it increases way more when you are a woman who approaches the guy. i’ve seen it play out plenty of times, which is why i wouldn’t approach a guy. those same women usually have to push for engagement, cohabitation, and marriage with an ambivalent guy who is waiting around for something “better”. they either do or eventually relent after 7 years when they realize that they actually can’t do better or that their dream girl is …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:26 AM
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yeah i guess some/most of us feel like it’s unsexy or awkward to ask for more foreplay or oral sex. like if we have to ask it feels like we’re making someone do something that they don’t want to do. i did ghost one guy over this and never bothered with casual sex again. i find sex much more passionate and fun when it’s with someone i love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:37 AM
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oh of course women want casual sex. many of us just don’t bother anymore because the guys don’t really put any effort into giving you pleasure unless they really care about you. it’s why i haven’t dabbled so much into casual sex. my friends who all complain about men “not finding the clit” aren’t talking about their boyfriends or even FWBs - they’re talking about strange guys, one night stands. it’s just not worth the risk of std or infection to have potentially boring orgasmless sex
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 03:20 AM
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women tend to struggle less financially also because the oldest/only daughter in the family is probably taking care of someone. therefore, they need to be given money to do so. like, you’re not going to be remarrying at 51 immediately because you’re probably taking care of your declining dad and dealing with your 18 year old going off to college at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 02:09 AM
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i think that more women need to focus on leveling themselves up and doing things that make them happy. as a woman, i can say that all of the advertisements and media pressure us to be into “self-care”, be boy crazy, watch reality tv, and shop for fast fashion. we are actively dissuaded from real hobbies. as little girls, we were all soccer players, gymnasts, martial artists, art...artists, etc., but studies show that when we hit puberty, we drop out of those activities! if everyone around us, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 01:50 AM
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of course they do. they need a new woman to clean the house, give consistent sex, maintain the managerial role of the home, remember to send the in laws birthday cards, and cook all the food. the women are taking a break and enjoy only having to take care of themselves and aren’t in a rush to find another man who they need to take care of. divorced and unmarried women live longer and are more healthy than their married peers. now that we are in a more egalitarian society, this gap will probably …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 01:41 AM
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either. most of the time it’s unintentional. you wind up falling for someone new because the relationship is bad, and you simply choose to end your bad relationship and try with the new person. where i live, men don’t really end long term relationships unless they’re being abused or cheated on. they just monkeybranch to the next woman if they’re unhappy. it’s up to the women to end crappy relationships, so i cringe so hard when i see local women being treated poorly and foolishly tolerating it b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 01:33 AM
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yeah, i gotta say, most of the attractive men who i’ve met are more successful and respectful to women. when i was younger and hadn’t grown into my features yet, i spitefully thought that all hot people (men and women) were mean. i said it as a cope. then i realized that a lot of the uglier, insecure guys treated their girlfriends horribly. their insecurity leads to jealousy which leads to violence. they cheat because they’re insecure. a hot guy may leave because he has more options, but that’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 12:44 AM
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they’ve been brainwashed that it’s fun and empowering. they’re literally lying to themselves. either that, or they’re part of the small percentage of women who can orgasm easily after a few minutes of penetration alone lol. not everything is empowering, ffs. wearing makeup, dressing sexy, whatever. it doesn’t give me power. it can be fun, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 12:41 AM
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thank you! the projection in here is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 12:39 AM
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sadly no. i’ve tried to google them, and i’ve had a hard time finding them. they were scholarly articles, though, not just pop science garbage, so maybe someone can find them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:45 PM
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i’ve read a few studies that men literally don’t see women who they’re not attracted to. like their brains just gloss over them as people, and they forget about them immediately. women don’t do this: we see and remember everyone. that explains so much of inceldom and purple pill debate stuff in general. this means that incels really only recall beautiful women. therefore, unless they’re beautiful men who are also somewhat charming and stable, they’re out of luck. this makes them think that no wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:02 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:18 AM
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they’re... not. i really hate this, i’m sorry lol. they may seem feminine because of the makeup and hair dye, but they’re masculine men. they have nice facial structures, good heads of hair, v-shaped bodies, and slim muscular builds. they’re also mostly tall by east asian standards (5’10”, which is just normal for white and black men). there is a difference between physically masculine men who do or wear socially feminine things than men who are low T and therefore not masculine. those men aren’…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 01:28 AM
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most dating or relationship subreddits are filled with pickme garbage that will only hurt women. like, you can go to a post of a girl complaining that her bf ignores her for severe porn addiction or that he yells at her to make dinner when she’s sick, and these redditors (teenagers) will say to “sit him down and communicate”. like... what? that’s not salvageable. the 30 year olds tell it like it is. the older you get, the less bs you tolerate. the women in dating over thirty are probably 30, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 09:56 PM
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they don’t want women’s help or children’s help. they don’t even want men’s help. they’d rather drive around lost with veins bursting out of their foreheads for an hour rather than ask some guy for directions. some of the best dating advice i’ve ever gotten was not to try to help any man. i don’t mean not to help them wash the huge rambunctious family dog or pick out a new set of silverware - i mean don’t try to fix their pain, problems at work, platonic relationships, challenge in their hobby, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:56 PM
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“at no point did we ever have a convo...” why do these dudes blow gallons and gallons of seed into women before even asking them what their morals or plans for the future are? and then get mad when there is a disagreement about something that should’ve been talked about during the first year or so of dating when they’re already 2 kids deep???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:24 AM
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women approaching or making the first move with men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 11:55 PM
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FDS is your typical dating advice that you’d get from your grandma and aunties. TRP turns men with anxious attachment styles into avoidant attachment styles, naturally attracting women with low self-esteem and personality disorders.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 11:44 PM
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they don’t like it. they always say to never listen to women about how to pick up women. well, don’t listen to men about how to pick up men. the one time that i ever did this was during the middle of my high school years. we talked every night on the phone for hours. the guy rejected me. things got awkward between us for a few months. then he asked me out. i declined because it was all so weird. he literally re-asked me out because he liked me too but hated the idea of me initiating the relation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:40 AM
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“beat it chick!”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:28 AM
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it is. women are something like 5x more likely to be cheated on if they earn far less or far more than their male partners. overall, divorce is way less common when both people are within the same class. it’s way less frequent when both marry in their very early thirties, than say, at 21 years old. finally, it’s way less frequent when both are similar ages; when one partner (usually the guy) is only 5+ years older, shit starts hitting the fan as far as statistics go. all very easily googleable t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:27 AM
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well, yeah. that and “being nice” are the bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:03 PM
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people who are worth dating have lives, skills, hobbies, and a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:36 PM
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“where have all the good men gone” is the echo of a woman who is sedentary and thinks that online dating apps are useful. the good man is outside. the good man is at work, building a bicycle, learning martial arts, perfected his skill and is maybe even teaching it at this point. the good man is with his family and friends. “where are the high value men?” they ask, while swiping left and right on video game, porn, fast food, and drug addicts. but to be fair, it’s not like you can ask for that muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 05:41 PM
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lots of people hate their own single mothers instead of the other parent who abandoned the family
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 04:36 PM
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sure! i wasn’t exactly instructed, but my mom would tell me that he doesn’t care about you if he drives off without waiting for you to get inside, if he expects you to take trains to him in general if he can drive, if he doesn’t want to pay for the dates, if he doesn’t organize the dates, if he leaves you alone in a strange public place at night, if he argues about using a condom, if he expects you to go down on him without getting doing the same for you, if he only talks to you at night rather …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 12:00 AM
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i’m of southern and eastern european descent. thank god for the way that i was raised. it was egalitarian in that i was “allowed” to play with both dolls/makeup and legos/toy microscops/cars. however, my mom told me like it is. i’ve never had my heart broken. i’ve never been pumped and dumped or used in any way. i wish the rest of the girls could know the red flags immediately since it is really hard to unlearn nonsense as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 07:09 PM
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um, not really? women get called insecure, stupid, and deceiving all the time for getting surgeries. there was even a fake viral story about a chinese man who successfully sued his wife over never disclosing her surgeries after she birthed ugly children. it also depends on class and culture. many koreans, for example, get double eyelid and jaw carving surgeries when they graduate from school. it’s almost expected. celebrities, the rich, and entertainers of any gender get surgery all the time, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 06:08 PM
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nah, fat dudes can still have that v-shaped body. just as an obese woman can still be hourglass shaped. all i mean by v-shaped body is that the shoulders are broader than the abdomen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 02:18 AM
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women’s tastes are quite similar. sorry to burst anyone’s bubble. by dad bod, we mean that we don’t mind a little belly and softness around the edges. we don’t mind some body hair or scars. universally, we go for the v-shaped body type in men, though. broad shoulders, smaller waist, nice and toned legs that aren’t chicken legs but also aren’t heavy like a woman’s. this body type can be found among skinny, muscular, and fat men. narrow shoulders, “man boobs”, gangly limbs or fatter ones that rese…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 01:30 AM
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getting some guy to go out with you and knock you up is among one of the easiest things ever. except for rare cases, women are single because they want to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:05 PM
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the whole height thing is dumb. i’m bi and limiting your potential pool of partners over height is just so weird to me. as far as obesity, people really can’t help if they’re not attracted to it since on a biological level we are reading it as unhealthy and unmotivated. as for the other things, it’s the intent behind it. a woman wanting a guy with more money makes sense. money is power. money buys you nice things. money secures a better future for your kids, so she’s not even being self serving …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:52 PM
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being jealous of women is the root of all of these incel, mgtow, misogyny, etc. movements. they’re jealous because we can get sex (and even relationships... not necessarily good ones because those take work, but you know what i mean) pretty easily, as it’s a supply and demand thing. we get multiple orgasms. and we are the ones who bring life into this world. there is no penis envy - it’s all uterus envy. they tend to ignore the laundry list of reasons why it’s much harder to be female (whether i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:05 PM
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oh yeah for sure!!! there are passive men and women. i guess i just meant that there is no weird brain fixture that makes women into obedient lapdogs that gets triggered when they see a 6 foot 6 figure 6 incher male like a lot of the guys in this sub want to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 02:15 PM
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it’s not malicious. both the man and the woman benefit from it. there are entire schools online and tons of youtube channels with millions of subscribers that tell women how to channel that feminine energy. being feminine OR being weak doesn’t come naturally to most women, or else men wouldn’t have had to spend thousands of years beating it into us that we have to be this way. we have to be groomed since childhood and reminded constantly to “be a lady”. being feminine does not have to mean weak,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:57 PM
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it’s not weird. it’s an act. a powerful woman with lots of resources is always dominant, but she’s also smart. she fools the man into thinking that she’s submissive and needs help. she knows that men need to be needed. she knows that his protect and provide instinct will be shattered real quick if she drops the act and acts in a masculine way. she channels feminine energy in to get what she wants in the home while getting what she wants outside of the home by being (ugh) a girl bosstm.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:47 PM
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i think that this is a bizarre generalization. i like being small because we live longer and can be noticed less in public, but that’s about it. i’ve noticed that the majority of guys really like explaining things and “protecting” women who they like, so if i want a particular guy’s attention, i’ll ask him how he does insert hobby here or ask for help with something that i’m doing. they love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 01:34 PM
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this is quite bizarre. throughout the 90s and 00s, women heavily fought against the idea that we all wanted to be this way. you can be kind, non-judgmental, and well-dressed without calling yourself a bimbo. i think that this is some kind of backlash to how difficult life is nowadays. the aesthetic presents itself as stereotypically hyperfeminine, but it’s about infantilization. it’s a response to knowing that you can “do the right thing” by going to school, completing higher education, slaving …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:17 AM
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only if they have money and status as well. they’re as faithful as their options. that’s why there’s the running gag of the woman always being a little better looking in hetero couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 04:09 PM
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they’re mad that those women seem to sleep with everybody but still don’t seem to sleep with them. they view it like a slap in the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:01 PM
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it might be just your neighborhood. the coastal elites are home to plenty of well-educated, wealthy women who like to party, are extremely online, and have very interesting hobbies. it sounds like you’re asking for some type of mythical creature, though. do you want a trad woman who also isn’t a normie? i’m sure there are some but not too many. sorry, but a fun, positive woman who is attractive and actually has her own personality and interests will have already dated multiple people before you …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 08:34 PM
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it was specifically about men! i wish i could find the study(ies), but i don’t know what to google. “men don’t see ugly women” isn’t yielding the results lol. if men “don’t see” ugly women, that could explain a lot of inceldom. they’re very much not seeing the women in their looksmatch/league and hyper-focusing on above average looking women. it’s also why more women than men claim that women and men can be just friends. if this study is right, chances are your guy friends do want to have sex wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 05:27 PM
