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| 1078 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex. | NICE FOR WHAT? | obeyy_killxx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:40 PM |
| 547 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexual | MALE DEPRAVITY | obeyy_killxx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Tik Tok: April 24th | MALE DEPRAVITY | obeyy_killxx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:22 PM |
| 1 | What in the pickme is this? | NAH, SIS | obeyy_killxx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:59 PM |
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| 50 | Ask Amy: After husband announces relationship with a 19-year-old, it’s time to talk to an attorneyYou listed my country and yup it’s a HUGE problem. It says a lot that grown men want to travel out of the country to partake in that because THEY KNOW they wouldn’t be able to get away with it there. Pretty sad but it’s considered pedo’s playground or pedo’s island 😭 especially in Sosua. I was in one of the beaches of Cabarete and this fat old ass man was groping a scared teen’s privates in as if nobody could see what he was doing. A lot of sex offenders in Europe actually travel there and abuse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:55 PM |
| 99 | Ask Amy: After husband announces relationship with a 19-year-old, it’s time to talk to an attorneyI have seen adult teens (18,19) get with old ass men but it was ALWAYS about money, especially in my country in the Caribbean. Child sex tourism is actually a huge issue in my country. Old men hooking up with (rape) child prostitutes while on vacation or “trying to woo” very young adults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 05:09 PM |
| 11 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualThe comments are still going right now lol 30 new comments telling her the same thing. There’s no way she fails to see the message at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:56 PM |
| 12 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualYou’re right and the thing is there’s a lot of diversity when it comes to that. Not all single moms were abandoned or left by the father. Some single moms are widows. Some divorced their husbands because the husbands were either abusive, unsupportive during postpartum, and/or don’t help outside of bills. Either way, like you said, it’s not the mother’s fault in these cases. Some things that gets thrown around are “wElL wHo ToLd YoU tO bE wItH tHaT mAn”. “Well shit Charles, she was fucking marrie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:47 PM |
| 6 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualI was introduced to his tiktok from this sub! Someone posted one of his tiktoks here! He’s fucking funny LOL. A whole mood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:28 PM |
| 52 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualEspecially when they have a mom they spend (roughly) 26 days out of the month with lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:27 PM |
| 43 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualDid you know the world is theirs and everything in it they can do as they please with little repercussion?! THEY ARE KINGS. They are the PRIZE. How dare you?! /s. A lot of men don’t have shame and it’s because of entitlement. Also, what’s the likelihood that they’ll actually be charged if they were to rape or abuse a woman in their lifetime? Men don’t face a lot of repercussions for what they do against women. That’s slowly changing but we have a LONG way to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:22 PM |
| 10 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualIt’s a private group for moms :). A nightmare lol, that’s what it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:16 PM |
| 24 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualBecause single moms are constantly shamed for not providing a two parent household for their children if the father is absent or barely involved. That gets internalized and a lot of them feel as if they’ve failed their children. The desperation kicks in and that’s why you see some single moms practically put up with a lot. The single moms who take zero shit figured it out and stopped caring what people/society thought. It will always be damned if you do, damned if you don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:15 PM |
| 41 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualIt’s really easy to notice looking from an outside perspective. She went to the group because her gut was telling her something was off and she wasn’t happy. Men don’t just outright treat women like garbage and it always starts off small. “Hey can I spend the night” somehow transitions to “Hey your place is closer to my job; can I stay over during the week to save time on commute?” to “My lease is almost up. I want to move in.” That’s how abuse starts out as well. I think she kinda knows since s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 01:10 PM |
| 21 | He can make more money than you and still be a hobosexualClarification: he only pays 600 a month of child support for the two children. Sorry for making it confusing! I will make an edit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 12:50 PM |
| 12 | Dating your friend is okay in the FDS strategy book?I mean if you’re totally down to explore the possibility then yes in my opinion you treat and vet him like any other guy you’re dating like what you listed. I would also look at how much of a good friend and person he’s been to you. I don’t know how close you both are but has he treated you well? You have to consider that what you may love about him as a friend could be something you dislike in a relationship. Does he have any vices (porn, drugs, gambling, etc.). What’s his relationship history … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:23 PM |
