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FIELD REPORToasie/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 06:53 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEoasie/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 12:38 AM
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Happy to hear that. I hope that you keep your eyes on your future options and stay away from this man. I'm sure your parents are happy to hear this too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/20 08:32 PM
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good point :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/20 08:05 PM
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society in general does, in fact, refuse to accept the Negative Feminine well said. there are many things that women don't learn while they grow up, a problem that needs to be addressed. strong, kind lady mentors need to make a comeback.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/20 01:08 AM
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enjoyed reading this post and its informative
/r/ExRedPill25/03/20 01:00 AM
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exactly and i would get out of the habit of using the phrase "**** her" even in anonymous posts its not flattering to her or you and is TRP vocab. "have sex with" is a nicer language habit.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/20 12:42 AM
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How do you figure?
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 11:05 PM
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Good luck with everything!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 10:42 PM
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take it easy. my comment in a nutshell: he sounds more reluctant to marry than your average guy who just needs a good push in the right direction.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 08:19 PM
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It's pretty common for guys to be somewhat reluctant about marriage. However if his reaction to you bringing it up contributed to your "first fight" I would say he is more than just reluctant. Also for him to imply that you've spoken your piece and that your hints are no longer effective is more than average pushback. He is trying to end that conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 07:53 PM
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"I think you need to honestly evaluate what you want more: the man... or the marriage? Would you ever be interested in being a "life partner" mother to his kids?" I'm not even sure that in this case she can have the "man without marriage", it sounds like he doesn't want to commit in general (doesn't like the idea of forever). "I think I would set a hard mental timeline, in your own head. (Do NOT say it out loud or give ultimatums.)" This.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/20 07:47 PM
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well, and i don't think they're just selective cause they're hot. very young women are selective because the alternative is to cheapen their reputation. in their minds at least. its true that women could be kinder about it but honestly if we're rude its not cause we think we're better than you it's because we feel pressure to not loiter if that makes sense
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:43 PM
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that's interesting haha! the fact remains that younger women still feel socially constrained about it. people will make a bigger deal about them talking with you (or so they think) then a random older lady talking with you.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:39 PM
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This is really well-said IMO.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:24 PM
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Ok I'm sorry but you're still carrying jargon from TRP and it's doing you no favors. "masking / incel / virtually no women" Here's a sentence without those buzzwords. Dating is hard. All people adjust their personality to date successfully. It sounds like you may have to work especially hard on being assertive, having boundaries and standards. I did not overlook the fact that you have autism. Believe it or not, women also work in-depth on their confidence and social skills in order to succeed at…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:21 PM
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and why should they? hard work is not necessarily a virtue.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:10 PM
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Well wait, why assume that self-improvement doesn't work? You just said you are paycheck to paycheck, lack a car, lack your own living space. "it makes it seem like all my efforts were in vain." some efforts are ALWAYS in vain. Pareto principle. "You can make your body look like a god but if you still live with your parents that body isn't going to help you much." exactly, and no one here is judging you for where you're at in life, but it sounds like you know very well what works and what doesn'…
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:09 PM
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I think when the commenter said you are 'safe' she didn't mean physically safe. She meant that older women won't have the same sexual or social tension with you.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 06:03 PM
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wow, i didn't think about the possibility of being committed to someone who is RP even when you yourself have moved on. Wishing strength for you
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 05:51 PM
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the real alphas never needed TRP in the first place. Amen! TRP attracts some very hurting individuals IMO, men and women both.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 05:49 PM
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realizing that 'healthy men aren't really into that' was my wake-up call too, and also observing that healthy relationships tend to involve more mature power dynamics. glad you're feeling a little better
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 05:45 PM
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*raises hand timidly* it was when I was 23-25 though and not thinking too clearly. i was still developing emotionally, and trying out new roles after my parents divorced a few years before. So it was a phase.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 05:44 PM
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Men don't respect you because you've offered submission and adoration when they've done little or nothing to earn it, Yes men really like earning things.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 09:18 PM
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This is good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 09:17 PM
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ok I had the same issue as you. Trying to be a good redpiller but also not feeling the respect from men. I'm a cashier at a store with mostly men customers and I decided to use my job to figure out what men respond to. After some experimenting and conversations I now have it down pretty good. I know how to joke with them and how not to take it too far. How to be sassy and respectful and sweet all in the same smile. Just don't use the red pill as an excuse not to have a personality and human need…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 09:16 PM
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Yeah,I actually have a question. I am single right now and would like to get asked out by a man who's nice and makes an okay income. But I am not getting much attention from guys at all right now. Granted I mostly see them at work where they are customers and probably are focused on getting what they need and moving on with their day. What are some good ideas for getting noticed by single men? I try to look good and dress conservative and feminine but am not much of a small talker. Is small talk…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 04:22 AM
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I would relay that looking good for HIM is your priority. Looking good without him with you makes you a cock magnet, and attracts the wrong kind of attention from men and women. Not really? Guys appreciate that women are also humans and individuals and that they can groom and dress to please the eye and boost morale wherever they may be. Only a very insecure guy would want his girlfriend or wife to purposely dress down when she is not with him?