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i read a study or two a long time ago that said that men don’t see women who they’re not attracted to. like, their eyes pretty much gloss over them, and they don’t them of them for long. i sometimes wonder if women also forget that these women exist, to a lesser extent than men. there are a lot of very awkward, antisocial women who resemble shrek and may or may not have a nasty attitude who don’t have any friends. more often than not, the nasty attitude was a defense mechanism. growing up, there…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 03:49 PM
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this is tough. a lot of this is all about vibes, how good you are at spotting red flags, how high your self-esteem is, and who this guy is to you (total stranger, someone you vaguely know with mutual friends, a friendship that blossomed into something more, etc.). not every relationship is the same, and depending on where you live, pink and red flags are all different. for example, where i live, not driving and having roommates as a single adult is not strange at all, but in many suburban or rur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:26 PM
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most ladies do not listen to me, ever, when i say this. before i broke out of my shell, i was that kind of nerdy, high grades earning, shy girl with bad bangs back in high school, so i attracted a lot of male friends. they were also the nerdy, introverted type who preferred music or board games as hobbies rather than sports. when i tell you that they’d just abandon their awkward and quiet demeanor for the girls that they liked, i mean it. two of them got into a physical fight because they both p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:16 PM
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FDS is basic dating advice from your grandma and your aunties. it’s kind of hilarious that men are freaking out as if it’s some new fringe ideology now that it’s written in black and white and not whispered from older lady to younger lady. always have a secret GTFO fund/bank account, don’t move in unless married, don’t purchase a home until married, do not bother dating a guy who isn’t pursuing you actively and coming up with high effort dates, don’t have sex right away to weed out who wants sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:44 PM
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i know more than a handful of women who dumped their boyfriends because their boyfriends had low libidos. this sub is always making generalizations. plenty of women suffer because of their low libido boyfriends and husbands, but they find it humiliating to talk about because of stereotypes, so people think that it never happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 01:23 PM
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the guys stamp their feet every time they hear women employing the 3 month rule when we’re looking to get into a relationship, but that sub is all the proof that you need. there is no “pill”. that’s reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 07:56 PM
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that’s a part of dating. it’s an audition. you find out things that you don’t like about the person, and then you bail.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:12 PM
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while women fuck their himbos. nobody cares lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:09 PM
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a huge portion of high quality men also choose to wait for a couple of months before sex for the same reason. they want to get to know you. it’s not even really about playing games or making him wait half the time since both of you will be on the same page
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 08:06 PM
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why do guys seethe when you don’t cry or make a scene about the break up? even during the quite amicable, mutual break up in my healthiest past relationship, he at some point blurted out, “did you even care about me at all?!” how insulting. of course i did, but even by age 20, i was not going to show my tears, beg, or write paragraphs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:56 PM
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american food in particular is extremely unhealthy. it’s all corn, sugar, and dye. it’s very, very hard to lose weight. it’s also in the american culture to want instant gratification. people would rather experience momentary pleasure from food than the long term pleasure of being treated with respect and desire (and really just having everyone just love you more). since puberty, men gain muscle more easily, and women gain fat more easily, so there are slightly more fat women than men. i can’t w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:32 PM
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at least 7x more likely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:24 PM
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not everyone is this desperate. some people want to make sure that someone has values that align with theirs and isn’t actually a horrible person, liar, or weirdo before having sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 01:50 PM
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who said that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:49 PM
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i mean, i’m not surprised. more and more women are making the first move nowadays. but are you sure that all of those women who are smashing on the first date really care about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:39 PM
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that’s a valid question. it’s also complicated, and i went into this on another post weeks ago. “high value” “full package” guys are pretty much universally physically attractive, talented, stable, nice family and friends, and educated. what about “high value” women? nobody seems to agree what that means, especially here. some consider a bimbo who is pleasant to be around and makes your days brighter high value. some consider an attractive woman who is also educated and successful high value. so…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:39 PM
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my mom always said that it is lonely at the top. full package women deal with something else, but it’s also isolating. a beauty who’s also successful, smart, and talented will have to deal with insecure friends, family, and lovers. yes, even their life partners, if they don’t choose wisely, can become jealous and resentful. enter hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:32 PM
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this is the truth. they hate to see it. we objectify them almost as much as they do to us. we enjoy sex. sex is something that men and women do together, not something that men do to women, but if your brain is fried from hours of porn, you may not get that. a hot, empty headed himbo with no interests beyond video games and partying will do for a few months. when we meet someone who is attractive and actually interesting, well-read, and goal oriented, that’s who we coax to court us... and won’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:53 PM
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they don’t care about the guy who they have sex with immediately. he’s just a hot piece of ass. they wish to be courted by the guy who they actually like - he is the full package.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:37 PM
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i don’t know how to break it to you, but you probably have a very cute dog that young girls are snapping to their friends
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:11 AM
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extremely overstated. the majority of people do not use online dating! less than a third of young people report using these apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:08 AM
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it’s not usually that she successfully scratched an itch. she usually gets pregnant or goes through menopause. i’ve not done either, but i’ve seen it completely nerf the libido of the horniest women. i don’t think that women wake up one day and say, “yeah, i’m done,” for no reason
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 08:04 AM
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low N girls will do the same thing, though. men would think, “wow, i’m so lucky to marry my virgin wife. i have no small penis anxiety with her, and she will not compare me to past partners. i don’t have to worry about STDs.” then, boom. he wants to annul the marriage because they haven’t even done it in the first 30 days of being married lol. shocker: the woman who resisted the urge to have sex for 20+ years never had the urge at all. she only pretended that she did to get married to you, or ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 04:42 AM
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a... backsplash? man, i felt pickme-esque because i brought over a liquid soap dispenser because i was sick of using his bar soap LOL. i am once again saying “if he wanted to, he would”. if he wanted or needed kitchen tiles, he would have gotten them a while ago without your help. i’m dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:55 AM
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the majority of america is overweight for sure. for women, how they’re treated depends on how they gain weight. if they’re apple or inverted triangle shaped, gaining weight looks terrible. it’s not ideal for straight shaped women, either, but it’s not as bad. hourglass and pear shaped women get away with being overweight. i’m a member of the latter group and have been really fucking fat in the past, but no one has ever commented on my weight before since i don’t gain it on my stomach and keep a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:59 PM
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no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:52 PM
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i knew that this thread would come up in here! i knew it! these women are describing the bare minimum for an ideal boyfriend. they’re kind, they have similar interests or take an interest in what they do, they have jobs, they have a nice family, they look good enough. once again, this is the bare minimum. people aren’t owed relationships. relationships aren’t this mandatory thing. if you become lazy, boring, unattractive due to apathy rather than some type of medical issue, unsexy... why on eart…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 04:04 PM
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you made the right choice. i saw a post in one of the medical subreddits by a man whose fetish was sniffing pantyhose. apparently he has a permanent sinus infection from all of the bacteria that he’s inhaled, and he requires multiple surgeries on the delicate parts of his face or else he could face some serious consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:23 PM
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women’s sex toys are just more common, so they’re seen as less weird. they’re more common because of anatomy. even though you see it in porn, women don’t finger bang themselves in real life. if women want to be penetrated during a self pleasure session, they need to use a foreign object. if fleshlights get talked about more, they won’t be seen as weird as they are now. full dolls and even doll parts (disembodied torso with ass, for example... or the dreaded vajankle) will always be weird because…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:21 AM
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besides men engaging high risk behavior more often and men working in more dangerous physical jobs, the Y chromosome is apparently weaker than the second X chromosome as well. the second X has been linked to better health outcomes with regard to cancer, less incidence in developmental disability, and stronger immune systems.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:12 AM
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i do when it’s relevant to the conversation. nobody looks at me crazy, including men, because this is just the very normal life and dating advice that our grandmas and aunties have been trying to tell us for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:22 AM
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if she won’t end it, those types usually just cheat with someone who they really like and monkeybranch into that new relationship. it’s common in the celebrity world as well. a male celebrity dates a female one for 7 years, it ends catastrophically, and he wifes the new girlfriend within 18 months. this is why i won’t initiate or make the first move with men, as a woman. i’m not afraid of rejection: i’m afraid of his reluctant acceptance and being used as a placeholder until he meets or reconnec…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 09:03 PM
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“bf of 6 years”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:40 AM
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for women, looks is what gets you through the door in the first place. we don’t “care” what he looks like down the line because we won’t date men who we think are “meh” in the first place. the women who do consciously date down are usually unstable and very low self-esteem, so those relationships implode for other reasons. many men have sex with, date, and even marry women who they’re not initially crazy about. that’s why i always tell fellow women that it’s really up to them to end relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 03:22 AM
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i’m only half kidding when i say that porn addict phrenology is real. for some reason, lots of porn addicts just don’t look so hot. thinning hair, pallid, weak features, flabby body (not meaning fat, just like when a man has low T and starts to get boobs and hips), and just a weird, dead look in their eyes. i’ve seen people admit that they were addicted and then quit the habit, and they look so much better, like a dried up plant that has been watered. obviously this does not apply to all of them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:52 PM
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i really do not think that a lot of people have been in relationships here. it goes hand in hand. you initially are very attracted to someone when you decide to enter the relationship, but they become even more beautiful when you love them. if and when they hurt you irreparably, they can become way uglier to you. i mean, if your partner gets really fat or ugly, you might become less sexually attracted to them and have less patience for bullshit, but that’s once again going hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 04:45 PM
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it’s true. marriage is beta male affirmative action.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 04:23 PM
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nagging makes people more secure and complacent in any relationship. they see how angry that you’re willing to get or how little they have to do without you willing to leave. even completely stonewalling will yield better results. they want to be nagged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:05 PM
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i would love to have a family after i finish up my graduate degree and do some traveling with my partner. i would cherish staying home with my kids and making memories. i would love to do some martial arts and make banana bread and do some art while they’re at school, in between cleaning and other responsibilities. the thing is, being a SAHM is dangerous. no other way around it. due to the fickle nature of human beings, he could just decide that this ain’t it, pick up, and leave. the world has d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:22 PM
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this again, i guess. it’s actually quite easy to tell if a guy is going to “pump and dump” or not. are his first date ideas grab a drink, a walk, or netflix, or are they dinner or an event that interests both of you? does he only text you late at night, or does he want to communicate with you when the sun is out as well? does he care about sex and small talk, or is he trying to show you parts of his life and learn yours? and so many more clues. not to mention, a lot of “pump and dump” can simply…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:02 PM
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it kind of is. “what’s in it for him? what does he get out of it?” he’s getting a serious partner who wants to have a relationship built on care and respect. that’s the bare minimum for the FDS/HVM crowd, so then what else does she bring to the table? i don’t know, different women bring different things to the table. if you can’t see someone’s value, or you don’t think what they think is valuable, then you should leave them alone. it’s a basic incompatibility issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 07:30 PM
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it’s hard to answer this question because men don’t have the same wants/needs from a girlfriend. if i chimed in and said, “you’ll get a highly educated woman with a fruitful career,” i’d get three replies saying that men don’t care about women’s intelligence or degrees. if i said that they’d get a talented (artistic, musically, or otherwise) and ambitious woman, same responses. if i said that they’d get a beautiful woman who puts time and effort into her appearance, people will say that looks fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 07:20 PM
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it’s also why they tell women to level up with their careers, hobbies, and platonic relationships. they warn you that being useless is being “LVW” or aspiring to be a SAHM is dangerous. and it is, especially if you don’t have a great judge of character. a good percentage of the posts there are to remind women to forget about men and beauty for a second and to actually embrace your talents and enjoy life. “high value” people are naturally attracted to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 07:12 PM
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don’t bother with online dating. i used tinder in 2016 and found a boyfriend on it. he was very nice, but we were at different stages in life and amicably ended things. my boyfriend at the time was my first match and the first person i had swiped right on. if you want a quality partner from online dating, you’ll be swiping right (or saying “yes” to) less than 1 in 100 people on there. if you’re too liberal with your swiping, your inbox is going to be loaded with sex pests, people who are looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 06:49 PM
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i remember when he did a podcast with post malone and joji, and he said in front of hila that women want to be hunted like animals. joji made this horrified face, and it became a reaction image/meme for a while. i don’t even think that hila said anything as a rebuttal or argument or joked along with it a la cool girl aesthetic. from the few video clips i’ve seen of them, anyway, i’ve never heard her say much. she just typically says “yeah. yeah.” to what he says. weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 06:27 PM