| 96 | Dating your friend is okay in the FDS strategy book?For me falling in love especially in 8 minutes (it actually states 8.5 seconds for men) or 14 days = infatuation, NOT love. Love is a constant choice and you don’t automatically truly love someone just by looking at them IMO but some may feel differently about that. So if a guy took more than 8 seconds, I really don’t think that’s settling lol. Some friends may have been attracted from the beginning, some don’t. Like I’ve been friends with a guy for a few years now and we are definitely not the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 04:00 PM |
| 17 | Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid.Apparently this story is fake and she lied. He was never homeless and she never saved him. Someone who went to high school with her exposed her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:25 AM |
| 32 | Okay so ik I already made a post about something similar but I came across ANOTHER post of Facebook (this must be where all the LVM and pickmes are) that proves my point of men wanting to use women and normalize it. I’m showing proof because scrotes were in my messages acting stupid.See they say they want this and when a pickme does this… they feel emasculated because after a while they perceive these pickmes as the “men” in the relationship. Isn’t that what they hate: Women with “masculine energy”? They want to ask women what they bring to the table other than sex… but this is fine right? LOL. Bruh… they’re praising her now for this but wait till he makes her a single mom and then all these men will say “well who told you to date a bum?! Choose better. Now you set your chi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 28 | Even the doctors who vow to save lives can't be trusted :( Stay woke, and get multiple doctor recommendations if possibleI went through this after having my child. A c-section was performed without my consent and explanation. RIGHT AFTER I woke up from general anesthesia, they made me sign the consent form. I developed severe diastasis recti. Told them I was having a lot of back pain and abdominal discomfort three months postpartum to the point I couldn’t carry my son. They never bothered to physically check for it or measure it. They never wanted to refer me to a physical therapist and told me “to go do some plan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:30 PM |
| 22 | How did this clown get a doctorate 🤡🤡🤮The manosphere is probably applauding this. In all seriousness, does this waste of space not know what domestic violence is? Having sex slaves isn’t going to fix the issue. Also, look at how prostitutes and porn stars are treated… and that’s sEx WoRk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 54 | Keep The Same EnergyI’ve seen comments like these on Facebook and their response is “I didn’t ask to be born though” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:51 AM |
| 349 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him outAh yes emotionally abusing women isn’t as bad as physically abusing them 😒🤨. LOL they’re “attending treatment” but want to continue with their toxic tendencies…. Makes no sense. What’s the point of treatment if you’re not gonna change? Throw the whole person away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:44 AM |
| 221 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him outWell most of them are saying FDS women wouldn’t fall for it. One told them to seek women of lower self-esteem if that’s what they wanna do (which is a terrible thing to say). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:42 AM |
| 27 | Confused and at loss for wordsIt’s understandable to be uncomfortable by the situation. What’s alarming is how he switched it up and turned it against you. A loving partner would understand and reassure you… not belittle you for addressing a concern. If this is how he handles something like that now…. What would it be like two-ten years from now? Also, if that’s his stance then you have to decide if you’re ok with it. It’s fine if you’re not but then that means that it’s best to end it. Edit: I would end it if it were me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:14 AM |
| 30 | Learned the reality of male friends the hard way todayI know right 😂 I was shocked too. They even teamed up with Bumble to crack down on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:07 AM |
| 16 | Learned the reality of male friends the hard way todayAgreed. I only have two male friends. My childhood best friend of 15 years is a man. We grew up together and we’re like family. My other friend of 6 years is like a brother to me and he’s in a loving committed relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:01 AM |
| 63 | Learned the reality of male friends the hard way todayOnly illegal in Texas in the US. It’s a misdemeanor and can be fined $500. Australia, England, and Scotland made it illegal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 71 | Learned the reality of male friends the hard way todayA friend doesn’t sexually harass other friends… gross 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:08 AM |
| 34 | Scrote goes to brothel and gets serviced by his obviously miserable friend. Reports on reddit for awards and mostly pats on the back.I think this is fake or this guy is…. I don’t know. So he “had sex with her” knowing she didn’t want to and decided to hug her and take her to the lake during the weekend. “Ah yes…. You probably didn’t want to have sex with me and instead of leaving, I took advantage and now I feel bad so here’s some hugs”… if he REALLY cared, he would’ve gotten her out of the situation. Not fuck her and wish you could’ve stayed longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:38 AM |
| 14 | "I went to a doctor and he said it's normal because I'm stressed all the time!"All you gotta do is go to the deadbedrooms and look at all the posts by the husbands and boyfriends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 12:49 AM |
| 526 | Men are jealous of women's successA lot of men are weird but it all boils down to them having the desire to dominate in order to create dependency. I’ve noticed that a lot of them say they like feeling needed and being adequate. A woman’s success and independence is perceived as dangerous because it “emasculates” them or makes them feel inferior. The more independent the less they’re needed. On another note: lots of men hate “gold diggers” yet detest a career women. Makes no sense to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:18 AM |