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 11:41 PM
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In nature, in the animal context that the word Alpha actually refers to, an alpha male helps the other animals survive, and if the human equivalent was real, alphas would DEFINITELY care about people beside themselves. But since I don't use the word Alpha to refer to humans I can not tell you whether Braveheart was an alpha with beta traits.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 03:34 AM
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Any quick change in behavior will probably surprise your friends and maybe will seem a little ingenuine coming from you. But the more you practice it, being positive and "nice" will feel natural to you and your friends will realize it's the same you. Oh and when you become more feminine, most of the women you hang around with will start to act more feminine too because you've raised the bar. But a small percent of women will get mean and jealous. That is just my experience.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/17 03:46 PM
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Here's what I would do, I would get one step ahead of him and work on your wardrobe (if it needs work, that is) and yeah spice things up, but do it the way YOU want it. And then let him know that that is how it will be. Because on the one hand, it's your body, so it's your rules. But on the other hand, if he is implying that you don't dress up enough, you kind of don't want to let that be true. I mean clothes are an easy enough way to assert feminism and style. ETA if you really look similar to …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:50 PM
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Yeah I like this comment, there is a lot of pseudoscience behind the curtain of the red pill even though I agree with many of the ideas. Or at least I agree with having an alternative to modern groupthink.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:45 PM
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Yeah that ^
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:43 PM
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Yes!! I believe this! Every relationship I've seen with a truly feminine women, she doesn't mindlessly submit but chooses to be sweet, but also has a strength and even a slight "rudeness," just simply directness or fearlessness of being real. Am working on being this woman every day!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:43 PM
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Um, probably using terms like Alpha, Beta, and Market Value I don't like or agree with. It's like, Alpha and Beta refer to gorillas pretty much, and Market Value sounds like we're all getting sold at an auction somewhere. Frankly, these terms sound...evolutionary? to me, and I thought Red Pill was a pretty Christian movement. Also extreme female subordination, to me, is the template of a 3rd world value system. Just like matriarchy is; they are (extreme submission and feminist domination) two si…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 09:41 PM
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Well, the optimal would be finding a relationship that neither requires you to be on edge, or causes you thoughts of walking out. I'm sorry that you have these things on your mind right now, maybe you are experiencing problems in your relationship or going through a rough patch if you're single. Blessings to you and hope you get some answers through RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:22 AM
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I don't know your level of exclusivity with either of them or how hurt either would be if he found out about the other...but it sounds like, both men have been hurt before. And you'd not be doing anyone a favor by doing something that would be considered as cheating. MGTOW is, I think, kind of a lame response to a bad dating experience, but it IS a response to a bad experience. Might not be a good idea to enforce your boyfriends' views on marriage and the ladeez.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 04:19 AM
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The word equal doesn't really have a meaning in this context, well actually it has like 3 of them. Equal in the eyes of God? Or of society? Do you mean paid equally for their work or punished equally for their crimes? Do you mean both in command at the same time? Equal was just a buzzword that fragranced liberal thinking, and it should be esteemed the exact same way: as a useless thing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/17 03:05 AM
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Let no one take your humanity from you, you have no market value because you will never be bought or sold. Let no one take your confidence from you, any negative behaviors that were ingrained into you early on can be unlearned and balanced out by the natural and graceful woman you can grow into. Believe it or not, some of those behaviors may help you one day. Men love saving victims as long as she is sweet about it and really needed the help. Let no one take your joy away from you, you will find…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 03:33 AM
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It is a soft power – one that isn’t defiant or demanding. But he likes to say yes to me. LOVE this!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:34 AM
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It's just about weaving this into the fabric of masculin power for a perfect tapestry of human connection. Could not have said this better, male and female power are synergistic, stronger with and because of each other! "Everybody's got a thing, but some don't know how to handle it." It's true. In this case, "handling it" means learning what the other sex is unskilled in, and respectful of, and becoming that thing so you can help out and be held in loving awe.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:28 AM
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Really sorry to hear about your hair. Long, thick hair is nice to have and I hope yours comes back but I know you are lovely and feminine even without it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:23 AM