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it’s not a problem, and i don’t typically fix things that aren’t broken. i’ve never liked someone who didn’t end up liking me back once they got the memo. i’m a former gym rat turned martial artist and recently cyclist. life is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 05:33 AM
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do you ever see those couples who are together for 7 years, they split, the man gets another girlfriend 5 minutes later, and she gets a ring in 18 months/more social media presence/better gifts/more affection etc.? i would love to make the first move as a woman with a man, but i know that it’s a terrible idea. there is a portion of men who will agree to sleep with or even date women who they’re “meh” about. they will use her as a placeholder girlfriend for a consistent source of sex and social s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 01:29 AM
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i would grab the bill and pay for the both of us. then block and delete. i can’t believe she ever saw that guy again lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/21 01:06 AM
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not a man, but young balding men should look into high quality toupees. you wouldn’t believe the amount of women who use toppers, extensions, and full wigs. it’s not only black women who wear wigs, either. i was watching that show “the boys” with my bf, and he was shocked when the blonde superhero removed her hair topper in a scene. i had to explain to him that most natural blonde women have thin, mousy hair and that women who dye their hair lighter severely damage it, so they need toppers, bead…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 06:22 PM
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it is not that difficult to organize prom by yourself. the girls can boycott this prom and organize another one after graduation so that the school has no say or control. obviously, the boys will follow them there. my high school punished one year of students by taking away prom, and they just booked the same venue by crowdfunding the same money that they would have given to the school to do the exact same thing. some of the parents helped organize it as well. also, schools go viral for less. i …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:29 PM
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i think that this is a valid point but not perfect. i think that the boy in the video definitely does look more attractive with the gothic style, but it’s also partially because he’s more confident that way. confidence matters a lot to women. women may “love nerds”, but it’s just andrew garfield wear a flannel and thick rimmed glasses. yeah, he’s skinny and maybe doesn’t have the most rugged features, but he doesn’t have a recessed chin, bug eyes, bad nose, facial asymmetry, or an awkward body s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 08:42 PM
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why is this weirdly accurate lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 05:33 PM
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hell yeah. i love a strong jawline and a fat wallet. don’t care if he’s 5’5” tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 03:10 AM
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no, not really. they didn’t have much growing up, though. my grandma is from a tall eastern european family even though grandma herself was average, and my grandpa is from a short sicilian and argentine family. my grandma’s sister was 6 feet, and so is her niece. so my dad’s aunts, uncles, and great grandparents were very tall on one side. if everyone was short on both sides of the family, then that would have been more of a freak occurrence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:43 PM
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height does not factor into my attraction to men. it might be because i’m bi. my straight female friends have very bizarre height preferences. perhaps it’s out of insecurity since women are raised to want to be small and delicate. i’m 5’3” so it’s not often that i encounter men who are shorter than me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:27 PM
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height doesn’t work this way. my grandmother and grandfather were 5’5” and 5’5”, and they made my 5’11” father. what am i going to tell him when it comes to dating? do sons really seek dating in-depth advice from their mothers? i’ve never asked my dad for dating advice, and we are pretty close. as far as telling him the truth, i absolutely would. my mother never sugar coated anything, and i only benefited from it even though it hurt. when i switched from glasses to contacts, she said, “thank god…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 04:19 PM
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i don’t understand this question
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:10 PM
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pornography is less about male sexuality and more about male paraphilia. you’re watching two people have sex that don’t involve you whatsoever. you’re a peeping tom. much of porn is of teenagers, trafficked people, mentally ill people, or revenge porn, so you’re a voyeur at least some of the time and may as well peek into a neighbor’s window and watch him have sex with his wife. even if it’s ethnically sourced, consensual, fine, and good, you’re still jerking off to some other guy having sex. a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 06:37 PM
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that won’t work. men care about what others think of their girlfriends, but women don’t care about what others think of their boyfriends. guys will dump a girl if their friends call her fat or ugly. ladies stay with dudes who sleep on floor mattresses with 20 year old pillows, deal drugs for a living, and “don’t believe in valentine’s day” while her entire friends and family screech at her to leave. women are used to being shamed for every single god damned thing, especially our interests when w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 03:54 AM
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then perish
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 03:51 AM
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men’s obsession on this sub with 30 is very weird. it depends on how you age. i’m 25 and friends with people from ages 23 to 32. nobody looks much younger or much older than anyone else. if you already look older by 30, you’re probably a chainsmoking drinker with very little melanin and enjoy tanning with no sunscreen. i have female relatives who are in their mid 50s who are still hit on by men ages 35-65 all the time because they’re not very wrinkly and have no grays.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 02:13 PM
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this is so fucking stupid. you can’t tell if someone knows how to sling good dick by looking at their face or listening to them talk. you can actually get a good idea by their dancing, though. no kidding. the best partners i’ve ever had were always willing to dance (rather than sulking in the corner) and had rhythm. i’ve never had an uncaring sexual partner before. because i’ve only had sex in relationships or with people who i shared another type of close bond with. it’s always the women who ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 07:37 AM
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i was writing a giant paragraph about this, but you explained what i was going to say in one sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/21 06:51 AM
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i’m a bi woman, but i don’t really feel this way at all. i have maybe 2 bi female friends, and one bi relative. i have a lesbian aunt, and i vaguely know a lesbian girl from high school. the rest are straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 07:18 PM
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i hate that he exists on this planet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:42 AM
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that sounds annoying, sorry. glad that’s over. what do you mean by hostage situation interrogation? i’m sorry for misunderstanding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 01:11 AM
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they probably shouldn’t do it unless they want to. then the relationship will go rotten because of his resentment. there are lots of men who genuinely take joy in leading and paying for the romantic experience; they’re the same guys who like to grab the bill when they’re out to dinner with several friends. same with women who only wear makeup or god forbid get pregnant because they feel like they “have to”. they should stop painting their faces and having kids if they don’t want to!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 06:54 PM
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equality = human rights, basic respect, and dignity. men are FREE to not pay for our dates. there will be some who still CHOOSE to no matter what happens in progressive society. unsurprising that they’ll be the ones getting second dates most of the time. a lot of libfemmy types actually do refuse it when men try to pay for them, and it’s probably the majority of liberal feminists at this point. especially the coastal elites. they can choose that route. i choose to be courted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 06:21 PM
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the men who pay do it because they want to do it. it doesn’t matter what outsiders have to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 06:01 PM
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women are still at an advantage here because they don’t have to disclose their sexual history lol. paying for dates is a material thing. i can go on a rant about how casual sex is fun in theory but not worth it for women (orgasm gap), but that’s a long ass paragraph... i discourage all female friends from doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:24 PM
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it’s not entitlement. in the hetero world, generally, men are the pursuers, and women are the choosers. why on god’s green earth wouldn’t we choose the ones who will pay for our meal? there are tens of thousands who will and tens of thousands who won’t, so we’re not limiting ourselves here. it’s not a dumbass standard like 6’2” above only or millionaires only.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:45 PM
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i think that a lot, a lot of people are actually bisexual but pick a side. and why not pick the side that makes your life easier? i’m bisexual, but i’ve only hung out with two women, and nobody knew about it. i want kids, so i don’t feel the need to advertise my sexuality because it’s honestly not an important part about myself lol. i mean, if i met an amazing woman, i might be with her and have kids in another way. with men, they really have to pick a side. there is still that HIV stigma and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 06:27 PM
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so they can have sex with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 06:07 PM
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i’ve read a few studies that conclude that men do not notice women who they’re not attracted to. well, people notice their friends. this means that men’s female friends are women who they’d probably date or just have a one night stand with if given the chance. however, this means that women will make male friends whether or not they could be romantically attracted to them. the studies said that women notice people whether or not they’re attracted to them. as an ugly woman, you are invisible to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 03:53 PM
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of course they do! when we hit puberty, women gain a bunch of fat around the lower abdomen, butt, legs, and breasts. men’s muscle mass pretty much doubles during this process. however, extra fat on women looks fine and is even praised only when it gathers on her to create an hourglass or pear shape. if she gains on her upper abdomen like men typically do in a beer gut and chicken leg fashion, she will be treated so much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 03:30 PM
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three scrolls in this place, and you can clearly see that FWB and one night stands are not recommended here. absolutely nobody would be begging to have sex with their neighbor in here without being swiftly downvoted and blocked LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:47 PM
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there will always be men with underdeveloped pre-frontal cortices and amygdalas who desire to hurt women or hurt women without remorse. you can show them one hundred libfem anti-rape posters, and they will not care. women should arm themselves. however, many men who hurt us are friends and family. in these cases, we don’t pull out guns or knives. i think that women should take a martial art or some type of class for self-defense to prep for those situations. i used to freeze up when people threa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 11:37 PM
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she actually said that she wanted some positive opinions of it since everyone else outside of the sub seems to say only bad things. they were asking us if it improved self-esteem and confidence. i assume that it does for most members, but i didn’t really join to get dating advice. i’m just fallout from reddit’s ban of all subreddits that are legitimately women’s spaces. i already was confident. i’m already in a relationship. however, i think that i stay because something did happen to me in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:42 AM
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lol, this journalist messaged me on this account to “interview” me. i’m not even an apprentice/expert and only pop by when i’m scrolling waiting for my shower to warm up or something. i ignored it thinking that it was a troll, but i guess they were real after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:50 AM
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i had the app 5 years ago. you have to respect it. i would study each profile for a few minutes before swiping. most people who use the app look at the photos and rapid-fire swipe. that’s why their inbox is full of sexual harassment, weirdness, bots, whatever. i probably swiped right on only several men per day. i wound up dating the first man who i matched with for almost an entire year. out of all of my exes, he is definitely the one who i have the most respect for! however, i’m not delusional…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 04:42 PM
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i really like it, but it’s sort of a memed show at this point? like, some girls may view putting it on similar to putting on family guy or something similar. oh well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:19 PM
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hot people of any gender get cheated on all the time by uglier partners because the uglier partner is convinced that they’re totally being cheated on!!! neuroses!!! also LOL i totally forgot “monogatron” was from rick and morty honestly. extreme reddit moment. i just mean very monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 08:08 PM
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oh, i agree. some very attractive and successful guys are the pickiest. and total monogatrons. i don’t understand this sub’s obsession with saying that all hot guys and all ugly girls are easy. there are so many factors that go into this kind of thing. a “chad” with morals and loyalty (as well as confidence) is probably the ideal partner because insecure men are dangerous to date. insecure guys might need “extra” attention and validation from other women, accuse you of crap that you didn’t do, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:56 PM
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ideal dates are classic dinner date, art exhibition/museum type deal, or amusement park, if that’s an option. i’m a night owl, so i would prefer the evening date. i think that 3 hours is fine. 1-2 is too short, and anything longer than 4 might be too much, especially if you’re not really vibing. i’ve never paid on a first date before. the guy has always offered, and i thanked him. if i knew right then and there that i planned on never seeing him again, i would ask to split the bill. i don’t real…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:51 PM
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yes. they only put in the effort if they love you or have a bit of a crush on you. the guy you brought home from the club doesn’t care if you live or die. you’re a flesh light to him. especially if he’s hot and charismatic (or as the guys say here “Chad”), and you’re #32 on his list. he won’t even remember you in like a year. women don’t get it because they still put in the effort to make the sex good despite not caring about the guy and expect the same. casual sex isn’t worth it for women. the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:20 PM
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i’ve noticed that this is a trend with some guys who you meet online. they want you to be educated, but not as much as they are. a man like that with a master’s would like the idea of a woman with a bachelor’s. he wants you to have hobbies and be interesting, but he wants to have shown you those hobbies and regards the ones that you came with as “not real” or “girl stuff”. they don’t want to deal with you having a body count of 0 if they have, say, 7; however, if you show up with 8, he will pani…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:13 PM
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all of those rules are contradictory. conservative “trad” women who don’t work are going to be the ones to “divorce rape” you if you do get divorced. they’ve been working doing unpaid domestic labor to make your life easier while you work, so government feels like she’s earned half of what’s yours materially. if you marry a woman who makes around the same as you, she’s not going to get any extra shit from you. almost half of people get divorced. however, divorce rate is quite low for couples who…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 07:02 PM
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it’s different from a regular smile, but i struggle to describe what the heck i’m doing differently. it’s mostly in the eyes, the way my neck is tilted, and my body language. if the person doesn’t understand social cues very well (eg: autistic), it‘s extremely not gonna work lol. i’m okay with that, though. like i said above, i am only interested if i’m approached. i’m in a relationship now with a long time acquaintance/friend. i don’t really remember how or why we started. we were partying a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 06:41 AM