| 40 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Sounds like she’s raising a teen. That’s literally what all my mom friends do with their kids…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:37 AM |
| 17 | TW! DV. Please be careful out there ladies!!! A precious life is gone and a child is now motherless. And with the rise of us walking away from low value males, I sense that violence against females will get worse for us. Please let's look out for each other the best we can.So…. People saw this roach murdering his girlfriend… and they just recorded? Didn’t bother to contact the police? That’s sick. Don’t know how people can live with themselves knowing they saw someone getting murdered and they didn’t do anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:27 PM |
| 118 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"This is true. My cousin has been trying for the longest after having her first. She’s had four miscarriages and was heartbroken when asked when she was going to have another baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:51 AM |
| 32 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"I also hate the “when are you going to have another one?” Right after I had my LO, I was asked if I was planning on giving LO a sibling. I was like “I just gave birth why would I be thinking of having another baby” wtf…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:48 AM |
| 40 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.That’s her name lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:29 PM |
| 18 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.She doesn’t know what FDS is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:26 PM |
| 15 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.I understand where you’re both coming from especially the part where she mentions giving him ideas on free dates. However, I’m sure we’ve all been there and had done similar things at one point in our lives. Also, yes it is best to just block (she did after sending that last message since she made her point), but scrotes push our buttons to the point where you just want to spit back their energy so they can see how it feels. She acted it on it. Is it the best choice? Nope, but it sure is cathart… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:26 PM |
| 12 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.Thank you so much, I’m going to look into it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:23 PM |
| 9 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.I’m so glad ❤️ and I hope you have many more good days! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:06 PM |
| 81 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.You bring up an excellent point. I’d also like to add how astonishing it is that a lot of men don’t have a sense of safety either — and it’s privilege. This man was willing to drive 30-45 minutes to an area to see a woman he barely knows… and on top of that to her house. Almost no woman would ever do this because we have to constantly be cautious of our surroundings. It’s very telling. What do you think? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:01 PM |
| 7 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.You’re right lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 81 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.The fucking cockacity of this Scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 34 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.What’s the name of the book? Also, the only answer I have is they get it from the patriarchy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 239 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.I’m gonna take the words he texted her and say: that is exactly why he single no woman wants a stupid man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:59 PM |
| 13 | Man arrested after threatening to rape and kill a woman in her home, caught on Ring cameraI saw it on Facebook the woman posted her situation. Someone commented some advice that I think is great: if you are home alone and and feel unsafe or in danger and don’t have any weapons, boil water and add baby oil since it’ll stick to the skin longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:43 PM |
| 7 | "Male feminsts" tend to focus on the "sex work is work", "sex work is empowering" and are heavy porn addicts.Thank you so much! I’m gonna watch it tonight. I read the spoiler (I’m one of those people haha) and it had me more intrigued. Like “in order to understand the end, you have to go back to the beginning”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 09:11 PM |
| 263 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.Did you look up where she sent his dusty ass 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:56 PM |
| 11 | "Male feminsts" tend to focus on the "sex work is work", "sex work is empowering" and are heavy porn addicts.Then that means they aren’t pro-choice, they are pro-convenience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:03 PM |
| 4 | "Male feminsts" tend to focus on the "sex work is work", "sex work is empowering" and are heavy porn addicts.Where can I watch this movie? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:13 PM |
| 16 | "Male feminsts" tend to focus on the "sex work is work", "sex work is empowering" and are heavy porn addicts.This is also very true!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 15 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒They come from storks. You didn’t know? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:34 PM |