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you obviously don't hold the beliefs of this community. With respect, the red pill refers to a choice that the characters of the movie The Matrix must make: whether to see life as it really is, or not. I seek the truth about how men and women were meant to interact and so I am "Red Pill". I won't deny my own beliefs and discoveries in order to fit in with an ideology, and yes I am here to give a different perspective, but I often agree with members of the site and am determined only to say as mu…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/17 02:19 AM
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I can swallow my feelings and put on a fake smile. Yeah, we all can. It's not really a life skill that your relationship should depend on though. And not only is your boyfriend okay with you putting your feelings about living together on the back burner, he actually told you that that's the only way he's going to stay with you. I want you to take a step back and realize the way this will play out once you are married.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 06:49 AM
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Walk away from this man. I mean it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 08:11 PM
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This is a great thread. Don't really have good advice for you but just to empathize, I ignored pretty much all the advice my mom gave me on being feminine and attractive when I was young. These things are much harder to learn in your twenties so I feel for you. Big things for me have been learning how to beautify without wearing makeup, since I hate the stuff, so that entails plenty of hair, nails, and body hair upkeep. Finding fun clothes that don't reveal too much has been a real adventure but…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 05:12 PM
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I feel like we're all giving you conflicting information and probably confusing you more than when you started! Hahaha too true. OP should just go to victoria's secret with his wife like someone suggested. My ex and I did that once and it felt awkward at the time but now in hindsight it was kind of a special moment for us.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 05:08 PM
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Hey Eli02. Hope your evening is going ok. Just wanted to say that the red pill is quite often wrong about how men and women relate and that I hope you can come to a perspective that does not bring you down and make you upset. Don't worry about men's power. Women also have a great power, and one site I read insists that culture has and always will continue to follow the values of women rather than men, because a man's only hope to lock a woman down for life is to accept the values that she was ra…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/17 05:50 AM
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Yes, exactly, have had that experience as well.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 09:46 PM
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Very true, an aura of polish and respect for the self work better than any one technique.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 04:35 PM
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Also would like to add a reminder that first impressions are made in under ten seconds. So yeah clothes are important.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 04:34 PM
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Haha flammable materials...I love this. Yes to the athleisure thing. I have a rule about sports wear...think about it as not real clothes. That's my rule. It doesn't count as getting dressed lol. That is cool, lots of men say they like the natural look best so either your husband is unique or other men are just trying to sound good.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 04:33 PM
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Women do not all secretly hate each other. However, there is a lot of sexual and social completion among women. Well said. I think men can sort through the rumors that may surround a cute girl, so there's that at least.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 03:39 PM
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Really glad you brought this up. It's true that TRP preaches the hate of all women for each other. I wondered as well the extent of the truth of it. I think women have to learn to get along, it doesn't just happen, it's a skill set. I'm sure it's not easy for all men to get along either. Right now I'm living in a home with my dad and the woman he's engaged to and neither she or I is moody or has a problem with the other. Yet, women at my job, have been VERY tetchy with me and seem to have never …
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 03:35 PM
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and so she spent all of my childhood and teenage years teaching me to present myself as if that was the socioeconomic class I belonged to. You are so lucky!!! When my mom tried to teach me how to look, I had none of it, too busy playing sports and doing other things. It's been not as easy to learn mid twenties. Your mom sounds like a very classy lady :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 03:30 PM
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Have fun on your journey to the truth, fre-ya. Very glad you got out of your relationship with the abusive man. Just a note of advice, and this is not meant to say anything about your second relationship. But when the time comes and you date again, don't write off men just because they are sweet or don't seem like the commanding type. Forget "alpha" (a term I hate because it was never meant to describe a human and it accomplishes the leftist goal of teaching humans that they are only animals). I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 03:23 PM
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I hate the term Market value. Glad it didn't influence your choice. Like, there has to be a better way of evaluating our personal traits than talking like we're being auctioned off.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:44 PM
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It's actually into the late twenties for some parts of the brain. See also, you make a great point.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:42 PM
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I was lucky my then boyfriend was patient with the neediness I felt afterwards. I'm glad he was. Sex bonds people and it's only natural that you felt this way afterward. Don't be ashamed of the way you're built!