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men’s labor is valued more. it happened first with breweries. women were the beer makers, and men colonized that because beer is tasty, and it was making money. those beer making ladies had the original witch aesthetic with the cauldrons and pointy hats. men started accusing them of witchcraft in order to take their jobs. then comes computers. did you know that ada lovelace wrote the first code? men saw that computers/IT/coding were the future, so that was also colonized. to this day, it’s one o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 06:09 AM
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i hope that this doesn’t come off bigoted, but sometimes i click on these women’s profiles and am shocked by what i see. they’re usually dating or married to very timid, small, awkward, feminine looking men. yet, they’re parroting that they’re so happy because they submit, are very feminine, etc. it’s almost like they’re compensating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:44 AM
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i like fds. i don’t know why it gets so much hate. it’s literally the regular dating advice you’d hear from your grandma or aunties.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 01:42 AM
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completely agree! it’s really hard to be friends with this kind of woman, as a woman. that is, if they keep complaining about the same things over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:40 AM
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that’s why it is women’s responsibility to end things when the effort and good vibes stop. lady... he doesn’t “hate” valentine’s day, “have no friends” for you to meet, or “has work” on that saturday 3 months from now when you wanted to plan an event with him. he just doesn’t like you that much. but will still date you!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:38 AM
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yeah, lonely people who think, “oh, this person who i make is guaranteed to love me.” or people who do it for no other reason besides “muh legacy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:18 AM
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i haven’t thought about it until i dated someone outside of my race. the people who i dated previously were very light (ethnically irish and german). i figured that the kids would mostly look like me if we had any. i’m a (mostly) mediterranean woman dating an east asian man. we joke about how we could either make a keanu or an elliot rodger. we also both can’t see for shit and had jacked up teeth before having them fixed in our early teens, so i know that they’re gonna be expensive as hell. i’ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:12 AM
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probably like half. a lot of people who dunk on having children are just insecure with themselves. with age, lots of people get more secure, as well as stable and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:02 AM
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then they should stop being cowards and end things. this is the original problem that she was talking about. why is it that men never seem to end long term relationships unless the woman is straight up cheating or throwing knives at his head? stop wasting women’s time if you know she’s not it, if she’s just “okay” to you. especially if she is on a timeline (if she wants kids).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 11:53 PM
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this is really just for women who are on a timeline and want to get married and have babies. if they don’t want to do that, there is absolutely no reason for women to marry. married women die earlier and experience more frailty and illness than their unmarried female peers. like you said, they can just have sex with chad when needed. even when they get old as hell, there will always be someone willing. even folks in nursing homes are getting busy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 04:09 PM
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there are so many factors that go into this kind of thing. i think that self-esteem plays a huge role in it. there are also class differences, religion, modeling the type of relationships that were exposed to them as kids, education level, presence of mental illness, and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 03:59 PM
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pick me women are still women, so although they may initiate with some guys, there are still going to be guys who are approaching them. i would say that the majority of single women get approached multiple times per week online or in person. i’m not even talking about when they’re on dating apps: then it becomes dozens. that’s something that i haven’t seen discussed in the sub yet, as i just found it. the number of men who approach women is...so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 01:18 PM
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may i ask if she was the one who made the first move? just curious. obviously cold feet can happen in any relationship regardless of the pursuer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 06:08 AM
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at the end of the day, either sex cheats due to cowardice, i think. there could be insecurity, dead bedroom, temptations, and more, but it’s being too afraid to terminate the current relationship in favor of pursuing the new one. men and women have different mating “strategies” for sure, but we are more alike than we think at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:41 AM
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women also do this, but it’s a bit different. i have heard the insecure “pick me” type women say out loud that they purposely date men who are stereotypically unattractive because they think that it’s safe. they feel like they won’t get cheated on and that this uggo man should be so grateful to be in her presence. it’s kind of messed up! imagine finding out that your girlfriend is so insecure that she’s depriving herself of being with someone who actually gives her butterflies and is settling fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:28 AM
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extremely true. i just commented in another thread why, as a woman, i would never make the first move, pursue, or chase a man. too many men (not all, but enough of them) will date a woman who’s “okay” to them. she’s pretty enough, pleasant enough, intriguing enough... but he wants something more. she’s the placeholder girlfriend until he meets someone who he really loves. if she comes on to him, he will accept. she will be a consistent source of sex, someone to bring around mom and dad to get th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:06 AM
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i don’t pursue men. the most that i will do is make eye contact and smile. not all men do this, but enough men will date women who they think are alright or so-so. i don’t want to approach a man, have him date me for a consistent source of sex, and get rid of me when he meets someone who he actually really likes. i refuse to be the placeholder girlfriend. i see this all the time. a man dates a woman for 5 years. she’s hounding him for a ring, to go out on dates, to post her, to talk about the fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 04:44 AM
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many high n-count men are just HPV, mycoplasma, and trichomoniasis bombs for women. people regardless of gender tend to pair with people with similar body counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 03:39 AM
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this has never happened to me before, but i would quickly grab the tab and pay for the whole thing when the server came back. i would also not see them again or allow them to have access to me online, of course. this is definitely not taught in this sub, but i couldn’t resist that opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:44 AM
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guys think that they’ve lucked out when the woman wants to split the bill, but really, for so many of us it just means that we don’t plan on seeing them again lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:41 AM
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yeah, an anxious woman can also have a disorganized or avoidant attachment. it manifests in different ways. i believe that with therapy, books, and experience, you can change your attachment style (even if you are a little mentally ill)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 07:58 PM
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you are either respectful, or you aren’t. you can be too nice, but you can never be too kind! there’s a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 07:56 PM
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i was just in another subreddit talking about this. red pill purposely trains anxious and even securely attached men to adopt an avoidant attachment style. avoidant men attract anxiously attached women. those are the types of women who will worry about them, pursue them, and chameleon themselves to be who they want. then they complain that AWALT when really they’re just repeatedly attracting cluster b, traumatized women or extremely dependent, anxiety ridden women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:16 PM
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i think that you’re confusing an anxious attachment style with just plain anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 06:43 PM
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loose vaginas are usually a congenital issue, and i don’t think that many of those women are even aware of it since they’re inside of us. there are going to be vaginas of different sizes, but a small penis paired with a very aroused normal vagina might be the issue since arousal = loosened up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 06:36 PM
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yes! in theory, michael kors should’ve been on the level of versace or kate spade, but at some point, they got lower on the totem poll than coach, approaching steve madden level. the reason? way too accessible for The Poors. it’s messed up, but that’s the world that we live in. now michael kors owns versace and jimmy choo, so they’re doing a lot better. also agree about the privacy thing and wondering how that will look in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 06:35 PM
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true. i was going to say that those are medical conditions, but i believe that micro peen is also considered a medical condition. i suppose that it’s just arbitrary. like, should it start at 2 inches or 3 inches? but with having no vagina... it’s more like, you have a vagina or you don’t lol. but now i just remembered that someone who i know told me that his ex had a condition that made her vagina only develop halfway. so it’s basically a short vagina. maybe someone with that condition would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 06:54 AM
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i just don’t think that this is true. i know plenty of women including myself who become spontaneously in the mood. we don’t need to be activated by touch, read pages of literotica, or be hunted by the man. a lot of us don’t initiate sex because, to be honest, a lot of men don’t like this. many say that they do, but more don’t. i have a theory that a lot of dead bedrooms are actually caused by the woman resenting their husband being in complete control of when and how sex happens. i also think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 06:41 AM
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i think that first example about kpop is just racial stereotyping. this is coming from an ethnic white woman dating a first gen korean man. what is so feminine about the kpop guys? western celebrities also wear lots of makeup on stage and dress flamboyantly or weirdly. just because korean guys wipe their ass and take care of their skin doesn’t mean that they’re feminine. the kpop boys are hard working, confident, and quite tall and physically fit, which are seen as favorable masculine traits. i …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 06:13 AM
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this is so true. overdressing, especially with designer brands plastered all over yourself, makes you look poor or like a try-hard. i’ll talk about an anecdotal experience. there is one restaurant in my area that is much more costly and way fancier than all of the other restaurants, even the other upscale ones. when i would show up there on a date during my late teen and early 20s years, i would wear my hand-me-down saint laurent fur, a nice dress, and heels. we would cringe as we ordered an app…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 05:55 AM
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that’s honestly where my sympathy begins to lessen a little. men with humongous penises warn their partners ahead of time before the pants come off. men with micros should also do this. if their logic is, “if i just whip it out, maybe she’ll feel too awkward to say no, and i can get lucky this one night,” that’s really shitty lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 05:47 AM
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women of color, white ethnic women, immigrant women, and poor women always had to work. men have spread this rumor that “women doubled the workforce” in the 70s to blame on today’s gig economy hell, housing market, and jobs requiring more degrees and paying less, but that’s just not the case. women are allowed more mobility within their roles, and rich waspy women started working. that’s all. hypercapitalism is to blame on everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:04 AM
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1 in 4 fathers of children born to 13-14 year old girls are legal adults. that’s not even including 15-16 year olds. we have a pedo problem, too many adults messing with children. i’m going by statistics. however, in my case, my crazy ex was 15 when i was 14.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 03:37 AM
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LOL, how do they quantify this?! facial symmetry?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/21 01:20 AM
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this is a good comment. let’s remember that probably over half of the “boys” who traumatize the teen girls are actually men. as a former teenage girl, the older guys are more appealing for multiple reasons: their looks, the fact that their moms don’t have to drive us around, how they can have jobs and afford to take us out. however, a portion of these guys are predatory and mess up these girls. i say some, since like... an 18 year old guy courting a 16 year old girl shouldn’t be classified as pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 11:34 PM
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there is a lot of literature that links the father’s old age to mental and physical conditions in their offspring, but it doesn’t matter as much to them because it isn’t actually dangerous for them. with women, they’re sort of forced to care about being old mothers because they can be affected as well since the pregnancy itself can be dangerous. this is also relatively new and not widespread information. women’s “hitting the wall” is spread more to scare them and bully them into accepting low ef…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 11:29 PM
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it might be biological. i’m a woman and don’t scare easily in general. i live in the city, so there will be critters in the apartment no matter what. seeing a spider or a roach actually makes me physically sick inside. it’s not something i can control or something i scream over like someone on a roller coaster or watching a jump scare movie. when i see one, i want to just vomit and pass out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 11:25 PM
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i’m highly pink pilled, but i feel quite bad for men with micro penises. a guy can be sexy as hell, fun, successful, and genuinely kind, but having less than a pinky in his pants can deter even the brokest, nastiest, pickme women. i feel for them because it’s not a character flaw that they could work on or a hideous nose that they can surgically fix. it’s also synonymous with bad character and a response to when men are being sexist and gross. even if they find a mate, their mate is settling for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 11:19 PM
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it usually starts out with our fathers (so... men) warning us about the dangers of men. my dad was pretty egalitarian and relaxed, and i almost wish that he was more real with me. i escaped unscathed from multiple horrible situations by using my own brain and maybe sheer luck. as teens, we just want to do exactly the opposite of what we’re told to do. party, sex, and drugs. date older guys since guys in our cohort can’t drive or don’t have money to do anything fun. then once we hit our early to …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 07:10 PM
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it’s not that we dislike men, we just have to be wary and cautious. i don’t know any women who haven’t experienced either rape or attempted rape/coercion. a huge chunk of us experience domestic violence. if we aren’t realistic and choose to trust all of you, we will get victim blamed, questioned, or be compared to prostitutes or sluts (not that “slut” stings as a curse word anymore). we choose to put our safety above your feelings. our material need for that is more important than hurt feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 06:49 PM
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the men arguing with you that women are less hot and desirable than men are really throwing me. maybe they should give men a go if they feel that way. jokes aside, i agree. however, i think that if men spent the (insane) amount of time and money that women do on makeup, hair, little surgeries, skincare, nails, and god knows what else, there would be more of an equal number of desirable men and women. i haven’t had many boyfriends, but i’m a relatively low maintenance woman. i don’t professionall…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 09:05 PM
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exactly. the majority of women know exactly where they want to eat. they just know that if they suggest the restaurant 40 minutes away, that serves mostly fish, is very ethnic, etc., they’re going to be told “no”. then she will say, “if it’s a no, then you pick.” the guy will then say that she’s indecisive. it’s incredible. my pettiest dealbreaker is no picky eaters for this reason. i show love with acts of service, like trying new things, and have a family whose culture really revolves around f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/21 08:52 PM
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yeah, people seem to confuse introversion with many other things such as agoraphobia, laziness, depression, or being boring. totally not the same things! none of those are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:10 AM
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i have a maybe unhinged theory that he set the fire on purpose because he regretted the marriage. he up and left STUPID soon after her burns. like, a couple of weeks after she went to the hospital.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:06 AM
