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nyxius1/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 06:20 PM
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nyxius1/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 05:43 PM
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Thanks so much for the detailed insight. Your first paragraph does feel like the situation I'm coming from myself. Still ik the progress though of finding myself as a person, with its ups and downs. In rough estimates, how long did it take you to till you felt really confident again? And any tips on how you approached the therapy? I went to see someone to gain me insight in my divorce, but can't say for sure if it truly helped me out...
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 01:18 PM
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What did you do to work on yourself and build up your confidence again?
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 12:41 PM
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Not really. One of them I was best friends with for years untill he stabbed me in the back by fucking my ex during our marriage. One of my other friends went out of touch over time and another friend since my teenage years is married to my ex's sister, he got to know her through me dating my ex back in the days. He does check in on me from time to time, but, allthough I still get along just fine with my ex-family-in-law, its a special situation. The other guys were mostly common friends with the…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 05:51 PM
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I'm dating to build up a new potential, meaningful connection with someone. Somebody to hold, to share moments with, cuddle on the sofa while watching some TV, have and feel affection for each other. Not thinking long term or 'another wife' (vowed to myself never to marry again) at this moment. And it's exactly what you're saying, to have fun with the person that I feel like I'm blocking myself somehow. It's not that I don't have fun, but I can't seem to loosen up, let myself go like I was used …
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 09:07 PM
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Been through the same as most of us on this sub. I'm 40+ and saw everything falling apart over a year ago, after being together for over 20yrs. Someone compared the emotions you'll go through with the course of waves. At the start they will be big and crash on you with high frequency, but over time, the frequency and size will decrease until it's just ripples. And I must say, it does feel somewhat like that. Give yourself time and space to heal and recover, rediscover yourself and embrace the pe…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/25 12:05 PM
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I plan on remelting my own wedding band and have a piece of jewelry created from it for when my daughters are a bit older (and when I have some more financial freedom to afford it)
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 08:54 AM
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Over 10kg here, roughly 15% of bodyweight. Going to gym now, struggling to gain back some weight but gaining muscles nonetheless...
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/25 02:21 PM
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From my perspective, and can relate with OP, on YT John griffins life 2.0 series helped me get insights and books like Subtle Art of not giving a F*** and Models by Mark Manson, No more Mr nice guy, ... also shed a nice light on the process, the internals of a good or disfunctional relationship... At least for me
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 05:41 PM
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Same here, got addicted to the gym mostly to recover from the divorce process in itself, not really from a 'revenge' perspective. But it does feel good to get them to acknowledge your progression 😆 Keep up the job, doing great!!
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 09:23 PM
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One tip for you when things settle down and you have the time to process all and work on yourself, read No more Mr nice guy if you haven't already. A real eye opener with what you stated about the need of validation (I'm in the same boat)...
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 04:56 PM
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Thanks for all your feedback guys. A few more goals (short/long) term I've set for myself as well: - bought (and will read) No more Mr nice guy - keep watching John Griffin videos - attend the therapy sessions and get to know and improve on myself - find myself a new place to live (instead of renting), start looking out for something I can afford as soon as divorce is final (July/august probably) - gain my lost weight due to stress back as muscle mass by going to the gym at least 4x a week - try…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/25 07:54 AM
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Luckily got my kids as well for the evening, first one without her since 2002. We had some apero time, nice meal and dessert and watched some Netflix together. I had to pick them from their mom's house, and between the time they got from school and I got there to pick em up, my youngest daughter went out of her way with her bike to the city center to buy me a little gift. Did really hit me when they gave me that present, a real token of their gratitude for keeping it together for them.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 06:40 AM
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