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:41 PM
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I don't want to end up regretting my choices, so I'm thinking of keeping the current situation until I am a bit more sure of myself Think that would be very wise.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:39 PM
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I think hypergamy is a lame way to excuse really bad behavior on a woman's part. If you think about it, Red Pill Men (or so called) don't really hold women up the standard they think they do. They keep spouting stuff about how it's just our nature and we can't be helped.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:34 PM
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In this day and age, it is so EASY to use clothing to catch a guy's eye and gain respect for yourself. Just dress a notch above all the other ladies in sweats and tee shirts and slept-in buns. Glad you and your SO agree on style, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:30 PM
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I am lucky enough to live a fifteen minute walk from the local goodwill. I will buy anything there, first making sure that it does not reveal my cleavage upon bending forward or my crack on leaning the other way. Oh and it has to be in good condition and have a bit of whimsy or fun attitude. But even with these criteria, I have a problem with buying too MUCH there, rather than not finding enough. God really provides. Oh and did I mention I only shop their Sunday 99 cent values. So yeah. Really p…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 04:28 PM
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I know that the moment someone says "Just use your instincts", that it becomes much harder to even know what your instincts are on that subject. Lol. At least, that is what happens to me. But for real, do you look at him and see a side of him that reflects his shady friends? Is it somehow not a surprise that his friends are like that? Does he see problems where you see them, and if so, why does he confide in these people? Not trying to break you two up. Sometimes though, it's good to get a handl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 03:34 AM
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With the advancement of life like, anatomically correct, sex robots + the advancement of artificial wombs, women of the future are bound to become almost irrelevant to most men. I can't agree with this, because of the words in the Bible where God says, for the first time ever, "It was not good." This is what he says after he makes Adam...and the garden...and everything else is good. Except that Adam is alone. Women are so much more than sex.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 06:49 PM
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Nice! Glad you guys have talked about it a little. Yes, this way, you retain a little bit of power because it can mesh with your views before he knows. And see how you feel about it in the next few months before naming it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 05:21 PM
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Even when I was more of a strict Red Pill believer, I never used that phrase around my boyfriend or told him what sites I was reading. Now that I have gotten away from strict Red Pill and try to balance Bible beliefs, old timey relationship values, and respect for women into a more unique, balanced view, I'm glad at not having said anything. I think you can let him know you have a more traditional way of thinking without letting yourself be labeled as Red Pill or other names.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 04:50 PM
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Second this!