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the one way you can look out for it is by seeing if they want to spend quality time with you or invest money into the relationship with meaningful gifts and experiences, but if you say that, the majority of men and women will call you an entitled, broke gold digger (gifts) or clingy and insecure (quality time). so how am i supposed to tell if a man gives a crap about me? if he puts his penis in or around me? as if he wouldn’t to many, many other women? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:53 PM
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(bernie voice) i am once again asking women to not date men who are leagues below themselves. some may try to work on themselves to get on your level, but more will start disliking you for it. worst case scenario, he doesn’t dump you, but he tries to chip at your self-esteem and accomplishments to bring you down. also, be wary of “introverts”. i’m an extrovert, so maybe i’m biased, but there is a difference between someone who needs to recharge and enjoys indoor, solo activities the most and som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:46 PM
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it’s ALWAYS coffee, lmfao. i actually laughed when i saw that both were coffee date related. people think that i’m insane because this is my go-to piece of dating advice. (not to shame others who haven’t but) even as a teenager, i figured this out. in high school, any boy who asked me to go to a local restaurant, movie, amusement park, or concert liked me. any boy who asked me to get coffee or come to the park wanted to get lucky. this doesn’t seem to change as we get to 20, 30. some of the sugg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:15 PM
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for the love of all that is good and holy, if a guy tells you that he’s a business owner, go look at the business. if you can’t see it with your own eyes, he’s either jobless, dealing drugs, or exploiting people with scams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:03 PM
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a good portion of this sub is lesbian, married, in a relationship, bi but only interested in women, etc. because it’s probably the only sub left where you can actually talk about women’s issues. i don’t need dating advice right now, but the rest of the subs (especially the “feminist” ones) are hostile to opinions that go against the grain of corporate liberal feminism that is catered to straight men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:55 PM
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this is so true. many of the women who complain about their husbands’/boyfriends’ low libido can “fix it” by pushing them away and telling them to knock it off, even “playfully”. so, so many of them are turned off by consensual sex. actually psychotic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:11 PM
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the chris watts case was crazy. people actually justified his family annihilation because his wife put them into insane debt with her MLM scheme. i HATE pyramid schemes, MLMs, whatever, but... just... divorce? it’s really hard to get it though my head that they don’t view us as people. watts viewed his triple murder as the same thing as bringing in a bad dog to be destroyed, because his wife and kids were his property like dogs rather than their own people with rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 06:04 AM
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would there be, really? or are those same guys who feign being bad at childcare also the ones who feign being bad at the rest of the chores and planning so their wives will just do it out of frustration? but when they get divorced, they magically know how to clean and live their lives again. children from single dad homes, because of the fathers’ wealth and privilege, do pretty well statistically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:56 AM
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if women actually started doing this, the percent of divorce initiated by men would go from 30% to, like, 5%. they’d just cheat or play vidya in peace instead of trying to leave before the 18 years are up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:30 AM
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she’s in texas, and he’s in oregon, so she probably has no idea. he probably told her that he’s already going through a divorce and that bitchmommy is hiding his babies from him because she’s jealous and spiteful. maybe he even told her that he’s single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:27 AM
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i hate how people only get the message when women are compared to cars lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:13 AM
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you know what’s funny? when a guy is walking 10 feet ahead of his girlfriend, and another man approaches her and starts flirting. this happened to me a couple of times long before i was very active on social media (and knew that this behavior was garbage). normally, being approached by strange men is awkward or even scary, but it’s glorious in this specific scenario. PUAs and red pillers fail to understand that dozens and dozens of suitors are waiting for them to screw up with their girlfriends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:46 AM
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yeah, if this happens to you in public, don’t follow him like a dog. don’t even worry about it. take a quick look around you and pop your head into the most interesting store that you see. eventually, he’ll turn around after leaving you behind, and he’ll be like WTF. meanwhile, you’re enjoying looking at antiques or cupcakes or tj maxx’s cursed collection of candles, hot sauces, and discounted mid tier luxury skincare. then break up lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:15 AM
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what’s with the people who think that they’re not neglecting the children by locking them out to have sex? that absolutely doesn’t count as watching them. no wonder why there are so many stories of kids drowning in shallow buckets, drinking cleaning supplies, and getting hundreds of toys mangled in their hair. that’s like living in an apartment building and claiming the person in the adjacent apartment is watching your kids because you guys share a wall, and there’s only one locked door that sep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:17 PM
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we can say that here. in any other sub, you get screamed at for giving the only rational advice in the thread because “ThAt’S nOt WhAt ShE aSkEd” and “that’s sooooooo insensitive!!!!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:09 PM
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abort it. if men could pay $800 to press a button that would abort the fetus when they weren’t happy with the relationship, their collective finger would be hurting. he doesn’t deserve to be a father. you don’t need to be tied to this ass for the rest of your life. you are in your first trimester, so get going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:05 PM
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love and respect don’t have to exist hand-in-hand for them. for women, if we love you, we respect you. we also tend to respect people right off the bat and will stop respecting them when given a reason to. men typically say that someone has to “earn” their respect, so they start out not respecting you until you do something that makes them “start” respecting you. most of the time, they only respect men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:55 PM
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this is just blatant financial and emotional abuse, before the physical comes into it. traditional relationships didn’t even work this way. besides the fact that married women of color and ethnic white women usually had a job at some point, women handled the finances. there was none of this “man makes the money, man is the only one who has access to it, man gives you a weekly allowance”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 04:52 PM
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i don’t know. be careful with this. this is standard advice from everybody’s grandma and auntie, but there’s a limit. insecure guys who think that you’re better than them can wind up cheating, being violent, or sexually assaulting their partner. i know that i’m going against the grain here, but the dream girl narrative can be dangerous even though it is true at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:19 AM
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this is a blessing in disguise. your life would be 2x more in shambles if you were having these fights AFTER moving into a house with someone who you’re not married to. there was a post here explaining why to never buy a home with a boyfriend or even fiancé. it was very eye opening. i can’t find it, but it was like 1-2 weeks ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 06:52 PM
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doubt it. dated a couple of guys who accused me of gold digging. of course, the relationships ended shortly after that. one of them said this because i changed my career choice during undergrad and was going to apply to different grad schools. my career idea change was lateral, not a downgrade. he was already studying medicine. i just looked at him blankly and told him that i would be dating an actual doctor instead of a student if i was actually gold digging. plenty of guys care about what wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:12 AM
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oh... boy. i really hate to dunk on people’s appearances for no reason, but no wonder why she had to clarify to everybody that she wasn’t doing it for money. he looks more like her weird uncle or something than her boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:31 PM
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6:30-6:40... video games. it’s always video games. i get downvoted to hell when i mention it in other subs. have you ever, ever, ever seen a post that says “my boyfriend is addicted to art/bicycling/underwater basket weaving/the piano/architecture/karate”? it sounded like he was ignoring her for his career, but at the end of the day, we know that the vast majority of people who live comfy middle class lifestyles (i’m just assuming by looking at her home and the fact that she’s a vlogger that the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:11 PM
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men know this, but they try to gaslight us, lmao. it’s also why they claim that libfems are “ugly”. that’s not necessarily true at all! beautiful celebrities post annoying libfem shit all the time, even. but to them, they must think “they don’t have any beauty to give away since telling these beautiful women to go 50/50 is INSANE”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 04:34 PM
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i actually think that a part of it is small penis anxiety. they think that virginal women don’t know any better and can’t compare their penis size or sexual performance to a past partner. it’s stupid because by the time that she’s in her early 20s, she’s going to wonder why some of her friends seem “dickmatized”, but she low key dreads having to have their twice monthly maintenance sex. then she may end things to “see what else is out there”. usually those guys who perform badly are lazy, so the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:49 PM
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yeah, it’s that last sentence. there are plenty of 30 year old men playing on their PS4 and switch, watching youtube videos, and making snaps with their friends lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:44 PM
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yeah, that would be weird. just look carefully at his facial and bodily expression. one time, i ran into a guy and his girlfriend, who i both vaguely knew. after he approached me and started talking to other people, the girl came over to me and said with almost no emotion, “i’ve never seen him look at anyone like that before.” i didn’t know what to say. he later tried to make a physical move on me. always, always trust your gut instincts. i wasn’t even this guy’s ex. i think that society tries t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:30 PM
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if he mentions his ex just once on the first date, it’s over for me. i don’t care. in two different relationships, i was used when i was a teenager to make a boy’s ex jealous. both times, the boys triangulated us and would emotionally abuse the exes when they got back together after i was rid of them (of course) by saying that i was prettier and more intelligent. i was made to look like i hated and was jealous of those girls when really i hated the guys, and it was embarrassing. both times, the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:20 PM
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that poor lady probably barked at him until she was blue in the face to take her out on a date or do some type of fun activity for years. she probably stewed when he huffed and puffed about going out on holidays, to see family, to see friends, to go to weddings. she probably grit her teeth and said something when she left at 11am to get brunch with friends/go to a class/help a family member, came back at 4pm, and saw him in the same exact spot on the couch with vidya. she probably had choice wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:53 PM
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the number of women who will see their man drop $10k on his new BMX hobby that lasts for 4 months and then gets forgotten about but settle for some tenth of a carat peridot/opal/moissanite engagement ring makes me want to yell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:59 PM
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i’m so happy for her. i was in the same situation with an ex, but my stomach was in pain instead of my mouth. i wasn’t in my own home, so i just relented so it would shut him up. i figured that because i “consented” that it wouldn’t bother me, but i burst into tears immediately after and left. i saw him once more and cringed every time that he touched me, so i waited until he left the state (very convenient that this happened) and dumped him while he was there. i wish so much that i just doubled…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:18 PM
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i normally don’t advise telling guys why you’re breaking up with them because then they can just be sneakier with the next woman, but this might be an exception. maybe a percentage of gaming addicts will wake up when they realize that their habit is destroying their life? congrats on ending a crappy relationship!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:51 PM
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it’s literally half the posts at this point in most of the relationship subreddits. i can read the titles and tell that the boyfriend is a gamer before it’s confirmed in one of the body paragraphs. i usually comment this on those posts, not to seem like a smart ass, but to emphasize how big this issue is. boyfriend who doesn’t help around the house and lives in squalor, boyfriend who gets angry when girlfriend has other hobbies, girlfriend crying daily because of her dead bedroom, girlfriend com…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:16 PM
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this has got to be the #1 reason not to date a single dad when you haven’t had your own kids yet. it’s not even thinking about yourself and your own comfort and happiness. it’s securing resources for your own future kids and ensuring their happiness and health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:23 PM
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people have acted so disgusted when i’ve said this in the past, and i’m not even in my late 20s yet. yeah, i do want to be the center of attention lmao. if i wanted kids already, i’d have made my own. you know what would suck? your dinner date being canceled because his baby mother (who you’ll feel is your sister-wife) got sick so he needs to take jayden to soccer practice. or his teenage daughter constantly verbally abusing you because he’s replaced her mother with you. or a toddler that you ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:52 PM
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you’re also forcibly retired by the time you get your first visible fine line. “normal” men who prefer age appropriate partners are not paying out the ass to talk to cam girls or visit prostitutes. they’re sex addicted or pornsick, and they always say the younger the better. now what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:13 PM
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it depends on the venue. if it’s a frat house with dusty ass windowsills, no toilet paper, and a sticky basement floor, i wouldn’t. if it was a huge house party with like 40+ people, then i wouldn’t. i would clean up my own mess, which would be throwing out my cup, my paper plate, and my napkin. if the house was very clean before the party, and there were only a few guests invited, everyone should be cleaning up by the end of the night. however, if it’s a situation in which the women all get up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:30 PM
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these views aren’t extreme. i commented on another post that the advice here is the same life and dating advice that you hear from grandmothers. i wonder if these people yell in grandma’s face that she’s a conspiracy theorist, a psyop, and a misandrist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:10 PM
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i buy them (a long term partner, not just some guy lol) something utilitarian. in the past, i’ve gotten guys a tool that i knew that they needed or, like, a hoodie. they appreciate these types of inexpensive items much more than spending tons of money on something unnecessary. and they typically don’t like to be spoiled with the “woman” items such as flowers, chocolates, or bears. on reddit, they’d looove this idea (just how they write that they want to be asked out by a girl), but in real life,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:38 AM
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yeah, there’s a lot of different circumstances, but of course there are exceptions. i’m mostly talking about people who have never physically met or have an idea/date of when they’re going to be reunited...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:06 AM
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sometimes i wonder if those “date went well, but she blocked me for no reason. what happened?” posts are just guys who asked their dates to split the bill lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:16 PM
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i feel so bad for her. long distance isn’t even real. you’re basically acting as a nude photo spankbank and therapist to some guy who’s probably casually dating or at the very least entertaining local women. i wonder if there have been some separate big posts about the LDR scam yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:55 PM
14