| 119 | "Male feminsts" tend to focus on the "sex work is work", "sex work is empowering" and are heavy porn addicts.I don’t believe there are true male feminists. Men support women’s rights when it is convenient for them. Sex work benefits men so that they can continue to stimulate and engage in their depravities. All porn is made specifically for the male gaze. Only reason some women become sex workers is because it’s easy money…. not because they truly enjoy it and find it fulfilling. “I can’t wait to clock in and start being fucked by multiple men, being spat and pissed on for viewers at home!” Same thing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:55 PM |
| 67 | "In my head, girls are clean"😒Sadly it can happen because it’s romanticized to an extent to young girls. Like it’s “so cool” to date older guys. I remember one classmate, we were in 7th grade (12-13 year olds), specifically had a 22 year old boyfriend and he would pick her up from school. Some of our other classmates thought it was cool because she was dating someone with a car. It still happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 12:29 PM |
| 27 | As she should !It’s 2:43AM and I almost woke everyone up fucking cackling LOL this comment is hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Seeking advice on serious situation with teen daughterI don’t know if this has any value but if it were me, I wouldn’t tell him anything. It was her experience and she said it in confidence. If she trusts her dad, she can explain the situation herself. I would proceed with talking to the parents and see if authorities can get involved. Also custody and CS are two separate issues… so going for 50-50 may not lower his CS payments. It’s a huge misconception but says a lot about him. He should want 50-50 because he loves his children and wants to spend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:21 PM |
| 7 | Disgusting scrote sought out SA survivor to fulfill his “kink.” Reason #485949 to NEVER reveal your trauma to a man when you first start dating. ALWAYS vet for this behavior! I hope she leaves his ass for good!Her husband subconsciously wants to be /is a rapist but knows it’s morally/societally wrong so he presented it to her that way to appear more “socially acceptable”…… ew. DIVORCE AND LEAVE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:32 AM |
| 4 | What do you ladies think about gaming? (Video gaming, phone gaming, computer gaming, etc)I have no issue with it until it’s clear that it disrupts daily life. I personally play video games almost daily but not to the point where I neglect my responsibilities and other hobbies/interests. I play maybe 1-2 hours a day… some days I play maybe 4 hours but then don’t touch it for a few days since I’d rather focus on other things until I feel like I want to get back into it. There are times when I go months without playing. Point is… it doesn’t disrupt my life. When I met my ex and noticed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 11:22 AM |
| 39 | Every damn timeThat sub must’ve gotten so much flack that they’ve set it to private. All their posts are either what’s stated on the tweet or women asking how they can better themselves to fix their (male) partner’s abhorrent behavior… or if they’re crazy noticing said behavior and if they should leave. Commence: jUsT cOmMunIcAtE comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:54 AM |
| 10 | MEN DUMB OR WHAT?!?!Right? “Wow. It’s been a while and I know we aren’t even friends but here I am. SURPRISEEEEE! I’m gonna pretend like we are friends and act casual so you can provide me with emotional labor because self reflection is Soooooooo hard. Ok here we go: You’re the only one that put up with my lack of effort. Were you also uncomfortable by it?” His question is definitely to gauge whether he can get away with it again or get “advice” so that he can then apply it elsewhere if it benefits him. It’s gross … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:15 AM |
| 70 | MEN DUMB OR WHAT?!?!I don’t think they’re clueless. I think they’re selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:15 PM |
| 19 | What to look for in a HVM: The 8 C’sCuriosity is a very big thing for me especially in the early phases. I’ve realized that I’ve become kind of bored quickly with how I’ve gotten “hi how are you” but never really asking me about my interests and getting to actually know me. I don’t need a constant check in sir, goodbye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:42 PM |
| 145 | Don’t feed the trolls.I hope he’s no longer an acquaintance after that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:34 PM |
| 53 | I don’t even know what to title this one... 🤡He’s bragging... but what are the odds that the “house sitter” invited someone inside his home and had sex with them in his bed/couch/etc? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 08:08 AM |
| 9 | How do you learn how to control/manage your emotions?If he was really supportive and empathetic, you’d feel like he’d be capable of being there should things get hard. But you don’t. I can go on but ultimately you have to ask yourself if these HV traits you’re mentioning really there or are you trying to reconcile his current bad behavior by mentioning traits he USED to display or the little crumbs of decency he dishes out. For example, “...well 6/7 days are bad but that one day is really good”. I don’t know if I’m making sense but ultimately when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 10:54 PM |
| 11 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.Ok it finally clicked and I lol’d that it took me this long to figure it out. Thank you for taking the time to clarify. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:17 AM |
| 7 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.What are you talking about? I’m confused as to what that has to do with my comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 06:05 AM |
| 39 | Period 👏🏻Honestly same LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:27 AM |
| 39 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.He forgot to add “super straight” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:58 AM |
| 8 | Typical LVM: breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years because a medication decreased her sex drive, is now looking for advice on how to find hornier women 🙄 (bonus: commenter who suggests low sex drive means the ex-gf was “using” OP)I’m trying to understand where you’re coming from. So it’s fair to break up with someone for using a contraceptive that lowered their sex drive? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:45 PM |