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 04:44 AM
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I wanted to kind of second your post and also reply to the original haha. Not sure if that is accomplished.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 05:02 AM
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Yeah. Agree with asking blunt questions. Remember, they are called "hard questions" because they are hard for him to answer, not for you to ask :) And you will get the hang of it with practice. Don't give out sex. Holding out gives you a chance to see how he acts when he is met with a challenge. And also whether he agrees to your boundaries. Put care into yourself and clothing and watch, learn and pray. Blessings.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 04:22 AM
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I am sorry about your situation OP. Love can be painful and difficult. I hope you find someone who will commit to you and that you realize that your love is worth far more than he will be able to give you. Blessings.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 04:14 AM
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Hi synthjw. Good question. You are not obliged to have sex before getting married to him. You're probably better off not doing that. Sincerely E.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 04:11 AM
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Also, what's up with so many women referring to their boyfriend's as "captains"? Why and how does that make sense? (serious question). Captains are in charge and run the ship (the ship being a metaphor of the majority of your life). I don't see why so many women here feel the need to give up so much of their sovereignty to a man that hasn't fully committed to them. Isn't that what captains do? Wouldn't a captain ultimately give up his life for his crew/first mate/whatever tf if he had to? Becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 04:07 AM
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True intelligence means knowing how to apply your intelligence, which means complementing and fitting into this world and not trying to mutiny it. I would say most women that find Red Pill are more intelligent than mainstream women because they saw through the smoke and realized something was wrong with modern culture. But then we take this information to heart and weave it into our lives and make them lovely with it, rather than become obnoxious to men. So intelligence is great in its full, con…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:17 PM
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It's very much in your heart already. Don't pin your esteem on long hair or weight or specific things that some will tell you "matter" to a guy. Modesty and an attempt at femininity go a long way, and make you proud, and from there you can trust your heart when you don't know what to do. No more swearing and cleavage and debating guys. But that's just the basics and becoming more feminine is really rewarding and easy to get the hang of once you are swimming WITH the stream of nature, not against…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:13 PM
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Not really at all. I am active at work and doing home chores and having fun outside. My diet is quite sensible and my body type seems to fare well on this treatment. Good question OP :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 07:04 PM
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have only read the first 1 1/2 books but i need to get a start on the show.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 10:26 PM
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Yeah, that sounds great on paper. Hormones, or what people sometimes stupidly call "pair-bonding", have this weird way of causing people to actually need each other. It's why break ups sting so much. The rug goes completely out from under you. No friend or hobby can replace a distant loved one and that's fact. Her feelings are appropriate to the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:13 PM
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Definitely. Like a spoiled child who expects rather than a thankful kid who has fun with it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:50 PM
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I was gonna say watch Mad Men for the scene when Pete digs up dirt on Don and presents to their boss. Lol. There's a lot to be said for keeping your frame and letting others crash and burn (if they so intend.)
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:45 PM
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Yep. The worst that can happen is that you end up with quality rather than quantity - a few REAL friends. If red pill men don't want to hang out with the average american woman then should you force yourself to?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:36 PM
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Yes. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:29 PM
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At least realize that rape has nothing to do with sexual desire, it's an abuse of power. The strong hurting the weak. That's why it's a big deal to women (weaker). Forcibly removing a part of EITHER gender's privates would be an abuse of their weakness. Just like any forcible act. Neither is worse. What bad effects are you trying to attribute to male circumcision, by the way?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:28 PM
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I got some good stuff out of it. He does fixate on breasts and sometimesis hard to read. Learned some stuff at end of day, though.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 02:10 AM
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Of course, in some cases (say shopping for food, paying for our stay at a hotel, etc) we'll split the bill beforehand or I'll give my share of it to him after, but it seems so bad taste to have two people struggling to get their wallets out to pay in front of a cashier or clerk. Oh yeah that would not look classy. That's smart, that you pay for the basics and let him treat you to the toppings : ] And yes sometimes an attempt to carry a lady's things can get a little...forced, for some guys that …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 03:12 PM
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At work I hear the blue pill version of that comment about the wallet, very often. So i'm really not surprised you could take it there and i myself almost did lol. you are right, it is the tone of the voice that makes a difference.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 02:58 PM
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Lucky her!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 02:52 PM