this is hatred. even if you think that valentine’s day is the stupidest most annoying thing in the world, grocery store flowers are like $10. and everyone likes to eat yummy food at a restaurant, so he is purposely not doing this to cause pain. girl, he hates you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:51 PM
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we need to recognize hatred when we see it. they wouldn’t do this to their friend or roommate that they had a house with. this is hatred. ignoring you on valentine’s day and not even doing the bare minimum of a pharmacy run to get flowers and a heart shaped box is hatred. refusing to be seen with you outside and only opting for “indoor” dates is hatred. being completely disinterested in your life, hobbies, and accomplishments is hatred. some of them will stay together with women who they freakin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:14 AM
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big pp feels good die mad edit: LMFAO thank you for the gold sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:56 AM
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it really is the only true female space. that’s why it seems like a third to a half of us are already in fine relationships and aren’t actively looking for dating advice besides “continue vetting”. you’ll just get banned from other feminist subreddits for posting actual statistics or anything that doesn’t kowtow to penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:16 PM
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this is a public health crisis and child endangerment wrapped up in one. if it’s not a big enough deal that women and girls are walking around with permanent mental and physical trauma after having sex with someone who acted out porn on them, maybe it will be now. this is such a sin. so many of these people were exposed to porn at 9, 10, 11 years old and never had a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:09 AM
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this depends on a lot of factors. we don’t all want things at the same age. i think that you can let boys take you out to eat, go to the movies, and go to dances when you’re in the later years of high school, but i don’t recommend going to their family’s homes or being so serious. there’s no point. i had the same boyfriend from when i just turned 16 to when i was about 19 1/2. the relationship itself was an overall positive experience even though it ended a little messy. i was so different by th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:00 AM
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my god lol. she’s stunning. and he’s just some guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:43 AM
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i’m surprised that most dudes who have micros would rather do the surprise approach instead of warning ahead of time. i feel like it’s way more demoralizing for the guy when he pulls his pants down, and the color drains from the girl’s face rather than facing potential rejection from his verbal warning. men with very large penises also often warn their potential sex partner, but i guess the ones who “surprise” girls with their giant member face a much less demoralizing rejection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:22 AM
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i’m wondering if men really do become abusive due to depression or anxiety, are abusive to start out with but then their behaviors are emphasized by their mental illness, or if they’re just often comorbid with substance abuse disorder and personality disorders. probably a little of each. regardless, i don’t have the wherewithal to date a man who describes himself as depressed or anxious. i’m sure that there are cool guys who are just currently fighting some demons, but i cannot tolerate one more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:51 PM
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i’m honestly dead. what exactly does this sub advocate that is so crazy that could be compared to QA or a psyop? let the guy put in effort while courting you, don’t chase men, focus on your hobbies, don’t accept abuse or low effort behavior, keep a secret bank account as a GTFO fund, don’t buy a house together unless married. this is just basic life advice from your grandma. do they also yell at their grandma that she is a conspiracy theory?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:59 PM
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these types are the scariest because when they finally blow up after bottling things for months or even years... oh, boy. rip to the drywall, sides of cars/trains/buses, mirrors, and plates. then you’re next if you don’t gtfo eventually. i may sound like i’m jumping the gun, but i swear that i’m not. they are usually cowards through and through who can’t confront their friends, boss, strangers, or mommy when they give him trouble, but they’ll be “brave” enough to take all of it out on you after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:23 AM
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i don’t think it’s that deep (as in, it’s not that he must hate you, is a narcissist, etc.). i’m short, and most of the women who have complained about this to me are also short. we just walk slower due to stubby legs. they’re being thoughtless and are walking at their own pace. the issue usually solves itself when another man approaches you, or if you stop following him and just go somewhere else. eventually, he will look behind to see you and be like “wtf!!!” when you’re not there. and you’ll …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:02 PM
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most men who i’ve dated do this (not exactly this video, i mean walking ahead by like 5-10 feet). i loved when it would happen in the city, and another man would come up to me and start flirting. hits em like a ton of bricks that they can’t be caught slipping for even 30 seconds. for every woman in a relationship, there are a dozen men waiting for her boyfriend to screw up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:01 PM
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He knew that I hate being ghosted and ignored because of my past...and he still did it. They always repeat our trauma, past, insecurities, anguish, etc. I’m in a relationship now, and he unfortunately knows everything about my past since we were acquaintances before we started dating. If things don’t work out between us, I will never tell the person who I’m dating about my past or trauma again. Men like to coax us into talking about our trauma and then file it away in their brains into a folder …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:48 PM
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i wouldn’t tell them ever unless i knew that he would find out somehow or if i had trauma that was going to be apparent to him and would need an explanation. maybe this is toxic, but i don’t care. even “good” people judge you by your past experiences. assumptions are the source of so many arguments and issues. if it’s something that isn’t a part of me anymore and doesn’t affect me, i don’t owe that information to anyone the same way that i wouldn’t text my partner from work that i just farted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:14 PM
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28 and almost electrician. i’m thinking that he got a useless degree, worked a minimum wage gig, went to trade school by 25 or 26, and is now finishing up at 28. nobody goes to trade school for 11 years lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:34 PM
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slim, feminine values hard working, good job, highly educated dude, no woman wants to act as a 1950s housewife while also “doing 50/50” with you. nobody. women get tricked into it all the time, but if you outright say it from the beginning, then good fucking luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:52 PM
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love having sex with a disgusting old man for a froggy hat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:46 PM
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i don’t think that it’s worth it. you can’t leave piles of garbage and smelly clothes and leftover food and dishes everywhere. you’re supposed to organize and do a little light cleaning before the maid comes. plus, you’ll be the one who has to pick the service and remember when they’re coming, like the others said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:57 AM
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“i could be like the other men...” boom, there it is. i was banned from the feminism subreddit for stating that “the good men” benefit from the existence of abusers and no effort males because they can compare themselves to them and threaten us with that kind of treatment if we try to set a boundary or make a simple request. yeah, it is a threat, by the way, so he’s not a good man. imagine telling a child who you’ve struck with your hand “i could be like the other parents and use a belt” or tell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:50 AM
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ah, more of men’s dream girl/forever girl nonsense (and abuse)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:13 AM
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“open to monogamy” doesn’t make sense. all of the poly people online claim that it’s like a sexual orientation because they are capable of loving multiple people and probably will fall for multiple people even when they have a main partner. so you’re either mono or poly according to them, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:12 PM
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lol, it would be NOT okay to fundamentally TRUST men. and it comes right out of the horse’s mouths! every woman’s daddy, grandpa, brother, and uncle will tell them to stay away from the male species. as soon as we let our guards down for one second, we get raped, killed, pregnancy trapped, beaten, scammed, two-timed, or robbed. yes, men are more likely to do crime against other men, but they also do like... 90% of the crime. we are victim blamed. mercilessly. “why were you there? why were you we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:31 AM
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yeah, i wouldn’t want to date someone like this either. the thing is, they eventually expose themselves. looks aren’t everything. they get cocky and start acting up because the beautiful woman has stayed with him for a year or more and think that they can get anyone, that this wasn’t a fluke. his dream girl also has flaws like everyone else because she’s human, and he grows resentful and even violent when he sees this. men who treat an extremely beautiful woman or a woman who they’ve fixated on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:10 AM
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i never found any of my exes ugly, but they did have certain features that most of society deemed ugly. it’s not cute when people come up to both of you and make fun of you for dating an ugly man or whatever. they remember that stuff, and if they’re not nice people and big cowards, they’ll take it out on you instead of the “haters”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:00 PM
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yeah, this is basic stuff. for some reason the younger generation thinks that it’s “cheating” or “mean” to go on a date with someone just because another person took you on like two dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:55 PM
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they don’t want you to like it. their fetish is dominating and torturing you with it. they want to feel big and powerful. they want your tears and screams. they want to be the only one who “broke” you down enough until that you relented. it’s why they’re furious when someone else has already done it to you and especially if you’ve said no to it ever since. they get turned on when you’re scared and say no over and over. it’s about your pain and humiliation for them. there’s a perfectly good hole …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:57 AM
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you’re so right. the best that we got was pornhub scrubbing their unverified content, which was about half of their content. hopefully, since the world cares more about men’s weiners more than women’s lives, men speaking out about these issues will actually shake the table and get the porn industry (like, the big websites, etc.) to take accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:15 AM
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this is an excellent post, but it’s also something that we maybe shouldn’t lose sleep over. i always like to keep multiple suitors on my roster when i’m single. sometimes having multiple isn’t possible because not everyone is worth our time/isn’t high value. but in general, there are many bonuses of doing this. going on dates with multiple men helps us identify pink flags. “i really like tom, but he mentioned his ex twice. maybe i can look pas- wait a minute, bill never did that. he also paid at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:05 AM
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is it possible for men to do, like, some type of class action lawsuit against the porn industry? so many of them have broken dicks because of porn that was accessible from the time that they were children. it’s almost not their fault because they were just kids. it’s such a shame that porn ruined nearly an entire generation of men. so many premature ejaculators, death grippers, and delayed ejaculators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:26 AM
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exactly, like... what the heck are women supposed to do? imagine being with someone for 10 years, married, kids; and you somehow found out that they are this type of person but hid it from you? nightmare. i don’t know if this type of person could keep up that ruse for a very long time, though. i’ve noticed that shit starts to hit the fan after a year in with many abusers and creeps, but some are strategic enough to wait until marriage or even kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:41 AM
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begging, getting angry, or “nagging” has been proven to make them put in even less effort. it communicates, “i am fucking furious at you. you won’t do any of these things. yet, i stay with you.” you either have to accept that he won’t put the toilet seat lid down and swallow that, or you have to leave. harassing him will only make things ten times worse. he will start pushing even more boundaries since he knows that you are willing to stay with someone even when you’re angry with them or if they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:01 AM
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great point! and yeah, before the first date. google google google them. stalk them on social media. eliminate them from your rotation if they go by multiple names or are very secretive with you. be extremely suspicious if they’re new in town or new to the social/hobby group that you found them in. it’s okay to be “creepy”. it’s about life or death, not going on a date with a criminal, not going on a date with a serial player...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:55 PM
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omggg i’m dead. honestly that’s valid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 10:07 PM
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i wrote a wall of text about this, but i did confess that i only wait 6-10 dates for this reason. there is really no way to predict if it will be good until you have the sex. i don’t want to fall in love and then find out. i didn’t write this in my original comment, but i’ve noticed a correlation between guys who hate dancing or are severely bad at dancing and guys who are bad at sex. i haven’t slept with a lot of guys, but it always held true for my sample lol. i’ve heard the same thing from ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:59 PM
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i might get flack for this, but i don’t like to wait months and months and months. i wait to do it after 6-10 dates. this could only be about 2 months sometimes. i understand that doing it right away usually ruins the relationship whether the man is high effort of low effort for different reasons. however, sex is extremely important to me. i do not want to fall in love (usually happens to me after 3-4 months of being courted) just to find out that the sex is horrible, the man is porn addicted, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:52 PM
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i’m so ANGRY, and this isn’t even my relationship! i just had to comment on it despite the hundreds of existing comments that were roasting him. this is institutional, systemic misogyny. it’s patriarchy at work. men benefit in their careers when they are married with child. it makes them look mature, dependable, put together. being married with child (or even worse - newly married and it being possible that you can get pregnant) negatively affects women’s careers. we aren’t “family women”, we ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:32 PM
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this is true, which is why i stand by my 6-10 date rule, which usually adds up to waiting 2-3 months before engaging in sex with the man. however, i don’t want to date any man who would put old flings into his phone as “free pussy” or who views women with less respect than prostitutes because they follow the 0-2 date rule. the worst part is that we will never know what they once thought or what they’re currently thinking. we just have to hope for the best. even a seemingly high value dude could …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:18 PM
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“i have a dark sense of humor” says the n word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:58 PM
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i really hate how this is true. it’s so stressful. sometimes i’m bored and would like to do more, and sometimes i’m so busy and have to remember to put in more effort. i wish i could just be myself instead of playing these games, but we all know how that winds up. if i was not in a relationship already, i would not date for a long, long time... probably at least a year from the vaccine’s emergence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:16 AM
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never, ever do this unless you literally want your life to be upended and your time wasted. broke men drag you down into poverty with them. if he actually does grow, he will leave you or treat you terribly until you leave. maybe it’s that they see how much they’ve grown and don’t respect you for liking him when he was at his worst. maybe they don’t respect someone who they see as a doormat. maybe they think that you’re low value because you were with him while he was low value, and he feels enti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:11 AM
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never give an ugly man a chance. you can’t tell if he’s nice and ugly or evil and ugly during the first year when absolutely everyone is on their best behavior. it’s just not worth the risk. my ex was very jealous and convinced himself that i cheated on vacation. he coerced me into having sex and got snappy and yelled during it. i dumped him right after this when he was in another state. it was the perfect opportunity for a safe, clean break. also sorry that you experienced that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:55 PM
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these dudes are such liars. let them see a woman who has no social media whatsoever but is beautiful, and she knows it. she likes to go to social events, has a hobby in which she interacts with likeminded people, and dresses beautifully. they’d hate that, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:26 PM
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they’re protecting their souls in the incorrect way. they are preemptively saying that they don’t want it so it’ll hurt less when he shows up that day without a gift or a card or a date idea if she convinces herself that she doesn’t want it. the correct way to protect themselves would be dumping those idiots. have you noticed that the men who complain that they hate valentine’s day because we should be appreciating our partners on random days all throughout the year never actually do that, eithe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:04 PM
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some of the comments made me so sad. some of the women were in their late 20s but said that they’ve never had a proper valentine’s day. the guys would either break up, start an argument, or ignore the holiday. there is truly no excuse. there is an aisle for the holiday at every pharmacy and corner store. it’s $15 at most to get a heart shaped russel stover chocolate box and grocery store bouquet. the OP of the tweet is right. reminds me of the story on here in which a woman tried explaining to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:58 PM
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her current man spent 4 years in prison for rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:28 AM
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this is so sad. he was probably abusing his daughter the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:13 AM
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that’s why i think that going 50/50 ($) when living with a man (yes, even when you’re married or engaged) is just silly. you will be doing the deep cleaning and the strategizing. the deep cleaning is the invisible chores. he just magically thinks that the closet isn’t coated in dust bunnies, that the comforter doesn’t stink, and that the shower isn’t coated with grime. then there is the strategizing, which is like being the manager of the house. this is when you plan meals, plan which errands to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:59 PM
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when they do that pose with one eyebrow raised or their mouths open for some stupid reason, they’re often emotional manipulators and entitled af while pretending to be woke. usually into marvel/dc, video games, fast food chains like taco bell, pop science, shit like legos, league of legends/dnd/other types of games but doesn’t actually play, and craft beer/hot sauce. this sounds like i have a vendetta against a specific guy, but this is legit a Type of guy. i swear to god i know like 30 of them.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:57 AM
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you too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:41 AM
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you’re so right, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 03:40 AM
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i’m so happy that this is being posted about! i’ve been a dream/forever girl 2, maybe 3 times. all were very short term. they become resentful and even violent and aggressive as soon as they saw me behaving as an adult human. when i got sick. when i got depressed from a loss. when i was going through finals. when we would talk about money or my career. they projected someone (really, something not human) that doesn’t exist onto you because you were the right mixture of certain features and trait…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 02:37 AM
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they will always be the gatekeepers of the relationship, and it’s not fair. they say the same about how we’re the gatekeepers of sex, and it’s not fair. men will always be able to be the ones who decide when the relationship starts, progresses to engagement, progresses to marriage, and even in some cases when it ends. one of the main reasons is that they will date women who they don’t like. we know it, they know it. they use this as a weapon. they know why we can’t ask them out first or propose,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:03 PM
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This is exactly it. I always parrot the forever/dream girl thing, but I always follow it up with how you do not want to be one. That’s because that girl doesn’t exist! Once he realizes that his dream girl is human, too, he will get resentful and mean. He may even become violent, like with you. I’m sorry about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 07:05 AM
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yes. many (if not most) men have a “forever girl”. the girl who he’d leave his wife and four kids for if she said boo. part of vetting is making sure that he doesn’t have one. the weird thing is that the “forever girl” isn’t him really loving her, it’s just the idea of her that he’s created in his head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:18 AM
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me, too. my boyfriend has been a friend of mine (maybe acquaintance at some points) since 2014. he knows everything, i know everything, and i honestly hate it. i joined this sub after we started dating. i know how to keep my mouth shut about unnecessary things now, and if we don’t work out, i know to never overshare again. it just bugs me that we both probably think back to our pasts to “explain” our behaviors when we have disagreements. that’s not helpful - assumptions are poison. it’s always b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 06:27 PM
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great post! don’t do it, ladies! i say this all the time, but they will repeat your abuse. it’s a bit curious as to why women who get cheated on seem to have it happen to them again and again... or emotionally abused... or dead bedroomed... insert any problematic behavior here. they hear what you’ve “tolerated” in the past and think that they can get away with it, too! that you’ll stay! just nope. for all they know, you have terminated all of your relationships. why? they didn’t work out. how ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:58 AM
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that post was so odd! she has in between 2-4 degrees but wants to go back for another degree? she can totally get another job with the degrees that she already has. i thought that it was a karma/attention farm. maybe she is a perpetual student, though. that’s fair for someone to not want to commit to that. i tell all of the women in my life to never date potential, only the final product. it makes sense why men would also want the final product, the self-actualized woman as well. that guy in par…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:00 AM
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i wouldn’t fault any woman for paying half and blocking and deleting. i just find the whole thing so offensive. he asked something like, “may i take you out on a date?” he is asking for my time and efforts, as i don’t know him at all yet (even money, since our beauty products aren’t cheap). he did not ask, “can you come watch me eat this bang bang shrimp and risotto? you can get some food, too!” because that’s what 50/50 really is... some guy asking you to watch him eat. my pets already ask me t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:32 PM
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they know that it’s wrong, but they want to be slick about it. they know that their father and grandmother would yell at them and that all of the high effort men sitting around them at the restaurant would think that it’s pathetic. take the bill in its leather case, and put your card inside of it. don’t give him back the bill in the leather case to hand it to the waiter. you hold onto it until the waiter comes back, waving it around and talking enthusiastically. smile real big, swiftly take his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:11 PM
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i would grab the bill and pay for the whole thing, just completely emasculating him, lol. if it’s a first date, that’s obviously a block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:57 PM
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i think it’s because 1. he sucks and is cowardly but also 2. you are accessible. if you block them or stopp responding (e.g. not asking why he has done this), they start freaking out and trying to talk to you. he knows that you’re still “accessible” in a way. he feels like he has some sort of power over you. i once had a mutual breakup (we were literally planning on ending it on the same day... lol) with a kind of sort of high effort guy, and i got quiet in the car when all was said and done. on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:26 PM
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i’ve seen some similar ones around, but i hope someone makes one! idk, i feel nervous to make my own post because people screen shot them and spread them around. but yes, this is very, very real. if a man starts abusing you (without a major event that reveals abusers such as pregnancy or moving in together), ignoring you, not taking you on dates anymore, or even feels less inclined to cuddle, have sex, smile... beware. don’t agonize for half a year about his horrible or even “meh” treatment of y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:21 PM
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it is extremely hurtful to be used like this. i’m really not sure how to respond to this question. usually i get disgusted when i like someone who doesn’t like me back, like, i immediately lose attraction. i’m not sure why or how i got this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:06 PM
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they usually don’t change and become sneakier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:05 PM
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this sub doesn’t talk enough about how long distance relationships are f a k e FAKE 98% of the time. you are literally a nudes spankbank and therapist to some guy who is having sex with prostitutes, enjoying casual sex with girls from bars and apps, addicted to porn and can’t have a real relationship, is a psychopath/creep/failure who no women in his area want, or is waiting for his dream girl to dump her boyfriend so he can swoop in. do not accept a long distance situation from a man unless he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:42 PM
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some possible scenarios they don’t really break up with women whom they’ve been with for more than 6 months. they end things all the time or try to create situationships in the beginning, but in long term relationships, they stay with women who they’re so-so about or even despise while they look for their next girlfriend. then they will monkeybranch to the next woman when he meets her (or even starts dating her while with you... she is often told that you are a big terrible meanie, and he’ll be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 07:22 PM
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it seems like it would be a huge green flag. he values women’s friendship, opinions, and time. i’m not a jealous person, and i saw it as a good thing. well, unfortunately, some just like to have a harem of low self-esteem women who will be there when he gets dumped/dumps his girlfriend. he will get into a situationship with one of them until he finds another woman who he actually likes and will monkeybranch to her. this is why i avoid low self-esteem men because they can’t be alone and have to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:09 PM
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part of it is hypercapitalism. young, naïve woman sees stability and a man who can provide for a family and thinks that he won’t do her dirty like he did his ex. it’s also classic pickmeism (aka female socialization). what she sees is a man who loves her so much that he detonated his whole life, family, and reputation just for a chance of being with her... sure, it makes sense why you’d feel so speshul, but it’s not that deep to the man. most are only as faithful as their options, and they think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:26 PM
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those are those stackable rings that you wear 5 of on one hand at a time, usually accompanied by manicured long nails and baggy sleeves for the aesthetic. that’s not an engagement ring. it simply will not last a lifetime with daily wear even if it is crafted from the finest materials.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:08 PM
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men who carry ureaplasma, mycoplasma, or trichomoniasis. women, beware of these. they’re often not tested for, and they wreak havoc on our bodies compared to theirs. hpv isn’t the only sneaky problem that we must worry about. condoms until marriage is a must.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:31 PM
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when men do this out of nowhere (explode over tiny issues or literally nothing), keep your eyes peeled. it’s a huge sign of infidelity. they do it to relieve themselves of the guilt. “this is why i had to cheat. i can’t believe she insists on putting the butter in the refrigerator instead of the butter plate. she just doesn’t listen to me or care about what i say.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 08:26 PM
21