| 44 | Typical LVM: breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years because a medication decreased her sex drive, is now looking for advice on how to find hornier women 🙄 (bonus: commenter who suggests low sex drive means the ex-gf was “using” OP)I found the post and noticed red flags. Seems like he bases a relationship entirely on how much he can get his dick wet. He posted a comment about how on his OLD profiles he has put that his love language is “physical touch” and was seeking “intimacy” as a replacement for putting he has a high libido. It’s completely disingenuous considering physical touch and intimacy aren’t all about sex. He himself has admitted that he has a hard time forming emotional bonds... AND he broke up with his ex bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 07:00 PM |
| 4 | You might be an FDSer if...Wait wuuuut? Like she was putting down FDS by comparing it to MRA? If so, that’s unacceptable behavior and that level of countertransference isn’t productive. Wtf was she trying to gain from that? By judging you? Sounds like she can’t put her feelings and biases to the side which is a big no. A therapist’s personal beliefs do NOT matter during a session. Imposing personal values and ideas on clients is unethical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 01:01 AM |
| 12 | You might be an FDSer if...Why is she speaking on behalf of someone she doesn’t know at all? Her focus shouldn’t be on him, but on you as her client. She was definitely projecting. Therapists aren’t perfect but it’s their responsibility to monitor their reactions and understand their own trigger points. If she cannot handle it, then the most ethical thing she can do is refer you to someone else and work on herself until she can work with clients with relationship issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 12:44 AM |
| 66 | What are ways that emotionally immature men are "too sensitive" that society ignores?“Ah yes let me reach out to my lady friends when I’m having a rough time but immediately disappear when they need me for emotional support”. I used to have a lot of guy friends but cut almost all of them off (except for 2-3) because of this and other reasons. I realized some were never truly my friends to begin with because they only wanted a relationship. So they were those “friends” that only popped up when they were having relationship problems or if they were single and realized I was also s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:24 AM |
| 146 | What are ways that emotionally immature men are "too sensitive" that society ignores?What doesn’t get talked about is emotional dumping by men especially towards women they have some form of relationship with (romantic, familial, platonic, etc). I’ve met way too many that are eager to find a woman to be their default therapist and fixer because they don’t know how to manage their emotions or stressors in their life. They don’t know how to be friends with other men because there isn’t emotional intimacy usually between male friends and they feel uncomfortable with therapy because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Bringing up marriage upfront?I’m perfectly aware that many would run for the hills.. I didn’t say otherwise but it doesn’t negate the fact that there are LVMs who do go through lengths of getting anything even if it’s not sex. That’s why I’ve become a huge believer in vetting even while in a relationship/marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:28 AM |
| 6 | Staywithmeisha?LOL I can relate to this. It’s codependency. But within FDS I learned that it’s still pick-me behavior. You may already be in a relationship with the person but you’re actively doing what you can to get the person to continue picking you/stay in the relationship. Even if you’ve become completely unhappy and your instincts are telling you to run! It took a specific situation to get me to realize this and I finally left the relationship. I was left feeling like garbage because a pregnancy was invo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:51 PM |
| 80 | I still don't understand other women putting their worth into how much pleasure a man can get out of their vaginas.LOL she needs to get off her high horse. I’m BeTtEr ThAn YoU aT pLeAsInG mEn beCaUsE i GoT fLoWeRs TeEhEe. She’s bragging and putting women down for getting something basic. Like she got heavily triangulated and feels the need to compete against other women for basic standards of courting and seeing their vaginas as a means to it. “I’m being treated with basic courting so it must mean my sexual performance is great”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 11:26 PM |
| 18 | Please comment to share your therapy stories! Particularly couples counseling (fails and wins)I think all therapists who specialize in couple’s/marriage and family counseling should be required to specialize or have training in DV/IPV. And yes I agree that vetting a therapist is a must! Not all therapists specialize in the same things and everyone has a right to find the best care that meets all their needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 10:17 PM |
| 16 | Bringing up marriage upfront?You’d be surprised at the lengths some LVMs go through to get ANYTHING. With some LVMs, they may not get sex from you but they can try to leech off of you in other ways like emotional labor etc. and they can cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 10:03 PM |
| 5 | Abuse will change you from the inside out, it will tear away at parts of you and leave you a shell. Please take care of yourselves always.The second image hit home because that’s exactly what I went through. It’s been months since I’ve left but I’m still picking up the pieces with therapy. I’m so glad I found this community recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:26 PM |
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