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That's adorable. It was!! Thanks for not misconstruing it. He asks that I stay in the car so he can get out first and come around and open it for me. I feel silly and high maintenance to those watching, but he says if you don't use it(chivalry), it will get lost. It never goes without a genuine thank you. He's injured now so I ask if it's okay for me to open the car door myself which he appreciates and I won't open it until he says yes. That's awesome. I want to do everything in my power to dese…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 05:44 AM
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with due respect i assume that women on this forum have nice things they do for their men. I refer here not to deeds that men need to do to impress women, but to the context of building the mystique between partners and lovers. so while there may be a time and place for that "He never" list i wanna stick with the female version for now.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 05:32 AM
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well the genius of the guys comment was that it wasn't meant to be taken quite at face value and the lady paid for her stuff sometimes or provides other value. but also the man was happy to provide this service and let her lean on him. ------I never expect my man to read my mind. I love this take on it. Congrats on having a healthy long term love affair I aspire to this : ]
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 05:29 AM
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The way I have understood the Bible is not as a series of laws but as clues as to God's heart and his wish for our lives so that we can find peace. Therefore I dont go simply obeying verse for verse but try to apply the big picture of God's word to aspects like texting, calls, and everyday stuff with boyfriends. Don't know if that helps. Blessings
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 06:46 PM
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That's what I read from Laura Doyle's books (big fan of hers) - First kill all the marriage counselors, and The Empowered Wife. She thinks things beside the three you mentioned, like verbal abuse (which she views as a bad fighting style, that can be fixed, no more no less)...not willing to work...even one spouse wanting out of the marriage, that is stuff that can be resolved. For most couples. It's cool to read other ideas though and in fact I'm struggling with this question myself. My fiance ha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 03:21 AM
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Wow.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 06:31 AM
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Wayll Maybe. I didn't get that from reading Doyle. You could be right, in that case it is a matter of only using her books as far as they are useful. She does suggest saying Ouch by telling the guy what he did to hurt, but not telling him what to do. He figures out how to fix it
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 06:29 AM
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There are several reasons I stopped reading TRP main sub. This is one of them :) No, not every woman will cheat. Right??! return of kings always had those dumb Jane/Bill stories and its ending was the same AWALT moral...that site lowers IQs
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 06:26 AM
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I really feel like if I cheated then that stains my character for future relationships This is a powerful statement and I wish more women would embrace it! Truly. All the unicorn virgin talk is weird...but it's true that sketchy women lose their appeal FAST.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 06:19 AM
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Some RP (using that term lightly) men act like women are scum and always eyeing up someone new, and that the only way to keep them in line is making them feel bad about themselves. They don't see the middle ground between being spineless and using dread game. follow that road and see where it takes you. Abuse and women who accept it. Men and women both cheat, if not through sex then through lust, I work in a building with mostly married guys and get hit on. My mom left her marriage not for hyper…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 06:12 AM
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There are others beside "you're right" that work better for me. The ones Learning_Learning mentioned, and: "MMhmm", "Yes", and "Agreed" all are better than straight-up saying "Well" or "Not really" or "But". Good post PumpkinSub.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 05:57 AM
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Will post more updates for the next days. Doyle is a genius though. Her method of saying "ouch" or voicing feelings as opposed to being strong and silent when someone hurts you. Even by mistake, people hurt others. Not good to push away your feelings when that happens.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 05:39 AM
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Thanks ladies for the helpful advice and calming words. You were right about me needing to relax and give him a lil space and you raised good questions. Just want to say that after a day of him hanging out his friends and parents out of state, BF and I connected over the phone and talked about what we've been busy with. We had a few calls and he's acted more playful and warm, responds and asks questions. I focused on thanking him for phone calls and keeping any comments to self that would be per…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 05:33 AM
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Yeah He is warm...I have been in a doubtful mood, or at least being open to questions, about us for a while. Sometimes its easy to see the good and sometimes it's easy to see bad about us. Don't want to give details really but it was not meant to be harmful what he did. Mom is just...iffy on the subject, and she said she gets a vibe she doesn't like. My dad sort of is able to see both what is easy for us as a couple...and what is not so easy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 05:29 AM
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The title pretty much sums up how I'm looking at life these days Say, Thank you, for efforts that come your way Do not demand things, read Laura Doyle, and don't forget that your guy wants to treat you right. Speaking from only a few days of doing things this way but, uh, it's working.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 05:26 AM
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Haha. Sounds like he's all business. Yeah he is more cuddly in person. He works nights and so when we hang out he's mostly sleeping. That throws things out of wahck too.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:56 PM
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Loving most of the time This is a really good question. Sometimes he is still kinda cold but it's hard to know how normal that is. My mom doesn't like him too much and that's why its easy to project bad stuff onto him...like what if she's right?! One time he played too rough and it hurt me, not on purpose; I don't accept those actions but do forgive him. But, mostly kind, if sometimes reserved. He says lovely things, "you're beautiful, my best friend."