not to be a phrenologist, but i swear that dudes who have those features in particular are addicted to porn and games. might as well start this stereotype if obviously fake rumors like the vagina getting bigger or women hitting the wall at 25 circulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:57 PM
176

what would you do if you caught your boyfriend jerking off while peeping into the neighbors’ window while they were having sex? call it empowering and fun, or think he’s a total freak?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:47 AM
3

i think that if you date men, you can’t be 100% free of pickme traits. pickme is the standard under all patriarchal cultures. you can grow to become 99% free, but i don’t think it’s possible to be totally free under capitalist patriarchy unless you are a female separatist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:52 PM
8

i think that you made the right choice. intimacy and sex are important. most low libido young men are pornsick, pining for another woman, or cheating. on the off chance that it was a medical issue, he wasn’t being proactive enough to fix it. imagine if you married him? that once or twice per month maintenance sex would turn into him using you as a fleshlight several times per year. it’s soul crushing and chips away at self-esteem, even when you are doing well in other areas of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 08:13 PM
40

omg, this type of guy is totally a thing... the vikings/dwarves/orca, board games, alcohol, self-deprecating humor, dad bod... he also is either way into star wars or disney, is polyamorous, plays way too many hours of video games, and loves loves loves a certain fast food chain (usually taco bell). like, this is a type of guy who can be a decent person, but not my type, and it’s just funny how there are so many of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:29 PM
21

it’s extremely difficult to tell whether the relationship is actually stagnant or if it’s just doing a normal ebb and flow/calmed down from new relationship energy. now with the pandemic, we can’t even tell if a male partner is being “low value”. normally hours of vidya, staring at netflix, eating takeout, and low key walking around “dates” are the hallmarks of a crap boyfriend, but that’s all there is to do in my city right now. i would definitely not enter a new relationship if i was single ri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:59 PM
52

after having cohabitated, the idea of engagement or marriage no longer excites me. i sometimes think that maybe i’m just immature because building a life together is much less fun than being courted. but maybe it’s just that i have amazing friends, fun and sometimes lucrative passions like doing fine art, skating, learning kung fu, and baking, and i have a good career ahead of me in a field that i love. finding someone is just a bonus for me and not a must. the fact that it’s not a must makes th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:28 PM
25

so this shitbird says that she has amazing pillowy soft skin without a single scar and doesn’t realize that her skin is so amazing because of her skincare? i always wondered which brain geniuses were the ones to discontinue a round of antibiotics or stop medication for a chronic condition because “they feel better now”, but i guess we found one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:14 PM
24

yeah, he would be like, “there was never any pee on the floor.” even “decent” men always lie about their pee everywhere. you know, because peeing all over the place like an elderly dog is embarrassing. but apparently not embarrassing enough for them to not do lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:20 PM
19

dinner is like an hour and a half. 9:30 is an early night. dude’s with his other girlfriend this weekend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:16 PM
28

this is why you don’t tell Ms about your past traumas, mental illnesses, physical illnesses unless they’re visible, exes, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:11 PM
31

the way i’d be at the clinic within the 30 minutes that i stepped in the piss puddle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:11 PM
43

there is a term for it, future faking. what helps is to stop worrying about if he wants to marry you. start thinking about if you want to marry him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:21 AM
109

they’re looking for “the one” while they’re still with you. free sex, cleaning, emotional labor, half the bills... men don’t break up with their girlfriends unless they’ve been cheated on or abused, and abuse that way is statistically rare. they just monkeybranch to the next woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:46 AM
11

this is why the most important dating tip that i’ve ever heard (and borderline spam here) is do NOT tell the person who you’re dating about your past relationships, family trauma, or ex-friends. for all they know, you have initiated every breakup, you like or tolerate your family, and you have some nice friends. i always see posts of women who complain about being trapped in a cycle of abuse, repeated dead bedrooms, multiple cheating boyfriends in a row, terrible gift givers over and over... I r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:10 AM
7

i think that we have just as many (if we play games) but don’t store them as stupidly. like i’ll fold mine and put them in appropriate drawers instead of creating a rat king of technology in an ancient cardboard box full of silverfish and dust mites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:18 AM
21

wow. she probably got rid of her book collection for a bunch of cardboard boxes full of random wires, video games, and sports stuff from his high school days that he hasn’t touched since 2007.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:45 AM
2

very nice, i like mystic topaz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:43 AM
12

i actually know a girl who had this happen to her a few days to a week ago, and she also dumped the guy. also not from the US, but i am. i really wonder if we know the same person, or if this is just a thing that happens often?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:54 PM
17

...2 weeks? this psychopath probably did this on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:01 AM
8

omg, even real pandora is a typical lvm go-to... imagine a gift so bad that you’d rather have the pandora lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:04 AM
10

dating for the youngest generation seems horrible between all of the microterms and the popularity of snapchat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:01 AM
13

i have literally never heard of this (exclusive but no relationship), and i am on the cusp of millennial and zoomer in a large city. like, this wouldn’t ever even occur to me or any of my friends that this thing exists. how laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:15 AM
8

women are 7-11x more likely than men to stay with a sick partner. think about this even when you’ve found your ~~hvm~~. never rely on a man, your child, a friend, a parent, or anyone else for your health, wealth, and happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:03 AM
9

ugh, i think i commented on this story before, but it’s so frustrating that she still can’t accept that she was played! she is still waiting for him! he wanted a journalist who could write about him positively, and she was fired. he wanted someone to write a book about him that he had control over, and that didn’t work out. he wanted someone who could entertain him in prison and maybe even pull him out if they get engaged, but that failed. he ghosted when she had nothing left to give him. she ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:34 AM
28

Same with cops. Apparently 40% beat their wives according to a bunch of studies that are going around on the internet. It’s not worth the risk to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:47 PM
7

that’s literally his girlfriend, and OP is the side chick. lord, i hope she realizes this soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 05:35 AM
7

most men feel weird about lavish gifts. maybe there’s a biological or social explanation, and i have some theories, but i don’t want to sit here all day and blabber. every time that i saw a female friend gift an expensive item or planned event to a boyfriend or crush, he backed out immediately! every time! a good friend of mine brought a guy to meet one of his favorite celebrities, and a month later, he explained to her that he doesn’t have feelings for her. even with my own partner, i sensed a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:36 PM
5

it’s hilarious when the man pushes this, the woman reluctantly agrees, and then the woman has sex with all of the gorgeous men and women who she wants to have sex with while her grumbling male partner either gets nobody or maybe gets one other woman who looks like a walking hot topic ad from 2012 to sleep with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:27 PM
2

how boring and predictable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:19 PM
24

i laugh when i’m nervous sometimes. it’s like the anxiety “tickles” my body. hard to explain really. but yeah, this isn’t funny :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:43 PM
10

why buy the pig if you’re already getting the sausage?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:19 PM
89

wow, extremely not true. if you have a friendship like this, maybe reevaluate things. i have two guy best friends. one of them is a musical genius and an architect. we usually get dunkin donuts or make music. the other is in my master’s program with me and graduated already. we helped each other with our math and science courses. i guess the catch is, one is asexual, and one is gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:16 PM
3

hahaha. i swear some get off on it! that’s why i would rather say nothing. when i was 15, i was going on dates with this horrible guy who eventually asked me to kick him in the balls! we never even saw each other naked...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:44 AM
3

wow, what a catch! does he know that’s why he got dumped? i don’t think i could ever be honest with a guy for breaking up for that reason unless i found out that he was cruel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:18 AM
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for biological and social reasons, women are the choosers, and men are the pursuers. there are a lot of great, elaborate answers about how marriage benefits men’s social status and how they’re business arrangements. i agree. the simple reason, though, is that they can’t get the woman/women who they want at the moment. they’ll throw away a 15 year marriage with children like a moldy bagel sitting on the kitchen counter if a dream girl becomes accessible to them or even enters their orbit through …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:47 PM
69

i think that they just wanted the right sperm donors. as this sub says, being a single mom is better than being a mom with a terrible father in the picture. they are multimillionaires and have a support network of many sisters, a brother, a mother, family friends, and people who work for them. they don’t need a stressful baby daddy for his 40 hours per week job and 2 hours of “babysitting” per week, and they never needed to vet for a high value male because they just don’t have to - it’s hard wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:22 PM
15

it’s wild how many women lie on here about how penis size isn’t important. at least they’re more honest about shape mattering since it’s not offensive to say that they prefer one that curves up or to the side or not at all. i deprived myself of vaginal orgasms for almost 3 years because i thought that ending a relationship because of a small penis size would be insane, but looking back, would this guy have stayed with me if i had, idk, an abnormally large vagina? i don’t even think that happens …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:07 PM
2

the fact that he has a 4 year old and is “separating” is already a red flag. most women who have children that young would only dump a man who was horrific (another woman vetted and rejected him... she did the hard part already), and a man who would break up his family when the children are that young is going to be carrying a ton of baggage. even if he was truly separated, you don’t want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:00 PM
7

if only they put the amount of effort into their marriages/relationships with their ex ~baby mamas~ as they did with their online dating profiles. yeah, i wouldn’t fall for them. a year into the relationship or even less, you’re already going to be pressured into being a free babysitter. something like 5% of previously married men in their 40s remarry. you’ll be playing step mommy and maid for a guy who is in constant contact with his ex and won’t fork over a ring. not to mention the more superf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:40 PM
15

wow. i don’t believe that she was manipulated for a second (and if she was, she realized it quickly and chose to continue speaking with him), considering manipulated people don’t go, “i’m being manipulated right now hehe!!! this is sooo crazy, my life is a movie lol!!!” he wanted an “in” with a journalist, and then she was fired, so that was of no use to him. he wanted a nice book written about him that he had control over, but this failed as well. he wanted attention since he was going to be st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:09 PM
64

yup! want him to organize those dates? stop begging him. take yourself on those dates, or even better, do them with friends. it’s been three fridays and saturdays in a row, and he’s realized that you’ve been out having a blast while he stares at netflix and drinks crappy beer. maybe then the fear of god will strike him, and he will start putting in more effort, but there’s also a chance that he still won’t, and the ball is in your court to end things. at least you’d have been having a nice life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:12 PM
8

what more do they fucking need? the fields of psychology and neuroscience were pioneered by men who examined male brains. they collected information on mental illnesses from male subjects and therefore assigned male symptoms to these disorders, and to this day, most of these disorders are still characterized by those symptoms. men are far more likely to be diagnosed with adhd, autism, and personality disorders (accurately) than women. for years, women were raped or beaten into silence when they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:58 AM
12

i feel so sorry for her. she said that she told family and friends about this, and not one person tried to gently convince her otherwise. i mean, maybe someone did, and she didn’t listen, but you’d think that would’ve been mentioned in the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:24 PM
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i don’t understand why so many women today insist on posting their Ls. don’t talk about your past relationships, number of sexual partners, or “funny” date experiences to men. don’t talk about your trauma, either. for all your suitors know, you have been the initiator of every breakup, you’ve never been cheated on, you’ve never been hit, and you’ve never been emotionally abused. they want to see how much bad behavior you’ve tolerated in the past to see what they can get away with today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 07:37 PM
12

i actually disagree with some of this. i would not suggest that women over 20 date students, even if they themselves are students. no, not even the engineering, computer science, and accounting majors, and no, not even the guys enrolled in top schools. i could write a wall of text explaining why i think this, but in short, he will be broke and have an annoying schedule, and if you’re also a student, you’ll also be broke with an annoying schedule. who wants that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 02:42 AM
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exactly. maybe it’s because i’m only in my mid 20s, but there are... simply so men who have never been married before! these guys often carry so much baggage. is he proposing so soon just to spite his ex, “prove” that he can have a successful marriage, or because he needs a wife to help with domestic labor? is he not proposing at all because he is still traumatized from his last relationship or is using you to make his ex jealous? dudes will call women damaged goods for so much less, such as fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 10:08 PM
22

i don’t know if i believe in imposter syndrome. i am absolutely not implying that you aren’t good enough, but maybe deep down you feel like you aren’t living up to your own standards. try leveling up in career/academics, hobbies/passions, and self-care/appearance/style. if you’re really trying your best, try not to be so hard on yourself. after all, we are in ~unprecedented times~. it has nothing to do with the guys you see and all to do with your self-esteem. it’s important to have high self-es…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:01 PM
6

i always get a sinking feeling when the affair partner is 18-20. there is a strong possibility that the man began grooming her when she was still a minor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:08 PM
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it’s not mean at all, tbh. there is no point of a relationship that doesn’t benefit and build up both parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:28 AM
15

they do have a tendency to dogpile on the current partner. i guess that’s a new “standard” to add to my list: no dead exes. it seems “mean”, but it benefits both the man and the woman. i once had a guy from my online social circle messaging me frequently a couple of years ago, and it came to my attention that one of his girlfriends passed in a freak accident. he eventually told me that my aesthetic and personality remind him of his deceased partner. i knew then that if we actually met up that th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:21 AM
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i’ve seen the result of these types of relationships make it into the relationship advice subreddits dozens of times. man with deceased ex meets woman, they start relationship, and woman is devastated that man won’t propose after many years together, won’t put away tons of photos and items of the deceased ex in their shared home, or compares her to the ex during every argument. in minor cases when the guy is simply sad and just isn’t up for normal relationship activities or doesn’t want to throw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:31 AM
9

it’s the cold hard truth. if a man got to be in contact with margot robbie or selena gomez, do you think he’d be waiting days and days to text her back, throwing the ball in her court to plan dates, or saying “if you want” or “i guess” when she brought up ideas for things to do? clearly not. they only act that way when they’re into another woman or are already bored of you (never cared about your personality and had sex with you a few times early on).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:32 PM
13

they don’t make any sense. one minute, all we have to do is not be fat. the next minute, we have to be below 30 (ideally under 25), with no bodily flaws whatsoever because they claim that men are “visual creatures” whereas women are more well-rounded with their attraction, also wanting money and personality besides looks in a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:47 AM
5

i’m so cynical at this point that i assume that “understands sarcasm” means “lets me be cruel and gaslight you about it and no i won’t let you tease me back or else i will scream”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:14 AM
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most would argue that porn actors have consented to being watched, but a lot of them didn’t! especially the “amateur” porn, which is quite often leaked revenge porn. people love calling amateur porn more ethical, and while it is if it’s a solo video bought directly from the source, i can’t get behind the porn industry as a whole because of all of the minors in videos, revenge porn, and violent porn available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:03 AM
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i hope you can find healing and peace soon. i hope this unsolicited advice doesn’t bother you, but you could try uribel or boric acid suppositories if you are getting abnormal results. if your results keep coming back as normal, maybe doing something like pilates/kung fu/yoga/something to get you moving and relaxed may help. i started doing a form of kung fu invented by a chinese woman many moons ago, and i’m feeling very empowered and healthy. good luck, though, ureaplasma is a beast that often…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:48 AM
5

maybe it was connected to alcoholism! i’m so sorry, i know your pain as i still get phantom pain because it was so traumatic. i also get the pain when i’m very stressed. my urologist knows the deal and sends me an rx for a medication called uribel when it happens (maybe once per year). the only thing that urologists and obgyns could come up with for me is that i have a shorter urethra, and my bladder’s inner wall was traumatized so much that i am going to be more susceptible to infections for a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:27 AM
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oof, glad that’s over with. i actually had to take rounds of antibiotics after i had bad hot pot recently, and that threw off my pH. three words: boric acid suppositories. after 2 days, everything was back to normal downstairs! just letting you know incase this ever happens to you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:15 AM
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it’s so unattractive. imagine if a man told you that he acted as a peeping tom weekly, looking into his neighbors’ window to watch them have sex and masturbated while he looked. it’s the difference between going to a live concert and watching the video of that concert. like, dude, you’ve trained yourself to nut at the sight of another man having sex with a woman, so now you’re voyeuristic. we now have an epidemic of voyeurs* LOL. *Reposted comment as requested because instead of voyeurs, I said …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:00 AM
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one of my exes was a covert alcoholic, and without fail, i would get a UTI after sex with him. he was a very clean man (impeccable apartment and showered 1-2 times daily). it was so frequent and begun occurring for no reason. doctors started suspecting that i had a condition called interstitial cystitis, and i was put on prophylactic antibiotics for a long time. eventually i got BV from him, and that was the week that i ended things with him (he also ended it with me, it was an amicable breakup …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:43 AM
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it’s just a group of women who make posts about how to date safely and efficiently based on statistics, literature, and anecdotes! some people do think that the refusal to date them is literal oppression, though, LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:28 AM
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it’s a lie to make women feel bad and settle. my mom (who is married) is 55 and still aggressively hit on online and outdoors by men from ages 30 to 65.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:22 PM
7

damn, i could see how this could have been an awkward situation, as i come from a family of painters and seamstresses. homemade gifts can be surprisingly expensive and can take time. dude is giving her some fifth grade art projects! not a beautiful sweater or actual home decor like an oil painting of something meaningful. i feel like this has to be a troll, but i wouldn’t be surprised if not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:30 PM
1

wow, thanks for this information!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:55 PM
7

yeah, i can’t get down with not living with somebody until i’m married to them. i’ve heard way too many horror stories of the perfect boyfriend becoming a nightmare husband as soon as you start living with him. i want a sneak peak of what married life will be like. if i could do it all over again knowing what i know now from finding this sub randomly, i would have waited until engagement. maybe a good compromise is waiting to move in until you are engaged? however, in the end, engagement is just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 07:16 PM
6

nooo i tell her to block the guy haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:39 AM
9

i think that this is true to some extent. i noticed something that i call the three to four month mark. if you make it this far with a man, he will not end the relationship unless he is being seriously abused (i’m including being cheated on here) OR if he found another woman. why on earth would he leave? he is probably getting some bills paid, some meals cooked, most of his sexual urges relieved, some of his living space cleaned, some therapy, a reminder to book appointments and to call family (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:29 AM
5

she is missing something in her life right now. she needs to make herself happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 09:03 PM
21

i made the mistake of telling an ex about some of my past. it’s really not that traumatic or violent, but i was just being open. much later on, he put it into his head that i was cheating, and he was overall an insecure person. he coerced me to do a sexual act. while i was sick to my stomach and trying not to cry, he was very apologetic but then insisted that i was only feeling this way because of my past and what other men have done to me. no, i was upset because of what you did. i feel like if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:54 AM
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it depends. i don’t want to hear it unless it’s been at least 3-4 months UNLESS they knew me beforehand. i’m actually unsure about this sub’s view about two former acquaintances/friends dating, but if it’s already someone who you’ve known for a while, it may come up more quickly. personally, i wouldn’t date a close friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:06 PM
20

seriously, even if a guy brings it up in a “nice” way, just dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 10:13 PM
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then they’ll do this weird gaslighty thing and post that women need to communicate and stop dropping hints because they’re not mind readers. their girlfriends will be screaming off of the rooftops and still be accused of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:51 PM
31

Period blowjobs, smh. “He is also telling you he thinks your body is too disgusting to go near it while you are menstruating.” Yup! Meanwhile, we would be terrible for cringing at their excessive body hair, semen, and stronger body odor. I can’t believe that I ever wasted time on pathetic men with that mindset - at least the ones who I was involved with told me that they didn’t “expect” anything from me during that time because it would be selfish. I knew that a past relationship of mine had an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 09:52 PM
31

looks like things aren’t going well with the girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:46 PM
3

she should consider terminating the pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 05:15 PM
20

marriage is beta male affirmative action. we don’t need it, they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 04:02 PM
16

calvin klein is big on this lately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 03:41 PM
5

he looks like he’s in pain. like, that’s the smile that you did at your friend’s parents house to be polite when they gave you green bean casserole and milk for dinner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:52 PM
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i also agree with the OP. you see when men pretend that they are “bad” at doing the dishes (even going as far as breaking them), “bad” at cooking, “bad” at remembering dates to important events, etc. they’re also faking being bad at being parents. if the man wanted this child, he will figure out how to be a good single dad with primary custody. men get on here and gripe is that the court is in the woman’s favor, but it’s not. they choose not to have custody. let’s see what happens if the OP’s ad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:27 PM
7

i love snow tha product! she needs to get more recognition for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:19 AM
20

it’s so depressing. pornified men will reminisce about the sex that they had with their alleged abusive bpd/npd ex-girlfriend but get into a dead bedroom in a functional relationship. i steer clear of that type of guy, and so should all of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:23 PM
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imagine a guy’s reaction if he found his girlfriend paying a man on facebook $8 a month to send her videos of him cumming? it’s the same fucking thing. for some reason, people think that it’s different because it’s “onlyfans”. it’s still social media!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:12 PM
45

yeah, anthropologists have also shown that women both hunted and gathered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:35 PM
46

them: where do you want to eat? me: can it be anywhere? them: yeah me: exact name of restaurant, and explanation about why i’ve wanted to go there for a while them: that’s sooo far i don’t want it you never drive ugh ugh ugh why is it always insert type of food with you can’t we get something more like insert other type of food that’s spicy or gross or we just ate that me: okay, you pick them: why can’t women ever pick where to go?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:41 PM
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“she let me cheat, not take her out on dates, scream at her in an attempt for her to break up with me because i was too cowardly, and cleaned up my messes until i got too old and dumpy to attract any better options, so i settled.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:08 PM
48

i went through the same thing. i’m so sorry, it really is hell. even with the “right” partner now, the awful bladder stuff comes back every now and then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 02:43 AM
11

i’ve actually seen some tv shows that portray “real life” beauty routines recently. the men around me gasp when a woman takes off a half wig or extensions or wipes of “natural” makeup to reveal a “tired” face. i always say that most women with dyed hair who have hair long enough to reach down her back is using fake hair and that all of the natural beauties that they are attracted to are wearing just as much makeup as full glam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 09:26 PM
20

they really have worms for brains. you need to work out your whole body to achieve the fit and thin look that they demand. building muscle in the right places emphasizes curves. they don’t even know what they want, same as when they say that they prefer no makeup and natural hair when they never actually do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:52 PM
16

when i was 15 years old, i used to talk to this boy on the phone all night until 4am. after 3 months of this, i told him that i liked him and would like to go out with him. he obviously liked me as well, but i ruined everything that night. we were only children, and it could have been a fluke, but i have seen similar things happen all around me. every time the woman was the chaser in a couple that i knew, she has also had to push for engagement, moving in, and marriage. you can just feel the vib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 01:54 PM
7

this song was such a massive disappointment after her more recent releases. what was she thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:57 PM
4

he is not hvm. get out now! this selfishness will translate into other aspects of your lives the longer you stay with him. for anyone else reading this who might need to hear it, do NOT go down on a new boyfriend before he goes down on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:44 PM
18

men do not do this unless there’s another woman. they will fake it just so they can have the benefits of being with you. i can almost guarantee that his ex is back in the picture or his long time crush randomly started giving him attention. he still wants to keep seeing you because it’s not guaranteed with the other mystery woman yet, and if it fails, he will tell you that he wants long term with you again. i’m so sorry. just know that it’s nothing against you and that you probably did nothing w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:28 PM
10

i love the little details, like the flowers part. she displayed pick me behavior on the first date, but she knows damn well that women like flowers! she wanted to seem chill and low maintenance. see where that got her? don’t do what she did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:16 PM
2

he won’t leave her alone. it is disturbing. it is only excused because he brings lavish gifts. if someone else’s ex was stalking them like this, they’d be criticized and mocked, but it’s cool because he came in a rolls royce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:54 PM
2

i think that he meant a woman who stays home, cooks, and cleans. there’s nothing wrong with being a homemaker, but it’s so nasty when men idealize it because they can’t handle a woman who has a crumb of freedom or success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:45 PM
30

he will keep cheating on her and treating her terribly because she is now more successful than him, and lvm can’t stand that. at some point it went from offset and offset’s girlfriend to cardi b and cardi b’s boyfriend. he said it himself that he needs a regular wife, yet all he wants is cardi and to “humble” her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:48 PM
-2

i heard that he pays for her college tuition. at least she’s getting something in return for this lol. i wonder why she has a channel like this. it’s very cringey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:03 PM
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