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:54 PM
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No lol he forgets to reply
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:46 PM
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Thanks that helps. It's been kinda hard for us like that so maybe we can do more showing love in other ways
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:46 PM
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Hmm. That's true, phone calls are only about one aspect, voice. That sounds cool maybe a little oldschool that you mostly face to face with him and don't call much.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:44 PM
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Lol "captain" just feels stiff. And that's why I dont think in terms of alpha, beta, and blue red pills, just seems stiff to me and not real. Sorry if tmi. But the bible says "love endures" and so I am against "frivorce" or dumping someone without reason Yes Doyle thinks men don't like demands to be made too. Of course not. That's what they face all day at work! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:43 PM
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Alright thanks. That's foreign to me, to say that feelings can be there but really hard to express...seems like you feel something you should say it! clearly some peole aren't like this and that's ok too Ya for him it is much about the time we spend. Doing nothing etc. Kinda like your guy
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:41 PM
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Ok, and it doesn't bother her? This is a workable relationship? Because he is a little more vocal than that lol but if they make it work anyone can
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 09:40 PM
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Ok so maybe we can have a little talk about how it makes me feel. Is this what they mean take your problem to the captain (even though it makes me feel weird to say captain and i'm not going to after this)
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 05:09 AM
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Really...like not at all? Is this a red flag or something if hes not open about emotions? Yes he likes touches and cuddles. So you are saying...open the gifts he gives you, not the ones he doesn't! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 05:07 AM
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Thanks, I won't worry then
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 05:01 AM
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Thanks for your words, kekerae. It means a lot that your banner says you're married, so you have been there done that with decoding texts and calls. I wouldn't abandon our relationship over phone calls. More examples might help but it feels like he's got a secret or like there's something beneath the surface. Well it was my dad that got engaged and little brother that graduated, so a "tell them congrats !" would have helped. I haven't been obsessive, rather busy and involved with the celebration…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 01:54 AM
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What willow-girl said about the clean-enough domain is true. To men it's a matter of how much they have to clean to get a result (the woman not getting mad; having a pot to make mac and cheese in). Some men don't have an ideal of clean. They don't think about how it all looks. It's function.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 06:32 AM
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Wow, it's nice to see someone else in the same boat. Whether or not ADHD really exists, my fiance has it too. Sometimes the hardships we go through flash back to how he was raised and his family and mom growing up, though. And there definitely are behavior patterns that can be lumped together and recognized as ADHD, so it's hard to say it's not a real disease.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 06:20 AM
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Haha. As long as you two are happy :3 I'd say there's a fair chance you'll find someone in the double digits Really?? Man the world is messed up!
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So, i'm not relationship worthy if i can't, single handedly, change the perspective that he gained through access to dozens of women.
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Lol, it's a good question. You know I don't remember but I believe his count was eighty or ninety. So in fact there's a good chance I'll meet someone who has not been to this "level" and he can be my sun and stars. Lol.
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I've only dated one guy with a really high notch count and it was not fun. A woman's power of mystique is gone by then. As far as respect for women's boundaries, he can go through the motions, but he knows in the end just how far she will go and how to get her there. Different for different folks.
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Ok, but now you're talking about a medically unsafe, third world context that makes circumcision bad for both men and women.
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What complications are involved with male circumcision?
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Yes, she had expectations. I guess we differ about how much she should have expected. Maybe you understand more about the OP's situation than i do. A better reaction would have been to be excited to see him when he did show up, and focus on spending time with him. Yes that's a good method, being grateful for effort and gracious in disappointment. But, many boyfriends would have tried to understand her upset and know it wasn't directed at him. "Honey, I'm sorry you feel alone on your birthday. Su…
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covert contract Where is that in her post? That's cool you and your so have the same expectation about birthdays, but your average person would be pretty upset if a boyfriend didn't make an effort to save the date, OP included. And as far as discussion...why should you have to remind someone to remember your birthday? It's a big deal to most people!
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Your goal is to wine and dine him and make him feel special. ...On her birthday.
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It's something with my personality or habits. Why did I have to bitch and cry because we didn't go out on my birthday? I know now it's because i was alone in the room depressed and didn't take care of my own emotions. So sorry he didn't devote his day to you on your special day. I mean that. You deserve the best from the only person that can make a woman feel really, really awesome: her s / o. Pull back a lil, give him space to figure out what he did wrong. If he's not motivated to please you, f…
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Probably. But if a friend who had no real standing in my group suggested something though, and it didn't sound fun, I would just say I was busy that day? Like not be rude about it.
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